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What happens when an entire people are forced to hide who they are… for generations?

In this episode of The Story of Us, Jeff sits down with Yaffah Batya daCosta—educator, speaker, and advocate for the descendants of the “Secret Jews,” families who were forced to convert during the Spanish and Portuguese Inquisitions while quietly preserving pieces of their identity in secret.

But this conversation is about much more than history.

It’s about memory. Identity. Belonging. And the human need to understand where we come from.

Together, they explore the story of the Anousim (“the forced ones”), how ancient persecution still echoes into modern life, and what happens when someone begins rediscovering truths their family was never allowed to openly speak about.

Along the way, the conversation widens into something universal:

How fear divides people. How stories shape identity. And how understanding each other more deeply may be one of the few paths toward healing.

🎯 What You’ll Take Away

• Who the “Secret Jews” were and why their story still matters today
• How forced conversion and hidden identity shaped generations of families
• The surprising connections between history and modern global tensions
• Why human beings are more alike than different beneath culture and belief
• How compassion and curiosity can lead to deeper understanding

🌍 Key Themes

• Identity and ancestry
• Generational memory
• Religious persecution and survival
• Human connection
• Healing through understanding

👤 About the Guest – Yaffah Batya daCosta

Yaffah Batya daCosta is an educator, speaker, coach, and advocate working to support descendants of the Anousim—Jewish families forced to conceal their identity during the Inquisition.

Drawing from her own ancestral journey, she has spent decades studying Jewish history, early Christianity, interfaith relations, and the roots of antisemitism in order to promote deeper understanding and reconciliation between communities.

She is also the CEO of a nonprofit organization dedicated to helping descendants reconnect with their heritage and identity.

🔗 Learn More

• Website: www.bneianousim.org
• Facebook: Yaffah Batya daCosta

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Because stories like this remind us of something important:

History may divide us…

but understanding each other can still bring us back together.

💬 Final Thought

Identity can be hidden.

But somehow…

the human spirit remembers.

What does it really mean to raise a “good” human?

Not a high achiever. Not a perfectly behaved child. But someone who is kind, grounded, resilient… and emotionally aware.

In this episode of The Story of Us, Jeff sits down with educator, consultant, and author Rosemary Olender—who has spent decades working inside classrooms, schools, and family systems—to explore what actually shapes a child.

This conversation goes beyond parenting advice.

It’s about the everyday moments… the conversations we have… the behaviors we model…

and how those small things quietly shape who our children become.

Drawing from over 20 years of experience as a teacher, principal, and director of special education, Rosemary shares what she’s seen change in today’s families—and what still matters most.

Together, they explore:

• Why character matters more than achievement
• What emotional intelligence really looks like in real life
• The biggest mistakes parents make (often without realizing it)
• How families and schools can work together more effectively
• What it means to raise children who are prepared for life—not just success

This episode isn’t just for parents.

It’s for anyone who cares about the kind of humans we are raising—and the kind of world we’re creating.

🎯 What You’ll Take Away

• Why children learn more from what you model than what you say
• How to build emotional intelligence in everyday interactions
• What strong families do differently
• The importance of communication between home and school
• How to shift from reactive parenting to intentional guidance

🌍 Key Themes

• Character development
• Emotional intelligence
• Parenting with intention
• Family dynamics
• Human connection

👤 About the Guest – Rosemary Olender

Rosemary Olender, MS, CAS, is an educator, consultant, and non-fiction author with decades of experience supporting families and schools.

Her career includes:

• 17 years as a teacher of profoundly deaf children
• Roles as a junior high and elementary school principal
• Director of special education
• Educational consultant working with school districts across New York State

She is the author of:

• Coffee and Wisdom
• The School-Home Connection

Her work focuses on helping families and educators build stronger relationships, improve communication, and support children in reaching their full potential.

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Because the small things we do today…

become the foundation for who they are tomorrow.

💬 Final Thought

We don’t just raise children.

We raise future humans.

And that might be the most important work any of us will ever do.

What if the world's great wisdom traditions aren't competing with one another — but have been quietly agreeing for thousands of years?

In this episode of The Story of Us, Jeff sits down with Chris Morehouse, author of the remarkable book Legacy: Wisdom of African Traditions and the Bible — a seven-year labor of love that places nearly 300 African proverbs alongside biblical scripture, not to blur their differences, but to illuminate their profound and often stunning similarities.

Chris grew up in suburban Philadelphia, the son of theater people, raised with an open mind and a restless curiosity that led him — at just thirteen years old — to mail away for a "Teach Yourself Swahili" record set. That early fascination with African culture never left him. It quietly gathered force across decades of study, graduate research, personal moves, and life detours until it finally erupted into a book that may be unlike anything else in its category.

In this conversation, Jeff and Chris explore:

• How a childhood obsession with African kingdoms and a graduate degree aimed at USAID gave birth to a decades-long passion project
• Why nearly 300 African proverbs were rejected from the global Golden Rule conversation — and what that omission might tell us about how we value different kinds of wisdom
• The concept of Sankofa — the Akan word meaning go back and get it — and why it may be the most urgent idea of our time
• The proverbs that stopped Chris cold: "Compassion is a well." "The wealth that enslaves is not wealth." "Losing the way is one way of finding it."
• Why African oral traditions have been systematically excluded from interfaith wisdom conversations — and the role racism may have quietly played
• The Ethiopian proverb that mirrors Jesus' call to pray privately: "Singing hallelujah everywhere does not prove piety."
• The Namibian proverb "Eyes, see me too" — and why its construction is so arresting, so vivid, and so distinctly its own
• What Chris would whisper to his younger self — and the urgent message he wants his future self to hear
• Why Chris believes translation of this work into French, Portuguese, and Spanish could bring this wisdom to corners of Africa where it has never been seen

The Book: Legacy: Wisdom of African Traditions and the Bible by Chris Morehouse Available now — self-published with holy boldness, featuring contributors and artists from around the world.

A Few Proverbs to Sit With:

"Compassion is a well." — Hehe people, Tanzania

"If you know what hurts yourself, you know what hurts others." — Madagascar

"Eyes, see me too." — Ovambo people, Namibia

"The wealth that enslaves is not wealth." — West African tradition

"Losing the way is one way of finding it." — Swahili and Sukuma peoples, Tanzania

"Singing hallelujah everywhere does not prove piety." — Ethiopian tradition

Mentioned in This Episode:

• Living Buddha, Living Christ — Thich Nhat Hanh
• The Hero With a Thousand Faces — Joseph Campbell
• The Golden Bough — James George Frazer
• The Parallel Sayings series (Jesus and Moses, Jesus and Muhammad, Jesus and Buddha)
• Archbishop Desmond Tutu's An African Prayer Book

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What happens when the hardest moments of life become the seed for a lifelong mission?

In this episode of The Story of Us, Jeff Ellison sits down with Jill Chalsty, founder of the global life-skills initiative Overcoming Obstacles and author of Packets of Hope. Jill shares the remarkable journey that began with childhood bullying and evolved into a curriculum that has reached over 180 million students in nearly 200 countries.

Her story takes a powerful turn after the loss of her husband and her own battles with cancer. Facing grief and uncertainty, Jill embarked on a 107-day voyage across the globe—hand-delivering “packets of hope” to ministers of education in dozens of countries, spreading a message about life skills, resilience, and purpose.

This conversation explores bullying, forgiveness, grief, courage, and the profound power of human connection. It’s a story about turning pain into purpose—and why one small step can change the course of a life.

What We Discuss in This Episode

• How childhood bullying shaped Jill’s life mission
• The unexpected apology that sparked a global education movement
• Building the Overcoming Obstacles life-skills curriculum
• Teaching decision-making, empathy, and resilience to students worldwide
• Jill’s work with gang members alongside NFL legend Jim Brown
• Grief, caregiving, and facing multiple cancer diagnoses
• A 107-day world voyage delivering “packets of hope” to education leaders
• Why purpose and connection are essential for healing
• The Maori phrase “Ake Ake Ake”—and how it became Jill’s mantra for resilience
• Why small steps can transform even the darkest seasons of life

Memorable Moments

• A childhood bully apologizes years later—and changes the trajectory of Jill’s life.
• Teaching life skills to gang members in Los Angeles alongside Jim Brown.
• A powerful moment in Samoa where strangers prayed for Jill’s healing.
• Delivering the most meaningful packet in Cape Town, honoring her late husband’s roots.
• Discovering that sometimes the people we hope to help are the very ones who end up healing us.

About Jill Chalsty

Jill Chalsty is the founder of Overcoming Obstacles, a nonprofit that provides free life-skills curriculum to educators around the world. The program teaches decision-making, communication, goal setting, empathy, and resilience to students from kindergarten through high school.

The curriculum has reached over 180 million students across nearly 200 countries through hundreds of thousands of educators.

She is also the author of Packets of Hope: A Journey of Healing and Rediscovery, a memoir documenting a global voyage that helped transform grief into purpose.

Resources & Links

• Packets of Hope (free download): https://packetsofhope.com
• Overcoming Obstacles curriculum: https://overcomingobstacles.org

Key Takeaway

One small step—whether asking for help, starting a journey, or reaching out to someone else—can become the turning point that changes everything.

Jack Hager joins Jeff Ellison for a raw, wide-ranging conversation tracing his journey from a transient military childhood and early addiction, to combat in Vietnam, involvement in smuggling and organized crime, and a 10-year prison sentence. In a Texas jail cell—through boredom, books, and an unexpected encounter with the Gospels—Jack experiences a faith conversion that reshapes his worldview and sets him on a decades-long path of prison ministry.

Along the way, Jack returns again and again to personal responsibility: “You make your choices, then your choices make you.” The episode explores war’s moral complexity, the scars of coming home unwelcome, what prison is really like, why forgiveness matters, and how suffering changes when viewed through faith.

Key Themes / Takeaways

• The power of choice and personal responsibility in shaping identity and destiny
• Vietnam’s lasting impact—combat, disillusionment, and the pain of returning home
• Prison as a crucible: danger, isolation, and the opportunity to “redeem the time”
• Faith without performance: Jack’s attraction to Jesus’ compassion for outsiders and critique of self-righteousness
• Forgiveness as freedom: “Unforgiveness builds a prison”
• Suffering and sovereignty: illness, aging, and how faith reframes hardship

Notable Quotes

• “You make your choices, then your choices make you.”
• “You can either do time or redeem the time.”
• “Unforgiveness builds a prison.”
• “He never had anything bad to say to the hookers… the only people he blasted were the religious people.”
• “Don’t hurt people.”
• “I’m indestructible until it’s time for me to go home.”

Guest Links / Resources

• Book: Captured by Grace (available on Amazon and major retailers)
• Email: jack.hager@gmail.com
• Ministry work mentioned: Crossroads Prison Ministries; GroundWire; Behind the Walls (Bill Glass ministry)

Listener Reflection Prompts

• Where in your life are you telling yourself “it’s not my fault”—and what would ownership change?
• Who do you need to forgive—not to excuse them, but to free yourself?
• If you could tell your younger self one sentence, what would it be?
• What does it look like to “redeem the time” in the season you’re in right now?

About the Guest

Jack Hager is a Vietnam veteran and former inmate who experienced a profound faith transformation while incarcerated. Since 1978, he has served in vocational Christian ministry with a long focus on prisons, jails, camps, and mentorship. He is the author of Captured by Grace.

What if becoming stronger has less to do with pushing harder… and more to do with yielding?

In this conversation, Jeff Ellison sits down with Jeff Patterson—martial artist, meditation teacher, and author of The Yielding Warrior—to explore the surprising intersection of combat and consciousness.

With 36+ years of training (and black belt equivalencies across multiple disciplines), Jeff could absolutely toss most of us like a beach towel in a hurricane… but he’s devoted his life to something quieter and far more powerful: breath, awareness, regulation, and intelligent response.

You’ll learn why distraction isn’t failure in meditation, how to return to center in real time, and how “yielding” can transform not just your training—but your relationships, reactions, and inner life.

Stay tuned for one of the most useful stories you’ll hear all week: the monk, the puddle, and the art of leaving it behind.

Key Topics / What We Cover

• Why meditation isn’t about “clearing your mind”
• Distraction as the rep—and the whole point—of the practice
• The three pillars of meditation: Ritual, Active, Philosophical
• The power of a strong “why” (and why consistency beats hype)
• The concept of yielding: physical, mental, and emotional
• How to avoid conflict by noticing the first flicker of imbalance
• Parenting, presence, humility—and training as a lifelong path
• The “monk and the puddle” story (and why we carry things too far)

Memorable Moments

• “It’s like seafood… but sifu.”
• The moment Jeff’s practice “clicked” after months of doubt
• “You’re still carrying that girl? I left her back at the puddle.”

