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| 310 - Overcoming Trauma & How Hardships Make You Who You Are with J.R. Martinez | 26 Aug 2024 | 01:36:00 | |
In this week episode I had an engaging and wide ranging conversation with J.R. Martinez. J.R. is a motivational speaker, actor, and entertainer. J.R is also an Iraqi war veteran, who suffered from injuries from a roadside bomb burning over 40% of his body with significant scarring on his face and head. The road to recovery was long and challenging, but J.R. took the lessons he learned and turned them to his advantage. He auditioned for All My Children for a small role that later expanded into a 3 year stint. In 2011 he went on Dancing with the Stars and ended up winning the top trophy that year. He has spoken to audiences all over the world with his story of perseverance and how to turned challenges into opportunities for growth. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 309 - Think Again: Stoic Tools to Dismantle Confirmation Bias | 18 Aug 2024 | 00:13:29 | |
Do you struggle with confirmation bias? Do you even know what confirmation bias is? In this episode I want to delve into the concept of confirmation bias and how what you already know and believe can influence you to make poor decisions. “The first rule is not to get fooled, and you are the easiest person to fool.” —Richard Feynman My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 300 - The Importance of Friendship from a Stoic Perspective | 05 Jun 2024 | 00:19:35 | |
Do you have close friends? Are you a good friend? In this episode I talk about the importance of friendship and how Stoicism can help you be a better friend. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 210 - It will All Be Gone | 01 Nov 2021 | 00:04:36 | |
Brief is man’s life and small the nook of the Earth where he lives; brief, too, is the longest posthumous fame, buoyed only by a succession of poor human beings who will very soon die and who know little of themselves, much less of someone who died long ago.—Marcus Aurelius My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 209 - Privilege | 25 Oct 2021 | 00:13:15 | |
One cannot pursue one’s own highest good without at the same time necessarily promoting the good of others. A life based on narrow self-interest cannot be esteemed by any honorable measurement. Seeking the very best in ourselves means actively caring for the welfare of other human beings. Our human contract is not with the few people with whom our affairs are most immediately intertwined, nor to the prominent, rich, or well educated, but to all our human brethren.— EpictetusWhat kind of privileges have you had in your life? Do you recognize the advantages that you have enjoyed? In this episode I want to talk about privilege, and how the stoics encourage us to use the privliges we have to improve society. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 208 - Radical Candor | 18 Oct 2021 | 00:10:51 | |
It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.– Marcus AureliusAre you afraid to tell others what you really think or how you really feel? In this episode I want to talk about the idea of radical candor, and how committing to being honest about what you think and feel is one of the most challenging but rewarding things you can do. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 207 - Resistance | 11 Oct 2021 | 00:10:57 | |
Don’t demand or expect that events happen as you would wish them to. Accept events as they actually happen. That way peace is possible. — EpictetusWhat if you stopped resisting what life brought your way? What if you could cheerfully accept everything that came your way? How would that change the way you showed up in the world? This week I want to talk about the importance of dealing with what is, and not what we think it should be. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 206 - The Long Ride | 04 Oct 2021 | 00:09:48 | |
The greater the difficulty, the more glory in surmounting it. Skillful pilots gain their reputation from storms and tempests. — EpictetusDo you think that life is meant to be comfortable? Do you make choices in your life to take the easy path and avoid discomfort? If so, then you may not be living a life as full as you could. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 205 - Two Sides of the Same Coin | 27 Sep 2021 | 00:12:10 | |
Some things are within our power, while others are not. Within our power are opinion, motivation, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever is of our own doing; not within our power are our body, our property, reputation, office, and, in a word, whatever is not of our own doing.— EpictetusOne topic that I revisit on the podcast repeatedly is how important it is to control the things that we can’ and let go of the things that we can’t. For me, this is one of the most important lessons we can learn in our lives. In this episode, I want to talk about how we be more mindful of what we can, and what we cannot control. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 204 - Blame and Responsibility | 20 Sep 2021 | 00:09:28 | |
If change is forced upon you, you must resist the temptation to overreact or feel sorry for yourself. — Robert GreeneHow often do you feel that life is unfair? That something happened that you think should not have happened to you? Maybe someone hurt you and you want them to fix it? In this episode I want to talk about blame and responsibility. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 203 - Belief Without Evidence is Wrong | 13 Sep 2021 | 00:16:27 | |
It is wrong always, everywhere, and for anyone, to believe anything upon insufficient evidence.— William K. Clifford, Ethics of BeliefWe all like to think that we are wise, that our opinions are well thought out, and that we’re smart enough to spot when we have inconsistent beliefs. Today I want to talk about why believing something without sufficient evidence is wrong, and that idea that how we come to a belief or a conclusion is more important that the whether the belief or conclusion is correct. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 202 - Life Is Long If You Know How To Use It | 06 Sep 2021 | 00:13:06 | |
“While we wait for life, life passes.”— SenecaTime is the most important, the most in demand resource that we have in life. Are you spending yours wisely or do you let it go to waste? Today I want to talk about time, and how we can take some steps to be mindful of how we spend it. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 201 - You May Leave This Life at Any Moment | 30 Aug 2021 | 00:12:03 | |
“You may leave this life at any moment: have this possibility in your mind in all that you do or say or think.”— Marcus AureliusDo you think about death? Are you afraid of death? Do you take the time to think about what the world will be like when you are no longer here? Today I want to talk about why death is so important, and how when we avoid thinking about death, we are missing out on one of the best tools to live a fulfilling life. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 299 - Imposter Syndrome: Who Do You Think You Are | 29 May 2024 | 00:12:58 | |
Do you suffer from imposter syndrome? Do you often feel like you’re just faking your way through life? Today I want to talk about how Stoicism can help you overcome imposter syndrome and live a more authentic life. “Failure to observe what is in the mind of another has seldom made a man unhappy; but those who do not observe the movements of their own minds must of necessity be unhappy.” —Marcus Aurelius My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 200 - With Great Responsibility Comes Great Power | 23 Aug 2021 | 00:11:28 | |
“The responsibility is all yours. No one can stop you from being honest or straightforward.”— Marcus AureliusTo you own your actions? Do you graciously accept the consequences of your choices? When you make a mistake do you try to cover it up? Today I want to talk about the idea that to have more control over your life, you need to accept responsibility for everything you do. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 199 - What are you Thinking? | 16 Aug 2021 | 00:14:03 | |
“Objective judgment, at this very moment. Unselfish action, now at this very moment. Willing acceptance – now at this very moment – of all external events. That’s all you need.” — Marcus AureliusHow aware are you of what you are thinking? What you are feeling? Most of us like to think that we are pretty aware of what’s going on in our minds or what emotion is currently driving us. I mean, we’re the one inside of our mind, so we should know what we’re thinking or feeling, right? Well, not always. Often, the thoughts and emotions inside my head are busy, confusing, conflicting, and overwhelming. So today we’re going to talk about the most important mental skill you can develop, awareness. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 198 - The Fear of Knowing What You Want | 09 Aug 2021 | 00:13:04 | |
“Everything, a horse, a vine, is created for some duty. For what task, then, were you yourself created? A person’s true delight is to do the things they were made for.”—Marcus AureliusDo you really know what you want? When you think about what you want, does it excite you? Does it scare you? Are you pursuing what you want? In today’s episode, we’re going to talk about why it’s scary to know what you want, and why that’s a good thing. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 197 - What's Your Excuse? | 02 Aug 2021 | 00:12:45 | |
“Now is the time to get serious about living your ideals. How long can you afford to put off who you really want to be? Your nobler self cannot wait any longer. Put your principles into practice–now. Stop the excuses and the procrastination. This is your life! […] Decide to be extraordinary and do what you need to do–now.” — EpictetusWe all have events and challenges that happen in our lives. That what life is all about. When the stoics use the term Amor Fati, what they mean is to love your fate, to love and accept what life sends your way. How you feel about the events that happen to you in your life will not change if they are going to happen or not. They will happen. What thoughts you have around these events, how you feel about them, and how you respond to them are the only things that you have control over. If this is the case, why do we make excuses? Why do we come up with rationalizations about these how we do or don’t, especially when the rationalizations just make us feel worse about the actions we want to take anyway? My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 196 - How to Win an Argument | 26 Jul 2021 | 00:11:38 | |
