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If the passion, desire, or zest for life feels missing right now, this episode is for you. Erica Bennett shares why feeling flat after divorce or a major life transition does not mean something is wrong with you—it may simply mean your mind and body need space to recalibrate. This conversation explores nervous system regulation, emotional exhaustion, and the small shifts that help you reconnect with yourself and rebuild momentum.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• Feeling numb is not failure. A lack of passion does not mean you are broken. It can be a signal that your system is overloaded, emotionally exhausted, or protecting you from more disappointment.

• Your body may need safety before it can access excitement. Erica explains how nervous system dysregulation can create internal chatter, doubt, and resistance—even when you care deeply about what you are doing.

• Curiosity works better than force. Instead of trying to manufacture motivation, ask: Why do I feel this way? What is draining me? What is my body trying to protect me from? That kind of honest reflection gets closer to the root.
• Tiny sparks matter. Rebuilding passion does not start with one giant breakthrough. It starts with one small action that shifts your energy—a walk, music, tea, movement, sunlight, or getting your thoughts onto paper.

• Pause can be more productive than pushing. When you force action from a place of misalignment, everything feels harder. Slowing down can actually help you move forward faster and with more clarity.

• Passion grows through alignment. Erica reframes passion as something that is rebuilt over time when your life, choices, and energy are more connected to your truth.

• “Find your passion” is often unhelpful advice after divorce. When you are starting over, overwhelmed, and trying to rebuild identity and community, that message can create more pressure instead of support.

• You may need to say no before you can feel like yourself again. If your plate is too full, your inner fire gets smothered by busyness, avoidance, and mental overload. Sometimes the most healing step is removing half of what no longer fits this season.

🌟 Resources & Links

The Blueprint — On-demand program to help you define who you want to be, what lights you up, and what needs to come off your plate

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If you’re navigating divorce recovery, relationship burnout, or that slow drift of growing apart, this episode will feel like a mirror.

Heather Sweeney shares her story through the lens of a military marriage—but the patterns apply to any relationship: missed expectations, emotional overload, resentment, communication breakdowns, and losing yourself along the way.

Heather is the author of Camouflage: How I Emerged from the Shadows of a Military Marriage, and she opens up about what finally helped her move from survival mode to clarity, healing, and purpose after divorce.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

Missed expectations: Why “we’ll always be together” can quietly turn into disappointment—and how to reset expectations with real conversations.

The over-functioning trap: How doing everything becomes an unspoken contract… and breeds resentment when it’s not reciprocated.

Resentment is emotional, not logical: Why “it makes sense” doesn’t stop the resentment—and what to do when you feel depleted.

Love languages + real-life friction: How mismatched needs (acts of service, gifts, words, etc.) can cause disconnection even when love is there.

Identity loss in marriage (and motherhood): The moment you realize you’ve lost your “spunky/sassy” self—and how to start rebuilding.

Grief after divorce is normal: You can be ready to leave and still mourn the loss of the future you hoped for.

Healing tools that actually help: Journaling, community, boundaries, self-compassion, and consciously rebuilding a life you want.

🌟 Resources & LinksLooking for Support on your Journey? Join The Club: The Club Divorce Membership

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If you’ve been calling yourself lazy, unmotivated, or broken, this episode will reframe everything. Erica breaks down functional freeze — a nervous system state that keeps you busy, exhausted, and emotionally overwhelmed while making it feel impossible to do the things that matter most.

Through real-life examples, Erica shares how functional freeze shows up, why “just try harder” does not work, and the 3-step process that helps you gently move out of survival mode and back into action.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• What functional freeze really is and why it is often mistaken for laziness
• How your nervous system can keep you stuck in busy work, avoidance, and exhaustion
• The difference between true self-care and self-sabotage disguised as self-care
• Why pressure, shame, and “just take action” advice often make the freeze worse
• Erica’s 3-step process to begin shifting out of freeze:
• How small, compassionate actions can help rebuild trust with yourself
• Why healing your nervous system matters more than forcing productivity

🌟 Resources & Links

The Club: A divorce member for women rewriting their next chapter - with healing, sisterhood, and a side of hell yes.

Wild Woman: A monthly ritual to reconnect with your truth, release what's heavy and remember who you are.

The Blueprint: A 90-minute guided reclamation for divorced women who are ready to create a clear, grounded vision for what comes

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If this episode hit home, take a breath and give yourself grace. You are not broken — your nervous system is asking for safety, support, and a gentler way forward.

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Being labeled “crazy” is often what happens when a woman has been unheard, dysregulated, and pushed past her limits for too long. In this episode, Erica unpacks the difference between being reactive and being powerful, and why emotional healing starts with regulating your nervous system, rebuilding self-trust, and reconnecting with the woman you were before survival mode took over.

This conversation is for any woman who has ever been called too much, too emotional, too reactive, or too hard to handle. Erica shares how to stop giving your power away, interrupt old emotional patterns, and begin choosing grounded responses that align with the life you actually want to build.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• Being called “crazy” is often a way society dismisses women’s emotional truth.
• There is a real difference between emotional reactivity and grounded personal power.
• Unprocessed pain, chronic stress, and years of not being heard can dysregulate your nervous system.
• Healing is not about controlling other people. It is about owning your response.
• You cannot think your way out of a nervous system response. Regulation has to come first.
• True power lives in the pause between the trigger and the reaction.
• Rebuilding your internal compass is how you reconnect with your voice, your needs, and your next chapter.

⏱️ Episode Timestamps

00:00 — Crazy or Powerful?

00:33 — Why This Message Matters

01:23 — When “Crazy” Becomes a Label

02:05 — Emotions as a Superpower

03:00 — What Reactivity Really Is

04:14 — The Trap of Blaming Others

04:55 — What “Unfuckwithable” Means

05:35 — Her Lowest Reactive Moment

07:16 — What Was Under the Rage

09:09 — Emotions Beg to Be Heard

09:41 — A Dysregulated Nervous System

11:03 — From Bad Crazy to Good Crazy

12:48 — The First Step: Stop Running

13:48 — Regulate, Rewire, Realize

15:29 — Your Inner Wild Woman

16:22 — Reconnecting With Who You Were

17:18 — Rebuild Your Internal Compass

18:38 — Why Talk Therapy Isn’t Enough

19:49 — Power Is Owning Your Response

21:01 — The Trigger-to-Spiral Pattern

22:00 — A Real-Life Future Tripping Moment

24:31 — The Shift Back to the Present

26:07 — What Do I Need Right Now?

27:14 — Sitting in the Feels

28:09 — Becoming the Woman You Trust

29:36 — Building the Next Chapter

30:51 — Ways to Work With Erica

31:46 — Reclaim the Word “Crazy”

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In this episode, Erica Bennett sits down with her son Owen for an honest conversation about growing up between two homes, adapting to constant change, and what actually helped him feel safe and supported. 

Owen shares what divorce feels like from a child’s point of view years later.

Together, they also explore the challenges of switching households, blending families, and why kids often need calm, connection, and simple reassurance more than parents realize.

In this episode, we will explore:

• How Owen experienced divorce from a child’s perspective
• Why switching between households was one of the hardest parts
• How divorce helped Owen become more adaptable and independent
• What Erica did that helped him feel supported
• Why parental fear can affect kids more than we realize
• The role of keepsakes and comfort items during transitions
• What blending families felt like from Owen’s side
• Why slow introductions to new partners matter
• How extended family dynamics can add pressure
• What parents can do to create more emotional safety for their kids

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Feeling lonely after divorce can make it seem like everyone else has somewhere to be, someone to call, or a life that feels more connected than yours. In this episode, Erica unpacks why loneliness can feel so loud in this chapter and how it may actually be pointing you back to yourself in a deeper way.

She shares how being alone is not a punishment, but an invitation to rebuild self trust, reconnect with your desires, and create a life that felt good from the inside out.

If you’ve been struggling with quiet weekends, solo evenings, or the stories your mind tells you when no one reaches out, this conversation will remind you that loneliness is not the end of the story. It may be the beginning of learning how to truly enjoy your own company.

If you wonder why being alone feels heavier than you thought it would or catch yourself thinking that if you just had someone, all of this would feel easier, this episode is for you.

In this episode, we explore how loneliness after divorce can stir up old stories about worth, belonging, and being chosen — and how healing begins when you stop trying to outrun the quiet and start listening to what it’s here to teach you.

In this episode, we will explore:

• why loneliness feels bigger than just being alone
• the old beliefs that get triggered in the silence
• why having a partner does not automatically solve loneliness
• the shift from proving you can be alone to actually enjoying your own company
• how contentment becomes the starting point for rebuilding joy
• simple ways to reconnect with yourself when loneliness hits

⏱️ Timestamps

00:00 — The Quiet You Took for Granted

00:35 — Why This Topic Matters

01:40 — When Loneliness Still Hits

03:20 — Partnership Isn’t the Cure

05:08 — The Fear of Being Unchosen

07:24 — The Story Loneliness Tells

09:44 — Divorce as a Turning Point

12:07 — Nights That Felt the Hardest

14:03 — From Proving to Contentment

16:28 — It Was Never About Worth

18:35 — Learning to Love a Solo Life

20:48 — Follow What Feels Good

22:53 — Why Contentment Comes First

25:18 — Let Loneliness Teach You

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The Club — Join the Club for support, sisterhood, and deeper healing

The Blueprint — Build your blueprint to release the past and step into who you’re becoming with confidence

The Emotional Ladder PDF — Download the Emotional Ladder PDF to help shift your thoughts one step at a time

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In this episode, Erica shares the story of how bringing a new puppy home became a lesson in rebuilding self-trust, quieting decision fatigue, and learning how to recognize the right decision without forcing it.

What starts as a puppy story turns into a deeper conversation about inner guidance, emotional clarity, and the difference between chasing an answer versus calmly knowing what’s true.

You'll Learn:

Self-trust is rebuilt by listening to your own signals. Erica walks through what it looked like to stop overriding herself and start paying attention to what felt calm, clear, and aligned.

Decision fatigue is a sign to pause, not push harder. When a choice starts to feel muddy, frantic, or overcomplicated, that can be the cue to step back and go general again.

The right decision often feels calm, not chaotic. Erica describes how the path toward Maize felt easy, safe, and flowing once she stopped forcing outcomes that didn’t fit.

Inner guidance becomes clearer when your nervous system is regulated. You can’t hear your truth clearly when everything feels urgent. Regulation creates the space to discern what’s fear and what’s real.

You have to line yourself up with the decisions you need to make. Clarity doesn’t always come from thinking harder. Sometimes it comes from creating the internal alignment to recognize what is actually right for you.

We Talk About:

00:05 — Meet Maize

01:43 — When Decision Fatigue Hits

04:05 — Knowing There Was No Capacity

06:24 — Getting Clear on What Matters

08:16 — The Holding Pattern Ends

10:42 — Wrong Turns and Red Flags

13:05 — When the Signs Got Loud

15:17 — The Secret, the Deposit, the Momentum

17:37 — Why Trusting Yourself Feels So Hard

20:03 — The Difference Between Forcing and Knowing

22:30 — Manifesting Through Your Guidance System

24:54 — Rebuilding With Focus and Trust

Links Mentioned in the Show

The New You Blueprint - Coming March 25th!

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What happens when divorce forces you to look at your money differently?

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with Shana and Vanessa of Budget Besties to talk about the B word. Budgets. Not the restrictive, shame-filled kind. The bougie kind. The kind that supports your next chapter instead of shrinking it.

Divorce often brings financial fear to the surface. Whether you managed the money before or not, stepping into full financial responsibility can feel overwhelming. Shame creeps in. Avoidance sets in. The credit card becomes the emotional buffer.

Shana and Vanessa break down how to move from fear to clarity using a simplified, automated budgeting system designed specifically for women. They explain how most women don’t have a spending problem. They have an organization problem.

If you’re navigating financial independence after divorce, feeling behind with money, or afraid to look at your bank account, this episode will remind you that you are capable of being the CFO of your own life.

You’ll learn:

• Why money feels heavier after divorce

• The difference between a spending problem and an organization problem

• How shame keeps women stuck financially

• The three-step simplified budget system: create, separate, automate

• What a digital envelope system is and how it replaces outdated cash envelopes

• How separating accounts creates natural guardrails

• Why automation eliminates financial stress

• How to stop relying on credit cards to fund your life

• Why adding cushion prevents rebound overspending

• How paying off debt creates financial freedom

• How to let your money work for you instead of against you

• Why your version of “bougie” is allowed

We talk about:

00:00 Reframing the B word after divorce

02:00 Why budgeting feels emotional and overwhelming

04:00 Money shame and “I should know this already”

06:00 Avoidance and head-in-the-sand habits

08:00 The simplified five-column budget structure

10:00 Digital envelopes and separating accounts

12:00 Why guardrails create freedom

14:00 Overspending and emotional justification

16:00 Designing a budget you actually want to follow

18:00 Becoming the CFO of your own life

20:00 Adding buffer and flexibility into your spending

22:00 Automating your bills and savings

24:00 Debit cards versus credit card reliance

26:00 Paying off debt and reclaiming income

28:00 Financial independence in your next chapter

30:00 Letting your money multiply while you sleep

32:00 Small shifts that create financial momentum

34:00 Why budgeting is self-respect, not restriction

36:00 Your first simple step this week

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What happens when there’s no cheating, no explosive betrayal, no dramatic final straw, yet you still know the marriage is over?

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with Simona Costantini to share her powerful life after divorce transformation story. Together, they unpack what it means to end a marriage that simply ran its course, how to navigate family disappointment, and how to rebuild when there’s no obvious villain.

Simona shares how growing in different directions, misaligned life goals, and emotional distance led her to choose divorce after nearly a decade together. She opens up about the reality of separating without children, co-parenting a dog, buying out a home in one of Canada’s most expensive housing markets, and doing whatever it took to keep a roof over her head, from dog sitting to grocery delivery to Airbnb hosting.

This conversation explores what rebuilding after divorce really looks like. Not dramatic reinvention. Not overnight healing. But small daily choices, mindset shifts, energy awareness, and consuming content that supports growth instead of grief.

If you’re navigating divorce without a “big reason,” struggling with family judgment, or questioning whether choosing yourself was the right decision, this episode will remind you that growth seasons are real, alignment matters, and life on the other side can be more beautiful than you imagined.

You’ll learn:

• Why divorce without a dramatic betrayal can be harder to explain but just as valid

• How growing in different directions slowly erodes connection

• Why family disappointment can be one of the hardest parts of divorce

• The emotional impact of separating without closure

• What co-parenting a dog after divorce really looks like

• How to handle a marital home during divorce

• Creative ways to stay financially afloat after separation

• Why what you consume during divorce shapes your healing

• The power of tiny daily choices in rebuilding your life

• How to move from feeling stuck to becoming an active participant in your life

• Why “this is not forever” can be a grounding mantra in hard seasons

• How alignment and energy shift your post-divorce experience

We talk about:

00:00 Invitation to join the club and rise together

02:00 Simona’s divorce story and asking for the separation

04:00 Expecting an amicable divorce and navigating respect

06:00 Growing apart and realizing life goals were misaligned

08:00 Video games, emotional distance, and coexistence

10:00 The moment she knew it was over

12:00 Navigating family disappointment and cultural expectations

14:00 Living together after separation and lack of closure

16:00 Divorce without cheating or betrayal

18:00 Why people need a “reason” for divorce

20:00 Learning what conversations should happen before marriage

22:00 Buying out the house and staying during separation

24:00 Financial pressure and creative income solutions

26:00 Dog sitting, Instacart, and Airbnb as survival strategy

28:00 Letting go of the house and releasing attachment

30:00 Making the best decision with the information you have

32:00 The power of consuming uplifting conversations

34:00 Music, mindset, and choosing different energy

36:00 Tiny choices that create transformation

38:00 Rebuilding life after divorce one decision at a time

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If nothing seems to change after divorce, even though you’re doing the work, this episode explains why.

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica breaks down what actually creates real, sustainable change after divorce. Not just mindset. Not just strategy. But the combination of internal alignment, external action, and small habits that compound over time.

Erica introduces her simple 1-2-3 framework for building a year, and a life, that actually feels good to live. She explains why visualization without action keeps you stuck, why action driven by fear leads to burnout, and how divorced women can rebuild their lives without trying to fix everything at once.

This episode explores the importance of getting clear on what you truly want, using tools to stay accountable when life gets chaotic, and creating a rhythm that supports growth instead of forcing progress. Erica shares how tiny daily resets, from morning routines to environmental cues, create stability, confidence, and forward momentum over time.

If you’re tired of waiting for “someday” and ready to stop rebuilding your life from pressure, fear, or exhaustion, this episode shows you how to blend the woo and the do, one small choice at a time.

You’ll learn:

• Why mindset alone doesn’t create lasting change after divorce
  

• How fear-based action keeps you stuck in the same cycle
  

• Why small daily habits matter more than big promises
  

• How to get clear on what you really want beyond surface goals
  

• Why focusing on energy and experience creates better outcomes
  

• How tools and environment support accountability during hard seasons
  

• Why starting tomorrow delays healing and growth
  

• How rhythm creates consistency when motivation fades
  

• Why enjoyment is required for sustainable change
  

• How tiny choices compound into long-term transformation

We talk about:

00:00 Why 2026 can’t be built the same way as 2025

02:00 Growth seasons versus healing seasons

04:00 Why mindset alone doesn’t work

06:00 The 1-2-3 framework for real change

08:00 Getting clear on what you truly want and why

10:00 Energy, experience, and frequency versus rigid goals

12:00 Letting go of control and allowing surprise

14:00 Accountability tools when life feels chaotic

16:00 Using your environment to support your nervous system

18:00 Why waiting for the perfect time keeps you stuck

20:00 Choosing small daily actions over overwhelm

22:00 Creating rhythm instead of forcing timelines

24:00 Flowing with natural cycles instead of rigid calendars

26:00 Why fun and enjoyment matter in rebuilding

28:00 Manifestation as alignment plus action

30:00 Knowing when you’re forcing instead of flowing

32:00 Rebuilding your life one small choice at a time

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If you feel like you keep ending up in the same relationship with a different person, this episode explains why.

In the Season 12 premiere of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica breaks down the real reason relationship patterns repeat after divorce. Not because you’re broken, unlucky, or choosing the “wrong” people, but because unhealed wounds, nervous system responses, and unconscious expectations are still running the show.

This episode explores the space between rushing back into dating and avoiding it altogether. Erica walks through the three core lessons that determine whether you’re actually ready for a new relationship. She explains how partners become emotional stand-ins, why asking someone else to regulate your happiness creates resentment, and how to tell the difference between a “me problem” and a “we problem.”

You’ll also hear why even the right person can trigger you, how old wounds from betrayal and infidelity resurface in new relationships, and why triggers are information, not proof that you’re failing at healing. 

You’ll learn:

• Why repeating relationship patterns after divorce is common and preventable

• How to tell the difference between a personal trigger and a real relationship issue

• What “jumping through hoops” looks like and why it destroys connection

• How divorce rewires your nervous system and impacts dating readiness

• Why asking a partner to make you happy creates resentment

• How unhealed wounds from betrayal show up in new relationships

• Why triggers are data, not red flags

• How to stop outsourcing emotional regulation to a partner

• What it means to enter a relationship whole instead of looking to be completed

• How divorce can become a blueprint for healthier relationships moving forward

We talk about:

00:00 Wondering if you’re ready to date again

02:00 Why people rush back into dating or avoid it completely

04:00 Divorce as a nervous system reset

06:00 “Me problem vs we problem” in relationships

08:00 How relationships mirror unhealed wounds

10:00 Why expecting a partner to complete you creates pressure

12:00 Jumping through emotional hoops and resentment

14:00 Self-imposed expectations and burnout

16:00 Cleaning up your side of the street

18:00 The stories your mind creates when triggered

20:00 Infidelity wounds and anxiety in new relationships

22:00 Communicating triggers instead of assuming meaning

24:00 Why even good partners will trigger you

26:00 Using triggers as information, not danger

28:00 Recognizing repeating conflict patterns

30:00 Choosing new responses instead of old reactions

32:00 Why divorce gives you tools to never let it get that bad again

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Dating after divorce can feel like standing in the middle of a wide-open field with no map, no rules, and a nervous system still recovering from impact. Some people jump right back in, others swear off dating forever, and many find themselves repeating patterns they thought they’d already healed.

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica is joined by relationship coach and fellow divorcee Anna Howerton for a deeply honest, grounded conversation about what dating after divorce really requires. Not strategies, not swipes, but self-awareness, clarity, and the courage to choose differently.

They unpack why divorce can actually be one of the greatest gifts for future partnership, how to recognize red flags versus yellow flags, why “manifesting the perfect partner” can backfire without inner work, and how unmet needs from your first marriage often show up in disguised ways the second time around.

This episode is for anyone who wants partnership again, but refuses to lose themselves in the process.

You’ll learn:

• Why divorce gives you the rare opportunity to choose again with wisdom

• How to tell the difference between red flags, yellow flags, and growth edges

• Why dating too soon can turn you into an “energetic mess”

• How unmet needs from your first marriage shape who you’re attracted to next

• Why clarity around your core emotional needs matters more than chemistry

• How independence, attraction, and compatibility can clash if you’re not honest

• Why trying to change a partner often signals inner work that still needs doing

• How to stay whole in a relationship instead of looking to be completed by one

• What it really means to choose someone “warts and all”

• How to date with intention instead of chasing validation or potential

We talk about:

00:00 Dating after divorce, jump back in or stay out

02:00 Why most people aren’t taught how to choose a partner

04:00 The gift of divorce, choosing again with self-awareness

06:00 Why many first marriages were right at the time, but not forever

08:00 Losing yourself in marriage and rebuilding identity

10:00 Dating too soon and becoming emotionally reactive

12:00 Boundaries, swiping fatigue, and dating with intention

14:00 Codependency patterns that surface after divorce

16:00 Manifestation, clarity, and calling in the wrong container

18:00 Seeing people as they are, not as potential

20:00 Red flags vs yellow flags and why they’re personal

23:00 Why surface-level deal breakers can sabotage connection

26:00 Choosing someone with complexity, not perfection

29:00 The danger of trying to change your partner

31:00 Accepting someone exactly as they are today

34:00 Emotional needs, attraction, and long-term fulfillment

37:00 Why second marriages can feel harder but more honest

40:00 Staying whole inside partnership instead of outsourcing happiness

43:00 Using divorce as a blueprint for a healthier future

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Wondering when to switch divorce lawyers because your attorney isn’t calling you back, isn’t explaining things clearly, or keeps pushing you to “just sign it”? 

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with Heather Quick (Founder and CEO of Florida Women’s Law Group) to break down the biggest divorce attorney red flags, what good representation actually looks like, and how to trust your gut when you’re already overwhelmed.

They talk about how to find a lawyer when you’re not ready to tell anyone you’re divorcing, how to read reviews with discernment, and why the “best lawyer” is the one who matches the phase and complexity of your divorce (collaborative vs contested, calm vs high-conflict). 

If you’ve been spiraling in the waiting, second-guessing your legal support, or feeling like you’re asking “too many questions”, this episode will give you a grounded checklist, smarter consult questions, and the confidence to advocate for yourself, without turning your legal bill into an emotional support subscription.

You’ll learn:

• How to choose the right divorce lawyer when you’re not ready to tell friends or family
• What divorce attorney red flags look like early (before you waste time and money)
• Why your divorce “phase” matters (collaborative vs contested, calm vs high-conflict)
• What healthy communication expectations look like (and what’s actually reasonable)
• Why local court and judge experience changes outcomes more than most people realize
• How to avoid paying legal fees for emotional processing (and where that support belongs)
• Why “just sign it, you can change it later” can lock you into years of expensive regret
• How to advocate for yourself without spiraling, second-guessing, or feeling like “too much”

We talk about:

00:00 Divorce your divorce lawyer, what it means and why it matters

02:00 How to find a lawyer when you’re not ready to tell anyone you’re divorcing

04:00 Google, reviews, and what the “bad reviews” can reveal

06:00 Consult wait times, and why urgency hits when you’re finally ready

07:00 Collaborative vs contested divorce, and how mindset shapes outcomes

08:00 What a good lawyer actually does (empathy, truth, strategy, reality checks)

10:00 Unrealistic expectations, and why a good lawyer will tell you “no”

14:00 When you need a different lawyer for a different phase of divorce

15:00 When it’s time to stop waiting and set a hearing

18:00 “You know who you married, you know who you’re divorcing”

20:00 Why local court knowledge matters (judges, patterns, the legal landscape)

23:00 Cheap now, expensive later, why expertise can save you money

26:00 Divorce court isn’t about fairness, it’s about process and law

28:00 Why legal conversations trigger spirals, and how to stay grounded

30:00 The biggest red flag: “Just sign it, you can change it later”

32:00 Your lawyer isn’t your best friend (and why community support matters)

36:00 The waiting game, nervous system stress, and slow timelines

38:00 Trust your gut, advocate for yourself, and switch if it’s not the fit

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Divorce doesn’t come with a single moment of grief.It arrives in waves, quietly, loudly, and often long after the paperwork is signed.

In this deeply validating episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica is joined by therapist and author Oona Metz, whose new book Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women reframes divorce not as failure, but as a profound emotional restructuring.

Together, they unpack why divorce grief is often misunderstood, why women feel “crazy” for still hurting months or years later, and why traditional grief models fall short when applied to divorce.

Oona introduces her five-phase model of divorce grief, heartbreak, the emotional rollercoaster, mending, letting go, and moving on. A framework built from decades of clinical work with women navigating divorce. This conversation normalizes the emotional chaos, identity loss, and nervous system overwhelm so many women experience, while offering a grounded roadmap forward.

This episode is not about rushing healing. It’s about understanding it, honoring it, and trusting that rebuilding happens one stabilizing step at a time.

You’ll learn:

• Why divorce grief is different from bereavement grief

• Why healing after divorce is never linear

• The five phases of divorce grief and what each one actually feels like

• Why hope keeps women stuck longer than they expect

• How emotional rollercoasters are a normal part of divorce recovery

• Why legal processes intensify emotional dysregulation

• What “mending” really means after emotional depletion

• How self-love restores nervous system safety

• Why letting go includes releasing identity, myths, and future fantasies

• How to rebuild traditions without forcing old ones

• Why moving on doesn’t mean forgetting, it means re-investing energy

• How community accelerates healing when friends and family can’t relate

We talk about:

00:00 Why divorce grief shows up in unexpected ways

03:00 Why Oona wrote Unhitched after 30 years of clinical work

06:00 Why women feel isolated even though divorce is common

09:00 Why traditional grief models don’t fully apply to divorce

12:00 Phase one, heartbreak and the loss of hope

15:00 Why women hold on longer than they want to

18:00 Phase two, the emotional rollercoaster explained

22:00 Why feeling “crazy” is actually a healthy response

25:00 How the legal process amplifies emotional instability

28:00 Phase three, mending and reclaiming emotional energy

32:00 Why loving yourself changes how you parent and relate

35:00 Divorce as family restructuring, not failure

38:00 Phase four, letting go of identity and future myths

42:00 Rebuilding traditions without self-betrayal

46:00 Phase five, moving on without erasing the past

49:00 Why healing happens faster in community

52:00 Trusting the process when you’re still in the pain

Links Mentioned in the Show

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Divorce doesn’t just end a marriage.

It dismantles an identity.

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica is joined by certified life coach and retired attorney Meagan Norris for an honest conversation about what it really takes to rebuild life after divorce, without repeating old emotional, financial, or relational patterns.

Together, they explore why so many women remain stuck in survival mode long after the divorce is finalized, how nervous system dysregulation quietly drives decision-making, and why healing after divorce requires more than insight, it requires embodiment, emotional resilience, and self-trust built through experience.

Meagan shares her four foundational pillars for post-divorce rebuilding, emotional resilience, financial sovereignty, lifestyle design, and vision-based decision-making. These pillars help women move out of fear-based choices and into intentional living that aligns with who they are becoming, not who they had to be to survive.

This episode dismantles the pressure to “fix everything at once” and offers a grounded, sustainable path forward, one focused decision, one stabilizing choice, and one self-trusting action at a time.

You’ll learn:

• Why divorce often requires letting go of an old identity, not just a relationship
• How survival mode shapes post-divorce decisions without you realizing it
• What emotional resilience actually looks like in real life
• How nervous system regulation supports clarity and self-trust
• Why money struggles after divorce are often about identity, not income
• How comparison fuels scarcity, regardless of how much you earn
• Why focusing on one priority accelerates healing and momentum
• How lifestyle design helps you embody your future self now
• What vision-based decision-making really means after divorce
• Why self-trust is built through action, not affirmations
• How to stop outsourcing decisions to fear, statistics, or outside voices

We talk about:

00:00 Why divorce is an identity shift, not just a legal process

02:30 What it means to divorce the old version of yourself

05:00 How past beliefs recreate future emotional patterns

06:30 Emotional resilience and nervous system regulation after divorce

09:00 Financial sovereignty and scarcity thinking

12:00 Comparison, money, and attachment patterns

15:30 Rebuilding trust with yourself through aligned action

18:00 Why trying to change everything at once leads to burnout

21:00 Choosing one priority and stabilizing the rest

24:00 Lifestyle design and reclaiming physical space after divorce

28:30 Vision boards, energy, and embodiment

31:00 Vision-based decision-making versus fear-based choices

36:00 Letting go of statistics, judgments, and “good enough” thinking

41:00 Designing a future that feels expansive, not reactive

45:00 Why your vision evolves as you evolve

48:00 Falling in love with the long-term rebuilding process

The Defining the New You Blueprint is a 90-minuteguided mini-retreat for divorced women ready to move beyond survival and step into their next chapter. Through grounding reflection, vision casting, and self-reconnection rituals, you’ll rediscover who you are now, create emotional clarity, and begin consciously designing a life you love. Come home to yourself— one breath, one revelation, one rise at a time.

https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/blueprint

The Club

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If divorce has left you irritable, numb, exhausted, or feeling like you don’t recognize yourself anymore, this episode is for you.

In this special episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica shares audio from a live Divorce Detox Hour inside her membership, The Club. This is not a traditional podcast conversation. It’s a guided nervous system reset designed to help divorced women step out of survival mode and return to steadiness, clarity, and self-trust before entering the new year.

Through intentional breathwork, grounding practices, visualization, and symbolic release, Erica guides listeners through closing the emotional chapter of 2025 and consciously choosing what does and does not come with them into 2026. You’ll be led through a powerful “theater of your new year” visualization, a release ritual for what you’re done carrying, and a future-self encounter that helps clarify who you are becoming without pressure or forced goal setting.

This episode is not about fixing yourself or rushing healing. It’s about creating safety in your body, honoring what you survived, and making space for a version of you that isn’t built around endurance or emotional overfunctioning.

If you’re post-divorce and feel stuck in fight-or-flight, unsure who you’re becoming, or afraid of repeating the same emotional patterns in the new year, this episode offers a grounded way to reset and move forward without dragging the past behind you.

You’ll learn:

• Why divorce often keeps women stuck in long-term survival mode
• How nervous system regulation supports emotional healing after divorce
• Why “new year, new you” pressure can actually slow recovery
• How breathwork creates safety before emotional processing
• What it means to consciously choose what you carry forward
• How to release resentment, shame, and self-blame without rehashing the past
• Why healing requires embodiment, not just insight
• How to reconnect with your future self after identity loss
• Why choosing qualities matters more than rigid goals
• How community accelerates healing and prevents emotional isolation

We talk about:

00:00 Why post-divorce irritability and numbness aren’t personality traits

02:00 What a Divorce Detox Hour is and why it works

04:00 How survival mode shows up after divorce

06:30 Grounding the body to create emotional safety

09:00 Breathwork to calm the nervous system

12:00 Moving out of the head and into the body

14:00 The “Theater of Your New Year” visualization

18:00 Witnessing what you survived in 2025

20:30 The Release Box ritual and letting go of emotional weight

23:30 Choosing who you are becoming in 2026

26:00 Meeting your future self and receiving guidance

28:00 Making promises and boundaries that support healing

30:30 Why community matters during identity rebuilding

33:00 Releasing the past without erasing it

35:00 Closing the session with steadiness and self-trust

The Club

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Defining the New You: a new six week intensive to help you move the hell on and define who you want to be in your new chapter. 

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Divorced women don’t need another “new year, new you” speech.You need a clean break.

In this New Year’s Eve episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica guides you through a powerful emotional closing ritual for 2025 and a grounded, realistic way to step into 2026 without dragging old identities, survival patterns, or unfinished grief with you.

This episode is not about fixing yourself or forcing goals. It’s about retiring what you’ve outgrown, honoring the lessons of the past year, and consciously choosing what comes next.

Erica breaks down why 2025 marks the end of a nine-year cycle, why endings after divorce often feel heavier than expected, and how the “Year of the Snake” has been quietly asking you to shed roles, relationships, and stories that no longer fit. She then introduces the bold, forward-moving energy of 2026 and explains why this is not the year to play small, rush healing, or live by default.

Through reflection, journaling prompts, and a flexible mind-mapping framework, you’ll learn how to gather the gold from the hardest moments of 2025, choose a guiding word for the year ahead, and take aligned action without pressure or overwhelm.

If you’re entering a new year post-divorce feeling emotionally tired, uncertain about who you’re becoming, or afraid of carrying the past forward, this episode will help you close the chapter with clarity and step into what’s next with confidence.

You’ll learn:

• Why “new year, new you” advice often fails after divorce
• What it actually means to create a clean emotional break
• Why 2025 is an ending year and why that matters for healing
• How to stop dragging old identities and survival patterns forward
• Why discomfort and vulnerability are signs of growth, not failure
• How to consciously retire roles, relationships, and expectations
• What the Year of the Snake teaches about shedding and release
• Why 2026 invites courage, freedom, and forward movement
• How to dream again without pressure or rigid goal setting
• A simple mind-mapping method to call in what you want next
• Why alignment matters more than hustle after divorce
• How community accelerates healing and prevents emotional recoil

We talk about:

00:00 Why divorced women don’t need “new year, new you”

02:00 Setting intention and closing the container on 2025

03:00 The end of a nine-year cycle and post-divorce identity shifts

05:00 Reflecting on how far you’ve actually come

08:00 Why we judge years too harshly and miss the gold

11:00 A guided reflection through each month of 2025

14:00 Choosing the feeling and frequency you want in 2026

16:30 The Year of the Snake and shedding what no longer fits

20:00 Outgrowing roles, relationships, and old expectations

23:00 From snake energy to bold forward momentum

24:30 Why 2026 is not the year to play small

27:00 How to set intentions without overwhelm or pressure

30:00 Using mind-mapping instead of rigid goal setting

33:00 Calling in alignment without forcing outcomes

36:00 Why community matters during transformation

41:00 What’s coming next and how to stay supported

The Club

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The holidays after divorce don’t just feel different.They hit deeper, harder, and in ways no one prepares you for.

In this solo episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica breaks down the emotional reality of surviving the holidays after divorce, especially when you’re navigating grief, comparison, loneliness, co-parenting transitions, or your first holiday without your kids.

This episode goes beyond surface-level advice and gets to the truth about why the holidays amplify emotional pain after divorce, even years later. You’ll learn why healing isn’t linear, why you’re not behind, and why feeling unsettled, emotional, or exhausted during the holidays is not a sign of failure, but a sign of deep transition.

Erica explores the unspoken parts of post-divorce life, the quiet moments when the house is empty, the pressure to create “magic,” the comparison to intact families, the financial stress, and the internal voice that says you should be over this by now.

If you’re asking yourself why the holidays after divorce feel heavier than expected, why emotions resurface when you thought you were doing fine, or why peace feels just out of reach this season, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening and how to move through it without abandoning yourself.

This is a permission slip to stop rushing your healing, stop judging your timeline, and find peace inside the season you’re actually in.

You’ll learn:

• Why the holidays are so emotionally hard after divorce
• The hidden reason grief resurfaces during holidays, even years later
• Why healing after divorce is cyclical, not linear
• How comparison and money anxiety intensify holiday stress
• What no one warns you about the first holidays without your kids
• How to navigate loneliness without letting it define you
• Why you’re not failing, falling behind, or doing this wrong
• How to create emotional safety during the holidays after divorce
• Why mindset shifts change emotions faster than changing circumstances
• How to find peace when everything feels different

We talk about:

00:00 Intro

03:42 Navigating Holiday Comparisons

08:18 Embracing Alone Moments

14:38 Balancing Grief and Joy

24:23 Reflecting on Wins and Growth

28:15 Looking Ahead to the New Year

30:25 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

The Emotional Ladder Download

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Divorce doesn’t just end a relationship. It disrupts identity.

Defining The New You is a six-week guided experience designed to help you meet who you’rebecoming after divorce, not who you were trying to survive as.

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Why does your body feel completely different after divorce or prolonged stress, even when doctors say “everything looks normal”?

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica is joined by Gigi Hunt, a hormone and nervous system mentor for high-achieving women, for an honest, science-backed conversation about hormone imbalance, nervous system regulation, and cortisol overload during divorce, dating after divorce, burnout, and chronic emotional stress.

Together, they unpack why so many women are dismissed with “it’s just hormones” or prematurely labeled as perimenopausal or hormonally imbalanced, when the real issue is often nervous system dysregulation driving sleep issues, anxiety, rage, digestive problems, and cycle changes.

This episode explores how women’s bodies respond to long-term stress differently than men’s, why emotional volatility after divorce is not a personal failure, and how nervous system regulation, hormone support, and small, consistent practices can restore balance over time.

If you’ve struggled with sleep issues, emotional overwhelm, digestive problems, cycle changes, or recurring relationship conflict after divorce, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a grounded path forward.

You’ll learn:

We talk about:

Holiday Heart to Heart  

The holidays post-divorce are brutal because you are trying to "make it magical" when life feels anything but. 

You need a plan for the emotional spikes without spiraling, throwing in the towel or just crawling back into bed until this season is over.

Get quick, divorce specific episodes for mom's trying to bring the magic back post-divorce. You can hit play on the moment it gets hard and find your footing in a few minutes of listening. 

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Did you ignore red flags in your last relationship, only to see them clearly after it ended?In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with trauma-informed coach Chavisa Horemans to break down the real science behind red flags in dating after divorce. They explore how warning signs show up through behavior, language, and your nervous system long before a relationship falls apart.If you are dating again, healing after divorce, or learning to trust your intuition, this episode will sharpen your discernment and help you stop normalizing what your body already knows is not safe.

You’ll learn:

Red flags vs yellow flags

Trauma and dating after divorce

How your nervous system detects danger

Online dating warning signs

Rebuilding trust in yourself

We talk about:

00:00 Intro

03:00 Red flags vs yellow flags

06:00 Dating profiles and hidden warnings

10:00 Conditional love and power dynamics

15:00 Why we normalize red flags

20:00 Trust, intuition, and discernment

30:00 Somatic healing and self-trust

36:00 Final takeaways

Holiday Heart to Heart The Holiday Heart-to-Heart is the conversation you and I need to have!

❤️‍🩹 What to expect this year

❤️‍🩹 How to handle the change

❤️‍🩹 What to do when things hurt

❤️‍🩹 How to bring the magic back faster

The best part is, you stream it like a podcast so it is ready for you anywhere, anytime. Just hit play and you have all the support you need to take back your holiday magic. https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/h...*on sale now through December 20th*

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What if the end of your marriage isn’t the end of you – but the beginning of the version you haven’t met yet?

In this Stories From the Other Side episode, Erica sits down with Justin Milrad – certified divorce coach, author, and financial planner – who rebuilt his entire life after a three-year, seven-figure divorce war and an eight-day jury trial that shattered his identity and forced him to reinvent from the ground up.

Justin shares the raw truth of divorce from a male perspective: how a once-amicable split exploded, what men are really feeling (but rarely say out loud), and how he eventually created a peaceful co-parenting relationship with his ex. Together, they unpack the emotional blind spots men face, the pressure to “hold it together,” the trauma we don’t recognize until everything breaks, and why so many people stay stuck for years after divorce.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

🔑 Why even “amicable” divorces can quietly build toward explosion

🔑 How stress, burnout, and unhealed trauma erode a marriage long before anyone files

🔑 What men actually experience emotionally during divorce (and why they often can’t name it)

🔑 How choosing the wrong lawyer can inflame conflict – and how to choose more wisely

🔑 The shift from “we” to “me” without guilt – and what it means to architect You 2.0

🔑 The difference between net worth and self-worth after divorce

🔑 How to move from chaos into peaceful co-parenting and healthier future relationships

🔑 Why forgiveness has nothing to do with an apology – and everything to do with your healing

⏱️ Episode Timestamps

⏱️ 00:00 – Intro & why this conversation matters for life after divorce

⏱️ 01:44 – Justin’s story: marriage, career, and the slow unraveling

⏱️ 05:49 – When “amicable” falls apart: the turning point and legal battles

⏱️ 07:22 – Surviving a three-year, seven-figure divorce war and eight-day jury trial

⏱️ 08:22 – Finding support: how divorce coaching changes the process

⏱️ 11:46 – Rebuilding from rock bottom and redefining identity

⏱️ 14:36 – The Emotional Ladder: naming what you feel so you can actually heal

⏱️ 20:22 – The Gap and the Gain: shifting from what you lost to what you’re building

⏱️ 22:55 – Hard conversations: how to communicate with your ex without blowing things up

⏱️ 23:28 – Men vs. women: emotional blind spots and why we miss each other

⏱️ 24:23 – Co-parenting strategies that keep kids out of the middle

⏱️ 26:54 – Radical self-reflection and owning your part in the story

⏱️ 28:54 – Dating again: navigating new relationships after divorce

⏱️ 31:11 – Maintaining a positive co-parenting relationship over time

⏱️ 32:43 – Why joy and play are non-negotiable in your next chapter

⏱️ 40:48 – Final thoughts, resources, and what You 2.0 really looks like

🌟 Resources & Links🌟

Holiday Heart-to-Heart (Private Podcast)
Holidays after divorce can feel like a whirlwind of emotions — memories, old traditions, and new realities all colliding. Holiday Heart-to-Heart helps you reclaim your identity and rise into the version of you who honors her heart, protects her peace, and stays connected to who she’s becoming, no matter what the season stirs up.
👉 https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/holiday

The Club – Your Post-Divorce Community

Looking to claim your post-divorce badass? Put yourself in the room with other women redefining what it means to be a divorcée.

👉  https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub

🌟 Connect with Justin Milrad

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reclaimandreboot.me/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReclaimAndReboot

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ReclaimAndReboot

Website: https://www.reclaimandreboot.me

Justin’s Book:

You 2.0: Divorce a Better Way Forward
👉 https://www.amazon.com/You-2-0-Divorce-Better-Forward/dp/B0FBH9RWZN

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Divorce grief can feel like it’s breaking you… but what if the grief you’re feeling after divorce isn’t a setback, but a signal — a call inward, a call back to yourself?

In this powerful episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with grief educator Suzanne Jabour to unpack the truth about grief after divorce — why it lingers, why it surprises you, and why it shows up in the quiet moments when the kids are at their other home or when you’re washing a single dish for one.

Together, they explore the emotional, physical, and identity-shifting layers of divorce grief: why “doing everything right” never protects you from the waves, why your brain stops working during major loss, and why even the most empowered decision can still knock you flat.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

In this episode, you’ll learn:

🔑 Why grief after divorce is completely normal, even if you initiated it

🔑 What “grief brain” is and why it makes you foggy, forgetful, exhausted, or overwhelmed

🔑 The physical symptoms of grief that no one talks about

🔑 How curiosity can pull you out of fear, anxiety, and emotional shutdown

🔑 Why naming emotions helps them move through the body🔑 How to use the Emotional Ladder to climb out of the darkest moments

🔑 Why time alone doesn’t heal grief — and what actually does🔑 How grief is really unspent love, and where you can channel it next

🔑 The difference between being transformed by accident or transformed with intention

⏱️ Episode Timestamps

00:00 – Intro

01:57 – Understanding Different Types of Grief

03:55 – Navigating Grief in Everyday Life

06:48 – The Importance of Curiosity in Grief

14:59 – Physical and Emotional Symptoms of Grief

19:41 – Understanding Emotions: Frustration, Gratitude, Peace

20:38 – The Power of Labeling Emotions

21:57 – Teaching Emotional Awareness to Children

22:34 – The Emotional Ladder: A Tool for Emotional Management

24:08 – Climbing the Ladder: Practical Steps

29:56 – Navigating Grief and Transformation

35:23 – Embracing the Journey and Finding Peace

37:07 – Final Thoughts and Encouragement

🌟 Resources & Links

🌟 The Club (Start Here)

Looking to claim your post-divorce badass? Put yourself in the room with other women redefining what it means to be a divorcé.

Join The Club: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub

🌟 Free Emotional Ladder Download

Want the Emotional Ladder we talk about in this episode? Grab the free PDF guide and learn how to name what you’re feeling, shift your mindset, and take one grounded step up at a time.

• Free Emotional Ladder PDF: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/emotionalladder

🌟 Holiday Heart-to-Heart (Private Podcast)

Holidays after divorce can feel like a whirlwind of emotions — memories, old traditions, and new realities all colliding.
Holiday Heart-to-Heart is a private podcast to help you reclaim your identity and rise into the version of you who honors her heart, protects her peace, and stays connected to who she’s becoming, no matter what the season stirs up.

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What happens when you finally step away from the noise long enough to hear your own thoughts again?

In this Season 11 opener of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica — founder, coach, and creator of the No.vember Challenge — returns from a 10-day unplugged retreat in the Colorado mountains with three life-shifting lessons for women navigating divorce, healing, boundaries, and self-leadership.

These are the truths that help you choose yourself, protect your energy, and walk away from anything that no longer supports your growth.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• You are always in charge of your own experience — even when life feels chaotic.

• Protect someone else’s joy without abandoning your own needs.

• Honor your energy by stepping back without guilt or over-explaining.

• Leaving misaligned rooms is one of the most loving acts of self-respect.

• Boundaries are about your actions, not someone else’s behavior.

• Saying “no” creates the space for your “hell yes” life.

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Feeling like you’re always one ping away from burnout?
In this solo season finale of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, I’m getting real about what it takes to find calm after divorce — when you’re juggling solo parenting, solopreneurship, and the endless to-do list.

What happens when your to-do list never ends, your phone never stops pinging, and you’re the only one keeping everything together? As I prepared for a week unplugged in the mountains, I opened up about the spiral of control, anxiety, and exhaustion that so many women face — and how learning to let go became the key to freedom.

🔑 What You’ll Learn

• How to stop letting conditions you can’t control dictate your mood and energy
• Why multitasking is a myth that drains your focus and joy
• Simple tech detox strategies to reclaim presence (and sanity)
• The “one thing” method to stay grounded when life feels impossible
• Why burnout recovery starts with permission — to rest, to say no, and to let go

🎧 Tune in to hear how I turned chaos into clarity, and how you can start doing less to create more peace, presence, and purpose in your day.

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When divorce, infidelity, and “just one more drink” collide — the journey back to yourself begins.

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, host [Your Name] sits down with Jeannette Levitt, mom of four, divorce survivor, and alcohol freedom coach, to explore how she turned pain into purpose — and found freedom beyond the bottle.

Jeannette opens up about how casual social drinking became a coping mechanism, why infidelity shattered her sense of self, and what it really takes to rebuild life after heartbreak. Together, they unpack the gray area of drinking, the healing power of awareness, and how self-compassion can lead to lasting change.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• Why emotional affairs can wound as deeply as physical ones

• The hidden gray area of alcohol use — and why you don’t need rock bottom to change

• How co-parenting can become collaborative through healing

• Ways to stop numbing and start feeling again

What if true healing after divorce didn’t come from therapy — but from finally being heard?

After divorce, you don’t always need therapy — you need to be heard. Erin Snow joins The Crazy Ex-Wives Club to reveal how listening can heal your heart.

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, I sit down with Erin Snow, founder of Seacoast Listening Lounge, to explore how listening — not advice — can become the most powerful healing tool after heartbreak.

After 17 years in divorce law, Erin realized what most women needed wasn’t more guidance or judgment — it was a safe space to speak, vent, and breathe again. We dive deep into why we bottle up pain, how silence keeps us stuck, and how her unique Verbal Smash Sessions help women release emotions in healthy, powerful ways.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• Why feeling heard matters more than being “fixed”

• The real difference between therapy and intentional listening

• How to release anger safely (yes, even with a sledgehammer)

• Ways to let go of judgment and reclaim your voice

• The healing power of being witnessed — not advised

  
  

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What if a good divorce really is possible? 💔 In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, host [Your Name] sits down with Sarah Armstrong, author of The Mom’s Guide to a Good Divorce and The Art of the Juggling Act, to unpack how to navigate co-parenting, emotional healing, and fresh beginnings after divorce.

Sarah shares how she turned heartbreak into healing and redefined what it means to have a “good divorce” — one rooted in respect, co-parenting, and emotional freedom. Together, they explore how to rebuild life after divorce while protecting your peace (and your kids’ hearts).

If you’ve ever wondered whether a respectful, peaceful divorce is possible, this conversation will show you how.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

You’ll learn how to:

• Redefine what a good divorce looks like — and why it matters more than “winning.”

• Co-parent peacefully without sacrificing your boundaries or sanity.

• Transform heartbreak into healing and self-confidence.

• Take the high road and protect your peace during conflict.

• Rebuild emotional, financial, and practical independence.

• Foster resilience and stability in your kids post-divorce.

Whether you’re still in the storm or standing in the calm after it, this episode reminds you that healing, happiness, and harmony are possible — even after everything falls apart.

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You don’t have to wait years to heal after divorce or wonder when you’ll finally feel like yourself again.

In this episode, Erica shares the real shift that helped her move from heartbreak to high frequency – and finally feel free.

If you’ve ever wondered how to find yourself again after divorce, this one’s for you.

When you come home from a trip and suddenly feel… flat, like the sparkle you had on vacation vanished overnight, it’s not about the place. It’s about your frequency.

Here’s how to hold onto that energy, raise your vibration, and reclaim the version of you who feels alive again, no matter what life after divorce looks like.

When the music fades and the reality of your new normal sets in, it’s easy to slip back into old habits, fears, and stories that keep you small. But your healing? It’s not waiting on time. It’s waiting on you.

In this solo episode, Erica shares the Nashville story that sparked a transformation – from self-doubt to self-expression – and how one $38 hat became a symbol for confidence, authenticity, and joy after divorce.

Key Themes & Takeaways
🔑 Shift out of “what will people think” mode and start living unapologetically
🔑 Why raising your frequency matters more than time or effort
🔑 How to rediscover the radiant, confident version of you that’s been waiting
🔑 The mindset that helps you stop shrinking and start shining
🔑 Why authenticity, not perfection, is your true power

Because healing after divorce isn’t about pretending it’s all okay — it’s about remembering who you are when you finally stop asking for permission to be her.

Episode Timestamps
⏱️ 00:00 Intro
⏱️ 00:48 The Nashville story that changed everything
⏱️ 02:15 What “frequency” really means in healing
⏱️ 04:40 How to find the version of you five years ahead
⏱️ 07:10 The story behind the $38 hat
⏱️ 10:00 When self-doubt starts creeping back in
⏱️ 12:15 How to shift your energy after divorce
⏱️ 14:00 Authentic healing vs. faking it till you make it
⏱️ 16:00 The mindset that raises your vibration
⏱️ 18:00 Challenging old stories that keep you small
⏱️ 20:00 Why your environment affects your frequency
⏱️ 21:30 Choosing people who help you rise
⏱️ 23:00 Becoming the woman on the other side of divorce
⏱️ 24:00 Final reflection: It’s safe to shine again

🌟 Resources & Links 🌟

Want to go deeper?

Reclaiming Me is the signature program inside The Club, a guided experience to help you find your frequency, rebuild your confidence, and rise into the next chapter of your life.

Learn more and join the community: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub 

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Break the Pattern. Take Back Your Power.

If you’ve ever looked at your life and thought, “I did everything right — so why am I still unhappy?” — this episode is for you.

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, I sit down with Sherry from Soft Power Project to explore how cultural expectations, people-pleasing, and emotional detachment shaped her marriage and divorce — and how she found the courage to reclaim her power and rewrite her life on her own terms.

Whether you’re navigating a custody battle, wrestling with cultural expectations, or simply figuring out who you are after divorce, Sherry’s story reminds us that disruption, discomfort, and reinvention can become the foundation of your freedom.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

Do your relationships keep triggering old wounds? In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wife’s Club, therapist Melissa Lapides breaks down how anxious and avoidant attachment styles show up after divorce—and how to finally heal them.

Whether you’re newly divorced, co-parenting, or opening your heart to love again, this conversation will help you stop repeating painful patterns and reclaim your emotional power.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• What attachment wounds are and how they form in childhood
• How anxious and avoidant attachment styles show up in love and divorce
• Why sitting with emotions leads to deeper healing
• Practical tools to separate real needs from emotional triggers
• How to stop letting old wounds bleed into new relationships

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• Instagram: @getsecurelyattached

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What really happens when a marriage begins to fall apart? In this episode, Dr. Becky Whetstone—author of I Think I Want Out—reveals the 5 predictable stages of a marriage crisis and how to know if you should stay, or move on with clarity.

Whether you’re unhappily married, newly separated, or years post-divorce, this conversation offers validation, strategy, and hope.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• The 5 stages of marriage decline (and how to spot them)

• The roles of the “decider” vs. the “leaning in partner”

• Why calming your nervous system is step one in a crisis

• Practical tools for separation, co-parenting, and resilience

Co-parenting after divorce is tough—and it gets even harder when a new partner enters the picture. Do you collaborate with your ex’s new partner, or set firm boundaries?

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, I share real stories from both sides—navigating life with a stepparent as a parent, and stepping into the role of stepparent myself. You’ll hear the honest truths about blended families, boundaries, and how to protect your kids’ wellbeing while choosing peace over drama.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• The biggest risks (and benefits) of working with your ex’s new partner

• Why clear intentions and boundaries matter more than ever

• How to handle the “two vs. one” power dynamic

• Tools to manage triggers and choose peace over drama

• Why blended families are the new norm—and how to make them work

Remember: at the end of the day, it’s not about winning against your ex or their partner—it’s about what’s best for the kids.

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What if the way you talk to yourself about your body is doing more damage than the food on your plate? In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, we dive into body image recovery after divorce, emotional eating, and the journey to self-love with guest Marla Mervis-Hartmann — coach, author, and body image expert.

Together, Erica and Marla unpack what it really means to love your body at every season of life, why willpower isn’t the answer, and how to rewire negative self-talk that keeps you stuck.

From breaking the cycle of emotional eating to finding compassion in the mirror, you’ll walk away with both mindset shifts and practical strategies to rebuild confidence, create food freedom, and actually enjoy the skin you’re in.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• Why body image struggles aren’t solved by weight loss alone
• The link between emotional eating and unprocessed feelings
• How “the rebel” archetype shows up in food habits
• The power of self-talk—and why shame never leads to lasting change
• Ways to model a healthier body relationship for your kids
• Small daily practices to shift from control and restriction to trust and love

⏱️ Episode Timestamps

• 🌟 TEDx Talk: The Secret Ingredient to Feeling Good in Your Body

• 🌟 Free Course: Breaking the Cycle of Emotional Eating

• 🌟 Facebook: Love Your Body Love Yourself | Marla Mervis

• 🌟 Instagram: @loveyourbodyloveyourselfalways

• 🌟 Website: loveyourbodyloveyourself.com

• 🌟 YouTube: Marla Mervis

• 🌟 Book: BE-Friend Yourself on Amazon | Book Website

  
  

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• 🌟 Facebook: The Crazy Ex-Wives Club

• 🌟 Website: thecrazyexwivesclub.com

What if the pain you’ve been carrying after divorce isn’t just “in your head”… but living in your body? In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with Loni Markman, a neuro-somatic life coach, to explore how somatic healing helps release divorce trauma and rebuild core confidence.

Together, they unpack the difference between “Big T” and “little t” trauma, how hidden experiences shape our behaviors long after divorce, and why creating safety in your own body is the foundation for moving forward.

From breathwork and EFT tapping to progressive muscle relaxation and daily “miracle minutes,” you’ll walk away with practical tools you can use immediately to calm anxiety, regulate your nervous system, and start reclaiming your confidence.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• The difference between “Big T” trauma and the smaller, stackable experiences that add up over time

• How trauma shows up in relationships long after the divorce is final

• Why creating safety in your body is the first step toward healing

• Tools like breathwork, EFT tapping, and progressive muscle relaxation to calm your system

• The importance of noticing “glimmers” (moments of joy) as much as “triggers”

• How self-abandonment chips away at confidence—and how to repair it

⏱️ Episode Timestamps

• 00:00 Introduction

• 02:17 Big T vs. Little T Trauma

• 04:56 Personal Experiences and EMDR

• 08:25 Self-Listening and Safety

• 17:32 Small Steps to Reprogramming

• 23:14 Overcoming Despair & Finding Wins

• 31:44 Tools for Emotional Regulation

• 32:13 Breathing Techniques for Calmness

• 36:16 EFT Tapping & Muscle Relaxation

• 40:47 Building a Supportive Community

Healing after betrayal and navigating divorce recovery isn’t just about leaving a marriage — it’s about rebuilding yourself from the inside out, learning to co-parent with grace, and discovering that you’re stronger than you ever imagined.

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, I sit down with Kristin, host of Let’s Grow Through It, to talk about her raw and powerful journey through infidelity, divorce, and ultimately, self-love. From the devastating discovery of her husband’s affair, to finding her footing as a single mom, to embracing forgiveness (yes — even with “the other woman”), Kristin shares what it really looks like to turn heartbreak into healing.

Together, we unpack the messy reality of divorce, the importance of doing the inner work, and how creating her “divorce bucket list” became the first step toward transformation.

Whether you’re in the thick of betrayal, navigating custody and co-parenting, or trying to rediscover who you are beyond your marriage, this conversation is filled with hope, hard truths, and a reminder that your comeback story is waiting to be written.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• How to survive the shock of infidelity and betrayal

• The power of a “divorce bucket list” in reclaiming your identity

• Co-parenting with an ex (and even facing the “other woman”)

• The inner work that helps you regulate emotions and move forward

• Instagram: @thecrazyexwivesclub

• Website: thecrazyexwivesclub.com

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Starting over after divorce isn’t just about signing papers, it’s about surviving the emotional whiplash, reclaiming your identity, and eventually thriving in your new normal. In this season finale of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, I break down the 3 phases of divorce and why the process makes even the strongest women feel like they’re “going crazy.”

From the heartbreaking “Do I stay or go?” stage, to rediscovering who you are outside of marriage, to finally thriving in your new normal, I walk you through what each phase looks like, and how to navigate them without losing yourself. I also share the raw truth about emotional overload, identity collapse, and why triggers like being called “crazy” can cut so deep.

Whether you’re still in the decision phase, knee-deep in separation, or figuring out co-parenting, this episode is packed with insights, encouragement, and a reminder that you’re not alone in this journey.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• The 3 phases of divorce: Stay/Go, Rebuilding, Thriving

• Why divorce makes you feel “crazy” (emotional whiplash explained)

• How to know when you’re really ready to move on

• Identity collapse and rediscovering who you are

• Coping strategies to protect your energy, boundaries, and sanity

We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction

• 01:29 The Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce

• 03:34 The Three Phases of Divorce

• 26:45 Setting Boundaries Before Dating

• 29:09 Deciding to Stay or Go

• 30:06 Finding Your Way Forward Quiz

• 31:12 Why Divorce Feels Crazy

• 35:30 Emotional Whiplash and Identity Collapse

• 38:16 Gaslighting and Self-Doubt

• 41:06 Cognitive Overload and Isolation

• 48:20 Rebuilding and Moving Forward

The Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. 

There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce.

Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub

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Starting over after divorce isn’t just about surviving — it’s about thriving. In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with Olivia Howell, co-founder of the Fresh Starts Registry, to talk about rebuilding after divorce, emotional healing, and creating a fresh start you actually love.

We cover what it takes to move forward after leaving, how to navigate co-parenting with confidence, and why downsizing your home can be the smartest decision you make.

Olivia shares her own story of starting over as a single mom, offering actionable tips for regaining confidence, overcoming shame, and creating a home that feels safe and supportive — even on a budget.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• How to start over after divorce without losing yourself
• Why rebuilding your home and environment matters for emotional healing
• Co-parenting advice that actually works
• The truth about divorce recovery and shame
• How the Fresh Starts Registry is helping women across the country rebuild their lives

Whether you’re in the early stages of separation or ready to move forward, this conversation will leave you feeling seen, supported, and inspired to take action.

🎙️ We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 01:54 Olivia's Marriage Journey
• 03:06 Career Shift and Social Media Agency
• 04:12 Emotional and Psychological Struggles
• 05:10 Therapy and Realizations
• 08:05 Separation and Fresh Starts Registry Idea
• 10:19 Building Fresh Starts Registry
• 11:13 Registry Launch and Impact
• 14:07 Personal Experiences with Divorce and Downsizing
• 21:33 Moving Back Home: A New Beginning
• 22:54 Embracing Multi-Generational Living
• 24:02 Navigating Divorce and Personal Growth
• 26:29 Launching a Supportive Community
• 28:34 Personal Stories and Support Systems
• 32:15 Empowering Women Through Divorce Education
• 38:21 Final Thoughts and Resources

❤️‍🩹 Join The Club:
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Join today → thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub

Connect with Olivia Howell:

Olivia Howell is an award-winning podcast producer, author, and the co-founder and CEO of Fresh Starts Registry—the world’s first divorce registry and leading divorce support platform. A certified life coach, clinical hypnotherapist, and marketing expert, Olivia brings a unique blend of emotional insight and strategic expertise to everything she creates.

She is the producer and co-host of three top-ranked podcasts: A Fresh Story, Divorce Happens, and How Does She Do It All?, which together reach thousands of listeners navigating life transitions. Olivia is also the author of two impactful divorce guidebooks: Your Divorce Support Team: 250+ Questions to Help You Build Your Divorce Support Team and What to Consider When You’re Considering Divorce: A Practical Guide to Navigating the First Steps Moving Forward. Her writing offers clear, compassionate guidance for anyone at thebeginning of their divorce journey.

Olivia’s work has been featured in Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and more. She is passionate about reshaping the divorce narrative—framing it not as a failure, but as a courageous and empowered new beginning.

Website | freshstartsregistry.com
Instagram | @freshstartsregistry
Facebook | Fresh Starts Registry
TikTok | @freshstartsregistry
YouTube | Fresh Starts Registry

📚 What to Consider When You’re Considering Divorce → Get the book
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Feel like you're co-parenting with a stranger? You’re not alone—and this episode is your lifeline back to clarity, connection, and choice.

In this deeply validating conversation, licensed therapist Emily Zeller joins Erica to unpack the “roommate phase” of marriage—when love fades, resentment simmers, and the passion feels long gone.

Together, they explore what it means to feel emotionally disconnected, how to identify this slow breakdown before it becomes irreversible, and most importantly—what to do about it.

Whether you’re wondering if it’s time for couples therapy or already Googling divorce attorneys in the middle of the night, this episode offers the tools, truths, and tough love to help you move from stuck to self-honoring.

You’ll walk away with the language to name what’s really going on and the reminder that you’re allowed to choose you—no matter how long it’s been.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• What the “roommate phase” really means (and how it sneaks up on you)

• Signs your marriage is running on autopilot—and how to interrupt the pattern

• Why resentment builds in silence, and how to name disconnection without blame

• Practical tips to reconnect, reestablish intimacy, or make a conscious exit

• The importance of doing your own emotional inventory first

• Why couples wait too long for therapy—and what to do instead

• The difference between temporary disconnection and long-term misalignment

• What to do if your partner doesn’t think there’s a problem

• How to stop outsourcing your happiness and rediscover yourself again

  
  

#RoommatePhase #MarriageAdvice #RelationshipBurnout #CouplesTherapy #DivorceSupport #CrazyExWifesClub #EmilyZeller #WomensEmpowerment #HealingFromResentment #MarriageWithoutConnection #SelfRediscovery #EmotionalHealing #ShouldIStayOrGo #ReconnectingInMarriage

We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction

• 02:04 Understanding the Roommate Phase

• 07:23 Steps to Reconnect and Rebuild

• 13:46 Personal Reflections and Overcoming Challenges

• 17:09 Maintaining Individuality in Relationships

• 22:39 Understanding Relationship Dynamics

• 23:09 Addressing Anxiety and Vulnerability

• 24:06 Building Trust and Communication

• 24:26 Dealing with Past Wounds

• 28:49 Navigating the Roommate Phase

• 31:45 Self-Reflection and Personal Growth

• 36:47 Appreciation and Gratitude

• 39:03 Conclusion and Resources

  
  

The Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. 

There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce.

Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub

Learn More About This Week’s Guest: Emily Zeller

Emily Zeller is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over a decade of experience helping moms navigate anxiety, supporting disconnected couples, and guiding families toward healing.

Emily is intensively trained in Child-Parent Psychotherapy (CPP), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and is a certified Enneagram consultant.

She is the founder of Zeller & Co. Therapy, a modern virtual practice known for its thoughtful, evidence-based approach to therapy intensives and individualized care. Emily’s mission is to help her clients feel more connected—to themselves, their loved ones, and the life they’re creating.

Connect with Emily

• Website: www.zellertherapy.com 

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/iamemilyzeller 

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/zellerandcotherapy

• Download Emily’s Free Guide to understanding your personality

  
  

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Feeling stuck in indecision? Fear might be running the show and in this episode you will learn practical tips to become less fearful.In this solo episode, Erica cracks open the truth about fear—the “other F word” quietly keeping you anxious, overthinking, and frozen in place.

What was once a private self-development program now comes to life on the pod, packed with practical tools and perspective shifts to help you break the cycle.

From untangling nervous system overload to exposing the sneaky ways fear masquerades as anger, control, or “playing it safe,” this episode is your roadmap to reclaiming clarity.

Whether you’re navigating a divorce, unsure of your next move, or just exhausted from decision fatigue, Erica gives you permission to breathe, recalibrate, and choose you.

So if fear’s been whispering lies on loop—this one’s your wake-up call.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• Why fear isn’t just an emotion—it’s a body-wide hijack (and how to calm it)

• The difference between fear-based thoughts and reality-based ones

• How the reptilian brain keeps you stuck (and what your breath has to do with it)

• Understanding fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—your nervous system’s protective patterns

• What future-tripping is and how to stop catastrophizing

• Why control is an illusion—and how surrender creates safety

• Daily practices to reset your nervous system (in under 60 seconds)

• A love note to every woman questioning her worth, her voice, and her next step

  
  

#OvercomingFear #EmotionalHealing #DivorceSupport #CrazyExWifesClub #SelfDevelopment #FightFlightFreeze #NervousSystemRegulation #StopOverthinking #WomensEmpowerment #FearRecovery

We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction

• 01:47 Understanding Fear: The Other F Word

• 03:34 Fear's Impact on Decision Making

• 10:20 Fear's Physical and Mental Effects

• 16:47 The Evolution of Our Brain and Fear

• 24:16 The Nervous System and Fear Responses

• 25:47 Understanding the Sympathetic Nervous System

• 27:53 The Consequences of Chronic Stress

• 28:54 Recognizing the Signs of Sympathetic Activation

• 31:46 Steps to Overcome Fear and Anxiety

• 32:52 Calming Your Nervous System

• 36:25 Ignoring the Fear Monster

• 38:49 Using Breath to Stimulate Calmness

• 40:01 Staying Present and Avoiding Future Tripping

• 42:48 Reclaiming Control Over Fear

The Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. 

Step in... and Step Up! There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce.

The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. 

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Felt the gut punch of betrayal? Deb Drummond did too—and what she discovered will give you goosebumps.

In this deeply personal episode, I sit down with Mission Accepted Media founder Deb Drummond to share the moment a whisper at 4 a.m. cracked open the truth about her marriage. What followed was a crash course in self-trust, healing from narcissistic abuse, and rebuilding life after uncovering infidelity.

Together, we dive into the rollercoaster of emotional collapse, crippling anxiety, the myth of the perfect family, and the unexpected ways our bodies store trauma. From realizing your relationship wasn’t what you thought, to finding unexpected peace through solo travel and movie dates, Deb’s story is equal parts heartbreaking and liberating.

If you’ve ever questioned your reality, doubted your strength, or felt ashamed for not seeing the signs—this one’s for you.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• The moment that whispers louder than logic—learning to trust your inner voice

• How high-functioning partners can still hide deep betrayal

• Why ignoring the “little signs” often delays necessary endings

• The emotional and physical toll of living in a relationship misaligned with truth

• What narcissistic traits look like behind closed doors (and why it’s so hard to spot)

We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction

• 02:00 Deb's Marriage: The Dream and the Reality

• 04:06 The Turning Point: Discovering the Betrayal

• 07:18 Coping with the Aftermath: Emotional and Physical Impact

• 12:14 Healing and Moving Forward: Tools and Techniques

• 16:07 The Long Road to Recovery: Personal Reflections

• 19:55 Uncoupling and Rebuilding: Final Thoughts

• 21:33 Navigating Firsts After Divorce

• 23:19 Finding Yourself Through Travel

• 25:08 Debunking Divorce Myths

• 26:42 Emotional Challenges and Healing

• 28:38 Practical Tips for Moving Forward

• 34:48 Building a Support System

• 37:05 Redefining Holidays Post-Divorce

• 39:47 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

The Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. 

Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. 

Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub

Learn More About This Week’s Guest: Deb Drummond

Deb is a trailblazing entrepreneur who has built seven international companies and inspired thousands worldwide. As the founder of the Show Up Stand Up Speak Up, Yes You! movement—broadcast to over 350 million viewers—she champions women's voices through her own televised women’s channel. With three decades in Top Performance, Deb is a renowned speaker, coach, and mastermind trainer who has worked with over 30,000 clients and moved audiences of 20,000 to their feet. She hosts the Mission Accepted podcast, interviewing entrepreneurs and creatives who share their paths to success, and leads Mission Accepted Media, producing anthologies and business books. Deb also created the Top Performance Day Planner and Tracker.

Connect with Deb

• Website: www.debdrummond.com

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/DebDrummond/

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborahldrummond/

• Instagram: https://instagram.com/deborahldrummond

• Instagram: https://instagram.com/debdrummond_official

• Instagram: https://instagram.com/missionaccepted_media

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsnh0BsWjHS1aba4cItw4rw

Looking for More Support? Let’s Connect

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• Free 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min

Still scared of dating again after divorce? You're not alone—and this episode is your roadmap back to self-trust.

In this raw, insightful conversation, host Erica chats with NYC-based relationship and dating coach Christina King about why so many women fall back into the same dating traps after leaving toxic marriages. Together, they break down the emotional rollercoaster of reentering the dating world—swiping fatigue, trust issues, self-worth, and that terrifying moment you realize: "Wait... am I repeating old patterns?"

