I don’t know about you but I was never taught about body safety or consent. Let alone my growing body, puberty or sex. It just wasn't the type of conversations I had with my parents. Left to my own devices, friends and media became my biggest teachers.

I don’t want this for my kids.

I want to be involved in helping them understand boundaries, their bodies, and how to keep themselves safe.

I want to give you my 7-step process on teaching kids about body consent and safety.

So your child has been watching a certain TV show or playing on a certain app and you’ve realized that you no longer want them on it. 

You want to set a boundary but you also know how upsetting this will be for them. 

What do you do?! 

In this episode, I’ll share the exact script to use during these moments and important things to keep in mind!

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So while strangers are simply people your family doesn't know, "tricky people" can be both strangers and people we're familiar with. In this video, you'll learn how to talk to kids about "tricky people" without causing fear.

After listening to this episode, you'll know:

• What is a "tricky person"

• 3 things to teach your children about tricky people

• Common signs of "tricky people"

• How to empower your children (rather than scare them)

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So your toddler keeps whining, crying, and pleading without despite how much you're trying to explain and validate their feelings.

No matter what you say, though, they KEEP whining and crying. 😓

It’s exhausting to keep repeating myself but then you feel guilty for ignoring him after a while.

In this 8-min episode, I’ll discuss how to approach these situations mentally and practically. How to interpret this behavior and what to say and do. 

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Picture this - You’re at a party and all of a sudden another child comes up to you and tells you your child SPIT on another child. 😳What in the world? You’re instantly filled with anxiety, shock, and embarrassment. You step in to find out what’s going on but to your dismay, your child won’t say ANYTHING. Nothing brings out more stress and pressure than parenting in the wild (especially when your child won’t cooperate). 

In this episode, I’ll be sharing 1) How to interpret public misbehavior, 2) Exactly what to do and say during these stressful moments, and 3) What NOT to do (aka mistakes to avoid) and why. 

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In this episode, I share the top 5 phrases to avoid saying to your child (& why), and most importantly, what to say instead. 

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In this episode, I share how to avoid bedtime battles (and power struggles in general). Hope you enjoy! If you liked this episode, consider leaving a rating. It truly helps. Thank you again for listening.

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Our child's behaviors can often feel like a mystery and it’s hard to know how to respond when they do confusing things like break toys, get aggressive, not cooperate, or run around in circles all of a sudden. I'm I’m here to help with that! In this week's episode, I'll help demystify confusing yet common child behaviors so that you can feel more effective and confident in your parenting approach! PS: Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop

In this episode, I'll break down the most common mistakes parents make when setting boundaries/disciplining their young children (and what to try instead) so that you increase cooperation without sacrificing your mental health! PS: Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop

So one of my all time favorite values I try to instill in my children is the value of perseverance and hard work. It's a topic we regularly circle back to so you can imagine my shock when my 6-year old once blurted out "I'm stupid" while trying to learn a new skill. In this week's episode I share a quick story time of how I handled her statement so that she walked away feeling: Understood and connected with me, more equipped to understand how her mind works, and more self-confident and willing to try hard things. // Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook

When it comes to screen time - my biggest tip is to make sure your children are exposed to quality content.

To me, quality boils down to being:

👶🏽Age appropriate (made exactly for your child’s age range and development).

📚Educational and/or inspiring (versus just entertaining).

💃🏽Engaging and interactive (encourages them to participate either by calling out answers, dancing, sharing their ideas, etc).

Nowadays, there are so many options to choose from that it can be hard to know what is quality and what’s not.

That’s why in this video, I’ll be sharing some of my current (and past) favorites that I think you should check out.

Keep in mind, this is not an exhaustive list. I kept the list short for a reason.

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Here's your easy to follow 3-step plan for when your kids get aggressive! // Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook

When our kids get aggressive, it's sooo tempting to respond reactively and:
- Yelling & getting aggressive back.
- Asking questions ("Why are you doing this??")
- Trying to reason with them when they're in an emotional state (e.g., "Well you know we don't have dessert before dinner.")
- Lecturing them or telling them to "Stop!" - Ignoring them and pretending it's not happening.

But I'm here to be your voice of reason and help you with this!

Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook

I don’t know about y’all but as a mom of 3, I have a no tolerance policy for demanding behavior.

If we don't lovingly intervene *in the moment,* children learn quick that making demands is how they get their needs.

In this week's episode, I share my easy 3-step process to curbing demanding and impatient behaviors so our children can learn how to respectfully ask for what they need.

Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook // It's super common for kids to see problematic behaviors at school and want to try them out at home.

Whether they're aware of it or not, they're trying to process what they observed and learn more about the behavior by testing out how we will respond to it.

When done correctly, these conversations have the ability to:
Increase our child's social awareness
Foster connection and trust between parent-child
Help them re-think their self-concept and position themselves as "leaders" rather than "followers

In this week's episode, I share how I address negative behaviors picked up from school using my clear 4-step process.

"Rude" is a subjective term, but any time you interpret your child's language as "unfriendly", "rude", or "unkind," here's what to say to help them learn better communication.

I don't know about y'all, but I'm a positive parent with a no tolerance attitude around disrespectful language & behavior. 

It's my cue to step in and teach because I know the more I allow this behavior, the more it spreads. 

Yes, let's get your needs met, but let's do this respectfully. 

In this episode, I share my 5-step process to curbing "rude" behavior so that we can intentionally raise self-aware kids who know how to communicate their wants and needs to others in respectful ways.

Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook

Teaching kids how to manage their anger comes down to helping them shift their mindset so they can change their choices. 

Rather than anger being viewed as a “bad” feeling, let’s come to see it as a messenger here to help us. Then we can channel the anger towards effective communication, expression, and self-care. 

In this episode, I share 3 crucial skills you must teach your kids when it comes to anger & tips to help you get started.

Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook

Yes, spending intentional 1:1 time with our kids every day *is* sooo important, namely for preventing behavioral issues and enhancing connection. But as our children age, connection is about sooo much more. 

In this episode, I'm going to break down 5+ ways to connect with your child in muchhhhhh deeper ways. When done consistently, these things lead to secure attachment because they build trust and intimacy in the parent-child relationship.

 If you need more help with positive discipline, I have a FREE workshop, How to Get Your Kids to Listen Without Yelling, where we work through discipline and setting consequences with intention and respect. I provide you with the tools you need to create a happy home where cooperation happens without the struggle.

I know it's easy to feel overwhelmed, embarrassed and upset at your child when their teacher approaches you about their misbehavior. 

There’s so many potential reasons why your child is misbehaving so it's important to first focus on gathering more information from their teacher before discussing solutions.

Remember: behavior is just a symptom to a larger problem.

Think of it as the smoke to a blazing fire.

Yes, it's what gets our attention and what we tend to notice first but there's so much else we need to be paying attention to if we want to help our child thrive in school.

In this week's episode, I breakdown the top 6 questions to ask daycare staff or school teachers if they approach you about your child's misbehavior in the classroom.

These questions will not only help you understand the behavior on a deeper level but also inform how you both can intervene to help your child get back on track.

PS: Tune into the 3-part podcast miniseries hosted by ME with The Skimm X Whirlpool called Breaking the Cycle - https://bit.ly/skimm-this-podcast - all on the hidden educational crisis of chronic absenteeism.

So lately, I’ve noticed that my 5-year old has been doing a lot of “testy” behaviors like:

• Not respecting her sister’s body boundaries. 

• Competing with her sister (e.g., “Mommy let me get this first.”) 

• Moving really slowwww (or not at all) when I give directions. 

• Getting “stuck” in whining/sulking when upset. Lowww frustration tolerance. 

There are sooo many different ways to approach this behavior so in this week's episode I want to share some "behind the scenes" of how I've been approaching her behaviors lately.

Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop

When tension runs high, it's tempting to match our children's emotions and meet their anger with anger but it rarely works.

All we're left with is disconnection and lots of guilt. 

Instead, we are best served by focusing on de-escalation.

In this episode, I give you a roadmap to refer back to again and again when navigating your child's intense emotions.

Instead of avoiding screens, teach your kids how to have a healthy relationship with them! Focus on building a foundation of open communication, digital safety & healthy screen habits. 

And the earlier we start teaching these things, the better! 

To help you get started, here are 4 practical ways to teach your kids about healthy digital habits!

Uh oh! You just got word that your child is being excluded by kids at school. Other kids are saying hurtful things and don’t let your child play with them.

You feel horrible and want this to STOP. You want your child to wake up and stop being friends with them but you also don’t want them to feel judged and shut down.

In this episode, I’ll share:

1. Best ways to respond in these moments so your child feels supported but also knows how to stand up for themselves
2. How to help your child think about friendship in a more holistic way
3. Tools to teach your child how to make and keep good friends 

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The Survival Guide for Making & Keeping Friends- https://amzn.to/3UWlwZ7

The Little Book of Friendship- https://amzn.to/4bylSKV

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How to Be a Friend: A Guide to Making Friends and Keeping Them- https://amzn.to/3UHSATx

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Navigating our children's intense emotions can sometimes feel like we're walking on eggshells.

We try to connect and validate but it rarely feeling like it's "working."

And then sometimes we say certain buzzwords or ask simple questions and it REALLY sets our child off.

In this week's episode, I explore the top 4 things your child doesn't want to hear when they're frustrated and angry and WHY. I also share alternatives to try out next time to connect and re-direct behavior.

Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop

It's morning time and you just need to get your child to put on their shoes and jacket but they're dawdling... Ahh!!! You find yourself yell, "Hurry up!!!"

Or maybe it's the evening and you're trying to wrap things up for the day. You're exhausted so you blurt out, "C'mon, c'mon. Let's go!!!"

Only to realize it doesn't work.

I know it's tempting to fall back on shouting at our kids to hurry when we're in a rush.

But it often just leads to more dawdling because now they feel pressured and can sense our impatience.

In this week's episode, I share 4 things to try saying instead of "Hurry up!!" to help your child get things done quickly.

And remember, it's not that we NEVER say these things. It's just that the more tools we have, the better!

Let me know down in the comments which one you're going to try!

I know a lot of focus is on helping kids make better choices so that we raise respectful humans and I love this.

But I also think that we must balance these conversations with holding ourselves accountable & shining a light on the ways in which we influence situations.

Here's the thing - We are all "guilty" of triggering our children.

This is not about shaming ourselves ("I'm such a bad parent. Every time I read parenting content I'm reminded of how much I'm failing.").

This is about taking accountability for the ways in which we may be triggering our child's anger without even realizing it.

At the end of the day, parenting is about our relationship with our child.

So as long as we are *only* focusing on our child and the ways in which they aren't measuring up, we will miss opportunities to take accountability (and thus see growth).

In this week's episode, I share the 5 most common ways we trigger our child to either lash out in anger or shut down - and most importantly, simple tweaks you can make to your parenting approach to add more clarity and connection to your relationship with your child.

Now that it's officially gift giving season, I wanted to be sure to address the issue of teaching kids manners.  

I know it's so tempting to demand our kids tell the gift giver THANK YOU. And I know during these moments we want to make sure our child shows their gratitude for the things they receive.

But rather than force gratitude, I'm a huge fan of teaching kids  *why* showing our appreciation for others' kindness is important and modeling the skills we want to teach them.  

Now hear me out - I'm not against prompting our kids to say 'Thank you' and I'm definitely a fan of teaching our kids' manners.  Let's just be sure to mix in some teaching and modeling. And remember, kids can show their appreciation with their actions (hugs, high fives) not just their words.

So in this episode, I'll share tips on how to teach kids gratitude and things to say during those awkward moments when your child receives a gift and says...nothing... 😑

// Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop //

We talk all year long about positive parenting but I wanted to be sure to provide holiday-specific tips because this time of year tends to bring JOY and CHALLENGES.  

It's exciting but can also feel stressful, busy and overwhelming for both parents and kids. 

What I want to first point out is that if your child seems more difficult this time of the year than normal, this is a commonly due to underlying stress.

Children aren't really good communicators and can't sit us down and say, "Mom, dad, I'm feeling stressed right now. I feel like I have no down time and seeing all these people feels both exciting and overwhelming. I need some help coping..."

Ha! Wouldn't that be nice!

Instead, they will show their stress with their behavior, like crankiness, sassiness, defiance, clinginess, and of course, tantrums. 😰

So the key is look out for these signs and when we see them, try our best to lower their stress.

Of course, we can't prevent ALL stress – we just want to be more mindful of this especially during the holiday season.

So in this week's episode, I'll share my top 3 positive parenting tips for preventing stress during this holiday season!  

// Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop //

My two preschoolers started school back in August and we are still getting in the swing of things.

We were late the first day of school, due to all the traffic, & it was literally my worst nightmare. 😅😂

Now that we've been practicing our school morning routine for several months, I thought it would be fun to share some behind the scenes of what our mornings tend to look like.

I'm always curious how other parents manage the hectic morning routine so I figured many of you might be curious how we navigate hectic school day mornings with two preschoolers. 

Now huge disclaimer - No mornings are ever perfect or exactly the same. This is the general flow we usually follow that's been working for us, but by no means, is our routine the be all, end all.
//Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop //

Ah, chores! Similar to mealtime, bedtime, and potty training, chores are a perfect breeding ground for power struggles!  

Now I actually like to frame chores as family contributions because it helps set the stage for why we do these things in the first place. 

It's important we establish routines around family contributions because it sends our kids the clear message that they matter! Our kids come to learn that they play a huge role in keeping the family running smoothly and their contributions make a difference (which boosts their self esteem and feelings of significance).

It also teaches them:   

1. Life skills 

2. Work ethic 

3. Appreciate the work of others 

4. Curbs entitlement 

5. Teaches independence  

I'm a huge fan of beginning to teach this practice during the toddler years because again, it sends a strong message that everyone contributes to the family (all year long) no matter how young or busy you are.

But I get it, it's not always so easy to motivate our kids to actually want to do their chores so in this week's episode, I discuss:

1. The best (and easiest) way to enlist more cooperation when it comes to chores

2. Simple ways to start a chore routine

3. 3 tips for enlisting more cooperation during chores

Don’t forget to download my free chore checklists for a list of age appropriate chores and a chore chart to help you get started! - www.themompsychologist.com/chores

I think one of the most powerful gifts we can give our kids is the gift of knowing how to be smart with our money.

After all, money touches every area of our lives (whether we talk about it or not) and it also ties into our overall sense of safety & security.

Yet, did you know... The majority of families tend to shy away from having conversations about it (even though kids begin to form their core beliefs & habits about money by age 7!).
 
And I know, there's a lot of buzz around whether or not kids should to get an allowance.  

In this week's episode, I share:
-Whether or not I think giving kids an allowance is a good idea
-The one huge (& common) mistake parents make when it comes to teaching about money
-The huge paradigm shift that must happen in your family when you start teaching about money
-Helpful resources and tools to teach your kids about money
-And so much more!

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I know for many of us, becoming a calmer parent is one of our top priorities.  And I love this for us because this places less of the focus on trying to fix and control our child and instead, focuses on what we CAN control, which is our own behaviors and choices as parents.  

But let's be real - Handling our parenting triggers and staying calm in the moment is a lot easier said than done.  

And we're not always going to get this right.

In this week's episode, I want to share a simple step by step guide to managing parenting triggers in the moment.  Towards the end of the video, I also share my own personal experience with anger and what helps me to manage my own parenting triggers.

Don’t forget to check out my free resource, "A Simple Guide to Becoming a Calmer Parent" -- www.themompsychologist.com/calmparenting

Let's face it - The pressure on us parents is endless and we're often stressed, which makes it hard to stay calm.

Though I know, becoming a calmer parent is often what we want MOST. So why is it so easy to feel triggered and angry at our kids even when we don't *want* to be?

In parenting, anger is used to defend against our sense of self.  Anger makes us feel powerful and it makes us feel like we're DOING something to change our circumstance (And help our kids learn better).  But oftentimes, our anger backfires because it escalates the situation and leaves us feeling guilty and ashamed.

So in this week's episode, I share 3 common reasons why you're so angry with your kids (with examples and thoughts many parents have).

Understanding the WHY is the first best step to becoming a calmer parent.

Hope you enjoy!

//FREE Resource: A Simple Guide to Becoming a Calmer Parent: http://www.themompsychologist.com/calmparenting //

As a psychologist and mom of three, I don’t always know the right things to say at the right times nor do I always say things how I mean to say them. 

What helps me is having a few go-to phrases to fall back on during stressful moments because it helps me to redirect my focus to what matters - my relationship with my child. 

Here are a few of my favorite go-to parenting phrases for intense moments.

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I can't believe I'm in my 3rd trimester already!

If you missed my announcement episode and you're like "Huh, wait what?!" - yes, ya girl is pregnant and due in late November/early December.

I can't believe I'm in my 3rd trimester already!

If you missed my announcement episode and you're like "Huh, wait what?!" - yes, ya girl is pregnant and due in late November/early December.

Adding a new member to the family is such a big change for everyone so I wanted to share my experiences and answer your questions like:

❓How do you balance staying present and calm during pregnancy (especially with other kids)?

❓How are you preparing your daughters for the new baby? How are they reacting to your pregnancy?

❓What's different and the same about this pregnancy compared to your other two?

❓Do you know the baby's sex?

❓Do you have a baby name picked out?

So potty training was a success for a while, but now your child is showing regressive behaviors 

1. Demanding you put their diaper back on 

2. Insisting they're still a baby 

3. Backsliding into more and more accidents  

We consider a child to have regressed when they return to a former or less developed state. 

In this episode, I'll share: 

1. Common reasons for potty training regression 

2. My step by step process to handling potty training regression like a PRO!

PS: Don’t forget to take my NEW free potty training quiz, “Is your child ready to potty train?” - -https://www.themompsychologist.com/pottyquiz

Have you started potty training and now you're second guessing your decision?  

Are you constantly wondering, "Is my child really ready? Should I have waited longer? Do I continue or stop now?" 

Maybe they're having so many accidents, couldn't care less about wetting themselves, or is refusing to even sit on the potty...  

You know your child has to be ready to potty train in order to ensure their success, but how do you make this judgement call?  

Well in this week's episode, I'll be sharing 5 common signs your child is NOT ready to potty train!  

PS: Don’t forget to take my NEW free potty training quiz, “Is your child ready to potty train?” - -https://www.themompsychologist.com/pottyquiz

In the psychology world we call this "after school restraint collapse" but in real life this looks like your kid being a hot mess after school:  

1. Tantrums/meltdowns  

2. Grumpiness/moodiness 

3. Anger 

4. Yelling 

5. Refusing to listen  

This often happens because if you think about it, all day long, our kids are trying to holding it together. They try their best to keep their true, messy emotions to themselves so that they can do well in school/daycare and we love that for them.

But what that often results in them feeling exhausted, overstimulated and drained when they return home, especially for kids who are adjusting to a new school, routine or longer school day.

In this episode, I share exactly how to prevent and manage after school tantrums!

Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop

Nothing sours a game faster than hearing our child whine and cry after losing.

"I give up!"

"That's not fair!"

"I don't want to play anymore!!"

And now we're regretting even playing the game with our kids. It's tempting to say back:

"Don't be a sore loser!"

"You can't win all of the time!"

"Stop that crying."

"If you're going to keep being upset, we're not playing this game anymore!"

But if we step back and think about it - participating in games and sports demands a lot out of our kids.

They have to balance:

✔Remembering the rules & following directions.

✔Regulating their emotions

✔Practicing impulse control (Wait their turn, sit quietly)

✔See things from others' perspective

✔Understand fairness

✔Recognize mistakes + think of ways to improve

✔Celebrating the success of others

It's a lot for our kids to navigate so in this week's episode, I'm going to share 6 tips on how to teach your kids how to lose gracefully and practice good sportsmanship.

Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop

Tired of Your Kid Interrupting You? Fix it With My Easy 4 Step Process! It's important we as parents set boundaries when it comes to kids' interruptions.

If we don't, and we allow our kids to constantly interrupt us, we run the risk of teaching them that:

👉🏽What they want/need trumps others' wants and needs

👉🏼You don't need to think before you speak or wait your turn Interrupting others can have negative implications when it comes to them making and keeping friends and having positive sibling relationships.

So in this episode, I'll break down

✅Why kids often interrupt

✅My 4-step process to cutting back on all the interruptions with respect

✅Bonus tips to ensure success!

Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop

The biggest discipline mistake you might be making is ... Pretending your boundaries and parenting decisions are solely based on your kids and what's is best for them. It's easy to rationalize that our boundaries have more to do with what's most logical or responsible, when truthfully.... a lot of times, our boundaries and parenting decisions are based on OUR emotions.

➡What we as parents need

➡What we as parents prefer

➡What we feel most comfortable with

➡What we think is most socially acceptable And that's nothing to be ashamed of. We are humans, after all! I think we just owe it to our kids to be honest and upfront with them. Or else, we run the risk of them feeling ashamed and to blame for every - little - thing.

Also, constantly blaming our boundaries on our child also creates unnecessary distance in the parent-child relationship that is completely avoidable.

So in this week's episode, I’m going to break down:

✅Exactly how to take this approach without raising people pleasers or making your child feel responsible for your feelings!

✅Why this approach actually does more to empower your kids and leads to more connection in the parent-child relationship!

💥FREE DISCIPLINE GUIDE💥 Age Appropriate Discipline for Toddlers & Preschoolers: www.themompsychologist.com/free-guide//

As parents, it's easy to get into negative and unhelpful cycles with our kids especially when it comes to discipline. I'm here to help you get unstuck.

In today's episode, I'm going to break down 3 common myths when it comes to child behavior and discipline and the truths you need to know!

//FREE DISCIPLINE GUIDE: Age Appropriate Discipline for Toddlers & Preschoolers: www.themompsychologist.com/free-guide//

It's the morning time, and you need your child to get dressed, brush their teeth, eat breakfast but every where you turn, they refuse.

Or what about bedtime when it's time to do the same thing, get dressed, brush their teeth, go potty, and hop in bed.... Nope, they'd rather jump around and play.

It's no secret, routines are one of the hardest parts of parenting.

They are the perfect breeding ground for POWER STRUGGLES.

We need our kid to do something that they probably don't want to do and it has to do with their BODY. We obviously can't skip routines, so how do we get through it without a fight??

In this episode, I'll share

✔Common reasons kids resist routines

✔3 tips to increase cooperation and cut back on power struggles during routines

✔A free resource that will help you if/when they refuse to cooperate

//FREE DISCIPLINE GUIDE: Age Appropriate Discipline for Toddlers & Preschoolers: www.themompsychologist.com/free-guide//

Forced apologies – telling your child "Say you're sorry!! Right now!!!"

I know it comes from a good place - we want our kids to be respectful, have manners and have empathy. We want them to be caring and recognize their mistakes and then take action in making amends.

But in this episode, I discuss:

✔3 Common reasons why forced apologies often backfire ✔Why forcing our kids to apologize doesn't actually teach empathy and respect

✔How to go about teaching lessons in a developmentally appropriate way that doesn't lead to power struggles.

[Check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop]

So lately your child has been saying some really shocking things like “You like my sister more than me!” or “I’m such a boring kid!” 

You’re trying to stay curious and get her to open up about her feelings but it keeps happening and each time she says it, it really stings. What do you do?

In this episode, I’ll share:

1. Why kids resort to these phrases & what they’re really trying to say

2. How to respond best in the moment 

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I know for many of us parents, having "the talk" with our kids can feel daunting.

❓Where do we begin?

❓What do we say?

❓How do we avoid scaring them? ❓Are we giving out too much information? Not enough?

Generally speaking, sex education and conversations about sex and private parts often begins with your child's normal curiosity about their bodies.

Here's some best practices when it comes to these conversations:

✔Follow their lead. Let your child set the pace on what they learn.

✔Answer their questions openly and honestly but also simply and matter-of-factly.

✔Be sure to only answer THEIR question

✔Be careful not to create shame around their questions or bodies in general.

In this episode, I share:

➡How to best respond depending on your child's age/stage ➡How to respond to common questions like, how are babies made?!

➡My favorite children's books for teaching about sex, private parts, body consent and safety and more! List of

Check out my Amazon Storefront @themompsychologist for a list of recommended books. 

[Check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop]

 Learning how to ride a bike without training wheels a is huge developmental milestone.

I’ll never forget the day my mom taught me how to ride a bike. I remember how confident and accomplished I felt when I finally got it down.

Well, we recently taught my 5-year old how to ride a bike without training wheels and I want to share with you what it was like for us and practical tips for curbing our own anxiety as parents so we don’t pass it on to our kids!

In this week's episode, I share:

✅ When to teach your kids to ride a bike without training wheels

✅ Things to know before you start

✅ Things to teach kids before you start including what safety rules to teach

✅ Step by step how we taught our daughter

✅ Tips for managing child and parent anxiety

PS: Be sure to take my free 2-min quiz to find out your parenting style and tips for better connection and cooperation! Link in my bio or go to www.themomopsychologist.com/quiz

Aggression is overwhelming, confusing, and triggering... Am I right?

Oftentimes, when kids feel overwhelmed and can't find the words to communicate their feelings and get their needs met, they resort to aggression (whether that's hitting, kicking, biting, throwing, etc).  

During the toddler and preschool years, this is especially common because at this age they:   

-Lack the communication skills. -Are easily overwhelmed and frustrated.

-Are incredibly impulsive. They are about the here and now and rarely plan ahead.

-Self focused and have a hard time stepping outside of themselves to see how their behavior will impact others.

-Have a healthy need for power, control and independence. Given their age and abilities, though, they are often not able to do what they want to do.    

In this week's episode, I share 3 secrets to preventing and taming childhood aggression!  

Now keep in mind, secret # 3 might look different if you have a young toddler who is not yet communicative. You can still tell the story for them, establish clear boundaries (e.g., "Hitting hurts.") and help teach them the words to get their needs met, though, so don't skip these steps!

//Watch my free discipline workshop to learn how to get more cooperation without yelling ➡ http://www.themompsychologist.com/workshop //

Discipline is hard especially if you're trying to be a positive parent and you're trying not to yell, punish or bribe your kids into cooperation.  

You might often wonder... 

💭"Am I being mean?" 

💭"Am I being too inflexible?" 

💭"Am I being too permissive?" 

💭"How do I set limits so they listen without hurting our relationship?!" 

 If so, this episode is for you! 

In general, discipline takes  

1. An understanding of what your child can/can't do from a developmental perspective  

2. Connection before, during, and after setting limits  

3. Regulation of our emotions (and our child's)  

4. Clear instructions  

5. Thought out boundaries/consequences 

In this episode, I'll share 3 common mistakes parents make when disciplining!