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In the final episode of The Relationship Guy podcast, host John Kenny reflects on the past three years of creating the show and announces a hiatus to consider the future format. He expresses gratitude to his guests, listeners, and supporters, highlighting popular topics such as attachment styles, narcissism, and gaslighting.

John shares his personal journey and reasons for focusing on relationship coaching, emphasising the importance of understanding and navigating complex human connections. The episode encapsulates the show's mission to give relationships a voice and empower individuals to create healthy, intimate connections. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• John has decided to take a hiatus from the podcast to consider the future direction of the show.

• The most downloaded episode over the last three years was about attachment styles, followed closely by a discussion on passive-aggressive behaviours.

• The episode on Relationship Breakdowns and Narcissists with Elizabeth Goddard became the most listened to guest episode.

• The podcast has covered various topics such as matchmaking, star signs, astrology, energy, hormones, and body chemistry in relationships.

• John Kenny's personal journey of transforming his own relationship beliefs and patterns has led him to become a relationship coach and host of the podcast.

BEST MOMENTS

"I love attachment styles. I think they're amazing things. If you can understand them about yourself, they can be so insightful." 

"Gaslighting is an insidious behaviour that can cause you to challenge your own sanity. It's a disgusting way of behaving to get your own way, to manipulate others." 

"Relationship Breakdowns and Narcissists with Elizabeth Goddard. This has only just overtaken in the past week, the one that I posted about on my socials a couple of weeks ago with ME14." 

"Gaslighting is an insidious behavior that can cause you to challenge your own sanity. It's a disgusting way of behaving to get your own way, to manipulate others." 

"Although we can't go back and make a brand new start, we can start now and make a brand new ending." 

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno

Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)

To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy

Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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This episode features an insightful conversation between John and Vinko Anthony from Beau Brummell Introductions, a matchmaking agency for gay men. Vinko shares his journey of founding the agency with his husband, emphasising the importance of long-term, monogamous relationships in today's fast-paced dating world dominated by apps like Grindr. They discuss the significance of authenticity, vulnerability, and genuine connection in relationships, highlighting the role of personal engagement and understanding in successful matchmaking. Vinko's approach focuses on individualised attention, transparency, and commitment to helping clients find meaningful connections. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Commitment and Transparency: Vinko highlights the importance of commitment and transparency in relationships, both in personal connections and in the matchmaking service provided by Beau Brummel Introductions.

• Authenticity and Vulnerability: Allowing yourself to be authentic and vulnerable in relationships means genuine connections will form.

• Mirror Imaging: The energy and engagement you put into a relationship are often reflected back to you.

• Personal Growth: Personal growth and self-awareness are essential in preparing oneself for a successful and fulfilling relationship.

BEST MOMENTS

 "I think authenticity is a word that's thrown around quite a lot, but it's actually being you and being comfortable, like you said, being you, getting someone to get to know you and who you really are and hoping that they like that."

"But I think you take the time out to actually really offer that service to people is actually what does this person really want? What do they really need? What's the what will be a good thing for them?"

"But you have to stay in that zone of commitment because, but generally people are engaging and financially contributing to this, it means that they're committed."

"And for that, you've got to love people, right? And so if you do and you work with people that you choose to give your time to those who compliment you and who you are as a person, then it's wonderful because we all have a story and we all have a book in us."

"I think without that, it's virtually impossible, but it is to achieve success for my clients. But also it's a tricky thing because of the time that and how much time I have, and I give to all the new clients and get to know them and understand them."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Links: https://beaubrummellintroductions.com/

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno

Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)

To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy

Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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Join John as he interviews Jacky Wood, a licensed menopause champion and relationship coach. Jacky shares her personal experience with perimenopause and how it impacted her life, relationships, and mental health. She emphasises the importance of understanding hormonal fluctuations during perimenopause and menopause and offers guidance on how to support oneself through this transition.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Menopause can have a significant impact on a woman's life, affecting her physically, emotionally, and mentally.

• It is important for women going through menopause to seek support and guidance to cope with the hormonal fluctuations.

• Hormonal changes during perimenopause and menopause can lead to various symptoms affecting different parts of the body.

• Communication and understanding between partners are crucial during menopause to maintain intimacy and support each other.

• Seeking help and knowledge about menopause can empower individuals to make informed decisions and improve their quality of life.

BEST MOMENTS

"Perimenopause is not an age thing. It's a hormone thing, and it can happen to people at any time." 

"I think there must be something so that's the kind of person that lights me up." 

"I think my missus is going through this, you know, what, what do you advise? and we can set off a conversation." 

"I think that's really important, isn't the openness and honesty. Sharing." 

"Although we can't go back and make a brand new start, we can start now and make a brand new ending." 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Links: helpwithmenopause.net

Facebook group: Your Menopause Mentor

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno

Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)

To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy

Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Award-Winning and MMI-Accredited Matchmaker Lara Besbrode is Founder of The Matchmaker UK. Following a successful 30 year career in PR and marketing, she reimagined her passion for people and networking, creating her own exclusive matchmaking service in the process.

Lara takes an interdisciplinary approach to matchmaking, masterfully blending her skills and collaborating with UK and international matchmakers to find the most suited match.

No stranger to the realm of love, dating and relationships, Lara is intimately familiar with the intricacies of her calling. Lara approaches each matchmaking engagement with a vibrant aura of passionate energy and empathy.

Lara is a regular guest as Dating Expert on TalkRadio, BBC News & Radio, Real Housewives of Cheshire and MTV Catfish UK. She often makes global media appearances on television networks in the UK and US.

In this episode she talks to John about her methods in matchmaking, how she got into the business, the complications of dating, wants and needs and the journey taken when searching for a life partner.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Lara’s Matchmaker UK is the elite of matchmaking services, experts in their field working to industry safety standards, where clients can go if they have tried all the traditional methods, including the modern digital apps.
• Preferences, demographic, cultural background are all factors Lara and her team take into account when they are head hunting for a potential suitor. There are 30 different factors to indicate a match.
• Lara worked for 30 years in the celebrity PR business but her interest in helping people drew her to matchmaking, and after her divorce and moving back to he uk, she decided to do what she loved.
• Matchmaking uk unravel the complex issues involved when someone has an ideal potential partner in mind often seeing past the clients initial need to seek someone that previously they would never have considered.
• You must have a dating strategy to find a partner. If you haven’t considered what you desire and need to the fullest extent you are unlikely to meet an ideal partner just through luck. Matchmaking UK have a guide on how to formulate a dating strategy to increase your chances.

BEST MOMENTS

‘I have qualified to be able to make personal introductions to people observing the international code of conduct within the dating industry, it’s a dating industry standard.’ - Lara

‘Its not really something we think about with all the dating websites and apps, but for you to be a certified matchmaker..’ – John

‘I am the lawyer of your heart.’ – Lara

‘My business grew and flourished based on the fact that I had already had that PR marketing skill set and was already armed with all the tools.’ – Lara

‘If you can’t answer yes to the dating strategy, you are not ready because you haven’t thought about it.’ – Lara

‘I think if someone is willing to accept that journey may not meet its final destination but you embrace that it’s a journey for development, potential change because not everybody wants to change or is able to change or ready to change.’ - Lara

GUEST RESOURCES

Website:

www.thematchmaker.uk

VALUABLE RESOURCES

To get in touch - email –

john@johnkennycoaching.com

 or book a complimentary call –

https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

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In this episode John follows on from his podcast about signs to identify a toxic relationship with his tips on signs showing you may have experienced emotional abuse in the past. One of the reasons why we find ourselves in a toxic relationship cycle is due to emotional abuse experienced in our childhood, but how can we identify when this is the case?

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• We can repress what we went through as a way of coping. By understanding and acknowledging how your experience can affect you know you are more able to move on and the following are markers that suggest you have been a victim of emotional abuse in the past.
• You are not good at making your own decisions. 
• You are a people pleaser.
• You minimise toxic behaviour.
• You get angry or frustrated easily.
• You often feel defensive.
• You view yourself negatively.
• You find it hard to cope when people are upset or angry.
• You continue to inadvertently choose toxic partners.
• You constantly question if you are loved.
• You have difficulty accepting affection.
• You have nightmares about relationships.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Some examples of this may include humiliation, manipulation, verbal aggression, belittling and intimidation.’

‘This is often the case for people who are highly focused on the needs of others. People pleasing, for example.’ 

‘You could  deny that it's actually that bad, that they don’t really mean it as you try to rationalise your past experiences to yourself.’

‘If you find yourself feeling particularly tense whenever people around you erupt, it may be because you used to deal with that a lot in the past.’

‘You were just never really made to feel that positivity either existed or lasted.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

To get in touch - email – 

john@johnkennycoaching.com

 or book a complimentary call – 

https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – 

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – 

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

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Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

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John talks to Ana Ruiz, Transformational Relationship Coach and Demartini Method specialist dedicated to maximising human awareness and potential in individuals and groups. She helps couples to do a ‘different dance’ and turn around their relationships. 

Ana and John discuss Ana’s childhood and her resultant trauma, her disorganised attachment style, her first relationship experiences, her discovery of bi-polar disorder and her resultant therapies and how her search for healing led to a career in Relationship Coaching.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• A resident of the US and Mexican by birth, Ana originated specialising in Computer Science. As a child she lost her older sister to drowning which resulted in a depressed mother and absent father and her care being handed over to a nanny. She developed a disorganised attachment style.  
• Ana ended up in Seattle via San Francisco after her relationship ended after her move to the US. This left her intent on independence. 
• After a nervous breakdown after being diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and being informed it was untreatable, Ana embarked on a 17 year long struggle to heal through therapy. This began her expertise in healing and therapy after searching for different treatments. 
• Ana became an energy healer, then a yoga therapist then onwards onto relationship theory, psychology, attachment theory and neurobiology. She now uses all of her experience in her relationship coaching practice. 

BEST MOMENTS

‘As someone who grew up with a disorganised attachment style it means that my Mom was there physically but not emotionally because she was grieving. So I grew up creating connections but feeling afraid of connection, feeling afraid of being left alone.’ - Ana

’It was painful for me to watch them arrive into the office together in the same car and eventually he went on to marry her and have three kids.’ – Ana

‘And those kinds of triggers where you’re already disorganised attachment, so then having a relationship where you’re cheated on. How did that trigger your disorganised attachment, how did you react to that, do you think?’ - John  

‘That’s why I call myself a ‘Transformational Relationship Coach’ because it's all there and powerful.’ – Ana

‘Most of us did not learn relationship skills either at home or at school. And that just makes it really hard for people to have healthy long lasting relationships.’ - Ana

GUEST RESOURCES

Complimentary One Hour Clarity session here: 

http://anaruiz.life

 - mention the show when contacting her.

VALUABLE RESOURCES

To get in touch - email – 

john@johnkennycoaching.com

 or book a complimentary call – 

https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – 

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – 

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube - 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

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John talks to Eva Hunt, a consciousness coach and soul alchemist who helps people to connect with their soul, to love and thrive. For more than a decade she has combined her intuitive skills with the law of attraction principles, energy healing and spirituality to guide those in need. 

John and Eva discuss how she became a spiritual coach, her father and his influence on her, living in Hungary as a child under Soviet occupation and her own journey to becoming the healer she is today.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Eva is from Hungary and by profession was a commercial economist. After moving to the UK and establishing her holistic healing practice in 2010 she has found her purpose in energy healing and spiritual coaching.
• Eva was very close to her father and believed they were soulmates. People generally associate the idea of soulmates to a romantic connection, but soulmates can occur with any positive connection available between people.
• Growing up in occupied Hungary had an extreme influence on Eva. Torn between the secrecy of her religious mother and her fathers desire to be a good citizen, Eva got used to a turmoil of emotions.  
• Eva had her own spiritual healers and coaches who helped guide her towards the coaching career and showed her how much she had to offer as a healer. 

BEST MOMENTS

‘Most of my clients are struggling with either their health, relationship or money issues. So relationship is a quite big chunk of my work.’ – Eva

‘You mentioned that when when we spoke previously your father had quite a big impact on you growing up.’ – John

‘There was a lot of different emotions. Fear and love and lack of things, but at the same time, the abundance of love.’ – Eva

‘I think that’s the hardest thing to see, to see our own limitations. That’s why its so important to have a mentor, a guide who is outside of our life and looks in.’ - Eva

VALUABLE RESOURCES

To get in touch - email – 

john@johnkennycoaching.com

 or book a complimentary call – 

https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy  

GUEST RESOURCES

Eva Hunt - website -  https://spiritual-wonders.com/Freebie - email her -  eva.maria.hunt@gmail.com mentioning the podcast.    

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta – 

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – 

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube - 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

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When John works with his clients in coaching sessions one topic that often arises is the difficulty in finding and achieving an easy and  healthy relationship. This is most likely because they are exhibiting habits that attract them to a particular pattern of behaviour that they are used to.

How do we realise that it is actually ourselves that are maintaining and seeking these toxic relationships and break the cycle?

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Often our choice of relationship is a subconscious choice that fulfils our needs based on our learnt patterns of behaviour.
• There are ten signs to look out for that denote that the relationship you have chosen is really not good for you.
• Is being around someone hard work or draining? Do you need to recover from time with them?
• Do you need to be careful around your partner to avoid upsetting or angering them?
• Do you feel exhausted and drained a lot of the time? Do you invest love and attention to your partner that is not returned?
• Try taking the relationship questionnaire listed under valuable resources below.

BEST MOMENTS

‘For example, that loving, caring relationships are not to be trusted because love is always removed from them at some point. If that’s your belief then you will seek out the evidence to make this true every single time and won’t know what to do with yourself if it doesn’t happen.’

‘Does being alone for the weekend put a smile on your face? Do you feel excited looking forward to the day that you’ll get away from your partner? If so then this is a huge red flag.’

‘If its reached the point that you have to constantly watch every move you make, you are in a toxic relationship. So, for example, you may feel nervous talking about something that may make your partner angry.’  

‘If you try to take time for yourself to recharge and its not allowed, you can’t regain your energy.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

To take the test for signs of a toxic relationship:

https://signsofatoxicrelationshipjkc.scoreapp.com/

To get in touch - email –

john@johnkennycoaching.com

 or book a complimentary call –

https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook –

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn –

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta –

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter –

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

YouTube -

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

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Alexandra Van Shaik is an international holistic life coaching expert in personal, business and brand development helping hundreds of clients kick start their lives and businesses in a different direction. Using a holistic approach to each client she utilises transformative techniques such as yoga, breath work and meditations as well as group travel experiences to transform and empower with positivity. Her brand work finds her helping you to tell your business story and create your vision using her skills in web design, graphic design and photography. John and Alexandra discuss coaching methodology, cultural, peer and family imprinting, breaking emotional habits, travel, morning routines and child rearing. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Alex has spent ten years guiding people to become yoga teachers which led her to her holistic coaching methodology.
• As individuals we need to decide for ourselves what our lives should work towards or entail without feeling we have to live up to our parents or peers' plan or expectations for our futures.
• Our childhood experiences form who we are and how we respond to the world around us as adults. Many of us become hyper vigilant peace makers in confrontational situations if we were brought up in high tension households and this was true in Alex’s case. 
• Be aware of what nourishes you from within. What uplifts you? If you check the news every morning with its attached carefully curated world horror scenarios you are not going to have a positive day. Choose actions that empower you.
• As children we need to play. A high powered itinerary forced on a child with a thousand activities may enrich them but can also stress and leave them little time to actually be children

BEST MOMENTS

‘I just love to see people thriving in their life, in their businesses, just in general. There has been a thread throughout my whole life myself. Automatically myself I became drawn into this aspect of being a coach.’ – Alexandra

‘Or maybe you got into a job and after ten years you’re, like, ‘is this it?’ Am I really good and comfortable here or is there more?’ – Alexandra

‘We weren’t sure where we were going to be speaking today were we? I mean you’re in the Netherlands at the moment I believe? You could have been in Nepal but you’re off to the Caribbean.’ – John

‘I just love to get up in the morning and just do some reading, have some coffee. After that I do my Yoga practice and don’t do it the other way round! Never!’ – Alexandra

‘If a child is hyperactive, ya know, they have got all these terms for it right now. I think the root cause is because there is too much pressure on their shoulders.’ - Alexandra

GUEST RESOURCES

WEBSITE: 

alexandravanschaik.com

INSTAGRAM: 

Www.instagram.com/alexandravanschaik/

FACEBOOK: 

Www.facebook.com/alexandravanschaikofficial

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – 

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – 

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube - 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

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In this episode John interviews Jim Hughes, the founder of Untamed, the company who serves their audience through a unique brand of coaching, speaking and events. They have helped entrepreneurs, business leaders and top performing professionals all around the world move ‘from the grind to aligned’. John and Jim discuss what Jim’s organisation Untamed actually achieves for its clients, how Jim himself found his way, childhood embedded triggers and habits and living a life serving others without losing yourself. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Untamed help people who are frustrated and burnt out, ‘in the grind’, uncover what’s causing their setbacks and allow them to become ‘aligned’.
• Jim found what he was truly good at and provided himself with an environment where he could flourish and express rather than feeling frustrated, stilted and suppressed. The same principle can work in personal relationships as well as professional life. 
• The bulk of our personality is informed by our childhood and we are often installed with untrue or distorted beliefs about ourselves that need to be addressed and unlearned.
• If you are your best self you have more energy and ability to offer to help other people. 

BEST MOMENTS

‘It’s a never ending journey, but the main bulk of it where the real low hanging fruit was picked, so to speak, was about an eighteen month process.’ – Jim

‘Nobody was there to say “maybe you’re just better at the bigger picture, the strategic. You’re better at starting things than you are at finishing things”’. – Jim 

‘That’s what my documentary is about. My documentary is called “Forget Me Not – The Child You Left Behind” about those parts of us ourselves as children that we believe don’t fit into the environment that we grow up in.’ – John

‘Muting was a word that kept coming up. I felt like I was being muted, I feel like I’m not allowed to, I’m not being encouraged to thrive here.’ - Jim

GUEST RESOURCES

https://www.becomeuntamed.com/

VALUABLE RESOURCES

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Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

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ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

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Dufflyn Lammers is a women’s relationship and recovery coach. If you find yourself at the end of a difficult relationship including those complicated by addiction and control issues or contemplating the end of a relationship, Dufflyn can teach you the skills needed to move through this phase and support you as a ‘Big Sister’ while you do it. John and Dufflyn discuss what it takes to keep a relationship healthy and happy using Dufflyn’s methods.  

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Dufflyn works from the ‘outside in’ and ‘inside out’. ‘Outside in’ is the coaching part about goals, plans and accountability and ‘inside out’ is the use of Ideal Parent Figure Protocol.
• Ideal Parent Figure Protocol is an attachment based intervention for people who are struggling with attachment injury. It involves imagining ideal parents different from their real parents or anyone they know. With these new ideal ‘parents’ new healthy internal working models can be formed.
• Sometimes we forget that the skills we learn in dating are just as applicable within a relationship. The relationship rarely lives up to the ideal vision in your mind. 
• Attachment issues commonly lead to an addiction situation and Dufflyn hopes to break the cycle permanently.
• Dufflyn ended up in Paris after discovering a love for travelling alone and a handsome Frenchman. 

BEST MOMENTS

‘Each of us has a sort of love map inside of us and that love map determines how we operate in relationships and also how we see ourselves and how we see the world.’ – Dufflyn

‘So you’re giving them alternative choices to subconscious behaviours?’ - John 

‘I know that I myself came from being single for a long, long time, 12 years. And I came from this idea that once I found that perfect other person that everything was gonna be ok, ya know, unicorns and roses and puppy dogs.’ - Dufflyn

‘Now I’ve been living in Paris for a little over four years which has been a huge adjustment too. But, again, forcing me to develop more and more of those inner resources and resilience.’ - Dufflyn

GUEST RESOURCES

Www.dufflyn.com

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

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When is it appropriate to take a selfish stance within a relationship? Is it ever appropriate? Some people may say never, but being constantly providing for others needs and not looking to ourselves can be self destructive.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• There are reasons why we may find it difficult to put the needs of others before our own. Fear of being used or hurt could be reasons. 
• A lot of the time we label a difficulty in saying no as guilt. But saying no is not always something to feel guilty about.
• The next time you think of putting yourself first, understand if there are any barriers in your way and the nature of them. Define for yourself if you are being positively selfish or negatively selfish.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Selfish is defined as only being focused on yourself or acting that way. Concern chiefly or excessively for oneself  and having little regard for others.’ 

‘We might do that for a variety of different reasons. What would drive us to only serve ourselves? What kind of need does this meet?’ 

‘Most of the time we’re not doing anything that we need to feel guilty about. And I like to challenge that feeling of guilt.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – 

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Twitter – 

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Johns guest is a newborn care and breastfeeding specialist, founder of The Amazing, Pain Free Birth and Beyond, new mother coach and podcast host Viviane Schima. She is a professional doula and has helped and guided mothers through their pregnancy, birth and after, supporting physically and emotionally.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• A doula is a person who can support you through pregnancy, labour and birth, or after you have your baby.
• Viviane supports her clients to ensure the mother gets the best birth experience and represents her interests against the often dissenting voices in the medical field and close family.
• After the birth is a delicate time due to sleep deprivation, lack of time to relationally communicate with a partner and previous problems being exacerbated. For this reason Viviane coaches the partner as well.
• When dealing with single mothers Viviane becomes the main support.
• Becoming a doula really helped Viviane work out some of her own relationship issues and helped her realise and put right some mistakes in her own partnership.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Even with family support, sometimes family just don’t agree with what the mother wants to do around childbirth.’ – Viviane

‘I blend not just the evidence based information that I provide to them but I also blend coaching into it as I open the door for them.’ - Viviane

‘Sometimes its just the baby, they put everything into the baby and I understand it’s the maternal instinct but we cannot forget that half of that genetic material is the fathers.’ – Viviane

‘It is life changing. The thought of just having a baby can do significant things to the mind, the emotions that can completely throw you, make you think differently.’ – John

‘Well I would say from a scale from 1 to 10 I’d say I’m definitely a 13 or 14. This not only helps other people to achieve their goals and where they want to be but also helped me figure out a lot of things before I started doing this.’ - Viviane

VALUABLE RESOURCES

May being International Maternal Mental Health Month

Ebook:

https://www.aislingbeo.com/freebie

Website:

https://www.aislingbeo.com/

YouTube:

https://youtube.com/channel/UCCIHgLH3aV18YIYakr2V_Hw

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook –

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn –

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In this episode, John interviews Feng Shui consultant and Chinese astrologer Janine Lowe. Janine discusses her expertise in helping people with relationships and wealth using Chinese astrology. She delves into the significance of Chinese astrology in understanding individuals' characteristics and relationships. Janine also talks about her book, "Date, Love, Marry, Avoid," which provides insights into compatibility based on Chinese zodiac signs. The conversation explores the importance of intuition, personal characteristics, and the dynamics of different animal signs in relationships. Janine also shares personal anecdotes and insights into her own experiences with relationships and impulsive decisions. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Chinese Astrology and Relationships: Janine Lowe, a Feng Shui consultant, uses Chinese astrology to help people understand relationships better. She explains that based on one's birth year, which is associated with a specific animal in the Chinese zodiac, you can discern a lot about a person's characteristics and compatibility with others.
• Triads and Compatibility: In Chinese astrology, certain animals are grouped into triads or compatible groups. For example, the rat, dragon, and monkey form a triad and naturally get along well. Understanding these groupings can help in determining relationship dynamics and compatibility.
• Peach Blossom Animals: Janine mentions "peach blossoms" in astrology, which are animals that people are naturally drawn to. These include roosters, rabbits, horses, and rats. Individuals born in the year of these animals tend to be engaging and can attract others easily, sometimes leading to multiple engagements or marriages.
• Personal Year Analysis: Each year can bring different energies and opportunities based on one's Chinese zodiac. For John, Janine predicts that the current year is good for self-employment and making money, and she advises him on auspicious times to launch new ventures.
• Metaphysics and Practical Application: Janine emphasises the practical side of metaphysics, explaining that it's not just about intuition or "woo-woo" but about having a solid foundation and predictable outcomes. She uses metaphysics to provide concrete advice, such as the best days for making decisions or starting new projects, and even in predicting outcomes in shows like "Strictly Come Dancing" based on the contestants' zodiac signs.

BEST MOMENTS

"I started as an intuitional person. You have to find a way that you can use your intuition." 

"I have had a number of copies which I've given to people and I've stood in front of them. And instead of sort of reading it, they immediately go to what their partner is or whatever to see if they actually get on."

"I think there's so much more to people. It's just people just don't, do not get around to watching or not watching. Yeah, they watch, but they don't see what's underneath." 

"I think you need to, for you to be in the kind of best relationship possible, you need to be willing to look underneath, don't you?" 

"Thank you for playing along with me." (8 words)

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Links: https://www.janinelowe.co.uk/

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno

Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)

To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

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I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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John chats with serial entrepreneur, author and coach Stevie Kidd. With experience leading several different businesses from startup to seven figures and a comprehensive understanding of what it takes to succeed, Stevie discusses the priceless role of mindset to acquire your true potential in all aspects of your life. John asks him about himself and his work with his clients.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Stevie works with clients over a two year period and at the end of that period he is able to assess who they are and if they will be able to reach their chosen goals.
• Using the strength of his own support network Stevie builds closeness and rapport with his clients to facilitate engagement.
• Pace is very important in the clients journey. Stevie is careful not to hurry, pushing beyond the level that the client is comfortable with. 
• There is nothing Stevie won’t do to motivate his client to make improvements, even presenting them with the inevitability of their own death. 
• When approaching relationships with others the first goal must be self understanding, and this is a long term ongoing effort. 
• Stevie has written three books ; “The 1% Mindset : The Stevie Kidd Pathway”, “How To Go From Being A Non-Runner To Climbing Kilimanjaro and Running A Marathon A Day Later” and “How To Run The Third Hardest Marathon In The World – From A Non-runner.” 

BEST MOMENTS

‘My life has brought me to this point that the business itself is designed in a two year frame of taking an individual to get them to assess and understand where they came from to where they are. In that two year journey they’ll absolutely discover how far they can go.’ – Stevie  

‘The most important part of supporting any human being is..I’m an entrepreneur and a coach but I’m also coached, and with the people that support me, I have to build rapport with the people who are supporting me or I’ll never get off the blocks.’ - Stevie

‘By allowing him that space to talk and explore you’ve enabled him to create where he is right now in his head, but actually motivated to the space he wants to get to and he’s gone away with all that energy knowing that he’s now created something in his own head that he’ll be aiming towards’ – John

‘I then became aware of how to master emotions. That’s why I’m obsessed with stillness and orchestrating my senses.’ – Stevie

GUEST RESOURCES

https://steviekidd.com/about-stevie-kidd/

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

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https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

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John chats with Nadija Bajrami, a Dublin based award winning empowerment specialist, mind coach and psychic medium. In 2021 she was included in the Brainz Magazine Top 500 Award for outstanding entrepreneurs and business owners and is also Hypnotherapist of the Year 2021/22 Dublin in The Republic of Ireland Prestige Awards. John and Nadija discuss how she became an empowerment specialist, the power of the mind, dealing with loss as a child, relationships and learning to say ‘no’.  

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• After losing her father as a child Nadija took on the role of care giver to everyone around her. This is how she developed her skills as counsellor to others. After a health crisis, Nadija changed from a corporate career to hypnotherapy. 
• Nadija’s family experiences shaped her life including the loss of her father and the influence of her brother who, as a coach himself, taught her the power of the mind and the freedom to choose the right path to make herself happy.
• In being a ‘fixer’ and feeling she needed to protect others from harm, Nadija created codependent relationships where her partners relied on her for their emotional needs.
• Hypnotherapy was incredibly helpful to Nadija as a therapy which led her to become a practitioner. 

BEST MOMENTS

‘Meeting different cultures really gave me a very nice taste of helping people. Whatever the culture is, wherever you go people always need someone to talk to.’ - Nadija 

‘When you work with someone you see what they are bringing to you rather than having a specific approach you can then tailor all of your expertise, all of the things you know, to give them the best service possible.’ – John

‘I had that feeling of ‘I need to fix peoples life’. I need to help them in case something happens to them.’ – Nadija

‘So I said ‘go and fix yourself. Stop the pattern.’ – Nadija

‘In the past I had big problems saying ‘no’ because ‘no’ was, they need me, I cannot say ‘no’’ – Nadija

‘Actually if someone’s not reciprocating or  someone’s not appreciative of the fact that you’re there for them what do you do with those now?’ - John

GUEST RESOURCES

5 minute meditation link – 

https://aw16c05d.aweberpages.com/p/35e5ec3a-cf34-4a02-9ef0-720bcd720b54

Website – 

www.nbhypnotherapy-mindcoaching.com

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – 

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – 

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

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Do you find yourself doing things for those that claim that you are more suitable for the task than they are? Or perhaps you find yourself passing off jobs to others because “they can do it better than you”? A common manipulation is to claim incompetence within relationships to achieve the relinquishing of responsibility. John discusses this and details the methods and effect this situation can have on relationships. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• There are two types of incompetence, the first being weaponized incompetance and the second, malicious incompetance. 
• Weaponized incompetence is pretending to be incompetent as an excuse or a “get out”. You may see examples of this when your partner doesn’t want to complete a chore and does a bad job so they don’t get asked again. 
• Malicious incompetence is when it is used to deliberately irritate, manipulate and  manoeuvre the other party. 
• An imbalance in shared tasks can cause long term resentment so it is best to discuss the behaviour to try to resolve the situation. 

BEST MOMENTS

‘A good example of someone feigning incompetence recently is Boris Johnson and the whole party gate debacle. So for Boris to suggest that he was unaware as to whether he was breaking the law or not, to most seemed like a very flimsy excuse, but to others it could appear to be a legitimate reason why he attended several parties during the pandemic lockdown.’

‘It’s a passive aggressive way of getting someone to do something you really just don’t want to do.’

‘A child may also have witnessed this in their parents' relationship. Seeing that one will shirk responsibility and get away with it.’

‘If you think that you may have high expectations and so this is something you perceive  to be happening rather than a real problem, then speak to a non judgemental honest friend, colleague or someone you trust, as you may be placing too much pressure on someone to be as you need them to be.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOS

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

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This episode's guest is clinical hypnotherapist and transformation coach, Marcus Matthews. He helps people suffering from anxiety and PTSD improve their self esteem and confidence without the long term use of therapy or medication.  

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Marcus came to his career after seeking help for suicidal thoughts led him to coaches and the mental health forum.
• When we are in fight or flight mode we lose our reasoning, logical parts of our minds and refer to our base narratives that we have learned. Marcus helps people learn about themselves and discard old programmed behaviours based on old information and act and behave from new attitudes and behaviours.
• Our brains love familiarity and will resist change so the process can be difficult. Positive affirmations work if you back them up with evidence. Unfortunately, we have to make the leap before we see the result.
• 80% of who we are is built by the time you are 8 years old. By the time you come to the age of 35 this starts to strain. 
• Lessons we learn as we grow, such as vulnerability is weakness, need to be disproved and discarded for new knowledge to be resolved. 

BEST MOMENTS

‘That’s my big thing, helping people understand that things like anxiety, PTSD and suicide are not actually that bad, They’re good.’ - Marcus

‘We believe that all of the answers are outside us and they’re not. I think great coaches, great therapists don’t tell you what to do, they allow you to find those answers yourself. So that’s kind of my mission..’ – Marcus

‘We look at meaning rather than the thought itself. What meaning do you give to the thought that creates the emotional reaction within you?’ – John

‘I help you to create the environment where you can start to heal that break.’ - Marcus

‘When you can sit in the darkness of fear and know that everything is ok then that’s fine. When you actually look at fear it's never the thing, it’s the thought of the thing that drives the fear.’ – Marcus

GUEST RESOURCES

Website: 

www.makeyourlifecount.co.uk

The Free Course is 

https://mylc.thinkific.com/courses/theuniversehasmyback

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VALUABLE RESOURCES

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta – 

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – 

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

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Every environment that you are in creates its own hierarchy of power and within relationships it can dictate how you feel and the level of control that you have. There are five bases of power in every psychological power dynamic no matter where you are or situation that you are in. Recognising power dynamics prepares you to be able to decide how much power you have, how much you hand over and how you can overcome the control others have over you.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Reward power. When someone has something you want from them. 
• Coercive power. Utilising punishment, common in abusive relationships.
• Expert power. This is deference to others due to their knowledge or skill. 
• Legitimate power. Power which is granted by position and rank. This can also be linked to expert power, but rather than coming from your respect for their knowledge, it comes directly granted by structure.
• Referent power. This is when someone desires what someone else has. For instance, someone who desires a physique, social position or income of someone else and often wants to be close to and different to that person.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Understanding power has a much more significant purpose. It allows you to reflect and understand why you listen to certain people and allow them to hold power over you.’

‘It depends entirely on how much expertise you think someone has and how much that you think they have more than you.’

‘Ignoring legitimate power can come with risk but it only works in a healthy way if both sides of the dynamic agree that it works for both sides.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

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I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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John’s Guest is an emotional release practitioner and self healing expert, specialising in the energetics of mind-body healing. Jen Russman, a New York State resident, helps people clear their emotional blocks and release their energetic attachments to allow full healing of their physical bodies and minds. Trauma is stored in the body and blocks the correct flow of spiritual energy and needs to be cleared to fully realise potential mind and body health.  

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• When we realise that everything is energy and that trauma itself is an energy, we realise that these emotions have not been properly cycled out of the body.
• Carrying enough trauma can cause dysfunction in the body resulting in emotional imbalance, physical pain and illness.
• Emotional blocks effect all areas of our lives from personal relationships,  work relationships, personal resilience and physical wellness.
• Jen recalls the experiences that caused her own trauma and her journey in clearing her personal blocks.
• Jen offers Frequency Meditation called ‘A Return To Love’. This is available by messaging Jen Russman on her website, details below in the shownotes. 

BEST MOMENTS

‘It’s really about, as you know and probably most of your listeners know, that one change of perspective can change everything, right?’ – Jen

‘Looking back now I clearly recognise that it was not just my body falling apart randomly, it was my body’s cry for help. My body had been carrying the weight through cellular memory and through emotional suppression.’ – Jen

‘It was a catharsis, it was a kind of an emotional dump, a release of so many restrictions and things that were holding me back.’ - John

‘It’s energy. The victim; that's energy. Like attracts like when it comes to energy.“ – Jen 

‘I kept hearing ‘a return to love’ for 2021 for the collective, but it also ended up being for me as well.’ – Jen

GUEST RESOURCES

Contact details –

jenrussman.com

Freebie - Frequency Meditation - A Return to Love

Girlfriendyoumatter@gmail.com

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD 

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LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

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We all have our own ‘apology language’ which denotes the nature and style of the apologies we give and receive. However, there are those who find it very difficult to apologise at all. John explains the reasons why some people find this fairly regular social and relational occurrence so difficult. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• People can feel courageous and less passive if they refuse to offer an apology. They feel they are ‘standing their ground’. 
• Some people cannot deal with being seen as at fault. They see an apology as humiliating. 
• Many are never told they are in the wrong as children so are untrained at being able to navigate an apology scenario. Also, constant humiliating apologies as a child may result in an adult refusing to repeat that experience.
• The fight, flight or freeze stress response can see them adopting one of these three actions in a confrontational situation, none of which will result in an apology.

BEST MOMENTS

‘So you’ve probably experienced times when people have found it really hard to say sorry and I know that can actually be quite annoying, upsetting, distressing and difficult to accept.’ 

‘So they may have seen it modelled, but problems are not resolved. Things just get swept under the carpet. No apologies were ever offered to them, it wasn’t something that ever happened in their lives.’

‘To hold the upper hand in a relationship is crucial to some people because to them it can literally mean their emotional survival. Yes indeed, survival is the right word because those who need to be in control or a position of power will manipulate a scenario in order to maintain a sense of self.’

‘Gaslighting is a term widely used to describe how someone will try to make you responsible for everything and to question your own sanity in order that they can feel exempt themselves from any responsibility.’ 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

• Looking at the world of relationships - their importance to living a fulfilled life.
• Their impacts on all areas of life.
• Where our ideas of relationships come from.
• What and why we attract them. 
• How important the relationship with yourself is.

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose, not one they always have or think they should.

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Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

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This episode's guest is a former professional footballer who has coached world champions, Hollywood actors, entrepreneurs, CEOs, Olympians and royalty from all over the world on their physical and mental performance. Paul Webb consults with and advises clients on their own spiritual practices using his metaphysical qualifications and knowledge. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Paul suffered a career ending injury very early in his youth. He found this difficult to accept and traumatic to change roles.
• Paul started out after his football career coaching as a strengthening and conditioning coach, first in America then back in the UK. 
• Curiosity and coaching took Paul into the area of science and a degree in Quantum Physics but changed to Metaphysics after being inspired by ancient studies and texts from philosophers and theologians. Metaphysics is classed as a religious science in the USA, so when Paul gained his degree he also earned the title Reverend. 
• There is a link throughout human history through some of the world's greatest thinkers that bears resemblance to current Quantum Theory, and metaphysics tackles these areas.
• To express the best of your creativity you have to be quiet and focused. The peace of your state of mind and positivity will attract positive things to you. 

BEST MOMENTS

‘I built a big and successful fitness business over the course of about 20 years before I sold it to concentrate mostly on metaphysics, spirituality, mind set, and so on. But I still do a couple of days of strength coaching.’ - Paul

‘It was so traumatic for me , John, that it took me a long time to tell people I was a footballer, I just completely blocked it out of my life.’ – Paul 

‘I really resonate with that idea of fitness because I had always been fit. I’d always done sports as a kid and then did athletics. And then when I couldn’t pursue my career as an athlete any longer my identity was very much wrapped into sport and keeping fit.’ – John

‘It talks about how reality works. How the very fabric of the universe unfolds and evolves without attaching to any sort of dogma or religious practice.’ - Paul

‘And I always recommend that if you read a book, don’t try to read 100 books a year. Read one book 100 times and contemplate it, study it, get to grips with it.’ - Paul  

‘Whilst building relationships with people around you is incredibly affirming and valuable. You have the ability because of books and videos and information, you can build relationships with people that have lived hundreds if not thousands of years ago.’ - Paul

GUEST RESOURCES

Contact details -

www.Instagram.com/therealpaulwebb
www.facebook.com/therealpaulwebb
www.paulwebb.community

Freebie!! - ‘Your Spiritual Practice’
https://www.dropbox.com/s/7if0h2okqi1gp4k/Your%20Spiritual%20Practice.mp3?dl=0

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Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD 

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

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John carries out a live coaching session helping Alex to understand how she has built up her own relational patterns, relationship beliefs and attraction style. She is going to be discussing relationships in her own life to try and create a different outcome by implementing change.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• First of all John asks Alex about her previous relationships and the kind of people she usually draws towards herself.
• Drawing on Alex’s recently ended relationship experience triggered by a period of personal growth, John defines the common occurrence of transformation of self development and the incompatibility it can produce.  
• Parental relationships are discussed to show how Alex’s attitude to partnerships were formed.
• As the session continues John offers insights into Alex’s relational patterns, explaining repeated habits and the connections to her experiences.
• In conclusion John explains how Alex can change her habits to perhaps begin to build stronger, different relationships within her life by opening her mind to circumstances she would normally have avoided.

BEST MOMENTS

‘8 years together. We were engaged for the last year of that too. That for me looking back, I can see why we’re not together and I’m happy that we are not together. But looking back on that I can still see that there were positive aspects of it.’ – Alex 

‘That’s quite common in relationships isn’t it? When you get together with somebody as you try and change yourself throughout that journey, they’re quite comfortable with the person you were when you got together. They prefer you to stay in that space.’ – John

‘I’ve never felt a deep and loving connection to either of them. I think really in hindsight there were a lot of mental health problems there between the two of them. A lot of sadness.’ – Alex

‘That maybe explains the relationship that you did have through someone that was very dominant and you were dependent on to function and they ran that relationship. You didn’t have your voice, you followed what they wanted. You can understand why that came to an end when you decided to change that dynamic.’ - John 

‘Every time I feel someone that I’ve connected with move away from me it’s like a wound that rips a little deeper each time.’ – Alex

‘Am I going to thank myself for these decisions that I’m making now? I know the answers “no” when it comes to this particular person.’ – Alex

‘You have this dreamy idea about what a relationship could be like and actually relationships can be that dreamy, but I don’t think you really buy into that scenario completely.’ - John

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If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD 

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

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John interviews dating coach, family therapist, author, family business psychologist and all round expert on the properties of love, Dr Diana Kirschner. They discuss her childhood, getting her PhD in Clinical Psychology, finding her ‘fairy godmother’ and finding real, passionate, lasting love. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Diana was born into a family where she was the fifth girl in a family that only wanted boys. This created difficulties that saw her find solutions and ways of living which she shares with millions today. 
• Her ‘fairy godmother’ was a coach who was a mentor in helping her find the real Diana through all the trauma. He saw her ‘diamond self identity’, your unique inner self and potential. 
• Diana now works with a team of coaches, all trained ‘fairy godmothers’ who are skilled and knowledgeable in leading people through their problems with finding love, and dissolving their negative self identity, to the point of renaming themselves. 
• A really good coach can be internalised like a good parent and become an ever present guiding inner voice. You can have a healthy relationship with your child self through this journey and this will allow you to find your soul mate.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Well I like sunshine, what can I say. But I love the people, that's part of the reason I was so excited to be on the show today.’ – Diana

‘Out of that I had this sense that  true love had to really exist because the poets must be talking about something. People talk about it, but I had never actually seen it in my very chaotic family.’ – Diana

‘It’s about being able to create that identity of our chosen self, isn’t it?’ – John

‘When I was born my father said ‘Oh, not another girl, I don’t want to go to the hospital” when he heard it was a girl. He didn’t bother visiting. He actually said “I love you” only once to me but he was drunk when he said that.’ – Diana 

‘It’s like snowflakes. Each one is completely unique. You are completely unique and completely amazing.’ – Diana

‘That’s the problem I think isn’t it.? A lot of the stuff that we’re brought up with we are taught to think negatives because most of the time we’re not praised. Not given that “well done. That’s great. You’ve done an awesome job there.” A lot of the stuff we experience is all about picking on, we haven’t done a good enough job there,” you could have done better.”’ - John

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If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

To reach Dr Diana Kirschner go to https://lovein90days.com/dating-coach/ and say "John sent me"

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD 

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LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

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Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

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John is joined by Jael Kay, the founder of Yes Love, an online platform focusing on love and mental health. Jael shares her journey of discovery, realising the impact of her upbringing on her relationships and mental well-being. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, understanding one's worth, and breaking free from unhealthy relationship patterns. The conversation delves into the complexities of relationships, cultural influences, and the need for individuals to prioritise their own happiness and fulfilment.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• It is important to shed light on topics like love, mental health, and relationship dynamics to create a safe space for discussion.

• Self-awareness and understanding one's own triggers and patterns are crucial in maintaining healthy relationships.

• Therapy and coaching can help individuals explore themselves, improve self-worth, and make better relationship choices.

• It is essential to have a sense of self-worth and fulfilment outside of a relationship to avoid dependency and maintain a healthy perspective on relationships.

BEST MOMENTS

"I think these things are the things that make it difficult for people to get out of unhealthy relationships because you just assume this is what the work is." 

 "I think just not being aware can cost you so many years." 

"An important point to understand is that the relationships aren't hard, they just take work." 

Links: https://yeslove.co.uk/

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno

Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)

To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy

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Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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Did you realise that we have an apology language? This is the way we express and like to receive things that are difficult to say, including the phrase “I’m Sorry”. People's preferred apology language can be different from person to person, both giving and receiving apologies, and can fluctuate depending on different circumstances. John discusses the nuances of apologies and offers some support on communication in these difficult circumstances, defining the five different apology languages that we employ.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• The phrase  “I’m sorry” can be enough for some people to move on, but for others their apology language can have more complex or precise requirements.
• Expressing regret. This apology needs to be expressed with understanding of what you are apologising for and acknowledgement of the pain that has been caused.
• Accepting responsibility. This is when someone openly admits they were wrong in their actions. They name this action clearly to show that they are aware of this.
• Making restitution. This includes a way to try and make amends and search for a way to correct the wrong when perhaps something has been broken, damaged, lost or forgotten. It includes restitution to the offended person.
• Genuinely repenting. Here the person will need to review their actions, have genuine regret for them, and make a commitment to prove they are changing.
• Requesting forgiveness.  This allows time for the person to process their hurt before things can go back to normal. They cannot move on straight away, they need to feel they have the power and the time to decide if things move forward.
• Some studies have concluded that there are a specific six steps to an apology and it won't be effective at all if these are not completed;  Expression of regret, explanation of what went wrong, acknowledgement of responsibility, a declaration of independence, an offer of a repair, and a request of forgiveness.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Expressing remorse or regret, taking responsibility, making restitution and asking for forgiveness need to be delivered in a well meaning and sincere way.’

‘You may want to hear something like “I feel ashamed of how I hurt you.’

‘To them there is a significant difference between saying “you’re right” and “I’m wrong”. They have a completely different meaning.’

‘This could be your apology language if you need someone to show they are willing to correct an issue, put their money where their mouth is, for example.’

‘You may want to hear something like “I can only imagine how much pain that caused you. I’m very, very sorry and I won’t do that again. Next time I promise I’ll do it differently.”’

‘As mentioned we all have a preferred apology language but will likely require a bit from each in order to feel satisfied by the “sorry” that comes our way.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD 

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

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John talks to Dominique Brits, a family centred life coach based in Johannesburg. Her passion is developing and deepening relationships within a family setting. As a teacher in both mainstream and special needs settings she has learnt how much we have in common when it comes to family and how a strong, effective, and emotionally healthy family dynamic can increase the quality of  life of all those within it. Dominique discusses her own experiences with family and later relationships, and how she has developed and learned to deal with negative habits and experiences. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Dominique became a life coach after her teaching career and learning from her clients has helped her own family relationships. 
• She facilitates honest communication with her clients by creating a safe space for them to be honest without being judged. 
• Our biggest critic is ourselves. There are lots of things that can inhibit us from speaking out, but self critical thinking is among the most common.
• Boundaries within family, the amount of freedom of expression and movement, are different from family to family. What we see in other families can make us question our own upbringing. 
• Coaching can help people to see there is no quick fix for changing habits, thought processes and neural pathways.

BEST MOMENTS

‘It’s just a safe space for them to talk. It’s a safe space for them to really open up and not have that feeling of judgement around something that they’re embarrassed about, something that they’re too afraid to speak about, something they can't find the words for.’ – Dominique

‘Maybe the fear of the reaction of what the outcome is going to be because I've actually told someone what I want or what I need at this moment.’ - John  

‘My ‘core wound’ is ‘I am below average’. Having three older sisters where they were doing all of these other things and I couldn’t. Not because I wasn’t able to, but because of that age gap of seven years.’ – Dominique

‘My aim to achieve is really about getting families to communicate. Really, actually listen to each other and understand. A lot of parents when their teens come to me go ‘here’s my teen, she’s 16 and now listen to me.’’ - Dominique

‘When you’re triggered or when something happens when you would have usually done this, you’ve now got another way of saying, ‘ actually do I want to do this anymore?’’ – John

GUEST RESOURCES

Website
Www.lifecoachjohannesburg.com

E-mail
Dominique@lifecoachjohannesburg.com

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD 

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

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Many people have never had counselling or coaching of any kind, so in this episode, to provide a comprehensive insight into what this involves, John allows us to sit in on a session with a client. By listening in, you will be able to gain an understanding of the interaction in a coaching session and how much progress and clarity can be achieved. 

JOHN KENNY COACHING

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life?  Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get started with some new types of relationships? - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• John starts by asking the client why he is there and what he hopes to get out of the session. In this case it is low self-esteem, leading to trouble finding relationships due to, what he refers to as, ‘low emotional intelligence’.
• Self revelation is very prevalent in this session. “Wow, that is interesting looking at it like that.” In this discussion you will be able to see how coaching allows you to take a detailed look at how you behave and feel about yourself.
• John leads his client through memories of his past, allowing him to make his own links to patterns of behaviour he uses in his current life and relationships. 
• At the close of the session John summarises what has been discussed and achieved, and sets out  a plan for progress in the future. 

BEST MOMENTS

‘It’s a fear of upsetting other people. Yes, thank you for teasing that out of me, it wasn’t on the tip of my tongue. Yeah, but I'm so desperately bending over backwards to make sure that I don’t upset anybody.’

‘Would you say that’s what your general self-talk is? I mean it comes back to you not feeling worthy?’

‘It’s natural for them to want me to be what they thought of as happy.’

‘I felt like I wanted to be honest with one of my parents about that aspect of me while one of them was still around.’

‘There’s that sort of silent expectation that you’ve always experienced with your parents, even though they weren’t overly controlling and demanding of you. There did seem to be something that you developed, a sense within yourself that there was an expectation from them, that maybe led to a difficulty with acceptance from yourself.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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A passionate conversation with Janie Charlot, the definition of a self-made, universe-directed woman.
Janie went to university with dreams of becoming a pharmacist but became a nurse practitioner instead. Not wanting to compromise who she was for any job, she created and founded NP (Nurse Practitioners) For Hire, a collaborative effort between many medical professionals to bring consulting and health advice and management to the metro Atlanta area and beyond.

Janie grounds her medical practice in a deep spirituality. She has also authored two different books and has a seemingly boundless well of energy.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

- the universe has a vibration and if you act in “I am” statements, the universe will acknowledge that vibration and bring you a future more aligned with that energy.

  - That traditional medicine numbs our pain but doesn’t treat the cause. We need to look at our wounds more holistically and take physical, mental, and spiritual paths to heal them.

• Coming from financially very little, but having a parent who loved her unconditionally, taught Janie a lot about service and about doing things with no expectation of anything done in “return”. She has a
• She wants to educate and empower people to take charge of their own health and well-being through the experience she has had both with becoming a nurse and becoming attuned to love.

BEST MOMENTS

- “If we could also look to nature to clear the disease, then we could stop relying so much on pharmaceuticals. It is a balance. Sometimes we do have to take medication until we are emotionally and mentally equipped with the resources to tap into nature and tap into healing those parts of ourselves. Because that does require going deeper. It requires going deeper and healing.”

- “We are programmed that way (to fear). And I think if we could get to unconditional divine self-love within, … we're wide open, because now you can be who you need to be…and I don't have to control you, I can allow you to grow at your own time, in your own space.”

- “But when you put something out to the universe, it conspires to bring it to you. I started to experience in awakening to I would call it a love vibration. When I walked outside, I was seeing things that has always been there, but I was seeing the love in it.”

- “We must speak from a space of I am or already have it. So: I have a divine love. I am divine love. And then the more I did that, that vibration took over me internally and then I was a magnet for it.”

ABOUT THE GUEST

Janie Charlot proves that “though she be but little, she is fierce”.

Born to a single mother in Church Point, Louisiana, she graduated high school at the top of her class. She enrolled at the University of Louisiana at Monroe, originally with visions of becoming a pharmacist, but changed her major to nursing when she was not accepted to her program of choice.
After graduation she wanted to continue to innovate the healthcare field, so she was inspired to start NP Hired, an Atlanta-based company that provides healthcare services on a national and international level.

They use technology to provide all types of medical services, including treatment of minor conditions and management of chronic illnesses.

Janie has spun her passion for healthcare advocacy and helping others into a successful business.

On top of that, she is the author of two books, and lives her life from a place of spiritual strength.

Janie’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nursepractitioner_hired/

Buy Janie’s Book https://www.amazon.com/CAPACITY-LOVE-Awakening-Unconditional-Love/dp/B09K1TWQH5/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=janie+charlot&qid=1636739364&qsid=135-1785597-0786416&sr=8-1&sres=B09K1TWQH5,B08RTJMG79,B001V9IVE6,B08FF2ZH33,B07HPBCTY9,B00DU5SRIY,B000LC3JV4,B08SBWZKYT,B01CNZMMV4,B07MQJRK7N,B01IEDSU2E,B07C2YF4FB,B08MLJ22K5,B07KCD2MYZ,B07D1J89YQ,B0043XDZF2
Janie on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsZvEjF_739dD8-Ozgb5K7Q

NP Hired’s Website https://nphired.com/

NP Hired on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nphired/

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD 

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Today John reads from his book “The People Programme”. PEOPLE is an acronym for the six titles of the modules of his coaching program; Problems, Emotions, Operate, Patterns, Likelihood and Enhance. It helps us to understand the current occurrences in our lives based on past events, understanding those around us, any programmed patterns of behaviour we have and how we can change and move forward. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• John reads about how his past experiences from childhood led to his current thoughts and opinions on relationships. 
• Lacking attention turned John into a bit of an extrovert and his parents examples left him confused on how relationships were supposed to be.
• A favoured brother, the responsibility to apologise and being second all created coping strategies that John used to navigate his environment efficiently. 
• Children learn at a deeper and more permanent level and these lessons are very hard to shift in later life.

BEST MOMENTS

‘ What is not funny and is completely overlooked from reciting this story is that I’m a young child out late by myself in the dark. I had not been seen for hours, obviously I had missed my dinner, and my brother is all tucked up in bed and I haven’t even been missed.’

‘When anything happened where I was told off, I would always be the one made to apologise and make things right. Otherwise I was just ignored and made to stay in my room until I had.’

‘My brain was learning how I could survive. That’s right, survive. My young brains only job at that age was to learn how to keep me alive, how to cope with all the things that were happening and for me to get through it all.’

‘If something feels unknown or uncomfortable I must check in with myself and give it a go before I dismiss it immediately.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD 

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LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

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In todays episode John discusses how to increase intimacy between you and your partner using relaxing massage techniques. He chats with Denis Merkas, founder of Melt Massage for Couples which teaches couples how to use massage techniques in their own homes and has specialised in this field for a number of years. Denis has taught over 50,000 couples on how to use massage in their daily lives and talks about how his experiences have led and influenced him in his profession and private life. They discuss the nuances and complications of relationships and offer insight into keeping them fresh and exciting.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Denis has moved his teaching online to reach a maximum number of couples at a time. This creates a good atmosphere of a shared experience.
• His background and upbringing informed his decision to start teaching couples massage. Physical touch is a lot of peoples ‘Love Language’ and massage can facilitate this.
• Massage can be utilised to initiate a sexual interaction but can just be used as relaxation and stress relief so its versatility within relationships is useful. 
• New experiences are the key to keeping relationships fun. 

BEST MOMENTS

'I was thinking how do I really woo this girl with my massage technique and how do I do it differently to what I do at work?’

‘You forget that there are other people in the room, if someone moans, the rest of the class is like “oh I’m a little bit jealous” and people are laughing and the energy is great in the room.’

‘We need to find out ways to keep it exciting, to keep it new and fresh and it’s really, really hard. Easily 99% of the listeners here will do the same date night on a regular basis just because we know what it is.’

‘After that you take your time. The classes get harder, the techniques get more difficult. We start looking for knots, areas of tension. I show you how to use your thumbs, how to use your hands effectively so your hands don’t get tired.’

GUEST RESOURCES

Contact 

https://couplesmassagecourses.com

Email

denis@couplesmassagecourses.com

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD 

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
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In this episode, John talks about a recent blog he wrote that gained wide attention and generated a lot of conversation, ways to improve your confidence and what signs to show when you think you have met that special someone.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Non verbal indications of showing interest in who you desire, can be just as important as verbal ones.
• With the world seemingly reopening, noticing the signs that someone could be using will become more and more relevant.
• Noticing not only the signs someone could be sending you, but also the ones that you project, is vitally important.

BEST MOMENTS

'Being around someone who likes you, has a physical impact on their state. It can make them nervous and that can lead to a form of good stress'

'When you’re looking in their eyes, if their pupils are dilating, it’s been scientifically proven they do dilate when we see something we like '

'People have a tendency to take your side when they like you…they will want to see you’re ok and will want to defend you wherever possible'

 VALUABLE RESOURCES

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD 

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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In this episode, John talks about how we, as human beings craving connection, we may not be as selective as we are led to believe when it comes to building new relationships and creating new connections.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Studies show that people are not always selective when it comes to choosing a partner. During speed test studies, people said yes to 40% of their dating options.
• People often experience guilt-like feelings when making the decision to remain with a partner, which can lead to them simply staying put so as not to cause offence.
• Even after a relationship is dissolved, these decisions don't always stick, leading to an on-again, off-again situation, instead of us striking out and finding someone new.

BEST MOMENTS

'Romantic relationships are a very emotionally charged aspect of people's lives'

'The path that leads to a long term relationship seems easier than the path that leads us to being single'

'It's hard to walk away for good'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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We often tell ourselves and others that our relationship with our partner is far stronger than it really is, but as John discusses in this first show of the year, it might be time for a reality check.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• As we move through a relationship, we tend to accumulate more and more in the way of emotional anchors, such as children or financial arrangements. These can act as a block when it comes to motivating ourselves to leave an unhappy relationship.
• Often, when we are unhappy, we lose ourselves in other tasks such as work or physical activities. This is known as an avoidance tactic.
• When we look for external reasons to rationalise or justify our situation, we end up bypassing the root cause of the problems.
• Projection is something that is often used to shield us from difficult feelings that may overwhelm us. This causes us to remain in a denial space where we are simply trying to convince ourselves to remain.

BEST MOMENTS

'People stick together even though they are unhappy'

'We go into what is known as an ego defence'

'These strategies help us to minimise our emotions'

'Denial is a great avoidance strategy'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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This week John is in conversation with a special guest - one who has lived through a codependent relationship, and who has emerged as independent from the other side. It's a rare, highly personal conversation from someone with a unique perspective on this particular compulsion, and which may help to empower those who may not yet realise that their own relationship may be an unhealthy one.

KEY TAKEAWAYS 

• When we become codependent, we lose part of ourselves - our identities. We hand control to a person, and thereby give part of ourselves away.
• Previous generations have always associated their development in life by their attachments. These days, we are encouraged to be more independent, and gender roles in society help to promote this.
• Codependency can creep in without realising it. We begin a certain way, and then one day find that we have become unrecognisable to ourselves.

BEST MOMENTS

'The root of codependency is the loss of the self'

'It was a very gendered experience'

'It's as though you somehow believe you are rooted with each other'

'It was like I'd created a Frankenstein' 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

Signs Of A Toxic Relationship Questionnaire - https://signsofatoxicrelationship.scoreapp.com

What Is Self Actualisation - What is Self-Actualisation? | John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com) 

Lisa A Romano  - https://youtu.be/Pv90LrLyMew https://youtu.be/G2DvWdrXnBw

Codependent No More by Melody Beattie - Codependent No More (Part 1) - YouTube 

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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This episode features an insightful conversation with Kyle France from Causeway, a national charity dedicated to supporting marginalised and vulnerable individuals, including survivors of modern slavery and those caught in cycles of exploitation and crime. Kyle discusses the important work that Causeway does in providing safe houses, outreach support, and assistance with the asylum process for victims of modern slavery. The episode explores the various forms of exploitation within modern slavery, the challenges faced by survivors, and the need for awareness and support from the community. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Modern slavery can take various forms, including human trafficking, forced labour, debt bondage, child exploitation, criminal exploitation, and sexual exploitation.

• Men, especially those aged 18 to 35, are vulnerable to modern slavery due to factors such as lack of positive male role models, broken homes, and the need for belonging.

• Re-trafficking is a significant issue, with individuals sometimes returning to traffickers as it may seem like the safest option in their minds.

• Causeway offers support services for survivors of modern slavery, including safe houses, outreach support, and long-term assistance through telephone support.

• Getting involved with Causeway can include financial donations, fundraising activities, volunteering, and spreading awareness through social media.

BEST MOMENTS

"It's fascinating, isn't it, that, you know, obviously not really having anything to do with this myself at all throughout my life, that there is so much of this that goes on and in plain sight."

"The reality is that traffickers and people who do this are a lot cleverer than we give them credit for sometimes. That's the unfortunate truth, which is why this is such a difficult thing to tackle."

"I think the male thing is interesting because a lot of the men, it's actually the things that you'd probably consider to be masculine in nature that's used against them."

"I think one of the things that a lot of people are worried about is talking to somebody and it's like maybe about a neighbour or something, and they're worried that they'll be found out."

"Thank you for reaching out to me because this was something that wasn't really on my radar at all, but it's a fascinating topic and the work that you're doing is amazing."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Links: https://www.wearecauseway.org.uk/

https://www.wearecauseway.org.uk/news-campaigns/causeway-campaigns/hidden-men-of-modern-slavery/

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno

Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)

To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

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I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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This week, John looks at codependency - a circular relationship in which one person needs the other person, who in turn, needs to be needed - how it manifests within relationships, and how we can identify this compulsion.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Codependency is typically discussed in the same terms as substance abuse. It is the reliance of one person upon the other in order to keep this addiction going.
• Codependent people tend to form and become dependant upon unhealthy, emotionally harmful relationships.
• This state may feel like an addiction, but it is in fact a compulsion. It is the coming together of two people with maladapted needs that need to be met.

BEST MOMENTS

'Two people become so invested in one another that they can't function independently'

'Your mood, happiness and identity are defined by another person'

'This is often referred to as a relationship addiction'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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At this time of year it's far more normal to spend time with family member, perhaps for longer periods than you may be used to. But this proximity can throw up several issues, and as John discusses in this show, there are ways to make sure that our relationships with those we love do not suffer.

KEY TAKEAWAYS 

• In general, we tend to look to our mothers for love and affection, and to our fathers for sense of pride and self-worth.
• We must take time to reflect upon and recognise the relationships that we currently have with our family members.
• One issue could come from the angle of gifts. Often we give gifts not just to make others happy, but also to gain acceptance.

BEST MOMENTS

'It's the season of goodwill to all, no matter how you might feel about things'

'Do you notice that things only seem to go well when you're doing what they want?'

'There are ways in which you can feel empowered'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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This week, John talks to Gemma Nice, a Relationship Coach and Yoga Teacher who specialises in working with professional women, with a focus on how to have fulfilling, loving and healthy relationships.

Gemma joins John to talk about her work, and the surprising way in which yoga contributed to the health of her own relationship.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• By removing the stresses of life, we can be better placed to repair a relationship that may have gone stale and which may be suffering from a lack of closeness.
• The best and most effective way to repair a fault in a relationship is to bring it out into the open and talk about it. If we fail to do so, then the problem will decay and grow worse.
• For many, the only validation they receives comes externally, which makes it incredibly difficult to foster internal self-belief.
• Relationships are a source of strength. My harnessing our respective strength we become even more fundamentally solid as a unit.

BEST MOMENTS

'We felt closeness that we hadn't felt for ages'

'Having more communication in the relationship helped a lot!'

'No one gets on with everyone 24-7'

'It makes you stronger as a couple' 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Want to be able to create healthy intimate relationships in your life? Then join John on Monday 6th December for a free workshop, where he will be discussing what you can do to make this happen: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/what-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-intimate-relationship-tickets-203718677047

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

Easyoga - https://www.easyoga.co.uk

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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This week, John discusses modern relationship terminology, and how certain ways of describing or phrasing things can help us to better understand the places from which we have come in life.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• One of the most important red flags you can have in a relationship is the fact that you really know nothing deep about your partner, and they they are reticent to share their innermost hopes and dreams. This can indicate that they are not in this for the long haul.
• Stashing is the process by where someone almost hides you away - storing you for when they want you, but not really sharing you with anyone important in their lives.
• Catfishing is a term to describe someone who has an online relationship, but has misrepresented themselves for some reason. Sometimes the intentions are far more sinister than we might think.
• Ghosting has become very common in avoidant types of people. It manifests in a total break in communication without explanation.

BEST MOMENTS 

'Someone who isn't really committed is unlikely to tell you much about themselves'

'There won't be any trust because you're not sharing anything with each other'

'Listen to your trusted friends and loved ones'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Want to be able to create healthy intimate relationships in your life? Then join John on Monday 6th December for a free workshop, where he will be discussing what you can do to make this happen: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/what-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-intimate-relationship-tickets-203718677047

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy       

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

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LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


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John talks to Cordelia Kate, the founder of The Rebellious Business Network, devoted to helping entrepreneurs achieve their full potential through revolutionising approaches to communication and engagement.

Being a rebellious entrepreneur is about building breaking the mould and building relationships. Cordelia joins John to discuss her approach, and why being an entrepreneur and being a rebel require such similar attitudes.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Rebelliousness goes hand in hand with being an entrepreneur. Taking chances in business requires an act of rebellion against the path that society usually plans for us.
• It's no good making goals for ourselves based on what other people want. True happiness and freedom come from recognising what we ourselves want, and working towards it.
• Loving ourselves begins with realising that we are not bad at our core. We are worthy. We are good enough. By the simple act of exploring self-development, we admit to ourselves that we are worth more.
• If we go into marketing with the mind-set of purely building relationships, instead of simply looking for sales, then success comes far more easily.

BEST MOMENTS

'In order to be an entrepreneur you have to be a bit of a rebel'

'Create goals that give you more happiness and more freedom'

'I was too scared to look inside myself and tune into who I am'

'I wanted to put something together to keep business owners connected'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy       

ABOUT THE GUEST

Cordelia Kate left her job as an Emergency Nurse to focus on her side-hustle and work from home with her three children. After a very turbulent start in the business world, including divorce, a major car accident and accumulating £60k in debt, she managed to turn everything around, launching Rebellious Business. She went from zero to six figures during the pandemic, and is now supporting other emerging entrepreneurs' rise to success.

https://join.rebelliousbusiness.com/network

https://www.instagram.com/cordelia.kate/

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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We all dream of the perfect relationship, but as John discusses in this week's show, sometimes there is beauty to be found in the imperfect. Sometimes, perfection can come with its own set of risks...

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• When it comes to developing relationships we can often become far too hung up on the faults we wish to avoid than the positive things we need for enrichment.
• Expectations for relationships today are higher than ever. Relationships are a choice, so mediocrity is no longer acceptable. We have arrived at an all-or-nothing way of thinking.
• Perfectionist personalities will tend to exhaust all options and explore many possibilities in order to secure their flawless partner. This might sound ideal, but in reality there are huge downsides.
• Perfectionists report more regret and depression and feel threatened by others that they perceive as doing better. They also report less optimism and satisfaction.

BEST MOMENTS

'We overemphasise the negatives and under-appreciate the positives'

'If you could build the perfect relationship, what would it look like?'

'There is a myth in perfection'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy      

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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John talks to positive changes expert, author and podcaster, Shelley F Knight, whose works include new book 'Good Grief: The A to Z Approach To Modern Day Healing'.

Shelley and John discuss the concept behind the book, Shelley's own experiences with loss and grief through her life and career experience as a nurse, and the many ways in which grief can manifest.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Loss can cause us to become stuck in a place and time - grief can lock us in place - and only through recognition and guidance can we free ourselves and move on.
• Life is about moving forwards, never looking too long back behind us. We must move on if we hope to grow, and if we hope to heal.
• Grief is not just restricted to death and losing a loved on. Grief can arise through losing anything to which we have an emotional connection, including jobs, finances, freedoms, health, or even loss of control.
• Relationships, and self-regulation are not things that are taught in our current education system, and yet they are skills and tools that we all must reply upon. We must therefore do all we can to help the next generation to better understand themselves.

BEST MOMENTS

'I've gone from a clinical mindset of understanding into a spiritual one'

'We're more than the doctors tell us. We are beautiful beings with so much potential'

'I've not come this far to only come this far'

'We must allow ourselves to speak about how we're feeling'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy      

Shelley F Knight Twitter - https://twitter.com/ShelleyFKnight

Shelley F Knight - https://shelleyfknight.com

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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John talks to master coach and women's health advocate, Laura Applewhite, about the work she does in helping women heal their hearts, bodies and souls after a hysterectomy, and why this physically and emotionally costly procedure requires us to develop the strongest of relationships with ourselves.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Approximately 55,000 women in the UK alone will have a hysterectomy this year. In America, the number grows to 660,000, meaning that although the issue is widespread, the conversations are not out in the open.
• When women in the world are happy, then the world itself is a happier place. By doing all we can to heal women, we create a better society.
• A hysterectomy is an isolating experience, and one that comes with a set of preconceptions due to a lack of dialogue and plentiful misinformation. It is incumbent upon us as a society to right these views, and to support all women going through this experience, with care, love and guidance.
• In this life, and especially in relationships, we must not take ourselves too seriously. The key to fostering strong bonds with others, and with ourselves, is to find the light amid the darkness.

BEST MOMENTS

'This is not spoken about enough'

'My mission is to help women heal, so that they can help to heal the world'

'We must give them the tools and the space to help them go through what they're going through'

'The most important thing in a happy, loving relationship is a sense of humour'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy      

Laura Applewhite Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/laura_apples_/

Hysterectomy Healing - https://www.facebook.com/groups/349062779847540/

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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This week, John discusses curiosity, and how cultivating it can lead to more fulfilment when it comes to relationships, and a more fulfilling life.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Humans are built to be curious. This is how we have managed to evolve since the dawn of time, and what drives us as children to learn about the world around us.
• When curiosity is piqued, our brains release dopamine, triggering our rewards system, and encouraging us to dig deeper into the pursuit at hand.
• Curious people are more open to new social experiences, and are more willing to embrace uncertainty. This makes them far more adept in social situations.
• Through becoming more curious about our potential partners, we strengthen our connection to them. When building new relationships, try to be less afraid of uncertainty.

BEST MOMENTS

'Curiosity can override anxiety, boredom and can deepen social connection'

'Curiosity has given us the capacity and desire to learn about our lives'

'Our brains actually reward us for exploring'

'By taking a more inquisitive to our lives and relationships, we may even be able to overcome social anxiety' 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy      

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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This week, John talks to multi seven-figure business strategist, Lisa Johnson, who has dedicated herself to helping entrepreneurs scale using passive and semi-passive income. Lisa is also a passionate anti-bullying campaigner, and a proponent of the message that anyone can become a success, no matter where they start in life.

Lisa talks to John about her own experiences at the hands of bullies, and talks about how we can rise above to find happiness and success.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Sometimes we become so focussed upon our careers that we fail to see the negative impact this can have upon our personal relationships. We must strike the right balance.
• The purpose that pushes us forward is our "why", but we must allow that this can change. It's okay to set new goals and aim for different things as we go through life.
• Adversity can fuel success if we use it in a positive way. The desire to prove our detractors wrong can act as fuel to push us higher.
• When we lift others up alongside our own success, then we raise society as a whole, instead of a piecemeal hierarchy that serves only the few.

BEST MOMENTS

'I went through two marriages because my career was so important to me'

'Your "why" can change'

'Eventually you stop caring about what other people think. You start realising that actually, it's nonsense'

'Negative voices are always louder than positive' 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy      

Lisa Johnson - https://www.lisajohnson.com

Lisa Johnson Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/lisajohnsonstrategist

Lisa Johnson Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/lisajohnsonstrategist

Bullies Out - https://bulliesout.com/ 

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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John delves into the concept of clearing sessions with guest Elizabeth Goddard, an author, speaker, and woundologist. They explore the idea of emotional wounds and how they can manifest in our bodies, often stemming from past experiences or ancestral trauma. Through a deep dive into John's personal experience of feeling unworthy after a potential opportunity, Elizabeth guides him through a clearing session to address these underlying emotions. The conversation touches on the impact of childhood experiences on adult beliefs and behaviours, highlighting the importance of healing and self-awareness. Elizabeth also shares information about her healing services, inviting listeners to explore their own emotional healing journey.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Emotional wounds can be like physical wounds, sitting in the body and needing healing.

• Trauma and emotional wounds can be passed down through generations and affect individuals from a young age.

• Clearing sessions involve identifying and removing emotional wounds by visualizing and releasing them.

• Trauma and stress experienced by parents can affect children even before birth.

• Honest conversations with oneself can help challenge and change limiting beliefs and negative thought patterns.

BEST MOMENTS

"I'm never going to amount to it. That strikes as soon as that subconscious sources, but they're not going to choose you. That's projecting out that actually, well, you're not going to amount to anything."

"I work with 18 core wounds, or it's three core wounds, but I work with 18 wounds and the rest of branches of okay. And, and I do it as a distance healing."

"I've got a distance healing thing that's going on, which is called Quantum Glow. And I work with 18 core wounds, or it's three core wounds, but I work with 18 wounds and the rest of branches of okay." 

"I'm also doing something very similar to this, but it's a 30-minute session. Again, it's a really, really silly low price. The rest of them are on my website." 

"Although we can't go back and make a brand new start, we can start now and make a brand new ending." 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Links: https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno

Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)

To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy

Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach

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I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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Despite what many believe, there is a truly positive power in saying "no". By doing so we are setting boundaries in every part of our lives, and as John explains in this episode, the setting of boundaires is not just healthy, but essential.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• When we say no, we are setting a boundary - line between what is and is not acceptable to you in any given situation.
• We live in a society where putting ourselves above others is deemed as a selfish act. We must consider others, but we must also live life as not detrimental to us.
• We must examine the relationship we have with ourselves. Low self-confidence or self-esteem play a major part in our boundary-setting capabilities.

BEST MOMENTS

'Such a small word, and yet so very powerful'

'When we do not set healthy boundaries for ourself, it will impact our emotional, mental and physical wellbeing'

'Be good to yourself'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy      

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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Mary McClung is a fitness and mindset coach, who uses her experience and knowledge in working with world-class athletes, coaches and teams, combined with NLP and neuro-science to create her own unique approach.

Mary joins John this week to discuss the power of neurolinguistic programming, and how she is using it each day to help people achieve their goals.

If you find yourself affected by any of the subjects raised in this show, please visit the following resources for more help or guidance:

www.nspcc.org.uk  

https://thecpsu.org.uk/help-advice/introduction-to-safeguarding/child-abuse-in-a-sports-setting/ 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Neurolinguistic programming has profound effects upon the brain and the way our bodies operate. By harnessing its power we can unlock a new level of performance.
• If we are conditioned to believe in ourselves only to a point, to hold back upon the advice of others, then the effects can cause a ripple effect throughout the way we live
• In the world of sport, you are only ever important so long as you are operating to your full potential. This means that when you are hampered in any way, the effects are not just physical but emotional.

BEST MOMENTS

'I knew I was good, but I wasn't allowed to be good enough'

'I wanted somebody to tell me why the heck I should not run as fast as I knew I could run'

'It was when I studied NLP that I got the lightbulb moment'

'It's helped me to understand myself better'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy      

Mary McClung - http://www.marymcclung.co.uk

Mary McClung Facebook -  @marymcclungofficial

Mary McClung Instagram -  @marymcclungofficial

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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This week, John talks about affirmations and how they can help to establish a far more positive internal relationship with ourselves, thereby allowing us to create far more meaningful relationships with others.

KEY TAKEAWAYS 

• If we foster a negative viewpoint or perspective internally, then it is far more unlikely that we will ever be able to create a positive relationship with others.
• If we establish a higher sense of self-worth, then the benefits are not just emotional. It has been shown that physical positives can emerge if we treat ourselves well.
• Hermetic philosophy states that we cannot simply say the opposite of what we believe in order for it become our truth.
• In childhood our brains are in foetus state. We absorb information far more easily, and becomes embedded far more deeply. If we seek to change these things later, then we must do so by embracing methods that also help us to reach this foetus state.

BEST MOMENTS

'The most important relationship you're ever going to have is the one you have with yourself'

'We are able to change the way we think about ourselves and see ourselves if we start to have different conversations with ourselves'

'If we are able to manage our thoughts, then we are able to create our reality'

'Positive affirmations target a conscious level of your mind'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy      

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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