You can understand your anxiety and know where it comes from. And still feel anxious.

If you’ve ever thought “I get it… so why does this still feel so hard?”, this episode is for you.

I explore why insight alone isn’t enough to stop anxiety and why feeling anxious doesn’t always mean you’re stuck in familiar unhelpful patterns or that you’re failing. From a trauma-informed, nervous-system lens, I explain why your body can still react even when your mind knows you’re safe.

We’ll look at the difference between conscious understanding and body-based (implicit) memory, and how your nervous system responds to perceived threat rather than logic. 

This episode isn’t about using motivational  slogans or ‘just think positive’ advice - It’s about understanding anxiety with the compassion, curiosity, and context needed to work with your nervous system, not against it.

And to remind you that you’re not broken. Your body has been trying to keep you safe.

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January and New Year’s resolutions leave many women feeling like they’re failing -even when they’re trying their best.

In this trauma-informed episode, we explore why January so often triggers self-criticism, shame, and the sense that you’re “not consistent enough” or “not disciplined enough” - and why this isn’t a personal failing.

This isn’t a motivation or willpower problem. More often than not, it's a capacity issue.

We talk about how cultural ideas around productivity and self-improvement ignore emotional labour, people-pleasing, burnout, and the invisible ways many women are already holding everything together.

In this episode, we explore:

• why the 'New Year, New You' approach and the month of January amplifies shame and self-blame
• how people-pleasing and over-giving drain capacity
• things to consider when you deem yourself 'not consistent enough' 
• the difference between healthy consistency and survival-based rigidity
• why pushing harder doesn’t create safety or change
• questions to ask yourself when considering what you want to change
• and how to reconnect with yourself without pressure or reinvention

This episode is an invitation to move away from “What’s wrong with me?”
And towards a gentler, more honest question: What am I already carrying, who for - and at what cost?

If January leaves you feeling behind, frozen, not good enough or quietly exhausted, this episode is for you.

This episode is part of She Is Here™  -  a  podcast for women who worry that they're too much and yet not enough. Charlotte Bailey a trauma-informed psychotherapist  explores people-pleasing, trauma, conditioning, nervous-system safety, and combines, clinical expertise with relatable lived experience and spoken word poetry to help you remember and reconnect with who you were before you were taught to be less. So you can begin to feel safe being seen - just as you are. 

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I share what it’s really like to walk the well-worn path of people-pleasing - the one that promises peace, acceptance, and connection, but actually leaves you feeling lost and disconnected from yourself.

I talk about the hidden costs of always saying yes, the silent panic when you even think about saying no, and why it can feel like you don’t even know what you want anymore.

Most importantly, I explain why people-pleasing isn’t a fixed personality trait - it’s a nervous system survival response. You didn’t choose this path, but you can choose differently now. And even though stepping off it feels scary and uncertain, that anxiety isn’t a sign you’re doing something wrong - it’s a sign you’re heading off the path, to make a new one. One that will lead you back to yourself. 

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Past me would NEVER have done this.
This weekend I went to Creamfields on my own, volunteered with Blink Mental Health, gave therapy sessions in the middle of the thumping bass - and then did something that reminded me how liberating it is when you break free from people-pleasing.

When I was in my anxious, overthinking people-pleasing prime, I’d never have walked into a festival alone. I’d never have volunteered alongside a team I’d never met, doing something as unfamiliar as therapy in a bell tent. And yet, what struck me most this weekend was what didn’t happen: I didn’t spiral for days about what to wear. What to say. Whether people would think I was “too much” for asking questions. The fear of getting lost, looking stupid, or not fitting in. And afterwards, I didn’t replay every conversation, cringing at every word.

Instead of overthinking, I felt grounded. Present. Happy.
 And what I chose to do after my shift really hit me deep.

If you’ve ever held back because of what others might think, or felt like you’re “too much and not enough” all at once - this episode is your reminder that freedom is possible. In your own way, at your own pace.

