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In this episode, Dr. Binyamin Rothstein shares insights from over 45 years as a healer and his journey from conventional medicine to alternative, holistic practices. After facing professional adversity for his unconventional healing methods, Dr. Ben reflects on what truly motivates people to care for themselves and how relationships, especially between children and fathers, shape self-worth.

The discussion delves deep into the vital role fathers play in a child's emotional development and the long-term effects of paternal affection and involvement. Dr. Ben highlights the concept of "mama bear energy" and how it can unintentionally disempower men and children, advocating instead for families to balance nurturing with empowering each member.

Blended families are a strong focus, as Dr. Ben and Lori discuss chore delegation, respect, and discipline in stepfamily dynamics. The importance of modeling positive behaviors, earning respect, and using humor are practical takeaways for all parents.

Forgiveness is a central theme, both as a personal practice and as a transformative force in family relationships. Through touching stories from his life and coaching practice, Dr. Ben illustrates how letting go of resentment can change family dynamics for the better.

Listeners are encouraged to embrace self-growth, honor each person's unique journey, and focus on building authentic, loving relationships within their families. Dr. Ben's book, "A Real Man's Guide to Becoming a Terrific Dad," and further resources are available at beaterifficdad.com.

In this episode:

• Observations of Behavior and Motivation
• Importance of Father-Child Relationships
• Personal and Family Experience
• Dr. Ben's Marriage and Family Growth
• Kabbalistic Mysticism and Gender Roles in Relationships
• Stepfamilies and Parenting Dynamics
• Delegation, Chores, and Empowerment
• Transitioning Roles: Mama Bear to Queen
• Conflict Management, Communication, and Boundaries
• Respect, Discipline, and Integrity
• Stepfamily-Specific Parenting Practices
• Forgiveness and Emotional Growth
• Communication, Relationship-Building, and Space

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In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David Sims address a post from their Facebook group about stepkids taking food and personal items, like mouthwash, that aren't theirs. They discuss practical, relationship-saving solutions, like lockboxes or separate fridges, clear communication with your partner, and non-confrontational ways to set household boundaries. The hosts share personal anecdotes, highlight sensitive stepparenting dynamics, and stress that while frustrations are valid, leaving the relationship isn't always the answer. Instead, they encourage viewers to focus on problem-solving and the deeper emotional triggers behind these common stepfamily conflicts.

In this episode:

• Boundaries with Personal Items
• Common Reactions & Advice
• Practical Solutions
• Focus on the Real Issue
• Communication and Empathy
• Recognize the Feelings - But Solve the Problem
• Leaving Isn't a Cure-All
• Nacho Approach

Is It Still Their Home? 

In this episode, Lori and David Sims discuss boundaries when it comes to the home. If the stepkid is there every other weekend, is it still considered their home? Are they able to come and get things without having to text or call first?

Lori and David kick things off with a lighthearted look at gifting the Nacho Kids book and workbook for holidays, and joke about trick-or-treaters getting stepfamily resources in their Halloween bags! The main discussion explores the dynamics and nuanced feelings around stepkids versus bio kids, sparked by a Facebook post about stepchild boundaries and home access. Lori and David dig into communication styles, the importance of tone (especially in texts), and how stepparents often feel differently about expectations for stepkids versus their own children.

The episode features plenty of personal anecdotes about kids dropping by unannounced, doing chores, and the sometimes unfair double standards that pop up. 

In this episode:

• Family Logistics & Emotional Balance
• Perceptions of Fairness
• Handling Household Tasks
• Communication & Boundaries in Stepfamilies

Tune in for relatable, real-talk laughs and insights on the everyday realities of stepfamily life, boundaries, and communication!

In this episode, Lori and David tackle a listener question about handling resentment from biological children when stepchildren follow different rules. They explain that this is common in blended families and share personal stories showing that different rules for different kids are sometimes necessary because of age, responsibility, and individual circumstances.

The hosts stress the importance of honest, age-appropriate communication with children about why rules may differ and highlight that this situation also arises in traditional families. They compare the individualized approach needed in stepfamilies to business environments, where specific solutions must be tailored to unique situations rather than relying on strict checklists. The episode wraps up with encouragement to check out their book and workbook on Amazon for further guidance.

In this episode:

• Analogies Between Stepfamily Dynamics and Business Practices
  
  
• Challenges with Rules and Expectations in Blended Families
  
  
• Deep Dive: Managing Children's Resentment Over Different Rules
  
  
• Parallels with Traditional Families and Life Lessons
  
  
• Navigating Practical Examples of Rule Differences
  
  
• Teaching Values and Coping with External Influences
  
  
• Insights from Audience Responses
  
  
• Developing Communication and Independence in Children
  
  
• Differences in Parenting Between Households

Are you struggling with jealousy, boundaries, or feeling left out as a stepparent?
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, we dive deep into the real-life challenges of stepkid jealousy, whether it's your spouse always answering their kid's calls on vacation or gifts and attention feeling unfairly divided.

Learn why "Nachoing" works (and what it really means), the importance of healthy boundaries, and how open conversations can transform your blended family experience. Hear firsthand stories, hard-earned wisdom, and a whole lot of laughs from a couple who survived the toughest years and came out stronger!

In this episode:

• The Nacho Kids Approach
  
  
• Personal Experience with Therapy and Mr. Butler
  
  
• Accuracy and Influence of Memories
  
  
• Communication Challenges in Blended Families
  
  
• Family Meetings and Dynamics
  
  
• Recollections about Applying Nacho Kids Principles
  
  
• Nachoing your Spouse
  
  
• Jealousy and Stepchild Communication During Vacations
  
  
• Balancing Parent-Child Communication and Fairness
  
  
• Gifts, Favorites, and Family Experiences
  
  
• Reflecting on Outsider Perspective and Stepkid Inclusion
  
  
• Impact of Living Arrangements and Stepfamily Stress
  
  
• Overcoming Crisis and Turning Points
  
  
• Podcast History and Emotional Recovery
  
  
• Relationship Humor, Longevity, and Milestones

In this episode, Lori and David Sims reflect on their blended family journey, sharing personal stories about the unique challenges and evolving relationships with their stepkids. Listeners get a special inside look through an in-depth interview with Branson, one of the triplets, who opens up about his experience as a stepchild. Branson discusses the emotional rollercoaster of accepting a stepparent, from initial excitement and resistance to eventual friendship and trust. The hosts and Branson explore how the Nacho Kids Method, stepping back and reducing conflict, helped transform hostility into a healthy, supportive bond. This candid conversation highlights the ups and downs of blended family life, the importance of patience, and how meaningful connections can grow with time and intentional effort.

Listeners dealing with similar dynamics will find real-life insights, hope, and encouragement for navigating stepfamily relationships.

• Family Vacation Plans and Feelings
  
  
• Stepchild Experience
  
  
• Stepchild's Emotional Journey and the Nacho Kids Method
  
  
• Evolution of Stepfamily Relationships 
  
  
• Impact of the Nacho Kids Approach
  
  
• Current Relationship Dynamics
  
  
• Stepkids's Evolving Perspective on the bio parent 
  
  
• Lessons on Relationship Perseverance
  
  
• Branson's Views on Blended Families Moving Forward
  
  
• Aftermath and Continued Family Bond

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David discuss the challenges and benefits of stepsibling relationships in blended families. They share personal experiences navigating concerns about stepkids being a "bad influence" or bullying bio kids, and how parental intervention (or lack thereof) can impact sibling bonding. Lori notes the importance of letting kids work through their own conflicts, with appropriate boundaries for physical and verbal harm, so stepsiblings can naturally develop relationships and coping skills. The hosts also emphasize that stepparents should avoid constantly separating the kids, as this can hinder bonding and create resentment. The conversation wraps up with insights on jealousy, household traditions, and the value of letting kids spend time together to build meaningful connections.

Topics discussed:

• Concerns About Stepchildren as a Bad Influence
  
  
• Differentiating Bullying and Sibling Rivalry
  
  
• Parental Perspective and Protectiveness
  
  
• The Value of Sibling Interactions and Bonding
  
  
• Parental Emotional Response and Bias
  
  
• Family Traditions and Blended Family Stress
  
  
• Nurturing Positive Influences and Boundaries
  
  
• Differences in Nuclear and Blended Family Conflict Resolution
  
  
• The Role of Jealousy and Time Spent with Parents
  
  
• Importance of Allowing Step-Sibling Relationships to Develop
  
  
• Setting Realistic Expectations for Bonding

In this episode, Lori and David Sims discuss the powerful principle that "what you focus on will grow," especially within blended families. Through candid and humorous anecdotes, ranging from household chores to navigating stepfamily dynamics, they explore how focusing on the negatives (like dirty dishes or annoying habits) can cause frustration and resentment, while choosing to see the positives fosters appreciation and harmony. The conversation delves into issues of comparison, gratitude, and managing expectations in relationships, highlighting the importance of shifting perspective for personal peace and stronger family bonds. The episode concludes by encouraging you to focus on the good, put things in perspective, and remember that what you give emotional weight shapes your daily experience.

• How focusing on negative behaviors in partners or stepkids can worsen your outlook and relationship

• The "what you focus on will grow" principle in everyday stepfamily life

• The impact of gratitude and positive reinforcement on encouraging good behavior

• The pitfalls of comparison, especially through social media, leading to unnecessary envy and dissatisfaction

• Managing expectations and defining responsibilities in blended family households

• Using humor and candid communication to navigate common frustrations

• The importance of putting challenges in perspective and directing emotional energy toward what truly matters

In this episode, we discuss the sensitive topic of cosleeping with stepkids in blended families. A key theme that emerged was the differing comfort levels and emotional reactions between bio parents and stepparents regarding children in their personal space or bed. The discussion explored feelings of unfairness when stepchildren are excluded from privileges allowed to biological children, as well as concerns about appropriateness and potential legal or social misunderstandings.

Several points were raised, including the importance of discussing expectations and boundaries before moving in together or getting married. A suggested approach was for bio parents to attend to their children's needs in the child's own room to maintain the sanctity of the couple's space. The episode concluded with a reminder for blended families to communicate openly, ensure consistency, and be mindful of how these practices affect both relationships and perceptions within the family.

• Nacho Kids Book and Workbook Release
  
  
• Stepkids in Your Bed/Bedroom
  
  
• Childhood and Cultural Perspectives on Bed-Sharing
  
  
• Co-Sleeping, Bed-Sharing, and Blended Family Dynamics
  
  
• Boundaries and Comfort Levels in Blended Families
  
  
• Appropriateness and Risk of Misunderstandings
  
  
• Suggested Solutions and Best Practices
  
  
• Gender, Parenting, and Social Assumptions
  
  
• Importance of conversations and strategies to avoid problems in stepfamily life 

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David discuss communication challenges between stepparents and bio parents, especially regarding parenting decisions and stepkids. The hosts share personal anecdotes about feeling defensive when their children are criticized, emphasizing that wording and approach make a significant difference in how such conversations are received.

• Launch of the Nacho Kids book 

• Common reasons why bio parents get defensive when their kids are discussed 

• The impact of wording: how statements come across as judgment versus teamwork

• Parent guilt and internalization of children's struggles or failures 

• The dynamic between stepparents and bio parents in discipline and expectations 

• Challenges for childless or childfree stepparents in understanding the realities of parenting 

• Every child is different: what works for one may not work for another 

• Approaching parenting conversations as a team and offering support, not judgment 

• Emotional challenges for parents watching their kids struggle, and the desire to protect them 

• The power of empathy and why some people intervene for others more than themselves 

• Guidance for stepparents and partners: be kind, honest, and remember kids grow up and relationships can improve 

On this podcast, we discuss the challenges and humorous realities of planning family events in a blended and extended family setting. A key theme that emerged was the complexity of scheduling birthdays and gatherings to accommodate multiple family members, including ex-spouses, in-laws, and stepchildren, highlighting the potential for awkwardness, misunderstandings, and unintentional hurt feelings 

• Navigating the challenges of planning birthdays and family gatherings in blended families 

• Balancing the desires of biological and step-relatives, including in-laws and ex-spouses 

• Strategies for minimizing stress and resentment 

• Handling children's divided time and loyalties between multiple households 

• Scheduling conflicts and communication mishaps related to family events 

• The awkwardness of public events, such as school functions, for blended families and how to address introductions 

• Juggling roles and boundaries between biological parents, stepparents, and children 

• Importance of humor, flexibility, and clear communication in blended family life

• Promoting the upcoming Nacho Kids book release as a resource for stepfamilies 

In this episode, the Nacho Kids team discusses the upcoming release of the Nacho Kids book, available for Kindle pre-order and set to launch on September 16th - Stepfamily Day. The hosts highlight a moving story from their Nacho group about a stepparent who transformed her relationship with her stepkids using the Nacho Method, underscoring the importance of putting knowledge into action.

The conversation shifts to back-to-school season, addressing evolving school calendars, the challenges of co-parenting school responsibilities, financial dilemmas around school supplies, and differences in approach between households. The hosts touch on using educational technology and AI to help students, the wisdom of managing stepkid struggles with schoolwork, and boundaries for stepparents.

They candidly discuss when to let kids take responsibility for their school success, the consequences of over-involvement, and the extra challenges of co-parenting on alternating schedules. The episode closes with a serious reminder about online safety in light of the anniversary of Gavin Guffey's death, encouraging parents and stepparents to maintain open, judgment-free communication and serve as a safe haven for all kids.

• New Nacho Kids book launch details and preorders

• Success story from the Nacho Kids group

• Putting the Nacho Method into action

• Changes in school calendars and year-round schedules

• Navigating school supply expenses and co-parenting challenges

• The role of educational technology and AI in supporting student learning

• Boundaries for stepparents in helping with schoolwork

• Age-appropriate responsibility: letting kids experience natural consequences

• Parenting differences and the cycle of alternating households on school performance

• Online safety, social media risks, and the importance of open conversations

• How stepparents can be a safe, judgment-free space for stepkids

In this episode, Lori and David share an inspiring success story from their Facebook group, highlighting how the Nacho Kids method helped transform a strained stepmom-stepdaughter relationship into a loving bond resulting in being asked to stand as "mother of the bride" at the stepdaughter's wedding. They discuss the importance of letting relationships develop naturally, utilizing strategies like the "gray rock" method to avoid negative engagement, and stress the value of finding a therapist who understands stepfamily dynamics.

Lori and David also address common misconceptions about stepparent roles, set boundaries, and the need for patience when building blended family relationships. The episode features relatable and humorous moments between the hosts, including communication mix-ups and quirky family anecdotes. Listeners are encouraged to continue learning through the Nacho Kids Academy, check out the upcoming Nacho Kids book (now available for Kindle pre-order), and seek coaching if needed.

Tune in for practical advice, personal stories, and a reminder that successful blended family relationships take time, effort, and the right support.

• Nacho Kids book available for Kindle pre-order

• Inspiring Facebook group story: from conflict with stepchildren to being asked to be "mother of the bride"

• The importance of patience and playing the long game in blended family relationships

• How the "gray rock" method is part of Nacho Parenting

• Letting the child lead the relationship and setting appropriate boundaries as a stepparent

• The necessity of finding therapists who understand the Nacho Kids method and stepfamily dynamics

• Recognizing that relationships need ongoing nurturing, even after achieving major milestones

In this episode, we discuss the complexities of blended families, emphasizing the unique challenges stepfamilies face compared to nuclear families. One concept discussed was the pressure for stepfamilies to function like traditional nuclear families, and how letting go of that expectation can relieve stress and improve dynamics. A key theme that emerged was the importance of the "soothing presence", an adult who is emotionally supportive, predictable, and present for children, which fosters trust and security.

The discussion explored how children in high-conflict or blended families often take on roles to try to keep the peace or please their parents, sometimes at the expense of their own development. Several points were raised, including the detrimental effects of parent alienation, the psychological impact of inconsistency and divided loyalty, and how step-parents can best support children without overstepping boundaries.

Practical strategies were shared for building relationships, encouraging self-esteem, and communicating effectively with both children and biological parents. The conversation also included personal stories, analogies, and an exploration of how life experiences, even with family pets, mirror blended family dynamics. The episode underscored that every family is different, and the most successful step-parenting comes from adaptability, humility, and providing a safe, nonjudgmental space for children to grow and heal.

• The unrealistic social and personal expectations for stepfamilies to function like nuclear families

• The concept of "soothing presence" as the basis for trust, security, and emotional development in children

• Challenges of divided loyalty and parent alienation in blended family situations

• The negative long-term impact on kids taking on adult responsibilities within the family dynamic

• Differences between parenting, adulting, and befriending as a step-parent

• Importance of emotional predictability and consistency for children's well-being

• Strategies for step-parents to support children without overstepping or causing tension with biological parents

• Encouraging self-esteem and emotional language in children using relatable terms (e.g., "volcano mad")

• The value of building a unique, trusting relationship with each child based on their individual personalities

• Parallels between stepfamily adjustment and integrating new pets into a household

• Individualized approaches over generic parenting techniques

• The lifelong process of gaining wisdom and fostering resilience in children through supportive adult relationships

Lori and David dive into the unique challenges stepparents face in expressing honest feelings, especially compared to what's acceptable for biological parents. They share how phrases like "I need a break from my stepkids" or "sometimes I don't even like my stepkid" can spark criticism, even though similar comments about one's own kids are met with empathy. The conversation highlights double standards, societal expectations, stepfamily resentment, and the reality of blended-family emotions. Lori and David also discuss favoritism among grandkids, the importance of kindness, and how small acts can make a big difference when someone's struggling.

• Update on the upcoming release of the Nacho Kids Book and Companion Workbook
• Things You Can Say About Your Own Kids But Not Step Kids
  
  
• The Impact of Honesty in Step-Parenting Communities
• Specific Examples of Double Standards in Parenting Language
• Perception and Reality of Step-Parenting Criticism
  
  
• Favoritism Among Grandkids and Step-Grandkids
  
  
• Complex Feelings Are Normal in Stepfamilies
  
  
• The Importance of Kindness and Empathy
  
  
• Everyday Acts of Kindness

Tune in for honest stories, laughter, and reminders that you're not alone if being a stepparent sometimes feels overwhelming, and that kindness (to yourself and others) is always needed.

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David discuss a dilemma from their Facebook group about whether to include a troubled stepchild in a previously planned family cruise. The conversation explores the emotional, financial, and relational complexities of stepfamily vacations. Topics covered include the consequences of excluding the stepchild, potential resentment, whether vacations should be used as rewards or punishments, and the importance of making decisions as a united couple. The hosts suggest possible solutions such as inviting a grandmother to help manage the situation, scaling back vacation plans, or openly discussing what the stepchild actually wants. The episode emphasizes communication, empathy, and long-term considerations in blended family dynamics.

• The dilemma of including or excluding a troubled stepchild from a family vacation

• Financial implications of adding an additional family member to a planned cruise

• The impact of excluding a stepchild on family relationships and potential resentment between spouses

• Bringing a grandparent to balance costs and provide supervision/support

• Whether family vacations should be used as rewards or punishments for behavior

• Considering what the stepchild actually wants regarding the vacation

• Alternatives to the original vacation plan, such as scaling back or taking separate family trips

• The importance of communicating and making decisions together as a couple

• Personal stories about managing vacation dynamics with kids and stepkids

In this heartfelt episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori Sims welcomes guest Donna Kendrick, who shares her deeply personal story of loss, resilience, and blending families. Raised in Philadelphia, Donna Kendrick describes her journey from being married to a Philadelphia police officer, living abroad as a family, and navigating the aftermath of her husband's tragic taking of his own life after their return to the U.S. She candidly discusses how mental health struggles, grief, and trust issues shaped her decisions as a widow and a mother.

Donna Kendrick goes on to recount meeting her current husband, a carpenter who had originally helped with renovations after her first husband's passing, and the slow, organic way their families and children came together. Through life's unexpected twists, including her husband's ex-wife's battle with cancer and the logistical and emotional challenges of moving and merging households, Donna Kendrick highlights the power of empathy, extended family support, and humor in navigating the ups and downs of blended family life.

The episode touches on grief, motherhood, the importance of listening to your body, and the ongoing challenges and blessings of raising six children in a truly blended household. Lori and Donna share relatable stories and insights, with promises to bring Donna Kendrick back for future conversations about financial planning.

In this episode:

• Grief and Resilience in Blended Families
  
  
• Navigating Blending After Loss and Divorce
  
  
• Compassion, Empathy, and Extended Support
  
  
• Practical Transitional Decisions
  
  
• Humor and Dark Comedy as Coping
  
  
• Importance of Self-care, Community, and Advocacy
  
  
• Adaptability and Open Communication

Listeners will be inspired by themes of hope, community, and the ways that love and laughter can help families heal and grow together.

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David broadcast live from the beach, sharing personal stories and hard-learned lessons about stepfamily vacations. They discuss the logistical and emotional challenges of blending five boys with different interests, from budgeting for group activities to navigating restaurant seating. The hosts reflect on the importance of flexibility, managing expectations, and keeping vacations short to minimize stress and conflict.

A significant portion of the conversation covers the issue of summer childcare, especially when a stepparent works from home. Lori and David debate the fairness and practicality of expecting the stepparent to watch stepkids, emphasizing the need to establish clear boundaries and explore all childcare options before making decisions. They encourage open communication between partners to prevent resentment.

Listeners are invited to share their own vacation strategies for stepfamilies. The episode closes with a recommendation: keep family trips shorter and save a few days for the couple to recover afterward!

• Excitement about the Nacho Kids book release on Step Family Day (September 16)

• Reaching over 1 million podcast downloads

• Lessons learned about family vacations

  • Keeping vacations short (3-4 days) reduces stress

  • Letting each child choose one activity

  •  Not forcing everyone to participate in everything

  • Importance of flexibility and not over-planning

  • Making sure each child has earphones/devices for long travel

  • Sometimes it's best not to give kids options

• The emotional cost and lack of "vacation" time for parents compared to kids

• Summer childcare issues for stepparents who work from home

  • Working from home is still working and should not equate to being default childcare

  • Setting boundaries and having open conversations about expectations

  • Exploring all options: camps, daycare, grandparents, babysitters, the other bio parent

  • Considering compromises, such as part-time childcare

  • Risks of resentment and increasing stress when solutions aren't fair

• Saving vacation days for adult-only trips, if possible

Listeners are invited to share their own vacation strategies for stepfamilies. The episode closes with a recommendation: keep family trips shorter and save a few days for the couple to recover afterward!

This episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast dives into the realities of publishing the upcoming Nacho Kids book and unpacks common misconceptions about the Nacho Parenting method. The conversation focuses on the emotional journey behind writing and editing, clarifies what "nacho" means in step-parenting, and discusses the nuanced paths toward building healthier relationships within blended families. Listeners will hear honest reflections on perfectionism, practical advice on stepfamily dynamics, and encouragement for step-parents navigating their own journeys.

Key topics discussed:

• The challenges and emotional process of writing, editing, and publishing the Nacho Kids book  

• Perfectionism vs. sharing helpful information: letting go of the need for perfection  

• The meaning of "nacho": clarifying that it's about boundaries and responsibility, not ignoring stepkids' issues  

• The difference between "disengaging" and "not engaging" as step-parents, and why these can be temporary, needed steps  

• Why step-parent/stepchild relationships can be complicated and change over time  

• The variety of step-parent roles, from supportive adult to parental figure, and the importance of adapting to each unique family situation  

• The importance of compassion, communication, and not forcing relationships or choices between step-kids and partners  

• Encouragement for self-development, understanding, and treating everyone in the blend with kindness and respect  

In this heartfelt episode, Lori talks with California Stepmom, who shares her decade-long journey as a stepmom in a blend with no biological or "ours" kids of her own, but with plenty of lessons learned and emotional ups and downs. California Stepmom discusses her initial excitement entering stepfamily life, the unexpected challenges she faced, particularly from toxic ex-spouse dynamics and loyalty binds, and the heartbreak of estrangement when her stepdaughter chose to leave their home at 17. She details the difficult court battles, emotional toll, and the invaluable role that the Nacho Kids Podcast, Academy, and one-on-one coaching with Lori played in helping her set boundaries, heal, and strengthen her marriage. The episode offers practical tools and hope for anyone navigating the complexities of stepfamily life, emphasizing the importance of self-care, patience, and the "long game" mindset.

In this episode:

• Entering a blended family: initial hopes and realities of becoming a stepmom

• Navigating relationships with stepchildren and building trust

• The complexities of being a childless stepmom and feelings of being an outsider

• Managing the dynamic with the ex-wife, including toxic behaviors and parental alienation

• Loyalty binds and the influence of parents' actions on stepchildren

• Challenges of co-parenting, custody arrangements, and transition difficulties for kids

• Guilty parent syndrome and its impact on discipline and household dynamics

• Practical struggles: household boundaries, such as food and cleanliness issues

• Dealing with teen estrangement and the emotional aftermath

• The legal challenges of child support, child custody, and importance of court documentation

• Experiences with ineffective family therapy and the necessity of vetting professionals

• Emotional coping strategies: seeking community, therapy, and supportive resources

• Tools and language learned through the Nacho Kids Podcast and Academy

• Repairing and redefining the relationship with estranged stepchildren

• Ongoing growth, hope for the future, and building resilience as a stepfamily

In this heartfelt episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, David Sims and Lori Sims are joined by Erin and Jason Mencer to share their remarkable journey as a blended family. Married, divorced, and then remarried, Erin and Jason open up about the realities of stepfamily life, including challenges, personal growth, and what it truly takes to make a blended family work.

Hear how expectations, family dynamics, and personal struggles led to their separation, and how faith, self-reflection, and the Nacho Kids method helped them rebuild, heal, and ultimately reunite. Their story is a testament to hope, resilience, and the power of second chances, offering inspiration and practical advice to anyone navigating the complexities of stepfamily life.

• Jumping headfirst into the stepmom role and unrealistic nuclear family expectations

• Early struggles and searching for support/resources in blended families

• The impact of personal backgrounds and opposite personalities on the relationship

• The importance of personal growth and learning to "pick your battles"

• Applying (and sometimes struggling to apply) the Nacho Kids method

• Navigating discipline, boundaries, and the "step-back" approach

• The challenges of blending families with multiple children of varying ages

• Financial stress, family interference, and the weight of outside opinion

• Effects of living with extended family and oversharing with friends

• The process and emotional impact of separation and divorce

• Personal growth journeys, faith, and rediscovering oneself during time apart

• Rebuilding trust and repairing relationships after divorce

• Parenting agreements, custody changes, and relocation challenges

• Improving step-parent and stepchild relationships over time

• The renewed commitment after remarriage - setting God and teamwork at the center

• Advice for others: having patience, letting go of control, and embracing change

• The lasting importance of hope, forgiveness, and fighting for your marriage

Listen and be inspired by a true story of growth, redemption, and what it means to Nacho!

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori talks with Katt Johnston, a mental health professional, educator, and content creator focused on family estrangement, emotional systems, and the impact of mental health culture on relationships. Kat shares her journey of becoming a leading voice in estrangement after a viral TikTok video, and dives deep into how therapy and societal trends can sometimes harm family relationships by over-validating discomfort rather than building resilience.

Topics discussed:

• Nuances between genuine and manufactured discomfort leading to estrangement
• The devastating effects of parental alienation in stepfamilies
• The roles validation and social media play in conflict
• Advice for estranged parents and stepparents on how to cope, maintain boundaries, and support each other.
• The importance of pre-planning for blended family events
• Handling unequal treatment
• The need for better mental health ethics and court education on alienation.

Listeners will gain insights on the importance of self-care for estranged parents, strategies to avoid further damage to family relationships, and how society and therapy culture may need to shift towards more balanced support and accountability. The episode concludes with information on Katt's coalition for ethical mental health standards and a reminder that stepfamily life, while challenging, can still be good when you nacho.

** Disclaimer:

This episode includes discussion of addiction, overdosing, and alleged inappropriate touching between a stepparent and stepchild **

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with longtime friend Tabatha Hartman to discuss her challenging journey through grief, blending families, addiction, and parental alienation. Tabatha shares how her life changed after the loss of her ex-husband, the struggles her daughter endured, and the tough choices she faced as a mother and stepmom. The conversation delves into issues such as therapy for grieving children, navigating false allegations, maintaining boundaries, and building resilience amid chaos. Tabatha Hartman also talks about her memoir, "How Did We Get Here?", written to help others facing similar struggles. The episode offers raw, honest insight into coping with loss, healing family relationships, and the ongoing impact of addiction.

• In this episode, we discuss:

  • Coping with the death of a co-parent and its effects on blended families

  • Parenting through grief and supporting children after loss

  • Legal battles and parental alienation within stepfamilies

  • The impact of addiction and relapse on families

  • Setting boundaries and making difficult decisions as a parent

  • The journey of repairing and rebuilding fractured parent-child relationships

  • The reality of false allegations and how to navigate them

  • Writing as a tool for processing grief and trauma

  • The ongoing effects of addiction and generational cycles

  • How open communication and resilience can help families move forward

Comparisons are the Thief of Joy—But What About in Blended Families?

In episode NKP362 of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David dive deep into the pitfalls of comparison, especially when it comes to blended families, kids, and relationships.

Listeners will hear personal stories from Lori about her son Jackson's academic achievements and the emotions that arise when comparing him to David's children. Together, Lori and David candidly discuss how easy it is to compare kids, relationships, and even possessions, leading to unnecessary feelings of inadequacy and frustration. They reveal their distinct perspectives on academic success, parenting expectations, and why it's crucial to focus on each person's unique strengths instead of measuring up to others.

In this episode:

• Why comparison in blended families can be harmful

• How Lori and David navigate differences in their children's achievements

• The importance of recognizing individual strengths and backgrounds

• Why it's better to compare yourself only to the person you were yesterday

If you'd like to be a guest on our podcast, email us at contactsus@nachokids.com.

If you are struggling in your blend, or just want to better your blended relationships (including your relationship with your partner), join the Nacho Kids Academy at nachokidsacademy.com today!

We offer one-on-one coaching and couples coaching. If you are interested, email us at contactus@nachokids.com to check our availability.

In this episode, Lori and David dig into real-life stepfamily scenarios from handling dinnertime food drama with stepkids, to discovering vapes hidden in a teenager's room. They discuss the importance of keeping the "target off your back" as a stepparent, sharing strategies for maintaining household harmony and reducing stress, like letting dad handle his child's plate or calmly informing the bio parent about the contraband instead of taking action yourself. The hosts get candid about how small moments can trigger deeper frustrations and how most conflicts fade with time.

In this episode:

• Tips for reducing daily stress as a stepmom or stepdad

• Why "nachoing" can lead to better stepfamily relationships

• Creative ways to share responsibility with your partner

• Pros and cons of handling stepkid secrets and discipline

• The long-term perspective: laughing about today's drama years down the road

• Heartwarming and hilarious stories from the hosts' own experiences, including the joys of being a supportive step-parent and the misadventures of parenting

In this heartfelt episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Valerie Mills shares her remarkable story of becoming a stepmom who ultimately adopted her stepdaughter, overcoming immense obstacles and heartbreak along the way.

Listeners will journey with Valerie Mills as she details the emotional and legal complexities of her family's story, from rescuing her stepdaughter from a difficult home environment at age 7, to navigating the revolving door of foster care, facing her own battle with cancer, and overcoming domestic abuse. Hear how Valerie Mills fought for custody, the surprising ease of the adoption process as a single parent, and the pivotal moments where unconditional love triumphed over adversity.

This episode covers:

• The unique challenges of blended families and step-parent adoption

• Navigating the foster care system and the importance of stability for traumatized children

• Open, candid discussions about mental health, resilience, and healing after trauma

• The power of chosen family and how more love supports a child's growth

You'll also hear touching anecdotes about mother-daughter dynamics, ongoing struggles with biological parents, the importance of extended support systems, and practical tips for anyone considering adoption or dealing with family court.

Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this inspiring story with someone who needs to know they're not alone on this journey!

Challenging custody battles, high-conflict co-parents, and courtroom chaos, this episode dives deep into the realities protective parents face, with real strategies for fighting for your child's best interests. Join Renee Rodriguez and her expert guest for a powerful and practical conversation.

In this insightful episode, Renee Rodriguez welcomes a seasoned custody consultant, the creator of The Custody Blueprint, to discuss the complex and emotionally charged world of family court. Listeners will gain clear, actionable guidance on navigating custody disputes with high-conflict or abusive co-parents: from organizing evidence and building a compelling case to understanding the dynamics of narcissistic behavior, dealing with biased or uninformed legal professionals, and securing the best outcome for their children.

Key topics include:

• What it really means to be a "protective parent" versus being labeled "high-conflict"

• Why 50/50 custody isn't always in the child's best interest

• Strategies for collecting and presenting the right evidence in court

• The critical importance of clear, specific parenting plans

• The emotional and systemic hurdles parents face, and how to overcome them

You'll also hear real-life experiences from both the host and her guest, covering issues like breastfeeding and overnight custody, medical neglect, and the challenges of getting the court to see behind the facade of an abusive co-parent.

Guest Links & Resources:

• Website: TheCustodyBlueprint.com

Mother's Day is almost here, and stepmoms everywhere are bracing for the rollercoaster of emotions that this Hallmark holiday can bring. In this honest, lighthearted episode, Lori & David break down the myths, expectations, and real stories behind recognition, or lack thereof, on Mother's Day and Stepmother's Day in blended families.

In this episode:

• Why communication about expectations is crucial (hint: don't assume your partner or stepkids know what you want!)

• How to navigate feelings of disappointment or being overlooked, and practical tips to prevent "getting butt hurt twice" 

• Real-life experiences with gifts, love languages, and candid stories about not being recognized—and creative ways stepmoms can celebrate themselves 

• The history behind Mother's Day and why even its founder came to regret it 

• Advice on handling grief and mixed emotions if you're missing your own mom or struggling with the holiday 

Whether you're a stepmom, stepdad, or simply navigating new traditions in your blended family, this is your annual reminder to communicate with your partner, lower expectations and appreciate yourself for all you do.

Discover crucial insights into estate planning, divorce mediation, and the complexities of blended families in this heartfelt episode featuring attorney Tamara Arnold. Learn why preparing legal documents for life's unexpected turns is one of the greatest gifts you can give your family.

Listeners will hear Tamara's powerful personal story that led her to a career in estate planning, from her mother's tragedy to her mission of helping families ensure their voices and wishes are honored. She delves into why healthcare directives matter, how trusts work (especially for stepfamilies), and the importance of clear communication to avoid family conflict over inheritance. Tamara also explains her compassionate approach to divorce mediation, helping couples navigate separation without escalating hostile battles.

Highlights include:

• The real-life impact of a lack of estate planning and healthcare directives

• How to set up trusts and wills that honor everyone, especially in blended families

• The pitfalls of probate and how to avoid them

• Tips on guardianship decisions for children in stepfamily situations

• How mediation offers healthier outcomes in divorce and custody disputes

• Tamara's practical advice for step-parents seeking balance, trust, and clarity

• Her story of integrating into a blended family, earning stepchild trust, and finding harmony

Special guest: Tamara Arnold, founder of Truce Resolutions and creator of the Divorce Wave app. Follow her on Instagram @tamaraesq.

Curious how blended families navigate the tricky question of paying for college? Lori and David tackle financial planning, family dynamics, and the reality of college costs in stepfamilies with honesty and humor.

In this episode, you'll hear candid discussions about college expenses, scholarships, military paths, and what happens when one parent or stepparent has set aside funds for their child. Lori and David share their own experiences, like how military service and scholarships shaped their children's education, and what tough conversations arise if only one child has college savings. They dive deep into blended family finances, including inheritance, trusts, and what "fairness" really means when handling money for kids and stepkids.

You'll also get practical advice on when to start talking about finances, why it's essential to plan early, and how to manage uncomfortable conversations (with tips for mediators and financial advisors). The hosts read comments from their Facebook group, providing real-life perspectives on who pays for college.

Want more Nacho Kids wisdom? Visit https://nachokids.com for resources, join their Facebook group, and stay connected on social media. Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and catch upcoming episodes for support and advice on stepfamily life!

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Struggling with family court drama or high-conflict co-parenting? In this eye-opening episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, host Lori sits down with seasoned family law attorney Whitney Antoniono to reveal the common mistakes people make in family court, and how to avoid them.

What to Expect:
You'll learn the crucial dos and don'ts of communicating with your co-parent, why documenting everything (with more than just your phone!) matters, and how emotional responses can sabotage your case. Whitney Antoniano shares real-world stories from inside and outside the courtroom, highlighting how little things, like your tone in emails, or rolling your eyes in court, can sway a judge's opinion.

The episode also dives into:

• How to protect yourself from common pitfalls before, during, and after court

• The ins-and-outs of self-representation versus hiring an attorney

• The realities of step-parent involvement in custody cases

• When and how kids' preferences are considered

• Why relying on AI tools like ChatGPT for legal filings could backfire

• How to keep your cool (and keep your costs down) if things get heated

Guest Info:
Whitney Antoniano is a multi-state family law attorney (DC, NY, MD, TX). She's known for her straight talk, practical strategies, and deep empathy for clients caught in high-conflict cases. Find her on Instagram and TikTok @WLAFamilyLaw, or visit wlafamilylaw.com for educational content and resources.

Don't miss this essential episode for any parent, step-parent, or partner navigating the family court maze. Hit subscribe to hear more, leave us a review, or join the Nacho Kids community for extra support!

Ready for some laughs, real-life blended family moments, and practical advice? In Episode NKP354 of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David go deep on navigating relationships with adult stepkids - messy bathrooms, emptied fridges, and all!

Tune in to hear Lori recount a jaw-dropping real-life story from a Nacho Kids Academy member who returned home to a ransacked kitchen and disaster-zone bathrooms after leaving her adult stepkids in charge. David and Lori unpack what to do (and NOT do) when your adult stepkids act more like kids than adults, and how applying Nacho parenting strategies can save your sanity, and your marriage. You'll learn the difference between stepping in and stepping back, how to address stepkid messes without drama, and why your words (and tone!) matter more than you think.

This episode also dives into the long game: how today's choices affect future relationships with your partner, stepkids, and even step-grandkids. Plus, hear tips for emotional regulation, clear communication, and picking your battles so minor annoyances don't become major rifts.

Love the show? Subscribe, leave a review, or join the Nacho Kids Academy for more tools to make your blend less stressful and more joyful!

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Website: nachokids.com

Ready for some real talk about stepfamily life? In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David dive into the hot topic of whether stepkids should be pushed to move out at 18, and why the answer is rarely so simple.

Tune in to hear Lori and David share both personal stories and practical advice about navigating expectations around adult children in blended families. You'll hear them discuss everything from financial realities facing today's young adults to the emotional impact of pushing (or not pushing) kids out of the house. The hosts break down common misconceptions, such as the idea that kids are automatically ready at 18 or assuming that birth order or biological connection determines readiness. They even roleplay typical conversations (with humor and honesty) to illustrate the complicated dynamics at play.

Listeners will learn:

• Why "just move out at 18" isn't always realistic or fair for stepkids

• The importance of planning, open communication, and leading rather than pushing

• How economic realities have changed since Lori and David were young

• Practical strategies for preparing kids for independence, including decision-making tools and honest conversation

No special guests join this episode—it's all the witty, relatable wisdom you've come to expect from Lori and David.

Love the show?

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If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, or share with someone navigating the blended family journey!

Nacho Kids Podcast—real talk, real families, real solutions.

Get ready for a powerful and deeply honest conversation in Nacho Kids Podcast Episode 352!

This week, our returning guest Laura, a stepmom from Oklahoma, shares her emotional journey navigating difficult stepfamily dynamics, personal boundaries, and the realities of "apartnership" - staying married while living separately.

Tune in to hear Laura provide a raw behind-the-scenes look at what led her and her husband to start living apart, including challenges with her teenage stepson, navigating sensitive situations, and the struggle for support and understanding in her marriage. Lori dives deep, asking the tough questions about why Laura chose to stay and work on her marriage despite major obstacles, and together, they discuss how stepfamily life creates unique struggles and growth opportunities.

Listeners will gain insights into:

• The complexities of stepfamily relationships and boundaries

• How personal safety, mental health, and resentment play roles in blended family life

• Why living apart can sometimes bring clarity and healing

• The importance of communication, therapy, letting go of control, and self-care

• How to avoid the comparison trap when it comes to other stepfamilies

Don't miss Laura's candid takeaways and tips for struggling stepmoms, along with relatable, real-life confessions from the host, Lori. This episode is a valuable listen for anyone in a blended family or considering alternative ways to nurture their relationship.

Feeling lost in your stepfamily journey? In Nacho Kids Podcast episode 351, Lori and David get real about what it's like to lose yourself in the chaos of blending families, and how to find your way back to "you."

In this deeply relatable conversation, Lori opens up about her personal experience of losing her sense of self after joining families with David, taking on new roles, and navigating quadrupled responsibilities. David shares insights from a male perspective, highlighting the common pitfalls of stepfamily roles and why both partners can end up feeling like strangers to themselves. Together, they break down how cultural expectations, communication gaps, and a lack of boundaries can fuel resentment and exhaustion.

You'll learn:

• Why stepmoms (and stepdads) often feel "lost" in the blend

• How responsibility overload happens and tips to prevent it

• The importance of alone time, hobbies, and open conversations with your partner

• Real-life examples of boundary-setting, self-care, and mutual support

• Actionable advice to reclaim your happiness without guilt

If you're craving practical wisdom, moments of humor, and encouragement to put yourself back on your own priority list, this episode is for you.

Blending families isn't for the faint of heart—and losing yourself in the process is all too common. Tune in as Lori and guest Jackie Faber get real about boundaries, guilt, and reclaiming your identity in stepfamily life.

In this raw and relatable episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori welcomes former stepmom Jackie Faber to discuss what it's really like to blend families, navigate unfair expectations, and fight back against the emotional traps that so many stepfamilies fall into. Jackie shares her personal story of discovering Nacho Kids, recognizing patterns of self-abandonment, and ultimately choosing her own well-being over staying in an unhealthy relationship.

Listeners will learn:

• How stepmoms and stepdads often lose themselves trying to "do it right" in a blended family.

• Why resentment and guilt are so common, and how to recognize who's really responsible for family problems.

• The difference between partner problems and parenting problems.

• The power of boundaries, self-care, and not letting others' expectations dictate your happiness.

• Strategies for managing "fairness," finances, and emotional labor in blended family life.

• How to communicate your needs (and why most of us were never taught how!).

• Eye-opening insights about stepfamily love, parental alienation, and not repeating unhealthy patterns from the past.

Whether you're in the trenches of a stepfamily or still considering blending, this candid conversation will help you find your way back to yourself.

Get ready for laughter, realness, and actionable advice as Lori and David tackle Valentine's Day expectations and the tricky emotions that come with stepfamily living.

In this episode, Lori and David dive into the emotional minefields of Valentine's Day, discussing honest communication between partners and the importance of managing expectations, especially in blended families. You'll hear their candid conversation about gift-giving ("Stop setting your partner up to fail!"), spontaneous acts of kindness, and why comparison can sabotage the holiday spirit. 

Topics:

• The importance of clearly communicating expectations with your partner (don't set each other up to fail!)

• How perceptions and comparison impact kids, especially when one child gets a gift, and others don't

• Why spending $150 on roses may NOT be the best way to show love, for anyone in your family

• Practical, budget-friendly ideas for celebrating and keeping family harmony, like the famous coupon book or sharing ice cream instead of overpriced cards

• Insights about childhood emotions, feeling included, and handling those tricky stepfamily holiday moments

Relevant Links:

• Nacho Kids Podcast Website: https://nachokids.com/podcast/

Episode NKP349
Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and join the Nacho Kids community for more support and insights on stepfamily life!

In this powerful and deeply honest episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with Jon Bassford, author of The Co-Parenting Secret: It's Not About You, to talk about what healthy co-parenting really looks like, and why most families are unknowingly doing it wrong.

Jon shares his personal journey as a child of divorce, a father navigating two households, and a co-parent who intentionally chose cooperation over conflict. Together, they explore the realities of dual parenting vs. true co-parenting, the emotional toll high-conflict dynamics place on children, and how ego, resentment, and unresolved hurt often derail what's best for kids.

This conversation covers:

• Why "co-parenting" often isn't co-parenting at all
• The difference between parallel parenting and collaborative parenting
• How childhood divorce experiences shape adult parenting decisions
• Why keeping the focus on the child changes everything
• The power of accountability instead of blame
• How healthy communication models emotional intelligence for kids
• Creating a functional "village" even after divorce
• Why showing up matters more than perfection
• How to reduce transitions, meltdowns, and emotional overload for children

Jon also explains how he and his ex-wife rebuilt their post-divorce relationship with intentionality, including maintaining respectful communication, consistent parenting standards across households, and involving extended family as part of a unified support system.

This episode is a must-listen for:

✔ Stepparents feeling overwhelmed or sidelined
✔ Divorced parents struggling with communication
✔ Parents navigating 50/50 custody schedules
✔ High-conflict co-parenting situations
✔ Anyone wanting to protect their child's emotional health

If you've ever wondered whether peaceful co-parenting is truly possible, this episode proves that it is.

Because when parenting becomes about the child instead of the adults…

everything changes.

• The Co-Parenting Secret: It's Not About You — Jon Bassford
• Website: jonbassford.com

The Nacho Kids Podcast is dedicated to supporting stepparents and blended families through real conversations, real stories, and real solutions — all grounded in the proven Nacho Kids Method.

Life really is better… when you Nacho.

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When an adult stepchild moves back home, many stepparents quickly realize that blending does not end at age 18, it simply enters a new phase.

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David talk candidly about what happens when adult children return home, sometimes with partners and young children in tow. What begins as a temporary plan to save money or regroup can quickly bring up anxiety, boundaries, and old blended-family challenges you thought were behind you.

They discuss the emotional and logistical realities of shared households, including working from home with more people present, managing noise and schedules, and navigating the difference between biological-parent tolerance and stepparent tolerance.

This conversation covers:

• Adult stepkids moving back in
• Why this stage can feel harder than early blending
• Anxiety and resentment many stepmoms experience
• Setting household expectations without creating conflict
• Communicating boundaries without sounding controlling
• Helping adult children without hurting your marriage
• Why step-parenting does not end when kids become adults

Many blended families are surprised to learn that step-parenting continues well into adulthood, especially in today's economy, where housing costs and living expenses make independence more difficult for young adults.

If you are navigating an adult stepchild moving back home, struggling with boundaries, or feeling overwhelmed by the impact on your marriage or peace, this episode offers an honest perspective and practical reassurance.

Helping does not have to mean sacrificing yourself.

Because life is good when you Nacho.

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When a stepchild hurts your partner, every instinct tells you to jump in and defend them, but that move often makes everything worse.

In this episode of The Nacho Kids Podcast, we unpack what really happens when step-parents step in too fast, how quickly alliances flip, and why trying to "fix" the moment can turn you into the problem.

We talk honestly about:

• Watching a stepchild disrespect or hurt your partner

• Why defending your partner can backfire

• How the target shifts from the behavior to you

• Why step-parents often feel more upset than the biological parent

• The danger of keeping score

• When stepping in can help and when stepping back is the healthiest move

This conversation isn't about bad kids or bad intentions. It's about understanding blended family dynamics, emotional triggers, and how to protect your relationship without escalating conflict.

Nacho isn't about disengaging emotionally.
It's about disengaging from what was never yours to fix.

If you're a step-parent trying to balance boundaries, connection, and peace, this episode will help you see the situation differently and respond with clarity instead of reaction.

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In this lively episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David dive straight into a wild story involving clogged toilets, dangerous chemical reactions, and a visit from the local fire department. Lori recounts her adventure with her friend Holley as they try to fix her dad's clogged toilet, inadvertently creating chlorine gas by mixing household chemicals. The resulting chaos - fire trucks, EMTs, neighbors, and dad's dark humor - serves as a hilarious reminder: don't mix cleaning products!

The hosts then shift the conversation toward stepfamily dynamics, exploring how emotional attachments shape responses to mistakes made by stepkids versus biological kids and close friends. Lori and David share personal anecdotes about household frustrations (think dirty dishes and leftover cereal boxes) and how they navigate daily stresses, especially with the anticipated return of David's son and more family members moving in.

Throughout the episode, there's plenty of laughter, playful banter, and honest reflection on blending families, boundaries, and giving grace - even when someone leaves time on the microwave or a mess on the counter. The episode closes with a tongue-in-cheek debate about food, chores, and who really needs to stop eating - all in typical Nacho Kids Podcast fashion.

Key Topics:

• When DIY plumbing goes wrong—chemical mishaps and calling 911

• Differences in reactions to mishaps between stepkids, bio kids, and friends

• The rising stress of blended family living arrangements

• Household chores, boundaries, and comedic interactions between hosts

Listeners get a healthy dose of humor, relatable stepfamily struggles, and a reminder that sometimes, all you can do is "nacho"—let go and laugh about it.

Nacho Kids Testimony:

"I no longer regret marrying my husband! Thank you Nacho!" ~ H.H., Montgomery, AL, USA

Kick off 2026 with laughter and real talk! In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David explore the powerful topic of expectations—why they trip us up, how to let go of what others "should" do, and how to build more peace and happiness in your blended family life.

In this episode:

• Why expecting others to change (especially as a New Year's resolution!) sets you up for disappointment

• How your personal stories, judgments, and baggage shape what you expect from others—and how to rewrite those scripts

• Practical advice on shifting your mindset, spotting unrealistic expectations, and finding the positive even in tough times

• The importance of controlling your own reactions and embracing ownership of your actions and mistakes

• Why social media and Hallmark movies might be sabotaging your happiness

• Exciting news about donated Nacho Kids Academy scholarships, courtesy of the amazing Sylvia Krakauer

Nacho Testimony:
"If it wasn't for Nacho Parenting, I'd be divorced... again!" ~ L.W., Canton, OH, USA

Looking for real talk on blended family challenges, New Year's resolutions, and actionable strategies for stepfamilies? In this episode, hosts David and Lori dive deep into stepfamily dynamics and why things can change in an instant. Whether you're a stepparent, parent in a blended family, or just seeking practical advice on setting and achieving goals, this episode delivers with wit, wisdom, and warmth.

Episode Highlights:

• New Year's Resolutions & Why Most Fail: Learn why breaking goals into 90-day cycles (instead of year-long ambitions) leads to success.

• Psychology of Quick Wins: How seeing progress motivates stepfamilies, with lessons drawn from money management and video games.

• Realistic Blended Family Goals: Concrete ideas like reducing negativity and celebrating incremental progress.

• Building Relationships: Candid confessions on communication styles and maintaining healthy family or friendship connections.

• Acts of Kindness: The episode honors the memory of Ryan Webb by encouraging random acts of kindness in stepfamilies and communities.

Tune in for practical strategies, relatable stories, and the trademark Nacho Kids humor as David and Lori help you navigate life's curveballs in a blended family. From paying off your car to learning how to "Nacho" the negatives, this episode is packed with inspiration to start your year strong - one bite-sized step at a time!

Nacho Testimony:
"The whole Nacho thing made no sense to me years ago when I heard about it. Now, years later, I am so thankful for this method and Lori & David! They saved my marriage!" ~ E.J., Pittsburgh, PA, USA

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts David and Lori dive into a deeply relatable and emotional topic: financial stress and holiday challenges in blended families. Lori reads a heart-wrenching post from their Facebook group about a listener struggling to provide Christmas gifts for her children due to unexpected medical expenses, while her fiancé has spent thousands on his own kids' presents. The question at the core: Is this "nachoing," or is it something deeper about the relationship itself?

In this episode:

• Blended family finances
• Holiday stress for stepfamilies
• Nacho parenting boundaries
• Asking for help and community support
• Avoiding resentment between kids and partners
• Creative solutions to financial hardship
• The meaning of teamwork in blended families
• Managing unexpected expenses together
• Ethical giving and protecting your heart

Nacho Testimony:

Learning to Nacho was the best thing I ever did! It taught me so much about myself, our blend, and our marriage. I am so thankful for Nacho! ~ T.K., Washington DC, USA

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and guest David tackle one of the trickiest challenges in blended family life: what happens when the stepkids get sick? This episode dives deep into how co-parents and stepparents can navigate illness between households, keep communication open, and prioritize what's best for the kids.

In this episode:

• The impact of sick kids moving between households 

• Communication strategies during illness 

• Sticking to the court order vs. using common sense 

• Special considerations for newborns and "ours" kids

• Documenting decisions and preparing for possible court ramifications 

• Handling stepkids and bio kids during big events or vacations 

• Setting expectations with your partner before kids get sick 

• The difference between nuclear families and stepfamilies in dealing with sickness

• Grace, compassion, and the realities of co-parenting through illness 

Perfect for step-parents, co-parents, and anyone navigating blended families, this episode offers actionable advice, personal stories, and a dose of humor. Whether your concern is family court, protecting newborns, or just managing the stress of sick kids in a complex household, you'll find something helpful here.

Nacho Testimony:

"Nacho parenting saved my life! I'm not kidding." ~ E.W., Atlanta, GA, USA

Is your blended family struggling with cell phone boundaries? NKP340 dives deep into the real challenges and solutions around kids, technology, and stepfamily life—don't miss these actionable tips!

In this insightful episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori & David tackle one of today's hottest parenting topics: managing cell phones in homes where children move between parents. From hilarious Little House on the Prairie analogies to sobering stories of real blended family struggles, this episode offers a mix of laughter, practical advice, and must-know warnings.

Listeners will learn:

• How cell phone rules can become battlegrounds between households, and ways to set clear boundaries before problems start.

• Pros and cons of monitoring apps like Life360, Faraday bags for privacy, and navigating who controls a child's device and passwords.

• Why direct communication and trust (but verify!) are essential, and the vital role of bio parents in digital discipline.

• Eye-opening risks around online gaming, social media, sextortion, and the emotional impact of technology on kids.

• How to explain tech boundaries, and why every child—and family—may need different rules.

Connect with the Nacho Kids Podcast:

• Website: nachokids.com

• YouTube: Nacho Kids Podcast Channel

• Facebook: Nacho Kids Facebook Group

Nacho Kids Academy Testimonial:
"I was at my wits end. I hated my life. I joined the Nacho Academy out of sheer desperation. I wish I would have joined it sooner! It changed my life!" M.G. ~ El Paso, TX, USA

This week on Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David dive deep into the often sticky subject of gifts: where they go, who they belong to, and the emotional complexities when kids want to bring presents between homes. Whether your family is navigating joint custody, split holidays, or parallel parenting, this episode delivers smart advice and real stories that every modern blended family can relate to.

Listeners will learn:

• The factors that influence whether gifts should travel between homes (cost, age, custody schedules)

• How withholding gifts can reinforce the sense of "two separate lives" for kids, and emotional fallout that comes with it

• Tips for setting clear expectations about gifts, including guidelines for expensive presents and clothing

• The pitfalls of competitive gift-giving between parents and how to keep the focus on your child

• Alternatives to physical presents, like sharing memorable experiences instead

• Why "guilty parent syndrome" can drive us to replace lost or broken items, and why letting kids learn consequences is often healthier

Relevant Links:
Learn more about Nacho Kids: nachokids.com
Join the Nacho Kids Academy: NachoKidsAcademy.com
Connect on Facebook: Nacho Kids Facebook
Subscribe and never miss an episode: Apple Podcasts
YouTube: Nacho Kids YouTube

If this episode resonates with you, subscribe, leave a review, or check out the full Nacho Kids Method on nachokids.com to join the conversation and gain more support in your blended family journey!

Holidays in a blended family don't have to be stressful!

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David dive into real-life stories and practical tips on how to navigate gift-giving, family traditions, and finances during the holiday season as a blended family.

Listeners will learn how to handle common issues like kids comparing presents, managing in-law expectations with step-grandkids, and avoiding "gift competition" between households. Lori and David reveal their own strategies for dividing up gift responsibilities, setting realistic gift budgets, and creating flexible holiday traditions that don't revolve around a specific date, but focus on making lasting memories together. You'll also pick up clever ideas for dealing with uneven schedules, supplementing grandparent gifts, and why sometimes it's okay to buy your own present and wrap it up!

Lori and David share plenty of personal experiences and advice every blended family can relate to. Don't miss their heartfelt take on giving back during the holidays and the importance of gratitude, even when things aren't "Hallmark perfect."

Tune in for laughs, thoughtful insights, and a powerful reminder: Christmas is about the love and memories you create, not just the gifts you give.

Enjoyed the show?
👉 Subscribe, leave a review, and check out more resources at nachokids.com
👉 Join the Nacho Kids Academy to get even more support for your blended family

Nacho Kids Academy Testimony:
"The Nacho Kids Academy was the best investment we ever made for our marriage!" ~ L.H., Aurora, IL, USA

In this candid and often humorous episode, Lori and David pull back the curtain on their personal lives, sharing the challenges and surprises that come with caring for aging parents, navigating wills and inheritance in blended families, and keeping family drama at bay during important occasions.

Listeners will hear firsthand stories about planning for final arrangements. Complete with amusing tales of funeral shopping and "drive-thru" ideas. Plus, what it truly feels like to manage adult responsibilities amid the ticking clock of family health issues. Lori and David also discuss crucial estate-planning differences for stepfamilies versus nuclear families and share insights into handling complex inheritance scenarios fairly.

You'll learn:

• Why legal planning is especially important in blended families

• How to open difficult conversations about wills, power of attorney, and inheritance

• Ways to "nacho" family drama (and why you should!)

• Real-life examples of guilt, responsibility, and the art of letting go

Episode #336 – Subscribe, leave a review, and share with someone who needs encouragement through their own family journeys!

Nacho Academy Testimonial:

"I had no idea how hard this stepfamily crap would be. We needed help and weren't afraid to admit it. David & Lori really put things into perspective and gave us hope again! Three years later, we are still Nachoing and it's great! Couldn't have done it without them!" ~ J.U., Denver, CO, USA