Raising Teens with Collett Smart – Détails, épisodes et analyse

Key Takeaways:

• Embrace the busy and often unpredictable nature of the festive season with a mindset of self-compassion and adaptability.

• Family traditions may evolve over time, and it’s okay for things to look different year to year.

• Practicing mindfulness and taking time for personal reflection can be crucial for mental health during busy times.

• Asking for help and setting boundaries can mitigate overwhelming feelings during the holiday season.

• Finding joy amidst change and nostalgia is essential, even when family members are geographically apart.

Notable Quotes:

• "The Christmas period is actually quite different this year for me to what I've experienced before." – Colett Smart

• "Too late for whom? Whose rules are those?" – Colett Smart

• "It's okay that I'm missing my other children... I'm giving myself permission to feel nostalgic." – Colett Smart

Resources:

• Listen to the episode "When it’s Not the Most Wonderful Time of Year" for coping strategies during difficult holidays.

• Explore insights on self-compassion with Dr. Veya Seekis' episode here 

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Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice.

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Check Susanne's website out - https://www.susannegerstmyer.com/

"I help way too busy mums break the cycle of overwhelm 
and enjoy life more" ~ Susanne Gerstmyer

Join Colette Smart as she explores the theme of busyness with guest Susanne Gerstmyer, author of "Breaking Free of Busy." They unpack the mental and emotional aspects of a packed schedule, the impact on family dynamics, and offer practical strategies to prioritise connection over perfection. Susanne shares her journey from burnout to balance and offers insights into making intentional choices to reclaim time and energy. This ep provides valuable reflections for parents navigating the demands of raising teens while fostering meaningful relationships and self-awareness.

Key Takeaways:

• Susanne Gerstmyer emphasises that the root of busyness goes beyond schedules and tasks, stemming from internal beliefs and emotions.

• The different dimensions of busyness include practical, mental, and emotional aspects, which must be managed comprehensively for effective change.

• Recognise the unrealistic societal deadline mindset often associated with end-of-year schedules and the importance of simplifying tasks.

• The emotional climate set by parents heavily influences family dynamics; prioritising connection over perfection is vital.

• Introspection into why we overcommit is crucial; understanding the need for validation or the fear of failure can help manage tendencies towards busyness.

Notable Quotes:

• "Who we are is far more important and impactful than anything we do."

• "I realised that it's okay for other people to be unhappy or to be inconvenienced."

• "When we're too busy, we often miss some of those subtle signals and cues about what's going on with our families."

• "Trying to choose connection over perfection and recognising that it's when we're actually just being real and not trying to make everything perfect."

• "My hope is that families would really be able to be intentional about that and in doing so, enjoy the season and show up as the best that they can be rather than a busy, crazy person."

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Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice.

Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook.

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Key Takeaways:

Safety: Create a safe physical and emotional space for your child to feel comfortable discussing trauma.

Trustworthiness: Build a trusting relationship with a gentle approach, clear communication, and respect for privacy.

Choice: Allow your child to have a say in when and how they discuss their trauma and the steps they take.

Collaboration: Work alongside your child, letting them be part of the process in seeking help and making decisions.

Empowerment: Encourage your child to feel empowered to take steps toward healing and rebuilding their self-esteem.

Notable Quotes:

"Be the rock, not the ocean." – Collett Smart quoting Nigel Latta

"Helping a child feel safe is the essence of a trauma-informed approach." – Collett Smart

"Wariness on the part of your child is their way of keeping safe now and protecting themselves because they have to learn to trust again." – Collett Smart

"The main thing as a parent is really just about support, about love and about kindness and being part of your child's journey towards healing." – Collett Smart

"Your child doesn't need a perfect parent, they just need a parent who is engaged, who they feel safe with, who they feel is there for them." – Collett Smart

Resources:

Blue Knot Foundation: Blue Knot Foundation Fact Sheet on Trauma-Informed Care

Grounding Exercises: From the Living Well website

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Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice.

Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook.

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Get Tickets to Jo's show at her website - Dr Jo Prendergast - Dr Jo Prendergast

Grab her book When Life Sucks: Parenting Your Teen Through Tough Times

Key Takeaways:

• Trauma Awareness: Understand the distinction between Big T trauma (life-threatening events) and Little t trauma (non-life-threatening but emotionally distressing events).

• Trauma Responses: Familiarize with the five F's of trauma responses: Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, and Flop, and recognize how trauma affects teens differently.

• Parental Role: Emphasize the importance of being an askable and tellable parent, maintaining a calm demeanor, and providing consistent support.

• Four Foundations of Support: Focus on building strong relationships, equipping teens with necessary skills, managing unhelpful behaviors, and ensuring parents' self-care.

• Professional Help: Recognize when to seek professional support for trauma symptoms, particularly if they persist beyond a few weeks and significantly impact daily functioning.

Notable Quotes:

1. "Sometimes things that aren't on our bucket list suddenly appear in our lives."

2. "Parenting is messy. I am not a perfect parent telling you how to be like me. I am a real parent who's made mistakes."

3. "Trauma can bring on almost any mental health challenge in terms of something that triggers it."

4. "Am I being the rock or the ocean here? I think I'm being the ocean."

5. "PTSD can be very treatable, but it can become a chronic, very disabling thing if people get stuck with it."

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Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice.

Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook.

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Key Takeaways:

Definition and Importance of Mental Health Carers: Understanding the critical role of a mental health carer and the importance of recognizing yourself as one.

Self-Care for Carers: Emphasizing that self-care isn't selfish but necessary for effective support.

VIP Framework: Applying the VIP framework—Vitality, Intimacy, Prosperity—to ensure holistic well-being.

Support Strategies: Practical advice for offering encouragement and support to loved ones with mental health issues.

Community Contribution: Recognizing the value of contributing to community and group activities for overall well-being.

Notable Quotes:

"A mental health carer is someone who really cares about a young person and wants to make a difference, wants to be supportive." — Graeme Cowan

"Self-care isn't selfish. If we don't care for ourselves, there's no way that we can offer support and patience." — Graeme Cowan

"Vitality, intimacy, prosperity—VIP. Act like a VIP each day to ensure your holistic well-being." — Graeme Cowan

"Carers need to realize that encouragement and support can make a really big difference, of course, as well as having good mental health professionals." — Graeme Cowan

"Having caring relationships around us is so important to be able to share your burden and what you're going through as well." — Graeme Cowan

Resources:

• Website: graemecowan.com.au

• Books: Back from the Brink Too

Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team.

Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice.

Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook.

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Collett is back! Recording is underway, so do take this opportunity to send in your questions, thoughts and requests of all things Raising Teens! We have lots of great topics to share with you so we cannot wait to let you in on it! 

Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice.

Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook.

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Collett sits down with mother and chaplain Raewyn Elsegood, to talk about grief from the perspective of someone who has helped others with their grief, but who has also been on the journey herself.

To find Raewyn's work head to sportschaplaincy.com.au or check out Raewyn's Instagram

Resources for Support or to Learn More
Lifeline - Crisis Support 13 11 14
Kids Helpline - Free phone-counselling for young people 1800 55 1800

'Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question’ or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team.

Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice.

Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook.

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

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When answering tricky questions, sometimes two heads are better than one! So, this season Collett is joined by Michelle Mitchell, to answer some of the questions you've been asking.

Click here if you have a question for Collett or go to the Raising Teens website to find out more about her work or join the discussion on Facebook. To hear more of Michelle and to find out about her work, head to her website.

Resources for Support or to Learn More
Lifeline - Crisis Support 13 11 14
Kids Helpline - Free phone-counselling for young people 1800 55 1800

Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice.

Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook.

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

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Collett sits down with author and speaker Glen Gerreyn to chat about some of the questions that have stumped people for millennia... what is the meaning of life? Why am I here? What is my purpose?

To hear more of Glen and to find out about his work or to hear him speak at your school or business, head to glengerreyn.com

Resources for Support or to Learn More
Lifeline - Crisis Support 13 11 14
Kids Helpline - Free phone-counselling for young people 1800 55 1800

'Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question’ or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team.

Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice.

Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook.

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donate

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When answering tricky questions, sometimes two heads are better than one! So, this season Collett is joined by Michelle Mitchell, to answer some of the questions you've been asking.

Click here if you have a question for Collett or go to the Raising Teens website to find out more about her work or join the discussion on Facebook. To hear more of Michelle and to find out about her work, head to her website.

Resources for Support or to Learn More
Lifeline - Crisis Support 13 11 14
Kids Helpline - Free phone-counselling for young people 1800 55 1800

Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice.

Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook.

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donate

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.