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In this deeply personal episode, Scott steps into full vulnerability to share the raw details of his life and the relationship challenges that catalyzed his transformative path. For the longest time, he was blind to the deep-seated patterns running his life, but a series of profound realizations shattered those illusions. These breakthroughs humbled him completely, forcing him to confront the painful truth that he has been operating almost entirely from a place of fear.

By pulling back the curtain on his own history, Scott breaks down exactly how these lifelong patterns show up and, more importantly, how you can begin to recognize your own. If you are ready to stop letting fear run the show and want to kickstart your own healing journey, head over to repressiontest.com to take his free somatic test and join the newsletter community today.

Simple Presence: The Myths and the Truth

In this episode, Scott challenges the mainstream spiritual narrative around "simple presence." For years, teachers have pointed to presence as an easy fix, but Scott shares how chasing a detached awareness can actually become a hiding place. Behind his own mask of presence lay buried anger—an unprocessed trauma that continually manifested on the surface as addiction, cancer, and spinal stenosis.

Turning conventional mindfulness on its head, Scott introduces an unorthodox pathway to true embodiment. Instead of using presence to bypass or avoid our deepest pain, he explains why we must go straight to the root of suffering, using a continuous practice focused on the repression.

If you are ready for simple embodied Presence, but are tired of the practices that don’t deliver, this episode is your roadmap.

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In this episode, Scott gives a piece of wisdom that almost no one is talking about. He points to how to handle a narcissist authentically. The answer is not what we think it is. Listen to hear the hidden gem.

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Why do we cheat, fantasize, obsessively look at porn, or fall into addictive cycles while in relationship?

Most approaches stay on the surface, demanding apologies or applying spiritual band-aids. But these behaviors are actually driven by buried trauma and deeply unmet needs for love and safety.

Real transformation requires moving out of the stories in our heads and down into our bodies, where those numbed-out emotions live. Until we consciously process that root pain and understand where the behavior comes from, we are bound to repeat it. This episode delivers a practical roadmap to stop managing symptoms and finally heal the core cause.

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Why do we continue to suffer even after years of spiritual practice or self-help? In this episode, Scott Kiloby reveals a groundbreaking perspective on awakening and embodiment: our deepest suffering is driven by the emotions we have most repressed.

Scott explains that our vulnerability consists of the emotion(s) we are most afraid to feel and express, acting as the ultimate block to our true authenticity. Rather than using spiritual practices to bypass or avoid this pain, an embodied healing path requires us to look directly at the root of our suffering.

Through the lens of his unique "Dimensions of Practice," Scott lays out a precise, cutting-edge pathway for processing these buried emotions. Until we do the deep somatic work to fully embody our realizations, our avoided emotions will continue to drive our behaviors and prolong our struggle.

Tune in to discover how to stop bypassing, face what is hidden, and unlock true authenticity.

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Ever feel like your relationships are trapped in a frustrating loop of disappointment? The Set-Up is the invisible way we walk into rooms and relationships trying to extract the core needs that went unmet during our childhood: love, safety, approval, and validation. Because we don’t openly announce or communicate these needs, they silently transform into subconscious demands on the people around us. When others inevitably fail to meet these unspoken demands, it creates deep suffering for us. But here is the catch: this suffering feels familiar. We unconsciously keep producing the exact same painful outcomes because, deep down, we are terrified to step out of the cycle and show up as our raw, authentic selves. Discover your hidden patterns by taking the somatic test and joining the newsletter at repressiontest.com.

In this episode, Scott Kiloby breaks down how to end suffering in the simplest terms possible. He points directly to the root of human suffering and reveals how almost every traditional practice or method we engage in ultimately falls short. This is a succinct, tried-and-true statement on how to end suffering, designed exclusively for serious seekers who are not just looking to regulate their system or find temporary relief, but are ready for true transformation. To start Scott’s work, visit repressiontest.com to take your free somatic test and be automatically added to his newsletter.

In this deeply illuminating episode, Scott Kiloby addresses a question he has been asked for years: What does the journey of emotional repression Inquiry actually look like from start to finish? While it has taken some time to bring this comprehensive overview to light, Scott delivers his definitive response, mapping out the clear "before and after" of doing this profound work.

Listeners will get an honest, unvarnished look at both the incredible benefits and the inherent challenges that come with untangling deep-seated emotional repression. Scott goes beneath the surface to explore how our evolutionary survival mechanisms have become intricately entangled with our personal trauma, and how understanding this connection is pivotal to true transformation.

Whether you are completely new to Inquiry or have been doing the work for years, this episode offers a rare, deep dive. Beginners will find a clear, accessible roadmap, while seasoned practitioners will resonate with advanced insights that can only be uncovered by actively doing the work as it was developed.

If you are ready to take the next step in your own transformation and experience the "after" of this work firsthand, join Scott’s Becoming Unbound program: https://kiloby.com/bu-program

It began with an unexpected flash of rage toward a client—a moment that shattered a carefully built image and ended up transforming every personal and professional relationship in its wake.

Many helpers carry a deep reservoir of buried anger born from unmet childhood needs for love, approval, and safety. Blind to this hidden driver, they suffer quietly in the background, battling chronic burnout from inauthentic helping.

Blending personal experience with scientific research and the insights of the Kiloby Inquiries (KI), this episode explores what happens when we attempt to heal others before ending our own suffering—and how facing our buried emotions finally brings codependency to an end.

If this episode speaks to you and you’re ready to finally get to the root of suffering and inauthentic helping, reach out to Scott on WhatsApp at 1-812-204-4324.

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Scott rants and raves about what’s wrong with the health trends, self-help methods, and spiritual communities.

In this episode, Scott breaks down the codependency and trauma of helpers. Visit repressiontest.com to start this work. If you are a helper, message Scott on What’s App to be trained. The number is 1-812-204-4324.

Scott discusses the otherworldly and extra-dimensional details of his latest e-book which is free if you join his Instagram chat group here: https://www.instagram.com/channel/AbZebuk7cyuIHeCL/

In this episode, Scott speaks to the overlooked reality behind the spiritual search, addressing how the hidden shadow is completely missing from the beginning of most spiritual paths. He explores how contemporary spirituality contains both seekers and "finders—both of whom have missed the true root of suffering. This blind spot inevitably creates toxic trauma bonds between teachers and students, as well as within spiritual communities at large.

Scott challenges listeners to stop ignoring the core issues and instead start looking at our spiritual practices and frameworks through the lens of the trauma that creates our suffering.

True freedom cannot be found by simply hoping that someday we will be healed without having to face the pain. To break these cycles, we must directly confront and feel the deeply embedded childhood pain that has been driving our behavior and seeking from the very beginning.

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Back by popular demand following the Insider’s View of an Avoidant social media shorts, Scott Kiloby dives deep into how the avoidant attachment style subtly hijacks spirituality. This episode explores the hidden mechanics of spiritual bypassing, showing how the pattern remains completely invisible to those running it because it is driven by deeply buried emotions and unmet childhood needs.

If you are trapped in a pleasure-pain cycle where your spiritual practices actually prolong your suffering rather than healing it, this conversation is for you. Learn how to spot these hidden traps, stop avoiding your avoidant nature, and finally break the loop to find true, grounded emotional liberation.

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Are you constantly chasing safety, validation, or love from the world around you, only to find yourself still feeling empty, anxious, or in pain?

In this episode, Scott Kiloby dives deep into Needism—a profound exploration of how our unmet emotional needs drive adult suffering. Scott answers frequent listener questions about how we can finally meet our own internal needs by properly processing our emotions, rather than looking for external fixes.

We map out exactly how emotional repression forms in our earliest attachment years and follows us into adulthood, creating a cycle of unconscious suffering. More importantly, Scott lays down a practical, actionable path to help you start meeting your core needs for safety and love from within.

Key Takeaways from the Episode

The Roots of Needism: How our earliest relationship attachments set the blueprint for how we handle—or repress—our deepest emotional needs.

The Illusion of the External Fix: Why trying to get your needs met outside of yourself is a losing battle that only prolongs adult suffering.

The Power of Processing: A deep dive into the mechanics of emotional processing and how letting yourself fully feel can dissolve decades of repression.

Your Path to Inner Safety: Scott’s foundational steps to begin cultivating genuine love, security, and safety within your own system today.

The moment you stop demanding the world mirror back the safety you crave, and instead learn to anchor that safety inside your own body, the cycle of suffering ends.

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Scott gets down and dirty about his own rage and how not speaking up directly in relationship produces suffering in the lives of rage holders. To start this work for Free, visit repressiontest.com.

In this podcast episode, Scott discusses the anxious attachment style and unmet needs that go with it. Transformation happens when we find safety and love within. The anxious attachment style sabotages itself by looking outside of itself. The process of self compassion and skillfulness ends the suffering for the anxiously attached. But there are a lot of bumps and hurdles along the way. Only the earnest end up truly discovering authentic love. Start this work for free at repressiontest.com.

Scott and Dan, the co-developers of KI Emotional Repression Inquiry, are reuniting for an electrifying and groundbreaking podcast episode that you won't want to miss! This time, they’re tackling the provocative topic of dying paradigms, diving deep into how traditional structures are crumbling as individuals engage in transformative somatic work. The concept of existence independent of us is being annihilated from every angle, and KI is at the forefront with one of the most powerful somatic processes available.

In this episode, Dan and Scott will share their compelling history and the paradigms they've witnessed falling away, all while highlighting how embracing KI can lead to true freedom and healing. This is a unique opportunity to explore the dying recovery paradigm—something they've never approached quite like this before!

If you're interested in diving into the experiential aspect of this work, join Scott and Dan for a FREE Q&A on authentic recovery, Sunday October 5th. https://repression.as.me/freeQAwithScottandDan

Join my friend ​and co-developer ​⁠​⁠@danmclintock and I for our second podcast on the oversights and dangers of conflation in both the mental health and political paradigms.

Join us for our Addiction & Authentic Recovery Workshop Oct 18th at link in bio.

In this episode, Scott explores Barbara Oakley’s concept of Pathological Altruism and dives deep into the world of repression inquiry. Scott explains how many acts of service, often perceived as altruistic, are actually driven by a hidden need to feel safe and gain love or approval. By burying these unconscious motivations along with difficult emotions, we create false identities based on being “good” or “altruistic.” However, once we process these buried emotions through repression inquiry, true authenticity emerges. No longer needing to maintain a facade of goodness, we find that our authentic selves are enough. If helping others is part of our calling, it can now come from a place of genuine connection, rather than from the drive to uphold a false identity.

If you are a coach, teacher, therapist, or other helper, join Scott’s FREE Webinar Saturday, September 20th on Zoom. Scott will give instructions on first or next steps on your path towards learning to bring KI into your practice for your clients or students. Link to Webinar: https://repression.as.me/freewebinar4beginners-meta.

Join ​⁠Dan Mclintock and myself as we define, point to and deconstruct our tendency as human beings to conflate!

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Scott is taking a break from podcasting for a while as he feels called to explore other endeavors. The work is now accessible for everyone to start for FREE at repressiontest.com. He is focusing on one-on-one mentorship and is in the process of developing a new six-month course titled "Becoming Unbound," which will be released soon.

In the future, you might hear a short episode announcing his return to podcasting, but for now, Scott encourages you to dive into the world of KI for free and discover the true offerings surrounding this work. To enter that portal, visit repressiontest.com. If you feel drawn to work with Scott one-on-one, simply reach out to him on social media and type the word "love" to learn more about available options.

In this episode, Scott delves deeper into his Tik Tok series growing in popularity called, "The Insiders' View of an Avoidant." He reflects on his lifelong tendencies to avoid emotional intimacy and how his most recent relationship transformed his perspective. Through this partnership, he discovered the value of secure connections and experienced firsthand what it means to be with someone who also engages in avoidance. This experience served as a profound wake-up call, allowing him to confront his own patterns and ultimately inspired the development of his work. To begin exploring this transformative journey for FREE, visit https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/.

Is “super empath” a heightened state of consciousness or just another identity that keeps people safe and gets them love? Scott explores this question. Start this work for free at repressiontest.com. Join Scott’s News Channel for Helpers: https://www.messenger.com/channel/kiloby/AbYi5fJHbUQXx31t/

Scott explains how KI specializes in dissolving self-sabotage. The secret is revealed. Start the work for free: https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/.

Scott focuses on the richest treasures of deeply transformative work and the indispensable aspects of the path. He also answers criticisms and questions about the work. To join his jumpstart group starting May 18, visit https://kiloby.com/jumpstart

In this episode, Scott and Toshi talk about how emotional repression can cause you to see, hear, and believe only what feels safe—protecting you from feeling or expressing certain emotions. This can make it difficult to hear or understand work that addresses emotional repression, as the mind filters out anything that might threaten the protective barrier against those emotions.

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Take this test and listen to this full podcast episode so that you can remove all doubt as to the question of whether you’re a narcissist.

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In this podcast episode, Scott explores the common experience of oscillating between “I’ve got it” and “I’ve lost it” on the healing journey. He discusses how seeking intense experiences can trigger survival mechanisms due to unresolved emotions, leading to a cycle of temporary relief followed by suffering. This cycle is a natural part of our evolution for survival. Scott emphasizes that transformative practices, such as pursuing non-duality or using plant medicine, can perpetuate this "I've got it, I've lost it" phenomenon. The key to breaking this cycle lies in bringing awareness to the underlying conditioning that drives this suffering cycle, a process that is central to the work done in KI. This episode provides a clear pathway to understanding and consciously addressing these mechanisms.

To join Scott’s May 18th jumpstart Group, visit https://get.kiloby.com/jumpstart/.

To start this work for free (a prerequisite to Jumpstart), visit https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/.

Scott shares about the cycles of suffering that come from hurt and sadness repression with a special focus on the shame/rage response. The key to ending suffering for hurt and sadness repressor is hidden in plain view. To start this work for free, visit https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/

In this episode, Scott uncovers the often-overlooked self-sabotage associated with the anxious attachment style. He discusses how individuals with this attachment style struggle to process their emotions independently, which hinders their personal growth. People report having difficulty doing this work on their own when they have this attachment style. This emotional repression not only affects their self-awareness in a path or healing process but also interferes with their relationships, as their need for reassurance and safety can undermine their quest for true intimacy and genuine connection. To begin this work for free, visit https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/.

Scott tells the story of the positive people around him who are suffering. To start this work for free, visit https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/.

In this episode, Scott explores the profound connection between unmet needs and buried emotions. He reveals how our lifelong defenses shield us from confronting core suffering, leading us to seek fulfillment through false means. This compulsion to gain validation from others stems from holding back our authentic selves since childhood. Drawing on powerful insights from spiritual traditions, Scott invites listeners to discover the treasure that lies within: the understanding that everything we seek is already part of us, waiting to be unveiled. Embark on this transformative journey to unlock your true potential and reclaim your emotional well-being.

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Scott weaves together personal, political, spiritual, and other themes relevant to emotional repression for a raw and personal episode. To begin emotional repression Inquiry for free, visit https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/.

Scott and Toshi talk about their experiences with mindfulness and how it can serve as a form of bypassing. They discuss the pitfalls and limitations of mindfulness, particularly when it is used to avoid emotional repression.

Mindfulness is explored as a practice that can be beneficial, but also potentially limiting if not approached with an awareness of its shortcomings.

Practiced alone, mindfulness can lead to the avoidance of buried emotions, reinforcing a cycle of spiritual bypassing. While it may provide a sense of safety, it often overlooks the deeper emotional work necessary for true healing and freedom. Scott and Toshi advocate for combining mindfulness with emotional inquiry practices, such as the KI to help address and integrate suppressed emotions, leading to more authentic recovery and lasting freedom. Order the book: https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick

Join Scott for a fun exploration of how his life was split for many years due to repression. In an open relationship, Scott found himself grappling with a BDSM addiction, which served as a means to explore unconscious, buried anger in the submissive role. This journey was driven by a fear of intimacy, which Scott later recognized as directly connected to his personal relationships.

Come and listen to this insightful and unique exploration of how some of our darkest energies are intertwined with love and light. To start this work for free, click on this free course that shows you how to do KI Emotional Repression Inquiry: https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/

Scott invites anyone who even tangentially thinks that they may repress anger to listen to this important episode. This episode comes directly after the release of his free course showing people how to do emotional repression Inquiry (link below). Here, Scott weaves his personal stories with a series of somatic tests, revealing how surface-level suffering—like anxiety, people-pleasing, chronic pain, and relationship issues—are directly connected to buried anger. By sharing his own experiences, Scott helps listeners uncover the root of their own people-pleasing, relationship issues, or addictions, verifying that the same anger repression may be driving similar patterns in their lives.

This podcast empowers you to break free from trauma bonds and avoidant practices and discover your true emotional landscape. To start your journey with KI Emotional Repression Inquiry for FREE, visit https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/.

Scott shares some somatic tests for helpers that have never been shared publicly. The somatic tests are being released in conjunction with the free course teaching you how to do KI emotional repression Inquiry. Scott has been training teachers, therapists, coaches, sponsors and other helpers for almost 15 years in formal training programs. The current iteration of his training program allows for only high caliber candidates with a high degree of earnestness. These test show helpers the extent to which they are still driven by unmet needs and emotional wounding from childhood. Scott’s training program focuses on unresolved issues that are motivating inauthentic helping and bypassing. To begin to do KI emotional repression inquiry for FREE, visit https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/.

Scott shares about the pattern of procrastination among other patterns in the days approaching the release of KI emotional repression inquiry for FREE. Follow Scott on social media to receive the free course. Until then, order his new book, “Awake But Sick”: https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick

In preparation for the release of free emotional repression Inquiry, Scott is explaining several key topics to help people with the skills of KI, including the mind-body connection and the pain pleasure cycle. Stay tuned for more on both! This episode goes deeply into the mind-body connection and how it applies to both suffering and our desire to end suffering. Follow Scott on social media to receive the free inquiry soon. For now, Scott invites you to order his new book on the exact nature of spiritual bypassing called, "Awake But Sick: The Myth of Immediate Freedom and the Dangers of Spiritual Seeking and Finding" at https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick.

At the time of recording this podcast episode, the free repression inquiry was not available. It now is. Try KI for free here: https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/

Scott invites you to order his new book on the exact nature of spiritual bypassing called, "Awake But Sick: The Myth of Immediate Freedom and the Dangers of Spiritual Seeking and Finding" at https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick.

Scott shares a message for the diehard KI practitioners listening. Visit repressiontest.com to take Scott’s free test for buried emotions and be added to his newsletter. Emotional repression inquiry is coming to you FREE very soon. Stay tuned and follow Scott on social media.

KI co-developers Scott and Dan McLintock come together to say, “Don’t get any big ideas and then see how that is actually the path to the biggest transformation.” Listen for a radical but super compassionate and mature approach to freedom. If you would like to meet or work with Dan, visit https://kiloby.com/dan.

The line between the physical and mental isn’t truly there. We believe we have physical diseases in some cases because it keeps us safe from buried emotions. Listen as Scott shares about the science and the findings in our bodies in KI—which mirror each other. Read Scott’s new book about how buried emotions create both our suffering and our spiritual bypassing and avoidance patterns: https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick.

After the podcast episode titled “Authentic v 12 Step Recovery” with codeveloper, Dan McLintock, Scott wanted to come and speak to everyone on a personal level about the set of circumstances and transformation which led to him to leaving 12 step and eventually developing KI with Dan. Join Scott’s April 1st Jumpstart Group or come speak to him for free about his one-on-one programs by visiting: https://kiloby.com/jumpstart

Scott praises attachment theory for its contribution to KI and also criticizes it for its disconnection from buried emotions. To work directly with Scott in one on one or group, visit https://kiloby.com/jumpstart.

Scott began using the term the Great Non-Bypass when he first began introducing emotional repression inquiry to people to denote how widespread spiritual bypassing really is in eastern practices and teachings. That phrase takes note of how systematically avoidant these teachings and practices can be, sometimes not even mentioning or pointing to or helping people process buried emotions even though science has shown that buried emotions are the root of most of our suffering. Now that Scott has co-authored the book *Awake but Sick: The Myth of Immediate Freedom and the Dangers of Spiritual Seeking and Finding* with Toshi Matsunaga, Scott is ready to teach in a different way, which includes awareness as the ground of our experience, along with the processing of buried emotions for genuine transformation. To order Scott's book, visit https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick.

In this podcast, Scott shares a poignant story about the intricate dance between addiction and codependency, drawing from his extensive personal experience as the owner of addiction treatment centers and someone from a family deeply affected by addiction. He guides us through the mindset of individuals who suppress their anger and seek love and validation by helping others facing addiction. Scott emphasizes that the true addiction often lies in the craving for love and safety from others. Both the addict and the codependent must take responsibility for their buried emotions to heal this dynamic. If you're interested in learning more about Scott's group jumpstart or his one-on-one 90-day intensive program, visit: https://kiloby.com/jumpstart.