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Keeping the house after divorce can feel non-negotiable. It can represent stability, roots, or proof that your entire life didn't fall apart. But fighting for an asset you can't actually afford on one income is one of the most expensive mistakes I see people make. And most of them don't realize it until it's too late to change course.

In this episode I'm walking you through what you actually need to know before you decide, starting with a question most people never think to ask: is your mortgage assumable? If you bought your home when rates were low and current rates are significantly higher, the answer to that one question could save you hundreds of dollars a month and tens of thousands over the life of the loan.

We also cover how to calculate what a buyout actually costs you, the red flags that signal you can't afford the house even if you think you can, two deed and mortgage scenarios that catch people completely off guard and cost them tens of thousands of dollars, and when keeping the house actually makes sense.

For a deeper dive, check out my guide: Can You Afford to Keep Your House After Divorce? The Complete Cost Breakdown

Resources Mentioned:

• Divorce Monthly Budget Calculator: Financial Clarity With Just One Click
• The 5-5-5 Rule: Your Divorce Decision-Making Framework
• 24 Questions to ask A Divorce Attorney PDF

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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Divorce is one of the most administratively demanding processes you'll ever navigate — deadlines, documents, financial disclosures, follow-up tasks. For someone with ADHD, it can feel completely paralyzing.

In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Whitney Light, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) who has worked with ADHD clients navigating divorce, and who navigated the divorce process herself with ADHD.  

Whitney and I talk about why the divorce process is particularly brutal for the ADHD brain, what "the freeze" actually looks like and how to break through it, and how ADHD shows up in the financial patterns of a marriage — and then resurfaces during negotiations. She also shares what her own experience taught her about what people with ADHD actually need that the traditional legal and financial system doesn't provide.

If you have ADHD and you're navigating divorce — or you've been feeling frozen, overwhelmed, and behind before you've even started — this conversation is for you.

Resources mentioned:

The 5-5-5 Rule: Your Divorce Decision Making Framework - Listen to an episode about it or read a blog post I write about it. 

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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One of the most painful and confusing things that can happen after divorce is a child suddenly refusing to see one of their parents. It leaves the rejected parent feeling powerless and heartbroken, and it leaves the other parent unsure whether they're protecting their child or somehow making things worse.

In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Amy Armstrong, conflict resolution expert and founder of the Center for Family Resolution, for an honest conversation about what's really going on when a child resists or refuses contact—and what parents on both sides can actually do about it.Amy works at the intersection of coaching, psychology, and the family court system, and she trains judges on what's known as "resist-refuse dynamics." We talk about why kids refuse contact, what parental alienation actually looks like, the mistakes that make the situation worse, and what a rejected parent can do to protect the relationship without escalating the conflict.

Whether you're the parent being refused or the parent navigating your child's resistance, this conversation will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface — and how to respond in a way that protects your child and your relationship with them.

Resources Mentioned:

podcast.thecenterforfamilyresolution.com/planner

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

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The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If your spouse owns a business, or holds complex assets like stock options, how to value and divide these assets is one of the most important and most challenging parts of divorce. Figuring out what those assets are actually worth can be tricky, and getting it wrong can cost you significantly.

In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Matt Springer, a business valuation expert with nearly two decades of experience in valuation and litigation support, to break down what really happens when a business or complex asset gets valued in a divorce—and what you need to understand to protect yourself.

What we cover:

• What actually happens when you're dividing assets and a spouse owns a business, professional practice, or other illiquid asset
• How compensation arrangements, equity awards, stock options, notes, and pensions get evaluated
• What to look for, and what to question, when you're handed a valuation report
• The red flags that mean you may need a second opinion
• When valuation numbers get challenged, and what that means for you

If you're staring down a divorce with a business owner, or are a business owner new to this process, this conversation will help you understand what you're dealing with so you can ask the right questions and advocate for yourself.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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Financial abuse is more common than you think. Red flags can show up in how you're frozen out from account access, having to ask for spending money on basics like groceries and gas, and being told "you don't have to worry about that" when you ask any financial questions. These are all signs of a financial power imbalance, and they lead to major issues during divorce. 

In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Jackie Combs, a California family law attorney, advocate for women's financial empowerment, and founder of Love Richer, for a conversation about the toxic money patterns that show up in dating and marriage, and why they almost always resurface as landmines during divorce.

What we cover:

• How women unknowingly surrender financial autonomy, and what that looks like years later in a settlement
• Financial infidelity: hidden accounts, undisclosed debt, concealed income, and how it surfaces in discovery
• What women misunderstand about what they're actually entitled to during divorce
• The first three things to do if you're recognizing financial red flags right now, before you make any move
• What Jackie wants every financially controlled woman to know before she walks into a consultation with an attorney
• The conversation about money and power in relationships that most people are still too afraid to have

If you're in a relationship where you feel financially shut out, or you're beginning to consider divorce and worried about what you don't know, this episode will give you clarity, language, and a plan.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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The most damaging mistake I see people make during divorce isn't a legal or financial one. It's expecting their spouse to suddenly behave differently than they always have. And every time they don't, the shock and fury pulls you back into the same loop — one that can outlast your marriage by decades if you don't address it now.

In this episode I'm sharing the concept of radical acceptance, specifically what it actually is, what it isn't, and why it's the only thing that genuinely gets you out of the pattern. We talk about the neuroscience of why these loops feel impossible to break, the riptide analogy that reframes everything, and a specific tool that works better than any filtered, measured response ever will.

This isn't about being the bigger person. It's about stopping the drain on your own energy, clarity, and future.

If you're exhausted from trying to get your spouse to communicate differently, take accountability, or simply show up the way you need them to,  this episode is for you.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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Divorce brings up two of the hardest emotions to talk about: grief and shame. Grief for the life you thought you'd have, the future you planned together, and the identity you're losing. And shame because even though divorce is common, there's still a stigma attached to it that can make you feel like you've failed.

In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Kim Polinder, associate therapist and author of Why We Fight (HarperOne), for an honest conversation about how to actually process these difficult emotions instead of rushing past them or burying them in a new relationship.

What we cover:

• Why grief is normal even in amicable divorces and how it can surface unexpectedly
• The shame that surrounds divorce and how to recognize patterns that have played out in other areas of your life
• How to process grief with supportive people rather than in isolation
• Creating rituals for closure including writing letters or revisiting meaningful places
• Why rushing into new relationships without grieving leads to repeating patterns
• Understanding your deepest triggers and what you're seeking from relationships
• The importance of introspection before entering your next relationship
• How to prevent second divorces by breaking cycles and clarifying your values
• Moving through pain with self-compassion instead of judgment

Whether you're in the middle of divorce, recently separated, or healing on the other side, this conversation offers compassionate guidance to help you process grief and shame so you can move forward with greater self-awareness and emotional health.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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Divorce brings up a tsunami of emotions, and as a mom, you're not just navigating your own feelings, you're holding space for your children's too. Carving out time for yourself can feel impossible. Or worse, it can feel selfish.

In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Leah Marie Mazur, an empowerment coach and founder of Mindfully Ready, for a conversation about how moms can prioritize their own well-being without guilt—because you can't pour from an empty cup.

What we cover:

• Why self-care isn't selfish when you're a mom going through divorce
• How to create a realistic self-care routine that fits your actual life
• Building a support network beyond just family 
• Setting new goals for yourself when everything feels uncertain
• Navigating mom guilt when you need to put yourself first
• Embracing flexibility and seeing this transition as full of new possibilities
• How to show up for your kids when you're running on empty
• Small, actionable steps you can take today to start rebuilding

Whether you're in the middle of divorce or rebuilding on the other side, this episode will remind you that prioritizing your well-being matters, for you and your kids.  

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're divorcing a narcissist—or think you might be—this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Allison Adamovic, a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) and narcissistic abuse recovery specialist, for an expert conversation about how to recognize narcissism and protect yourself during divorce.

 Allison brings clinical expertise to help you understand the real difference between typical divorce conflict and actual narcissistic abuse—and what to do about it.

We dive deep into the manipulation tactics narcissists use, why they can't change, and your concrete action plan for divorcing someone with narcissistic personality disorder.

What we cover:

• Clinical signs of narcissism vs. just difficult divorce behavior
• Why narcissists can't change (the science behind brain chemistry and genetics)
• Manipulation tactics explained including word salad, gaslighting, and deflecting
• Breaking free from guilt and confusion that keeps you stuck
• Financial abuse and psychological control patterns to recognize
• Warning signs of escalating abuse and when to get help immediately
• Your concrete action plan for divorcing a narcissist safely
• How to protect yourself emotionally, legally, and financially
• Recovery strategies for healing from narcissistic abuse

Whether you're just starting to recognize the patterns or already deep in a high-conflict divorce with a narcissist, this conversation provides expert clinical guidance on how to protect yourself and move forward.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you've been emotionally checked out of your marriage for months or even years but haven't actually left, you're not alone. You might be what The Cut called "quiet quitting your marriage" or what I call being in "the slow fade"—still in the house, still married on paper, but emotionally you left a long time ago.

In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Betsy Pake, a midlife change expert and host of "The Art of Living Big" podcast, for an honest conversation about what's really happening when you're stuck in this painful gray zone between staying and leaving—and more importantly, how to take control and move forward.

Betsy helps women get crystal clear on whether they're actually done with their marriages or if they're just scared of change. We dive deep into the difference between needing space and being finished, the real cost of staying withdrawn for years, and the first steps to take when you're exhausted but terrified to make a move.

What we cover:

• What's actually happening when you emotionally check out but don't tell your partner
• Why people get frozen in the limbo of being married but completely disengaged
• The difference between needing space and being finished with your marriage
• What clarity actually looks like (it's not the lightning bolt moment you're expecting)
• The cost of the slow fade and what happens when you spend years emotionally withdrawn
• Can you come back from quiet quitting your marriage, or is withdrawal the beginning of the end?
• The first step to take when you're emotionally checked out, exhausted, but terrified to make a move
• How to separate fear of change from genuine desire to save your marriage

 Understanding whether you're protecting yourself or just stuck in fear is the first step toward making a decision you can live with.

Whether you've been quietly quitting your marriage for years or you're just starting to realize you've checked out, this conversation offers compassionate guidance to help you take control and move forward—whatever that looks like for you.

For more on this topic, read my blog post "The Slow Fade" here: https://www.thedivorceplanner.net/post/the-slow-fade-when-you-ve-already-left-the-marriage-in-your-head

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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Here's something nobody tells you when you're in the middle of divorce: this is actually one of the most powerful opportunities of your life.

Because for most people, this is the first time in years, maybe ever, they can stop and figure out who they actually are, what they actually want, and what kind of life they actually want to build.

The problem is that most people skip that part. They rush into the next relationship, the next distraction, the next version of the life they just left—without stopping to ask whether any of it is actually what they want. And then they wake up on the other side of their divorce in a life that's reactive instead of intentional.

In this episode, I'm sharing my five-step framework for reflection and rebuilding after divorce, the process that takes you from surviving this ending to intentionally designing your best next chapter.

Whether you're in the middle of divorce or already on the other side, this episode will help you stop reacting and start building something that's actually, completely, yours.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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Most people file for divorce without doing any of the preparation that would have saved them thousands of dollars and months of stress. Not because they didn't have time, but because nobody told them what to do first. And then they regret it for years.

This episode is the roadmap. In it, I walk you through my framework for getting divorce ready in four weeks, one focus area at a time, so it never feels overwhelming.

We start with your emotional foundation: getting grounded, clarifying your values and priorities, and lining up support. Then we move into getting your entire financial picture organized while you still have full access to everything. From there, we tackle the question I hear most—"What should I ask for?"—by building a real post-divorce budget so you stop guessing and start knowing your numbers. And finally, we get your legal and strategic foundation in place: understanding your options, choosing the right attorney, learning your state's laws, and knowing when to bring in a CDFA.

The work you do in this window determines how prepared you are when it counts most—at the negotiating table, in mediation, or in front of a judge.

Whether you're certain you're moving forward or still deciding, this episode gives you a clear, step-by-step plan to prepare with confidence instead of fear.

Additional resources mentioned in the episode: 

Listen to the Dear Future Self episode from Season 1. Read The Two Numbers You Need Before Divorce Negotiations: Your Marital Standard of Living and Post-Divorce Budget. The Divorce Planner's CDFA vetted Monthly Budget Calculator spreadsheet. 

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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Telling your spouse you want a divorce might be one of the hardest conversations you'll ever have. And the way you handle it can set the tone for everything that comes after, like: your divorce process, your co-parenting relationship, your ability to move forward with compassion and dignity.

In this episode, I'm walking you through my complete framework for having "the talk.: From how to know you're actually ready, the emotional and practical homework to do beforehand, how to choose the right time and place, what to actually say (and what to avoid), and how to stay grounded no matter how your spouse reacts.

Whether you're planning to have this conversation soon or just starting to think it through, this episode will help you approach one of life's hardest moments with grace, respect, and a plan.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you've been quietly going through the motions of your marriage, you're physically there but emotionally somewhere else, you're in what I call the slow fade. 

You've probably seen the phrase "quiet quitting your marriage" floating around. What I see with clients who are in this position is a gradual emotional withdrawal that almost always happens after a long period of trying. You communicated. You suggested therapy. You said the hard things. And eventually you ran out of energy to keep trying to change someone who didn't want to change.

In this episode, I'll help you tell the difference between the slow fade and actually knowing you're done, walk through what this signal is telling you, and share where to start if you're in it right now. Taking steps to break out of the limbo you're living in can feel scary, but if you let fear and doubt take over, you could be in this space for years, or even decades.  

Whether you're sure you're done or genuinely don't know yet, this episode will help you stop waiting for circumstances to decide for you and get you on the path to making a conscious choice on your terms.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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We made it! Season 1 finale of The Divorce Planner Podcast.

Over Season 1, we've covered everything from when to meet with an attorney to how to find hidden assets, from creating bulletproof parenting plans to healing from grief and shame.

Today I'm reflecting on what we've learned together, pointing you toward episodes you might have missed based on where you are in your journey, and sharing what makes this podcast different from other divorce content out there.

Whether you're just starting to think about divorce, actively preparing, or navigating high-conflict situations, this episode will help you find the Season 1 conversations that matter most for your situation right now—and understand how to use this podcast as a resource throughout your divorce journey.

Thank you for being here.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

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The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're going through divorce and feeling isolated and alone, this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Hillary Livingston Giddings and Bethany M. Pace, the powerhouse duo behind Sincerely, Divorced, for an uplifting conversation about why community is everything during and after divorce.

Hillary and Bethany know firsthand what it's like to navigate divorce feeling like you have to figure it all out alone. As friends who both went through divorce during the pandemic, they turned their experience into something powerful—a community that's changing how people think about life after divorce through real talk, raw honesty, and their "breakdown to glow-up" philosophy.

We dive deep into how to use your vulnerability as a superpower to make genuine connections, why finding your people transforms the divorce journey, and how to rediscover joy and laughter when you never thought you'd feel that way again.

What we cover:

• Why community matters during one of life's loneliest transitions
• How to find your people when you're feeling isolated
• Using vulnerability as strength to make authentic connections
• The "breakdown to glow-up" philosophy and embracing both sides of divorce
• Finding humor and joy again even in the hardest moments
• Building a support system that actually works (friends, coaches, online communities)
• Why it's okay to not have it all figured out and who can help at each stage
• Real talk and raw honesty about what divorce actually feels like
• How friendship saved them during their own divorce journeys

Whether you're just thinking about divorce, in the middle of the process, or rebuilding on the other side, this conversation will remind you that you're not alone—and that joy, laughter, and connection are not only possible but within reach.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're navigating a high-net-worth divorce, dealing with complex assets like stock options or business valuations, or suspect your spouse isn't being transparent about finances, this episode is for you. 

I sat down with Lisa Zeiderman, divorce financial litigator and managing partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, for an essential conversation about a type of expert most people have never heard of—but who could be critical to protecting your financial future.

We dive deep into the most expensive errors people make in high-asset divorces, the tax bombs that blindside even the most savvy clients, and how to navigate situations where your spouse controls the financial information or isn't being transparent about marital or business assets.

