Kevin Hanaford is an engineering leader at popular chat application, Discord where he oversees security, safety, privacy and platform teams. His career has included companies like Microsoft, PayPal, Amazon, Salesforce, and autonomous vehicle company, Cruise. In addition to his roles at some of the most significant technology companies of the last two decades he’s also a husband and the father of two kids. In our conversation today we discussed:

* How his Dad started the local ISP in his home town

* How the world of internet safety and trust has shaped his perspective on parenting

* Frameworks and principles that he and his wife hold dearly for their family

* The relationship he wants his daughters to have with technology

* Balancing the demanding, 24/7 job of security with a commitment to his family

* His earliest and most surprising memories of becoming a Dad

* How he explains to his kids what Dad does for work

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Where to find Kevin Hanaford

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevinhanaford/

* Kevin’s Website: https://kevinhanaford.com/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:34] Welcome

[1:47] How we got connected (thank you Behzod!)

[2:37] Kevin’s professional background

[4:48] His Dad starts an ISP

[6:57] Life now

[9:58] Partner’s work

[11:09] Decision to start a family

[13:57] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[16:44] Most surprising thing since becoming a dad

[18:16] Advice for younger Kevin

[20:34] Advice to ignore

[23:07] Frameworks

[28:53] Where do you and your partner not align?

[32:38] Kid’s relationship with technology

[40:21] Managing job and family

[44:28] Explaining to kids what you do for work

[45:24] Mistake you have made as a dad

[47:51] What is one thing you gave up to be a dad?

[51:04] Follow along

[52:02] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Discord:https://discord.com/

Microsoft:https://www.microsoft.com/en-us/

PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/us/home

Amazon: amazon.com

Salesforce: https://www.salesforce.com/

Cruise: https://www.getcruise.com/

Moonfall Inc: https://moonfallink.com/

Sour Patch Kids: https://www.amazon.com/Sour-Patch-Kids-Chewy-Candy/dp/B003EMOPMK

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/

Inside Out 2: https://movies.disney.com/inside-out-2

TikTok: tiktok.com

Halo: https://www.xbox.com/en-US/games/halo

Dr. Pepper:https://www.drpepper.com/s/

Mtn. Dew: https://www.pepsicopartners.com/pepsico/en/USD/PEPSICO-BRANDS/MTN-DEW%C2%AE/c/brand_mtnDew

Topo Chico: https://www.coca-cola.com/us/en/brands/topo-chico

Xbox Live: https://www.xbox.com/en-US/live

Destiny: https://www.amazon.com/Destiny-Standard-PlayStation-4/dp/B00BGA9Y3W

Stardew Valley: https://www.stardewvalley.net/

Insulated coffee mugs: https://www.amazon.com/YETI-Stackable-Insulated-Stainless-MagSlider/dp/B0CCJYXC4M

New Balance: https://www.newbalance.com/

Vans: https://www.vans.com/en-us

Britney Spears: https://britneyspears.com/

Oops I Did It Again: youtu.be/CduA0TULnow?si=4MEX39dbqu9C2uOE

Tina Turner: https://www.thetinaturner.com/

Taylor Swift: https://www.taylorswift.com/

Coco Melon: https://www.netflix.com/title/81273085

Star Wars Trilogy: https://www.imdb.com/list/ls052192052/

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For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Martin Pannier is a French entrepreneur who started the company Primo to help small and medium-sized businesses get their IT work right for new employees. He’s worked as a product leader at iziwork, Gusto and several others. In addition to being a founder he’s also a husband and the father of one young daughter. In our conversation today we discussed:

* Raising a daughter in a multicultural family

* How to avoid the temptation to view parenting as an accomplishment

* Why not to focus on over-optimization of parenting

* Maintaining relationships outside of the family when it’s hectic

* The balance of two working parents when one is a founder

* His most surprising aspects of becoming a Dad

* A few things he learned very quickly after his daughter was born

* Having a newborn and running a company

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Where to find Martin Pannier

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinpannier/

* Primo: https://www.getprimo.com/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:37] Welcome

[1:51] Background

[5:25] Martin’s Childhood

[8:25] Martin’s Family

[11:58] Did he have to convince his wife to move to France?

[15:09] Their decision to start a family

[17:23] What it’s like having a newborn & running a company?

[21:53] Multicultural parenting styles

[25:56] Terrible parenting advice

[28:04] Earliest memory of becoming a father

[30:07] Parenting as an accomplishment

[34:22] What surprised you the most about becoming a dad?

[35:39] Diaper changing competition

[36:43] What did you learn after having your daughter?

[39:34] How he has prioritized maintaining relationships outside the house

[41:04] Favorite book to read to Juno?

[42:02] Family language in a multilingual household

[43:57] How has having child/starting company impacted your life?

[45:58] What he hopes for his daughter’s relationship to technology

[50:03] What’d he give up to become a dad?

[51:39] Mistakes made as a dad

[53:25] Where to follow Martin

[54:44] Rapid fire / lightning round

[1:00:40] Thank you

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Show references:

iziwork: https://www.iziwork.com/fr/

Gusto: https://gusto.com/

Paris, France: https://www.britannica.com/place/Paris

Seine: https://www.britannica.com/place/Seine-River

World Bank:https://www.worldbank.org/en/home

French Space Agency: https://www.esa.int/Enabling_Support/Space_Engineering_Technology/Centre_National_D_Etudes_Spatiales_CNES

Siqi Chen’s Startup Dad Episode: youtube.com/watch?v=I2Nm5Mkj0s0

Sheep In A Jeep: https://www.amazon.com/SHEEP-JEEP-Nancy-Shaw/dp/0395470307

War and Peace: https://www.amazon.com/War-Peace-Vintage-Classics-Tolstoy/dp/1400079985

Where The Wild Things Are: https://www.amazon.com/Where-Wild-Things-Maurice-Sendak/dp/0060254920

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs: https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/what-is-maslow-hierarchy-of-needs

Baby Camera: https://www.amazon.com/Monitor-5Display-Pan-Tilt-Zoom-Temperature-Lullabies/dp/B09GM8JZM9/

Hatch Lights: https://www.hatch.co/

The Expectant Father: https://www.amazon.com/Expectant-Father-Ultimate-Dads-Be/dp/0789212137

Lion King: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0110357/

Honey I Shrunk The Kids: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0097523/

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For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Yousuf Bhaijee is a Growth Gdvisor and interim Head of Growth to companies like Brightwheel, HP, Evernow and Blackbird. Chris Lloyd is an engineer who most recently worked at AI company, Humane, and also Pinterest, Assembly and Opera. Yousuf is the father of three kids and Chris is the father of two.

Chris and his family, Yousuf and his family and five other families live in a town-home complex that they all collectively bought several years ago. There are now a total of fifteen kids at the complex! In today’s conversation we discussed:

* How this whole modern day commune experiment got started

* What it means to live in a modern day commune

* The shared rituals, benefits and drawbacks of this lifestyle

* The positive impacts on mental health

* The benefits of sharing

* How gender roles take on new meaning in communal living

* The most surprising aspects of a communal lifestyle

* Family privacy and parenting styles when you live in close proximity with others

Where to find Yousuf Bhaijee

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yousufbhaijee

* X: https://twitter.com/ybhaijee

Where to find Chris Lloyd

* X: https://twitter.com/chrislloyd

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:47] Yousuf & Chris Introduction/Welcome

[4:46] Family Life and Hottakes 

[10:42] Commune Living - What it is

[12:44] Commune Living - How it came to be

[17:50] Logistics & Agreements

[19:42] Gender Roles

[21:30] External Judgements

[23:36] Macro and Micro Rituals

[26:15] Social Media

[27:15] Functionality of Commune Living

[30:00] Family Privacy & Parenting Styles

[35:52] Changes in Mental Health

[39:22] Modern Day Sharing Economy

[42:37] Discoveries of Living in a Commune

[45:00] Vulnerability & Parenting Advice

[50:48] Technology and the Communal Impact

[57:12] Parenting Mistakes as a Dad

[1:00:25] Reaching Out

[1:00:00] Rapid Fire

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Show references:

Amazon One Medical: https://health.amazon.com/prime

Brightwheel: https://mybrightwheel.com/home-b/

HP: https://www.hp.com

Evernow: https://www.evernow.com/

Blackbird: https://www.blackbird.xyz/

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com

Assembly: https://www.joinassembly.com/

Opera: https://www.opera.com/

Eaze: https://www.eaze.com/

Zynga: https://www.zynga.com/

Humane: https://humane.com/

WWDC: https://developer.apple.com/wwdc24/

Disney: https://www.disney.com/

Paw Patrol: https://www.pawpatrol.com/

Blippi: https://blippi.com/

Nickelodeon: https://www.nick.com/

Lovevery: https://lovevery.com/

SNOO: https://www.happiestbaby.com/products/snoo-smart-bassinet

NoseFrida: https://frida.com/products/nosefrida

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For sponsorship inquiries email: podcast@fishmana.com.

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Scott Belsky is the Chief Strategy Officer and EVP of Design and Emerging Products at Adobe. He took on this role after being Chief Product Officer for their flagship Creative Cloud products. In 2006 Scott founded a company for creative professionals called Behance which he later sold to Adobe. He is also an active angel investor having invested in companies like Pinterest, Uber, Carta, Warby Parker, Ramp, Airtable and more. He’s a loving husband and the father of three kids. In today's conversation we discussed:

* How his perspective on building now incorporates his family

* Advice to founders who are starting a family

* Supporting his wife as a co-founder

* Fostering creativity in kids and observing where creativity comes from

* Support systems necessary for maintaining busy lives

* How AI has already changed the world for kids

* What AI is going to do for education

* The philosophy behind his wife’s company, Good Inside

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Where to find Scott Belsky

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/scottbelsky/

* X: https://twitter.com/scottbelsky

* Scott’s newsletter: https://www.implications.com

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:48] Welcome

[2:14] Has your business perspective changed since having a family?

[3:51] Advice to founders starting a family

[5:16] Family

[6:04] Wife’s co-founder role

[8:15] Decision to start a family

[10:05] Fostering creativity in kids

[12:00] Favorite picture 

[13:18] Most surprising thing as a dad

[14:35] Support systems in busy lives

[17:12] How has AI changed the world for kids?

[19:26] What is AI going to do for Education?

[22:20] Advice for pre-kid Scott about becoming a dad

[24:28] Advice to ignore

[26:49] Good Inside philosophy

[28:36] Mistake you mad as a dad?

[29:41] Where do him and wife not align?

[30:38] Follow along

[32:16] Rapid fire

[34:56] Thank you

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Show references:

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/

Uber: https://www.uber.com/

Carta: https://carta.com/

Warby Parker: https://www.warbyparker.com/

Ramp: https://ramp.com/

Airtable: https://www.airtable.com/

Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/

Behance: https://www.behance.net/

Columbia: https://www.columbia.edu/

Good Inside: https://www.goodinside.com/

Harriet Tubman: https://www.womenshistory.org/education-resources/biographies/harriet-tubman

Michael’s: https://www.michaels.com/

North Fork River, CO: https://northforkranchguideservice.com/north-fork-of-the-south-platte-river/

Frida Baby: https://frida.com/collections/baby

Crib camera: https://www.amazon.com/Monitor-5Display-Pan-Tilt-Zoom-Temperature-Lullabies/dp/B09GM8JZM9/

Emirates: https://www.emirates.com

Blues Clues: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0163929/

Forrest Gump: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0109830/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: podcast@fishmana.com.

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Patrick Thompson is a three-time founder, starting a company right after college and then founding and selling his second company, Iteratively, to Amplitude in 2019. He stayed on as a Director of Product until leaving recently to co-found his third company, Clarify, a next generation CRM platform. He’s a loving husband and the father of one kid. In today's conversation we discussed:

* How to manage a young family with starting a company

* The differences between his last startup when he wasn’t yet a parent and this one

* Having the conversation with your partner about getting back to building

* Investing in your relationship with your partner

* The concept of “first team” and applying that at work and home

* Rituals for quality time with your kids

* Recharging his batteries as both a parent and founder

* Top tips for airplane travel with an infant

* A potty training disaster story

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Where to find Patrick Thompson

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrickt010/

* X: https://twitter.com/patrickt010

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:36] Welcome

[1:48] Shout out to his co-founder Austin

[2:18] Why start a company while having a toddler?

[3:26] How has being a dad changed your company-building approach?

[5:11] Childhood

[7:44] Athletics compared to startups

[10:16] How did you meet your wife?

[11:40] Decision to start a family

[12:52] Decision to leave Amplitude and start a company

[16:45] Investing in your relationship with your partner

[18:58] Applying “first team” at home

[20:05] Taking an 18 month old on an airplane and top toddler travel tips

[22:42] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[24:48] Most surprising aspect of fatherhood

[25:55] Mistake you made as a dad

[28:30] Advice for pre-kid era Patrick

[30:15] Advice to ignore

[31:32] Rituals in a busy life

[33:19] How to manage weekends as a founder

[34:20] Frameworks for parenting

[36:34] An area Patrick and his wife don’t agree on in parenting

[38:46] Relationship Patrick wants his son to have with technology

[40:51] What he’s given up to become a dad

[42:18] How to recharge your batteries

[43:32] Family favorite trip

[44:59] Follow along Patrick’s journey

[45:45] Rapid Fire

[51:41] Thank you

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Show references:

Amplitude: https://amplitude.com/

Clarify: https://www.clarify.io/

Boy Scouts: https://www.scouting.org/

Atlassian: https://www.atlassian.com/

Siqi Chen’s on Startup Dad: youtube.com/watch?v=I2Nm5Mkj0s0

Immad Akhund’s on Startup Dad: youtube.com/watch?v=FR2ws9UKJ2k

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For sponsorship inquiries email: podcast@fishmana.com.

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Ethan Austin is the founder of OutsideVC, where he invests in founders building a more equitable and just financial system. He was the Chief Strategy Officer of Gig Wag, Managing Director of Techstars Denver, and was co-founder and president of GiveForward which was acquired by GoFundMe. He’s a loving husband and the father of three kids. In today's conversation we discussed:

* The time he picked up his oldest kid from school in a taco costume

* His life with a newborn

* Teaching kids values

* Modeling behaviors with your kids

* Finding fun in the mundane

* How partners can take turns supporting one another

* Why every parent is just winging it most of the time

* Three important parenting frameworks he’s developed

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Where to find Ethan Austin

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fintech-investor/

* Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/ethanaustin

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:24] Welcome

[1:40] Professional background

[2:27] Childhood

[3:35] Parent’s career/losing father at a young age

[6:06] Family now

[7:52] What kind of values do you live by/teach your kids?

[10:28] How do you model adventure for your kids

[14:13] Tell me about your wife’s career - how do you compartmentalize?

[16:00] Decision to start a family

[18:16] Parental leave

[20:13] Experience of third child vs. others

[23:29] Finding the fun in mundane

[27:16] Surprising things about being a dad

[29:20] Advice to ignore?

[31:28] Advice for younger Ethan

[33:27] Frameworks

[35:51] Partners taking turns supporting each other

[37:52] Where partners don’t align

[39:21] kids relationship to technology

[42:10] Recharge batteries

[43:38] Getting kids to hike

[45:55] Follow along

[46:20] Rapid fire

[53:52] Thank you

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Show references:

Techstars: https://www.techstars.com/

GiveForward: https://www.giveforward.com/

Outside VC: https://outside-vc.com/

Boy Scouts: https://www.scouting.org/

NoseFrida: https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/F6682FCC-F1F9-44FE-9D89-173058B06AEF

The Happy Sleeper: The Science-Backed Guide to Helping Your Baby Get a Good Night's Sleep-Newborn to School Age by Heather Turgeon MFT: https://www.amazon.com/Happy-Sleeper-Science-Backed-Helping-Sleep-Newborn/dp/0399166025

Paw Patrol:https://www.pawpatrol.com/

Scarface:https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0086250/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: podcast@fishmana.com.

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Lane Shackleton is the Chief Product Officer of Coda, where he has worked for over 8 years. Prior to that he had a 9+ year career at Google and Youtube as a product manager and leader. He’s a loving husband and the father of three kids. In today's conversation we discussed:

* How to motivate and teach lessons to your kids through “quests”

* Lowering the pressure on high-stakes parenting

* Two actions that can solve most of the challenges you’ll experience with your kids

* The difference in feeling overwhelmed between a parent and a professional

* Why parenting overwhelm can be so much harder to work through

* Leveraging technology as a builder vs. a passive consumer

* Balancing being a startup executive with coaching a baseball team full of 9 year olds — and which one is harder

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Where to find Lane Shackleton

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laneshackleton/

* Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/lshackleton

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover

[1:53] Welcome

[2:23] Wine & software

[4:57] Quests with your kids

[10:30] Childhood

[11:45] How did your son get into baseball?

