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| #81 - Teri Hofford / Unf*cking how we see our bodies | 14 Oct 2024 | 00:50:59 | |
On today’s episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by the lovely Teri Hofford. Teri is a body image educator, bestselling author, photographer and TedX speaker who helps people unf*ck their beliefs around bodies and business so that they can move closer to their most authentic selves. We were very excited to have a conversation with her today about all things relating to body image – the meaning that we make out of our bodies and where those thoughts come from, how we can reframe negative thoughts about ourselves, what confidence can look like for different people, and why being curious is so important when it comes to shifting the way we think and feel about our bodies. Find Teri here: https://terihofford.com/ Or on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terihofford Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:50 – What Teri does and how she got involved working in this space 03:06 – 5 reasons you look bad in photos 06:50 – Using photography to explore difficult subjects 08:44 – How to change your attitude towards your body 11:10 – Treat yourself like you’d treat a friend 13:07 – 3 steps to reframing negative body talk 16:17 – The impact of asexuality on body image 23:55 – Most common myths about body image + confidence 27:40 – Teri’s project celebrating bodies as they are 30:30 – Body Image Bootcamp: what it’s all about 33:34 – Being able to freely exist in your body 35:10 – Our bodies are a representation of what we feel about ourselves 40:14 – Teri’s message to her younger self 42:16 – Why we have to be intentional to reframe our thoughts about our bodies 45:02 – You’re not as special as you think you are 49:04 – Where to find Teri 50:05 - Conclusion -----------------
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| #80 - Tina Horn / Understanding kink, fetish and pleasure | 09 Oct 2024 | 00:37:37 | |
On this week’s episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to talk with Tina Horn – a writer, educatrix, and media-maker. She is the author of Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation of Kink (Hachette), a book based on her long-running indie fetish podcast. Tina is the creator/writer of the sci-fi sex-rebel comic book series Safe Sex /SfSx, and the cult detective thriller Deprog; she was also the host/cowriter of the phone sex podcast Operator (Wondery). Her reporting on sexual subcultures has appeared in Rolling Stone, Playboy, Hazlitt, Glamour, Jezebel and elsewhere; she is the author of two other nonfiction books and has contributed to numerous anthologies including We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival, which she also coedited. Tina has lectured on adult entertainment politics and queer BDSM identities at universities and community centres all over North America, and works as an on-set consultant for theatre, film, and television including the dominatrix scenes of Pose. She is a LAMBDA Literary Fellow, an AVN nominee, the recipient of two Feminist Porn Awards, and holds an MFA in Creative Nonfiction Writing from Sarah Lawrence. Find Tina here: https://www.instagram.com/tinahornsass/?hl=en Or at her website: https://tinahorn.net/ Timestamps 00:00 – Intro 01:50 – What is a kink? 05:20 – The influence of the internet on our sexual behaviours 07:06 – How would you define rough sex? 08:49 – Our relationship with obsession 14:00 – Connecting to others through sexuality 15:59 – How to bring your desires and fantasies to life 22:02 – Different kinds of foot fetishes 26:50 – Embracing pleasure 29:13 – Places we can learn from 32:36 – Learning about sex from observation and conversations 34:08 – Why are people into that? The cultural investigation of kink. 35:30 – Conclusion -----------------
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| #72 - William Moore / Exploring Male Girth Enhancement - the science and the impacts | 14 Aug 2024 | 00:32:40 | |
In this episode, Tim had the opportunity to talk with William Moore, founder of the AdvancedYOU clinic, and developer of PhalloFILL Male Girth Enhancement. They spoke about all things penis girth enhancement, from the reasons people seek this help and treatment, to the processes of the procedure, the effects and benefits, the impacts of pornography on male body image, and the future of biohacking your health. Learn more about PhalloFILL: https://phallofill.com/ Find more about William here: https://advanced-you.com/ -----------------
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| #71 - Verity Johnson / Club Burlesque: celebrating freedom, sexuality and desire | 06 Aug 2024 | 00:21:07 | |
On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee. Verity is a newspaper columnist, MC at Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club, and the owner of Club Burlesque – New Zealand’s first burlesque club. Together they spoke about:
Club Burlesque’s 2024 season runs from July 26 – September 13 in Auckland, New Zealand. Check out Club Burlesque (and find tickets) here: https://theclubburlesque.com/ Find Club Burlesque on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clubburlesquenz/?hl=en Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:33 – What is burlesque? 02:54 – Understanding eros 03:25 – Why Verity started Club Burlesque 04:44 – What you can expect from a night at Club Burlesque 06:31 – Misconceptions about burlesque 07:44 – Redefining how we think about society’s attitudes towards sex 09:05 – What burlesque teaches you about desire 11:38 – On not being afraid of your sexuality 14:10 – Club Burlesque vs Men of Steel 15:04 – Seeing Auckland reclaim its sexy side 17:00 – How can we start to deconstruct shame in society? 18:42 – Where you can find more information about Club Burlesque 18:55 – Give yourself permission to enjoy sex and desire 19:52 – Conclusion
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| #70 - Daniel Principe / Empowering boys to navigate masculinity and culture | 29 Jul 2024 | 01:02:54 | |
On this episode of the podcast, Tim and Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Daniel Principe, a passionate youth advocate and educator. He champions boys across Australia to challenge culture and aspire to live courageous, respectful and empathetic lives. In the podcast Daniel, Tim and Toshi spoke about:
Daniel is a board member of the DART Institute, an ambassador for the Women’s Resilience Centre and an ambassador for the national campaign Consent Can’t Wait. Having presented to tens of thousands of young people in every Australian state and territory, Daniel is no stranger to the complex challenges that our distracted digital world presents in adolescence. By partnering with schools and communities, Daniel encourages young people to recognise and resist distorted attitudes towards bodies, relationships and sex. He invites his audiences to instead aspire to healthy relationships built on mutual respect and empathy. Daniel is a regular guest on TV, radio and podcasts to discuss healthy masculinity, consent, respectful relationships and the cultural challenges young people are facing. None of these evolving challenges sway Daniel’s confidence that all young people can flourish if we create spaces for them to be their best selves. You can check out Daniel here: https://www.danielprincipe.com.au/ Find him on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/lastoftheromans/ Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:01 – Who Daniel is and what he does 05:13 – Championing boys, challenging culture 06:05 – What ideas are being communicated to boys about masculinity? 11:50 – Unpacking where our desires come from 14:32 – Advice for navigating social pressure and why it’s important to choose your friends well 17:15 – Social expectations in sex and relationships 18:22 – Responses of young people to Daniel’s workshops 20:04 – What Daniel’s work looks like in practice 24:33 – Why we need to have empathy for young people navigating online spaces 30:41 – Young people’s thoughts on Andrew Tate 35:52 – Understanding the appeal of the sigma meme 40:05 – The realities of young people’s porn use 48:23 – Why soft skills are so important 51:03 – How parents and caregivers can help 56:44 – Daniel's message for young people 58:32 – Conclusion -----------------
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| Dr Alex Layendecker / Sex in space | 22 Jul 2024 | 00:47:34 | |
On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was thrilled to be able to talk with Dr. Alex Layendecker of the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute (ASRI) about all things sex in space. Together, they spoke about:
ASRI is a 501c3 non-profit research organisation that is dedicated to the study of human sexuality and reproductive factors as they apply to outer space environments. Dr. Layendecker is the founder and current director of ASRI. He is a 2008 graduate of the United States Air Force Academy and served seven years as a USAF space operations officer for spacecraft launch and recovery, before transferring to the USAF Reserve as an HH-60G helicopter pilot for Combat Search and Rescue. He completed a Master of Public Health (2013) and PhD in Human Sexuality (2016) for the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where his doctoral research focused on human sexuality and reproduction in off-Earth environments, the history of research in this area, and the research gaps that must be filled in the future in order to make long-term settlement of other worlds a viable possibility.
Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:19 – What is the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute all about? 02:36 – Dr. Layendecker’s background and research 06:23 – Old space vs new space 08:30 – When might regular people have access to space? 11:29 – The race to fill all the research gaps 13:57 – The first symposium for the study of human reproduction and sexual health in space 15:09 – Short and long-term risks about sex in space 17:40 – Why this research is so important 21:45 – Has anyone had sex in space? 31:20 – The animals that have mated in space 32:11 – Why the research focus is not just on the act of sex 34:36 – How will humans evolve in off-Earth environments? 38:01 – Funding research into sex in space 41:30 – The future of space travel 43:28 – Would Dr. Layendecker travel to space? 46:15 – Conclusion
Find more about Dr. Layendecker and the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute here: ASRI: https://www.asri.space/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/astrosexresearch Twitter: https://x.com/ASRI4Space
Links mentioned in the podcast: The International Scientific Symposium for the Study of Human Reproduction & Sexual Health in Space: https://www.space-reproduction.org/ SpaceBorn United: https://www.spacebornunited.com/ The Overview Effect by Frank White: https://www.amazon.com.au/Overview-Effect-Exploration-Evolution-Library/dp/162410262X Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #68 - Dr. Evan Goldstein / Anal health and pleasure | 16 Jul 2024 | 00:58:31 | |
On today’s episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to speak with Dr Evan Goldstein, leading anal health expert in the U.S. Dr Goldstein is the founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, a first of its kind health practice specialising in gay men’s sexual health and wellness, and has just published a new book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In-Between. Together, Tim and Dr. Goldstein spoke about anal health and pleasure, hygiene practices – including why you should avoid using wet wipes and bidets- debunked common assumptions and misconceptions, and more. Check out Butt Seriously here: https://a.co/d/cRLA0vF Find Dr. Goldstein here: https://drevangoldstein.com/ -----------------
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| #67 - Dr. Ian Kerner / Sex ed, desire and communication | 09 Jul 2024 | 00:43:45 | |
On this episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Dr. Ian Kerner, licensed psychotherapist, lecturer, and New York Times bestselling author of books including She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, and most recently, So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives. Together, Ian and Tim spoke about the importance of prioritizing pleasure in sexual relationships, the need for accurate sex ed and the impact that pornography has on sexual attitudes and behaviours. They also discussed the rise of sexual anxiety, the challenges that couples face in maintaining desire and the need for open communication. Find Dr. Ian here: https://www.iankerner.com/ Find his TED Talk, 'A sex therapist's secret to rediscovering your spark' here: https://www.ted.com/talks/ian_kerner_a_sex_therapist_s_secret_to_rediscovering_your_spark?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare -----------------
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| #66 - Madam Bella Cummins / Running a brothel the right way | 01 Jul 2024 | 00:37:32 | |
On today’s episode of the podcast, we were privileged to be joined by Madam Bella Cummins, the owner and operator of Bella’s Hacienda Ranch, in Wells, Nevada. Bella’s Hacienda Ranch is the only legal brothel run entirely by sex workers, and it attracts customers from all over the US and beyond. At 74 years old, Cummins is the longest serving living female legal brothel owner in the US. In 1987, she acquired the struggling Hacienda Ranch Brothel and transformed it into the famed "Bella's Hacienda." Leveraging her understanding of business and financial expertise, Cummins successfully turned the establishment into one of the most prosperous adult entertainment destinations in the state. During the COVID pandemic, when the legal brothels were shuttered by Nevada’s governor, Cummins creatively obtained an escort license for her business, allowing sex workers to sustain their income by providing non-sexual companionship services.
In an era when sex workers were often disparaged and marginalized, Cummins pioneered a revolutionary approach within the industry. As the only legal brothel entirely run by sex workers, Bella’s Hacienda eliminated exploitative elements, creating a female-led workplace culture centred around trust and teamwork. This environment allowed sex workers to find camaraderie, support, and personal growth, challenging stereotypes and fostering a more positive image of women in the adult entertainment sector. Check out Bella's Hacienda Ranch here: https://bellas.us/
Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 02:06 – Bella's background 03:49 – Bella's experience of sex ed 05:23 – How Bella was introduced to brothels 09:00 – Bella's vision and mission 11:10 – Where Bella’s attitude came from 13:40 – Thoughts on Madams in other houses 14:26 – Lessons learned in life 16:14 – The difference between sensuality and sex 17:20 – Why Bella’s offers adult male virgins a discount 24:29 – Advice to young women wanting to get into the industry 27:06 – Bella’s relationship advice 30:26 – Bella's plans for the future 32:48 – Why there is a need for brothels 34:30 – Bella's message to listeners 36:04 – Conclusion -----------------
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| #65 - Shaun Hill / Sex, drugs and consent | 24 Jun 2024 | 00:34:37 | |
On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was able to sit down with Shaun Hill, the ReWired Project Lead, from the New Zealand Drug Foundation. ReWired is a non-judgemental support group for people who want to bring their party’n’play into focus. Together, Shaun and Toshi had a conversation about chemsex, the ReWired project, sex, drug use and consent, communication and pleasure. Check out ReWired here: https://www.rewired.org.nz/ ----------------- TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 – Intro 01:38 – How Shaun's perceptions around drug use changed over time 05:58 – What does chemsex and party’n’play mean? 07:53 – What is the ReWired project all about? 09:50 – How ReWired has changed over time 11:31 – The value of hearing people’s journeys 13:28 – Reflecting on the Four F's: friends, family, fucks and finances 16:16 – Sex should be about fun and pleasure 17:42 – Challenges working at ReWired 20:09 – How to navigate consent when drug use is involved 23:49 – How to navigate consent in spaces where it’s given non-verbally 28:43 – One thing Shaun wishes more people knew about consent 31:50 – Where to find more info about ReWired 32:36 – Conclusion -----------------
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| #64 - Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers / How to overcome sexual shame | 17 Jun 2024 | 00:54:35 | |
For this episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to talk with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a sex therapist, founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, a former professor of Marriage and Family therapy at Seattle Pacific University, an AASECT-certified supervisor, mother, wife and author. Her mission is to provide education and tools that empower people to rise above sexual shame and embrace their value. Together Tim and Dr. Tina discuss sexual shame, its origins, the role of religion, effective parenting strategies and more. Find Dr. Tina here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/ Check out her book, Shameless Parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident Kids and Heal Your Shame Too: https://a.co/d/efnEOkV Explore Dr Tina’s other book, Sex, God and the Conservative Church: https://a.co/d/eaU5zMK -----------------
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| #63 - Dr Fiona Vera-Gray / Women talk porn | 10 Jun 2024 | 00:41:33 | |
For this episode we were lucky enough to be joined by Dr. Fiona Vera-Gray, one of the UK’s leading feminist academics working on sexual violence, and the Deputy director at the Child and Women Abuse Studies Unit at London Metropolitan University. Earlier this year, Fiona published her book, Women on Porn, where she interviewed 100 women on their experiences with pornography – how they first encountered it, how they consume it, how it has affected their sex lives and relationships, what they like and what they don’t. Toshi and Fiona spoke about what inspired the book, how people have responded to it, how porn impacts our sex lives and the conflicting feelings that many women have towards their porn use. Check out Fiona here: https://www.fionaveragray.com/ Find Women on Porn here: https://www.fionaveragray.com/book-women-on-porn.html ----------------- Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:14 – What kicked off the book? 02:58 – What are sexual scripts? 04:29 – How does porn impact our sex lives? 06:26 – The problem with the Fast and Furious analogy 08:03 – Balancing regulation and privacy 09:49 – Removing the judgement from the conversation 13:33 – It’s not as simple as pro-porn or anti-porn 15:34 - What women say about their first sexual experiences 17:30 – Advice if you feel conflicted about your porn use 22:05 – How people have responded to Women on Porn 24:00 – What positive impacts can porn have? 27:32 – Fiona’s challenges working in this space 29:24 – Men’s responses to her work 30:51 – Supporting young people 32:50 – Women’s responses to Fiona’s work 34:32 – Feeling validated by other women's experiences 36:00 – What about feminist/ethical porn? 38:09 - How our sexual desires are shaped by culture 40:26 – Conclusion -----------------
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| #79 - Melody Thomas / How good sex became a great project | 30 Sep 2024 | 00:28:20 | |
For this episode we were thrilled to be joined by Melody Thomas, the creator and host of The Good Sex Project – a podcast about good sex, good relationships and how to have them. Together, Melody and Toshi spoke about what she’s learned from her two seasons creating this podcast, how the work has impacted Melody’s own sex life, what she wishes she knew earlier about sex and relationships, and some of the most memorable moments from the conversations she’s had. Check out The Good Sex Project here: https://interactives.stuff.co.nz/the-good-sex-project-podcast/ Timestamps 00:00 – Intro 00:40 – What is The Good Sex Project all about? 02:09 – How people have responded to The Good Sex Project 03:51 – Melody’s biggest learnings about sex and relationships 07:39 – Advice to feel more comfortable talking about sex 10:05 – Taboos that still need to be broken down 12:59 – Sex advice Melody would give to her younger self 14:31 – How you can prioritise your own pleasure 17:00 – Communication tips 18:47 – Identifying unhealthy relationships 20:20 – Why asking questions is so important 21:55 – The expectations we take from porn 22:57 – How Melody’s sexual experiences have changed over time 24:17 – How sex-negative thinking can impact our physical experiences 26:33 – Where listeners can tune into The Good Sex Project 27:06 – Conclusion -----------------
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| #62 - Lucy Sante / It's never too late to transition | 03 Jun 2024 | 00:34:58 | |
On this episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Lucy Sante, a Belgian-born American writer, teacher, and critic, who has contributed to the New York Review of Books for four decades about film, art, and photography. She transitioned at the age of 67 after downloading an app on her phone that had a gender-swapping feature, allowing Lucy to see herself as a woman. Earlier this year, she published a book called I Heard Her Call My Name, a Memoir of Transition, which brings together two threads of personal narrative – the first, the arc of her life, and the second, her recent transition that allowed her to reach a place of inner and outer alignment. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:23 – Feelings after promoting her book 02:10 – Lucy's experience being trans 04:40 – Containment vs desire 07:28 – Lucy's upbringing 08:52 – What triggered Lucy’s transition 11:45 – The impact of age on transitioning 13:56 – Lucy's social experiences as a kid 17:25 – First encounters with trans people 18:41 – Finding courage from others 21:33 – Why Lucy might have transitioned 25 years earlier 22:31 – Gender in society 25:33 – The debate with feminism 27:11 – The joy of transitioning 31:42 – Being transgender is not a choice 33:51 – Conclusion Check out Lucy's book here: https://lucysante.com/book/i-heard-her-call-my-name/ -----------------
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| #61 - Annah Pickering / Sex work advocacy | 28 May 2024 | 00:20:24 | |
For this episode of the podcast, Toshi was lucky enough to speak with Annah Pickering, the regional co-ordinator for the NZPC – the Aotearoa New Zealand Sex Worker’s Collective. The Sex Worker’s Collective is a national organisation here in New Zealand that empowers and advocates for the rights of sex workers, as well as doing work internationally around the decriminalisation of sex work. Check out the NZPC here: https://nzpc.org.nz/. -----------------
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| #60 - Susie Orbach / Why fat's still a feminist issue | 20 May 2024 | 00:28:03 | |
For this episode, Jane had the privilege of speaking with Susie Orbach, who is a British psychotherapist, psychoanalyst, social critic and the writer who hit the world with the iconic book: Fat is a Feminist Issue, which is an important examination of the obsession we have with food and body image. Written over 40 years ago, it remains hyper relevant to this day. Fast forward to 2009, and Susie followed up on this idea with Bodies. In this book she argues that the way we view our bodies has become synonymous with how we see ourselves – our body becomes the way that we measure our self-worth. In Bodies, Susie suggests ways that we might be able to heal from this kind of messaging. In the podcast, Susie spoke with Jane about this amazing body of work, and three main themes emerged – the development of feminism and the way that our perception of it has changed over time, our struggle as humans to be both connected and autonomous, and the way in which the food and beauty industries profit so significantly from body insecurity. What you’ll find in the podcast: How feminism was perceived when Susie was young What role should work have in our lives? The shift from relying on each other to competing Can we find common ground with others? Why connection is so important Why do so many of us feel bad about our bodies? How we can change the way we feel about bodies Why you should read Bodies A reflection on the times we’re living in
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| #59 - Chanel Contos / How to do consent when it comes to sex | 13 May 2024 | 00:22:35 | |
For this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Chanel Contos, founder and CEO of Teach Us Consent, a campaign that mandated consent education in Australia. Chanel discussed the success of this campaign and the response she received from people within Australia and internationally. She unpacks what people can expect from her book, Consent Laid Bare, and discusses the last chapter which is titled “Dear Boys and Men” and what she hoped to achieve with this particular part of the book. Chanel also gives her advice on how to have healthier conversations and practices around consent and understanding personal boundaries. Find out more about the Teach Us Consent campaign here: https://www.teachusconsent.com/ Grab a copy of Consent Laid Bare: https://amzn.asia/d/87nIuxU Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:11 – What is the Teach Us Consent campaign? 03:22 – Responses to the campaign 03:52 – What Chanel has learned from working in this space 04:40 – What's most rewarding about being involved in this work 05:43 – What you’ll find in Chanel’s book 07:20 – Dear Boys and Men 10:11 – How to help people feel comfortable to say “no” 12:10 – What is affirmative consent? 14:24 – Advice to help have better consent practices 17:07 – How you can get in touch with your own boundaries 18:57 – Goals for the future 19:45 – How Chanel got into this space from starting in IT 20:46 – How you can support Teach Us Consent 21:17 - Conclusion
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| #58 - Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus / Stories we have about sex | 06 May 2024 | 00:39:30 | |
For today’s episode, Jane had the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus. Dr. Jenn is a clinical sexologist, sociologist, and relationship coach who has more than 20 years of experience in the sexual health and relationships space. She is the author of From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women, and is an international speaker about couples' desire, sexual consent, healthy relationships, body image, erotic play, effective communication, women's empowerment, and mindful intimacy. Find more of Dr. Jenn here: https://www.drjennsden.com/ Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 02:22 – How Dr. Jenn got involved in this work 04:28 – Changes in the sex + sexuality space over time 06:40 – Why it’s important to do hard things 09:29 – What is a growth mindset? 12:51 – How awkward encounters can increase intimacy 14:19 – Dr Jenn’s course for couples 15:46 – Rewriting our sexual stories 17:22 – 10 day refresh for couples 18:11 – Our complicated relationship with pleasure 21:49 – From Madness to Mindfulness 26:00 – The lack of education around the clitoris 28:47 – Dr. Jenn’s tips for parents 31:56 – Advice for couples 38:25 - Conclusion -----------------
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| #57 - Damian Weatherald / Why people with disabilities might be having better sex | 30 Apr 2024 | 00:36:06 | |
For today’s episode, Toshi had the pleasure of chatting with Damian Weatherald. Damian is an avid gig-goer to live music, sport, comedy, theatre and travel. He’s also a disability advocate and inclusivity consultant, a sex educator, and sex toy guru. We came across Damian on Instagram, when we asked our followers which topics they’d like to hear us discuss on the podcast. Damian approached us and said that he would love to speak with us about sex and disability, and we were super keen to have this conversation with him. You can find him on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/wheelie.rocking.pink/ Check out his website here: https://www.damianweatherald.co.uk/ --------------------------
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| #56 - Trish Dribnenki / Thinking differently about drug use | 22 Apr 2024 | 00:33:06 | |
For today’s episode, Toshi had the privilege of chatting with Trish Dribnenki, National Policy and Practice Lead for the New Zealand Needle Exchange Programme. Together, they spoke about the New Zealand Needle Exchange Programme – what started it, the services that it offers, and Trish’s role within the programme. Trish unpacked harm reduction and some of the misconceptions that people have around this philosophy, as well as how her work in this space has helped her navigate her own feelings of shame and self-stigma around drug use, and how us as listeners can make small changes in our daily lives to help reduce the stigma around drug use. Find more information about the New Zealand Needle Exchange Programme here: https://www.nznep.org.nz/ --------------------------
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| #55 - Sarah / Pantydeal: The sexy second hand online marketplace (more than panties) | 15 Apr 2024 | 00:31:39 | |
For this week’s episode of the podcast, Jane had the opportunity to speak with Sarah from Pantydeal. Born and raised in Australia, Sarah moved to Berlin after graduating from Ballet school. In the last few years she focused her time on Event Management in the Cabaret and Burlesque scene. In 2023 she started with Pantydeal, an online market place and social community for buyers and sellers of used panties. It’s the largest platform of its kind and has a large focus on sex, kink and body positivity. Check Pantydeal out here: https://pantydeal.com/. --------------------------
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| #54 - Kate Muir / Everything you need to know about the pill | 08 Apr 2024 | 00:52:54 | |
For this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to speak with Kate Muir - women’s health expert, investigative journalist and documentary maker in the UK – about her latest book, Everything You Need to Know About the Pill (but were too afraid to ask), which is released April 11th, 2024. They spoke about what inspired the book, how the pill impacts hormones and libido, Kate unpacked some misconceptions around contraception, and explained why we need to be educating young people better about their options, and they discussed trans, non-binary and male contraception, as well as exploring the history of the pill – including the fact that it was female-funded! Kate has also produced the recent Davina McCall: Pill Revolution documentary, and created two ground-breaking Channel 4 films on the menopause, which ignited a massive conversation among women. Her book Everything You Need to Know About the Menopause (but were too afraid to ask) is out now in paperback. She is a campaigning speaker, and a founder member of The Menopause Charity. Find more of Kate here: https://katemuir.co.uk/ Check out her book Everything You Need to Know About the Pill (but were too afraid to ask) here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Everything-Need-Know-About-afraid/dp/1398529516 Find Kate on social: @pillscandal and @menoscandal. --------------------------
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| #53 - Nikki Denholm / Saying 'know' to sex | 03 Apr 2024 | 00:51:51 | |
Jane had the privilege of speaking with Nikki Denholm for today’s podcast about her role as Director at The Light Project. With a background in health, Nikki is a pioneer who has specialised in establishing and leading positive, community-driven and solution-focused projects in response to emerging sexual health and gender issues. Nikki is also a company director of Exposure International – a collective of storytellers who want to bridge the gap between story and those who need to hear it. She’s the Project Director of the FGM Education Programme, and deservedly has been awarded a MNZM (New Zealand Order of Merit). Jane and Nikki chatted about what The Light Project is and how Nikki got to where she is, the impact of pornography on young people, what's required to help young people be prepared for the kind of content they might see online, why it's so important for parents to have conversations about sex, sexuality and pornography with their kids, how the resources available on The Light Project and In The Know can help both parents and youth become more educated about the online world of pornography, and Nikki's thoughts on our latest book, How to talk with your kids about porn. Check out the Light Project here: https://thelightproject.co.nz/ Find In The Know here: https://www.intheknow.co.nz/ --------------------------
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| #78 - Anil Padavatan / Understanding transgender healthcare | 23 Sep 2024 | 00:39:40 | |
On the latest episode of the Sex in Space podcast, Toshi had the opportunity to speak with Anil Padavatan, the Health Programs Lead at GATE, (Global Action for Trans Equality), about trans healthcare. Together, they had a conversation about what trans healthcare is, why and how all kinds of people – not just those who are transgender – access services like puberty blockers and hormone replacement therapy, they debunked some common myths and misinformation surrounding this topic, and looked at the different ways that families can exist in the world. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:39 – What is GATE? 01:13 – What does it mean to be transgender? 02:42 – What is trans healthcare? 03:38 – What is gender affirming care? 04:48 – Some examples of gender affirming care 05:18 – Some reasons a person might access gender affirming care 06:09 – Cisgender people also access gender affirming care 08:13 – How do puberty blockers work? 09:37 – Are puberty blockers reversible? 10:41 – When can people use puberty blockers? 13:13 – Risks and benefits of puberty blockers 16:41 – The reality of medical interventions for young people 18:45 – What is hormone replacement therapy and who uses it? 21:34 – Being transgender and fertility 26:23 – What is gender affirming surgery? 27:50 – Who is able to access gender affirming surgery? 30:05 – The facts around gender affirming surgery and regret 34:25 – Different kinds of families 37:42 – Conclusion
Resources: World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH) Standards of Care 8:
Guidelines for gender affirming healthcare for gender diverse and transgender children, young people and adults in Aotearoa, New Zealand:
Southern African HIV Clinicians Society Gender Affirming Healthcare Guidelines: https://www.sahivsoc.org/Subheader/Index/sahcs-guidelines
Cornell University Public Policy Research Portal, What does the scholarly research say about the effect of gender transition on transgender well-being?:
GATE Knowledge Portal: https://gate.ngo/knowledge-portal/
Reaffirming Autonomy of Trans and Gender Diverse Children and Adolescents:
Trans and Intersex Rising Zimbabwe: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #52 - Zoe Madden-Smith / The subjects sex ed didn't teach you | 26 Mar 2024 | 00:36:21 | |
For today’s episode, Toshi had the privilege of chatting with Zoe Madden-Smith, multimedia journalist at Re: News, an online news platform here in New Zealand. Zoe has a passion for telling stories that centre and resonate with young people, being 26 years old herself, and she’s especially drawn to stories about sex, health, and anything that’s seen as ‘too taboo’ to talk about (which are some of the things we love to talk about here at Sex in Space). We spoke about how she got into this role at Re: News, why the media has such an important role to play in sex education, what she wishes she’d learned from her own sex ed, and more. Zoe was nominated for Video Journalist of the Year and Best Feature Video in the 2023 Voyager Media Awards, and was Runner Up Junior Feature writer of the year in 2022. She also has experience directing and producing a whole bunch of short and long-form stories. You can email her at zoe@renews.co.nz if you have an idea for a story. If you want to check out more from Re: News, you can find them at: https://www.instagram.com/renewsnz --------------------------
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| #51 - Blokes Talk Sex / What is sex? | 19 Mar 2024 | 00:35:04 | |
Today’s episode of the Sex in Space podcast is the second in our Blokes Talk Sex series. In the first episode, Tim and Jeremy had a conversation about their experiences growing up with pornography, and today they’re back to discuss the question, “what is sex?”. They unpack what the word really means, and what acts are included in the definition, the myth of virginity, and more. -------------------------- Check out our books here: https://www.sexinspace.com/books And find our merch here: https://www.sexinspace.com/shop -------------------------- Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #50 - Dr. Rogena Sterling / The history of the sex gap in biology classes | 11 Mar 2024 | 00:32:37 | |
Today’s episode is the second instalment in our series with Intersex Aotearoa. Toshi was lucky enough to speak with Dr. Rogena Sterling, who is deputy chair at Intersex Aotearoa, and a lecturer and researcher at the University of Waikato. Rogena has a passion for human rights, a key focus of their PhD, and was the first openly intersex person in New Zealand to receive a PhD. Last year, Rogena published a chapter titled ‘Janet and John’: Intersex Invisibility in the New Zealand Curriculum, which looks at the way intersex has been excluded from the Western education system and explores ways that intersex can be better represented and included in the curriculum. The focus of today’s episode is, more broadly, the history of intersex – how the story of intersex has changed over time, what we can learn from the past, and why it’s so important to educate about what it means to be intersex. You can find more information about Rogena’s chapter, ‘Janet and John’: Intersex Invisibility in the New Zealand Curriculum here: https://www.intechopen.com/books/1002139 --------------------------
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| #49 - Hollie McNish / How to liberate yourself from shame | 04 Mar 2024 | 00:51:07 | |
Toshi was lucky enough to chat with award-winning poet, writer and performer, Hollie McNish, for this episode. We found Hollie after watching a clip of her performing one of her poems, called ‘When I Am Dead, Will You Finally Shut the Fuck Up’ (which you’ll get to hear her read in the podcast). We sat down with Hollie to talk more about her work – the inspiration behind her poems, and how people respond to them, how we can challenge shame through language, sex education, masturbation, and her new book Lobster: and other things I’m learning to love, which comes out on the 14th of March 2024. Head to Hollie’s website, holliepoetry.com to pre-order your copy. Sign up to Hollie’s online reading of Lobster: and other things I’m learning to love here: https://www.fane.co.uk/hollie-mcnish -----------------
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| #48 - Masha Plotkina / Meet Quinky, the 'Duolingo of sex ed' | 26 Feb 2024 | 00:26:57 | |
For this episode, Toshi had the chance to chat with the wonderful Masha Plotkina, winner of the Young Female Entrepeneur of the Year 2020, and the founder and CEO of sex and wellness app Quinky. Quinky is the 'Duolingo of dating and relationships’ and is designed specifically for Gen Z audiences, and it looks to debunk taboos surrounding intimacy in a playful and fun way. We spoke with Masha about what users can expect from the app, the inspiration behind it, and what she hopes to achieve with Quinky. Find out more about Quinky here: https://quinky.me/ ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #47 - Scott Jones / Navigating faith and sexuality | 19 Feb 2024 | 00:43:01 | |
Jane got to connect with Rev. Dr. E. Scott Jones for this episode of the Sex in Space podcast. Scott is the Senior Minister of the First Central Congregational United Church of Christ in Omaha, Nebraska, USA, and this episode explores his ability to navigate faith, family and sexuality while living in challenging, conservative environments. Scott has taught in the Philosophy Department of Creighton University and is the author of Open: A Memoir of Faith, Family, and Sexuality in the Heartland. Scott grew up as a Southern Baptist in the state of Oklahoma, where he earned his B.A. in Religion and Philosophy at Oklahoma Baptist University and an M.A. and Ph.D. in Philosophy from the University of Oklahoma. In 2015 Scott and his former husband celebrated the birth and adoption of their son. Fathering is the true delight of Scott’s life. Scott is active as an activist and serving on non-profit boards for a variety of organizations. He is currently involved in a local clergy action network fighting for gender-affirming care for adolescents and reproductive justice in the State of Nebraska. Scott enjoys hiking, reading, gardening, home DIY projects, and travel. Find Scott’s book here: https://a.co/d/bC1dDM9 Listen to his TED Talk here: https://youtu.be/-Wbjg_iBDBE?si=y2y_6aqcJuYHIlvk Check out godmademegay.com. ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #46 - Dr Melissa Kang / Welcome To Sex | 12 Feb 2024 | 00:48:26 | |
This episode we had the privilege of chatting with the lovely Dr. Melissa Kang. Renowned in Australia and New Zealand for her iconic Dolly Doctor magazine column, but also a practicing medical doctor for marginalized youth. With academic roles at UTS and the University of Sydney, she uniquely navigates adolescent sexuality and health. Dr. Kang, alongside the wonderful Yumi Stynes, co-authored best-selling books in the "Welcome To" series, covering vital topics from periods to consent, boobs, and sex. Her expertise extends to mainstream media discussions on these critical super subjects. ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at sexinspace.com to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #45 - Jelly O'Shea / An introduction to intersex | 29 Jan 2024 | 01:02:58 | |
This is the first instalment in our podcast series in collaboration with Intersex Aotearoa. For this episode, Jane had the privilege of chatting with Jelly O’Shea. Jelly is a queer Pākehā intersex individual, was born in Ōtepoti/Dunedin and hails from Irish, Scottish, Dutch, and English roots. Currently residing in Te Whanganui-a-Tara/Wellington, with their rescue staffy Nessi and partner Flo. As a dedicated advocate and activist, Jelly passionately champions collaborative, community-led initiatives aimed at transforming marginalised communities affected most by the confines of patriarchal capitalism. Their focus lies in ensuring equitable health and wellbeing outcomes for intersex individuals and their whānau (families) across Aotearoa. With a firm belief in the power of advocacy, Jelly tirelessly works towards effecting positive change and striving to contribute to an inclusive society that embraces and uplifts those historically overlooked or marginalised. Find out more at https://www.intersexaotearoa.org/. ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at sexinspace.com to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #44 - Justin Hancock / A U.K. take on sex ed | 22 Jan 2024 | 00:53:56 | |
On this episode of the podcast, Jane had the opportunity to chat with Justin Hancock, who has been a relationships and sexuality educator since 1999. He writes resources for young people at his website BISH, which is a crowdfunded website visited by thousands of young people every day. His website BISH Training is for practitioners who want to access resources and training. Justin's latest book, 'Can We Talk About Consent?' is a guide for teenagers about how to actually do consent (find it here: https://www.bishuk.com/can-we-talk-about-consent/). Justin also hosts the podcast Culture Sex Relationships, which features interviews with academics and practitioners about their work, touching on cultural theory, which informs his in-depth and thoughtful advice episodes. To find out more about his work visit https://justinhancock.co.uk/ ----------------- Check out our book 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #43 - Dr. Jane Cherrington / How to talk with your kids about porn | 14 Jan 2024 | 00:24:49 | |
For today’s episode, Toshi sat down with Dr Jane Cherrington from the Sex in Space team, to talk about a new book that we’re releasing. It’s coming out this January 19th – it’s called ‘How to talk with your kids about porn’. It's going to be available in print form from Amazon, or you’ll also be able to grab a downloadable PDF copy from our website at sexinspace.com. Dr Jane was one of the researchers and writers for this book, so I spoke with her bit more about it – where the idea came from, why it matters, what readers can expect, and what she’s learned. ----------------- Find us at www.sexinspace.com to subscribe for updates about 'How to talk with your kids about porn'. Check out our book 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #77 - Dr Paula Hall / Compulsive porn use: what you need to know | 16 Sep 2024 | 00:42:07 | |
On this week's episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Dr Paula Hall, a sexual and relationship psychotherapist who specialises in helping people affected by sex addiction and porn addiction. Dr Hall has been working as a therapist for 30 years and currently runs the biggest clinic in the UK, and the biggest therapy training programme for compulsive sexual behaviours. Together, Dr Hall and Toshi spoke about identifying problematic porn use, advice for anyone who thinks that their porn consumption might be an issue, the impact that compulsive porn use has on partners and how they can access support of their own, why being anti-porn is not the solution and why compulsive porn use is the symptom of a bigger issue. Dr Hall is the author of several books including Understanding & Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction, Sex Addiction: The Partner’s Perspective, Confronting Porn, and Sex Addiction: A Guide for Couples. Dr Hall has also peer reviewed a number of papers. Watch her TED Talk on sex addiction here: https://youtu.be/-Qf2e3XZ8Tw?si=8VpOEgOynjCgDxjU Learn more about the Laurel Centre: https://thelaurelcentre.co.uk/ Find more info about Pivotal Recovery here: https://www.pivotalrecovery.org/ Check out our book, 'How to talk with your kids about porn: https://www.sexinspace.com/book-2
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| #42 - Mike Parish / Dementia support in the queer community | 08 Jan 2024 | 01:09:25 | |
TW: mention of abuse. For this episode, Jane had the pleasure of chatting with Mike Parish. Mike spent 40 years as an officer in the London Fire Brigade training in disaster management. In 2018 he co-founded www.forbrian.co, a dementia interventions company. Then in 2021, he founded the LGBTQ+ Dementia Advisory Group, which provides advice, support, knowledge and expertise in supporting LGBTQ+ people living with or caring for someone with dementia. Mike is also the husband of Tom Hughes, who he met in 1975 and lived in a beautiful, loving relationship with until Tom passed away with dementia in 2022. You can find more information about the LGBTQ+ Dementia Advisory Group here: https://www.lgbtqdementiaadvisorygroup.net/about You can find more of Mike here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jM5MYiStPD0&ab_channel=ssfdocumentary Below are some of the resources Mike refers to in the podcast: Ted and Noel: https://www.channel4.com/programmes/ted-noel/on-demand/75436-001 Compassion in Care, ‘Stripped of all Pride’ report: https://compassionincare.com/news/stripped-of-all-pride/ LGBTQ+ Learning Framework for social and care service providers to use: https://www.skillsforcare.org.uk/Support-for-leaders-and-managers/Supporting-a-diverse-workforce/LGBTQ-learning-framework.aspx
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| #41 - Blokes Talk Sex / Growing up with porn | 12 Dec 2023 | 00:32:47 | |
Sex in Space is excited to introduce a new podcast series: Blokes Talk Sex, where we chat with men from all walks of life about all things sex. For this first episode, Jeremy and Tim spoke about their experiences with pornography growing up, and shared their thoughts as parents about why it's important to educate kids about pornography before they see it. Head to our website, www.sexinspace.com, to subscribe for updates about the release of our new book, 'How to talk with your kids about porn'. ----------------- Check out our book 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #40 - River Scott / LGBTQI+ Creative storytelling with purpose | 30 Nov 2023 | 00:48:52 | |
This is episode 40! Get ready for a good one. Tim got to connect with the incredible River Scott. River is a multi-award-winning writer, broadcaster, podcaster, audio producer, and a dynamic force in the world of content creation. Their passion for storytelling is abundantly evident, and as a dedicated LGBTQI+ activist, they channel their energy into making a positive impact. Join us as we explore the fascinating story of a creative mind with a purpose.
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| #39 - Mitch Larsson / Being a male escort | 08 Nov 2023 | 00:40:46 | |
For this episode, Tim was lucky enough to have a conversation with Mitch Larsson. Mitch has led a pretty interesting life - he's a father of one, and he's moved through a number of careers including sales, law, and professional photography, before a moment of clarity led him to become a highly successful male escort. More recently, he's a columnist for Mamamia, and the author of 'Time For Her - A Memoir of True Romance'. You can find more of Mitch here: https://beyouagain.com.au/ Check out his book 'Time For Her' here: https://www.shawlinepublishing.com.au/our-titles/new-releases/display/380-time-for-her%3A-a-memoir-of-true-romance ----------------- Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #38 - Vanessa Hamilton / Sex ed for parents: top tips for tricky talks | 30 Oct 2023 | 00:48:52 | |
Jane had the pleasure of chatting with Vanessa Hamilton from Talking the Talk Healthy Sexuality Education in this week's episode of the Sex in Space podcast. Vanessa has over 25 years of experience as a registered sexual health nurse, and she’s also the parent of 3 teens, an award-winning author, highly respected speaker, podcaster, blog writer and educator on the topics of human sexuality, consent and respectful relationships. Her latest book release is 'Talking Sex: A Conversation Guide for Parents' which provides parents with strategies and educational points to help them feel confident having conversations about human sexuality with their kids. You can find Vanessa here: https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au/ Or on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkingthetalk/ And check out her book, 'Talking Sex: A Conversation Guide for Parents' here: https://ambapress.com.au/products/talking-sex ----------------- Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #37 - Shaneel Lal / Banning conversion therapy in NZ | 24 Oct 2023 | 00:41:58 | |
Tim had the wonderful privilege of chatting with Shaneel Lal. They are an Activist for queer and indigenous communities, a columnist – for the NZ herald, a model, political commentator, Young New Zealander of the Year 2023, Instrumental in the successful campaign to ban conversion therapy in Aotearoa, and the author of a bestselling autobiography titled One of Them, which is great and out now. Follow and find out more about Shaneel and their work here: https://linktr.ee/Shaneellall https://www.instagram.com/shaneellall ----------------- Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #36 - Cath Hakanson, Sex Ed Rescue / Talking diversity and pleasure with your kids | 18 Oct 2023 | 00:27:26 | |
For this episode, Tim had the privilege of chatting with Cath Hakanson, who runs Sex Ed Rescue. Sex Ed Rescue helps parents find a better way to have conversations with their kids about sex. Sex Ed Rescue can help you with: giving age-appropriate answers to tricky questions about sex, starting conversations that feel natural and guided by your personal values, and having a closer relationship where your child knows that they can ask you about anything, no matter what. In part 2, we cover diversity and pleasure. If you want to check out part 1, we cover the origins of Sex Ed Rescue, and talking with your kids about porn. Check out Sex Ed Rescue here: https://sexedrescue.com/ And find our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download as a PDF or buy as a print version. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #36 - Cath Hakanson, Sex Ed Rescue / Age-appropriate conversations about porn | 18 Oct 2023 | 00:39:36 | |
For this episode, Tim had the privilege of chatting with Cath Hakanson, who runs Sex Ed Rescue. Sex Ed Rescue helps parents find a better way to have conversations with their kids about sex. Sex Ed Rescue can help you with: giving age-appropriate answers to tricky questions about sex, starting conversations that feel natural and guided by your personal values, and having a closer relationship where your child knows that they can ask you about anything, no matter what. In part 1, we cover the origins of Sex Ed Rescue, and talking with your kids about porn. In part 2, we cover diversity and pleasure. Check out Sex Ed Rescue here: https://sexedrescue.com/ And find our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download as a PDF or buy as a print version. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #35 - Jioji Ravulo / Liberating sexuality | 10 Oct 2023 | 00:49:03 | |
In this episode, Jane spoke with Professor Jioji Ravulo. Jioji is the Professor and Chair of Social Work and Policy Studies in the Sydney School of Education and Social Work at The University of Sydney. His research, writing and areas of interest include health and wellbeing, youth, diversity and inclusion, decoloniality and educational leadership. Jioji has been involved with and invited to author over 70 publications, including peer reviewed journal articles, scholarly book chapters, research reports, and opinion pieces. Here at Sex in Space we found Jioji after watching his TED Talk, 'A liberating vision of identity that transcends labels'. You can check it out here: https://www.ted.com/talks/jioji_ravulo_a_liberating_vision_of_identity_that_transcends_labels?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare If you'd like to find more of Jioji, you can find him here: https://twitter.com/JiojiRavulo Or on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jiojiravulo/?hl=en Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #34 - Alex DiFrancesco / Why we were transfixed by trans fiction | 02 Oct 2023 | 00:37:41 | |
On this episode, Jane had a conversation with writer, editor, and book lover, Alex DiFrancesco. Alex is a US-based commissioning editor of gender and sexuality books for Jessica Kingsley Publishers. We found them after reading an article that they wrote in the Guardian about the culture wars that surround them as a trans person editing children’s books – you can check out that article here: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/jul/28/childrens-books-lgbt-transgender-acceptance Alex has also written some of their own books, including All City, Transmutation, and Psychopomps, and you’ll hear them talk about their novels in the podcast. Find Alex here: https://alexdifrancesco.com/ Or on Twitter: https://twitter.com/Alex_JKPGender Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #76 - Catherine Carr / Unpacking 'About the Boys' | 10 Sep 2024 | 00:45:21 | |
Tim was joined by Catherine Carr for this episode – Catherine is producer of the acclaimed BBC Radio 4 series 'About The Boys.' This insightful five-part series takes a deep dive into the lives of teenage boys in the UK, exploring their challenges, fears, and hopes in a world that's rapidly changing. The show has been praised for its honest and raw portrayal of boys' experiences, offering a platform for their voices to be heard. Catherine, who is also a mother of boys, brings a unique and empathetic perspective to the series, making it a must-listen for anyone interested in the lives of young men today. Listen to ‘About the Boys’ here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001yshm/episodes/player Freddie Feltham, mentioned in the podcast: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2024/jan/06/im-andrew-tates-audience-and-i-know-why-he-appeals-to-young-men Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:26 – Catherine’s background 03:26 – What ‘About the Boys’ is all about 06:14 – The two stories that kicked off the project 11:37 – How Catherine put the series together 12:47 – Societal perceptions of young boys 16:29 – Letting the boys tell their story 18:30 – The impact of social media on boys 21:03 – Problematic male influencers 24:51 – The gaps in education for young people 29:00 – Where young people are learning from 31:45 – Tips for talking with kids about sexuality and relationships 33:17 – The spaces boys inhabit: real and online 37:41 – The importance of honest conversations 40:41 – Ending on a note of optimism 41:27 – Will there be an ‘About the Girls’? 43:10 – Conclusion -----------------
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| #33 - Paul Barlow / Media, politics, and the sexual ideology dog whistles | 25 Sep 2023 | 00:49:09 | |
Tim had the privilege of chatting with Paul Barlow. Paul is a media and marketing veteran with a decade of experience spanning technology, entertainment, politics, and more. As a former Stuff columnist, he's contributed to renowned New Zealand publications like Waikato Times, NZ Herald, and NBR. Paul's expertise extends to crafting content and strategies for diverse industries, including professional sports, cinemas, concerts, and corporations. But that's not all! No stranger to the world of media, having worn various hats as a radio host and podcast producer and presenter. His podcast series, "Paul... The Other One," boasts a dedicated following of over 10,000 fans across Facebook, TikTok, and YouTube. With a knack for delivering easily digestible insights and engaging long-form content, Paul is equally at ease both behind and in front of the microphone.
You can check more of Paul over on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@paul_barlownz or at: https://paultheotherone.com/ Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #32 - Angelique Jurd / Angel the adorable kitten + gay romance | 18 Sep 2023 | 00:41:24 | |
In this episode, Tim sat down with Angelique Jurd, who writes male-male romance fiction which she describes as “people-driven stories, about slightly ‘broken’ boys”. Angel’s first book, Jesse’s Smile, was published in 2018. When she first went through school, Angel got a degree in languages, before travelling around the world, starting a family, working as a business journalist, before going back to school to study English Literature and Media Studies, after which she started writing contemporary gay romance. Angel is also a kitten, and, if anyone wants to see the fantastic cat ears she was wearing during the podcast, you can check out the video version of this conversation on our YouTube channel, Sex in Space. Find Angel here: https://angeliquejurd.com/ Pre-order Hidden Storm (The Road to Rocktoberfest) here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CD35C8DV ------------- Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #31 - Mama Doctor Jones / How to unlearn bad sex ed | 11 Sep 2023 | 00:29:22 | |
In this episode, Toshi spoke with Dr Danielle Jones, who you may know from her social media as Mama Doctor Jones. Dr Jones is a board-certified ObGyn who, in 2021, moved from Texas, in the U.S., to Invercargill, New Zealand. Her mission is to change the world through empowering, entertaining education about women and AFAB (assigned female at birth) health. Dr Jones has a following of over 2.5 million across her various platforms, where she makes edu-tainment about all things periods, pregnancy, gynaecologic health and sex education. You can check out Mama Doctor Jones here: https://mamadoctorjones.com/ ------- Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| #30 - Morgana O'Reilly / Let's talk bodies | 05 Sep 2023 | 00:38:22 | |
In this episode, Jane sat down in the studio with Morgana O’Reilly to talk all things bodies. Morgana is multi-talented: a successful actress, writer, performer, storyteller, and mum of two. She caught our attention at Sex in Space when she recently wrote and performed a solo show, Stories About My Body, which Jane had the pleasure of going to see. For more of Morgana, go here: https://www.facebook.com/ladymorganaoreilly/ ------- Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||