Guest

Jeff Patterson — Martial Artist, Meditation Teacher, Author (The Yielding Warrior)

Links & Resources

• Jeff Patterson’s website: theyieldingwarrior.com
• Get the book (free copy — pay shipping, US): theyieldingwarrior.com/book
• Free breathwork course (“One Breath Away”): theyieldingwarrior.com/onebreathaway
• Book on Amazon: The Yielding Warrior (search on Amazon)

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Show Info

The Story of Us: From Cosmic Dawn to the Depths of Being Website: thestoryofusproject.com

In this special solo episode of The Story of Us, Jeff reflects on a truth many of us have forgotten:

We are not machines.

On the heels of his conversation with Melanie Love (Let It Be Enough), Jeff explores the deeper cultural and biological forces that keep us overworked, overstimulated, and overwhelmed.

Why do we treat ourselves like devices — charging overnight, powering through daylight, running task after task until something inside us glitches?

Why does modern life feel like an endless treadmill set a few speeds too high?

This episode dives into:

• The concept of evolutionary mismatch — why our ancient nervous systems struggle in a hyper-digital world
• The role of dopamine in driving pursuit, ambition, and endless “more”
• The difference between wanting and liking (inspired by Daniel Lieberman’s The Molecule of More)
• How chronic stress traps us between fight-or-flight and total exhaustion
• Why burnout is not weakness — it’s biology
• The power of slowing down, reclaiming presence, and letting it be enough

Jeff also shares an original poem and reflects on the invitation to move from survival to fully inhabiting life.

This episode is a gentle but urgent reminder:

Rest is not a reward. Stillness is not laziness. And you don’t need to earn being enough.

Key Themes

• Burnout & Overwhelm
• Dopamine & Desire
• Evolutionary Mismatch
• Nervous System Regulation
• Presence & Mindfulness
• Hustle Culture & Productivity
• Letting Go of Perfectionism
• Reclaiming Humanity in a Digital Age

Notable Quotes

“We aren’t machines. We’re humans.”

“Desire isn’t the same as satisfaction.”

“You don’t need to earn rest. You need it because you’re human.”

“Enoughness can’t be achieved — it can only be realized.”

Books & References Mentioned

• The Molecule of More by Daniel Lieberman
• Ram Dass

Reflection Prompt

Where are you still holding on tight? What would it feel like — just for a breath — to soften?

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Together we rise by remembering each other.

In this Valentine’s Day episode of The Story of Us, Jeff sits down with Melanie Love — a former investment manager turned chronic pain advocate and founder of (un)block — for a deeply honest conversation about reinvention, healing, and embodiment.

Jeff first met Melanie at an event hosted by Season 1 guest Molly Jones. What began as an organic connection around chronic pain and shared purpose turned into a powerful dialogue recorded at Jeff’s kitchen table.

Melanie shares her journey growing up in Calgary, Canada, the influence of her grandparents, and her impressive career in international energy finance. But the heart of this episode centers on her Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS) diagnosis, multiple traumatic brain injuries, and the unraveling — and rebuilding — that followed.

Together, they explore:

• What Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS) is and why it’s often misunderstood
• The connection between fascia, trauma, and nervous system regulation
• The emotional and physical toll of chronic pain
• Why “no pain, no gain” might be the wrong framework for healing
• The difference between life happening to us, by us, and through us
• The power of surrender and the meaning behind “Let It Be Enough”

Melanie also discusses how her personal healing journey led her to create (un)block, a fascia-based self-care tool designed to help people release tension, regulate their nervous systems, and reconnect with their bodies.

This is a conversation about curiosity over collapse, presence over perfectionism, and learning to soften instead of force.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or disconnected from your body — this episode is for you.

Learn More

Visit Melanie’s website: https://theunblock.shop

Explore her fascia-based recovery tool and educational resources designed to support mobility, nervous system regulation, and embodied healing.

Key Themes

• Chronic Pain & Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome
• Trauma & Nervous System Regulation
• Fascia & Body-Based Healing
• Reinvention & Entrepreneurship
• Embodiment & Emotional Awareness
• Letting Go of Perfectionism
• Surrender & Self-Trust

Notable Quotes

“Love does not need to be earned.”