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Have you noticed that so much content online sounds the same?
Lately, I’ve found myself scrolling and thinking, “this looks like AI wrote it.” And then the worry hits: what if people think the same about my content ?

In this episode, I’m talking honestly about:

• Why so much content feels repetitive or AI-generated
• The pressure to follow “scroll-friendly” formulas 
• My own fear that my writing might not be seen as authentic
• Why quirks, pauses, and imperfections are what make your voice truly stand out

If you’re a woman in business, a content creator, or just someone tired of content blending into one big blur let me know via Instagram or Youtube comments if you can relate!

#AuthenticContent #AIContent #WomenInBusiness

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A lot of people hadn’t realised I’m trained in Psychosexual Therapy and Sex and Porn ‘Addiction’ Counselling, and when I recently shared a post talking about my credentials, I was asked to do an episode on the subject of people-pleasing and sex.

And I’m really glad they asked, because it’s a topic that doesn’t get spoken about enough — and on reflection, I’m guilty of that too! Yet if you’re a people-pleaser and often say yes when you want to say no, struggle to express how you really feel or what you want, and strive to make everyone else happy — often at the expense of your own happiness — then of course people-pleasing is likely to show up when it comes to sex

In this episode, I chat about:

• The common ways people-pleasing shows up in your thoughts, feelings, body, and behaviour.
• Where sexual people-pleasing comes from and why it might continue to show up in the bedroom.

It’s my hope that this episode helps you feel less alone with any struggles or difficulties you have around this topic — and gives you hope that things don’t have to stay this way.

Look out for a second part to this episode in the near future, when I’ll be joined by a fellow psychosexual therapist to discuss more practical ways to address these difficulties, how to communicate your preferences, wants, and needs (and the things you don’t want!), and how to reconnect with your sexual self too.

I hope you find this helpful — let me know what you think over on Instagram.

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In this episode I reflect on 8 years ago, when I started my business, my private practice. At that time I had a Facebook Page... and no other way to market myself. I rarely shared the Facebook Page because - I told myself I was being 'professional' - I didn't want to 'push' my services on to people, because that would be unethical. 

Even as a self-aware therapist with 20+ years studying psychology it took me a while to notice that I was actually avoiding putting myself out there - it wasn't really about professionalism at all, it was actually about protection. 

I'm sharing this with you alongside some ways avoidance can masquerade and thoughts to look out for - so you can spot when you might be avoiding visibility at and start noticing with curiosity not criticism, what might really be behind that avoidance and how to start taking manageable steps forward. 

If you're a woman in business and this episode resonates I would love for you to join me and the other speakers at the amazing Reignite & Rise retreat taking place in the UK on 7 October 2025 at Carden Park Hotel Cheshire - I'll be delivering my talk/workshop 'Reignite From Within: Rise With Visibility That Feels Like You'. You'll discover what's really holding you back, reconnect with the 'why' behind what you do, identify what you can do to start moving forward with confidence and rise with visibility that feels like you. I'd love to see you there! More info here  

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What is people-pleasing? 

and why do so many of us not realise we’re doing it? 

In this episode I talk about what people-pleasing really looks like - from the outside and the inside. Because I never used to call it people-pleasing either. I just thought I was being “nice,” “easy,” “helpful.” But behind that laid-back, dependable exterior? I was anxious, overthinking, and quietly abandoning myself every single day.

I cover:

• Why people-pleasing isn’t the same as being kind
• The subtle, everyday ways it people-pleasing in plain sight
• The internalised rules that keep us stuck in people-pleasing and guilt.
• Where people-pleasing comes from
• And why it can be so hard to stop people-pleasing, even when we want to change

This is the episode I probably should’ve made sooner. Whether you’re just beginning to notice your patterns, or deep in the work of unlearning them, I hope this offers the clarity, compassion, and language you’ve been looking for.

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In this episode, I’m covering a question I've been asked on Instagram a few times now: “How do I know if my child is a people-pleaser and what can I do to help?”

To do this episode justice, I’ve invited the brilliant Becky—an Anxiety Coach for Teenagers and fellow recovering people-pleaser—to join me in exploring this important topic. Becky talks about the work she does, what people-pleasing can look like in teens, and the early warning signs for you to look out for. 

Becky shares practical, compassionate strategies for helping teens break free from self-sacrifice and begin to build confidence, self-trust, and important emotional boundaries. Whether you're a parent, therapist, or educator, this episode offers hope, clarity, and tools to support the young people in your life.

For more info about Becky and to access her FREE resources head to her website https://www.thebeckyfunk.com/ and check out her Instagram 

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Have you ever read something online that didn't sit right with you? 

Maybe you noticed your heart race and the real pull to say something -  but after re-reading your response so many times, worrying it doesn't sound 'right' ... it just felt easier not to post it, to stay silent.

Or maybe it didn't even cross your mind to respond - it didn't feel like speaking up was an option you were allowed to choose. 

In this episode, I share a real-life moment where I didn't agree with someone and I did speak up —and how that reflects a significant shift from people-pleasing, overthinking, and fear of being seen as “too much.”

In this episode I explore:

• The inner tug-of-war between keeping the peace and speaking your truth
• Why self-expression can feel so risky—especially for women in business and people-pleasers
• How therapy and nervous system safety helped me find my voice and how you can too.

If you’ve ever felt stuck between staying quiet or speaking up, this one's for you.

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There are so many layers to people-pleasing and when you become a Mum it can bring up so much for you! In this episode I've got Erin joining me - a somatic therapist from Baltimore who also works with people-pleasers, whilst we've followed each other on Instagram for a while, this is the first time we have 'met' and chatted. 

This honest conversation covers different ways people-pleasing shows up in postpartum - drawing from our lived experience and professional experience.

We chat about; how it can reactivate fawning and over-functioning or intensify existing people-pleasing tendencies, what becoming a Mum can bring up for us about our own childhood, how being a mum can help heal our inner child, the impact of the pressure to be the perfect mother, why making mistakes and ruptures in relationships can be a good thing and lots more. 

I hope you find it helpful. To find out more about Erin head to her website and check out her Instagram for fun, relatable and informative content 

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In this episode, I talk you through how to recognise when imposter syndrome is showing up in your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours.

I highlight the common signs that you’re caught in the imposter spiral (like over-preparing, avoidance, or constantly doubting yourself), and I guide you through how to challenge the thoughts that tell you you're a fraud or not good enough — without forcing false positivity.

You’ll also learn how to notice the protective behaviours that are keeping the cycle going, and how to start making small, manageable shifts that help you show up from a place of self-trust instead of fear.

If you’re a woman in business who struggles with showing up on camera without the cringe - you can download your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - to help you show up on video with confidence 

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A few spoken words for Mums at Christmas.  

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Feeling out of your depth doesn’t mean you are. I'm talking about that all-too-familiar feeling of being out of your depth - even when you know logically you’re experienced and credible.

If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing your abilities when stepping into something less familiar - be it launching a programme, showing up online, or taking a brave next step in your business - this one’s for you.

I cover what these feelings are signs of - and usually it's not  that you're failing or incapable. 

I'll explore why growth can feel like danger, even though you know rationally you're safe to try new things and put yourself out there. 

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If you often find yourself saying 'yes' when you want to say no - despite 'knowing' it's ok to say no and to set healthy boundaries, then this episode will help you understand why it feels so difficult. Because despite the advice out there to 'just let them' 'let them be upset with you.. ' 'just say no' it's not as simple as that is it!? If it was we'd all be honouring our needs without feeling guilty and anxious about it! 

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This episode is for the girl you used to be - the one who learned to be agreeable, quiet, and easy so she could stay accepted and feel safe. The one who was called “shy” but was actually scanning the room. The one who hid her bigness to avoid being “too much.”
If you became what others needed, but lost touch with who you really are, this is your invitation to gently unmask. You were never too much or not enough. You were adapting. And now, you get to return to the version of you that was never broken - just hidden. 

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In today’s episode, I’m sharing a really personal moment that completely caught me off guard - and shifted something deep within me.

Despite all the therapy, training, and self-awareness I’ve built over the years… it took one conversation with someone else to help me see a belief I’d been carrying for decades. A belief I didn’t even realise was still quietly shaping how I saw myself.

This episode is for you if you know yourself — you’ve done the work, you understand your patterns — and yet you still find yourself stuck in the same cycles:
people-pleasing, overthinking, avoidance, guilt.

We’ll explore why awareness isn’t always enough, how old stories can still run the show without us realising, and what it actually takes to start shifting the patterns that keep you stuck — even if you think you’dve already worked through them.

Want to uncover why it's so hard to make those changes you've been wanting to make? DM me on Instagram about how to get started or check out an UNLOCK Clarity session. 

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You might be making more progress than you think.

I’m talking about the shifts we often overlook - the subtle signs that show you’re breaking old patterns and building something new, even if the big transformation hasn’t happened yet.

If you’re someone who tends to downplay your growth or only looks for the dramatic changes, this is your reminder to slow down and notice the evidence that you are changing.

You're doing better than you think. Keep going.

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You’ve learnt the marketing strategies. You know what to do.

Rationally you know you'd be encouraging your friend to go for it - that she should shout about her achievements, that she deserves to.

So why are you still cringing when it’s time to show up?

Why do you feel so uncomfortable about putting yourself out there?

In this episode, I’m talking about the real reason visibility feels so hard — especially for women in business with people-pleasing patterns, masking habits, difficult past experiences or self-doubt

I cover why visibility isn’t just a strategy problem, but a safety problem…
…and why until you feel safe to be seen, no tactic will truly stick.

If you’re tired of hiding — but terrified to be visible — this one’s for you. 

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When Vicki hit burnout as a primary school teacher, she realised she had lost her sense of self. In this honest chat, she shares how years of people-pleasing led to a breakdown that ultimately became a turning point.

We explore identity loss, good girl conditioning, self-worth struggles, and how personal growth helped her reconnect with her true self. If you’ve ever felt like you were "too much" or not enough, this one’s for you. Vicki’s story is a powerful reminder that it’s never too late to choose yourself and start living life on your own terms. Find out more about Vicki and Tutors Who Thrive on Instagram 

ATTENTION - THERAPISTS & COUNSELLORS, if you know you need to promote your practice but you struggle to show up on video without the cringe - maybe it takes you half an hour to record a suitable 15 second story or you feel like you freeze as soon as you hit record then check out this FREE online Summit or head to my Insta for more info - Last year I purchased a VIP ticket and it changed everything for my practice and now this year I'm speaking all about Video Confidence for Therapists - how to show up without the cringe (alongside 25+ speakers covering various topics related to private practice)

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In today’s episode, I’m joined by a very special guest — mindset and personal stylist and founder of The Success Stylist Co, Emma — for a real and relatable conversation about confidence, self-expression, and breaking free from old patterns.

So many women describe confidence as feeling out of reach, like something you're either born with or not. But as you'll hear today, confidence is something that can be learned - even if you grew up with limiting beliefs, people-pleasing patterns, and the pressure to fit a mould.

Emma shares her own journey from self-doubt to self-trust. We explore the ways childhood conditioning can linger into adulthood, how fear of judgment can cause you to shrink, the reason it's so important to notice and address your mindset when it comes to promoting and being visible for your business and how reconnecting with your personal style can be a powerful tool for healing and self-confidence.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in self-doubt, struggled to express your true self, or longed to feel more confident showing up in your business (and your life), this conversation is for you.

Connect with Emma on Instagram
 https://www.instagram.com/thesuccessstylingco/

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I’m joined by Victoria Haydn, a brilliant brand photographer who works with women to capture them in a way that feels truly authentic and empowering. 

I wanted to chat to Victoria because so much of what I cover on the podcast is about stepping into who you really are, letting go of people-pleasing, and embracing your worth—and having photos taken can bring up so many fears and insecurities that reflect limiting beliefs holding you back from living life on your terms.

Throughout this episode Victoria shares common struggles people-pleasers have when it comes to having their photos taken and tips and tricks she uses to help ease anxiety and self-consciousness.

I hope you enjoy this episode! If you want to find out more about Victoria you can find her on Instagram  & check out her website https://www.victoriahaydn.com/ 

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You pride yourself on being kind — but is it really kindness, or something else in disguise?

In this episode, I’m talking about the subtle but powerful difference between genuine kindness and people-pleasing. Because while kindness comes from empathy and choice, people-pleasing is often driven by fear, guilt, or a need for approval — and over time, it can quietly lead to burnout, resentment, and losing touch with who you really are.

I’ll walk you through the five types of people-pleasers — from the burnout pleaser to the chameleon — and share practical, down-to-earth strategies to help you tune into why you're saying yes, and what it’s costing you.

If this hits home and you're ready to get clear on what’s really behind your people-pleasing, head to my website and book in for a 90-minute Unlock Clarity session. Let’s make sense of it together.

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This opening episode of She Is Here™, marks the beginning of a new chapter - not a reinvention from Let's talk People-Pleasing , but a continuation of a remembering.

People-pleasing was never your personality. It was a nervous-system response. A clever adaptation to environments where it felt safer to be less — less loud, less emotional, less honest, less visible.

This new series introduces depth and poetry so you can feel what lives beneath people-pleasing: safety, identity, self-belonging, and the parts of you that learned when to soften, appease, or disappear to maintain connection.

You’ll hear why understanding your past doesn’t always make your body feel safe in the present  and why that doesn’t mean you’re failing at healing. Sometimes anxiety isn’t pathology. It’s information.

She Is Here™ is not about forcing authenticity, pushing through fear, or becoming a “better” version of yourself. It’s about discernment. Choice. And learning to reconnect with the little girl inside you who was taught she had to be less to be accepted.

This space is trauma-informed, nervous-system aware, and grounded in compassion - with psychology, lived experience, and spoken word woven throughout.

You were never too much.
You were taught to be less.

She isn’t gone. She never was. 

She is here.

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If you’re an Overcommitter, you probably find yourself automatically saying “yes”, often without even thinking. You’re seen as the 'dependable one', the 'strong one' always available to help. But you end up juggling far too much — running around, squeezing everything in, and quietly carrying the pressure because you don’t want to let anyone down.

The difficult part is, even with the best intentions, this pattern can lead you straight into overwhelm. You might feel frazzled, stretched too thin, double-booked, or so burnt out that you end up having to cancel at the last minute — leaving you feeling guilty, frustrated, and stuck in the same cycle again.

In this episode, I’ll share how to recognise if you're People-Pleaser personality is The Overcommiter and how you can begin to break out of this pattern. I hope this encourages you to consider the powerful shift of including yourself in the equation —thinking not just ‘How can I help you?’, but also ‘What about me too?’ when you’re deciding how much you can realistically commit to.

p.s. yes, if you listen carefully that is Max snoring in the background! 

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Do you get' what you need to do - you've read the self-help books and listened to the podcasts but you just don't feel able to implement the advice?

In today’s episode, I’m sharing my view of Mel Robbins’ “Let Them Theory” - the idea that we aren’t responsible for managing other people’s emotions or choices. While this sounds liberating, for those with trauma histories, ADHD, rejection sensitivity, or deeply ingrained people-pleasing patterns, it’s rarely as simple as “just let them.” 

I talk about why letting go of responsibility can feel unsafe and cover practical steps to begin gently shifting this pattern. If you've ever struggled to step back without guilt or anxiety - this one’s for you

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Did you know that people-pleasing isn't just doing things for others, it runs much deeper than that. If you're curious about your own People-Pleasing Personality - take my free quiz and discover more about how people-leasing is showing up for you... and what to do about it click here 

In this episode me and Hannah are chatting all about our experiences with being Social Chameleons - the type of people-pleasing where you shape-shift your personality to match the person or people you're with. 

You might find yourself nodding along to things that you don't agree with or pretending to love the Netflix show everyone raves on about.. just so you fit in.

Find out more about Hannah on Instagram or visit her website 

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In this episode, Nicola joins me to share her personal journey from over-giving and over-doing in relationships to recognising her worth was beyond what she gave and achieved and provides insights on how to start receiving as much as you give.

We talk about how people-pleasing tendencies often stem from deep-seated beliefs about worthiness and explore practical steps toward healing and self-acceptance.  

I hope you find this conversation full of realisations and strategies that will empower you to stop the cycle of burnout and start living as your authentic self.

To find out more about Nicola you can follow her over on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/theselfworththerapist

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Do you feel like you've been following all the 'right' steps in life - being the good girl, ticking off the achievements, doing what’s expected - only to realise something still feels off?

In this episode, I chat to fellow therapist Natasha about her personal journey of realising she wasn’t showing up as her true self, the wake-up call that led her to embrace her authenticity, and how living life in line with her own values changed her confidence, career, and daily life.

Natasha shared the powerful reminder that "You were born an original - don’t die a copy."

Find out more about Natasha https://www.natashapsychotherapy.com/

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In this episode, Matt Hassan (@veggie_gardener_matt) shares his story of breaking free from people-pleasing and approval seeking tendencies to that of embracing life on his own terms. 

You'll find lots of relatable examples of how people-pleasing can show up - in often subtle ways - and how freeing it feels to no longer be in it's grip. 

Matt shares examples of what helps him practice living life for himself and I'm sure you'll find this episode really helpful. Keep listening to the end where he hits me with an unexpected question! 

Would love to know what you think - feel free to DM me on instagram. 

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Have you ever felt like you had no choice but to say yes? Like you had to go along with something, even when every part of you really didn’t want to?  You might just think, "I have to do this," or, "There’s no way I can say no."  Or it might not even be a conscious thought and you just automatically do the thing not realising that you had more than one choice. For people-pleasers, this feeling can be so ingrained, it doesn’t even register as something you could question.

Whether it’s work, relationships, or everyday decisions, you might find yourself trapped in patterns of obligation - feeling like you have to go along with things, even when they don’t serve you.

 In this episode I talk about where these beliefs and feelings come from, how they show up in our adult lives, and - most importantly - what you can do in those moments when you feel trapped or like you don’t have a choice.

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In this episode, I speak to Eve Cale, a busy mum, wife, and business owner (@giftwrappedbyeve), about the vital importance of setting boundaries in everyday life. Eve shares her experience of realising she was spreading herself too thin and how she began to say 'no' to break free from a cycle of overcommitment, embracing the power of healthy boundaries.

Whether you’re struggling with people-pleasing, overwhelmed by responsibilities, or finding it hard to say no, this conversation offers practical tips and real-life insights into reclaiming your time, energy, and peace of mind.

If you’re ready to prioritise yourself, tune in for a relatable, down-to-earth conversation and actionable advice on how to start setting boundaries today – and how making that shift can help you create the work-life balance you’ve been craving.

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Different to the usual episodes - this is for all you if you often find yourself flipping between feeling like you are 'too much' and 'not enough'. I'm sharing with you an audio from an ad-libbed reel I posted to Instagram. These words come straight from the heart. If this resonates please share for others or head to my Instagram @charlotte_bailey_therapies to watch the reel and let me know if the words hit home for you. Please know you're not alone and a lot of the women I work with feel this way - but things can be different. My approach is designed to get to the root of those feelings and do something about it, so you can feel the difference and know that you've always been enough, just as you are. 

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2024 has been a year of transformation, personally, professionally, and authentically. Tune in for inspiration, honest reflections, and invites to reflect on your own growth and set meaningful intentions for the year ahead.

In this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes to reflect on the highlights of the past year: from relaunching my business and building my own website to stepping out of my comfort zone with social media, press features, and collaborations. Overcoming the comparison trap,  and embracing authenticity in ways that past me never thought possible.
I'm asking you to take some time to consider what you've achieved and how people-pleasing might have held you back in 2024? And importantly, what you want 2025 to look like for you. 

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Have you ever told yourself you’re fine, only to find your body proving otherwise?
 In this short, honest episode, I reflect on how ignoring my own body’s signals turned a simple cough into a chest infection… and what it reminded me about pausing, listening, and letting the body lead - something a lot of us can struggle to do!

I talk about my NHS and people-pleasing days when having time off made me feel guilty and anxious and like I was a failure.

This episode invites you to consider how often you listen to what your body is saying and talks about the importance of tuning in to discover what it might have to say.

A recent visualisation session with my own coach Audrey https://www.instagram.com/audrey_thesocialcoach recently opened me up to another level of connection with the purpose and meaning behind the work I do (something  analytical, logical only past  me would have rolled her eyes at 🤣) 

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Ever thought, “My problems aren’t bad enough for therapy,” or perhaps you know you could do with some help but aren't sure what you would actually want therapy for. Maybe deep down you know you want to stop people-pleasing but worried about becoming mean or selfish? You’re not alone. In this episode I talk about some of the common myths that stop you from accessing therapy, why these might be keeping you stuck and some of the ways therapy can help you step into your authentic self, create a life you love, and feel free from old patterns holding you back. 

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In this episode, I’m sharing 12 practical ways to begin tackling people-pleasing habits. As I describe some relatively simple but powerful ideas, I'll talk about the importance of learning how to observe your habits with curiosity - paying attention to when people-pleasing shows up, why certain situations feel harder, and how small shifts can create big change over time.

This isn’t about flipping a switch and turning people-pleasing off; it’s about gathering insight, trying different things and taking steps towards change.

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If you’ve ever found yourself saying yes to things at work when you really want to say no, avoiding conflict at all costs, or struggling to set boundaries, then this episode is for you. I explore how people-pleasing might be holding you back in your career, even in ways you might not expect, and what you can start doing about it today

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My first guest on the podcast! Sheena joins me to talk about her work with people living with long term health conditions and chronic pain, the importance of learning to set boundaries, communicating your needs and finding balance -  for your emotional AND physical health! This is a must listen for anyone regardless of whether you have a health condition or not, the mind and body is so connected and it's really important to be aware of just how much people-pleasing can impact us and our quality of life. 

You can find out about how Sheena works and supports  people on her website www.sheenarydingstherapy.co.uk if you sign up to her newsletter you can download 'what is chronic pain' and also 'top tips to get started in managing pain', She is on Instagram @the_pain_therapist and you can subscribe to her substack which is Sheena Rydings the pain therapist, where you can get free resources and blog posts. 

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In this episode, I talk about parentification - when you were made to take on adult responsibilities as a child and how that can shape your beliefs, boundaries, and relationships as an adult and people-pleasing behaviours. I talk about practical steps to help you start breaking free from these patterns, like challenging unhelpful beliefs, tuning into your own needs, and acknowledging the impact of being a parentified child. I touch on inner child work and how therapy can help you let go of feeling responsible for everyone else.

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Have you ever caught yourself downplaying your achievements? In this episode, I’m sharing a recent moment where I noticed myself minimising my success and how it’s a sneaky habit rooted in good girl conditioning. I explore why so many women feel the need to shrink themselves, the subtle ways it shows up in our lives, and how to start breaking free from it. If you’ve ever deflected praise or felt uncomfortable owning your wins, this one’s for you. Let’s learn to take up space unapologetically!

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The festive season can feel overwhelming, especially when you're pulled in all directions, trying to please everyone and make everything perfect. In this episode, I talk about signs you're going into people-pleasing mode this Christmas and explore how to set boundaries. From managing family expectations to prioritising your well-being, I’ll share practical tips to help you navigate the stress and avoid burnout. I hope this episode is helpful in encouraging you to consider 'you' when it comes to planning Christmas. 

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If you’re working on yourself, making progress with your psychological insights and new perspectives, you may have come across times where certain people in your life just aren’t on board or on the same path.
In today’s episode, I’m talking about what it feels like to grow, and become more self-aware while some people remain in the same patterns of thinking and seeing the world and relationships stay stuck, or even start to shift. I talk about why this can be so painful, how it stirs up emotions, and ways to handle it, while trying to accept some people aren't able or ready, to be authentic or support you in your journey.

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Does your partner do things that make you feel uncomfortable, but it feels easier to ignore it and pretend you’re OK with it? Perhaps you don’t want to come across as a nag or seem insecure, or maybe that’s exactly what you’ve been told when you’ve tried to express how you feel! In this episode, I explore why people-pleasers often suppress their true feelings and ignore their own boundaries in romantic relationships, the emotional cost and how you can start respecting and embracing your needs.

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Have you noticed 'sorry' is often an automatic response?
Are you sick of of saying ‘sorry’ for things that aren’t your fault? In this episode I talk about the habit of over-apologising – where it comes from, why it’s so common in people-pleasers, and some practical tips to help you break free from it. 

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I wanted to sit down and share honestly where my head and heart are at as I reflect on where this podcast and my message are heading. 

I've noticed that when I started the podcast I was - sometimes unconsciously -following marketing type “rules” of what I should and shouldn’t cover, how much I should or shouldn't post etc. but I’ve realised those rules don’t always honour the depth of my work - or who I truly am.

In this episode I acknowledge my recent reflections and confirm this isn't about a rebrand - it's about remembering and a return -  is about returning to my why — the part of me that began this work in the first place. 

I talk about the difference between rebranding and remembering, why it’s time to stop softening our truth to fit expectations, and how I’m reshaping this podcast to reflect the depth, emotion, and honesty I want to bring to every episode. 

This isn’t just my podcast - it’s ours.
 For you, for me, and for the little girl inside each of us who deserves to know:
 She’s safe to be seen.
 Safe to rest.
 Safe to take up space again.
 She is here.

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I talk about how constantly trying to please others can take it's toll on your mental and physical health. Feeling the pressure to meet everyone’s expectations can lead to stress, anxiety, and even burnout, making boundary-setting even more important. I share practical tips for breaking free from the cycle of people-pleasing and prioritising your own well-being. 

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In this episode, I'm reflecting on my recent experience of being a guest on a podcast for the first time and how imposter syndrome and anxiety showed up. If you ever struggle with feelings of not being good enough, please know you're not alone! I talk you through techniques you can use to help you shift your mindset, reframe negative thoughts, and stop self-doubt controlling what you do or don't do. 

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This episode explores the link between ADHD, trauma, and people-pleasing, and how these patterns can stop you from living authentically. I discuss how being told you are 'too much' has a lasting impact on you and can lead to masking, approval-seeking, and shrinking your true self to be accepted and feel like you fit in.  I share insights on recognising these patterns and practical steps to break-fee to embrace your authentic self. 

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If the thought of confrontation makes you feel sick, perhaps your body shakes and your brain feels scrambled when it comes to trying to articulate yourself, this one's for you. I explore the very common fear of confrontation - the why behind it and the what to do about it.  If this resonates with you please reach out on instagram and let me know, I'd love to hear from you. 

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