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Season 2 Episode 3: Being Strategic with Parenting Plans25 Sep 202400:43:23

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Do you think creating a parenting plan is an easy, straightforward process? Or that even having one is an absolute MUST? Well, think again. Discover how overly lengthy and generic parenting plans can do more harm than good, especially in high-conflict situations, in this week's discussion.

This episode dives into the saturated and often oversimplified world of parenting plans in Family Court. Join me, Tracey Bee, as I break down the complexities of crafting a helfpul plan that genuinely minimizes future conflicts and supports the best interests of your child. Learn why personalized strategies far outweigh "one-size-fits-all" solutions and how strategic planning can prevent courtroom battles.

What You'll Learn: 

The misconception that parenting plans should be extensive and uniform. Why high-conflict cases should avoid lengthy, reformatted parenting plans to minimize issues and non-compliance. 

The importance of strategizing for the long term, beyond just resolving immediate conflicts. Key elements every parenting plan should address, including custody arrangements, visitation schedules, and communication rules and how they should be tailored for each family member.

The pitfalls of using generic templates and the need for personalization based on unique family dynamics. The role of mediators, mental health professionals, and other experts in drafting effective parenting plans and how they have different agendas.

Why judicial input is essential in finalizing parenting plans to avoid future court interventions. How certain clauses like morality and right of first refusal can complicate enforcement and cause unnecessry controversy. *Actionable advice on revising parenting plans as children grow and their needs change.

Parenting plans are far more than just a legal document—they're a blueprint for co-parenting effectively and should be well thought out and prepared. This episode sheds light on why a collaborative approach and professional assistance are crucial for creating am effective parenting plan. 

📚 Timestamped overview


00:00 Customized parenting plans need discussion and attorney.

03:20 Judges often intervene in parenting plans disputes.

08:41 Proposed parenting plans exist, professional assistance recommended.

09:57 Seek professional advice when finalizing parenting plans.

13:26 High-conflict co-parenting often leads to court disputes.

19:26 Parenting plans covers various schedules, guidelines, and responsibilities.

24:38 Parenting plan provisions and conflicts unenforceable by judges.

28:26 Right of First refusal: notify co-parent before others to take of

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



S2E2: Choosing to File Contempt in Family Court18 Sep 202400:36:47

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Think you know how Family Courts operate when it comes to enforcing, punishing or even taking action when there is uncooperation between the parties? Think again. In this eye-opening episode, I pull back the curtain to reveal the strategic nuances and intricate challenges that litigants face when navigating family court, especially when dealing with Contempt motions. Whether you're self-represented or working with an attorney, my goal is to equip you with practical, insightful strategies to better prepare for situations such as violations of court order.

What You'll Learn:

  • Why labeling something as "contempt" can backfire and learn the appropriate legal language to use instead.
  • How specifying realistic and proportionate consequences for violations can influence the outcome of your case.
  • To understand why judges often avoid micromanaging parental decisions and the potential pitfalls of frequent motion filings.
  • Why the adage "Just because you could doesn't mean you should" is crucial in family court filings.
  • To unearth smarter ways to document minor infractions without constantly filing motions or involving the police.
  • To pinpoint when it's truly necessary to file for contempt and when to let minor issues slide for the sake of your case.
  • To set realistic expectations and gain insights into setting realistic expectations and the importance of understanding the complexities of the family court system.
  • To leverage Professional Help by discovering the roles of parenting coaches, coordinators, and therapists for managing co-parenting conflicts outside of court.
  • Personal Anecdotes: Listen to a relatable story about pre-K decisions and how they can unexpectedly impact your case, even when intentions are good.

This episode is packed with actionable advice designed to help you learn to make more informed decisions when it comes to reacting to the other party’s actions. Avoid common pitfalls, approach your case with a clear strategy, and ensure you’re fully prepared for the complexities ahead.


📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Don't make legal conclusions; that's the judge's role.

06:53 No contempt if criteria aren't clearly met.

08:00 Decide if court action is really worthwhile.

14:10 Stop repeating actions expecting different results.

15:31 Choose contempt cases wisely; avoid judge annoyance.

17:56 Violating probation shows contempt, unlike parenting agreements.

23:44 Seek harsher judgments; filings may impact trial.

27:00 Judge ordered child stays with available parent.

30:41 Specify consequences for violating parenting plans carefully.

34:14 Schedule sess

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Episode 18: Levels of Conflict in Family Court17 Apr 202400:21:43

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Are you caught up in a web of conflict in family court? Tracey Bee is back to tackle the levels of conflict you may encounter. This episode doesn't shy away from the tough realities of fighting for your family's future. We're going deep into the high, medium, and low ends of the conflict spectrum – because knowing is half the battle.

In this episode, we dissect the different levels of conflict encountered in family court cases. Whether you self represent or have an attorney, there's powerful insight here for you. Buckle up as we navigate the tumultuous waters of high conflict situations, the more strategic medium conflict encounters, and how some cases just skirt by with low conflict.


What You'll Learn:

*What we really mean when we talk about conflict in family court scenarios.

*How to identify if you're the high conflict party in a dispute – it might surprise you.

*The introduction of "medium conflict" – the sweet spot you might want to aim for.

*Personal anecdotes and professional insights gleaned from 20 years in family court.

*The distinct hallmarks of a high conflict case and why it's likely to drain your resources.

*What characterizes a low conflict situation, and the potential pitfalls of settling too quickly.

*Medium conflict: A strategic middle ground that could save future headaches.

*Why your attorney might be escalating your case into high-conflict territory.

*Insights into self-reflection, planning, and strategy formulation in family court battles.


📚 Timestamped overview


00:00 I discuss conflict in family court.
05:18 Conflicting perspectives create high conflict situations.
09:08 High conflict cases waste time, money, energy.
13:12 Dealing with conflict, make informed, rational choices.
17:02 Efficient decision-making reduces family court conflicts.
18:23 Assess, strategize, and work to reduce conflict.


Prepare for an insightful analysis that will redefine conflict in its entirety, from scoffing at the high conflict label others may attach to you, to understanding why resolving a disagreement quickly isn't always in the best interest of your children. We're talking strategy—those tangible steps you can use to steer your case from high-stress to managed conflict.

So, sharpen your pencils, clear your mind, and get ready to take your approach from defensive to informed and assertive. As always, I'm here to help breakdown the process and provide that much-needed clarity. Let’s transform your strife into strategy and ensure your family dispute sails toward constructive resolution. This is Tracey, and

Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Episode 17: The "Real" Impact of Having Legal Custody03 Apr 202400:24:33

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In this eye-opening episode, I take listeners on a deep dive into the overlooked yet crucial aspect of legal custody or decision-making in family court. With my signature straightforward approach and strategic insights, I peel back the layers to reveal the significant impact that legal custody has on a parent's ability to make crucial decisions for their child. From debunking misconceptions to shedding light on the intricacies of legal custody, My discussion challenges preconceived notions and offers valuable information for navigating the complex family court system.


What You'll Learn:

- Understanding legal custody: Clarifying the scope and significance of legal custody in family court.

- The impact of legal custody on parenting: Exploring how legal custody affects a parent's decision-making authority in important areas such as education, medical care, and extracurricular activities.

- Navigating joint legal custody: Insights into the dynamics and challenges of joint legal custody arrangements, especially in shared custody scenarios.

- When legal custody becomes a tool for control: Unveiling the potential for legal custody to be manipulated, abused, or misused in family court proceedings.

- Strategies for addressing legal custody concerns: Practical advice for parents on advocating for their rights and navigating the complexities of legal custody in family court.

Family court can be a labyrinth of complexities, and this episode provides a thought-provoking exploration of the real impact of legal custody on parents and children. 



📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Legal custody varies by state: major decisions.

05:33 Primary residential determines custody and decision-making dynamics.

08:44 Proving need to modify legal custody consent.

11:27 Changing legal custody is not easy legally.

14:16 Assign court decision-making to avoid conflicts.

20:15 Joint legal gives access to records and reports.

22:03 Maintain physical custody, but no decision-making authority.




Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Episode 16 - Using Mediation as Part of Your Strategy27 Mar 202400:28:16

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In this episode of "Self Represented in Family Court," host Tracey B delves into the often misunderstood world of mediation in family court. Contrary to popular belief, mediation isn't just about reaching an agreement; it's much more than that. Tracey explores the complexities and potential benefits of mediation, as well as how to strategically navigate this crucial aspect of family court.


What You'll Learn:

- The myths and misconceptions surrounding mediation in family court.

- Understanding the nuances of the mediation process and its impact on family court cases.

- How to strategically approach mediator selection based on your specific case dynamics.

- Practical tips for effectively preparing for mediation and leveraging it to your advantage.

- The significance of gaining valuable intel and insights from the mediation process.

- Exploring the potential silver linings and hidden opportunities in mediation, even in seemingly futile situations.


Family court mediation is often seen as a mere stepping stone, but this episode sheds light on how it can serve as a powerful tool in shaping the trajectory of your case. Join us next week for a deeper exploration into the multifaceted world of family court proceedings.



📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Mixed reviews on the necessity of mediation.

03:40 Mediation is mandatory in some jurisdictions.

08:08 Consider your own mediator recommendations in litigation.

10:39 Use mediation for gathering valuable information. Prepare.

15:26 Prepare thoroughly for alimony negotiations with information.

17:28 Mediation can lead to dissatisfaction and confusion.

21:09 Prepare for mediation by keeping an open mind.

22:57 Mediation: a trial run for legal proceedings.

26:42 Mediation serves a purpose, tips available. Subscription required.

Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Episode 15: Making the Best Of Working with a GAL20 Mar 202400:40:20

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Are you preparing for or involved in a high-conflict custody case and feel like there's an unknown player in the mix – the Guardian ad Litem? Tune in to understand who they are, what they do, and how to work with them effectively.

In this episode, we delve into the complex and crucial, yet controversial, role of the Guardian ad Litem (GAL) in family court cases. As a voice for the child, the GAL carries significant influence in most instances and shouldn't be overlooked in their potential for helping you ger your concerns addressed. We'll explore the state mandated responsibilities of a GAL, the issues they should include when conducting their investigations, and what their involvement could mean for your case.

Alot of people misunderstand the authority, the specific tasks and the infkuence the GAL has in high-conflict custody cases. With an unusually high unsatisfactory rate amongst parents, GALs can actually help particularly where there are limited options in getting your children's voice heard.

What You'll Learn:

*What a Guardian ad Litem (GAL) is and the vital role they play in family court, particularly in custody disputes.

*The qualifications, duties, and responsibilities a GAL holds in advocating for a child's best interests.

*How the GAL fits into the court processes, such as child protective services' cases and high-conflict custody battles.

*How to communicate effectively and strategically with a GAL to help present your case in the best possible light.

*The importance of cooperation and maintaining neutrality when working with a GAL during the investigation process.

*Tips for facilitating home visits and ensuring a smooth documentation process with the GAL.

*Strategies for responding to and potentially objecting to a GAL's report, and how to approach removing a GAL if necessary.

*The importance of understanding the GAL's influence on the judge and the outcome of your case.

*How to choose the right GAL for your case based on their professional background and experience.

The Guardian ad Litem can make a major impact on the outcome of your custody case. It's essential to make the best of your interactions with them and to understand their role fully. This episode is a must-listen if you want to navigate your custody battle with confidence and poise.

Keep an eye out for even more insights on handling family court challenges. Join me, Tracey Bee, next week as we continue to provide you with the knowledge you need to navigate these tricky waters.

Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Episode 14: Tactics for Each "Lane" of Your Divorce or Custody Case pt. 2 13 Mar 202400:21:36

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Shownotes

Family court – often seen as a sanctuary for resolving family matters in the best interest of the child, but it is the complete opposite. Tracey Bee continues to delve into the raw and ugly reality of family court. But in this episode she takes us behind the scenes to expose what really goes on with in-court divorce and custody battles. In this eye-opening episode, Tracey sheds light on the complexities and sometimes alarming aspects of family courts.


What You'll Learn:

- The misconceptions about family court's primary objective and the stark reality that’s often ignored.
- The hidden meaning behind "the best interest of the child" – physically, emotionally, developmentally, intellectually, and spiritually.

- The variations in applying the 'best interest' standards across different courts and the negative impact it has.

- The evolution of custody principles from the 1960s to the present day.

- The truth about judges' discretion and limited oversight in family court.

- The significant impact of temporary orders on long-term outcomes in family court cases.

- The challenges of co-parenting under temporary court orders.

- The reality of presenting evidence and testimony in family court.

- Strategies for navigating the complexities of the family court system.

Family court is riddled with complexities and subjectivities, challenging the widely-held perception that it is solely child-centric. This episode marks the start of a deeper exploration into the critical and often misunderstood topic of family court. Join us for next week's episode, where we will continue unraveling the intricacies of family court proceedings.


📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Monitoring compliance with temporary court orders for evidence.

05:48 Judges may see it as too controlling.

07:33 Prepare thoroughly before addressing legal matters.

13:34 Be mindful, be responsible, seek support.

17:28 Learn patience, prepare for trial in advance.

18:21 Study court process, procedure, evidence, and preparation.

Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Episode 13 Family Court Strategy: Tactics for Each "Lane" of Your Divorce or Custody Case06 Mar 202400:28:04

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Do you have a family court case looming over you? Whether you're considering court for the first time or gearing up for trial, understanding the strategic nuances of family court can make all the difference in your case's outcome. In this episode of "Self Represented in Family Court," I will take you behind the scenes to uncover the practical strategies and tactics crucial for success in navigating the complexities of family court.


What You'll Learn:

- Insight into the four distinct phases of a family court case, labeled as "lanes", and how strategies can vary in each phase.

- The impact of implementing strategy in each lane and how it can empower individuals to establish control and direction for their case.

- Tips for choosing the right timing, jurisdiction, and court venue when filing a case, as well as understanding the significance of strategic petition and complaint drafting.

- Utilizing mediation as an opportunity to gain valuable insight into the other party's behavior and reactions, serving as a form of valuable intelligence gathering.

Join me as I guide you through the strategic nuances of family court at each stage of a case. Gain valuable insight and practical strategies to empower yourself in family court proceedings.

Take care and remember, knowledge is power.


📚 Timestamped overview


00:00 Understand critical stages, implement solid case strategy.

05:40 Navigating challenges and parties involved in litigation.

08:31 Strategize and focus on defending key allegations.

12:03 Legal aid may create more problems than solve.

13:41 Position your case strategically for settlement or trial.

17:35 Timing strategically influences filing and jurisdiction selection.

21:03 Carefully consider wording and strategy in legal proceedings.

24:44 Google still essential, don't overlook its value.

27:58 Be cautious, look after yourself.


Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Episode 12: Family Court Tactics: A Game Plan for Success28 Feb 202400:37:34

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Is your family court strategy as solid as you think? 

It's time to up your game and get strategic with your planning. In this episode, we delve into the nuances of maneuvering through the maze of family court. Whether you have legal representation or are braving the battlefield pro se, you'll uncover the vital importance of strategy in every court appearance and filing.

This episode peels back the curtain on the strategy needed to navigate the family court system effectively. From understanding court biases to preparing for the unpredictable, I share insight into the discipline of plotting your legal course with precision and deliberation. It's not just about knowing the law; it's about mastering the chessboard of the courtroom.

Timestamp overview:

00:00 Have specific and strategic goals in court.

06:24 Evident strategy critical for legal success. Assess life.

10:14 Prioritize current circumstances, motives, and strategies.

12:57 Determining the real motives and strategizing.

15:31 Strategic thinking involves gathering and analyzing information.

18:57 Anticipate actions, prepare ahead of time.

23:34 Focus on meaningful questions, avoid unnecessary details.

26:46 Speak purposefully, judges appreciate it more. Cut unnecessary talk.

31:37 Prepare for different outcomes, always have backup.

32:08 Plan, prioritize, and focus on child's best interest.

35:53 Insight into other party's motives at different stages.


As you refine your approach within the family court system, you'll understand that plotting and strategic planning are non-negotiable components of legal success. This episode will equip you with the skillset to shift from a passive participant to a formidable strategist.


Join me, Tracey Bee, in "Strategy in Family Court" for a deep dive into the sophisticated art of courtroom domination. Tune in and transform your family court experience into a calculated and victorious journey. The battle may be complex, but with the right strategy, triumph is within reach.


Don't miss out on next week's episode, as we continue the conversation on strategy in family court, where every move counts.







Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Episode 11: You're Ready to File Your Case in Family Court14 Feb 202400:38:25

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Join us in this informative episode as we delve into the intricacies of navigating family court proceedings. Whether you're embarking on your first court appearance or preparing for the deciding phase, this episode provides essential insights and practical tips to help you navigate the family court system effectively. 


What You'll Learn:

  • How to prepare for family court proceedings, especially for those in the deciding phase or preparing for their first court appearance.
  • Understanding the different lanes in the family court process: deciding phase (Lane 1), initial court appearance (Lane 2), and ongoing case management (Lane 3).
  • Key considerations before starting or responding to a case in family court.
  • Knowing which forms to file and how to prepare, draft, and file them effectively.
  • Understanding the requirements for filing a divorce complaint or custody/support petition, including residency and venue considerations.
  • Practical tips for navigating residency requirements in different states and counties.
  • Insight into the complexities of residency requirements using New York as an example.

Remember, whether you're facing your first court appearance or gearing up for the deciding phase, preparation is key. By understanding the different lanes of the family court process, knowing which forms to file, and considering residency requirements, you can navigate the system with confidence. We hope this episode has empowered you with the knowledge and resources needed to navigate your journey through family court successfully. Stay tuned for more episodes, and remember to subscribe to our podcast for future updates and valuable content. 


Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Episode 10: Your Rights as a Co-Parent07 Feb 202400:35:29

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Today, we're delving deep into the labyrinth of co-parenting rights – a topic crucial for anyone navigating the complex terrain of family court.

Join me as we unravel the intricacies of your rights as a co-parent, shedding light on the nuances that shape your role in decision-making, custody arrangements, and day-to-day responsibilities.

In this episode, we'll explore:

  • The distinction between parental rights and co-parenting rights.
  • The legal framework governing co-parenting arrangements.
  • Real-life scenarios where co-parenting rights may intersect or conflict.
  • Practical strategies for asserting and protecting your rights as a co-parent.
  • The importance of clarity through court orders, parenting plans, and alternative dispute resolution methods.

By understanding your rights as a co-parent, you empower yourself to navigate the challenges of family court with confidence and clarity. Together, we'll unlock the maze of co-parenting dynamics, equipping you with the knowledge and tools needed to advocate effectively for your children's best interests.

Join me on this journey as we explore the intricate landscape of co-parenting rights and responsibilities. Don't miss out on the opportunity to gain valuable insights that will empower you in your co-parenting journey.

Tune in now and embark on the path to assert and protect your rights as a co-parent in the ever-evolving realm of family court.


Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Episode 9: Your Rights as a Parent31 Jan 202400:29:59

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Ever wondered if your rights as a parent clash with your rights as a self-represented litigant? Are you navigating the tricky waters of family court, uncertain if being a parent gives you a legal upper hand? Well, you're in the right place.

In this episode, we're not just decoding the legal jargon; we're unraveling the complexities of constitutional provisions, landmark cases, and contemporary scenarios that shape your role as a parent within the family court arena. So, buckle up as we embark on a journey to understand, protect, and assert your rights as a parent in the ever-evolving landscape of family court.

Our discussion highlights the following key points:

  • Parental Rights vs. Pro Se Rights
  • Constitutional Basis for Parental Rights
  • Landmark Cases Defending Parental Rights
  • Contemporary Considerations
  • Rights as a Parent in Practical Scenarios
  • Understanding the Shift in Rights as a Co-Parent

Understanding your rights as a parent is crucial in navigating the intricate landscape of family court. As we wrap up today's discussion, remember that knowledge empowers. Knowing your rights provides you with the tools to make informed decisions for your family's well-being.

If you found this episode valuable, consider sharing it with others who might benefit. Your journey through family court can be challenging, but with the right knowledge, you're better equipped to face the complexities.

Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 2 - Episode 1: Perjury in Family Court - An Honest Look at its Impact & Use11 Sep 202400:26:39

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Welcome back, listeners! Did you miss your favorite family court strategist? Well, season two kicks off with a bang as we dive into an often misunderstood but critically important topic: perjury in family court.

In this enlightening episode, I pull back the curtain to uncover the strategic implications and often underwhelming enforcement of perjury within family court proceedings. Whether you’re a self-represented litigant or just seeking to understand the convoluted family court system better, this episode provides invaluable insights on leveraging perjury accusations effectively in your case.

What You'll Learn:

  • The definition of perjury and its specific relevance in family courts.
  • The rare enforcement and prosecution of perjury in family court cases.
  • Strategic uses of pointing out perjury even when punishment is unlikely.
  • Real-life examples of how perjury can discredit a witness during trial.
  • How family court judges typically react to allegations of perjury.
  • The critical importance of focusing on your own truths rather than the other party’s lies.
  • Practical advice for self-represented litigants on navigating false allegations.

Family court is rarely black and white, and the topic of perjury is no exception. Tune in to learn how you can strategically handle perjury in your case to strengthen your position and reduce the credibility of the opposing party.

New Segment: Tracey-ism of the Week “Focus on your truths and not on their lies.” Discover why spending your energy on presenting your own factual case is far more effective than obsessing over the other party's deception.

Thank you for joining us on this educational journey into the labyrinth of family court strategy. Are you interested in becoming a guest on our show or have a topic suggestion? Send an email with subject “Podcast Guest”

Also, don't miss our new subscription-based premium content where you can get exclusive episodes, worksheets, and more!

Stay Connected: Website: https://thedivorcesolutionist.com/ Email: tracey@thedivorcesolutionist.com



📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Perjury topic led to continuous content evolution.

03:14 Perjury involves lying under oath, rarely punished.

06:47 Perjury doubt questions witness credibility during trial.

12:30 Prosecuting crime is challenging, especially without attorney.

15:50 Perjury accusations often distract from strong arguments.

17:20 Focus on key child custody factors over perjury.

20:44 Focus on your truths, not others' lies.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

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Episode 8: Finding and Using Resources for Family Court24 Jan 202400:30:21

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In today's discussion, we delve into the heart of a matter that affects an increasing number of individuals—navigating family court as a pro se litigant. As the pandemic has driven a surge in family court cases, a staggering 90% find themselves standing alone in the courtroom, facing critical decisions that impact their lives and those of their loved ones. 

Now, you might wonder, is being a pro se litigant a daunting task? I'm here to dispel that myth and share stories of triumph, where individuals, armed with determination and my strategic assistance, have successfully conquered family court challenges on their own terms. 

So, buckle up for an episode brimming with insights, success stories, and a roadmap to uncovering the resources that can make your journey through family court not just manageable, but empowering.

Our discussion highlights the following key points:

  • Rising Pro Se Litigants
  • Navigating Solo Doesn’t Mean Defeat
  • Strategic Support Matters
  • Supplementing Professional Assistance
  • Utilizing Court Websites
  • Legal Aid and Bar Associations
  • Legal Coaching Services
  • Online Platforms and Directories
  • Legal Research Tools
  • Cautions about coaches
  • Trial and error Mentality
  • Empowering Through Information

In the realm of family court, where self-representation is both a challenge and an opportunity, remember that your path is uniquely yours to tread. The surge in pro se litigants is not a mere statistic; it's a testament to resilience and the human spirit. 

In the vast sea of legal complexities, we've explored the significance of court websites, legal aid services, coaching, and a myriad of online platforms. Each resource is a beacon illuminating your path, and your discernment will be your guiding light. Setbacks are not defeats but stepping stones to refine your approach and discover what resonates with your unique circumstances.

Remember, family court is not merely a battleground; it's an arena for growth, empowerment, and, ultimately, triumph. As you continue this odyssey, explore, adapt, and persist. Your story in family court deserves not just acknowledgment but celebration. With every challenge you face, see an opportunity to reshape your narrative.



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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Episode 7: The Most Common Mistakes Pro Se Litigants Make in Family Court20 Dec 202300:32:05

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Are you tired of trying to navigate the treacherous waters of family court on your own? Want to avoid doing what other pro se litigants do by sinking thousands into legal fees and losing what matters most? Tune in as I reveal the top mistakes pro se litigants make – and how to steer clear of them!

In this episode, I delve deep into the pitfalls and common mistakes that litigants often fall into when they think they can take on the complex world of family court without legal representation. Although it’s possible to do it successfully, there are some common mistakes many make when they are uninformed. With a focus on empowering listeners and saving them from unnecessary stress and financial burdens, I offer a roadmap to avoid these costly errors and successfully manage one’s case.


Our discussion highlights the following key points:

  • The High Cost of Unawareness
  • The Family Court System
  • Top Mistakes Made by Self-Represented Litigants
  • Failing to Plan and Plot
  • Inadequate Research
  • Misunderstanding Laws vs. Procedures
  • Lack of True Understanding of Opposing Party's Motives
  • Treating the Process an an Emotional Experience, & Not as a Business Transaction
  • Improper Use of Evidence 
  • Failure to Formulate and Execute a Strategy
  • Missing Opportunities for Information Gathering
  • Disorganization and Lack of Preparation
  • Excessive Reliance on Attorneys: Not Making Informed Decisions
  • Misconceptions about the Court’s Concern for Children
  • Ignorance of Key Players in Family Court, especially Judges
  • Not Seeking Professional Legal Advice


The insights shared here are not just tips; they are essential strategies designed to empower and equip self-represented litigants with the tools they need to avoid common, costly mistakes. From understanding the critical difference between laws and procedures to mastering the art of evidence presentation and maintaining emotional detachment, the advice provided is invaluable.

Remember, family court is a challenging arena, but you don't have to face it unprepared or alone. Taking these lessons to heart can significantly reduce the stress, financial burden, and emotional turmoil often associated with these proceedings. As I emphasized, planning, plotting, and being strategically informed are your strongest assets.








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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

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We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

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Episode 6: Lawyers in the Court06 Dec 202300:26:02

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Are you feeling overwhelmed by the thought of dealing with lawyers in family court? Whether you're self-represented or considering hiring an attorney, today's episode is a must-listen!

In this episode, I dive deep into the role of lawyers in family court. We'll explore different scenarios: you with an attorney, you against an attorney, and even when children's lawyers get involved.

Our discussion highlights the following key points:
-Understanding Lawyers' Roles
-The Reality of Representation
-The Power of Attorneys in Family Court
-Self-Representation vs. Hiring a Lawyer
-Children's Representation in Family Court
-Choosing the Right Lawyer
-Ethical Considerations and Realities

Navigating family court with or without legal representation is a journey filled with complexities. Understanding the role, responsibilities, and limitations of lawyers can significantly impact the outcome of your case. For more insights and support, visit www.thedivorcesolutionist.com, join our Facebook group for self-represented individuals https://www.facebook.com/groups/prosedivorceandcustody , or continue to tune in here for more empowering discussions.


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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Episode 5: Your Rights as Self-Represented in Family Court29 Nov 202300:28:48

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Did you know that stepping into family court without an attorney doesn't mean stepping away from your rights? Today, we're uncovering the important rights you have as a self-represented litigant, rights that can significantly impact your family court experience. Join me as we explore these rights and learn how to advocate for yourself and your family confidently.

Whether you're facing judges, magistrates, or opposing counsel, it's vital to remember that you're not just a case number; you're a human being with rights deserving of respect and acknowledgment.

From understanding your constitutional protections to practical advice on navigating court procedures, this episode is packed with invaluable insights. You'll learn about your due process rights, the importance of being recorded in hearings, and how to effectively communicate with the court. Plus, we tackle the often overlooked aspect of self-representation: the psychological and strategic nuances that can make a significant difference in your case.

Our discussion highlights the following key points:

  • Understanding Your Constitutional Rights
  • Mindset and Approach
  • Asserting Your Rights Practically
  • Your Legal Rights in Court Proceedings
  • Challenges in Exercising Your Rights
  • The Rights to Information and Privacy
  • The Power of Objection
  • The Right to Appeal and Be Informed
  • The Right to Present Evidence
  • The Right to Self-Representation

Asserting your rights in family court is not just about legal knowledge but also about mindset and strategy. Remember, you are your best advocate. For more insights and support, visit www.thedivorcesolutionist.com, join our Facebook group for self-represented individuals https://www.facebook.com/groups/prosedivorceandcustody , or continue to tune in here for more empowering discussions.



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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

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Episode 4: Which Lane Are You or Your Case in Family Court 22 Nov 202300:38:50

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Are you standing at the crossroads of family court litigation, unsure of your next step? This episode, titled "Which Lane Are You or Your Case in Family Court," is your roadmap to clarity and confidence in Family Court. We're not just talking about legal strategies; we're diving into a journey of empowerment and self-discovery in the legal arena. This is what will set you for the “win” in your divorce or custody case. 

Each of you is on a unique path - some are at the beginning, tentatively considering legal action; while others are deep in the trenches, strategizing for the trial. No matter where you are, there's a 'lane' for you, and I’m here to illuminate that path. From deciphering the early stages of legal threats in Lane One to mastering the high stakes of trial preparation in Lane Four, this episode is packed with actionable insights and survival tactics.

Our discussion highlights the following key points:

  • Discussion of the common challenges faced by Lane One litigants, such as understanding the need for court action
  • Insights into the realities versus expectations of family court
  • Guidance on understanding the court system, refining strategy, and knowing legal terminology
  • Discussing the financial and emotional preparations needed for trial

In conclusion, whether you find yourself just stepping into the family court arena or deep in the throes of litigation, there's a path and a plan for you. Today's journey through the different 'lanes' of family court litigation - from the uncertain beginnings in Lane One to the strategic preparations of Lane Four - is designed to arm you with the knowledge and confidence you need to navigate this complex system. 

Remember, self-representation in family court is not just about legal battles; it's about empowerment, understanding, and making informed decisions. As you move forward in your journey, carry the insights and strategies discussed today as your guiding lights. 

Thank you for joining me. Stay informed, stay empowered, and most importantly, stay on your path to success.




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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

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Episode 3: Let's Be Real About The Best Interests of the Child15 Nov 202300:18:38

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Do you think family court is all about the kids' best interests? You need to think again. Discover how what you think you know about family courts might be far from the truth as I reveal the dirty truth behind them.

This episode explores a topic that is often misunderstood or misconstrued: the reality of family court. I take you behind the scenes to expose what really goes on in custody battles and other family court cases. From the supposed "best interests of the child" to the sometimes arbitrary nature of court decisions, I uncover the complex, and sometimes alarming, truths about family courts.

What You'll Learn:

*The common misconception about family court's primary objective.

*The real meaning behind "the best interest of the child" – physically, emotionally, developmentally, intellectually, and spiritually.

*The variance in applying the 'best interest' standards across different courts.

*The evolution of custody principles from the 1960s to now.

*The reality of judges' discretion and limited oversight in family court.

*How temporary orders in family court can significantly impact long-term outcomes.

*The challenges of co-parenting under temporary court orders.

*The reality of presenting evidence and testimony in family court.

*Strategies for navigating the complexities of the family court system.

Family court, often perceived as a child-centric institution, is riddled with complexities and subjectivities. This episode is just the beginning of a deeper exploration into this critical topic. Stay tuned for next week's episode, where I'll continue unraveling the intricacies of family court proceedings.



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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

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Episode 2: Who Goes To Family Court 08 Nov 202300:09:46

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Tired of the family court rollercoaster? Buckle up for an eye-opening episode! I, your Family Court Strategist and Coach, reveal the hidden gems of conflict resolution, helping you avoid the legal battleground. Get ready to take control of your family's future!

If you've ever felt overwhelmed by the thought of entering the legal fray of family court, you're not alone. But what if there were a way to spare yourself the stress, the drama, and the uncertainty?

Our discussion highlights the following key points:
*Understanding Who Goes to Family Court
*Alternatives to Family Court
*The Complexity of Staying Out of Family Court
*Family Court and Mental Health
*How to Stay Out of Family Court
*The Importance of Exploring Alternatives
*The Role of a Family Court Strategist
… and so much more!

Remember that family court is not the only option on the table. There are countless paths to resolution that can save you from emotional turmoil and prolonged legal battles.

By exploring alternatives like mediation, collaborative law, or neutral third parties, you can sidestep the stress and drama associated with courtroom proceedings.

Staying out of family court is not just about avoiding the legal process; it's about preserving your family's mental and emotional health and finding solutions that truly work for everyone involved.

We encourage you to take these insights and consider the alternatives available to you, both in and out of court.

I am committed to help you navigate this challenging terrain and providing you with the knowledge and resources you need to make informed decisions.

Stay tuned for more empowering episodes, and remember, your journey toward a brighter, more peaceful future is within reach.


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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

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Welcome to the Family Court Strategy Podcast!23 Oct 202300:01:10

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Here we discuss how to use strategy in Family Court to get the results you want. A family law professional with twenty years of experience in the field will share with you what really matters in Family Court.  Whether you are going through divorce or custody, if you are representing yourself you need to know the tactics that will end the torment you have been enduring up until this point. We will share tips, tricks, techniques, and everything else that your lawyer will never divulge. If you have been getting disappointment from lawyers, the judge, or the overall process, tune in to get help on plotting your next move. 

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

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What's Wrong with Family Court23 Oct 202300:08:13

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In this episode, we delve into the complex and often disheartening world of family court. We explore the myriad issues plaguing this system, which impacts countless individuals embroiled in legal battles, particularly concerning divorce and custody disputes. 


Our discussion highlights the following key points:

- The financial burden faced by litigants due to legal, expert, and other associated fees.

- The influence of politics and bureaucracy on family court decisions.

- The disconnect between family court and the evolving real world.

- The prioritization of financial gain over the best interests of families.

- The inadequately trained professionals within the system.

- The lack of transparency, accountability, and bias in family court.

- The challenges related to domestic and interpersonal violence.

… and so much more!


Despite the myriad issues, there is hope for litigants navigating the challenging landscape of family court, and we'll explore strategies to salvage your case in upcoming episodes. Stay tuned for more insights and guidance on how to navigate this complex system and advocate for your interests effectively.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Family Court Strategy for Dads (Father's Day Edition)19 Jun 202400:51:49

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**Think Family Court is Simple? Think Again. A Reality Check for Dads Navigating Custody Battles.**
Welcome back to another eye-opening episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, with your host  Family Court Strategist™ Tracey Bee. If you've ever thought family court was straightforward or designed with the kids' best interests at heart, it's time to reassess those assumptions. This episode dives deep into the strategies dads need to successfully navigate family court, especially when fighting for custody and fair child support.

**Episode Highlights:**
- **The 50/50 Custody Myth:** Learn why some states lean towards a 50/50 custody arrangement for never-married parents, and what this really means.
- **Standard Visitation Schedules:** Understand the typical visitation schedules in your jurisdiction and why getting more time might require taking your case to trial.
- **Types of Visitation:** Discover the different types of visitation options, from supervised and therapeutic to overnight and long-distance visits.
- **Strategy Over Advice:** Why developing a personal strategy is crucial, and how blindly following others' advice could backfire on you big time.
- **Fluid Nature of Family Court:** Uncover the unpredictable scenarios you might face and why having a game plan is your best asset.
- **Joint Legal Custody:** Even if 50/50 physical custody isn't attainable, why joint legal custody is worth fighting for.
- **Avoiding Common Pitfalls:** Learn why seeking joint custody to avoid child support is a bad idea, and hear success and failure stories of fathers post-joint custody.
- **Leveraging Child Support:** Tracey reveals her personal experience with child support negotiations and the importance of finding leverage to use to your advantage.
- **Research and Preparation:** Why it's vital to educate yourself on child support laws and custody procedures rather than relying solely on lawyers.
- **The Father's Role:** Tracey emphasizes the unique and irreplaceable role fathers play in their children's lives, urging dads to fight for meaningful relationships despite legal complexities.


Family court is far from black and white; it’s filled with nuances and challenges that require thoughtful strategies. This episode is packed with actionable insights and heartfelt advice aimed at helping dads position themselves advantageously in their custody battles.

Stay tuned for next week's episode where we delve even deeper into practical tips and real-life stories from dads who’ve navigated the family court system.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

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Parent Visitation or Access in High Conflict Cases13 Jun 202400:26:56

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Do you think Family Court can simply restrict the non-custodial parent's access to their child  under any circumstances? Think again. Discover the real nuances behind parental visitation or access and what courts consider before making those tough decisions.

In this episode, Tracey Bee provides a crucial look into Family Court cases involving high-conflict situations around the issue of visitation or access of non-custodial parents with their children. She debunks the myths many have about what courts can or will do when it comes to limiting or denying access to a non-custodial parent, even in the light of abuse, substance issues, or historical abandonment.

What Will be Discussed:
- The Family Court's underlying objectives and principles regarding parental visitation or access.
- How courts view some constitutional rights of non-custodial parents  when it comes to visitation or access.
- Conditions under which courts might suspend or limit the non-custodial parent's visitation rights.
- The importance of providing viable solutions to the court to address concerns about the other parent.
- Why you should avoid asking the court to deny any type of parenting time for the other parent unless there are specific concerns of the child's safety or well-being.
- Various supervised and therapeutic visitation strategies as alternatives to a flat out denial of parenting time.
- Strategies for non-custodial parents to regain access through modification petitions.

Family Court is a complex system with deeply ingrained principles about parental rights and child welfare. This episode sheds light on those principles and offers strategic advice for both custodial and non-custodial parents navigating this sensitive topic. 

Tune in, and equip yourself with the knowledge to handle family court's challenges effectively.

Stay tuned for next week's episode, where Tracey will continue to unravel more intricacies of family court proceedings and share actionable strategies to help you win your case.
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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

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To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Family Court Strategy for the Stay-at-Home Parent 05 Jun 202400:40:41

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Navigating the murky waters of Family Court can be  daunting, especially for stay-at-home parents. This episode Tracey brings you right into the thick of it, demystifying the complex and sometimes unsettling realities of family court, particularly for those who’ve spent years out of the workforce.  Whether you are considering divorce, are currently going through divorce or custody or have recurring custody cases, if you gave up working outside of the home to take care of your children, family and your home there are some gems in this episode that you can't afford to miss. 

With professional, and personal, insights as a stay-at-home parent myself I delve into the unseen challenges and strategic maneuvers essential for anyone in this vulnerable position. From understanding what is your child's best interests from court's perspective to anticipating your ex's next move, this episode equips you with the knowledge to prepare and not just react out of fear and desperation.

**What You'll Learn:**

- The critical importance of utilizing preemptive measures in court to best prepare for the archaic views of stay-at-home parents.

- The actual meaning of the "best interest of the child" factors and how these play into custody battles.

- Tips for developing a foolproof, solid game plan that include everything from the practical to the legal.

- Real-life anecdotes illustrating the pitfalls a lot of stay at home parents have that equal unrealistic court expectations.

- Why multiple legal consultations are invaluable, especially when funds are tight.

- Insight into the challenges of securing immediate and long-term financial support. 

- How to weigh the costs versus the potential benefits of pursuing any form of legal action.

- The harsh truth about custody presumptions and the impact on the overall oucome of your divorce or custody case.

- Practical advice on exploring affordable divorce resolution options and considering divorce settlements.

Family court battles can feel like navigating a labyrinth. This episode aims to be your guide if you're going through divorce or custody as a stay at home parent.  There are many presumptions, myths, etc. that many Family Court litigants believe which leads them to make "wrong" moves.  Listen to this episode as we discuss the potential pitfalls and providing strategies to bolster your legal position as a stay-at-home parent.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Episode 22 - Our NEW A.D.V.O.C.A.T.E.™ Method22 May 202400:13:50

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Today, I've got something truly groundbreaking to share with you—my newly launched, proprietary A.D.V.O.C.A.T.E.™ Method. This meticulously crafted process is your comprehensive guide to navigating the intricate and often daunting world of family court, especially if you're a self-represented litigant.

In this special edition episode, we'll delve deep into each step of the A.D.V.O.C.A.T.E.™ Method, which stands for Assess, Decide, Value, Other Party, Consider, Allocate, Track, and Execute. These steps are designed to help you strategically prepare, position, and present your case effectively. Whether you're dealing with custody issues, preparing for an upcoming trial, or simply trying to make sense of the court system, this method aims to bring clarity, organization, and a higher likelihood of favorable outcomes to your journey.

So, grab your notepad and get ready to arm yourself with the tools you need to advocate for yourself in family court. Let's dive in!

📚 Timestamped overview


00:00 Essential strategy is crucial for family court.

04:28 Customized strategy to achieve favorable outcomes.

08:10 Research outcomes, allocate varied available resources effectively.

11:40 Assistance for active role in legal matters.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Episode 21 - Being Strategic with Biased Judges15 May 202400:29:27

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Today we delve into the complex world of family court and tackle the challenge of navigating biased judges. As many of you know, the discretion and minimal oversight in family courts often give judges an unfortunate ability to "run amok." This lack of accountability can deeply affect the outcomes of sensitive cases involving termination, abuse, and neglect. Today, we're going to explore what constitutes a biased judge in this unique legal environment and discuss strategic approaches to address such challenges. From understanding state guidelines governing judge behavior, to considering filing a motion or waiting to file a complaint post-case, we'll guide you through your options. Whether you're settling, aligning with a guardian ad litem, or gearing up for trial, it's crucial to make informed decisions to navigate these murky waters effectively. Join us as we unpack these tough choices, ensuring you're fully equipped to deal with the subjective nature of bias in family court. Now, let's get started.



📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Family court lacks justice, due process, equality.

04:03 Family court judges have diverse backgrounds and autonomy.

10:01 Address biased judges through proper legal channels.

12:20 Dealing with biased judge in custody/divorce cases.

15:24 Questioning potential biases and incompetencies in decision-making.

20:26 Consider options for addressing potential bias.

23:34 Legal strategy for navigating court procedures effectively.

27:07 Strategic decision-making in legal proceedings summarized.

28:40 Challenging options in stage four trial case.


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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Episode 20 - Firing & Hiring Family Law Attorneys01 May 202400:36:10

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Today, we dive into the often overlooked challenge of hiring and firing attorneys in family law. We'll explore why switching lawyers too frequently could leave you vulnerable and possibly hinder your case, as frequent changes can annoy judges and lead to adverse decisions.


It's your right to change attorneys, but making informed, strategic decisions is crucial. We’ll discuss how to carefully evaluate potential attorneys, understand the importance of the lawyer-client and lawyer-judge relationships, and consider the timing and implications of changing your legal representation. Whether you're thinking about firing your current lawyer, hiring a new one, or possibly representing yourself, today’s episode is packed with vital insights on the topic. We'll also highlight when, as pro se,  to bring an attorney on board to ensure you are as prepared as possible right from the start.


Stick with us as we outline essential strategies and offer resources to help you navigate these tough decisions, ensuring you don’t just change attorneys, but move forward with confidence.



Timestamped overview:


00:00 Use attorney referrals wisely, consider specific circumstances.
04:05 Choose an attorney wisely to avoid blame.
06:54 Retainer agreement crucial for potential attorney claims.
11:04 Categorizing legal cases into pre-trial stages.
15:57 Consider options with lawyer or self-representation.
18:07 Decide strategically on lawyer's withdrawal process.
21:55 Hiring new attorney may cause timing risks.
23:29 Consider court's agenda, goals, and players carefully.
26:44 Consider representing yourself carefully, envision consequences.
31:03 Excessive lawyering leads to negative consequences.
34:41 Consider hiring or firing a lawyer now.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Episode 19 - Strategy & Parental Alienation24 Apr 202400:39:03

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Today, we're shining a light on a difficult yet critical topic that many families face: parental alienation. This phenomenon can strike any family, irrespective of background or status, often leading to grueling legal battles and profound emotional distress.


In recognition of Parental Alienation Awareness Day on April 25th, we'll explore how this unjustified rejection of one parent by their children can evolve from mild aversion right through to complete estrangement. We understand just how mentally, physically, and spiritually taxing moderate to severe cases can be, often requiring expert intervention and a considerable investment of time, energy, and resources.


For those enduring this painful ordeal, we're here to support you with strategies to navigate these turbulent waters. From the crucial role of documentation to the involvement of courts and experts, we'll guide you through the necessary steps to present your case effectively. We'll also discuss the different stages of parental alienation and the signs that may indicate your child is being influenced.


With our positive energy and heartfelt prayers, we stand beside you. Through in-depth discussion and expert insights, this episode aims to empower and uplift those affected by parental alienation. So, join us as we confront this issue head-on, offering encouragement and practical advice to those trying to maintain a loving and supportive connection with their children. Let's begin this journey together.


📚 Timestamped overview


00:00 Parental alienation: kids unjustifiably reject one parent.

06:23 Parental alienation can start before separation.

10:12 Detect alienation early, document with professionals' help.

14:08 Thorough documentation is crucial for legal support.

18:11 Cooperate with Guardian ad Litem, avoid pushing.

20:47 Importance of addressing parental alienation in court.

26:21 Judges decide how and when children testify.

28:44 Present evidence of parental coercion and alienation.

32:26 Preparing for court cases involving alienation signs.

37:41 Referrals don't always guarantee suitability, stay hopeful.

38:48 Visit www.thedivorcesolutionist.com and join our channel.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 2 - Episode 6: The "Real" of Coercive Control & Its Application in Family Court16 Oct 202400:32:56

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In this episode, we confront a critical yet often overlooked aspect of domestic violence: coercive control. As a form of abuse that manipulates an individual's freedom and decision-making, coercive control includes behaviors like monitoring spending, isolating victims from social interactions, and controlling personal movements. Originating from Dr. Evan Stark’s work on power dynamics in relationships, this form of abuse has recently gained legal recognition.

We're highlighting how states like California are pioneering efforts to address coercive control in family courts, facing significant challenges and inconsistencies. Despite laws criminalizing coercive control in about ten states, its practical impact on family court decisions is still evolving. We'll discuss California's rebuttable presumption against granting custody to proven abusers and the broader implications of DV in custody battles.

Join us as we shed light on the complexities and shortcomings of the current family court system, advocate for better integration of coercive control legislation, and provide strategies for those affected by domestic violence to navigate these tumultuous legal waters. 


📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Coercive control's impact limited in family courts.

07:06 Coercive control broader than existing abuse categories.

09:57 Ten states criminalize coercive control as abuse.

12:08 Domestic violence impacts custody and visitation decisions.

18:02 Coercive control convictions vary, complicating criminal process.

19:06 Connecticut specifies coercive control; family court varies.

24:20 Application of law differs; judge discretion critical.

27:33 Judges' roles vary; no one-size-fits-all solution.

31:08 October focus: Domestic violence awareness; upcoming topics.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 2 - Episode 5: October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month09 Oct 202400:27:30

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This week, in recognition of October as Domestic Violence Awareness Month, we're dedicating the next few episodes to all the brave survivors of domestic violence. We take a look into the challenges of presenting domestic violence cases in family court and their impact on the overall outcome in  custody, visitation, and divorce proceedings. We'll explore why family courts often struggle with addressing abuse allegations, the varying levels of abuse and their implications, and most importantly, how you can strategically present a compelling case even in the face of bias and disbelief.


Stay tuned as we unravel the intricacies of making domestic violence a pivotal element in your family court battle. And don't miss our special offer—a chance for listeners to win a free 30-minute strategy session on domestic violence cases. So sit back, take notes, and let's kick ass in Family Court Abuse cases!


📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Family court improves, but domestic violence persists.

04:31 Disconnect between DV advocates and mental health experts.

09:17 Abuse allegations might not impact divorce outcomes.

12:09 Emotional abuse often deprioritized in custody cases.

14:47 Understand judge's views and background on DV.

20:30 Present your case creatively; family court varies.

23:55 Find judge rotation: consult a local lawyer.

25:59 Podcast on domestic violence, family court cases.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 2 Episode 4: Ten Things to Avoid Wasting Your Life Savings on Legal Fees02 Oct 202400:36:05

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Today we're exploring a crucial topic: how to avoid wasting your life savings on legal fees. We'll discuss strategic approaches to settling disputes independently, performing cost-benefit analyses, and leveraging tools to make informed decisions. We'll also discuss alternative legal resolutions like negotiations and mediation, the importance of knowing your judge, and how to document effectively. By the end of this episode, you'll have practical advice on how to manage your case—whether you're working with an attorney, going pro se, or consulting a strategist like me—all while hanging on to your nest egg. Plus, you'll learn tips on staying organized and prepared, ensuring you don’t spend more than necessary on your legal journey.


Don't take on the “herd mentality” by believing that you must spend tens of thousands on legal fees thinking that you'll increase your chances of getting a specific outcome. It is responsibility to do what you can to ensure that yiur emakong informed decision. And a great starting point is doing your legwork on your own. You can't rely on anyone to make informed decisions for you, that's counterintuitive. Take control of every apect of your case NOW!




📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 You control decisions throughout your case.

04:40 Explore options; overspending leads to ongoing costs.

07:42 Explore limited-scope attorneys for insightful court strategies.

12:16 Proper documentation is crucial for legal success.

16:24 Create a personalized, workable plan for yourself.

17:42 Personalized legal strategy saves clients significant costs.

22:46 Negotiate retainer fees, ask questions, understand costs.

24:25 Inadequate research ruins unique family court cases.

29:30 Court prefers case settlement; mediation encouraged.

30:52 Prepare people for mediation and strategy sessions.

34:38 Good faith attempts to settle earn favor.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 2 Episode 7: Navigating Family Court as a Pro Se Litigant15 Jan 202500:47:23

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Do you think representing yourself in family court is an uphill battle or a strategic advantage? Well, it's both—and more. In this episode, I’m going to uncover the nuances of navigating family court as a pro se or self-represented litigant. I’ll dive deep into the concept of pro se representation, sharing the difference between those who choose to represent themselves and those who are forced into it. 

From the personal toll it can take to the systemic challenges you’ll face, I’m offering guidance on maneuvering through family court without formal legal representation. But remember, this content is here to support you, not replace legal advice.


📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Not legal advice, just assisting lawyered clients.

03:15 2024 reflection led to personal and professional reassessment.

07:09 Navigating family court cases when self-represented.

10:04 Pro se often means self-representing by necessity.

15:42 Pro se by choice requires various skills.

17:19 Exploring pro se options before hiring attorneys.

22:57 Strategic skills vital for decision-making, communication.

25:36 Nationwide family court statistics are often unreliable.

28:55 Avoid social media advice; it's often unhelpful.

32:51 Helping clients emotionally through family court challenges.

33:46 Pro se rewarding if skilled at researching.

39:25 Choosing between new attorney or pro se representation.

42:39 Experienced in family court's flaws and realities.

45:09 Strategizing pro se litigants without legal advice.


Family court can feel like a labyrinth of complexities, with each case presenting its own set of challenges and strategic opportunities. Tune in to gain valuable insights that could make all the difference in your family court journey.

Stay tuned for future episodes where I’ll continue to unravel the intricacies of self-representation in family court. And don’t forget to visit www.thedivorcesolutionist.com to schedule your free 15-minute strategy call!

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 2- Episode 12: The Changing Landscape of Divorce: What You Need to Know26 Mar 202500:43:21

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The way divorce services are delivered is evolving, and in this episode, we’re diving into the major shifts happening in the industry. From legal professionals and paralegals to divorce coaches and financial organizers, we explore the different types of support available and how they can help you navigate your divorce more effectively.

We’ll discuss:
✅ The role of attorneys and when to seek legal consultation
✅ How financial professionals, like bookkeepers, can help you stay organized
✅ The rise of divorce coaches—who’s actually helpful and who’s not
✅ The importance of mental health professionals in the divorce process
✅ How to build a strong case as a pro se litigant

Whether you’re just starting to think about divorce or already deep in the process, this episode is packed with valuable insights to help you make informed decisions.

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to get the right support for your journey.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 2- Episode 11: When to (or Not) Self-Represent in Family Court12 Mar 202500:34:26

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Have you ever wondered if representing yourself in family court is the right move for you, your family or your goals ? 

In this episode, I dive into the complexities of self-representation in family court cases.  Using my experience as a former family law attorney and mediator, I’ll share my insights on when it makes sense to handle your case on your own and when it’s best to seek professional legal help.

What You'll Learn:

  • Understanding Self-Representation: Explore why more individuals are choosing to self-represent, especially in the wake of the pandemic.
  • The Bold Move: Discover why self-representing is a courageous choice and the factors that might drive individuals to represent themselves.
  • Key Factors to Consider: Learn about the six critical factors that can influence whether self-representing is a suitable option for your case.
  • The Role of Research: Emphasis on the importance of conducting thorough research and how it plays a crucial role in successful self-representation.
  • Effective Communication: Understanding how to communicate clearly and efficiently is key when self-representing in court.
  • Case Types and Complexity: Different case types and complexities can impact the decision to self-represent—Tracey breaks down what you need to know.
  • Avoiding Pitfalls: Avoid common traps and mistakes when considering self-representation, especially in high-conflict cases.
  • Resources and Support Systems: Identifying available resources and building a strong support system can make or break your self-representation journey.
  • Long-term Implications: Consider how your representation choices today can affect future family court cases and outcomes.

If you want to take my quiz to determine if self-representing is for you, feel free to get it here

If you need help understanding the results of the quiz or preparing for any stage of your pro se divorce/custody case, don’t forget to schedule a FREE 15 min call TODAY. 

📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 DIY in Family Court?

04:38 Self-Handling Legal Cases Options

08:09 Paid Legal Advice is Best

10:54 Problem-Solving in Legal Cases

14:59 Litigation Challenges in Family Law

19:25 High Conflict Cases: Escalation Dynamics

21:29 Lawyer Influence in Conflict Cases

27:41 Pro Se Risks in Family Court

32:02 Attorney Vetting Services Offered

33:18 Contact and Resources Summary

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 2 - Episode 10: Ethical or Unethical Practices of Lawyers in Family Court26 Feb 202500:38:41

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Is Your Lawyer Crossing the Line? Ethical or Unethical Practices in Family Court

Do you trust your lawyer's motivations and methods? It's time to take a deeper look. In today’s episode, we dissect the fine line between ethical and unethical practices by lawyers in family courts, especially when emotions and tensions run high.

This episode dives into a contentious issue many overlook or misunderstand: how lawyers maneuver within family court settings. I invite you to explore the behind-the-scenes tactics that could alter the trajectory of your case, revealing how the actions of your lawyer and their counterparts can impact your family court experience.

What You'll Learn:

  • The ethical boundaries lawyers must adhere to when contacting parties, and what to do when those lines are blurred. 
  • Distinguishing between unprofessional and unethical practices by family lawyers. 
  • Why your lawyer’s approach can make or break your case – and how to determine if they are truly on your side. 
  • The importance of understanding ethical rules specific to your jurisdiction and the challenges of filing complaints. 
  • The critical role of strategy in self-representation, even when represented by counsel. 
  • How to effectively use AI in family court, when it can be beneficial, and the potential pitfalls. 
  • Why family court is akin to a chess game and the necessity of preparing for your opponent's moves. 
  • The emotional and professional dynamics influencing family lawyers’ performance in court.


📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Unethical Lawyer Contact Controversy

05:01 Lawyer Texting Clients: Ethical Concerns

09:17 Filing Complaints Against Lawyers

10:36 Challenges of Pro Se Litigants

14:45 Filing Complaints Against Lawyers

19:20 Question Your Legal Strategy

23:25 Unethical Lawyer Impact Explained

26:31 Lawyers' Challenges in Family Cases

29:54 "Strategize: Filing Complaints Wisely"

33:48 Empowering Family Court Course

37:02 Lifetime Access Family Court Course

38:18 Family Court Strategy Insights

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 2 - Episode 9: Having Support Systems during Your Family Court Experience: A Strategic Approach12 Feb 202500:26:04

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In this episode of Self Represented in Family Court, I’m diving deep into the power of strategy in family court proceedings. Whether you're representing yourself or working with legal counsel, having a solid strategy—and the right support—is key to navigating this complex system successfully.

Family court isn't something you should go through alone. In this episode, I’ll break down the different types of support—emotional, financial, and beyond—that help you stay focused and objective. From professionals to community groups and online resources, having the right people in your corner can make all the difference.


What You’ll Learn:

🔹 How to identify and embrace support systems that strengthen your emotional, mental, and physical well-being.
🔹 The importance of setting realistic short-term and long-term goals to stay on track.
🔹 Why understanding the other party’s objectives can help you position your case strategically.
🔹 How to recognize and navigate external challenges using available resources.
🔹 The importance of having a contingency plan in place for unexpected situations.
🔹 Creative ways to find support—whether through personal connections, online groups, or local resources.
🔹 The dangers of isolation during court proceedings and how to avoid them.
🔹 Why emotional stability is crucial in court and how strong support systems can help you maintain clarity and focus.
🔹 How online and in-person support groups can provide a sense of community and shared experience.

Join me as I break down these essential strategies and share insights to help you move through family court with confidence and support.


📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 "Family Court Strategy & Support"

06:50 Strategic Planning and Resource Utilization

09:11 Prepare Support for Family Court

11:59 Seeking Support Through Various Channels

16:49 Divorce Support Meetup Groups

21:21 Finding Suitable Support Resources

22:36 Caution: Avoid Unqualified Legal Advice

25:41 Family Court Strategy Podcast


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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 2 Episode 8: The Legal Costs & Fees in Family Law-An In-Depth Look 29 Jan 202500:48:05

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Navigating family court can deplete you of every ounce of energy, every sense of sanity and every dime you have, especially when you're representing yourself. In my latest episode of Self Represented in Family Court, I spend time going into details about the realities of managing legal costs and share practical workaround tactics to minimize or avoid some of these costs. Having a clear understanding of the legal costs associated with your Family Court case should be an integral part of your overall strategy. 

📌 Here’s what you’ll take away:

  • Understand All Potential Costs: From filing fees to process server charges and mediation expenses, it’s important to plan ahead for the financial aspects of your case. Knowing what to expect can help you avoid delays or surprises along the way.
  • Use Legal Consultations Efficiently: Free consultations often only scratch the surface. Instead, invest in at least two paid consultations with reputable attorneys. It’s worth it to get tailored advice and a variety of perspectives for your case.
  • Strategically Allocate Your Resources: Whether it’s hiring a private investigator, using specialized apps, or working with a strategist, focus your spending on the tools and services that will have the biggest impact on your case outcome.

Tune in to learn more about strategies that include how to navigate the enormous legal costs,  how to gain the confidence you need to present the best case possible despite these costs and how to create the best Gameplan incorporating these costs.  


📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Family Court Legal Costs Overview

03:52 Assessing Costs in Decision-Making

07:57 Affordable Legal Consultations Guide

10:29 Process Server Costs Explained

15:45 Court Mediation Costs and Alternatives

19:46 First Court Appearance: Temporary Orders Explained

21:49 Gathering Evidence for Court Cases

24:46 FOIA Request Costs Explained

28:44 Caution: Choosing Coaches and Experts

33:45 Strategic Moves to Avoid Regret

36:03 Court Fees Challenge for Pro Se Litigants

40:40 Beware Emotional Financial Decisions

42:42 Trial Stage: Scrutiny and Preparation

45:36 Cost Challenges of Legal Appeals

Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 2 - Episode 14: The Self Employed, Business Owner or 1099 Pro23 Apr 202500:34:15

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 Are you a business owner, freelancer, or 1099 contractor navigating divorce without a lawyer? In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey B. dives into the unique challenges—and real opportunities—for self-employed individuals handling their own divorce or custody cases.

Whether you're running an LLC, consulting on the side, or juggling multiple streams of income, this conversation is for YOU. Tracey breaks down how your financial structure impacts your divorce, what documents you must have ready, and how to shift your business mindset into legal strategy mode. 

 📌 Topics covered: 

✅ When being Pro Se does and doesn't make sense 

✅ Mindset shifts needed for business owners going through divorce

✅ Key legal and financial documents to organize

✅ How to protect your credibility and assets without a lawyer 

✅ The truth about representing yourself in high-conflict divorce situations

Whether you’re just starting to think about divorce or already deep in the process, this episode is packed with valuable insights to help you make informed decisions.

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to get the right support for your journey.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

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Season 3. Ep 4. Analyzing Court Rulings to Move Your Case Forward29 Oct 202500:30:52

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Tracey Bee breaks down how to turn court rulings, whether wins, losses, or partial decisions, into strategic data points you can actually use to finally move your case forward.

She explains how to read between the lines of your judge’s orders, spot behavioral patterns, and use those clues to predict future outcomes and strategically plot your next move.

Learn how to identify what your judge rewards, what language exposes their bias or reveals their mindset, and how to use their unfavorable rulings as strategic leverage in future filings.

And if you’re in Northern NJ, listen for details about upcoming in-person events and strategy session giveaways during Domestic Violence Awareness Month.


Episode timestamps

  • 0:00–2:00 Intro & purpose of analyzing rulings
  • 2:00–5:00 Why you must get and review every written order
  • 5:00–9:00 What rulings reveal about your judge’s mindset
  • 9:00–12:00 Emotional reactions vs. strategic responses
  • 12:00–15:00 Reading language clues in your rulings (“cooperate,” “high conflict,” “trial recommended”)
  • 15:00–18:00 How the judge perceives you vs. the other party
  • 18:00–21:00 When orders are vague and why transcripts matter
  • 21:00–24:00 Using rulings to detect judicial patterns and preferences
  • 24:00–27:00 How to turn court intel into preemptive moves
  • 27:00–29:00 Survivors, DV awareness, and regaining power in family court
  • 29:00–End Closing thoughts & Domestic Violence Awareness Month call-to-action

Top takeaways (actionable)

  • Always get a copy of every ruling or order. It’s your data, not just paperwork.
  • Treat rulings as intel, not verdicts. They reveal patterns, biases, and the judge’s “logic system.”
  • Analyze the language. Phrases like “high conflict,” “both parties must cooperate,” or “best resolved at trial” reveal the judge’s positioning and fatigue level.
  • If denied, don’t react—analyze. Every denial can inform your next filing, tone, and evidence approach.
  • Transcripts > Orders. Transcripts show tone, reasoning, and attitude—critical for strategy and appeals.
  • Use this insight to anticipate—not react to—the court. Strategy always beats emotion.

Quick Ruling Analysis Checklist

  • Get a copy of every order—never rely on memory or your attorney.
  • Highlight any descriptive language (e.g., “agitated,” “cooperative,” “communication issues”).
  • Note how your judge handles continuances, co

Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 3. Ep 3. How to Get — and Keep — a Restraining Order That Actually Protects You 15 Oct 202500:32:50

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Tracey Bee breaks down civil vs. criminal restraining orders as it relates to Family Court issues. 


She also goes into things like why requests get denied, and how to build a stronger application if you’re self‑represented or working with counsel. 


Learn what judges need to see, how to present testimony, what evidence matters, and options if an order is denied 

And if you're in northern NJ liste  for details for a FREE in person event where she'l  be guving away free gifts, free strategy sessions and prizes. 

 

Episode timestamps

- 0:00–2:00 Intro & Domestic Violence Awareness Month  

- 2:00–9:00 Civil vs. criminal orders; why each matters  

- 9:00–13:00 Preparing to file: know the judge & local process  

- 13:00–20:00 What to prove: incident + fear; avoid misuse  

- 20:00–27:00 Best evidence & how to testify effectively  

- 27:00–32:44 Next steps, NJ event (Oct 25, Jersey City) & booking strategy sessions

- 32:26 Outro


Top takeaways (actionable)

- Prepare before you file: learn local rules, know the judge, and gather admissible evidence.  

- Prioritize police reports, medical records, time‑stamped photos/videos, credible witnesses, and authenticated messages.  

- Speak from emotion (clear, focused narrative) not with uncontrolled emotion; presentation influences judges.  

- If denied, consider alternative filings (civil vs. criminal) and use denials strategically in custody/divorce matters.  

- Contact DV advocates and observe court to identify judges who handle DV requests.

 

Quick evidence checklist

Police report(s), medical records (source of injury), time/date-stamped photos/videos, authenticated audio/screenshots, credible witnesses, CPS records (if kids involved).

 

Resources & CTA

- Book a strategy session at thedivorcesolutionist.com (store → strategy sessions).  

- NJ listeners: In-person DV Awareness Walk — Oct 25, Lincoln Park, Jersey City (15‑minute on‑site strategy sessions).  

- Visit www.thedivorcesolutionist.com for more resources.

Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 3 - Episode 2: Strategy Destroyed: How the Blind Spots in Family Court Ruins Your Case01 Oct 202500:25:59

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Most litigants lose in Family Court for reasons they never even see coming. In this episode, I’m breaking down the hidden blind spots that can quietly sabotage your case—even when you think it’s airtight. Whether you’re representing yourself, stuck between attorneys, or even working with that so-called “bulldog” lawyer, these blind spots show up.

We’re going to talk about tunnel vision, overconfidence, misunderstanding procedure, misjudging your specific judge, underestimating opposing counsel, and even letting your emotions run the show. I’ll show you how these traps form, and more importantly, how you can close them before they destroy your case.

You’ll also hear why pages of receipts don’t equal a strategy, how two cases that look the same on paper can require totally different approaches, and why I always say Family Court is 80% strategy and only 20% law or procedure. I’ll give you practical fixes you can start using this week—how to research your state’s procedural rules, how to read your judge’s preferences, ways to anticipate your opponent’s next move, and how to keep your emotions in check so your strategy stays sharp.



📍 Episode Timeline
  • 00:00 — Welcome + why blind spots sink even “airtight” cases
  • 01:00 — Out-leveled: when judges & opponents play chess while you play checkers
  • 02:05 — Why receipts, texts, and docs ≠ strategy
  • 03:05 — Tunnel vision & overconfidence with “bulldog” attorneys
  • 05:10 — Emotional bias & framing the wrong problem
  • 06:20 — Blind Spot #1: Procedural (deadlines, discovery, judge quirks)
  • 08:45 — Rules vs. reality: exceptions and courtroom variability
  • 09:55 — Blind Spot #2: Opponent/Opposing Counsel (anticipation is strategy)
  • 11:40 — What good lawyers should do—and when to fire one
  • 12:35 — Blind Spot #3: Emotional (regulation before cognition)
  • 13:40 — Blind Spot #4: Strategy (why plans flip and whiplash)
  • 15:55 — How to fix procedural gaps with research & AI (the right way)
  • 18:05 — Closing the Judge Gap: observation, proxies, paid intel
  • 19:55 — Closing the Opponent Gap: patterns, PI-mindset, social data
  • 21:00 — Closing the Emotional Gap: therapy, support, mindfulness, routine
  • 22:10 — Closing the Strategy Gap with my ADVOCATE Method
  • 23:20 — Why 80% of family court is strategy (and how to use that)
  • 24:00 — Call to action + how to connect with me

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 3 Kickoff: Empowerment, Strategy & Beating the Rigged Family Court System10 Sep 202500:26:14

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 Welcome back to Self-Represented in Family Court! In this Season 3 opener, Tracey Bee (your host, former family law attorney, mediator, and strategist) sets the stage for the most empowering season yet. After a summer of building new tools, connecting with advocates, and expanding her nonprofit, Tracey is ready to dive into fresh conversations on empowerment, strategy, technology, and advocacy for self-represented litigants.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

  • Why empowerment is the theme of Season 3, and how it can shift your case and mindset.
  • The hard truths about Family Court, the bias, dysfunction, and injustice, and why you can’t afford to “just give up.”
  • A new spiritual component incorporated into her work as a strategist which will help restore faith.
  • Sneak peek into guest features: vetted professionals, proactive litigants, and maybe even retired judges.
  • Special announcements:
    • Free AI Workshop – How to Use AI to Beat the Rigged Family Court System (Sept 24 @ 6PM EST via Zoom).
    • VIP Add-On ($77) – Limited to 10 spots, with live Q&A, exclusive tools, and course discounts.
    • Wednesday Office Hours – Free calls with Tracey (9:30AM–4PM EST).

Episode Timeline

  • 00:00 – 01:00 | Welcome back! Why strategy is everything.
  • 01:00 – 03:00 | Season 3 focus: empowerment + tools for self-represented litigants.
  • 03:00 – 07:00 | Why giving up is not an option (Tracy’s NYC fighter mindset).
  • 07:00 – 10:00 | Spiritual and practical practices for staying grounded.
  • 10:00 – 13:00 | New this season: guest appearances from vetted professionals & pro se advocates.
  • 13:00 – 21:00 | Big announcement: Free AI workshop + $77 VIP add-on.
  • 21:00 – 23:00 | Wednesday Office Hours: free strategy calls for new voices.
  • 23:00 – 26:00 | Call to action: Subscribe, share with 10 people, and suggest future topics.

This season is about empowerment, persistence, and practical strategy. If you’re pro se—or even represented but want to be more proactive, you’ll find hope and hardcore strategy here.


🔗 Sign up for the free AI Workshop here: https://attractwell.com/TheDivorceSolutionist/page/using-ai-to-beat-a-rigged-family-court-system 

Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 2 - Episode 18: Using Mediation Strategically in Family Court11 Jun 202500:28:23

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In this insightful episode your host, Tracey Bee, founder of The Divorce Solutionist, former family law attorney, and your go-to pro se strategist — pulls back the curtain on one of the most misunderstood tools in the family court system: mediation. 

Though often seen as a peaceful alternative to litigation, mediation is not a guaranteed fix especially for self-represented litigants. With her trademark candor and deep legal insight, Tracey shares why strategy must be at the core of every mediation attempt, and how blindly entering into mediation could cost you more than you realize — financially, emotionally, and in terms of your case outcomes. 

From cost myths to hidden risks, Tracey emphasizes the importance of knowing your why, having a strategic plan, and vetting your mediator just as carefully as you would a lawyer. Whether you’re court-mandated to try mediation or considering it as a conflict-resolution tool, this episode will reshape how you view the entire process. 

Key Topics Covered: 

  • Why Tracey supports mediation — when used strategically
  • Common misconceptions: Mediation isn't always faster or cheaper
  • When mediation isn’t the right move
  • Real talk: $20,000+ mediation bills and what went wrong
  • How to vet a mediator and prepare like a pro
  • Mediation in co-parenting: setting the stage for long-term collaboration
  • Why the “cost-saving” narrative doesn’t always apply to pro se litigants
  • Strategy first: How to use mediation to set yourself up for success — not more conflict
  • The different types of mediators and why credentials matter
  • Power imbalances, DV history, and red flags to watch for

Tracey’s Takeaway:
You don’t need to avoid mediation — but you do need to approach it with clarity, preparation, and a game plan. Pro se doesn’t mean powerless — it means you need to be even more intentional.

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to make mediation work for you — not against you.

Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 2 - Episode 17: Workarounds for When You Can't Afford to Work with Divorce Professionals28 May 202500:32:04

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The family court battlefield can feel overwhelming, but in this episode, Tracey Bee is arming you with a secret weapon: workarounds. Designed for pro se litigants and anyone looking to take charge of their case, we’re unpacking clever, strategic alternatives to navigate the system without breaking the bank or losing your sanity. Fresh off last week’s deep dive into divorce professionals, Tracy shifts gears to show you how to sidestep—or supplement—those costly services with practical, game-changing solutions.

We’ll cover: 

  • Workarounds for attorneys—like limited-scope roles, mediation, or document preparers  
  • Budget-friendly alternatives to forensic accountants, from DIY financial sleuthing to affordable apps  
  • Sidestepping guardian’s ad litem or custody evaluators with solid evidence and smart prep  
  • Co-parenting hacks that don’t require pricey coordinators (hint: mindset matters)  
  • How to leverage free resources, from financial literacy webinars to online tools like Glassdoor  

With over two decades of family law wisdom, Tracey delivers actionable tips to boost your confidence and control, whether you’re dodging exorbitant fees or outsmarting courtroom curveballs. Plus, snag her free PDF workaround checklist/guide by emailing tracey@thedivorcesolutions.com or divorcecoachesq@gmail.com—your roadmap to staying strategic and empowered.

Episode Chapters:

  • Introduction - 00:00
  • Recap of Previous Episode: Divorce Professionals - 00:54
  • Workarounds for Self-Represented Litigants - 02:46
  • Cost-Effective Alternatives to Legal Professionals - 06:47
  • Exploring Therapy Alternatives - 16:11
  • Real Estate and Vocational Evaluations - 18:30
  • Co-Parenting Strategies and Mindset Shifts - 21:39
  • Custody Evaluations - 24:13

Tune in now, grab a notebook, and get ready to kick ass in family court with Tracey by your side.

Need more information on how I can help you? Feel free to schedule a FREE 15 min call at www.calendly.com/divorcecoachesq/15min


Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 2 - Episode 16: AI In Family Law15 May 202500:24:01

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In this compelling episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, host Tracey Bee —the only pro se family court strategist — dives into a transformative topic: Artificial Intelligence and its potential in the hands of self-represented litigants. Tracey breaks down how AI is being used across legal professions, but more importantly, how you, the pro se litigant, can ethically and effectively leverage AI to empower your case. From drafting motions to organizing evidence and strategizing with clarity, AI is a tool, not a replacement for your own critical thinking and preparation.

You’ll also hear about Tracey’s upcoming AI for Family Court Workshop on May 21st at 6 PM EST, where she’ll guide attendees through real-world applications and pitfalls of AI in the courtroom.


Key Topics Covered:

  • Why AI matters for self-represented litigants
  • The limitations of AI in legal strategy
  • Risks of submitting AI-generated content without disclosure
  • Ethical considerations and transparency in court documents
  • How to use AI to:

    • Draft and edit legal documents
    • Summarize discovery materials
    • Organize evidence and create timelines
    • Clarify legal terminology
  • The human touch: Why AI is just a tool, not the driver
  • Why Tracey trusts ChatGPT (and what others like Claude & Gemini are better at)

Workshop Info:

Topic: AI in Family Court – How to Use it the Right Way
 Date: May 21, 2025
 Time: 6 PM EST
 Cost: $37 (upgrade for $99 for a custom AI strategy session)
 Limited seats. No legal advice will be given.

Be Part of the Workshop – Sign Up Now! 

Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 2 - Episode 15: You've Just Been Served? Key Things to Look for to Check the Legal Document Validity07 May 202500:24:50

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If you've just been served, don’t panic—know what to look for. In this episode, Tracey B breaks down the essential elements to examine when you receive a legal document, motion, or petition in a family court case. 

Whether you're the petitioner or respondent, it's critical to understand the procedural, factual, and substantive grounds on which motions are built. Tracey walks you through the top things to watch out for to protect your rights and respond effectively—especially if you're representing yourself in court. 

We’ll discuss: 
 ✅ The importance of reviewing the court caption for accuracy
 ✅ How to identify whether a motion is procedural or substantive
 ✅ Strategic ways to buy time when errors are found
 ✅ When to consider a legal consultation (and when you might not need one)
 ✅ How to spot misleading or irrelevant “evidence” in attached exhibits
 ✅ Why emotional manipulation is common—and how to stay focused 

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to audit legal documents like a pro so you don’t miss critical deadlines or fall for common courtroom tricks. 

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Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



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