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In this episode, we delve into the complex journey of Koketso Molaolwe the leader behind Mmuso Worship and Mmuso Church, who transitioned from being a club DJ and A-type leader to a husband and pastor.

Raised in a turbulent environment where his father was never married to his mother, the scars of rejection and the aftermath of an affair shaped his early life. He shares how these experiences led him to stop relying on people at some point in his life, and how he eventually found himself grappling with the realisation that he might wake up being more of a narcissist than he ever wanted to admit.

As a husband, he had to confront the harsh reality that his wife, who takes no nonsense, wasn’t going to be impressed by his façade. He feared waking up one day with the realization that she had married a man more in love with his image than with her. The episode explores his struggle to balance the demands of ministry and marriage, highlighting moments where his family needed him to be a better husband than a better pastor.

He shares candidly about the challenges of moving in with his in-laws and the tough decision to prioritize his family over ministry. Through it all, he reflects on the lesson that while our wives don’t need to be overly excited, they do need to feel valued and present. This episode is a raw and honest look at the dangers of not knowing one's own weaknesses, and the importance of striving for health and authenticity in all areas of life.

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[S1] EPISODE 25: IS THERE A FUTURE FOR HUSBANDHOOD

In this episode, we explore why more and more young men are becoming skeptical about marriage. We dive into the real-life reasons behind this shift, from the pressures of today’s economy to changing relationship dynamics that have made marriage feel less appealing.

Through personal stories, the two young men, Michael-John and Lethu we sit with help us get to the heart of why marriage isn’t what it used to be for many of their peers. We also touch on the role of sex and the impact of "hook-up" culture on young men's views toward marriage. With casual encounters becoming more normalized, many men are finding it easier to fulfill their physical needs without the commitment that marriage traditionally entails. This shift in how sex is approached has left some men questioning whether marriage is necessary or even desirable, given the immediate gratification that the hook-up culture offers.

Additionally, we explore how online dating has reshaped the landscape of relationships, making it both easier to meet people and harder to settle down. With endless options just a swipe away, many young men feel less urgency to commit to one person for life.

This constant access to potential partners has contributed to a mindset where marriage feels less like a necessity and more like just one of many options in a sea of possibilities.

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If you're seriously considering marriage, LISTEN TO THIS!

ALREADY MARRIED? This episode will be a sobering refresher on some things you might (and probably have) dropped the ball on.

We want to inspire more men to not only consider marriage but to actually take the plunge. It was an absolute privilege to sit down with a future husband who asks all the questions we often only realize after we're already married. Think of this episode as your "I'm asking for a friend" moment, where you can be completely open and transparent about your inquiries.

That's exactly what Bigstar Johnson does here. He has an incredibly curious mind and loves to dig deeper into matters, making this episode a joy to produce. Sit back, listen in, and take it all in. Don't miss out on this invaluable conversation about marriage.

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In this episode , we explore the critical role marriage plays in safeguarding and enhancing your sex life. A healthy sexual relationship within a marriage goes beyond physical satisfaction; it's about fostering deep emotional connections, building trust, and ensuring mutual respect.

As a Public Health Specialist, Themba brings to light the harsh realities of men's sexual health, emphasizing the urgent need for a conscious approach to how we treat this gift of sex, both before and especially within marriage. He challenges us to rethink our attitudes and behaviours towards sex, advocating for marriages of high quality as essential safe spaces where true intimacy can thrive.

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For those who are regulars here, you know that part of my biggest motivation for creating this content is my own broken relationship with my father. In this episode, the relevancy of a father in a son's life who becomes a husband later is highlighted so clearly. Fathers are extremely important in the life of a boy, and this importance is seen so much when this boy becomes a man, especially when he becomes a husband and father himself.

Themba is such a dynamic dude, and his storytelling ability really brings the heart of this episode to the foreground. As he takes us through his life with his father, I found myself holding back lumps in my throat. We delve into the state of fatherlessness in South Africa, the need for a father’s voice in a man’s life, and the confidence a father’s presence builds in a son who becomes a husband.

Reflecting on my own experience, I realize how deeply a father's influence—or the lack thereof—can shape our paths as men, husbands, and fathers. This episode resonates with me on a personal level, as it underscores the vital role fathers play in nurturing and guiding their sons into confident, capable men.

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Anywhere you catch Solo and Dineo Langa, it is very clear that they rest hard on their convictions. This is such a breath of fresh air in a time when anything goes. Solo  is unequivocal about his role as a husband and the responsibility that comes with that.

In one section of the chat he with so much composure and self-assurance about being a "CUSTODIAN" of his wife's dreams. It was a powerful reminder of the influence we possess as husbands, showing that we are tools in God's hands to shape his daughters. This power must be wielded carefully.

This discussion sheds light on the relationship between career and marriage, emphasizing how a strong marriage can and should be the foundation if career success is possible and it's clear which is more important. The balance and synergy between these two crucial aspects of life are essential, demonstrating that personal convictions and responsibilities in marriage will directly impact professional growth and stability.

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The biggest lesson for me in marriage is having to come to terms with the truth that I can't remain the same. Listen I came into marriage with very grand ideas about how I'm amazing and how my wife would have to adjust to my supreme way of living and thinking hahahaha! Was I not a clown for thinking that?! I'm dealing and living with a complete human with her own ideas of the world and she thinks in a very specific way as well. After this episode, I've been very hopeful that we'll survive our ignorance (mine mostly) and we'll figure out a way that will work for us both.

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I was really excited to sit with Bruce to dig deeper into this ground of wisdom, 33 years guys, let that sink in. Bruce has been married for as long as I've been alive. Most of us hit the first fight in the first year of marriage and our minds are flooded with doubts that we will never make it past 5 years. This conversation served as a crucial pitstop in my marriage journey, to sit with an older husband who is so real and open encouraged me a lot!

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Today's episode is special because it features my wife Lilly Million. Marriage forces us as husbands particularly to dig deep, cause our own reserves will run dry and very quick at that, so without God and his infinite reserves I don't think I would make it to the next 10 years. I've been stretched in the past 10 years, but I see how it had to be through marriage that the character traits and qualities I've developed had to come.

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I got to 10 years in my marriage! On one hand, it doesn't feel like a long time but when I pause and reflect, I realise just how much I've gone through and what it has taken to build my marriage to what it is now. It's upon these reflections that I soon came to understand why most men are too afraid to commit! Because as beautiful as marriage is, THIS THING WILL CHALLENGE THE KIND OF MAN YOU ARE, for real.

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My friend Julz's decision to get married again after his divorce has made me come face to face in real-time with my resistance around ever remarrying should my marriage ever end. You might be like me or maybe even opposed to marriage completely, I think this story brings so much clarity and a fresh perspective to help us think slightly differently about marriage and it's importance. Enjoy!

