Should we even get married if we don't have the final marriage in mind?

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I think, yes! The Bible is very clear about the importance of seeking wise counsel and that does not stop short at dating. But who is wise counsel? Should we voice our opinions on our friends relationships? Let's talk about it.

Keon & Destiny talk about the positive effects waiting had on their marriage, how withholding can effect the relationship poorly, handling disagreements in marriage, and what it looks like to court a woman well!

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In this episode Sonata speaks about the possibility that your real desire is to be touched and the root is not sex.

In this episode we speak about navigating dating apps as Christians, normalizing some experiences and talking about funny/weird ones.

In this episode Sonata speaks to guest Sarah about her unique experience with abuse, the church, and how the Lord allowed her to see her experience in a new light.

In this episode Sonata speaks to Amy and Josh about something that unexpectedly shook their marriage but created perseverance and growth in their relationship.

Sonata speaks about what it means to forgive and shares a perspective that will help you navigate forgiveness in a healthy manner.

Forgiveness is a Choice: A Step-by-Step Process For Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope

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In this episode Sonata speaks about how to navigate opposite sex friendships as Christians.

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In this episode, Sonata reviews a book called 7 Myths about singleness by Sam Allberry that gives a different perspective that will be helpful to the Chrisitan single person from any walk of life.

7 Myths About Singleness

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In this episode Sonata discusses the effects of pornography on your relationship with yourself, others, and your relationship with Jesus.

Resource for Fighting pornography addiction:

Fightthenewdrug.org

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In this episode Sonata speaks about the parallel between earthly parental relationships and how they effect our relationship with our heavenly father.

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In this episode Sonata speaks about how to gain stable confidence and the importance of self love for the Christian individual.

If you marry to have sex you are setting yourself up for failure and lackluster love.

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This week sonata is speaking with John & Rebecca about their ability to save sexual intimacy until marriage and how you can do it too.

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In this episode Sonata speaks about healthy confrontation and provides tools to help you improve your communication styles in relationships.

Sonata speaks about the relationship we can have with our bodies and the necessity of being comfortable speaking about sexuality.

Sonata speaks about the importance of being equally yoked from a unique angle. Being equally yoked to the people in your life is important but most importantly, are you equally yoked to Jesus?

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In this episode Sonata normalizes sexual desire and addresses the complicated topic of masturbation.

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Thank you for listening, I pray this episode blesses you.

Sonata and Shelby speak about different aspects of being a virgin including temptation, legalism, and the idea of being "hidden".

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Sonata speaks about the importance of being intentional with platonic relationships and how maintaining platonic relationships can lend to the health of romantic relationships.

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Kim Moore is a public speaker and author. She recently released her book called Unlock the Secret to Lasting Intimacy that does a deep dive on the Song of Solomon. She shares about her research on the marriage bed and the celebration of sex in this episode.

You can order Unlock the Secret to Lasting Intimacy on the website below:

Website:  https://kimmoore.net/  

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In this episode Sonata speaks about the true meaning of purity and the concept of chastity.

Sonata speaks about what you can expect from the podcast and the "why" behind it.

Saving a first kiss until marriage GASP! CD&Melody talk about how they built intimacy, built a beatiful marriage, and learned how to navigate the storms in marriage!

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Sometimes we can be so focused on the arrival of a promise that we forget the intentionality and relationship with the creator.

Here come the questions and here comes cuffing season. Lets' talk about how to enter this season with a helpful mindset!

How does a Godly man act? Who should I be to attract a Godly Man?

Both good questions that Tamika answers in this episode!

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Website: tuesdaywithtamika.com

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Ghosting is not the move. In this episode Sonata talks about how and why to let people down gently.

Jay speaks about his book called Unwanted that is informed by his understanding of the gospel and his own clinical work addressing unwanted sexual behavior from a very loving and gracious approach.

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When we allow our insecurities to choose our romantic partners it will always leave us disappointed and unsatisfied.

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Hope to chat soon!

Shelly shared her woe to woman having premarital sex as well as her testimony of how turning back to God can turn a hard situation into a story of God being ever-present and his provision.

Your single season is not just for finding your spouse, there is also something just as important to find and it will be a waste of a single season to miss it, your God given purpose. Often times he burdens us with our purpose in the wait as well.

Have you ever thought that you might be using masturbation as a coping skill? 🤯 When we understand the root of our sexual behavior it is easier to respond in healthy ways.

We've all heard to words "six figures" thrown around a lot. Might there be a better goal in mind to achieve what you are really asking for?

In this episode:

- We talk about what you might really be saying when you say "He has to make six figures".

- What might actually be more of your hearts desire

-Having money doesn't always equate to financially wise

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You NEED to be here. There are many reasons the Lord put you on this earth and when you dont beleive this truth, you miss opportunities to love God, love others, and love yourself.

Destanee speaks about her abortion story and the role the Lord played in her life after she made that decision.

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Than what? Than everything....yes, even sex! When the Holy Spirit reminded me of this one thing, my life became so much more peaceful.

In this episode Sonata speaks with Ngina Otiende about what abuse is, red flags to look for, and Ngina shares a lot of helpful resources as well.

Resources below:

Helpful communities and resources for those in chronically problematic marriages

1. (free) Find out if you’re in an emotionally abusive Christian marriage by taking the free emotional abuse quiz. By Natalie Hoffman, Flying Free www.emotionalabusequiz.com

2. (free) Explore the different categories of mistreatment and danger that are all part of abuse and Domestic Violence. Free resource by Sarah McDugal https://www.wildernesstowild.com/is-it-abuse

3. (For pastors and leaders) Is your church as safe as you think it is? Safer Churches seminar https://www.wildernesstowild.com/safer-churches-seminar

4. (free) “Is this Abuse?” The 6 Step Guide to Uncovering Hidden/Covert Abuse by https://www.confusiontoclaritynow.com/guide

Safe websites/pages for learning about abuse and trauma (or just how a healthy marriage ought not to look like(

- Patrick Weaver Ministries https://www.facebook.com/patrickweaverministries

- Bare Marriage https://baremarriage.com/

- Marg Mowczko (theology website) https://margmowczko.com/

- Psalm 82 Initiative training churches to recognize abuse and care for the abused https://www.psalm82initiative.org/

Books I mentioned

The Great Sex Rescue (Amazon)

She Deserves Better (Amazon)

Systems of Abuse: A Guide to Recognizing Toxic Behavior Patterns www.wildernesstowild.com/systems-of-abuse-a-guide-to-recognizing-toxic-behavior-patterns/wmurs

Your confidence can be rooted in things that will never change and truths about yourself that you may struggle to believe but will never cease to be true.

Sonata spoke about different skills that go into loving others romantically and platonically.

Spoke with Sarah Sorenson about how she handled sharing her mental health while dating , how her now husband responded to it and how it's effected her marriage.

Has God promised you something and its taking so long that you have started to question God or if you even interpreted it correctly in the first place? You're not alone. There are so many people in the bible that have experienced something similar to that and can understand the struggle in the waiting.

Is it possible to know someones sexual compatibility while abstaining? Luke shares 5 cues that might give you a glimpse into your future sex life.

Luke's Socials : @Narrowwayman

Can Christians dance with each other...? Is Dancing a sin? For whatever reason some churches have different views on dancing. In this episode, we talk about dancing in scripture and how dancing can reflect communication and relationships.

Lauren's Socials: @laurenmatthues

Website: Laurenmathues.com

If you are a human you know how hard it is to wait. This episode is somewhat of a lament but hopefully an encouragement in the wait.

A chat about the evolution of woman reading their word, where to start if you haven't, and different resources to help.

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When we have a better understanding of what to expect from life and from the world it can make things more bearable and id even say easier. One of those things we have to understand is suffering.

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In this episode Corey & Kiana speak about the transition to abstinence, how they prepared for marriage, and newlywed adjustments.

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The answer should be no...but why? Knowing the "why" behind things helps with follow through so thats what we'll be talking about today.

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