What we cover:

• What a financial litigator is and how they differ from divorce attorneys and forensic accountants
• When you actually need one and whether this is only for high-net-worth cases
• The powerful combination of working with both a financial litigator and a CDFA
• The most expensive mistake people make by NOT hiring a financial litigator early enough
• Tax bombs in high-asset divorces and how financial litigators help you avoid them
• Complex assets demystified including stock options, business valuations, and retirement accounts
• What to do if your spouse isn't transparent about financial information or business assets
• Cost vs. value of hiring a financial litigator and how to know if it's worth it for your situation
• First steps for anyone considering divorce and when in the process to reach out

Whether you're high-net-worth, dealing with a business owner spouse, facing financial abuse, or just starting to educate yourself about divorce options, this conversation provides expert guidance on protecting your financial interests through one of life's most challenging transitions.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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Here's something nobody tells you about divorce: the entire process is designed to pull you backward. Every negotiation is about what happened—who earned what, who did what wrong. You spend months, sometimes years, staring into the rearview mirror. And then suddenly it's over, and you're standing in a life you don't recognize, because you were so consumed by the past that you never stopped to build toward a future.

Here's what I learned during my own divorce: you can't build a future by only looking at the past.

So I did something that changed everything. I wrote a letter to myself from my future self. And then, with every decision I faced in the divorce process, I asked one question: does this get me closer to that future? That single shift—from looking backward to looking forward—kept me on track, helped me make smarter choices, and let me feel hopeful about my life on the other side.

In this episode, I'll walk you through how to write your own letter from your future self and use it as your compass through divorce. It's the same practice I shared on the Divorce and Beyond podcast, where it became their most downloaded episode of the year.

Whether you're contemplating divorce, deep in negotiations, or just tired of making decisions from a place of anger and fear, this episode will help you stop reacting and start building something specific, hopeful, and yours.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you suspect your spouse might be hiding money during divorce—or you're in a situation where they control all the finances—this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Jennica Moore, a forensic accountant with over 10 years of specialized experience in fraud examination and family law matters, for a crucial conversation about finding hidden assets and protecting your financial future during divorce.

Jennica brings expert insight into the most common ways people hide money, the red flags to watch for, and what you can actually do to uncover hidden assets—even if you don't control the finances in your marriage.

What we cover:

• What a forensic accountant does during divorce and how they differ from regular accountants
• When to bring in a forensic accountant and whether your suspicions justify the cost
• Most common ways people hide money including cryptocurrency, offshore accounts, cash businesses, and underreported income
• Red flags to watch for before you even hire an expert
• What to do if your spouse controls all the finances and how to access information safely in a controlling situation
• What's actually traceable and the limits of forensic investigation
• Biggest financial mistakes people make once they know divorce is coming
• Legal consequences of hiding assets and how it impacts the divorce settlement
• First steps to take if you suspect hidden money but don't have proof
• Cost vs. benefit of forensic investigation and what you might uncover

Whether you're dealing with a business owner spouse, suspect hidden accounts, or just have a gut feeling something isn't right with the finances, this conversation provides expert guidance to help you protect your financial interests during divorce.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're stuck in decision paralysis, overwhelmed by every choice you need to make during divorce, this episode is for you. Today I'm sharing one of my signature coaching frameworks: the 5-5-5 Rule.

When you're contemplating divorce or in the middle of one, every decision feels enormous. Should you file now or wait until after the holidays? Should you keep the house or sell it? Should you fight for the retirement accounts or let them go? Should you tell your spouse you want a divorce or stay married?

The weight of these decisions can freeze you. You overthink. You ask seventeen people for advice. And then you still don't do anything.

The 5-5-5 Rule helps you zoom out when you're stuck in the weeds. It's a simple but powerful framework that helps you figure out which decisions actually matter, and which ones are just emotional noise you need to let go of.

Whether you're contemplating divorce, actively going through it, or struggling to make post-divorce decisions, the 5-5-5 Rule will give you a clear lens for moving forward with confidence.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

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If you've been wondering what divorce actually costs—and getting frustrated with vague "it depends" answers—this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I welcome back Dennis R. Vetrano Jr., a New York-based family law attorney and mediator, for a straightforward conversation about the real costs of divorce.

We dive deep into the financial realities most people don't understand until they're already spending thousands more than they expected.

What we cover:

• What divorce actually costs including real ranges for different types of divorce
• Hidden fees that blindside people and catch them off guard
• Hourly rates vs. flat fees and which payment structure works best for your situation
• When you actually need expensive experts like forensic accountants or appraisers (and when you don't)
• The biggest money mistakes people make that cost them thousands
• How being organized saves you money with your attorney and mediator
• What to do if you can't afford divorce including resources and options
• Smart strategies to keep costs down without screwing yourself over in the settlement 

Whether you're just starting to consider divorce or actively going through the process, this conversation provides the practical financial information you need to make smart decisions about how you spend your money and protect your interests.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're struggling to co-parent with a toxic or high-conflict ex, you're not alone—and you're not crazy for finding it exhausting. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Leah Marie Mazur, a certified divorce recovery coach and founder of Mindfully Ready, for a practical conversation about protecting your peace while co-parenting with someone who makes everything harder.

Leah specializes in helping single moms heal, set boundaries, and thrive after divorce, especially when dealing with difficult co-parents. We dive deep into the real strategies that actually work when you're dealing with someone who ignores boundaries, manipulates situations, or makes co-parenting feel impossible.

