The No Contact Club: Healing From A Narcissistic Mother – Détails, épisodes et analyse

This week Porsha and Chloe bring you the first in a series of episodes focused on going no contact. They chat about how they went no contact and what it means to cut all contact with someone. Support links are below. 

NEW ZEALAND:

Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.

Lifeline – 0800 543 354 (0800 LIFELINE) or free text 4357 (HELP).

Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO).

Healthline – 0800 611 116

Youthline – 0800 376 633

AUSTRALIA.

USA.

UK: Click here or here for UK based helplines and services.

CANADA.

WORLDWIDE.

NEW ZEALAND:

Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.

Lifeline – 0800 543 354 (0800 LIFELINE) or free text 4357 (HELP).

Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO).

Healthline – 0800 611 116

Youthline – 0800 376 633

AUSTRALIA.

USA.

UK: Click here or here for UK based helplines and services.

CANADA.

WORLDWIDE.

This week Chloe and Porsha keep it lowkey and discuss 2020 - the rollercoaster that it has been, the lows, the highs, and the cats. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.  Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/  NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)  AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.  USA:   Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word  UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300  CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

This week Porsha and Chloe discuss tips for the approaching holiday season, whatever - you celebrate don't celebrate! They talk about options for those still in contact, and those who are no contact. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below. Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202) AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre. USA:   Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ References: https://esteemology.com/give-yourself-a-gift-this-holiday-season-a-lesson-in-no-contact/ https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=123773 https://londoncentralcounselling.com/2017/12/05/going-no-contact-family-estrangement-at-christmas-and-other-major-holidays/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/pathological-relationships/201011/triggers-and-knee-jerk-reactions-during-the-holidays https://www.soulfulfillinglove.com/how-to-follow-the-active-no-contact-rule-during-holidays/ https://www.divorcemag.com/articles/why-do-narcissists-always-ruin-the-holidays-here-are-5-reasons https://www.health.com/relationships/how-to-deal-narcissist https://soulgps.medium.com/5-strategies-to-save-your-sanity-when-narcissists-try-to-sabotage-your-holidays-3d7d7dc7af27 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201911/how-deal-gaslighter-or-narcissist-during-the-holidays

This week, Porsha and Chloe are joined by Ellen to discuss what it's like to come into a family with a narcissistic mother at the helm. They talk about normalising what shouldn't be normalised, and Ellen discusses her experiences coming into the family with Chloe and Porsha's narcissistic mother. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.  

Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/    

NEW ZEALAND: 
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)    

AUSTRALIA: 
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.    

USA:  
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word    

UK: 
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300    

CANADA: 
For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/  

References: 

• https://www.insider.com/signs-of-narcissistic-toxic-parents-in-law-2019-9
  
• https://www.image.ie/life/everyone-thinks-narcissistic-mother-law-amazing-feel-alone-183158
  
• https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman/2017/12/how-to-survive-a-narcissistic-mother-in-law/
  

This week on the podcast, Chloe and Porsha discuss the idea of not believing what you experienced was abuse. They talk about the normalisation of abuse and hesitation to label it as such. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.  Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/   NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)   AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.   USA:   Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word   UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300   CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ References:

This week Chloe and Porsha discuss therapy: what to look for in a therapist, where to look for one, and what the journey was like for them. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.  Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/  NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)  AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.  USA:  Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word  UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300  CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ References:

This week, Chloe and Porsha answer a few emails from listeners before having a discussion about triggers. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below. Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202) AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre. USA:  Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ References: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trauma_trigger https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK207191/ https://www.verywellmind.com/ptsd-triggers-and-coping-strategies-2797557 https://www.bridgestorecovery.com/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/complex-ptsd-symptoms-behavior-and-treatment/

This week, Chloe and Porsha are discussing codependency. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.

Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/    

NEW ZEALAND: 
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)    

AUSTRALIA: 
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.    

USA: 
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word    

UK: 
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300    

CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

References:

• https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/toxic-relationships/201907/narcissists-are-codependent-too#:~:text=Codependency%20is%20a%20disorder%20of,identified%20with%20their%20ideal%20self.
  
• https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/toxic-relationships/201902/escaping-the-codependent-narcissist-trap
  
• https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/codependency-narcissism-may-have-more-in-common-than-you-think-0807187
  
• https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-dance-between-codependents-narcissists/
  
• https://www.whatiscodependency.com/narcissistic-relationships-with-narcissists/
  
• https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/the-relationship-between-narcissism-and-codependency/
  
• https://go.gale.com/ps/anonymous?id=GALE%7CA539922311&sid=googleScholar&v=2.1&it=r&linkaccess=abs&issn=15205495&p=AONE&sw=w
  
• Codependence, Narcissism, and Childhood Trauma by Harvey J. Irwin of the University of New England, Australia (accessed through the Open Polytechnic library).
  

This week, Porsha and Chloe answer a listeners question on how to feel strong after going no contact with a narcissistic mother. They discuss coping mechanisms and ways to look after yourself. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below. Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/    NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)    AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.    USA:  Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word    UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300    CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/