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Parenting is terrifying. The moment your child comes into the world, you become painfully aware of all the dangers lurking around every corner. As parents, all we want is to keep them safe, wrapped up in our arms, warm and happy and never in pain. But, as all parents know, that’s not the way things go. And when your child is hurting, you hurt with them. Their pain is yours. And you can’t help but feel responsible for each time they stumble and fall. And though you could never control everything, the guilt gnaws at you anyway. Because why CAN'T you fix it? Shouldn't you be able to? Your child is suffering, and you cannot help but feel like it's your fault. If you had just done something differently, you could have avoided this. On today’s episode, a listener wrote in looking for help: her young son is in rehab, and she felt helpless. So, of course, Nora and the community came through to give her a pep talk. Our operator (Nora!) is always standing by to take your texts and calls. Reach us at 612.568.4441. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Nora is on IG, TikTok, Facebook and LinkedIn. Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Use code TFA at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Monarch.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to get your first year of Monarch Core half off at just $50. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nora McInerny welcomes poet David Gate for a lively conversation about finding “okay” in the everyday. They talk about unexpected moments of connection, new hope in Alzheimer’s research, the joy of Costco, family life, and why politicians should be held to their promises. Along the way: billionaires, hot dogs, Kelly Clarkson, and the small comforts that make a difficult world feel a little more manageable. You can get more from David at ⁠DavidGatePoet.com⁠ You can share your okay things with us at ☎️502-388-OKAY (6529) or 📧 ⁠IGTBO@feelingsand.co⁠  To support our show, you can subscribe to our YouTube content ⁠here⁠. Our music is by Secret Audio, and their new album is on ⁠Spotify⁠ or ⁠Apple⁠! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

No one prepares you for the moment that you lose your person. We will never compare one loss to another. We will never say that there is a loss that is worse, because grief is simply The Worst. But there is something uniquely horrible about losing a sibling. Siblings are our tethers to every moment of our lives — from childhood to teenagehood to adulthood — and are, most likely, the only people that could ever understand the things that molded you and made you who you are. But when you lose a sibling, you don’t just lose the person. You lose all those memories. All those moments. In March, we published an episode called Dead Siblings Society (Part One), where friend of the pod Steph Wittels Wachs shared her experience with sibling loss and we read through listener submissions from other bereaved siblings. Both guests of today’s episode were featured: Aaron, a friend of Nora’s from high school, and Emma, who wrote an email so beautiful that it left us and listeners in awe. Today’s episode is a conversation between Emma and Aaron, two bereaved siblings who lost brothers that were the other halves of their hearts. Trust us when we say that after you press play on this episode, you will be forever changed. Our operator (Nora!) is always standing by to take your texts and calls. Reach us at 612.568.4441. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Nora is on IG, TikTok, Facebook and LinkedIn. Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Use code TFA at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Monarch.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to get your first year of Monarch Core half off at just $50. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Something is in the air, because Nora has been contemplating getting bangs again. Oh, and the meaning of life, passage of time, etc. etc. Whatever you’re having multiple small crises about, one thing is for sure: everyone is on the brink right now. It would be amazing if there was one thing to point fingers at and blame, but in truth, the things that are pushing everyone to the brink are just as nuanced as the things we need to do to pull ourselves back. To explore why every woman ever is collectively teetering on the edge of a breakdown, Nora called Lyz Lenz – expert on all things that could push a woman over the brink.  To make a long story short: OF COURSE YOU ARE OVERWHELMED. The bar is so high that we are killing ourselves trying to reach it.  If it feels overwhelming, well, that’s because it probably is overwhelming. If you’re on the brink, I want to hear from you. Listen to Lyz’s podcast, Dingus of the Week, and read her newsletter, Men Yell at Me, by checking out her Patreon! Get the book Nora recommends to every divorced and divorce-curious woman, This American Ex-Wife by Lyz Lenz. Our operator (Nora!) is always standing by to take your texts and calls. Reach us at 612.568.4441. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Nora is on IG, TikTok, Facebook and LinkedIn. Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Use code TFA at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Monarch.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to get your first year of Monarch Core half off at just $50. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

These days, daily life can feel unpredictable. Every moment, many of us are bracing for impact or expecting to be pushed back into the pit of despair – but there is always a bright spot of OK. Today, Nora’s finding that for you and encouraging you to lower the bar. The thing that can make you realize that it’s going to be OK can be small, mundane, or ordinary. That doesn’t make them any less spectacular. On this episode, Nora talks about finding the OK moments even when you’re in the thick of grief, her amazing experience in Burlington, Vermont (if only she could pack up from Arizona and move there forever), her decluttering journey, restarting The Artist’s Way, and more. ⁠Read more about my life with a wife!⁠ My experience with morning pages is documented ⁠here ⁠and my conversation with Elizabeth Kott about The Artist’s Way is ⁠here⁠. For more about my decluttering experience, check out ⁠my decluttering Office Hours⁠, ⁠decluttering with Elizabeth Kott⁠, and ⁠my article about it⁠. You can share your okay things with us at ☎️502-388-OKAY (6529) or 📧 ⁠IGTBO@feelingsand.co⁠  To support our show, you can subscribe to our YouTube content ⁠here⁠. Our music is by Secret Audio, and their new album is on ⁠Spotify⁠ or ⁠Apple⁠! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Use code TFA at ⁠⁠⁠⁠Monarch.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ to get your first year of Monarch Core half off at just $50. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

