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Talking Kinky gets a little academic in this episode… although thankfully not too academic. Pippa, Tom and Colin dive into the results of Colin’s (Intimacy Matters) survey exploring hotwifing and cuckolding and some of the answers are genuinely fascinating.There’s plenty of laughter, the occasional TK lack of filters, but underneath it is something a little different for Talking Kinky: real survey data, psychology, unexpected statistics and a closer look at what may actually sit behind these fantasies. What motivates people?Where does jealousy fit?What about compersion, exhibitionism, trust, desire and the psychology behind watching or being watched?And importantly, the research isn’t finished.If hotwifing or cuckolding is part of your world, fantasy or curiosity, we’d love you to complete the survey and add your experience to the data. Oh and Tom actually completed the survey!

Take the survey here:Hotwifing vs Cuckold vs ENM vs Swinging – Intimacy MattersSometimes fantasy is even more interesting when you look at the numbers.Intimacy Matters – Colin Richards

Would you really want to know every sexual fantasy your partner has? Pippa is back...

This week on Talking Kinky, Tom and Pippa get into dangerous territory: the fantasies we have, the secrets we keep, and whether total honesty is always a good thing.

What if the person appearing in your partner’s fantasy is someone you both know? What if it’s your best friend? Is confessing that desire a sign of trust and intimacy, or the kind of honesty that can never be unheard?

Tom and Pippa debate where openness ends and oversharing begins, why fantasy doesn’t necessarily mean intention, and whether couples should have the right to keep part of their erotic imagination completely private.

And they’re not quite on the same page.

Some fantasies are exciting to share. Others might change everything. So… do you really want to know?

Is the foundation of your intimacy being sabotaged by your lack of effort to create a space for intention and connection?

In the opening episode of Season 13, Tom sits down with Pippa from Intimate Spaces to explore the fascinating intersection between interior design, intimacy, kink and self-expression.

We talk about what it means to create a space specifically designed for pleasure and play, from subtle, beautifully designed rooms where everything has a hidden purpose, to more adventurous spaces built around the things their owners genuinely enjoy.

Pippa shares how she approaches conversations that many people might initially find difficult or embarrassing, how good design can make intimacy feel more natural, and why creating an intimate space doesn't have to mean turning your bedroom into a dungeon.

It’s a conversation about design, desire, discretion and the freedom that comes from creating a space in which you can truly be yourself.

Whether you're simply curious, dreaming about your own private play space, or wondering just how far bespoke interior design can go, this is a fascinating way to begin Season 13 of Talking Kinky.

Discover Intimate Spaces:
https://www.intimatespaces.co.uk/

Talking Kinky, real conversations about kink, intimacy, relationships and the people who make this extraordinary world what it is.

Taryn helps Tom understand women’s pleasure in a bit more detail...

In this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom is joined by Taryn, a somatic sex and relationship coach and founder of Alive With Pleasure, to challenge some of the most persistent myths surrounding women’s pleasure.

Why are so many men taught to focus on performance rather than connection? Why is penetration so often treated as the main event? And how can couples communicate their needs without criticism, embarrassment or fear of ruining the mood?

Taryn explores the importance of slowing down, listening to the body and creating the emotional safety that allows genuine desire and pleasure to emerge. The conversation also covers lubrication, body shame, orgasm pressure, asking for what you want and why great intimacy is less about technique and more about curiosity, presence and communication.

An open, honest and deeply insightful conversation for anyone who wants to better understand pleasure, connection and the realities of women’s intimate experiences.

Discover Taryn’s work: www.alive-withpleasure.com/

Sexsomnia: When Your Body Has Sex While You're Asleep - Tom meets Lacey a living breathing Sexomniac.

What happens when your body becomes sexual while your mind is completely asleep?

In this fascinating and deeply personal episode of Talking Kinky, Tom sits down with Lacey, who lives with sexsomnia, a little-known sleep disorder that can cause people to engage in sexual behaviours while asleep, with little or no memory of the events afterwards.

Lacey shares her journey of discovering she had sexsomnia, the impact it has had on her relationships, the confusion and embarrassment that often accompanies the condition, and how she learned to navigate intimacy while living with a disorder that many people have never even heard of.

Together, Tom and Lacey explore:

• What sexsomnia actually is
• How it differs from sleepwalking and other parasomnias
• The challenges it creates in relationships
• Consent, communication, and safety considerations
• Common triggers and treatment options
• The emotional impact of living with a misunderstood condition

• The surprising science behind sleeping and sexual behaviour

This episode shines a light on a condition that sits at the intersection of sleep, sexuality, psychology, and human relationships. Whether you're hearing about sexsomnia for the first time or have personal experience with it, this conversation is eye-opening, educational, and surprisingly relatable.

As always, Talking Kinky approaches the topic with curiosity, humour, compassion, and a commitment to helping people better understand the wonderfully complex world of human sexuality.

Because sometimes the most surprising things happen when we're fast asleep. Lacey can be found here on Instagram

In this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom steps into the provocative world of the Mozambican professional dominatrix, Mistress Martina, for a raw and revealing conversation why her male clients love pain, humiliation, and domination. (Tom gets a provocative offer at the end of the episode, the question is will he take it?)

Together Tom and Martina explore the psychology, pleasure, and power dynamics behind BDSM, uncovering how trust, consent, and control shape some of the most intense fetish experiences. From dungeon realities to emotional transformation, this episode delivers an unfiltered look into the art of professional domination. It’s a cracker !

What really happens behind the velvet curtains of London’s high-society sex club scene?

With Isabelle out of commission for a while due to other commitments, Tom is going to be interviewing some special guests.

So, in this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom sits down with Jasmine to lift the lid on a world of elegance, secrecy, flirtation, and carefully negotiated desire. From cocktails and conversation to the rules of consent, safety, and discretion, Jasmine shares what it’s actually like to step into these exclusive spaces where sophistication and sexuality meet. Tom may even have a new wingwoman... if he ever frequents a sex club!

Expect curiosity, candour, a few laughs, and a rare glimpse into one of the most intriguing corners of kink culture.

Sleep Tight… or Do You? | Exploring Somnophilia

In this week’s episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle explore one of the more controversial and often misunderstood kinks: Somnophilia, the fantasy of intimacy with a sleeping partner.

Handled with their signature blend of humour, curiosity, and honesty, the duo unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface of this taboo subject. Is it about vulnerability? Trust? Control? Or something deeper rooted in human desire and psychology?

As always, this isn’t about shock value, it’s about understanding.

Together, they explore:

• The psychological drivers behind somnophilia fantasies

• The crucial role of explicit consent and boundaries

• How fantasy differs from real-world dynamics

• Why taboo desires don’t automatically make someone “wrong”

• And how couples can safely communicate about sensitive kinks

Expect laughter, surprising insights, and a refreshingly open conversation that challenges assumptions while keeping things grounded and respectful. Tune in and join Tom and Isabelle as they shine a light on another corner of human desire, no judgement, just curiosity.

'Men Only': The Art of Desire

In this men-only episode, Tom explores the often-misunderstood truth about female desire: great sex doesn’t begin in the bedroom, it begins in the moments that come before it.

Introducing the concept of Core Play, Tom unpacks how everyday attention, emotional presence, and genuine connection throughout the day build arousal, trust, and intimacy with female partners. From small acts of care and meaningful communication to understanding the biological and psychological rhythms of desire, this episode re-frames intimacy as something cultivated, not requested at 10pm!

Blending humour, straight-talk, and practical insight, The Art of Desire offers men a powerful shift in perspective: invest in connection, and desire follows. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship, marriage, or navigating modern partnerships, this episode reveals how showing up differently can transform your sex life and deepen your relationship in the process.

Creampie & Breeding Kink - In this playful and provocative episode, Tom and Isabelle dive into one of the most searched and widely fantasised kinks: the breeding and creampie fetish. But beyond the shock value and taboo appeal lies a deeper psychological cocktail of intimacy, surrender, risk, and primal connection.

With their signature humour and curiosity, the duo unpack why the idea of “breeding” can feel intensely erotic for some, how it connects to trust, power dynamics, and evolutionary wiring, and why fantasy often plays a bigger role than reality. They explore the emotional layers, relationship dynamics, and communication required when partners want to experiment safely and consensually.

Expect laughter, candid honesty, and a thoughtful look at the difference between fantasy and practice, plus guidance on navigating conversations, boundaries, contraception, and consent.

Whether you’re curious, intrigued, or simply here for the ride, Breed Me Baby One More Time blends insight, irreverence, and real-world wisdom in the way only Talking Kinky can.

Aftercare whether its freaky or not, isn’t just a nice-to-have, it’s the glue that holds great kink, connection, and even vanilla sex together. In this laugh-out-loud episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle dive head-first (and maybe a little too honestly) into the wonderfully messy world of aftercare.

From cuddles and check-ins to snacks, space, reassurance, and the unexpected ways people need care after intimacy, this episode explores why aftercare looks wildly different for everyone and why getting it wrong can feel just as intense as getting it right.

Along the way, Tom and Isabelle overshare (naturally), unpack real-life experiences, and highlight how emotional drop, sub-drop, and vulnerability can show up long after the fun is over. It’s educational, reassuring, and then… slightly unhinged by the end, with a finale that will definitely have you laughing out loud.

Whether you’re deeply kinky, kink-curious, or just wondering why you sometimes feel weird after great sex, this episode is essential listening.

Insightful. Honest. Freaky. And very, very funny.

Listener discretion advised… mostly because of the oversharing.

In this deliciously provocative episode of Talking Kinky, co-hosts Tom and Isabelle dive head-first into the irresistible pull of taboo.

Why does the 'forbidden' feel so good… and yet so wrong at the same time? From sneaky turn-ons and guilty pleasures to cultural conditioning, shame, thrill-seeking, and desire, Tom and Isabelle unpack the psychology and chemistry behind taboo fantasies and behaviours. Expect a healthy, playful debate that explores where taboo comes from, how it shows up in our sex lives, and when it can be liberating—or limiting.

This episode is thoughtful, sexy, and occasionally confrontational (in the best way), as our hosts challenge assumptions, laugh at themselves, and invite listeners to reflect on their own edges of desire. Whether you’re kink-curious, deeply experienced, or just fascinated by why “naughty” holds so much power, this one will get you thinking and feeling.

Listener discretion advised… curiosity encouraged.

What happens when one of you is curious, kinky, or adventurous… and the other really isn’t? Or when your kinks don’t quite line up the way you hoped they would?

In this episode, Tom and Isabelle dive into the very real issue of kink compatibility, from couples who discover mismatches early on, to long-term partners whose desires evolve over time. They explore what it actually means to be “kink-matched,” whether total alignment is realistic, and how couples can navigate differences without shame, pressure, or resentment.

Together, they unpack common scenarios:
• One partner kinky, the other more vanilla
• Curious vs cautious dynamics
• Mismatched fantasies, limits, or experience levels
• Fear of rejection, guilt, or “asking for too much”
• When compromise feels healthy and when it doesn’t

With personal stories, humour, and practical communication tools, Tom and Isabelle discuss how to talk about desire safely, how to negotiate boundaries with care, and how to decide whether a mismatch is something to work through or a sign to reassess the relationship.

Whether you’re navigating new conversations, stuck in sexual stalemate, or simply wondering “Is this normal?”, this episode offers reassurance, perspective, and a reminder that there’s no one right way to want, or to love.

In this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle dive head-first into one of the most talked-about (and misunderstood) sexual fantasies: the threesome. From curious first conversations to real-world experiences, they unpack why threesomes are so appealing, what people think will happen… and what often actually does.

They explore the different dynamics of MMF, FMF, and same-sex threesomes, the emotional undercurrents that can surface, and why communication, boundaries, and aftercare matter far more than most people realise. Is jealousy inevitable? Can a threesome strengthen a relationship, or expose cracks that were already there?

This is a laugh out loud episode as our hosts navigate the topic with their trademark mix of humour, honesty, and grounded insight. Tom and Isabelle talk through expectations vs reality, common mistakes, power imbalances, and how to decide whether a threesome is genuinely right for you , not just hot in theory.

Whether threesomes are a firm yes, a cautious maybe, or a definite no, this episode offers a refreshingly real, shame-free look at what it actually means when two people consider adding a third.

Curious, cautious, or already experienced, this one’s for you.

In this fast-paced, delightfully irreverent crash course, Tom and Isabelle take listeners on a whirlwind tour through 30,000 years of human desire. From prehistoric fertility carvings and ancient ritual sex, to Greek mischief, Roman indulgence, medieval repression, Victorian kink coded in corsets, and the explosion of modern BDSM culture, this is the entire history of kink… in half an hour.

Expect humour, curiosity, and a surprising amount of “Wait, they did what back then?” as your favourite hosts break down how human sexuality has evolved, been policed, celebrated, hidden, rediscovered, and reinvented across the ages.

Whether you're a history lover, a kink enthusiast, or just here for the wild ride, this episode proves one thing:
kink isn’t new,humans have always been deliciously inventive.

Tune in for 30 minutes of facts, fun, and fascinating filth.

30 Days of Connection: Introduction & Welcome (Day 0)

Tom and Isabelle set the stage for their 30-day intimacy programme in this introduction. Which includes a PDF you can read and 150 minutes of audio prompts across 30 episodes, all personally narrated by Tom and Isabelle to guide you along your way.

Whether you want to rekindle passion, deepen connection, or just spend more intentional time with your partner, this welcome episode explains how the 30 days of connection challenge works, what to expect, and why just a few minutes a day can transform your relationship.

Let’s begin, with curiosity, kindness, and a little bit of kink. You can find 30 Days of Connection on www.talkingkinky.shop

In this electrifying episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle dive head-first into the world of bio-hacking your body for better sex, better arousal, and wildly better orgasms.

If you’ve ever wondered why some nights everything flows effortlessly… and other nights you’re left wondering if your libido evaporated on the commute home, this one’s for you.

From the subtle tweaks that boost your baseline desire to the science-backed hacks that crank up intensity, the duo explore how stress, sleep, alcohol, nutrition, and hormones shape our ability to get turned on—and stay turned on.

And yes, they get into the juicy stuff:
• Why supplements like Length & Strength can support libido, stamina, and performance, especially for men who want a stronger, more responsive body.
• Tom shares his own experience trialing Jolt the Bolt sexual performance booster that’s been shaking up his energy, focus, and sexual vitality.
• The pair explore whether modern biohacks can actually retrain your orgasm pathways for more pleasure, more responsiveness, and deeper connection.

From cold showers to breathwork, L-arginine to maca root, dopamine resets to nervous system training, this episode blends science with honesty, humour, and pure Talking Kinky curiosity.

Whether you’re single, partnered, kinky, vanilla, or somewhere deliciously in-between, this episode is your permission slip to take your pleasure seriously and to discover how a few intentional upgrades can lead to longer build-ups, stronger sensations, and orgasms that hit harder than ever.

Why do some sensations hurt… and others heat you up?
In this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle explore the intimate, complex relationship between pain and pleasure and why, for many people, the two are far more intertwined than we realise.

From the biology of endorphins and the psychology of trust, to kink dynamics, consent frameworks, and the fine art of reading your partner’s cues, this episode unpacks what really happens when we flirt with intensity.

