In this candid and often humorous episode, Lori and David pull back the curtain on their personal lives, sharing the challenges and surprises that come with caring for aging parents, navigating wills and inheritance in blended families, and keeping family drama at bay during important occasions.

Listeners will hear firsthand stories about planning for final arrangements. Complete with amusing tales of funeral shopping and "drive-thru" ideas. Plus, what it truly feels like to manage adult responsibilities amid the ticking clock of family health issues. Lori and David also discuss crucial estate-planning differences for stepfamilies versus nuclear families and share insights into handling complex inheritance scenarios fairly.

You'll learn:

• Why legal planning is especially important in blended families

• How to open difficult conversations about wills, power of attorney, and inheritance

• Ways to "nacho" family drama (and why you should!)

• Real-life examples of guilt, responsibility, and the art of letting go

Episode #336 – Subscribe, leave a review, and share with someone who needs encouragement through their own family journeys!

Nacho Academy Testimonial:

"I had no idea how hard this stepfamily crap would be. We needed help and weren't afraid to admit it. David & Lori really put things into perspective and gave us hope again! Three years later, we are still Nachoing and it's great! Couldn't have done it without them!" ~ J.U., Denver, CO, USA

Struggling to understand why your partner "guilty parents", or noticing it in yourself? This episode dives deep into what "Guilty Parent Syndrome" (GPS) is, why it's so common in blended families, and how partners can navigate it with empathy and confidence.

In Episode #326 of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David get real about guilty parent syndrome: when guilt affects how parents discipline or interact with their kids, often leading to inconsistent boundaries, indulgence, or fear of "losing" time or connection.

Lori and David share their personal experiences of "parenting through guilt," offer practical scenarios from stepfamily life (like inconsistent discipline or "guilty gift-giving"), and explain why this isn't just a stepfamily phenomenon. They break down why GPS can hit bio-parents so hard and why stepparents, especially those without children, may have trouble truly "getting it." You'll learn why empathy, communication, and realistic expectations are essential for healthier co-parenting and happier homes.

Want to go deeper? Check out Nacho Kids resources, join the Nacho Kids Academy, or connect on social media.

In this episode, Lori and David Sims, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk to Jeanette Soltys a divorce and custody attorney, and also a stepmom! The hardest part of her blend is dealing with what the kids say to their other bio parent and assumptions being made about their home. She works to help couples have a more amicable and less costly divorce and custody agreement. 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Being a stepmom and a Divorce and custody attorney

• Co-parenting relationships

• Differences in parenting

• Family court systems shortcomings

• Needing your own space as a stepparent

• Joint family rules for the blend

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"As a relationship therapist, I had to check out this Nacho thing my clients kept mentioning. I read the stuff online on the website and the Facebook pages and the Facebook group. I decided to be fair about my assessment, so I joined the Academy. I can't tell you how much I learned in the Academy! As a relationship therapist I don't know everything and appreciate this resource for me to help my clients." ~ G.W.

In this episode, Lori and David Sims, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interview Kari Kling. Kari grew up in blended families and shares her story about the differences she experienced in her blends. 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Having divorced parents when it wasn't the norm

• Learning to have a stable committed relationship after having divorced parents

• Not all blends are the same for the stepkid

• It's not always fair between bio and stepkids

• Stepkids feel they have no say

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I was miserable and thinking of leaving my wife. I was tired of fighting about the kids. We found the Nacho Method and joined the Academy three months ago, and our lives are so much better! Thank you Nacho!" ~ R.M.

*** DISCLAIMER: Mention of sexual abuse

In this episode, Lori Sims, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews stepmom Terra. Terra has been blending for 10 years, has two stepkids and no biological kids. Although she considers her stepkids her kids, she still uses the Nacho Kids method. Stepparenting isn't easy, as we know, and Terra also had to fight breast cancer!

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Dealing with a bi-polar bio mom

• Having breast cancer while blending

• Importance of having your own space

• Considering the stepkids your own

• Stepkids calling you mom

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I was suicidal when I came across the Nacho Kids stuff. I am not kidding when I tell you it saved my life." ~ C.H

In this episode, Lori Sims, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks with Alison O'Mahony of Be Step Wise about expectations. We have expectations every day from almost everyone we encounter. Why do we have these expectations? What expectations should we have in the blend? Are these expectations realistic?

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Feeling different towards kids

• Can't love people on demand

• Expectations = Disappointment

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"My life will forever be better because of Lori and David's Nacho Academy!" ~ T.P.

In this episode, Lori Sims, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews a stepmom from Pennsylvania. This stepmom has been blending for five years, has four bio kids ages nineteen to thirty, and has four stepkids ages twelve to twenty three. Her kids' bio dad is not in the picture, and her stepkids' bio mom is two-faced.

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Being ignored by the stepkid

• Coming to terms you'll always be an outsider as the stepmom

• Parental Alienation

• Expectations

• Boundaries

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"When a licensed therapist with 30+ years experience refers you to the Nacho Academy, it just goes to show you how good this Nacho thing is! It's a game changer!" ~ J.F.

In this episode, Lori Sims, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews Jason Kreidman with Dad University. Jason struggled with the transition from being single to a married dad with kids. He found himself overwhelmed and stressed out with the increase in responsibilities and demands. He was taking his stress out on his young children and recognized that he needed to change the way he was doing things in order to be a successful father. 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Being a recovering yeller

• Taking responsibility for self

• Empathy

• Parenting out of guilt

• Expectations

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"My attorney recommended the Nacho Academy to me. It completely changed how I interacted with my ex and saved me a ton of money in attorney's fees! Thank you Nacho creators!" ~ R. M.

In this episode, Lori Sims, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews Dr. Tracy Dalgleish.

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Boundaries

• Negative relationship cycles

• Expectations vs reality

• Wise mind vs reactive mind

• 4 C's - Curiosity, Compassion, Connection, and Collaboration

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"The Nacho Kids Academy changed my life! " ~ E.P.

In this episode, Lori Sims, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks to stepmom Kim. Kim has been blending for nine years, has two bio kids, three stepkids, and one ours kid. The stepkids are with her and her husband full-time. The first few years of the blend, the kids got along great! Things got difficult. Kim's bio daughter clashed with Kim's husband. Things got so bad, her daughter decided to go live with her bio dad. 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Having the stepkids full-time
• When your bio kid and partner clash
• Playing tit for tat
• When your bio kid decides to live with their other parent
• What her parents said versus what she heard

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"When I became part of the Nacho Academy, it wasn't out by choice. My wife would play the courses aloud so I couldn't help but hear them. I tell you what, I've never heard anyone in my life make more sense about why stepfamilies struggle so much. I started looking forward to hearing the courses. One day, it t clicked with me and my wife why we were struggling so much! We hadn't grieved our "nuclear dreams" as Lori calls them. With guidance from Lori & Dave, we grieved those nuclear dreams and set realistic blended family dreams, which are none. Lori always says, you need to let go of those blended family expectations, they are only causing you disappointment. We can't recommend the Academy enough! It really is life changing!" ~ B.C.

DISCLAIMER:  Mention of abuse and suicide in this episode.

In this episode, Lori Sims, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, welcomes a previous stepmom back to share her story of being a stepkid versus being a stepmom. Stepmom had a lot of resentment towards her dad for not being a part of her life. She would visit her dad in the summer, until she chose to go live with him and her stepmom. She expected her blend as a stepmom to be like the blend she grew up in. And it was not. 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Being a stepkid

• Seeing bio dad in summer to living with bio dad

• Blended expectations

• Stepmom given the parental authority

• The power of words

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"Being a therapist, I thought I would know how to "blend" and make our family be like a nuclear family. I had no clue! I joined the Nacho Kids Academy and was able to get the help I truly needed. There is no shame in therapists needing help too!" ~ A.B.

In this episode, Lori Sims, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks to a stepmom who has been blending for ten years, has three stepkids, three bio kids, and one ours kid. She did not go in expecting to be the stepkids mom. Nor did she expect bio mom would be a stalker! The preacher at the church they all attended even told Bio Mom she couldn't sit behind her ex, stepmom, and the kids. Like many stepmoms, she wishes she would have found Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting sooner.

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Importance of incorporating similar rules in homes prior to blending

• Putting your own kids on the back burner

• Bio mom leaves

• Bio mom returns

• About to split up because of the kids

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"My life sucked. Blending sucked. I was miserable. A guy at work told me about this Nacho thing. I joined their school because the Facebook group was not teaching me anything. Within two weeks, I was singing the Nacho praises. If you are on the fence, do it! My life doesn't suck anymore." K.B.

Discover what happens when a blended family actually flourishes. Yes, it's possible! In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with a remarkable teenage stepkid who shares his rare, positive perspective on navigating life with divorced parents, stepfamilies, and even step-siblings.

Listeners will get an inside look at what healthy co-parenting looks like through the eyes of an easygoing stepkid who has strong, drama-free relationships with his stepmom and stepdad. You'll hear firsthand accounts of adapting to living in two homes, forming real bonds with step-siblings, and what happens when boundaries and respect are mutual between parents and step-parents. He opens up about the hardest parts of his parents' divorce, how therapy helped, and why he recognizes his stepparents on Mother's and Father's Day (yes, really!).

This episode reveals not only practical tips for parents and stepparents, like the importance of strong communication, setting boundaries, and letting kids emotionally process big changes, but also offers hope that peaceful blended families do exist. Plus, you'll hear touching anecdotes about handling holidays, family traditions, and even what to do if your parents get along so well their new partners become friends!

What you'll learn:

• What helps stepkids develop strong bonds with stepparents

• How living arrangements impact stepkid/stepparent dynamics

• The importance of boundaries, communication, and therapy after divorce

• Handling holidays and traditions in blended families

• Real stories of stepkid/stepfamily relationships that actually work

Links:

• Check out our website and blogs: nachokids.com

• Follow Nacho Kids on Facebook: Nacho Kids Facebook

• Join the Nacho Kids Academy: Nacho Kids Academy

Listen to NKP325 for an inspiring dose of hope, and a reminder that peace and love are possible in stepfamilies. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review to support more real-life blended family stories!