What we cover:

• How to identify if your ex is truly toxic vs. just difficult to deal with
• What "protecting your peace" actually means when you share kids with someone
• Setting and enforcing boundaries with someone who constantly ignores them
• Overcoming mom guilt when you need to put yourself first
• Handling parental manipulation and alienation tactics
• Minimizing contact while still effectively co-parenting
• Protecting your mental health from a draining co-parent relationship
• When to involve lawyers and how to document concerning behavior
• First steps to take when you feel completely overwhelmed
• Talking to your kids about the situation without causing harm

Whether you're navigating parallel parenting, dealing with high-conflict situations, or just trying to survive co-parenting with someone who turns everything into drama, this conversation offers real, actionable strategies that prioritize both your children's wellbeing and your own mental health.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're a dad navigating divorce, you know the challenges are different than what most people talk about. How do you advocate for equal parenting time when the system feels stacked against fathers? What happens to your finances when you're the breadwinner? How do you create a parenting plan that works with demanding work obligations?

In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Bill Farias, a family law attorney, for an honest conversation about the real hurdles fathers face during divorce—and we didn't hold back.

Bill breaks down what dads actually need to know to protect their relationships with their children and their financial futures. We dive deep into the misconceptions that hurt fathers in divorce proceedings and the strategic moves that help level the playing field.

What we cover:

• The biggest misconceptions about fathers going through divorce and how they hurt your case
• How to advocate for equal parenting time when you're fighting outdated assumptions
• What breadwinning dads need to know about child support and alimony calculations
• Creating a parenting plan that works with demanding work obligations
• Financial strategies to protect yourself while supporting your children
• Legal realities vs. what fathers assume about their rights
• The one piece of advice Bill wishes every dad could hear before starting the divorce process
• Common mistakes fathers make that cost them time with their kids

If you're a dad going through this—or you know someone who is—this episode will help you understand your rights and advocate effectively for yourself and your kids.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're experiencing brain fog, replaying painful conversations on an endless loop, or feeling like you can't think straight during your divorce, you're not imagining it—there's actual neuroscience behind what you're experiencing.

In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Dr. Nicole A. Tetreault, a neuroscientist, for a fascinating conversation about what's really happening in your brain during divorce and, more importantly, what you can do to heal and rewire it.

Dr. Nicole breaks down the science behind why everything feels harder right now—from making decisions to regulating your emotions to stopping negative thought loops—and explains how you can use neuroplasticity to literally rewire your brain for healing and growth.

What we cover:

• What's actually happening in your brain during divorce (stress hormones, frontal cortex access, trauma response)
• Why you can't think clearly when you need to make major decisions
• The negative thought loop and how to break it using neuroscience
• The power of the pause and how deep breathing resets your nervous system
• Stress response patterns (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) and which one you default to
• Neuroplasticity explained and how you can actually rewire your brain
• How to stop reacting to your ex by creating new neural pathways
• Why midlife divorces happen and how they catalyze post-traumatic growth
• Avoiding toxic patterns when dating again by understanding your triggers
• One thing you can do today to start healing your brain (writing down your intention)
• The role of gratitude in rewiring your thoughts
• Why you need support and how talking things through helps your brain heal

Whether you're in the middle of divorce feeling like you're losing it, or you're healing on the other side and want to avoid repeating patterns, this conversation provides science-backed strategies to help you understand what's happening and take control of your healing.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're a stay-at-home mom considering divorce and worried about your financial future, this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Sharie Reyes Albers, a family law attorney from Virginia Family Law Center, for a crucial conversation about protecting your financial stability when you've been financially dependent during your marriage.

Sharie breaks down the legal protections and strategies that stay-at-home moms often don't realize are available to them. We dive deep into practical steps you can take right now to safeguard your future and maximize your negotiating position.

What we cover:

• Health insurance options post-divorce and how to maintain coverage
• Financial protection strategies during the separation period
• Critical documentation that impacts spousal support determinations
• Your rights to remain in the family home with your children
• Strategic negotiation approaches when you've been out of the workforce
• Understanding your true value in the marriage partnership

Sharie shared: "The financial power many stay-at-home moms bring to negotiations is often drastically undervalued - both by their spouses and sometimes even by their own legal representation."

This conversation perfectly illustrates why I'm so passionate about helping people understand their rights and options before jumping into the legal process. When you know what protections are available and how to document your contributions, you can negotiate from a position of strength instead of fear.

For more detailed guidance, check out my blog post "Complete Divorce Preparation Guide for Stay-at-Home Moms: Expert Tips": https://www.thedivorceplanner.net/post/complete-divorce-preparation-guide-for-stay-at-home-moms-2024-expert-tips

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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Creating a parenting plan during divorce can feel overwhelming. You're trying to predict the future, protect your kids, and navigate legal requirements all while dealing with your own emotions about the end of your marriage. How do you create a plan comprehensive enough to anticipate challenges before they arise—from schedule changes to behavior concerns?

In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Morgan Given, a Chicago-based family law attorney who specializes in helping parents understand the critical elements most people miss when creating parenting agreements that actually work.

Morgan breaks down the legal language that prevents future conflicts and the specific provisions you need to include now to avoid costly modifications later. We dive deep into both the practical and sensitive aspects of parenting plans that many parents don't think about until problems arise.

What we cover:

• Essential elements most parenting plans overlook and how to avoid those gaps
• Holiday and vacation scheduling that prevents disputes year after year
• Clear communication protocols between co-parents to minimize conflict
• Setting boundaries that protect your children's wellbeing during transitions
• How to address sensitive concerns like a spouse's alcohol use or behavior issues
• Handling plan modifications as your kids grow and their needs change
• Legal language that matters and why vague terms lead to future battles
• Both legal and emotional perspectives on creating sustainable agreements

Whether you're just starting the divorce process or need to modify an existing agreement, this conversation provides actionable strategies to help you build a parenting plan that protects your children and sets clear expectations for years to come.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're facing one of the hardest conversations you'll ever have—telling your spouse you want a divorce—this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Kim Polinder, a relationship coach, for essential guidance on how to have this life-changing conversation with compassion, clarity, and control.

Kim breaks down the practical and emotional aspects of "the talk"—from choosing the right timing and location to managing your spouse's unexpected reactions and protecting yourself emotionally. We dive deep into what actually works when you need to deliver difficult news with as much care as possible.

What we cover:

• Choosing the right timing and why when you have this conversation matters as much as what you say
• Location strategy and why where you have the talk can escalate or defuse emotions
• What to say and what not to say including specific phrases that work
• Managing unexpected reactions from shock and anger to denial and bargaining
• How to stay grounded when emotions escalate (breathing techniques, mantras, grounding strategies)
• When to pause the conversation and give both of you space to process
• Protecting your kids and why the conversation with your spouse happens first
• Planning for immediately after including where you'll go and who you'll call
• What to do if you're still living together and how to create space in a shared home

Whether you've been planning this conversation for months or you're just starting to prepare, this episode provides the scripts, strategies, and emotional support you need to navigate one of life's most difficult moments.

For detailed conversation scripts and preparation guidance, check out my blog post "How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce: A Compassionate Guide."

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're navigating divorce and wondering what happens to your home or how you'll qualify for a mortgage on your own, this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Tami Wollensak, a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP), for an essential conversation about protecting your real estate and mortgage interests during divorce.

Most people don't realize there's a specialized professional who can prevent costly mortgage mistakes during divorce—and they wait until after their divorce is finalized to get mortgage guidance, which can be a huge financial mistake.

Tami breaks down what a CDLP does, why timing matters more than you think, and how bringing this expert onto your divorce team early can save you from impossible mortgage situations written into your settlement agreement.

What we cover:

• What a CDLP is and how they differ from regular mortgage professionals
• The biggest timing mistake people make with mortgage planning during divorce
• Realistic mortgage qualification assessments based on your post-divorce income
• Creative mortgage solutions specifically designed for divorce transitions
• How settlement language can make or break your future mortgage eligibility
• Structuring support payments to maximize mortgage qualification benefits
• Credit protection strategies during and after divorce
• When to bring a CDLP into your divorce team (hint: earlier than you think)

As Tami powerfully explains: "The biggest mistake I see is people waiting until after their divorce is finalized to consult with a mortgage professional. Once the divorce decree is signed, you're legally bound to those terms—even if they create impossible mortgage situations."

Whether you're hoping to keep the family home, planning to buy a new place, or refinancing to remove your ex-spouse, this conversation provides the specialized guidance you need to make informed decisions that actually work in the real world.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're navigating divorce and worried about protecting your financial future, you need to know about one of the most valuable professionals most people have never heard of: a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA).

In today's episode, I'm sitting down with CDFA Josephti Cruz for a crucial conversation about when to bring financial expertise into your divorce process and what critical blind spots could cost you thousands.

Most people think their divorce attorney handles all the financial aspects, but as Josephti reveals, your attorney isn't enough for comprehensive financial planning during divorce. A CDFA brings specialized expertise in analyzing the long-term financial implications of settlement offers that can make or break your post-divorce financial security.

What we cover:

• What a CDFA does and how they differ from regular financial advisors
• When to bring in a CDFA (hint: earlier than most people think)
• Common financial blind spots that cost divorcing people thousands
• How to protect retirement accounts during property division
• Why your attorney alone isn't enough for financial planning
• Long-term wealth strategies beyond just settlement day
• Tax implications of different settlement structures
• The financial mistakes people make that haunt them for years

Whether you're just beginning to consider divorce or actively negotiating your settlement, this episode provides essential financial guidance to help you make informed decisions that protect your wealth and create a solid foundation for your future.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're worried about how your children will handle going back and forth between two homes during or after divorce, this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Fiona Kong, creator of the Home Sweet Homes Journal, for a practical conversation about making transitions easier for your kids—and for you.

Fiona developed the Home Sweet Homes Journal from her own experience navigating co-parenting and realizing her children needed a better way to communicate their feelings and experiences across two households. We dive deep into how simple tools and intentional communication can help your children maintain stability and security during one of the biggest changes in their lives.

What we cover:

• Techniques for maintaining stability during transitions between homes
• Effective communication strategies for keeping both parents involved in daily life
• Creating cohesive parenting plans that support consistency across households
• How the Home Sweet Homes Journal works as a communication tool for kids and parents
• Prioritizing your child's mental health during and after divorce
• Co-parenting with a united front even when you don't get along with your ex
• Age-appropriate ways for children to express their feelings about the transitions

When you have the right tools and strategies, you can create a stable environment where your children feel secure and loved—even across two homes.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're at a point in your marriage where you're wondering when the right time is to meet with a divorce attorney, the answer is simple: now. If you're asking the question, you're already contemplating change—and this is your cue to start educating yourself about the road ahead.

In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Dennis R. Vetrano Jr., a New York-based family law attorney and mediator, for a crucial conversation about preparing for attorney consultations and what to expect when you take that first step.

Dennis shares invaluable insights into how to approach this pivotal transition from contemplation to action. We dive deep into the practical and emotional considerations you need to understand before starting the divorce process.

