Welcome to the Raising Boys and Girls Podcast with Sissy Goff, David Thomas, and Melissa Trevathan. In each episode of this podcast, we’ll share some of what we’re learning in the work we do with kids and families on a daily basis at Daystar Counseling Ministries. Our goal is to help you care for the kids in your life with a little more understanding, a little more practical help, and a whole lot of hope. So pull up a chair and join us on this journey of raising boys and girls. Connect with us at raisingboysandgirls.com.
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Episode 425: Teaching Kids the Art of the Do-Over With Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and Joy Eggerichs Reed
jeudi 5 novembre 2026 • Durée 37:58
Emerson and Joy, a father and daughter, share how the bedtime stories Emerson told Joy became a children’s book set in the Land of Nuf. In it, a well-meaning Giggly named Beega puts his foot in his mouth, and his friend Dooga helps him make it right. At its heart are four questions to ask before speaking: Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary? Is it clear? There’s also the “Can we get a do-over?” phrase, which makes repair feel lighter and builds resilience instead of shame. They also talk about parents modeling repair and teaching kids to “assume the best until we hear the rest.” Joy shows what that looks like with a story about her daughter’s classmate whose unkindness came from grief.
Resources mentioned:
Beega Gets a Do-Over by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs & Joy Eggerichs Reed
Landofnuf.com
Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
Mother and Son: The Respect Effect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
Speak Your Mind by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
Love and Respect in the Family by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
Get to the Publishing Punchline by Joy Eggerichs Reed
Writing With Bernard the Baguette: A Kid’s Fun and Silly Guide to Discover the Joys of Writing by Joy Eggerichs Reed
Punchline Agency (Joy’s agency)
Capable by Sissy Goff and David Thomas
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Episode 424: Growing Problem Solving Skills in Capable Kids with David and Sissy
mardi 3 novembre 2026 • Durée 37:51
Sissy and David continue the Capable series with problem-solving, opening with a few all-too-familiar parenting “word problems” and a reminder that efficiency isn’t always the goal; capability is. They walk through five ideas from the chapter: create room for critical thinking, let kids make low-stakes decisions, ask more and instruct less, hold family meetings, and review progress. To figure out how much to help, they suggest asking “what is the least amount of help that helps this child move forward?” Their challenge for the week is to pick one recurring family problem and solve it together, and before you solve anything, ask one more question.
Resources mentioned
Capable by Sissy Goff and David Thomas
Research on executive function and parenting (cognitive stimulation, language that helps kids think, scaffolding and autonomy support), plus a study of preschoolers linking meaningful choices to stronger executive functioning
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Episode 423: Where Fear and Bravery Meet in Parenting with Jess Connolly
jeudi 29 octobre 2026 • Durée 29:13
After years of coaching thousands of women, Jess noticed that everyone she knows is scared, so she set out to understand fear biblically, physiologically, and practically. Her biggest takeaway is that the most scared person in the room can also be the bravest. She says naming a fear “is 90%,” and that kids need room to name their fears and also need to see their parents name their own. She tells parents to let go of the shame of over-rescuing and to remember they don’t want to save their kids from the story God has for them. She also shares a fresh reading of Eve adding “we can’t even touch it” to God’s command, and uses it to warn parents against making God sound tougher than He is. Her one simple practice is to “greet courage out loud”: when a child is shaking before a test or putting on a backpack while terrified, say back to them, “Look at you, you are so brave.”
Resources mentioned:
You Can’t Be Brave Until You’re Scared: A Call for Courageous Women to Face Fear, Fight Anxiety, and Awaken Holy Awe by Jess Connolly
Tired of Being Tired and What Comes Next by Jess Connolly
The Jess Connolly Podcast
Find Jess: @jessaconnolly on social and jessconnolly.com.
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Episode 422: Managing Emotions in Capable Kids with David and Sissy
mardi 27 octobre 2026 • Durée 29:03
The episode moves the Capable series from strengths to skills, which are things kids have to be taught and practice, like tying their shoes. Managing emotions comes first. Sissy and David ask parents to notice their own reflex when a child is upset. Are they a fixer, a matcher, a minimizer, or a regulator? They point to research on co-regulation showing that kids borrow an adult’s steadiness before they can calm themselves. From there they walk through the steps: name the feeling (“name it to tame it”), validate it without approving the behavior, and skip the lecture while a child’s “downstairs brain” is in charge. A code word chosen ahead of time and a family list of 20 calming strategies both help. One memorable example is a fifth grader who prayed through the alphabet to fall asleep. The episode ends with a “try this at home” challenge for parents to notice their own patterns and to ask their kids, “What helps your feelings not feel quite so big?”
Resources mentioned:
Strong and Smart by David Thomas
I Am Capable by David Thomas and Sissy Goff
The Daystar Dog series by David Thomas and Sissy Goff
Feelings Chart
Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson’s “upstairs and downstairs brain” model
A 2024 systematic review on parent–child co-regulation
A meta-analysis of 53 studies linking parents’ emotion regulation to their children’s
A brain imaging study on affect labeling (naming an emotion lowered activity in the amygdala)
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Episode 421: Writing Your Child's Story While Writing Your Own with Craig Melvin
jeudi 22 octobre 2026 • Durée 40:38
Sissy and David sit down in New York with Craig Melvin to talk about his book Pops, a love letter to his father, who is now in recovery after 15 years of addiction. Craig shares how growing up with an absent dad made him and his wife Lindsay put being present first, even though they sometimes overcorrect. His reminder to his family is “if everything is special, nothing is special.” He talks about helping his kids find their people, and about how years of covering tragedy taught him that the hills and valleys are what build resilience. He hopes his kids will someday remember the awkward bedtime talks and beach walks more than the big VIP moments.
Resources mentioned:
Pops: Learning to Be a Son and a Father by Craig Melvin
I’m Proud of You by Craig Melvin
Glass Half Full with Craig Melvin
Dads Got This! Craig Melvin’s show
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Episode 420: Growing Gratitude in Capable Kids with David and Sissy
mardi 20 octobre 2026 • Durée 31:06
Gratitude can sound like the soft strength in the capability series. Sissy and David argue it’s an essential one, because it teaches kids to hold two realities at once instead of pretending the hard thing isn’t there. They warn against “you should be grateful” responses that shut down emotions and can leave kids feeling shame. Instead, they encourage parents to let feelings have room before helping kids “widen the lens.” Sissy shares how her family’s “wow” practice, borrowed from Kathryn Price’s “delight” finger, now has four-year-old Whit stopping to notice joy at Disney. The hosts offer concrete ideas: name gratitude out loud, ask fresh questions, use “and” instead of “but,” make a gratitude album, write a gratitude letter, and do a gratitude scavenger hunt. They close with a challenge for this week: ask your family “What was hard today, and what was good today?” Then just listen.
Resources mentioned:
Episode 359: A Roadmap to Technology (and Fun) for Families with Catherine Price
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Episode 419: Building Resilience, Perspective, and Hope Amidst Hard News with Vicky Nguyen
jeudi 15 octobre 2026 • Durée 32:58
As part of the Strengths, Skills, and Strategies podcast season, NBC's Vicky Nguyen shares her family's escape from Vietnam by boat and how growing up as the perpetual "new kid" built her grit. Now she and her husband "manufacture hardship" for their three daughters, like having their middle daughter tell her Taekwondo master herself that she was quitting, because "I can't pedal the bike for you and expect you to learn how to ride it." She also explains why she praises effort over achievement and how parents can help kids face scary news: ask questions first, don't over-explain, and model calm.
Resources mentioned:
Boat Baby by Vicky Nguyen
The AI documentary Vicky recommends, called "How I Became an Apocaloptimist"
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Episode 418: Growing Perseverance in Capable Kids with David and Sissy
mardi 13 octobre 2026 • Durée 29:16
In this episode, Sissy and David explore how kids build perseverance by sticking with hard things, and how parents can stay close without stepping in to rescue them. David tells the story of a freshman cross-country runner who finished her first meet long after everyone else, cheered in by teammates who ran back onto the course for her. They share practical ideas: let kids be beginners, look for small everyday chances to keep going, and ask whether it's your child or you who needs relief. They close with Romans 5 and a challenge to tell your kids one of your own unpolished perseverance stories this week.
Resources mentioned:
Capable by Sissy Goff and David Thomas
Episode 187: Parenting and Grandparenting with Love and Laughter with Anne Lamott
Research on Person versus process praise and criticism: implications for contingent self-worth and coping by Carol Dweck
Research on How Adults' Actions, Outcomes, and Testimony Affect Preschoolers' Persistence
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Episode 417: Helping Families with Disabilities Experience Their Capability with Amy Juila Becker
jeudi 8 octobre 2026 • Durée 40:52
Amy Julia Becker explains why measuring kids against developmental milestones makes children with disabilities look incapable, and why asking "what's the next small step toward growth?" shows how capable they really are. She describes letting love "wrap around" fear and helping kids feel wanted, valued, and needed. She also shares how person-centered goal-setting turned 12-year-old Penny's dream of living with friends in Chicago into "Mondays, Penny does her own laundry." Her advice for overwhelmed parents is to pick one overwhelming thing, ask "who could help me?", and take one small step toward that person.
Resources mentioned:
Capable by Sissy Goff and David Thomas
Amy Julia Becker's books: To Be Made Well, White Picket Fences, Small Talk, A Good and Perfect Gift
Amy Julia's podcasts: Take the Next Step with Amy Julia Becker and Reimagining the Good Life
Take the Next Step: When Grief Has No Words: Helping Kids With Disabilities Process Loss • Sissy Goff, LPC-MHSP
Raising Boys and Girls Episode 226: Reimagining Family Life with Disability with Amy Julia Becker
Hope Heals
Disability Ministry Network
Alliance for Disability Justice and Ethics in Reproductive Genetics
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Episode 416: Growing Flexibility in Capable Kids with David and Sissy
mardi 6 octobre 2026 • Durée 26:44
Sissy and David open with a "How Flexible Are You Really?" quiz and explain that flexibility is what happens after disappointment. They say they've never seen kids, or parents, struggle with it this much, and they connect rigidity to anxiety's need for certainty and to the "control monster." They share four ways to build flexibility: name it, make it fun with low-stakes practice like a flexibility jar or a family points challenge, reward the practice, and model it yourself. They close with the idea that being capable means trusting yourself to find plan B.
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