It is possible to curb your arrogance, to overcome pleasure and pain, to rise above your ambition, and to not be angry with stupid and ungrateful people — yes, even to care for them. — Marcus AureliusHow do you win an argument? All of us have to deal with conflict in our lives. To think otherwise is completely unrealistic. But when we have an argument, what is our goal? What do we hope to achieve? To change the other person’s mind? To prove that we are right? Today I want to talk about why we argue, and the best way to win an argument. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 195 - Why You Should Care | 19 Jul 2021 | 00:12:50 | |
“Humans exist for the sake of one another.” — Marcus AureliusA few weeks ago I talked about being self-sovereign, that you are in 100% responsible for your choices and actions, and that you may live exactly the want to, regardless of the opinions of others. I got to thinking about it, and I wanted to cover another aspect of what it means to be self-sovereign. When you choose to live by your rules and values, it means that you are only controlling the things that you can control, and not trying to control those you can’t. But does this mean that you can ignore everyone around you and live in ways that are only helpful to you? Yes, you can. But does that mean that you should? My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 194 - Find Your Why | 12 Jul 2021 | 00:12:12 | |
“So you were born to feel ‘nice’? Instead of doing things and experiencing them? Don’t you see the plants, the birds, the ants and spiders and bees going about their individual tasks, putting the world in order, as best they can? And you’re not willing to do your job as a human being? Why aren’t you running to do what your nature demands?”— Marcus AureliusOne of the toughest things in life is to work at a job we don’t like. There are plenty of factors that can lead to job satisfaction. Many of them are outside of our control, but there are some that aren’t, and those are the most important ones because they can lead to true job satisfaction, and maybe to finding your purpose in life. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 193 - 10,000 Kicks | 05 Jul 2021 | 00:10:30 | |
“If something is difficult for you to accomplish, do not then think it impossible for any human being; rather, if it is humanly possible and corresponds to human nature, know that it is attainable by you as well.” — Marcus AureliusWhat is the key to success? Why are some people able to achieve what they want while others languish? Today we’re going to talk about how Stoicism can help you to develop the skills it takes to reach your goals, and live your best life. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 192 - Self-Sovereign | 28 Jun 2021 | 00:09:36 | |
“Be content to seem what you really are.” — Marcus AureliusOne of the hardest things in our lives is to be completely honest with those around us. Why is that? Why do we hide parts of ourselves or lie about how we feel, especially with those we love the most? We are afraid of rejection. We are afraid of not belonging. We are afraid that if those closest to us really “knew” us, they would no longer love us. The need to fit in and belong is a powerful, almost primal one. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 191 - Get Busy With Life's Purpose | 21 Jun 2021 | 00:10:44 | |
“Get busy with life’s purpose, toss aside empty hopes, get active in your own rescue — if you care for yourself at all — and do it while you can.”— Marcus AureliusDoes being a Stoic mean you can be apathetic? Does not reacting mean that you just give up? Because Stoicism is about controlling your response, it can easily seem that you just let things just happen and don’t take action. But to be a true Stoic, you are the opposite of apathetic. You are effective. By taking the time to choose your shot, you don’t waste time or energy on the things you can’t control. Often, we confuse action with actually doing something useful. Because Stoicism is about taking responsibility for ourselves, we need to be smart about the actions we choose. When we take the time to make a deliberate and well thought out choice. We want to be effective, not busy. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 298 - A Map is Good, A Compass is Better | 22 May 2024 | 00:09:27 | |
Do you struggle because you can’t handle when things don’t go according to plan? Today I want to talk about how having a plan is important, but having an inner compass to guide you can help you be more adaptable, make decisions under uncertainty, and forge a path when things don’t work out as planned. “What then can guide a man? One thing and only one, philosophy. But this consists in keeping the soul within a man free from violence and unharmed, superior to pains and pleasures, doing nothing without a purpose, nor yet falsely and with hypocrisy.” —Marcus Aurelius My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 190 - The Stories We Tell Ourselves | 14 Jun 2021 | 00:11:56 | |
“It is not events that disturb people, it is their judgements concerning them.”— Marcus AureliusHow often do you find yourself upset over something someone said? Maybe you’re stressed out over something that is happened. Maybe it’s the opposite and you’re extremely excited about some event happening in your life. Whatever it is, every event that causes some kind of emotion for you is all driven by the story that you tell yourself. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 189 - What You Are Capable Of | 31 May 2021 | 00:09:36 | |
“I judge you unfortunate because you have never lived through misfortune. You have passed through life without an opponent—no one can ever know what you are capable of, not even you.” – SenecaHave you ever thought about how much energy and effort we as humans put into seeking comfort and avoiding challenging things? So many things that we spend money on in our lives revolve around making things easier or more comfortable. Part of human evolution has been to seek comfort. We try to make things easier for ourselves. But in doing so, are we robbing ourselves of a chance to grow? In our search for convenience, do we end up weakening ourselves? My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 188 - Do What You Can | 24 May 2021 | 00:09:23 | |
“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”— Theodore RooseveltWhen you find yourself in a challenging situation, how much time do you spend wishing things were different than they are? Do you get stuck in thinking how it’s not fair? What if instead of wanting to things to be other than what they are, we worked with what we have? What kind of change could you have in your life and in the lives of others if you instead focused on what you could do? How much time and frustration would you save yourself?Today I want to talk about how taking action, even if it’s just a small one, can help get you on the path of moving through challenges. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 187 - Yes, And... | 17 May 2021 | 00:09:53 | |
You only live in the present, this fleeting moment. The rest of your life is already gone or not yet revealed.— Marcus AureliusHow often do you think about the future? How much time do you spend thinking about the expectations you have for yourself, your life, those around you? How much time do you spend in your mind in the future, so much so that you don’t really live in the present?Last week I talked about how it’s easy to get stuck in the past, and how doing so is a waste of energy because it not something that we have control over. Today I want to talk about holding expectations of the future can set us up for frustration and disappointment, and the tools the Stoics give us to enjoy life in the present. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 186 - Stuck In The Past | 10 May 2021 | 00:09:06 | |
“Reason shows us there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”— SenecaOne of the core tenants of Stoicism is to be aware of, and to focus on what we can control and let go of those we can’t. One area that we don’t have control over is what happened in the past. It is not something that can we can change, yet it is one of the hardest things for us to let go of. Regrets are a prison of our own making, but we are the ones that hold the key to our escape. Learning how to untangle ourselves from past can bring us so peace and freedom to move more lightly in the present.--Hello friends! Thank you for listening. If you like what you hear, head on over to patreon.com/stoicoffee and help support this podcast by becoming a patron. Also stop by the website at www.stoic.coffee where you can sign up for our newsletter, and buy some great looking shirts and hoodies at the Stoic Coffee Shop. Also, if you know of someone that would benefit from or appreciate this podcast, please share it. Word of mouth is the best way to help this podcast grow. Thanks again for listening. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 185 - Needy | 03 May 2021 | 00:11:56 | |
“People exist for one another. You can instruct or endure them.”— Marcus AureliusEveryone has needs. If you are a living, breathing human being, you have needs. Why do we find it so hard to ask for the things that we need? So why do so many of us feel like we’re broken because we have needs? In this week's episode we talk about neediness as something to be understood, not to be ignored. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 184 - The Truth Never Harmed Anyone | 26 Apr 2021 | 00:08:48 | |
"It’s the truth I’m after, and the truth never harmed anyone. What harms us is to persist in self-deceit and ignorance.” – Marcus AureliusDeep down, we all harbor insecurities. We feel that we just aren’t as good as we pretend to be, or want to be. Because our ego, our identity, is wrapped up in who we think we are. When something threatens that identity, we can easily get defensive. Our egos try to maintain these boundaries of who we think we are.This week's episode is about one of the hardest things for us as human to receive - criticism. ----Hello friends! Thank you for listening. If you like what you hear, head on over to patreon.com/stoicoffee and help support this podcast by becoming a patron. Also stop by the website at www.stoic.coffee where you can sign up for our newsletter, and buy some great looking shirts and hoodies at the Stoic Coffee Shop. Also, if you know of someone that would benefit from or appreciate this podcast, please share it. Word of mouth is the best way to help this podcast grow. Thanks again for listening. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 183 - Mind And Body | 19 Apr 2021 | 00:12:16 | |
“Caretake this moment. Immerse yourself in its particulars. Respond to this person or that person, this challenge, this deed. Quit the evasions. Stop giving yourself needless trouble. It is time to really live; to fully inhabit the situation you happen to be in right now. You are not some disinterested bystander. Participate. Exert yourself.”— EpictetusOne of the hardest things that we have to deal with as humans is anxiety. As humans, we evolved to be constantly aware of threats around us. This is how our brains evolved to keep us alive. That rustling in the bushes could have been a snake or tiger. The adrenaline spike got us ready in flash should we need to fight for our lives or run for safety. Without these traits, humans would not have survived very long. The problem is that we are built to handle threats that don’t exist for most of us. Getting your brain to understand and appreciate that though is a whole other challenge to our modern world. Because our brains are constantly on the lookout for threats, we may feel uncomfortable or anxious for something that we “think” we shouldn’t cause that kind of response. We also can't just "think" our way out of anxiety. Because anxiety is a physical sensation, it needs to be handled in a physical way. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 182 - Want What You Have | 12 Apr 2021 | 00:07:30 | |
"Don’t set your mind on things you don’t possess as if they were yours, but count the blessings you actually possess and think how much you would desire them if they weren’t already yours."— Marcus AureliusWhen we think about things that we want in our lives, we also need to think about the thing that we already have, and appreciate those things. It’s easy for us to get stuck in the mindset of only focusing on the things that we don’t have in our lives. We focus on what we are lacking as a person and where we consider ourselves as failures. We can get too focused on all the material things that we don’t have and want. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 181 - Askers and Guessers | 05 Apr 2021 | 00:14:37 | |
“The first rule is to keep an untroubled spirit. The second is to look things in the face and know them for what they are.”—Marcus AureliusFor people who live in a Guess Culture, learning to ask for what we want is particularly challenging. It can feel uncomfortable, produce anxiety, and in some instances can upset the "way things are supposed to be done". But learning to be a better asker can help improve communication with those around you, and remove a lot of stress from your life.Join us at https://stoic.coffee My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 297 - From Socrates to Seneca: The Timeless Power of a Good Question | 08 May 2024 | 00:13:03 | |
Do you ask questions? And what I mean by that is, do you go into conversation or arguments thinking you already know everything? Today I want to talk about the importance of staying curious and how to ask useful questions. “He who knows only his own side of the case, knows little of that.” —John Stuart Mill My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 180 - Ask For Help | 29 Mar 2021 | 00:12:49 | |
“Don’t be ashamed to need help. Like a soldier storming a wall, you have a mission to accomplish. And if you’ve been wounded and you need a comrade to pull you up? So what?”— Marcus Aurelius The Stoics teach us that we’re part of the human community, that we’re here to help and support our fellow humans. We are social animals, and as much as we may think that we are independent, we’ve thrived as humans because of our cooperation. None of us can survive just on our own. We rely on each other in a very interconnected society. So why is it SO hard to ask for help? My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 179 - Do Hard Things | 22 Mar 2021 | 00:18:56 | |
“Give yourself fully to your endeavors. Decide to construct your character through excellent actions and determine to pay the price of a worthy goal. The trials you encounter will introduce you to your strengths.”— EpictetusThe unglamorous, most powerful way to accomplish your goals and becoming the person that you want to become. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 178 - If It's Endurable, Then Endure It | 15 Mar 2021 | 00:11:26 | |
“Everything that happens is either endurable or not. If it’s endurable, then endure it. Stop complaining. If it’s unendurable… then stop complaining. Your destruction will mean its end as well. Just remember: you can endure anything your mind can make endurable, by treating it as in your interest to do so.”— Marcus AureliusHow often do we complain about the things that we don’t like about in life? There are so many things to complain about in life. Even at this moment, there are so many things to complain about. The Pandemic. The government. Politics. Our relationships with others. Money. Even the weather. We can all find things to complain about. Complaining about something wishes things to be other than they are. It is trying to get the universe to change for us. The universe doesn’t care about our complaints. If you are able, do something about it. If you are cannot, accept it, let it go, and move on. To continue complaining is a waste of time and energy.Listen to more episodes at: https://stoic.coffee My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 177 - Get Comfortable with the Uncomfortable | 08 Mar 2021 | 00:12:24 | |
“It is our own opinions that disturb us. Take away these opinions and resolve to dismiss your judgment about an act as if it were something grievous, and your anger is gone.” — Marcus AureliusPracticing stoicism is not about repressing emotions. It is not about pretending you feel nothing. It’s about understanding how your mind works, so that you can use it to benefit you and those around you. It’s about finding balance and equanimity. It’s recognizing that you have control over what you think, feel, and do. If you are swayed by every little thing other people say, or frustrated by outside events, you will be at the whims of your emotions. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 176 - Win or Learn, Then you Never Lose | 01 Mar 2021 | 00:11:52 | |