Nacho Kids Testimony:

Coaching with Lori pulled us back from the edge of divorce. ~ J.F., Chicago, IL USA

In this episode, Lori Sims, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews a stepmom who has been blending for three years, has three bio kids 50/50, and two stepkids 50/50. Struggling with differences in parenting, she looked for information and found the Nacho Kids podcast. Something that was said in that podcast clicked! That's when her Nacho journey began! And now she and her husband Nacho each other's kids! 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Differences in parenting

• Nachoing each other's kids

• Feeling second 

• Negative thinking

• Co-parenting dreams versus reality

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I felt as if I had made the biggest mistake of my life after I married my husband. Things changed in our home, and not for the better. It didn't make sense. I read about Nacho Parenting a few months before in the Atlantic and decided it couldn't hurt to join their Academy. At their recommendation, I started the Nacho Kids Bootcamp and was truly shocked when I immediately saw positive changes in our home! My husband was shocked! I kept doing the work and I got so much out of the bootcamp, I decided to stay a member for at least another month. I enjoy the anonymous community and I want to take their Change Your Stinking Thinking Challenge. I just love that name! ~ J.S.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews a stepmom who has been blending for four years, has one stepdaughter 50/50, and is struggling with fertility issues. Despite the relationship with bio mom not being as smooth as before stepmom moved in, stepmom is very involved with stepdaughter and said she considers her as her own daughter. 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Infertility as a stepmom

• When your partner wants you to co-parent the stepkid

• Feeling like a nuclear family when you are in a blend

• When bio mom lies about your partner

• Moving into the home your partner shared with their ex

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I don't normally leave reviews but felt I had to leave one for the Nacho Parenting Academy. I had just met a guy that had kids and really liked him when I heard about the Nacho Parenting stuff and found it very interesting. When our relationship got more serious, I asked him to join the Academy with me so we could educate ourselves more on the method and other methods prior to physically moving in together. He agreed. After watching several of the courses, we both looked at each other and said, "This is genius!". Needless to say, things have progressed in our relationship and we are planning to get married, and we both agree that once we get married, my role will not change. I will continue to be supportive of my partner, but I won't parent his kid. Thank you Nacho for giving us a great start to our blend!" ~ E.H.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews a stepmom from California! Being a stepkid herself, she thought her blend with her husband would be like the one she had as a stepkid. Of course, this blend was nothing like the one she knew. Her partner and his ex had a casual schedule regarding visitations and stepmom thought it should be more defined visitation and pushed her partner to get more time with his kids. This is something she regrets. 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Stepkid turned stepmom

• Partner feeling in the middle of step and other bio parent

• Coming in as super stepmom

• Food issues

• Some relationships are strained from the beginning

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I had decided to leave my husband. I heard a friend mention the Nacho Kids podcast. I chose an episode at random to listen to. In that episode, the host said, "If you leave this blend, the likelihood of ending up in another blend is very high. Unless you work on the issues in your current blend, you're going to have the same struggles in the next blend." This hit me like a ton of bricks! I loved my husband, I was just tired from the blended stress. After hearing this and thinking a lot about it, I decided to work on our marriage! Thank you to the Nacho Kids podcast for reminding me my marriage was worth fighting for!" ~ C.S.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews a stepmom from Idaho. She has two stepkids, with two different bio moms, and one child of her own. To add to the stress of blending, three months before this stepmom and her partner married, he had an affair with one of his kid's bio moms. Stepmom chose to forgive him and work on healing from the affair. When stepmom became depressed from the blended stress, she started researching and found the Nacho Kids Academy! 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Healing after an affair

• Things changed after marriage

• Complaining about the stepkids

• Fighting amongst the bio and stepkids

• The art of re-engaging

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"When my husband and I got married, we thought we would be one big happy family like the Brady Bunch. We tried our best to nourish the relationships in the blend between the stepparents and kids and between the kids. Nothing worked. It was horrible. Thankfully, I heard of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting and joined their Academy. I cannot tell you how much the Academy helped us! We might not be like the Brady Bunch, but we finally have a blend everyone is happy in! If you are struggling in your blend, do not hesitate to join the Nacho Academy! You won't regret it." ~ R.N.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews stepmom Jenn. Jenn has been blending for 5 years, has three stepkids, and two "ours" kids. Like many stepmoms, Jenn came in gung ho ready to win stepmom of the year! As with every blend, the relationships have changed in her blend over time. 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Adding an "ours" kid to the blend

• Learning from Nacho

• Letting go of the nuclear family dreams

• Ebbs and flows of relationships in the blend

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I'm a marriage counselor who is in a blended family. I found out about Nacho and decided to look further into it. I was amazed at what all is taught in the Nacho Kids Academy! There are so many tools to help you with your blend and in other areas of your life! I'm definitely referring the Academy to some of my clients and friends! One of them will be my wife!" ~ J.Q.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews stepmom Ashley. Ashley has been blending for five years, has two stepkids and two ours kids.  Ashley was also a stepkid herself, and considers her stepdad her dad. 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Different parenting styles

• Stepparent is with the kids more than the bio parent

• Your partner is still close with their ex 

• Stepparent dealing with the ex more than their partner does

• Trying to be fair between the kids

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I truly hated my life before I found Nacho. I was depressed, anxious and felt completely alone. By joining the Nacho Academy, I met people just like me! I was not alone! Not only was I not alone, but I now had friends with a common goal of learning to Nacho and better our blends! It has been awesome seeing all of us grow together and find happiness in the blend." ~ A.N.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews stepmom Alison with Be Stepwise. Alison, who was a stepkid herself, has been blending for 28 years, has two stepkids and two bio kids. Her stepkids' mom was deceased and their grandmother took on a mothering role. Alison's mother also passed away, so Alison felt she could relate to her stepkids' loss of their mother.