Expect science, stories, giggles, and a few “oh wow” moments as we break down:

• Why the brain sometimes confuses pain with arousal

• How sensation play works (and why it can feel so good)

• The difference between good pain, bad pain, and absolutely not

• Emotional safety, aftercare, and conscious exploration

• Real-world examples from both male and female perspectives

Whether you’re curious, experienced, or just love understanding human intimacy, this episode offers a grounded, playful, and surprisingly enlightening look into one of the most misunderstood aspects of kink.

Listen in — your body might already know the answer.

In an 'electrifying launch' of Season 11, Tom and Isabelle plug into the future of pleasure, where artificial intelligence, virtual reality, and haptic technology collide. From AI-driven lovers that learn your every desire to immersive VR sexscapes that blur the line between fantasy, fidelity and 'teledildonics' (Isabelle's new favourite word) this episode dives deep into the rise of “Haptic Lust” , touch you can feel, but never see.

Expect humour, curiosity, and a healthy dose of kink philosophy as Tom and Isabelle debate whether AI can ever truly understand human intimacy, what happens when your virtual partner becomes your emotional one, and how far we’ll go to satisfy digital desire.

Welcome to the brave new world of sensual technology, where connection, consent, and code all meet in the same bed and kink needs a software upgrade.

Need an intimacy boost? Try our 30 Days of Connection - www.talkingkinky.shop

In this fascinating episode, Tom and Isabelle explore how kink and neurodiversity intersect in beautifully complex ways. From sensory sensitivity to the need for structure, ritual, and deep trust, they unpack how neurodivergent minds experience pleasure, intimacy, and connection differently and sometimes, more intensely.

Whether it’s autistic hyper-focus meeting bondage precision, ADHD thrill-seeking finding expression in role-play, or the soothing predictability of routines blending with D/s dynamics, this conversation celebrates the many ways our brains and bodies seek stimulation, safety, and satisfaction.

With empathy, laughter, and plenty of real-world insight, Tom and Isabelle open up the conversation about embracing difference — in desire, communication, and play.

Sensory seekers, this one’s for you.

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In Part 2 of our role-play deep dive, Tom and Isabelle slip back into character, this time exploring two of the most popular and often misunderstood kinks: medical role-play and DDLG (Daddy Dom / Little Girl dynamics).

From stethoscopes, nurses, and “clinical scenarios” that mix power with vulnerability, to unpacking the myths, boundaries, and realities of age-dynamic play, the co-hosts keep the conversation candid, insightful, and funny. They cover why medical role-play holds such a powerful psychological charge, the importance of trust when exploring taboo spaces, and how DDLG is less about pretending to be a child and more about nurturing, care, and structured dominance.

As always, Tom and Isabelle balance education with humour, helping listeners navigate these fantasies safely while making sense of why they turn us on.

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In this first part of a two-part deep dive into role play, Tom and Isabelle unleash their inner beasts as they explore the raw and untamed world of primal play. From chasing, wrestling, growling, and clawing, to predator-and-prey dynamics, this kink taps into something ancient, instinctive, and deeply erotic.

What makes primal play so electrifying? Why do some people crave being the hunter while others revel in being the hunted? Tom and Isabelle pull apart the psychology, the thrill, and the boundaries that make this kink both exciting and safe.

Expect laughs, honest reflections, and a candid exploration of how letting go of “civilized” sex can create some of the most powerful connections.

Join us as we sink our teeth into the wild side of desire—this is just the beginning of our primal adventure, with part two coming next episode.

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Connect to Spark (no its not an electrostim episode) , Tom and Isabelle get real about the role of connection in lasting relationships. Whether you’re in a long-term partnership, newly dating, or navigating the ups and downs of intimacy, connection is the foundation stone that keeps love alive.

No connection = No desire, No desire = No intimacy, No intimacy = NO KINK!

In this heartfelt episode, they share stories, insights, and practical tips on how connection shapes desire, trust, and intimacy and why it’s the piece so many couples overlook.

There is also a small cameo of 30 Days of Connection, the team's guided programme of curated daily activities, including some kink, that are designed to help couples reignite passion, rebuild intimacy, and rediscover each other, one day at a time.

If you’ve ever felt the relationship spark slipping, this episode will remind you how to find it again.

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In this episode, Tom & Isabelle are stirring the pot with a little Vanilla & Spice. Discussing what happens when one partner is kinky and the other isn’t?

How do you navigate the differences without losing intimacy or connection? We’ll dive into the challenges, the joys, and the creative ways couples can bridge the gap between different sexual appetites.

And that’s not all—today we’re also tackling the big, brave step of coming out kinky. Whether it’s to a partner, friends, or even yourself, we’ll unpack the fears, the freedom, and the community waiting on the other side.

Honest, funny, and full of heart—this is one conversation you won’t want to miss.

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In this revealing and witty episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle explore the world of sissification — a kink that blends elements of feminization, role-play, and erotic power dynamics. With their trademark mix of curiosity, humour, and non-judgement, they unpack where fantasy meets identity, the psychology behind the practice, and how it plays out in both consensual kink and lifestyle choices.

From the allure of silky lingerie and stockings to the deeper emotional and psychological layers, the hosts cover safety, consent, and the importance of clear boundaries in sissification play. They also highlight popular online communities where enthusiasts connect, share, and learn — including FetLife’s Sissification & Feminization groups, SissyKiss, and Reddit’s r/sissies — showing how these spaces help people explore and express their kink in a supportive environment.

Whether you’re a curious newbie, an experienced player, or simply fascinated by the psychology of transformation, this episode offers insight, empathy, and a few laughs along the way.

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I Wanna Be Your Panda

Furries, fluff, and full-on fantasies — in this episode, co-hosts Tom and Isabelle go whiskers-first into the furry fandom, uncovering what makes it such a fascinating and often misunderstood corner of the kink world.

From playful cosplay and anthropomorphic crushes to full-blown fursuiting and fursonas, we explore the blend of identity, community, kink, and comfort that defines furry culture. Why do some people feel most like themselves in a tail and paws? Where does the erotic element come in — and where does it absolutely not?

What’s the difference between being a furry and being into animal roleplay?

We look at the history of the fandom, its explosive growth online, and how mainstream media continues to get it mostly wrong — with a healthy dose of humour, curiosity, and cuddly panda references.

Whether you're a seasoned fur-tastic explorer, curious newcomer, or someone who just wants to know why Tom wrote a whole ska-reggae song about being a ⁠PANDA⁠… this episode is for you.References & Communities Mentioned:

• FurScience.com – Ongoing academic research project dedicated to studying the furry fandom

• FurAffinity.net – One of the largest online art and community platforms for furries

• r/furry on Reddit – A bustling online community where thousands of furries share, discuss, and connect

• Psychology Today: What the Furry? – Dr. Courtney Plante explores the psychology of furries and the media myths

• Anthrocon – One of the largest furry conventions in the world

• BBC: Inside the World of Furries – A documentary look at furry life and love

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We’re kicking off Season 10 with a bang — or should we say, a boot — as Tom and Isabelle slide into the world of foot and stocking kinks. From silky nylons to wrinkled soles, this episode toes the line between fascination and fetish, with the usual mix of humour, warmth, and open-minded curiosity you’ve come to love from Talking Kinky.

Why are feet such a common turn-on? What is it about a pair of sheer stockings or a cheeky arch that stirs up desire? And how does one navigate foot play, from massage to worship, in a way that feels sexy, safe, and consensual?

Tom shares a rather memorable moment with a pair of hold ups, while Isabelle offers insight into why feet and legs are such a rich landscape of erotic potential.

Whether you're a seasoned sole-lover or just foot-curious, this episode is a playful and respectful journey into one of the most popular (and misunderstood) kinks around.

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In this bold and revealing episode of Talking Kinky, Isabelle and Tom sit down with the extraordinary Colin Richards – intimacy coach, somatic sex engineer, and the man behind some of London’s exclusive sex parties.

Colin opens up about the intersection of power, pleasure, and presence, sharing his journey from therapist to sensual facilitator, and what it really takes to help people unlock their erotic potential in a safe, conscious, and playful way.

We discuss the art of creating exquisite group experiences, the dynamics of intimacy coaching, the importance of consent and somatic awareness, and what truly separates performative kink from embodied intimacy.

Whether you're curious about elite sex parties or looking to deepen your connection in the bedroom, this episode is packed with insight, real talk, and a few jaw-dropping stories.

Find Colin online:

Website: www.intimacymatters.co.uk

Instagram: @intimacymatters

In this thought-provoking episode, Tom and Isabelle discuss the state of sex education — or the lack thereof. They explore how porn has become the default sex educator for many young people, why pleasure, consent, and diversity are still missing from mainstream curriculums, and what a truly inclusive and empowering sex education could look like.

With humor, honesty, and a healthy dose of frustration, your favourite co-hosts examine the long-term effects of abstinence-only teaching, the role of parents, and how the digital age is shaping sexual understanding (and misunderstanding). They also share real-world examples, including the moving story of a rape survivor, to illustrate the importance of comprehensive and compassionate sex education.

Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of sexual assault, including the mention of a rape survivor’s experience, which some listeners may find distressing.

This week on Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle are diving lock-first into the world of chastity – where pleasure, power, and patience collide. Whether you're curious about caging the cock, padlocking panties, or just want to understand why anyone would voluntarily hand over the key to their orgasms… this one’s for you.

We explore the history of chastity devices (yes, they go way back), the psychology behind denial and control, and the kinky thrill of being locked up—with or without release. From long-distance key-holding dynamics to orgasm control in established couples, we're unpacking how chastity can be both torturous and tantalising.

Plus, we chat about the different types of devices for men and women, safety tips, hygiene (yes, please), and how to negotiate a chastity scene with trust and communication at the core.

Expect laughs, confessions, and more than one “blue ball” reference as we tease out all the juicy details of this fascinating kink. Who’s holding the key to your pleasure?

This week, Tom and Isabelle are getting handy as they dive into the wonderfully wide world of masturbation. From solo pleasure to mutual play, from women’s clit-orientated routines to penetrative fantasies, this episode unzips the myths, mess, and magic of self-touch.

Whether you're into edging, exploring your G-spot with toys, or jacking off with an audience on Chaturbate, this one’s for you. The duo discuss the rise of video-led guided masturbation, group play, kinkier turn-ons like being told what to do, and even some good old-fashioned 'me time' with your favourite imagination.

With humour, heat, and hard truths, they’ll cover:

• Clitoral, penetrative, and combo orgasms for women

• The psychological power of mutual masturbation

• Masturbation in long-term relationships

• Masturbation as kink (yes, watching counts)

• And why it’s totally normal to talk about it

Plus, your listener confessions, the latest research on who’s doing what and how often, and Tom’s attempt to explain “ruined orgasms” without blushing.

So dim the lights, charge your toys, and get ready to embrace the most loyal lover you’ll ever have: yourself.

Are you gagging for some pleasure? Well this week, Tom and Isabelle clamp down on one of kink’s more intense — and often misunderstood — turn-ons: gagging. But not just one kind. Oh no, they're looking closely at two sides of the gagging coin — the physical act of being gagged with toys, tools, or hands, and the visceral reaction of gagging from being made to swallow... things or stuff .

From ball gags and bite bars to forced oral scenarios and the psychology of submission, your favourite co-hosts explore the delicate dance between power, breath, and pleasure. Whether it’s about sensory deprivation, drool, dominance, or deep-throat thrills, they’re talking safety, satisfaction, and starter tips for anyone curious about losing control in the best possible way.

Plus, Tom reads a particularly juicy passage from Exhibit by RO Kwon — a novel so drenched in desire and psychological surrender it practically begs to be discussed. And yes, he read it cover to cover on a plane to and from New York while trying not to blush too hard at 30,000 feet.

With their usual humour, honesty, and a mouthful of research, Tom and Isabelle take listeners into the world of gagging kinks — where silence is golden, and drool is definitely in fashion.

"Stretch Me Baby, One More Time"

In this deliciously daring episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle go deep—literally—as they explore the world of stretching orifices. From anal acrobatics to vaginal veneration, they dive into the why, the how, and the holy-wow of people who love to push the limits of what goes in (and sometimes what comes out).

Our curious co-hosts chat about the joys and risks of insertions, gape play, and using toys of truly intimidating sizes. They cover safety, lube, warm-up routines, and what to never put in your body (hint: that Buzz Lightyear toy is not designed for re-entry). There's also a look at some real-life ER stories that prove why reading the label matters.

Whether you’re a beginner curious about plugs or a seasoned stretcher eyeing your next challenge, this episode will have you wincing, laughing, and learning in equal measure. Expect honest talk, anatomical truths, and just the right amount of smut. Not for the faint of sphincter.

In this episode of Talking Kinky, co-hosts Tom and Isabelle charge headfirst into the tantalising world of dominance and submission with none other than Victoria the founder of For Play Chocolate & For Play Academy https://forplayacademy.com Victoria is also an intimacy coach with a flair for the fierce and fabulous.

From leather boots to psychological power dynamics, they explore what it really means to take—or give up—control in the bedroom.

Victoria shares insights from her coaching and learnings from various "Power Play" workshops, discusses the appeal of being a Dominatrix, and breaks down the fine line between performance and authenticity in power exchange.

Whether you're curious about D/s for the first time or already live for the crack of a well-timed command, this episode is a playful, provocative deep dive into the erotic power of surrender and control.

You can contact Victoria on https://forplayacademy.com

In this cracking opening episode of Talking Kinky Season 9, Tom and Isabelle are diving groin-first into the steamy, chaotic, and often misunderstood world of group sex.

From the seductive swirl of an orgy to the high-intensity logistics of a gangbang and the rhythmic thrill of running a train — they are breaking it all down with their signature mix of sass, smarts, and curiosity.

What makes these multi-partner encounters so damn hot? How do they differ in dynamics, power play, and appeal?

And how does someone like Bonnie Blue manage to have sex with 1,000 men (yes, really — and we have the article to prove it)?

We’ll also explore:

• The psychological turn-ons of being one-of-many (or the centre of it all)

• Risks, rules, and red flags to look out for

• How to find your way into the scene (clubs, forums, code words, and etiquette)

• The subtle difference between consent and chaos when it comes to planning group play

This episode is hot, hilarious, and honest — and whether you’re just kinky-curious or a group play connoisseur, there’s something for everyone in this crowd.

Press play, grab protection, and let’s talk kinky.

This week on Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle go deep — and we mean deep — into the world of oral ass play.

That’s right, we're talking rimming: who’s doing it, why it feels so good, and how to explore it safely, cleanly, and consensually across all orientations.

From anatomy and biology to prep tips, hygiene hacks, and yes, even anal bleaching, nothing’s off limits. Whether you’re a curious first-timer or a backdoor connoisseur, like Tom, this episode delivers everything you need to know — with plenty of laughs, real talk, and listener confessions along the way.

Get ready to loosen up… spread your cheeks and tune in.

This week on Talking Kinky, Isabelle and Tom are taking it outside—literally—as they dive into the wild world of sex outdoors. From secluded woodland romps and cheeky beach encounters to the quiet thrill of balcony play or garden quickies, they explore what makes alfresco intimacy so exhilarating—and sometimes risky.

