Explorez tous les épisodes du podcast The Examined Lives (ENM Vibes)
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| The First Look at The First Book of Taylor | 12 Sep 2024 | 00:41:47 | |
In the inaugural episode of The Examined Lives of the Secret Wives, hosts Lauren and Ben dive into their review of the reality show The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives through the lens of ethical non-monogamy. This episode explores key themes like Mormonism, ethical non-monogamy, and how religious upbringing can collide with alternative lifestyles. Lauren and Ben break down the crucial difference between ethical non-monogamy and cheating, emphasizing the importance of honesty, boundaries, and community support. They also dig into their personal experiences with addiction and discuss the concept of 'new relationship energy.' Throughout the conversation, Lauren and Ben remain thoughtful and respectful, aiming to offer insightful, nuanced commentary while honoring the people featured in the show. What You'll Learn:
If you enjoyed this episode and want to hear more, don’t forget to hit that subscribe button! We’ve got a lot more to unpack, and you won’t want to miss the upcoming episodes where we dig into the juicy details, tackle misconceptions, and share even more insights on non-monogamy, relationships, and reality TV. Make sure you're subscribed so you’re always in the loop! Find Lauren at swinginglifestylecoach.com.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Introducing: The Examined Lives of the Secret Wives! | 10 Sep 2024 | 00:01:36 | |
Join Lauren Hayes, your Swinging Lifestyle Coach and expert in ethical non-monogamy, alongside her co-host Ben, an ex-LDS polyamorous friend, as they dive into the reality TV show The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. Together, they peel back the curtain on how the show portrays relationships, particularly in the LDS and swinger communities. Lauren and Ben take on each episode, discussing what’s real, what’s exaggerated, and what’s just plain wrong about how non-monogamous and Mormon lifestyles are represented. From the cultural nuances of Mormonism to the misconceptions about swinging and ethical non-monogamy, Lauren and Ben bring their firsthand knowledge and humor to every episode. If you’re tired of TV shows sensationalizing these lifestyles without understanding them, this podcast is for you. Tune in for insightful commentary, honest conversations, and a whole lot of myth-busting as they explore the complexities of these 8 modern Mormon women and their relationships.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Topless Tastings & The ‘Book of Rumors’ Season Send-Off | 01 Nov 2024 | 00:28:37 | |
In this episode, Ben shares his experience at a body-positive, topless whiskey-tasting party, and Lauren recounts a comedy competition where swinging humor sparked mixed reactions—and some unexpected misunderstandings. With Halloween, aka “Swingers’ Christmas,” approaching, Lauren and Ben discuss their costume collections and themed parties. They recap The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives finale, covering Whitney’s departure from #MomTok, Jen and Zach’s uncertain future, and Taylor and Dakota’s new baby. Wrapping up, Lauren and Ben reflect on a previous discussion about which MomTokers they’d hypothetically date and tease future projects that promise a fresh look at non-monogamy.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| We are Not in Utah Anymore | 28 Oct 2024 | 00:25:14 | |
Listen in as Lauren and Ben talk about episode 7 of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, which all takes place in Sin City. The women are getting along better than ever (sans Whitney) but now the husband and boyfriend cause most of the drama. Sexy male strippers & gambling are the backdrop, and we’ll discuss oily bodies, toxic monogamy & relationship and also the question of what it looks like to truly support a friend (sometimes it’s not pretty).
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Peach on the Beach and Cream Colored Jeans (E6) | 18 Oct 2024 | 00:28:33 | |
In this spicy episode Lauren and Ben discuss labiaplasty, why no one does paintings of balls and whether rubbing oil on a Chippendale's chest will keep you out of (Mormon) heaven. Speaking of heaven, Ben describes the Mormon afterlife and spoiler alert: the most obedient people still might get to have sex.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Book of Broken Friendships | 10 Oct 2024 | 00:36:57 | |
In this episode, Lauren and Ben discuss friendship, ENM, stress, conflict and soda shops. While this episode focuses on the fracturing of the #MomTok gang, we discuss vulnerability and a different way to look at their conflict . We'll also discuss some Words of Wisdom in ENM / The Lifestyle as well as more on the LDS church. As always, join them for fun, silliness and a bit of education.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Garments, Drama, and Oh Boy, the Truth Box! (E4) | 03 Oct 2024 | 00:27:37 | |
In this episode, Lauren and Ben discuss Episode 4 of 'The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives', sharing their personal updates before diving into THE key event, the “sh*t show” of the birthday celebration weekend. Ben educates us on the history and current use of Mormon garments, inspired by their favorite quote “Can we Door Dash garments?” The Truth Box serves its purpose at the party and certainly shakes things up within their friendships. Ben and I discuss it all, including their own answers to the Truth Box questions.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Saints & Sinners - The Big Divide | 26 Sep 2024 | 00:53:16 | |
In this episode, Lauren and Ben discuss Episode 3 of 'The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives', sharing their personal updates before diving into key events such as a potluck confrontation, a controversial graduation party, and the impact of breaking community norms. They provide insights into Mormon culture, including health codes and gender roles, and compare these to norms within the swinger community. The episode concludes with an analysis of the growing divide between the 'saints' and 'sinners' within the group, highlighted by a controversial Galentine's Day party.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Seeking Pleasure Can Get Out of Hand | 19 Sep 2024 | 00:48:38 | |
Lauren and Ben discuss the complexities of episode two from the series 'The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives.' This episode, recorded 11 months post-Taylor's arrest, features Taylor's baby shower as a focal point.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Easy Does It: Open Marriage Gets Real on the Small Screen | 26 Nov 2024 | 00:30:54 | |
Lauren and Ben are back with a fresh take on their podcast! Say goodbye to Mormon wife drama and hello to a spicier exploration of non-monogamy in mainstream media. In this episode, they dive into Netflix's "Easy," following the adventures (and misadventures) of Andy and Kyle - a power couple testing the waters of open marriage.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Season 2 Trailer: The Examined Lives (ENM Vibes) has Evolved (as everyone should) | 08 Sep 2025 | 00:01:36 | |
We started out as a reaction podcast to The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives because we haaaate it when our community is represented by those who know nothing about our community. Well, we were fooled by the click-bait, and it had little to do with our community. Ben and I pivoted and now we review shows with ENM themes. We review them and discuss how ENM is portrayed...and if the show is any good. We are a couple of friends - he's poly, I'm a swinger - and we love our communities - and hanging out with each other. So join us for some light-hearted ENM fun.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Dying for Sex (and Lasagna) | 04 Aug 2025 | 00:29:26 | |
One host just got back from a 2500-couple sex convention. The other is sleepy by 11 PM. Let the games begin. Lauren and Ben tackle the profound TV show Dying for Sex. But not before they workshop the best story for a sprained finger. The whole thing descends into anarchy when Lauren realizes she missed the episode with all the kink, leaving Ben to explain dom/sub dynamics, dick-kicking, and the vital importance of bringing lasagna to a sex-party.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Compersion Season 2: ENM & The How Not To | 07 Jul 2025 | 00:30:28 | |
Fresh from the dusty desert plains of a Burning Man-esque festival, a sleepy Lauren and Ben kick things off with tales of naked bike rides, spanking vs. stomach-raspberries (you'll have to listen to find out who chose what), and a goddess statue with vape-juice teats. Then, they dive into the final season of "Compersion," a show with a plot so bonkers it leaves Ben speechless: a wife inviting her husband's affair partner over for lasagna to… get them back together?! Tune in for a masterclass in (mostly) what not to do.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Compersion Season 1: A (kinda) Cautionary Tale | 03 Jun 2025 | 00:27:05 | |
Lauren kicks things off by humbling Ben’s enthusiasm—turns out she’s not soooo good, just “regular good.” From there, they dive into a lively pre-show chat that includes music festival misadventures and an unfiltered look at Lauren’s “Sacred Sluts” project. Then it's time for a no-holds-barred breakdown of Compersion Season 1: morning-after mishaps, questionable partner choices (maybe don’t date the kid’s teacher?), and the ever-controversial one-penis policy. There’s laughter, a little cringing, and plenty of insight into what not to do in non-monogamy.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| A Love Story: A Professor, a Triad and a Super Hero | 05 May 2025 | 00:25:27 | |
Lauren and Ben trip over pleasantries straight into naked hot tubs, Tropicana slander, and the dread of floppy poolside antics. On this episode they dissect a movie about a polyamorous relationship (in the 20's!) and Wonder Woman's kinky origins. Professor Marston and the Wonder Women gets a solid review, along with plenty of made-up speculation. There are tangents on power dynamics and why Ben shouldn't date Sabrina Carpenter. As usual, it makes zero sense and perfect sense!
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Wanderlust, Winding Through ENM, & Wasted Ski Days | 01 Apr 2025 | 00:33:12 | |
Lauren’s fresh off a very successful swingers’ trip (tan lines included!), while Ben’s still mourning a flat tire that ruined his ski plans. Ouch! They dissect Netflix’s Wanderlust, calling out TV’s obsession with simultaneous orgasms and the awkwardness of meeting your partner's other partners.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Wanderlust is Not a Bust | 07 Mar 2025 | 00:30:15 | |
Tune into "Examined Lives " where Lauren, the Swinging Lifestyle Coach, and her friend Ben dissect Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) in pop culture. This week, they discuss BBC's (now seen on Netflix) "Wanderlust", where a couple messily cheats their way into non-monogamy. They debate infidelity-as-a-gateway to non-monogamy, the perils of office masturbation (in a disabled toilet?), and whether train sex beats plane sex (it does). Lauren defends Utah's surprisingly secretive ENM scene, and Ben relays his recent adventure at "the club that shall not be named." Tune in for the awkward endings and surprisingly deep dives as Lauren and Ben bicker their way through the wonderful world of open relationships, one bad sex scene at a time!
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Couple to Throuple Again and Part II | 04 Feb 2025 | 00:33:46 | |
Lauren and Ben are back with their review and commentary on the rest of the Peacock series, Couple to Throuple. They'll break down the pairings, the swaps, and everything in between. Expect some drama, some laughs, maybe even a few tears—and of course, they’ll share their favorite contestants. Plus, stick around till the end for a fresh and funny take on the term compersion!
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Three's Company: Love, Drama, and Boundaries on Couple to Throuple | 01 Jan 2025 | 00:29:26 | |
If you’ve ever wondered what happens when The Bachelor meets ethical non-monogamy (ENM), here it is. Lauren and Ben dive into Couple to Throuple, the Peacock reality show that’s equal parts fascinating, cringe, and surprisingly educational. Spoiler: It’s not just about threesomes—it’s about feelings, boundaries, and the emotional ride of adding a third to your relationship.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Splitsville: Comedy Win, ENM Fail | 22 Sep 2025 | 00:23:21 | |
Lauren and Ben dive into Splitsville—the gloriously unhinged new movie where a handjob-fueled car crash leads to divorce, an “open marriage circus,” and a bro-fight so long it could’ve had intermission popcorn. Lauren actually saw the whole film (so you don’t necessarily have to), while Ben only managed the trailer—though that doesn’t stop him from handing out hot takes and wishing for raunchier American comedies. Along the way, we get weekend updates: cozy threesomes, Billy Idol rocking shirtless at 69, and Ben sheepishly asking Lauren to boss him around more. The conversation hits all the messy intersections of monogamy and ENM—“no rules” hookups that go sideways, honesty that isn’t honest, and whether penises deserve serious actor cred. It’s a roast of cinematic chaos, equal parts disaster and delight.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||
| Trigonometry & the Awkward Art of Adding a Third | 12 Sep 2025 | 00:29:07 | |
Lauren and Ben kick off with Ben's hilariously mundane life updates - school stress and parties - while Lauren reveals about her French nudist swinger village jaunt, where badges are mandatory but clothing is not. This episode covers everything from unicorn cakes to awkward throuple jealousy. They dissect "Trigonometry," a slow-burn British gem where a couple accidentally throuples with their Olympic swimmer lodger, complete with vulva slip-ups, drag bar unicorn roasts, and a honeymoon ruined by overthinking the "third." Their poly insights shine: no role models means dramatic mess-ups, but it's refreshingly real on unicorn vulnerabilities and coming-out chaos. Tune in for laughs around the truisms that ENM is sometimes stickier than movie theater floors.
Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Get my book: For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist Website: SwingingLifestyleCoach.com Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew | |||