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“In the matter of minutes, I said hello and goodbye to her. The normal birth, life, death process was put right side by side. ”

Magdalena Garcia join me in today’s episode about pregnancy loss.

Magdalena supports parental mental and emotional health by focusing on the mindset, strategies, and symbolic ways mothers and fathers can tend to their inner lives so they can tend the inner lives of their children.

We discuss types, impacts, our personal experiences, support, future challenges, partner differences, and honoring the loss moving forward.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast101

This is episode 100, and in honor of that milestone, I’m showing up with a reintroduction. The first episode of the Sage Family Podcast, an introduction with myself, my husband, and my three children, was shared with you all over 6 years ago. Needless to say, those beautiful souls have insisted on perpetually growing and evolving and I have grown and evolved right alongside them. Our life looks so different now, and yet, the heart and spirit of the values that inspired this movement remain. In this new season of life, I just wanted to give us, you and I, the opportunity to refresh and connect anew.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast100.

“It shifts your communication dynamic from one that might be negative to one that’s positive. It moves it from demand based or power struggles to connection and partnership.”

Linda Murphy joins me in today’s episode about Declarative Language.

Linda is a speech language pathologist and RDI® Constultant.

We discuss social learning differences, imperative vs declarative language, examples, benefits, social learning examples, pacing, and co-regulation.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast91.

“Limits are the thing parents struggle with the most and it’s one of the most important pieces of the puzzle. Until you feel confident and competent in your limit setting skills, it’s going to be really hard to help your child through aggressive behaviors.”

Tosha Schore joins me in today’s episode about Aggression.

Tosha is a parent coach and the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully, where she is on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time.

We discuss boys, aggressive play, brains, fear, connection, communication, playfulness, and limits.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast90.

“The thing that we most see is the increase in intrinsic motivation just all over the place.”

Gina Riley joins me in today’s episode about Unschooling Outcomes.

Gina is an educational psychologist, Clinical Professor, and Program Leader of Adolescent Special Education Programs at CUNY-Hunter College.

We discuss advantages, disadvantages, higher education, career, motivation, and disability.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast89.

“A demand is anything that is too hard in the present moment. And that can be for you or them. As a family, we have found the language of ‘too hard’ to be incredibly freeing. When things are hard, we show up, we do our best, we’re brave, we ask for help. And when things are too hard, we find a way to let it go.”

Amanda Diekman joins me in today’s episode about Low Demand Parenting.

Amanda is an autistic adult, parent coach and author in the neurodiversity space with a new Low Demand Parenting book, online courses, and a vibrant membership community.

We discuss low demand parenting, permissiveness, power dynamics, emotions, and tips, techniques, and strategies to shift to a more low demand approach.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast88.

“We get to upgrade the mother within us. We get to move toward a sense of our mother’s essential self as the part that gets to mother us. If our mother were completely supported, if she had gotten to receive her re-mothering, if she had gotten to heal her emotional trauma, if she had gotten to live with resonance and self-warmth, what would she be like to us? How would she be in relationship with us? We get to bring that essential being in to become the mother that we carry in our cells.”

Sarah Peyton joins me in today’s episode about Self Compassion.

Sarah is the bestselling author of Conscious Uncoupling and an award-winning marriage and family psychotherapist.

We discuss unconscious contracts, resonance, self-warmth, neuroplasticity, default mode network, hemispheres, body-centered awareness, vagus nerve, accompaniment, the time-traveling amygdala, and circuits.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast87.

“Connection is the substrate of parenting and that rests on my connection to myself. When I have connection, the creative possibilities are endless just as they are when I have connection with my children. We come out of a stuck place and the space between us opens up and there is so much more room for everyone’s experience in that connection.” 

Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer join me in today’s episode about Menstruality.

Alexandra and Sjanie are the co-founders of Red School, and co-authors of the iconic and hugely celebrated book, Wild Power, and their new book Wise Power.

We discuss menstrual cycle awareness, the inner seasons, and how to honor our cyclical needs in parenting shifting 1% at a time.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast86.

“Children behave their way to safety.”

Claire Wilson joins me in today’s episode about Polyvagal Theory.

Claire is an author, speaker, trainer, and therapist with her book Grounded and her program Grounded Grown Ups, who uses Polyvagal Theory to help children and their grown ups.

We discuss the autonomic nervous system hierarchy, being grounded, neuroception, trauma, co-regulation, and autonomic flexibility.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast85.

“They’re holding you in that false narrative probably because you’ve enrolled them into that story. You know, we’re always informing other people who we are. So if I have a story, ‘I’m not good enough,’ there’s all sorts of ways that I’m going show up as, ‘I’m inferior and they’re better than me,’ so when they leave because of that, it’s validating the old story. So you have to go in and do this correction on a soul level.”

Katherine Woodward Thomas joins me in today’s episode about Conscious Uncoupling.

Katherine is the bestselling author of Conscious Uncoupling and an award-winning marriage and family psychotherapist.

We discuss changing the definition of success from longevity, the pain of detaching, how we’ve been doing divorce wrong, conscious uncoupling without our partner’s participation, transforming difficult emotions, curating an empowering narrative, breaking our patterns, creating a positive future, building a new life, and rituals for uncoupling.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast84.

“In terms of equality, if my son perceives himself below anything, he’s going to have a stress response, like a lion’s in front of him.” 

Casey Ehrlich, Ph.D. joins me in today’s episode about PDA.

Casey is a coach to parents raising PDA Autistic children and is the co-founder of the PDA Parents community and podcast.

We discuss what PDA is, Casey’s personal journey raising a PDA child, parenting style, accommodations, nervous system disability, support, and fears.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast83.

“If we’re in our comfort zone as parents, we’re probably holding them back.”

Chris Balme joins me in today’s episode about tweens.

Chris Balme is an education leader and writer, passionate about helping young people discover more of their human potential.

We discuss how we misunderstand tweens, what’s going on with their development, how they learn best, how we can best support them, how our parent-child relationship shifts, ideal middle school, and common challenges and we can better meet them.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast82.

“Those who are nested are going to be . . . more fit . . . Evolution has done the experiments . . . so we don’t have to . . . do all those crazy things that researchers do because they don’t have any baseline for what is normal for our species in raising children, what I call ‘species typical’."

Dr. Darcia Narvaez join me in today’s episode about the Evolved Nest.

Darcia is a professor and author who studies evolved morality, child development, and human flourishing.

We discuss the decision to have children, mutual accompaniment, breastfeeding, sharing care, free play, touch, emotions, and moral commitment.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast99

“How will you know when you’re done?”

Ash Brandin joins me in today’s episode about video games.

Ash is a middle school teacher who has been putting gaming principles into practice for over ten years. A gamer, educator, and parent, they help families raise kids with a balance of gaming, responsibilities, and other hobbies.

We discuss research, blame, systemic gaps, amount, replacement, division of responsibility, benefits, frustration, violence, and an off-ramp.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast81.

“It’s a great thing to always have someone to rescue you, but to always need to be rescued is such a vulnerable way to live, such a limiting way to live. You don’t want your child to feel like they always need to be rescued.”

Dr. Eli Lebowitz joins me in today’s episode about childhood anxiety. He studies and treats childhood anxiety at the Yale Child Study Center and through his SPACE program and Breaking Free of Childhood Anxiety and OCD book.

We discuss why accommodations can be problematic, what true support looks like, where to start, making a plan, telling your child, responding to aggression, and navigating when co-parents disagree.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast80.

Gentle parenting is a journey, not a destination, and it’s one that did not start with you and will not end with you. Mr. Chazz joins me in today’s episode about caring for kids. His mission is to help adults truly see, guide, and trust children. We discuss his journey into conscious discipline, intergenerational trauma, perfection, and calling in. Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast79.

Today I’m here with Amy Lang talking about Sexuality. Amy has been a sexual health educator for over 25 years. We go over preparing ourselves for conversations about sex with our kids, setting our kids up to have a healthy relationship with their bodies, handling nudity in the house, responding to masturbation, explaining menstruation and where babies come from, boundaries to equip our children with to keep them safe from sexual harm, supporting teens in developing a safe, healthy, and enjoyable sex life, and discussing abortion.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast78.

Today I’m here with Dr. Cassidy Freitas talking about Boundaries. Cassidy is a mom to three, California based Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice and host of Holding Space podcast. We go over what boundaries are, the distinction between requests and boundaries, the essential role of acceptance, when a boundary is warranted, not fearing intense feelings showing up from holding a boundary, having hard boundary-setting conversations, offering a redirect with a boundary, and receiving boundaries in a healthy way.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast77.

Today I’m here with Julie Bogart talking about Critical Thinking. Julie is a mom of 4 grown homeschoolers, creator of the online writing program Brave Writer, and author of the books The Brave Learner and Raising Critical Thinkers. We go over what critical thinking is, why it’s important, what gets in the way, how we can get there, how we can raise our kids with it, how they will eventually use that critical thinking in their relationship with you, and how we can bring it into our relationships with technology.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast76.

Today I’m here with Dr. Diana Hill talking about Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Diana is a modern psychologist, mom, co-author of ACT Daily Journal, and host of the Your Life in Process podcast. We go over what ACT is, contacting the present moment (mindfulness), acceptance (in contrast to experiential avoidance), defusion (unhooking from our thoughts), taking perspective on our self-stories, values, and effective action.

 

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast75.

Today I’m here with Miriam Kirmayer talking about Friendship. Miriam is a clinical psychologist and leading friendship expert who has studied the science of social connection for over a decade. We go over the importance of friendship, how we make new friends in motherhood, how we can cultivate closer connections, having different friends who add value in different ways, having friendships that are reciprocated and balanced, friendship breakups, and navigating friendships with different parenting styes.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast74.

Today I’m here with Seth Perler talking about Executive Function. Seth is a well-known executive function coach, educator, vlogger, and guy who cares about seeing outside-the-box kids succeed. We go over what executive function is, signs your kid might be struggling with it, misconceptions about these kids, brain wiring and other conditions that can lead to executive function challenges, how to build up these skills, how to overcome resistance, centering strengths of ADHD, and how trauma affects executive function.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast73.

Today I’m here with Robyn Robertson talking about Unschooling Teens. Robyn is an unschooling mom to 2 kids, podcast host, business owner, and public school board trustee. We go over how this season is different, supporting interests and passions, choosing school, grief and growth for us, misconceptions, and skills from unschooling that help them survive, succeed, and thrive.

“It was so important for us as homeschool parents, and because of the tenets that we hold as the reasons why we homeschool: it’s important for us to value our children as humans, and for their voices to be heard, and for their mental health, and so, when our kids were saying, ‘I think we need to start thinking about school,’ if we ignored these ideas that were coming from our kids, we would’t be holding the tenets that we thought were important in homeschooling—trusting and respecting them, which is the highest value.”

Angela Sizer and Maren Goerss join me in today’s episode about Homeschooling to School.

Angela and Maren are hosts of the Homeschool Unrefined Podcast and authors of the new book Think Differently About Learning.

We discuss how we came to homeschooling, treating children as humans, nuts and bolts of homeschooling, outsourcing, mental health, and the transition from homeschooling to school.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast98

Today I’m here with Rachelle Crawford talking about Messy Minimalism. Rachelle is the author of Messy Minimalism and the founder of Abundant Life with Less. We go over messy minimalism, starting with the who instead of the why, wrestling with assumptions, helping kids into minimalism, becoming more conscious consumers, reducing decision fatigue, why organization is not the answer, how perfectionism keeps you stuck, decluttering tips, and what we learn about ourselves when we slow down.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast71.

Today I’m here with Matt Matheson talking about giving. Matt is a husband, father, educator, and founder of Family Money School. We go over how giving fits into financial freedom, what strategies we use for the mechanics of giving, how to encourage children to be giving, and how to be generous outside of financial donations.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast70.

Today I’m here with Sarah Rosensweet talking about empathy. Sarah is a mother of 3 and a certified peaceful parenting coach, podcaster, and educator in Toronto. We go over the impact of empathy, modeling empathy, holding boundaries with empathy, empathy as an intention and not a tactic, an empathetic mindset, and how empathy has blossomed in our own children.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast69.

Today I’m here with Erika Brown talking about real estate. Erika turned a career as a real estate agent into a multi-million dollar real estate empire that provides jobs and empowers the community, while unschooling her three boys. We go over money, real estate, financing, BRRRR, Air BnBs, rentals, entrepreneurship, parenting, and unschooling.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast68

Today I’m here with Shelly Robinson talking about relationships with our family of origin. Shelly is a certified holistic family wellness coach, cycle-breaker, conscious parenting educator, and founder of Raising Yourself. We go over expectations, boundaries, narratives, homeostasis, and approval.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast67.

Today I’m here with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson with a Communication Q & A. Bill is a clinical neuropsychologist and Ned is a tutor geek and they are both speakers and authors of The Self-Driven Child and What Do You Say. We go over what to say when a child is struggling with complaining,  school, neurodiversities, a hard new skill, substances, mental health, technology, lying, and siblings.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast66.

Today I’m here with Katy Bowman talking about the role of movement in growing wild. Katy is a biomechanist, author, speaker, and a leader in the movement movement. We go over stacking needs, culture, clothing, cooking, the home environment, learning, activities, and alloparents.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast65.

Today I’m here with Ashleigh Warner talking about having a second baby. Ashleigh is a psychologist and respectful parenting mum of 2. We go over grief, big feelings, attachment, inclusion, challenging behaviors, regression, and miscarriage.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast64.

Today I’m here with Tamara Soles talking about assessment. Tamara is a psychologist, parent coach, and mom of twins. We go over neurodiversity, what a psychological assessment is, when it’s helpful, how to find a practitioner that is a good fit, what to expect during the process, what a diagnosis means, and how to advocate for consent for our children.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast63.

 

Today I’m here with Eden Hyder talking about attachment. Eden Hyder is a licensed therapist, founder of The Inside Out Collaborative, and host of the Inside Out Podcast. We go over attachment theory and styles, parenting our inner child, forming secure attachments with our children, how attachments can be ruptured and repaired, and what centering attachment looks like beyond the early years into childhood and adolescence.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast62.

“Our needs are never in conflict. It’s the strategies that we use to meet our needs that get us into conflict.”

Lisa Rothman joins me in today’s episode about Conflict.

Lisa is a mom who has spent more than 20 years learning, practicing, and teaching collaborative communication skills.

We discuss a template for preventing and repairing conflict, capacity, and boundaries and we get to step inside of some conflict resolution sessions with families.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast97

Today I’m here with Chelsea Brennan talking about giving kids an allowance. Chelsea is an ex-hedge fund manager turned financial educator and founder of Smart Money Mamas. We go over unpacking your baggage, when to start, cash or card, earned or not, how much, teaching the importance of saving, and letting them make mistakes.

Get the full show notes here: http://sagefamily.com/podcast61

Today I’m here with Sue Patterson answering more of your unschooling questions. Sue is a homeschooling mom, author, and unschooling coach. We go over responding to the concerns of extended family, unschooling different ages and temperaments, and how to support interest-led learning even if you don’t much about the interest.

Get the full show notes here: http://sagefamily.com/podcast60

Today I’m here with Dr. Cassidy Freitas talking about social media. Cassidy is a mama to 3, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and host of the Holding Space podcast. We go over the benefits, downsides, perfectionism, boundaries, simplicity, and parenting in the age of social media.

Get the full show notes here: http://sagefamily.com/podcast59

Today I’m here with Sue Patterson answering your unschooling questions. Sue is a homeschooling mom, author, and unschooling coach. We go over getting your co-parent on board with unschooling, what to do if your child says they want to go to school, and how to respond if all your kid wants to do is stare at a screen.

Get the full show notes here: http://sagefamily.com/podcast58

Today I’m here with Hunter Clarke-Fields talking about Mindful Parenting. Hunter is the creator of the Mindful Parenting course, host of the Mindful Mama podcast, and author of Raising Good Humans. We go over the stress response, mindfulness, beginner’s mind, acknowledgment, kindness and empathy, resistance, children’s emotions, I-Messages, and collaboration.

Get the full show notes here: http://sagefamily.com/podcast57

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Today I’m here with Iris Chen talking about Untigering. Iris is an author, unschooling mom, deconstructing tiger parent, and founder of the Untigering movement. We go over her book title, narrative, the nature of children, our role as parents, behaviors, feelings, success, adultism, acceptance, gender norms, bodily autonomy, permissiveness, and community.

Get the full show notes here: http://sagefamily.com/podcast56

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Today I’m here with Sarah Moore talking about sensitive kids. Sarah is the founder of Dandelion Seeds Positive Parenting and a certified gentle parenting coach. We go over how sensitivity comes with both challenges and strengths, the importance of reading their cues, what style of discipline works well, how playfulness is extra helpful, and why type of language resonates with sensitive children.

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Today I’m here with Bari Tessler talking about money healing. Bari is a financial therapist, mentor coach, mamapreneur, and writer and founder of The Art of Money. We go over healing money shame, the body check-in, money stories, money practices, money maps, being a mampreneur, and helping our children develop a healthy relationship with money.

Get the full show notes here: http://rachelrainbolt.com/podcast54

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Today I’m here with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson talking about the self-driven child. Bill is a clinical neuropsychologist and Ned is a tutor geek and they are both speakers and authors of The Self-Driven Child. We go over stress, a child’s ownership of their own life, parent as consultant instead of enforcer, anxiety, motivation, adolescence, neurodiversity, testing, and college.

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Today I’m here with Lenore Skenazy talking about free-range kids. Lenore is co-founder and president of Let Grow and author or Free-Range Kids. We go over common unfounded fears, how protecting our kids makes them less safe, overcoming fear of mother blame, how to find the yes when you feel unsure, and times when having faith in our kids has paid off.

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“There was a child that drowned when they were with their dad at a public pool and the mom was blamed while being five states away, and I thought, that was something I’d never considered, that women are blamed for the well-being of their children no matter what.”

Zach Watson joins me in today’s episode about Sharing Labor.

Zach is a content creator and coach teaching men to better see the invisible labor that is happening around them.

We discuss his awakening, examples of mental, emotional and domestic labor, why women carry so much of this load, how language is important, how to discuss this in our partnerships without triggering defensiveness, working on this ADHD, and supporting a societal shift toward greater equity.

Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast96.

Today I’m here with Kaleena Amuchastegui talking about taking the Homeschooling Leap. Kaleena is a mama of 4 and author of The 5-Hour School Week. We go over where she started, what prompted her leap, what lessons she learned along the way, why self-directed is important, what homeschooling looks like for her family now, her homeschooling parallel with The 5-Hour Work Week, and how the values we center in homeschooling are reflected in other areas of life.

Get the full show notes here: http://rachelrainbolt.com/podcast51

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Today I’m here with Jenny Taylor talking about Conscious Adulting. Jenny is a parenting journalist and fierce advocate for children. We go over the stories we hold about ourselves and the world and how valuable it is to unpack them, confirmation bias and what it’s like to get out of your own echo chamber, how the media influences us, digesting news and media yourself and with your children with intention, being in connection with people who think and believe differently, and how to navigate friendships as adults.

Get the full show notes here: http://rachelrainbolt.com/podcast50

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Today I’m here with Kim John Payne talking about Simplicity Parenting. Kim is a counselor, speaker, researcher, adult educator, and the author of the book Simplicity Parenting. We go over cumulative stress reaction, environment, rhythm, and schedule.

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Today I’m here with Blake Boles talking about teens. Blake is a writer, speaker, and adventurer who founded Unschool Adventures and wrote Why Are You Still Sending Your Kids to School?. We go over self-directed learning, video games, peers, college, and experiences.

Get the full show notes here: rachelrainbolt.com/podcast48

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