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| I Love My Stepkids — But I Hate the Drama: Stepmum Boundaries & Co-Parenting Stress | 19 Nov 2025 | 00:58:26 | |
Book your place on The Stepmum Reset now: https://stepmumspace.com Episode Summary In this episode, Katie talks to Claire — an independent woman who fell deeply in love with her partner… and his three children. While Claire adores the kids, navigating the dynamic with their mum and the emotional load of stepfamily life has been far harder than she expected. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, out of control, or unsure where your boundaries should be, this conversation will make you feel truly seen. In this episode, Katie and Claire explore:
A raw, validating conversation every stepmum will relate to. Key Topics
The Stepmum Reset Workshop If you’re thinking, “I can’t keep going like this,” The Stepmum Reset is for you. This two-part workshop gives you the tools, language, boundaries and clarity to feel more in control. Next dates: You’ll leave with:
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Helpful Links The Stepmum Reset: https://stepmumspace.com Final Note You are not alone. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| When the Bio Mum Won’t Communicate: Stepmum Stress, Blame & Co-Parenting Conflict | 12 Nov 2025 | 00:45:22 | |
If you’re searching for stepmum help, stepmum support, or a real conversation about stepmum struggles and stepmum problems, this episode will speak straight to your heart. In this emotional conversation, Katie talks with Nicole, a mum of two and stepmum of one, about the heartbreak of trying to co-parent when her stepson’s mum refuses to communicate — not just with her, but with her husband too. Nicole shares how she’s navigated protecting her “ours babies” from the pain of not seeing their brother, and what it’s been like being cast as the villain in her stepson’s mum’s story. Together, Katie and Nicole unpack why stepdads are so often glorified while stepmums are blamed for doing either too much or too little — and how that emotional double standard plays out in everyday life. This honest chat is full of empathy, real-world insight, and moments that remind you: you’re not alone in the complexity of stepfamily life. 🌿 Reset Workshop Invitation - Stepmum Re-Set workshop | Stepmum Space If today’s episode has resonated with you and you’re feeling ready for a reset before Christmas, join Katie for her Reset Workshop — a two-evening online experience created especially for stepmums who want to: It’s a supportive, understanding space to learn, reflect, and connect with other stepmums who truly get it. 👉 Visit Stepmum Re-Set workshop | Stepmum Space Follow Stepmum Space for weekly conversations, expert stepmum support, and stories that help you feel seen and understood. New episodes every week. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| When Stepmum Life Turns You Upside Down: A Real Conversation with a Stepmum Coach | 13 Sep 2023 | 00:49:47 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com Episode Summary If you’re a stepmum who’s struggling — feeling torn, exhausted or unsure of your place — this episode is for you. Katie is joined by Kristin, a stepmum to four, mum to one, and a life coach who supports stepmums across the US. Together, they talk honestly about the emotional weight of stepfamily life: the moments that feel too much, the ones that feel invisible, and the ones that make you question everything. This is a grounded, real, deeply validating conversation about what stepmum life actually feels like behind the scenes. In This Episode We Explore
These topics reflect some of the most common things stepmums search online when they feel overwhelmed, lost or alone. If This Resonates Learn more about Katie’s experience and approach: Who This Episode Is For
Keywords Helpful Links You’re not alone. There is support, there are tools, and your feelings make complete sense. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| When Your Stepchild Has Additional Needs: Stepmum Pressure & Blended Family Boundaries | 06 Sep 2023 | 00:36:47 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com In this episode, Katie speaks with Sally — a stepmum and biological mum — about the real-life challenges of blending families and raising a stepchild with additional needs. Sally shares her journey from being a single mum to navigating the emotional and practical complexities of bringing two families together. From the early days of adjustment to the ongoing work of building trust, connection and stability, Sally’s story is honest, grounded and deeply validating for any stepmum who feels stretched thin. In This Episode We Explore:
If This Resonates Learn more about Katie’s approach and experience: Who This Episode Is For:
Keywords: Helpful Links: You’re not alone, and you’re not doing it wrong. Connection takes time — and you deserve support while you figure things out. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| When Your Home Isn’t Your Safe Space: Stepmum Anxiety & Boundaries | 30 Aug 2023 | 00:44:08 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com Episode Summary In this raw and honest conversation, Katie speaks with Francesca — a stepmum to two young girls — about the emotional toll of stepfamily life when your home doesn’t feel like a safe space. Francesca describes how becoming a stepmum shifted her from a confident, independent woman into someone who felt anxious, unsettled and constantly on edge. After moving into her partner’s old family home — and dealing with frequent drop-ins and boundary-crossing from the ex — Francesca found herself spiralling, questioning her place in the family and struggling to cope. This episode explores what happens when your home stops feeling like yours and the emotional cost of living in a space where your boundaries aren’t respected. In This Episode We Explore
These are some of the most common challenges stepmums search for when feeling overwhelmed, unsafe or destabilised by stepfamily dynamics. If This Resonates Learn more about Katie’s approach and experience: Who This Episode Is For
Keywords Helpful Links You’re not alone. Your feelings make sense. And with the right support, things can feel calm, grounded and manageable again. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Stepparenting a Neurodivergent Child: Stepmum Love, Limits & Learning | 23 Aug 2023 | 00:49:26 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com Episode Summary In this episode, Katie speaks with a stepmum of three boys — one of whom is neurodiverse — about what it’s really like to go from zero to three children almost overnight. She shares openly about the emotional highs and lows of stepping into a full-time parenting role, the pressure to bond instantly, and the guilt that comes when connection doesn’t happen as quickly or naturally as you hoped. Although she loves her stepson deeply, his additional needs have brought unique challenges — and she’s learning how to meet him where he is while still honouring her own limits. This is a grounded, compassionate conversation about the reality of stepparenting when neurodiversity is part of the picture. In This Episode We Explore
These themes reflect many of the key challenges stepmums search for when trying to understand their role with neurodiverse children. If This Resonates Learn more about Katie’s approach and experience: Who This Episode Is For
Keywords Helpful Links You’re not alone, and you’re not doing it wrong. Connection takes time — and you deserve support while you figure things out. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| “I Feel Second to My Partner’s Ex”: Stepmum Grief, Loyalty Binds & Feeling Sidelined | 16 Aug 2023 | 00:45:54 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com Episode Summary In this episode, Katie speaks with Charlotte — a stepmum to a little girl — about the heartbreak of wanting more time, more connection and more space to love… but not being able to. Charlotte adores her stepdaughter. She wants to be involved, present and part of her world. But right now, that isn’t possible — and it hurts. She opens up about the quiet grief of being left out, the sting of feeling second best, and the emotional tightrope she walks between her partner and his ex. This is a tender, validating conversation about the emotional cost of loving a child you can’t fully show up for — and the invisible pain stepmums often carry alone. In This Episode We Explore
These themes mirror the highest-search pain points stepmums look up when they feel excluded, invisible or overwhelmed. If This Resonates Learn more about Katie’s approach and experience: Who This Episode Is For
Keywords Helpful Links You’re not alone. Your love is real, your role matters, and your feelings deserve space. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Toxic In-Laws as a Stepmum: Feeling Excluded, Undermined & Forced to Walk Away | 09 Aug 2023 | 01:03:52 | |
Support, tools & coaching for stepmums: https://stepmumspace.com Helena’s story looked like it was going to be one of the rare smooth ones. She and her partner were aligned. His ex was respectful. The stepkids liked her. Everything pointed toward a calm, harmonious future. But the real challenge came from somewhere she didn’t expect — his family. In this powerful episode, Katie speaks with Helena about the emotional fallout of dealing with in-laws who made her feel unwelcome, undermined, and unsafe. Despite doing everything “right,” Helena found herself at the centre of tension that began to damage her confidence, her wellbeing and her relationship. Eventually, she made the incredibly difficult decision to cut contact in order to protect her peace. Together, Katie and Helena explore:
This episode is for any stepmum who has ever felt judged, sidelined, or overwhelmed by extended family politics. Helena’s story is a validating reminder that you’re allowed to set limits — and that sometimes protecting your peace requires bold, uncomfortable decisions. If You Need Support Keywords: toxic in-laws, stepmum excluded, struggling stepmum, stepfamily boundaries, stepmum mental health, extended family conflict, feeling unwelcome as a stepmum, protecting your peace, blended family stress, stepmum podcast You’re not selfish for protecting your peace — you’re surviving, and you deserve better. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Walking on Eggshells and Not Feeling Safe in Your Own Home as a Stepmum | 02 Aug 2023 | 00:45:50 | |
Support, tools & coaching for stepmums: https://stepmumspace.com In this powerful and rarely spoken-about episode, Katie talks to Jackie — a mum to one and stepmum to two — about what it’s really like to live in a home where you don’t feel safe. Jackie shares how, after repeated incidents of her stepson stealing from her, she reached a point where she had to lock her bedroom door and live in constant vigilance. What followed were years of anxiety, hyper-awareness, confusion and emotional exhaustion — all while trying to hold the family together and protect her own child. Together, Katie and Jackie explore:
This is a brave, honest and validating conversation for any stepmum who has ever quietly struggled behind closed doors. Jackie’s story is a reminder that your experiences are real, your safety matters, and you’re not alone. If You Need Support Keywords: stepmum doesn’t feel safe, stepmum walking on eggshells, unsafe stepfamily situation, blended family conflict, stepmum boundaries, stepmum mental health, stepmum anxiety, stepchild behaviour issues, emotional safety in stepfamilies, overwhelmed stepmum, stepmum podcast You deserve a home where you feel safe — physically and emotionally. Support is available. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| When Home Isn’t Your Safe Space: Stepmum Anxiety in Overdrive | 26 Jul 2023 | 00:59:22 | |
Support, tools & coaching for stepmums: https://stepmumspace.com Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of trying to conceive and vasectomies. In this honest and deeply validating episode, Katie speaks with Jen — a stepmum to two and mum to one — who has been navigating stepfamily life for over a decade. When Jen met her husband, she didn’t have children of her own. But because he had majority custody, she became a full-time stepmum overnight. That sudden shift brought love, connection, and enormous responsibility — all while Jen was quietly carrying anxiety that no one around her fully understood. Jen opens up about:
Jen also shares how her relationship with her stepkids has evolved, including the powerful moment her stepson admitted he thought he “wasn’t supposed to like her” — and what that honesty unlocked for their connection. This is a grounding and empowering conversation for any stepmum who has ever felt invisible, overwhelmed, or unsafe in her own home. Jen’s story is a reminder that boundaries matter, support matters, and you matter. If You Need Support Keywords: full-time stepmum, stepmum anxiety, home doesn’t feel safe, loyalty binds, stepmum burnout, struggling stepmum, stepmum support, Bio Mum dynamics, blended family stress, stepmum mental health, overwhelmed stepmum, stepmum podcast You deserve a home that feels safe — and support that helps you breathe again. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Marrying a Widower and Understanding Your Stepchildren’s Grief | 14 Jun 2023 | 00:48:22 | |
Support, tools & coaching for stepmums: https://stepmumspace.com In this powerful and heart-opening episode, Katie talks to Parm (@mrssinghspirational) about her extraordinary journey from being a married mum of three, to a divorced mum of three, to becoming a stepmum to three children who had recently lost their mother. Parm shares how quickly their blended family bonded, how deeply she cares for her stepchildren, and how she approached joining a family in the midst of grief with compassion, respect and intention. But alongside the joy, Parm also opens up about the painful moment when her own biological daughter struggled with the changes and ultimately decided to move in with her dad. While Parm supported her daughter’s choice wholeheartedly, she speaks honestly about the heartbreak and feelings of rejection she experienced. Together, Katie and Parm explore:
This is a beautiful, uplifting, deeply human conversation about love after loss, blended-family bonding, and what it truly means to show up for children — yours and someone else’s. If You Need Support Keywords: marrying a widower, stepmum to grieving children, blending large families, stepmum rejection, my child moved out, high-emotion stepfamily, stepmum support, widower remarriage, blended family grief, stepmum podcast Love can expand a family in unexpected, beautiful ways — and Parm’s story shows just that. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| “My Mental Health Was at an All-Time Low”: Had I Made a Mistake Being a Stepmum? | 07 Jun 2023 | 00:50:56 | |
Support, tools & coaching for stepmums: https://stepmumspace.com In this powerful and vulnerable episode, Katie speaks with Ellie, a stepmum to two boys who had decided she didn’t want biological children of her own — and who found herself questioning everything when stepfamily life took her to breaking point. Ellie talks openly about:
At her lowest point, Ellie reached out for counselling and coaching — and she shares how both forms of support helped her rebuild her confidence, her resilience, and her sense of self. She explains how shifting her mindset, strengthening boundaries, and changing the way she and her husband responded to challenging situations didn’t just help her survive — it saved their family. This is a validating, compassionate conversation for any stepmum who has ever felt like they were losing themselves, questioning their relationship, or wondering whether things could ever feel easier. If You Need Support Keywords: struggling stepmum, stepmum mental health, regret being a stepmum, overwhelmed stepmum, high conflict biomum, stepmum anxiety, stepmum resentment, blended family stress, counselling for stepmums, stepmum podcast, stepmum coaching You deserve support, clarity and a way forward — and help is available. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| When Doing More Makes Things Worse: Stepmum Burnout, Emotional Labour and Learning to Stop | 29 Oct 2025 | 00:50:41 | |
In this episode of Stepmum Space, we’re joined by Madison — a woman in her twenties who stepped into a relationship with an older man, three daughters, and two exes. Madison shares her honest journey of navigating stepfamily dynamics, building relationships with children close to her own age, and learning how to protect her peace. We dive into:
This episode is a must-listen for anyone in a stepfamily, especially younger stepmums learning to balance love, responsibility, and self-respect. Remember...
