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Let's talk about why foreplay might be the most misunderstood thing in your sex life… because the way most couples think about it is exactly backwards. In this episode I'm breaking down why foreplay doesn't start in the bedroom and what to do when your partner goes straight to penetration every single time, when the sex has gone stale and neither of you knows how to say it, when one person won't reciprocate, and when a medical situation forces you to get creative in all the best ways. If you have ever wished your partner understood what you actually need before sex even starts, this one is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 02:15 Foreplay Starts After the Last Orgasm 04:00 Why Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire Changes Everything 06:00 The Psychology of Arousal and What Gets You There 07:30 Call 1: He Goes Straight to Penetration Every Time 10:00 How to Tell a Sensitive Partner What You Actually Need 13:00 The Compliment Sandwich and Why It Works 15:30 Call 2: Our Sex Has Gone Stale and I Don't Know How to Fix It 18:00 What to Do When Foreplay Has Disappeared From Your Relationship 21:00 Call 3: My Partner Won't Reciprocate Foreplay 24:00 How to Ask for What You Want Without Making It a Fight 27:00 Call 4: I Have Never Had an Orgasm 30:00 Why Most People Skip the Most Important Step 33:00 Your Homework: 30 Minutes Three Times a Week 35:00 Call 5: I Can't Have Sex for 6 Weeks After My Procedure 36:00 How to Stay Sexually Connected When Penetration Is Off the Table Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sexual communication isn’t a sign that something is wrong—it’s how sex gets better. When your partner says “slow down,” “stay right there,” or asks for something different, they aren’t rejecting you. They’re giving you the roadmap to what feels good for them right now. In this episode, I’m talking about how to create the safety to give and receive direction during sex without anyone getting defensive, embarrassed, or shutting down. We’ll explore why learning basic anatomy is only the beginning, how bodies and desires change over time, and why staying curious is the real secret to being a great lover. If you want more connected, responsive, and satisfying sex, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠⁠  Shop With Emily: ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠⁠  Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠⁠  X: ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠  Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠  TikTok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠⁠  Threads: ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠⁠  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠⁠  Text With Me: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠⁠  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠⁠  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Try the Dame Pom to explore sensation and actually get out of your head during sex: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/swe08 Chapters: 0:00 - What Nobody Taught You About Vaginas1:24 - The Vagina Is Not the Whole Thing — Here's Your Anatomy Refresher3:00 - The Sex Ed We Got Was Basically Useless (And What Was Missing)4:00 - Step 1: Learn the Map — What You're Actually Working With5:30 - Why We've Been Treating Penetration Like the Main Event (And Why That's a Problem)7:00 - What Actually Happens in Your Body When You Become Aroused8:30 - Look at Your Vulva — Yes, With a Mirror. Here's Why It Matters10:30 - We Know Our Skincare Routine Better Than Our Own Pleasure Anatomy12:00 - Step 2: Stop Assuming — There Are No Universal Settings13:30 - The "Starting Gun" Problem: Why Timing Is Everything15:00 - Closing the Tabs: How to Actually Get Fully Present During Sex16:30 - When Your Body Is Telling You Something Needs Attention — Don't Ignore It17:30 - Step 3: Keep Talking — Stop Saving the Conversation for When It Goes Wrong18:30 - The GPS Analogy for Sexual Communication19:45 - What Great Lovers Actually Have in Common Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Try the We-Vibe Nova to explore internal and external stimulation together, no experience necessary: https://bit.ly/wevibenovadual Let's talk about what actually gets in the way of connected, present, pleasurable sex… because it is almost never what you think it is. In this episode I'm taking live listener calls from people who are done settling for sex that feels disconnected, performative, or just plain stuck. A divorced mom of two who spends every sexual encounter watching herself from the outside instead of actually feeling anything. Someone navigating intimacy after leaving a religion that made sex feel like something to be ashamed of. A 19 year old who wants to take control in the bedroom but freezes every time. And more. If you have ever felt like you were in the room but not really there, this episode is going to give you a way back in. ABOUT EMILY:Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 – Cold open: why we don't talk about sex like we talk about everything else2:21 – Caller #1: breaking free from "spectatorship" during sex8:33 – Caller #2: what to do when your partner won't go down on you12:33 – Caller #3: postpartum libido and not enjoying receiving oral17:07 – Caller #4: performance anxiety and disconnecting during sex22:17 – Why focusing on your partner's pleasure can ease performance anxiety25:22 – The trap of people-pleasing in relationships27:07 – Caller #5: how to finally make the first move29:11 – Caller #6: freezing up during a casual hookup33:52 – Healing sexual shame with EMDR therapy37:53 – Caller #7: learning to take control in the bedroom Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Great sex isn’t about finding one perfect moment and trying to recreate it forever. It’s about getting curious about what made that moment feel so good in the first place. In this episode, I’m sharing how to talk with your partner about your best sexual memories without turning it into a complaint meeting. We’re exploring the questions that uncover what really turns each of you on: Was it the flirting all day? Feeling unrushed? The freedom, the anticipation, the way you looked at each other? Those details are the roadmap to creating more desire and connection now. If your sex life feels fine but you want it to feel more alive, connected, and uniquely yours, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.` CONNECT WITH EMILY: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠⁠  Shop With Emily: ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠⁠  Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠⁠  X: ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠  Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠  TikTok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠⁠  Threads: ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠⁠  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠⁠  Text With Me: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠⁠  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠⁠  Try the toy I talk about in the video here: ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com/swe07⁠ Chapters:00:00 Cold Open / Welcome to Sex with Emily01:24 Is This It? The Problem With "Fine" Sex02:33 Step 1: Notice What's Actually Happening06:20 Step 2: Name What You Actually Want09:47 Using Toys as Shared Discovery10:48 Step 3: Share It (Timing Matters)11:50 The Postpartum Story: Same Moment, Different Experience14:04 Turn the Complaint Into a Request16:19 Step 4: Experiment Without the Overhaul19:53 The Reset Recap & This Week's Exercise21:47 Closing Thought: Someone Worth Discovering Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Low desire isn’t always about your relationship or something you need to “fix” inside yourself. Sometimes, feeling more connected to your sexuality begins outside the bedroom: with creativity, friendship, novelty, connection, and getting back in touch with the parts of life that make you feel alive. In this episode, I’m talking about why libido is shaped by so much more than sex, how to get curious before diagnosing yourself, and the small ways you can spark eroticism without putting pressure on yourself or your partner. Because a better sex life might not start with another conversation, supplement, or dating app—it might start the moment you step back into the world. If you’ve been feeling disconnected from desire, stuck in a rut, or wondering whether it’s you or your relationship, this episode is for you. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #Monogamy #RelationshipAdvice #Relationships ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Try Sliquid H2O to keep things comfortable without overthinking whether you're "wet enough": ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com/swe06⁠ Chapters:00:00 Cold Open: "Get Uncomfortable"00:17 Welcome to Sex with Emily (+ Tour Dates)01:54 Why Connection Is the Missing Piece03:12 The EV Charging Station Story06:05 Your Environment Shapes You More Than You Realize06:56 The Missing Wellness Pillar: Social Health09:43 What This Has to Do With Sex13:19 Your Body Knows Before Your Brain Does15:28 The 7-Day Challenge: Increase Your Exposure to Life16:35 Listener Q&A: Roommates, Dating Apps & Libido24:34 Today's Message & Outro Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about five things that are quietly killing your sex life that have absolutely nothing to do with attraction, technique, or how much you love your partner… because after 20 years of helping people improve their sex lives, I can tell you we are way too quick to assume low desire means something is wrong with us. Sometimes the conditions around your sex life just suck. In this episode I'm giving you five very unsexy tips that can make your sex life a whole lot better, and I promise at least one of them is going to make you go, oh that's exactly us. Fair warning: number three is the one everyone rolls their eyes at. And it's the one that actually works. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.` CONNECT WITH EMILY: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠  Shop With Emily: ⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠  X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠  Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠  TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠  Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠  Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠  This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ ============================= Chapters:00:00 Cold Open / Welcome to Sex with Emily01:24 Maybe Your Sex Life Doesn't Need Fixing01:48 The Five Unsexy Things Overview02:29 Tip 1: Stop Making Sex the Last Thing on the List05:38 Tip 2: Lube Is Not a Report Card07:54 Tip 3: Put Possibility on the Calendar (Schedule Sex)10:46 Tip 4: Your Sex Life Doesn't Live Outside Your Body12:38 Where to Keep Your Lube (Plus a Product Note)13:21 Tip 5: You Can't Go From Project Manager to Sex Goddess in 30 Seconds16:21 Recap: Pick One Unsexy Thing to Start17:29 Outro & Where to Find More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the reason you keep having the same fight with your partner isn't that you don't love each other, it's that you're speaking completely different love languages? You may be giving love exactly the way you'd want to receive it, while your partner is waiting for something totally different. In this throwback episode, I'm breaking down the five love languages, acts of service, gift giving, physical touch, quality time, and words of affirmation, and how understanding yours (and your partner's) can help you move through resentment, feel more connected, and bring more intimacy into your relationship. We also get into how each love language can show up sexually, what to do when yours don't match, and simple ways to make your partner actually feel the love you're already trying to give. If you've ever wondered why your efforts don't seem to land, why the same relationship frustrations keep coming back, or how to create more love and better sex without overcomplicating it, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events  Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  0:00 - What If Love Languages Could Lead to Better Sex?2:42 - The Five Love Languages Explained5:00 - Acts of Service in and Out of the Bedroom9:00 - Gift Giving (and the Sex Act That Falls Under It)13:00 - Physical Touch — Emily Gets Personal18:00 - When Your Partner Doesn't Share Your Love Language22:00 - Quality Time: Being Together vs. Being Present26:00 - Words of Affirmation (Yes, Dirty Talk Counts)28:00 - When You and Your Partner Speak Different Languages32:11 - Love Languages in Long Distance Relationships33:23 - How to Spot Someone's Love Language Without Asking35:18 - How Each Love Language Translates Into Sex37:00 - Caller #1: She Accidentally Shamed His Penis41:00 - Caller #2: Not Attracted to His Girlfriend Anymore Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about why initiating sex in your relationship started feeling like a test… because somewhere along the way, that moment of reaching for your partner stopped feeling like closeness and started feeling like a pass-fail question hanging in the air. Am I about to get rejected? Am I going to disappoint them? And when initiation starts to feel that way, both people stop doing it. In this episode I'm giving you five concrete steps to change the whole dynamic, starting with one reframe that makes everything else possible. We're talking about how to read the room before you even reach for your partner, what to say instead of do you want to have sex, how to bridge the gap when one of you has been thinking about it all day and the other just got done folding laundry, and the one response to a no that either builds or destroys trust over time. If you've ever felt guilty for saying no, talked yourself out of initiating, or noticed that the affection in your relationship quietly disappeared along with the sex, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠ Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ ============================= Chapters: 00:00 When Initiation Starts to Feel Like a Test 01:20 Meet Dr. Emily & Why Initiation Trips Couples Up 02:08 The Mindset Shift: Invitation, Not Contract 02:28 Reframing Initiation as an Invitation 03:40 The Five-Step Overview 03:55 Step 1: Time the Invitation 04:26 Step 2: Make It an Invitation, Not an Audition 05:34 Step 3: Close the Desire Gap 07:18 Step 4: Ditch the Yes-or-No Trap (Try the 1-10 Scale) 08:48 Step 5: Protect the No 09:59 The Bigger Conversation to Have Outside the Bedroom 10:31 Recap: Building Safety So Desire Can Grow Don't miss a video! Subscribe NOW: https://www.youtube.com/@sexwithemilyofficial?sub_confirmation=1 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about the sex skills nobody teaches you and why most people are still waiting for their partner to figure it out instead of just saying it out loud… because that's exactly what today's callers are done doing. In this episode I'm taking live calls from people who are done leaving their pleasure up to chance. We've got a 27 year old who wants to learn how to squirt on her own without relying on anyone to do it for her, a couple who wants to bring others into their play but can't figure out how to find the right people, and a woman whose new partner flat out refused to try to make her orgasm. I promise that last one goes somewhere really good. If you have ever felt like you were the only one carrying the weight of your own pleasure, this episode will change that. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠ Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 02:19 Call 1: How Do I Learn to Squirt on My Own 04:30 Squirting vs Orgasm: Are They the Same Thing 06:30 What Actually Helps With Squirting 09:00 Teaching Yourself Before You Teach a Partner 11:30 Call 2: We Want to Open Things Up But Can't Find the Right People 14:00 How to Find Partners for Ethical Non-Monogamy 17:00 The Conversations to Have Before You Start 20:00 Call 3: He Refused to Try to Make Me Orgasm 23:00 What That Tells You About Someone Early On 26:00 Why Talking About Sex Early Saves You So Much Time 29:00 If You're Naked With Someone It's Time to Start Talking 31:00 What Sexually Healthy Actually Means Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If anal play sounds like something you'd have to grit your teeth through, I want to change your mind about one thing first: a painful first try isn't your body's final answer. It's usually a sign something was rushed, unprepared, or out of your control, not proof this isn't for you. In this episode, I'm walking through my five-step, comfort-first framework for exploring anal: getting a real yes before anything starts, setting yourself up for success, warming your whole body up first, moving in layers instead of straight to penetration, and learning to actually read your body's feedback. I'm also busting a few myths along the way, including the one that penetration is the goal at all. Pleasure, not performance. Let's get into it. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠ Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Cold Open / Welcome to Sex with Emily 01:24 Why Your First Time May Have Hurt 02:08 The Five Step Framework (Meet Dr. Emily) 02:56 Anal Isn't All or Nothing 03:44 Your Nervous System Is the Real Sex Organ 04:07 The Two Rings of Muscle, Explained 04:49 Step 1: Start With a Real Yes 05:28 The Receiving Partner Is Always in Charge 06:00 Step 2: Set Yourself Up for Success (Hygiene) 06:41 Lube, Toys, and the Pre-Talk 07:17 Step 3: Warm Up Your Whole Body 08:22 Step 4: Move in Layers, Not Pressure 09:59 Step 5: Listen to Your Body and Talk About It 10:51 Busting the Biggest Anal Myths 11:11 Recap: The Five Steps to Try Anal Comfortably 11:58 Outro & Where to Find More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about what actually happens when real people finally stop holding back in the bedroom… because the best sex education doesn't always come from experts. Sometimes it comes from a husband who spent months asking for something his wife wasn't sure about, or a couple whose 20 year marriage took a very unexpected turn on a dance floor in Anchorage, or a woman who spent years unable to orgasm with a partner and finally got there in the last way she ever expected. In this episode I'm reading three real listener success stories out loud, and I promise you will learn something from every single one of them. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 02:46 Story 1: The Pegging Journey 06:00 Why Receiving Changes Everything for Men 08:30 What Happened After She Said Yes 10:15 How One Conversation Transformed Their Whole Relationship 14:45 Story 2: The Threesome That Started on a Dance Floor 19:00 What Made It Work and What They Learned 22:00 Story 3: Her First Penetrative Orgasm 24:00 How She Finally Got There 25:18 What All Three Stories Have in Common Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about why you don't want sex with your husband anymore… and why the answer probably has nothing to do with your libido. If you've been lying next to him quietly hoping he doesn't reach for you, and then hating yourself for feeling that way, this episode is going to change the way you see what's actually happening in your body and your relationship. Because the story most women tell themselves at this moment is the wrong one entirely. I'm walking you through a four part desire check in that will help you stop asking the question that keeps you stuck and start asking the one that can actually lead you somewhere. If desire has gone quiet in your marriage, this one is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events  Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast  Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 01:23 You Are Not Broken 02:24 The Four Part Desire Check In 02:53 Step 1: Is Your Body Pulling Away From Everyone or Just Him 03:51 What the Pattern Is Actually Telling You 04:26 Step 2: What Is Your Body Protecting You From 04:42 Emotional Safety and Unresolved Conflict 05:37 Burnout and the Mental Load 06:25 Unresolved Hurt and Resentment 08:12 Step 3: Rule Out Physical and Mental Health Factors 08:31 Hormones, Medications, and Your Nervous System 09:13 Step 4: Rebuild Safety Before You Rebuild Desire 09:34 Affection Without Expectation 10:56 The One Sentence to Start the Conversation 11:37 What Your Body Has Been Trying to Tell You Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can you love one person and still want someone else? Are you and your partner actually on the same page about your relationship rules, or just assuming you are? And is porn really the problem it gets blamed for? In this episode, we’re getting into the conversations couples rarely have out loud, because there’s no single “right” way to do a relationship. The goal is getting honest about your desires, your boundaries, and what you’ve actually agreed to together. If you’ve been assuming your partner agrees with you on things you’ve never actually talked about, or wondering whether porn is really the issue in your relationship, this one’s for you. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #Monogamy #RelationshipAdvice #Relationships ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 00:24 Why Non-Monogamy Is Everywhere Right Now 02:30 How Normal Is Non-Monogamy 04:15 I Crave Sex With Other Women When I Travel for Work 06:30 We've Been Together 20 Years and Want to Open Up 08:45 What to Talk About Before You Open Your Relationship 10:30 First Time Having Sex With a Woman 13:00 Go Slow, Stay Curious, Let Her Teach You 15:00 Why Do Women Get Mad When Men Watch Porn 17:30 When Porn Becomes a Relationship Problem 19:45 What Porn Really Brings Up and How to Talk About It 21:00 The Conversation You've Been Meaning to Have Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about the five lies about men and sex that might be quietly destroying your marriage… because most couples aren't fighting about sex. They're fighting about connection, rejection, and feeling unseen, and nobody ever gave them the language to say that out loud. In this episode I'm breaking down the five most harmful myths about male sexuality that I see playing out in long term relationships over and over again, from "he just wants sex" to "men don't take rejection personally." Once you see these lies for what they are, the dynamic between you can start to shift. I'm also giving you one conversation to have this week that can completely change how you and your partner understand each other. And the best part? You don't have to do a single thing you don't want to do to get there. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 01:21 Lie 1: His Whole Agenda Is Sex 02:45 Lie 2: Men Don't Need Emotional Intimacy 04:10 Lie 3: Men Are Always Ready for Sex 05:20 Lie 4: Sex Is Just Physical for Men 06:15 Lie 5: Men Don't Take Rejection Personally 07:45 The Cycle Nobody Talks About 08:30 Two Different Languages of Connection 09:00 Try This: Notice How He Reaches for Connection 10:05 Responsive Desire Explained 12:00 The One Conversation to Have This Week 13:30 Questions to Ask Each Other 14:30 What Couples Are Really Fighting About Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Chicago and Philadelphia showed up big for the Best Sex Ever tour, and I couldn't get to every question live. So here's the rest. We're getting into the real first move before opening up a marriage, what alcohol actually does to your libido, and why your body tightening up mid-sex is information, not a red flag. Plus how to ask for foreplay in a way that actually lands, the cuddle trap where touch always seems to lead to sex whether you want it to or not, and a low-pressure way into kink and BDSM if you're curious but nervous. Save sex with me, one city at a time. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #SexQuestions #LiveShow #Relationships Don't miss a video! Subscribe NOW: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@sexwithemilyofficial?sub_confirmation=1⁠ ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠ Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Tour promo + coming up preview 00:54 Welcome back + tour recap 03:15 Opening up a marriage: where to start 07:38 Alcohol as an aphrodisiac 10:08 When your body tightens up during sex 12:18 Cuddling without it leading to sex 14:10 Building confidence to approach someone 16:57 How to actually ask for foreplay 19:17 Perineum & prostate pleasure explained 21:17 Getting into kink & BDSM safely 24:04 Closing + Nashville tour date I Answered 13 Pages of Your Sex Questions | Sex With Emily ⁠https://www.youtube.com/sexwithemily⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about what actually happens when desire disappears in a long term relationship… because most people assume their libido is just gone, or something is broken in their relationship, when the truth is usually something completely different. In this episode I'm breaking down how desire actually works, why spontaneous desire is mostly a myth for couples past the honeymoon phase, and the one simple 20 minute practice you can try this week to start feeling connected again without forcing anything. I'm also getting into the difference between duty sex and responsive desire, because those are not the same thing and confusing them is making a lot of people miserable. If you've ever thought something is wrong with you because you don't want sex the way you used to, this episode is for you. Spoiler: nothing is wrong with you. Your desire just works differently now. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #Cheating #Wisdom #Desire Don't miss a video! Subscribe NOW:  https://www.youtube.com/@SexWithEmilyOfficial?sub_confirmation=1  ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!    ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Intro 01:06 The Honeymoon Phase & Why It Naturally Fades 02:09 Desire Isn't Gone — It's Changed Shape 03:35 Who This Episode Is For (And Who It's Not For) 04:47 Duty Sex vs. Responsive Desire 06:07 Reading Your Body's Real "Yes" 06:49 How Couples Quietly Drift Into "Roommates" 07:46 What the Research Says About Sex & Satisfaction 10:32 Desire Isn't a Light Switch (The Date Night Example) 12:12 Why Responsive Desire Isn't "Lesser" Desire 12:53 What's Actually Blocking Your Desire 15:15 The 20-Minute No-Sex Connection Challenge 16:16 The Makeout Challenge & Closing Thoughts (TITLE) | Sex With Emily https://www.youtube.com/sexwithemily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For 20 years, people have asked me the same questions: what's the best position, how do I get better oral sex, is anal sex supposed to hurt. And honestly? I still love answering those. But after two decades of doing this podcast, I've realized something. People rarely come to me with the real problem. Underneath the sex question, there's almost always shame, rejection, resentment, or the big one: "am I normal?" In this episode, I'm doing something I've never done before going back through 20 years of advice and telling you what I'd change. I'm a Doctor of Human Sexuality and I've talked to millions of people about their sex lives, and here's what I know now that I didn't then: "just communicate" isn't enough, "spice it up" doesn't fix resentment, spontaneous desire is mostly a myth for people in long-term relationships, and sleep and stress matter more than any toy in your nightstand. I'm breaking down the five pillars of sexual intelligence, why I think we're all obsessed with the wrong metrics, and what actually predicts great sex (hint: it's not technique). If you've ever wondered whether you're normal, this one's for you. You are. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #SexAdvice #SexualIntelligence #Relationships ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!    ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Intro 00:50 20 years of sex advice, updated 03:03 What's really underneath people's sex questions 05:46 Why "just communicate" isn't enough 07:18 "Spice it up" won't fix resentment 08:03 Rethinking "schedule sex" 08:18 Spontaneous desire vs. responsive desire 11:04 Sleep, stress, and your libido 14:16 You are not broken 14:58 The permission problem 15:38 Why perfect sex doesn't exist 20:01 Mastering yourself, not just technique Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about where the line actually is when it comes to cheating… because most couples never have this conversation until it's too late. In this episode I'm sitting down with licensed holistic psychologist and trauma expert Scott Lyons to unpack what cheating really means in the digital age, from liking thirst traps and DMing an ex at 2am to full on affairs and everything in between. I'm also sharing something I've never talked about publicly: I'm a reformed cheater, and I'm getting honest about what was really going on underneath that. Whether you've been cheated on, done the cheating, or just want to get ahead of it before it becomes a problem in your relationship, this episode gives you the real talk, the research, and the tools to define your boundaries, rebuild trust, and have the conversation most couples are too scared to start. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #Cheating #Infidelity #Relationships ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!    ============================= Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 2:51 - Why Couples Who Never Define Cheating Are Setting Themselves Up 5:17 - Physical, Emotional, Digital: The Different Ways People Cross the Line 9:05 - What Open Relationships Get Right That Monogamous Couples Almost Never Do 10:37 - Roleplaying the Conversation Every Couple Should Actually Have 13:20 - Is Fantasizing About Someone Else Cheating? The Neuroscience Answer 15:36 - When Your Partner Is Having Sex With You While Thinking About Your Friend 17:48 - What to Do When a Full Affair Has Actually Happened 26:00 - The Role of Jealousy — And How to Use It as Information Instead of Destruction 31:00 - Tech, Location Sharing and the Digital Behaviors That Blur the Line 37:40 - The Steps to Actually Repairing After Betrayal 39:55 - Why Sharing Passwords and Location Does Not Rebuild Trust 41:45 - Emily and Scott Get Personal: Their Own Experiences Being Cheated On 43:10 - The Dopamine Loop That Keeps You Stuck After Infidelity 44:38 - What Rebuilding Actually Looks Like — and What It Doesn't Why People Cheat Even In Happy Relationships | Sex With Emily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about the small habits quietly killing your connection…  because most relationships don't fall apart from one big betrayal, they drift apart from the little things we let slide every day. In this episode I'm breaking down the biggest mistakes I see couples make over and over, from protecting your partner from the truth to keeping appreciation stuck in your head instead of saying it out loud, and giving you a practical workaround for each one. I'm also answering your live questions on setting boundaries in short-term relationships and how to start the sex conversation with a new partner. Whether you've been together six months or 60 years, every one of these skills can be learned, and I promise there's at least one mistake on this list you didn't realize you were making! ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 2:33 The Biggest Relationship Mistakes Couples Make 4:09 Mistake #1: Protecting Your Partner from the Truth 7:46 Mistake #2: Trying to Win the Argument 10:02 Mistake #3: Assuming You Already Know Your Partner 13:00 Mistake #4: Correcting Before Connecting 15:52 Mistake #5: Judging a Relationship by Sex Frequency 18:03 Mistake #6: Letting Conflict Linger Too Long 21:25 Mistake #7: Keeping Appreciation to Yourself 26:03 Mistake #8: Ignoring the Power of Daily Habits 28:10 Mistake #9: Asking Questions That Go Nowhere 29:51 Healthy Boundaries in Casual Relationships 32:18 How to Talk About Sex With a New Partner 34:07 Final Thoughts & Tour Dates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Throwback to another one of my favorite conversations! Have you ever wondered where the line actually is between loyalty and betrayal? In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Scott Lyons to unpack the messy, subjective world of infidelity in 2025. We get into the questions couples almost never ask each other… is porn cheating, is a flirty DM cheating, is fantasizing about someone else cheating… and why avoiding these conversations is often what leads to bigger ruptures down the line. I also get vulnerable about my own history as a self-described "reformed cheater," and Scott and I both open up about being on the receiving end of infidelity ourselves. We break down the real stats on who cheats and why, talk through micro-cheating and emotional affairs in the age of social media, and walk through what genuine repair looks like when trust has been broken. If you want a real, no-shame framework for defining your own relationship boundaries, this one's for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily CONNECT WITH DR. SCOTT LYONS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drscottlyons/  Website: https://www.drscottlyons.com/ WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily 4:55 What is Cheating? 9:10 Why Every Couple Needs to Define Boundaries 12:45 How to Talk About Monogamy 14:31 Are Fantasies a Form of Cheating? 17:22 Listeners Story: When Fantasies Hurt a Relationship 19:42 Infidelity Stats 22:27 Dr. Emily Opens Up About Her Past Infidelity 25:38 Recovering After Being Cheated On 29:03 Monogamy, Open Relationships & Honest Conversations 36:26 Is Micro-Cheating Actually Cheating? 39:48 Can a Relationship Survive Infidelity Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm busting the biggest myths that are quietly running your relationship and your intimate life… the idea that men want it all the time, that women don't think about it nearly as much, that low libido means something's broken, that toys replace your partner, that your partner should just know what you like without you ever saying it out loud, and more. I'm walking through each one and replacing it with what's actually true, plus practical tools you can use tonight: how scheduling can bring back anticipation instead of killing it, why communication is its own form of intimacy, and how menopause and libido shifts don't have to mean your best years are behind you.  ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily 2:55 Inside the First Live Tour Show 6:43 Myth #1: Men Always Want Sex 8:12 Myth #2: Women Don't Think About Sex 9:47 Myth #3: Low Libido Means Something's Wrong 11:22 Myth #4: Great Sex Should Be Effortless 13:40 Myth #5: Sex Toys Replace Your Partner 15:17 Myth #6: Couples Should Want Sex Equally 16:52 Myth #7: Scheduling Sex Means Trouble 19:43 Myth #8: Using Lube Means Something's Wrong 22:45 Yoga Exercises for Better Sex 25:30 Myth #9: Your Partner Should Know What You Like 26:51 Myth #10: Blue Balls Are a Medical Emergency 27:55 Myth #11: No Erection Means No Attraction 29:04 Height Differences During Doggy Style 30:49 Can Menopause Affect Libido? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, somatic practitioner Dolly Josette (aka The Pleasure Muse) is teaching us something that changed my life… how to actually listen to what our bodies are trying to tell us. We walk through a body anchor meditation to help you find your most grounded position, then move into what Dolly calls the vulva hug and cock cradle, a practice that has nothing to do with arousal and everything to do with presence, safety, and building trust with your own body. If you've ever felt disconnected from your body, gone numb during sex, or struggled to know what you actually want, this episode is your foundation. Somatic work like this is how we learn to stop performing and start truly feeling, and it's a practice you can bring into your life daily, not just in the bedroom! ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH DOLLY JOSETTE: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pleasuremuse/?hl=en Website: https://www.pleasuremuse.com/ CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily 2:23 Meet Dolly Josette & What Is Somatic Work? 4:07 Embodiment & Sexual Connection 10:56 The Holy Trinity: Body, Mind & Soul 13:07 Body Anchor Meditation 26:22 The Vulva Hug & Cradle Practices 35:08 How This Practice Changes Intimacy 41:32 Overcoming Shame Around Your Body 45:13 How Somatic Work Changes Relationships 49:45 The Power of the Pause 51:17 Why Daily Embodiment Matter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Throwback to one of my favorite conversations! That "spark" you're chasing? It might not be attraction… it might be a trauma response. I sat down with Dr. Scott Lyons to break down the difference between real, sustainable chemistry and what he calls the "trauma tingle,” that hyper-magnetic pull toward someone that actually has more to do with old wounds than genuine connection. We get into why the honeymoon-phase spark always fades (it's biochemistry, not a sign something's wrong), why "getting the spark back" might be the wrong goal entirely, and how to build the kind of attraction that actually deepens over time instead of burning out. If you've ever wondered whether you're in love or just chasing something familiar, this one's for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily 3:29 Going On A Lot Of First Dates 7:30 Going On A Second Date? 10:48 Freedom vs. Commitment in Love 12:50 The Age Old Attraction Response 15:03 Discovering Your "Safety Language" 17:38 The Opposite of the "Ick" 22:50 Why Great Sex Changes Over Time 26:06 Are We Asking the Wrong Question? 29:25 Expanding Your Sexual Menu 31:27 Passion vs. Intimacy 34:10 How Couples Keep Desire Alive 39:34 Why Adventure Strengthens Relationships 43:39 The "Trauma Tingle" Explained 45:37 Healthy Attraction vs. Trauma Bonding 49:46 Intensity Isn't Intimacy 54:34 A Simple Way to Recognize Healthy Love 57:01 Why Stable Love Can Feel "Boring" 1:00:23 Final Thoughts on Building Lasting Passion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're diving into pillar four of Sex IQ: self-knowledge. This is the pillar that ties everything together, because once you understand your body (embodiment), your health, and how to collaborate with a partner, the real magic happens when you actually know what turns you on. I'm breaking down core erotic desires using Jack Morin's erotic equation: the struggle we overcame plus the triumph on the other side often reveals exactly what turns us on most. We'll talk about the pleasure thieves that block self-knowledge (stress, trauma, and shame), why mindful self-pleasure is one of the fastest paths to understanding your own arousal, and how naming what you want to feel during sex changes everything about how you ask for it. If you've ever felt like you're just going through the motions in bed, this episode is your permission slip to get curious about yourself again. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 2:51 The Fourth Pillar of Sex IQ: Self-Knowledge 3:36 Breathing Exercise 4:23 What Self-Knowledge Really Mean? 6:23 Why Self-Pleasure Is the Key to Self-Discovery 7:06 Your Core Desires 8:09 Common Struggles That Shape Your Turn-Ons 13:55 Examples of Core Desires 16:57 What Your Fantasies Reveal About You 18:03 The Pleasure Thieves 20:17 How to Put Self-Knowledge Into Practice 24:06 Weekly Self-Knowledge Action Steps 26:27 Q&A: Rebuilding Trust After a Broken Boundary 31:43 Final Thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm going back to my 20s and telling you everything I wish someone had told me about sex back then. The reality is that almost nobody has a clue in their 20s, and we're all just figuring it out together. I talk about why I confused being validated with actually being desired, why I thought pleasure was someone else's job instead of my own responsibility, and how much shame was quietly running my entire sex life. I also get into why attraction alone was never enough to sustain a relationship, why stress and anxiety were wrecking my desire, and why confidence in the bedroom comes from taking action, not the other way around. If you're in your 20s trying to figure this all out, or you're older and realizing you're still carrying some of these same beliefs, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: Best Sex Ever Tour Announcement 00:52 10 Things I Wish I Knew About Sex in My 20s 01:46 Setting the Scene: Emily's Sex Life in Her 20s 05:03 #1: Everyone Else Seemed to Know What They Were Doing 08:43 #2: I Thought Good Sex Should Happen Naturally 10:34 #3: I Thought Attraction Was Enough 11:53 #4: Pleasure Is Your Own Responsibility 14:38 #5: Confusing Validation With Desire 16:23 #6: Sex as Performance vs. Being Present 18:47 #7: How Stress and Anxiety Affect Desire 23:24 Do Generations Experience Sex Differently? 25:30 #8: Everyone's Erotic Blueprint Is Different 27:35 Boundaries, Attraction & What Changes With Age 33:13 #9: How Shame Was Driving My Decisions 39:03 #10: Confidence Comes From Taking Action 40:41 Final Thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm covering the fifth pillar of Sexual Intelligence: self-acceptance. This is the pillar that ties everything else together, because no matter how embodied, healthy, collaborative, or self-aware you are, none of it lands if you can't accept yourself as you are right now. I'm talking about the "pleasure thieves" that steal our self-acceptance, like comparison, judgment, and perfectionism, and why so much of our sexual shame was programmed into us before we even knew what was happening. I walk through a mirror exercise you can try this week, share why orgasm isn't the measure of good sex (pleasure is), and answer more listener questions. If you've ever felt like you're not enough, not sexy enough, or not doing sex "right," this episode is your reminder that you already are worthy of pleasure, exactly as you are today. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 3:31 Guided Breath Work to Become Present 4:17 What Self Acceptance Really Means 6:59 Why Sexual Confidence Is a Practice 8:11 Common Shame Narratives 9:49 Mirror Talk Exercise 11:54 The Three Pleasure Thieves 18:34 Weekly Self-Acceptance Challenges 25:06 Bringing the Five Sex IQ Pillars Together 26:26 Q&A: Why Do I Tense Up? 29:08 Q&A: How Can I Feel Comfortable With the Lights On? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm breaking down everything I learned about sex and relationships in my 30s… because this decade taught me lessons my 20s never could. I used to think if the chemistry faded, the relationship was over, but I discovered that real intimacy is something you build, not something you stumble into. I'm talking about why stress crushes desire more than attraction ever could, why responsive desire is normal (not broken), why boring sex doesn't mean a boring relationship, and why communication really is a lubrication. If you've ever wondered why talking about sex feels harder than having it, or worried that losing the honeymoon phase means you're with the wrong person, this episode is for you. This episode is sponsored by BTL: Learn more about the EMSELLA & EXOMIND treatments from BTL at BodyByBTL.com ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 3:34 Lesson #1: Chemistry Isn't Enough for Lasting Intimacy 4:28 Lesson #2:Why Communication Makes Sex Better 6:05 Lesson #3: Stress Can Kill Desire 7:56 Lesson #4: Boring Sex Doesn't Mean a Boring Relationship 9:25 Lesson #5: Your Desire Changes 11:57 Lesson #6: Your Body Isn't the Enemy 13:41 Lesson #7: Choose Pleasure Over Performance 14:30 Lesson #8: Life Can Crowd Out Intimacy 15:46 Lesson #9: Great Sex Is Something You Build 17:01 Audience Q&As Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you and your partner really collaborating in bed, or just going through the motions? In this episode, I'm diving deep into the third pillar of Sexual Intelligence: Collaboration. I break down why two people can be having sex without truly connecting, how sexual polarity creates that magnetic charge we all crave, and why desire mismatches don't have to drive a wedge between you and your partner. I also walk you through one of my favorite practices — the Sexual State of the Union — and share simple, actionable tools like the Yes!No!Maybe? list and 60-second eye contact to help you and your partner start co-creating the sex life you actually want. Whether you're partnered or flying solo, this episode will change the way you think about intimacy. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 00:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 4:00 Breathwork to Build Presence 5:29 Why Sex Doesn't Always Mean Collaboration 08:09 Energetic Collaboration 10:36 Sexual Clarity 14:08 Examples of Collaboration 21:47 Emily AI 23:17 Why Talking About Sex Changes Everything 25:24 The Sexual State of the Union 29:55 Somatic Healing & Next Week's Workshop Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm diving deep into the second pillar of Sexual Intelligence: Health. I’ll be breaking down exactly how your physical and mental wellbeing are directly shaping your desire, arousal, and pleasure. I'm walking you through everything from movement, hydration, and hormonal balance to pelvic floor health, stress, trauma, and the negative self-talk that quietly steals your pleasure. If you've ever wondered why you're just not in the mood, or why intimacy feels out of reach no matter what you try, this episode will connect the dots in a way that finally makes sense. Better sex doesn't just start in the bedroom, it starts with how you're taking care of yourself every single day. Listen to Better Sleep for Better Sex w/ Dr. Michael Breus now! https://open.spotify.com/episode/3B1WMSz4aPKE4oxokEDdQF?si=2e7127661d784f99 Buy Kegel Balls here: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/products/118lelo-beads-plus ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 4:05 A Guided Breathing Exercise 7:23 Moving Your Body To Feed Your Desire 9:14 Hormones and Their Impact on Libido 10:52 Hydration and Nutrition 12:13 Why Pelvic Floor Health Matters 15:19 Medications That Can Affect Your Sex Drive 16:38 Mental Health and Sexual Pleasure 19:26 Stop Performing and Start Feeling 22:06 Breaking Negative Self Talk and Shame 28:06 Cultivating Self Esteem 32:37 Simple Ways to Calm Your Nervous System 36:40 Why Better Sleep Improves Your Libido 38:42 Embrace Daily Pleasure 41:06 Final Takeaways Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm breaking down the sexual fantasies you voted on most wanting to learn about: role play and scenario-based fantasies, power exchange, sensory play, and voyeurism and exhibitionism. I cover what each one actually means, why so many of us are drawn to them, how to bring them up with a partner, and the props and tools that can help you ease in. Whether you're totally new to exploring or just looking to deepen the conversation with your partner, this episode is your permission slip to get curious, communicate openly, and make sex feel playful again… because that's exactly what it's meant to be. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 2:59 Most Popular Fantasies Revealed 4:03 Roleplay and Scenario Based Fantasies 8:41 BDSM Explained for Beginners 12:21 Tools and Techniques 17:11 Sensory Play and Temperature Play 18:58 Voyeurism vs Exhibitionism 20:21 Exploring Fantasies Without Pressure 22:44 Favorite Toys & Finding Local Communities 25:03 When Partners Have Different Fantasies 29:24 How to Try New Experiences Together 32:08 Are They Weird or Harmful? 36:24 Psychological Benefits 40:32 Exploring Fantasies While Single 42:03 Planning vs Spontaneity in Relationships 43:40 Kinks vs Fantasies Explained 46:49 Fantasy vs Fetish Differences Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Disclaimer: Today's episode is a recording from a live class I taught for my community on Embodiment: the first pillar of the Sex IQ Framework. You might hear some audience questions throughout, and the audio isn't our usual quality. Thanks for your patience! If you've ever found yourself distracted, disconnected, or just going through the motions during sex, this episode is for you. Today, I talk through the very first sexual intelligence framework pillar: Embodiment. Being truly present in your body during sex isn't something you're either born with or not,  it's a skill you can actually learn and practice. I walk you through exactly what embodiment means, why so many of us lose it (and why that's not your fault), and the simple techniques I use myself that can completely transform how you experience pleasure, intimacy, and connection. Whether you're single or partnered, this is the foundation everything else is built on, and I promise once you start practicing it, you'll feel the difference in and out of the bedroom. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 00:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily 02:58 The Sexual Intelligence Framework 05:31 Pillar One: What Is Embodiment? 07:37 What It Feels Like to Be Truly Embodied During Sex 13:53 Micro-Movements & Waking Up Dormant Sensations 15:23 Shift to a Pleasure-Focused Mindset 17:48 Mindful Solo Embodiment Practice 18:43 "Mirror Work" Appreciating Your Body Without Judgment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode,  I'm breaking down one of my all-time favorite tools: the Yes No Maybe List. If you've ever felt curious about trying something new in bed but didn't know how to bring it up — or didn't even know what was "on the menu" — this episode is for you. I'll walk you through exactly how to introduce the list to your partner, how to fill it out (solo or together), and most importantly, how to turn your “yeses” into real plans you'll actually follow through on. I'm also sharing some incredible stories from our community, breaking down newer terms you might not have heard of, and answering your live questions about what to do when you and your partner don't match up on your answers. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE: The Yes!No!Maybe? List: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  The Sex With Emily Glossary: https://sexwithemily.com/explore-play/swe-glossary/  ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 02:30 What Is the Yes! No! Maybe? List? 04:40 How the List Can Improve Your Sex Life 06:20 Why Singles Should Explore Their Desires 07:40 Bringing Novelty Back Into Relationships 08:17 How to Prepare for the Conversation 10:20 Filling Out the Yes! No! Maybe? List 11:43 Exploring New Interests 15:00 Massages, Pleasure & Connection 17:10 Turning Your Yeses Into Real Experiences 20:30 Navigating Different Answers With Your Partner 24:48 Overcoming Shame, Fear & Blocks 32:08 How Desires Change Over Time 35:44 Healing Through Communication & Trust 43:53 Final Takeaways & Next Steps Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if you've been measuring your sex life all wrong? In this episode, I explore why sexual satisfaction is about so much more than orgasms, performance, or how often you have sex. Together, we'll discuss how mindfulness, self-awareness, emotional connection, and open communication can help you create deeper pleasure and more fulfilling intimacy. I'll also share ways to let go of shame, strengthen your connection with yourself and your partner, and redefine what satisfaction truly means. Whether you're single or partnered, this conversation will help you build a sex life that feels more authentic, connected, and pleasurable. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 0:58 "Pleasure Begets Pleasure" 2:19 What Sexual Satisfaction Really Means 5:30 The Performance Myth 7:22 Cultural Messages and the Pleasure Gap 10:00 Mindfulness Improves Intimacy and Desire 13:06 How Shame Blocks Sexual Satisfaction 15:36 Supporting Your Partner’s Pleasure Journey 16:34 Avoiding Comparison in Relationships 18:27 Communication and Giving Feedback During Intimacy 20:02 Bucket Lists and Keeping Things Exciting 21:21 Redefining Intimacy Beyond Sex 28:03 What's the Goal? 31:40 Is Intellectual Conversation a Love Language? 33:25 Why Vulnerability Creates Deeper Connection 39:46 “Heard, Hugged, or Helped?” 45:52 Final Thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the key to more pleasure isn't doing more… it's slowing down? In this workshop, I walk you through a practice that can help you become more present in your body, reduce stress, deepen self-awareness, and discover what truly feels good to you. We talk about why mindfulness and pleasure go hand in hand, how to create a self-pleasure ritual focused on exploration rather than performance, and simple techniques to help you tune into sensation, quiet distractions, and build a stronger connection with your body. Whether you're looking to expand your pleasure, boost confidence, reduce anxiety, or simply learn more about yourself, this workshop offers practical tools you can start using today. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 0:54 Why People Masturbate 1:56 Understanding Mindfulness & Being Present 5:30 Maintenance vs. Mindful 9:51 How To Set The Mood For It 16:53 Mindful Self-Pleasure for Vulvas 18:53 Mindful Self-Pleasure for Penises 21:32 Step-by-Step Mindful Routine 26:20 Q&A: In the Shower or Bath? 27:07 Q&A: Making Meditation a Daily Routine 29:59 Q&A: Why Self-Pleasure May Feel Unexciting 31:02 Q&A: Favorite Meditation Styles & Apps 32:42 Q&A: How Often Should You Practice? 35:28 Q&A: Scheduling Time 36:59 Q&A: Can You Practice With a Partner? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the key to a better sex life has nothing to do with sex itself? In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Jennifer Cohen to explore the powerful connection between wellness, confidence, fitness, and sexual health. We talk about overcoming performance anxiety, why exercise can improve desire and arousal, the role honesty plays in intimacy, and whether chemistry can actually grow over time. Plus, we answer audience questions about attraction, confidence, relationships, and the habits that help you feel your best both in and out of the bedroom. This episode is sponsored by Biologica: Head to https://biologica.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get started and get up to 32% off your first subscription order today! Take their Quick Hormonal Life Stage Quiz to find the formula that’s right for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily CONNECT WITH JENNIFER COHEN: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealjencohen/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therealjencohen YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@habitsandhustle Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 00:00 Why Sexual Health Changes Everything 01:14 The Link Between Feeling Good & Having Better Sex 03:12 Are Sex And Intimacy Actually The Same Thing? 04:47 Why Performance Anxiety Happens In Bed 06:10 The Trick To Stop Overthinking During Sex 10:00 Why Working Out Makes Sex Better 12:03 How We Became Friends & Started Talking About Sex Nonstop 13:44 How To Tell Your Partner About Your Insecurities 16:08 How To Actually Approach Someone Without Being Weird 18:43 Masculine Energy, Feminine Energy & Dating Drama 24:42 Biohacking, Wellness & Feeling Hot Again 27:38 Vaginal Dryness, Hormones & Things Nobody Talks About 31:55 Aminos, Creatine & The Confidence Glow Up 34:00 Why Chemistry Matters more Than You Think Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this workshop, I'm answering your questions about desire, attraction, turn-ons, fantasies, and sexual connection. We explore why we're attracted to certain people and experiences, how to talk about sex with a partner without creating pressure, what to do when desire changes over time, and why feeling a spark for someone else doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong with your relationship. Whether you're curious about your own turn-ons, struggling to stay present during sex, or looking to deepen intimacy with a partner, this conversation will help you approach desire with more curiosity, confidence, and self-understanding. This episode is sponsored by BTL: Learn more about the EMSELLA & EXOMIND treatments from BTL at BodyByBTL.com ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 1:48 Understanding What Truly Turns You On 7:34 How to Talk About Sex Without Making It Awkward 12:09 How to Stay Present During Sex 18:01 Why Taking Longer Is Completely Normal 19:43 Taking a Break During Sex Without Killing the Mood 24:25 How Men Can Improve Ejaculation Control 28:31 Why Certain Things Turn You On 34:30 When Fantasy Doesn't Match Expectations 37:30 Different Turn-Ons in Relationships 41:50 Is It Normal to Feel Attraction to Someone Else? 45:54 How to Reignite Emotional Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this live episode recorded on May 21, 2026, I’m diving into how technology is reshaping our sex lives, relationships, dating habits, and emotional connection. From dating apps to social media, doomscrolling, and phone addiction, I unpack why so many of us feel more disconnected, overstimulated, anxious, and lonely despite being more digitally connected than ever. I also answer listener questions about insecurity, menopause and orgasms, remote-control toys, and how couples can rebuild intimacy through presence, communication, eye contact, flirtation, and intentional connection. If you’ve ever felt emotionally distant, distracted in bed, addicted to your phone, or unsure how to reconnect with your partner, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 1:09 How Technology Is Destroying Intimacy 2:33 The "Sex Recession" 5:24 The Death of Presence: Phones in Relationships 9:02 Dr. Emily's Tips 12:07 The Use of Dating Apps or Porn 15:44 Social Media, Performance Culture & Relationships 17:33 Listener Question: Do Women Prefer Bigger Penises? 26:02 The Positive Side of Technology & Sexual Wellness 26:59 Caller Kevin: Oral Sex After Menopause 37:52 Caller Mel: Using Remote-Control Vibrators Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this livestream recorded on April 23, 2026, I’m diving into one of the most common and confusing issues in relationships: what happens when your sex life changes over time. We’re talking about desire mismatch, low libido, and why the “honeymoon phase” passion doesn’t stay the same forever(it’s completely normal). I also break down the real factors that impact sex drive, from stress and body image to emotional connection and communication, and how couples can start having honest conversations about intimacy again without blame or shame. This is about understanding your body, your partner, and how to rebuild connection in a more intentional way. Get 10% off of Promescent’s Pleasure Pack here: http://www.promescent.com/swe-pleasurepack ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 00:00 The Desire Discrepancy Nobody Talks About 01:19 Why Every Long-Term Relationship Hits This Wall 02:37 Why Stress, Body Image and Life Kill The Mood 04:29 Are People Actually Having the Sex They Want? 05:38 The Blood Flow Factor Nobody Talks About 07:12 Is Watching Romantic (Ethical) Porn Together Healthy? 10:44 The Case for Roleplay and Alter Egos 14:48 "My Wife Has Zero Sex Drive" The Most Common Question 17:55 Advice for a 35-Year-Old Starting Her Sexual Debut 19:24 Unlearning Shame from a Religious Background 22:02 Rewriting "Virginity" as Your Sexual Debut 23:30 Ask Yourself This Before Your Next Date Night Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this livestream recorded on May 14, 2026, I’m breaking down everything you need to know about pelvic floor health, orgasms, bladder leaks, Kegels, pelvic pain, and why this part of your body affects way more than most people realize. I answer live listener questions about sneezing and peeing, period pain, pelvic floor tension, stronger orgasms, and the biggest mistakes people make when trying Kegel exercises. We also talk about relationships, communication, dating patterns, spooning as an underrated sex position, and why creating a safe space to talk openly about sex can completely change your relationship and confidence. Learn more about BTL's EMSELLA Chair at https://bodybybtl.com/solutions/btl-emsella ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 1:09 Why Pelvic Floor Health Matters 5:09 Emily’s Pelvic Floor Routine 8:15 Pelvic Floor Exercises Explained 10:14 Kegels for Stronger Orgasms 13:17 Sex Books & Aging Changes 16:02 Menopause & Pelvic Floor Devices 19:31 Kegel Mistakes Men Make 21:49 Relationship Advice 25:00 Caller Q&A: Kegels, Pelvic Floor Health & Period Pain 33:26 Why Spooning Is Underrated 35:34 Caller Q&A: Sneezing, Leaks & Kegels for Men 39:28 Spooning Position Demo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this live episode of Sex With Emily recorded on April 16, 2026, I answer your biggest questions about sex, attraction, intimacy, libido, dating, communication, and the orgasm gap. In this livestream, we talk about what actually helps women orgasm, why slowing down and communication matter so much in relationships, how medications can impact libido, signs someone is sexually attracted to you, dating in today’s world, oral sex tips, threesome boundaries, and so much more. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! This episode is sponsored by Biologica: Head to https://biologica.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get started and get up to 32% off your first subscription order today! Take their Quick Hormonal Life Stage Quiz to find the formula that’s right for you. Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 1:28 Understanding the Orgasm Gap 2:35 The Importance of Clitoral Stimulation 4:10 Communication is Lubrication 5:27 Why Slowing Down Improves Sex 7:49 Best Toys & Recommendations 9:39 Why Rushing Can Hurt Intimacy 10:22 How to Slow Down & Stay Present During Sex 14:42 Navigating Boundaries in Threesomes 18:51 Sensitivity & Trouble Finishing 22:55 Talking About Anal & Oral Sex 25:19 When Is the Right Time to Have Sex While Dating? 28:28 Signs Someone Is Sexually Attracted to You 32:41 Medications That Affect Libido & Arousal 37:13 What Is Sexomnia? 38:14 The “Kivin Method” 42:30 Feeling Stuck in a Dating Desert 45:38 Why Taking Classes Can Change Your Dating Life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this live episode of Sex With Emily recorded on May 7, 2026, I talk about what’s really going on in our sex lives right now, from low libido and mismatched desire to shame, porn expectations, dating struggles, and why so many couples feel disconnected. I answer your real questions about intimacy, kink, ethical non-monogamy, and how modern life (stress, phones, and social media) is impacting our ability to connect. Most importantly, I share why communication is the missing piece in so many relationships and give practical ways to start talking about sex in a way that actually brings you closer, not further apart. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  This episode is sponsored by Promescent: Get 12% off of Promescent’s Power Couple Bundle here: http://www.promescent.com/swe-powercouple Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 1:01 Why People Avoid Talking About Sex 8:36 Answering Sex Questions at a Dinner Party 9:46 How to Start Dating Again 13:27 The Modern “Sex Recession” 15:08 Beginner Kink & Sensory Play Ideas 16:09 Is It Normal to Admire Another Man’s Body? 19:31 Why Compliments Matter in Relationships 20:17 Low Libido & Feeling Too Tired for Sex 24:35 Why Nonsexual Intimacy Matters 26:14 Do Women Want More Sex Than Men? 28:18 How Social Media Affects Libido 30:10 Why Couples Should Discuss Sex Drive Early 31:36 Gaming, Dopamine & Modern Disconnection 32:35 “Use It or Lose It” & Sexual Energy 35:18 How Porn & Movies Shape Expectations 36:23 Roleplay, Fantasies & Ethical Porn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On Today’s live podcast recording from April 9, 2026, I answer your real questions about masturbation, insecurity, kink, communication, and how to improve your sex life with curiosity and openness. We talk about why masturbation is a healthy part of a thriving relationship, how to overcome insecurities about sexual experience, and the importance of communication and exploration. I also dive into how to bring solo techniques into partnered sex, why self-consciousness during intimacy can kill arousal, and how to keep desire alive through changes in life stages. This episode is all about prioritizing pleasure, understanding your body, and learning to feel more confident in your sexuality. No matter your experience, there’s always room to grow and enjoy better, more fulfilling sex. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily 2:14 Masturbation in Relationships Isn’t Cheating 5:44 Kinks, Bondage & Presence 7:25 Inexperienced in Bed & Becoming a Better Lover 9:57 Solo Orgasms, Porn, & Partnered Sex Explained 14:13 Body Confidence During Sex 18:28 Emily’s New Book 19:40 Can Lesbians Enjoy Anal Pleasure? 22:06 Perimenopause & Low Libido 23:47 Why Some People Can Only Orgasm Alone 26:17 How to Be an Ethical “F-Boy” 29:14 Trouble Finishing Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Sex With Emily, I answer your real questions about long-term relationships, desire, pleasure, communication, and what it actually takes to keep intimacy alive over time. We get into why so many couples feel disconnected after years together, how shame and stress impact our ability to receive pleasure, and why better sex starts with curiosity instead of pressure or performance.  I also talk about receiving pleasure, mismatched desires, body confidence, communication, keeping attraction alive after moving in together, and why anticipation and novelty play such a big role in desire. This episode is all about learning how to communicate more openly, better understand yourself and your partner, and create a sex life that feels more connected, exciting, and sustainable long-term. Learn more about the EMSELLA & EXOMIND treatments from BTL at BodyByBTL.com #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #LiveStream  Don't miss a video! Subscribe NOW:  https://www.youtube.com/@SexWithEmilyOfficial?sub_confirmation=1  ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters:0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily0:42 Exploring Touch & Sexual Curiosity2:22 Somatic Therapy & Erotic Blueprints6:00 Reconnecting After 10 Years Together8:16 Diffuculty With Oral Intimacy10:38 How To Talk About Oral Sex13:16 Why Mutual Masturbation Helps Couples15:26 Learning Pleasure & Orgasms Together17:11 Helping Your Partner Feel Safe Letting Go19:25 Different Desires in Relationships22:29 Pain After Orgasm & Refractory Periods24:07 Pillows, Comfort & Better Angles25:08 Vaginal pH, Odor & Probiotics27:13 Frequent UTIs During Sex28:35 Best Toys for Long-Distance Relationships29:55 Letting Go of Masturbation Shame31:49 How Much Masturbation Is Too Much?33:13 Moving In Together Without Losing Passion36:26 Why Couples Need Weekend Getaways Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode live recording of Sex With Emily, I break down what’s really getting in the way of your pleasure, from the way most of us were taught about sex to why so many people feel disconnected, pressured, or stuck in their heads during intimacy. I explain how performance-based thinking replaces sensation, why desire changes over time, and what it actually takes to build trust with your body again. We also get into how to communicate what you want with a partner, how to bridge the gap between solo pleasure and partnered sex, and why slowing down is the key to feeling more present and connected. If you’ve ever felt like something is off in your sex life or struggled to relax and enjoy it, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening and how to create more confidence, clarity, and pleasure moving forward. Note: This was a live recording from November 2025. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #LiveStream Check out Magic Wand at shop.sexwithemily.com/magicwand Don't miss a video! Subscribe NOW: https://www.youtube.com/@SexWithEmilyOfficial?sub_confirmation=1 ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 00:00 Pleasure Is The Teacher 02:08 What Is Pleasure Based Sex Education? 03:08 Learning From The Body Instead Of The Mind 04:08 Why We Struggle To Feel Pleasure 06:10 Lack Of Desire vs Lack Of Safety And Permission 07:08 The Importance Of Slowing Down And Feeling 09:27 Why We Disconnect During Sex 10:13 Building Erotic Self-Trust And Awareness 11:16 You’re Not Broken: Reframing Sexual Beliefs 13:05 Community Q&A Begins: Real Questions About Sex 14:11 How To Communicate Desire And Dominance 17:44 Co-Creating Pleasure With Your Partner 22:43 Bridging Solo Pleasure And Partnered Sex 27:59 Reconnecting With Your Body As It Changes 33:08 Getting Out Of Your Head And Into Sensation 40:00 Pain, Hormones, And Navigating Physical Changes 43:55 Rebuilding Sexual Confidence After Time Alone 48:34 Final Thoughts: Practice, Communication, And Pleasure Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I answer your real questions about sex, desire, and relationships while breaking down some of the biggest myths we’ve been taught, from porn shaping unrealistic expectations to the truth about size, pleasure, and communication. I also dive into why so many people feel blocked or “not normal” in their sex lives, how fantasies actually form, what really leads to better sex (hint: it’s not performance), and how to talk to your partner about what you want without shame or shutdowns. My goal is to help you understand your body and your desires more clearly, release the judgment around them, and ultimately create more pleasure, confidence, and connection in your sex life. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #LiveStream  Don't miss a video! Subscribe NOW:  https://www.youtube.com/@SexWithEmilyOfficial?sub_confirmation=1  ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Introduction & Safe Space Guidelines 2:14 Understanding Sexual Desires & Fantasies 4:08 Cuckolding/Hot Wifing Explained 7:35 Anal Sex Discussion 8:54 Prostate Pleasure for Men 15:15 Sex Toys & Products Overview 18:10 Pain During Sex 24:00 Female Orgasm Challenges 25:20 The Importance of Foreplay 31:54 Penis Size Truth 35:34 Pubic Hair Preferences 37:26 Knowing Your Turn-Ons 42:05 Communication Tips 44:04 Orgasm Difficulties Q&A 48:04 Closing & Resources Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I’m diving into the truth about fantasies… why we have them, why so many of us are afraid to share them, and how to talk about them with a partner without pressure or shame. I break down what fantasies actually are (and what they’re not), why silence in relationships often comes from self-protection rather than secrecy, and how to create space for honest, judgment-free conversations about sex. I also take live questions from a caller who’s navigating dating transparency, emotional boundaries, and how to communicate clearly without rushing intimacy. This episode originally aired as a live stream, and I’m so excited to bring it to you as a podcast- real talk, real questions, and practical tools to help you feel more connected, confident, and open in your sex life. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 00:00 Fantasies Are Not What You Think 01:16 How To Talk About Fantasies Without Pressure 02:45 Creating A No Judgment Space 04:33 What A Fantasy Actually Is 05:54 The Fear Of Talking About Sex 07:05 Why We Stay Quiet About What We Want 08:09 Different Areas of Fantasies 10:23 What We’re Really Craving 11:20 How To Bring It Up Without Making It Awkward 12:38 Desire, Control, & Trying New Things 16:47 When Two People Are Moving At Different Speeds 18:10 Getting To Know Your Own Desire First 20:54 Caller: Dating Honestly Without Overthinking It 23:49 How To Ask “What Are We?” In A Natural Way 26:55 Being Honest Without Putting Pressure 29:47 Timing Sex & How to Know When It Feels Right Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I’m answering your real, unfiltered questions, covering everything from casual sex and whether it’s actually right for you, to performance anxiety and what really happens to your sex life after the honeymoon phase ends. We get into how to talk to your partner about things like blood flow and stress playing a bigger role in arousal than you think, and how to reignite connection when sex starts to feel routine or less frequent. I also break down why scheduling sex isn’t boring- It’s actually one of the most powerful tools for long-term intimacy! Also,  solo pleasure can support (not replace) your relationship. If you’ve ever wondered “is this normal?” when it comes to your sex life… this episode is for you. Try Promescent Delay Spray today and get 15% off your first order. Just go to www.promescent.com/swe ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!    ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the LIVE 01:10 Let’s Talk Sex Without the Awkwardness 02:32 When Casual Sex Just Doesn’t Feel Right 03:06 Caller Question: Feeling Weird or Guilty About Viagra 05:04 How to Bring It Up With Your Partner 06:13 The Pressure Guys Feel in Bed 07:25 Expectations & Real Talk 08:01 Blood Flow & What’s Actually Going On 09:18 New Fixes: Shockwave Therapy 10:28 Caller Question: Why Sex Slows Down 11:30 The Honeymoon Phase Is Over… Now What? 12:48 Keeping Things Fun & Exciting 14:02 Finding the Best Time for Sex 31:13 Why You Gotta Prioritize Your Sex Life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I know what you're thinking. Missionary? Really? But hear me out,  because I genuinely believe missionary might be the most underrated position in existence, and the reason most people are bored by it has nothing to do with the position itself. It has everything to do with what they're not doing in it. In this episode, I'm breaking down every missionary myth, sharing the techniques that actually work for clitoral stimulation during penetration, and answering your listener's questions on everything from G-spot orgasms to asking your partner to bend you over the kitchen table. In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why the porn version of penetrative sex works for only about 30% of vulva owners and what the rest of us actually need to get there, including the CAT technique that makes missionary the best position for clitoral stimulation  • How to tell your partner you want them to dominate you, talk dirty, and bring more intensity to sex without making them feel like they've been doing it wrong this whole time  • Why incorporating a vibrator into partnered sex is one of the best things you can do for your sex life, and how to ask for it even if you're a people pleaser who's spent years putting everyone else's comfort before your own pleasure This Episode is sponsored by... Check out Magic Wand at shop.sexwithemily.com/magicwand More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:03 - What's Actually Great About Missionary (That Most People Miss) 5:26 - Dispelling the Myth That Missionary Is Boring 8:21 - The CAT Technique: Best Missionary Position for Clitoral Stimulation 9:29 - Listener Question: Mental Block Around Trying New Positions 13:15 - Dispelling the Myth That Missionary Can't Be Kinky 13:28 - Listener Question: How to Ask Your Partner to Be More Dominant 18:27 - Dispelling the Myth That Vulva Owners Can't Orgasm in Missionary 19:02 - Listener Question: Clitoral vs. Penetrative Orgasms & the G-Spot Explained 23:32 - Listener Question: How to Use a Vibrator During Missionary Without the Bulk 26:06 - A Note to People Pleasers: Your Pleasure Matters Too Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I dive into your real-time questions about sex, dating, desire, and connection… breaking down what might actually be blocking you from the intimacy and pleasure you want. From why it can feel harder to approach people or build attraction, to how stress, overthinking, and disconnection from your body and partner impact desire, I unpack the hidden patterns shaping your sex life. We explore everything from casual sex after breakups to how couples can reignite the spark, approach intimacy more intentionally, and create more ease, confidence, and fun in both sex and modern dating.  ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the LIVE 01:16 How to Call/Text Your Questions 01:49 Valentine’s Day & 21 Years of Podcasting 02:36 Why Couples Love Listening Together 04:33 Desire vs. Arousal Explained 05:21 Can You Coregasm at the Gym?  06:59 Blood Flow & Body Responses 07:53 Is This Normal?   09:02 What Some Women Enjoy Watching  10:54 Vulnerability in Men & Relationships 12:38 What is Compersion? 14:10 How to Approach Someone at the Gym 18:45 How to Bring Back the Spark in Relationships 21:25 Yes/No/Maybe List (Game-Changer Tool) 23:48 Real-Life Love Stories (Gym & Neighbors) 24:16 Keep Dating Your Partner 27:09 Slow Cooker vs. Frying Pan 28:52 Final Thoughts & Where to Find More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I've said it a thousand times and I'll say it again, the number one thing standing between you and the sex life you actually want is probably one conversation you haven't had yet. Not a new position. Not a new toy. A conversation. And I know that sounds simple, but if it were easy, you wouldn't be talking yourself out of it every single time. Today, I'm taking live listener calls on some of the most awkward, most avoided, most necessary conversations in sex and relationships, and giving you the exact words to have them. In this episode, you'll learn:  • What to do when everything in your relationship is great except the sex — and how to bring it up without making your partner feel like the last nine months were a waste  • How to give feedback about a smell, a skill, or a habit that's getting in the way of your pleasure — without shame, without cruelty, and without killing the mood  • Why if you're freezing up every time you want to initiate, the problem probably isn't your partner's response — it's the story you're telling yourself before you even open your mouth This episode is sponsored by... Try Promescent Delay Spray today and get 15% off your first order. Just go to www.promescent.com/swe More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:44 - Caller #1: Sex Is Lackluster After 9 Months — Is It a Dealbreaker? 11:27 - How to Tell Someone They're Bad at Hand Jobs 13:06 - Caller #2: She's Monogamous, He Wants Non-Monogamy 18:55 - Dr. Emily on Ethical Non-Monogamy & Why Timing Matters 19:58 - Caller #3: Should He Tell His Culinary School Crush He Has Feelings? 27:25 - Caller #4: Hemorrhoid Surgery, Skin Tags & Talking About It With Partners 33:39 - Anonymous Question: She Smells — How Do You Bring It Up? 36:06 - Caller #5: She Wants Sex But Freezes Up Before Initiating 42:03 - Dr. Emily's Final Word: If No One Initiates, There's Zero Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices