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WHY I TOOK MY HIJAB OFF AFTER 23 YEARS30 Mar 202600:54:57

For years, this has been the number one question she’s been asked: Why did you take the hijab off? In this deeply personal solo episode, Salma finally shares the full story, five years later.

This wasn’t one decision made in one moment. It was a long, painful, complicated unraveling shaped by heartbreak, therapy, faith, isolation, family pressure, and the slow realization that her relationship to the hijab was tied to much more than modesty. Salma reflects on growing up loving the hijab, the comfort and identity it gave her, and what began to surface when she started questioning religion, power, hypocrisy, and her own autonomy.

She opens up about the first time she ever went out without it, the fear she carried around her father, the grief of disappointing her family, and the devastation that followed choosing herself. She also speaks to the beauty that still exists in her relationship to Islam, and why this story is not about rejecting her faith, but about being honest about what this journey has actually cost her.

One of Salma’s most intimate episodes yet, this is a conversation about faith, identity, family, and the courage it takes to choose yourself - even when it changes everything.

This episode is for the Muslim girls. I love you.

HELP KEEP THE POD ALIVE FOR 2026, DONATE TO OUR GOFUNDME: https://gofund.me/f646f3082

CREDITS:
 Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
Executive Producer: Salma Hindy
Associate Producer: Rania Harris
Videographer & Sound Engineer: Patrick Samaha
Writer: Salma Hindy
Editor: Luke Davis
Studio: 30 Irving Studios
Artwork: Rana Omar

© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2026

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HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy

HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy

EVERYONE DESERVES BUTTERY SEX (VAGINISMUS IS CURABLE)23 Mar 202601:11:24

Vaginismus is curable. And it’s not something that should take years.

In this episode, Salma sits down with pelvic floor physiotherapist and “Vagina Rehab Doctor” Janelle Howell to unpack the truth about sexual pain, healing, and what it actually takes to feel safe and connected in your body. What starts as a conversation about vaginismus quickly opens into something much bigger: shame, religion, pleasure, power, and the way so many women have been taught to disconnect from themselves.

Salma shares her full journey: from experiencing searing pain during her first sexual encounter, to navigating dilators, hookups, injury, and slowly finding her way to pleasure and confidence. Janelle breaks down why vaginismus is both physical and psychological, why so many treatments fall short, and how women can heal faster when they’re actually taught how to understand and trust their bodies.

She shares that most of the women she works with are married. Many of them struggle in silence for years, unable to consummate their relationships. And yes, healing is possible for everyone: one woman was finally able to have sex after 16 years of marriage…in cowgirl!

Janelle’s 5-step approach to healing includes: acknowledging fear and pain patterns, understanding and releasing the pelvic floor, guided dilation and tissue work, rebuilding confidence, and safely transitioning to penetration with a partner.

This episode is for the Muslim girlies everywhere navigating vaginismus in silence - carrying shame, confusion, and pressure without the language or support to understand what’s happening in your body. You are not alone in this. There is nothing wrong with you. In the words of Dr. Janelle, “your body is not broken, it’s bougie.” Healing is possible for you, so long as you have an obnoxious amount of hope.

Donate to our GoFundMe to keep the pod afloat for 2026: https://gofund.me/f646f3082 

CREDITS: 

 Host & Creator: Salma Hindy

 Executive Producer: Salma Hindy

 Associate Producer: Rania Harris

 Videographer & Sound Engineer: Patrick Samaha

 Writer: Salma Hindy

 Editor: Salma Hindy

 Studio: 30 Irving Studios

 Artwork: Rana Omar

© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2026


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HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy

HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy

ENGAGED TO A ZIONIST22 Sep 202500:47:22

What happens when the person you love turns out to be violent, racist, and determined to ruin you? This week, Algerian-American comedian Hedya joins Salma to share her shocking journey of falling for a man who seemed like home after years of family tension and cultural expectations, only to find herself trapped in a cycle of abuse. During the pandemic lockdown, he pushed her, dragged her out of the kitchen, and even locked her on the balcony. Yet two days later, she found herself baking him lasagna and chocolate cake, caught in the grip of trauma bonding. When he later sued her for custody of their dog and won, and began pursuing defamation lawsuits against her, Hedya was left financially drained but still fighting to reclaim her voice.

In this raw conversation, Hedya speaks openly about reparenting herself, navigating the push and pull of being Arab-American, and learning to reconnect with her body and self-worth after years of shame. Salma reflects on her own experiences with domestic violence growing up, as well as the heartbreak and frustration of watching a friend remain in an abusive relationship, and why society still struggles to support survivors unless they fit the mold of a “perfect victim.” Together, they unpack the messy realities of faith, family, abuse, and survival and the courage it takes to finally take your power back.

CREDITS:

 Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
 Executive Producer: Salma Hindy
 Cinematographer: Patrick Samaha
 Studio: 30 Irving Studios
 Editor: Salma Hindy
 Artwork: Rana Omar


© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2025


Instagram: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

YouTube: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy

HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy

INSIDE THE MUSLIM MATCHMAKER’S MIND (YASMIN ELHADY)15 Sep 202501:02:19

What really makes love last? And how do you find a partner when family, community, and faith are all part of the puzzle?

In this episode, Salma sits down with her older sister and mentor, Yasmin Elhady: comedian, lawyer, community leader, and one of the hosts of Hulu’s Muslim Matchmaker.

Yasmin has matched over 58 couples and shares her expertise on it all:

  • The 3 things every relationship needs
  • Why couples therapy doesn’t work without a foundation
  • Being “relationship young” and learning through mistakes
  • Why Yasmin insists Salma should never date a comedian (aka dating outside your lane)
  • Small icks that don’t matter vs. real incompatibility
  • How porn and swiping addictions wreck dopamine
  • No more ghosting! And what to do instead
  • Why you have to leave the house to meet people
  • Yasmin’s rule: every married couple should introduce six single friends to each other

They also get real about heartbreak, celibacy, high standards, and why marriage isn’t the goal, God is.

Whether single, dating, or already married, Yasmin shares wisdom on how to build love rooted in integrity, faith, and joy.

CREDITS:  

 Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
 Executive Producers: Salma Hindy & Sara Hussain
 Cinematographer: Tomas Liebel
 Studio: 30 Irving Studios
 Editor: Salma Hindy
Artwork: Rana Omar

© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2025


Instagram: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

YouTube: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy

HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy

IF IT’S NOT A F*CK YES, IT’S A NO.08 Sep 202500:57:32

Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of rape, alcoholism, domestic violence, and abuse. Please listen with care.

This week, Salma sits down with trauma-informed divorce coach Sarzana Zafar - divorced twice (because once is boring) - to unpack the father wound and consent.

Sarzana shares her journey from growing up with an alcoholic father in a Muslim community that judged and shamed instead of helping, to being date-raped at 19 when her repeated “no”s were ignored. What followed was a decade of trauma work, divorce, and reclaiming her voice. Today, she roars her boundaries. Like on her most recent Muzzmatch date, where he tried to kiss her after she’d already refused twice, and she shouted, “No means no. Did you not hear me the first two times?” before he cartoon-drove off in fear.

Together, Salma and Sarzana unpack the infamous hadith that says if a wife refuses her husband in bed, the angels curse her until morning. Salma reflects on how this teaching has been weaponized to manipulate women into non-consensual sex, while Sarzana explains how it disconnected her from her own body - even when she was eager, her husband questioned whether she was doing it for herself or just for God.

The conversation spans father wounds, how patience from a lover can be the ultimate turn-on, and the radical power of saying no. Salma recalls learning the mantra “If it’s not a fuck yes, it’s a no” at sex clubs - and adds her own gospel: “If you don’t go down on women but expect them to go down on you, you can die.” And a message to Desi men everywhere from Sarzana: “if you want your wife to be a freak in the sheets, get out of your parents’ homes.”


CREDITS:
 Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
 Executive Producers: Sara Hussain & Salma Hindy
 Cinematographer: Patrick Samaha
Studio: 30 Irving Studios
 Editor: Salma Hindy
Artwork: Rana Omar

© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2025


Instagram: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

YouTube: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy

HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy

LOVER GIRL WITH A BODY COUNT OF 100+01 Sep 202501:05:03

For the Love of Sex: Lover Girl with a Body Count of 100+

This week, Salma sits down with Yasmine, a Karachi-born lover girl who has lived, loved, and - by her own account - slept with half of Dubai. With a body count well over 100, Yasmine opens up about her wildest experiences: from sex parties, kinks, and threesomes (including one she literally walked out of mid-session), to discovering the healing power of an open relationship.

Raised under a mother who shamed her body and nitpicked every detail, Yasmine spent her 20s on a spree of sex - centering the male gaze - to prove she was desirable, even if her mom never knew. That journey led to her becoming a pandemic bride (marrying her first boyfriend to appease her parents), a divorce, and ultimately a much healthier love story: a gorgeous, white partner who values sex as deeply as she does. Together, they treat sex as an art form - aligning on openness, trust, communication, and chemistry. (Fun fact: she blew his mind on their first night by squirting in his mouth.)

Yasmine also dives into bisexuality, body image, discovering who she is outside of the male gaze, putting “I hate hawk-tuah spit noises in bed” on her Type A Feeld profile, and her time doing sex work in Canada - where the hardest part wasn’t the sex itself, but fake-laughing at men’s jokes while most of her elderly clients “smelled like death.” She also explains why conventionally hot men are often the worst in bed, and why her favorite flavor of cock is Egyptian.

Salma listens to a wiser, more experienced sexual baddie - and then flips the script to ask: is this a sex addiction? She reflects on her own celibacy, trauma, and what happens when you stop chasing love and hold everything constant. Together, they dig into the real talk around body image, family shame, dating in a new country, and the ongoing struggle of Muslim girls claiming space for their sexuality.

CREDITS:
 Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
 Executive Producers: Salma Hindy & Sara Hussain
 Editor: Salma Hindy
 Artwork: Rana Omar

© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2025



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TOO VIRGIN FOR THE WEST, TOO SLUT FOR THE EAST18 Aug 202500:48:18

Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault, Sexual Coercion

Iranian-American Sasha got her first period because of 9/11 (yes, really). Growing up in the Midwest to a cultural - NOT religious - family, her life became a crash course in contradictions: purity rings and sex-ed teachers calling girls “hoes,” a mom who said virgins are chocolates in fancy wrappers, dating a man she wasn’t attracted to for three years, being sexually assaulted by him, and hearing her mom respond, “It’s your fault.” She chased a man into the street for sex, cried after a hookup couldn’t get it up, scrolled Tinder to find a husband, and finally lost her virginity at 28. Only then did she realize the “treasure” she’d been protecting was never what she was promised.

This is the messy, hilarious, and heartbreaking reality of being too virgin for the West, too slut for the East. Sasha unpacks the impossible contradictions of Muslim womanhood, and what happens when you finally decide to have sex on your own terms.

If you need support:

  • Global: Use the NO MORE Global Directory to find sexual assault and domestic violence hotlines wherever you are in the world.
  • United States: Call the RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or use their online chat. Support is free and confidential, 24/7.
  • Canada: Contact the Talk4Healing Helpline at 1-855-554-HEAL (for women in Ontario) or the Canadian Association of Sexual Assault Centres (CASAC) via casac.ca.

CREDITS:
 Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
Executive Producers: Salma Hindy & Sara Hussain
 Editor: Salma Hindy
 Artwork: Rana Omar

© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2025

Instagram: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

YouTube: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy

HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy

VAGINISMUS, BODY IMAGE & CLAIMING JOY: A JOURNEY FROM SHAME TO SELF-LOVE11 Aug 202500:46:16

Growing up Pakistani-American in a conservative Muslim household, Hina learned early that her body was something to hide, police, and feel shame about. From a traumatic first period experience and relentless bullying, to chronic friend-zoning and a lifetime of sexualization, she spent decades feeling like sex was a party she’d never be invited to.

In this raw and powerful conversation, Hina opens up about:

  • Navigating vaginismus and pelvic floor therapy while breaking the silence in Muslim spaces
  • How cultural shame, bullying, and family scrutiny shaped her body image and self-worth
  • The difficulty - and vulnerability - of receiving love, attention, and pleasure
    Learning to dismantle inherited beliefs, embrace her sexuality, and redefine joy on her own terms

Hina’s story is a reminder that sexual pleasure is a spiritual birthright, sisterhood is survival, and there’s no shame in loving who you are.

CREDITS:
 Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
 Executive Producers: Sara Hussain & Salma Hindy
 Cinematographer: Miles Kelly
 Studio: WTF Media Studio
 Editor: Danesha - WTF Media Studio & Salma Hindy
 Artwork: Rana Omar

© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2025

Instagram: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

YouTube: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy

HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy

DIVORCE, DISABILITY & SEXY TIME WITH YOUR PALESTINIAN TETA28 Jul 202500:42:59

Palestinian comedian Maysoon Zayid waited until marriage to have sex (at 33 years old). Then life came at her fast. In this raw and hilarious conversation with Salma Hindy, Maysoon opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of her romantic life and how living with cerebral palsy shaped her journey. From dating a Broadway River Dancer, to enduring miscarriages and finding relief after divorce, she reflects on the freedom of middle age and what it really means to reclaim one’s story.


LINK TO MAYSOON’S BOOK: https://shinymisfits.com/


CREDITS:
 Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
 Executive Producers: Sara Hussain & Salma Hindy
 Cinematographer: Maxim Allen-Lan
 Studio: My Friend's Basement
 Editor: Salma Hindy
 Artwork: Rana Omar

© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2025


Instagram: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

YouTube: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy

HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy

The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women - EPISODE 1 - Salma Hindy's Sexual Journey21 Apr 202500:48:43

From early childhood experiences, finding out about sex, vaginismus, first experiences with girls, fantasy boy crushes, celibacy to Ayahausca and beyond, Salma Hindy shares her entire sexual journey and the intention of this podcast. 


GUEST CALL OUT. Anonymity guaranteed.

If you would like to be a guest on this pod, please email thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen@gmail.com with a short synopsis of your story. 

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HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy

HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy

Teaser of Episode 1 of The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women14 Apr 202500:00:56

Find out about Salma Hindy's FIRSTS

  • First exposure to Sex Ed
  • First time truly learning Sex Ed
  • First time having sex and losing virginity
  • First time learning about Vaginismus


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HOW I LOST TWO SWEETHEARTS WITHOUT MEANING TO (HOW I BROKE MY OWN HEART)23 Feb 202600:52:57

In this deeply personal solo episode, Salma reflects on the two heartbreaks that changed her life (one romantic, one a friendship) and the painful realization that she was the one who ended them.

Two years ago, after losing her family, moving 19 times, living in survival mode, and spiraling through manic travel, chaos, and sexual hunger, Salma met two people who were sweet, sensitive, and safe. And when things started to feel intimate…she panicked.

For the first time, she explores her avoidant attachment - not the anxious narrative she used to blame men for, but the part of her that burns things down when they get too good. She opens up about how she pushed away Joaquin (the only man in America she’s slept with), how she sabotaged her friendship with Didi, and how her nervous system (dysregulated, grieving, and terrified of real intimacy) made her mistake sweetness for danger.

This episode includes excerpts from letters exchanged between Salma and her therapist as they closed two years of therapy together. It’s raw. It’s recent. And it’s the most honest she’s been about her patterns.

She talks about:

  • Growing up in dysfunction and confusing chaos for connection
  • Why her avoidance shows up when things are going well, NOT during conflict
  • Trauma bonding vs. true intimacy
  • Sexual imprinting, jealousy, and nervous system dysregulation
  • Celibacy after heartbreak and assault
  • Learning to “stay” instead of explode
  • The difference between chasing unavailable men and allowing real love to bloom
  • Being the first woman in her bloodline to choose a life not structured around marriage

Now, Salma is in uncharted territory: practicing slowness, living in her present reality in New York, and allowing a new connection to unfold without control, sabotage, or fantasy.

This episode is a love letter to Joaquin & Didi.
I’m sorry I lost you.

Recorded February 16, the last day of The Year of the Snake.

CREDITS: 

 Host & Creator: Salma Hindy

 Executive Producer: Salma Hindy

 Associate Producer: Rania Harris

 Writer & Editor: Salma Hindy

 Studio: 30 Irving Studios

 Artwork: Rana Omar

© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2026

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YouTube: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy

HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy

GET THE F*CK OUT OF YOUR PARENTS' HOUSE13 Jan 202601:09:11

What does it really mean to “obey your parents”? And what happens when obedience becomes suffocation?

In this pillar episode, Salma is joined by an anonymous guest, Fatima, for a deeply honest conversation about emotional enmeshment, delayed adulthood, and what it actually takes to cut the cord. Fatima grew up in a close-knit Arab Muslim family in the U.K. where independence was only acceptable through marriage. Despite being asexual and aromantic - and having no interest in men - she was taught that the only way out of her parents’ house was as a wife.

What followed was a years-long attempt to do everything right: changing careers (from architecture to engineering to teaching) to appear more “wife-friendly,” tolerating constant scrutiny, and engaging in the arranged marriage process as an exit strategy rather than a desire. That path ultimately led to a breaking point when Fatima was GHOSTED AT HER KATB KITAB (Islamic Wedding) and then blamed by her parents, accused of wrongdoing, and subjected to even more control. It was then that she realized what so many adult children eventually learn: there is no finish line, no amount of obedience that guarantees peace, and no way to make your parents happy by sacrificing yourself.

In this episode, Fatima walks us through the practical, financial, and emotional steps she took to move out of her parents’ house, including how she secretly saved money, planned her exit, managed guilt, and rebuilt her life afterward. Salma weaves in her own experience of individuation, grief, and the disorienting freedom that comes after leaving and rebuilding a life without parental guardrails.

This conversation is for anyone who keeps asking, “How do I actually get out?” If this episode stirs up anger, grief, or urgency in you, that doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful. It means you’re waking up.

This is a pillar episode of the podcast. If you listen to only one, let it be this one.

CREDITS: 

 Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
 Executive Producer: Salma Hindy
 Editor: Salma Hindy
 Artwork: Rana Omar


© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2025


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I WENT TO A SEX CLUB LOOKING FOR A HUG17 Dec 202500:53:37

In this solo episode, Salma Hindy recounts attending a sex club in Berlin, where a man violated her and then tried to disappear - only to be confronted months later, unexpectedly, at a comedy show in New York. She reflects on what it meant to call him out publicly on stage,  reclaiming a sense of power she didn’t realize she’d lost. She reflects on the first feeling she noticed immediately following the assault: not anger that he crossed her boundaries, but sadness that he had left.

She walks through the reality of sex clubs and sex parties beyond fantasy: leaving phones at the door, navigating explicitly sexual environments without pressure to participate, and choosing observation over access. Salma speaks candidly about vaginismus, bodily boundaries, two years of celibacy, and how her body understands trust long before her mind does.

Despite what happened in Berlin, she still chose to attend a sex party in Beverly Hills a month later: a very different experience shaped by a consent assembly, brief but confronting eye-contact exercises, and an atmosphere built around communication rather than coercion. There was also the frivolous indulgence: getting her first STD test, watching a close friend have a threesome, rope performers, sensual complimentary massages, squirting competitions, kinky dungeons, queer kisses, and being offered lots of drugs (a sex-party love language).

With humor, softness, and clarity, Salma explores the difference between sexual freedom and sexual obligation, what safety actually feels like in sexual spaces, why being in a sexual environment doesn’t mean owing anyone access to your body, and why wanting tenderness (even in the most explicit environments) isn’t naïve, but deeply human.


CREDITS: 

 Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
 Executive Producer: Salma Hindy
 Cinematographer: Ian Ritter
 Studio: 30 Irving Studios
 Editor: Salma Hindy

 Writer: Salma Hindy
 Artwork: Rana Omar


© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2025

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HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy

HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy

THE GAYS AREN’T GOING TO HELL, DAD. (From Corporal Punishment to Queer Liberation)25 Nov 202501:12:59

Comedian, writer, and actor Tarek Ziad becomes the first Muslim man (and first queer man) to join the podcast. Like two besties at a slumber party, Salma and Tarek honestly and hilariously unravel everything their communities tell them to hide: queerness, shame, corporal punishment, disownment, religion, sexual repression, and the long, painful road toward loving yourself.

Tarek shares his journey growing up Berber (Amazigh) in a strict Moroccan household in Florida: from being punished for harmless physical contact with the opposite gender, to enduring violence and religious guilt, to getting into Yale, exploring his sexuality and cutting off his parents for his own survival, to eventually being disowned after coming out.

Salma opens up about calling child services on her abusive brother-in-law, losing access to her nephews, and the real reason her family cut her off (hint: it wasn’t the hijab - it was her sexuality). She also shares her father’s iconic line, “Let’s just agree the gays are going to hell,” and her equally iconic clapback.

Together they explore:

  • how repression destroys entire generations
  • Muslim queerness vs. white queerness
  • whether you must abandon culture or family to live authentically
  • what Islam actually says about sexuality
  • the obsession with top/bottom labels
  • vaginismus vs. bottoming fear
  • indigenous Amazigh tattoo traditions
  • breaking cycles of violence and shame
  • finding chosen family and safer community
  • the privilege and danger of “coming out” in MENA contexts

This episode is a portal: painful, funny, deeply human, and radically liberating.
It's a love letter to everyone raised on fear who is now trying to build a life rooted in truth. 

This episode is dedicated to Salma’s 17 nieces and nephews - she loves you no matter what.


CREDITS: 

Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
Executive Producer: Salma Hindy
Cinematographer: Patrick Samaha
Studio: 30 Irving Studios
Editor: Salma Hindy
Artwork: Rana Omar


© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2025

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HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy

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NERVOUS SYSTEM ON FIRE (Molested by Father, Crucified by Siblings)17 Nov 202500:54:58

TW: SEXUAL, PHYSICAL & EMOTIONAL ABUSE

From the outside, Sara’s life looked like a dream: a respected gynecologist father, a big Gulf family, religious prestige, and the illusion of stability. Inside, it was a battlefield.

At five years old, she was molested by her father - the same man who later walked her down the aisle. Her childhood was chaos: screaming, bloody domestic fights, a mother beaten and belittled, and a nervous system that learned to survive before it ever felt safe.

Years later, after surviving addiction, rebellion, and trying to rebuild her life, Sara faced her second heartbreak: her siblings kicked her out, called her a “cunt,” turned their faces away from her, and left her estranged for seven years. Sara calls that day her crucifixion - the moment her entire family abandoned her.

We talk about: surviving childhood sexual abuse; watching violence erupt daily in her home; EMDR, trauma healing, and nervous system recovery; being disowned and estranged by her siblings; losing her mother to heartbreak after divorce; addiction, double lives, rebellion, survival; and raising a child while reparenting her own inner child.

Sara is the Arab daughter who refused to stay silent. The one reparenting her nervous system after a lifetime of flinching at yelling, and healing from the violence we were told to normalize.


CREDITS: 

 Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
 Executive Producer: Salma Hindy
 Editor: Salma Hindy
 Artwork: Rana Omar


© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2025


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WHAT DADDY DOESN’T KNOW…BOLLYWOOD SEXY BABY (JASMINE SHERNI)27 Oct 202501:11:47

Jasmine Sherni is the daughter of a Pakistani Muslim father and an Ashkenazi Jewish mother. Often bullied as a “fake Jew”, Jasmine is an adult performer who went viral after her first Bollywood p*rn scene, becoming the representation so many people had been waiting for. With over 34 million views on P*rnHub, Jasmine shares her journey from strict-dad households to BDSM stages, from ICU nursing to adult stardom, while navigating devastating loss - the sudden death of her older sister, her mother’s passing from cancer - and the complicated family dynamics of building a career her father chooses not to acknowledge.

This episode dives into grief, bisexuality, exclusion, and power. Jasmine tears up imagining what her late mother might say if she could see her now, and reflects on feeling unwelcome in her New Orleans Muslim community throughout childhood, the waves of “coming out,” and why sex work became the first place she truly belonged. Unapologetically bold, Jasmine’s story is proof that what daddy doesn’t know can become your greatest power. And that every woman in our lineage has brought us to this moment…so that we may do whatever the f*ck we want.

CREDITS: 

 Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
 Executive Producer: Salma Hindy
 Cinematographer: Ian Ritter
 Studio: 30 Irving Studios
 Editor: Salma Hindy
 Artwork: Rana Omar

© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2025


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HORNY, HUNGRY & FIGURING IT OUT13 Oct 202501:00:36

Nobody loves overthinking sex more than Muslim women in their 20s and 30s trying to make up for a stolen teenhood. This week, Salma sits down with California-born Pakistani-American Aleeyaa for a raw, hilarious, and soul-baring conversation about sex, rejection, and agency. From learning about sex in a USC classroom to carrying the weight of “no sex before marriage” since age 12, Aleeyaa unpacks what it means to navigate desire, boundaries, and shame in Muslim and South Asian households.

Together, Salma and Aleeyaa cover it all:

  • Why Muslim women have their “teen years” in their 30s
  • The triangle of sexual health: health, rights, and pleasure
  • Kissing as the most intimate act (even more than sex)
  • Best and worst hookup stories (including a condom fail disaster)
  • Why rejection feels existential and how to own your desire anyway
  • The pressure of friends’ choices, hookup culture, and consensus-building
  • How pleasure isn’t just sex, but a way of living

Salma shares her funniest and most vulnerable stories: from sobbing after casual rejection to her best night of sex that didn’t even involve sex, while Aleeyaa reminds us that figuring it out IS the agency.

Salma and Aleeyaa also talk about the role of friends: the sacredness of attraction, asking your girls to step back from someone you like, and learning how to protect and voice your own desire without shame.

If you’ve ever been friendzoned your whole life, carried shame around desire, or struggled to balance sexual liberation with cultural expectations, this episode is proof that figuring it out IS the agency.


CREDITS: 

 Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
 Executive Producer: Salma Hindy
 Cinematographer: Ian Ritter
 Studio: 30 Irving Studios
 Editor: Salma Hindy
Artwork: Rana Omar


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FROM VIRGIN TO ADULT PERFORMER (SARAH ARABIC)29 Sep 202500:56:22

Doppelgängers Salma Hindy and Sarah Arabic (who share the SAME 9/11 birthday) finally sit down face-to-face to talk about everything sex. Sarah grew up in Baghdad with no sex education and a family that never spoke about periods, pleasure, or intimacy. After moving to Dubai for college, she found freedom in her dorm room, exploring porn as an unexpected form of sex education. At 18, she discovered her first orgasm through Tumblr blogs, teaching herself piece by piece. Later, she earned a master’s degree in finance, only to leave corporate America behind to follow her curiosity into OnlyFans, Fetlife, adult conventions, and eventually the adult film industry. Today, three years in, she has over a million Instagram followers and 53M views on Pornhub.

In this conversation, Sarah gets candid about the self-conversations that helped her shed guilt and shame and the way she’s built a career entirely on her own terms. She shares her philosophy that curiosity - not clout - is her compass, and why “the second prn feels like work is the beginning of my downfall.” We talk consent, boundaries, and risk, with Sarah’s refreshingly practical view: there’s always risk, in life and in sex, but each person gets to decide how much they’re willing to take.

Highlights include:
- How exploring the kink community shaped Sarah’s boundaries in porn
- What happens if you change your mind mid-shoot
- Sarah’s perspective on what makes sex sacred
- Her experiences traveling to shoot
- Why she loves staying single with a wide net of partners
- Why she won’t perform acts that aren’t her kink
- Her aftercare rituals
- Her perspective on Mia Khalifa’s legacy
- Whether the community will ever “take you back” after stepping outside its norms

Plus: Salma admits to watching one of Sarah’s videos, and Sarah shares her wildest DM request. Salma also opens up about her celibacy and the fears she carries around sex. They also dive into the only moral regret in Salma’s career, and her dream of one day directing feminist porn.

Sarah’s wish for other women is that they see her and think, “I can do whatever I want.”

CREDITS: 

 Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
 Executive Producer: Salma Hindy
 Cinematographer: Ian Ritter
 Studio: 30 Irving Studios
 Editor: Salma Hindy
 Artwork: Rana Omar

© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2025


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HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy

HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy

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