If this episode resonated with you, please hit follow, rate, and review wherever you listen — it helps Stepmum Space reach more incredible women navigating step family life. We’re wrapping up Series 7, but we’ll be back soon with fresh stories and expert insights. Got a story to share? Reach out katie@stepmumspace.com or connect with us on Instagram/facebook/tiktok @stepmumspace. Keywords: Stepmum podcast, blended family boundaries, dating a man with kids, step-parenting advice, emotional labour in stepfamilies, young stepmum experience, navigating exes, parenting with partners, recalibrating stepmum role, maintaining boundaries, Stepmum Space podcast Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Stepmum & Bio Mum Relationship: From Tension to Trust in Co-Parenting | 31 May 2023 | 00:40:49 | |
Support, tools & coaching for stepmums: https://stepmumspace.com In this unique and heart-opening episode, Katie chats to Kaycie and Danielle — a Stepmum and a Bio Mum to the same little girl — about the journey from tension and mistrust to a peaceful, respectful friendship. Kaycie shares honestly about what it felt like to watch another woman enter her daughter’s life, and the fears, worries and protective instincts that surfaced. Danielle speaks candidly about being the “new woman” and trying to build a connection in circumstances that were emotionally charged from the start. Together, they explore:
This is a rare, insightful look into both sides of the Bio Mum–Stepmum dynamic — validating for stepmums and incredibly grounding for anyone trying to build healthier blended-family relationships. If You Need Support Keywords: stepmum and bio mum relationship, co-parenting with biomum, stepmum struggles, blended family communication, loyalty binds, stepmum boundaries, bio mum perspective, high conflict co-parenting, stepmum podcast Sometimes, all a relationship needs is time, space and compassion — and this conversation shows just how much can change. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| “This Family Is Not Blendable”: A Stepmum’s Difficult Relationship with Her Stepdaughter | 24 May 2023 | 00:55:53 | |
Support, tools & coaching for stepmums: https://stepmumspace.com In this honest and deeply relatable episode, Katie talks to Joanne, a biological mum of two girls who became a stepmum to a girl and a boy when she met her partner. Joanne’s story shines a light on a reality many stepmums quietly experience: sometimes a family simply doesn’t blend — and that doesn’t mean anyone is failing. While Joanne has always had a strong, loving relationship with her stepson, and her partner has bonded beautifully with her daughters, her relationship with her stepdaughter has been consistently difficult. After years of trying, hoping and adjusting, Joanne has reached a place of acceptance: Together, Katie and Joanne discuss:
This episode is validating, grounding and important — especially for stepmums who feel like they’re trying everything and still not getting connection or harmony. If You Need Support Keywords: family won’t blend, stepfamily not blending, difficult stepdaughter relationship, different parenting styles, stepmum feeling rejected, blended family stress, stepmum support, step-parenting challenges, co-parenting differences, stepmum podcast You’re allowed to build a family that works — even if it doesn’t look like the blended ideal. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| When an Affair Ends a Marriage — and You Still Become Friends with Your Ex | 17 May 2023 | 00:56:12 | |
Support, tools & coaching for stepmums: https://stepmumspace.com Our second male guest on Stepmum Space is Tom Nash, known online as @mrdivorcecoachuk — and his story is truly one of a kind. Tom shares his journey from marriage, to an affair, to separation, to building a new relationship and ultimately creating a functional, respectful, genuinely friendly blended family with his ex-wife and her new partner… who also happens to be his current partner’s ex. In this refreshingly honest conversation, Tom talks openly about:
Tom brings both his personal story and his professional insight as a divorce coach to this conversation, offering practical, grounded advice for anyone navigating blended family life — from stepmums to dads to co-parents. A fascinating, honest, surprisingly uplifting conversation about accountability, repair, and what’s possible when adults put the children first. If You Need Support Keywords: blended family after affair, co-parenting after infidelity, amicable ex relationship, dad as equal parent, high conflict separation help, stepmum support, divorce coach advice, rebuilding trust after affair, blended family dynamics, stepmum podcast Healthy blended families are possible — and this episode shows how. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| “Why Was She Good Enough to Marry — But I’m Not?” Feeling Stuck as a Stepmum When Your Partner Won’t Commit | 10 May 2023 | 00:46:56 | |
Support, tools & coaching for stepmums: https://stepmumspace.com Trigger warning: This episode contains discussion of serious illness and baby loss. In this deeply emotional conversation, Katie speaks with Elizabeth, a 25-year-old stepmum of two young boys, about the complexities, heartbreak and hope woven through her stepmum journey so far. Elizabeth shares how hard it feels to have so much of her present and future shaped by decisions her partner made long before she arrived. She speaks honestly about the pain of wanting to build a future — marriage, milestones, stability — while her partner’s previous marriage has left him hesitant to take those steps again. She also opens up about:
This is a tender, courageous episode for any stepmum who has ever felt insecure, unheard, or unsure how to move forward when the past still shapes the present. If You Need Support Keywords: struggling stepmum, partner won’t remarry, stepmum feeling stuck, baby loss as a stepmum, young stepmum support, blended family challenges, stepmum resentment, stepmum insecurity, want more contact with stepchildren, co-parenting schedule issues, stepmum podcast You deserve clarity, compassion and a future that includes you — and you’re not alone. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| “I Didn’t Get a Say”: When a Stepmum Has No Voice in Big Family Decisions | 03 May 2023 | 00:48:23 | |
Support, tools & coaching for stepmums: https://stepmumspace.com In this episode, Katie speaks with Hayley — a bio mum, stepmum and all-round supermum — about the huge emotional and practical shift that comes when stepfamily life suddenly becomes full-time. Hayley went from a simple, steady life as a single mum of two… to navigating the layered, unpredictable realities of blending families. When her eldest stepdaughter came to live with them full-time, everything changed — and Hayley had no real say in the decision. She opens up about:
Katie and Hayley also talk honestly about the importance of mental health, emotional boundaries and finding your footing again when you feel overwhelmed, unheard or out of control. This is a validating, compassionate episode for any stepmum who’s ever thought: If You Need Support Keywords: stepdaughter moving in, no say as a stepmum, overwhelmed stepmum, stepmum anxiety, bio mum and stepmum, stepmum support, struggling stepmum, full-time stepmum challenges, blended family adjustment, stepmum podcast You deserve support, clarity and a voice in your own home — and you’re not alone. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Stepmum After Breakup: Staying Connected to Stepchildren When the Relationship Ends | 26 Apr 2023 | 00:36:07 | |
Support, tools & coaching for stepmums: https://stepmumspace.com Content warning: This episode includes discussion of miscarriage, infertility and the emotional impact of not becoming a biological parent. In this deeply moving conversation, Katie speaks with Jayne, a stepmum who has experienced stepfamily life not once, but twice — and whose story highlights a topic rarely discussed: what happens to your relationship with your stepchildren when the couple relationship ends? Jayne was a dedicated stepmum for many years to two children who eventually became adults, and when her marriage broke down, her biggest fear wasn’t the separation itself — it was losing them. Jayne also bravely talks about her journey of trying to become a biological mum, the heartbreak of miscarriage, and how those experiences intersected with her identity as a stepmum. In this episode, Jayne and Katie explore:
This is a tender, compassionate conversation for anyone navigating loss, change or uncertainty in their stepfamily journey. If You Need Support Keywords: stepmum after breakup, staying connected to stepchildren, miscarriage as a stepmum, infertility stepmum, second time stepmum, stepmum grief, struggling stepmum, blended family separation, stepmum emotional support, stepmum podcast You’re not alone — and your experiences, in all their complexity, matter. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| When Your Partner Undermines You as a Stepmum: Boundaries, Loyalty Binds & Parenting Conflict (with Sue Atkins) | 22 Mar 2023 | 00:54:53 | |
Support, tools & coaching for stepmums: https://stepmumspace.com In this episode, Katie is joined by internationally recognised parenting expert Sue Atkins for a practical, grounded conversation about the challenges that come up in stepfamily life — especially when parenting styles clash. Together they explore some of the most common issues stepmums face, including:
Sue answers listener questions with warmth, wisdom and her signature sense of humour, offering simple, realistic strategies you can start using right away. This episode wraps up Season 4 — make sure you hit subscribe so you don’t miss the new season, or follow along on Instagram @stepmumspace or at https://stepmumspace.com Keywords: stepmum feeling undermined, partner undermining parenting, step-parenting issues, fussy eaters advice, stepmum support, blended family parenting, inconsistent rules co-parenting, stepmum boundaries, stepmum podcast, Sue Atkins, stepfamily challenges, overwhelmed stepmum You’re not alone — and you deserve support that actually helps. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Mother’s Day as a Stepmum: Feeling Invisible, Triggered or Left Out | 15 Mar 2023 | 00:33:46 | |
Support, tools & coaching for stepmums: https://stepmumspace.com Please note: This episode includes a range of real stories about Mother’s Day and may be sensitive for listeners who find this day triggering or painful. Mother’s Day can stir up a lot for stepmums — grief, love, resentment, joy, invisibility, overwhelm, hope, or all of the above at once. In this special episode, Katie shares messages from listeners about what Mother’s Day means to them, in all its complexity. You’ll hear stories from stepmums who:
This episode is a heartfelt, honest collection of voices — a reminder that however you feel on Mother’s Day, you’re not the only one. The illustrator mentioned in the episode is @beckagriffin on Instagram — check out her beautiful work. If You Need Support Keywords: stepmum Mother’s Day, Mother’s Day as a stepmum, stepmum support, feeling invisible as a stepmum, stepmum grief, stepmum resentment, blended family challenges, co-parenting stress, stepmum podcast, mothers day triggers, struggling stepmum, stepfamily dynamics You deserve support, recognition and compassion — not just on Mother’s Day, but every day. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Checking Your Partner’s Messages? High-Conflict Ex Anxiety & Stepmum Hypervigilance | 08 Mar 2023 | 00:50:33 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com If you’ve ever felt the urge to check your partner’s messages with his ex — not out of mistrust, but out of fear, insecurity or emotional overload — this episode will make you feel deeply understood. Elizabeth* speaks with honesty about what high-conflict co-parenting does to your nervous system, your relationship, and your sense of safety. In this episode, Katie talks to Elizabeth, who entered her relationship just as her partner’s ex was at her most high conflict. From trying to block the bond between Elizabeth and her stepson, to reporting Elizabeth as a safeguarding risk, the early years were marked by constant drama, accusations and emotional chaos. Despite all of this, Elizabeth and her stepson formed an incredibly strong, loving connection. Eventually Elizabeth’s husband set firm boundaries — and the conflict with the ex stopped. When things became calm and amicable… Elizabeth didn’t feel relief. She felt triggered. She found herself wanting to read their messages, craving reassurance, and feeling a deep discomfort she didn’t anticipate. This episode explores why this happens, and why stepmums often struggle more after the chaos ends than during it. It’s an insightful, compassionate, and very relatable conversation with a woman who speaks openly and courageously. Not her real name. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: Your feelings make perfect sense — especially when the past has taught your body to stay on alert. You don’t have to navigate it alone. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Bio Mum Conflict: Understanding Her Side Without Losing Yourself as a Stepmum | 01 Mar 2023 | 00:56:39 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com This episode offers something rare — a candid, compassionate look at stepfamily life from the bio mum’s perspective. Hearing the other side doesn’t invalidate the stepmum experience; in fact, it often brings understanding, clarity and a deeper sense of empathy for everyone involved in raising children across two homes. In this episode, Katie talks to Elizabeth*, a biological mum of three whose ex-husband is now in a new relationship. Elizabeth shares openly about the emotional complexity of being the parent “left behind,” the grief of losing the family life she imagined, and the shock of navigating co-parenting when communication breaks down. Elizabeth speaks with honesty about:
This episode is a gentle reminder that everyone in the stepfamily system has feelings, and the more we can understand each other’s pain — in a considered, kind way — the healthier the whole system can become. We are incredibly grateful to Elizabeth for her honesty, vulnerability and willingness to share her side of the story. Not her real name. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: Understanding each other’s stories creates space for compassion — and compassion makes stepfamily life lighter for everyone. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Nothing I Do Is Enough: Stepmum Rejection, “My Mum Says” & Feeling Unappreciated | 22 Oct 2025 | 00:52:03 | |
In this episode of Stepmum Space, Katie sits down with Tess — a woman living the complexities of stepfamily life from both sides. She’s a stepmum to three children, and her own child also has a stepmum, giving her a rare and deeply layered perspective. Tess opens up about the emotional toll of trying to create the perfect blended family — the fairytale — while feeling unappreciated, rejected, and emotionally drained. From being the stricter household to hearing the constant echo of “My Mum Says…”, Tess shares what it’s like to give everything and still feel like it’s never enough. This episode explores:
If you’re in the thick of it right now, this conversation is here to remind you: you’re not alone. You’re doing more than you know, and your efforts matter. If Stepmum Space has ever helped you feel seen, heard, or understood, please consider rating or reviewing the podcast wherever you listen. Your support helps others discover the show and reminds them they’re not alone. We’d love to hear from you. If you’d like to share your own experience, reach out via email katie@stepmumspace.com New episodes drop weekly. Subscribe now so you never miss a moment of support, insight, and solidarity. Keywords: Stepmum podcast, Blended family struggles, Stepfamily dynamics, Stepmum emotional support, Biological mum tension, Feeling unappreciated as a stepmum, Stepmum rejection, Stricter household parenting, Stepmum heartbreak, Coping with stepchildren, “My Mum Says” stepfamily, Stepmum vs bio mum, Loving your partner, rejected by his kids, Stepfamily fairytale myth, Stepmum advice UK, Stepmum space podcast, Step-parenting challenges, Stepmum mental health, Stepmum validation, Stepmum community support, Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Two Different Rules in Two Homes: Stepmum & Bio Mum Parenting Conflict | 22 Feb 2023 | 00:41:42 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com If you’ve ever felt torn between how you parent and how things are done in the other house, this episode will feel incredibly familiar. Becky joins Katie to talk honestly about the challenges of raising children across two very different homes — and what happens when you have full parental autonomy with your own kids, but very little with your stepchild. In this episode, Katie talks to Becky, a stepmum to one boy and biological mum to two young girls. Becky has always been clear about the type of parent she wants to be, and because she met her stepson when he was just 18 months old, she has played a huge role in shaping his life. But with that comes complexity. Becky opens up about:
This is a deeply validating, honest conversation about identity, boundaries, guilt, and the very real emotional load of trying to parent well in a system you don’t control. Thank you, Becky, for your openness and honesty. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Support the Podcast: Helpful Links: You’re not failing — you’re doing your best inside two different worlds. And that matters. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| “I Feel Like I’m Failing as a Stepmum”: Resentment, Guilt & Overwhelm in Blended Family Life | 15 Feb 2023 | 00:50:06 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com If you’ve ever felt like you’re “failing” as a stepmum — like you’re not coping, not bonding, or not showing up how you thought you should — this episode will reassure you in the deepest way. Nietta shares her raw, honest story of becoming a stepmum to four children, bringing two of her own into the mix, and realising very quickly that stepfamily life was nothing like she expected. In this episode, Katie talks to Nietta, who had previously co-parented well with her ex-husband and assumed blending families would feel similarly manageable. Instead, she found herself overwhelmed, constantly trying to prove she was a “good” stepmum, and battling the painful belief that she was failing everyone — including herself. Nietta opens up about:
Through courage, reflection and real accountability, Nietta reframed her experience, rebuilt her relationships and created boundaries that protect her mental health. Her transformation is empowering — and full of lessons for any stepmum who feels like she’s “not enough.” In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: You’re not failing — you’re navigating one of the hardest family roles there is. And you deserve support through it. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| “I Was a Disney Dad”: Partner Undermining, Loyalty Binds & Stepfamily Repair | 08 Feb 2023 | 00:56:56 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com Yes… Katie finally let a man on the podcast! And what a conversation it is. In this episode, Katie talks to Tim, who brings a rare double perspective: he grew up with a stepmum, and he is now the parent of a daughter with a stepmum of her own. Tim is frank, funny and refreshingly honest about the emotional rollercoaster of trying to be a good dad, a good partner, and a good man inside a complicated family setup. Tim opens up about:
This is a warm, vulnerable, and eye-opening episode — one that will help stepmums feel seen, partners feel understood, and couples feel more like a team. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: You’re not alone — and you don’t have to figure out stepfamily dynamics without support. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Doing All the Parenting but Having No Say: Stepmum Resentment & Emotional Labour | 01 Feb 2023 | 00:49:16 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com If you’re doing most of the parenting but still feel like you have the least say, this episode will feel painfully familiar — and deeply validating. Sam* shares the emotional, practical, and relational strain of stepping into a role where she is responsible for everything… except the decisions. In this episode, Katie talks to Sam, stepmum to an 8-year-old girl. Despite the presence of both biological parents, Sam finds herself doing the majority of the childcare, emotional labour and “mumming” work in the household. Sam opens up about:
Sam speaks with honesty about the love she has for her stepdaughter, the resentment that crept in over time, and the complex role of being the one who does the most while being recognised the least. A huge thank you to Sam for sharing her story so openly. Not her real name. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: You deserve support, fairness and a voice — especially when you’re the one holding so much together. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Marrying a Widower: Feeling Rejected, Unaccepted & Outside the Family as a Stepmum | 15 Dec 2022 | 00:46:56 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com Becoming a stepmum is complex — but becoming a stepmum in a family shaped by grief brings an entirely different set of emotional challenges. This episode offers deep validation, honesty and support for anyone navigating a role where love, loss and loyalty all collide. In this episode, Katie talks to Jane*, whose husband is a widower and whose 13-year-old stepdaughter lost her mum at a young age. Together, they explore the reality of stepping into a family where the biological mum is still very present — through memories, loyalty, the wider family, and the unspoken expectation that no one could ever “replace” her. Jane opens up about:
This is a rich, compassionate conversation filled with insight for any stepmum — not only those partnered with widowers. Not her real name. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: You can honour their past and still build a future you feel safe and loved in — you don’t have to do it alone. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Doing All the Mum Work Without the Mum Title: Majority Stepmum Burnout & Resentment | 08 Dec 2022 | 00:45:16 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com If you’re doing school runs, homework, dinners, emotional labour, logistics, planning, and comforting… yet still don’t get the “mum” label — this episode will speak straight to your heart. Connie shares what it’s really like to be a majority-care stepmum and the emotional weight that comes with carrying so much responsibility without the recognition that usually follows it. In this episode, Katie talks to Connie, who has majority custody of her stepdaughter and a genuinely close, loving relationship with her. Connie opens up about the reality of taking on a mothering role, the pressure of high responsibility with low authority, and the complex mix of resentment, jealousy and grief that can surface — especially around the bio mum. Katie and Connie have an honest, validating conversation about the emotional cost of majority stepmumming, the differences between relationships with step and biological children, and the bravery it takes to show up daily in a role that often isn’t acknowledged. Thank you, Connie, for sharing your story with such honesty. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: Your work matters — even when you’re not given the title. You deserve support, recognition and space to take care of yourself too. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| “I Wish My Partner Didn’t Have Kids”: Stepmum Regret, Resentment & Role Conflict | 01 Dec 2022 | 01:05:44 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com If you’ve ever had the thought “I wish my partner didn’t have kids” — and then immediately felt guilty, ashamed or like a terrible person — this episode is for you. Sarah* speaks with honesty and bravery about the feelings many stepmums have but rarely say out loud. In this episode, Katie talks to Sarah, who describes herself as “not particularly child friendly” and absolutely not someone who planned to date a man with kids. But when a casual fling turned into love, she found herself unexpectedly in a relationship with a recently separated dad of three young children. Sarah talks openly about:
She also reflects on the complexity of not wanting a “stepmum role” while still making thoughtful, caring decisions that protected the children’s wellbeing. This is a validating, deeply human conversation for any woman navigating feelings she’s been too afraid to admit. Not her real name. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: Your feelings don’t make you a bad person — they make you human. And you don’t have to navigate them alone. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Coping with a High-Conflict Ex Wife: Stepmum Boundaries, Anxiety & Constant Drama | 23 Nov 2022 | 00:43:12 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com If you’re dealing with a high-conflict ex who criticises, undermines or attacks your relationship, you will feel so seen in this episode. Rachel shares her powerful, painful and inspiring story of loving her stepson deeply while navigating relentless conflict from her partner’s ex. In this episode, Katie talks to Rachel* — stepmum to a little boy she describes as “the light of her life.” From the moment Rachel entered the picture, she and her partner faced constant criticism, accusations and pressure from the ex, eventually escalating to a social services referral when they finally set a boundary. Rachel talks openly about the emotional impact, the stress, and the fear — and also about how she has chosen to stay grounded, protect her peace, and focus on her own family instead of getting pulled into endless tit-for-tat conflict. This conversation is validating, empowering and essential listening for any stepmum living with a high-conflict co-parent in the background. Not her real name. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: You deserve safety, support and peace — even when someone else is determined to create chaos. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| The Stepmum Questions You’re Afraid to Ask: Boundaries, Resentment & Bio Mum Conflict with Dr Maryhan | 17 Nov 2022 | 00:55:26 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com If you’ve ever held back a question because you were scared of being judged — this episode will feel like a warm exhale. Parenting expert, psychologist, and host of How Not to Screw Up Your Kids, Dr Maryhan joins Katie to answer the real, raw, uncomfortable questions stepmums often keep to themselves. As both a birth mum and a stepmum, Dr Maryhan truly understands the emotional complexity of stepfamily life. She offers clear, compassionate, practical guidance — without shaming, minimising, or sugarcoating. This is an honest, eye-opening conversation filled with reassurance, grounded psychology, and real-life support. In This Episode We Explore:
