On today’s show, I dive into the complex issue of emotional unavailability, a challenge that can affect both vanilla and lifestyle relationships. Discover how to recognize the signs of emotional unavailability, whether in yourself or a partner, and explore practical steps for improving emotional connection. From self-awareness and open communication to personal growth and resilience, this episode offers valuable insights for fostering deeper, more meaningful relationships.

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#BDSM #Psychology #Emotional #Unavailability

On this episode I discuss into the complex dynamics of controlling relationships and the isolating tactics used by partners to undermine your autonomy. I explore how seemingly caring behaviors can mask deeper issues of control rooted in insecurity and past experiences. Learn to recognize the signs of coercive control and isolation, and understand the profound impact these behaviors can have on your mental and emotional well-being. I also discuss practical steps for addressing control, including setting boundaries, developing safety plans, and reaching out for support.

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#BDSM #Psychology #Isolation

On this episode, I discuss the complex and crucial role of punishments in Dominance and submission (D/s) relationships. I explore the psychological significance of punishments, their impact on both Dominants and submissives, and the importance of clear communication and consent. I'll discuss common mistakes such as inconsistent enforcement and overly harsh punishments, and their potential to erode trust and create negative emotional impacts. I talk about Dominant's educational responsibilities, the natural learning curve in D/s dynamics, and how to ensure punishments are fair and supportive of growth and so much more...

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#BDSM #Psychology #Punishment

On this episode I talk about this question that was posed last night online on social media. I want to thank Brooke for this really in-depth question. The question is  between Transcendence and Euphoria versus Connection to the scene and being grounded. Do we feel these things, are we in our own head space or do we just count the lashes as we go and more are discussed on this episode...

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On this episode I talk about the Ross and Rachel Effect. What happens when we breakup or are on a separation and our partner cheats? How do we reconcile our feelings? How do we work through those issues? Were we actually on a break. I discuss what we do in a therapeutic agreement and so much more on this episode...

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On this episode, I discuss the lifestyle and BDSM community resiliency to rejection. in every aspect of what we do, from negotiations, to meeting people, to discussing likes and dislikes, there is always the element of rejection. It is not personal nor a slight, and from that we learn to grow and evolve into our dynamics. We learn over time, that because these rejections on any level is not personal nor an attack, how we build up our confidence even when we are rejected and more...

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On this episode, I delve into the subject that I have seen floating around social that a Dominant needs to take on and be the emotional balance, anchor and center for a submissive in a D/s relationship. That a submissive needs a Dominant to define their self-worth and value, instead of figuring that out for themselves. This creates dependency and an unhealthy relationship dynamic that would be destined to crumble. I discuss why Dominants are not emotional counterweights and more...

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On this episode, I talk about the seemingly growing trend of people exposing their kink, the lifestyle or themselves to unsuspecting, non-consenting people. How this trend shapes the behaviors and views of the general public towards those in the lifestyle community, and more.

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On this episode, I discuss a subject that should always be discussed. I talk about the difference between Hurt vs. Harm and their meanings. How do we differentiate when the play is hurtful in a good way, versus harmful in a bad and long lasting way. I also discuss the differences of the types of harm people can encounter and more.

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On this episode, I look into the difference. The questions came from someone that wanted to know more. There are a lot of similarities between being a sadist and someone suffering from the disorder. One of the main caveats we all know, consent or violating it. I discuss the characteristics of the disorder as well as treatments and more.

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On this episode, I talk about how our emotional responses are formed, how they vary in difference between men and women, and how Dominants and submissives both respond to emotional vulnerability.

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On this episode, I discuss what we should actually be on the lookout for in a healthy relationship. Those things that signify we have found a good person, how they help lay the foundation for a trusting relationship dynamic and so much more. We spend so much time focusing on the bad, we often miss the good.

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On this episode, I discuss the issues surrounding Diversity, Inclusion and Equity, or D.I.E. philosophy, in BDSM. What I see that these people who follow this mantra really want and demand. While dismissing meritocracy in the name of inclusivity and diversity and equity, because conformity is what they are after while suppressing types of speech. This is not inclusive, and goes against some of the fundamentals of what BDSM is about.

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On this episode, I discuss the psychological effects of engaging with explicit content on social media platforms. I examine the processes of desensitization and normalization, the emotional impacts, unconscious influences, and the effects on self-esteem and body image. I also discuss the importance of contextual understanding, fostering resilience, and maintaining healthy boundaries within our community. and more...

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#BDSM #Psychology #Explicit #Content

On this episode, I talk about the BDSM community on social media, and the blatant misandry that goes on in regards to Age Gap Relationships (AGR), calling all men pedophiles and predators and more. These tired old tropes are nothing but abhorrent and detrimental for men that are being collectively lumped together by people who are doing no more than seeking attention at the cost of men.

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On this episode, I talk about Exhibitionism and Exhibitionistic Disorder. The difference between the two and how those in the community that self-identify as "exhibitionists" are pushing the lines between the two. As well as, when they are taking their exhibitionism public, how they are violating the consent of others and the bigger impacts at play and more...

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On this episode I talk about self-objectification, self-sexualization, victimhood and exhibitionism, and how these definitions are being intertwined and misused to provide a sword and shield effect. Thus, people can monetize themselves while retaining their status as a victim at the expense of those they want to be exploited by. It is a vicious cycle...

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On this episode, I explore Kink Shaming and how people are demonizing others for their kinks because of their ideological views. What effects it has on those who are shamed, and what it says about the person who is doing the shaming.

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Are we losing the art of talking and debating with each other? Have people and their ideas become indistinguishable? On this episode, I discuss what is going on with civil discourse within the BDSM and Fetish community and how it is beginning to break down into nothing more than attacking one another.

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On this episode, I talk about our core values and what we hold important. How the values that we grow up with change and are influenced through our environment. If those values change or do we question them? And what effects pop culture has on those values.

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On this episode, I talk about our sex drives, our sexual thoughts and things we find sexual. When these are good versus when they become intrusive in our lives, and so much more. I do apologize for last week, life got busy.

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On this episode, I cover the trope that submission is a gift. Delve into what giving a gift actually means and reflections of what people may want out of a BDSM dynamic before they get involved and more...

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On this episode, I look at the fascination with Water Sports. Why we do them, what attracts us to it and more.

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The power of Dirty Talk in a relationship. What drives it, motivates it, why we like it and more on this episode.

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On this episode, I dive into the significant impact of BDSM power dynamics on men's mental health in honor of Men's Mental Health Month. I explore how roles like Dominant, Submissive, and Switch can profoundly benefit psychological well-being. Understanding power dynamics, the psychological benefits of Dominance, and the emotional release found in submission are discussed in depth, alongside the flexibility of switching roles. Real-life examples illustrate these points, highlighting how BDSM can enhance emotional resilience, self-awareness, and relational intimacy. The importance of healthy practices, including communication, consent, and aftercare, and more!

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#BDSM #Psychology #Men #Mental Health

What is sensory deprivation? On this episode, I talk about removing or depriving the different senses we have during a scene and how it may effect us. How it can heighten our sexual connectivity with our partner.

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On this episode, I talk about what I am seeing again all over BDSM social media. Being under the influence and getting involved in play. Comparing that level of impaired influence to our bodies natural neurological chemicals and how they react. It is a contentious subject, I choose the side of abstinence.

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On this episode, I conclude my discussion on BDSM and Religious ritual practices, and their connection to BDSM. How secularism and decline of religion have led many to a new "alter" to pray or worship at.

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On this episode, I discuss how religion is in decline but its practices and transcendent states are used in the practices of BDSM. That the way we conduct ourselves within the community and rituals we conduct within the lifestyle, take on their own religious meanings.

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On this episode I discuss what Aftercare is, the benefits of Aftercare, the types there are and whether or not everyone wants or requires it.

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On this episode, I discuss the untapped resource of a BDSM mentor. Things to look out for, moments to reflect and the benefits of having one.

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On this episode, I discuss how people that have experienced trauma in their lives, can learn valuable new coping techniques and ways to explore their trauma in a safe environment, allowing them to develop new skills in managing and coping with trauma in their lives.

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Why is vetting in relationships important? More so, why is it so important in a BDSM relationship? On this episode, I explore that.

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On this episode I discuss behavior of men and women in the lifestyle. Of those on social media that carry a double standard of behavior. While we need not to tolerate certain behavior and nor is all behavior excusable, we need to also question what behavioral influences lead to the responses and interactions we have with each other in the community.

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On this episode, I am going to talk about BDSM and one-sided relationships. How they can be toxic and affect who we are and take tolls on us.

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On this episode, I explore the intricate dynamics of intermittent reinforcement in relationships, uncovering its profound influence on emotional well-being and connection. From dissecting its psychological underpinnings to offering practical strategies for navigating its effects, we journey through real-life examples to illuminate the complexities of human behavior.

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#BDSM #Psychology #Intermittent Reinforcement #Relationships

On this episode, I sit down with @LunaLux and @Sovereign_Kane, both on Fetlife, and discuss their relationship. They are both Dominants, that share a masochist on one side, and a slave on the other, both the same person. We explore and discuss what challenges they have faced, their views on their relationship, preconceived notions and their takes on the future.

I do want to apologize for some of the audio, mainly on my side.

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On this episode, I talk about the origins of Operant Conditioning, applications and understanding of it and what do after a dynamic ends and you are reeling with the effects of the modifications.

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On this episode, I discuss what happens when infidelity happens, especially within the BDSM community, a story about a couple that went through this and how we can come back.

I look at Praise and how affirmations play a role within the dynamic of a relationship. How they can be confusing when used and how they are misused.

This is a story about John and Michelle, BDSM practitioners who found themselves through the lifestyle. The life they had, and in the end how the roles changed, because of love.

In this episode, I go over what is a Fetish. What defines it, how healthy it is, when it becomes a problem, how it can be treated and what things cannot be fetishes.

In this episode, I will be discussing Mindfulness and Intimacy. How we can be sensual, and not just sexual.

In this episode, I discuss the principles of BDSM, how the they apply to the BDSM community and some personal insights.

On this episode, I explore the phenomenon of "ping-pong players" in relationships, particularly within the BDSM community. I discuss why some individuals engage in intermittent connection, focusing on fear of intimacy, need for validation, and lack of self-awareness. Hopefully, you will learn how to recognize these patterns and set boundaries to protect their emotional well-being and more...

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#BDSM #Psychology #Relationships

On this episode, we explore the fascinating intersection of religion and BDSM, focusing on the use of religious iconography in kink practices. Delving into the symbolic significance of religious imagery, we examine how these elements shape power dynamics, submission, and transcendence within BDSM communities and more...

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#BDSM #Psychology #Religion #Iconography

On this episode, I explore the common anxieties people face when visiting a dungeon for the first time and provide practical strategies to overcome them. I also delve into essential dungeon etiquette, highlighting the importance of consent, communication, and respectful interaction to ensure a safe and enjoyable experience. Whether you're a newcomer or looking to refresh your knowledge, this episode offers valuable insights to help you navigate the dungeon environment with confidence.

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#BDSM #Psychology #Dungeon #Etiquette

On this episode, I discuss the captivating world of mummification within BDSM, exploring its physical, psychological, and emotional dimensions. From the intricate process of total enclosure to the sensations experienced by participants, I examine how mummification fosters intimacy and arousal. And so much more...

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#BDSM #Psychology #Mummification #Fetish

Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of a sensitive nature, including sexual practices and paraphilias. Listener discretion is advised.

On this episode, I explore the complex and often misunderstood phenomenon of coprophilia, or the fetishization of feces. I explore into the psychological underpinnings of coprophilic interests, discussing taboo, power dynamics, sensory stimulation, and psychological associations that contribute to this unique aspect of human sexuality. Additionally, we examine historical, cultural, and societal perspectives on coprophilia, challenging misconceptions and stigma surrounding this topic, and much more...

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#BDSM #Psychology #Scat #Fetish