Perfectionism Rewired – Détails, épisodes et analyse

What if feeling your feelings didn’t mean falling apart — but actually gave you more control, not less? If white knuckling or pushing through is the best way you know how to feel your feelings. You’re not alone.Discover the hidden mistake keeping perfectionists stuck feeling on edge, why you can never outthink your feelings and the right way to feel your feelings.

Want to bring rewiring into your reality? Where being confident, certain and playful is just how you roll? Perfectionist Solutions 1-1 coaching is your next step.

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Other helpful podcast episodes in this series on How Your Brain Actually Works:

1. Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 248
2. Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 249
3. Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 250
4. Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 251
5. Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 252
6. Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 253

00:00-Your thoughts create your feelings LIE #1
01:53-Can't Feel Your Feelings Without This
04:14-Knowing how your brain actually works
05:24-"What is Wrong With Me?" Explained
06:37-Feelings Are Psychological LIE #2
07:16-Feelings are Emotions LIE #3
08:56-Where Feelings Actually Come From
10:08-How Depersonalizing Feelings = Freedom
12:46-Turning Mom Meltdown Moments Around (Manon's Story)
14:35-How To Control Your Feelings
16:01-Rational Thinking + Decisions LIE #4
17:32-Striving For Excellence Without Pushing Through
18:29-What Your Person Account Has To Do With Feelings
19:41-How To Identify Your Feelings Fast
21:12-How To Feel Your Feelings Visual Tool
22:33-Why Meditation + Deep Breaths Don’t Always Work
23:58-Thoughts Drive Your Feelings LIES #5
25:57-Perspectacles How Feelings Shape Your Perceptions
28:37-Turning Your Mood into Useful Fuel
30:07-Where Sense Data Fits Into The Equation

Q: Why does “changing my thoughts” never changes my feelings—especially as a perfectionist?
A: This episode breaks down the myth that thoughts drive feelings (hint: it’s the other way around!). Discover why “thought work” is a torture device for perfectionidtic people and how the “CTFAR Model” does not actually work for any human with a brain

Q: What’s really going on when I’m overwhelmed by emotions even if everything looks fine on the outside?
A: You’ll learn the neuroscientific difference between feelings and emotions, plus why this distinction puts an to the cycle of overthinking feelings and asking “what is wrong with me”

Q: What's the biggest misconception high-achievers have about feelings?
A: Most of us have a totally backward understanding of where feelings come from (and it’s not just psychological!). Courtney reveals the real, science-backed answer.

Q: How can I feel my feelings without getting “lost” in them or falling apart?
A: Tune in for a client success story and discover a practical tool—the “mood meter”—to help you regain control and function, even on tough days.

Q: Does thinking rationally mean I can escape feelings?
A: Logic and rationality can’t bypass feelings. Find out why every decision (yes, even the “rational” ones!) are shaped by your mood — and how to use this...

You’re doing everything right. You’re ambitious, successful + driven. So why is it your energy is nonexistent, patience is razor-thin + your mind can't stop overthinking? If your days are starting with dread and ending in exhaustion — this episode is your wake-up call. 

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or accessing your abilities in a way burnt out you could never compete with, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire

• How pushing through dewires your brain into survival mode
• What caffeine, people pleasing + Top Ramen have in common
• 16 surprising signs your brain is starving
• Why ruminating and indecisiveness are symptoms—not problems to solve
• How a healthy Person Account™ allows you to access your abilities in a way burnt out you could never compete with

• Recharge your Person Account Book your Perfect Start 1:1 session now
• Magic Skill for Control of Emotions [Neuroscience Series #1] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 248
• How Perfectionist Brain *Actually* Works [Neuroscience Series #2] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 249
• Can't Stop Ruminating? Here's Why [Neuroscience Series #3] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 250
• Neuroplasticity  [Neuroscience Series #4] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 251
• #1 Thing Stops Perfectionists From Growth [Neuroscience Series #5] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 252