IMPORTANT

Tom brought his puppy to work, so you may hear a puppy whining in the background, the puppy was having separation anxiety from Tom but we have done our very best to engineer the sound out, but it was the puppy's first time in the studio.

So expect laughs, puppy sounds, real talk, and practical guidance as your favourite kinky co-hosts unpack everything from the turn-ons of exhibitionism and connection to nature, to the crucial differences between public sex, outdoor sex, and indecent exposure.

They break down legal grey areas in the UK and beyond, offer tips for staying safe and respectful, and share listener stories that range from steamy to awkward.

Whether you’re a seasoned outdoor adventurer or just outdoor-curious, this episode will give you all the sexy, smart, and legal low-downs you need to play in nature with confidence and consent.

Every relationship goes through seasons — and when the passion cools, it’s not a sign to give up; it’s an invitation to reconnect. In this episode, Tom and Isabelle explore why the spark fades over time and share practical, sexy, and surprising ways to bring it roaring back.

From the power of emotional intimacy to playful kink and rediscovering each other’s desires, they offer real talk and actionable ideas to help you turn up the heat.Whether you're craving more excitement, deeper intimacy, or just want to feel that spark again, this conversation will leave you fired up and ready to reconnect.

In this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle slip past the velvet rope and into the world of sex parties — where curiosity, consent, and connection are always on the guest list.

Green, Red or Amber wrist band...Sir and Madam..?

Whether you're a wide-eyed newbie or a seasoned swinger, this candid conversation explores what really happens behind closed doors.

From house rules to hot tubs, dress codes to playroom etiquette, your favorite kinky co-hosts break down the dos, don’ts, and delightful surprises of the scene.

They’ll also chat about what makes a great sex party, how to navigate nerves, and why communication and consent are the real turn-ons.

So, are you curious? Come with an open mind, and let's talk about what it really means to say yes to the 'sex play' party.

Let’s talk about it — the question that lingers in bedrooms and relationships everywhere: Are we having enough sex?

In this revealing episode, Tom and Isabelle get honest about desire, frequency, and the silent pressure many of us feel around how much sex we “should” be having.

From long-term relationships to fresh flings, mismatched libidos to shifting seasons of intimacy, your favorite kinky co-hosts break down the myths, the stats, and the emotional truths behind sexual frequency.

They explore what “enough” really means, why comparison kills joy, and how communication—not performance—is the real secret to satisfaction.

Whether you're doing it daily or haven't done it in months, this episode reminds us that when it comes to sex, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer—only what’s right for you.

In this sizzling episode of Talking Kinky, your favorite duo Tom and Isabelle jump headfirst into their kinky mailbag to answer your kinkiest, quirkiest, and most curious questions.

From first-time fantasies to deeper looks into taboo desires, no topic is off limits. With their signature blend of insight, humour, and zero judgment, they’re here to decode, de-stigmatize, and maybe even dare you to try something new.

Got a question for next time? Slide into those DMs—we're just getting started.

In this episode of Talking Kinky, Isabelle and Tom are enjoying the waves of pleasure as they wade into the wet and wonderful world of female ejaculation, also known as squirting.

What is it exactly? Is it pee, is it real, and why does it matter? From the science to the sensation, the myths to the magic, your favorite co-hosts break down the mystery behind these waves of bliss with curiosity, humor, and plenty of honest conversation.

Whether you've experienced it, are intrigued by it, or are just plain mystified—this episode is all about understanding the power, pleasure, and potential of female ejaculation.

Grab your popcorn, take if you are driving, adjust your headphones, settle in, and let’s get soaked in knowledge.

So this is episode 1 of season 8. Your favourite kinky co-hosts, Tom and Isabelle, are kicking off this exciting new season by exploring a topic that's often whispered about but rarely explored openly: pleasure toys for men.

Gone are the days when toys were just for the women - in this episode Tom and Isabelle unpack everything you need to know about enhancing male pleasure with innovative, enticing, and sometimes surprisingly creative toys.

Join your hosts as they break down stigmas, share insightful experiences, and discuss the latest products designed specifically for male enjoyment.

From strokers and sleeves to prostate massagers and beyond, Tom and Isabelle cover it all with their signature blend of humour, openness, and genuine curiosity.

Whether you're new to pleasure toys or looking to level up your solo or partnered play, this episode promises to enlighten, entertain, and inspire.

Tune in, because it's time to put male pleasure in the spotlight! Visit our website www.talkingkinky.com where you can get all our content in one place.

Oh and please do listen to our Talking Kinky track Pleasure Tech Bliss on Spotify or Apple Music.

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In this Bonus episode of Talking Kinky, Tom is solo and takes us on a personal journey and shares his three-week trial of Length & Strength by Strong by Nature.

With his signature mix of authenticity and humour, Tom opens up about what motivated him to try this program, the process he followed, and the changes, both expected and unexpected, that he experienced along the way.

From skepticism to surprising results, Tom vulnerably shares the physical and mental shifts he noticed, as well as how this journey has influenced his relationship with his body and pleasure. Isabelle, sadly is not included in this expose.

Was it worth the effort? Did it deliver results? Tune in and find out! Please go to our shop on www.talkingkinky.com or click https://www.strongbynature.co.uk/TOM45216 to get your special Tom 20% discount code.

Isabelle and Tom are back with a steamy look into face-sitting, also known as queening.

From the physical and psychological appeal of this intimate power play to the trust and connection it builds, they break down why this act is more than just a kink—it’s an experience.

Whether you're curious about how to explore it safely or just want to hear some juicy insights, this episode is your invitation to take a seat… or be the throne. Visit our website www.talkingkinky.com where you can get all our content in one place.

Plus, we’re debuting our brand-new Talking Kinky Theme Music to set the mood for Season 7 and beyond. Which you can catch up on in Spotify as we build our very own kinky dance music genre. https://open.spotify.com/artist/1P9gkslvrk77tYDfhJ804u?si=4AGFAMw9QqGrs9kWypr4YA

Listen now and explore more at www.talkingkinky.com

Which UK city is the kinkiest?

In this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle dive into some eye-opening data on kink searches across the UK, uncovering which cities have the biggest appetites for kink and why the obsession with BDSM, fetish play, and all things deliciously deviant.

From the unexpected BDSM capitals to regional obsessions with niche kinks, they break down the numbers, explore what drives these interests, and discuss how culture, history, and access to sex-positive spaces shape the UK’s kink scene.

Is your city topping the charts? Tune in to find out where the UK’s most adventurous lovers reside—and what they’re searching for behind closed doors!Visit our website www.talkingkinky.com where you can get all our content in one place.

Visit our website www.talkingkinky.com where you can get all our content in one place.

Listen to our kinky dance music here https://open.spotify.com/artist/1P9gkslvrk77tYDfhJ804u?si=pNrIWvquTGuvmnHKOACNyQ

In this episode of Talking Kinky, Isabelle and Tom tie themselves up in the tantalizing world of bondage—one of the most popular and misunderstood elements of BDSM.

They unravel the psychology of restraint, exploring why some people find pleasure in surrendering control while others get off on taking the reins.

From silky scarves to intricate Shibari rope work, they’ll discuss the art, safety, and emotional dynamics of tying up (or being tied down). Plus, they’ll share personal stories, expert insights, and practical tips for beginners and experienced players alike.

Whether you're curious about light bondage or eager to explore the deep intimacy of restraint play, this episode will help you navigate the ropes—literally and figuratively!

Visit our website www.talkingkinky.com where you can get all our content in one place.

Listen to our kinky dance music here https://open.spotify.com/artist/1P9gkslvrk77tYDfhJ804u?si=pNrIWvquTGuvmnHKOACNyQ

Hold your breath—literally!!

In this episode of Talking Kinky, Isabelle and Tom take a 'deep breath' as they delve into the exhilarating world of breath play.

From the psychological highs to the physical thrills, they explore what makes this edgy kink so intoxicating. Is it control? Trust? The ultimate surrender? They'll break down the dos, don’ts, and must-knows, making sure you're well-equipped to navigate the fine line between ecstasy and risk.

So draw in a long deep intake of breath and tune in - it’s about to get breathlessly good.

Visit our website www.talkingkinky.com where you can get all our content in one place.

Listen to our kinky dance music here https://open.spotify.com/artist/1P9gkslvrk77tYDfhJ804u?si=pNrIWvquTGuvmnHKOACNyQ

In this episode Tom and Isabelle are strapping in (and on) for a much-requested revisit to the world ofpegging—aka strap-on play.

Whether you’re new to the experience or a seasoned pro, this episode is all about exploring the physical and psychological sides of pegging, breaking down the myths, and answering the big question: why does this kink still carry so much taboo?

From pleasure mechanics to power dynamics, and from first-time jitters to advanced techniques, Tom and Isabelle tackle it all with their signature blend of humor, knowledge, and zero judgment. Get ready for real talk, expert tips, and, of course, a few cheeky puns along the way.

Press play, and let’s get into it!

Visit our website www.talkingkinky.com where you can get all our content in one place.

Listen to our kinky dance music here https://open.spotify.com/artist/1P9gkslvrk77tYDfhJ804u?si=pNrIWvquTGuvmnHKOACNyQ

Power, control, and money—three elements that can make fantasies thrilling or turn them into something far more complicated. In this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle dive deep into the world of domination, from the exhilarating highs of consensual power exchange to the intricate and often misunderstood realm of financial domination, or Findom.

But where does the line blur between kink and coercion? As we explore the allure of being in control—or surrendering it—we also take a hard look at the darker side: romance fraud.

What happens when financial submission crosses into manipulation? How do scammers exploit vulnerability and desire to their advantage?

Join us for an unfiltered conversation on the psychology of dominance, the appeal of Findom, and the cautionary tales of those who’ve been caught in the web of financial and emotional deception.

Whether you’re a curious listener, an active participant, or simply fascinated by the intersection of power and intimacy, this episode promises to be as enlightening as it is provocative.

Let’s get kinky.

Visit our website www.talkingkinky.com where you can get all our content in one place.

Listen to our kinky dance music here https://open.spotify.com/artist/1P9gkslvrk77tYDfhJ804u?si=pNrIWvquTGuvmnHKOACNyQ