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Have you ever needed a nap after an argument? Started shaking because you felt misunderstood? Suddenly become obsessed with fixing everything, keeping everyone happy, or getting the hell out of there? 

Congrats, your trauma response was activated. 🥴

In this episode, we’re breaking down fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—what they actually are, why they happen, what they can look like in everyday life. Most importantly, we’re talking about why these responses don’t mean there’s something wrong with you. Your body is communicating—not malfunctioning.

Here's the Breathwork I mentioned, Joe Dispenza's meditations, along with the book Complex PTSD if you really want to go deeper into your childhood healing. ❤️

You are not alone, I love you, always! 

@christie.heals

Hey! It's another week of answering your questions! 

You asked some good ones: 

- How do you let go of hope that your narcissistic parents will change? 

- How do I reach out to my estranged daughter? 

- How are my kids after seeing toxic behavior from my extended family? 

- When / How do you recognize in your body its time to set boundaries? 

- How to deal with angry daughter that keeps grandkids away? 

- Is it normal for your parents to lose interest as you age? 

- Why can't parents show they care about how their child feels? 

- What was the straw that broke your back to no longer tolerate the intolerable? 

- How to start dating after 9 years of a break? 

- What psychadelics have you tried? 

Thank you for taking the poll in my stories, I LOVE answering your questions. More on instagram @christie.heals and you can take my course on manipulation here! 

Hey friends! 

There's nothing wrong with you if choosing yourself turned into a dark void you weren't expecting.

Healing is messy. The old version of you has graduated — but you're stuck in this weird in-between where there's nobody.

I'll tell you my story of what it was like to heal my nervous system after years of codependent and abusive relationships, and why I'm so glad my isolation era happened.

Follow me on instagram and tiktok for more! 

@christie.heals 

( I love you, bye! )

Are we in a video game? Sure - so how do we win? 

DON'T STAY ON LEVEL ONE.

Videos I mentioned: 

• Michio Kaku 
• A Trip to Infinity (Netflix documentary) 

No matter what you're going through, you're doing great! Healing is messy, when the path disappears you're definitlely doing it right. Keep choosing yourself! 

I love you, free resources and funny videos on instagram and tiktok. 

@christie.heals

This week we're diving into two of the most foundational wounds that shape who we become as adults — the mother wound and the father wound. If you've ever wondered why you self-sabotage, why you can't stop seeking approval, why certain relationships keep repeating, or why success feels just out of reach no matter how hard you work — this episode is going to give you some real answers.

This isn't about blaming your parents. It's about understanding what little kid you, didn't get but desperately needed. Awareness is always the first step to freedom.

If this episode hits home, share it with someone who needs to hear it.

Follow along for more healing content at @christie.heals on TikTok and Instagram!

Hey! Here's the video I mentioned in the opening. 

This week I talk about how my brother sent me 2 green balloons and showed me a typo on his headstone - all to prove I was really hearing his voice after he passed. I'll post a photo of all of it on instagram soon. 

Angel number meanings:

000 / 0000: Endless possibilities and a fresh start.

111 / 1111: Manifestation, intuition, and new beginnings.

222 / 2222: Trust, balance, with your purpose.

333 / 3333: Support, creativity, and connection from spirit guides.

444 / 4444: Stability, protection, and being on the right path.

555 / 5555: Major life changes and freedom.

666 / 6666: A need for self-kindness or shifting perspective.

777 / 7777: Good fortune, luck, and spiritual awakening.

888 / 8888: Abundance, success, and financial prosperity.

999 / 9999: Completion, closure, and ending a chapter

I love you all, I'm creating some resources in the coming weeks, so make sure you follow me @christie.heals! 

Oye! In this carpisode, I get lost in my own city. Again. 

I guess I just really like talking to you. 

We discuss why I'm not mad at my parents anymore. Then I unnecesarily risk my life with a wrong turn while passionately telling you to throw those immature letters / emails form your parents AWAY. They're abusive. And Cruel. 

I also touch on my parenting style and how I would react if one day my kids wanted to go no contact. 

Next week I'll tell you how I talk to my dear, dead brother. 

No matter what you're going through, just know you're never alone. You are so divinely protected, and you're exactly where you need to be. 

I love you, bye!

@Christie.heals

Hey, you. How are ya? 

Sometimes we have to let go of the fantasy that people can change. Often, we're projecting our own goodness onto somoene who isn't ready to self-reflect. That's a one way ticket to hurt/crazyville. 

Here's some stuff I mentioned: 

• The Map of Consciousness Explained (Book)
• Breathe by Sandy (on Youtube) 

I love you, you're doing great - BYE

We're in the car today. We'll call it a "caprisode". 🚗 This time change is for the birds, why do we still do this? 

I talked about shadow work, here's a link to the journal I use. It's also in my bio on social.  https://amzn.to/4bq3lU1

I love you, bye ❤️

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Follow me on social if you're on a healing path.  @christie.heals

You're not alone. You're doing great no matter what's unfolding. Keep going!

Hey, hi, hello. I started a podcast so maybe we can heal in fast forward. My goal is just to be helpful. I'll bring you regular storytelling from my own life, insights on how to handle lifes battles, and hopefully make you laugh along the way. 

I'm super proud of us. Stay here, we need you. I love you, bye 

Find this elder millenial on TT and Insta: @christie.heals

Thanks everyone for your questions, I'll answer more in the next episode! 

If you want help with boundaries, resonding to DARVO, and dealing with difficult people, you're going to love the quick course I made you. 

It's not your job to change people. Focus all that energy on what you can control, and watch your life completeky transform! 

You're doing great, You're very loved. You are NEVER alone. 

Love, Christie 

@christie.heals 

If you feel stuck like you were meant for more, I was too. I was miserable, I felt like I was floundering. Here's exactly how I got unstuck.

1. Follow your whimsy 

2. Stop hanging out with losers 

3. Envision your future (free Joe Dispenza meditation)

4. Meet your Shadow self (I used this journal)

 Is it easy? No. Is it worth it? YESSSSSSSS. Do it for the plot, baby. 

You're doing great!!! I love you, Check out the course! 

❤️ BYE! 

@christie.heals

Ever apologized for something you didn't do? You got DARVO'd by an unhealed goof ball. 

DARVO stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. 

aka: some people are so scared of taking accuntability they'd rather make you feel like the problem than say sorry. That's some victim mentality ish. 

⭐ You're not crazy. Here's a cheat sheet. ⭐

👉 And here's the Manipulation course 

I love you, I don't want you to feel unlvable my immature adults who can't self-regulate. You're safe with me always. I believe you, and I believe IN you! 

Love you, bye 

@christie.heals

Hey, ya litle cutie pie! 

Here's the video I mentioned of the mom who wasn't invited to the wedding 

YOU'RE DOING GREAT. I LOVE YOU!!!! bye! 

@christie.heals 

Hey! Sibling betrayal is messy stuff. I've been there, and I want you to know you're not crazy. 

Here's some stuff I mentioned... 

• Make sure I have your email!
• Stop asking people WHY they did what they did to you 
• I think there was a 3rd, I have to listen back or send me a DM! 

Keep going, I love you! BYE! 

@christie.heals 

Hi ya little cutie....How ya healin?

Here's some stuff I mentioned: (DM me if the links don't work)

• FREE manipulation guide + teaser to my course
• Mother / Daughter Dance off
• Book Reccomendations
• Spittin' truth while curling my hair
• Black Sheep = GOAT

We go all oevr the place in this episode, maybe one day I'll have a producer and we cna add chapter markers. Until then.... just jump around until you find a part you needed to hear, or listen to the whole thing while folding laundry / running errands! 

I LOVE YOU - You will be ok. I promise!! 

WHatever happened to you, I BELIEVE you. You didn't deserve it. 

You are not crazy, you are not the problem. You are the one who *noticed and named* the problem. That makes you a cycle breaker. and you should be dang proud. 

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOUR SON, CHARLOTTE! (not my daughter, my fav listener!)

GO TO BED 

DRINK SOME WATER

GO BE THE GOAT 

love you, baiyeee 

@christie.heals

Hey! Breaking cycles while raising the next generation ain't for the faint of heart! 

Here's the two books I mentioned: 

1. How to talk so kids will Listen 
2. Parenting from the inside out 

Love you, Bye! 

Oh, HEYY! Here's some things I talked about. 

• Wig video where toxic mom stomps on my foot 
• Video on my abusive marriage

Trauma bonds are very common for people who experienced an abusive childhood. It's a strong emotional attachment to someone who abuses you sometimes, followed by some good times. It's like you can't quit the stuff. It's addictive. You're not weak if this has happened to you, it's a testimant to your empathy. 

Follow me for more, @christie.heals on TikTok and Instagram!