“You’re not a machine. You’re a human being.”

“Let the chapter you’re in be enough.”

Connect with the Show

If this episode resonated with you, please consider leaving a review and sharing it with someone who might need to hear it.

Thank you for being part of The Story of Us.

What if travel isn’t about where we go — but about who we become along the way?

In this episode of The Story of Us: From Cosmic Dawn to the Depths of Being, Jeff Ellison is joined by Doug Brouwer, Presbyterian pastor, author, and lifelong traveler, for a conversation that feels less like an interview and more like a shared walk on a winding path.

Doug has spent more than four decades in ministry, serving congregations across the United States and Europe, learning new languages later in life, leading pilgrimages, and listening deeply — in sanctuaries, prison cell blocks, foreign streets, and quiet beaches along Lake Michigan. His latest book, The Traveler’s Path: Finding Spiritual Growth and Inspiration Through Travel, explores how movement through the world can awaken humility, empathy, and meaning — when we’re willing to “get off the bus” and truly encounter others.

Together, Jeff and Doug explore:

• Why travel is part of humanity’s origin story, from Abram and Paul to modern migration
• How curiosity, beauty, and attention — learned on childhood road trips — can shape a life
• The difference between tourism and transformation, and what makes a journey “worthy”
• Why learning even a little of another language can deepen empathy and humility
• How meeting one person can change how we see an entire culture or conflict
• Doug’s experience walking the Camino de Santiago, and what pilgrimage teaches that comfort cannot
• The role of storytelling in healing division and restoring our sense of interconnectedness
• What prison ministry taught Doug about listening, humanity, and presence
• How Thomas Merton, Joseph Campbell, and Annie Dillard illuminate the inner and outer journey
• Letting go of perfectionism, anxiety, and old betrayals — and aiming instead for peace
• Why Doug believes the final chapter of life may be our last worthy adventure

Along the way, Jeff shares his own love of “worthy adventure” — traveling lightly, seeking connection over checklists, and returning home each time a little clearer about his place in the world.

This episode is an invitation to slow down, pay attention, and remember that the sacred is not confined to holy places — it often waits for us along the road.

Whether you travel far or stay close to home, this conversation will leave you asking better questions about curiosity, compassion, and the shared human journey.

📘 About the Guest

Doug Brouwer is a Presbyterian pastor and author of The Traveler’s Path: Finding Spiritual Growth and Inspiration Through Travel. His writing explores faith, pilgrimage, curiosity, and what it means to live with openness in a complex world.

Welcome back to The Story of Us: From Cosmic Dawn to the Depths of Being.

In this opening episode of Season Two, I want to slow things down for a moment and let you into the why behind this project—how it started, what Season One taught me, and why we’re continuing the journey together.

This episode is part reflection, part gratitude, part gentle nudge forward.

I share how turning 50, navigating chronic pain, watching my kids grow up and move outward, and feeling my own body push back forced me to finally open the box, dust off the microphones, and begin telling stories instead of waiting for the “right time.” What started as a Father’s Day gift (and a very loud bluff called by my family) became a creative lifeline—one rooted in curiosity, presence, and connection.

We revisit the kitchen-table beginnings of Season One—the imperfect audio, the laughter, the vulnerability—and the themes that kept returning to us: that naming the struggle doesn’t weaken us, it frees us; that pain is universal, but so is compassion; that awe doesn’t disappear in midlife—it just learns how to whisper; and that our ordinary lives are far more sacred than we often realize.

This episode is also an invitation.

As we step into 2026 and into Season Two, I reflect on what it means to begin again—to write the next chapter without demanding perfection, to tell the truth kindly, to rest without guilt, and to choose courage more often than comfort.

Season Two will bring better sound, deeper conversations, and new voices—but the same heart. The same curiosity. The same belief that your story matters.

So pull up a chair. Put on some headphones. The page is blank—not because nothing has happened, but because it’s waiting for you.

Here’s to listening a little better. Here’s to telling the truth. Here’s to Season Two.

Peace be with you, my friends.

Topics explored in this episode:

• Why The Story of Us began
• Turning 50 and the sacred ordinariness of midlife
• Chronic pain, slowing down, and listening to the body
• Mental health, compassion, and naming the struggle
• Season One reflections and lessons learned
• The courage to begin before you’re ready
• Writing the next chapter with honesty and presence