What we cover:

• When to start meeting with attorneys and why earlier is better than you think
• What to consider when meeting with local family law attorneys
• How to pick the right attorney for your specific situation (it's like finding the right bed in Goldilocks)
• Essential preparation before your first consultations to save time and money
• What to be mindful of BEFORE starting the divorce process including financial readiness and emotional considerations
• Different legal routes (litigation, mediation, collaborative divorce) and how to choose
• Strategic ways to save time and money during the divorce process
• How to prepare for consultations so you get the most value from each meeting

Meeting with a divorce attorney doesn't necessarily mean you're committing to divorce. It's about education and empowerment. Gathering information, understanding your rights, and preparing yourself mentally and financially are all part of laying the groundwork for whatever decision you make.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're navigating divorce with children, creating an effective parenting plan might be the most important document you'll ever write. But how do you create a plan that actually works in real life—especially if you're dealing with a high-conflict co-parent?

In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Samantha Boss, a parenting plan expert and mediator who specializes in helping parents develop practical solutions that prioritize children's wellbeing while creating sustainable co-parenting relationships.

Samantha breaks down the essential strategies for creating parenting plans that function in the real world, not just on paper. We dive deep into what needs to be addressed now to avoid conflicts later and how to become your own best advocate throughout the process.

What we cover:

• Choosing the right attorney for parenting plan development and why this matters more than you think
• Essential elements every plan needs including schedules, communication protocols, and decision-making frameworks
• Common mistakes like vague language that leads to conflict down the road
• Strategies for high-conflict situations including detailed boundaries and neutral exchange locations
• Child-centered considerations that go beyond legal requirements
• Age-appropriate provisions that evolve as your children grow
• Conflict resolution mechanisms to handle disagreements without constant renegotiation

This conversation perfectly illustrates why I'm so passionate about helping parents prepare effectively before finalizing their divorce agreements. When you invest time upfront to create a detailed, functional parenting plan, you save countless hours of conflict later while protecting what matters most—your children's wellbeing.

Whether you're just starting the divorce process or modifying an existing arrangement, this episode will help you create a framework that serves your children's needs and sets up a sustainable co-parenting relationship.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're stuck in the painful cycle of not knowing whether to stay in your marriage or leave, this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Betsy Pake, a midlife change expert and host of "The Art of Living Big" podcast, for a transformative conversation about finding clarity when you're facing one of life's most difficult decisions.

This isn't your typical "should I stay or should I go" advice. Betsy and I dive deep into why this particular decision feels so impossible and how the indecision itself takes a physical and emotional toll on your body and health.

What we cover:

• The physical toll of indecision and how your body literally stores this stress
• Distinguishing authentic intuition from fear-based denial when making major decisions
• Breaking free from others' expectations to hear your own inner wisdom
• The mindset shift that helps move from paralysis to clarity
• Why midlife divorce decisions involve unique considerations
• A specific journaling exercise that consistently cuts through confusion
• Essential emotional preparation before consulting attorneys

One of the most powerful moments in our conversation is when Betsy explains how our bodies physically store the stress of indecision, creating symptoms we often misattribute to other causes. This insight alone could change how you approach your decision-making process.

This conversation perfectly illustrates why I'm so passionate about addressing the emotional side of divorce alongside the practical preparation. Whether you ultimately decide to stay or leave, finding clarity through your own inner wisdom—not external pressure—is what empowers you to become your own best advocate.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Mindy Stern, an estate planning attorney, for a crucial conversation about protecting your financial future when everything in your life is changing. 

Mindy breaks down why divorce is a significant end that requires a fresh look at your entire universe of estate plans (will, trust, etc.). We dive deep into the practical steps you need to take and the common mistakes that could cost you dearly if you wait too long.

What we cover:

• When to start the process and why timing is critical during divorce
• The 4 biggest mistakes people make with estate planning during divorce
• Key documents to update including wills, trusts, and beneficiary designations
• Guardianship decisions for minor children and why this can't wait
• Powers of attorney updates when your spouse can no longer make decisions for you
• Tax implications you need to consider before making changes

If you're going through divorce, the idea of having to update your estate planning documents can make you feel like burying your head in the sand. Don't stress - this episode is exactly what you need to hear to motivate you to get it done.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're feeling completely drained and struggling to take care of yourself during divorce, this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Jenny Jiles, a nutritionist and holistic wellness expert, for a practical conversation about maintaining your health when everything feels like it's falling apart.

Jenny brings real-world strategies that don't require overhauls or expensive supplements. We dive deep into simple, actionable ways to support your body and mind during one of the most stressful times of your life.

What we cover:

• Stress-busting nutrition strategies that actually work
• Energy-boosting techniques you can do anywhere
• Mindful eating hacks for when you're too overwhelmed to meal plan
• Sleep optimization tricks to help you rest when your mind is racing
• Practical self-care that fits into your chaotic schedule

This conversation perfectly illustrates why I'm so passionate about addressing your physical well-being alongside the emotional and practical preparation for divorce. When you're taking care of your basic needs, you're better equipped to make smart decisions and advocate for yourself throughout the process.

Episodes like this one help you make sure you don't lose yourself in the overwhelming process of divorce, so you can create the foundation for your best next chapter.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're considering divorce after 50 and feeling overwhelmed about your financial future, this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Jorin Rubin, a Michigan-based family law attorney, for an essential conversation about navigating "gray divorce"—the fastest-growing divorce demographic today.

Jorin breaks down the unique challenges that couples over 50 face when divorcing, from employment fears to complex retirement asset division. We dive deep into the financial strategies and legal considerations that can make or break your post-divorce security.

What we cover:

• Social Security benefits after divorce and how to claim 50% of your ex-spouse's benefits
• Retirement account division including 401(k)s, pensions, and the critical QDRO process
• Employment challenges for those re-entering the workforce after decades
• Spousal support considerations for long-term marriages
• Valuing complex assets like family businesses and protecting against future windfalls
• Estate planning updates you must make immediately after divorce
• Tax implications of retirement withdrawals and settlement decisions

When you understand the unique financial landscape of divorce after 50, you can make strategic decisions during divorce that protect your future instead of reactive choices that could cost you decades of security.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're struggling to find your authentic voice and inner strength during divorce, this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Ana del Castillo, an empowerment and "rightness" coach, for an inspiring conversation about navigating divorce while staying grounded in who you truly are.

