The Mother Of It All – Détails, épisodes et analyse

What if we considered care to be a sacred practice? What if the everyday tasks of parenting were backtracked by the dramatic score of the British Baking Show? Elissa Strauss, author of When You Care: Unexpected Magic of Caring for Others joins Sarah and Miranda to mull over what it would mean to value care as a society and in our personal lives. We talk about trusting others with your children, why it’s so fraught to admit you like being a parent, alloparents, the Hero’s Journey, and kids singing Lean on Me. Plus, Elissa gives us some free couples therapy!

Links

* Elissa’s Book, When You Care: The Unexpected Magic of Caring for Others

* Elissa Strauss’s Substack, Made with Care

* Elissa’s Slate Piece: It’s a Weird Time to Be a Happy Mom

* Economist Nancy Folbre

* A Thousand and One Movie

* The Care Justice Movement

* Alloparenting 

* Rosalynn Carter

* Sarah Blaffer Hrdy

Culture Recs

* Young Sheldon

* The Golden Spoon

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Author and editor Kaitlyn Teer (you may know her as the editor of Joanna Goddard’s Big Salad newsletter ) joins Sarah and Miranda to chat about how weirdly hard and wonderful it is to have hobbies as a mom, and the unique joy of being new (even bad!) at something. We get into such pressing questions as: What is “contaminated leisure time,” and how can we carve out ‘uncontaminated’ time to explore who we are beyond work and caregiving? If modern motherhood is defined by a sense of pressure to optimize our every decision, what does it mean to chase ‘beginners mind,’ uncertainty, and inefficient uses of time? Are our hobbies an expression of millennial economic dread, and an effort to detach our sense of self-regard from the capitalistic value systems that have left us in the lurch? Are we totally overthinking this? We also touch on: Kaitlyn’s amazing hair, Doggy Land, and Sarah’s recent swimming pool cannonball-ing achievements. Plus culture recs, moving as a mom (hard!), and more.

This episode is sponsored by Freeya, a marketplace for free stuff.

Links

* Anne Helen Petersen on quality leisure time vs. ‘contaminated leisure time’

* Follow Kaitlyn on Instagram

* Kaitlyn Teer on Mountain Biking In New Motherhood

* ‘Popsicles Can’t Fix This New Heat’, Kaitlyn Teer over at Electric Lit

* Big Salad, Joanna Goddard’s newsletter (edited by Kaitlyn!)

* Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport

* The Home Place: Memoirs of a Colored Man’s Love Affair with Nature by J. Drew Lanham

* Better Living Through Birding: Notes from a Black Man in the Natural World By Christian Cooper

* Hike Clerb

* Family-oriented family (brene brown pod— sarah can you add?)

* Crayola Air-Dry Clay & how to make a clay flower frog

* Doggy Lands affirmations

* Madwoman by Chelsea Bieker 

* Skull King

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Sarah and Miranda host their first dad, cultural critic Phillip Maciak, and dig into screen time, shame, nostalgia, hugs, and multi-level marketing for second-graders.

Links:

* Phil’s book, Avidly Reads Screen Time

* Phil on Instagram

* Phil’s review of Season 2 of the Bear in The New Republic

* The NOLA Pelicans’ King Cake Baby mascot

* The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt

* Stephanie Murray’s thoughts in the Dispatch

* ’ thoughts in Romper

* Melinda Wenner Moyer’s thoughts in

* ’s The Art of Screen Time: How Your Family Can Balance Digital Media and Real Life

* Sky Guide

* Jessica Grose on Screens in Schools

* The Digital Wealth Divide in Schools

* Phil on Frog and Toad

* on Bluey as the Breaking Bad of family television

Culture Recs:

* She-ra and the Princess of Power 

* Hilda 

* City of Ghosts 

* Harriet the Spy Show 

* Muppet Babies 

* with and

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Sarah and Miranda are joined by their moms, Bev and Linda, to talk about modern motherhood, what has and hasn’t changed in a generation, “Folly Fridays,” and whether mothers ever truly get their flowers.

Links:

* Terry Brazelton

* Lydia Kiesling’s Golden State

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Sarah and Miranda talk to Lucy Jones, author of the book Matrescence, out May 7th, about how becoming a mother is truly a biopsychosocial evolution, how motherhood in nature is more often about chaos and violence than dyads and instincts, Kafka’s Metamorphosis, and our favorite Bluey episodes.

Links:

* Order Lucy’s book, Matrescence

* Alexandra Sacks’ The Birth of a Mother in the NY TImes

* The Quickening by Elizabeth Rush

* Natality by Jennifer Banks

* Partum Gardens Portland

* Andrea O’Reilly

* Sarah’s favorite Bluey episode

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A little one-on-one time with Sarah and Miranda! A fun chit-chatty check-in about vasectomies, the third kid question, the weird pressure of turning 40, why Sarah "doesn't get" Hawaii, mole moms, hopping on the 'crone train, and calendar reminders gone wild. Plus, a big announcement!

How To Catch A Mole by Marc Hamer
Poser by Claire DedererKrtek The Mole, Clementine, Psychic Sister

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Columnist and sociologist Kathryn Jezer-Morton returns to give the inside scoop on her recent profile of Dr. Becky. Sarah, Miranda and KJM dive deep into what’s great (and maybe no so great) about the advice Dr. Becky doles out, and Kathryn explains what ultimately surprised her most about spending time with Dr. Becky and the “Good Inside” parent community. 

Links:

• KJM’s NY Magazine Profile of Dr. Becky.

  
  



• More thoughts about the profile in her Cut column, Brooding.

  
  



• Dr. Becky on Instagram

  
  

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Sarah and Miranda are joined by Rebecca Kronman, a licensed clinical social worker and co-founder of Plant Parenthood, a community that explores the intersection of psychedelics and the family. She talks about the importance of set and setting, the false dichotomy between healing and joy, and about how psychedelics help some parents heal intergenerational trauma and connect more easily with their children by tapping them into a more child-like perspective.

Links:

• Rebecca Kronman of Plant Parenthood

  
  



• Miranda’s feature on Mushroom Moms

  
  



• Sarah’s Cut piece Moms Gone Wild

  
  



• Study: Your Brain on LSD Looks A Lot Like A Baby’s

  
  



• Santo Daime

  
  



• Ismail L. Ali of MAPS

  
  



• Fireside Project Trip Support Hotline

  
  



• How To Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan 

  
  



• Global Psychedelic Society 

  
  

Culture Recs:

• The Upstairs House by Julia Fine


• The Hidden Life of Pets show on Netlfix

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LitHub contributing editor Janet Manley joins us to talk about the postpartum comedy with a horror twist that started it all, 2018’s Tully. We discuss how the conversation around the postpartum period has changed in six years, what the New York Times got wrong about this film, and what we would go back and offer our postpartum selves.

Links:

Janet’s newsletter, Kafka’s Baby

Janet’s coverage of the movie here and here

Stupid NYT review

Better Vulture review

Book Recs:


Samantha Hunt’s Mr. Splitfoot

Rachel Yoder’s Nightbitch

Julia Fine’s The Upstairs House




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With author and essayist Lydia Kiesling, we talk about the conflict in Gaza, which has taken the lives of tens of thousands of our fellow mothers and their children. We explore the ways that motherhood has the potential to awaken activism, about feeling frozen, helpless or overwhelmed, as well as how we can take our tender hearts and protective instincts and direct them towards activism and real change.

LINKS: - United Nations report on Gaza Casualties March 12, 2024

- UNRWA report more children killed since Oct 7 than 4 years of conflict world wide. 

- Birds of Gaza

- Mobility by Lydia Kiesling

- Lydia’s Link Doc

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