[13:54] Family now

[15:24] Decision to start a family?

[16:18] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[18:00] Feeling of overwhelm

[20:58] Most surprising thing about becoming a dad

[24:47] Not everything is high stakes

[28:59] Solving problems with kids

[32:35] Favorite book to read to kids

[33:58] Frameworks

[36:46] Has parenting changed your management style?

[40:17] Where do Lane and his partner not align

[41:39] Kid’s relationship to tech

[45:28] What did you give up to become a dad?

[47:07] How do you recharge your batteries?

[49:10] Startup hustle culture

[52:08] Rapid fire

[58:18] Thank you

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Show references:

Bruce Bolt batting gloves:https://brucebolt.us/

Napa: https://www.cityofnapa.org/

Coda: https://coda.io/

YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/

Google: google.com

Atlanta, GA: https://www.atlantaga.gov/

 CPMC: https://www.sutterhealth.org/cpmc

Field of Dreams:https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0097351/

Llama Llama: https://llamallamabook.com/books/

You Can Play Sports Board book by Nicole Stoltenberg: https://www.amazon.com/Play-Sports-Nicole-Todd-Stoltenberg/dp/0578878224

Lorax: https://www.amazon.com/Lorax-Classic-Seuss-Dr/dp/0394823370

Luca: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt12801262/

Stripe: https://stripe.com/

Sound Machine: https://www.amazon.com/Magicteam-Machine-Looping-Soothing-Function/dp/B07RWRJ4XW/ref=zg_bs_g_18746767011_d_sccl_1/143-4646178-9363038?psc=1

Cascade Falls: https://www.alltrails.com/trail/us/california/cascade-falls

Cocomelon: https://cocomelon.com/

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For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

David Haddad is a health-tech founder and product manager turned creator. He's now on a mission to teach Dads how to cook with his new company Mister Branzino and the Meal Machine operating system. He runs a newsletter and the Dad Cook Crew community. He's a loving husband and the father of 1 son. In today's conversation we discussed:

* How David developed his passion for cooking

* Why Dads often let this important skill go by the wayside

* The PPSCE system for building a weekly meal plan

* Maximizing meals with minimal time

* How to get more Dads comfortable in the kitchen and building confidence

* Sample meal plans that you can get started with right away

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Where to find David Haddad

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidhhaddad/ 

* Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/haddadda

* The Meal Machine OS: https://misterbranzino.gumroad.com/l/mealmachine

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover

[1:44] Welcome

[1:55] Mr. Branzino mission

[4:10] Ethnicity

[7:20] Met partner/tell about son

[8:13] Epic meal for partner

[9:43] Decision to start a family

[10:17] Weaponized incompetence

[16:43] Most surprising thing about becoming a dad

[17:58] Best practice for modeling behavior

[19:13] Advice to past David

[25:09] Approach to food w/son

[30:32] What Mr. Branzino meals does son love?

[34:24] What makes dads uncomfortable in the kitchen?

[37:13] System to teach a dad how to cook

[42:13] PPSCE

[44:30] Mr. Branzino meal plan

[49:29] Where should dads get inspiration?

[54:00] Disastrous recipe 

[55:43] Follow along

[56:51] Rapid fire round

[59:52] Thank you

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Show references:

Mister Branzino Recipe Swipe File: https://www.pinterest.com/misterbranzino/recipe-swipe-file/

Mrs. Doubtfire:https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0107614/

Dumb & Dumber: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0109686/

Chef John/ Food Wishes:https://foodwishes.blogspot.com/

Ny Times Cooking: https://cooking.nytimes.com/

Blue Apron Cooking: Blueapron.com/cookbook

Thich Nhat Hanh: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Th%C3%ADch_Nh%E1%BA%A5t_H%E1%BA%A1nh

Counter stool: https://www.amazon.com/Guidecraft-Classic-Kitchen-Helper-Stool/dp/B00C18NV8C

Instacart: https://www.instacart.com/

Amazon Fresh: https://www.amazon.com/fmc/storefront?almBrandId=QW1hem9uIEZyZXNo

Ted Lasso: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ted_Lasso

Coffee Meets Bagel: https://coffeemeetsbagel.com/

Top Chef: https://www.bravotv.com/top-chef

In n Out: https://www.in-n-out.com/menu

Chick Fil A: https://www.chick-fil-a.com/

Barack Obama: https://www.whitehouse.gov/about-the-white-house/presidents/barack-obama/

Dr. Brazelton’s Books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/T.-Berry-Brazelton/author/B001I9TV4S

Neli deGrasse Tyson: https://neildegrassetyson.com/

Solid Starts: https://solidstarts.com/

Coco: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2380307/

Cocomelon: https://cocomelon.com/

Mental & Emotional Load Articles:

https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20210518-the-hidden-load-how-thinking-of-everything-holds-mums-back

https://www.happiestbaby.com/blogs/parents/mental-load

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/mom-mental-load_l_63f7a67ee4b0616708e04d9a

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a23469721/emotional-labour-mental-load/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evidence-based-living/202111/women-carry-most-the-mental-load-running-household

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Matt Wensing is the founder and CEO of Summit, a no-code platform for building tools and workflow automation. For nearly 20 years he has been a founder and CEO--starting with a company called Riskpulse which became Everstream Analytics and was acquired in January 2020. He is a loving husband and the father of four teenagers! In today's conversation we discussed:

* Getting married and having kids in your early 20's

* How little you know when you're that young

* How amazing it is to be a young Dad with children now in their teens

* How to eliminate the excess from your life if you want to prioritize work and family

* A points allocation metaphor for prioritizing what's important

* Helping teens navigate a tech-first world

* The growing awareness of the impacts of social media on teenage girls

* How losing one of your parents unlocks new truths in your life

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Where to find Matt Wensing

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wensing/

* Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/mattwensing

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover

[1:44] Welcome

[1:57] Summit

[3:36] Childhood

[5:19] Siblings?

[6:50] Where did you meet your partner?

[8:08] How old were you when you had your first kid?

[9:10] Decision to get married?

[11:27] Decision to start a family?

[12:58] Reflections on being a young dad

[19:03] Early 20’s parent emotions

[23:16] Advice to others

[26:56] Points allocation

[29:41] Advice to ignore

[36:52] Has being a parent made you a better CEO?

[43:33] Where you and partner don’t align?

[50:52] Teenagers relationship w/tech

[1:01:01] Losing a parent

[1:07:10] Follow along

[1:08:00] Rapid Fire

[1:16:43] Thank you

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Show references:

Summit: https://usesummit.com/

The Matrix: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0133093/

National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0097958

Toyota Sienna: https://www.toyota.com/sienna/

Jurassic Park: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0107290/

Led Zeppelin: https://ledzeppelin.com/

SoundGarden:https://www.soundgardenworld.com/

Pearl Jam: https://pearljam.com/

Stone Temple Pilots:https://stonetemplepilots.com/

Whistler:https://www.whistlerblackcomb.com/

Sleepless in Seattle: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0108160/

Ergo:https://ergobaby.com/

Kindle: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=kindle

Madden 2004:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Madden_NFL_2004

Jokic - NBA:https://www.nba.com/player/203999/nikola-jokic

Master and Commander:https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0311113/

Goonies:https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0089218/

The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt: https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036

Snapchat: https://www.snapchat.com/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/en/

How To Train Your Dragon: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0892769/

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Linus Ekenstam is a designer and serial entrepreneur who has founded and sold several companies. He has also been a design leader at Typeform, Bamboo Blockchain and Flodesk. He's currently building an AI-powered children's story generator at BedtimeStory.ai and a platform to track and improve mental health called Sensive. He is a partner and the father of two daughters. In today's conversation we discussed:

* What it means to be an "AI Gardener"

* Struggles with male infertility

* Time and relativity

* How to navigate the daily grind with two working parents and a 4 and 2 year old

* A visit from his youngest daughter while recording

* How he thinks technology will transform his daughter's lives

* Optimism for the future with AI as a useful tool

Listen now on Apple, Spotify, Overcast and YouTube.

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Where to find Linus Ekenstam

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/linusekenstam/

Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/LinusEkenstam

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/LinusEkenstam

Newsletter: insidemyhead.ai

Where to find Adam Fishman

- FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover

[1:47] Welcome

[2:15] What do you do here?

[3:08] AI Gardener

[4:40] Childhood

[6:18] Fav US kid’s show

[7:32] Difference between his and his kid’s childhood

[10:44] kids/partner

[11:38] Pull to move back to Sweden during COVID

[13:07] Male infertility

[23:38] Advice

[25:52] Earliest memory of being a dad

[27:44] Manage daily grind/work/family

[30:25] What did you do w/kids before preschool?

[31:51] Most surprising thing about becoming a dad?

[36:17] Time & relativity

[42:24] Where do you and your partner not align?

[45:25] AI change kid’s relationship to tech/what are you working on?

[50:11] How do you recharge your batteries?

[51:37] What is a mistake you made as a dad?

[53:39] Follow along

[55:30] Rapid fire round

[58:33] Thank you

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Show references:

Linus’ Tweet on Male Fertility: https://x.com/linusekenstam/status/1696424299773485380?s=46&t=_JjHRNFJidzXB5axbw2gmQ

Star Wars: https://www.starwars.com/

Encanto:https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2953050/

Baby Bjorn:https://www.babybjorn.com/

TMNT: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Teenage_Mutant_Ninja_Turtles

Power Rangers: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Power_Rangers

TypeForm: https://www.typeform.com/

Bamboo BlockChain: https://www.bamboonetworks.com/

Flodesk: https://flodesk.com/

Bedtime Story: bedtimestory.ai

Sensive: https://www.sensive.co/

Ikigai: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ikigai

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Siqi Chen is co-founder and CEO of Runway, the finance platform you don't hate. He was also the president, chief product officer and CEO of Sandbox VR, the VP of Growth at Postmates and he sold his first company to Zynga in 2010. He is an angel investor who has invested in companies like Touch of Modern, Amplitude, Italic, and Clubhouse. He is a husband and the father of two daughters. In today's conversation we discussed:

* His life moving back-and-forth to China as a kid

* The realities and myth of work-life balance

* Sharing the load with your spouse

* How his parenting and leadership has evolved over time

* How to exercise with your kids and incorporate them into your day

* Teaching kids how to use technology as a tool for leverage

* A fascinating story of how his daughter uses ChatGPT

Listen now on Apple, Spotify, Overcast and YouTube.

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Where to find Siqi Chen

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/siqic/

Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/blader

Runway: https://runway.com/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover

[1:34] Welcome

[2:27] Work/life balance[6:49] His childhood[10:52] All about his kids[11:30] How did you meet your wife?[13:37] Decision to start a family[15:33] Load balancing parenting[18:50] Earliest memory of being a dad[21:04] Most surprising thing about becoming a dad[23:13] Giving younger self advice[25:52] Advice to ignore[27:45] Favorite book to read to his kids[29:10] Frameworks[32:35] Any parenting evolutions?[35:11] Kids’ dynamic[35:42] Where do you and your partner not align?[37:47] Kid’s relationship with tech[40:45] Most interesting way kids used ChatGPT[43:11] What did you give up to be a dad?[45:30] How do you recharge your batteries?[46:10] What is a mistake you made as a dad?[49:16] Rapid fire round[53:31] Thank you

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Show references:

The Matrix: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0133093/

Transformers: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0418279/

Scratch: https://scratch.mit.edu/

Talktastic: https://talktastic.com/

Amazing Panda Adventure: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0112342/

Stanford: https://www.stanford.edu/

Bye Bye Baby: https://buybuybaby.com/

Dalian, China: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dalian

Peter Thiell, Thiel Scholarship: https://thielfellowship.org/

Unity: https://unity.com/

Gundam: https://en.gundam.info/

Postmates: https://postmates.com/

Sandbox VR: https://sandboxvr.com/

ChatGPT: https://chat.openai.com/

"Blub Blub Fish" Book: https://www.amazon.com/Pout-Pout-Fish-Deborah-Diesen/dp/0374360979

Work-life Balance is Overrated: https://www.linkedin.com/posts/siqic_work-life-balance-is-overrated-implicitly-activity-7161735570757550081-8Yd4

Second Time Founders Podcast reference: www.youtube.com/watch?v=257w17EkYn4&t=1s

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

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Luke Millar is the SVP of product and engineering at Medium, where you can discover stories, thinking and expertise from writers on just about any topic. He joined there after the company he co-founded was acquired by them in 2021. He has been a technology leader at Shift, Twitter and Microsoft. He is a husband and the father of five kids. In today's conversation we discussed:

* How to structure and take paternity leave as a startup founder

* Building individual relationships with each of your kids when you have so many of them

* How he handled the transition to working from home with a full household

* His wife's recent and ongoing battle with cancer

* How cancer has become a big part of their parenting lives and the support systems they've needed to navigate it

* Mistakes he's made as a Dad

Listen now on Apple, Spotify, Overcast and YouTube.

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Where to find Luke Millar

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/luketmillar/

- Twitter: https://twitter.com/ltm

- Medium: https://medium.com/@ltm

Where to find Adam Fishman

- FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover

[1:37] Welcome[2:52] A “typical” day with 5 kids[4:42] Luke's Childhood[5:29] All about Luke's wife[8:30] Building a pro-parent company[11:07] Insane flexibility[12:11] Paternity leave[16:59] Building relationships within a large family[20:14] Systems for working at home[23:42] Awkward work at home moment?[26:26] Advice for younger Luke[28:24] Ridiculous piece of advice to ignore[31:04] How has his parenting style evolved?[33:06] How do you go out in public with a large family?[35:44] How do you and your partner align?[38:47] Getting on the same page[40:04] His wife’s battle with cancer[46:17] Recharging your batteries[49:26] A mistake he made as a father[51:42] Where to follow along with Luke[52:58] Rapid fire[1:00:16] Thank you

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Show references:

iPod Touch: https://support.apple.com/ipod-touch

Inside Out: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2096673/

Encanto: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2953050/

Lost: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0411008/

Third Eye Blind: https://www.thirdeyeblind.com/

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

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Linda Flanagan is a freelance journalist, researcher, and former cross-country and track coach. She is the author of numerous articles on youth sports and the book Take Back The Game - How Money and Mania Are Ruining Kids Sports—And Why It Matters. She is a founding board member of the NYC chapter of the Positive Coaching Alliance and her writing has appeared in The Atlantic, Runner’s World and NPR’s Mindshift. In addition to being a lifelong athlete she’s also the mother of three grown children. In our conversation today we discussed:

* The inspiration behind Take Back The Game

* The role of her father in her life as an athlete and how that shaped her perspective on sports

* The differences between fathers and mothers and their impact on daughter participation in sports

* The key changes in how youth sports have transformed with the influence of money and increasingly high stakes

* Changes in family dynamics and parental expectations; the influence of the Name Image and Likeness rules (or NIL)

* Early sports specialization and its effect on children’s physical and mental health

* How to make sports fun again

* Success stories in communities implementing positive change in youth sports

* Advice to parents who want to support their children’s athletic interests without falling into the mania

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Where to find Linda Flanagan

* Website: https://lindaflanaganauthor.com/

* X: https://x.com/lindaflanagan2

* IG: https://www.instagram.com/Lindaflanagan_author/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:51] Welcome

[2:15] Childhood

[3:26] Linda’s Kids

[3:57] Coaching career

[4:52] Realization that kid’s sports needed reform

[8:06] What role did Linda’s father play in her athletics?

