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Laura and Mandie share their experiences and insights on self-regulation and provide top tips for managing stress and maintaining balance. The conversation focuses on practical strategies for parents to manage stress and maintain emotional regulation. It emphasizes the importance of self-care, setting realistic expectations, and having a plan for moments of overwhelm. Laura and Mandie discuss the impact of guilt and the need to drop it, as well as the value of modelling emotional regulation for children.

Takeaways

• Self-care is essential for managing stress and maintaining balance.
• Recognizing early warning signs and practicing self-regulation are key to managing stress and supporting children.
• Reducing the load and seeking support can help in managing stress and maintaining balance. Self-care and setting realistic expectations are essential for parental well-being.
• Having a plan for moments of overwhelm and dropping the guilt associated with feeling overwhelmed are crucial for emotional regulation and effective parenting.

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This week, Laura and Mandie delve into the concept of behaviour as communication, emphasizing the need to understand the underlying needs and the importance of being trauma-informed. They explore the challenges and insights of reframing behaviour, recognizing and responding to behaviour, and the impact of small behaviours. Their discussion also highlights the significance of uncovering unmet needs and being trauma-informed and trauma-responsive in understanding and addressing the child's behaviour. The conversation delves into the importance of regulating our reactions, understanding the child's needs, setting boundaries and consequences, understanding the child's brain, timing and co-regulation, empathy vs. sympathy, identifying triggers, preparation and reflection, curiosity and connection. It emphasizes the significance of pausing and regulating before reacting, as well as understanding the child's needs to build a stronger connection.

Takeaways

• Behaviour as communication
• Understanding the underlying needs
• Importance of being trauma-informed Pause and regulate before reacting
• Understanding the child's needs

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This week, Mandie and Laura talk about the transition from summer holidays to the routine of school and work. They explore the challenges and emotions associated with this transition, as well as the strategies for recovery and adjustment. They share practical tips for parents to recharge and replenish their energy levels after the summer holidays, with the emphasis on the importance of self-care and emotional well-being for parents as they transition back into the school routine.

Takeaways

• Routine Rebuilding
• Lowering Stimulation and Expectations
• Naming and Normalizing Emotional Dips Replenishing parental resources is essential
• How parents can rebuild their energy levels
• Creating small things to look forward to

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Laura and Mandie discuss the challenges of parenting and therapeutic parenting, focusing on rewards, consequences, and setting boundaries. They explore the impact of dysregulation on children's behaviour and the importance of understanding a child's perception of love and safety. The conversation provides valuable insights for parents and caregivers dealing with similar issues. The conversation covers strategies for dealing with triggered reactions in children, supporting a child struggling with shame, and handling criticism from family and friends regarding therapeutic parenting. The speakers emphasize the importance of empathy, understanding, and education in these situations.

Takeaways

• Therapeutic parenting challenges
• Understanding a child's perception of love and safety Empathy and calm responses help de-escalate triggered reactions.
• Supporting a child with shame requires empathy and reframing negative self-perceptions.
• Criticism from family and friends can be managed through re-evaluation of the support network and education on therapeutic parenting.

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Laura and Mandie discuss the challenges and strategies for preparing children to return to school after the summer holidays. They emphasize the importance of pre-planning, managing expectations, and working with schools to support children's transition back to the school routine.

Takeaways

• Pre-planning for the return to school is crucial
• Expect dysregulation and plan for it

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The episode explores the impact of technology on children, emphasizing the need to understand the underlying needs driving tech use. Laura and Mandie discusses harm minimization, pre-teaching, and the importance of recognizing the positive aspects of technology. The conversation also delves into the role of technology in providing predictability and social connection for children with trauma and neurodiversity. They also delve into the challenges and strategies of managing children's use of technology, emphasizing the importance of safety, boundaries, and parental role modelling. It also highlights the unique needs of traumatized children and the impact of technology on their well-being.

Takeaways

• Harm minimization approach
• Pre-teaching for positive tech use Safety First
• Parental Role Modelling

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Laura and Mandie discuss the challenges and dynamics of blended families, emphasizing the importance of prioritizing safety, understanding behaviour as communication, protecting existing attachments, building one-to-one connections, and embracing progress over perfection. They also touch on the need for patience, kindness, and self-reflection in navigating the complexities of blended family relationships.

Takeaways

• Safety before belonging
• Behavior as communication
• Protecting existing attachments
• Building one-to-one connections
• Progress over perfection

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Laura and Mandie explore effective strategies for managing arguments with children, emphasizing the importance of recognizing triggers, stepping out early, practicing response phrases, understanding the emotion behind behaviour, keeping demands low, regulating emotions, and reconnecting after conflict. These strategies aim to foster a supportive and suitable environment for children and parents, promoting teamwork and emotional regulation.

Takeaways

• Recognize argument triggers early
• Practice response phrases for effective communication

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Laura and Mandie delve into the complex dynamics of sibling relationships in the context of trauma. They explore the impact of trauma on sibling interactions and the challenges faced by parents in managing these dynamics. The discussion highlights the unique experiences and behaviours of siblings, emphasizing the need for a trauma-informed approach to parenting. The conversation delves into the complexities of sibling dynamics, highlighting the challenges of managing individual dynamics, the presentation of children in care, roles and dynamics in sibling groups, grief and loss in sibling relationships, and practical support for parents of siblings.

Takeaways

• Sibling dynamics in trauma are complex
• The impact of trauma on sibling relationships Sibling dynamics are complex
• Grief and loss play a significant role in sibling relationships

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This week, Laura and Mandie cover the challenges of managing anxiety around summer holidays, creating a light touch routine for predictability, balancing sensory overload and low stimuli activities, the importance of connection and not compliance during wobbly moments, and the preparation and organization for low stimuli activities during the summer break. The conversation covers engaging children with biscuit decorating, recognizing boredom as a sign of dysregulation, preempting pressure points, and protecting parental regulation through proactive self-care. The takeaways include the recognition of boredom as a sign of dysregulation and the importance of proactive self-care for parents during the summer holidays.

Takeaways

• Managing anxiety around summer holidays
• Creating a light touch routine for predictability
• Balancing sensory overload and low stimuli activities
• Connection and not compliance during wobbly moments
• Preparation and organization for low stimuli activities Boredom as a sign of dysregulation
• Proactive self-care for parents

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Laura and Mandie welcome everybody back the audience and celebrate a 500 streams! They then delve into a discussion about PACE in therapeutic parenting, explaining its significance and application. The conversation transitions to the role of acceptance in parenting, followed by a detailed exploration of curiosity and empathy in parenting. They cover the topics of empathy and understanding, parenting siblings, advocating for your child at school, and coping with loneliness in parenting. It delves into the importance of empathy, the challenges of parenting siblings, strategies for advocating for a child at school, and coping with feelings of loneliness as a parent. The hosts provide insights and advice on each of these topics, offering support and guidance to listeners.

Takeaways

• Therapeutic parenting involves understanding and applying the concept of PACE (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, and Empathy).
• Acceptance and empathy play a crucial role in building a supportive and nurturing relationship with children. Empathy is essential for understanding and supporting children's emotional needs.
• Parenting siblings presents unique challenges and requires individualized strategies.
• Advocating for your child at school is important and may require persistence and consistency.
• Feeling lonely in parenting is common, but seeking support and building a community can help alleviate this loneliness.

In this episode, Mandie discusses the challenges of holding boundaries in therapeutic parenting and provides five top tips for navigating these challenges. She emphasizes the importance of anchoring boundaries in safety, using predictable and calm tones, holding boundaries while offering support, naming feelings instead of behaviors, and modeling emotional regulation for children. Mandie also shares insights on navigating heatwaves with kids and encourages feedback from listeners.

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Laura and Mandie discuss the challenges of parenting and managing relationships with schools, focusing on personal boundaries, communication, and the impact on parents' well-being. They explore the experiences of parents with neurodiverse and traumatized children in school settings. The conversation delves into the challenges faced by children with trauma in school environments, highlighting the lack of trauma-informed education for teachers and the impact of the education system on these children. It also emphasizes the importance of personal boundaries and collaboration between parents and schools.

Takeaways

• Personal boundaries are crucial in managing the relationship with schools
• Schools need to be trauma-informed and supportive of parents
• The impact of school experiences on parents' well-being can be significant Trauma-informed education for teachers
• The need for collaboration and personal boundaries between parents and schools

The conversation explores the impact of football on children with trauma, providing insights on creating predictability, safe spaces, managing big emotions, using distraction, and repairing triggers. It also emphasizes the importance of a support network and alcohol awareness when watching football with children.

Takeaways

• Predictability
• Safe Space
• Emotional Narration
• Distraction
• Repair and Reconnect

Mandie and Laura catch up for an R&R session, discussing the recent heatwave and its impact on children. They share their top 5 tips for supporting children in a heatwave, emphasizing the importance of fluids, food, shade, a cool house, and sunblock. Additionally, they address the therapeutic approach to catastrophic thinking, offering empathic commentary and narrative to support parents dealing with challenging behaviors and future concerns for their children. The conversation covers the challenges of therapeutic engagement with children, the struggles of parents, and the importance of reaching out for support. It also delves into the difficulties of managing teenagers and their mobile phones, as well as the issue of day trip sabotaging and the need for realistic expectations and self-care.

Takeaways

• Top 5 tips for supporting children in a heatwave
• Therapeutic approach to catastrophic thinking Therapeutic engagement with children requires sowing seeds for the future and reaching out for support.
• Managing challenges with teenagers and mobile phones involves setting boundaries and seeking professional support.
• Dealing with day trip sabotaging requires a realistic approach, self-care, and recovery after outings.

Mandie and Laura discuss the complex challenges of bedtime for children, emphasizing the importance of understanding the child's perspective and addressing environmental and sensory factors. They also explore the impact of trauma on adolescent sleep patterns and highlights the parental challenges in achieving rest during bedtime struggles. The conversation delves into the importance of rest and recuperation for parents, emphasizing the need for empathy and connection during bedtime routines. It explores the significance of maintaining predictability and outside-the-box thinking for bedtime, as well as the value of communication and kindness in parenting.

Takeaways

• Bedtime challenges for children can be complex and multifaceted
• Understanding the child's perspective is crucial for addressing bedtime difficulties Rest and recuperation are essential for parents
• Maintaining connection and empathy during bedtime routines

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Laura and Mandie answer listeners questions around their childrens behaviours and this time is it focused more on teens and tweens.

Using their extensive knowledge and understanding on therapeutic parenting, they answers the questions based on their own lived experience and try and offer support to listeners with some strategies on how to move forwards.

Takeaways

• Adolescent Behavior and Rule-Breaking
• Dealing with Lies and Hurtful Words Recognizing triggers in children and parents
• Disengaging from negativity to regulate emotions

The conversation delves into the complex topic of triggers, exploring their impact on children's behavior, emotions, and physical symptoms. It emphasizes the importance of recognizing, interpreting, and monitoring triggers, as well as the need for reflective recording and understanding of triggers and emotional responses. The conversation delves into the complex topic of triggers and reactions in children, exploring the impact of birth family interactions, struggles with loyalty and identity, and the pressure on children to please everyone. It also highlights behavioral reactions to triggers, the need for nurturing and reassurance, and strategies for understanding and supporting children through their triggers. The role of curiosity, empathy, and self-compassion in recognizing emotional and physiological triggers is emphasized, along with the importance of seeking support and understanding.

Takeaways

• Understanding the complexity of triggers and their impact on children's behavior and emotions.
• The importance of reflective monitoring, recognizing patterns, and understanding the physical and emotional symptoms of triggers. Understanding the complexity of triggers and reactions in children
• The importance of empathy, curiosity, and self-compassion in recognizing and addressing triggers

The conversation covers the challenges of therapeutic parenting during the Easter holidays, navigating birthdays, maintaining calm in challenging situations, and picking battles in parenting. It emphasizes the importance of planning, preparation, and understanding the need beneath the behavior when managing risky behaviors in children. The conversation delves into the impact of trauma on daily life, the importance of picking battles and natural consequences, dealing with other professionals in the network, and the challenges of after-school restraint collapse and transitioning home. It provides insights into understanding the child's history, managing transitions, and using low-demand activities and sensory snacks to help children decompress after school.

Takeaways

• Maintaining calm in challenging situations is essential for therapeutic parenting.
• Planning and preparation are key to managing risky behaviors and triggers in children.
• Understanding the need beneath the behavior is crucial for addressing risky behaviors in children. Understanding the child's history is crucial
• Transitioning from school to home is a significant challenge for children
• Low-demand activities and sensory snacks can help children decompress after school

Mandie and Laura discuss the intersection of neurodivergence and trauma, exploring the similarities, differences, and the impact on therapeutic parenting. They emphasize the importance of recognizing and embracing neurodiversity while considering its role in a child's identity. The conversation sheds light on the challenges and misconceptions surrounding neurodivergence and trauma, advocating for a holistic approach to understanding and supporting children with diverse needs. The conversation delves into the challenges of medication and diagnosis, the school's response to diagnosis, guidance for parents, educating and supporting parents, therapeutic parenting approach, system breakdown and understanding, intermingled trauma and neurodivergence, and engagement and Q&A session. The discussion emphasizes the importance of understanding and empathy in parenting, the impact of shame and trauma, and the need for therapeutic parenting strategies.

Takeaways

• Recognize the similarities and differences between neurodivergence and trauma
• Embrace neurodiversity and consider its role in a child's identity Understanding the impact of shame and trauma on parenting
• Importance of therapeutic parenting strategies in supporting children

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The Roots and Resilience podcast introduces therapeutic parenting from two unique perspectives, offering support and guidance to parents dealing with trauma in children. Laura and Mandie share their personal journeys, challenges, and transformations in therapeutic parenting, emphasizing the need for empathy, understanding, and a shift to trauma-informed parenting. The podcast aims to bring lightness and joy to parenting, while also addressing the good, the bad, and the ugly aspects of the journey. It explores the impact of fostering on identity and confidence, the loneliness and loss of support, and the importance of rebuilding confidence and supporting others through shared experiences. The conversation delves into the challenges of parenting non-birth children and the impact it has on the entire family. It also emphasizes the importance of addressing mental health and well-being when parenting children with trauma. The hosts discuss their collaboration and the myth of independence for traumatized young people, highlighting the emotional and developmental delays that need to be considered.

Takeaways

• Therapeutic parenting from two different perspectives
• Support and guidance for parents dealing with trauma in children Parenting non-birth children is challenging and impacts the entire family.
• It's important to acknowledge and address mental health and well-being when parenting children with trauma.

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In this episode, the Laura and Mandie discuss various aspects of behavior, including the impact of trauma on children's behavior, the role of shame, and the importance of building trust and connection with children. They share personal experiences and provide insights on how to respond to dysregulation, shame, and the challenges of therapeutic parenting. The conversation delves into the impact of shame on behavior, the distinction between shame and guilt, and strategies for supporting children living in constant hypervigilance. It also addresses handling lying and stealing without shaming the child, emphasizing the importance of consistency and understanding the child's history.

Takeaways

• Behavior as a form of communication
• Building trust and connection with children
• Understanding and responding to shame
• The impact of trauma on children's behavior Shame acts as a shield, pushing back therapeutic words and language, reinforcing dysregulation and behaviors.
• Recognizing shame in play allows for a different approach, emphasizing empathy and alternative reactions.
• Consistency and predictability are key in handling lying and stealing, and seeking support is crucial for navigating the complexities of the child's behavior.

The conversation delves into the importance of support networks and relationships in the context of fostering. It explores the concept of ecomaps as a visual representation of support networks and reflects on the challenges faced by foster parents and the need for professional support. The conversation delves into the importance of building and maintaining relationships, both professional and personal, in the context of caregiving and social work. It emphasizes the significance of genuine engagement, emotional connection, empathy, and understanding in supportive relationships. The discussion also highlights the challenges faced by social workers and caregivers, as well as the need for balance between professional responsibilities and personal support.

Takeaways

• Ecomaps as a support network
• Challenges of fostering and the need for professional support Importance of Building Relationships
• Balancing Professional Support and Personal Relationships

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The podcast introduces the concept of therapeutic parenting and sets the tone for using analogies and humor to address trauma-related parenting challenges.

Takeaways

• Therapeutic parenting
• Analogies and humor

Chapters

• 00:00 Introduction to Therapeutic Parenting