Ana specializes in helping individuals, particularly women, achieve what she calls "rightness"—an internal balance of vulnerability and strength, or as she beautifully puts it, "a soft belly and a strong spine." We dive deep into practical strategies for quieting the mental noise and self-doubt that can overwhelm you during this challenging time.

What we cover:

• Building resilience by embracing your emotions without judgment
• Healing activities like rage rooms, movement, and free dance to channel difficult feelings
• Taking control of your narrative and creating an authentic life based on your values
• Building and asserting boundaries post-divorce, including learning to say "no"
• Small daily victories and why celebrating them matters during tough times

This conversation perfectly illustrates why I'm so passionate about addressing the emotional side of divorce alongside the practical preparation. When you're grounded in your authenticity and have tools to process your emotions, you're better equipped to make smart decisions and advocate for yourself throughout the process.

Episodes like this one help you tackle the emotional side of divorce, so you can navigate this transition with strength and create the foundation for your best next chapter.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

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If you're considering divorce but the thought of a long, drawn out court battle scares you, this episode is going to be a game-changer for you.

I'm sitting down with Renee E. Turner, a family law attorney and collaborative divorce expert, who's here to break down an approach that could save you thousands of dollars while protecting your family's emotional well-being. 

Collaborative divorce isn't just about being "nice"—it's a strategic approach that often leads to better outcomes for everyone involved, especially your children.

In our conversation, we cover:

• What collaborative divorce actually is (and what it isn't)
• Real cost comparisons between collaborative and traditional divorce approaches
• How this process can protect your children and set up healthier co-parenting relationships
• Whether collaborative divorce is the right fit for your specific situation
• Practical steps to get started if you're interested
• Common myths that might be holding you back
• Renee's top tips for making the collaborative process successful

This episode perfectly illustrates why I'm so passionate about exploring all your options before jumping into the legal process. 

Remember, there's that crucial step most people miss between considering divorce and meeting with an attorney: preparation. Understanding your options—including collaborative divorce—is part of preparing yourself to tackle both the emotional and business sides of divorce effectively.

Whether you ultimately choose collaborative divorce or another path, this conversation will help you approach your situation with more knowledge and confidence. That's exactly what being your own best advocate looks like.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you're struggling with emotional healing during or after divorce, this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Joanna Nisioti, a divorce recovery coach, for a powerful conversation about reclaiming your strength when divorce leaves you feeling completely powerless.

Joanna brings incredible insight into how to find yourself again when everything feels lost. We dive deep into practical strategies for moving beyond victim mentality and reconnecting with your inner strength.

What we cover:

• Moving beyond victim mentality to reclaim your personal agency
• Setting effective boundaries with difficult exes (that actually work)
• Healing from divorce trauma without getting stuck in the pain
• Making sound decisions when emotions are overwhelming
• Finding your authentic voice after years of silencing yourself
• Practical tools for rebuilding your identity and confidence

This conversation perfectly highlights why I'm so passionate about addressing the emotional side of divorce alongside the practical preparation. It allows you to jumpstart your healing journey while helping you reclaim your power during a time that can feel very uncertain. As Joanna powerfully shares: "Reclaiming your power isn't about controlling everything around you—it's about reconnecting with the inner strength that's always been there."

Episodes like this one help you tackle both the emotional and business sides of divorce, so you can navigate this transition with strength and create the foundation for your best next chapter.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

Hey there! In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Sharie Reyes Albers, a seasoned family law attorney from Virginia Family Law Center, for an incredibly valuable conversation about what you can really expect from the divorce process.

If you're feeling overwhelmed about the legal side of divorce, this episode is exactly what you need. Sharie brings years of experience and breaks down the legal landscape in a way that's actually understandable. We dive deep into how proper preparation—both financial and emotional—can completely change your divorce experience.

What we cover:

• Inside insights into how the legal process actually works
• Why financial planning is absolutely critical to your future outcomes
• Practical strategies you can implement right now to prepare effectively
• How to navigate the emotional challenges while staying focused on your goals

This conversation perfectly illustrates why I'm so passionate about preparation. When you walk into attorney consultations armed with organized documents, clear financial understanding, and realistic expectations, you save time, money, and stress while getting better results.

Remember, there's a crucial step most people miss between considering divorce and meeting with an attorney: preparation. Episodes like this one help you tackle both the emotional and business sides of divorce early in the process, so you can make smart choices and get the outcome you want.

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you're considering divorce or your spouse just brought it up, you're probably feeling overwhelmed. There's a crucial step most people miss between identifying divorce as a possibility and meeting with an attorney: preparation.

I'm Alex Beattie, a divorce prep coach who helps people navigate divorce with financial clarity and confidence. Drawing from my own experience and years as a divorce prep expert, I combine project management expertise with deep empathy to transform an overwhelming process into an opportunity for personal growth.

Welcome to The Divorce Planner Podcast—your mini masterclass on navigating divorce. Each week, we'll have honest conversations with experts about both the emotional journey and practical decisions ahead, giving you actionable strategies to move forward.

Divorce is hard, but preparing for one doesn't have to be.

The Divorce Planner Podcast premieres Wednesday, January 7, 2026. Subscribe now so you don't miss the first episode!

Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 

Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.

The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.

Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson