This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

This is a personal, and rather emotional story. I don't often share this much, so this is quite a vulnerable episode for me. But, considering how powerful my most recent experience on psilocybin mushrooms (magic mushrooms) was, I wanted to share. (this was an "Ego Death" not an actual death...but it felt like it.)

It was by far, the most challenging spiritual journey I've endured, and also the most rewarding. I came face to face with my own mortality. 

I don't know if this is going to be supportive.

I don't know if this is going to be helpful.

I did, however, simply want to share this experience because of it's profundity in my life. 

If you haven't already, remember to subscribe to this show, and leave a rating and a review.

And if you feel compelled to reach out to me as a result of this episode, you can reach me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle.com or you can go to my website here.

For this week’s episode of Modern Sex Talks, we try to understand sexuality and kink on a deeper level with our guest, psychologist and sex therapist Galen Fous.

Galen Fous is the author of Decoding Your Kink and is the pioneer of the Personal Erotic Myth. Unlike most sex psychologist and therapists who believe that alternative sexuality is often brought about by childhood trauma, Galen proposed a different view to deal with kinks, BDSM and other sexual behavior considered taboo by general society.

Listen to this episode as Galen whose voice is reminiscent of the voice of God – Morgan Freeman, yearns to make us understand:

• What motivated Galen to explore a niche subject that is discussed on the fringes of psychology (8:19).
• realized lately that what were considered disorders are actually normal (8:19; 9:54).
• His personal experience, being subjected to a very public and harsh outing amidst a divorce case that judged other facets of his life solely based on his sexual identity (11:02), and how this opened the possibility to raise awareness and become a public advocate to normalize kink sexuality (14:18).
• The importance of community, of a support system of peers and colleagues that help in dealing with both internal conflict and external circumstances (17:31).
• The idea that sex is not necessarily activated at puberty (19:39), and his explanation of the greater dimension of sexuality, the personal erotic myth, and the how the sexual experience gives you a peek of a person’s real sexual identity (20:06).
• What Galen meant by saying Eros is a myth, based on the definition by Carl Jung and Joseph Campbell (25:11).
• How the myth manifests in archetypes that people assume as part of their sexuality, and the sacred and profane side of the myth (28:08).
• The notion that debunks that kinks are produced by trauma and is instead innate and is thus normal, not be healed nor fixed (29:56).
• What is a persona and how does it manifest in day to day life and in sexuality (33:33; 36:42).
• What can be done to remove the fear, shame, and stigma surrounding peoples’ authentic sexual identity (41:41).
• How he initiates a working relationship with a client, and how the disenfranchisement of their sexuality manifests in the body level (43:00), and what is a good start to remove the shame, connect deeper and d have an awareness of your desires and experiences (44:30).
• A technique he recommends as part of therapy that will help with containing your erotic persona (47:00).
• Finding the right therapy that works for you (48:54), and how your intention is the anchor if you want to get healed, you must take your steps to support the intentions (50:04).

To reach Galen and learn your Personal Erotic Myth go to www.theintimatelifestyle.com/decodingyourkink

This episode is re-using a speech I gave over a year ago. I still have people approach me telling me how much they enjoyed my talk, and how much it resonated with them. And given it got a lot of laughs, I thought it would be a great way to start off the year. Remember to leave us a rating a review!

Find us at www.theintimatelifestyle.com. Enjoy the show!

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis.

Today's episode is a short segment from EP070: Sexy Vulnerability with Tziporah Kingsbury.

In today's segment, Tziporah explains how important it is to communicate and be aware how much you're sharing with a new person. She also explains an important question to ask yourself before you start to share. Enjoy the show!

We have a quite enlightening episode today, with Brad Warner as our guest. Brad grew up in Ohio, but also spent a significant amount of his life in Kenya and Japan. He got into Zen whilst being the bass guitarist for punk rock band Zero Defex, he is also a blogger, and the author of Sex, Sin, and Zen.

Sex, Sin, and Zen is probably one of my favorite books out there and has made me realize how I relate to Zen Buddhism and the similarities of its teachings to basic principles I live by. In this episode, we talk about Zen Buddhism, its teachings, meditation, and how Zen Buddhism views some of the most controversial subjects of our time.

Clear your mind, get grounded and tune into our conversation as we discuss:

• How Brad views the correlation of punk rock and Zen Buddhism, and its similarities in terms of questioning realities (3:09).
• What are the forms of Buddhism, and what is Zen Buddhism (4:43)?
• How Brad ended up writing about sex, Buddhism’s interpretation of sex and sexuality, its background, the percept that Buddha used as a guide on this subject (8:06, 18:26; 19:57); and its rules for lay people (20:54, 24:11).
• How meditating can make it easier for an individual to reflect on their behavior and if one is going wrong (14:10).
• The Four Noble Truths, dealing with desires, and how Brad interprets these based on his teacher’s wisdom (16:43).
• The Buddhist stand on homosexuality and an anecdote on how it was misinterpreted a few years ago (21:34).
• The Bodhisattva vows and his understanding of it (28:00).
• How Buddhism views porn (31:06), and an analogy he made about porn to vegetarianism (34:49).
• Buddhism’s perception of abortion, where we’re introduced to Jizo (36:12), and of prostitution, where we will be introduced to Ikkyu (41:02).
• The concept of attachment and how this leads to pain and suffering (43:35).
• How non-attachment may seem like complacency, the truth about the concept of acceptance (46:51), and how to fight for something while still practicing compassion (49:16).
• A Zazen meditation crash-course (51:30).

If you want to reach Brad Warner, go to www.modernsextalks.com/sexsinzen for his info in the show notes.

Coming from a light-hearted episode with Rianna James, we will be shifting gears this week and discuss something more serious. A little somber for the holidays, but definitely worthwhile to listen to raise awareness on a subject not usually talked about but is relevant and must not be left on the sidelines.

To give you a background, our guest is Don Wright, the founder and Executive Director of the British Columbia Society for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse (BCSMSSA). He pioneered professionals to provide therapy and treatment in the sexual abuse field. He was awarded by the B.C. Human Right Coalition with a human rights medal of honor for his work in this field.

Our insightful and relevant discussion today will leave you with some key takeaways and new learnings, including:

• The four facilities focusing on male sexual abuse in Canada; One in BC under Don Wright; the Men’s Project in Ottawa which lost funding but was continued under private practice as Men’s Healing; one in Winnipeg; and another in Calgary (4:37).
• How BCSMSSA has been sourcing its funds with the help of the BC government (6:05).
• What was the reason Don started this movement, what set of events led to him forming it, and how he operated it from then to what it is now (7:26)?
• Do men get sexually abused and how prevalent is it (10:07)?
• The broader concept of sexuality abuse, which encompasses all experiences associated with sexual abuse plus covert experiences including indirect but intrusive contact, and discrimination based on sexual orientation (12:17).
• The percentage split of boys and girls prior age 13 that have experienced some form of sexual abuse, and how numbers or percentage by gender should never be the qualifier or grounds whether therapy is available, or to validate the need for it (14:15).
• The percentage of women perpetrators in male sexuality abuse, the instances of young boys having sexual relations with older women, and the double standards that come into play with how people view sexual abuse (16:26).
• The shame, confusion, other emotions, and dissociation that are results of manipulation and being sexuality abused (19:57).
• An even more complex effect of abuse that manifested in one of his therapies where the victim had disassociative identity disorder (21:01).
• Who are the most common perpetrators of sexual abuse (24:00).
• Factors preventing men from asking for help (25:33) like Homophobia (26:14), lack of services (26:14), and fear of emasculation where men do not want to admit they were hurt (29:13).
• The need for a program to provide facilities, which is currently non-existent, to house male domestic violence victims (30:48).
• The adverse effects of having boys and men abused who were unable to vent out (35:22).
• How facing the pain, getting help and acknowledging you’re a victim takes courage (39:55)
• Certain traumatic experiences and memories that manifest throughout a person’s life with a specific case illustrating such which negatively affected their sexuality and lives in general during adulthood (42:00).

If you want to connect with Don, or want to learn more about BC Male Survivors and their causes, you may check their website at http://bc-malesurvivors.com/, or email Don at director@bc-malesurvivors.com.

All too often we hear an overly romantic sentiment "I just want you to be happy!" or something else to that effect.

It creates a feeling of martyrdom. 'I will sacrifice my happiness and be of service to you, because you complete me. As long as you're happy, I'm happy. If you're not happy, I have failed you, and I should jump off a cliff.'

This is the Hollywood version of love. But in reality, there's a simple thing we can do to be more attractive to potential mates and keep our partners interested. Listen in and enjoy the show!

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. 

Today's episode is a short segment from EP031: Sexual Art Photography with Ricardo Scipio.

In today's segment, Ricardo explains what it's like having a sexual art photography session with him. He also explains that with erotic photography, which is not what he does, they overly focus on the genitals. What he does, is focus on the whole setting and experience.  Enjoy the show!

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. 

Today's episode is a short segment from EP073: Attitude and Great Sex with Eyal Matsliah.

In today's segment, Eyal talks about his perspective on "conscious sexism" and that men should be taking a bit more of the lead. And to balance that out, he explains how women can also lead, resulting in both genders supporting one another.

We are celebrating the 100th episode of Modern Sex Talks today, and we have an extra-special guest. Our resource person will be using the pseudonym Mae, and she is a sex worker. Contrary to common perception though, she does not engage in penetrative sex, but instead uses her touch to express sensuality through tantric massages.

In this episode, Mae will expound on the concepts of tantra, spirituality, compassion, love and sexuality. Together we will learn about an industry society has filled with stigma and misconception. Let us all listen as Mae discusses:

• Tantric massage, how she does her job (2:15), how she views her work, and how it affects other people’s lives (8:20).
• What she does as a sex worker, the limitations in this line of work, and the difference of sex work vs. human trafficking (4:55).
• The story on how she got into this trade, and how it transformed her life (12:13).
• How she asserts her boundaries (20:54), the dangers involved in this type of work (27:07), and how she protects herself from negativity (48:18)
• The concept of two types of prostitutes (23:36).
• The stigma that sex workers use drugs, undergone trauma, or has a mental condition (31:40), and how she dealt with these (36:00).
• Practical tips she can give to other sex workers on an emotional and psychological level (41:50).
• Her insights on the gender dynamics (53:51), the power of sexuality or how it ties up to spirituality (57:36).

I also share a personal story about the darkness I experienced when I was in the army, where darkness is being celebrated. And how this juxtaposes to sex workers healing people from trauma, offering intimate therapies, and yet they’re being looked at with disdain (59:51).

Mae is also working on a project that will transform the sex industry and provide support to its workers, though she decided to keep the details in the meantime. But we’ll make sure to cover that once it launches. For now, you can check out http://sensualgenius.com/ if you want to connect with her.

I hope you enjoyed this very special 100th episode, and we'd love it if you'll show us your support by giving us a rating and review, as well as follow us @ModernSexTalks on all Social Media. 

SLUT = Sexually Liberated Untamed Treasure
SLUT = Sexually Liberated Uninhibited Treasure
SLUT = Sexually Liberated Unrestricted Temptress
SLUT = Sexually Liberated Unapologetically Thrilled
SLUT = Sexually Liberated Ugly-bits Tickler

However you decide to look at it, sluts are amazing. As a woman, there are innumerable benefits to women for being sexually liberated. And as a man, you have no right to complain it's hard to get laid if you ever say a woman is a slut, in a derogatory manner, for sleeping around.

I don't believe it's important to be promiscuous to become a SLUT, but it can't hurt! Today I share my thoughts on why we need more sluts.

Randy Tymkin started the company Manhood Canada with one idea in mind: Creating prosthetic foreskins to help men reclaim their penis and pleasure. There's an interesting and funny story about his mother in law in here too.....

If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation. 

This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. 

Today's episode is a short segment from EP038: Cockfidence

Karolina Tatarenkova. A Russian Sex Therapist based in Vancouver, BC, Canada loves talking about cock. And confidence. Cockfidence!  So many men derive their confidence from the size or shape of their dick. This stems from pornography and misguided societal influences.  Karolina will tells us about why that happens, why it's bullshit, and how to generate some serious cockfidence. Cockfidence is the recognition that your value as a man, and in the bedroom, is not reliant on your penis. It’s reliant on you as a lover. And yes, those two are mutually exclusive.  If you’d like to reach Karolina, you can find her at www.passioninlove.com.

What is with the advice "just be yourself'? I remember hearing that and thinking...what am I NOT being? How is this supposed to be good advice. It wasn't until I realized that the majority of my actions were driven by a desire to be accepted by others, that I learned what it meant to be myself.

In this episode, I explain why the advice "just be yourself" is baloney, and how you can start to "be yourself." If authenticity is the name of your game here, and you're struggling with how frustrating people are and how they don't seem to "know" you, this episode will be right up your alley.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. 

Today's episode is a short segment from EP034: Male Emotionality.

Male emotion is Dr Duana Welch's next target. She's here to destroy some myths around male emotionality. It’s certainly not a fluffy show. She explains that men tend to fall in love faster, and fall out of love longer and harder. Men also experience love at first sight at a much larger rate than women. Essentially, research has shown that when it comes to romantic relationships, men are just as, if not more emotional, than women. This is shown by statistics that men, who typically don’t need marriage, choose to get re-married more often than women, after a divorce. And statistics have shown that men tend to say “I love you” sooner than the woman. All around this is a pretty interesting episode.

Shame is insidious. And it interferes with almost every aspect of our lives if we don't tackle it head on.  Today is a story of a vision quest I went on, where I didn't eat, have access to internet or phone, see anyone or speak to anyone for 3 whole days. I got woken up by bear one morning, and the main lesson from this vision quest was "Shame."  

In this episode, I share of how I overcame (most) of my shame, and a simple, but very powerful process and exercise you can do at home.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. 

Today's episode is a short segment from EP014: Finding the Right Partner (for men)

Myke has a really interesting story. He came to Canada from the Phillipines as a teenager in high school, having never seen a microwave or white people. He couldn’t speak English, was overweight, and was incredibly shy. After years of loneliness, he dove into the world of Pick-up Artists and started to learn how to be a social, confident man. He eventually moved away from the pick-up artist world and moved towards ethical coaching for men to navigate their way to romance and social confidence.

Did you know that women can experience up to 11 types of orgasm?  Yea. Women can actually experience more than that. But as Devi says in this interview, we model our understanding of orgasm off of a teenage boys experience of ejaculation. 

 Our understanding of orgasm is currently a climax, where there is a quick rise, huge peak, and then a quick rush down.  But an orgasm doesn’t need to have a climax like that. Instead, it can be an extended peak of pleasure. Or a rush of pleasure or tingling, or any other peak that sticks around.  It can show up in multiple different ways. 

 And Devi shares 3 MAIN BLOCKS that prevent women from experiencing:

 -clitoral orgasms
-G-spot Orgasms
-Urethral Opening Orgasms
-Cervical Orgasms
-Uteran Orgasms
-Ear gasms
-Throat gasms
-and a whole lot more.

You can kind more info on how you can reach her in our show notes at www.modernsextalks.com.

I decided after interviewing Oanh Love on Abstinence that I was going to deliberately go without sex for a while.  I didn't want to do it. But deep down, I actually DID want to do it. I knew it was the right thing to do. And as a result, I'm extremely happy

Today's episode is just a fun little conversation that goes in a couple of different directions, but is centered around how we should avoid using sex to build confidence. Enjoy the show.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. 

Today's episode is a short segment from EP015: Erotic Massage.

This is a very interesting show. Enter into the world of sensual ‘erotic’ massage. Ki has been doing whole body, genitals included, massage for over 10 years. He and his partner, Aurora, have an exceptional amount of experience in sensual massage, and even give regular live demonstrations of G-spot massage, squirting orgasm, vulva massage and cock massage.

Today they touch on how erotic massage can be a great tool for resolving conflict in your relationships. If you want to reach Ki and Aurora, you can contact them on www.massagebyki.com and www.erosha.com.

The male ego gets a bad rep. But it serves a purpose. What is that purpose? The same one that the female ego serves. To be desireable.

A woman's ego is centered around beauty and youth.  A man's ego is centered around strength.  How does that strength play out? By having a larger ego, and never showing weakness.  Target a man's ego, and you target his entire value as a human being.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. 

Today's episode is a short segment from EP029 - Status and Dating.

Devon O’Brien Ash has been teaching men, and women, how to identify their bad social habit that interfere with developing better connections with people. He’s been doing this for over a decade and has helped hundreds if not thousands of men and alike.  His style is one that brings out a persons genuine self, rather than adding a layer like some “dating coaches” do to their clients.  He’s a leader in his field and knows how to lead by example. If you want to improve your dating life, get more promotions at work, or just take your social life to the next level, then listen to this episode.  You can reach Devon at http://www.devonobrienash.com/ and learn his Authentic Social Hacking skills.

Andrew Mioch started the company Sexual Quantum Leap in 2018 to help men become the best lover a woman has had inside and outside the bedroom.

Andrew has studied for over 9 years tantra, BDSM, sensual massage, anything and everything personal growth and spirituality and has been running the most exclusive sex party in Melbourne. His resume speaks for itself and he shares some amazing truth bombs in this show. 

If you're interested in some one on one support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation. 

This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

Imagine finding out that your mother/father has been murdered. And they were murdered by your other parent. And imagine having this tragedy happen at 12 years old. Imagine further forgiving that murder, and then saving their life.

  This is the experience of Dean Smith.  He shares his story of how this affected his life. 

 He explains that forgiveness is not about forgetting what the tragedy was. It’s not about releasing them from their crime. It’s about “unshackling” yourself from the pain and anger you have.

 Forgiveness is necessary for you to be happy, not so you can be good.  And it may be the hardest thing you’ve ever had to do, but it will be the most rewarding. 

 You can find Dean at livetoforgive.com

The orgasm "gap" is a big topic of conversation. Women don't experience orgasm during sex nearly as much as men.  But who's "fault" is that? A lot of people will claim it's men's faults and that men don't put in enough effort. Although to some degree that may be the case, I can speak from personal experience that no matter how much effort I put in, she's not going to have an orgasm.

In today's episode I dive into a concept of "leaning in" and where men AND women can take responsibility to curb the orgasm gap.

Ever have a condom slip off and find it stuck in either your, or your partners, vagina? Yea, that can be embarrassing. But it doesn't have to be!  Naomi and I talk about our own personal experiences with this, what went wrong, what went right, why it happens, and how to handle it if it happens to you.

Bringing a woman to orgasm through a hug?  Yea, I was about ready to call bullshit until I heard Eyal Matsliah’s story. What is very interesting about this man is that he teaches the seduction of a woman. He never watched porn growing up, but he did read a lot of erotica novels.  And he took training in tantric massage so that he could give women amazing orgasms.

He also shares some information that he has NEVER shared online before.  You will be listening, for the first time, Eyal sharing the 5 different types of touch.

Today was a very interesting and fun show for me to record. I hope you enjoy it as much as I enjoyed recording it.

Do you hate the other gender? Are you having a hard time finding the right partner? Are you constantly upset in your relationship(s)? The hardest thing to do is to look at yourself and see what you could be doing to create that in your life.  In this episode of the Humpday Share, I share with you some wisdom I have collected from some hard lessons regarding anger and the other gender.

I used to hate women. In this episode, I explain how that came to be, and how I cured from the bullshit that interfered with my relationships with women.

Ever heard of a rape fantasy? How about tying that into an aggressive form of tying someone up with a rope?  What's interesting is our guest, John Zorklunn, emphasizes heavily the importance of empathy to have a successful and healthy experience of this kind.  This was an incredibly interesting episode.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. 

Today's episode is a segment from EP030 - Rope Play with John Zorklunn. If you want to listen to the full episode, head on over there for a great chat.

Our guest today, Tziporah Kingsbury, is well known as the Love Guru after being on ABC’s the Bachelor as a relationship coach for the Bachelor and one of his ladies.  Today she’s going to share with us what vulnerability is and why it’s your most powerful asset in a relationship.

AND, you'll learn 3 Keys to elevate your communication skills around uneasy emotions that will promote being heard,understand and create greater connection.

You can get access to her book by going here: https://igg.me/at/8x8LNjgFN5A. More details are in our show notes on www.modernsextalks.com

Sometimes, no matter how turned on we get with a partner, we simply won’t cum.  It’s frustrating as hell for us guys, and it can be insulting for our partners. “Am I not hot enough, or turning you on enough?” are some thoughts that might be rolling around in his/her head.

The truth is, it shouldn’t be insulting. Because when we can’t orgasm, it’s rarely our partner. 95% of the time, it’s our shit that’s preventing us from either knowing our own arousal or communicating our needs or dealing with our sexual shame.  This goes for both women and men.

Today's episode is a conversation between me and a past client and friend who's dealt with not being able to ejaculate during sex.  I offer him a few solutions.  Some may resonate well with you, and others may not.  It's a subjective thing, orgasm.  If you want some personalized, more in depth help, you can reach me at ryan@modernsextalks.com for a free 20min consult.

Anger, and our other darker emotions, can be pretty nasty.  They can really screw up our lives if we don't know how to heal them. 

In this episodes, Phil goes through some deep stuff explaining the difference between suppression and repression of memories and emotions.

He also explains how we can let go of those emotions that interfere with building solid relationships.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. 

Today's episode is a segment from EP032 - Rude Awakening. If you want to listen to the full episode, head on over there for a great chat.

There are 5 elements to creating incredible intimacy with your partner:

1) Physical
2) Mental
3) Emotional
4) Energetic
5) Spiritual

If any of these are missing, you might leave the experience thinking there could have been something a little bit better.  Steven Seva has some solid insights for people who want to take the intimacy of their love making to a whole new level.

How do you become a man? How do you know you're a man? In many cultures, a right of passage is designed to rip a boy from his mother. It then teaches him pain and struggle, because life is fucking hard and dangerous. Provided he makes it through the pain and the struggle, he is then initiated into manhood.

Jeddy Azuma is dedicated to helping men go through their rights of passage into manhood. Our lives, as men, are lacking in the guidance our ancestors had. 

This is a truly fantastic conversation, with an amazing man. You can find out more about Jeddy and his initiations here.

If you're interested in some one on one support, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation. 

This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

Erectile dysfunction is a fucking pain.  It's embarrassing.  But it doesn't have to be. It's only embarrassing if a man ties his identity to his erection and "performance" in the bedroom.  That's not what makes a man. A man is defined by his ability to handle challenges, and how he treats the people he encounters in life.

But obviously, we want to have erections. So in today's show, I give you some personal stories, and some information on various reasons why men can encounter this challenge, and different solutions.  I hope this helps you!

Is sex always this mindblowingly amazing experience for you? Hell, I teach this stuff and sometimes it's not all that great. But something weird happens when it's not all that good. We get either upset, or really disappointed or we feel insecure, or we blame our partner.

But maybe, we should just accept that sometimes, sex isn't going to be all that great. Sometimes it's going to be lack luster. And that's okay. 

But there are 2 things that we can do to prevent those lack luster experiences from happening too often.

Did you know that men can experience Multiple Orgasms? And did you know that they can be non-ejaculatory orgasms? Yes. It's true. And no, you don't get blue balls. It's quite astounding, especially when you have your first experience.

Today's guest is Steven Seva, a tantra coach who's been teaching for the better part of a decade. He'll be sharing with you how you can retrain your nervous system to experience multiple, non-ejaculatory orgasms. And he also goes through what our partners need to do to help.  This show was an absolute blast. Enjoy

Have you ever thought you wanted a threesome, but didn't know how to get one, or how to make sure everyone was happy and included?  This is the show to listen to. In this VERY conversational episode, Veronica and I share personal stories of situations that went well, and not-so-well. And we give you the sure fire ways to make sure those who want this experience, have a good one.

Emotional trust is something that comes with time and is earned. And with Sheleana's advice, you'll definitely be able to earn it. She advises men to let their partners be angry, but there's a way to do it that earns respect. She also clarifies the reasons of why it's so important to have a community to rely on for your emotional needs, rather than dumping all your emotional baggage on your partner. She's chock full of wisdom.

Every Tuesday is Just The Tip Tuesday where you get a 10min segment of a previous episode. The hour long interviews can be a bit much for some people, so we put together shorter version of a previous episode for you. This segment is from Episode 24 titled The #1 Key to Emotional Trust. If you enjoy this segment, you'll love the full interview.

Believe it or not, not all touch is deliberate. Sometimes we do it unconsciously because we're feeling insecure.  Which is not sexy.  And women often feel uncomfortable asking for what they want, which means men don't know how to ask. And since men don't learn how to touch better, and they're not allowed to ask, their touch is mediocre. It's a not so merry-go-round.

Robert Kandell, the Founder of Tuff Love has over 15 years of instruction in touch, specifically oriented around female orgasm. He's going to explain how to have the right mindset around touch, as well as some exercises you can play with at home tonight. Enjoy the show!

We've talked a lot about ejaculation. The last few weeks we were talking about mindset, and in my mind, that's the most important thing. But today, I'm giving you a practical tip that you can use to improve your pleasure and last longer in the bedroom. Here are the basic rules:

1) No porn.

2) Masturbate for 20min at least 4 times a week

3) Ejaculate only once a week

4) Play with your arousal arc (which we get into in the show)

If you'd like to get a copy of the book that has all this information, and a ton more, stay tuned as I'll be updating the links here later today. OR, sign up for our newsletter by going to our website and you'll get notified when it's available on special. The title of the book is "10 Steps to Longer Sex: A Book for Men on Improving Pleasure and Delaying Ejaculation"  Enjoy the show

Orgasmic Meditation is when a woman lies on the floor and has someone stroke her clitoris for 15 minutes. It's a great way for women to deepen their pleasure, and learn how to ask for what they want without feeling guilty. And despite the name, it's not actually driven by orgasm.

Every Tuesday we have a "Just the Tip Tuesday" episode that is a 10 minute segment from a previous episode. This segment is from Episode 3 titled Orgasmic Meditation. If you enjoy this segment head over to the full interview and give it a listen.

Abstinence is forced on many religious people. But not Oanh Love! She chose to abstain from sex. Which sounds crazy to most of us, but her story is a very interesting one.  She did it specifically so she could:

1) Get over all her baggage

2) Learn to receive without feeling guilty

3) Feel happy without being in a relationship/having sex

Not only was her experience an interesting one, but she also shares a fun little masturbation technique for all the ladies out there.  Enjoy!

Premature ejaculation. Or involuntary ejaculation in the words of Esther Perel, author Mating in Captivity (and I like that term better...).  It can plague the mind. Many men have dealt with it in the past.

Last week was the second of 4 episodes on Premature Ejaculation.  This week we dive into anger, how:

-it's NOT aggression

-it's a tool (not unlike a gun),

-it destroys anxiety.

Every Wednesday is going to be Humpday Share, where I share something of my own, or something from the team. Enjoy!

I'm not the biggest fan of spoken word poetry. But my friend, Deus Fortier, just blew me away with this piece on sex and passion and our relationship to sexuality. 

After he shares his piece, we get into an informal and personal conversation about our sexual experiences, and personal and spiritual growth. 

If you're interested in some one on one support, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation. 

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Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD is a disorder that kicks in after a massively traumatic event. It’s not a nice thing to see happen in anyone, let alone someone you love.  But it does happen. It’s more often viewed as something that soldiers suffer from, but sexual assault victims are also quite susceptible to PTSD.

                In this episode you’ll learn:

-How to spot PTSD in yourself and in others

-What PTSD is and how it affects peoples lives

-Guilt and how it negatively affects sexual assault victims in the court system

-What to NEVER say to someone suffering from a phobia or PTSD

                Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you think it’s important for us to have this conversation, then leave us a review on iTunes, because that’s the best way for us to expand our reach.

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Premature ejaculation. Or involuntary ejaculation in the words of Esther Perel, author Mating in Captivity (and I like that term better...).  It can plague the mind. Many men have dealt with it in the past.

Last week was the first of 4 episodes on Premature Ejaculation.  This week we dive into shame and how it relates to sexual stamina. Finishing too quickly can be a way for your unconscious mind to fulfill it's belief that it doesn't deserve the sex you're currently having.

Every Wednesday is going to be Humpday Share, where I share something of my own, or something from the team. Enjoy!

Premature ejaculation. Or involuntary ejaculation in the words of Esther Perel, author Mating in Captivity (and I like that term better...).  It can plague the mind. Many men have dealt with it in the past. For those men who still, from time to time have to deal with it, the next 4 Humpday Shares on Premature Ejaculation will shed some light on some solutions.

Every Wednesday is going to be Humpday Share, where I share something of my own, or something from the team. Enjoy!