A powerful, validating conversation — and one every stepmum needs in her toolkit. If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: You deserve support, understanding and guidance — without judgement. This episode will give you exactly that. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Drained by Bio Mum Negativity? Protecting Your Energy & Bonding as a Stepmum | 09 Nov 2022 | 00:44:44 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com If you’re exhausted from giving your energy to things you can’t control — the negativity, the dynamics, the emotional noise — this episode will feel like a shift. Katrina shares how she became intentional about what she invests in as a stepmum, and how choosing happiness (on purpose) changed everything. In this episode, Katie talks to Katrina about her experience of becoming a stepmum in her 40s. Katrina opens up about bonding with her stepdaughter despite negativity from the biological mum, and how she learned to focus her time, love and attention on what actually builds connection — not on what drains her. They also explore the unique challenges of being in a stepfamily where partners and children come from different cultures, and how identity, expectations and communication can add extra layers to the stepmum experience. This is an empowering, grounded conversation for any stepmum who’s ready to reclaim her energy and choose what truly matters. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: You’re allowed to protect your energy and choose what brings you peace — you matter too. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| When She Pretends You Don't Exist: Stepmum Identity and Feeling Excluded by the Bio Mum | 15 Oct 2025 | 00:41:47 | |
In this heartfelt episode of Stepmum Space, I’m joined by Rosie—a woman who had her solo life beautifully sorted. The career, the home, the financial freedom… everything in place. But when love arrived, so did a whole new reality—one that included children she hadn’t planned for. Rosie opens up about the emotional, practical, and relational shifts that come with stepping into a blended family. We explore what it means to redefine your identity, recalibrate your finances, and navigate the complexities of becoming a stepmum when that was never part of your original plan. We also talk about one of the hardest parts of stepmum life: when the ex-partner refuses to acknowledge you, won’t accept your presence, or actively ignores your role. Rosie shares how that dynamic impacted her confidence, her relationship, and her ability to feel safe and respected in her own home. This episode is especially powerful for anyone who’s transitioned from independent living into stepfamily life—and is trying to find their footing in a role that’s often misunderstood, unsupported, and emotionally loaded. What We Cover:
3 Key Takeaways:
This role can be beautiful, but it’s also complex. Without boundaries, it can consume you. And while not everyone will understand your limits—especially when you're being ignored or excluded—protecting your emotional and physical resources is essential. 💌 Need Support? If this episode resonates and you’d like support with boundaries, identity, or any other part of stepmum life, I’d love to hear from you. 📧 Email me at katie@stepmumspace.com 🌐 Visit www.stepmumspace.com for coaching, resources, and community. Huge thanks to Rosie for her honesty and courage. If you have a story you’d like to share on the podcast, please get in touch. This show exists because of women like you who are brave enough to speak up. Don’t forget to follow Stepmum Space on your podcast app so you never miss an episode. I’ll see you next week. Keywords: stepmum boundaries, ignored by the ex, stepfamily dynamics, blended family support, stepmum identity, emotional wellbeing for stepmums, partner alignment in blended families, stepmum podcast UK, stepmum coaching, stepmum space podcast, childless stepmum experience, ex-partner conflict in blended families, stepkids mum, boundaries Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Stepmum Resentment & Burnout: 20 Years of Boundaries, Regret & Learning to Stop Being the Hero | 03 Nov 2022 | 00:41:15 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com If you’ve ever pushed your own needs aside, tried to be “the perfect stepmum,” or carried emotions you didn’t feel allowed to express, this episode will feel like a deep breath out. Helen shares two decades of stepmum wisdom — the mistakes, the regrets, the breakthroughs — and the powerful reminder that you don’t have to be the hero to everyone else. In this episode, Katie talks to Helen, a stepmum veteran with 20 years of experience. Today, Helen enjoys a strong marriage and a close, loving relationship with her adult stepchildren — but the journey wasn’t easy. She opens up about the jealousy, anger and resentment she buried for years, the boundaries she wishes she’d set sooner, and the self-compassion she’s finally learned to give herself. Together, they explore the importance of asking for what you want, owning your needs, and recognising that looking after yourself isn’t selfish — it’s essential. Thank you Helen, for your honesty, humour and heart. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: You don’t have to carry everything. You’re allowed to take up space, ask for more, and look after yourself too. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Narcissistic Bio Mum Conflict: Why Court Doesn’t Fix Stepfamily Breakdown | 26 Oct 2022 | 00:45:42 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com If you’ve ever dealt with a high-conflict bio mum, felt scared of the court process, or questioned your sanity inside a chaotic co-parenting dynamic, this episode will hit home. Lucy shares her extraordinary story of navigating the court system while dealing with a bio mum with multiple personality disorders — and the emotional toll it took on everyone involved. ⚠️ Content note: This episode includes discussions of emotional, psychological and physical abuse. Please take care while listening. In this episode, Katie talks to Lucy* about the reality behind the courtroom doors, the impact of high-conflict behaviour on the children, and the deep resilience required to survive situations that feel unfair, unsafe and overwhelming. They explore why “nobody wins in court,” how to stay grounded in your truth when you’re being pushed to breaking point, and why prioritising your relationship with your partner is essential when the external pressure becomes too much. Lucy’s honesty, strength and compassion shine through — offering validation and hope to any stepmum living through something similar. Not her real name. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: You are not alone, and what you’re feeling is valid — even in situations that make you doubt yourself. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Overthinking Everything as a Stepmum: Anxiety, Mindset & Regaining Emotional Control | 07 Jul 2022 | 00:55:48 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com If you’re a stepmum who feels anxious, overwhelmed or stuck in cycles of anger, jealousy or resentment, this episode will give you clarity and practical tools. Executive Coach Kate Hunter joins Katie to share powerful mindset techniques that genuinely shift how you feel, think and show up in your stepfamily life. In this episode, Katie speaks with Kate Hunter — an Executive Coach specialising in helping women in leadership use their mindset to create positive, sustainable change. Alongside her professional work, Kate also has personal experience of being in a relationship with someone who has children, giving her a unique blend of insight, empathy and real-life understanding. Kate offers grounded, practical strategies for managing anxiety, calming emotional triggers, setting and maintaining boundaries, and working through difficult emotions like anger, jealousy and resentment. This is a supportive, empowering conversation filled with tools you can start using immediately. If you’re a struggling stepmum — or you love someone who is — this episode is a must-listen. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Find Kate Hunter: Keywords: Helpful Links: You deserve tools that help you feel calmer, more in control and more connected to yourself — every step of the way. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| When Your Stepchild Doesn’t Like You: Parenting Clashes & Feeling Unloved as a Stepmum | 29 Jun 2022 | 00:40:29 | |
If you’ve ever given so much of yourself only to feel unappreciated, ignored or unloved by your stepchildren, this episode will resonate deeply. Mia shares the heartbreak of stepping into a family with hope and excitement — only to find herself facing rejection, confusion and emotional distance she never expected. In this episode, Katie talks to Mia* who became a stepmum to two boys at the age of 46. After a career spent working with children, and having never had her own, Mia was thrilled to take on the stepmum role. But things didn’t unfold as she imagined, and she’s struggled with the painful feeling of not being loved or valued by her stepsons. They explore the emotional toll of mismatched parenting styles, the sting of unmet expectations, and the quiet grief that comes when the connection you long for doesn’t arrive. This is a gentle, validating conversation for any stepmum who’s ever questioned her place, her worth or whether she’s “doing it wrong.” Not her real name. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: You deserve to feel valued, supported and emotionally safe — even in the hardest stepfamily moments. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Going to Court as a Stepmum: When Your Home Is Recorded, Used as Evidence & Boundaries Collapse | 22 Jun 2022 | 00:32:47 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com If you’ve ever been pulled into court proceedings you didn’t choose — or felt the fear, stress and uncertainty that come with them — this episode will help you feel less alone. Anna shares her experience of navigating the family court system as a stepmum, and the emotional toll it took on her, her husband and the children caught in the middle. In this episode, Katie talks to Anna* — a stepmum of two boys, with two younger sons of her own — about what it was really like when her husband’s ex attempted to gain custody of their children. Anna opens up about the court process itself, the pressure it placed on their blended family, and the ripple effects long after the verdict was delivered. This episode is an honest, grounded look at the reality of high-conflict co-parenting, the strain of court involvement, and what it takes to come out the other side. Not her real name. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: You don’t have to go through high-conflict or court struggles alone — support is here if you need it. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| When Your Stepchildren Reject You: Feeling Powerless, Undermined & Unsafe in Bio Mum Conflict | 16 Jun 2022 | 00:43:55 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com If you’ve ever felt rejected by your stepchildren, unsure how to “step back,” or stuck between two completely different versions of family life, this episode will speak straight to your experience. Lucy opens up about the emotional reality of raising her two “ours” babies while navigating complex dynamics with her stepchildren — including the fall outs, the guilt and the moments of feeling totally out of control. In this episode, Katie speaks with Lucy about the differing feelings she has toward her stepkids and her two biological children. With her babies arriving very early in the relationship, Lucy reflects on how this shaped her stepchildren’s behaviour, the emotional climate in the home, and her own identity as both a mum and a stepmum. They explore the two parallel family systems Lucy lives in — the “ours” family of four, and the “whole” family of six — and what it really feels like to move between them every week. Lucy shares her thoughts on stepping back when emotions run high, navigating rejection, managing house rules, and finding your way back after arguments. This is an honest, relatable conversation for any stepmum feeling stretched, conflicted or unsure how to hold all the different versions of family life at once. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: You’re not wrong for finding this hard — you’re human, and you deserve support. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| A Controlling Bio Mum & Stepchild Conflict: When Your Stepfamily Feels Undermined | 07 Jun 2022 | 00:25:04 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com If you’ve ever felt shut out, overruled or pushed aside by an ex who controls everything, this episode will speak straight to your heart. Alice shares the reality of loving a stepchild while navigating an ex-partner who refuses to accept her role — and a little girl stuck painfully in the middle. In this episode, Katie talks to Alice* — a stepmum who vowed never to date a man with children, but fell in love with a dad of a five-year-old and has spent the last four years riding the stepmum rollercoaster. Alice has a caring, connected relationship with her stepdaughter, but has struggled enormously with her partner’s ex holding a huge amount of control over all of their lives. She shares how hard it has been to have no say, no influence, and no acknowledgement — and how the loyalty binds placed on her stepdaughter have shaped their relationship. This episode is an honest, grounded look at what happens when an ex dominates the dynamic, and how stepmums are often left carrying invisible emotional burdens. Not her real name. In This Episode We Explore:
If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: You deserve space, respect and emotional safety — even in the hardest dynamics. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Infertility as a Stepmum: Grief, Role Confusion & Loving Children Who Aren’t Yours | 01 Jun 2022 | 00:35:00 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com If you're a stepmum navigating infertility, IVF or feeling alone in the complexity of wanting a baby while raising someone else’s, this episode will speak straight to your heart. Emily shares the raw truth of trying to conceive as a stepmum to four children — the grief, resentment, hope and emotional complexity no one prepares you for. ⚠️ Content note: This episode includes discussion of infertility and IVF. Emily does eventually have her baby. Please take care while listening. In this honest and tender conversation, Katie talks to Emily about her experiences of going through infertility and IVF while also navigating a challenging stepmum journey. Emily opens up about the anger, jealousy and heartbreak she felt month after month while not getting pregnant — all while putting on a brave face and looking after her partner’s four children. She talks openly about the unique emotional load stepmums carry when trying to conceive, and why it’s so important to acknowledge your feelings instead of burying them in guilt. This episode is a compassionate, validating space for anyone facing infertility as a stepmum — a reminder that your feelings are real, human and nothing to be ashamed of. In This Episode We Explore:
Sending love to anyone on this incredibly difficult path. You are not alone. If You Need Support Keywords: Helpful Links: Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Becoming a Stepmum After Bereavement: Grief, Identity & the Hidden Challenges No One Names | 26 May 2022 | 00:38:48 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com Episode Summary In this episode, Katie talks to Ami, who became a stepmum after losing her first husband to cancer. Ami shares her journey from deep grief and rebuilding her life, to meeting a new partner and stepping into a role she never expected — especially when she found herself in the middle of a “tug-of-war” dynamic between homes. She speaks honestly about the parallels between grieving her husband and grieving the life she imagined she would have. Ami’s story offers a powerful look at love after loss, blended-family identity, and the emotional complexity of becoming a stepmum while still carrying the weight of bereavement. This is a tender, brave and deeply human conversation for anyone navigating stepfamily life while also carrying grief, trauma, or the loss of their former life path. In This Episode We Explore
These themes reflect some of the most common things women search for when navigating stepmum life after loss. If This Resonates Who This Episode Is For
Helpful Links You’re not alone. Your grief, your hope and your struggle are all valid — and Stepmum Space is here to support you whenever you're ready. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| When Your Home Feels Unsafe as a Stepmum: Boundaries, Anxiety & Parental Alienation | 19 May 2022 | 00:36:26 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com Episode Summary In this episode, Katie talks to Jess — a stepmum to a 14-year-old girl and biological mum to an 8-year-old daughter. Jess wanted to create a warm, happy, stable home for their blended family, but found herself constantly battling against her stepdaughter’s pushback on any rule or boundary. Things were made even harder by an ex-partner who took on the “best friend” role and regularly undermined the structure Jess and her husband were trying to build. Over the years, the constant criticism, rejection and tension took a toll on Jess’s mental health and on the whole household. Despite working together to support her stepdaughter, the situation escalated, and — likely as a result of parental alienation — Jess’s stepdaughter eventually stopped coming to their home altogether. While this brought temporary relief from the constant arguments and anxiety, Jess still longs for a healthier relationship and hopes her stepdaughter will one day return. As Jess says, she’s “the missing piece of their puzzle.” This is a powerful and honest conversation for any stepmum dealing with boundary battles, anxiety, high-conflict co-parenting or the heartbreak of parental alienation. In This Episode We Explore
These topics reflect some of the most common struggles stepmums search for when they feel overwhelmed, undermined or shut out. If This Resonates Who This Episode Is For
Helpful Links You’re not alone, and your feelings make sense. Whenever you're ready for support that genuinely helps, Stepmum Space is here. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Parental Alienation & Court Battles: Loving Stepchildren You’re Not Allowed to See | 08 Oct 2025 | 01:03:45 | |
In this episode, we hear from Katy—a stepmum whose journey began when she met a father of five through work. What followed was a life-changing experience filled with love, loyalty, and heartbreak. Katy opens up about the emotional toll of parental alienation, the reality of family court proceedings, and the pain of being separated from stepchildren she’s grown to love. Her story is raw, honest, and deeply relatable for anyone navigating the complexities of stepfamily life. We explore:
Whether you’re dealing with high-conflict co-parenting, feeling unseen in your role as a stepmum, or simply trying to make sense of the emotional load—you’ll find something here that speaks to you. If you’re a stepmum searching for support, advice, or just a reminder that you’re not alone—this episode is for you. If you're looking to book coaching head to www.stepmumspace.com or send an email to katie@stepmumspace.com. Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe wherever you get your podcasts. It helps other stepmums find these conversations. And if you have a story to share, I’d love to hear from you. 🔍 Keywords: stepmum support, parental alienation, family court, custody battles, stepfamily dynamics, high-conflict co-parenting, stepmum advice, emotional support for stepmums, blended family challenges, stepparent boundaries, not seeing stepchildren, loyalty binds, stepmum podcast Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Blending Two Families: Discipline Clashes, Stepmum Anxiety & Loyalty Binds | 14 Apr 2022 | 00:38:15 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com Episode Summary In this episode, Katie talks to Carly — a mum to an 11-year-old girl and stepmum to two boys aged 10 and 14. Carly and her partner have lived together for two years, and during that time she’s gone from feeling like a confident parent to feeling constantly anxious whenever her stepsons are around. Carly speaks openly about the discipline clashes, emotional tension and biological loyalty dynamics that surface when two families try to blend. She also shares candidly why the family have decided to put a pause on stepfamily holidays for now — and the huge impact that decision has had on everyone’s wellbeing. This is an honest, incredibly relatable conversation for anyone trying to bring two sets of children together under one roof. In This Episode We Explore
These themes match the most common things families search online when they’re struggling to blend, manage discipline or navigate loyalty binds. If This Resonates Who This Episode Is For
Helpful Links You’re not alone. Your feelings make sense. And whenever you're ready for support that genuinely helps, Stepmum Space is here. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Stepmum Meltdowns: Why Big Emotions Happen in Blended Family Life | 07 Apr 2022 | 00:24:57 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com Episode Summary In this episode, Katie talks to Sarah, who became a stepmum when she married a man she’d known for many years — a man whose first wife she had been friends with before she died. Sarah shares her story with honesty, humour and vulnerability. She talks about everything from being mistaken for her stepdaughter’s friend at a university open day, to being told she wouldn’t be able to have children of her own, to eventually going on to have a baby with her husband. She also offers a brilliant take on why stepmums should get a “maternity leave equivalent” when they suddenly take on extra children in their life — because the emotional adjustment is real. This is a warm, real, grounding conversation for any stepmum who has ever hit emotional breaking point or felt overwhelmed by the sheer intensity of blended family life. In This Episode We Explore
These themes reflect some of the most common things stepmums search for when they’re feeling overwhelmed, emotional or out of control. If This Resonates Who This Episode Is For
Helpful Links You’re not alone. Your feelings make sense. And whenever you're ready for support that truly helps, Stepmum Space is here. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| Two Stepchildren, Two Different Bonds: Stepmum Role Confusion & Unequal Relationships at Home | 30 Mar 2022 | 00:33:59 | |
or stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com Episode Summary In this episode, Katie talks to Lauren* (not her real name), whose husband has full custody of his two children following domestic violence in his first marriage. Lauren’s 14-year-old stepdaughter has chosen not to see her biological mother, whereas her 11-year-old stepson remains close to his. Lauren shares openly about what it’s like to navigate two completely different relationships under one roof — one child who leans toward her for safety and stability, and one who holds a strong connection with their mum. She speaks candidly about the emotional complexity, the responsibility she feels, and her hopes and fears for the future as the children move into their teenage years. This is an honest, grounding conversation for stepmums navigating trauma-impacted families, full custody dynamics, or relationships that unfold at very different paces. In This Episode We Explore
These themes reflect the high-search topics stepmums look for when navigating complex blended family life. If This Resonates Who This Episode Is For
Helpful Links You’re not alone. Your feelings make sense. And whenever you're ready for support that truly helps, Stepmum Space is here. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||
| When the Bio Mum Won’t Accept You: Stepmum Boundaries & Ongoing Ex Conflict | 24 Mar 2022 | 00:31:48 | |
For stepmum support, tools, workshops and coaching, visit: https://stepmumspace.com Episode Summary In this episode, Katie talks to Elle* (not her real name). Elle and her fiancé share his daughter with his ex-wife, but despite her best efforts, Elle hasn’t been able to build a relationship with the ex — at least, not yet. This lack of acceptance has made it incredibly difficult to create a strong bond with her stepdaughter and has had a huge impact on Elle’s home life, confidence and emotional wellbeing. This conversation is honest, raw and deeply relatable for any stepmum who has ever felt shut out, rejected or undermined by an ex-partner in the dynamic. In This Episode We Explore
These themes are some of the most common struggles stepmums search for when they feel lost, unseen or rejected in the family system. If This Resonates Who This Episode Is For
Helpful Links You’re not alone. Your feelings are valid. And whenever you're ready for support that genuinely helps, Stepmum Space is here. Links mentioned in this episode: Book your place on the Stepmum Reset — stepmumspace.com/stepmumreset Find out more about Back In Control — stepmumspace.com/backincontrol Book a free clarity call — stepmumspace.com/clarity Get the free Influence Gap guide — stepmumspace.com/influencegap | |||