The Peaceful Parenting Podcast – Détails, épisodes et analyse

In this re-release of a favourite episode, we discuss the term ‘stable misery’.

It’s Dr. Lynyetta Willis’s term to describe the ‘in-between’ space we sometimes experience as parents: The house isn’t burning down but things aren’t great.

In this episode, Dr. Willis joins me for a conversation about how to break out of stable misery.

As a psychologist and family empowerment coach, Dr. Lynyetta Willis, helps frustrated families stop Stable Misery® cycles or unhelpful patterns that keep them stuck, so they can create more joy in their parenting or partnerships. Her Triggered to Transformed® Parent Coaching Program has helped parents all over the world to confidently deal with their triggers so they can pass on the best parts of themselves and enjoy parenting more.

We cover:

• [2:40] How Dr. Lynyetta became a family empowerment coach
• [3:45] What stable misery is
• [5:55] How to recognize when you’re in stable misery
• [9:00] The Five Paths Framework
• [21:10] Tips to get in touch with your feelings and emotions
• [27:20] The difference between stressors and triggers
• [40:20] Dr. Lynyetta’s advice to her younger parent self 

Download the episode transcript HERE

Resources mentioned in this episode:  

• Quiz: What’s Your Parenting Trigger Score – https://drlwillis.link/trigger-score
• Stable Misery Free Roadmap – www.healingstablemisery.com
• www.drlwillis.com 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:

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• Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/
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This is re-release of one of our favourite episodes:

Mainstream parenting is W.E.I.R.D! Western, Educated, Industrialized, Rich, Democratic. Well, maybe not everyone. But parenting in North American culture has changed a lot in the past few hundred years and it’s a lot different currently than some other places in the world. 

My guest in this podcast set out to look at how some other families around the world operate, how American parenting is different, and what we can learn from parents in other places.

Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD, is the author of the New York Times bestseller Hunt, Gather, Parent. The book describes a way of raising helpful and confident children, which moms and dads have turned to for millennia. It also explains how American families can incorporate this approach into their busy lives.

Doucleff is also a global health correspondent for NPR’s Science Desk, where she reports about disease outbreaks and children’s health. 

We cover:

• [3:00] Why Michaeleen wrote her book and what influenced it
• [6:30] How the nuclear family has been a failed social experiment 
• [13:10] Michaeleen’s TEAM acronym 
• [20:00] The interesting thing about encouraging our kids to develop autonomy 
• [37:30] The importance of having minimal interference with our kids
• [45:55] Culturally specific traits when raising kids
• [52:00] Advice Michaeleen would give her younger parent self

Download the episode transcript HERE

Resources mentioned in this episode:  

• Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff
• Brain-Body Parenting by Dr. Mona Delahooke
• www.michaeleendoucleff.com

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/
• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup
• Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/
• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting
• Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter
• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I interview Kristen RB Peterson on letting go of “getting ready for kindergarten” and focusing on play based learning instead. Listen in as we discuss the findings of studies on the importance of play and how to foster more play in your home.

We talk about:

• 4:45 Study about play based preschools vs. academic preschools

• 5:30 Confusion around what play is and what play is not

• 6:45 Five Characteristics of play

• 11:31 Play schemas (patterns in children’s play)

• 13:00 Importance of “loose materials” for play

• 14:42 Why parents should avoid academic focused preschools

• 26:13 NASA Creativity Study

• 33:00 How parents can help their kids have more play

• 38:00 Importance of risky play in early childhood

Download the episode transcript HERE 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• IG @kristen.rb.peterson

• Play-Based Learning Podcast https://www.kristenrbpeterson.com/podcasts 

• Kristen’s Website https://www.kristenrbpeterson.com/ 

• Citations for the studies: “Studies that compared the performance of children attending academic preschools with those attending play-based preschools showed no advantage in reading and math achievement for children attending academic preschools. However, evidence did suggest that children attending academic preschools had higher levels of test anxiety, were less creative, and had more negative attitudes toward school than did the children attending play-based preschool.” Swart, K., & Houser, K. (2023). Early Childhood Play and Academics: What Are Parents’ Perceptions? Dimensions of Early Childhood, 51(2), 28–32.

• The second study mentioned: Zekarias, E. Z., & Zhao, W.(2023) Parent play beliefs, play as a teaching technique, and teachers' pedagogical knowledge, and children's early numeracy and literacy skills: Evidence from Wolaita Zone, southern Ethiopia. Open Journal of Social Sciences, 11(01), 270-292.

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ 

• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup

• Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com  

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter 

• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this coaching call with Michelle, we talk about sibling rivalry issues when peaceful parenting hasn’t always been the method of parenting for both kids AND when one child has more intense needs than the other.

Michelle is a mom of two girls, 11 and seven years old. Her younger child, Q, is one of those kids that we call ‘more’ or ‘extra’, and really requires more energy and attention than her older child. What’s interesting is that the problem Michelle thought she had wasn't actually what we ended up working on. Have a listen!

We go into:

• [4:40] Anger in siblings when big emotions come up
• [8:00] Handling conflict when your kids don’t want to talk about it
• [17:30] The benefit of showing empathy and speaking kindly
• [20:15] Helping our kids through name calling and other unkind acts
• [27:30] Dividing our attention to all kids
• [32:40] One month check in

Resources mentioned in this episode

• FREE How to Stop Yelling Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 
• www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 
• Coping Skills Checklist by Janine Halloran: https://www.janinehalloran.com/free 
• Sibling Best Practices: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/e-book-stop-kids-fighting/ 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• On Instagram
• On Facebook
• https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 
• Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Stuart Shanker to understand our children’s challenging behaviour. We discuss why children act the way they do sometimes and what we can do about it.  

Dr. Shanker explains the 5 domains or areas where stress shows up in our and our children’s lives. We discuss how we can be ‘stress detectives’ to help reduce challenging behaviour. 

Dr. Stuart Shanker is the author of the Self-Reg trilogy: Calm, Alert and Learning: Classroom Strategies for Self-Regulation, Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life; Reframed: Self-Reg for a Just Society.

In 2012 Stuart founded The MEHRIT Centre as a Self-Reg learning and information centre for parents, educators, the leaders of today and the leaders of tomorrow. In this challenging time in which we are living, Self-Reg inspires what is most desperately needed: a profound sense of hope for the future.

We go into:

• [4:45] Why misbehavior is stressed behavior 
• [9:10] The difference between self control and self regulation 
• [12:50] The 5 categories of stressors 
• [23:00] Is misbehavior intentional?
• [30:00] Tips for parents to help reduce stressors 
• [42:00] Biggest stressors parents are faced with today
• [44:10] Spirited kids vs. stressed out kids
• [50:30] Why there’s an uptake in sensory issues
• [54:00] Dr. Shanker’s advice to his younger parent self

The goal of The MEHRIT Centre is to provide parents and educators around the world with the tools needed to raise healthy and vibrant children; and to provide adults and seniors with a powerful method for enhancing their own well being.

Resources mentioned in this episode

• Leave your questions here: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/podcast/ 
• Free Stop Yelling Course: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling/
• Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 
• Self-Reg Infosheet for Parents: https://self-reg.ca/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/infosheet_SelfRegParents.pdf 
• Self-Reg Book written by Dr. Stuart Shanker: https://shop.self-reg.ca/collections/all/products/self-reg-how-to-help-your-child-and-you-break-the-stress-cycle-and-successfully-engage-with-life
• Blog written by Dr. Stuart Shanker: https://self-reg.ca/no-such-thing-as-a-bad-kid/

Connect with Dr. Stuart Shanker

• https://www.instagram.com/self_reg/
• https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-mehrit-centre-ltd-/
• https://www.facebook.com/SelfReg/
  
  

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• On Instagram
• On Facebook
• https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 
• Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this episode, Stoney joins me on the podcast to answer a listener question about creating stress-free morning routines. 

Stoney is one of the peaceful parenting coaches on my team, and has great advice for you to implement to make your mornings more productive.

We go into:

• [2:40] Stoney’s experience and work as a peaceful parenting coach
• [3:35] This episode’s listener question
• [6:35] Starting your bedtime routine as early as possible
• [9:20] Setting yourself up for success the next morning
• [13:00] Using a picture schedule 
• [17:40] Simplifying breakfast time
• [18:25] Using ‘play’ when we can
• [26:40] Having the same wake time (even on weekends)

Resources mentioned in this episode

• Leave your questions here: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/podcast/ 
• Free Stop Yelling Course: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling/
• Morning Routine Tips: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/mornings/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• On Instagram
• On Facebook
• https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 
• Book a short consult or coaching session call

Today we have a different kind of conversation for you. It’s not an episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast but instead it’s an episode of the Tilt Parenting Podcast hosted by Debbie Reber. Debbie’s show is all about parenting differently wired kids.

The episode that we’re sharing with you today is one that I really enjoyed listening to. It's with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, who is one of the authors of the Power of Showing Up, written alongside Dr. Daniel Siegel.  

This episode talks about the Four S’s of showing up for your kids. I know you will enjoy this conversation as much as I did, and please connect with Debbie and follow her podcast at the links below.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free Video Series – 10 Things You Have To Know When You're Raising a Differently Wired Child: https://tiltparenting.com/10-things/ 

• The Power of Showing Up by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Dr. Daniel Siegel: https://amzn.to/3EgEOz7 

• Tilt Parenting Podcast: https://tiltparenting.com/podcast-about-children-with-learning-disabilities/

Connect with Debbie Reber   

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiltparenting/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/TiltParenting
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tiltparenting/
• Website: https://tiltparenting.com/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• On Instagram
• On Facebook
• https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 
• Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this coaching call with Candace, we talk about the challenges her daughter, Elgin, who is nine, has been facing socially. 

Elgin has ADHD and is dyslexic, which has caused her to feel like an outsider at school, resulting in friendships dissolving. 

Her mom, Candace, has been struggling to find ways to help her daughter cope through these changes, which is what we talk about today.

We go into:

• [2:40] The support Candace is looking for
• [4:40] How I supported my daughter through her ADHD diagnosis 
• [5:50] How the challenges Elgin is facing show up in her daily life
• [14:30] Our own upbringings and how it impacts our kids
• [18:20] Coaching our kids to stand up for themselves
• [24:10] The pain parents face when their kids are being taken advantage of
• [26:05] One-month check in

Resources mentioned in this episode

• FREE How to Stop Yelling Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• On Instagram
• On Facebook
• https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 
• Book a short consult or coaching session call

Many of us worry that our child may not be securely attached. How can we understand the science behind attachment to better understand our kids and their needs? And how do we promote a secure attachment?

Joining me for this conversation is Bethany Saltman, author of Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey Into the Science of Attachment. It’s inspired by the birth of her daughter in 2006, who she loved dearly, but feared she was failing. 

Why? Because she was not the kind of mother she hoped to become. Bethany spent ten years teaching herself the science of attachment, traveling to labs, trainings, and archives, in an effort to try to discover what kind of mother she really was, and if she was good enough for her daughter.

What she learned changed everything about how she thought of herself, her childhood, and the nature of love.

We go into:

• [2:25] Different attachment styles and why they’re important
• [6:00] Where secure attachment comes from
• [13:35] The power of attachment and repair 
• [14:20] Why people make such a big deal about attachment styles
• [24:10] What Bethany learned through healing her insecure attachment style
• [27:40] Advice Bethany would give to her younger parent self 

Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey Into the Science of Attachment, published in April, 2020 by Random House, is her first book. 

Bethany is a bestselling book coach, helping writers envision and execute their books—from pitch, to platform, to proposal, to publication, to PR. , She is also an editor and researcher. Her work can be seen in magazines like the New Yorker, New York Magazine, Atlantic Monthly, Parents, and many others.

Resources mentioned in this episode

• Find Your Unicorn Space by Eve Rodsky 
• Episode 63: Self-Compassion is the Key to Being Your Best Parent Self with Dr. Kristin Neff

Connect with Bethany 

• https://www.instagram.com/bethany_saltman/
• www.twitter.com/BethanySaltman 
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/bethany-saltman-968207b7/ 
• https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100026627657984 
• https://www.bethanysaltman.com/ 

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• On Instagram
• On Facebook
• https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 
• Book a short consult or coaching session call

In this episode, I’m answering questions I’ve received from you- my podcast listeners! 

We have three listener questions: 

1. What to do if you have a kid who runs away when you are out in public.
2. What to do when your child or children clearly prefer one parent over another.
3. What to do when your family openly and actively doesn't approve of your peaceful parenting choices.

We go into:

• [2:30] What to do if your kid is a ‘runner’
• [5:55] How ‘impulse control’ plays a huge role in our child’s ability to make decisions 
• [8:00] Tips to help kids strengthen their impulse control
• [10:15] What to do when a child prefers one parent over another
• [15:45] How to work on parent-child connection 
• [18:55] Navigating family who disagree with peaceful parenting 
• [25:00] Two important notes to remember from this episode
• [27:00] Why we should never shame or judge each other’s parenting styles

Resources mentioned in this episode

• Leave your questions here: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/podcast/ 
• Special Time Guide: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/special-time-guide/
• www.sarahrosensweet.com/newsletter 
• Episode #10: Being A Strong Leader: Your Feelings Are Not Your Child’s Problem
• Free Stop Yelling Course: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling/

Connect with Sarah Rosensweet  

• On Instagram
• On Facebook
• https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 
• Book a short consult or coaching session call