From setting dating app boundaries to manifesting your ideal partner (without falling for another walking red flag), this episode is packed with real talk and real tools for rediscovering what you actually want in love.

If you've ever doubted your gut, lost your confidence, or dated someone just because they gave you butterflies—this one’s for you.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• What keeps divorced women stuck in toxic dating patterns

• Why trusting yourself again is your dating superpower

• The confidence gap (and how to close it)

• The biggest mistakes women make on dating apps

• Manifestation, self-worth, and writing your "Perfect Partner" list

• Red flags vs. yellow flags—and when to walk away

• How to build the relationship you actually want

  
  

🎁 Grab Christina’s free “Perfect Partner Playbook”: ​https://www.deepdiveintolove.com/the-playbook

We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction

• 02:33 Christina's Divorce Journey and Coaching Career

• 05:01 Challenges of Dating After Divorce

• 06:55 Rebuilding Trust and Confidence

• 12:48 The Reality of Relationships and Self-Prioritization

• 18:30 Navigating the Modern Dating Scene

• 22:26 Setting Boundaries in Online Dating

• 25:40 The Importance of Intentions and Mindset

• 27:18 Learning from Past Relationships

• 31:45 Navigating Compatibility and Red Flags

• 38:16 Manifesting Your Perfect Partner

  
  

The Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. 

Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. 

Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub

Learn More About This Week’s Guest: Christina King

Christina King has been telling stories since she was a young girl, but after becoming a certified coach and going through her own divorce in 2023, she discovered her true purpose: helping women heal and date with clarity after heartbreak. Having personally experienced toxic relationships and the chaos of modern dating—ghosting, breadcrumbing, situationships—she deeply understands how overwhelming it can feel to start over. Today, Christina empowers women to rebuild their confidence, trust themselves again, and attract aligned, healthy love by breaking free from old patterns.

Connect with Christina

• Website: www.deepdiveintothesoul.com

• Instagram: https://instagram.com/christinakingthecoach

• Facebook: https://facebook.com/christinakingthecoach 

  
  

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Think keeping the house after divorce is the “win”? It might be your biggest regret.

In this heartfelt and practical episode, Erica sits down with Certified Divorce Lending Professional and mortgage expert Tami Wollensak to talk about one of the most emotional—and financially risky—parts of divorce: the house.

Together, they peel back the layers of what it really costs (emotionally and financially) to keep the home after separation. From navigating outdated settlement agreements to understanding the silent expenses of solo homeownership, Tami shares the critical questions every divorcing woman needs to ask before making a decision that could drain her energy and her bank account.

If you’ve ever cried into a mortgage calculator, wondered whether to sell or stay, or felt paralyzed by guilt, stigma, or confusion—this conversation is your permission slip to breathe, reflect, and decide with confidence.

Because keeping the house shouldn't cost you your peace.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• More Than a Mortgage: Why your decision about the house is emotional and business

• Buyouts, Assumptions, and Red Flags: What you need to know about equity, timing, and hidden costs

• House Poor ≠ Empowered: How to avoid the “won the house, lost everything else” trap

• The Power of a Pause: Why renting might be your best next move—and how to feel good about it

• The Mom Guilt Spiral: How to break free from people-pleasing and start making values-aligned choices

• New Nest, New Chapter: Helping your kids (and yourself) feel safe, excited, and emotionally supported in a new home

  
  

Use code CEW50 for 50% off Tami’s ebook: https://tami.samcart.com/products/divorcing-with-a-home 

We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction 

• 01:12 Understanding Divorce Mortgage Specialization

• 05:24 Emotional and Financial Aspects of Keeping the House

• 08:32 Personal Experiences and Reflections

• 14:17 Children's Perspective and Moving Forward

• 18:48 The Big Move: Emotions and Adjustments

• 18:59 Emotional Pre-Work: Preparing for Change

• 20:03 The Importance of Alignment in Decision Making

• 21:34 Navigating the Emotional Rollercoaster

• 24:28 Financial Realities and Tough Decisions

• 30:57 Understanding Mortgage Assumptions

• 35:03 Final Thoughts and Resources

  
  

The Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. 

Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. 

Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub

Learn More About This Week’s Guest: Tami Wollensak

When divorce and real estate collide, Tami Wollensak brings clarity. As a nationally licensed mortgage loan originator and Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP®), Tami helps divorcing individuals make smart, stable home and mortgage decisions. With 30+ years of industry experience, she bridges the gap between family law and lending—ensuring settlement agreements align with real-world mortgage guidelines.

She partners with attorneys, mediators, and financial pros to protect her clients’ futures—whether keeping the home or starting fresh. A trusted voice in the field, Tami speaks across media, podcasts, and events, empowering homeowners with options, not overwhelm. Serving all 50 states.

Connect with Tami

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tami_wollensak/ 

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/empowereduncoupling 

• YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/@empowereduncoupling 

• Website: www.takeorleavethehouse.com 

Is your child showing the same frustrating behaviors that once ended your marriage? You’re not alone—and no, you're not a bad mom for being triggered by it.

In this powerful solo episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, host Erica breaks down the emotional chaos that can happen when your child starts to mirror your ex—especially the toxic traits that contributed to your divorce.

🧠 Learn how to:

• Recognize nervous system triggers (and why your body reacts this way)

• Break generational patterns without blaming your child

• Respond with calm instead of control

• • Rewire your own responses and support your child in developing healthier behaviors

  
  

Whether you’re newly divorced or years out, these tools will help you create a safe space—for you and your child. This is the healing work. The breaking-free work. The “you’re not crazy” kind of work.

👇 Submit your questions for future episodes or join The Club—a private community for women navigating divorce, parenting, and personal growth:

#ParentingAfterDivorce #TriggeredByYourChild #HealingFromToxicRelationships #CoParentingSupport #EmotionalTriggers #DivorcedMoms #ToxicEx #GenerationalTrauma #DivorceHealingJourney #CrazyExWivesClub

We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction 

• 01:27 Understanding the Child's Behavior

• 02:42 Parental Reactions and Triggers

• 08:29 Coping Mechanisms and Self-Regulation

• 12:07 Helping Your Child Through Emotional Challenges

• 15:11 Join the Crazy Ex-Wives Club

• • 16:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

  
  

The Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. 

There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. 

Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub

Looking for More Support? Let’s Connect

• Instagram: https://instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub 

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclub

• Website: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com 

• Contact: info@ericabennett.com

• Free 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min

Still think divorce is just emotional? Think again—your finances are on the line. In this eye-opening episode, Erica sits down with the powerhouse mother-daughter team behind Purse Strings, Dr. Barb Provost and Maggie Nielsen, to break down the critical financial steps women need to take before saying the D-word out loud.

From uncovering hidden accounts to understanding your post-divorce budget, Barb and Maggie are on a mission to help women stop getting left behind when it comes to money. They share personal stories, expert-backed tools, and the exact steps to feel secure, smart, and financially empowered—no matter where you are in the divorce process.

If you're feeling overwhelmed by bank accounts, budgets, or just the sheer emotional toll of separation, this episode will help you find calm in the chaos—and maybe even a few dollars you didn’t know you had.

Because financial freedom is the ultimate closure.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• Where’s the Money Really Going? – How to track your finances before, during, and after divorce

• Don't Rush the Process – Why emotional decisions lead to expensive mistakes

• The Professionals You Actually Need – What CDFA and divorce lending specialists do that your lawyer can’t

  
  

💌 P.S. Want Erica to cover your most pressing divorce question this season? DM her on Instagram or send a topic request through the website. This show is for you—and she’s all ears.

Divorce Download: https://pursestrings.co/divorce-check-list/

We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction 

• 01:40 The Importance of Financial Literacy for Women

• 04:25 Practical Tips for Unhappily Married Women

• 08:01 Navigating Finances During the Divorce Process

• 08:14 Specialized Financial Professionals for Divorce

• 14:50 Creating a Post-Divorce Budget

• 19:11 Emergency Funds and Unexpected Expenses

• 21:09 The Townhouse Flood Crisis

• 21:43 The Importance of an Emergency Fund

• 22:01 Renting vs. Homeownership

• 22:56 Downsizing and Adjusting Expectations

• 23:43 The Financial Realities of Homeownership

• 26:28 Living Below Your Means

• 28:27 The Impact of Rushing Through Divorce

• 30:19 Avoiding the Win-Lose Mentality in Divorce

• 36:23 Final Thoughts and Resources

  
  

The Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. 

Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit.

Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub

Learn More About This Week’s Guest: Dr. Barbara Provost and Maggie Nielsen

Dr. Barbara Provost and Maggie Nielsen are a dynamic mother-daughter duo committed to empowering women with the tools they need to make confident financial decisions. As a consultant, educator, and entrepreneur, Barbara connects women with trusted financial professionals to help them plan for a future full of choices. Maggie, with her curious mindset and passion for personal growth, inspires others through motivational talks and equips women with the financial knowledge they need to thrive. Together, they are dedicated to helping women build lives free from financial stress thanks to the support of their community of trusted professionals.

Connect with Dr. Provost and Maggie

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pursestringsco/ 

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pursestringsco 

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@pursestringsco

• YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCusras98haVpJ-P4C4d4IXw 

• Website: www.pursestrings.co 

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• Free 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min

What if leaving was the bravest thing you could do—even when you were the one who broke the vow? In this raw and tender episode, Erica sits down with Rachel, who vulnerably shares her story—not as the betrayed, but as the one who had the affair.

With honesty and deep reflection, Rachel opens up about what it’s like to be the partner who chooses to end the marriage, even when the door to reconciliation is still open. Together, they explore the complex emotional terrain of guilt, grief, and the often invisible work of self-forgiveness.

This episode is a powerful reminder that sometimes, walking away isn’t about giving up—it’s about choosing truth, healing, and a more honest life for everyone involved. If you’ve ever struggled with shame over your own choices—or felt like your story didn’t fit the “right” narrative—this one’s for you.

You are still worthy. You are still whole. And you are not alone.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• The Infidelity Perspective – What really leads someone to cheat—and why shame isn’t the full story.

• The Ego vs. The Whisper – How to discern the fearful mind from soul-level truth when deciding to stay or go.

• Navigating Guilt & Shame – Why guilt can guide and shame can paralyze—and how to move through both with grace.

• Self-Forgiveness After Divorce – Rachael’s journey to forgiving herself and facing the heartbreak she caused (and felt).

• Post-Affair Co-Parenting – How to build a respectful, connected relationship with your ex—and model emotional growth for your kids.

• Gratitude After Grief – The surprising power of appreciation when you’re rebuilding your life from rock bottom.

  
  

💌 P.S. Got a story that flips the script on divorce? Erica wants to hear from you. Submit your experience at thecrazyexwivesclub.com and you could be featured on an upcoming episode. Healing loves company—and your truth might be someone else’s lifeline.

We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction 

• 01:24 Rachael's Perspective on Infidelity

• 04:13 The Emotional Struggle and Decision to Leave

• 07:15 Navigating Guilt and Shame

• 14:11 Healing and Co-Parenting

• 18:36 Understanding Emotional Triggers

• 19:38 Parenting Through Divorce

• 21:52 Blending Families and New Dynamics

• 23:32 Navigating Emotional Reactions

• 28:51 The Power of Gratitude

• 32:09 Embracing Change and Moving Forward

• 36:16 Support and Community

  
  

The Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. 

Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. 

Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub

Looking for More Support? Let’s Connect

• Instagram: https://instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub 

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclub

• Website: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com 

• Contact: info@ericabennett.com

• Free 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min

Still think healing has to be hard, heavy, and emotionally exhausting? Not with this guest. In this paradigm-shifting episode, Erica sits down with speaker, author, and reinvention strategist Riana Malia to uncover the unconscious patterns keeping high-achieving women stuck—and how to finally break free.

Riana shares her personal journey from a peaceful-looking divorce turned emotional battlefield, to finding true love (and handcuffs—yep, she tells that story too). Together, they explore how trauma lives in the body, why therapy isn’t always enough, and what it really takes to rewire your beliefs and rebuild your life from the inside out.

Because you’re not broken. You’re just overdue for a new operating system.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• The Pattern Problem – Why we repeat what we don’t repair—and how your unconscious mind is actually calling the shots.

• The Clear to Create™ Method – How to shift from survival mode to soulful creation by releasing emotional residue at the root.

• Quantum Time Release – A powerful healing tool that clears trauma without reliving it, so you can move forward without dragging the past.

• Rebuilding Self-Trust – Why even smart, successful women lose trust in themselves after divorce—and how to rebuild it with intention.

• Your Frequency is Your Future – The role of vibration, nervous system regulation, and tiny daily shifts in attracting love, peace, and clarity.

💌 P.S. Want Erica to cover your most pressing divorce question this season? DM her on Instagram or send a topic request through the website. This show is for you—and she’s all ears.

We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction 

• 07:39 The Power of the Unconscious Mind

• 09:20 Clearing to Create: Methodology Explained

• 16:22 Quantum Time Release and Emotional Healing

• 20:34 Connecting with Past Emotions

• 21:12 Becoming a Magnet for Miracles

• 22:26 Understanding Frequency and Vibration

• 24:01 The Importance of Small Steps

• 26:31 Climbing the Emotional Ladder

• 28:35 Manifesting Miracles and Opportunities

• 30:32 Practical Exercises for Raising Frequency

• 37:00 Extraordinary Love Index Assessment

• 38:56 Final Thoughts and Next Steps

  
  

The Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. 

Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. 

Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub

Learn More About This Week’s Guest: Riana Malia

Riana Malia is a Speaker, Author, and Reinvention Strategist who helps high-achieving women clear emotional patterns, rewire subconscious beliefs, and step into full-spectrum self-expression. She’s the creator of the Clear to Create™ Method and Quantum Pattern Protocol™, blending neuroscience, quantum healing, and emotional re-patterning to guide women into soul-aligned love and leadership. Her work has been featured in Brilliant Magazine, The Mamahood, and on top podcasts like InspiHER’d and From Betrayal to Breakthrough. Named one of NY Weekly’s “Top 30 Empowering Women Entrepreneurs to Watch in 2025,” Riana leads women to become magnetic to what once felt impossible.

Connect with Riana

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rianamalia/ 

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RianaMalia/ 

• https://quiz.rianamalia.com/ 

  
  

Looking for More Support? Let’s Connect

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• Website: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com 

• Contact: info@ericabennett.com

• Free 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min

Still think being called the "crazy ex-wife" is an insult? Not around here. In this soul-shifting solo episode, host Erica celebrates 2 years, 99 episodes, and the start of Season 9 by reclaiming what “crazy” really means—and how it might just be your emotional superpower.

Erica shares the messy, magical truth about navigating big emotions during divorce, learning how to stop outsourcing your happiness, and why society never taught us what to do with our feelings. Spoiler: screaming on the floor is sometimes part of the process (and she’s not judging).

She gets personal, breaking down the emotional rollercoaster of heartbreak, the grief of letting go, and the empowerment that comes from taking your healing seriously. You’ll also get a sneak peek into what’s coming this season, how you can co-create it with her, and why “The Club” isn’t just a membership—it’s a movement.

Whether you’re sobbing in your car post-drop-off or quietly wondering how you got here, this episode is your reminder that you’re not crazy, you’re just becoming.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• Reclaiming “Crazy” – Why being emotional isn’t wrong—and how to use your feelings as fuel for growth.

• Outgrowing the Old You – Letting go of the identity you had in your marriage to meet who you are now.

• The Power of Emotional Ownership – How taking radical responsibility for your feelings gives you freedom.

• The Divorce Detox – Why healing your nervous system is the secret to clarity, peace, and self-trust.

• Not Your Mama’s Healing Journey – From therapy to astrology, somatics to moon signs, Erica shares what actually helped.

• From Surviving to Thriving – How to stop reacting with pain and start responding with power.

  
  

💌 P.S. Want Erica to cover your most pressing divorce question this season? DM her on Instagram or send a topic request through the website. This show is for you—and she’s all ears.

We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction 

• 01:21 Embracing the Crazy Ex-Wife Identity

• 02:39 Understanding and Managing Emotions

• 04:12 The Journey of Divorce and Healing

• 09:26 Astrology and Self-Discovery

• 12:01 The Power of Community and Support

• 18:18 Call to Action and Future Goals

  
  

The Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. 

Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. 

Grab your spot NOW: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub

Looking for More Support? Let’s Connect

• Instagram: https://instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub 

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclub

• Website: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com 

• Contact: info@ericabennett.com

• Free 15 Minute Consult: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15min

Think estate planning is only for the wealthy or the retired? Think again. If you’re divorced (or about to be), this episode is essential listening.

In this empowering episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, host Erica sits down with estate planning attorney Elizabeth Neyens to unravel the legal, emotional, and practical sides of protecting your assets—and your kids—after divorce.

From updating your will to avoiding accidental inheritance disasters (like your ex managing your child’s money—yikes), this episode clears the fog on what estate planning really is, when you need it, and why waiting can cost you big.

Elizabeth breaks down the difference between wills and trusts, what documents every parent needs in place by age 18, and how to build a plan that puts you in control. Whether you're fresh out of a marriage or simply overdue for an update, this conversation will help you move from overwhelmed to organized.

Because protecting your peace means planning for the things we don’t want to think about—before they become emergencies.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• Why Estate Planning Isn’t Just for the Elderly – How divorce changes your legal responsibilities and what to update ASAP.

• Don’t Let Your Ex Control the Money – What happens if you don’t choose a guardian or custodian for your child’s inheritance.

• Will vs. Trust – Understanding the difference and knowing when a trust might serve you better.

• Legal Docs Every Adult Needs – The 3 documents you should have by the time you (or your kid) turns 18.

• Skip the Online Templates – Why DIY estate planning misses critical protections you won’t know until it’s too late.

  
  

We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction 

• 01:48 Emotional Turmoil of Divorce

• 04:21 Transition from Family Law to Estate Planning

• 06:24 Understanding Estate Planning

• 08:39 Timing and Importance of Estate Planning

• 18:29 Trusts and Their Benefits

• 20:39 Finding the Right Estate Planner

• 22:08 Special Offer and Final Thoughts

  
  

The Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. 

Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. 

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Learn More About This Week’s Guest: Elizabeth Neyens

Elizabeth is the Owner & Attorney at Neyens Law. She has assisted hundreds of families with their estate planning needs. Following a successful sales career, Elizabeth Neyens attended law school to pursue a profession that would provide an opportunity for her to help solve families’ problems during difficult times. Her holistic approach to planning is intended to protect assets and preserve relationships. Elizabeth is known for her warm personality and ability to simplify complex legal concepts.

Elizabeth graduated from William Mitchell College of Law. She currently practices in Oakdale, Minnesota, primarily in the areas of estate planning and probate, which are two areas that involve family transitions, challenging circumstances, thoughtful decisions, and careful planning. Elizabeth aims to be not only a legal advocate, but also a calming influence.

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• YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@neyenslaw 

  
  

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Is your ex impossible to co-parent with? Are they constantly triggering you, refusing to cooperate, and leaving you feeling emotionally drained? You are NOT alone—and this episode is your survival guide.

In this eye-opening episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, host Erica is joined by returning guest and high-conflict divorce coach Victoria McCooey to talk about one of the hardest truths in co-parenting: some exes simply will not change.

Whether you're dealing with a narcissist, a control freak, or just someone who refuses to meet you halfway, this episode helps you shift from frustration to strategy—and reclaim your peace in the process.

Victoria shares her lived experience and expert tools for navigating the emotional rollercoaster of parenting with someone who thrives on chaos. You'll learn how to stop taking the bait, set clear boundaries, and become the steady, secure parent your children can count on.

This conversation is both a lifeline and a pep talk for anyone co-parenting in the deep end. Because while you can’t control your ex… you can control how much of your energy they get.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• They Will Not Change – Why accepting this truth is the first step to taking your power back.

• Don’t Take the Bait – The art of responding without reacting when your ex pushes all your buttons.

• You’re Wired to Fix—But You Don’t Have To – How overachieving “good girls” get trapped in proving their worth post-divorce.

• Your Kids Don’t Need You to Be Perfect – What they really need is your presence, not your perfection.

• Create Boundaries That Protect Your Peace – Tactical tips on when to respond, what to say, and when to say nothing at all.

We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction 

• 01:36 Understanding High Conflict Personalities

• 02:26 Navigating Co-Parenting Challenges

• 04:01 The Conflict Triangle and Parental Roles

• 06:27 Managing Expectations and Emotional Triggers

• 09:57 The Importance of Self-Worth and Approval

• 17:55 Handling Triggers and Taking Back Control

• 22:20 The Fixer Mentality

• 23:02 Prioritizing Self-Care

• 27:52 Handling Ex-Partner Conflicts

• 29:20 Setting Boundaries and Consistency

• 32:13 Emotional Readiness and Control

• 35:12 Reflections and Personal Growth

• 40:24 Concluding Thoughts and Encouragement

The Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. 

Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. 

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Learn More About This Week’s Guest: Victoria McCooey

Victoria McCooey is a High Conflict Divorce Coach, a Divorce Mediator, and the creator of the Reclaim Your Power System™. I help my clients overcome the pain, fear and overwhelm caused by an abusive spouse by helping them escape their victim mentality and opening their minds to the amazing possibilities available.

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• Website: https://www.victoriamccooey.com 

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• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VictoriaMcCooeyCoaching/ 

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• YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/VictoriaMcCooey 

  
  

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Your child says, “I don’t want to go to Dad’s.” Now what? In this heartfelt solo episode, Erica from The Crazy Ex-Wives Club dives deep into one of the most gut-wrenching moments in co-parenting: when your child doesn’t want to go to the other parent’s house.

This isn’t just about logistics. It’s about identity, emotions, safety, and learning to lead with love—especially when it hurts.

Drawing from personal experience and community stories, Erica explores how to hold space for your child’s feelings without letting your own heartbreak steer the ship. You’ll learn how to meet your kid in the muck, reflect their emotions without judgment, and guide them gently through the challenges of living between two homes.

She also unpacks how to separate your own post-divorce wounds from your parenting responses—and why your ability to self-regulate is the secret superpower your child needs most right now.

This episode is your soft place to land and your steady compass when the co-parenting seas get rough. Because it’s not about fixing every feeling—it’s about walking through them, together.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• When Your Kid Doesn’t Want Two Homes – Why it’s normal for children to resist transition, and what’s really going on underneath their tears.

• Regulate Before You Respond – How to calm your own nervous system so you can show up with empathy, not reactivity.

• Co-Parenting Without Comparison – Why your child liking one house “more” isn’t the end of the world—and what to do about it.

• Helping Kids Name Their Feelings – The power of giving language to big emotions so they don’t stay trapped in little bodies.

• Creating Safety in Both Homes – Your role in supporting your child’s adjustment—without micromanaging the other parent.

• The Gift of Resilience – Why living between two homes, while hard, can also help your child grow flexible, strong, and deeply connected.

  
  

We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction: The Emotional Impact of Divorce

• 01:10 Welcome to the Crazy Ex-Wife's Club

• 01:39 A Heartbreaking Post on Threads

• 03:44 Navigating Children's Emotions

• 06:15 The Importance of Both Parents

• 08:30 Practical Tips for Co-Parenting

• 11:53 Personal Experiences and Apologies

• 15:15 The Struggles of Living Between Two Houses

• 20:19 Managing Parental Anxiety

• 23:09 Conclusion and Resources

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Grab your seat today and find your way forward. 

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The Club: A Divorce Community to Help you Get Clear, Get Grounded and Move Forward. 

Psst… Have you heard? There is a new online space for you to get the support and guidance you need on your divorce journey. The Club is your space to heal, grow and get clear on what you want - whether you are unhappily married or taking those first steps through divorce. The Club offers on-demand programs, monthly live connection calls and a quarterly curated healing kit. Everything The Club offers helps you get clear and get confident on what you want in your next chapter. 

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