In this episode, John and Jackie dive into the exciting world of keeping relationships spicy and vibrant.

They explore how introducing new experiences, whether it's through food, activities, or even new people, can bring a fresh spark to long-term relationships.

They discuss the importance of novelty in maintaining intimacy and connection, sharing personal anecdotes and practical tips on how to keep things interesting.

From trying new restaurants to playing relationship-enhancing games, this episode is packed with ideas to help you and your partner stay connected and energized.

Join John and Jackie as they discuss how the relationship advice they give for non-monogamy helps their monogamous friends in their relationship!

Whether you're new to the lifestyle or a seasoned participant, this episode is packed with enlightening information and plenty of laughs.

Tune in and expand your swinger vocabulary with us!

John and Jackie explore the transformative power of setting boundaries in relationships from a positive perspective. Instead of focusing on what we don't want, we discuss how emphasizing what we are comfortable with can foster a more supportive and exciting partnership.

Join us as we share practical tips and personal experiences on creating positive boundaries that enhance intimacy and connection.

John and Jackie sit down in this blast from the past episode and talk about Swinging in the Lifestyle and a few questions they received regarding swinging alone.

They share about their journey navigating through the lifestyle and how they have grown as a couple.

Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)

As owners of lifestyle clubs, we hear all the common complaints from members about single guys, so we figured we make a video and share some things NOT to do as a single male at swingers clubs.

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AVOID these at all costs if you want to connect and play well with others!

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Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)

In this episode, John and Jackie tackle various aspects of navigating the swinging lifestyle based on questions from their audience.

"How do I deal with the emotional challenges in witnessing my partner's satisfaction with someone else outside group scenarios?"

Listen in for practical advice on handling attraction dilemmas, emphasizing communication and individual comfort levels in play situations.

We went to an incredible open relationship workshop in Austin, Texas called "True Sex and Wild Love" and here is recap in case you missed it! (And yes we talk about the pink thing.)

The event was hosted by Aubrey Marcus, CEO of Onnit, a company that makes and markets nutritional supplements, fitness equipment, and more in the spirit of optimizing human performance, and his fiance Whitney Miller, who is a relationship coach. (And they both happen to be in an open relationship.)

The guest speaker at their event was Dr. Wednesday Martin, author of the award-winning book "Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free".

It was incredible to hear Dr. Martin talk about the benefits of open relationships from her scientific perspective and the research about the critical time period when monogamous couples seek variety (is it the man or woman?!).

And finally of course, we talk about this mysterious pink thing.
Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)

In this episode, John and Jackie dive into a conversation about the positive impact of the lifestyle on women.

Jackie reflects on the acceptance and camaraderie among women in the lifestyle, where competition is replaced by celebration.

They explore how consensual non-monogamy can empower women, providing a platform for sexual growth, independence, and breaking free from societal constraints.

Want to have your cake and eat it too?
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Well, it takes two to tango.
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But, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.
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And, that's enough old proverbs (for now) :)
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Being in a swinging or poly relationship DOES take consent and understanding from all parties involved, but how do you do that? Well, we've got the video for you because that's the question we address today!

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Let the discussion begin!

In today's episode, John and Jackie discuss the common experience of handling rejection and dealing with canceled dates.

They explore the emotional impact of these situations, sharing personal anecdotes and insights on how to navigate the complexities of dating in both single and married life. The discussion emphasizes the importance of not jumping to conclusions, maintaining open communication, and learning from rejection experiences.

John and Jackie offer practical advice for those new to the lifestyle, encouraging a positive outlook and resilience in the face of canceled plans.

When it comes to consent, what's usually discussed is getting consent from the person with whom you would like to have a physical interaction.

What's not talked about as much is giving consent to your partner on what you're comfortable with them doing with others so that they don't cross any boundaries you may have.

The tricky part to this whole thing is doing it without being too controlling or possessive. After all, shouldn't each person have the right to their own body and actions? (You're not the boss of me!)

Let the discussion begin!

You know what they say, "The only thing constant is change."

And that includes playing with couples in our open marriage. How it started is not how it is today.

How we go about it. What we do while we're playing. The things we think about. The things we do with our partner. What's ok and what's not.

Check it out!

Join John and Jackie as they dive into the fascinating world of swinger terminology. 

Ever wondered what terms like "unicorn," "soft swap," or "airtight" mean?

Join us as we play a fun game hosted by Courtney, where we define and discuss various terms used in the lifestyle. We share our reactions, insights, and some hilarious moments along the way.

Whether you're new to the lifestyle or a seasoned participant, this episode is packed with enlightening information and plenty of laughs. 

Tune in and expand your swinger vocabulary with us!

In this episode, John and Jackie explore the concept of transforming negative experiences in the lifestyle into valuable learning opportunities. 

The conversation revolves around handling discomfort, setting boundaries, and fostering positive communication within the swinging community.

Reflecting on past experiences, Jackie shares personal insights on the significance of being an advocate for oneself. The discussion touches on the challenges of vocalizing boundaries and preferences, highlighting the evolution of communication skills over time.

Open Relationship Advice: How To Handle Fear & Jealousy

John and Jackie answer a follower submitted question in this week's episode!

In this episode, John and Jackie delve into the intricacies of friendships when one person is in an open relationship.

Courtney shares her experiences as the friend in an open relationship, facing both positive and negative reactions from friends in monogamous relationships.

The conversation explores the dynamics, challenges, and societal perceptions surrounding open-relationships within friend circles.

Today we talk about threesomes because they are amazing! What guy (and even lots of gals) doesn't fantasize about a threesome experience?! In fact, it's one of the most popular ways to break into the lifestyle and we'll tell you why in our video!

In this episode, John and Jackie respond to a viewer's question about reconciling religious beliefs with an open relationship.

John and Jackie share their personal journeys of questioning and deconstructing religious beliefs as they explored open relationships

John and Jackie encourage you to embrace your authentic self, challenge societal norms, and recognize the strength in holding strong, shared values within your relationships.

In this episode, we answer one of your questions posted in the YouTube comments in one of our videos:

​What about the folks you're dating? Do they know about your relationship and how do they fit in? And if there are issues, why did you continue and why not just stop?


A very good series of questions, I might add!

In this episode, John and Jackie discuss the complexities of dealing with uncomfortable boundaries in open relationships.

The episode explores various approaches to handling discomfort when partners want to explore activities that may challenge established boundaries.

They touch on options such as refraining from the activity, finding ways to ease discomfort, and introducing play partners to fulfill certain desires.

They emphasize the importance of communication, honesty, and self-reflection in navigating these sensitive situations

#116 So what happens when your partner is honest (which of course you want them to be) and they share something with you...

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And that honest something makes you sad, makes you angry, makes you scared, or worse.

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What do you do now with that?

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That's what we talk about today!

#112 A couple asked us the other day if it's bad to fantasize about someone else while being intimate with your partner.

Is that wrong?

Is it cheating?

Is it bad?

Let's dive into this rabbit hole of fantasy talk and where it could go!

In today's episode,  John and Jackie explore the topic of being role models in the lifestyle.

Jackie shares her personal journey into non-monogamy, emphasizing the importance ofexploring sexuality with love and breaking free from societal stigmas.

They discuss how beingopen about their experiences has allowed them to become advocates for the lifestyle,encouraging others to prioritize their relationships and embrace new adventures.

Join John and Jackie in this blast from the past episode as they discuss what to do when you have a bad experience inside a lifestyle club or swinger party!

If you have ever had a bad experience, you are not alone! Through out the years, many of our followers have reached out with their own stories and asking for advice when the night does not go as planned. So be sure to listen or watch this episode and see what you can do if you find yourself in a similar situation!

Today, John and Jackie discuss red flags to keep in mind when you are looking to meet people in the lifestyle!

From being too direct out the gate to ignoring their boundaries, there are many red flags to look out for when talking to someone.

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The other day we did some coaching for a couple who wanted some help with their open relationship.

They had finally found a third person who was interesting and attractive to both of them and they wanted this person to be part of their throuple.

The couple was both excited about it, but as time went on, the woman in the relationship became more encompassed in her fear, which then of course triggered some of her partner's fears (based on past relationships).

So at this point, he wants the third person on board, but she doesn't.

In today’s episode, John and Jackie explore the reasons why non-monogamous relationships may fail.

Listen in as they discus the crucial aspects of communication, consideration of partner’s feelings, managing expectations, and the significance of respecting boundaries.

They also share personal insights and experiences, emphasizing the importance of open and honest discussions in navigating the challenges of consensually non-monogamous relationships.

#111 Ok so you're interested in this consensual non-monogamy thing, but how do you tell your partner about it?

How do you approach the topic and introduce them to CNM without freaking them out?!

Watch this video (perhaps together) and discover how!

#110 We had a comment/question from a couple in an open relationship where the wife is having a much easier time finding play partners than the husband, which led him to ask the question:

How do I find more play partners?

Let's jump in and discuss that!

#109 When people think Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM), many of them think about the exciting and juicy non-monogamy part where you get to have sex with multiple partners. Lots of it. A lot of the time.

​But is that true?

​Is that what CNM is all about?

​Let's explore and discuss that today!

#108 We talk about what to do if someone in a couple is having trouble staying hard during a swinger encounter and address common misconceptions about swingers always having perfect sex.

Since staying hard can be challenging for some men, we discuss ways we can take pressure off our male partners and how sex isn't just all about penetration.

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#107 How the heck can I watch my partner with someone else and be ok with it?

This is a very common question for those who are getting into the lifestyle and haven't tried it before. And for some people who do try it, they have negative feelings and wonder how that can dissipate and transform into compersion for their partner.

​We talk about all that and more in this video!

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#106 We talk a lot about the deep emotional side of swinging - jealousy, fear, etc., so today we'd go the opposite direction and talk about the fun and lighter side of swinging and being in an open relationship.

#104 In part 1 of our discussion on boundaries, we talked about the importance and nuances of creating them.

 In this part 2, we're going to talk about the transition into re-establishing boundaries.

This is where a month or two and some playdates have gone by and now it's time to look back at what worked and what didn't work, how do we make our box bigger, smaller, or different, and what really to do next now that you've come this far.

John and Jackie dive into the important topic of body image within the lifestyle community. 

They share insights on how everyone, regardless of their appearance, can find a place and feel accepted in lifestyle clubs, parties, and events. John and Jackie discuss common concerns from those new to the lifestyle, emphasizing that attraction is diverse and subjective.

They highlight the inclusivity and acceptance found in lifestyle spaces, contrasting it with the often judgmental atmosphere of mainstream nightclubs. This episode is a must-listen for anyone feeling apprehensive about their appearance and considering joining the lifestyle community.

#103 In this episode of "Ask John and Jackie" they will engage with questions from their audience, providing valuable insights and advice on topics related to the swinger lifestyle. 

They cover a range of questions, from entering the lifestyle as a single individual to the importance of discussing and revisiting boundaries within a relationship. "

There's no rigid rule in a swinger club that says you have to do something. You can do whatever you want to do." Jackie

#102 What's the big deal about boundaries one might say? Well, it could lead to a disaster in the start of your open relationship before it even begins.

#101 In this episode, John and Jackie share their personal experiences in the swinger lifestyle, discussing both the positive and challenging aspects. 

They talk about how they got started in the lifestyle, navigating open relationships, and the growth of their own relationship over the years.

"Being invested in a long-term relationship doesn't preclude having an open exciting dynamic." John

#100 Whatever spectrum of the lifestyle you're playing at, let's say everything is sailing smoothly...until...

You hit those rough waters.

Maybe it's a playdate that went wrong.

Maybe it's taking a step too far past a boundary.

Maybe it's a nasty emotion that rears its ugly head that you weren't prepared for.

So what do you do now?

Watch this video so that you know what to do when the time comes (because it will).

#99 In this episode John and Jackie explore the exciting world of hotel takeovers within the swinger lifestyle. 

They discuss the preparation, expectations, and experiences that come with attending these unique events.

From themed parties to meeting new people, they share their insights to ensure listeners make the most of their hotel takeover experiences.

#98 Is it true that men don't get emotionally attached after sex?

Which means they're better at open relationships than women?

Interesting questions/claims posed by one of our Podcast listeners that we will be discussing!

#97 In todays episode John and Jackie discuss the complexities of navigating boundaries in open relationships,particularly when it comes to overnight stays with other partners. They share their personal experiences and offer valuable insights into building trust, open communication, and respecting individual comfort levels within the swinging lifestyle.

The lifestyle can be quite the rollercoaster ride. One day on your elated on cloud nine and really excited about getting into the lifestyle. The next day you have anxiety about whether this was the right/proper thing to do.

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(I'm sure my religious upbringing had something to do with it.)

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So how do I explore my sexuality now?

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Today we talk about this topic and what to do.

#95 Today we answer a doozy of a question in our video. It's a great question actually that we've certainly gone through and you may too. Here's the situation:

My wife and I have been married for some time and we recently opened our relationship. I was the one who brought her into this and of course I'm the one who is overcome with jealousy.

And it's not the sex part. Seeing her physically with another man doesn't bother me.

It's the emotional part that bothers me. I find myself overcome with jealousy when she goes on a date and is gone for so long - all day and night. I sit at home and want her to come back soon, while my mind runs all over the place thinking that she'll fall in love with him, she's spending more time with him and not enough with me, I don't feel loved when she spends the night with him...

I'm not sure how to deal with it at this point. I want to be happy for her and continue in the lifestyle, but it pains her to see me in pain when she's about to leave on her date.

Is it my self-esteem? How can I be more comfortable with her going on a date without me sitting her crying and whining and not enjoy my own night?

I want everything to work out, but my feelings keep getting in the way. Got any advice? Help!!!

#94 In this episode, John and Jackie address common misconceptions about consensually non-monogamous relationships. 

They explore the misunderstanding that such relationships are solely about sex, debunking this notion and emphasizing that they encompass much more than physical intimacy.

John and Jackie also discuss the stereotype that people in the lifestyle have exceptionally high sex drives.

​Can swinging be a solution to marriage issues? Today we talk about a married couple who are having some challenges in their relationship and decided to try something different to see if it could help.

The husband suggested they open up their relationship and see other people, which is something completely new and different for them. But what about the fears and concerns that come from that as they explore this new option?

Things like insecurity, managing communication, and the importance of focusing on the positives and not just the negatives.

Let's dive deeper into this couple's situation and talk about it!

#93 Question from a viewer for today: 

We're thinking about going to a lifestyle club. What am I going to expect? My nervousness and fear is that people are going to push me to do things we're not ready yet.

#92 In this episode, John and Jackie dive into the exciting world of threesomes, offering guidance on how to introduce the idea to your partner and ensure that everyone has an amazing experience. 

They share their own experiences and offer insights on building trust, communication, and making the transition from fantasy to reality.

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So you've proudly mustered up the courage to go to a club or party for the first, started a conversation with a random stranger/couple, and you and your partner are interested in playing. Now what? We've had a couple of guest speakers at our webinars talk about this subject and now it's our turn! :)

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The pineapple is a commonly recognized symbolism for swingers, but are there more "signs" out there we're not aware of?

What about garden gnomes or flamingos? Red ball caps or loofahs?

We share our insight on which signs are legitimate, and which signs may just be misconceptions.

You won't want to miss today's episode!