Explorez tous les épisodes du podcast Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective
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| SWM 146 – Legalistic vs Loving Approach to Marriage – Shifting from Rules to Relationship | 24 Jan 2025 | 00:12:32 | |
SWM 146 - Legalistic vs Loving Approach to Marriage - Shifting from Rules to Relationship. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. In my work as a marriage coach, I often see couples transition from one type of marriage to another. There’s no clear line between these states, no set of rules that definitively places someone in one category or the other. Yet, by observing how they handle conflict, express themselves, and interact in small ways, you can often tell which state their marriage is in. A big part of my job as a coach is helping people shift from one type of marriage to another as most issues in marriage are resolved by doing so. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, please rate it as it helps others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 145 – AQ – Handjobs, sex on a full stomach, routines, sex tapes and more | 05 Jan 2025 | 00:15:22 | |
Oct, Nov, Dec 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 144 – Why wives have a complicated relationship with sex and what to do about it | 15 Nov 2024 | 00:20:10 | |
SWM 144 - Why wives have a complicated relationship with sex and what to do about it. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. One of our supporters posted a question in our forum which led to a bit of a discussion on what men perceive as sexy, and it shook the questioner a bit, because it was radically different from what she had been led to believe her whole life. This led into a larger discussion about why women tend to have more hangups about sex than men do. I shared my thoughts in the forum in a bit of a rant and then realized that I don’t know if I’ve really tackled this a whole lot on the blog and podcast. If I have, it’s been a few years, so it’s time for a refresher for the new people. So, I’m going to try and make it a little less ranty and a little more coherent and see if maybe I can teach some other wives and women out there a bit about what many men think regarding sex in the hopes that it might help some marriages, present or future.
Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, please rate it as it helps others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 143 – Redefining sex – How to have a thriving sex life despite sexual dysfunction | 18 Oct 2024 | 00:09:51 | |
| SWM 142 – AQ – September 2024 – Exhibitionism, no sex in 4 months, rough sex and more | 11 Oct 2024 | 00:16:58 | |
August 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 141 – AQ August 2024 – Transactional sex, no sex due to birth, lube recommendations and more | 04 Oct 2024 | ||
Agust 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 140 – AQ – July 2024 – A wife can’t decide if she loves him, someone calls me a Pharisee, positions, outdoor sex and more | 21 Sep 2024 | ||
July 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 139 – Why won’t my spouse do x – I would do it for them | 17 Sep 2024 | 00:18:28 | |
SWM 139 - Why won't my spouse do x? I would do it for them. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. Recently, I’ve noticed a question popping up all over the place. It’s come up in our supporter forum, coaching sessions, emails, comments in our latest survey, and more. This question points to a fundamental tension in many marriages - at the root of it is a self-centric desire. The desire for our spouse to serve our own needs and expectations. Whether it's about sex or more subtle emotional needs, this recurring question often revolves around a common theme: a wish for partners to be more like ourselves. For men, this question frequently focuses on sexual matters. Some men wonder why their spouses don’t engage in sex as often as they would like or why they don’t fulfill certain specific desires. On the other hand, when women voice similar concerns, the issues are often more nuanced. Many women express frustration with their partner's inability to intuitively understand their needs without explicit communication. And, of course, in some marriages, those dynamics are reversed. Both scenarios boil down to a deeper, more universal issue: the tendency to project our own needs and expectations onto our spouses, often without fully considering their unique perspectives and experiences. In this post, we’ll delve into why this tendency is problematic and how understanding our partner’s individual differences can relieve this frustration.
Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, please rate it as it helps others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| BDSM Survey Results | 04 Sep 2024 | 00:29:23 | |
SWM 138 - BDSM Survey Results. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. During July and a bit of August, we ran a survey about people’s BDSM experiences. Depending on who you ask, it was either extensive or just dipping our toes into the topic. In the end, we received over 1,000 complete responses from a wide range of couples, some for whom BDSM is part of their daily life, others who were engaging in BDSM activities didn’t think what they were doing qualified, others who wished they were doing such things but didn’t know how to start, and those who thought it was disgusting that I even considered asking questions about such a topic. or the last three weeks, I’ve spent evenings and weekends digging through the data, coding it, doing pivot tables, building charts, running correlation formulas, and more, trying to get what I can out of it. It’s aptly called data mining because often it feels like sifting through a lot of rocks and dirt just to try and find a nugget of something valuable contained. Today, I’m going to share what I found.
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| SWM 137 – Why we don’t spank our children | 02 Aug 2024 | 00:17:56 | |
SWM 137 - Why we don't spank our children. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. Last week, Gary Thomas posted an article on his substack on the topic of discipline vs. punishment—not taking a stance but rather offering it up as a controversial conversation starter. Reading it made me curious about something—does your view of hell change your parenting approach? After all, if God is our example, and you believe that hell is eternal punishment, does that then lend to a more heavy-handed approach to parenting versus someone who believes that hell is an act of mercy? I posted that question in our forum, and it then led to a discussion on using physical punishment on children. I spent a fair bit of time in the last week or two writing on that thread, and so I thought I’d repurpose it here for those who might be curious about how we raised our children. We, Christina and I, don’t believe hell is eternal torture. We don’t believe such a view is in keeping with the Bible. We grew up in a denomination that taught it was, and it was one of the reasons we left because the doctrine couldn’t stand up to either biblical scrutiny or logic as we saw it. If you want to know why and/or argue that stance, I fully welcome you to read the post What happens when you die? That’s not the point of this post. The point of this post is to share why we don’t spank our children, and now that my children are growing up into adults, what the outcome of such a choice has been. Links mentioned in this episode:
Don't forget to participate in our BDSM survey - whether you engage in that sort of behaviour or not. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, please rate it as it helps others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 136 – AQ – Wife is mean to kids, another can’t decide if she loves him, and careful who you let teach | 27 Jul 2024 | 00:09:30 | |
June 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 135 – It’s good to try new things | 19 Jul 2024 | 00:16:43 | |
SWM 135 - It's good to try new things. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. Most kids, when growing up, enter a picky stage at some point. Some when they’re toddlers, some when they’re young children, some when they become teenagers. When our 3rd or 4th kid entered this phase, everyone knew the response when they didn’t want to eat something new that we’d made. “It’s good to try new things.” They didn’t have to eat it all but had to try it—a decent try, not a touch to the tongue followed by an exaggerated exclamation of disgust. Teaching children to at least give something new a fair shot, I think, has applications later on in life as well. I often talk to husbands and wives whose spouses simply will not try anything new in the bedroom. One will bring up an idea, and it’s immediately shot down by the “picky” spouse—the one who is perfectly happy with the flavour of vanilla every night. Today, I want to talk about why I think it’s good to try new things - not only when it comes to food, but also in the bedroom - or outside of the bedroom, depending on how much privacy you have. We’re going to talk about the interplay between dopamine, controlled risk-taking, adventure and trust in marriages as it pertains to sex and more. Don't forget to participate in our BDSM survey - whether you engage in that sort of behaviour or not. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, please rate it as it helps others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 134 – AQ – Piercings, how not to start a fight, nude photos, nude beaches and more | 12 Jul 2024 | 00:34:34 | |
May 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 133 – Loving your spouse where they are | 31 May 2024 | 00:10:27 | |
SWM 133 - Loving your spouse where they are. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. I often give beginner homework to my coaching clients. A few of them will likely read this and think, “He was talking about me.” You’re not wrong, but you’re also not alone. I give it out frequently because it helps combat some fundamental problems I see in many marriages: resentment, unmet expectations, and continued disappointment. Whatever caused the resentment doesn’t matter. If you want to improve the marriage, you must get rid of that attitude first. Resentment leads to contempt, and once you hit that point, the marriage is on life support, and it becomes challenging to resurrect. Some come to coaching and realize that they have this issue. They recognize that resentment is an attitude, and attitudes can be changed. They know they can fix it; they just don’t know how or need some support, some accountability, or encouragement to keep up the hard work of changing that mindset. And it is hard work. Reversing that mindset takes time, effort, and consistently following the plan we co-create. There are ups and downs, backslides, and sidetracks. But if they put in the work, then it does happen. Then the fun begins because now we can make some real progress. Others come to coaching convinced their spouse is the issue and work hard to rationalize and justify their attitude toward them. They want me to change their spouse so that they can be happy. Sometimes, they have one foot out the door already, and this is the last-ditch effort to “save the marriage,” by which they mean that if I don’t fix their spouse, they will divorce them. Whatever type they are, they get the same homework. It’s not only the first step to reversing the mindset but also a test to see if they’re coachable. Listen to find out what the homework is. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, please rate it as it helps others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 132 – Breast implants and body image issues | 25 May 2024 | 00:09:59 | |
SWM 132 - Breast implants and body image issues. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. This episode I'm answer a question I received back in February that I forgot to answer. Here's the question: Hi! To start, I just wanted to say thank you so much for what you do! Your podcast has been immensely eye-opening and helpful! Now, to my question. I am in my 30s, and my husband and I have been together for 15 years. There was porn use by my husband that nearly tore us apart, but after therapy, support groups and endless prayer, I am so thankful to say we are stronger than ever, and he has been porn free for over a year now. It has made a profound difference in our sex life, we feel more connected than ever. That being said, internally, I am still struggling with body image issues. It is not all-consuming but it’s enough to bring me to this point. I have been considering breast augmentation for years now but kept putting it on the back burner due to pregnancy and breastfeeding (we have 3 children). I thought I was completely over the idea and just decided to fully accept my body as is until the porn addiction reared its ugly head. As I said, we are past that, and he has made amazing changes for himself and us, but knowing what he watched and the women he chose to view online has made the idea of breast augmentation appealing again. I am not happy with what 6 years of breastfeeding has left me with. My husband says he loves my body the way it is, but I know I would love it MORE if I got the breast augmentation, and undoubtedly, I know he would too, even if he won’t admit it so as not to hurt my feelings. My question is, do you think seeking a breast augmentation for selfish reasons would be sinful? Would God find that to be an abomination of sorts, a sinful act based on my lack of love towards my body? I know I would feel so much more confident. I truly would. And that would enhance our sex life due to my confidence alone. So, would it be a bad thing to do? I have flip-flopped on this for months now. Some days, I am certain it’s a sinful thing to desire and do, and other days, I’m certain that it does not fall in the category of actual sin. An outside perspective would be so helpful, and I’d appreciate it immensely. I know I need to love the body I have, and I do. It’s the slight pains of the past and the desire to feel confident that entices me. Knowing there are verses in the Bible directly telling the man to love his woman’s beautiful breasts makes my heart drop because mine are anything but beautiful. They are used, tired, and barely there after years of sacrificing my body for our children. So, would making them more appealing really be a bad thing? Or would it be no different than purchasing a new sex toy and having fun in the bedroom as husband and wife? Thank you for your time. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, please rate it as it helps others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 131 – Tips to fight more effectively | 18 May 2024 | 00:08:56 | |
SWM 131 - Tips to fight more effectively in your marriage. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. Last week, I shared a list of ideas our Couple’s Night group had that helped build a resilient marriage. At the end of the call, we still had some time and started discussing fighting more effectively. Again, the group came up with some excellent ideas I want to share today. Because fights will happen, I might even say they should happen. When I come across a couple that doesn’t fight in any way - that’s a red flag. It means one or both don’t feel safe in the marriage. They aren’t able to express their views and opinions. Because if you put two people together for long enough, they will eventually find something to disagree about. Ideally, a fight won’t involve yelling, screaming, hitting, throwing, or anything else like that, but it’s okay to quarrel. So, today, we will discuss how to fight more effectively in your marriage so that your arguments can be a source of growth instead of damage. For more posts about dealing with conflict effectively check out:
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| SWM 130 – Building resiliency in marriage | 10 May 2024 | 00:09:51 | |
SWM 130 - Building Resiliency in Marriage. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. On the first Tuesday of every month, Chris from TheLionWithin.us and I co-host "Couple's Night." Couples from our communities get together to talk about marriage. We discuss struggles, share ideas, tips, and a lot of funny stories. It's an absolute blast This Tuesday, we got together and talked about resiliency in marriage. There were about six couples in the Zoom call, and I thought they all had a lot of wisdom to share, so I tried to quickly take some notes and thought I'd relay them to you. Because marriages need resiliency, we're going to face struggles. They might be external, like events happening with your job, your family, your friends, and more. They might be internal, such as the type of struggles two individuals face when you put them together for long periods of time for years on end. Challenges are normal, but we need to learn how to face them and not only survive them but, ideally, thrive and grow through them. So, here are the six things our small group came up with. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 129 – AQ – Swingers, chastity devices, sex headaches, uncomfortable conversations, flavoured lubes and more | 03 May 2024 | 00:15:46 | |
April 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 128 – Relationships require recalibration | 28 Apr 2024 | 00:13:34 | |
SWM 128 - Marriages require recalibration. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. There’s an old quip about how men get married expecting their wives to stay the same, and women get married expecting to be able to change their men, and neither gets what they want. It’s funny because often, there’s an element of truth to this, which frustrates both spouses. Of course, it doesn’t apply to every marriage, and sometimes the dynamic is reversed, but what is expected of every marriage is that something in the marriage will change. It may be the wife, it may be the husband, it’s likely going to be both in some ways, and it’s also going to be your surroundings and context. You’ll get pets, you’ll have kids, you’ll move, you’ll change jobs, change churches, experience illness or injury, suffer losses or experience big wins - whatever it is, things will change. Those changes require a recalibration of the marriage, communication, and a discussion about what it means, what needs to change, and what should stay the same. So, today, we’re going to talk about how to deal with the inevitable changes that come and how and when to talk about them so that you can keep your marriage calibrated rather than running on old habits and patterns that no longer suit your life. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 127 – AQ – Not interested in sex, are men infatuated with ejaculate and many more questions | 19 Apr 2024 | 00:18:12 | |
March 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 126 – Unspoken Nuances of Understanding | 01 Apr 2024 | 00:07:24 | |
SWM 126 - Unspoken nuances of understanding. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. Marriage is a cosmic tapestry, a constellation of souls woven into the fabric of time, where vows echo in the heart's language, shaping a journey of shared whispers and laughter. It's a dance of compromise and compassion, a symphony where individual melodies blend into a shared harmony, with time sculpting the narrative of a joint odyssey. Amidst life's tempests, love's resilience is tested, forging a bond that transcends the ephemeral, painting a portrait of unity where intimacy bridges solitude, and shared dreams color the canvas of existence. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 125 – Rethinking “Duty Sex” | 22 Mar 2024 | 00:15:06 | |
SWM 125 - Rethinking Duty Sex. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. I've had a lot of conversations with couples as well as husbands and wives individually lately about what often gets called "duty sex" or "pity sex." For those who don't know, duty/pity sex is when one spouse gives in to sex, not because they desire it themselves, but because their spouse does. They might have sex for many reasons, including feeling obligated, pressured, guilty, to keep the peace or to "get them off their back." The problem is that these negative reasons are often the only ones considered, and so any situation in which one spouse wants sex and the other agrees to it without having an internal desire of their own is seen as unfavourable. But there are some excellent reasons to have what's commonly considered "duty sex" or "pity sex," and often, the conflicts I see in marriages are not that it's because of those reasons I mentioned above but instead about something positive and loving. So, in this podcast episode, we're going to talk about reframing duty sex in those situations. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 124 – My daughter’s speech – A vaccine against the epidemic of transgenderism | 15 Mar 2024 | 00:09:19 | |
SWM 124 - My daughter's speech - A vaccine against the epidemic of transgenderism. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. Today I've got something a bit different than the usual fare. Last year, for our 100th episode, I had my eldest daughter present her 4H speech as I felt it fit the scope of this blog. This year, she wrote a part 2. She won at her local club, and placed second at districts. So, we thought we'd record a version for the podcast again. Rather than give away any of the speech, I'll just let you read it. If you do want to go back you can read the first speech here. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 123 – AQ – Enjoying anal sex, periods and vacation, aging and orgasms, fantasizing, and condoms for handjobs | 09 Mar 2024 | 00:15:20 | |
January and February 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 122 – How to make your spouse more attractive to you | 01 Mar 2024 | 00:18:48 | |
SWM 122 - How to make your spouse more attractive to you. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. If you look online, you can find tons of videos, articles, podcasts, products and more about how to make yourself more attractive to your spouse or potential partners. I mean, it's everywhere. You can also find resources to help you make your spouse more attractive by changing them. What you don't see much of, though, are resources to help you change your mindset to make them seem more attractive to you without changing them. We all know the phrase "beauty is in the eye of the beholder," but rarely, if ever, is it used to recognize that you, as the beholder, can change what you're attracted to. Upcoming Events:
Resources: Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 121 – Why marriage should be hard work | 16 Feb 2024 | 00:16:06 | |
SWM 121 - Why marriage should be hard work. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. I made a post on social media some time ago saying, “Marriage is hard, divorce is hard, choose your hard,” and someone asked me if I then disagreed with some other bloggers and podcasters who say that marriage is and should be easy. This post expands on what I wrote in response to that question. There is a trend these days to water down Christianity and make it easy. In the times of the early church, being a Christian meant persecution, possibly even death, and they still willingly took on that challenge. These days, people want Christianity to be comfortable and easy. We see many churches that are more social clubs than ministries, many pastors who are eloquent speakers but not doers of the faith, and many teachers who scratch those itching ears by telling you that being a Christian should be easy and comfortable. For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine, but according to their own desires, because they have itching ears, they will heap up for themselves teachers and they will turn their ears away from the truth, and be turned aside to fables. But you be watchful in all things, endure afflictions, do the work of an evangelist, fulfill your ministry. 2 Timothy 4:3-5 (NKJV) We see some of this in the prosperity gospel, but also elements of it bleeding into mainstream Christianity. Even if they claim to reject the prosperity gospel on the surface, aspects of it still infect their teaching. In particular, I see this in the teaching about marriage. Some few are teaching that marriage is and should be easy. So, in this post, we’re going to tackle this false teaching and explore why it’s false and what that hard work is so that you can have a fantastic marriage, not because it’s easy, but because the work is worth it. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 120 – How you may be making your birth control methods ineffective | 02 Feb 2024 | 00:12:10 | |
SWM 120 - How you may be making your birth control methods ineffective. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. A few years ago, I was talking to a client during a coaching call, and we got off on a bit of a tangent about condom use. I explained a few ways that people tend to lower the protection of condoms when they use them. He was, well, shocked because he'd done many of them and had no idea that every time he did that, he was increasing the chance of conception. And so, I've had this post idea on the back burner for quite a while until last week, when I mentioned in response to an anonymous question that if you don't want kids, you shouldn't have sex because even condoms and birth control are not perfectly effective when used correctly - and most people don't know they're not using them correctly. When I posted that, one of our supporters asked if I could write that post, so here we go, because, well, my supporters do so much for me, I'm happy to help them out. In this post, I'm only talking about the birth control effects, not the effect this could have on STDs/STIs. I'm also not going to address every birth control method, just the three I hear about the most. I’m also not going to be discussing natural family planning, but that is, at best, a delay method, not a method of birth control. So, here are things you may be doing to mess up your birth control plans. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 119 – Vibrators & dildos, roleplay, talking to your kids about sex, and more | 27 Jan 2024 | 00:19:36 | |
November and December 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 118 – In sickness and in health | 12 Jan 2024 | 00:11:16 | |
| SWM 117 – Why do I want sex when I’m sick? | 15 Dec 2023 | ||
SWM 117 - Why do I want sex when I'm sick? Check out the blog post here for more details and links. Well, it’s winter here, which means cold and flu season. So, of course, the last couple of weeks, it’s been rolling through our family of 7. Christina and I were the last to get it, and it seemed I got it worse than her. She complained about being sick but still working out multiple times daily (playing Supernatural on the VR - in case any others are fans). For me, I was barely making it through my desk job and not making it some days. But at night, we’d crawl into bed, and I was still interested in sex, I think more than usual even - her, not at all. That made me wonder - what is it about being sick that makes me want sex more? Unfortunately, my head was too fuzzy to research or write an article; here we are, a week later, and I’m ready to tackle it. So, let’s dig into being sick and sex and why some may want sex when they’re sick, and even more so when they’re sick. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 116 – Why do I always have to tell my husband how to help? | 30 Nov 2023 | 00:12:21 | |
SWM 116 - Why do I always have to tell my husband how to help? Check out the blog post here for more details and links. Lately, I've noticed a trend on social media where famous creator couples make videos of the wife telling the husband that visitors are coming over and they need to prepare. In response, the husband goes and starts cleaning out the attic and crawlspace, going through keepsakes, and performing other tasks that do little to achieve the intended goal of getting ready for guests. Of course, they're doing it as a light-hearted joke, but it points to a common conflict in marriages - women often feel they have to ask for the same help repeatedly. Even in the non-hyperbole versions of these videos, the husband typically mows the lawn, cleans the driveway, and fixes issues in the front of the house, such as rewiring a light. In contrast, the wife worries about cleaning the house's interior and preparing food. Invariably, the wife gets upset that he's not helping with what she sees as important tasks. And in media, be it TV, movies, or social media, they all generally side with the wife. The joking videos mentioned above always point and laugh at the men. Why is this? Is it just that men are inept? Are they blind? Inconsiderate? So, here are my ideas of why this happens - which you are welcome to disagree with in the comments. Interested in our Intimacy Advent Calendar? Check it out here. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 115 – Strapons, Exes and Foreskins | 10 Nov 2023 | 00:08:38 | |
October 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 114 – Understanding and Navigating Sexual Obligations in a Christian Marriage | 27 Oct 2023 | ||
SWM 114 - Understanding and Navigating Sexual Obligations in a Christian Marriage. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. I had a wife ask, Sex should be a gift given freely, and if I don’t have veto power, am I really giving freely? This is my response in light of 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 and the role model Jesus was for us dying on the cross. If you have a different opinion than I do, or want to share your perspective, please post them in the comments on the blog post. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 113 – Orgasms and age, calling your spouse daddy, guilt from initiating | 12 Oct 2023 | 00:11:08 | |
September 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 112 – Do men have it harder when it comes to sexual expectations? | 22 Sep 2023 | 00:17:25 | |
SWM 112 - Do men have it harder when it comes to sexual expectations? Check out the blog post here for more details and links. This podcast episode is answering this question I received from our anonymous Have A Question page: Hi Jay, I've noticed a dichotomy when it comes to expectations for male and female sex drives and what's considered desirable sexual performance. As a man, I feel like there's a lot of pressure to perform sexually. This means being able to become sexually aroused when seeing a naked woman (my wife in this case), being able to maintain the erection and having the sexual stamina to keep from climaxing for a sustained interval (not sure what the average woman considers desirable stamina but let's say 10 minutes?) Not to mention the societal pressure that men face when it comes to the size of their penis. I myself feel insecure about not having a large enough penis. Who doesn't want to add a couple of inches to their penis? I've become somewhat perplexed/frustrated because I feel like there are very few expectations placed on females. We live in an age when "all women are supposed to be seen as beautiful." It seems that females are simply expected to be willing to participate in sex when the mood is right, and that's it. There's no expectation on the size or quality of female genitals, no expectation on their ability to get aroused or maintain arousal, and no expectations on the level of physical or mental effort they invest in sexual activity. It seems they are just supposed to be the recipient while the man does the thrusting. Even when it comes to the subject of natural lubrication, there's a stigma around a man who can't naturally achieve and maintain an erection, but for the woman, there doesn't appear to be a stigma around the inability to produce sufficient arousal fluid (vaginal wetness). As it pertains to the topic of pornography, I've read many articles about the dangers of pornography for men, how it leads to sexual desensitization, and when paired with masturbation, decreased sexual stamina and even erectile dysfunction. I can't say I've read many articles discussing how viewing pornography is detrimental for women. Is it just me, or is there a double standard when it comes to sexual expectations for men and women? If you have a different opinion than I do, or want to share your perspective, please post them in the comments on the blog post. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference and new supporters in September get Our Sexploration List free. Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 111 – Sex in heaven, oral sex positions, recovering from affairs, wanting to be a mom | 08 Sep 2023 | 00:11:14 | |
August 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Don't forget to fill out ourlatest survey about how premarital sex affects married sex. We're looking for another 600 responses before we do the analysis. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! All $5/month supporters in September get Our Sexploration List Free Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 110 – Noticing other women, forgotten anniversary, disconnecting during foreplay and more | 25 Aug 2023 | 00:32:30 | |
July 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Don't forget to fill out ourlatest survey about how premarital sex affects married sex. We're looking for another 800 responses before we do the analysis. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! All $5/month supporters in August and September get Our Sexploration List Free Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 109 – Crossdressing, reframing duty sex, wife gets sex when she wants, but he doesn’t | 11 Aug 2023 | 00:10:08 | |
June 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Don't forget to fill out ourlatest survey about how premarital sex affects married sex. We're looking for another 1000 responses before we do the analysis. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 108 – What does the Bible say about hell? | 05 Aug 2023 | 00:42:09 | |
SWM 108 - What does the Bible say about hell? Check out the show notes here for more details and links. This podcast episode is a Bible study about the topic of hell. One of the most confusing subjects in Christianity is the topic of hell. I think it's so confusing because most base their beliefs on a handful of passages and then a heavy dose of pop culture. And the popular view is that hell is a place of eternal torment where vengeful God sends you for all of eternity for not obeying Him. People use this belief to try and scare people into being Christians. The "If you don't, you'll go to hell and be tortured for eternity" type of evangelism. Unfortunately, this makes the basis of your salvation one of fear rather than love and also turns God into a sadist rather than a loving Father. Because what sort of loving God would create trillions of people, knowing the vast majority would reject Him and then keep them alive for eternity to torture them? That is a difficult question for Christians to answer, and they usually resort to an argument that amounts to "He's God and can do what He wants." If you read certain parts of the Bible the way you must justify this view, it also makes heaven a front-row seat of the torture of hell, making all saints sadists who will revel in the agony of the lost for eternity. It's no wonder people look at Christianity and think you must be insane to follow such a God. You cannot support this view without leaving out large portions of the Bible. Instead, I think the Bible shows that even hell shows a loving and merciful God who gives us a choice between eternal life or eternal death. Then He grants us our selection like a loving father would. So, let's see what the Bible says about hell. Do people get tortured for eternity? Is it just an infinite existence of everlasting torment? Is God really that sadistic? Now, I know this subject is going to upset some people. I challenge you to read it until the end. Check the Bible verses for yourself. This post will be mostly Bible verses with my thoughts interspersed so you can know what I'm getting from those verses. Do your own study. I don't require you to agree with me, and I'm more than willing to be challenged on this so long as you do it in good faith. We had quite an interesting discussion about it in our supporter's forum. If you have questions, please post them in the comments on the blog post so others can participate. If you're feeling shy, you can email me as well. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 107 – Wife wants too much sex, repeat unproductive fights, boundaries during dating and sexy underwear for men | 21 Jul 2023 | 00:12:01 | |
May 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Lately our Art of Edging ebook has been very popular as it's new. If you want to learn how to extend your sex sessions, along with connection and pleasure, check it out. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 106 – Nude pictures, sex toys, asexual wife, wife not in love with me, wish my wife had a bigger butt | 15 Jul 2023 | 00:23:06 | |
April 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Lately our Art of Edging ebook has been very popular as it's new. If you want to learn how to extend your sex sessions, along with connection and pleasure, check it out. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 105 – Threesome temptation, aversion to manual and oral, penis size, falling asleep during sex | 06 Jul 2023 | 00:14:36 | |
March 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Lately our Art of Edging ebook has been very popular as it's new. If you want to learn how to extend your sex sessions, along with connection and pleasure, check it out. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 104 – Do women control men, beauty vs lusting, playlist for sex, and are men polygamous by nature? | 02 Jun 2023 | 00:18:46 | |
February 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Lately our Art of Edging ebook has been very popular as it's brand new. If you want to learn how to extend your sex sessions, along with connection and pleasure, check it out. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 103 – Phone sex, oral sex to completion, are pictures okay, increasing female libido, toxic wife and more | 10 May 2023 | 00:15:41 | |
January 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Lately our Introduction to Talking Dirty ebook has been very popular. I'm looking to update and expand it this year, which will probably come with a price increase, so if you want to jump in at the current price, it's a good resource for $5. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 102 – Wife conflicted, orgasming during sex, BDSM, wife doesn’t like clitoral stimulation and holding your spouse accountable | 09 Apr 2023 | 00:22:12 | |
December 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Lately our Introduction to Talking Dirty ebook has been very popular. I'm looking to update and expand it this year, which will probably come with a price increase, so if you want to jump in at the current price, it's a good resource for $5. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 101 – Why does my spouse always push for more during sex? | 04 Apr 2023 | 00:08:07 | |
SWM 101 - Why does my spouse always push for more during sex? Check out the show notes here for more details and links. Today I'm answer this question I received in my inbox: Jay, I enjoyed the book (Introduction to Talking Dirty) that my hubby put on my iPad. The thing is, no matter what I do in my comfort zone, it isn't enough. I do many, I mean many, of the examples you use, even the F WORD. How do I get him to be grateful for what I do instead of needing more? I always feel inadequate. Anyways thanks for helping many couples enjoy their intimacy more! Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 100 – My daughter’s speech – The crisis of my generation – transgenderism | 12 Mar 2023 | 00:08:37 | |
| SWM 099 – Spouse fell asleep, revealing clothes, public sex, dreams and encouraging your spouse to be healthier | 17 Feb 2023 | 00:12:59 | |
November 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Lately our Introduction to Talking Dirty ebook has been very popular. I'm looking to update and expand it this year, which will probably come with a price increase, so if you want to jump in at the current price, it's a good resource for $5. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 098 – Energy, mutual masturbation, orgasm struggles, desire type quiz and meeting other couples | 20 Jan 2023 | 00:09:40 | |
October 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Lately our Introduction to Talking Dirty ebook has been very popular. I'm looking to update and expand it this year, which will probably come with a price increase, so if you want to jump in at the current price, it's a good resource for $5. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||
| SWM 097 – Location, bruises, God’s role vs my role, how to stop faking orgasms, where do I get my “garbage theology” | 07 Jan 2023 | 00:19:04 | |
September 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
Lately our Introduction to Talking Dirty ebook has been very popular. I'm looking to update and expand it this year, which will probably come with a price increase, so if you want to jump in at the current price, it's a good resource for $5. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum. Thank you to all our faithful champions! If you'd to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference! Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. | |||