The Liberated woman Podcast with Tamu Thomas – Détails, épisodes et analyse

Hello lovely ones,

In this episode I invite you to listen to me prepare for an interview I did at Stylist Live about 5 Tips To Avoid burnout. To prepare for speaking gigs I download my thoughts into a voice note and then listen back to it, this helps me work out my key points. When I listened to the voice note I thought this would make a great podcast... so here we are!

I talk about:

• When I realised I was burnt-out
• Why work-life balance is misleading
• How we can get promotions and pay rises without making ourselves ill
• Boundaries
• Working in a high stress environment

And more!

Please note this is a voice note I recorded for myself so there is background noise and its literally me speaking my thoughts.

Also I mentioned my 2025 planning event, you can secure your space here: https://livethreesixty.thrivecart.com/dream-big-plan-smart/

Hello and welcome to another episode of The Liberated Woman podcast.

Before we get into it I cordially invite you to join me in laying the foundation for a 2025 that feels GOOD at my "Dream Big, Plan Smart: Ultimate 2025 planning workshop on 28th December 2024. Details here, be quick for the mega earlybird! Click here [LINK]

Today I'm exploring a topic that shows up for so many women, especially high-achieving, ambitious women who feel the pull toward growth and transformation. Today, I am exploring the deep roots of perfectionism, what drives it, why it’s so persistent, and how it affects us not only mentally but also physically and emotionally.

Perfectionism is a theme that I encounter constantly in my work, whether it’s within my membership community, my group coaching programmes, or my 1-2-1 client sessions. For many of us, the need to get things ‘just right’ can be a significant block, preventing us from reaching our true potential. Perfectionism holds us back, not just in the pursuit of our goals but in our ability to live authentically and experience real freedom.

In this episode, we’ll look at perfectionism not as a simple personality trait but as a coping mechanism, something deeply embedded in our psychology, our somatic experience, and even our neurobiology. I’ll share insights from my background in social work, my training in somatic coaching, and my passion for Polyvagal Theory to help illuminate the patterns behind perfectionism. We’ll also consider how societal conditioning, systemic pressures, and our own survival instincts make us feel that if we’re not perfect, we’re not enough.

As an intersectional feminist and advocate for women’s empowerment, I’m passionate about helping us break free from these patterns and reclaim our power.

Key discussion points:

What perfectionism really is:

Perfectionism is often viewed as a personality trait, but it goes much deeper. At its core, it’s a coping mechanism that protects us from feeling vulnerable or judged. It can even become a state of survival, where the nervous system adapts to high alert as a new “normal.” As I discuss, this survival mode can morph into a permanent state, affecting how we experience the world and navigate challenges.

The neurobiology and somatic impact of perfectionism:

Using insights from Polyvagal Theory, I explain how our nervous system influences our thoughts, emotions, and actions. Chronic perfectionism often means we are stuck in a cycle of fight, flight, or freeze, which can drain our energy and lead to exhaustion. When we’re in this state, our brains interpret even minor mistakes as threats to our safety, making the pursuit of “perfect” feel essential for survival. I discuss research showing how chronic anxiety impacts the body, keeping us in a hyper-alert state and creating symptoms that go far beyond mental strain.

Perfectionism, shame, and self-compassion:

Drawing on the work of Dr. Kristin Neff, we explore the connection between perfectionism and shame. Perfectionism often traps us in a cycle of feeling ‘not enough,’ where every mistake seems like a declaration of failure or inadequacy. Dr. Neff’s research on self-compassion offers an alternative to this harmful cycle, helping us see our worth beyond our achievements and freeing us from the armour of perfectionism.

Perfectionism as an ‘addiction’ to control:

Drawing from the work of Dr. Gabor Maté, I examine how perfectionism can resemble an addiction. It serves as a way to soothe stress and discomfort, but in reality, it keeps us stuck in a state of control that is ultimately limiting. Society teaches us to avoid discomfort and to ‘think positive,’ which can prevent us from developing the resilience to manage difficult emotions. As Dr. Maté explains, addiction is often a response to suffering, and perfectionism can function in much the same way.

Client Story:

I share the journey of a client who came to me wanting to expand her business but felt paralysed by perfectionism. In our work together, she realised that perfection was an illusion and began to embrace a more authentic, bold version of herself. She went from “Sandy at the start of Grease” to her true “Rizzo” self, taking meaningful action, embracing her strengths and imperfections, and experiencing significant growth in her business and personal life.

I’m challenging you to look beyond the surface and understand perfectionism at a deeper level, to see it not as ‘just the way I am’ but as something we can understand, unlearn, and replace with patterns that serve our growth and liberation.

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Where to listen:

Apple podcasts here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-liberated-woman-podcast-with-tamu-thomas/id1355489288 

Spotify here: https://open.spotify.com/show/4rQFv1GcqBI6b9wy0qTFYm?si=7bc28183530c42fc 

Web Browser here: https://www.livethreesixty.com/podcast 

Watch on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@Tamu.Thomas 

Support:

Your support means the world to me and makes a huge difference to the impact of my work. In the spirit of community I’d be so grateful if you could subscribe wherever you listen to my podcast, leave a review (5 stars if you're moved to!). 

Please do share on social media and tag me @tamu.thomas 

Ways to work with Tamu:

Get your copy of Women Who Work Too Much here or here

Work with me here 

Connect with me on Instagram here

Welcome back to another episode of The Liberated Woman podcast. Today, I'm excited to introduce you to the incredible Sara Dalrymple. We’re going to talk about sales as a powerful tool for liberation. Sara’s infectious energy and expertise are bound to inspire you, so get comfortable and prepare to be motivated. As a sales trainer and mentor, Sara empowers online business owners to promote their products and services authentically, ensuring business growth while maintaining integrity. She's also the author of the bestseller "More Sales Please," a comprehensive guide to mastering sales.

Sara shares her journey from a finance career in the city to photography and finally to sales mentorship. She emphasises the importance of believing in your product, as this fuels passionate and effective sales. The conversation also explores the distinctions between sales and marketing, highlighting their complementary roles in business success. Furthermore, Sara shares how business success can be leveraged to support social justice causes, illustrating the powerful impact of using business as a force for good.

• Sales as Liberation: Sara discusses how sales can empower business owners without compromising their values.
• Energy Management: Learn to channel your energy positively to support your sales and business growth.
• Competence Over Confidence: Focus on your skills to build a successful sales strategy.
• Overcoming Sales Stereotypes: Addressing and overcoming the negative stereotypes that impact women in business.

More about Sara:

Sara Dalrymple is a sales expert and business strategist specialising in breaking down the steps to increasing sales in just 30 minutes a day.  

Sara has 20 years of sales and marketing experience ranging from the small business community to multi-billion pound companies, and her practical sales advice, strategy and support has helped hundreds of creatives, coaches and consultants achieve long lasting success in their industries. Whatever stage of business you’re at, Sara will show you how to remove the guesswork and achieve consistent sales through confident, sleaze free promotion.  

Connect with Sara:

https://www.instagram.com/saleswithsara/ 

www.saradalrymple.co.uk 

More Sales Please: https://amzn.eu/d/23JKcxR 

30 day sales challenge: https://saradalrymple.thrivecart.com/show-up-sell-more/ 

Where to listen:

Apple podcasts here:

Spotify here:

Web Browser here:

Watch on YouTube here:

Support:

Your support means the world to me and makes a huge difference to the impact of my work. In the spirit of community I’d be so grateful if you could subscribe wherever you listen to my podcast, leave a review (5 stars if you're moved to!). 

Please do share on social media and tag me @tamu.thomas 

Ways to work with Tamu:

Get your copy of Women Who Work Too Much here or here

Work with me here 

Connect with me on Instagram here

Summary of the show:

In this episode, we delve into the world of movement-building with the remarkable Samantha Moyo, the visionary behind the global sensation, Morning Gloryville.

Samantha, an expert in creating movements, shares her incredible journey of launching Morning Gloryville, the pioneering early morning rave that captivated the world. With no initial plan or strategy, Samantha trusted her vision, took aligned action, and refined her approach along the way. Her story is a testament to the power of believing in your vision and backing yourself, even before seeing the results.

Hailing from Zimbabwe and deeply influenced by the philosophy of Ubuntu, which means "I am because we are," Samantha emphasises the interconnectedness of all people and nature. She encourages us to tap into the potent power of nature and treat it with reverence, believing that respect for nature fosters respect for ourselves and each other.

In our conversation, Samantha also discusses the importance of moving away from systemic oppression by not seeking approval from oppressive systems. Instead, she advocates for finding peace and joy within ourselves and building communities based on these principles. By doing so, we can create new systems centred on being joyful, loving, and peaceful.

Tune in to hear Samantha’s insights on:

• Trusting your vision and taking action
• The philosophy of Ubuntu and its impact on her work
• The journey from a 20-person rave to a global phenomenon
• The importance of respecting nature and its connection to self-respect
• Building communities based on peace and joy

Samantha’s inspiring journey and profound wisdom will leave you motivated to take bold action, trust your vision, and contribute to creating a more connected and joyful world. Don’t miss this enlightening conversation!

More about today’s guest:

Samantha is on a mission to inspire humans to bring more beauty into the world through brave, bold, and courageous action. Her authentic and impactful delivery has made a mark in various industries, working with companies like Accenture, Nike, Olio, Google, Redbull, Samsung, ITV, Zespri, Virgin, Heineken, and Unilever.

As the founder of Morning Gloryville, a global wellness movement, Samantha pioneered early morning dance parties, hosting events in 23 cities with a talent roster that included Carl Cox, Fatboy Slim, Basement Jaxx, Timanti, Mark Knight, and Roger Sanchez.

From advisory sessions at 10 Downing Street to talks with 600 school kids, or getting 250 Heineken Group CEOs dancing, Sam brings an energy that leaves audiences feeling illuminated, motivated, and ready to reach new heights.

Connect with Sam:

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samanthamoyo/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mysticmoyo/ 

Website: https://www.samanthamoyo.com/ 

Where to listen:

Apple podcasts here [LINK]

Spotify here [LINK]

Web Browser here

Watch on YouTube here: [LINK]

Support:

Your support means the world to me and makes a huge difference to the impact of my work. In the spirit of community I’d be so grateful if you could subscribe wherever you listen to my podcast, leave a review (5 stars if you're moved to!). 

Please do share on social media and tag me @tamu.thomas 

Ways to work with Tamu:

Get your copy of Women Who Work Too Much here or here

Work with me here 

Connect with me on Instagram here

Welcome to the first episode of The Liberated Woman Podcast. I am thrilled to share this conversation with Yinka Ewuola, a brilliant business strategist and coach dedicated to empowering women to create holistic wealth through their businesses.

Yinka begins by sharing her journey from investment banking to becoming a business strategist focused on cash flow, strategy, mindset, and habits. She believes money is the currency of transformation, essential for creating equitable and just outcomes.

She emphasises the importance of women generating wealth to finance powerful solutions rather than approaching problems from a place of fear. We also explore the difference between capitalism and trade and the need for women to redefine their relationship with money.

Yinka offers a holistic approach to wealth creation, highlighting the importance of viewing cash not just financially but also emotionally and energetically. She provides practical steps to assign roles to your money, ensuring a balanced life that includes saving, investing, and enjoying your earnings.

Our conversation touches on overcoming the scarcity mindset, a challenge familiar to many. Yinka and I discuss the journey from growing up with limited financial resources towards creating, as she puts it, ‘unreasonable levels of wealth’. She emphasises the importance of awareness in transforming your financial reality, alongside embracing both the struggles and triumphs of this journey.

We further explore how individual financial liberation can contribute to systemic change. Yinka shares her vision for building an organisation that eradicates gender pay gaps and supports equitable and ethical practices, highlighting the broader impact of personal wealth creation. 

Yinka advises becoming aware of your financial situation, understanding your spending habits, and actively creating cash flow opportunities. 

She also stresses the importance of contributing to community liberation by creating personal wealth and spending in line with community-focused values.

More about today’s guest:

Yinka Ewuola is a multi-award-winning business owner, coach, strategist, trainer, and TEDx speaker who works with ambitious women globally to help them achieve their goals on their own terms. She founded Calla Success Systems to support busy women in building and leading thriving businesses while living inspiring lives. 

Yinka is dedicated to changing the narrative around women's business success, focusing on impactful strategies like cash flow and mindset. A champion for women's empowerment, she was selected for the UK LinkedIn Creator Accelerator Programme in 2022 and the UN’s Commission on the Status of Women in 2023 and 2024. Alongside her business, she is a school governor, charity trustee, mother of three, and wife, committed to building a legacy of excellence while living her life to the fullest.

Connect with Yinka:

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yinka-ewuola/ - best place

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Yinka.M.Ewuola

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yinkaewuola/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/yinkaewuola

Where to listen:

Apple podcasts here: [LINK]

Spotify here: [LINK]

Web Browser here: [LINK]

Watch on YouTube here: [LINK]

Support:

Your support means the world to me and makes a huge difference to the impact of my work. In the spirit of community I’d be so grateful if you could subscribe wherever you listen to my podcast, leave a review (5 stars if you're moved to!). 

Please do share on social media and tag me @tamu.thomas 

Ways to work with Tamu:

Get your copy of Women Who Work Too Much here or here

Join The Life & Business Sanctuary here

Connect with me on Instagram here

Welcome to the first episode of the newly rebranded "The Liberated Woman Podcast" where we dive deep into the journey of freeing ourselves from toxic productivity and embracing true liberation.

I'm your host, Tamu Thomas, and I couldn't be more excited to have you here. In this episode, I'll share the evolution of this podcast, which aligns with my new book, "WOMEN WHO WORK TO MUCH."

We'll explore the systemic issues that keep women overworked and how we can reclaim our joy, agency and power.

Expect inspiring interviews with people who are breaking free from hustle culture, thought-provoking discussions on joy + systemic change, and actionable insights to help you lead a more fulfilling life.

Join us as we build a supportive community of women ready to break free and thrive together.

Don't forget to like, subscribe, comment, and share. Let's embark on this journey to joy, fulfillment, and true liberation.

Listen to an excerpt from my book here [LINK]

Connect with me on Instagram here [LINK]

Buy my book here [LINK] or here [LINK]

Find out how to work with me here [LINK]

Exploring why some women who thrive in corporate struggle in self employment due to good girl conditioning.

Check out my membership here: https://www.livethreesixty.com/the-life-business-sanctuary

Pre-order my book

https://hayhs.com/wwwtm_pp_pb_az before 5th March 2024 to get 2 bonuses:

This course offers practical insights into befriending and working in partnership with your autonomic nervous system, helping you to understand how you thrive so you can stop overworking and under-living. 

This course will help you recognise and respond to your body's signals so you can apply these insights for improved well-being. Be Your Nervous System’s Best Friend is ideal for anyone wanting to get off the ‘dreadmill’ of relentless busyness and enhance their daily life.

BONUS 2:

Self-connection body scan exercise.

This body scan is a mindfulness technique gently guiding you to focus on each part of your body. You'll notice your sensations and build a meaningful connection with them. This simple yet effective exercise helps you become more aware of your body's feelings, aiding in relaxation, self-trust and stress management. 

At quite a few entrepreneurs are nervous about the current economic climate and the impact it's having, even the big shiny ones.

I have seen social media posts from people talking about the possibility of seeking employment, taking on part time work and feeling too exhausted to continue.

These are tricky times, it would be remiss to say otherwise.

I'm not here with advice or solutions, instead I offer a short prayer for entrepreneurs facing turbulent times.

With care and hope, Tamu

A pep talk to your greatness. Reminding you that:

You are inherently worthy.

Your work is dope AF.

You don't need affirmations even though they are nice as you have solid evidence about how impactful your work is.

Listen to this with your heart, drink the words in.

In this conversation I’m joined by @ruthiezerai, life & business coach, facilitator, speaker, writer and 1st Gen daughter of immigrants. In this conversation Ruthie shared her experience of being in my mastermind. This included: 💷Nearly 10x her coaching investment. 📈 Increased resilience. ❤️ Applying the somatic education to tend to her nervous system and be more compassionate. 💪🏿Showing up as she wants to be rather than waiting her turn. And so much more. Thank you so much Ruthie. It has been an honour, privilege and fun to be your coach!

Details for my Thrive, Flourish & Prosper mastermind here [LINK]