[11:32] Differences between fathers and mother’s impacting daughters in sports

[13:07] Key changes in sports regarding money

[21:33] NIL - Name, Image and Likeness

[25:05] Early sports specialization

[29:43] Alternatives to specialization

[33:56] Organizations that have implemented positive change

[39:11] Role of tech and media on sports

[42:43] Role of coaches

[44:26] Advice for parents

[50:28] Changes for the next decade

[53:01] Where to find Linda

[54:33] Rapid fire / Lightning round

[58:22] Thank you

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Show references:

Take Back the Game, How Money and Mania are Ruining Kids Sports and Why it Matters by Linda Flanagan: https://www.amazon.com/Take-Back-Game-Ruining-Sports/dp/059332904X

ESPN Wide World of Sports: https://disneyworld.disney.go.com/destinations/wide-world-of-sports/

NIL: https://iconsource.com/what-is-nil/

NFHS: https://www.nfhsnetwork.com/

Families and Sport Lab at Utah State, Travis Dorsch: https://cehs.usu.edu/families-in-sport-lab/people/faculty/travis-dorsch

Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World by David Epstein: https://www.amazon.com/Range-Generalists-Triumph-Specialized-World/dp/0735214484

Tiger Woods: https://tigerwoods.com/

The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt: https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036

Free Range Kids by Lenore Skenazy: https://letgrow.org/free-chapter/

Peter Gray (professor at BC): https://www.bc.edu/bc-web/schools/morrissey/departments/psychology-neuroscience/people/affiliated-and-emeritus/peter-gray.html

Jason Targoff: https://www.cambridgeyouthsoccer.org/Default.aspx?tabid=1309964&mid=1365147&newskeyid=HN1&newsid=437883&ctl=newsdetail

Pick up Sports App: https://pickupsports.co/pages/app-1

Steve Magnus: https://www.stevemagness.com/

Ferber Method: https://www.sleepfoundation.org/baby-sleep/ferber-method

WSJ article, When Junior Heads to College, Helicopter Parents Turn to Empty-Nest Coaches: https://www.wsj.com/lifestyle/relationships/helicopter-parents-empty-nest-coaches-868b5600

Wizard of Oz: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0032138/

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Nir Eyal writes, consults and teaches about the intersection of psychology, technology and business. He is the best-selling author of Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products and Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life. Earlier in his career he co-founded and sold two tech companies. In addition to his books and his blog his writing has been featured in The New York Times, Harvard Business Review, Time Magazine, and Psychology Today. He is a husband of 23 years and the father of one teenager. In today's conversation we discussed: 

* Lessons learned from both Hooked and Indistractable

* What parents specifically can do to avoid distraction and build healthy habits in themselves and their kids

* Examples from his life and books on building an indistractable household

* Habit formation and the role of extrinsic vs. intrinsic rewards

* Limit setting

* Why kids reach for phones and technology today

* Self-determination theory and the science of motivation

* Actions you can take right now to reduce distraction in your family

Listen now on Apple, Spotify, Overcast and YouTube.

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Where to find Nir Eyal

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nireyal/

- Twitter: https://twitter.com/nireyal

- Website: https://www.nirandfar.com/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover

[1:56] Welcome

[2:33] Nir's Childhood

[5:16] His family now

[5:40] Lessons from Indistractable as parents

[19:19] How partners align on parenting strategy

[23:44] Teaching kids how to make time for traction

[30:35] Self determination theory

[37:02] Age restrictions as protection for kids

[43:51] Rewards as a parent

[48:36] Most surprising thing as a dad

[51:49] What is your favorite thing to do with your daughter?

[53:06] How do you recharge your batteries?

[54:56] How to follow Nir

[55:25] Rapid Fire

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Show references:

Empire of the Sun: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0092965/

Back to the Future: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0088763/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

Dungeons and Dragons: https://dnd.wizards.com/

Duolingo: https://www.duolingo.com/

Nir’s book Indistractable: http://geni.us/indistractable

Nir’s book Hooked: https://www.nirandfar.com/hooked/

Indistractable Bonus Content: http://www.nirandfar.com/indistractable/

Hasso Plattner: https://engineering.stanford.edu/get-involved/support-engineering/funding-initiatives/hasso-plattner-institute-design-dschool

Fortnite: https://www.fortnite.com/

Minecraft: https://www.minecraft.net/en-us

World of Warcraft: https://worldofwarcraft.blizzard.com/en-us/

Fitbod: https://fitbod.me/

Nir's Best Articles: https://www.nirandfar.com/best-articles/

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

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Immad Akhund is the co-founder and CEO of Mercury, a business banking platform that has raised over $160M in funding and has over 100,000 customers. He has also founded two other companies – Clickpass and Heyzap; the latter of which was acquired in 2016. Immad is a husband and the father of two kids. In today's conversation we discussed: 

* Starting a family at a very young age (by San Francisco standards)

* Navigating founding and running several companies, including Mercury

* The difference between finding more time and finding more energy

* How to think about skill building with your kids

* Dealing with disagreements with your spouse

* The parallels between being the co-founder of a company and the co-founder of a family

Listen now on Apple, Spotify, Overcast and YouTube.

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Where to find Immad Akhund

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/iakhund/

- Twitter: https://twitter.com/immad

- Curiosity Podcast: https://curiositypodcast.substack.com/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover

[1:31] Welcome

[1:46] Childhood

[2:44] Where does your extended family live now?

[3:19] Why keep doing startups?

[6:52] How did you meet your partner?

[7:56] Tell me about your kids

[8:42] Decision to start a family

[9:51] What does your wife do?

[10:59] Why did it feel like the right time to start a family?

[17:13] Earliest memory of being a dad?

[19:29] Advice for his younger self

[22:36] What is something you worked on after having kids?

[23:56] Skill building and teaching kids finance

[27:46] How has his parenting style evolved?

[30:29] What is an example of you getting out of balance w/kids

[31:29] Has being a dad changed how you run companies?

[34:36] Conflict/managing through disagreements

[39:10] Kids relationship w/tech

[42:07] Restore batteries

[44:08] What is a mistake you made as a dad?

[46:32] Follow along

[47:23] Rapid fire round

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Show references:

Mercury: https://mercury.com/

Model X: https://www.tesla.com/modelx

The Matrix: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0133093/

Union Square Ventures: https://www.usv.com/

Bloomberg: https://www.bloomberg.com/

ClickPass: https://www.crunchbase.com/organization/clickpass

Hayzap: https://www.linkedin.com/company/heyzap-com/

Inside Out: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2096673/

Frozen: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2294629/

Teen Titans: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0343314/

Doona: https://www.doona.com/en-us

Juni Learning: https://junilearning.com/

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

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David Lat is a lawyer turned legal writer who created Above The Law and his current, legal newsletter and podcast Original Jurisdiction, which is now his full-time job. Prior to writing he was a practicing attorney and worked as a federal prosecutor in the Department of Justice under Chris Christie. David is a husband and the father of two kids. In today's conversation we discussed: 

* The transition from an in-house legal career to the world of writing and podcasting and what that has done for his family

* Surrogacy

* Important legal considerations for parents

* Navigating feelings of parental guilt

* How to talk to your kids about different family types and configurations

* The fallacy of making logical appeals to children

* His approach to interviewing for childcare

Listen now on Apple, Spotify, Overcast and YouTube.

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Where to find David Lat

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidlat/

- Twitter: https://twitter.com/DavidLat

- Original Jurisdiction: https://davidlat.substack.com/ 

Where to find Adam Fishman

- FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover

[1:47] Welcome

[2:04] Professional background

[2:53] The decision to go from practicing law to writing about law

[5:02] David's family now

[5:37] Their decision to start a family

[7:21] Surrogacy

[9:37] Family/work balance

[12:34] Was career choice influenced by becoming a dad?

[14:54] Legal considerations for parents

[17:32] What is a pre-birth order?

[19:11] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[20:57] What emotions came up when you realized it was “real”?

[22:57] Most surprising thing about becoming a dad?

[25:15] Advice for younger self

[28:40] His interview approach for childcare

[30:17] Parental guilt

[34:56] Parenting Frameworks

[36:27] How has your parenting style changed over time?

[38:10] Area where David and his partner don’t align

[40:30] Logical appeals vs. children

[41:59] How do you recharge your batteries?

[43:38] What is a mistake you made as a dad?

[45:02] Talking to son about same-sex parenting

[48:27] Follow along

[49:23] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Clueless: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0112697/

Carly Aroldi, Good Enough Parenting: http://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-enough-parenting/id1708282417

Creative Family Connections: https://www.creativefamilyconnections.com/

Chris Christie: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chris_Christie

Chris Christie on David's Podcast: https://davidlat.substack.com/p/chris-christie-podcast-interview-with-david-lat

Above The Law: https://abovethelaw.com/

BabyConnect: https://en.babyconnect.com/

My Two Dads and Me by Michael Joosten: https://www.amazon.com/My-Two-Dads-Michael-Joosten/dp/0525580107

Snoo: https://www.amazon.com/SNOO-Smart-Sleeper-Happiest-Baby/dp/B0716KN18Z

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For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Tod Francis is the founder of the world-renowned investment firm Shasta Ventures. He has made early investments in companies like Canva, Tonal, ClassDojo, LiquidSpace, Task Rabbit, Mint and more. About 15 years ago Tod started on a journey to understand why and how great memories and connections are formed between kids and their parents. He surveyed over one thousand young adults, analyzed that data, and developed a framework for memory making and building meaningful connections. He has presented his findings to standing-room-only conferences, parents groups, and more! We talk about his findings on today's episode and what you can do right away to build lasting memories with your kids. Tod is a husband and the father of two adult children. In today's conversation we discussed: 

* Growing up without a father

* How losing a child motivated him to focus on every moment

* The research behind building meaningful connections

* The Pyramid of Connection and its different stages

* Tear-jerking stories from Tod's research

* What parents can do right now to change their thinking on memory making and connection

Listen now on Apple, Spotify, Overcast and YouTube.

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Where to find Tod Francis

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/todfrancis/

- Shasta Ventures: https://www.shasta.vc/bio/tod-francis/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Startup Dad Newsletter: startupdadpod.substack.com

- FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover

[1:49] Welcome

[2:28] Tod's childhood

[3:52] Growing up without a Dad

[4:47] What is life like now?

[6:28] Did child loss change your priorities as a dad?

[8:49] Why did memory making matter to you as a dad?

[12:24] The research behind connection

[18:51] The Pyramid of Connection

[33:56] How do parents get out of the bottom layer?

[39:44] Making memories with adult kids

[42:36] Parting thoughts

[44:12] How are his sons involved in this project?

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Show references:

Survey Monkey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/

Johnson & Johnson: https://www.jnj.com/

Mint: https://mint.intuit.com/

Shasta Ventures: https://www.shasta.vc/

Canva: https://www.canva.com/

Tonal: https://www.tonal.com/

Class Dojo: https://www.classdojo.com/

Liquid Space: https://liquidspace.com/

Task Rabbit: https://www.taskrabbit.com/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: podcast@fishmana.com.

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Eben Pingree is a serial startup founder who is currently building the startup Kinsome -- a product focused on helping grandkids better connect with their grandparents. He has founded and sold multiple companies over the past 10 years. He's also a husband and the father of three kids. In today's conversation we discussed: 

* Growing up in the same house (or apartment) you were raised in

* What it's like living in a multi-generational building with your parents and siblings

* The importance of proximity of family

* Eben's earliest memories of fatherhood

* Building multiple companies with a young family

* Parenting advice he'd give his younger self (and whether he'd listen to it)

Listen or watch Startup Dad on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

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Where to find Eben Pingree

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/eben-pingree-1711647/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/EbenPingree

- Kinsome: https://kinsome.com/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[2:05] Welcome

[2:35] Professional background

[5:42] Do you have a strong relationship with your Grandparents?

[7:53] Childhood

[10:20] Who first had kids among siblings/parenting advice

[11:24] How did you meet your wife/what does she do/decision to start a family

[14:52] Earliest memory of being a dad

[16:04] Having 1st kid while scaling company

[17:44] Genesis for starting company

[22:23] Advice for younger Eben

[24:06] Advice Eben ignored

[25:26] Frameworks

[26:49] Living under the same roof as parents

[30:27] Areas you align/don’t align with partner

[32:20] Kid’s relationship to technology

[34:09] What did you give up to be a dad?

[35:11] A mistake you made as a dad?

[37:01] Startup hustle culture vs. family life

[40:02] How do you charge your batteries?

[42:35] Any urgency to change childhood apartment

[45:02] Follow along

[45:46] Rapid fire round

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Show references:

Tuck Business School: https://www.tuck.dartmouth.edu/

Fidelity: https://www.fidelity.com

Session M: https://www.mastercardservices.com/en/sessionm/what-we-do/why-were-different

Bruce Springsteen: https://brucespringsteen.net/

Dave Eggers: https://daveeggers.net/dave-eggers

McSweeney’s: https://www.mcsweeneys.net/

EverTrue: https://www.evertrue.com/

iPad: https://www.apple.com/ipad/

Stand By Me: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0092005/

Robin Hood: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0070608/

Princess Bride: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0093779/

Celtics: https://www.nba.com/celtics/

Washington Post Article on Chickens: https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/business/wp/2018/03/02/feature/the-silicon-valley-elites-latest-status-symbol-chickens/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: podcast@fishmana.com.

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Stew Bradley is a former linebacker in the National Football League and played for the Philadelphia Eagles, Arizona Cardinals and the Denver Broncos. Following a successful NFL career he joined Goldman Sachs and then found his way into co-founding the early stage venture firm El Cap Holdings. He's also a husband and the father of two kids. In today's conversation we discussed: 

* His unique career path in navigating from professional football to finance and investing

* His earliest memories and emotions around becoming a Dad

* The Fallacy of Control as a parent

* What it's like raising an autistic child and what he and his wife did to understand and learn

* Negotiating parenting with both neurotypical and neurodivergent kids

* His framework and approach around "putting in the reps" both professionally and personally

* The differences in a successful career and being successful as a parent

* How he recharges his batteries amidst the chaos of parenting

Listen or watch Startup Dad on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

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Where to find Stew Bradley

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stew/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/stewbradley

- El Cap Holdings: https://elcap.xyz/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:51] Welcome Stew!

[2:20] His childhood

[3:39] Stew’s unique career path

[9:44] All about his wife & kids

[11:04] Decision making for Stew’s wife to be full-time mom

[12:47] Earliest memories of becoming a dad

[14:06] Emotions around becoming a dad

[15:24] The Fallacy of Control

[19:00] Advice for younger Stew

[21:09] Raising a child with Autism

[24:38] What did you do to understand Autism?

[27:27] Negotiating parenting neurotypical and neurodivergent

[32:44] Favorite book to read to the kids?

[34:03] Frameworks and “putting in the reps”

[40:03] Where he and his wife don’t always align

[43:58] Success in career vs. parenting

[45:56] What did you give up to be a dad?

[48:02] What is a mistake you made as a dad?

[50:56] How do you recharge your batteries?

[54:03] How to follow along with his journey

[54:50] Rapid fire

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Show references:

The Tao of Steve: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0234853/

Neurotribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity by Steve Silberman: https://www.amazon.com/Neurotribes-Legacy-Autism-Future-Neurodiversity/dp/0399185615

The Reason I Jump: The Inner Voice of a Thirteen-Year-Old Boy with Autism by Naoki Higashida: https://www.amazon.com/Reason-Jump-Inner-Thirteen-Year-Old-Autism/dp/081298515X/

El Cap Holdings: https://elcap.xyz/

Goldman Sachs: https://www.goldmansachs.com/

Philadelphia Eagles: https://www.philadelphiaeagles.com/

Denver Broncos: https://www.denverbroncos.com/

Arizona Cardinals: https://www.azcardinals.com/

Steadfast: https://www.steadfastequity.com/

Goonies: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0089218/

How To Train Your Dragon: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0892769/

Baby Shark: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcdwLMPsaU2ezNSJU1nFoBQ

Magic Eraser: https://www.mrclean.com/en-us/shop-products/magic-erasers/magic-eraser-original/

Training Potty Seat: https://www.amazon.com/000-NextStep2-Training-Slow-Close-Removable/dp/B07ZQT2R9N

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For sponsorship inquiries email: podcast@fishmana.com.

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Brian Rothenberg is a general partner at Defy, an early-stage venture firm. He was the former Head of Growth at Eventbrite and has been a serial marketplace founder; starting a services marketplace that was acquired by TaskRabbit in 2011. He's also a husband and the father of four kids. In today's conversation we discussed:

* Pivoting your plans to follow your future spouse

* How to divide and conquer when you've got four kids

* How the family dynamic changes as it grows from one to four kids

* How to prioritize time with your wife amidst the "controlled chaos" of a large family

* Advice he'd give younger Brian and advice he'd ignore

* The wildcard of the "third child"

* How to give up being self-absorbed and become more selfless as a parent

* Mistakes made as a father and the most surprising aspects of becoming a dad

Listen or watch Startup Dad on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

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Where to find Brian Rothenberg

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brianrothenberg/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/bmrothenberg

- Defy: https://defy.vc/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:45] Welcome

[2:06] Professional background

[5:10] Childhood

[6:47] His kids and how he met his partner

[8:36] Dividing/conquering in the household

[12:07] Managing larger households and controlled chaos

[15:21] Prioritizing time with your partner

[17:04] Brian’s wife stepping back from career for household

[19:23] His earliest memory of being a dad

[20:23] Most surprising thing about being a dad

[21:17] Advice for younger Brian/Advice to ignore

[24:04] His kids’ favorite book

[24:57] Partnership/natural conflict

[27:09] Where you don’t align with partner

[29:19] Kid’s relationship to technology

[31:27] How to give up self absorption

[32:43] Importance of exercise

[34:38] Mistake as a dad

[38:03] Startup hustle culture

[41:28] Where to follow along with Brian

[42:10] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Die Hard: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0095016/

Indiana Jones: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0087469/?ref_=fn_al_tt_3

Cocomelon: https://cocomelon.com/

Blippi: https://blippi.com/

Maclaren F1: https://www.mclaren.com/racing/

Patagonia Fleece Jacket: https://www.patagonia.com/shop/category/fleece

Vuori Sunday Jogger: https://vuoriclothing.com/collections/joggers

Crib net: https://www.amazon.com/RUNNZER-Baby-Safety-Canopy-Climbing/dp/B08NJGZQZM/

Defy: https://defy.vc/

EventBrite: https://www.eventbrite.com/

USC: https://www.usc.edu/

Yahoo: https://www.yahoo.com/

Skill Slate: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SkillSlate

TaskRabbit: https://www.taskrabbit.com/

The Lorax: https://www.amazon.com/Lorax-Classic-Seuss-Dr/dp/0394823370

Dragons Love Tacos: https://www.amazon.com/Dragons-Love-Tacos-Adam-Rubin/dp/0803736800/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: podcast@fishmana.com.

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Tye DeGrange is the founder and CEO of Round Barn Labs, a performance and affiliate marketing company that has worked with companies like Oculus, thredUp, ModCloth and Nextdoor. Prior to that he had career stints at Amazon, eBay and Commission Junction. He grew up on a horse ranch in Northern California!  He's also a husband and the father of two kids. In today's conversation we discussed:

* What life was like growing up on a ranch and the work ethic that instilled in him

* Tye's parenting philosophies and the books they're rooted in

* His relationship with social media and its influence on his kids

* How he met his wife -- possibly my favorite story yet!

* The importance of consistency, simplicity and a well-structured day

Listen or watch Startup Dad on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

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Where to find Tye DeGrange

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tyedegrange/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/TyeDeGrange

- Round Barn Labs: https://www.roundbarnlabs.com/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:58] Welcome

[2:33] Tye’s professional background

[5:57] Work ethic from ranch childhood; the story of round barns

[10:24] How Tye met his wife

[12:07] Tye’s kids

[14:11] Their decision to start a family

[20:13] His earliest memory of being a dad

[21:32] Most surprising thing about being a dad

[23:15] Advice that resonates with Tye

[25:35] Parenting frameworks

[33:29] Where Tye and his partner don’t align

[36:18] His kid’s relationship to technology

[42:38] What did Tye give up to be a dad?

[45:33] A mistake Tye made as a dad

[47:47] Balance work/life

[50:34] Follow along with Tye

[51:20] Rapid fire—

Show references:

How To Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results by Esther Wojcicki: https://www.amazon.com/How-Raise-Successful-People-Lessons/dp/1328974863/

Yellowstone: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt4236770/

Bob Feist invitational: https://bfiweek.com/schedule/

Cool Gray City of Love: 49 Views of San Francisco Hardcover by Gary Kamiya: https://www.amazon.com/Cool-Gray-City-Love-Francisco/dp/1608199606

National Lampoon’s Vacation: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0085995/

Fountain Grove, Ca: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fountain_Grove,_California

Oculus: https://www.meta.com/quest/quest-3/

ThredUP: https://www.thredup.com/

ModCloth: https://modcloth.com/

NextDoor: https://nextdoor.com/

Amazon: https://www.amazon.com

Ebay: https://www.ebay.com/

Commission Junction: https://www.cj.com/

Salesforce: https://www.salesforce.com/

Bowflex: https://www.bowflex.com/home

StubHub: https://www.stubhub.com/

Baby Bjorn: https://www.babybjorn.com/

Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting (now with Bébé Day by Day: 100 Keys to French Parenting) by Pamela Druckerman: https://www.amazon.com/Bringing-Up-B%C3%A9b%C3%A9-Discovers-Parenting/dp/0143122967

Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids Paperback by Kim John Payne and Lisa M. Ross: https://www.amazon.com/Simplicity-Parenting-Extraordinary-Calmer-Happier/dp/0345507983/

Lion King: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0110357/

Sing 2: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt6467266/

The Goonies: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0089218/

Daniel Tiger Potty Episode: https://pbskids.org/video/daniel-tigers-neighborhood/2328918496

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For sponsorship inquiries email: podcast@fishmana.com.

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Casey Handmer is the founder of Terraform Industries, a company that is turning CO2 into natural gas through solar electricity. He's an astrophysicist with a PhD from Caltech who has worked on frontier technologies at NASA and Hyperloop. He's also a husband and the father of three kids. Including a newborn! In today's conversation we discussed:

* Productivity and priorities

* How to make it work without a support structure

* How to work on having optimism be the default so you can build a better future

* How he and his wife (also an astrophysicist and engineering leader) manage a busy household and three under the age of five

* The importance of long-term projects, both professionally and personally

* The worst parenting advice he's ever given and received

* His kids and their relationship with technology

Listen or watch Startup Dad on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

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Where to find Casey Handmer

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/casey-handmer-60183262/

Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/CJHandmer

Casey's Blog: https://caseyhandmer.wordpress.com/

Casey and Christine's Podcast

Where to find Adam Fishman

Newsletter: startupdadpod.substack.com

Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:46] Welcome

[2:01] Caesy’s Professional background

[7:04] Casey’s wife & kids

[10:28] How did you meet your wife?

[14:26] Support structures (or not having any!)

[17:21] Getting joy vs. minimizing work

[20:51] Most surprising thing about being a dad

[24:13] Worst parenting advice Casey has ever given and received

[30:37] Optimism as a default

[36:00] Where do you not align with your wife?

[38:46] Kids relationship to technology

[42:19] How to follow along with Casey’s journey

[43:21] Rapid fire round

[53:39] Thank you

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Show references:

Snoo: https://www.amazon.com/SNOO-Smart-Sleeper-Happiest-Baby/dp/B0716KN18Z

Terraform Industries: https://terraformindustries.com/

NASA: https://www.nasa.gov/

Hyperloop: https://www.hyperlooptt.com/

CalTech: https://www.caltech.edu/

JPL: https://www.jpl.nasa.gov/

Kip Thorne: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kip_Thorne

Planet: https://www.planet.com/

LARP: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Live_action_role-playing_game

Rubik's cube: https://rubiks.com/en-US/

Lego: https://www.lego.com/en-us

Kid-safe knives: https://www.amazon.com/Tovla-Knives-3-Piece-Nylon-Baking/dp/B0711QYPJD/

Tesla Model Y: https://www.tesla.com/modely

Tesla Cybertruck: https://www.tesla.com/cybertruck

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For sponsorship inquiries email: podcast@fishmana.com.

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Patrick Moran is the Head of Growth Marketing at Robinhood, a fintech platform helping to democratize finance. Prior to that he had an illustrious career at Houzz, Spotify, YikYak, Netflix and more. He is a loving husband and the father of two kids (and one Golden Retriever). In today's conversation we discussed:

* His childhood moving back and forth from the Philippines to the US

* The value system of families in the Philippines

* What it's like having a 10+ year gap between his children

* How to instill "grit" in your children

* Top tips for international travel with your kids

* Having aging parents who live very far away

* 80's parenting vs. today

* Parenting frameworks and the power of patience

Listen or watch Startup Dad on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

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Where to find Patrick Moran

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pcmoran/

- Finding Market Fit Podcast: https://www.findingmarket.fit/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: www.fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:59] Welcome Patrick

[2:58] Professional background

[4:04] Childhood in the Philippines and the U.S.

[6:54] Value system

[11:20] How did you meet your wife?

[15:46] Life in the Philippines

[16:49] All about his kids

[18:11] What it’s like having a 10+ year gap between his two kids

[21:55] Instilling “grit”

[24:53] Travel tips with kids

[29:04] Raising kids as immigrant parents

[34:32] Cultural identity and aging parents

[40:20] Most surprising thing about being a dad

[42:39] 80’s parenting vs. now

[45:41] Parenting Frameworks

[48:32] Where he and his wife don’t align

[50:31] What did you give up to be a dad?

[52:14] What is a mistake you made as a dad?

[53:43] Follow along with Patrick

[54:39] Rapid fire round and thank you

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Show references:

RobinHood:

https://www.robinhood.com/

Office Space: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0151804/

Inside Out: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2096673/

Mariah Carey - All I Want For Christmas Is You

The Philippines: https://www.britannica.com/place/Philippines

Awakenings - Robert DeNiro: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0099077/

University of Michigan: https://umich.edu/

Houzz: https://www.houzz.com/

YikYak: https://yikyak.com/

Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/

Costco: https://www.costco.com/

Entourage: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0387199/

Golden Retrievers: https://www.akc.org/dog-breeds/golden-retriever/

Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK556096/

Tiger Woods: https://tigerwoods.com/

Flamin’ Hot Cheetos: https://www.amazon.com/Cheetos-Crunchy-Flamin-Cheese-Flavored/dp/B019KE3616

Melatonin Gummy: https://www.amazon.com/Melatonin-Gummies-Sleep-Aid-Supplement/dp/B0864S2W4Q

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For sponsorship inquiries: podcast@fishmana.com.

Interested in some Startup Dad merch? Check out: www.startupdadshop.com

Editing for Startup Dad provided by Tommy Harron.

Rob Schutz is a serial entrepreneur and the co-founder of multi-billion-dollar online health company, Ro. He has also founded the domain name service company, Snagged. He invests alongside me in the 20Growth fund. In addition to his skill as a founder he’s also a husband and the father of two kids. In our conversation today we discussed:

* How to set a good example for your kids in how you treat others

* Not putting too much pressure on yourself to have hard and fast rules or systems

* Adjusting your life to be more present

* The emotions and feelings you go through as a new Dad

* The most surprising aspects of fatherhood

* The difference between the relationship he wants his kids to have with technology vs. social media

* Some exciting new rapid fire/lightning questions!

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Where to find Rob Schutz

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robschutz/

* X: https://x.com/rob

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:29] Welcome

[1:59] Professional background

[3:45] Rob’s Childhood

[6:39] Rob’s family

[8:15] Starting a company

[10:58] Decision to start a family

[11:57] Music

[12:30] Earliest memory of being a dad

[14:43] Setting a good example for kids

[16:43] Is this perspective how you/partner were raised?

[18:39] What emotions arose when becoming a dad

[23:08] Most surprising things you’ve learned?

[26:20] What does “being present” mean to you?

[30:59] Advice to younger Rob

[33:14] Advice to ignore

[34:23] What book do you gift new dads

[35:04] What book do you read to your kids?

[35:47] Frameworks

[38:52] Balance of parenting

[41:52] How has parenting evolved

[45:13] Aligning as parents

[47:33] Kid’s relationship to technology

[51:51] Mistake as a dad

[53:10] Follow along

[53:56] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Ro: https://ro.co/

Snagged: https://www.snagged.com/

20 Growth Fund: https://www.thetwentyminutevc.com/20vc-fund/

Bark Box: https://www.barkbox.com/

University of McMaster: https://www.mcmaster.ca/

IBM: https://www.ibm.com/us-en

Isaiah House:https://isaiahhouse.org/

Penn State: https://www.psu.edu/

Cornell:https://www.cornell.edu/

Habitat for Humanity: https://www.habitat.org/

Mega Touch Machine: https://www.arcade-museum.com/Videogame/megatouch-video

Crunch Labs:https://www.crunchlabs.com/

Finasteride: https://ro.co/lp/medications/hair-loss/

Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads by Gary Greenberg & Jeannie Hayden: https://www.amazon.com/Be-Prepared-Gary-Greenberg/dp/0743251547

The Book with No Pictures by B. J. Novak: https://www.amazon.com/Book-No-Pictures-B-Novak/dp/0803741715

Snapchat: https://www.snapchat.com/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/en/

iPad: https://www.apple.com/ipad/

Cloth diapers: https://www.grovia.com/

Tesla: https://www.tesla.com/

Is It Cake: https://www.netflix.com/title/81333845

Mighty Ducks: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0104868/

Goonies: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0089218/

Blockbuster: https://www.blockbuster.com/

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For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Mike Smith is General Partner and co-founder at Footwork, an early stage venture capital firm. Previously, Mike was President, COO, and interim CFO at Stitch Fix, the online personal styling service where he oversaw operations, styling, client experience, merchandise, and finance. Prior to Stitch Fix, Mike was COO at Walmart.com, overseeing all operations for a $5 billion division, including one of the most successful multi-channel offerings in the industry. Mike serves on the boards of MillerKnoll and Ulta Beauty. He has been married for 28 years and is the father of one daughter. In today's conversation we discussed:

* The impact of childhood experiences on parenting

* How to raise an independent and opinionated child

* The delicate balance between professional pursuits and family life

* Advice he'd give to himself before his daughter was born

* How to navigate privilege with your kids

* The differences of opinion on discipline and the importance of presenting a united front in parenting

* The impact of geographic distance on family dynamics as kids start to move away

Listen or watch Startup Dad on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

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Where to find Mike Smith

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelcsmith1/

- Footwork: https://www.footwork.vc/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: www.fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[2:02] Welcome Mike

[2:36] Mike's Professional background

[5:43] His childhood

[7:12] Why he didn't follow his Dad's profession

[8:55] Moving as a military family and finally putting down roots

[10:27] How did you meet your partner?

[12:55] His daughter

[14:57] Daughter’s journey to college

[16:11] Their decision to have 1 child

[17:28] His wife’s unique and interesting career

[20:52] Their decision to start a family

[22:18] What his career was like when his daughter was born

[24:09] Mike's earliest memory of being a dad

[26:16] Most surprising thing about becoming a dad

[27:36] Is his daughter daughter more like Mike or his wife?

[29:51] Frameworks for parenting

[32:05] How to align with your spouse

[35:31] Advice for younger Mike

[38:07] Terrible advice to ignore

[40:21] Does he ever give his business partner advice?

[41:46] What did he give up to be a dad?

[45:42] Becoming an empty nester

[49:00] What is a mistake you made as a dad?

[50:51] Talking about privilege

[56:34] Balance

[1:00:46] Where to find Mike

[1:01:41] Rapid fire round

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Show references:

San Quentin Rehabilitation Center: https://www.cdcr.ca.gov/facility-locator/sq/

Stitch Fix: https://www.stitchfix.com/

Wal-mart: www.walmart.com

University of Virginia: https://www.virginia.edu/

Accenture: https://www.accenture.com/us-en

Berkeley: https://www.berkeley.edu/

Morgan Stanley: https://www.morganstanley.com/

Louis Vuitton: https://us.louisvuitton.com/eng-us/homepage

“Frozen”: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2294629/

“Time Bandits”: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0081633/

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Interested in some Startup Dad merch? Check out: www.startupdadshop.com

Editing for Startup Dad provided by Tommy Harron.

Chris Miller is the VP of Product at Hubspot focused on Growth and AI where he has worked for nearly 8 years. I consider Chris to be one of the most forward thinking leaders on AI, monetization and growth. Prior to Hubspot he built product at companies like Runkeeper and Roam. Chris is a loving husband and the father of a two-year-old son. In our conversation today we discussed:

* His personal and professional background, including how he got into AI

* The influence of Chris' upbringing in New York

* Managing a family with culturally diverse backgrounds

* The unique challenges of modern fatherhood

* How family background influences differences in parenting approaches

* What is and isn't worth spending money on as a parent

* How we think about the relationship we want our kids to have with technology, especially as technology professionals

Listen or watch Startup Dad on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

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Where to find Chris Miller

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christopherwilliammiller/

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/millsyjoeyoung/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: www.fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:41] Welcome

[2:09] Professional background

[3:13] AI in product

[4:28] Chris’ personal background

[6:07] Family now - how he met his partner

[9:20] Consumer psychology

[10:39] Decision to start a family

[13:16] Different background than his wife

[17:38] Earliest memory of being a dad

[19:49] Most surprising thing about being a dad

[21:49] Advice for younger Chris

[25:26] Advice to ignore

[28:16] Feedback

[30:24] Parenting frameworks

[38:02] What did you give up to be a dad?

[40:30] Did you make it to midnight on New Years?

[41:12] A mistake as a dad?

[44:53] His thoughts on his son’s relationship w/ tech and the influence of AI

[51:10] Where to find Chris

[51:54] Rapid fire round

[1:02:32] Thank you—

Show references:

Hubspot: https://www.hubspot.com/

The Simpsons: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0096697/

Runkeeper: https://runkeeper.com/

ChatGPT: https://chat.openai.com/

Venn Diagram: https://www.britannica.com/topic/Venn-diagram

WWE: https://www.wwe.com/

Vince McMahon: https://www.forbes.com/profile/vincent-mcmahon/?sh=43ccfd5d1b89

The Rock: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0425005/

Hulk Hogan: https://hulkhogan.com/

The Undertaker: https://www.wwe.com/superstars/undertaker

Snoo: https://www.amazon.com/stores/HappiestBaby/SNOO/page/A2A1C062-DFCD-44F1-8503-61E8E39896F5

Doona Trike: https://www.doona.com/en-us/trike/discover-liki

Llama Llama Red Pajama by Anna Dewdney: https://www.amazon.com/Llama-Red-Pajama-Anna-Dewdney/dp/0451474570

Piggy by Maya Pasari: https://www.amazon.com/Piggy-MAYA-PASARI/dp/0960072500

Bluey: https://www.bluey.tv/

My Man by Adonis (Drake’s son): Video

Batman with Adam West: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0059968/

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For sponsorship inquiries email podcast@fishmana.com.

Editing for Startup Dad provided by Tommy Harron.

Darin Swanson has been a technical advisor to founders and CEOs for the last 7 years at companies like Pipefy, Outreach, Kite, Edify, and Gatsby. Prior to that he was the VP of Engineering for New Relic and led engineering teams there for 6+ years. In many ways, Darin is a glimpse into the future for a lot of listeners to this show. He is a father of two kids (now adults) and a loving husband to his wife. In our conversation today we discussed:

* Darin's transition into advisory work after a long, full-time career

* His childhood growing up in Northern Canada

* Your spouse as a barometer for your balance and decisions

* What it's like having adult-aged kids who no longer have to listen to you

* Watching your adult children make their own decisions

* How his relationship with work changed at the different stages of his kids' lives

* The worst piece of parenting advice he's ever received

Listen or watch Startup Dad on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

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Where to find Darin Swanson

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/darinswanson/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:26] Welcome to the show[2:06] Darin's professional background[3:28] Was it hard to figure out next steps after New Relic[4:57] Darin's Childhood[5:53] What did his parents do for work?[7:44] The makeup of his family[9:36] Marriage[14:09] Their decision to have kids[15:21] Your spouse as barometer for balance and decisions[19:57] Having adult kids who don't have to listen to you[22:44] Biggest mistake you've made as a parent[24:32] Being infallible[27:33] Watching adult kids make their own decisions[31:40] Earliest memories of being a dad[34:20] Most surprising thing about being a dad[35:41] Frameworks for parenthood[38:29] Where he and his spouse don't see eye to eye[41:34] Biggest mistake as a dad?[44:21] His relationship with work at different stages of his kids' lives[49:17] Worst parenting advice ever received?[50:34] Where you can follow along with Darin's journey[52:48] Rapid fire—

Show references:

New Relic - https://newrelic.com/IBM - https://www.ibm.com/Nintendo - https://www.nintendo.com/Blue’s Clues - https://www.nickjr.com/shows/blues-clues-and-you

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For sponsorship inquiries email podcast@fishmana.com.

Editing for Startup Dad provided by Tommy Harron.

Matt Ragland focuses on the intersection of productivity and the creator economy. He started an online community for creative Dads called Digital Dads. Matt was the 5th employee at ConvertKit, ran Creator Success at Podia, and has built an audience of over 100,000 fans across his newsletter, YouTube channel, and social media channels. He lives in Nashville with his wife of 17 years and 3 (almost 4) kids.

In our conversation today we discussed:

* Matt's childhood as the son of a pastor

* The importance of community - and building community for fathers

* Homeschooling

* Outward expressions of love

* Taking your kids on adventures

* Helping your kids have a vision greater than themselves

* Pursuing self-employment as a means to better balance work, health and family

Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

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Where to find Matt Ragland

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mattragland/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/mattragland

- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MattRagland/videos

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: www.startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[00:30] Intro

[1:52] Welcome

[2:15] Matt's professional background

[8:06] Matt's childhood and parents

[13:10] His partner and kids

[16:34] Homeschooling

[21:46] Outward expressions of love

[25:34] The importance of community and Digital Dads

[32:05] Taking kids on adventures

[37:05] Most surprising thing as a dad

[39:50] Demonstrating good habits

[47:21] Vision greater than yourself

[52:07] What don’t you and your wife align on?

[55:33] Mistakes made as a father

[59:50] Where to follow along with Matt's journey

[1:00:57] Rapid fire

[1:09:18] Thank you

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Show references:

Matt’s Website - https://mattragland.com/

Buffer - https://buffer.com/

Backcountry - https://www.backcountry.com/

APPSumo - https://appsumo.com/

ConvertKit - https://convertkit.com/

Nashville, TN - https://www.visitmusiccity.com/

Podia  - https://www.podia.com/

Jiu jitsu - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jujutsu

Nose Frida - https://frida.com/

Nintendo switch - https://www.nintendo.com/us/switch/

Lululemon (joggers or ABC pants) - https://shop.lululemon.com/

10,000 (shirts) - https://www.tenthousand.cc/

Smart wool (socks) - https://www.smartwool.com/

Duer (jeans) - https://shopduer.com/

Brain Rules for Baby: How to Raise a Smart and Happy Child from Zero to Five - https://www.amazon.com/Brain-Rules-Baby-Updated-Expanded/dp/0983263388

Outdoor Kids in an Inside World: Getting Your Family Out of the House and Radically Engaged with Nature - https://www.amazon.com/Outdoor-Kids-Inside-World-Radically/dp/0593129660

Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans - https://www.amazon.com/Hunt-Gather-Parent-Ancient-Cultures/dp/198214968X

The Gardener and the Carpenter: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children - https://www.amazon.com/Gardener-Carpenter-Development-Relationship-Children/dp/1250132258

Inside Out - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2096673/

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For sponsorship inquiries email podcast@fishmana.com.

Editing support by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/.

Welcome to the last Startup Dad episode of 2023! It has been one hell of a year. Starting in June I released a show a week for the entire rest of the year; 27 episodes in total. Talking parenthood with dozens of startup dads and a few startup moms blew away all of my expectations. For this episode I pulled together the best of over two dozen conversations covering everything from mistakes made to frameworks for parenting success. At the end I asked many of my guests what they're most looking forward to in 2024.

This episode includes excerpts from nearly every one of my conversations from this past year.

Guests include:

Nick Soman, Buster Benson, George Arison, Guy Yalif, Jake Wood, Gaurav Vohra, Tobi Emonts-Holley, Ben Williams, Lloyed Lobo, Ryan Johnson, Mike Duboe, Sara and Eric Mauskopf, Trae and Michelle Stephens, Aaron Huey, Will Rocklin, Tom Willerer, Darius Contractor, Adam Grenier, Alex Cohen, Brian Balfour, Josh Herzig-Marx and Carla Naumburg, Casey Woo, Fareed Mosavat, and Matt Greenberg.

In this episode we discuss:

* Mistakes made as a Dad

* The successes and high points of parenting

* Frustrations and challenges with parenting

* Frameworks for success

* Advocacy and raising children with special needs

* Coping with loss

* Startup Dads' optimism for 2024

Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: FishmanAFNewsletter.com

- Newsletter: startupdadpod.substack.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[0:00] Hello & intro from Adam

[01:15] Mistakes made as a parent

[01:22] Ryan Johnson (CPO, CallRail) - thinking your kids are older than they are

[02:41] Tobi Emonts-Holley (CEO, Tiphereth) - losing your temper, recovering and learning to let go

[04:20] Nick Soman (CEO/founder, Decent) - when I felt like I was drowning

[05:45] Mike Duboe (General Partner, Greylock) - being too hard on yourself

[07:12] Lloyed Lobo (Co-founder, Boast.ai) - yelling at your kids

[07:54] Jake Wood (Founder, Groundswell and Team Rubicon) - avoiding mistakes of the heart

[08:42] Guy Yalif (Co-founder/CEO, Intellimize) - quality minutes with your kids vs. quantity of hours

[09:29] Gaurav Vohra (Founding team, Superhuman) - taking advice from other parents; not getting a crib

[11:50] Buster Benson (Product leader, Medium) - thinking your kids are more mature than they are

[14:27] George Arison (CEO, Grindr) - not explaining why to kids

[14:46] Ben Williams (PLG Advisor, PLGeek) - thinking it would be easy

[15:15] Parenting successes

[15:24] Will Rocklin (Product Advisor) - marriage and parenthood unlocking your best self

[17:25] Tom Willerer (COO, Reforge) - watching your kids be successful

[21:51] Trae and Michelle Stephens (Partner, Founders Fund, Co-founder Anduril, Co-founder Oathcare) - watching kids learning new things and experiencing the world

[22:53] Eric and Sara Mauskopf  (Product leader, Winnie; CEO/co-founder, Winnie) - rejoining the workforce and working with your spouse

[027:20] Guy Yalif - seeing your kids navigate transitions; college and high school

[28:06] Darius Contractor (CGO, Otter.ai) - helping your kids be centered and defining success with them

[28:59] George Arison - watching your kids learning

[29:28] Aaron Huey (Founder, National Geographic Photographer, 3rd Coolest Dad in America) - being named the 3rd coolest Dad in America

[31:07] Parenting frustrations and challenges

[31:19] Will Rocklin - conception struggles and a positive experience with IVF

[33:23] Alex Cohen (Product leader, Carbon Health) - not having family or a support network nearby

[34:25] Nick Soman - starting a company and becoming a husband and father at the same time

[35:13] Eric and Sara Mauskopf - navigating cancer; a dismembering experience; family planning with cancer

[42:28] Adam Grenier (VP Growth, Eventbrite) - having a child with special needs

[44:17] Buster Benson - navigating separation and divorce; talking to your kids about it; advice for others

[53:03] Tobi Emonts-Holley - getting intense feedback online and saying the wrong thing

[01:00:20] Best parenting frameworks

[01:00:30] Nick Soman - irrevocable guidelines

[01:00:59] Tobi Emonts-Holley - personal discipline equals freedom

[01:02:57] Mike Duboe - making time for date night

[01:04:04] Lloyed Lobo - positive discipline, rewarding the effort and trusting the process

[01:07:51] Jake Wood - making sure your kids know they're loved

[01:08:30] Guy Yalif - making sure your kids know they're loved and you only control how you show up

[01:09:29] Adam Grenier - tools from Brene Brown and understanding your couple capacity

[01:10:37] Gaurav Vohra - Delete, automate, delegate

[01:13:14] Casey Woo - the importance of routine

[01:13:50] Josh Herzig-Marx and Carla Naumburg (Product advisor, best-selling author) - prioritization and tradeoffs using mission and vision

[01:19:04] Buster Benson - creating a safe space and not trying to diagnose your kids

[01:21:37] Adam Grenier - special time with each kid

[01:22:50] Gaurav Vohra - full vertical responsibility management

[01:28:41] Brian Balfour (CEO/founder, Reforge) - defining your parenting values

[01:30:15] Ben Williams - making 1-on-1 time

[01:31:37] Alex Cohen - giving zero f***s and going with the flow

[01:32:15] Fareed Mosavat (Advisor) - remembering that you're the adult

[01:33:06] Advocating for your kids

[01:33:17] Ryan Johnson - getting difficult medical diagnoses and navigating that process

[01:36:07] Matt Greenberg (CTO, Handshake) - the process of diagnosing and advocating for your autistic child in the school system

[01:41:29] Adam Grenier - the tools for helping and advocating for your autistic child with caregivers

[1:46:01] Ben Williams - helping your child understand racism

[1:47:14] George Arison - navigating the surrogacy process as a gay man

[1:54:41] Matt Greenberg - more about advocating for your autistic child

[1:59:51] Startup dads & moms discuss loss

[2:00:02] Trae & Michelle Stephens - navigating miscarriage and advice for others 

[2:02:24] Brian Balfour - coping with the loss of a child at birth

[2:08:06] Lloyd Lobo - navigating the loss of a twin

[2:13:21] What are Startup Dads looking forward to in 2024?

[2:13:29] Matt Greenberg - looking forward to his four year old turning five

[2:13:47] Lloyd Lobo - my wife's 40th birthday

[2:14:13] Alex Cohen - side projects turning into real things

[2:14:48] George Arison - excited about building culture together and the transition to kindergarten

[2:15:58] Gaurav Vohra - traveling to exciting places as a family

[2:17:06] Ben Williams - taking a family holiday... somewhere warm

[2:18:05] Trae & Michelle Stephens - having an escape from the city, celebrating milestone birthdays, and rest

[2:19:13] Tobi Emonts-Holley - watching his kids pursue their sports and passions; connecting with more dads

[2:20:19] Ryan Johnson - the technology landscape settling and what will happen with AI

[2:21:36] Will Rocklin - a baby who sleeps

[2:22:39] Thank you

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Show references:

IVF - https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/in-vitro-fertilization/about/pac-20384716

RMA - https://rmanetwork.com/

Harville Hendrix - https://harvilleandhelen.com/

Fatherly - https://www.fatherly.com/entertainment/100-coolest-dads-in-america-2018

National Geographic - https://www.nationalgeographic.com/

UCSF Fertility Clinic - https://crh.ucsf.edu/

Jocko Willink - https://jocko.com/

The Score Takes Care of Itself: My Philosophy of Leadership by Bill Walsh, Steve Jamison & Craig Walsh - https://www.amazon.com/Score-Takes-Care-Itself-Philosophy/dp/1591843472

Brene Brown - https://brenebrown.com/

Fair Play by Eve Rodsky - https://www.amazon.com/Fair-Play-Game-Changing-Solution-When/dp/0525541934

The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman PHD - https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718

Brickies - https://brickies.club/

CCRM Fertility - https://www.ccrmivf.com/

HAND of Bay Area - https://handsupport.org/

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

Welcome to another special Holiday Edition of Startup Dad! I went back and talked to many of my guests about their most memorable holiday traditions, the best and most secret family recipes, and most disastrous holiday memories as parents. No matter who you are or what you celebrate my hope is that hearing this helps to normalize just how different and hectic everyone's holidays can be.

You'll hear from past guests Alex Cohen, Gaurav Vohra, Nick Soman, Ryan Johnson, Trae and Michelle Stephens, Will Rocklin, George Arison, Matt Greenberg, Ben Williams, Lloyed Lobo, and Tobi Emonts-Holley.

In this episode we discuss:

* Favorite holiday traditions

* Best holiday meals

* Most disastrous holiday moments

* When the post office delivers you a gift from santa

* Latkes and honeybaked ham

* Homemade ornaments from Etsy

* Cancelled flights, endless drives, COVID

* Vomit. So much vomit.

Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: FishmanAFNewsletter.com

- Newsletter: startupdadpod.substack.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[0:00] Hello & intro

[1:00] Favorite holiday traditions

[1:05] Lloyed Lobo - Co-founder Boast.ai, Author

[1:32] Nick Soman - Founder/CEO Decent

[2:43] Trae and Michelle Stephens - Founders Fund, Anduril and OathCare

[3:54] Matt Greenberg, CTO at Handshake

[4:43] Alex Cohen - Sr. Director Product, Carbon Health

[5:08] George Arison - CEO, Grindr 

[7:39] Tobi Emonts-Holley - CEO, Tiphereth

[8:59] Will Rocklin - Product Advisor

[9:39] Ben Williams - PLGeek, fmr VP Product, Snyk

[11:02] Favorite holiday meals/recipes

[11:08] Gaurav Vohra - founding team, Superhuman

[11:53] Alex Cohen on Honeybaked Ham

[12:24] Nick Soman on Latkes

[13:40] Ryan Johnson on Turkey, Gravy and Green Bean Casserole; CPO at CallRail

[14:04] Ben Williams on Pigs in a Blanket

[14:47] Trae and Michelle Stephens on Chocolate Gravy, Buttermilk Pie, Pizelles and Panettone

[17:09] Most disastrous holiday moments

[17:14] Alex Cohen on 24-hour drives

[18:45] Lloyed Lobo on COVID at the Holidays

[19:06] Gaurav Vohra on food poisoning and plane flights

[20:32] Trae and Michelle Stephens on endless flight delays with toddlers and CPR on an airplane

[22:04] Tobi Emonts-Holley on Elsa dresses and vomit

[22:40] Thank you

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Show references:

Roy's Pannetone - https://www.thisisfromroy.com/

Honeybaked Ham - https://www.honeybaked.com/home

Green Bean Casserole - https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/18379/best-green-bean-casserole/

Pizzelle Cookies - https://www.culinaryhill.com/pizzelle-italian-cookies/

Pigs in a Blanket - https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/a58344/homemade-pigs-in-a-blanket-recipe/

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

Lloyed Lobo is the co-founder of Boast.ai and the author of Wall Street Journal best-selling book From Grassroots to Greatness. After escaping the Gulf War as a child and seeing the power of community in helping navigate impossible situations he ended up on a path of entrepreneurship and community building. He is a husband and the father of three kids.

In this episode we discuss:

* His childhood as a Gulf War refugee

* His mother's influence on his entrepreneurship

* Losing one of his twins

* The power of community in raising a family

* Positive discipline and other parenting frameworks

* How his daughter helped him overcome depression

* Mistakes and sacrifices as a Dad

* Rapid fire!

Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

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Where to find Lloyed Lobo

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lloyedlobo/

- Twitter: https://twitter.com/lloyedlobo

- His Book: https://FromGrassrootstoGreatness.com

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: http://www.startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: http://fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:30] Welcome and Introduction

[1:59] Professional background

[5:34] Childhood as a refugee

[12:23] Current family

[22:35] Decision to start a family

[31:32] Losing a twin child

[37:29] Most surprising thing about being a Dad?

[41:00] Which kid is like which parent?

[42:54] Most frustrating thing about being a Dad?

[43:43] Parenting Frameworks

[49:57] An area where Lloyed and his wife don’t align

[52:36] What is something you had to give up to be a Dad?

[54:35] What is one mistake you made as a Dad?

[1:00:11] Follow along with Lloyed

[1:02:38] Rapid fire round

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Show references:

Lloyed’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lloyedlobo/

Task Rabbit: https://www.taskrabbit.com/

Lloyed’s book, From Grassroots to Greatness: https://FromGrassrootstoGreatness.com

Melatonin gummies: https://www.amazon.com/OLLY-Occasional-Melatonin-L-Theanine-Blackberry/dp/B07H8NZZJB/

Boast: https://boast.ai/

Traction: https://www.tractionconf.io/

Highway of death (Kuwait): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Highway_of_Death

Gulf War: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gulf_War

Eye of the Tiger

Rambo: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0462499/

Sylvester Stallone: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000230/

Arnold Schwarzenegger: https://www.schwarzenegger.com/

Cocomelon: https://cocomelon.com/

RRR soundtrack: https://music.apple.com/us/album/rrr-original-motion-picture-soundtrack/1619745392

Tesla Model x: https://www.tesla.com/modelx

My Wife and Kids: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0273855/

CCRM: https://www.ccrmivf.com/colorado/ccrm-colorado-denver-office/

The Score Takes Care of Itself: https://www.amazon.com/Score-Takes-Care-Itself-Philosophy/dp/1591843472

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

Welcome to a special Holiday Edition of Startup Dad! As parents we all need to go easy on ourselves at this time of the year. To bring a little holiday cheer to your lives I went back through 2023's roster of guests and highlighted their best and worst parenting purchases. You'll also hear a series of never-before-shared thoughts on the best and worst holiday presents they've ever given their spouse and the best and worst gifts they've ever received.

You'll hear from past guests: Adam Grenier, Alex Cohen, Casey Woo, Brian Balfour, Buster Benson, Gaurav Vohra, Aaron Huey, Darius Contractor, Eric and Sara Mauskopf, Mike Duboe, Nick Soman, Ryan Johnson, Trae and Michelle Stephens, Tom Willerer, Fareed Mosavat, Will Rocklin, Matt Greenberg, Ben Williams, Jake Wood, and Tobi Emonts-Holley.

In this episode we discuss:

* The best parenting product they've ever purchased

* The worst parenting product they've ever purchased

* The best or worst holiday gift they've ever given their spouse

* The best or worst holiday gift they've ever received

Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

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Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: www.fishmanafnewsletter.com

- Newsletter: www.startupdadpod.substack.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[0:00] Intro and welcome

[1:32] Best parenting product ever purchased

[4:01] Worst parenting product ever purchased

[7:49] Best or worst gift they've ever given their spouse

[12:26] Best or worst gift they've ever received

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Show references for Best Parenting Purchases:

Butt Cream - https://www.babylist.com/hello-baby/best-diaper-rash-creams

Blackout Tent - https://www.amazon.com/SlumberPod-3-0-Portable-Blackout-Sleeping/dp/B0B7PBRZX5?th=1

Umbrella Stroller - https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/best-umbrella-strollers/

Night Nanny - https://www.care.com/c/what-is-a-night-nanny/

White Noise Machine - https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/best-white-noise-machine/

Kids Tower / Step Stool - https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/childrens-products/g37342617/best-learning-towers/

Doona Stroller - https://www.doona.com/en-us/car-seat-stroller/discover-doona

Baby Gate - https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/best-baby-gate/

Travel Stroller - https://www.verywellfamily.com/best-travel-strollers-4177015

Nose Frida - https://frida.com/products/nosefrida

Sleep Expert - https://wellrestedmamas.com/sleep-training-consultant-coach/

Fellow Tea Kettle - https://fellowproducts.com/products/stagg-ekg-electric-pour-over-kettle

Onesies with Zippers - https://www.target.com/s/zipper+onesie+newborn

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

In this special Startup Dad (and Mom) episode I interviewed husband and wife team Eric and Sara Mauskopf. Sara is the co-founder and CEO of Winnie, a platform that helps parents find much needed childcare and helps childcare providers find parents and run their business. She founded Winnie after a decade-plus career in product at Postmates, Twitter, and Google. Eric is a product leader at Winnie where he joined about 18 months ago after leaning in as a stay-at-home-Dad for 3.5 years. Prior to that he was a long-time product leader at Google and YouTube for over 10 years.

In this episode we discuss:

* Eric and Sara's personal and professional backgrounds including how their parents shaped them and how they met

* Their decision to start a family and whether three kids was the goal

* Eric's cancer diagnosis, treatment, recover and raising a young daughter during this process

* How to prepare for your family's future when you have a serious illness

* Eric's decision to step back from the workforce and why that is so hard for men

* Eric's transition back to work and what it's like to work with your spouse

* How to take your kids on exciting adventures

* Philadelphia sports (if you know Sara this is a requirement)

* Rapid fire!

Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

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Where to find Eric Mauskopf:

- LinkedIn: https://twitter.com/mauskopf

- Twitter: https://linkedin.com/in/mauskopf

Where to find Sara Mauskopf

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/sm

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/smausk/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: http://www.startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: http://fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[2:56] Professional backgrounds

[5:28] Personal backgrounds

[7:52] Their parent’s careers

[11:38] How did you meet?

[13:00] Tell me about the kids?

[15:29] Decision to start a family

[17:52] Was 3 kids ideal?

[18:52] Kids' interaction with each other

[20:26] Eric’s cancer/perspectives 

[24:23] Preparing for the future with cancer

[27:53] Family support 

[32:28] Earliest memory of being a dad

[33:54] Eric’s decision to step back/why is that hard for men?

[40:32] Transition back to work

[42:30] Eric’s Winnie interview

[46:10] Taking kids on adventures

[49:35] What has been the most fun adventure?

[53:10] Sharing your kids online

[56:02] Where Sara and Eric don’t align

[57:56] One mistake you made as a dad?

[59:11] Where can we follow along?

[1:00:01] Detroit Lions VS. Philadelphia Eagles

[1:01:05] Rapid fire round

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Show references:

Winnie - https://winnie.com/

Kobe Bryant - https://www.britannica.com/biography/Kobe-Bryant

Google - https://www.google.com/

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/

Phil Simms - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phil_Simms

Phillies - https://www.mlb.com/phillies

Giants - https://www.mlb.com/giants

Warriors - https://www.nba.com/warriors

Traveling Wilburys - https://www.travelingwilburys.com/

Bob Dylan - https://www.bobdylan.com/

Seahawks - https://www.seahawks.com/

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Thanks to my sponsor for this episode: unitQ!

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

Guy Yalif is the co-founder and CEO of Intellimize, a platform that helps optimize web experiences through testing, personalization and AI. He has been an ad tech and product leader at companies like Brightroll, Twitter and Yahoo. He is a husband and father of two teenagers. 

In this episode we discuss:

* His mother's career as a banker in the 70's

* The unique experience of founding a company with good friends

* How his role as a father influences his professional decisions

* Founding a company with young kids

* Raising a daughter with ADHD

* The importance of communication and planning in family logistics

* Building a company culture that celebrates family

* Rapid fire!

Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

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Where to find Guy Yalif:

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gyalif/

- Twitter: https://twitter.com/gyalif

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: http://www.startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: http://fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[2:38] Welcome Guy

[3:10] Guy’s professional background

[4:10] Starting a company with friends

[5:56] Guy’s childhood

[7:56] His family and partner

[8:40] Kids' big new transitions

[10:38] Decision to start a family

[13:01] Making it work with no clan

[15:07] Rituals with his wife

[16:51] Earliest memory of being a dad

[18:33] Most surprising thing about being a dad

[19:48] Daughter’s strengths vs. where they need support

[21:01] Parenting frameworks

[25:35] Kids making their own decisions

[27:45] Areas where Guy and partner don’t align

[29:54] Anything Guy gave up to be a dad?

[31:33] Mistakes made as a dad

[34:12] Decision to create a company

[36:46] How did kids learn balance

[37:54] Follow Guy

[38:27] Rapid fire round

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Show references:

Intellimize - https://www.intellimize.com/

BrightRoll - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BrightRoll

Twitter - https://twitter.com

Yahoo - https://www.yahoo.com

Myers Briggs - https://www.myersbriggs.org/

The Enneagram Institute - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/

Frozen - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2294629/

Inside Out - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2096673/?ref_=fn_al_tt_2

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Thanks to my sponsor for this episode: unitQ!

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

Adam Nash is a long-time Silicon Valley executive, investor and advisor. He was the President and CEO of Wealthfront, a Product executive at Dropbox and LinkedIn, and teaches a course on personal finance for engineers at Stanford. He is currently the co-founder and CEO of Daffy, the donor-advised fund for you and a champion of charitable giving. In addition to his long and successful career he’s also a husband and the father of four kids! In our conversation today we discussed:

* How to raise financially literate kids

* How to think about the question of “am I financially ready for children” and is that the right question

* How to teach your kids about charitable giving and philanthropy

* The challenges of starting a company as a parent

* The concept of “super powers” at work and at home

* How to talk about money with your wife and kids

* How to do financial planning in your household

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Where to find Adam Nash

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamnash/

* X: https://x.com/adamnash

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:41] Welcome

[2:47] How did you develop your passion for finance?

[5:31] When are you financially ready for children?

[12:05] Was financial literacy part of childhood?

[14:55] Kids ages and background

[15:25] Decision to start a family

[18:26] Guardrails

[23:35] Conversation with partner about startup

[27:12] Concept of superpowers

[31:56] Advice to younger Adam

[35:49] Advice to ignore

[38:53] How do you build financially literate children?

[44:09] What is a DAF?

[51:18] Your family’s philanthropy & impact

[53:51] Financial review

[57:27] Financial apps

[58:48] Mistake as a dad

[1:03:57] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Daffy: https://www.daffy.org/

Wealthfront: https://www.wealthfront.com/

Dropbox: https://www.dropbox.com/home

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/feed/

Stanford: https://www.stanford.edu/

Quicken: https://www.quicken.com/

Steve Jobs: https://www.britannica.com/money/Steve-Jobs

DonorsChoose: https://www.donorschoose.org/

Greenlight: https://greenlight.com/

Monterey Bay Aquarium: https://www.montereybayaquarium.org/

Acorns: https://www.acorns.com/

Plenty: https://www.withplenty.com/

Apple watch: https://www.apple.com/watch/

Jewish Community Center: https://jcca.org/

Cars: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0317219/

Animal House: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0077975/

Back To School: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0090685/

Real Genius: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0089886/

Star Wars: https://www.starwars.com/films

Back To The Future: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0088763/

Toyota Sienna: https://www.toyota.com/sienna/

Honda Odyssey: https://automobiles.honda.com/odyssey

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For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Jake Wood is a decorated Marine Veteran, the founder of Team Rubicon, and currently the founder and CEO of Groundswell. Jake served in both Iraq and Afghanistan as a Marine sniper, was the subject of the book "Charlie Mike" and also wrote a memoir called "Once a Warrior" about his experience founding Team Rubicon, one of America's leading nonprofits, after returning home from war. He is a husband and a father of two.

In this episode we discuss:

* Jake's experience in combat

* His transition to civilian life

* The intersection of his roles as a veteran, a father and a CEO/founder

* How to be truly present

* Finding a partner that understands and supports you (and vice versa)

* Where to find the hours in the day

* Rapid fire!

Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

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Where to find Jake Wood:

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jakewoodusa/

- Twitter: https://twitter.com/JakeWoodTR

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: http://startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: http://fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[2:11] Welcome Jake!

[2:38] Jake's Professional background

[6:57] Founding Groundswell and philanthropy

[8:07] Wisconsin football

[9:26] Jake's Personal background

[12:22] His parent’s reaction to military service

[13:37] The pull to help others

[16:17] His Family

[18:24] Jake's Wife

[19:35] Their decision to start a family

[21:17] Being and finding a supportive partner

[22:45] How to be present when you are present

[25:34] His earliest memory of becoming a dad

[27:33] Starting his foundation/youngest daughter

[30:08] Most surprising thing about becoming a dad

[31:49] Favorite kids book

[32:41] Parenting Frameworks

[33:54] When you and your partner don’t align

[34:51] How to find the hours; what his schedule is like

[37:53] Something you gave up to be a dad

[39:31] Mistakes made as a dad

[40:55] Thoughts on hustle culture

[43:12] What if your kids want to join the military?

[44:27] Follow Jake

[45:56] Rapid fire round

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Show references:

Jake Wood Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jakewoodtr

Groundswell - https://my.foundation/

University of Wisconsin - https://www.wisconsin.edu/

Marine Corps - https://www.marines.com/

Jake Wood Website (can purchase his book, Once A Warrior) - https://www.jakewood.co/

Charlie Mike: A True Story of Heroes Who Brought Their Mission Home - https://www.amazon.com/Charlie-Mike-Heroes-Brought-Mission/dp/1451677316

Team Rubicon - https://teamrubiconusa.org/

Northwestern University - https://www.northwestern.edu/

Tickle Monster  by Josie Bissett - https://www.amazon.com/Tickle-Monster-Josie-Bissett/dp/1932319670

The Score Takes Care Of Itself by Bill Walsh - https://www.amazon.com/Score-Takes-Care-Itself-Philosophy/dp/1591843472

Team of Teams by General Stanley McChrystal  - https://www.amazon.com/Team-Teams-Rules-Engagement-Complex/dp/1591847486

Cocomelon - https://cocomelon.com/

Bluey - https://www.bluey.tv/

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

Gaurav Vohra is the Head of Growth at Superhuman, where he created the fastest email experience ever with his brother as part of the founding team nearly 9 years ago. Gaurav is the child of immigrant parents and decided not to follow in their footsteps at a young age. He is a husband and a father of one toddler!

In this episode we discuss:

* The influence of immigrant parents on his own work ethic and values

* Not following in your parents footsteps

* The challenge and reward of starting a family when each parent has a demanding career

* Starting a company with a sibling and balancing each other out

* Frameworks for days! Vertical Responsibility Management and Delete - Automate - Delegate

* Division of labor in their household using these frameworks

* Developing a system for getting great childcare

* Rapid fire!

Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.

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Where to find Gaurav Vohra:

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/gauravvohra1

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gvohra/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: http://startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: http://fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:49] Welcome Gaurav!

[2:14] Professional background

[6:25] Personal background/brother co-founder

[11:42] Pressure from his parents

[13:59] Family life

[15:03] Partner’s career

[17:05] Decision to start a family

[18:45] Full vertical responsibility management

[23:45] Expectations align/verticals

[25:05] Earliest memory of being a dad

[27:27] Most surprising part of being a dad

[31:14] Frameworks for raising your kids

[38:31] Systematically getting great childcare

[44:52] Areas where you don’t align

[48:13] Mistake made as as a Dad

[51:55] Parental leave as a founding team member

[56:07] Follow Gaurav

[56:45] Rapid fire round

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Show references:

Chevy Bolt - https://www.chevrolet.com/electric/bolt-ev

How To Have A Baby - By Natalie Meddings - https://www.amazon.com/How-Have-Baby-Mother-Gathered-Guidance/dp/1527207366

Adjustable Height Kitchen Step-stool - https://www.amazon.com/SDADI-Adjustable-Kitchen-Learning-Mothers/dp/B07YJLHXPQ

KiwiCo - https://www.kiwico.com/

Lovevery - https://lovevery.com/products/the-play-kits

Thomas The Tank Engine - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thomas_the_Tank_Engine

Winston Churchill - https://winstonchurchill.org/

Superhuman - https://superhuman.com/

Oliver Wyman - https://www.oliverwyman.com/index.html

Command & Conquer - https://www.ea.com/games/command-and-conquer

Rapportive - https://rapportive.en.softonic.com/web-apps

The Emperor's New Groove - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0120917/

Aristocats - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0065421/

Fair Play by Eve Rodsky - https://www.amazon.com/Fair-Play-Game-Changing-Solution-When/dp/0525541934

The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman PHD - https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718

Upchoose - https://www.upchoose.com/

Parenting By Design - Lyndall Schreiner - https://www.lyndallschreiner.com/parenting-by-design

Lyndall Schreiner's LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/lyndallschreiner/

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

Tobi Emonts-Holley is the CEO of Tiphereth where he started as a volunteer nearly 18 years ago. Tiphereth is an Edinburgh-based community for adults with learning disabilities and other support needs. He also holds a PhD in Economics. Most importantly (and impressively) Tobi and his wife are the parents of six children!

In this episode we discuss:

* Tobi's early journey leaving his home and moving to Edinburgh at a young age

* The joys and challenges of raising six unique kids

* Tobi's philosophy on fatherhood, including why memories trump possessions

* What it takes to be a great partner to his wife and how they share responsibilities

* What it means to be truly present in parenting

* The concept of "no magic pill" when it comes to raising kids

* How your kids are motivators, not excuses

* How to instill values, ethics and a sense of purpose in your children

* Tobi's lessons learned from living life very publicly on social media

* A "typical day" when raising six kids

* Rapid fire!

Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, Overcast and Google.

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Where to find Tobi Emonts-Holley:

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/tobi_emonts

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tobi-emonts-holley-62382a292/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: http://startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: http://www.fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

*Timestamps available later today!*

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Show references:

How I discovered Tobi -  https://twitter.com/tobi_emonts/status/1690712460334948353

Tiphereth - https://www.tiphereth.org.uk/

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at

https://www.mspnw.com/

George Arison is the CEO of Grindr and the former co-founder and CEO of Shift. George grew up in Republic of Georgia when it was still part of the former Soviet Union and immigrated to the U.S. as a teenager. George knew he always wanted to be a Dad and he got that wish about 4 years ago. He's a husband and father of two kids.

In this episode we discuss:

* Growing up (and leaving) Georgia

* The surrogacy process

* The birth of his twins (or twiblings) and what *is* a twibling

* The difficulties gay men face when becoming parents

* His husband as the rule enforcer in the house

* His family's love of books and some of his *favorites*

* His parenting philosophies and the values central to raising his kids

* How to prepare your kids to understand different family structures and questions they might get

* The growing acceptance and supportive communities he's experienced

Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, Overcast and Google.

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Where to find George Arison:

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/georgearison

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgearison/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: http://startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: http://www.fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:37] Welcome

[2:25] George's Background

[4:27] Childhood in the U.S. vs. Republic of Georgia

[7:28] How he met his partner

[10:33] Their decision to start a family/surrogacy

[15:10] Surrogacy challenges

[18:41] Discrimination 

[21:04] Surrogacy blockers

[21:51] His earliest memory of being a Dad + raising financing while his son was born!

[24:47] Most surprising part of becoming a dad

[26:38] Conversation w/ kids about same sex partners and more

[30:51] Household of books

[35:39] Where doesn't he always align with his partner?

[37:38] Challenges as same sex parents

[42:38] Husband/default parent

[45:47] Mistake as a dad?

[46:33] Play and work

[49:07] Rapid fire round

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Show references:

Do Say Gay - George's notes on the most meaningful books for his family: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/do-say-gay-fathers-day-george-arison/

Julia Donaldson (Author) - https://www.juliadonaldson.co.uk/

The Gruffalo - https://www.gruffalo.com/

The Pip and Posy Collection - https://www.goodreads.com/series/81031-pip-and-posy

Axel Scheffler - https://axelscheffler.com/

The Grumpy Monkey Book Series - https://www.goodreads.com/series/265196-grumpy-monkey

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

Casey Woo is the founder of Operators Guild, a community of engaged ops professionals who help each other navigate the issues that arise when scaling a company. He is a reformed Finance leader who found his passion growing a community. He's a husband and father of three kids.

In this episode we discuss:

* How I discovered Casey through a LinkedIn post

* His wife's career and their decision to start a family

* How he explains his job to his kids

* How to lean into your children's strengths

* His favorite (and least favorite) kids books

* Parenting frameworks

* The concept of Cash vs. Lotto tickets

* Rapid fire!

Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, Overcast and Google.

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Where to find Casey Woo

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/caseyswoo

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/caseywoo/

- Operators Guild: https://operators-guild.com/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: http://startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: http://fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:38] Welcome and introduction

[1:57] Our LinkedIn connection

[5:39] His childhood/background

[14:02] All about his partner

[17:05] All about his kids

[19:06] His wife’s career

[20:21] Their decision to start a family

[22:23] His earliest memory of being a dad

[23:27] What work/life balance means to him

[25:42] Explaining his job to his kids

[27:34] Carving out time with your spouse

[29:54] Most surprising thing about being a dad

[32:07] Leaning into his kids' strengths

[34:18] Favorite/least favorite kid’s book

[36:32] Parenting frameworks

[38:48] Partnership

[41:24] Cash vs. lotto tickets

[45:39] What he had to give up to become a dad

[47:16] His mistakes as a dad

[48:33] Where to follow/find Casey

[49:40] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Casey's LinkedIn Post - https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:7090030457370644480/

Operator's Guild - https://operators-guild.com/

FOG Ventures LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/fog-ventures/

West Point - https://www.westpoint.edu/

Harvard University - https://www.harvard.edu/

Goldman Sachs - https://www.goldmansachs.com/

Morgan Stanley - https://www.morganstanley.com/

WeWork - https://www.wework.com/

McKinsey & Company - https://www.mckinsey.com/

Microsoft Excel - https://www.microsoft.com/en-us/microsoft-365/excel

The Wolf of Wall Street - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0993846/

The Big Short - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1596363/

Innovation Endeavors - https://www.innovationendeavors.com/

The Incredibles - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Incredibles

The Gruffalo - https://www.gruffalo.com/

Hot Shots! Part Deux - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0107144/

Umbrella stroller - https://www.amazon.com/Kolcraft-Lightweight-Stroller-Multi-Position-Reclining/dp/B019DHBCXE

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

In this special Startup Dad (and Mom) episode I interviewed husband and wife team Trae Stephens and Dr. Michelle Stephens. Trae is a partner at Founders Fund, and is also co-founder and Executive Chairman of Anduril Industries, a defense technology company focused on autonomous systems and a co-founder of Sol, a wearable e-reader. Prior to that he was an early employee at Palantir and was an adjunct faculty member at Georgetown University.

Dr. Michelle Stephens is the co-founder and Chief Nursing Officer of Oath Care which aims to provide instant answers to all your parenting questions. She has practiced nursing with a focus on pediatrics in Philadelphia, Maryland, and Washington, DC. She has been an adjunct professor at Georgetown University and received her PhD at UCSF. 

In this episode we discuss:

* Their professional background and a shared hobby

* What childhood was like (spoiler: very different for each of them)

* Their decision to start a family

* Navigating miscarriages

* Faith and religion in their childhood and family life now

* Helpful parenting frameworks

* How to take care of yourself and your relationship

* How they make it all work with busy careers and busy kids

Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, Overcast and Google.

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Where to find Trae Stephens

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/traestephens

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/trae-stephens-485a811/

Where to find Dr. Michelle Stephens

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/mddstephens

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelle-stephens-oath-care/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: https://www.fishmanafnewsletter.com

- Newsletter: http://startupdadpod.substack.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:53] Welcome to the show![2:30] Professional backgrounds[8:34] Shared hobby[9:19] Childhood and growing up[13:25] How they met[17:40] All about their kids[18:56] Decision to start a family[21:47] Navigating miscarriages and support[23:29] Faith/religion[27:54] Having 2 kids vs. big family[30:57] Trae's earliest memory of being a dad[33:28] Most surprising thing about being a dad[38:05] Company as “kids” / non-traditional roles[42:15] Parenting frameworks[45:44] Where they don’t agree[47:30] Taking care of yourself/your relationship[51:28] Pet peeves[54:30] What a great sleep day looks like[57:14] Thoughts on hustle culture[59:30] Awe & wonder with your kids[1:00:58] How to reach them[1:01:33] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Trae Stephens Twitter - https://twitter.com/traestephens

Oath Care- https://www.oathcare.com/

Enneagram Type Eight - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-8

Enneagram Type Three - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-3

SNOO - https://www.happiestbaby.com/products/snoo-smart-bassinet

The Intentional Father by Jon Tyson - https://www.amazon.com/Intentional-Father-Practical-Courage-Character/dp/0801018684

Emily Oster - “Crib Sheet” and “Expecting Better” - https://emilyoster.net/

Magic: The Gathering - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Magic:_The_Gathering

Bluey - https://www.bluey.tv/

Angel's Landing - Zion National Park - https://www.nps.gov/zion/planyourvisit/angels-landing-hiking-permits.htm

Hook - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0102057/

Palantir - https://www.palantir.com/

Anduril - https://www.anduril.com/

Founders Fund - https://foundersfund.com/

Philadelphia Eagles - https://www.philadelphiaeagles.com/

Walsh School of Foreign Service at Georgetown University - https://sfs.georgetown.edu/

Georgetown University - https://www.georgetown.edu/

UCSF - https://www.ucsf.edu/

Wedding Crashers - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0396269/

Peter Thiel - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_Thiel

SpaceX - https://www.spacex.com/

PayPal - https://www.paypal.com/us/home

Taekwondo - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taekwondo

Monty Python and the Holy Grail - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monty_Python_and_the_Holy_Grail

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Bonus!

If you can figure out Trae's AIM screen name you can DM him for some Founders Fund Swag! 

—

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

Aaron Huey is an award-winning National Geographic photographer, a three time Stanford Fellow and the founder and chief creative officer of Amplifier.org. He has broken crowdfunding records when he raised $3 million in a few weeks for projects like We the People and We the Future. Before he had kids he did a 3,349 mile solo walk across America with his dog Cosmo over 154 days. Most importantly Fatherly called Aaron the "3rd Coolest Dad in America" beating out Barack Obama and Childish Gambino. He's a husband and father of two kids.

In this episode we discuss:

* His life with his wife and two children

* Encouraging making, exploration and risk-taking

* How to foster a lifelong love of creativity and expression in your kids

* The complementary nature of his wife's steady personality with his high-speed ADHD personality

* The inspiration behind his kids unique names

* His thoughts on social media and when his oldest son skyrocketed to Instagram fame as a young kid

* His involvement in social issues, tech innovations and storytelling

Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, Overcast and Google.

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Where to find Aaron Huey

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/aaronhuey

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/argonautphoto

- His amazing website: https://www.helloprototype.com/

- Latest project on climate change: https://www.crisiscurated.com/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: http://startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: http://fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[2:08] Welcome to the show

[2:25] Aaron’s professional life

[4:49] Record setting moments

[6:57] 3rd Coolest dad in America

[8:58] Aaron’s childhood

[10:20] Living all over the world

[10:57] Walking 3,349 miles across the country

[13:27] His wife and family

[15:38] All about his kids

[18:48] More about his amazing wife

[19:11] Their decision to have kids

[23:35] First memory of becoming a dad

[24:07] Most surprising thing about being a dad

[25:55] No blood, no foul

[28:14] Fostering creativity

[34:10] Exploration/risk taking

[37:08] Not always seeing eye-to-eye with his wife

[39:37] How his career affects family life

[43:37] Mistake made as a dad

[46:27] Pre-teens and social media

[50:51] Hustle culture

[53:44] Rapid fire round

[1:02:19] Thank you

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Show references:

Aaron Huey's Website - https://www.helloprototype.com/

Aaron's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/argonautphoto

Hawkeye Huey's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/hawkeyehuey/

Juno Huey's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/junohuey/

Aaron's Ted Talk - https://ed.ted.com/lessons/america-s-native-prisoners-of-war-aaron-huey

Amplifier.org - https://amplifier.org/

Fatherly.com - https://www.fatherly.com/entertainment/100-coolest-dads-in-america-2018

Kickstarter We The People - https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/amplifierfoundation/we-the-people-public-art-for-the-inauguration-and/posts

Kickstarter We The Future - https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/amplifierfoundation/we-the-future-art-for-the-classroom-and-beyond

National Geographic - https://www.nationalgeographic.co.uk/photographer/aaron-huey

2017 Women's March - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2017_Women%27s_March

Lakota People - https://www.lakotamall.com/history-and-ancestry/

Rotary - https://www.rotary.org/en

John S. Knight Fellowship - https://jsk.stanford.edu/

Tom Shadyac - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tom_Shadyac

Smithsonian Institution - https://www.si.edu/

Heyoka - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heyoka

Hayao Miyazaki - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0594503/

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

Will Rocklin is a product advisor, the former Head of Product at Safara and former product leader at Square and Google. He is also an aspiring standup comic, having performed in New York and Los Angeles. He now helps climate tech startups go from zero to one. When he's not doing that he's busy gentrifying Los Angeles as a new father.

In this episode we discuss:

* A hilarious story about how he met his wife

* How compatible product management is with standup comedy

* His parents thoughts on his comedy aspirations

* How they chose their son's name

* The good and bad of IVF

* How marriage is a growth driver for self actualization

* His love of babywearing

* Will's evolved definition of what it means to be a husband and a father

* Parental leave policies and what they did after their son was born

* Frameworks for simplifying your life after your kid enters

* Parenting books, Google searches and ChatGPT

* Sacrifices and mistakes made as a Dad so far

* A rapid fire round including why Will is PRO minivan!

Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, Overcast and Google.

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Where to find Will Rocklin

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wrocklin/

- Linktree: https://linktr.ee/willrocklin

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

—

In this episode, we cover:

[2:03] Welcome and introductions

[2:21] Will’s professional background

[4:08] Will’s childhood and his parents career

[5:30] Standup comedy

[9:28] Parent’s opinions of his standup

[11:28] Standup and Product Management

[14:09] How he met his partner

[16:33] Choosing his son’s name and his Mom’s reaction

[19:33] IVF

[22:42] Marriage as a growth driver for self actualization

[25:15] Their decision to start a family

[27:06] Earliest memories of being a dad

[28:26] Prepping for delivery

[30:57] Most surprising thing about being a dad

[32:00] Babywearing

[33:37] His evolved definition of a husband/father

[36:41] Parental leave polocies

[38:18] Frameworks for newborns

[40:38] Parenting books

[42:02] What he agrees and disagrees about with his partner

[45:51] Sacrifices he’s made

[49:11] Mistakes made as a dad

[50:11] Thoughts on hustle culture

[52:46] Rapid fire round

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Show references:

Will Rocklin Standup Comedy - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMWHua2cAciWTpFK-AVloSQ?app=desktop&feature=applinks

Sarah Cooper - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sarah_Cooper

Square - https://squareup.com/

Lalabu - https://shop.lalabu.com

Burning Man - https://burningman.org/

Seinfeld - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0098904/

Merengue - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Merengue_(dance)

What To Expect The First Year - By Heidi Murkoff - https://www.amazon.com/What-Expect-First-Heidi-Murkoff/dp/0761181504

Your Baby Week By Week - By Dr. Caroline Fertleman and Simone Cave - https://www.amazon.com/Your-Baby-Week-Ultimate-Caring/dp/0091910552

The Montessori Book - https://www.amazon.com/Montessori-Book-Babies-Toddlers-Independence/dp/B0CHL7WS6R

ChatGPT - https://chat.openai.com

Doona - https://www.doona.com/en-us/car-seat-stroller/discover-doona

Friends - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friends

The New York Times - https://www.nytimes.com

Fellow Tea Kettle - https://fellowproducts.com/collections/kettles

Hatch Rest 2 - https://www.hatch.co/rest-second-gen

Asics - https://www.asics.com

Ipad - https://www.apple.com/ipad

Sonos Speaker - https://www.sonos.com

Spotify - http://www.spotify.com

IVF - https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/in-vitro-fertilization/about/pac-20384716

RMA - https://rmanetwork.com/

X (Twitter) - https://twitter.com/

Harville Hendrix - https://harvilleandhelen.com/

Acropolis - https://whc.unesco.org/en/list/404/

Doula - https://www.dona.org/what-is-a-doula-2/

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

Tom Willerer is the Chief Operating Officer at Reforge. Prior to that he was the Chief Product Officer at Opendoor, Coursera and a VP of Product at Netflix. Tom is a husband, father of two teenagers and a fellow Michigander.

In this episode we discuss:

* Tom's early years as a college baseball player

* How Tom got into tech

* The decision to start a family

* A hilarious story about burritos in the delivery room

* Having a limited support network

* How parenting is a team sport and how that team changes over time

* What it's like raising teenagers

* How to let kids make their own decisions (safely)

* Mistakes made leaning in too much to help

* Parenting frameworks

* How to put your partners needs above your own

* Managing kids and career

Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, Overcast and Google.

Know someone who would benefit from listening to this podcast?

Where to find Tom Willerer

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/twillerer/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: www.startupdadpod.substack.com

- Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode:

(1:51) Tom's introduction

(2:13) Learning more about Tom's background

(5:57) How Tom got into tech

(8:40) His decision to start a family with his wife

(9:50) Lacking a strong support network

(12:05) Tom's earliest memory of becoming a dad

(15:58) Why parenting is a team sport

(18:40) How the team changes as your kids get older

(22:22) What it's like raising teenagers

(27:26) How to let your kids make their own decisions

(31:30) Mistakes made leaning in too much

(35:23) Parenting frameworks

(38:19) When he and his wife don’t agree

(42:50) Putting your partner’s needs above own

(46:56) Managing kids & career

(48:47) Sacrifices made as a dad

(51:37) Rapid fire round

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Show references

Springfree Trampoline - https://www.springfreetrampoline.com/collections/trampolines

Inside Out the movie - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2096673/

Jeep Wrangler - https://www.jeep.com/wrangler.html

Sleep Coach - https://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/what-is-sleep-coach

Reforge - www.reforge.com 

Opendoor - www.opendoor.com

Coursera - https://www.coursera.org/

Netflix - https://www.netflix.com/

Indiana University - https://www.iu.edu/index.html

Mario Kart 8 - https://mariokart8.nintendo.com/

Sun Microsystems - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sun_Microsystems

BlackBerry - https://www.blackberry.com/us/en

Dad Joke Cards - https://www.amazon.com/WORD-TEASERS-Worst-Jokes-Conversation/dp/B09BX39MBN/r

City Ballet of San Diego - https://cityballet.org/

X (Twitter) - https://twitter.com/

Colic - https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/colic

ChatGPT - https://chat.openai.com

Super73 - https://super73.com/

Luke Bryan - https://www.lukebryan.com/tour

Shoreline Amphitheatre - https://www.mountainviewamphitheater.com/

Bridesmaids - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1478338/

Elon Musk - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elon_Musk

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

Ryan Johson is the Chief Product Officer at CallRail a marketing and AI technology company. He was an early pioneer in the AI industry doing fascinating work on computer vision for anomaly detection in videos and images. Ryan is a husband and father of two kids and a fellow Midwesterner.

In this episode we discuss:

• His Midwestern upbringing and the work ethic that instilled in him


• The challenges of maintaining friendships with parents who have kids at different ages than yours


• The worst parenting advice he's ever received


• How to foster interests in his kids without coming on too strong


• How he and his wife navigated the decision for one of them to step back from the workforce during the pandemic


• Muckle-Wells Syndrome - his daughter's rare autoinflammatory disease and the process for figuring it out and getting her treatment


• Mistakes he's made as a dad and lessons learned

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Where to find Ryan Johnson

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryandjohnson/

- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/rydavidjohnson

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: https://www.fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:47] Ryan's professional background

[5:56] Ryan's Midwestern childhood

[8:54] His family's influence on his career

[10:30] How he met wife and an introduction to his kids

[11:45] Maintaining friendships with parents of different aged kids

[14:20] Worst parenting advice he's ever received

[16:05] About Becky, his wife

[18:00] Why his wife stepped back from work during the pandemic and the conversation around that decision

[23:00] Their decision to start a family

[24:08] His earliest memory of being a dad

[26:04] The most surprising parts of being a dad

[27:46] Which of his kids are like him or his wife

[28:23] Fostering kid’s interests in art, sports and other creative pursuits

[32:08] His daughter’s auto inflammatory disease

[41:44] Where he and his wife don’t align sometimes

[43:44] Sacrifices he's made as a parent

[46:12] His version of work/life balance

[48:50] Mistakes made and lessons learned as a dad

[51:00] Rapid fire round

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Show references:

Oracle: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oracle_Corporation

ChatGPT: https://chat.openai.com

General Motors: https://www.gm.com/

University of Michigan: https://umich.edu/

Albion College: https://www.albion.edu/

Muckle-Wells Syndrom: https://rarediseases.org/rare-diseases/muckle-wells-syndrome/

Mario Kart: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mario_Kart

CallRail: https://www.callrail.com/

The NoseFrida: https://frida.com/products/nosefrida

Saginaw, Michigan: https://www.saginaw-mi.com/

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

Andrew Capland is the founder of Growth coaching and advisory, Delivering Value. He’s also been the Head of Growth at Postscript and Wistia and was an early employee at Hubspot. He’s a loving husband and the father of two kids, including one who was 6 weeks old during our chat! In our conversation today we discussed:

* Going from one kid to two and thriving with a newborn

* Managing your life and paternity leave as a Solopreneur

* The support structures needed with a second kid

* Bottle washing hacks!

* What do you do when you and your spouse are both exhausted?

* What to do with different religious values in the household

* How to set yourself up for success with clients and a newborn

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Where to find Andrew Capland

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewcapland/

* X: https://x.com/acapland

* Delivering Value: https://deliveringvalue.co/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:24] Welcome

[1:42] Professional background

[3:02] Inspiration for pod

[4:52] Childhood

[8:12] Family now

[9:15] First date with wife?

[9:56] How old are your kids?

[10:34] What does your wife do for work?

[10:58] Decision to start a family

[13:17] First thing you remember when 6 week old was born?

[15:15] Support structures w/ second kid

[17:41] Paternity leave as a solopreneur

[19:17] How to manage new parenthood and soloprenuer

[21:19] Transition from 1 to 2 kids

[24:00] Any bottle washing hacks?

[24:50] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[25:59] Emotions w/ first child vs. second

[27: 22] What are some surprising things you discovered?

[28:14] Advice to younger Andrew

[29:57] Advice to ignore

[31:10] Favorite books to read to your kids?

[32:09] Frameworks

[32:59] What do you do if you’re both exhausted?

[33:59] How has parenting evolved 

[36:10] Where do you and your partner not align?

[37:45] Differences in religions amongst couples

[40:14] Kid’s relationship to technology

[42:25] What is something you gave up to be a dad?

[43:59] Recharge batteries

[44:59] Mistake as a dad

[46:31] Follow along

[47:47] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Andrew’s Podcast: https://media.deliveringvalue.co/t/show

Adam’s episode of Andrew’s Podcast: https://media.deliveringvalue.co/p/how-to-deal-with-overwhelm-imposter

Delivering Value: https://deliveringvalue.co/

PostScript: https://postscript.io/

Wistia: https://wistia.com/

HubSpot: https://www.hubspot.com/products/get-started-f049

Kings: https://www.playatkings.com/

Bright Horizons: https://www.brighthorizons.com/

Little Blue Truck Makes a Friend: https://www.amazon.com/Little-Blue-Truck-Makes-Friend/dp/0358722829

Little Blue Truck Leads the Way:https://www.amazon.com/Little-Blue-Truck-Leads-board/dp/0544568052

iPad: https://www.apple.com/

MiniMeis backpack: https://us.minimeis.com/

Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads by Gary Greenberg & Jeannie Hayden:

https://www.amazon.com/Be-Prepared-Gary-Greenberg/dp/0743251547/

Toy Story: https://toystory.disney.com/

Jaws: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0073195/

Nantucket: https://www.nantucket-ma.gov/

Kia Telluride: https://www.kia.com/us/en/telluride

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For sponsorship inquiries email: podcast@fishmana.com.

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Ben Wiliams is a product and engineering executive and was most recently the VP Product at Snyk; an $8B developer tools company. He is currently a Product and Growth advisor and owner of PLGeek.com as well as The Product Led Geek Newsletter. Ben is a husband and father of two kids and my first international interview (he hails from the UK).

In this episode we discuss:

• The importance of therapy in a successful career and marriage and how it's stigmatized in the UK


• His early exposures to racism and his upbringing in a mixed race family in the UK


• Meeting your wife on a dating app


• The challenges and joys of being a Dad


• Growing up in a strict household


• How a career never prepares you for the rollercoaster of fatherhood


• Sacrifices you make to be more present


• How life is different for parents in the UK than the States


• Building a robust support network


• Hilarious stories about "birthing class."


• Rapid Fire - UK edition

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Where to find Ben Williams

- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/semanticben

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/semanticben/

- Product Led Geek Newsletter: https://www.plg.news/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: https://www.fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

- Threads: https://www.threads.net/@fishmanaf

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In this episode, we cover:

[2:06] Welcome

[2:47] Professional background

[4:55] Career prepped for parenting?

[5:17] Childhood family environment/racism

[10:06] Partner/kids

[13:15] Earliest memory of being a dad?

[14:20] UK prep for baby

[18:06] Making sacrifices

[22:26] Risk awareness

[23:17] UK/USA parenting/mental health

[26:23] Emotional intelligence

[29:29] How do kids get along?

[31:28] Support structures

[33:36] Parenting frameworks

[36:32] Partner disagreement

[39:31] Mistake as a father?

[40:46] Comfort zone in parenting

[41:15] Work/home balance

[47:22] Talking to kids about racism

[49:20] Rapid fire round

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Show references:

The University of Manchester

Snyk

CloudBees

PLGEEK

Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS)

Brickies

National Childbirth Trust (NCT)

In vitro fertilization (IVF)

Brazilian jiu-jitsu (BJJ)

Fresh Food Feeder

Playmobile Large Princess Castle

IBM

Fujitsu

Acorn Electron

Sinclair ZX Spectrum

BBC Micro

VW ID. Buzz

Pong/Asteroids

Bob Marley

Peppa Pig

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

In this special, 10th episode I interviewed husband and wife team Josh Herzig-Marx and Carla Naumburg, PhD. Josh is a product executive and coach, a former VP of Product, founder and ex-Googler. He is also the "default" parent to two teenagers having chosen to step back as Carla leaned more into the workforce as a best-selling parenting book author.

Carla is a clinical social worker and mother. She’s the author of four non-fiction books, including her international bestseller, How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids (Workman, 2019), as well as You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent, and the forthcoming How to Stop Freaking Out, the (completely swear-free) middle-grade adaptation of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids. 

In this episode we discuss:

• Transition stages for kids and puberty during the pandemic


• The argument that led to their decision to start a family


• IVF and fertility


• How you can't learn to be a parent from a pamphlet


• Understanding privilege and balance as a parent


• Their decision for Josh to be the default parent


• Whether you're in Teen or Tween mode and what to do


• Parenting Frameworks


• What it means to be a good parent


• Rapid fire!

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Where to find Josh Herzig-Marx

- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/herzigma

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuaherzigmarx/

Where to find Carla Naumburg

- Carla's Website: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/

- Carla's Books: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: https://www.fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Threads: https://www.threads.net/@fishmanaf

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In this episode, we cover:

[2:10] Personal background

[4:36] How did you meet?

[6:54] Family/kids

[8:12] Kid’s transition stages/puberty

[11:46] Decision to start a family

[15:30] IVF

[19:04] Earliest memories of becoming a parent

[24:04] Work/life balance

[26:05] Privilege

[31:50] Being the default parent

[38:28] Teen vs. Tween mode

[39:18] Parenting frameworks

[48:20] What is a good parent/unconditional love

[52:52] Rapid fire round

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Show references:

You're Not a Sh*tty Parent: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/youre-not-a-shtty-parent/

How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/how-to-stop-losing-your-sht-with-your-kids/

Ready, Set, Breathe: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/ready-set-breathe/

All of Carla's Books: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

Matt Greenberg is a product and engineering executive and was most recently the CTO at Reforge. He was previously the VP of Engineering at Credit Karma. Matt is a husband and father of three boys and one dog. In this episode we discuss:

• Matt's father being his hero and the wisdom he gained from him


• The work required in raising three boys


• The decision to have a third kid


• What to do when you get a phone call that your kid has wandered off in the neighborhood


• An exciting home birth experience involving the fire department


• The exponential growth of love after having kids


• Parenting three kids and starting Reforge during the pandemic


• Having an autistic son and getting him diagnosed


• Assessments, IEPs, and other support for autistic kids

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Where to find Matt Greenberg

- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/matt_muffin

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mattgreenberg/

Where to find Adam Fishman

- Newsletter: https://www.fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Threads: https://www.threads.net/@fishmanaf

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:58] Matt's background

[3:53] Current life/Reforge/Engineering Leaders

[5:44] Matt's childhood

[7:03] Random funny parenting stories

[8:24] Matt's parents

[10:27] Advice from Matt's Dad

[12:44] Matt's partner and how they met

[14:00] All about Matt's kids

[14:26] Their decision to have kids

[17:37] Who is in charge of the dog

[19:16] Earliest memory of Fatherhood and a wild home birth experience

[24:15] His most surprising thing as a Dad

[27:24] Managing three kids during Covid with his partner

[31:24] Autism

[37:20] Advocacy/IEPs/supporting your Autistic child and parenting frameworks

[53:45] Where he's not always 100% aligned with his partner

[58:56] Rapid fire

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Show references:

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish - https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/0380811960/

The Birth Partner, by Penni Simkin - https://www.amazon.com/Birth-Partner-5th-Childbirth-Companions/dp/1558329102/

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/

Mike Duboe is a General Partner at Greylock, one of the most well-known venture firms in Silicon Valley. Prior to that he was a Growth leader at Stitch Fix through their IPO and Tilt which was acquired by AirBnB. He is a husband and the father of two kids. In this episode we discuss:

• Cultural influences from his grandparents and parents


• Getting into alignment on the right time to have kids


• Having your second kid 2 months into the pandemic!


• Building resiliency in your family


• The ongoing challenge of balancing with two working parents


• Creating constraints to prioritize your time


• How to make time for your spouse


• Being the social chair of your marriage


• What he'd do differently if they had a third kid

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Where to find Mike Duboe

- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/mduboe

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mikeduboe/

Where to find Adam Fishman:

- Newsletter: https://www.fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Threads: https://www.threads.net/@fishmanaf

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:50] Mike’s Background 

[7:54] Key Differences Between Growth and Venture

[11:15] Mike’s childhood and upbringing  

[14:46] Mike’s wife and kids

[16:58] Aligning on the time to start a family 

[19:36] His earliest fatherhood memories

[21:31] Most surprising part about being a dad 

[24:08] The ongoing challenge of balancing the lives of two working parents

[28:25] Frameworks for parenting 

[30:30] Disagreements on parenting philosophy 

[33:22] Having your second kid at the start of the pandemic

[35:38] Biggest mistakes made as a father 

[37:15] Rapid fire round

[41:41] Parting words

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Show references:

Bill Murray-Lost in translation: https://youtu.be/eNK7N3AwVFQ

Greylock: https://greylock.com/

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/