Explorez tous les épisodes du podcast The Stepmom Side Podcast
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| #170: Being a Stepmom to a Widower: Grief, Boundaries, and Finding Your Place | 13 oct. 2026 | 00:33:50 | |
How is being a stepmom to a widower different from joining a blended family after divorce? And how can a new partner honor the children’s mother while still asking for a place in the family? In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia explores a listener’s experience of dating a widowed father, feeling excluded from a close family dynamic, and burning out while trying to keep everyone happy. The listener and her partner have reconciled after a brief separation and are working with a couples counselor before combining homes. Alicia discusses the questions that deserve attention: grief and parental guilt, a daughter’s reported caregiving role, unclear responsibilities, couple time, and inclusion for the listener’s younger son. She offers practical language for discussing these patterns without blaming the children or asking the family to erase their mother’s memory. In this episode, Alicia covers:
Support and resources:
This episode offers stepfamily coaching and education; it does not assess or diagnose the listener’s family. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #169: When Your Wife Stops Asking: Understanding Emotional Disconnection in Marriage with Kameran Alareqi | 06 oct. 2026 | 00:56:17 | |
Sometimes the argument about the dishes is about the dishes. Sometimes it’s about having to ask fourteen times and wondering whether your partner actually hears you. In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia sits down with Kameran Alareqi, a Gottman certified marriage coach, to explore communication problems in marriage, emotional disconnection, and what it takes to feel close again—especially when blended family dynamics add another layer of stress. Kameran explains how childhood patterns can follow couples into their relationships and why apologizing after an argument doesn’t always create meaningful repair. She also explores how repeated requests, emotional outbursts, or arguments before a partner leaves can sometimes reflect an unmet need for closeness. Using a baseball analogy, Kameran walks through the progression from emotional safety to connection, emotional intimacy, and physical intimacy—and why trying to skip ahead can leave partners feeling even more disconnected. In this episode, Alicia and Kameran discuss:
The takeaway: Rebuilding closeness involves more than ending an argument. It means understanding what’s underneath it, creating emotional safety, and learning how to reconnect. For stepmoms who feel unheard, couples stuck in recurring arguments, or partners wondering where their connection went, this conversation offers a starting point for understanding those patterns and approaching them differently. Connect with Kameran: Looking for support with marriage and stepfamily challenges? Explore The Stepmom Side Community for connection and support, or learn about 1:1 and couples coaching with Alicia Krasko. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #168: How to Disengage as a Stepmom Without Becoming Cold or Checking Out | 29 sept. 2026 | 00:54:31 | |
What does it mean to disengage as a stepmom—and can she step back without becoming cold, distant, or uncaring? In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia explains how helping in a blended family can slowly turn into overfunctioning. A stepmom notices what needs to happen, prevents problems, keeps everyone organized, and takes on more because she is capable. Eventually, she becomes exhausted and resentful while everyone else becomes very comfortable with the arrangement. Funny how that works. Healthy disengagement allows a stepmom to release responsibilities that do not belong to her while remaining caring, respectful, and emotionally present. It can create space for her partner to parent, for the children to carry age-appropriate responsibilities, and for the stepmom to build relationships that are not based entirely on what she does for everyone. Alicia discusses why stepping back often creates guilt, especially when being useful has become connected to belonging. She also explains how to decide what to release, communicate the change to a partner, and resist taking the responsibility back when someone handles it differently. In this episode:
Doing everything is not the price a stepmom must pay to belong. She can care about her family without managing every outcome, preventing every consequence, or carrying parenting responsibilities her partner needs to own. If you know you are doing too much but cannot figure out what is actually yours to release, you can find personalized support inside The Stepmom Side Community: https://aliciakrasko.com/community For individual or couples coaching with Alicia: https://aliciakrasko.com/coaching Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #167: Stepkids Struggle On Transition Days: What Stepmoms Can Do | 22 sept. 2026 | 00:51:47 | |
Why does a stepchild seem withdrawn, irritable, hyper, or resistant to house rules after returning from their other parent’s home? In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia explores why transitions between two homes can be difficult for kids—and why a rough return does not automatically mean the child dislikes their stepmom or that something happened at the other house. Alicia explains how a child can be glad to see one parent and still miss the parent they just left. She also addresses the stepmom’s side of transition day: feeling hurt by a cold greeting, getting the first sharp response, and being expected to restore calm while her partner avoids enforcing expectations. The episode offers a practical plan for the first hour back. Alicia covers how partners can create a predictable arrival routine, decide which tasks can wait, give children room to settle, and respond to disrespect without shaming a child for having difficult feelings. She also shares language for talking with a partner when the same transition-day conflict repeats every week. In this episode:
Key takeaway: A hard transition calls for curiosity, predictable routines, and clear boundaries. The stepmom does not have to manage every feeling or accept disrespect to be compassionate. For personal support with stepfamily transitions, boundaries, and partner alignment, join The Stepmom Side Community. For individual or couples coaching with Alicia, explore coaching options. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #166: When Dad Won’t Enforce the Rules: What a Stepmom Should—and Shouldn’t—Do | 16 sept. 2026 | 00:45:17 | |