“Win or learn, you never lose.”What if you could look at everything that happens to you as something you can learn from? What if you could train your mind to see everything as an opportunity? What if you could resist less, and flow more? This weeks episode we talk about how to reframe failure as opportunities to learn. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 175 - Circumstances and Choices | 22 Feb 2021 | 00:13:22 | |
“Some things are within our power, while others are not. Within our power are opinion, motivation, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever is of our own doing; not within our power are our body, our property, reputation, office, and, in a word, whatever is not of our own doing.”— EpictetusOne of the core tenants of Stoicism is understanding the things we control and the things we cannot control. Clearly seeing things we do and don’t have control over is a skill that can impact every aspect of our lives. It can help lower our stress and help us make better and faster decisions. It can save us energy by focusing on the important things in our lives and letting go of the rest. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 174 - You are Good Enough | 17 Feb 2021 | 00:09:02 | |
“A person’s worth is measured by the worth of what they value.” – Marcus AureliusEach of us has things we value, but does that include ourselves? The truth of it is our thoughts, your desires, are all valid. All of them. Sure, they might be considered silly, weird, or even disgusting by others. That is their opinion. The thing is, we are allowed to live our lives any way that we want. We get to live in the way that we think is best for us. We get to choose who we want to be. We are not here to live for someone else. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 173 - Change you Perspective, Change Your World | 08 Feb 2021 | 00:10:12 | |
Change Your Perspective, Change Your World“It is not so much what happens to you as how you think about what happens."– EpictetusOften times we struggle with our own perspective can color how we view ourselves and our lives. What would it take for you to change your perspective? In todays episode, we look at the story of one man who got a second chance at life, and how a shift in his perspective made all the difference. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 172 - Responsiblity | 02 Feb 2021 | 00:09:51 | |
“Waste no more time arguing about what a good person should be. Be one.”– Marcus AureliusOn this podcast I talk a lot about being responsible for for your own actions and thoughts, but what does that really mean? How do you actually accomplish this? My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 171 - Beyond Fear | 26 Jan 2021 | 00:14:41 | |
"A number of our blessings do us harm, for memory brings back the agony of fear while foresight brings it on prematurely. No one confines his unhappiness to the present.” — SenecaHow different would your life be if you could live without fear? What kind of person would you be and what actions would you take if you weren’t afraid? Fear is a powerful force in our lives. It can be the driver of action or inaction. Because it taps into the hard wiring of our lizard brains, it pushes us into reacting in ways that are more basic and instinctual. In todays episode we talk about where fear comes from, and how to manage it. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 296 - How to Handle Frustration | 24 Apr 2024 | 00:13:21 | |
This week'e episode is a bit different. Usually I write up my episodes so I dig deep and give you something really helpful. This week, it's just me and the mic talking about how sometimes people act in ways that are frustrating. They lie, cheat, even steal from you. I talk about how I'm dealing with that in my life at the moment and how I'm using Stoicism to act with integrity, and not let someone else control how I behave, or how I feel. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 170 - Boundaries | 18 Jan 2021 | 00:08:14 | |
“To achieve freedom and happiness, you need to grasp this basic truth: some things in life are under your control, and others are not.”- EpictetusThe first and most important teaching of Stoicism is that there are things that we control, and things we cannot and that we should focus on the things that we can control and let go of the rest. But how do we deal with things that we can’t control, but have a big impact on us? Stoicism gives us some tools to handle these situations. My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 169 - Why Do You Care What Others Think? | 11 Jan 2021 | 00:09:24 | |
"I have often wondered how it is that every man loves himself more than all the rest of men, but yet sets less value on his own opinion of himself than on the opinion of others."- Marcus AureliusMarcus Aurelius warned us worrying about the opinion of others is a waste of time. But, if we live with other people and are social animals, shouldn’t we worry about what others think? My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||
| 168 - Self Acceptance | 04 Jan 2021 | 00:15:14 | |
"Equanimity is the voluntary acceptance of the things which are assigned to thee by the common nature." - Marcus Aurelius How often do we hold ourselves back because of our inner critic? What if instead we practiced self acceptance, and treated ourselves like we treat a good friend - with honesty, kindness, and forgiveness? My book Stoicism 101 is available! Order here! | |||