 Losing someone you love is never easy – but there’s something uniquely painful and incredibly misunderstood about losing someone to opioid addiction and overdose. Today, friend of the pod, host, and author Steph Wittels Wachs is back to talk about her newest book, Last Day, and share how she turned her grief into purpose.  She’s here on the podcast today to talk about opioid use disorder, the lessons Steph’s learned in the wake of Harris’s loss, and the incredibly problematic way that we handle addiction. If you or someone you love has lost someone to or love someone who is struggling with opioid addiction, please know that you aren’t alone. These stories are unique, but the experience is not — and we need to have these conversations. If we don’t cover it in this episode, call or text us at 612-568-4441. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Nora is on IG, TikTok, Facebook and LinkedIn. Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. ❤️ Use code TFA at ⁠⁠⁠⁠Monarch.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ to get your first year of Monarch Core half off at just $50. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s rare to find someone who you can talk to about grief. Even rarer when someone can understand the dropping feeling in your stomach when you hear the word “glioblastoma” while sitting in a doctor’s office, watching someone who has been a constant in her life be robbed of their future – and watching yourself be robbed of time with them. On today’s episode of Thanks for Asking, Nora is joined by her Sister in Sadness, Dayna Kathan, whose mother passed away from the same type of brain cancer that Aaron did. Besides being an all-around remarkable woman, Dayna is an open book about her depression and suicidal ideations, which worsened in the years following her mother’s death. September is Suicide Awareness Month, and this episode is a reminder to anyone out there who needs to hear that they aren’t alone, that no feeling is forever, and that everything – even despair – is temporary.  Find Dayna on Instagram and tune into her podcast, Disrespectfully. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Check out Nora’s Instagram here! Check out Nora’s TikTok here! Check out Nora’s Facebook here! Check out Nora’s LinkedIn here! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. ❤️ Use code TFA at ⁠⁠⁠Monarch.com⁠⁠⁠ to get your first year of Monarch Core half off at just $50. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of IGTBO, Nora is joined by host of ⁠Nuance Needed⁠ podcast and friend Amanda White to give you your weekly dose of OK. This week, Nora and Amanda discuss the surprising human connections that can be made when you need to call AAA, talking yourself down from a spiral, the best ways to turn your brain off, and, of course, celebrating the post office. If you didn’t know, this is a very post-office friendly podcast. Tune in to take your mind off the general NOT-OKness of the world – not everything will be OK, but something will be. Come find it with Nora and Amanda today. You can find Amanda on ⁠Instagram⁠, ⁠Substack⁠, and tune in to her podcast, Nuance Needed, on ⁠Apple ⁠and ⁠Spotify⁠! You can share your okay things with us at ☎️502-388-OKAY (6529) or 📧 ⁠IGTBO@feelingsand.co⁠  To support our show, you can subscribe to our YouTube content ⁠here⁠. Our music is by Secret Audio, and their new album is on ⁠Spotify⁠ or ⁠Apple⁠! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. ❤️ Use code TFA at ⁠⁠Monarch.com⁠⁠ to get your first year of Monarch Core half off at just $50. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you believe it when other people say, “You’re worthy just because you exist,” or do you simply grimace, pretend you agree, and move forward? It can be difficult to have a real sense of self-worth. Not the kind that we advertise on social media with our highlight reels, but the genuine sense of self-worth: the way you treat yourself and, in turn, how you treat others. If you’re a member of our community, you probably understand this feeling – maybe you’ve suffered grief, loss, tragedy, anxiety, depression, etc… Digging past the performative self-esteem and accessing true understanding of your own self-worth can feel – let’s face it – impossible, especially when you’re trying to just keep your head above water. Today, Nora is joined by Dr. Marisa Franco to help us all understand what self-worth and self-esteem truly are and how we can access them authentically to show up for ourselves and the people around us. If you have any questions for Nora and Marisa, call/text us at 612.568.441. You can get a copy of Marisa’s most recent book, Worth, on Bookshop or Amazon. Watch us on YouTube here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Nora is on IG, TikTok, Facebook and LinkedIn. Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. ❤️ Use code TFA at ⁠Monarch.com⁠ to get your first year of Monarch Core half off at just $50. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

25 years ago, the United States was rocked by the tragedy of 9/11. American Airlines Flight 11 and United Airlines Flight 175 struck the North and South Towers of the World Trade Center in New York City. American Airlines Flight 77 struck the Pentagon. United Airlines Flight 93 went down in a field in Pennsylvania after its passengers fought back against the hijackers. Almost 3,000 people died that day. For 25 years, the echo of that tragedy has been heard – everyone remembers where they were, how they heard, and the paralyzing fear in the aftermath. None more than the survivors and the loved ones of those who lost their lives that day.  David Ferrugio was an ordinary seventh grader on that Tuesday morning, stressed about homework and school and the fact that his friend, Jeff, was late again. But when Jeff showed up and said, “Hey, David, doesn’t your dad work at the World Trade Center? A plane just crashed into it,” everything changed. Today, David Ferrugio, host of Dead Talks, author of You’re Not Dead Yet, and friend of the podcast, is here to talk about the complicated grief that came with losing his father in the 9/11 attacks – the constant push and pull of public and private grief, his identity being tied to this tragic loss, and what it looks like 25 years later. Listen to our IGTBO with David Ferrugio on Spotify and Apple! Tune into David Ferrugio’s podcast, Dead Talks, on Spotify and Apple! Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. ❤️ Use code TFA at Monarch.com to get your first year of Monarch Core half off at just $50. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some things are just a little too perfect to be random – and this is coined by Nora and guest Caroline Moss as “the portal opening.” In today’s episode of IGTBO, Nora and Caroline talk about the small moments of magic and stars aligning: Nora’s daughter’s new boyfriend’s invisible string through their lives, signs from Caroline’s grandmother, and a puppy finally learning how to ask to go outside after weeks of failed training.  Not everything is going to be OK all the time. We know that. You know that. But this episode is a celebration of the moments where it feels like the universe is giving you a little nudge to remind you that something will be OK. You can share your okay things with us at ☎️502-388-OKAY (6529) or 📧 IGTBO@feelingsand.co  To support our show, you can subscribe to our YouTube content here. Our music is by Secret Audio, and their new album is on Spotify or Apple! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ayane Lage is the author of Missing Me: A memoir of post-partum psychosis and the long road back, her own first-hand account of an often-misunderstood and currently very hot topic, as we sat down to record this on the same week as the internet and major news outlets are tirelessly reporting and speculating on the case of Lindsay Clancy, a Massachusetts mother who strangled her three young children in what prosecutors call a pre-meditated act and what her lawyer and many women across the world are calling an act of post-partum psychosis.  Ayana’s story had a very different ending – she was lucky enough to be here to share her story with us, and we’re lucky to have her here to share it. Our operator (Nora!) is always standing by to take your texts and calls. Reach us at 612.568.4441. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Nora is on IG, TikTok, Facebook and LinkedIn. Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

 If we’re lucky, we’ll all be old someday. America is gradually getting older. According to the US government, since 2001, the national median age has risen from 35.6 to 39.4. And yes, while we complain about boomers, it has to be said that attempting to retire in an economy where gas is close to $5 a gallon and a 12-pack of Diet Coke is $12 (highway robbery). According to a study by Allianz, baby boomers are the wealthiest generation to have ever lived, and account for 51.8% of the country’s total wealth.  As these boomers age and – let’s say it – die – the wealth they pass down to their children and grandchildren is going to be anywhere from 68-84 trillion dollars…and unprecedented amount of money that many are calling The Great Wealth Transfer. And if that happens for some people, cool! But obviously not every boomer is rich, and many of them are passing down more generational trauma than generational wealth.  In this episode of Thanks for Asking, Nora is talking to Beth Pinsker, a Certified Financial Planner and author of My Mother’s Money: A Guide to Financial Caregiving. They’re talking about finances, debt, and managing money for aging parents – something that is never easy but many of us deal with in silence. So today, we’re talking about it. Beth’s book is available on Bookshop, Amazon or wherever you buy books.  If you’re interested in more episodes we’ve done on finances, check them out: It’s romantic to get a prenup (and other financial lessons for divorce) Debt, Lies, and Other Things Our Parents Leave Us Behind The Scammer Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. ❤️ Turns out you don’t need a real job. Build your own business with a free trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/tfa⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’re on the brink right now, you aren’t alone. As the Summer of Surrender comes to an end, Nora wanted to bring you an episode that was made to distract you from the weight of the world. Today, she’s joined by friend of the pod and Be There in Five host Kate Kennedy to reconnect with the small things that bring them joy: in parenting, in their homes, in trinkets, and, of course, in amazing TV that takes you away from your own life, just for a little while. You can share your okay things with us at ☎️502-388-OKAY (6529) or 📧 IGTBO@feelingsand.co  To support our show, you can subscribe to our YouTube content here. Our music is by Secret Audio, and their new album is on Spotify or Apple! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. ❤️ Turns out you don’t need a real job. Build your own business with a free trial at ⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/tfa Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most friendships start because you have something in common: work, hobbies, fashion, books, sense of humor. But not all friendships are formed because of something wholesome in common. Sometimes, you share an experience so life-changing that you are drawn to each other. That is how, nine years ago, Nora and Steph Wittels Wachs became friends. Steph lost her brother, Harris, to an opioid overdose. Grievers can always find common ground: losing someone changes you. If you have lived this before, you’ll find it feeling familiar. If you haven’t, consider yourself lucky. Watching a family member suffer from opioid addiction is crushing. Losing them is debilitating. Steph and I want to talk to you if you have been affected by the opioid crisis. If you have something to share, give us a call or a text: ☎️‪(612) 568-4441‬. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Nora is on IG, TikTok, Facebook and LinkedIn. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

People tend to tiptoe around anything to do with widowhood. We know that people are clumsy with their words and their actions, and often, they don’t want to say the wrong thing or ask the wrong questions. Oftentimes, widows don’t even want to ask these questions to fellow widows. So, our inbox fills with the questions people are too scared to ask – about dating widows, about grief’s permanence, about moving forward without forgetting your person, and about widows dating other widows. Today, Nora is joined by fellow widow Rebecca Woolf to go through your burning questions and talk about grief, dating after loss, and the practical questions no one ever wants to get into. If you are a widow (or know a widow!) and have questions you wish you could ask, this episode will answer them. If we don’t cover it in this episode, call or text us at 612-568-4441. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Nora is on IG, TikTok, Facebook and LinkedIn. Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. ❤️ Turns out you don’t need a real job. Build your own business with a free trial at ⁠⁠shopify.com/tfa Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our lives are shaped by our families. Not just our habits, family recipes, and noses – our stories, too. You probably know stories about your great-grandparents, great-great-grandparents, or, if you’re really into Ancestry.com, as far back as five hundred years ago. You might know the names, professions, quirks, and life stories of people who could have literally never imagined your existence, and you carry those things with you. For some people, these family legends are a point of pride. It was for Ka Vang, too. She held tight to the heroic story of her father, Ying Vang, slipping away from the communist labor camp where he had been placed after being kidnapped in Laos, accompanied by an Australian pilot. But the real story? It doesn’t quite live up to the myth Ka knows. And now, as she’s preparing to pass on her family’s history to her children, she reflects on her own. If you have thoughts, feelings, or something to share, you can reach us at: ☎️ 612-568-4441 Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Nora is on IG, TikTok, Facebook and LinkedIn (????)Check out Nora’s Instagram here! Check out Nora’s TikTok here! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. ❤️ Turns out you don’t need a real job. Build your own business with a free trial at ⁠shopify.com/tfa Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode, Nora is joined by Elizabeth Kott to renew your hope in humanity and give you your much-needed dose of OK. If you continue to forget the days of the week (Tuesday shouldn’t exist and we are prepared to cut them out of our calendars), find joy in having and using multiple notebooks while constantly on the quest to find the most PERFECT notebook, and love gossiping about the Summer House reunion (the receipts re: the Amanda and West betrayal is INSANE), you are very much in the right place. Take a moment today and find the OK with us. You can share your okay things with us at ☎️502-388-OKAY (6529) or 📧 IGTBO@feelingsand.co  To support our show, you can subscribe to our YouTube content here. Our music is by Secret Audio, and their new album is on Spotify or Apple! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

People are clumsy when it comes to widows – we’ve made a handful of episodes about just how clumsy we can be. But we don’t often talk about how widows can be clumsy with others, too. In today’s episode, we meet caller Alex, who met her dream man on Hinge. He was emotionally available, kind, and very interested in her. He made her feel safe and valued and important, which made Alex feel like she was finally with the right guy. The only complication? His wife had died a year earlier. And Alex, despite her best efforts, can’t help but feel like she is being constantly compared to his dead wife and that she has to suppress her feelings in favor of his “bigger” loss. In this episode, Nora and Alex break down their relationship, their breakup, and the complications of grief and dating. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Nora is on IG, TikTok, Facebook and LinkedIn. Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. ❤️ Turns out you don’t need a real job. Build your own business with a free trial at ⁠⁠shopify.com/tfa Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some days, OK things are all around us and naming them is a breeze. On other days, it feels like you have never, EVER been OK in your entire life. Whatever day you’re having, Nora and special guest and friend of the pod Jo Piazza are bringing you a message: to join them in their version of a 90s summer of surrender. They talk about lowering expectations, enjoying the whimsical little things (think: bedazzled pill bottles and cold pasta salad in the heat), and what parenting in the summer looks like when it isn’t a 10 second Instagram reel. You can share your okay things with us at☎️502-388-OKAY (6529) or 📧 ⁠IGTBO@feelingsand.co⁠  To support our show, you can subscribe to our YouTube content ⁠here⁠. Our music is by Secret Audio, and their new album is on ⁠Spotify⁠ or ⁠Apple⁠! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you’re a planner and life throws you a big, rusty wrench, how do you live in the aftermath? If you’re anything like us, you desire control. A perfect, beautiful calendar with everything already on it – no surprises! Maggie Smith was one of those people, too. Being ruled by predictability worked for a lot of her life – through school, marriage, children, her career – but then everything imploded when Maggie found herself divorced and there was nothing predictable about her future anymore. This episode is for those of us who live to draw the empty boxes and check them off, waking up in a cold sweat thinking about your future plans might being thrown off. Let this be your sign to let go. You’ll find yourself once you get rid of the box you’re living in. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Nora is on IG, TikTok, Facebook and LinkedIn  Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. ❤️ Turns out you don’t need a real job. Build your own business with a free trial at ⁠shopify.com/tfa Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Drinking is a really acceptable thing in the US. Most towns have liquor stores on every few corners. Every home decor store has products with some variation of the same, tongue-in-cheek humor: “Mommy’s Go-Go Juice,” “I’m not whining, I’m wine-ing,” or “It’s WINE O’CLOCK!” More often than not, explaining that you’re sober can be more awkward than explaining that you binge drink every other weekend. In fact, in the 2024 National Survey on Drug Use and Health, 79.2% of people aged 12 and up reported that they had consumed alcohol at some point in their lifetime.  Drinking is, for most people, considered “normal.” And for Laura McKowen, drinking was just a part of life – of work, of her social life, of relaxing. She didn’t realize how destructive it was until things had gone too far and her brother confronted her, saying, “This is your thing. You can’t drink.” Laura is here today to walk us through her addiction, guilt, turmoil, recovery, and path onwards, sharing the nine things that anyone facing addiction needs to hear. References: National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. (2025). Alcohol use in the United States: Age groups and demographic characteristics. https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohols-effects-health/alcohol-topics-z/alcohol-facts-and-statistics/alcohol-use-united-states-age-groups-and-demographic-characteristics Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Nora is on IG, TikTok, Facebook and LinkedIn. Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. ❤️ Turns out you don’t need a real job. Build your own business with a free trial at shopify.com/tfa Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What’s okay with Laura McKowen right now? After we talk about the weather (and who doesn’t love to talk about the weather?) we go on a journey through prestige and lowbrow television, briefcases, baked goods and a poem that will bring you the soul hug you need.  Laura McKowens books: We Are The Luckiest: The Surprising Magic of a Sober Life (Bookshop | Amazon) Push Off From Here: 9 Essential Truths To Get You Through Sobriety (And Everything Else ( Bookshop | Amazon) And Laura’s substack, Love Story.  You can share your okay things with us at ☎️502-388-OKAY (6529) or 📧 IGTBO@feelingsand.co  To support our show, you can subscribe to our YouTube content here. Our music is by Secret Audio, and their new album is on Spotify or Apple Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There is no shame in giving up, despite the fact that the #Girlboss from the 2010s in us all might be rolling over in her metaphorical grave at the thought. But if you’re anything like Nora, you’ve felt the pressure from… well, everywhere to have a plan for the summer. To make it the most magical summer for your kids. To juggle work and hobbies and friends and your health with ease even as we’re hit by heat wave after heat wave. To meet every make believe deadline you have created for yourself. This episode, Nora’s introducing you to the Summer Of Surrender: The One Where We Give Up. It’s about letting go of that tight hold you have on to-do lists, deadlines, and plans. It’s about letting life take you wherever it may go. It demands that you step away from that email you’ve been writing, accept you are not the center of the universe, and surrender. Come surrender with us. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Nora is on IG, TikTok, Facebook and LinkedIn. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Adoption is often viewed as a happy ending, and sometimes it is! But for Thenedra, her experiences as a child in the foster care system and later as a trans-racial adoptee were — and still are — much more complicated than that. This is an episode about what can happen when trans-racial foster and adoptive parents are not just unprepared to raise traumatized children, but also unprepared to raise Black children in a predominantly white society. References:  The National Association of Black Social Workers’ 1972 position statement on transracial adoption  1984 study on the long-term effects of trans-racial adoption Children of color disproportionately likely to enter foster care system Watch us on YouTube here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’ve been feeling like life is throwing everything at you all at once – burnout, exhaustion, chaos – today’s episode is for you. Today, Nora is joined by author and friend of the pod Courtney Maum, who brought OK things from weird Zillow listings in Florida to fancy gifts from very classy ladies. And, despite their love for each other, they very nearly have a friendship-ending fight – over whether the calendar should start on Sunday or Monday. Things get pretty heated. If you’re searching for joy in the chaos, sit back and press play on today’s episode. Watch us on YouTube here⁠! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on ⁠Spotify⁠ and ⁠Apple⁠! You can buy Nora’s books on ⁠Bookshop ⁠or ⁠Amazon⁠, or wherever you buy books. Check out Nora’s Instagram ⁠here⁠! Check out Nora’s TikTok ⁠here⁠! Check out Nora’s Facebook ⁠here⁠! Check out Nora’s LinkedIn ⁠here⁠! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In 2011, it was impossible to escape the “Friday” music video. September 16, 2011 changed the trajectory of pop culture – and of 13-year-old Rebecca Black’s life – forever. What started as a harmless, fun music video (with yes, some questionable lyrics) turned into a vitriolic mob obsessed with bullying a teenage girl. Even now, every few months the song will resurface on TikTok. But what happens to the person behind the viral fame? What happens to the subject of unnecessary hate? Rebecca Black is on the pod to tell you. Watch us on YouTube here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Check out Nora’s Instagram here! Check out Nora’s TikTok here! Check out Nora’s Facebook here! Check out Nora’s LinkedIn here! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Father's Day can be complicated. In this special mini-episode, we hear an essay from writer Hannah Diaz titled No One Sent Flowers for the First Loss. Then, podcaster and former Vanderpump Rules actor Dayna Kathan talks about how loving her dad from a distance is an act of self-love. Happy Complicated Father's Day. Hannah's IG: @hannah_d1az Dayna's IG: @daynakathan Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Check out Nora’s Instagram here! Check out Nora’s TikTok here! Check out Nora’s Facebook here! Check out Nora’s LinkedIn here! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s IGTBO episode is a spiritual hug – as previous guest and friend of the pod Kelly Corrigon called it – with guest Nadia Bolz-Weber, a beautiful writer, a fellow griever, and a pastor. Don't be frightened away from this episode if you are not a religious person – there won’t be any lecturing here. Nadia is not that kind of religious person. She’s the kind of religious person that, at the very least, inspires you to find the beauty in the world around you. And that’s what today’s episode is – a balm for your soul and a confirmation that a small, simple life is more than enough. You can find Nadia’s work on Substack ⁠here⁠. You can share your okay things with us at ☎️502-388-OKAY (6529) or 📧 ⁠IGTBO@feelingsand.co⁠  To support our show, you can subscribe to our YouTube content ⁠here⁠. Check out the IGTBO Instagram ⁠here⁠! Our music is by Secret Audio, and their new album is on ⁠Spotify⁠ or ⁠Apple⁠! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nicole was 21 years old and had an alien growing inside her chest.  Well, no, not really. But it WAS an extremely large tumor growing inside of her that very much FELT like an alien — an alien that doctors had told her multiple times was just weight gain. After dismissal time after time again, Nicole finally meets a surgeon who tells her that she has a massive cyst on her fallopian tube that was 32 centimeters wide. This isn’t just a story about the pain of medical misogyny (although, hey, if you needed more proof women are never taken as seriously as they should be in healthcare, here’s more for you!) – it’s also a story about the pain of what could have been. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Nora is on IG, TikTok, Facebook and LinkedIn. Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Summer is coming, and you know what that means – beach days (or days spent inside with the AC blasting, no judgment) with your favorite books. Today, Nora and friend of the pod and special guest Kate Baer get together to give you the Ultimate Summer Reading List for 2026, including Lena Dunham’s new memoir, a creepy novel that’s like if the Hunger Games and Love Island had a baby, and many more (seriously, you may not even get through all these recs this summer). If you’ve been craving a library summer reading challenge, look no further – we’ve got it for you. Open up your Libby app or your cart, babe, and get reading! Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Check out Nora’s Instagram here! Check out Nora’s TikTok here! Check out Nora’s Facebook here! Check out Nora’s LinkedIn here! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It has been 10 years since Nora’s first book, “It’s Okay to Laugh (Crying Is Cool Too)” was published. A lot has changed since – she got remarried, had another child, and started this podcast to carve a space in the world for conversations that really matter. In honor of IOTL’s 10th birthday, today Nora is reading the two chapters out loud and live annotating – connecting with the person she was six months after her husband’s and father’s death, miscarrying a baby, and desperately trying to stay afloat. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! My Brick code is NORA, and should auto-apply 10% off with this link.  Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Check out Nora’s Instagram here! Check out Nora’s TikTok here! Check out Nora’s Facebook here! Check out Nora’s LinkedIn here! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Burnout seems like the biggest thing all of us have in common right now. It’s hard NOT to get burnt out when the world is rife with injustice and horror and you’re expected to carry on as normal. Here’s the thing: you don’t have to carry on as normal. But you do have to reach out and find joy – it’s going to keep you alive. It’s going to keep you going. It’s going to remind you that you won’t always feel like this. On today’s episode, Nora talks to Elizabeth Kott, who inspired her to pick up The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron and “get unstuck.” Elizabeth is a founder of Club Artist’s Way, where she leads people through a 13-week program to rekindle their creative spark, and host of the Too Niche podcast, where Nora first heard about The Artist’s Way. If you’re burnt out, stuck, and desperately searching for a way to claw your way out of the dark, this episode is for you. Read my original Substack about my experience with The Artist’s Way here. Follow Club Artist’s Way on Instagram and Substack Join Elizabeth’s next Artist’s Way Group here (code NORA50 gets you $50 off!). Listen to the Too Niche podcast here. My Brick code is NORA, and should auto-apply 10% off with this link.  Get a used copy of The Artist’s Way from your thrift store, or here. You can get a new copy on Bookshop or Amazon.  Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Check out Nora’s Instagram here! Check out Nora’s TikTok here! Check out Nora’s Facebook here! Check out Nora’s LinkedIn here! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of IGTBO, Nora is joined by her favorite living novelist, Catherine Newman, to put a little more OK in your day. They talk about celebrating sobriety and not drinking, Artemis II, how to unwind with the Bear Valley Eagle Cam, and the importance of family (and highly intense family card games). If your anxious heart needs a break from the whirlwind of Bad outside (and need to feel validated in how lame grocery shopping is), take this episode as your daily dose of OK. Catherine’s books:  Sandwich ⁠Amazon⁠ | ⁠Bookshop⁠ Wreck ⁠Amazon⁠ | ⁠Bookshop⁠ ⁠The Adidas Pants⁠ ⁠Catherine’s Snack Recs!⁠ You can share your okay things with us at ☎️502-388-OKAY (6529) or 📧 ⁠IGTBO@feelingsand.co⁠  To support our show, you can subscribe to our YouTube content ⁠here⁠. Our music is by Secret Audio, and their new album is on ⁠Spotify⁠ or ⁠Apple⁠! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Edith Eger was only 16 years old when the Nazis invaded Hungary during World War II. Her future was ripped from her when she and her family were imprisoned at Auschwitz concentration camp. Edith’s parents were sent to the gas chambers immediately – but Edith survived, forced to entertain Dr Mengele – known as the Angel of Death – until she survived the death march. For many years after, Edith struggled with her past, rife with horror and trauma. It was only after reading Viktor Frankl's Man’s Search for Meaning that Edith stopped running from her trauma and faced it head on. When we interviewed her, Dr. Edith Eger was a 93-year-old clinician, speaker and author who is so full of wisdom and light, we could’ve done ten episodes with her. She passed away on April 27th, 2026, but her light, her words, and her impact will live on forever. You can buy Dr. Eger’s book, “The Gift,” from our Bookshop.org storefront or wherever you like to shop books. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! Check out Nora’s Instagram here! Check out Nora’s TikTok here! Check out Nora’s Facebook here! Check out Nora’s LinkedIn here! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠ ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠foriawellness.com/tfa⁠ OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I get questions all the time about being a remarried widow. How did I do it? How did I know? Is Matthew jealous of Aaron? How can you love two people at the same time?  When you become a widow, you’re a widow forever. You will never not have a dead spouse. You will never stop wishing you could talk to them again. You will never replace that love. But that doesn’t mean you can’t find love – or yourself – all over again. Today, I’m joined by fellow remarried widow Leslie Harter-Berg to talk about becoming a widow, getting remarried, and sharing our best advice for all the widows searching for answers out there. You can find Leslie on Instagram here and her Substack here. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! Check out Nora’s Instagram here! Check out Nora’s TikTok here! Check out Nora’s Facebook here! Check out Nora’s LinkedIn here! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠ ❤️ Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/tfa OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here on IGTBO, we're not about toxic positivity -- we're about finding things that are good even when the world is dark. Today's guest, Sharon McMahon -- a fellow tall woman -- brought her OK things, including geese, being in a goose-forward household, and the acts of kindness that can change the trajectory of your life.  For any long-time fans of IGTBO, this is a classic bird episode, and we couldn’t be happier. Sharon’s book: Amazon | Bookshop You can share your okay things with us at ☎️502-388-OKAY (6529) or 📧 IGTBO@feelingsand.co  To support our show, you can subscribe to our YouTube content here. Our music is by Secret Audio, and their new album is on Spotify or Apple! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your spring wardrobe with Quince. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/TFA OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers.⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thanks for Asking is a group project – we could not make this show without you. You’re not just a listener. You’re a participant. We want to make a show about what matters to you. That’s why we have our inboxes always open, with our operator (Nora) standing by to take your calls and texts. So that’s what today’s episode is about: your struggles, your vents, your anxieties.  If you need to vent, ask for advice, share a grudge, or just want to get something off your chest, call or text us at ‪☎️ (612) 568-4441‬. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your spring wardrobe with Quince. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ MasterClass keeps adding new classes, so there’s never been a better time to get in. Right now, as a listener of this show, you get at least 15% off any annual membership at ⁠⁠⁠MASTERCLASS.com/TFA.⁠⁠⁠ That’s 15% off at ⁠⁠⁠MASTERCLASS.com/TFA.⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Head to MASTERCLASS.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠ to see the latest offer! ❤️ With evening and weekend course options, Fordham’s online MSW lets you keep working while earning your degree, completing the program in as few as 16 months. Learn more and apply at ⁠⁠⁠fordham.edu/TFA⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠⁠Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/TFA OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers.⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every woman in the world has shared one feeling: that their body is wrong. We like to say that we've come "so far," but just open any social media app and see the body warping, the products marketed as "a drink to stop your cravings" or "patches that help you drop two sizes," and the endless comments on teenage girls' appearances. In the world we live in, skinny equals good -- and all women are subjected to those standards. Today's guest, Geneen Roth, was crushed under the standards like the rest of us. She dieted, she binged, she purged, but it never fixed the guilt or shame.  To Geneen, the cost of being thin was not worth it, and she’s spent the last four decades writing, coaching and teaching about shame, guilt and their connection to how – and why – we eat. Geneen’s Book: Bookshop | Amazon Watch us on YouTube here⁠! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on ⁠Spotify⁠ and ⁠Apple⁠! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your spring wardrobe with Quince. Go to ⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠⁠ ❤️ MasterClass keeps adding new classes, so there’s never been a better time to get in. Right now, as a listener of this show, you get at least 15% off any annual membership at ⁠⁠MASTERCLASS.com/TFA.⁠⁠ That’s 15% off at ⁠⁠MASTERCLASS.com/TFA.⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Head to MASTERCLASS.com/TFA⁠⁠ to see the latest offer! ❤️ With evening and weekend course options, Fordham’s online MSW lets you keep working while earning your degree, completing the program in as few as 16 months. Learn more and apply at ⁠⁠fordham.edu/TFA⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/TFA OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers.⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on It's Going To Be OK: a 13-year-old boy tries to convince his mother that he should be allowed to have a Baja Blast at 7pm on a school night, sings the praises of Wetzel's Pretzels and asks whether or not he can become CEO of McDonald's if he drops out of 8th grade...It's the return of Ralph! You can share your okay things with us at ☎️502-388-OKAY (6529) or 📧 IGTBO@feelingsand.co  To support our show, you can subscribe to our YouTube content here. Our music is by Secret Audio, and their new album is on Spotify or Apple! ❤️ Shop my favorite bras and underwear at SKIMS.com . After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select podcast in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. ❤️ Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any annual membership at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. That’s 15% off at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What makes a good mom? Is it adhering to the perfectly packaged image of a shiny, happy woman cooking lavish meals with her 2.5 children, always cleaning, never complaining, and never NOT grateful, doting, and happy? No – but that doesn’t mean that the expectations are any more attainable. Any choice a mom makes is immediately subject to scrutiny or ridicule. Anything she does is under a microscope. She can’t miss a beat. She can’t wonder what her life might have been if she wasn’t a mother. And she DEFINITELY can’t do anything for herself. Today, Nora talks with Libby Ward, the author of the brand new book Honest Motherhood: on Losing My Mind and Finding Myself. Get a copy of Libby’s new book HERE. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your spring wardrobe with Quince. Go to ⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.⁠ ❤️ MasterClass keeps adding new classes, so there’s never been a better time to get in. Right now, as a listener of this show, you get at least 15% off any annual membership at ⁠MASTERCLASS.com/TFA.⁠ That’s 15% off at ⁠MASTERCLASS.com/TFA.⁠ ⁠Head to MASTERCLASS.com/TFA⁠ to see the latest offer! ❤️ With evening and weekend course options, Fordham’s online MSW lets you keep working while earning your degree, completing the program in as few as 16 months. Learn more and apply at ⁠fordham.edu/TFA⁠ ❤️ ⁠Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/TFA OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers.⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to TTFA Anthologies on ⁠Spotify⁠, ⁠Apple⁠, or anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts. _ It’s rare to have a friendship that actually lasts forever, but that’s what Josie and Miles have. When Miles’s cancer comes back after years of remission, Josie is there for him every step of the way … until there are no more steps to take.  _ Find Nora’s weekly newsletter ⁠here⁠! Also, check out Nora on ⁠YouTube⁠. _ The Feelings & Co. team is Nora McInerny, Marcel Malekebu and Grace Barry. _ Find all our shows at ⁠www.feelingsand.co.⁠ _ Refresh your spring wardrobe with Quince. Go to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping and 365-day returns. Quince.com/TFA Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. MasterClass keeps adding new classes, so there’s never been a better time to get in. Right now, as a listener of this show, you get at least 15% off any annual membership at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. That’s 15% off at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. Head to MASTERCLASS.com/TFA to see the latest offer! Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/TFA OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. With evening and weekend course options, Fordham’s online MSW lets you keep working while earning your degree, completing the program in as few as 16 months. Learn more and apply at fordham.edu/TFA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're giving validation, pep talks and space to vent for listeners struggling with: Aging parents who don't take care of their health Falling out of love with your work and feeling like you're totally ineffective (you aren't!) Being hit by a grief tsunami and losing your ambition Feeling like a horrible mother for being disappointed by a gender reveal (we have THOUGHTS!) The secondhand embarrassment of your boyfriend being bad at his job Being the worst mom in the world (not possible, Nora already is!) ☎️ Give us a call or drop us a text at ‪(612) 568-4441‬ 📺 Watch us on YouTube here 📧 Join our community and get all of Nora's writing here. Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your spring wardrobe with Quince. Go to ⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠ ❤️ Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. ❤️ MasterClass keeps adding new classes, so there’s never been a better time to get in. Right now, as a listener of this show, you get at least 15% off any annual membership at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. That’s 15% off at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. Head to MASTERCLASS.com/TFA to see the latest offer! ❤️ With evening and weekend course options, Fordham’s online MSW lets you keep working while earning your degree, completing the program in as few as 16 months. Learn more and apply at fordham.edu/TFA ❤️ Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/TFA OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You know what makes things feel more okay? Kelly Corrigan, the host of Kelly Corrigan Wonders and the author of so many wonderful books (my favorite is Tell Me More). Today, Kelly and Nora dig through a treasure trove of (more than) okay things, including unexpected gratitude from an adult child (CALL YOUR MOM!), a book about a possible alien encounter, slow but steady civic progress and much more.  You can share your okay things with us at ☎️502-388-OKAY (6529) or 📧 IGTBO@feelingsand.co  To support our show, you can subscribe to our YouTube content here. Get this episode ad-free ⁠here⁠! Our music is by Secret Audio, and their new album is on Spotify or Apple! _ Refresh your spring wardrobe with Quince. Go to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping and 365-day returns. Quince.com/TFA Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. MasterClass keeps adding new classes, so there’s never been a better time to get in. Right now, as a listener of this show, you get at least 15% off any annual membership at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. That’s 15% off at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. Head to MASTERCLASS.com/TFA to see the latest offer! Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/TFA OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers.With evening and weekend course options, Fordham’s online MSW lets you keep working while earning your degree, completing the program in as few as 16 months. Learn more and apply at fordham.edu/TFA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As long as people have been grieving, we have found a way to memorialize our dead people. We grievers keep voicemails, photos, letters, clothes – whatever we can to remember our people. With the rise of AI, it’s no wonder companies desperate to increase their shareholder value have turned to us, the grievers. But it’s not our money they want (or at least, not JUST our money) – it’s our dead people. Their voices, their words, their likeness. They want to reanimate our people, just without their bodies and souls.  A few months ago, I read an incredible article in The Atlantic, titled The AI Companies Trying To Make Grief Obsolete. I knew it was something I NEEDED to talk about, and it just so happened that the author, Charley, was willing to talk to me and share the story of her big brother, Ben, who passed unexpectedly in 2014.  Grief is not a problem to be solved. It is a part of life. A part that we need. Read more about AI deadbots here or here. My 2016 piece in Slate is here. _ Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! _ Refresh your spring wardrobe with Quince. Go to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping and 365-day returns. Quince.com/TFA Shop Everyday Cotton, and all of my favorite bras and underwear, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. MasterClass keeps adding new classes, so there’s never been a better time to get in. Right now, as a listener of this show, you get at least 15% off any annual membership at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. That’s 15% off at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. Head to MASTERCLASS.com/TFA to see the latest offer! Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/TFA OR use code TFA at checkout. That’s F-O-R-I-A WELLNESS DOT COM FORWARD SLASH TFA for 20% off your first order. I recommend trying Awaken or their Pleasure Set with all three of their best sellers. With evening and weekend course options, Fordham’s online MSW lets you keep working while earning your degree, completing the program in as few as 16 months. Learn more and apply at fordham.edu/TFA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode, we hear from Cora Danielson, a comic who has been wrestling with something many women do – her inability to have children despite wanting them very, very much. Her outlet? Improv comedy and the community that came with it, offering her people she could always confide in. Now, two of the women in her group are pregnant and it’s messing with Cora’s head. Her friends haven’t told her they’re pregnant because they don’t want to hurt her feelings, so she heard it from someone else. She feels, overwhelmingly, like they pity her. Today, Nora’s talking to Cora and answering the question many of us have held quietly in our hearts, “How do you deal with being the object of pity?” Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! _ Refresh your wardrobe with Quince. Go to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. That's Quince.com/TFA to get free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠ Shop my favorite bras and underwear at ⁠SKIMS.com⁠. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select podcast in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any annual membership at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. That’s 15% off at ⁠MASTERCLASS.com/TFA.⁠ With evening and weekend course options, Fordham’s online MSW lets you keep working while earning your degree, completing the program in as few as 16 months. Learn more and apply at ⁠fordham.edu/TTFA. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We would never tell you that everything is going to be OK, but we will tell you that something will be. Today, Nora and guest Elise Loehnen share the things that make them feel like the world isn’t crumbling down around them. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to the Secret Audio album on Spotify or Apple! Elise’s lipstick LInk to Heads Carolina, Tails California on Spotify and Apple Check out Elise’s book! Refresh your wardrobe with Quince. Go to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. That's Quince.com/TFA to get free shipping and 365-day returns. Quince.com/TFA Shop my favorite bras and underwear at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select podcast in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any annual membership at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. That’s 15% off at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. With evening and weekend course options, Fordham’s online MSW lets you keep working while earning your degree, completing the program in as few as 16 months. Learn more and apply at fordham.edu/TFA. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What would you say to your dead person? We’re listening in on the Wind Phone.  You can find a wind phone near you ⁠here⁠, or call us to leave your message for a future episode: 612.568.4441 ⁠Watch us on YouTube here⁠! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on ⁠Spotify⁠ and ⁠Apple⁠! _ Right now, go to ⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. That's a full year to wear it and love it. And you will. Now available in Canada, too. Don't keep settling for clothes that don't last. Go to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠ Shop my favorite bras and underwear at ⁠SKIMS.com⁠. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select podcast in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any annual membership at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. That’s 15% off at ⁠MASTERCLASS.com/TFA With evening and weekend course options, Fordham’s online MSW lets you keep working while earning your degree, completing the program in as few as 16 months. Learn more and apply at ⁠fordham.edu/TTFA. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

 If you lose a spouse, you’re a widow. If you lose your parents, an orphan. But we don’t have the language for someone who lost a sibling – your first friend, your first ally, your first enemy (probably, at least temporarily). Grief always feels like a gut punch, but losing a sibling is a unique kind of pain that we don’t talk about enough.  So today, I’m joined by Steph Wittels Wachs, former TTFA guest and sister of comedy legend Harris Wittels, who died in 2015 of an accidental overdose. We're talking about what losing a sibling means and sharing the notes, advice and insights from people who know what it’s like to live in the world without their siblings. Cited in this episode: Rogne, S., Grotta, A., Liu, C., Berg, L., Saarela, J., Kawachi, I., Hiyoshi, A., & Rostila, M. (2025). All-cause mortality around the anniversary of a sibling’s death: findings from Swedish National Register Data. AMERICAN JOURNAL OF EPIDEMIOLOGY. https://doi.org/10.1093/aje/kwaf213  Tatjana Gazibara, Katherine A Ornstein, Christina Gillezeau, Melissa Aldridge, Mogens Groenvold, Merete Nordentoft, Lau Caspar Thygesen, Bereavement Among Adult Siblings: An Examination of Health Services Utilization and Mental Health Outcomes, American Journal of Epidemiology, Volume 190, Issue 12, December 2021, Pages 2571–2581, https://doi.org/10.1093/aje/kwab212  Davidson, D. (2018). Sibling loss - disenfranchised grief and forgotten mourners. Bereavement Care, 37(3), 124–130. https://doi.org/10.1080/02682621.2018.1535882   Herberman Mash, H. B., Fullerton, C. S., & Ursano, R. J. (2013). Complicated Grief and Bereavement in Young Adults Following Close Friend and Sibling Loss. Depression & Anxiety (1091-4269), 30(12), 1202–1210. https://doi.org/10.1002/da.22068     Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! LINKS TO RELATED EPISODES! https://feelingsand.co/podcasts/terrible-thanks-for-asking/86-sundays/  https://feelingsand.co/podcasts/terrible-thanks-for-asking/what-does-all-this-loss-mean/  Don’t you want someone to take care of you?  _ Right now, go to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping and 365-day returns. That's a full year to wear it and love it. And you will. Now available in Canada, too. Don't keep settling for clothes that don't last. Go to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping and 365-day returns. Quince.com/TFA Shop my favorite bras and underwear at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select podcast in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any annual membership at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. That’s 15% off at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. With evening and weekend course options, Fordham’s online MSW lets you keep working while earning your degree, completing the program in as few as 16 months. Learn more and apply at fordham.edu/TTFA. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode originally ran in 2016, and we pulled it out of the archives to share with you here, and to kick off a new season of TTFA Anthologies, where we pull together a themed season of some of our best episodes. This season the theme is Grief: It’s Complicated…stories about the kind of grief you won’t find in the sympathy card aisle. Stories like the one you’re about hear. We have a separate podcast feed for these seasons. It’s linked in our show description, or you can find it on your podcast app by searching TTFA Anthologies. Listen to TTFA Anthologies on Spotify, Apple, or anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts. _ Damon’s grandparents were murdered 18 months before he was born. He never knew them, but their deaths — and the trial for their killer — defined much of his childhood.  For nearly three decades, Damon’s mother has attended every parole hearing to deliver a victim impact statement.  When we meet Damon, there is another such hearing coming up, but his mother is unable to attend. For the first time in his life, Damon prepares to see his grandparents’ murderer face to face.   Originally published 1/23/2017 – Fordham University’s Master of Social Work program is ranked among the nation's top 8% of graduate social work programs by the U.S. News & World Report. With three New York campuses, plus hybrid and fully online options, Fordham’s flexible program works with your schedule to help you earn a degree on your timeline. Our evening and weekend part-time study plan is ideal for working adults, with most students maintaining employment throughout their education.  Learn more about Fordham University’s Master of Social Work program at: fordham.edu/TTFA. _ Find Nora’s weekly newsletter here! Also, check out Nora on YouTube. _ The Feelings & Co. team is Nora McInerny, Marcel Malekebu and Grace Barry. _ Find all our shows at www.feelingsand.co. _ Refresh your wardrobe with Quince. Go to Quince.com/TFA for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. That's Quince.com/TFA to get free shipping and 365-day returns. Quince.com/TFA Shop my favorite bras and underwear at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select podcast in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any annual membership at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. That’s 15% off at MASTERCLASS.com/TFA. With evening and weekend course options, Fordham’s online MSW lets you keep working while earning your degree, completing the program in as few as 16 months. Learn more and apply at fordham.edu/TTFA. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices