The Alli Worthington Show – Détails, épisodes et analyse

I’m so glad you’re here today because we’re diving into a struggle we’ve all faced: showing up when you just don’t feel like it.

Whether it’s work, a big goal you’ve been avoiding, or just doing the dishes after a long day, we’ve all been there. The good news? You don’t have to feel motivated to take action. Today, I’ll show you why and how to make showing up easier! 

Timestamps:

(00:45) - Why Showing Up Feels So Hard

(02:55) - The Science of Resistance

(06:09) - Choosing Faith Over Feelings

(06;41) - Common Excuses and How to Break Them

(08:16) - My Go-To Hack for Showing Up

(10:35) - How Rituals Can Be Your Secret Weapon

(12:59) - My Must-Read Book Recommendation

Recommendation:

I think you might love this fiction book that I just read, First Lie Wins by Ashley Elston. It’s mystery and exciting and has a little social commentary in it.. It’s one of those books that’s hard to put down. 

Listen now:

Listen now on Apple Podcasts and Spotify

Don’t forget to watch Alli Worthington on YouTube! 

 I hope this episode inspired you! 🎉 Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And hey, check us out on YouTube while you’re at it! If you’re feeling the love, drop a quick review and give us some stars—your support means the world to me! 

xo,

Alli

Welcome to the Mental Resilience Series! We’re exploring how to get stronger, stand tall in tough times, and build boundaries that help us thrive. It’s all about creating resilience that lasts.

Today, we’re diving into self-talk with the amazing Melanie Shankle. We’ll unpack generational trauma, deal with lingering mean-girl energy, and explore how our relationships with parental figures shape us, which is what she wrote about in her new book, Here Be Dragons. You don’t want to miss this one!

Timestamps:

(02:16) - Melanie’s Story of Resilience and Growth

(05:03) - Forgiveness vs. Protection: Walking the Fine Line

(13:59) - Mean Girl Behavior : Why It’s Still a Thing

(18:02) - How Generational Trauma Sneaks Into Our Lives

(24:28) - The Truth About Negative Self-Talk

(29:32) - Melanie’s Must-Have Recommendations

Watch Alli on YouTube!

Links to great things we discussed: 

• Melanie’s Top Skin Care Recommendations - iNN Beauty Project Extreme Clean and Elastic Skin. These help with fine lines and are her new go-tos. 
• Melanie’s Top Make-up Recommendations - Armani Luminous Foundation,  Merit Bronzing Balm, and Merit Flush Balm. She’s loving all the light feeling of the Armani foundation and all the Merit products.
• Melanie’s Hair Care Recommendations - Goop Beauty G. Tox Himalayan Salt Scalp Scrub, and Verb Ghost Shampoo. Both are great for dry hair. 
• Alli on YouTube

I hope you loved this episode! 🎉

Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And hey, check us out on YouTube while you’re at it! If you’re feeling the love, drop a quick review and give us some stars—your support means the world to me! 

xo,

Alli

We are in our emotional health series and you know I'm obsessed with increasing our emotional health, not just for us but for the benefit of everyone who crosses our path. Today, I'm sharing 13 things I wish someone had told me in my 20s. 

In my 20s, I thought emotional health was for people who journaled in candlelight and lived in yoga pants, but it's for everyone. Trust me, your emotional health matters way more than you think, whether you're 20, 40, or 60.  

Timestamps:

(01:19) - Emotional Health: It All Starts with Awareness

(04:38) - Healthy Relationships Begin with YOU

(07:59) - Emotional Health Meets Self-Care

(09:21) - Gratitude Changes Everything

(12:17) - Alli’s Must-Have Recommendations

Recommendations:

It’s mid-January and cold and to mix things up a little bit, I’m loving adding a little cinnamon and vanilla extract to my green tea. It makes it taste amazing!

The song I’m playing on repeat right now is Nothing I Hold On To by Jesus Co. It’s a great way to worship God and feel better at the same time.

Listen now:

Watch on YouTube

Links to great things we discussed - Podcast: 

Nothing I Hold On To - Jesus Co. 

I hope you absolutely loved this episode! 🎉 Be sure to swing by our YouTube channel for even more! If you’re feeling the love, leave a quick review and drop some stars—your support means everything to me! 🌟💛

xo,

Alli

In a recent survey, 3,000 people were asked, “Do you feel like you are living up to your full potential?” I was shocked to find out that 96% of them said no! How did we get here, and how can we change that? 

My friend Jon Acuff and I had a great conversation all about our potential: what “potential” refers to, how we can reach it, and some pitfalls to avoid along the way.

If you want to close the gap between your dreams and your reality without causing yourself to burn out in the process, this conversation is for you!! 

Jon is one of INC’s Top 100 Leadership Speakers and the New York Times bestselling author of nine books, including his most recent, All It Takes Is a Goal: The 3-Step Plan to Ditch Regret and Tap Into Your Massive Potential. He’s a husband and dad to two teenage girls, living outside Nashville. 

Lean in and listen as Jon and I discuss: 

• How to get around the massive barrier between you and what you want to do? (Jon calls this barrier “the vision wall”)

• The difference between a high performer and a high achiever

• A fun tool that creates gratitude, teaches the superpower of self-awareness and will help you be present

• The only reason people leave their comfort zones

• The connection between personal responsibility and potential

Jon’s last visit to the show was equally amazing, especially for parents of teens. The things we believed as teenagers can be so impactful. It is so encouraging to think about how the teens in our lives can learn to create new thoughts that lead to actions and even better results. Be sure to listen in to find out how!

Favorite quotes:

• “You should dream but when your dream is divorced from reality it doesn’t end in a healthy marriage.”
• “Excellence is boring.”
• “Potential is the gap between your vision and your reality.” 
• “You're the CEO of your actions, not the CEO of your outcomes. Focus on those actions.”
• “The Best Moments list starts to teach you about what you want in the future. The list reflects your past, informs your present, and prepares your future.”
• “The only reason people leave the comfort zone is because what’s on the outside is better than what’s on the inside.” 
• “The harder the challenge, the kinder the words.”

Coaching this week: 

1. Automatic thoughts that can stop you from starting a business and how to battle them. (45:14)

Links to great things we discussed: 

• Jon Acuff Website

• Jon Acuff Instagram

• All It Takes Is a Goal: The 3-Step Plan to Ditch Regret and Tap Into Your Massive Potential

• Homesick - Noah Kahan

• Busy Child - The Crystal Method

• The Grand Tour 

• BritBox

• Bose Headphones

• Leuchtturm Notebooks

• PowerSheets

• The Coach School

• The Coach School Instagram

• 3 Secrets to Become a Successful Coach

Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli

https://www.alliworthington.com

Hey friend! Worry seems to be a routine part of life these days. As parents, it feels like we worry non-stop even though we don’t want our kids to worry. Is it even possible to reduce that anxiety? 

My friend Sissy Goff has written amazing resources on raising worry-free kids, but her newest book, The Worry-Free Parent: Living in Confidence So Your Kids Can Too, is a resource for grown-ups. 

What we do with our worry as parents impacts our kids more than we know, and that’s why Sissy and I went all in, both in this conversation and in our recent books. This conversation is too important not to! 

Sissy is the author of multiple books and co-host of The Raising Boys and Girls podcast. She is a counselor who works with kids and their families in Nashville. 

Join Sissy and I as we talk about: 

• Why this was the right book for Sissy to write, both as an author and as a therapist

• Best practices you can use if you find yourself struggling with anxiety, especially as a mom

• Five ways parents tend to respond to anxiety in our kids

• One common denominator Sissy sees in people of all ages who deal with anxiety

• How being hard on ourselves impacts our kids 

• Sissy’s advice for parents of perfectionists

And after living through a pandemic, we are all uncertain, anxious and even a little bit cranky about things going back to normal. As adults, we have a lifetime of practice building coping strategies that work for our individual personalities and lifestyles. But what about our kids?  Don’t miss our previous conversation about the state of our kids in a post-pandemic world and how we can better support them.

Favorite quotes:

• “Anxious parents raise anxious children.”
• “Anxiety spreads by the way we respond.”
• “Be present in the moment rather than focused on the only time you have left.”
• “Right now even more concerning is that parents feel like failures more than ever before.”
• “The way we  talk to ourselves is going to spill over onto others.”
• “You need to fail in front of your kids and laugh at yourself when you do it.”

Coaching this week: 

1. The Stages of Delegation  (37:09)

Links to great things we discussed: 

• Sissy Goff Website

• Sissy Goff Instagram

• The Worry-Free Parent: Living in Confidence So Your Kids Can Too

• Goodness of God - Cece Winans

• Tom Lake

• The Bear

• K. McCarthy

• Meg 2

• New York State of Mind - Billy Joel

• Empire State of Mind - Jay-Z

• Welcome to New York - Taylor Swift

• Ciate Dewy Blush

• The Coach School

• The Coach School Instagram

• 3 Secrets to Become a Successful Coach

Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli

www.alliworthington.com

Hey hey! We’ve all had times when we wanted to quit, but why do some people lean in and stick with it when others check out? The answer to that question may surprise you! 

My friend Bianca Juarez Olthoff wrote the book on grit and resilience, and we had a fantastic conversation about just that. What she learned while writing this book is both fascinating and encouraging, and I can’t wait for you to hear it!

Bianca is a Bible teacher, host of the “We’re Going There” podcast, and author of three books, including her newest, Grit Don’t Quit: Developing Resilience and Faith When Giving Up Isn’t an Option. She is passionate about helping people live counter-culturally and significantly. 

Bianca and I don’t hold back today! 

Lean in and listen as we discuss: 

• The lost art of perseverance in a world where most things are easy and fast

• Encouragement (and a permission slip!) for when you feel behind

• 3 key elements of resilience (the best news: these are 3 things we can learn and practice)

• 3 people you should meet with before you decide to quit anything

• What kills our grit (and how to protect it)  

• Why our thought lives matter more than we know

• And don't miss Bianca's challenge results in the P. S. at the end of the show notes!

Favorite quotes:

• “The best things in life will cost you the most and take you the longest.”
• “Keep going! Just because it is hard doesn’t mean you're not supposed to do it. Good things are hard.”
• “There are three key elements to people who are resilient and they are learnable and actionable.” 
• “Can you find a purpose for this season and make the most of it? Those are the people that are the grittiest and successful.”
• “Our mind matters so let’s make sure we are mindful of what we are thinking.”
• "Bet on yourself and invest in yourself. It is the one investment that is going to pay you back 100 times and you can’t lose."

Coaching this week: 

1. What is the best investment you can make in your business?  (34:43)

Links to great things we discussed: 

• Bianca Juarez Olthoff Website

• Bianca Juarez Olthoff Instagram

• Grit Don’t Quit: Developing Resilience and Faith When Giving Up Isn’t an Option

• The Coach School

• The Coach School Instagram

• You Will Be Saved - Elevation Rhythm

• The Count of Monte Cristo

• Stephen Curry: Underrated

• Quarterback

• Noni Glow Face Oil

• Tumeric Glow Moisturizer 

• 3 Secrets to Become a Successful Coach

• Lost

• Discovery Cove

Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli

P.S. Face Oil Challenge results: After a week of trials, the surprise results are in and Bianca isn't using face oil anymore! Stay tuned for more of my favorite recommendations in each episode of the show.

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Hey friend! Have you ever struggled to tell the difference between making sure your needs are met and being selfish? Is there a difference? Lean in – today’s conversation is for you! 

As we continue to talk about Remaining You While Raising Them and the secret art of confident motherhood, I couldn’t miss the chance to bring you a replay of a conversation I got to have last fall with a friend who is a pro on boundaries and showing up to your life with the best of yourself. You’ll discover how to set boundaries with care and compassion. 

My friend Dr. Alison Cook is a Boston-based psychologist and author of two books, Boundaries for Your Soul and The Best of You.  She is a wife and mom to two adult children, and she specializes in bringing faith and psychology together for real change in people’s lives. 

Join Alison and I for this conversation as we talk about: 

• How to find the healthy middle between never thinking of ourselves and only thinking of ourselves 

• Some commonly used (and misunderstood!) Scriptures that keep women playing small 

• Signs to look for when women give up on parts of themselves (and how to find our way back) 

• What it costs our loved ones when we shrink ourselves 

• Why noticing and naming struggles we see in ourselves is so essential to becoming whole

Favorite quotes:

• “You can trust God and still feel anxious, overwhelmed, lonely, and broken inside.”
• “When I hide myself, make myself invisible, or play like a doormat it is not only bad for me, I’m not bringing the best of who I am to the people I love.”
• “When I’m really being my true self , when I’m aligned with myself, I’m empowering  other people which is what helps them heal and become who they really need to be.”
• “We are worth so much more than numbing through all the various ways we can check out. God wants so much more for us.”
• “When women are healthy we change the world.”

Coaching this week: 

1. What is the biggest mistake people make when starting a new project?  (41:41)

Links to great things we discussed: 

• Alison Cook Website

• Alison Cook Instagram

• Alison Cook Facebook

• Boundaries for Your Soul

• The Best of You

• Easy on Me - Adele

• Abbott Elementary

• Armchair Expert Podcast

• Smartless Podcast

• Being Known Podcast

• The Ragamuffin Gospel

• Ruthless Trust

• Mattress Pads for Camping

• The Bear

• Christ Be In My Heart - Sam McCabe & Kristene DiMarco

Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli

https://www.alliworthington.com

Hey hey! Have you lost yourself in the demands of motherhood? Have you wondered if it’s possible to care for yourself well in the midst of a full life? 

Today’s show is a special one, featuring the first two chapters of my newest book, Remaining You While Raising Them: The Secret Art of Confident Motherhood.

This is not a parenting book about your children- those books are already out there! This is a motherhood book, and it’s about you.

I wrote Remaining You While Raising Them to help women find freedom from the heavy weight of modern motherhood. I can’t give you a step-by-step plan to raise perfect children (an impossible dream!), but I can help you thrive as a happier, healthier mom. 

Listen in on these audio chapters to hear: 

• One thing that bonds all moms together (besides our fierce love for our children)

• Personal stories from my own motherhood journey with five sons

• The shocking truth about the greatest gift we can give our kids

• Why motherhood is not just about what you do, but who you are (and what your kids will remember)

Favorite quotes:

• “I had no idea motherhood would be my greatest joy and also the hardest thing I would ever do. I wasn’t prepared for how motherhood would change my life, and I certainly wasn’t prepared for how it would change me.”
• “Motherhood is harder, messier, crazier, and more amazing than anything we could have imagined.”
• “Modern motherhood may be broken, but we don’t have to let it break us anymore.”
• “Being the best mother you can be starts with learning to mother yourself.”
• “The greatest gift I can give my kids is to be an emotionally healthy mom and to model the way for them.”
• “A mother’s emotional health (her spiritual, mental, and relational health) is the most important legacy she can give her children.”
• “Motherhood isn’t about what you do, it’s about who you are.”

Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli

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Tomorrow is the big day! My newest book, Remaining You While Raising Them, releases into the world, and I can’t wait for it to be in your hands! 

To celebrate, my friend Phoebe Barron is here to turn the tables and interview me!

Phoebe is the mental health consultant on Remaining You While Raising Them. She is a licensed counselor and counseling professor. She speaks to churches about emotional health and lives in Oklahoma with her husband, three kids, and fluffy golden doodle. 

I’m thrilled for you to hear some of her perspectives firsthand (you know, I couldn’t resist sneaking in a few questions of my own!). 

Join Phoebe and I as we discuss: 

• The single biggest driver of mom guilt (secret: it’s not your mom or your MIL)

• Why having a mother who models caring for herself and her needs is so important to our daughters (and our sons!)

• One magic question that keeps “taking care of mom” from becoming just another thing on your to-do list

• How trusting your gut and doing what’s best for your family are backed by research 

• My ultimate goal for writing THIS book

Favorite quotes:

• “When I asked about mom guilt almost all women said they had mom guilt but the single biggest driver was social media.”
• “The most important thing we can do to be good moms is to make sure that we are as emotionally healthy as possible.”
• “Taking care of ourselves emotionally is the most selfless thing we can do for our families.”
• “Getting in the habit of saying what do I need right now is the ultimate self-care.”
• “There are a few ways of really parenting up. There are a ton of ways of getting it good enough and there are no ways of getting it perfect.”
• “Our job is to model health to our children, discipline our children, and give them discipline but most of all to love our children. If we do those things our kids are going to be just fine.” 

Links to great things we discussed: 

• Remaining You While Raising Them

• Oppenheimer

• I’ve Witnessed It- Passion and Melodie Malone

• The Ordinary Glycolic Acid 7% Toning Solution

Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli

https://www.alliworthtington.com

Hey hey friend! If you’ve been here for a while, you know I am passionate about emotional health. I want good emotional health for all my friends (yes, you!), and I brought in one of the smartest people I know to help us get there.

Terra Mattson is a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed professional counselor who has practiced for nearly two decades and oversees a team of 20 clinicians. 

She’s a wife, a mom of two teenage girls, and passionate about helping moms raise their kids well. Terra and I go all in today on a conversation about my favorite topic: emotional well-being in moms and kids.  

Listen in as Terra and I talk about: 

• Women discovering who they are apart from a specific role, even in the trenches of motherhood

• How to disentangle ourselves from unhealthy messaging about the calling of motherhood, even within (maybe especially within) the Church

• Why emotional regulation is an important piece of raising kids who love like Jesus

• How our emotions reflect our being made in the image of God

Favorite quotes:

• “Our identity especially in the Christian community gets wrapped up in motherhood in good and not healthy ways."
• “The power of knowing our story and how it has influenced us is so important.”
• “Emotional regulation is one of the number one resources and modeling that we have to give our children.”
• “Each of us have something to offer and teach each other.”
• “We don’t have to be in competition. We can link arms and model a different way to our children.”
• “The work that you are doing at every stage of your children’s lives is affecting the relationship even today.” 
• “Think about the long haul while you are figuring out who you are.”

Links to great things we discussed: 

• Terra Mattson Website

• Living Wholehearted Podcast

• Anatomy of the Soul - Curt Thompson

• Grove Co. Kitchen Wipes.

• Mission: Impossible - Dead Reckoning Part One

• Epionce Daily Shield Tinted SPF 50

• Join the Launch Team!

Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli

www.alliworthington.com