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EP 2507 - Frida Kahlo's Affair With Leon Trotsky12 mars 202500:06:37

In this episode of The How-To Cheat Podcast, Teresa Conway explores one of history’s most unexpected love affairs—legendary artist Frida Kahlo and exiled Russian revolutionary Leon Trotsky. Their brief but passionate connection was filled with politics, betrayal, and art. This episode is spoken by Teresa’s digital twin, Jane—an artificial intelligence voice that brings Teresa’s words to life.

Episode Highlights:

  • How Trotsky found political asylum in Mexico… and a lover in Frida Kahlo
  • The affair hidden in love letters and spoken in English to avoid suspicion—badly
  • Natalia Sedova, Trotsky’s wife, and why she probably was not fooled
  • The role of revenge in Frida’s affair, considering Diego Rivera’s own indiscretions
  • Why the heat fizzled out and how Natalia forced Trotsky to make a choice
  • The lasting impact of their affair on Frida’s art, including Self-Portrait Dedicated to Leon Trotsky
  • Trotsky’s dramatic end—assassination by ice pick, courtesy of Joseph Stalin’s goons
  • Why passion, like revolution, always finds a way

Key Takeaways:

  • Affairs can be political, personal, and sometimes… just a little messy
  • Speaking a different language does not mean your partner is clueless
  • Love and revenge are often tangled together
  • If you are going to cheat with an artist, expect to be immortalized

Whether you love art, history, or just a good scandal, this episode offers a provocative look at desire, power, and the choices we make.

Want to learn more? Connect with Teresa on LinkedIn or visit her website at www.adulteryfaery.com.

EP 2506 - The Roosevelt Affairs07 mars 202500:05:18

In this episode of The How to Cheat Podcast, I dive into the legendary affair of Franklin D. Roosevelt and Lucy Mercer Rutherfurd—how it started, how he got caught, and how his marriage with Eleanor evolved into something...different.

Episode Highlights:

  • How Lucy Mercer went from Eleanor’s secretary to FDR’s lover
  • The love letters that nearly ended FDR’s marriage (and why you should never keep evidence)
  • How FDR’s daughter helped cover up his later rendezvous
  • Eleanor’s own “friendships” (was she better at cheating than him?)
  • Why some marriages work better as partnerships than romances

FDR and Eleanor had a marriage by agreement—publicly together, privately independent. Could more of us handle that setup? Let’s talk about it.

🎧 Listen now and subscribe to The How to Cheat Podcast!

EP 2505 - MAGA's Make Affairs Great Again!26 févr. 202500:06:01

In this episode of The How-To Cheat Podcast, Teresa Conway dives into the scandal surrounding Republican Representative Cory Mills from Florida—aka Floridaman.

Allegations of domestic violence and an affair have rocked his political career, and Teresa isn’t holding back on the details. This episode is spoken by Teresa’s digital twin, Jane—an AI voice that brings Teresa’s words to life.

 

Episode Highlights:

🔹 The scandalous mess: Conflicting police reports and changing stories about what did—or didn’t—happen

🔹 Why no one denied the affair itself, revealing more than they intended

🔹 The complicated details: Allegations of violence, accusations of lying, and claims of eczema and jetlag as excuses for bruises

🔹 The risks of affairs: From emotional fallout to physical danger and vulnerability

🔹 How political hypocrisy plays out: Why the GOP doesn’t seem to care about cheating scandals anymore

 

Teresa’s take on how MAGA is “Making Affairs Great Again” by ignoring political consequences

 

Key Takeaways:

🔹 Affairs come with serious risks—emotional, financial, and physical

🔹 Cheating scandals are no longer political career-killers, especially in the MAGA era

🔹 If you’re having an affair, you need a plan to handle potential fallout

🔹 Accountability shouldn’t be selective, even in politics

 

Teresa offers a bold and unfiltered take on cheating, political scandal, and human behavior. Whether you’re curious about the scandal, thinking about cheating, or just love juicy gossip, this episode is for you.

 

Want to learn more?

Connect with Teresa on LinkedIn or visit her website at www.adulteryfaery.com.

EP 2504 - Are You Ready to Have An Affair?25 févr. 202500:05:56

In this episode of The How-To Cheat Podcast, Teresa Conway explores the hidden thoughts and emotions behind long-term marriages where intimacy is missing. This episode is brought to you by Teresa’s digital twin, Jane—an AI voice that speaks Teresa’s words and experiences just as she wrote them.

Episode Highlights:

  • The emotional turning point that led Teresa to seek out intimacy outside her marriage
  • A candid look at the thoughts of someone ready to cheat, inspired by a post on r/adultery on Reddit
  • Wisdom of the Crowd: Advice from the r/adultery community on patience, risk, and emotional readiness
  • The real risks involved—getting caught, guilt, and emotional consequences
  • Why it’s crucial to understand your emotional state before starting an affair
  • Teresa’s journey from paranoia to becoming an expert on cheating—now helping others avoid major pitfalls
  • Clarifying her mission: Teresa doesn’t encourage cheating but helps people think through the decision and reduce harm if they choose that path
  • Where to find more resources, including Teresa’s Ultimate Ashley Madison Users Guide, available on Amazon

Key Takeaways:

  • Patience is crucial for safety and creating more opportunities
  • Know the risks—emotional turmoil, potential to end your marriage, and the need to lie convincingly
  • Being mentally prepared is just as important as the act itself
  • Cheating is a personal choice, but there’s no reason to be bad at it

Whether you’re curious about the mindset of someone on the edge of an affair or looking for advice on navigating the complicated world of infidelity, this episode offers an honest and thought-provoking perspective.

Want to learn more? Connect with Teresa on LinkedIn or visit her website at www.adulteryfaery.com.

Listen now and get a candid look at the choices we make.

EP 2503 - The Dirty Duchess: A Cheater for the Ages24 févr. 202500:06:57

I use a digital twin in this one. It is, as it turns out, very hard to do a podcast about cheating with hub floating around all day... In this episode of The How-To Cheat Podcast, Teresa Conway delves into the scandalous life of Margaret Campbell, Duchess of Argyll—a woman who defied societal norms and turned infamy into a statement of liberation. Often labeled “the Dirty Duchess,” Margaret’s unapologetic approach to sexuality and refusal to conform made her a feminist icon ahead of her time.

Episode Highlights:

  • The scandal that rocked British high society: Margaret’s divorce from the Duke of Argyll
  • The infamous Polaroid photos and the mystery of “the headless man”
  • Margaret’s private diary of lovers and her fearless exploration of sexuality
  • The double standards of mid-20th-century Britain and Margaret’s fight against them
  • The price of defiance: public shaming, financial ruin, and her final years in obscurity
  • Why Margaret Campbell’s story is one of rebellion, liberation, and feminist inspiration

Key Takeaways:

  • Margaret’s defiance of societal expectations was an act of liberation, not depravity
  • Her refusal to name her lovers showcased her courage and loyalty
  • Society’s hypocrisy in punishing female desire while excusing male infidelity remains relevant today
  • Margaret’s life teaches us to live authentically, unapologetically, and on our own terms

Margaret Campbell wasn’t just a scandalous duchess—she was a rebel who owned her narrative and turned cheating into an art form. Tune in to hear how her story continues to inspire feminists and free spirits alike.

Listen now and explore the liberating philosophy behind living truthfully—even if it means breaking the rules.

EP 2502 - I Don't Care Who My Clients Are06 janv. 202500:20:20

In this episode of the How to Cheat Podcast, Teresa Conway talks about why confidentiality and security are at the core of her approach when working with clients.

Episode Highlights:
  • Why Teresa avoids personal details about her clients:
    • Confidentiality builds trust and protects clients’ privacy.
    • Knowing “just enough” helps create effective profiles without risking exposure.
    • Example: A long-term client revealed his real name only after years of working together—proving how irrelevant personal details are to the process.
  • The importance of separating your real identity from your online “cheating persona.”
    • Avoid using exact details like profession, height, or age, which can make you easily identifiable.
    • Real-world risk: Suspicious spouses or private investigators may search dating apps to confirm suspicions.
  • Security hygiene practices for protecting your identity:
    • Create a throwaway email and phone number.
    • Share minimal details early on when chatting with potential matches.
    • Gradually build trust before revealing more about yourself.
  • The universality of cheating:
    • Infidelity transcends politics, professions, and cultures—it’s part of human behavior.
    • Famous cheaters like King Charles and Donald Trump serve as examples of its pervasiveness.
  • The dangers of oversharing:
    • A cautionary tale of a client who shared his real phone number, leading to a scam and blackmail attempt.
Key Takeaways:
  • Protect your identity: Start with strong boundaries and limit the information you share online.
  • Confidentiality matters: Teresa’s approach prioritizes anonymity, so her clients can feel secure.
  • Build trust slowly: Whether it’s with an affair partner or anyone else, don’t rush into revealing details.
Quotable Moment:

"My approach works irrespective of who the client is. I don’t need to know who you are to help you have a successful affair safely."

Call to Action:

Ready to learn how to navigate an affair with discretion? Listen now to get tips on protecting your identity and setting up a safe online persona.

 

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EP 2501 - An Interview with Maddierose, My Conway Agency Associate05 janv. 202500:32:22

Welcome to 2025 and the debut of The How to Cheat Podcast! 🎙️ Formerly known as The Teresa Pod, this revamped podcast explores the intricacies of online dating and navigating relationships outside the traditional framework.

In this episode, Teresa brings on her associate, Maddierose, a key figure in her online dating consultancy. Together, they reflect on their professional journey, personal stories, and insights from years of helping clients discreetly navigate the world of online dating and affairs.

Episode Highlights:

  • Behind the Rebrand: Why Teresa transitioned from The Teresa Pod to The How to Cheat Podcast.
  • Meet Maddierose: From a writing novice to a trusted partner in crafting dating profiles and coaching clients.
  • The Power of Connection: How shared experiences around sexless marriages forged their partnership.
  • Working with Clients: Maddie’s growth from writing profiles to managing client accounts.
  • Success Stories: How a meticulously crafted process leads to meaningful matches for their clients.
  • Lightning Round: Insights into Maddie’s life, work, and love at first sight.

Key Takeaways:

  • A structured, empathetic approach is essential in navigating sensitive topics like affairs.
  • Good online dating support balances discretion, personalization, and an understanding of human connection.
  • Even taboo topics deserve a space for thoughtful discussion and support.

Quotable Moment: "I became the resource I needed when I started cheating." — Teresa Conway

💬 Ready to dive deeper? Subscribe to The How to Cheat Podcast and follow Teresa and Maddie as they explore the complex, sometimes controversial world of modern relationships.

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EP - 2443 - Who is Teresa Conway?15 déc. 202400:13:34

In this episode, Teresa Conway—author, blogger, and unapologetic explorer of human behavior—takes us on a candid journey into her life, work, and philosophy. Known for her provocative book How to Cheat: Field Notes from an Adulteress, Teresa shares the experiences and beliefs that have shaped her, offering a deeply personal and often polarizing perspective on infidelity, feminism, and empowerment.

What to Expect:

  • Teresa opens up about her upbringing, marriage, and how they shaped her views on relationships.
  • The motivations behind How to Cheat and why it’s more than a guide—it’s a manifesto on choice and agency.
  • The ethical and emotional complexities of infidelity: risk, control, and the thrill of desire.
  • Teresa’s fight against societal double standards and the Madonna-whore complex.
  • The duality of her life as both a caregiver and an advocate for women’s liberation.
  • How her mentoring work aligns with her belief in women’s empowerment.

Quotable Moments:

  • "Infidelity is rarely black and white. It’s a reflection of unmet needs and the human desire for connection."
  • "I’m not here to tell anyone how to live. I’m here to challenge the rules that make us feel trapped."

Connect with Teresa:

  • Follow Teresa’s blog for more personal insights and reflections.
  • Subscribe to the podcast for unfiltered conversations on life, love, and the complexities of human connection.

Teresa challenges us to embrace the messy, complicated truths about ourselves and our relationships. Dive into the conversation and discover a new perspective on love, betrayal, and identity.

🎧 Listen now and join the discussion!

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EP 2442 - The Generational Echoes of Infidelity13 déc. 202400:19:04

In this episode, I tackle a profound listener question: Can infidelity run in the family? With insights from How to Cheat: Field Notes from an Adulteress, I explore whether cheating is influenced by learned behavior, emotional voids, or even personality traits like impulsivity.

Episode Highlights:

  • The potential intergenerational patterns of infidelity.
  • How childhood experiences can shape adult behaviors.
  • The role of emotional needs like validation and physical intimacy.
  • Strategic advice for maintaining secrecy and the toll it takes.
  • Ethical dilemmas and the possibility of growth after betrayal.

Key Takeaway: Infidelity often stems from unmet emotional needs and past experiences, but breaking negative cycles is possible through self-awareness and conscious choices.

Quotable Moment: "I’d never have cheated if I’d been held like this at home. Sex or not, I missed being held more."

🎧 Listen now for an unflinching look at the human side of infidelity and the lessons it can teach us about love, connection, and self-discovery.

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EP 2441 - Mutually Assured Destruction (MAD) - The Cold War Strategy of Modern Infidelity11 déc. 202400:18:59

In this episode, I explore the chilling concept of "Mutually Assured Destruction" (MAD) and its unexpected application to the world of affairs. Drawing from my book, How to Cheat: Field Notes from an Adulteress, I examine how MAD can create a fragile balance in infidelity—where the fear of mutual exposure becomes a strange form of trust.

Episode Highlights:

  • How power dynamics and shared risk shape clandestine relationships.
  • Why an imbalance of stakes can lead to manipulation and betrayal.
  • The emotional toll of living a double life and maintaining secrecy.
  • Practical tips for navigating the complexities of trust in infidelity.

Key Takeaway: MAD might offer stability in the high-stakes world of infidelity, but it’s a foundation built on fear, not fulfillment.

Quotable Moment: "Infidelity isn’t romanticized here; it’s a calculated gamble with high stakes and no guarantees."

🎧 Join me as I uncover the strategies, risks, and emotional intricacies of this taboo topic.

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EP 2440 - What Women Want on Ashley Madison10 déc. 202400:23:42

In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of Ashley Madison to reveal what women are really looking for—and it’s far more complex than the clichés. Drawing on my book, How to Cheat, and real stories from women, we challenge stereotypes about infidelity and uncover the emotional layers beneath it.

Episode Highlights:

  • Why women seek connection, validation, and intimacy outside marriage.
  • Debunking the bored housewife myth—real stories of self-discovery.
  • How women navigate risks with operational security and discretion.
  • What men get wrong and how to genuinely connect on Ashley Madison.

Key Takeaway: Infidelity isn’t just about sex—it’s about reclaiming agency, feeling alive, and forging meaningful connections.

Quotable Moment: "Even in the world of infidelity, connection is about respect, trust, and understanding."

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EP 2439 - The Ashley Madison Lifestyle09 déc. 202400:16:56

Hey folks! I'm trying out Notebook LM to produce these deep dives into my work. I have over 500,000 words published and a number of books. My BF put them all on Notebook LM and am having their podcast tool talk about subjects I guide them towards. It's a work in progress, but I'm super busy, and this is a way to keep sharing. Let me know what you think at teresa@theconwayagency.com!

 

In this episode, we look at the world of Ashley Madison, the dating site infamous for facilitating affairs. From its purpose to its users' motivations, risks, and the strategies they employ, we unpack everything you need to know.

Episode Highlights:

  • Why people use Ashley Madison: boredom, lack of intimacy, or revenge.
  • Key risks: blackmail, scams, emotional fallout, and getting caught.
  • The psychology of cheating and its ethical dilemmas.
  • Pro tips from Teresa, author of How to Cheat:
    • Digital security musts like VPNs and burner phones.
    • Crafting discreet profiles and communicating intentions clearly.
    • Navigating real-life meetups with safety and discretion.

Key Takeaway: Ashley Madison isn’t just a website—it’s a high-stakes lifestyle. Be honest about your motivations, cautious about the risks, and prepared for the consequences.

Quotable Moment: “Cheating, like life, always comes with risks.”

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EP 2438 - About Maddierose's Book - I Was Red_Delicious on Ashley Madison08 déc. 202400:16:30

Exploring the Life of Maddierose: Infidelity, Empowerment, and Connection

In this episode, we explore excerpts from I Was Red Delicious on Ashley Madison, a candid memoir by Maddie Rose. Through her deeply personal narrative, Maddie shares her journey through marriage, infidelity, and self-discovery, offering a raw look at the complexities of modern relationships.

Episode Highlights:
  • Marriage Challenges: Maddie's "don't ask, don't tell" arrangement with her husband after a health crisis.
  • Emotional Complexity: Navigating jealousy, caregiving, and family dynamics.
  • Ashley Madison: Her path to reclaiming sensuality and connection through the dating platform.
  • Pandemic Pressures: The impact of lockdowns on her secret relationship.
  • Empowerment: Moments of self-discovery, from standing her ground in marriage to embracing her sexuality.
  • Lessons Shared: Coaching others on navigating discreet relationships.
Key Takeaways:
  • Relationships are multifaceted and often defy simplistic judgments.
  • Empowerment can emerge from life’s most challenging circumstances.
  • Vulnerability and honesty lead to personal growth and resilience.

Quotable Moment: "It's not about judging or condoning, but understanding the choices people make and the complexity of connection."

Join us as we unpack Maddie's story, challenging societal norms and exploring the pursuit of authenticity.

EP 2437 - Why Complaining About Your Wife Hurts Your Affair28 oct. 202400:10:08

In this episode, I dive into the complexities of affair dynamics, specifically why comparing an affair partner to a spouse can be an instant turn-off. She unpacks the importance of treating an affair as a unique, respectful connection—one that benefits from its own boundaries and an absence of "spouse talk."

Episode Highlights:
  • The Downside of Comparisons: Why comparing your AP to your spouse objectifies her and kills the mood.
  • Respect and Boundaries: Setting a "no-spouse-talk" rule to maintain emotional distance and enjoyment.
  • James Bond, Not Homer Simpson: How to embody an idealized partner without reminders of married life.
  • Toxic Bonding: Avoiding negative venting that can bring down the affair's positivity.
Key Takeaways:
  • Respect Matters: Negative comparisons disrespect all parties involved.
  • Set Boundaries Early: Keep spouse talk out of the affair for a healthier connection.

"In an affair, be James Bond, not Homer Simpson."

Listen in to discover how respecting boundaries can keep your affair fresh and engaging!

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EP 2436 - Women Shouldn't Avoid "Bad" Dating Profiles17 oct. 202400:09:20

In this episode, Teresa Conway challenges the typical red flags women are taught to avoid in men's dating profiles, such as fish pics, gym selfies, empty bios, or bad grammar. Teresa argues that these profiles can actually hide genuine, sincere men who aren’t playing the "dating app game."

Episode Highlights:

  • Common misconceptions women have about "bad" profiles
  • Why polished profiles might be a sign of more experience—and even dishonesty
  • Focusing on physical preferences first when filtering profiles
  • How to approach messaging men with "bad" profiles and feel them out
  • Why inexperienced men often make mistakes but could still be worth the effort
  • The importance of women messaging first and being patient

Key Takeaways:

  • “Bad” profiles don’t necessarily mean bad guys.
  • Look for physical traits you prefer and give the conversation a chance.
  • Don’t dismiss a man based on a poor profile; he might be inexperienced, not insincere.

Quotable: "The perfect profile sometimes is the red flag you're actually looking out for."

🎧 Ready to rethink your approach to online dating? Listen to Teresa break it all down!

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EP 2435 - How Cheaters Get Caught16 oct. 202400:13:21

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway dives into how people get caught cheating in their everyday lives. From digital slip-ups to modern surveillance tools, cheaters are being busted in creative ways—and Teresa shares real-life stories, including a surprising case involving a Fitbit.

Episode Highlights:
  • Text messages & social media mishaps: Common digital mistakes, like sending a message meant for a lover to a spouse.
  • Fitbit betrayal: A husband was caught cheating after his wife noticed 4 a.m. "exercise" on their connected fitness trackers.
  • Private investigators: How GPS tracking and surveillance gather hard evidence of infidelity.
  • Digital fingerprints: Emails, browsing history, and shared devices can expose secrets.
How Cheaters Try to Avoid Getting Caught:
  • Be aware of digital footprints: Turn off syncing, delete messages, and manage shared devices carefully.
  • Have plausible excuses: Always have a believable explanation for your whereabouts.
  • Cover financial tracks: Use cash, private credit cards, or business expenses to hide suspicious transactions.

Quotable: "You're only ever as good as your last lie."

If you're curious about how modern technology exposes cheating—and how people try to avoid it—this episode is for you. Don't miss out!

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EP 2434 - Martha Stewart Admits to Affair While Condemning Cheaters12 oct. 202400:07:55

In this episode of The TeresaPod, host Teresa Conway delves into Martha Stewart’s recent revelation about having an affair during her marriage to Andrew Stewart. Teresa examines Martha’s marriage, career transformation, and her complex views on infidelity, exploring the contradictions in how people perceive cheating—even when they’ve done it themselves.

Episode Highlights:

  • Martha Stewart’s Marriage: A look back at her marriage to Andrew Stewart, their successes, and eventual divorce.
  • The Confession: Martha reveals in her Netflix documentary that she had an affair, while still condemning men who cheat.
  • The Duality of Thought: Discussing the contradictory views people hold about infidelity, even when they’ve cheated.
  • Cheating from Boredom: Exploring why some people cheat, including Martha’s potential dissatisfaction with a “cookie-cutter” life.
  • Martha’s Reflection: "I could have just been a miserable, has-been housewife, but I didn’t let that happen to myself."

Key Takeaways:

  • Infidelity can stem from boredom or dissatisfaction.
  • Even those who have cheated may still hold strong opinions on the subject.
  • Life is complex, and opinions can evolve over time.

Quotable: "Martha calls cheating men 'pieces of s—' while casually admitting her own affair. It’s a striking example of the duality in how we view infidelity."

Tune in to hear Teresa’s thoughts on how Martha’s story speaks to the complexities of human relationships and self-reflection.

Call to Action:

  • Don’t miss Martha’s upcoming Netflix documentary, Martha, debuting October 30.
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EP 2433 - Why I Reply on Ashley Madison When I'm Not Looking11 oct. 202400:14:17

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, Teresa dives into the surprising reasons why she replies to men on Ashley Madison, even though her profile says not to message her. She shares insights on the types of men who ignore her boundaries, their confidence, and how she finds curiosity in their persistence. Teresa also discusses how she keeps her profile active for professional purposes, and why some men stand out while others get immediately blocked.

Key Takeaways:

  • Confidence and curiosity make certain men stand out, even when they ignore clear boundaries.
  • Teresa replies to men because she enjoys seeing who has the guts to push through her tough profile.
  • She keeps her Ashley Madison account active to review clients' profiles and offer advice on how they present themselves.
  • Men who follow her advice stand out by being genuine and respectful, rather than overly sexual or arrogant.
  • Standing out on dating platforms isn’t about luck—it’s about having an interesting profile, being polite, and sending thoughtful messages.

Quotable Moments:

  • "I tell men, if everyone’s wearing a green shirt, wear a red one. Stand out."
  • "Some men show confidence and curiosity, and that’s what allows them to break through."
  • "I never lead anyone on—I’m here to help men improve, not to play games."

Call to Action: Enjoy this episode? Make sure to follow Teresa for more insights on navigating dating platforms like Ashley Madison. Stay tuned for tips on how to improve your profile and connect with confidence.----more----

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EP 2432 - Online Chatting Is Where You Win Her07 oct. 202400:13:20

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway dives into the most critical part of your affair strategy: mastering the online chat game. Teresa explains how messaging can make or break your chances of moving from initial interest to a real-life connection. She offers expert tips on how to stand out in a crowded inbox, keep conversations engaging, and close the deal without coming off as desperate.

Episode Highlights:

  • The importance of a strong, personalized opener
  • How to keep her attention with engaging, light conversations
  • Strategies for introducing sexy talk at the right time
  • Tips for asking for a meet without rushing or stalling

Key Takeaways:

  • Start with thoughtful, profile-based openers to show you're paying attention.
  • Avoid interrogating or rushing into sexual topics—let her bring it up.
  • Ask for a meet within 36-48 hours to avoid becoming a pen pal.

Ready to master your chat game? Get Teresa’s ChatGPT Icebreaker Tool and learn how to take your messaging to the next level!

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EP 3124 - Affair Sex Is Always Hot03 oct. 202400:05:34

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, Teresa explores the reasons why affair sex is often considered incredibly hot and thrilling. Drawing from real-life stories and expert insights, she breaks down the psychological and emotional factors that contribute to the heightened intensity of illicit relationships.

Episode Highlights:

  1. Novelty: The excitement of a new partner and the thrill of the forbidden keep the energy alive.
  2. Commitment to Pleasure: Affair partners go "all in," leading to uninhibited, passionate sex.
  3. Experience: Older and more experienced partners provide heightened satisfaction through patience and skill.
  4. Fulfillment: Mutual desire and meeting each other's fantasies create powerful sexual energy.
  5. Communication: Open, vulnerable communication makes desires easier to express, deepening the connection.

Key Takeaway: To turn up the heat in any relationship, focus on introducing novelty, committing fully to pleasure, and fostering open communication.

Listen now for a deep dive into why affair sex can be so intensely satisfying!

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EP 3024 - Why Ashley Madison Suspends Women's Accounts01 oct. 202400:07:10

In this episode, Teresa Conway explores why women’s accounts on Ashley Madison often get suspended, especially when personal information is shared too soon. If you’ve ever had someone disappear mid-chat, Teresa breaks down the reasons and shares tips on how to avoid getting flagged as suspicious.

Episode Highlights:

  • Why women’s accounts get suspended: Sharing personal info (like email, Kik, or Telegram) within the first 24 hours can trigger an automatic block.
  • Scammers on Ashley Madison: Scammers use free women’s accounts to lure men off the platform for extortion. Early personal info sharing looks like a scam tactic.
  • Personal experience: Teresa shares how a woman disappeared while chatting with her client, likely because she shared info too quickly.
  • Best practices: Stay on the platform longer to avoid being flagged and ensure the person you’re chatting with isn’t a scammer.

Key Takeaways:

  • Avoid sharing personal info too soon, especially from a new account.
  • Stay on the platform until you meet the person in real life.
  • Be cautious of suspensions and know that accounts can be reactivated after review.

Quotable: "Moving off the site can get you suspended as a lady. But it’s also good practice to stay on the site just in case the guy’s a dud."

Stay safe and listen for more tips on navigating Ashley Madison without getting flagged!

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Join me as I share insights and practical advice to help you have a smoother experience on Ashley Madison. Stay tuned for more tips and remember to play it cool!

I'm Teresa Conler, and you're listening to the TeresaPod. As always, I'm super happy to be here. Bye!

EP 2924 - Fan Validate My Cheating Advice29 sept. 202400:07:00

In this episode, host Teresa Conway shares a powerful email from a reader that reaffirmed why she wrote her book, How to Cheat: Field Notes from an Adulteress. The email highlights the reader’s appreciation for how Teresa breaks down complex topics like adultery and lying into learnable skills. Teresa reflects on how this feedback mirrors her own journey from making early mistakes to seriously researching cheating and ultimately becoming the resource she needed when she first started out.

Episode Highlights:

  • A heartfelt fan email about How to Cheat and the reader’s first impressions:
    • "Thank you for the free copy of your book! I'm currently reading it, and it's absolutely fascinating."
    • "You present complicated topics like adultery and lying, making them seem like learnable skills."
  • Teresa reflects on the importance of offering practical guidance for those navigating adultery.
  • How her personal security breach led to the serious research behind the book.
  • The reader's journey mirrors Teresa’s own initial curiosity about Ashley Madison and their desire to understand it before diving in.
    • "I was researching Ashley Madison and came across your articles. You stood out as a leading expert on the subject."
  • Teresa's mission: becoming the resource she wished she had when she began her affair.

Key Takeaways:

  • Even in risky situations like infidelity, research and preparation can prevent major mistakes.
  • How to Cheat provides the practical tools and knowledge for making informed decisions rather than acting impulsively.

  • Get a free pdf copy of my ebook — How to Cheat: Field Notes from an Adulteress — by joining ⇨ MY EMAIL LIST!

Quotable Moment: "I decided to become the resource I needed when I started."

Call to Action:

  • Want to dive deeper? Sign up for Teresa’s email list to get a free copy of How to Cheat: Field Notes from an Adulteress.
  • Visit [Teresa's website] for more articles, resources, and expert advice.

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EP 2428 - The Male Experience: Navigating Ashley Madison27 sept. 202400:11:25

Episode Summary: In this episode, Teresa dives into the challenges men face during their first 30 days on Ashley Madison. While many assume cheating is driven by physical needs, Teresa shares insights from her experience with male clients, showing how emotional needs—like a desire for affection and validation—often play a significant role. The episode explores the harsh realities men encounter on this female-dominated platform, where competition is fierce, and women hold the power.

Episode Highlights:

  • Why Men Cheat: Men often cheat not just for sex but to fulfill unmet emotional needs like affection and connection, feeling neglected in their relationships.

  • Ashley Madison’s Brutal Reality for Men:

    • The platform is highly competitive with a five-to-one ratio of men to women.
    • Women hold all the power, and rejection can be soul-crushing for men.
    • Men struggle with the shift in dynamics, as they are often judged based on their appearance and approach.

  • Improving Your Odds on Ashley Madison:

    • Profile Optimization: Write a well-crafted profile and use strong photos to stand out.
    • Messaging Strategy: Avoid generic lines; personalize messages to show genuine interest.
    • Understanding the Competition: Creating a female profile can give men insight into the chaos women face on the site.

Key Takeaways:

  • Success on Ashley Madison requires strategy and understanding the power dynamics.
  • Men need to focus on improving their profile, messaging, and being patient.

Quotable Moment: “If you're a man on Ashley Madison, success comes down to strategy. Make your profile stand out, be genuine, and remember, it’s the women who call the shots.”

Call to Action: Ready to learn how to master the game on Ashley Madison? Tune in now for Teresa’s expert tips on making your profile stand out and winning the attention of women on the platform.----more----

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EP 2427 - 3 Things Smart Men Do to Stand Out on Ashley Madison25 sept. 202400:09:30

In this episode, host Teresa Conway shares three essential tips that smart men use to differentiate themselves on Ashley Madison. With the competition so fierce, it's vital to avoid common mistakes and instead stand out by being thoughtful, respectful, and patient. Whether you're on Ashley Madison or any other dating platform, these strategies will help you succeed.

Episode Highlights:
  • Why winking and favoriting are ineffective.
  • The importance of not asking for or sending pictures too soon.
  • How message-bombing comes across as desperate and how to avoid it.
Key Takeaways:
  • Don’t Wink or Favorite: Send a personalized message instead.
  • Don’t Ask for Pics: Let her offer and build a connection first.
  • Don’t Message-Bomb: Send a follow-up, then give her space to respond.

Quotable: "Standing out on Ashley Madison isn’t about doing more. It’s about being thoughtful, respectful, and patient."

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EP 2426 - Lt Gov Mark Robinson of North Carolina Gives Cheaters a Bad Name24 sept. 202400:11:16

In this episode, Teresa dives into the scandal surrounding North Carolina’s Lieutenant Governor and gubernatorial candidate, Mark Robinson. From his Ashley Madison cheating scandal to his shocking comments on slavery, Black Nazis, and trans porn, Robinson is the latest in a long line of family values politicians giving all cheaters a bad name.

Episode Highlights:

  • Mark Robinson's Ashley Madison account and the hypocrisy behind his family values platform.
  • His outrageous remarks on slavery and being a slave owner.
  • The bizarre claim that there were Black Nazis.
  • Robinson’s double life, enjoying trans porn while actively opposing trans rights.
  • Why people who denounce others often have their own skeletons in the closet.

Key Takeaways:

  • If you’re living a double life, tone down the public rhetoric—it'll save you from the fallout when the truth comes out.
  • A lesson for all cheaters: don’t be self-righteous if you're secretly breaking the rules.

Quotable: “Mark’s problem is, he’s just basically a big mouth... When you have a public life that says one thing and a private life that shows a different thing, you’re bound to crash and burn.”

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EP 2425 - Understanding Scammers and Bots on Ashley Madison19 sept. 202400:09:38

In this episode of the Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway dives into a common frustration for Ashley Madison users—dealing with scammers and confusing auto-generated messages. She breaks down how to recognize scam patterns, avoid falling for fake profiles, and explains the purpose behind Ashley Madison’s system-generated messages.

Episode Highlights:

  • Scammer Tactics:

    • Sending flirty messages or photos without viewing your profile.
    • Moving conversations off-site (to WhatsApp, etc.) to ask for money.
    • Geographic inconsistencies and last-minute money requests (e.g., for cabs or transportation).

  • Ashley Madison’s Auto-Messages:

    • System-generated messages that simulate interest and encourage users to spend credits.
    • Winks or favorites triggering automatic replies, which can be mistaken for real interactions.

  • Key Tips:

    • Avoid moving conversations off the platform too soon.
    • Don’t give out personal information or money to someone you haven’t met.
    • Read messages carefully to detect auto-generated content.
Quotable:

“If it feels too good to be true, it probably is.”

 

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EP 2424 - Men's Stupid Profile Names18 sept. 202400:10:55

In this episode, Teresa Conway dives into the impact of men’s online dating profile names and how they can make or break first impressions with women. Teresa discusses why overly sexual names like "Mr69" and "PussyLicker222" are a huge turn-off, why maturity matters, and how men can improve their chances of attracting women by making better choices with their usernames.

Episode Highlights:
  • Sexualized profile names send the wrong message: They signal immaturity and lack of respect.
  • Real examples of bad names and why they fail:
    • "PussyLicker222222" – Overcompensating for other issues.
    • "WellHung8969" – Leads to neck pain, not romance.
    • "BlueEyedGuy69" – Could have been great without the 69.
  • First impressions matter: Your profile name can either attract or instantly turn women away.
  • Advice on creating better profile names: Be clever or neutral—avoid high school humor.
Key Takeaways:
  • Avoid sexualized usernames; they show disrespect and immaturity.
  • First impressions are everything; a thoughtful or neutral name gives you the upper hand.
Quotable:

"Your profile name is your first impression. A bad one will guarantee no one opens your profile."

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EP 2423 - Why Dating Profiles Go Wrong17 sept. 202400:09:28

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway shares expert advice on crafting an authentic and compelling online dating profile. She dives into common pitfalls, including vague descriptions, overconfidence, and humor that misses the mark, explaining how these mistakes can lead to misunderstandings or poor matches. Teresa emphasizes the importance of treating your profile like a resume—showcasing who you are and what you're looking for.

Episode Highlights:

  • Why poor profiles lead to missed connections
  • Balancing humor and personality in your profile
  • Key elements to include: hobbies, values, lifestyle details
  • Tips for using feedback to improve your profile
  • A success story from a revamped profile

Key Takeaway: A well-written, thoughtful profile sets the stage for dating success—think of it as your personal introduction.

Quotable: "You're not trying to date yourself—write for your audience!"

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EP 2422 - 25 Ground Rules Before Getting in Bed With an Affair Partner16 sept. 202400:05:31

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway shares 25 crucial ground rules for managing an affair while keeping your primary relationship intact. From setting boundaries to discussing consent and protection, Teresa covers key strategies to minimize complications. She stresses the importance of communication and being prepared for emotional, physical, and practical challenges.

Episode Highlights:
  • Establishing "no-go" areas to avoid being seen
  • Consent and boundaries for intimacy
  • Handling medical emergencies and existing conditions
  • Keeping drug and alcohol use in check
  • Planning an exit strategy

Key Takeaway: Setting boundaries and clear expectations upfront can help prevent unnecessary drama and complications.

Quotable: "Set your boundaries early and be clear about your expectations to avoid unnecessary drama."

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EP 2421 - Celebrating My Six Year Affair Anniversary!13 sept. 202400:09:56

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway reflects on her 6-year affair anniversary. Teresa shares the story of how she and her lover first connected, the emotional journey they’ve been on, and how their relationship has evolved beyond the physical into a deep emotional partnership. She also dives into stories from others who’ve had long-term affairs—some that thrived and others that faded—and explores why some relationships fail while others flourish.

Episode Highlights:

  • Celebrating Teresa's 6-year affair anniversary
  • Reflecting on their first connection: a coffee/makeout session followed by their first hotel date on September 13, 2018
  • Stories from other long-term affairs: reasons they fall apart, including guilt, health issues, and lack of communication
  • Why Teresa believes her affair works:
    • Friendship and love beyond sex
    • Daily communication and virtual meetings
    • Working together in business
    • Shared interests, like watching the same TV show

Key Takeaways:

  • Long-term affairs require effort, just like marriages
  • Communication, emotional support, and shared interests are essential for maintaining a successful relationship
  • Building a connection beyond physical attraction can strengthen the relationship over time

Announcements:

  • The How to Cheat Pod Cast is now available on Apple Podcasts!
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EP 2420 - Why High Profile Men Need an Infidelity Consultant11 sept. 202400:11:51

In this episode, Teresa dives into the infamous Adam Levine scandal, exploring how even minor indiscretions—like flirty texts—can explode into public disasters. Teresa breaks down why successful men often overestimate their ability to manage these situations and how micro-cheating is just as damaging in today’s media landscape.

Episode Highlights:

  • Adam Levine’s scandal with Sumner Stroh: flirty texts and the fallout
  • Why Sumner had nothing to lose, but Adam Levine had everything at stake
  • Cheating on a Victoria's Secret model: What people don’t see behind closed doors
  • What is micro-cheating? Examples include:
    • Flirty texts and sexting
    • Liking posts from romantic interests
    • Keeping a dating profile open
    • Hiding your relationship status while flirting
  • How today's media environment magnifies even the smallest indiscretions

Key Takeaway: What are your reputation and bank balance worth to you? Don’t let a few bad decisions wreck both.

Quotable: “From the outside, people say, ‘Who cheats on a Victoria’s Secret model?’ But behind closed doors, it’s just like any other marriage. The shine wears off, and the same problems show up.”

Want to safeguard your reputation and avoid these high-profile fails? Contact me for personalized infidelity consulting. I’ll guide you through these situations before they become front-page news.

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EP 2419 - Writing the Perfect Dating App Greeting10 sept. 202400:09:11

Description: In this episode, Teresa Conway breaks down the key components of a successful opening message on married dating apps. Learn how to craft a personalized greeting, reference something specific from her profile, and invite her to connect in a way that feels genuine. Teresa also shares real examples of effective messages you can use to start conversations with confidence.

Episode Highlights:

  • Why personalized greetings matter
  • Key elements of a strong first message:
    • Friendly greeting using her name or handle
    • Reference something from her profile
    • Light, open invitation to connect
  • Real-life examples of successful opening messages

Quotable Moment: “Think of your message like a cover letter—get her interested enough to read your profile and reply.”

 

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EP 2418 - Should You Find an Affair Partner in Real Life?09 sept. 202400:09:23

In this episode, Teresa dives into the question of whether it's a good idea to seek out an affair partner in the real world, based on a client’s dilemma. He’s noticed a woman who smiles at him on his commute, and wonders if he should approach her. Teresa breaks down the risks of pursuing someone in real life versus finding a safer match through an affair app.

Episode Highlights:

  • Client’s story: Is the woman on the train just friendly or potentially interested?
  • The risks of "traditional" affair partners, like neighbors or co-workers.
  • Why meeting someone in real life makes it harder to read intentions and increases chances of getting caught.
  • OPSEC (Operational Security) and why using an app is the safer bet.

Key Takeaways:

  • Apps remove the awkward “Are you interested in an affair?” question.
  • Real-life connections overlap social circles, increasing exposure and risk.
  • Avoid traditional affair partners to minimize gossip and suspicion.

Quotable: “Luck is not a strategy. Finding an affair partner on an app reduces risk, while real-life encounters are a gamble.”

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EP 2417 - Funny Ashley Madison Messages that Flop08 sept. 202400:08:04

Why Your Opening Messages on Ashley Madison Fail

Summary: In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway dives into why certain types of opening messages on Ashley Madison don’t get replies. Teresa shares real messages she’s received, from sexualized ones to cliche openers, and explains why they fall flat. She also highlights the importance of following through with creative approaches, using a haiku promise that was never delivered as a prime example of a missed opportunity.

Key Highlights:

  • Sexualized messages and why they are an immediate fail.
    • Example: "What are your fantasies? My fantasy is tying you to the bed..."
    • Teresa’s response: "My fantasy is not being tied to the bed."
  • Why cliche or shallow messages won’t get replies.
    • Example: "I got lots of money to take care of you."
    • Teresa’s response: "Nope."
  • When creative messages work but fail due to lack of follow-through.
    • Example: "Something simple…a haiku?"
    • Teresa’s response: "And there, you had me all excited. No haiku, no sex."

Key Takeaways:

  • Be thoughtful and avoid sexualizing the first interaction.
  • Don’t rely on shallow claims like wealth or looks to impress.
  • Follow through on unique or creative approaches; otherwise, it’s a missed opportunity.

Quotable Moment: "You're writing checks with your mouth that your ass can't cash."

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Transcript

1 00:00:01,237 --> 00:00:05,377 Hi, and welcome to the Teresa Pod. I'm your host, Teresa Conway,

2 00:00:05,377 --> 00:00:07,977 and I am so glad you could join me.

3 00:00:08,397 --> 00:00:12,297 Today we're going to talk about why certain types of opening messages on Ashley

4 00:00:12,297 --> 00:00:14,817 Madison just don't work, and why.

5 00:00:15,297 --> 00:00:19,177 As I'm sure that you've wondered why, sometimes your messages don't have replies.

6 00:00:20,437 --> 00:00:23,377 So, I'm going to give you some examples of ones that I receive,

7 00:00:23,697 --> 00:00:25,437 and explain why they flop. up.

8 00:00:26,317 --> 00:00:30,197 We're going to start with the sort of sexualized messages, which I hope you

9 00:00:30,197 --> 00:00:31,517 understand why they don't work.

10 00:00:31,917 --> 00:00:37,797 Then other types of file. And then finally, ones that just sort of fizzle out

11 00:00:37,797 --> 00:00:41,477 because you missed the element of what you were trying to do.

12 00:00:42,297 --> 00:00:49,557 So it should be obvious why sexualized messages fit. So here's one I got. Hi, my name is Joe.

13 00:00:50,157 --> 00:00:54,237 I've changed his name, but he did say his name, which I don't mind.

14 00:00:55,317 --> 00:01:00,017 What are your fantasies? We are all on the site to get extra attention,

15 00:01:00,317 --> 00:01:03,457 and we are not partly getting.

16 00:01:03,857 --> 00:01:06,857 I am very easygoing and open-minded person.

17 00:01:08,017 --> 00:01:10,777 My fantasy is tying you to the bed.

18 00:01:11,517 --> 00:01:15,837 You know, my fantasy is not being tied to the bed.

19 00:01:16,437 --> 00:01:19,917 So why doesn't that work? You know, we don't know each other,

20 00:01:19,917 --> 00:01:27,557 and all of a sudden being tied to a bed and he does go on to say other things

21 00:01:27,557 --> 00:01:30,937 that he's going to do to titillate me and,

22 00:01:31,077 --> 00:01:33,557 you know, I'm just not there.

23 00:01:36,337 --> 00:01:41,337 You know, that don't make me fun, but I'd rather you just say hello.

24 00:01:42,037 --> 00:01:46,597 The next one that kind of put me off was, you know, this guy,

25 00:01:46,597 --> 00:01:50,157 I thought he actually called himself Mickey Mouse.

26 00:01:50,797 --> 00:01:58,017 And he said, I got lots of money to take care of you. If you want to be my lady, that would be great.

27 00:01:59,319 --> 00:02:03,139 Okay, so what do you say? You're a rich dude?

28 00:02:03,879 --> 00:02:08,759 You want to be my sugar daddy? Or are you just like a peacock putting feathers

29 00:02:08,759 --> 00:02:13,839 out so that I look over your way and then maybe decide that we're going to build a nest together?

30 00:02:14,339 --> 00:02:17,799 I don't think so. You know what I mean? I need a lot more than money.

31 00:02:18,819 --> 00:02:24,319 I'm here not for money. And weirdly looking for something a little more genuine.

32 00:02:24,939 --> 00:02:30,159 So I get it, you know. You love your money. You love the size of your penis.

33 00:02:30,279 --> 00:02:31,679 You love how good you are.

34 00:02:32,699 --> 00:02:40,259 But, you know, let's discover that together after I find out that you're not a loser.

35 00:02:40,779 --> 00:02:43,619 Some of these guys are like, no, no response.

36 00:02:44,799 --> 00:02:48,559 Other types that don't work. You know this one, hi there.

37 00:02:49,179 --> 00:02:54,679 Interesting readout. I'm newsier like one week new. Maybe I should have winked

38 00:02:54,679 --> 00:02:58,039 before messaging, but winks get lost in the noise.

39 00:02:58,579 --> 00:03:03,439 Send me a pic, please. I need to know you have what I'm looking for.

40 00:03:04,319 --> 00:03:09,959 Like what? You know, what I... When someone asks me for my picture,

41 00:03:10,119 --> 00:03:16,779 before really they do anything else or like this, I just ask for my picture right off the fly.

42 00:03:16,899 --> 00:03:19,679 Tell me, are you my type or not?

43 00:03:20,099 --> 00:03:24,059 I'm like, all you want to do is see what my ass looks like, and if it's big

44 00:03:24,059 --> 00:03:26,399 enough for you, or too big for you.

45 00:03:26,699 --> 00:03:34,339 You know, sorry about, this is not a meat market, and I'm not a piece of meat. Show me the money.

46 00:03:35,459 --> 00:03:39,959 I just, you know, I have no idea what these guys are thinking when they ask.

47 00:03:40,739 --> 00:03:45,639 To see, to say, actually, that what they're looking for just blows me away. it.

48 00:03:46,359 --> 00:03:50,379 One old big message killing me. For a drink to check the chemistry.

49 00:03:50,839 --> 00:03:53,079 You know, I went back to him and I'm like, hey baby.

50 00:03:54,159 --> 00:04:00,119 Sorry, I went back to him and said, hey baby, can I buy you a drink?

51 00:04:00,299 --> 00:04:02,539 That isn't going to do it for you.

52 00:04:02,979 --> 00:04:04,959 You know, like cliched lines.

53 00:04:05,799 --> 00:04:09,179 You're wasting your money on sending something like that.

54 00:04:09,579 --> 00:04:14,059 You know, give me something to think about. Give me a reason to meet you for a drink.

55 00:04:14,139 --> 00:04:18,719 Not, you know, more or less like the last guy. Let's meet. I can trust you.

56 00:04:19,059 --> 00:04:23,759 And then I'll decide if I want to have sex with you or not. You know? Come on.

57 00:04:25,219 --> 00:04:29,099 Another one that just sort of flapped. Hi, lady.

58 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:35,719 I'm also married. I'm 6'1". And I keep myself in shape. Ooh, good. You know?

59 00:04:36,419 --> 00:04:40,919 I have a shape I keep, too. Like, first off, why are you giving me stamps?

60 00:04:41,479 --> 00:04:42,719 It's all in your profile.

61 00:04:43,359 --> 00:04:47,779 So you're just repeating something that I can just see when I look at your profile. And.

62 00:04:48,984 --> 00:04:53,464 What is 6-1 doing? Like, is this like the six-pack, six-figure,

63 00:04:53,464 --> 00:04:56,324 six-geek kind of thing of the M-cells? I don't know.

64 00:04:56,784 --> 00:05:02,044 But, again, you know, yeah, there has to be physical attraction there.

65 00:05:02,104 --> 00:05:05,984 But if I think you're a douche, it won't matter what you look like.

66 00:05:06,384 --> 00:05:09,704 Right? So don't start with something douchey.

67 00:05:10,484 --> 00:05:13,244 And finally, you know, this one did work.

68 00:05:14,304 --> 00:05:19,604 At first it worked. it. And it was kind of interesting, and it was like,

69 00:05:19,764 --> 00:05:24,024 Hi, my name is Joe, not his real name.

70 00:05:24,924 --> 00:05:30,564 Interested in chatting sometime? Something simple? A haiku? Or perhaps you're into limericks?

71 00:05:31,304 --> 00:05:36,424 So I didn't go back, and I just wrote haiku. You know, I wanted to test this

72 00:05:36,424 --> 00:05:38,604 guy out and see what he was going to do for me, you know?

73 00:05:38,684 --> 00:05:44,944 You know, when someone offers to write you a haiku, which is 17 syllables of

74 00:05:45,144 --> 00:05:50,184 something interesting, you know, like if you can pull that off and you can do

75 00:05:50,184 --> 00:05:53,484 it, and, you know, maybe I will meet you for a drink.

76 00:05:54,264 --> 00:05:59,284 We did a couple of days. He never came back. So you know what I said, dude?

77 00:06:00,484 --> 00:06:03,664 I wrote. And there, you had me all excited.

78 00:06:04,324 --> 00:06:09,284 Finally, something different, I thought. But no, not at all. No haiku.

79 00:06:09,864 --> 00:06:14,124 No sex. You know, seriously, if you're going to get out there and you're going

80 00:06:14,124 --> 00:06:20,664 to offer someone a haiku or a limerick, you better have a haiku or a limerick to come back with.

81 00:06:20,964 --> 00:06:26,084 When she says haiku, that means send her a haiku.

82 00:06:27,044 --> 00:06:33,004 Like seriously, this guy opened the door with something cute and was very close

83 00:06:33,004 --> 00:06:36,164 to, you know, moving forward.

84 00:06:36,224 --> 00:06:39,864 But he just blew it by not coming back. I mean, seriously. sleep.

85 00:06:40,204 --> 00:06:44,264 Now, maybe he found a better, maybe somebody did math for a haiku,

86 00:06:44,424 --> 00:06:49,384 but when they ask, then you offer to deliver. Like, that's just normal.

87 00:06:50,964 --> 00:06:55,144 So, for me, sexualized messages, immediate fail.

88 00:06:56,424 --> 00:07:01,564 Cliche or impersonal type messages, where you're kind of peacocking or expecting

89 00:07:01,564 --> 00:07:09,364 me to be gone by your money or your height or, you know, whatever, not gonna happen.

90 00:07:09,644 --> 00:07:11,904 You know, unique messages, all the way to work.

91 00:07:12,304 --> 00:07:15,744 So do funny ones, but with no follow-through.

92 00:07:16,184 --> 00:07:19,844 Like, you're just a dud, you know? Like, what are you doing?

93 00:07:19,984 --> 00:07:23,484 You know, you're writing checks with your mouth that you're asking in cash.

94 00:07:24,544 --> 00:07:27,424 So, you know, it's simple. I really find it simple.

95 00:07:27,564 --> 00:07:31,884 You know, be respectful, thoughtful, and follow what you put on out there.

96 00:07:32,004 --> 00:07:35,424 Or what you put out there. You know, follow that. You haiku.

97 00:07:35,724 --> 00:07:38,904 Write haiku. They're not very hard. No, thanks.

98 00:07:40,297 --> 00:07:45,797 And that's where I'll leave it. I'm Teresa Conway, and you're listening to the TeresaPod.

99 00:07:46,277 --> 00:07:49,197 As always, I'm super happy to be here.

100 00:07:49,617 --> 00:07:55,357 And just so you know, I will follow this up in the next couple of days with

101 00:07:55,357 --> 00:08:00,737 a blog post, and I have some more insights in there that will demonstrate why

102 00:08:00,737 --> 00:08:03,797 these things are important. Okay? Bye.

 

EP 2416 - Skin Hunger: Deprivation of Human Touch06 sept. 202400:06:40

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, Teresa Conway discusses the concept of "skin hunger"—the impact of going without human touch. She shares her experiences with touch deprivation, from her childhood to later life, and explains the lasting effects of a single hug in high school. Teresa also dives into the science behind human touch, focusing on how oxytocin—the "love drug"—plays a vital role in emotional well-being. Touch deprivation can lead to anxiety, depression, and other health issues, making regular physical contact essential.

Episode Highlights:

  • Definition of skin hunger and how it affects various groups (e.g., elderly, shut-ins, people in prison)
  • Teresa’s personal story of growing up without much physical affection
  • The significance of a single hug and how it stayed with her for years
  • Health impacts of touch deprivation: anxiety, depression, sleep problems, weight gain, and more
  • How oxytocin is released through physical contact, helping us feel connected and cared for
  • The importance of everyday touch, like hand-holding and back-scratching

Key Takeaways:

  • Regular physical contact is essential for emotional and physical health.
  • A lack of touch over time can lead to a range of mental and physical health problems.
  • Touch goes beyond sensuality—it fosters connection, reduces stress, and improves well-being.

Quotable Moment: "That hug, though short, transferred a warmth and energy into me that I never knew I was missing."

Call to Action: If you know someone who may be going without regular physical contact, especially elderly or isolated individuals, consider how you can offer that connection. And don’t forget to subscribe to The Teresa Pod for more episodes like this!----more----

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EP 2415 - Masking Lifestyle Changes During an Affair03 sept. 202400:15:14

Episode Summary: In this episode of the Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway discusses the subtle but crucial art of masking lifestyle changes when you’re having an affair or planning to start one. Teresa shares personal insights on how she prepared for her affair and emphasizes the importance of having believable reasons for newfound happiness, confidence, and energy. She explores how to manage fashion, fitness, and other routine changes without raising suspicion, ensuring you don’t unintentionally reveal your secret.

Episode Highlights:

  • Teresa’s Personal Story:

    • Deciding to cheat before meeting someone and starting an exercise routine.
    • How messages from men on Ashley Madison boosted her confidence.
    • The importance of having a reason to explain your positive emotions.

  • Fashion and Style Adjustments:

    • Gradually upgrade your wardrobe to avoid drawing attention.
    • For men: Transition from "Homer Simpson" to "James Bond" subtly.
    • For women: Make subtle changes like new accessories or a slight hairstyle tweak.

  • Managing Fitness, Routine, and OPSEC (Operational Security):

    • Avoid the "midlife crisis" cliché by pacing your fitness changes.
    • Gradually introduce new habits like working out or social outings.
    • Be strategic with excuses for late work hours or increased gym sessions.

Key Takeaways:

  • Always have a believable reason for your newfound happiness and energy.
  • Make lifestyle changes gradually to avoid raising suspicion.
  • Maintain operational security by considering how your actions look to others.

Quotable: "She wants to meet James Bond, even if it’s only for three hours. She doesn’t want Homer Simpson."

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EP 2414 - Being Glued To Your Phone Is A Clue You’re Cheating02 sept. 202400:07:10

Episode Summary:

In this episode, Teresa Conway dives into the subtle signs that your phone habits might be giving you away if you’re cheating. She explores how changes in phone use can raise suspicion and offers strategies to desensitize your partner to your increased phone activity. Teresa also discusses the importance of gradually shifting your phone habits and how to make your partner lose interest by sharing annoying jokes and comments.

Key Discussion Points:

  • Changes in Phone Habits:

    • Everyone has a specific way they use their phone, and your spouse is keenly aware of yours. Any sudden change, like increased phone use or taking more calls in private, can be a red flag.

  • Masking Increased Activity:

    • If you're not typically glued to your phone, a sudden spike in usage will be noticeable. Teresa suggests gradually increasing your phone time by engaging in harmless activities, such as playing games like Words With Friends or joining online groups.

  • Desensitizing Your Partner:

    • Join groups or engage in activities your spouse dislikes. Teresa advises showing your partner stupid or annoying jokes and comments from these groups to increase their disinterest. For example, repeatedly sharing crude humor or silly memes can make them less curious about what you’re doing on your phone.

  • Creating a Cover Story:

    • If your partner asks what’s making you smile, you can simply attribute it to a joke or comment from a group they dislike. Over time, they'll become used to seeing you on your phone and will stop questioning your behavior.

Key Takeaways:

  • Gradually increase your phone usage to avoid raising suspicion.
  • Use annoying or uninteresting content to make your partner disinterested in your phone activity.
  • Over time, your partner will become desensitized to your increased phone use, giving you more freedom to communicate with your affair partner.

Quotable Moment:

"If they get suspicious, your goose is half-cooked. But if you desensitize them by sharing jokes they hate, soon they won’t care what you’re smiling at."

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EP 2413 - Five Reasons Why I Choose Adultery Over Divorce01 sept. 202400:06:35
Five Reasons I Choose Adultery Over Divorce

In this episode of the TeresaPod, host Teresa Conway tackles the controversial topic of why she chooses adultery over divorce. Responding to the frequent question, "Why don’t you just get a divorce?" Teresa outlines five key reasons for her decision, emphasizing the complexities and nuances that go beyond simple morality.

Episode Highlights:

  • Divorce is Expensive: The financial burden, including legal fees and asset division, makes divorce less appealing.
  • Loss of Social Connections: Divorce would disrupt social circles and friendships that Teresa values.
  • Divorce for Sex is Unreasonable: The stability of her marriage outweighs the sexual dissatisfaction.
  • Caregiving Obligations: Teresa's spouse’s medical needs create a moral obligation to stay.
  • Inevitability of Divorce if Caught: Divorce will happen if she’s caught, so there’s no rush to initiate it.

Key Takeaway: Teresa explores the difficult choices between maintaining a stable, albeit imperfect, marriage and seeking fulfillment through adultery, arguing that the decision isn’t as straightforward as it might seem.

Quotable Moment: "It's easier to write, 'Why don’t you get a divorce?' than it is to actually get a divorce."

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EP 2412 - My First Affair Sex After Nine Years of Abstinence30 août 202400:13:06

Episode Summary: In this episode, Teresa Conway candidly shares the transformative experience of her first affair after years of abstinence. She recounts the emotional journey that led to her decision, the intense anticipation, and the life-changing encounter that followed. Teresa reflects on how reconnecting with her body and embracing her desires reignited a sense of self-worth and joy that she hadn't felt in years.

Key Points:

  • The Catalyst: Waking up to the realization that without change, she'd never experience intimacy again.
  • Initial Hesitation: The fear and anxiety of meeting someone new after nearly a decade without sex.
  • The First Meeting: How a simple coffee date helped ease fears and set the stage for what was to come.
  • A Night to Remember: A passionate and fulfilling encounter that left Teresa feeling reborn and reconnected with herself.
  • Emotional Impact: The absence of guilt and the overwhelming joy that followed, marking the beginning of a new chapter in her life.

Quotable Moment: "It was like walking through a desert and then drinking a glass of clear, fresh water."

Tune in to hear Teresa's full story and explore the profound impact of reclaiming your sexual identity. Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review if this episode resonated with you!

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EP 2411 - Being on Ashley Madison Made Me Feel Sexy Again29 août 202400:05:34
Show Notes: Teresa Pod - Episode 11

Episode Summary: In this episode, Teresa Conway talks about her decision to find someone new and how it coincided with a summer of self-improvement. She shares how starting to exercise unexpectedly heightened her desire for intimacy and boosted her self-esteem. As Teresa explored Ashley Madison, she received a flood of attention that made her feel attractive and desired. Among the many suitors, one man stood out for his exceptional writing and deep connection, leading to a relationship that has continued to thrive for six years.

Episode Highlights:

  • The decision to seek an affair aligned with starting an exercise routine.
  • Exercise unintentionally increased sexual desire, fitting perfectly with Teresa's search for a partner.
  • A surge in self-esteem from the attention received on Ashley Madison.
  • One man’s writing and connection set him apart, leading to a lasting relationship.
  • The significance of meaningful connections beyond just physical attraction.

Key Takeaway: A connection that engages you on multiple levels—intellectually, emotionally, and physically—can significantly boost your confidence and well-being.

Quotable: "He stood out among the crowd and still stands out after six years. That connection was exactly what I was looking for."

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EP 2410 - When I Decided to Have an Affair28 août 202400:05:45

Teresa Conway opens up about the moment she decided she needed to cheat. She reflects on a seemingly ordinary encounter at a music festival that triggered a realization about the loneliness and lack of intimacy that had been slowly consuming her life for nearly a decade.

Episode Highlights:

  • The Scene: Teresa sets the stage by sharing how a work trip led her to a music festival in a new city, where an unexpected connection with a stranger made her laugh for the first time in years.
  • The Encounter: A simple, friendly conversation with a younger, married man at the festival brings buried emotions to the surface, leading Teresa to confront the growing isolation in her life.
  • The Breakdown: Back in her hotel room, Teresa experiences an emotional breakdown as she faces the reality of her loneliness and the absence of physical intimacy in her marriage.
  • The Decision: The encounter and subsequent emotional release become a catalyst for Teresa’s decision to seek out an affair, recognizing that she could no longer bear the thought of spending the next 30 years alone.

Key Takeaways:

  • Sometimes, it’s the small, unexpected moments that reveal the deepest truths about our lives.
  • Loneliness can creep in gradually, masked by daily responsibilities, until it becomes too much to ignore.
  • The need for human connection and physical intimacy is powerful and can drive us to make difficult, life-altering decisions.

Quotable Moment: "The dam broke open when I realized that there could be more. The loneliness in that hotel room was just crushing, and I knew from that point on that I needed to find or make my own connection if I was going to have one again."

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EP 2409 - My Cheater's Guilt26 août 202400:09:00
Show Notes for Episode 2409: "My Cheater's Guilt"

Episode Summary: In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway talks about the unexpected and intense emotions that can accompany infidelity, mainly focusing on guilt. She shares a personal story about a time when guilt caught her off guard, leading to a deep emotional low. Teresa discusses the challenges of managing her feelings while also trying to reassure her lover and how she ultimately navigated these difficult emotions. This episode offers a candid look at the complexities of guilt and how it can impact both primary and extramarital relationships.

Episode Highlights:

  • Unpredictable Guilt: Teresa shares how guilt can sneak up on you unexpectedly, even when you feel everything is under control.
  • Personal Story: A week of freedom with her lover leads to a surprising emotional crash when her spouse returns, triggering overwhelming guilt.
  • Managing Dual Emotions: The challenge of balancing her own emotional needs with the responsibility of reassuring her lover during this difficult time.
  • The Temporary Nature of Guilt: Understanding that these intense feelings are transient and how recognizing this helped her get through the low point.
  • Communication: The importance of communicating with your partner about these emotions and not letting guilt signal the end of a relationship.

Quotable Moment: "I didn’t want to talk to my lover or even interact; I just wanted to be left alone with my thoughts, which was incredibly difficult while trying to maintain the facade of a happy family."

Key Takeaways:

  • Guilt in infidelity can be sudden and intense, often triggered by unexpected events.
  • These emotional lows are usually temporary, and understanding this can help you ride them out.
  • Open communication with your affair partner is crucial in navigating these emotional challenges.

Call to Action: If you’ve ever struggled with unexpected guilt in your relationship, know that you’re not alone. Tune in to hear Teresa’s personal experience and insights on how to manage these difficult emotions. Don’t forget to subscribe to The Teresa Pod for more episodes where we explore the complexities of relationships.

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EP 2408 - The Art of the Cover Story for Cheaters23 août 202400:09:18

In this episode of the Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway talks about the critical importance of having a foolproof cover story when you're having an affair.

Episode Highlights:
  • Why a Cover Story is Essential: Avoid suspicion and prevent small inconsistencies from becoming major red flags.
  • Personal Experience: Teresa shares a close call where her attention to detail saved her from exposing her secret.
  • Crafting the Perfect Cover:
    • The 5 W's and H: Who, What, When, Where, Why, and How.
    • Keep It Simple: Stick close to the truth to make your story believable and easy to remember.
    • Avoid Over-Explaining: Only provide details when asked; giving too much information can be a giveaway.

Key Takeaway: Always verify your details and prepare for potential follow-up questions to maintain control over your narrative.

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EP 2407 - When to Message Back Without Appearing Needy22 août 202400:05:41

When to Message Back After Silence - The Teresa Pod

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway tackles a frequent dating challenge: deciding when to send a follow-up message after getting no response. Teresa shares valuable strategies for handling the silence with confidence, ensuring you maintain interest without appearing needy.

Episode Highlights:

  • How to time your follow-up message after a conversation stalls.
  • Balancing interest with self-respect in your messaging.
  • Strategies to keep communication light and pressure-free.
  • Understanding the importance of acknowledging busy schedules.

Key Takeaways:

  • Wait a few days before reaching out again, considering her potential obligations.
  • Mention that you’ve been busy too, keeping the tone natural and balanced.
  • Avoid passive-aggressive comments and maintain a noncommittal vibe.
  • If she's interested, she’ll return; don’t risk pushing her away by over-messaging.

Quotable: "Relax, because if she's interested, she will come back. If she's not, there's nothing you can do about it."

Listen in to get Teresa’s expert tips on keeping your dating conversations smooth and stress-free!

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EP 2406 - Deciding if Cheating is for You21 août 202400:08:40

In this episode of The TeresaPod, host Teresa Conway dives into the complex emotions and ethical challenges surrounding infidelity. Teresa explores whether cheating is ever the right choice, particularly when the act feels wrong or leads to inner conflict. Through the lens of a client’s story, Teresa discusses the struggle between emotional needs and moral boundaries and the importance of listening to your gut feelings.

Episode Highlights:

  • The emotional isolation in a dead marriage and the desire for connection
  • Disappointment in extramarital encounters and unmet expectations
  • The ethical dilemma of being "the other woman" and fear of bad karma
  • The emotional toll of secrecy and guilt in infidelity
  • Why it's okay to decide that cheating isn't right for you

Key Takeaways:

  • Cheating is a deeply personal decision that isn't right for everyone.
  • It's crucial to listen to your emotions and set boundaries that align with your values.
  • If the idea of infidelity causes more harm than good, it might be better to walk away.

Quotable: "Seriously, there is nothing compelling you to keep going when it’s not in your heart. It’s a personal choice, and it’s important to be honest with yourself."

Call to Action: If you’re grappling with similar feelings, tune in to hear Teresa's insights and consider whether your emotional health aligns with your choices. Don’t forget to subscribe to The TeresaPod for more candid discussions on relationships and personal growth!

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EP 2405 - Unveiling Infidelity: Reasons for Betrayal20 août 202400:06:05

Today, we look into the often misunderstood reasons people cheat, exploring it beyond the surface of betrayal to uncover the deeper issues.

In this episode, we discuss the reasons why some people consider crossing that line. Chronic and long-term deprivation in marriages, whether due to:

  • physical disability
  • emotional disconnection
  • suppressed libido from medication

All of these things can lead to feelings of despair and loneliness.

Teresa shares her personal story and experiences, highlighting how lack of appreciation and emotional intimacy can drive people towards infidelity.

Teresa explains how these things can create the emotional disconnect that often leads to cheating. Tune in to gain insight into the complexities of why people cheat.

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EP 2404 - My Grocery Store Analogy to Online Dating19 août 202400:05:50

Hello, good morning. Welcome to the TeresaPod. I'm your host, Teresa Conway.

In this episode, I introduce the "grocery store analogy" for online dating. Just like meeting someone in a grocery store, your online profile should be genuine and respectful. Avoid overly sexualized content and focus on building trust and relatability.

Learn how to present yourself authentically and make a positive impression by treating online interactions like real-life encounters. I'll guide you through crafting a profile that showcases who you are, what you enjoy, and what you're looking for in a partner.

Join me as I share practical tips to help you succeed in the online dating world by being a safe, genuine, and decent person. Let's make your online dating experience as smooth and effective as a friendly chat at the grocery store!

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EP 2403 - More on Dating App Icebreakers: The Overbaked Lasagna Edition17 août 202400:07:34

In this episode, Teresa Conway discusses writing effective icebreaker messages for online dating. She analyzes a listener-submitted icebreaker, highlights common mistakes, and provides an effective alternative.

Episode Highlights:
  • Analysis of an "over-baked lasagna" message
  • Common mistakes in icebreakers:
    • Weaker, unconfident language
    • Unnecessary repetition
    • Asking inappropriate questions too soon
  • A recommended approach for effective icebreakers
  • Key elements of a successful first message
Key Takeaways:
  • Keep messages concise and confident
  • Demonstrate that you've read the person's profile
  • Focus on making a connection, not gathering information
  • Use a friendly, casual tone
  • Avoid overwriting - stick to four key elements:
    • greeting,
    • acknowledgment,
    • connection,
    • invitation
Quotable:

"If you've got an icebreaker that is more than four sentences long, stop. You're probably making a mistake."

Ready to improve your online dating game? Listen now for Teresa's expert advice on crafting the perfect ice-breaker!

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EP 2402 - Life Changes and Relationships16 août 202400:06:17

Welcome to Episode 2 of the Teresa Pod, hosted by Teresa Conway. In this episode, Teresa reflects on her experiences working with clients navigating complex life changes and relationships. She shares a touching story of a retired law enforcement professional who found happiness after reevaluating his life and marriage. Teresa discusses the motivations behind seeking new relationships and offers thoughtful advice on living authentically and making the most of the time we have. Tune in for an exploration of personal growth and the pursuit of happiness.

EP 2401 - Exploring Podcasts and Perfecting Icebreakers15 août 202400:12:57
Insights on Online Dating and AI Icebreaker Tool

Join Teresa Conway as she explores the world of online dating, AI-powered communication tools, and the art of creating engaging conversations. In this episode, Teresa discusses:

  • Her venture into podcasting and plans for "The How to Cheat Podcast" with co-host Mona Lisa
  • The development and effectiveness of her AI-powered icebreaker tool for dating apps
  • Strategies for crafting compelling opening messages in online dating
  • Real-world feedback and success stories from users of her tools
  • The balance between automated assistance and personal touch in digital communication

Whether you're navigating the complexities of online dating or interested in how AI is shaping modern relationships, The Teresa Pod offers valuable insights and practical advice. Tune in for a blend of personal anecdotes, tech talk, and dating wisdom.

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Cleaned Up Transcript Introduction and Podcast Plans

Hi, good morning. It's Teresa Conway, and I'm just giving you some audio updates, because as I explore podcasting and the audio world, I'm wondering if it's something I'd rather do than write. Of course, I'm going to keep writing, but for quick updates and little things like that, it might be easier for you to listen to. Just let me know; drop me a comment and tell me if you want me to get back on the keyboard because you're tired of listening to me.

So, Mona Lisa and I have been chatting back and forth and coming up with a plan. We've established an account on Podbean, and from Podbean, we can go to a bunch of other podcasting services. Podbean hosts us, and we can link that account to a bunch of other places, so you can probably listen to us wherever you listen to your podcasts. We will likely also publish those podcasts on Substack, on our own individual Substacks, and my Substack links to my newsletter, so it will go out to my newsletter followers as well. I think in some cases, these are all pretty much actually the same people, not the same people, but there's probably significant overlap. So we're going to get good coverage for the community.

Growth Potential and Show Format

And I think we're about to grow. I don't know. I think we could grow because, you know, a lot of people are interested in this stuff. They just aren't interested in reading about it as much as they are in listening to it. So that's where we're going. We haven't recorded our first test podcast. Mona Lisa was doing some traveling and just got home, so once she settles in, we'll probably get down and do, I'm going to call it a production or planning meeting for our first show. But shows are going to be about half an hour long, and they'll follow a format, you know, because we want to deliver people a professional product. Of course we do. So, we're working on it.

The Teresa Pod: A Solo Venture

And I'm also thinking, pardon me, I'm also thinking maybe outside of that podcast. So that podcast is going to be called the How to Cheat Podcast. And outside of that, I might do my own voice work. And I won't call it the How to Cheat Podcast because that's something Mo and I are going to do together. But maybe I'll call it like, uh, the Teresa Pod. I don't know, so if you got a better name than that, just let me know.

The AI Icebreaker Tool: User Feedback and Improvements

Okay, what I wanted to talk about is something fun that happened with my new icebreaker tool that I made on ChatGPT with my boyfriend. What it does is, you know, it's an icebreaker for a dating app. So you take the profile, you can copy and paste it into a screen cap, drop that in, and it's been shared a message. So a lot of the people who've been using it, you know, have been coming back and then giving me some feedback. And at first, I was a little bit surprised by the feedback because he said, you know, the tool was providing very poor messages and he had to do a lot of work on them. And, you know, I recognize the fact that they're not going to be perfect and they need to be worked on.

So I said, I'll tell you what, we're going to let me work with you. I'll give you some advice as you navigate online dating, and we'll give you feedback on the messages, and maybe we can work on the tool to improve it. So, as we did that, you know, he started showing me the messages that he was writing, and they were very well written. They were probably twice as long as I like to make, but, you know, they were detail-oriented on her, and most importantly, he was getting feedback. He was getting answers back, which is what the icebreaker is all about. It's opening up the discussion, opening the door, and then working from there.

The Salad vs. Lasagna Approach to Messaging

So, when I said, okay, well, show some of the, so those are the ones you're writing, these longer ones. If they were good. And I said, so show me what the tool is producing. And so he did, and I'm looking at them and thinking, wow, that's pretty much exactly like the messages that I write. So to me, the tool was working as expected. And I explained why. And I talked about... And I used this analogy in writing messages.

Okay, so when you send the first message, right, it's like going to a restaurant, you know? What do you start with? Usually, you start with a salad. You don't start with a lasagna. So I like to keep my icebreaker interesting, short, sweet, and crisp. And it gives her enough to see that you read her profile. And it's interesting enough for her to go look at your own profile. Because what a lot of men don't realize is they don't write anything. They write "hi," they'll write a three-word sentence: "Hey, how you doing?" "Hey, how's it going?" "Hi, do you want to chat?" Something like that. And she gets inundated with those.

The Problem with Copy-Paste Messages

So whenever there's a message that's more than about three sentences long, boom, she gives it some attention because she's like, oh, this guy actually took the time to write. Now a lot of women are kind of savvy, you know, in the sense that some guys want to shortcut this, and so they write a copy and paste message. So they just have one standard message, put it on there, and it usually works because on newer ladies, because it's actually more than three words long, it is interesting. But the tell and the sign of a copy and paste message is it mentions nothing about her or anything she said in the profile. A copy and paste message typically only ever talks about the sender. And that's fine. Men like to talk about themselves a lot. And so we can all certainly appreciate that. But it's not always the most effective thing.

Finding the Sweet Spot in Messaging

So, with mine, you know, they're longer, so they get attention, but they're not super long to kind of like drag her down, you know, and so mine are at the sweet spot. Now what I said to him, and I'll say to any guy, if you can write, and you are comfortable writing a longer message that is effective, that talks to her and talks to her profile, go for it. She will love it. But not everyone's going to do that, though. And that's where my tool comes in. My tool comes in for the person who wants to send the lady a message, an icebreaker, doesn't really know where to start, has a blank text box that he needs to fill up, and he doesn't know what to do. So I give you four or five sentences, boom, in half a second. You take that, you make sure it's all smart, fix it up a little bit if you need to, and put it in. She will love that one.

Client Feedback and Validation

So, if you're going to feed her a lasagna, right off the bat, make sure it's a good one. Okay? Otherwise, just feed her a salad. And as my client writes here, and I just want to quote him from our Telegram chat, but he says, where is he? And I quote, "Well, meanwhile, I have been messaging again on the affairs site online, Elicit Encounters, that's popular in the UK, getting replies, and now I'm also using more and more the vanilla custom GPT rather than my mods, and actually getting good results too, perhaps for less effort." So what he's referring to when he says vanilla custom GPT is actually my icebreaker tool, right? So he's calling them vanilla, for sure. They are vanilla, for the most part. And he's just taking those and using them and getting good results.

Why? Well, his lasagna is good. There's no question. I read the messages. They're great. But my salad is also good. And so when you invest some effort into making a lasagna, and it's good, people will love you. You invest effort in making salad, less effort. People will also love it. Well, it takes less work, so what are you going to make? Lasagnas or salads? Totally up to you. But I would recommend, if you can't do anything, serve her a salad.

The Power of Validation and Simple Methods

So, because I'm cheeky, I quoted him there, and I said, you don't say, you know, you don't say that my method works. Of course my method works, you know. I have literally produced thousands of messages now with my various tools and my own writing. And, in fact, my tool is trained on 138 messages that I've personally written. So it knows what to say. So if you're interested in that, you can check that out on my website at doll3fairy.com. And, well, maybe 58 minutes, I think it's on there. I don't know. I'll have to go look.

So that was that. But you know what? This back and forth, you know, I was able to help him a little bit with some things and reassure him and give some advice. And he was able to help me. And how he helped me was, once more, my method was validated, you know. And that's what pleases me because, you know, I'm selling something and I'm selling a service and I'm providing advice. And what concerns me is I need to know that the service is good and the advice is good because what would be the point of getting bad advice, and you know, I'm not much of a sales girl, uh, so I really don't always connect on the sales level because I just don't know how sometimes, right? I've never worked, honestly, I have never worked in a shop, and I probably should have because that would have been a great experience for me just to learn how to do this. But what it does confirm is that this very simple method that I've come up with, simple perhaps just to me, works. So there you go.

Conclusion and Future Plans

And so we're still chatting, and he's moving closer and closer to the thing he wants, which is the girlfriend. So I think I'm gonna leave it right there and just leave those two things. So this is probably as I said, it's going to be called tentatively called the Teresa Pod, and the How to Cheat Podcast is going to be, I don't know, maybe slicker, maybe not slicker. I have no idea, but it's going to be Mo and I, and it's going to be on Podbean. Then when we get episode one out the door, uh, you will all certainly hear about that. So thanks for listening. I'm Teresa Conway, and I want you to have a great day. Bye.

 

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