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• When the grandmother takes over the mothering role

• Stepparents finding fault with stepkids

• Kids still grieving when parent re-partners

• Stepparents should not assume their role as a parent

• Personal growth as a stepmom

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"Because of Nacho Parenting, I was able to come off my depression medicine! I never thought I'd be able to do that! Even my doctor is impressed with the results of Nacho Parenting. After seeing the change it made in me, she said she's going to refer patients to the Nacho Academy!" H.H.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews bio dad Eric. Eric was alienated from his kids by his ex. Thankfully, the family court system recognized the alienation and ruled in Eric's favor. But unfortunately, there was no support for him to rebuild those relationships after being alienated and therapy seemed to make things worse. 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Dealing with parental alienation

• The family court system and parental alienation

• Partner needing to Nacho

• Therapy can make things worse

• The effects of parental alienation

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I was to the point I hated my stepkids. I never said it out loud, but my husband knew. A coworker mentioned Nacho Parenting to me when she saw how miserable I was after getting the stepkids. I figured it couldn't hurt to look into it. Thank goodness I did! It has changed my life! Thank you Nacho for saving us!" F.W.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews Monica Chaney of The Worthy Stepmom. Monica is childfree by choice, has been blending for eleven years, and has three stepkids. Recently Monica gained a stepmother herself when her dad, who is 81 years young, got remarried! 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Being a childfree stepmom

• Becoming a stepkid as an adult

• Different kinds of love

• Being second wife

• Taking things personally

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"This step family journey is not for the weak. We have been struggling for so long and we were tired. We decided to check out this Nacho Parenting thing we heard about on Headline News when Lori and David were guests. We cannot believe the change Nachoing has had on our step family in just a few weeks! We are so glad we decided to join the Nacho Academy instead of continuing to live in a state of unhappiness and stress." L.Q.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews Christine Miles, author of "What Is It Costing You To Not Listen?". One of the biggest struggles couples have, in nuclear and blended families, is communication. Listening plays an integral part of communicating, and unfortunately not many have been taught how to listen.  

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In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Enemies of listening

• Compass questions

• Flashlight tool

• Knowing where you are in the story

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I wish I could hug Lori and David's necks! They never gave up on me, even when I wanted to give up on myself. They told me some hard truths that I had been denying for years. Accepting these truths put me on the path to healing and learning to Nacho!" A.H.

Laugh your way through the ups and downs of blended family life in Episode 324 of the Nacho Kids Podcast! Hosts David and Lori bring their signature humor and honesty to a fresh discussion about the realities of stepfamily dynamics—proving it's always a hot mess, but never without a laugh.

In this episode, you'll:

• Get a behind-the-scenes glimpse into David and Lori's relationship as they share candid moments and jokes about married life in a blended family.

• Hear how they transform challenging topics—like issues around stepkids and "family sucking otherwise"—into opportunities for connection and laughter.

• Feel validated if you've ever struggled with tough family topics, as the hosts keep things real while still making space for joy and fun.

Although there's no featured guest in this episode, David and Lori's chemistry and honest banter will make you feel like you're sitting at the kitchen table with old friends. This episode is perfect for anyone navigating the stepparent journey or looking for a little comic relief in the midst of family chaos.

Don't forget to subscribe, share your favorite moment, and leave us a review so we can keep spreading the laughter!

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In this episode of Nacho Kids, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews stepmom Jane. Jane has been blending for over seven years, has one stepdaughter, and two ours kids.  Jane's stepdaughter's bio mom was diagnosed with cancer and didn't make it, unfortunately. However, something amazing happened while bio mom was ill.  

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Things change when stepmom gets pregnant

• Bio mom gets cancer

• Bio mom passed away

• Stepmom steps up for bio mom

• Feeling unsafe around your stepkid

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"When I first heard of Nacho Parents, I thought it was crazy. It was the opposite of everything we had heard about stepfamilies. We got to the point a few years later when we were not doing well. In fact, we were talking about living separately. I heard Lori say on her podcast that living separately doesn't fix things and you will have stepfamily challenges even after the kids move out. So I talked to my wife and she agreed to give it a try. Six months later and we are happier than we have ever been!" J.D.

In this episode of Nacho Kids, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews David Shubert. David has experienced parental alienation and decided to write a book titled "Parental Alienation Is Abuse" to share his story with others. It is heartbreaking to hear what he, as an alienated parent, has gone through. 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Wife took his kids out of the country and didn't come back

• The family court system/contempt

• The White House said they would help

• Drinking to dull the pain

• Brief reunification 

• Check out David's YouTube channel

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I wish I would have found the Nacho Academy sooner. It has made a tremendous improvement in our blend! If you are on the fence about joining the Academy, do it now, you won't regret it!"  K.F.

In this episode of Nacho Kids, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews stepmom Michelle who was a stepkid herself. Being a child of three divorces, she feels she can be an ally instead of an enemy to her stepkids. Blending for eight years, she has three stepkids and no bio kids. Straight out of the gate she realized this was different from the blends she grew up in because she never treated her stepmoms the way stepdaughter was treating her.

** Disclaimer: Mention of suicidal thoughts. **

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Begin misunderstood in your role as a stepparent.

• Being treated with disdain and disrespect

• They are Nacho Kids

• Don't take it personally

• Relationships can change like the wind

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"Six months ago I was in tears. Today, I am also in tears but for a different reason. Today's tears are tears of happiness. My blend is blending and happy! I can't believe it! Working with David and Lori was the best thing we could have ever done. It was immediately obvious David and Lori truly cared about helping blended families and wanted us to succeed as much as we wanted to succeed. They helped us through some rough waters and if it wasn't for them, I would have jumped ship after hiding all the life buoys!"

In this episode of Nacho Kids, Lori Sims interviews a stepmom who is going through IVF. Blending for over three years, having been married a year and a half, this stepmom has a five-year-old stepdaughter whose husband has full custody. 

*** Disclaimer: Mention of alcoholism in this podcast episode ***

In this episode, we discuss the following:

• Childless full-time stepmom going through IVF

• High-conflict bio mom with addiction issues

• Having supportive in-laws

• Guardian Ad Litems

• Adding an "ours" baby

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"My husband wouldn't stop parenting my kid. I hated it. He was constantly on my kid about performing chores. Which would be fine; however, he never told his kid to do anything. He'd take away my son's electronics as punishment for my son not being ready to walk out the door the minute he was supposed to in the mornings. If it was his daughter running late, it was no issue. I couldn't take it any longer. I had already started looking at housing options for my son and me. After looking into this Nacho stuff after hearing a podcast, I realized this might could help us. I told my husband, "I can't take the stress anymore and need you to please try this for 30 days for the sake of our marriage." A week later, he agreed. 30 days later, and we are better than we have ever been. It has not been perfectly smooth sailing, but the improvement is astonishing! We even decided to stay longer in the Academy to take another one of the challenges! Nacho Parenting  saved our marriage!" E.H.

In this episode of Nacho Kids, Lori, co-founder of Nacho, interviews a stepmom who is a Christian counselor. She has two adult stepkids and two bio kids. She met the stepkids when they were 20 & 22 years old. Her relationship with the stepkids changed after the bio mom passed away. 

In this episode, we discuss:

• Not forcing relationships

• Adult stepkids 

• When a bio parent passes away

• Walking away from toxicity

• Being blocked/unfriended on Facebook

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I debated joining the Nacho Kids Academy for several months. Honestly, I didn't want to pay for it. Then I realized a divorce would cost me a lot more and I didn't want our "ours" kid growing up in a split home. I started with the Nacho Kids Boot Camp. It was not easy, but I stuck with it. I was determined to work on our blend for 30 days then I'd reassess things. Within the first two weeks, my partner noticed positive changes with me and with their kids! We were in awe of how quickly we saw results when I started Nachoing properly! I chose to stay in the Academy to do the other challenges and to continue to have the support of the community!  Thank you, Lori and David, for helping stepfamilies and teaching them the tools to better their blend!" ~ J.Q.

** DISCLAIMER ** This episode contains mention of suicide and abortion. 

On this episode of Nacho Kids, Lori interviews a guest who shares their experience with the challenges of blended families. From managing schedules and family dynamics, to personal struggles with mental health, the guest provides valuable insights and advice for navigating difficult situations. Tune in to hear how they've learned to let go of control in certain areas and prioritize their own well-being while still being a supportive member of their blended family.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Mental health in the blend

• Camp Counselor mode

• Letting the bio parent cook and care for their kids

• Boundaries

• Being a stepkid then a stepmom

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

Before discovering the Nacho Kids Academy, our stepfamily was facing numerous challenges that seemed insurmountable. The constant conflicts, misunderstandings, and lack of harmony were tearing us apart, leaving us feeling overwhelmed and hopeless. It felt like we were trapped in a never-ending cycle of frustration and resentment.

But then, like a ray of hope, we stumbled upon the Nacho Kids website and saw the link to the Academy and everything changed. From the very first moment, we knew we had found a lifeline that would help us navigate the complexities of our stepfamily dynamics. The guidance, resources, and support provided by Lori  & David turned out to be the key ingredients in rebuilding our bonds and creating a loving and united family unit.

Their Nacho Academy not only provided us with invaluable knowledge about the unique challenges of blended families but also empowered us with practical strategies to address those challenges head-on. The courses were comprehensive, well-structured, and tailored to our specific needs. We learned how to deal with difficult ex-partners, manage conflicts, and most importantly, to stop reacting and start responding.

One of the most transformative aspects of the Nacho Kids Academy was the emphasis on self-care and personal growth. Through their guidance, we discovered the importance of taking care of ourselves and nurturing our own mental and emotional well-being. This newfound self-awareness allowed us to approach our stepfamily dynamics with more empathy, understanding, and patience. It enabled us to break free from the negative patterns of the past and create a healthier and happier environment for everyone involved.

The supportive community of like-minded individuals within the Academy was another incredible asset. We connected with other stepfamilies who were going through similar challenges, shared our experiences, and gained valuable insights. The sense of camaraderie and encouragement we received from this community was truly uplifting and provided us with the strength to persevere during the most challenging times.

Today, thanks to the Nacho Kids Academy, we can proudly say that we have rebuilt the bonds within our stepfamily. Our home is filled with love, respect, and understanding. We have learned to embrace our unique family dynamics, celebrating our differences and cherishing the beautiful relationships we have built. The transformation we have experienced is nothing short of remarkable, and it is all thanks to the exceptional guidance and support we received from Lori and David.

If you are a struggling stepfamily, feeling lost and hopeless, we wholeheartedly recommend the Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Method and the Nacho Kids Academy. It is a beacon of hope in a sea of challenges, offering the tools and support needed to transform your stepfamily dynamics. With their guidance, you too can rebuild your bonds, create a harmonious environment, and thrive in the blend. Nachoing changed our lives, and we are forever grateful for the positive impact it has had on our stepfamily journey. ~ G.S.

On this episode of Nacho Kids, Lori is joined by guest Ginger Gentile, a filmmaker who focuses on issues related to parental alienation. The podcast focuses on practical strategies that parents can use to reconnect with their estranged children, including changing their mindset, practicing unconditional love, and prioritizing their children's well-being. The episode highlights the need for greater awareness of parental alienation.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Erasing Dad & Erasing Family Documentaries

• Don't give up

• Reversing parental alienation

• Thinking more positively

• Unconditional love

To watch Ginger's documentary for free:  www.erasingfamily.org 

For Ginger's coaching programs and courses: www.reversingparentalalienation.com

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I'm only writing this because I can't believe it and want to tell others what this Nacho Parenting did to our family. My wife signed up for the Academy one night when she was crying in bed and feeling hopeless. I knew nothing about it but thought it sounded stupid. The next night she came to me and said she finally had hope! Over the next 3 months, our lives changed tremendously! We had a few hiccups along the way, so she reached out on the Q & A calls and community and got help directly from the creators of the method. Things are so much better now! She no longer cries at night or walks around with a distraught look. The cloud over our house is gone. Everyone is so much better! I no longer think it's stupid. Thank you both for helping us!" T.P.

On this episode of Nacho Kids, Lori talks with stepmom who was struggling to find her footing raising her partner's children. She shares the challenges of balancing being a caregiver and maintaining her own mental health, including the burnout she experienced and how she overcame it. We also hear about the difficulties of co-parenting with a controlling ex and navigating the boundaries between bio and step-parenting.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Sharing parenting of your kid with your partner

• Co-parenting with a controlling ex

• Boundaries

• Different parenting styles

• Guilty Parent Syndrome

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I grew up in a stepfamily so I thought I would know what to do and how to do it when I became a stepdad. Man, was I wrong! I didn't understand why her kids didn't like me. I had a great stepdad growing up. In fact, I refer to him as Dad. I did fatherly things with and for these stepkids but they still seemed to reject me. My wife suggested I look into this taco, I mean nacho thing. I told her I would not join a Facebook group to get help from a bunch of strangers who are only there because they have the same problem you do, so their advice is mute. She laughed and said I was in luck, there was an Academy. So, I figured what the heck, it can't hurt to see what it's about and we truly needed help. It was the best decision I ever made! My wife talks about how much happier I am now, and it's true. My stress level went down drastically. I am happier than I have been in a long time! ! She's happier now, and so are the kids! I'll never look at taco, I mean nachos the same again! Thanks Lori & Dave" ~ C.C.

*** DISCLAIMER: Mention of addiction 

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews a bio mom who is a certified parent coach. She has been blending for over 30 years. Her relationship with her ex has been a bit challenging, to say the least.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Dealing with a narcissistic ex

• The family court system

• Expectations of the stepparent

• Relationship between bio mom and stepmom

• Transition days

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"Thank you so much for everything. The work you do is so important and life-changing!" ~ A.M.

DISCLAIMER: Mention of sexual abuse

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews a stepmom from England. This stepmom has been blending for a little over five years, and has two stepkids and one ours kid. Like many stepmoms, her blended journey hasn't been butterflies and unicorns. Dealing with a high-conflict bio mom and toxic in-laws has made her blend very challenging. Her best advice is "Nacho!". 

In this episode, we discuss:

• Dealing with a high-conflict bio mom

• Dealing with toxic in-laws

• Stepparent alienation

• Wrongful accusations against stepmom

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I finally decided to join the Nacho Academy instead of trying to weed through bad advice for how to properly Nacho in the Facebook group. I was floored by all the content and resources in the Academy! The Boot Camp was amazing, and the Change Your Stinking Thinking challenge truly changed my life! I intend to stay a member in order to have these resources to fall back on and to keep being a part of the Q & A calls. They are extremely helpful! I honestly believe if I hadn't joined the Academy and did the challenges, I would be divorced. If you are on the fence about joining the Academy for help, do it! You won't regret it!" ~ J.W. 

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, host Lori welcomes back Michaela Bucchianeri to explore emotional regulation, a crucial skill for every stepmom and stepfamily member. Michaela breaks down the myth that emotions are the enemy and shares actionable tips for managing stress responses like fight, flight, and fawn. Discover practical tools for building emotional vocabulary, reframing negative thoughts, and intentionally choosing which situations to engage in. Learn why emotional awareness is vital in step-parenting, how to avoid people-pleasing traps, and ways to protect your mental and physical health from chronic stress. Perfect for stepmoms seeking healthier relationships, self-regulation, and a happier blended family life.

Key elements:

• Emotions aren't the enemy - learn to work with them, not suppress them.

• Stress responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) and their impact on stepfamily life.

• Ways to expand emotional vocabulary for better self-awareness and communication.

• Tips for reframing situations to reduce conflict and emotional overwhelm.

• The importance of intentionally choosing situations to protect your emotional energy.

• How people-pleasing and over-functioning can cause long-term burnout.

• Actionable self-regulation techniques to support your health and stepfamily dynamics.

Perfect for stepmoms and blended families seeking actionable advice on emotional wellness, setting boundaries, and strengthening relationships.
#stepmomlife #emotionregulation #blendedfamilytips

Resources Mentioned

• NachoKids.com

• NachoKidsAcademy.com

Nacho Parenting Testimonial:

I stopped crying in the bathroom after coaching with Lori. I finally feel like "ME" again. Forever Grateful! S.B., Nashville, TN, USA

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews a stepmom who has been blending for almost 3 years, has one stepkid, one bio kid and one ours kid. The hardest part of blending for her has been juggling the differences of everyone involved in the blend. 

In this episode, we discuss:

• Blends created out of loss

• When your bio child longs for a family

• Not bonding with your stepkid

• Moving into the home your partner shared with their ex

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"Before I found the Nacho method and the Nacho Academy, I was depressed and wanted to give up, not only on my marriage but life in general. Being a part of the Academy helped me to understand the blended dynamics and realize I was not alone in these challenges. The Boot Camp and Change Your Thinking Challenges in the Academy were so helpful! I am thankful for Lori & David and all they do to help struggling stepfamilies!  " ~ S.C.

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, chats with Stepmom on the Crazy Train! She is a return guest! She was previously on our podcast on episode #125! She has been blending for eight years, has one stepson, and one bio son. She went from being a part-time stepmom to a full-time stepmom. Dealing with mental health/neurodivergence adds to their blended challenges.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Part-time to full-time stepmom

• Blending challenges with mental health/neurodivergence

• Dealing with the unknown trauma of the stepkid

• Resetting the blend

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I hated my stepkids. I resented my husband. I hated myself. I wanted to disappear. I heard an episode on the nacho kids podcast and cried. I immediately signed up for the Nacho Kids Academy! I cannot tell you how much the Academy helped me! I like my stepkids now! My husband and I get along so much better! We actually have family game night each week and everyone looks forward to it! Thank you Lori & David for saving my marriage and my life!" ~ A.J.

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, chats with Claudette Chenevert - The Stepmom Coach! Claudette and Lori both have bio kids and adult stepkids. Stepparents often think things will magically get better when the stepkid turns 18. This may be the case if the stepparent's partner, the bio parent, is paying child support. Other than that, at 18, there is no magic wand, the stepkids don't disappear into adult land, and if the bio parent has guilty parent syndrome, that won't change either. 

In this episode, we discuss:

• When they turn 18

• When they come back - boomerang stepkids/bio kids

• Bio parents are still parents after the kids turn 18

• Charging rent to the kids that come back

• Setting boundaries

Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"Best thing I ever did. The first year was complete hell but then I found Nacho Kids Academy, took a leap of faith and joined. I have been a member of the Academy for a year now and it is the best thing I ever did. ... "  D.K.

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, and Anna de Acosta talk about therapy! Too many people end up picking a therapist based on location and insurance, without vetting the therapist to see if they would be a good fit. More time is spent researching which air fryer is best than time spent searching for a therapist. 

In this episode, we discuss:

• What to do when your partner doesn't want to get help

• Finding the right therapist

• The importance of therapy

• No shame in getting help

Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I have wanted to give up MANY times. At the suggestion of a friend, I joined the Nacho Kids Academy to see if it could help. I had nothing to lose at this point. Through the Nacho Kids Academy, and Lori & David's help, I no longer have those thoughts of giving up! My relationship with my partner is so much better, my stress is amazingly lower, and my stepkid told me they loved me for the first time after only three months of my being a part of the Academy and Nachoing. I love myself and my blend now! I am so thankful I found the Nacho Academy!" L.C.

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, chats with Cecile and Frank of Ella's Blended Family. The have been blending for nine years and each brought two kids into the marriage. Cecile and her kids moved into Frank and his kids' house. Best advice from Frank: "Don't take it personally."

In this episode, we discuss:

• Moving into "THEIR" house

• Bedroom assignments and kids

• Can you really treat the kids equally?

• When the stepkids are indifferent towards you

• Trying to love the stepkids when they hurt your bio kids

Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"When I first heard of Nacho I thought it was the stupidest thing I had ever heard of. Several years later, my husband and I were about to call it quits. Then I saw Nacho mentioned on HLN of all places and thought I'd give it a shot. I joined the Nacho Kids Academy and within 1 week, I felt better and felt hope that I hadn't felt in a long time. Two years after doing the Academy, we are going strong! Thank you Nacho Kids for saving our marriage!"      B. P.

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, co-founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, celebrate their 200th podcast episode! They talk about the Nacho Method and address some misconceptions about the method.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Nacho misconceptions

• Nacho truths

• Being a team while Nachoing

• Things won't always be this way

Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"Before I learned to Nacho, I hated my blended life. Nothing we did prepared us for how hard it would be to blend. I found Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting one night as I was crying in bed trying to figure out what went so terribly wrong. I read some of the blogs and found their podcast. I listened to the podcast and immediately knew these people understood. I joined the Nacho Kids Academy the next day. I have taken the Boot Camp and Thinking Challenges and participated in other things in the Academy. I cannot tell you how much my life changed from this! Our blend isn't perfect, but we are happy! We are happy! Thank you Nacho Kids! Lori & David you are awesome! We will never forget what you have done for us." A.G.

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews Alicia Krasko of "The Stepmom Side". Alicia has been blending for eight years, has two adult stepkids and a three year old "ours" daughter. Something unique about Alicia's blend is her husband is 16 years older than her! The hardest part of blending for her was finding her role in the blend.

In this episode we discuss:

• Feeling everyone in the blend would be happy if you weren't there

• Societal expectations

• Stepparent PTSD

• Everyone struggles in the blend

• Working on yourself to better your blend

• Adding an "ours" kid to the blend

Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Success Story:

Definitely has redeemed my sanity, my marriage & relationship with my step-son! I've been able to begin nachoing and feel a huge weight lifted from me. I can't wait to join the academy. Thank you! "

Mrs. C

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews Sarah Hurley of The Yarning Sharman. Sarah has been blending for 7 years, has one stepkid, three bio kids, and one adopted son. Her stepson lives 1300 miles away.   

In this episode we discuss:

• When stepkid lives far away

• The family court system

• Being a stepkid

• Boundaries for self

• Dealing with a high conflict bio mom

Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I was starting to think I was losing my mind because I was feeling so overwhelmed by the changes of being in a new home, blending, etc. - until I found you! Now I know I am not alone AND also probably not losing my mind. Thank you! "  A.H.

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews Toni Graham of My Blended Chaos. Toni has been blending for five years, has two stepkids, two bio kids, and one "ours" kid. This is her second blend, her first blend was when she was 19 years old and was completely different from her current blend.  

In this episode we discuss:

• When bio mom gets upset that stepmom is pregnant

• Adding an "ours" kid to the blend

• Putting your marriage first

• Differences in blends

• Growing up in a blend that was like a nuclear family

Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"If you are a stepmom struggling in any way, you've come to the right place. ... I could write a book on how much these podcasts and the Nacho Kids Academy have helped me personally. David and Lori, I can not thank you guys enough for bringing this concept out into the world. ... Almost every podcast I've listened to I will go from giggling my butt off to crying tears of relief, that somebody else gets it! I no longer feel alone in this stepmom journey and I feel so validated now. Thank you, thank you, thank you! You guys are truly amazing." M.C.

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews an anonymous stepmom from Idaho. This stepmom has one stepkid full-time, one bio kid full-time, and two "ours" kids. The hardest part of her blend has been enforcing the same rules and expectations. Neither the stepkid's, nor the bio kid's other bio parent is in their lives. 

In this episode we discuss:

• Having all the kids all the time

• Absent bio parents

• Deciding what's in your own kid's best interest

• Stepping back

Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"I cannot thank Lori & David enough for what they do! The Nacho Kids Academy truly saved my marriage and my relationships within the blend. Before the Academy, I was at wits end and ready to throw in the towel. The Academy helped me to Nacho properly, which I was not doing, and to understand the blended dynamics better while doing a lot of self-development. Our blend is so much better because of Nacho!" D.M.

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David dive into the everyday challenges stepparents face, using real-life examples from their blended family. From disputes over GPS navigation and vacuum cleaner filters to the ongoing "dishes dilemma," the couple offers a candid, humorous look into the emotional triggers that can arise in blended households. Lori emphasizes how the Nacho Method not only reduces stress within the stepfamily dynamic but also helps handle life's daily annoyances more calmly. Whether it's tackling chores, navigating relationships with stepkids, or learning to nacho stressful moments, this episode delivers actionable tips for maintaining peace and sanity in your blended family.

Key Topics:

• Handling household chores and responsibilities
• Communication and conflict in relationships
• Role imbalance in blended families
• Emotional responses and stress management
• Finding practical solutions for daily frustrations

Nacho Kids Academy Testimonial:

This Academy didn't only help my blend, it helped ME! ~ S.D., Melbourne, Australia

#NachoKids #StepfamilyAdvice #BlendedFamilyStress

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, continues her interview with stepmom Shelley. Shelley was a guest on podcast episode 192 but there was more to talk about. She has four bio kids and three stepkids. Things got so bad at one point, she actually moved out of the home for 16 months. Like many bio parents, Shelley experienced some craziness with the family court system.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Moving out of the home because of the stepkids

• Feeling husband picked his kids over her

• Responding versus reacting

• The Family Court system

• Disrespect between couples

Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Success Story:

"Thank you for everything you guys do. I've been a long time listener over the years and am signing up for round number two [of the Nacho Kids Academy] for a nacho refresher." - K.N.

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews stepmom Nicole. Nicole has been blending for over two years, has two stepkids and her partner has a stepkid from a previous relationship that he refers to as his son. Although her partner was a stepdad, he doesn't see her struggles as a stepmom.

In this episode we discuss:

• Being a childless stepmom

• Things change

• Realizing your contributions to the issues

• Transition days

• Very little "no kid" time

Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Success Story:

" The Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Method changed my life! I used to hate my stepkids and wanted to throw in the towel. Now, I truly enjoy being around them now! I NEVER thought this would happen! I also learned to apply the Nacho method to other areas of my life! It is not only for helping blended families, it's a way of life!" ~ D.S.

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews stepmom Mel. Mel is a childfree stepmom, has been blending about four years, has three stepkids and her partner is 23 years older than her. 

In this episode we discuss:

• Being a childfree stepmom

• Age gaps between partners

• Different bonds with different kids

• Setting boundaries

• Transition days

Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Success Story:

" I just started to nacho this week and our relationship was better this week…" ~ D.M.