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Being a child of divorce myself, I know very well the devastation that comes with experiencing this kind of loss. There are key points in the conversation that really highlight, the importance of getting into marriage soberly, knowing the kind of attack this institution is under will force us to move with that awareness to fight our own inclinations, desires, that might lead to us opening the door for the disaster to creep in and crumble what we are building. 

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EPISODE 24: GENTLE MASCULINITY

In today’s episode, Justice Mukheli reflects on his transformative journey from a rough upbringing to becoming a man who values authenticity and emotional vulnerability. Growing up in a Soweto he learned the importance of avoiding bad financial decisions while staying true to his roots and future goals. Finding his wife was a turning point, teaching him the value of showing up as his true self, without relying on material possessions or role-playing to fit into a mold.

Unlike many relationships the COVID-19 pandemic deepened his bond with his partner, leading to them being married. He shares how a positive outlook can shape a marriage unexpectedly, helping him transition from a hardcore kasi guy to embracing his gentle side.

There’s also so much emphasis on expressing love and honesty as acts of courage that define true masculinity in this episode. Lastly, he helps us reframe what we think of generational wealth, that it isn’t just about money but the legacy of love, honesty, and authenticity left behind.

Through his story, we explore how these values have strengthened his marriage and redefined what it means to be a man today.

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In this episode, we take a more in-depth look into the transformative journey of men who need to overcome personal struggles and hardships to emerge as beacons of hope for their families. A lot of the brokenness we experience can be predicated on the fact that men are broken from an early age as boys, hence they perpetuate this brokenness, especially as grown men.

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Hungani Ndlovu's upbringing has shaped the way he moves as a Husband. We unpack in real time how it looked for him to be a husband who walks the tight rope of miscarriage. What does this do to his own psyche, how does he love his grieving wife while grieving himself? 

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Persevering in marriage has gotten such bad PR that it is crazy that we would even dare utter that above statement. Think about it, whose surname does the wife and the kids take, who is meant to be the culture shaper, visionary, and spiritual leader of this family - The Husband. So perseverance is meant to be primarily modelled by the husband, his wife and children are to take cues of ukubekezela from him.

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From the exhilarating rush of love to the sobering reality checks, let's delve into the complexities of marriage with raw honesty. No sugar-coating, no filters – just the unadulterated truth about what it takes to build and sustain a meaningful marriage.

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We chat about the sobering realities of what it takes for a man to step up, commit, and take a wife. Add to this, is the devaluing of the role of the husband in society and how this has contributed to the pressures most husbands are facing as they try to show up for their marriages and families, so stay tuned in to see where we end up.

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Interracial couples add a very unique spin to this theory unless their own parents were interracial themselves. Because besides looks, which is obvious, in what other ways do their partners resemble each other's parents, especially if the couple is from different cultures and countries?

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S1] EPISODE 23: THE HUSBAND IS A DYING BREED

For a long time, pastors have been these untouchable figures, with their marriages only visible from the church stage. Rarely, if ever, did we get to see them in everyday life with their wives and children. This lack of access made it hard for many of us to connect with their advice, leading us to follow anyone willing to expose their lifestyle—often, unfortunately, one that wasn't worth emulating.

That’s why we need to give a huge shout-out to Israel Phiri for being open about his first ministry—his role as a husband. He’s got some incredible insights on relationships and, with a strong online presence, he’s inspiring many husbands to step up and take their roles seriously.

You don't want to miss this one! It's full of deep reflections, laughter, and honest takes. 

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Every generation has a figure who transcends culture, politics, sports, or religion to serve as a father figure and a symbolic "husband of the nation." Muzi Mthabela appears to be one of those influential voices in our time. His impact on men is profound, challenging apathy and inspiring a higher vision of masculinity.

Married for 17 years, his journey is both eye-opening and deeply human. His story serves as a beacon of hope for those striving to improve their own marriages, filling a void for many husbands who lacked role models growing up.

What sets his approach apart is his unique balance: he offers genuine care while pushing you to rise to your potential, urging you to step up, show up, and man up. This episode is packed with insights that will inspire and help you grow.

Enjoy and be transformed!

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JUST HUSBANDS NOT SUPERHEROES

The title of this episode perfectly captures the essence of our conversation with Nat, a genuine, down-to-earth, and sober-minded husband who is refreshingly honest about his feelings and thoughts.

Over the past 12 years, Nat’s humility has not only contributed significantly to the success of his marriage but has also been shaped and refined by it. Ego trips are all too common among husbands, leading to immense strain on marriages due to unchecked or bruised egos. While it's certainly not easy to manage pride, it's crucial for the well-being of our wives and families. We must regularly keep our egos in check to avoid causing emotional harm to those we love.

This episode invites you to pause and rethink how you approach your marriage, offering insights on how humility and self-awareness can pave the way for a thriving, harmonious relationship.

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(We apologise for the sound issues at the beginning of this episode. Please bare with us)

THE DARK SIDE OF MARRIAGE

In this episode, we delve into the distressing realities of Gender-Based Violence (GBV) and Domestic Violence, exploring their profound impact on victims and the relationships they find themselves in. Kathy who is the CEO of Mohau Counselling Centre defines these forms of violence, shedding light on their prevalence, and breaks down for us what deep scars they leave behind.

Our discussion then shifts focus to the perpetrators of these violent acts. We aim to uncover patterns and triggers, challenging all of us to consider the complexities behind these heinous acts while emphasising the importance of accountability and change.

Finally, Kathy helps us with such a brilliant illustration that points to the complexities of the human heart in both perpetuating and healing from violence. Through this sit down, we hope to encourage you to engage in proactive efforts to combat GBV and Domestic Violence, nurturing a world where every person can thrive in safety and love.

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This conversation started in the comment section many episodes ago, so I decided to bring Torch on the pod to dive deeper into the lasting impact our country’s history has on us as husbands.

Torch Everblazing has such a rich family history, offering us a window into our own family lives and legacies. His earnestness inspired me to approach my own history with my parents with more empathy and understanding.

This episode is a perspective-shifting journey into the black family experience in South Africa. So, brew some coffee, grab your favourite tennis biscuits, cozy up by the heater, and get ready to have a heartfelt call with your parents and kids afterward.

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RIDE TILL THE WHEELS FALL OFF

I've recently been deeply focused on exploring what true oneness looks like in marriage. After all, marriage is fundamentally about becoming one with your spouse. As a husband, you make a daily choice to grow and solidify this oneness with your wife. Pulling in different directions is a sure way to create distance and potentially end the relationship.

In this episode, we are thrilled to have Loyiso Bala join us to define and share how he and his wife have cultivated oneness and developed a healthy partnership in their marriage.

Loyiso and his wife have also worked professionally together practically their whole marriage, so, how have they managed to keep everything together and achieve such remarkable growth in both their family and business.

This conversation also delves into the themes of legacy, fatherhood, and faith. It was an absolute pleasure to have this legend sit across the table with us, offering his insights and experiences. 

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We had the pleasure of engaging in a conversation with Dr. Marilyn C. Saunders, a significant voice on marriage within the South African context.

Dr. Saunders sheds light on significant topics that might seem straightforward but prove challenging in practice. One such topic is respect for the husband. This often contentious issue needs thorough and honest exploration, as addressing it can yield significant benefits in marriage.

Additionally, we discuss how husbands can be more conscious, curious, and courageous in their marriages. This segment is essential viewing—don't miss it!

Lastly, we delve into the concept of partnership in marriage and how husbands can navigate the dynamics with extended family members who often have opinions about their wife and marriage. Remember to like, comment, and subscribe for more insightful content

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S2] EPISODE 47: THE GROOTMAN'S TABLE In this episode, we sit down for a real and honest conversation about masculinity, what it means today, how society defines it, and how men actually experience it. Instead of reacting to loud cultural narratives, we slow things down and look at masculinity through the lens of everyday life: responsibility, identity, pressure, leadership, and the quiet questions men rarely get space to ask. We break the conversation into three parts, starting with the mind, how men think, process expectations, deal with internal pressure, and navigate modern culture. From mental resilience to emotional awareness to the silent weight many men carry, we explore what a healthy thought-life looks like for men who want to grow. Then we move to the soul and the body, unpacking purpose, character, spiritual grounding, physical well-being, and how these three areas shape one another. This is not a lecture, just men talking to men, trying to understand what it means to show up fully, faithfully, and intentionally in a world that often misunderstands men. Tune in, reflect, and take what you need for your own journey. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #masculinity #modernmanhood #husbandpodcast #MenTalkingToMen #mensmentalhealth #healthymasculinity #mindbodysoul #husbandlife #marriagegrowth #mensupportingmen #ManhoodJourney #purposedrivenmen #StrongMenSmartMen #IntentionalLiving #menswellbeing #HusbandsCommunity #FaithfulHusbands #characterbuilding #meninconversation #realmenrealtalk #menofhonor #MasculineIdentity #MalePerspective #CulturalMasculinity #maleperspective

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S2] EPISODE 46: YOU CAN LEVEL UP This episode is about the real journey of becoming men who refuse to settle for comfort when growth is calling. We dive into the moments that break us open, the decisions that reshape our identity, and the brave, often painful process of letting go of the boy so that the man can emerge. If you’ve ever felt stuck, unsure, or overwhelmed by the weight of who you’re trying to become, this conversation will find you exactly where you are. This episode is a portrait of husbandhood in motion, of men wrestling with expectations, confronting old versions of themselves, and learning to lead not from ego but from purpose. Musa takes us into the heart of his story: the crisis that cracked him, the therapy that rebuilt him, the marriage that matured him, and the faith that steadied him when the ground beneath him shifted. Together, we reflect on how husbands can transform passive frustration into intentional influence, how identity gets reshaped in the presence of a strong partner, and how clarity often arrives not in the noise of hustle but in the quiet courage of decisive action. And through it all, we return to the truth that guides this podcast: we are husbands who aren’t where we want to be, but certainly are not where we used to be. Men imperfect, failing forward, committed to knowing better so we can do better, for ourselves, our wives, and the families entrusted to us. Whether you're in a season of growth, a season of confusion, or standing at the crossroads of who you were and who you need to become, this episode will remind you that you are not alone, and that transformation, though costly, is always worth it. #thathusbandpodcast #husbandhood #marriagematters #SouthAfricanMen #BlackHusbands #MasculinityJourney #MenGrowing #failingforward #purposedrivenmen #husbandtalks #realconversations #marriagegrowth #mensupportingmen #husbandlife #fatherhoodjourney #buildingfamilies #emotionalintelligence #visionclarity #purposedrivenliving #leadershipformen #HusbandWisdom #familyfirst #menoffaith #growingtogether #legacybuilding

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S2] EPISODE 38: VULNERABILITY vs TRANSPARENCY In this episode, we tackle one of the most misunderstood concepts in today’s culture: vulnerability. Men are constantly told that “real strength is being vulnerable,” but what happens when that vulnerability is offered in unsafe places? Instead of healing, it often leaves men more wounded, more guarded, and more hesitant to trust. Together, we wrestle with the reality that vulnerability without safety isn’t courage, it’s exposure, and we unpack why vulnerability is far too sacred to be cheapened in the wrong hands.

As husbands, we carry the responsibility of leading with courage, and that includes the courage to open up in the one place where it truly belongs: within the covenant of marriage. Vulnerability with your wife creates intimacy, trust, and unity, while withholding it builds invisible walls that eventually turn spouses into strangers. We share how Christ’s example of exposing His wounds for the sake of healing becomes a model for us as husbands, and why going first in this area sets the tone for love and connection in marriage. This conversation isn’t just about theory, it’s about reclaiming a healthier, God-designed way of being men. For single men, it’s a call to practice transparency with brothers and mentors while wisely guarding their hearts. For married men, it’s an invitation to stop hiding and start building deeper intimacy with their wives through vulnerability. This episode is raw, real, and personal, a reminder that vulnerability isn’t weakness, but the most courageous gift a husband can give. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #HusbandPodcast #marriagematters #godlymarriage #menoffaith #marriagecovenant #husbandsandwives #christianmen #marriagetalk #faithfulhusbands #marriagewisdom #VulnerabilityInMarriage #marriagegodsway #CourageousHusbands #marriageandfaith #HeadshipAndLove #marriagereflections #HusbandLeadership #ChristAndTheChurch #marriagejourney #biblicalmarriage #marriagegrowth #strongertogether #HusbandsForHusbands #FaithFilledMarriage #MarriageIntimacy

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S2] EPISODE 36: PULL BACK THE CURTAINS

In this special Heritage Day edition, the conversation turns inward. For the first time in a while, we are joined by my wife, Lilly not just as a guest, but as a partner who lives the very realities this podcast speaks about. Together, we open up about the weight and beauty of marriage: the fights that once felt familiar, the lessons learned through patience, and the slow but powerful healing that comes when both husband and wife choose not to give up. This episode isn’t polished perfection, it’s raw, honest, and sometimes even a little awkward. We reflect on how faith, vulnerability, and even disagreements have shaped our marriage. There’s laughter, confession, and a lot of learning, but at the heart of it all is a desire to do better, not just talk better. As we remind each other, small improvements, even 2% shifts, can make a world of difference in how a husband shows up for his wife, and how a wife nurtures her husband with her words. Whether you’re a husband striving to grow, a wife longing to better understand your man, or a couple navigating the everyday weight of love, this conversation will resonate. It’s a reminder that marriage is not about arriving at perfection but about failing forward together, with grace, curiosity, and patience. Pull up a chair, you’re not just listening to a podcast, you’re sitting with family. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets and other resources [S2] EPISODE 35: HUSBAND PREPARATION Marriage has a way of waking us up to realities we never imagined. Many of us stepped into it unprepared, thinking love and good intentions would be enough, only to collide with the weightiness of responsibility, our hidden wounds, and the expectations we never knew we carried. In this episode, four husbands sit down to have the kind of raw, unfiltered conversation every man needs: about the struggles we didn’t anticipate, the fears we never admitted, and the slow realisation that being a husband requires more than just showing up. We talk about the baggage we brought into marriage, fatherlessness, trauma, detachment, and the unspoken pressure to “just figure it out.” We open up about the moments that humbled us: when conflict revealed our lack of capacity, when our wives’ strength challenged our fragile egos, and when our unresolved past showed up in our homes. These are not polished stories; they are scars carried into manhood that still ache. But in the telling, there is healing. This is a podcast by husbands, for husbands. Not to give you a five-step formula, but to remind you that you are not alone in your confusion, your failures, or your longing to grow. We are men in process, imperfect, often overwhelmed, but committed to failing forward together. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re the only one struggling, this conversation is for you. Pull up a chair, listen in, and let’s walk this journey of husbandhood side by side. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #HusbandPodcast #marriagematters #husbandlife #realmenrealtalk #marriagepodcast #christianmarriage #marriagejourney #MenInMarriage #marriagestruggles #marriagehealing #faithfulhusbands #marriagegrowth #marriagereality #mensupportingmen #MarriageReflections #marriageconversations #menoffaith #MarriageAndFaith #MarriageCommunity #marriagechallenges #marriagehelp #Husbandhood #marriagesupport #marriagewisdom #failingforward

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[S2] EPISODE 34: THE MAN IN THE MIRRIOR

In this episode, we dive deep into one of the greatest battles men face: lust. But not in the way you might think. We go beyond the surface to uncover the hidden longings, unmet desires, and unresolved wounds that quietly shape how we live, love, and lead in our marriages. These aren’t just struggles with the flesh, they are echoes of deeper cravings for acceptance, power, validation, and freedom. And left unchecked, they can quietly sabotage the very relationships we long to protect.

We get raw and real about the masks men wear, the silent wars we fight in our private thoughts, and the ways we often create illusions to escape unmet needs. Whether it’s the lust for validation that drives us to please people, the lust for power that makes us reckless with money, or the lust for freedom that tempts us to rebel against commitment, these inner battles demand courage, self-awareness, and honesty. This is not just about naming the problem but about learning to recognise where it comes from and how it shows up in our everyday choices as husbands.

This conversation is not for perfect men, it’s for men like us who are wrestling, stumbling, and still choosing to fight for healthier marriages. If you’ve ever felt the weight of secret battles you couldn’t put into words, this episode will give you language, perspective, and hope. It’s a call to curiosity instead of judgment, to courage instead of denial, and to building marriages that are conscious, patient, and rooted in love.

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[S2] EPISODE 33: COMMITMENT IS A DAILY CHOICE Marriage is more than a title, it’s a daily decision to show up, to love, and to choose each other through the highs and lows. In this episode of That Husband Podcast, we sit down with Una Rams, not just as the artist you know, but as a husband and father who opens up about the weight and wonder of love, responsibility, and choosing family. His story is not about perfection, but about the courage it takes to embrace vulnerability, to redefine strength, and to pursue love that is intentional and enduring. Together, we talk about the conscious decision to step into fatherhood, the raw reality of what safety looks like for men in marriage, and the power of walking alongside, not ahead or behind, your partner. From the magic and chaos of childbirth to the sacred responsibility of raising children, Una shares moments that shaped his journey and challenged him to love without the baggage of the past. This isn’t theory, it’s the real, unpolished beauty of marriage lived out in daily choices. What emerges is a picture of love that isn’t built on fairy tales, but on respect, faith, and resilience. This episode will challenge husbands to reimagine what it means to protect, to partner, and to grow together. It’s a conversation for every man who knows marriage isn’t about arriving perfect, but about failing forward, learning daily, and holding on to the hope that when we choose love, fully and freely, we choose life. #RealMenLove #HusbandPodcast #marriagetalks #marriagematters #husbandgoals #lovewithoutfear #marriagewisdom #LoveLikeAMan #LoveHerRight #marriagegodsway #marriagejourney #intentionallove #faithfullove #husbandswholead #husbandlife #MarriageCourage #strongmarriage #LoveBoldly #marriagestrength #HusbandWisdom

Marriage is never just about two people, it’s also about the families and histories that stand behind them. But what happens when those families refuse to stand with you? In this episode we dive into the raw and often painful reality of marrying without your family’s blessing. From the quiet heartbreak of parents who withhold support, to the courage it takes to lead your own household when the crowd is against you, this conversation is both transparent and necessary. As husbands, we know the weight of stepping into marriage: the decision to expose our defects, the challenge of accountability, and the risk of walking a road that isn’t always cheered on. Kutlwano Ditsele opens up about how he faced the lonely, frightening possibility of starting a marriage without his father’s approval, and the deep conviction that carried him forward anyway. It’s a story of faith, resilience, and the costly beauty of choosing your wife, even when it means losing other affirmations. This isn’t just theory, it’s the lived reality for many men. And in telling this story, we’re reminded that marriage is a sacred covenant, not a popularity contest. Family blessing is valuable, but it is not the foundation, God’s call and your commitment are. So if you’ve ever wrestled with the tension between honouring your parents and leading your new family, this episode will help you reflect, find courage, and know you’re not alone. #thathusbandpodcast #christianmarriage #marriagematters #husbandlife #MarriageWithoutBlessing #FamilyApproval #godlymarriage #marriagejourney #faithandmarriage #husbandtalks #marriagestruggles #marriagepodcast #LoveAndFaith #marriagewisdom #BuildingMarriage #marriagegodsway #MarriageDecisions #marriagecounsellor #marriageandfamily #marriagesupport #marriagestories #MarriageCommunity #MarriageAccountability #MarriageWithPurpose #marriageinchrist

Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources [S2] EPISODE 31: GOD'S WORK vs GOD'S DAUGHTER Marriage isn’t just about love stories and Instagram moments, it’s about the daily choice to show up, sacrifice, and sometimes die to self for the sake of the one you vowed to cherish. In this episode, we sit down with Allan.P to talk about what husbandhood really looks like when the butterflies fade, the fights get real, and life throws both joy and hardship our way. His story reminds us that being a husband isn’t about perfection, it’s about persistence, humility, and faithfulness when it’s easier to walk away. From the early years of marriage to raising kids and navigating the pressures of work, dreams, and ministry, Allan.P opens up about the hidden battles husbands face, the pride, the fatigue, the temptation to drift, and the weight of responsibility. Yet woven through his story is a testimony of grace: a wife who fuels his ambition, a faith that reshapes his perspective, and a vision of marriage that sees “death to self” not as loss but as the soil where love and legacy grow. This conversation isn’t just for men who think they’ve figured it out, it’s for husbands still stumbling forward, husbands carrying unseen frustrations, and husbands who need to be reminded that they’re not alone. If you’ve ever wrestled with ego, with balance, with choosing your wife over your comfort, then this episode will speak to you. Because at the end of the day, being a husband is less about having it all together, and more about being willing to learn, to sacrifice, and to keep choosing love, day after day. #thathusbandpodcast #HusbandTalks #marriagematters #husbandlife #FaithfulHusbands #marriagegodsway #marriagejourney #HusbandAndWife #christianhusbands #realmarriage #marriagegrowth #marriagepodcast #HusbandsUnite #Husbandhood #marriagestruggles #marriagewisdom #HusbandsSupportHusbands #loveandmarriagehuntsville #HusbandEncouragement #MarriageSacrifice #healthymarriage #marriageinchrist #MarriageLegacy #dietoself #MarriageFaith

 Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources [S2] EPISODE 30: MAKING THINGS RIGHT "Nine years ago, a single phone call during Bible Study changed everything. My then-girlfriend’s trembling voice told me she was pregnant. In that moment, the future we had imagined shifted completely. What followed wasn’t just a test of faith, it was a test of love, responsibility, and resilience. Her family cut ties. My reputation in the church felt shattered. And yet, in the middle of the shock and shame, I knew one thing: I couldn’t run. I had to stay." This episode isn’t about a perfect love story. It’s about two people who stumbled hard and then chose to stand together anyway. We talk about navigating estrangement, the weight of cultural expectations, the sting of disappointing those who believed in us, and the slow, grace-filled process of rebuilding trust, with our families, our faith community, and ourselves. Along the way, we unpack how fatherhood began not in the maternity ward, but in a decision to take responsibility, even when it was costly. For husbands, future husbands, and any man who’s ever faced the gap between who he wanted to be and what actually happened, this conversation is for you. It’s about how God’s grace can take a mess and turn it into a marriage, a family, and a testimony. It’s about what we’ve learned over nine years of parenting, persevering, and leaning on each other when winter came. And it’s a reminder that even the most unexpected beginnings can lead to stories worth telling. #thathusbandpodcast #christianmarriage #HusbandsForHusbands #fatherhoodjourney #youngparents #marriageandfaith #RealMarriageStories #biblicalmanhood #christianhusbands #marriagepodcast #husbandlife #christianfatherhood #marriagetestimony #faithinmarriage #godlyhusband #marriagestruggles #christianpodcast #marriagerestoration #loveandresponsibility #GraceInMarriage #marriagegodsway #faithandfamily #HusbandAndWife #christianrelationships #FromMessToMarriage

 Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources [S2] EPISODE 29: ALTAR OF AMBITION In this episode, we sit down with Ezekiel Nkotsoe, seven months into marriage and already confronted with the question most men never dare to ask: "Am I idolizing success at the expense of my wife?" Ezekiel shares how his obsession with performance, numbers, and being “the best” collided head-on with the quiet but holy demands of marriage. What began as a journey to build wealth and legacy was slowly revealed as a quest for validation, rooted in childhood trauma and masked as ambition. As husbands, we often say we’re grinding “for the family,” but how many Christmases can you miss before you’ve actually started grinding away from them? Ezekiel opens up about the difficult conversations with his wife, his coach, and God, uncovering the subtle lies we believe about ambition, provision, and masculinity. He reminds us that spiritual, emotional, and physical presence matters more than the car you pull into the driveway. And sometimes, the most godly ambition is learning to be content, to be present, and to serve the family God has placed in front of you. This episode is not just for the high performers or sales guys in Jozi, it’s for every husband trying to reconcile his grind with his calling. Whether you’re newly married, seasoned, or still considering what kind of man you want to be, this conversation is a sacred space for honest reflection. Because at the end of the day, no amount of ambition can hold your hand when you're old, only the woman you chose to love well can do that. #thathusbandpodcast #ChristianHusbands #MarriageMatters #godlymarriage #husbandswholead #FaithAndAmbition #MarriageOverMoney #contentmentinchrist #menofgod #christianmanhood #MarriageIsWork #BlackLoveMatters #generationalwealth #AmbitionWithPurpose #FaithfulNotFamous #HusbandsSupportingHusbands #ModernMarriageTalks #HustleAndHoliness #EmotionalProvision #GodlyMasculinity #KingdomMen #christcenteredmarriage #marriagepodcast #RealTalkForHusbands #marriageandfaith

 Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources [S2] EPISODE 28: DON'T LEAVE A MESS BEHIND What happens when the baton is passed to us and we’re not ready to carry it? In this conversation with the incredibly grounded and eloquent Caskey Ndaba, we talk about what it means to become the uncles, the fathers, the leaders we once looked up to. From drafting a will to defining a family vision, we wrestle with the reality of death, not in fear, but in wisdom. Caskey reminds us that masculinity is less about the muscle and more about the mind, and that real manhood means planning, preparing, and protecting. Mr. Ndaba opens up about walking from Diepsloot to Centurion to restart his life after losing everything, including his home and career. He shares how his divorce and later, the tragic loss of his children’s mother, shaped his journey as a father and a husband. These are not just stories, they are scars with purpose. His vulnerability, wrapped in clarity and determination, reminds us that being a husband is not about perfection but about showing up, again and again, even when it hurts. We don’t just talk policies and funeral plans, we go deeper into the fears, insecurities, and silence that often keep men from leading well. Whether you're a newlywed, a father of three, or a man trying to fix the brokenness you inherited, this episode offers both a mirror and a map. Because in the end, being a husband isn’t just about loving your family, it’s about leaving them ready when you’re no longer here. Let’s talk legacy, leadership, and love—because silence is no longer an option. #thathusbandpodcast #failingforward #legacybuilding #husbandswholead #fatherhoodmatters #BlackMenLead #purposedrivenmen #masculinityredefined #ManhoodJourney #menoffaith #VisionForFamily #DeathPreparedness #WillAndTestament #lifeinsurancematters #financialfitness #ModernHusband #healingfromloss #breakinggenerationalcycles #BePresentDad #ManUpMovement #authenticmanhood #griefandgrace #RealMenPlan #LeadershipInMarriage #intentionalliving

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S2] EPISODE 45: HEARING A MAN In this episode, we journey into the inner world of husbands who are trying to grow, heal, and show up better than the men who raised them. Danny joins Blaque for a deeply transparent conversation about the complexities of manhood, the weight of provision, and the quiet battles men fight long before anyone sees the cracks. From confronting generational cycles to redefining what it means to be healthy as a husband, this episode invites men to finally hear themselves in someone else’s story. Together they peel back the layers of marriage, identity, faith and pressure, exploring moments where being a husband feels like carrying contradictions. They speak openly about anger that has no name, silence that was taught too early, and the exhausting expectation to be strong everywhere except at home. Their dialogue reaches into father wounds, money wounds, the tension between public respect and private struggle, and the deep need for safe friendships that hold men accountable to the husbands they want to become. This is an episode for every man who has ever felt unseen while trying to lead, every husband who is trying to love from a place he is still learning to understand, and every couple navigating the uncomfortable but necessary work of growing together. Through stories of faith, failure, provision, boundaries and redemption, this conversation reminds us that perfect love does not come from perfect people, but from people willing to heal, willing to learn and willing to stay. This is a space for husbands who are not where they want to be, but are refusing to stay where they used to be. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandsForHusbands #marriagetalk #realmenrealtalk #menhealing #modernmarriage #husbandhood #faithandfamily #blackfathersmatter #mensmentalhealth #marriagewisdom #HealthyHusbands #breakingcycles #generationalhealing #christianmarriage #ManhoodJourney #husbandlife #marriagegrowth #MarriedMenTalk #EmotionalHealthForMen #marriageconversations #husbandsupport #RealMarriageRealTalk #menwholead #MenWhoLove

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[S2] EPISODE 27: CALLED TO BE PRESENT, NOT PERFECT! This week we sit down with Sbu Dube, for a heartfelt conversation where he opens up about the sacred moment he chose to love not just his wife, but her child too. He shares the weighty but beautiful decision of stepping into marriage with intention, not as a rescue plan, but as a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church. With honesty and humility, he reminds us that becoming a husband isn’t about perfection, but instead, it’s about presence, sacrifice, and a willingness to grow. Together, we explore the quiet fears that fathers often carry, the pressure to get marriage “right,” and how grace makes space for dreams to flourish in the home. Sbu's story takes us through his upbringing in a family that modeled long-term commitment, the lessons he gleaned from watching his father provide with silent strength, and how he carries those values into raising his own children. From changing nappies with trembling hands to the sacred joy of baptising his daughter, Sbu reveals that fatherhood isn’t just a title, it’s a calling, and sometimes, it starts the moment you say "I do." Whether you’re in the thick of raising young children, navigating a busy work-life balance, or wrestling with the tension between dreams and duty, this episode will remind you that you’re not alone. It's a call to stay home, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually. Because being a husband and father is less about doing everything right, and more about being right there when it matters most. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #HusbandsWhoLead #christianmarriage #blacklovestories #IntentionalFatherhood #modernmarriage #StepdadLove #marriagegodsway #PresentFathers #fathersmatter #faithandfamily #biblicalmanhood #marriagewisdom #lovelikechrist #parentingwithpurpose #husbandgoals #menoffaith #StayAtHomeDadVibes #marriageconversations #legacybuilding #fatherhoodjourney #godlymarriages #dadlifeunfiltered #christcenteredmarriage #marriagematters

 Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources [S2] EPISODE 26: BE THE HUSBAND YOU ENVISIONED What does it mean to be a husband in a world that’s constantly shifting its standards? In this episode, we sit with Tshepo Hlongwane, not just to talk about marriage, but to reflect on the weight and wonder of this sacred calling. From the lessons of mentorship, the quiet strength found in friendship with your spouse, to the spiritual responsibility of protecting your family, not just from physical harm but from the subtle spiritual battles, we leave no stone unturned. This is a conversation about choosing to show up even when it's hard, about repentance before repair, and about seeing your wife as a friend before a role. We dive into the real stuff. What happens when you're called to lead but feel underqualified? When your personal wiring clashes with your spouse's? When your dreams won’t let you rest? This episode unpacks how men can steward their marriages, their emotions, and their faith without letting shame or culture dictate the pace. Through laughter, conviction, and layered storytelling, this isn’t just theory, it’s lived experience. Blaque & Tshepo, wrestle with the everyday decisions that shape the men they become at home. If you're a husband who’s ever asked, "Am I doing enough? Am I becoming who God called me to be?", this episode is for you. Whether you’re newlywed, ten years deep, or just dreaming of what kind of husband you want to be, this conversation will meet you where you are. And it will push you, gently, intentionally, toward growth, friendship, and spiritual clarity. This is not just a podcast, it’s a mirror, it's a map, and it's a call to step up. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #ChristianHusband #FaithfulMen #KingdomMarriage #MarriageMatters #GodlyManhood #HusbandLife #LeadWithLove #MenOfFaith #HusbandGoals #MarriageGodsWay #SpiritualLeadership #BiblicalManhood #ProtectAndProvide #MenWhoPray #HusbandsWhoLead #RealMenRealTalk #MarriageConversations #MentorshipMatters #FriendshipInMarriage #ChristCenteredMarriage #HusbandGrowth #PurposeDrivenMarriage #ModernManOfGod #StepUpHusbands

 Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources [S2] EPISODE 25: FROM PAIN TO PROMISE In this episode, we sit with Alvin Fredericks of  @thetruedadventurer  a husband, father, and faithful follower of Christ, who walks us through a raw, heartbreaking, and ultimately redemptive journey through 5 miscarriages depression, spiritual wrestling, and healing. This isn’t just a story about grief, it’s a story about carrying unbearable weight silently, about standing at the edge of faith and finding God even when you feel abandoned. It’s a rare glimpse into what miscarriage and loss feel like for a husband, one who is expected to be strong, while silently fracturing on the inside. What do you do when you’ve done all the “right” things, but life still knocks the breath out of you? What does it mean to reflect Christ to your wife when you yourself are crumbling? Alvin opens up about being forgotten in the grief, misunderstood by the church, and pushed to the brink of ending it all. But he also shares the power of faithful friends, fatherly love, and how God used an unexpected encounter to plant the seed of hope again. This episode is not about easy answers, it’s about honest questions, deep pain, and a real Saviour. If you're a husband walking through loss, or standing beside someone who is, this episode will move you. It’s for the men who feel unseen in their suffering. It's for the ones who keep showing up despite the weight. And it’s for anyone who needs a reminder that even in deep suffering, God is not absent, He is forming something eternal. This is not just an episode; it's a lifeline. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #christianmarriage #faithinsuffering #husbandswholead #MarriageAfterLoss #miscarriageawareness #MenAndGrief #christianhusbands #fatherhoodjourney #infantlosssupport #biblicalmanhood #HopeInHeartbreak #GodInTheStorm #marriageministry #faithoverfeelings #healingtogether #christiantestimony #MenWithFeelings #HusbandPerspective #JesusInThePain #RealMarriageTalk #failingforward #christianpodcast #griefandgrace #christcenteredmarriage

 Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources [S2] EPISODE 24: YOUNG, MARRIED & FIGURING IT OUT What happens when your faith, finances, and fatherhood all collide? In this honest and soul-stirring episode, we sit down with Shaun Mahlangu, a husband, father of three, and creative content creator, who opens up about the raw reality of becoming a husband at 22 and navigating life, love, and fatherhood with nothing but a dream, a prayer, and a patient wife. From counting coins, trying to buy a "kota" to losing jobs, feeling like a failure, and watching the light fade from his wife's eyes, Shaun doesn’t hold back. This isn’t just a story; it’s a mirror for every man who's ever wondered, “Am I enough?” Shaun shares how being a broke husband nearly broke him, and what it took to climb out of depression, insecurity, and envy. We discuss retrenchment and redefining masculinity through the lens of failure and faith. You’ll hear what it’s like to cry in the car before work, battle anxiety silently, and still choose to show up every day for your wife, your kids, and your calling. More than that, you’ll hear how God shows up with grace for every child born, every prayer whispered, and every husband willing to keep failing forward. If you’ve ever felt crushed under the weight of expectations or afraid to dream with empty pockets, this episode is for you. It’s a love letter to resilient wives, a tribute to cycle-breaking fathers, and a reminder to all men: your brokenness doesn’t disqualify you, it may just be the very place where God rebuilds you. Don’t miss this deeply reflective, personal, and hope-filled conversation. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandTalks #failingforward #youngmarriage #BlackLoveStories #christianmarriage #HusbandsInTheMaking #fathersmatter #MenCryToo #MarriageInRealLife #realmenrealtalk #FaithfulFathers #GraceInTheMess #menandmentalhealth #VulnerableMen #cyclebreakers #BlackHusbandsMatter #marriagetestimony #godstiming #loveandstruggle #marriagepodcast #menwholead #DadLifeUnfiltered #FromBrokenToBuilt #GodsEconomy

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[S2] EPISODE 23: MARRIAGE IDOLATRY What happens when a man decides to rewrite his story of marriage? In this raw and heartfelt episode, Justin Henry sits across the table to unpack the emotional weight of growing up in a father-absent home, idolising marriage, and healing through it. He shares how he once tried to outrun the pain with career ambition and dating cycles, but ultimately discovered that God's grace and the hard work of real love are what make a husband. This is not just another love story, it's a story of redemption, restoration, and choosing to be present. Together, we talk about the pressures men face, from churches that rush young people into marriage, to mothers who ask, “So when are you getting married?”, to societal metrics that equate manhood with money. Justin reflects on what it's like to try, fail, and try again with wisdom. If you’ve ever made marriage an idol, rushed into love, or felt unprepared for the weight of being a husband, this one’s for you. We don't hold back in this one! Whether you’re married, divorced, dating, or single by design, this conversation will challenge you. Because at the core, this isn’t just about marriage, it’s about what kind of human you’re becoming. Hit play, and don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandsWhoLead #MarriageRedefined #FaithAndMarriage #ModernHusbands #RealTalkMen #GodlyMarriage #BlackMenHealing #FatherWound #MenAndMentalHealth #MarriageJourney #RedefiningManhood #PurposefulMarriage #LoveAfterLoss #HealingThroughMarriage #PremaritalCounseling #MarriageMatters #ChristCenteredMarriage #MarriageIsMinistry #MenWithVision #ChristianHusbands #DoMarriageWell #ManhoodRestored #MarriageAndFaith #BetterHusbandsBetterHomes

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[S2] EPISODE 22: FRIEND-ZONE IN MARRIAGE "Marriage isn’t hard—what’s hard is pretending to love someone you don’t even like." In this episode, we unpack what it truly means for a husband to be friends with his wife. Our guest, Tebogo Mphohle opens up about how friendship in marriage isn't just a bonus, it’s a lifeline. He reflects on the moments where being friends with his wife quite literally saved their relationship. Without that foundation of mutual admiration, laughter, and understanding, many couples, especially men, drift emotionally while still sharing a home. The cost is intimacy being lost, and eventually, so is the marriage. What makes this episode special is how unashamedly it weaves faith, family legacy, and vulnerability. Tebogo speaks about growing up in a home where love was modeled not just privately but publicly, and how that shaped his vision of marriage. Yet even with a beautiful template, he found himself in a toxic relationship before meeting his wife. The contrast was jarring but redemptive. It was only when he was truly seen, truly safe, and truly befriended that his heart began to heal. What followed wasn’t just romance, it was renewal. If you’re a husband wondering why things feel dry, distant, or just… dull, maybe what’s missing isn’t a new date night strategy or more counselling sessions. Maybe what’s missing is friendship. Real, intentional, "you're my day-one" type of friendship. And as you’ll hear in this episode: you don’t have to fake it till you make it, you can choose to like her, again and again. Tune in, be challenged, and rediscover the power of being her friend. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #marriagetalk #husbandlife #thathusbandpodcast #faithfulhusbands #marriageadvice #RealMarriageConvos #christianmarriage #HusbandWisdom #leadwithlove #marriagematters #FriendshipInMarriage #godlymarriages #StrongMarriageStrongFamily #modernmarriage #MarriedMenTalk #BeHerFriend #MarriageIsMinistry #BlackLoveMatters #SouthAfricanHusbands #MarriageGoalsDaily #husbandswholead #marriageunfiltered #christcenteredmarriage #MarriageRealTalk #HusbandsOfInstagram

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In this soul-stirring episode of That Husband Podcast, Blaque Nubon sits down with Pastor and friend Sihle Xulu for a conversation that feels less like an interview and more like a mirror—reflecting the quiet weight many husbands carry but rarely speak of. From moving provinces with nothing but conviction, to rebuilding a marriage that once felt beyond repair, Sihle opens up about the unseen cost of calling, and the holy tension of wanting to lead well without losing the people who matter most.

This isn’t just about ministry or marriage, it's about the sacred in-between. The moments when your wife says, “I don’t like you right now,” but you still have to show up. The quiet wrestle of asking your family to follow you again—another city, another job, another dream, and wondering if this time, it's really God or just ambition. It’s about learning to hold your calling and your family with both hands and choosing to stay when it would be easier to escape.

For every man who’s ever felt torn between purpose and presence, this conversation is an anchor. It’s a tender reminder that you don’t have to perform your way through pain. That true strength is often hidden in confession, and healing begins the moment we say, “This is hard… but we’re still here.” Press play, this one might change how you see your story.

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[S2] EPISODE 20: BREAKING THE IN-LAW STIGMA

What happens when culture, marriage, and modern masculinity collide? In this deeply personal episode, we sit down with Ayanda Buthelezi to unpack the often misunderstood practice of "Ukukotiza." In this traditional Nguni custom, a new bride spends time with her in-laws to learn the rhythms, responsibilities, and expectations of married life. But this is not just about tradition—it's about identity, manhood, and the sacred in-between space where a wife is not just joining a family but shaping one.

As husbands, we often stand silently at the edge of this process. But what if our silence is costing us something? Ayanda opens up about how Ukukotiza has evolved—how some families still treat it as a rite of passage with dignity, while others risk turning it into exploitation. We reflect honestly on what it means for a man to guide, protect, and honour this season, not as a controller, but as a covering. It’s about more than chores—it’s about culture, character, and covenant.

Whether you grew up watching "Ukukotiza" from the side lines or are navigating it with your new wife today, this episode invites you to rethink your role as a husband in a culturally rich but emotionally complex tradition. This isn’t just a conversation about our wives—it’s about us, too. About how we honour her, honour our elders, and honour God in how we merge culture and covenant.

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[S2] EPISODE 19: DIVINE PLOT TWIST

Sitting across from Blaque Nubon is Kevin Makhubo—a husband, father, and man of God, who opens up about his journey from rejecting the idea of marriage to becoming a husband defined by love and sacrifice. His reflections are not polished soundbites but raw truths, soaked in years of wrestling with God, unlearning broken definitions of masculinity, and submitting to a higher calling. Kevin’s story is not just inspiring; it is deeply confronting for any man who has wondered if he has what it takes to be a present, intentional, and loving husband.

What makes this conversation especially rich is Kevin’s transparency about his relationship with his absent father. At 23, he chose to forgive a man who had wounded him not with violence, but with silence and absence. That act of forgiveness, rooted in obedience to God, unlocked a freedom that shaped the kind of husband and father Kevin would become. It's a testimony that manhood is not inherited, it’s forged. Kevin chose to become the man he never had, breaking generational pain with courageous vulnerability and relentless faith. His reconciliation with his father wasn’t about receiving closure, it was about releasing the burden so he could walk into marriage whole.

The episode also dives into the sacred messiness of marriage, how passion, playfulness, purpose, and pain coexist in a lifelong covenant. Kevin’s reflections on sex, spontaneity, spiritual alignment, and shared purpose with his wife are refreshingly honest and disarmingly insightful. This isn’t a highlight reel of a perfect marriage, it’s a living, breathing example of two people choosing each other every day, even when it costs them. His encouragement about the power of brotherhood, the importance of accountability, and the freedom that comes from open conversations, especially about sex and finances, makes this episode a gift for any man who wants to grow, not just as a husband, but as a whole person.

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 Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources [S2] EPISODE 18: IT’S NOT MAGIC, IT’S MAINTENANCE

In this deeply personal episode, we sit down with Drs. Jerry and Gugu Gule, a couple whose love story spans more than 43 years of marriage. From a chance encounter in a university book queue to decades of shared life, the Gules offer a rare glimpse into a covenant marked by friendship, faith, and fierce commitment. Their story is not just about longevity—it’s about intentional love, expressed through the small, ordinary moments that become extraordinary in hindsight. They show us that behind every lasting marriage are difficult conversations, the willingness to say “I’m sorry,” and the sacred act of wiping away each other’s tears—even when you’ve been the cause of them.

What makes this episode especially profound is the vulnerability and humility with which the Gules reflect on their journey. Dr. Jerry shares the painful memory of missing a key moment in their second child’s birth due to work, a regret that still weighs heavily on him. Dr. Gugu opens up about the ways in which her early life shaped a guarded, assertive posture and how Christ slowly transformed her heart toward gentleness and forgiveness. They describe how prayer, humour, and a shared commitment to reconciliation helped them navigate heartbreak, misunderstandings, and evolving needs across different seasons of marriage. Together, they model a kind of love that is deeply sacrificial, wholly authentic, and refreshingly unpretentious.

This episode is more than just a conversation—it’s a testament. A reminder that marriage, at its best, is not built on grand romantic gestures, but on the slow, steady accumulation of mutual service, grace, and laughter. For every husband and wife wondering if it’s still possible to love and be loved for a lifetime, the Gules offer hope and a blueprint. And in a world that often tells us to walk away when things get hard, this story gently insists: stay, listen, forgive, and grow together.

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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S2] EPISODE 44: REDEFINING PRESENCE

In this episode, we sit down for one of our most honest and soul-stirring conversations yet. TK opens up about his journey as a husband and father in a way that feels both familiar and deeply challenging as he reflects on what it means to grow into the kind of man who protects his home not only with provision but also with presence, tenderness, and intention. His story reminds us that marriage matures us, shapes us, and reveals us, and that the small choices we make every day slowly build the foundation our families stand on. As TK recounts the beauty and weight of discovering that he and his wife were expecting twins, we hear a man wrestling with fear, excitement, and a fierce resolve to show up fully for his family. He shares how vulnerability, trust, and honest communication became the pillars that carried him and his wife through loss, new beginnings, and the unpredictable terrain of parenthood. His reflections invite every husband to rethink leadership as something deeper than authority, something rooted in service, emotional steadiness, and spiritual anchoring. This conversation is for every husband who is trying his best to be better than yesterday, every man navigating the tension between who he was raised to be and who his family needs him to become. It is a reminder that growth is possible, that healing is ongoing, and that love becomes real when it is practiced in the everyday rhythms of presence, patience, and partnership. If you are a husband on your own journey of failing forward, learning forward, and loving forward, this episode will meet you right where you are. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #marriagematters #faithandmarriage #HusbandTalks #realmenrealtalk #christianmarriage #MenOfFaith #MarriageJourney #menoffaith #marriagepodcast #BlackLove #husbandlife #marriagegoals #FaithfulHusband #christcenteredmarriage #marriagewisdom #MenInMarriage #godlyhusband #loveandleadership #marriageconversations #marriageandfaith #PurposefulMarriage #ModernHusbands #marriagereflections #DoingBetterTogether