Who should discipline the stepkids—and what should a stepmom do when her partner refuses to enforce the rules? In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia shares what happened when her desire for a structured, cooperative household collided with her husband’s desire to avoid correcting his children during their limited time together. While he ran around doing everything for them—and ended each day completely exhausted—Alicia stepped in to enforce the expectations herself. It seemed like the logical solution. Unfortunately, it went over like a lead balloon. The problem wasn’t that Alicia wanted structure. She was trying to fill an enforcement gap before she had built enough connection with her stepchildren for them to understand that her correction came from a place of love. Alicia explains why things improved when her husband became the primary enforcer and how stepmoms can maintain boundaries without becoming the household police officer. In this episode, Alicia discusses:
Wanting children to participate does not make a stepmom controlling. But when she carries responsibility without clear authority or partner support, resentment can quickly replace connection. The solution may not be for the stepmom to enforce more. It may be for her partner to parent more while she protects her boundaries and gives the relationship with her stepchildren room to develop. Download Alicia’s free guide, How to Create House Rules for a Blended Family—Without Creating More Conflict: aliciakrasko.com/expectations Join The Stepmom Side Community for support from women who understand the complicated parts of stepfamily life: Learn more about individual and couples coaching with Alicia: Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #165: It’s Not a Character Flaw: How Perimenopause Affects Memory, Mood and Stress with Jennifer Gularson | 08 sept. 2026 | 01:03:27 | |
If you’ve recently found yourself forgetting appointments, waking up drenched in sweat at 2 a.m., struggling to concentrate, or feeling completely overwhelmed by things you used to manage without a problem, it may not be a character flaw. It could be perimenopause. In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia sits down with Jennifer Gularson, PA-C, IFMCP, to unpack what really happens to women’s bodies and brains during perimenopause and menopause. Jennifer explains why perimenopause symptoms can begin while a woman is still having regular periods—and why those symptoms may disappear for months before returning with a vengeance. They discuss estrogen fluctuations, brain fog, forgetfulness, hot flashes, night sweats, changing periods, anxiety, sleep disruption, fatigue, and the sudden feeling that your usual ability to handle life has packed a bag and left without notice. They also have an honest conversation about libido, painful sex, vaginal dryness, emotional safety, mental load, and why “just try to get in the mood” is deeply unhelpful advice. In this episode, they discuss:
This conversation offers women language for what they may be experiencing, options to discuss with a qualified provider, and an important reminder: struggling with energy, memory, sleep, mood, or stress during perimenopause does not mean they are failing. Learn more about Jennifer and her services at Your Best Life with Jennifer. Join The Stepmom Side Community for support from stepmoms who understand the mental and emotional load of blended-family life. Explore coaching with Alicia for personalized support with boundaries, relationships, resentment, and finding relief at home. This episode is for educational purposes and is not a substitute for individualized medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #164: When Back-to-School Stress Turns Into Resentment Toward Your Partner | 01 sept. 2026 | 00:53:33 | |
Back-to-school stress can expose an unequal division of labor in a blended family—especially when the stepmom is managing school supplies, schedules, transportation, meals, forms, and everyone’s emotions while her partner waits to be told what to do. In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia explains why resentment is rarely about one forgotten form or shopping trip. It often develops because the stepmom is carrying the invisible mental load: noticing what needs to happen, planning it, assigning tasks, answering questions, following up, and preventing anything from falling apart. Alicia explores the difference between completing a task and taking complete ownership of it, why “Just tell me what you need” still leaves one person managing the household, and how overfunctioning can unintentionally teach a partner to underfunction. In this episode, Alicia discusses:
Resentment does not always mean a stepmom is ungrateful or controlling. It may be a sign that she has been carrying more responsibility than she can sustainably manage—and that the couple needs clearer roles, stronger follow-through, and a more honest division of labor. Explore couples coaching with Alicia for support with blended-family roles, resentment, communication, parenting stress, and partnership here. Join The Stepmom Side Community for practical support from women who understand the realities of stepfamily life here. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #163: Homework Battles in Blended Families: What Is the Stepmom’s Role? | 25 août 2026 | 00:34:42 | |
What should a stepmom do when her stepchild refuses to complete homework—or when she cares more about missing assignments than her partner does? Homework battles in blended families are rarely only about schoolwork. Different expectations between homes, unclear stepparent roles, limited authority, and a lack of partner support can leave the stepmom managing assignments, checking the school portal, enforcing consequences, and becoming resentful. In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia shares her experience with unfinished homework, different academic expectations between households, and monitoring schoolwork more closely than her partner. Alicia explains why a stepmom’s homework role should depend on her relationship with the child, how involved she is in the child’s daily life, and whether her partner provides real support and authority. In this episode, Alicia discusses:
A stepmom can care about her stepchild’s education without becoming solely responsible for it. The healthiest role is one that is clearly discussed, supported by her partner, and appropriate for her relationship with the child. Join The Stepmom Side Community for practical support with blended-family roles, boundaries, relationships, and expectations: Explore one-on-one stepmom coaching with Alicia: Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #162: Different Rules at Each House: How to Create a School Routine That Works | 18 août 2026 | 00:49:39 | |
What should a stepmom do when the rules are completely different at each house? Different bedtimes, screen limits, homework expectations, chores, and consequences can make school routines especially difficult in blended families. Children may resist the rules, struggle on transition days, or repeatedly remind the stepmom that things are different at their mom’s house. In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia explains how blended families can create consistent school routines within their own homes—even when consistency between homes is impossible. Drawing from her experience with different expectations around devices, sleep, homework, chores, and discipline, Alicia discusses how she became the strict one, overfunctioned, experienced conflict with her partner, and began feeling resentful. In this episode, Alicia covers:
The two homes do not need identical rules. What matters is creating clear expectations in your own household and ensuring the stepmom is not left to enforce everything alone. Download the free House Expectations resource: Join The Stepmom Side Community: Explore one-on-one coaching with Alicia: Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #161: School Events When Your Partner’s Ex Will Be There: How Stepmoms Can Handle the Awkwardness | 11 août 2026 | 00:52:02 | |
School events can trigger outsider syndrome for stepmoms. Especially when their partner’s ex and extended family will be there. Where should everyone sit? Should divorced parents and stepparents attend events together? What happens when a partner acts differently around their ex? And does a stepmom need to attend parent-teacher conferences to prove she cares? In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia shares her experience of feeling ignored, displaced, and unsure where she belonged during school events. She also explains why she sometimes chose not to attend parent-teacher conferences when her role felt unclear. Alicia helps stepmoms prepare for school concerts, sporting events, open houses, conferences, and other activities without forcing an uncomfortable version of “happy co-parenting.” In this episode, Alicia discusses:
There is no universal rule that says every blended family must sit together or attend every event as one group. The healthiest arrangement is the one that reduces tension, supports the child, and allows each adult to behave respectfully. If school events leave you feeling like an outsider, you do not have to work through those feelings alone. Join The Stepmom Side Community: Explore one-on-one coaching with Alicia: Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #160: Back-to-School Planning in a Blended Family: Who Is Responsible for What? | 04 août 2026 | 01:08:50 | |
Back-to-school planning can get complicated quickly in a blended family. Who buys the school supplies and clothes? Who completes registration forms, manages transportation, receives school updates, and pays for extracurricular activities? And how involved should a stepmom be when she is affected by these decisions but may not have decision-making authority? In this episode, Alicia shares how back-to-school responsibilities changed when her stepson moved into her home full time—and why responsibility, access, and authority need to be discussed individually. She explains how stepmoms and their partners can divide the workload, prepare for different routines between homes, and prevent one person from silently becoming responsible for everything. Alicia discusses:
There is no universal formula for dividing back-to-school responsibilities in a blended family. Some stepmoms want to be highly involved, while others prefer school logistics to remain primarily with the parents. What matters is that the arrangement is discussed, agreed upon, and supported. Download the free House Expectations resource to begin a clearer conversation with your partner: Join The Stepmom Side Community for practical support from women who understand blended-family roles, boundaries, and expectations: Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #159: What If I Don’t Like My Stepkids? The Truth No One Talks About (re-release) | 29 juil. 2026 | 00:27:28 | |
What if you don’t like your stepkids? It’s the question that stepmoms whisper to themselves and rarely admit out loud. In this episode, Alicia unpacks why these feelings show up, why they don’t make you a “bad stepmom,” and how to move through them without shame. You’ll learn:
This is your permission slip: you don’t have to like your stepkids 24/7 to be a good stepmom. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #158: The Emotional Reality of Stepmom Life with Darlene Sparks | 21 juil. 2026 | 01:11:35 | |
In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia Krasko sits down with certified stepfamily coach Darlene Sparks for an honest conversation about the realities of stepmom life—because “just love them like your own” is not exactly a complete instruction manual. Darlene shares her experience navigating identity loss, rejection, complicated family relationships, and feeling like an outsider in her own home. Together, Alicia and Darlene discuss how stepmoms can protect their peace without disconnecting from their stepchildren. In this episode:
This conversation reminds stepmoms that they can remain loving and involved without sacrificing themselves to keep everyone else comfortable. Connect with Darlene: Find more support: Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #157: Family Meetings, Chore Battles, and Teenagers: Real Talk About Blended Family Life with Ashley Noelle | 14 juil. 2026 | 00:51:10 | |
Blended families don't become connected overnight—and honestly, nobody hands you a roadmap. In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia sits down with Ashley from The Blended Bond to talk about what actually helps blended families feel more connected. From awkward first family meetings and navigating transitions to chore systems, parenting teenagers, and learning to stop taking everything personally, this conversation is filled with practical strategies and reassuring reminders for stepmoms. Ashley shares how intentional family conversations transformed their blended family dynamic, why asking kids what they need can change everything, and how creating routines and structure helps everyone feel more secure. They also discuss the emotional shift from part-time parenting to full-time parenting, the pressure stepmoms often place on themselves to "get it right," and why your stepchildren's moods and reactions are not always a reflection of you. In this episode, you'll learn:
Whether you're newly blending, parenting teenagers, or simply trying to feel more confident in your role, this episode will remind you that blended families don't need perfection—they need intentional connection, communication, and grace. Connect with Ashley: ****Promo code: STEPMOMSIDE20 (for 20% off any BB products)**** Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #156: The Truth About Happy Blended Families | 07 juil. 2026 | 00:14:48 | |
Are you constantly wondering why your blended family doesn't feel like the happy, picture-perfect family you imagined? You're not doing anything wrong. In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia shares why so many stepmoms struggle because they're chasing unrealistic expectations about what blended family life should look like. From instant love and immediate connection to perfectly blended relationships, many of us were sold a version of stepfamily life that simply doesn't exist. In this episode, you'll learn: ✔️ Why blended families often feel harder than expected If you've ever asked: "When will we finally feel like a family?" This episode is for you. Because success in a blended family isn't about everyone instantly loving each other or acting like they've been family forever. Real success is built through respect, safety, trust, communication, and thousands of small moments that create connection over time. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #155: In Blended Families, The Real Problem Isn't Always the Kids | 30 juin 2026 | 00:12:05 | |
Feeling unsupported by your husband or partner can make blended family life feel incredibly lonely. In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia talks about why partner support is one of the biggest predictors of stepmom satisfaction and blended family success. Many stepmoms don't necessarily need perfection from their partners. They need partnership. They need to feel heard, valued, and like they're part of a team. Key takeaways: ✔️ Why partner support matters so much in blended families If you've ever thought: "My husband never backs me up." This episode will help you understand why those feelings run so deep and how to start creating more teamwork in your relationship. You deserve to feel like the two of you are on the same side. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #154: The Hidden Reason You're So Angry as a Stepmom | 23 juin 2026 | 00:14:24 | |
Do you feel resentful as a stepmom and then immediately guilty for feeling that way? You're not alone. In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia dives into one of the most common but least talked about experiences in blended families: stepmom resentment. The truth is, resentment usually isn't about the kids. It's often the result of carrying too much emotional responsibility for too long. From managing everyone's feelings to carrying the mental load and constantly putting your own needs last, many stepmoms become overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, and disconnected from themselves. In this episode, you'll learn: ✔️ Why resentment develops in blended families If you've ever thought, "I love my husband, but I hate this life," or "I don't even recognize myself anymore," this episode is for you. You are not broken. You are likely overwhelmed, unsupported, and carrying more than anyone realizes. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #153: Why Belonging Feels So Hard in Blended Families | 16 juin 2026 | 00:11:41 | |
Feeling like an outsider in your own home as a stepmom? You're not alone. In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia explores why so many stepmoms struggle with belonging in blended families. She shares why outsider syndrome happens, the common traps stepmoms fall into, and practical ways to stop trying to earn your place and start feeling more secure in your role. Key takeaways:
Join The Stepmom Side Community: Explore Coaching: Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #152: Stepmom Confidence: Stop Auditioning for Belonging | 09 juin 2026 | 00:26:34 | |
Do you ever feel like you're constantly trying to prove yourself as a stepmom? If only you could just be more patient, more understanding, more involved, or more helpful, then maybe you'd finally feel accepted in your blended family? In this episode, Alicia dives into a struggle many stepmoms silently carry: the belief that they have to earn their place in their own home. Whether you're dealing with outsider syndrome, people-pleasing, perfectionism, or feeling invisible in your stepfamily, this episode will help you understand why belonging cannot be earned through sacrifice and exhaustion. Alicia shares the mindset shift that changed everything for her—the moment she stopped auditioning for acceptance and started recognizing her own worth. She also breaks down the common traps stepmoms fall into when they tie their value to their partner's approval, their stepkids' behavior, or the overall success of the family dynamic. If you've ever felt like you're working harder than everyone else just to feel like you belong, this conversation will remind you that your worth is not something you have to prove. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #151: When Your Stepkids Disrespect You: What Every Stepmom Needs to Know | 02 juin 2026 | 00:18:53 | |
What should a stepmom do when her stepkids are disrespectful? Few things trigger a stepmom faster than being ignored, talked back to, rolled eyes at, or treated like she doesn't matter. When you're already questioning your role in the family, disrespect from a stepchild can feel deeply personal—and it can quickly create resentment, frustration, and conflict in your marriage. In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia dives into one of the most common challenges stepmoms face: dealing with disrespectful stepkids. She explains why disrespect from stepkids often hurts more than people realize, how feelings of uncertainty and lack of belonging can amplify those interactions, and what stepmoms can do instead of reacting from anger or hurt. Whether you're dealing with eye rolls, backtalk, being ignored, or feeling completely unsupported, this episode will help you respond with confidence instead of resentment. If you've ever found yourself wondering whether your stepkids respect you—or if you've questioned whether you even belong in your family—this episode is for you. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #150: Why Setting Boundaries Feels Mean (And How to Stop Feeling Guilty) | 26 mai 2026 | 00:16:39 | |
Does setting boundaries make you immediately feel guilty? Do you finally decide to say no, ask for space, or stop carrying everyone else's emotions… and then immediately wonder if you're being selfish? You're not alone. In this episode, Alicia is diving into why boundaries can feel so uncomfortable—especially for stepmoms who are used to people pleasing, over-functioning, and carrying the emotional weight of everyone around them. If you've ever felt responsible for keeping the peace, fixing everyone's feelings, or making sure nobody is disappointed, this episode will help you understand why boundaries can feel "mean" even when they're healthy. You'll learn why guilt doesn't always mean you're doing something wrong, how people pleasing can quietly fuel resentment, and practical ways to start setting boundaries without feeling like the villain in your own home. Because boundaries aren't about pushing people away. They're about protecting your peace. Resources Mentioned: Download your free boundaries resource: Join The Stepmom Side Community: Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #149: Why Stepmoms Confuse Peace With Perfection in Blended Families | 19 mai 2026 | 00:23:36 | |
Are you constantly chasing peace in your blended family… but secretly defining peace as “everything going perfectly”? In this episode, Alicia dives into one of the biggest mindset traps high-achieving stepmoms fall into: believing that peace and perfection are the same thing. From overthinking conversations to trying to control transition days, co-parenting dynamics, schedules, emotions, and everyone else’s reactions, many stepmoms end up emotionally exhausted trying to create a version of family life that simply doesn’t exist. If you’ve ever thought:
…this episode is for you. Alicia breaks down:
This episode is a reminder that peace in a blended family does NOT come from everyone behaving perfectly. It comes from learning how to stay grounded when life gets messy. Because real peace? Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| 148: Summer Break Is Chaos for Stepmoms—Here’s How to Take Back Control of Your Home | 12 mai 2026 | 00:23:22 | |
Summer break sounds fun… until your house turns into chaos, the routines disappear, and you feel like you’re running a summer camp you never signed up for. In this episode, Alicia breaks down how stepmoms can create structure, maintain control, and protect their sanity during summer break—without turning into the “strict” or overwhelmed one in the house. If you’re already dreading the lack of routine, constant transitions between homes, and the mental load of managing it all… this episode is your game plan. You’ll learn how to create a flexible daily structure, set expectations that actually stick, and navigate summer transitions without feeling like you’re starting over every week. Because summer doesn’t have to feel like survival mode. You don’t need a perfect summer. You need a plan that creates just enough structure to keep your home calm, predictable, and manageable. Resource mentioned: Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #147: Stepmom Struggles: Why Kids Pull Away in Front of Their Other Parent | 05 mai 2026 | 00:29:52 | |
Alicia dives into one of the most confusing and emotionally triggering experiences for stepmoms: why stepchildren suddenly act distant, avoidant, or completely different when their other parent is around. If you’ve ever felt ignored at pickup, brushed off in public, or like your relationship disappears the moment their other parent enters the picture… you are not imagining it. And more importantly—it’s not rejection. This episode breaks down the concept of loyalty binds in stepfamily dynamics and explains why children may feel torn between showing love to their stepmom and protecting their relationship at the other house. Even in healthy, connected relationships, kids can shift their behavior depending on the environment, leaving stepmoms feeling confused, hurt, and questioning everything. Alicia walks you through:
This episode will help you stop overanalyzing your stepchild’s behavior and start understanding what’s actually happening beneath the surface. Because it’s not rejection. If you’re a stepmom navigating complex family dynamics, co-parenting stress, or feeling like an outsider in your own home, this episode will give you clarity, relief, and a completely new perspective. If this episode resonated with you, you’re not alone—and you don’t have to figure this out by yourself. Come join us inside The Stepmom Side Community! Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| 146: Stepmother’s Day Emotions: Feeling Invisible, Seen, and Everything In Between | 28 avr. 2026 | 00:12:22 | |
Stepmother’s Day—did you even know it existed? In this episode of, Alicia dives into the emotional complexity of Stepmother’s Day—a holiday created in 2000 a nine year old to honor her stepmom. While the intention behind the day is meaningful, the reality for many stepmoms is… complicated. Alicia unpacks the mixed emotions stepmoms experience around Stepmother’s Day and challenges stepmoms to rethink how they approach this day. Instead of waiting for others to get it right, Alicia encourages listeners to take ownership of what Stepmother’s Day means to them—whether that’s celebrating, setting expectations, or choosing to ignore it altogether. If you’ve ever felt invisible in your role, questioned whether you “count,” or wished your partner understood what you do—this episode will make you feel seen, validated, and empowered to speak up. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #145: Feeling Forgotten on Mother’s Day? A Stepmom’s Guide to Getting What You Need | 21 avr. 2026 | 00:21:12 | |
Mother’s Day can be one of the most confusing—and painful—holidays for stepmoms. You show up. You support your partner. You help raise kids who aren’t biologically yours. You carry emotional labor, household responsibilities, and the invisible weight of stepfamily dynamics… …and then Mother’s Day rolls around and you feel completely overlooked. In this episode, Alicia dives into the emotional reality of Mother’s Day for stepmoms—especially those who are childfree or childless. If you’ve ever felt forgotten, awkward, resentful, or unsure of your place on this holiday, you are not alone. This episode will help you:
Whether you want to feel appreciated, create your own plan, or simply survive the day without spiraling, this episode gives you practical tools and a powerful mindset shift. Because you don’t need permission to matter in your home. And you don’t have to keep feeling invisible. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #144: Stepfamily Myths That Damage Marriages and How to Fix the Disconnect with Monica Tanner | 14 avr. 2026 | 00:56:46 | |
In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia is joined by Monica Tanner to talk about how to reignite connection and intimacy in blended families, why stepfamily myths can damage marriages, and what couples can do to create a stronger, healthier relationship. They dive into one of the most controversial but important ideas in blended family life: why the couple relationship has to be the priority. Monica explains what that actually looks like in real life, how to support your partner without making it a competition with the kids, and why children benefit from seeing a healthy relationship modeled in the home. One of the most powerful parts of this episode is Monica’s explanation of repair in relationships. She breaks down what repair means, how couples can come back together after conflict, and why healthy relationships are not conflict-free—they are built through harmony, disharmony, and repair. If you are a stepmom feeling disconnected in your marriage, exhausted by blended family stress, or unsure how to rebuild closeness with your partner, this episode will remind you that healthy relationships are built, not found. In this episode:
Connect with Monica: Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #143: Infertility as a Stepmom: Coping with Failed IUI, Grief, and Redefining Motherhood with Kristen Skiles | 07 avr. 2026 | 00:57:16 | |
Trigger warning: miscarriage Infertility is hard. Being a stepmom is hard. Put the two together? Yeah… it’s a whole different level that no one really prepares you for. In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia sits down with Kristen Skiles to have an honest, emotional, and empowering conversation about infertility as a stepmom—including the heartbreak of a failed IUI cycle. They dive into the layered experience of wanting a baby while already being a parent figure, the guilt that can come with that, and the identity shifts that happen when motherhood doesn’t look the way you thought it would. This conversation is for the stepmom who feels torn between gratitude and grief… who loves her stepkids but still deeply wants a child of her own… and who wonders if she’s allowed to feel both. Inside this episode, you’ll hear:
If you’ve ever thought, “Why is this so hard for me when I already have stepkids?” or “Will I ever feel at peace with this?”—you are not alone. This episode will help you feel seen, understood, and a little less alone in your journey. Connect with Kristin: www.stepmomming.com Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #142: Family Court, Co-Parenting Stress, and Protecting Your Peace With Sol Kennedy | 31 mars 2026 | 00:54:05 | |
In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia talks with Sol Kennedy, founder of the Best Interest co-parenting app, about high-conflict co-parenting, family court, co-parent communication, and how AI can help parents reduce conflict. Sol shares how his own divorce and co-parenting experience led him to create an app that acts like a buffer between toxic messages and reactive responses. They talk about why the family court system can feel emotionally brutal, how co-parenting apps are usually built for documentation instead of actual peace, and why so many parents and stepparents feel completely drained by ongoing conflict with an ex. If you are navigating divorce, co-parenting stress, stepparent overwhelm, custody issues, or constant conflict with an ex, this episode will help you think differently about communication, boundaries, and protecting your peace. In this episode, Alicia and Sol discuss:
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| #141: The Hidden Reason Stepmoms Feel Like the Least Supported Person at Home | 24 mars 2026 | 00:24:55 | |
In this episode, Alicia explores why stepmoms often feel like the least supported person in their own home. She breaks down the emotional and mental load stepmoms carry, the role of over-functioning, and how relationship dynamics with partners can unintentionally reinforce feelings of isolation. Stepmoms will gain insight into why this pattern happens and learn actionable strategies for communicating their needs, setting boundaries, and creating more support within their relationship. This episode is for stepmoms who feel overwhelmed, unseen, and exhausted from holding everything together—and are ready to feel more supported and in control. Join The Stepmom Side Community Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| 140: Stepmom Burnout: When Family Expectations Don’t Match Your Capacity | 17 mars 2026 | 00:15:59 | |
In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia wraps up the Role Clarity Series by exploring what happens when expectations in blended families exceed a stepmom’s emotional and mental capacity. Many stepmoms feel pressure to overextend themselves in order to keep the peace, avoid conflict, or prove they are a “good” stepmom. This episode helps listeners identify expectations they may be carrying unconsciously, evaluate whether those expectations are sustainable, and begin honoring their own capacity without guilt. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, stretched thin, or resentful in your stepmom role, this episode will help you reassess expectations and create healthier boundaries. Resources mentioned: Surface Pressure from "Encanto" Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #139: How to Communicate Your Stepmom Role to Your Partner (Without Starting a Fight) | 10 mars 2026 | 00:11:13 | |
Alicia continues the Role Clarity Series by discussing how stepmoms can communicate their role to their partner without creating conflict or defensiveness. Many stepmoms struggle to speak up about their needs because they fear being seen as difficult or causing tension in their relationship. This episode explores the emotional fears that keep stepmoms silent and offers a simple conversation framework to help them express their needs with clarity and confidence. If you’ve ever felt unsupported, overwhelmed, or unsure how to talk to your partner about your role in the family, this episode provides practical tools to start the conversation in a healthy way. Resources mentioned: Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #138: Choosing Your Stepmom Role on Purpose (Not by Default) | 03 mars 2026 | 00:06:19 | |
Alicia helps stepmoms define their role intentionally instead of defaulting into expectations placed on them in blended families. Many stepmoms feel confused about where they fit and end up over-giving to keep the peace. This episode guides listeners through clarifying their role, understanding the emotional cost of self-erasure, and choosing a way of showing up that fits their values and capacity. If you’re struggling to find your place as a stepmom, this episode will help you create clarity and confidence in your role. Join The Stepmom Side Community to define your stepmom role with support from women who understand blended family dynamics. Resources mentioned: Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #137: Responsibility Without Authority Is Why You’re Exhausted | 24 févr. 2026 | 00:08:27 | |
Alicia explores why stepmoms feel exhausted when they carry responsibility without real authority in blended families. Many stepmoms take on emotional and logistical labor without having equal decision-making power, which leads to burnout and resentment. This episode helps stepmoms identify where they are over-functioning, name the grief that often goes unspoken, and take one small step toward a more sustainable role. If you feel depleted, unseen, or resentful in your stepmom role, this episode will help you understand why and what to do next. Resources mentioned: Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #136: Build Your Trigger Protocol (So You’re Not Feral in the Moment) | 17 févr. 2026 | 00:17:09 | |
In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia teaches stepmoms how to create a personal Trigger Protocol to handle emotionally charged moments without spiraling or snapping. If you often react in the heat of the moment and then regret what you said or did, this episode gives you a simple, practical plan you can use when your nervous system is activated. You’ll learn how to choose a pause phrase, an exit strategy, and one nervous system regulation tool so you can respond more calmly in blended family situations. This episode is perfect for stepmoms who feel overwhelmed by emotional triggers with their stepkids, partner, or co-parenting dynamics and want real tools that work in the moment. Join The Stepmom Side Community to practice emotional regulation tools, get support from other stepmoms, and stop handling triggers alone. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #135: Why Being the Mature One Is Quietly Burning You Out | 11 févr. 2026 | 00:16:19 | |
If you’ve ever said, “I understand why this happened, so I shouldn’t still feel upset,” this episode is for you. Alicia explores why so many stepmoms intellectualize their emotions instead of processing them — and how that pattern quietly leads to resentment, burnout, and emotional shutdown. Stepmoms are often praised for being mature, understanding, and “handling things well,” but that praise can come at a cost. When feelings are constantly explained away instead of felt, they don’t disappear — they get stored. This episode breaks down the difference between intellectualizing emotions and actually processing them, and why skipping the emotional “ouch” is one of the fastest ways resentment builds in blended families. In this episode, Alicia covers:
This episode offers stepmoms permission to feel first — without justification, explanation, or self-criticism. ✨ Resentment to Relief builds directly on this work, teaching stepmoms how to safely feel emotions without spiraling, self-abandoning, or stuffing them down until they explode later. Join the waitlist here. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #134: Why You Handle It “So Well”… Then Fall Apart Later | 04 févr. 2026 | 00:18:41 | |
Have you ever handled a stepfamily moment calmly, maturely, and with impressive emotional intelligence — only to completely unravel hours later? Alicia breaks down the difference between your thinking self and your nervous system, and why logic isn’t enough to regulate emotional reactions in blended family life. This episode is especially for high-functioning, Type A stepmoms who pride themselves on being self-aware but feel confused (and frustrated) when that awareness doesn’t stop the emotional spirals. Alicia explains why stepmom triggers hit so deeply, why feelings often show up after the situation is over, and how nervous system responses are rooted in safety, belonging, and attachment — not immaturity or weakness. In this episode, you’ll learn:
This episode helps stepmoms stop judging themselves for emotional reactions and start understanding what their body is trying to communicate. This conversation is a key foundation for Resentment to Relief, Alicia’s framework for helping stepmoms stop managing resentment and start releasing it by working with — not against — their nervous system. Get on the waitlist for Resentment to Relief here. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #133: Why Being Self-Aware Isn’t Helping (And Might Be Making It Worse) | 27 janv. 2026 | 00:13:58 | |
You’ve done the work. In this episode, Alicia breaks down why insight alone doesn’t calm a dysregulated nervous system — and why high-functioning, emotionally intelligent stepmoms often struggle more, not less. This conversation is for the stepmom who:
Alicia explores how self-awareness can accidentally turn into self-pressure, why explaining your feelings doesn’t regulate them, and how emotional maturity has been confused with emotional suppression. Key takeaways from this episode:
If you’ve ever thought, “I shouldn’t feel this way anymore,” this episode will gently (and lovingly) call that out. This episode sets the foundation for Resentment to Relief — a process designed not to fix you, but to help your nervous system feel safe enough to finally let go of resentment instead of managing it forever. Get on the waitlist for Resentment to Relief here. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| 132: Why Type A Women Struggle as Stepmoms (Control, Perfectionism & Burnout) | 20 janv. 2026 | 00:23:33 | |
If you’re a Type A, high-achieving woman who suddenly felt like she lost her footing after becoming a stepmom — this episode is for you. In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia speaks directly to driven, control-loving, people-pleasing women who were thriving before blended family life… and now feel anxious, resentful, burned out, or completely out of control. Alicia breaks down the common pitfalls Type A stepmoms don’t see coming, including over-functioning, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional burnout. She also explains what’s actually happening beneath the surface — and how to start letting go of control without losing confidence or identity. In this episode, you’ll learn:
This episode is a must-listen for stepmoms who are exhausted from managing everyone else’s emotions and ready to stop trying to “fix” blended family life. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #131: What to Do When Your Stepkid Says ‘I Miss My Mom’ Without Losing Your Cool | 13 janv. 2026 | 00:27:38 | |
When your stepkid says, “I miss my mom” especially right after a consequence, it hits different. It’s not just the words; it’s the sting behind them. The comparison. The reminder that no matter how much you love and show up, you’re still not her. In this episode, Alicia dives into how to handle it when your stepchild brings up their mom whether it’s “I miss her,” “She does it better,” or “Mom lets me.” You’ll hear real stories (including one straight from The Stepmom Side Community), emotional insight, and a few hard truths about what’s really happening when those words come out. Alicia breaks down:
If you’ve ever felt like you’re being compared, rejected, or just plain over it, this one’s for you. You’ll walk away with confidence, clarity, and maybe a little less sting next time those words come up. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #130: How to Handle In-Laws Who Stay Friends with the Ex-Wife | 06 janv. 2026 | 00:21:24 | |
When your in-laws are still close with your partner’s ex, it can feel like emotional whiplash. You’re trying to build a future while they’re still tethered to the past—and it leaves you wondering where (or if) you fit in. In this extended episode, Alicia gets real about her own experience of feeling like the outsider in her husband’s family and shares how she moved from frustration to clarity. You’ll learn how to navigate this tricky dynamic without shutting people out, setting healthy boundaries around what you will (and won’t) discuss, and how to confidently define your own place in the family—even if it feels like the ex is still holding space. This episode is part validation, part strategy, and 100% support for the stepmom who's tired of feeling like the backup option. What You’ll Hear:
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| #129: When Kids Flip the Switch (and You Take It Personally) | 30 déc. 2025 | 00:23:56 | |
Kids are emotional chameleons — sweet one minute, sassy the next, and then asking for help like nothing ever happened. For stepmoms (especially those without kids of their own), those mood swings can feel deeply personal. In this episode, Alicia gets real about how confusing and hurtful kids’ quick emotional flips can be — and why they usually have nothing to do with you. She shares a personal story about her daughter going from furious to friendly in record time and what it taught her about emotional regulation, perspective, and saving yourself from unnecessary heartache. Alicia breaks down:
If you’ve ever spiraled after a stepkid’s attitude shift or found yourself holding on to something long after they’ve moved on, this episode is your reminder that you’re not alone — and it’s not personal. Join other stepmoms learning how to take things less personally (and laugh about it along the way) inside The Stepmom Side Community Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #128: Too Close to Be Heard: The Real Reason Your Partner Shuts Down | 23 déc. 2025 | 00:19:24 | |
Are you tired of repeating yourself and feeling like your partner just doesn’t hear you? Whether it’s dad guilt, lack of boundaries with the kids, inconsistency in parenting, or not feeling prioritized in your relationship — this episode is here to validate and support you. In this episode, Alicia breaks down why communication feels so hard in blended families, why your partner may not respond the way you hope, and how being "too close" to the situation can make you the least effective person to bring up these issues. You’ll learn:
If you're exhausted from having the same conversations that go nowhere, this episode will give you clarity, relief, and a path forward. Interested in Couples Coaching? Apply here! Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #127: My House, Her Hoodie, and a Whole Lotta Feelings | 16 déc. 2025 | 00:31:46 | |
In this deeply honest episode, we’re getting into the emotional weeds of what happens when the ex’s belongings, photos, or influence are still showing up in your home. From hoodies and framed photos to never-ending texts between your partner and their ex, it can start to feel like you’re suffocating in someone else’s life. Especially for childless and childfree stepmoms, the presence of “her stuff” can stir up major discomfort—and lead to fights with your partner, emotional shutdowns, or resentment toward the kids. Alicia shares her personal experience and helps you reframe the issue so you can set boundaries without guilt, protect your peace without controlling the narrative, and finally start to feel at home in your own house. This episode offers validation, strategy, and a healthy dose of real talk for any stepmom who’s ever felt like a guest in her own home. What You’ll Learn:
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| #126: When the Ex Still Haunts Your Blended Family: Stepmom Jealousy Explained | 09 déc. 2025 | 00:25:52 | |
Is your partner’s past still taking up space in your present-day relationship? You’re not alone—and you’re not crazy. Whether it's memories of the ex, old traditions, or constant reminders of “how things used to be,” retroactive jealousy and emotional triggers are real in stepmom life. In this episode, we’re unpacking the emotional weight of feeling like you’re competing with the past—and how to move forward with confidence. We’ll talk about:
This episode will leave you feeling seen, validated, and empowered to take back your role—not as a replacement, but as a renewal. Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #125: When Adult Stepkids Don’t Accept You (and How to Stop Letting It Steal Your Peace) | 02 déc. 2025 | 00:21:30 | |
When you thought things would finally get easier once they were grown… but your adult stepkids still make you feel like an outsider. In this episode, Alicia digs into what’s really going on when adult stepkids won’t accept you — and how to stop tying your peace to their approval. She shares the emotional layers behind this rejection, why it’s not actually about you, and the exact mindset shifts to help you feel confident, calm, and back in control. Whether your adult stepkids are cold, distant, or flat-out disrespectful, this truth-telling pep talk will help you release the guilt, stop overcompensating, and reclaim your power — without turning bitter or backing down. Listen in to learn:
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| #124: When Kids Don’t Listen (And It’s Not Because You’re the Stepmom) | 25 nov. 2025 | 00:16:10 | |
Are you a childless or childfree stepmom feeling like a broken record? Alicia gets real about the exhausting cycle of repeating yourself to your stepkids—whether it's chores, routines, or basic expectations—and feeling like it's never enough. She opens up about her own realization that forgetfulness and resistance aren’t about being a stepmom—they’re just part of how kids grow and learn. With practical tools and empowering mindset shifts, this episode will help you release the guilt, drop the unrealistic expectations, and approach those “reminder moments” with less stress and more confidence. Whether you're constantly asking them to take their shoes off, clean up after themselves, or simply follow through, this episode is your reminder that you're doing it right—even if it doesn’t feel like it. What You’ll Learn:
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| #123: Why Stepmom Resentment Sneaks In (and How to Stop It) | 18 nov. 2025 | 00:31:06 | |
In this truth-telling episode, Alicia pulls back the curtain on one of the most common (but least talked about) emotions in stepfamily life: resentment. It doesn’t show up overnight—it builds quietly from all the unspoken expectations, invisible labor, and bottled-up feelings that come with being a stepmom. Alicia shares why resentment creeps in when you’re doing everything right but still feel unseen, unappreciated, and exhausted. You’ll learn how to spot the early signs before they blow up, how to set boundaries that protect your peace, and how to rewrite the story you’re telling yourself so resentment stops running the show. This isn’t about pretending to be okay—it’s about taking your power back and showing up for yourself, guilt-free. What You’ll Hear:
If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “Why do I feel so angry when I’m trying so hard?” — this one’s for you. Free resource: Join The Stepmom Side Community: Work with Alicia 1:1: Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #122: When Co-Parenting Isn’t Possible (Because the Ex Is a Nightmare) | 11 nov. 2025 | 00:18:06 | |
If you’ve tried to co-parent with someone who thrives on drama, control, or straight-up chaos… this episode is your safe space and wake-up call. In Episode 122 of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia breaks down what to do when co-parenting feels impossible because the ex just won’t cooperate. We’re not here to sugarcoat—we’re here to speak truth. Co-parenting takes two willing adults. And when that’s not happening? You need to stop wasting energy trying to fix what you can’t control. Tune in for tough love, real talk, and actionable steps that will help you reclaim your peace—even if the ex keeps lighting fires. Whether you're knee-deep in high-conflict drama or just need a sanity check, this episode will leave you feeling validated, supported, and back in your power. Resource mentioned: Podcast episode #98: Feeling Powerless as a Stepmom? It Might Be the Victim Mindset Free resource: Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here. | |||
| #121: Peace Over Presents: Letting Go of Comparison in Your Blended Family Christmas | 04 nov. 2025 | 00:31:28 | |
When the holidays roll around, so does the pressure — to make it fair, to make it magical, and to not lose your mind when the ex goes overboard or your stepkids start comparing gifts. In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia unpacks the gift-giving grief that shows up for so many stepmoms — the quiet, unspoken frustration of trying not to compete or control while still wanting to be thoughtful. You’ll hear how to: Whether you’re navigating an over-the-top ex, trying to set spending limits, or just want to make the holidays less stressful, this one’s for you. Listen to get your peace (and sanity) back this holiday season. Podcast episode mentioned: Free resource:
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