02:09-Why Perfectionists Need More Fuel for Our Brains
04:10-MYTH: You Have to Stop Being a Perfectionist
06:24-Clues You’re on the Path to Chronic Stress
09:32-Burn Out is Not the Price of Ambition
10:25-Case Study: How Stacey found Clarity, Energy, Peace
12:43-I Ruminate Over Decisions bc I Need to Make the Right Decision
14:05-Why You’re Choosing Instant Relief (and Paying Later)
16:11-A Healthy Person Account™ = Liberation
17:32-How to Always Know How Your Person Account™ is Doing

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Tired of getting tangled in your own words? Overcomplicating it? Asking "Does that make sense?" at the end of every sentence? Discover why you can't stop talking (even though you REALLY want to), the science behind overexplaining for perfectionists, how overexplaining is harmful to your health mentally, emotionally and physically, and why its a coping skill you want to retire ASAP.

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

00:00-Understanding the Science Behind Overexplaining
02:24-Why Perfectionists Are More Likely To Overexplain
05:18-Control Tactics and Overexplaining
08:46-Self Worth vs. Self Esteem
12:32-The Emotional Charge Behind Overexplaining
14:02-Toll of Overexplaining on Mental + Physical Health
16:18-How Interoception Kills The Need To Overexplain
20:39-TRUTH BOOTH What Overexplaining Really Is
22:33-Steps to Resilience and Reducing Overexplaining

• Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching
• Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239
• Care-ing vs Carrying Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202
• Interoception + Self-Regulation Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 194
• Inner Critic Be-Gone Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 212
• Emotional Overexplaining Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 173
• Proving Yourself At Work Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 232

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Ventura-Bort, C., Wendt, J., & Mathias Weymar. (2021). The Role of Interoceptive Sensibility and Emotional Conceptualization for the Experience of Emotions. Frontiers in Psychology, 12. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.712418

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Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

As perfectionists, we're  expected to have all the answers, to be strong, in control and the one everyone we love can depend on. But what about when we have out own doubts, fears or frustrations? We often resort to wearing a mask pretending to have it all figured out to meet others' expectations. Explore the impact of pretending to have it all together and the POWER waiting for you when you unmask your true, secure, whole, perfect self. 

If you're ready to equip yourself with the best tools possible for rewiring your perfectionistic habits, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Discover:

00:00:00-Introduction

00:03:18-Unspoken Pressures and Expectations on Perfectionists 

00:04:19-Sedation and Avoidance of Connection 

00:05:44-Desire for More and Judgment of Classic Perfectionists

00:06:14-Consequences of Dismissing Signs of Perfectionism

00:07:26-Importance of Having Perfectionistic Support

00:08:57-Decisions reflection of fear vs your true, secure, whole, perfect self

00:09:33-Connection as a Choice (Mamba Mentality)

00:10:34-High Cost of Not Getting Perfectionistic Support

00:11:04-Difference Between Challenge and Struggle for Parisian Perfectionists

00:12:34-Value of Proper Coping Mechanisms for Perfectionists

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Ever decided to start working out everyday, do it for a week or two and then when life gets super busy, you're back to sloth status?  Or expected yourself to be relaxed just as soon as you finish power planning your week? Those are signs that your perfectionism is setting you up to fail.

Consider this your WARNING: you'll be tempted by productivity culture to think perfectionism hacks like "how to stop being a perfectionist" and "overcoming perfectionism" work. That's bullshit. We eventually run out of steam fighting against ourselves and need a "break" (and that break = going back to old perfectionistic habits).

I show Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator clients what ACTUALLY optimizes perfectionism...Tiny & Mighty Moves. Today I'm teaching you ALL about it on the Perfectionism Rewired podcast. Listen now!

If you're ready to  reset and take control of the end of your year, I highly recommend joining my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

You'll hit the ground running with  concierge text support and 100% customized to you 1-1 coaching sessions, all designed to fast track your own real, resilient, relevant RESULTS.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

If there’s 1 thing perfectionists love doing, it’s our best! It’s an outdated way to avoid failure but also the surest way to stay stuck. Giving your best doesn’t lead to success! Discover BETTER approach than doing your best and why Perfectionists who ditch doing their best accelerate faster. 

In This Episode You’ll Learn:

• How to tell whether you’re using doing your best as an excuse
• Why doing your best is NOT a smart strategy
• What to do if you’re always doing your best and never feel like you're falling short
• Why we’ve got the doing your best equation backwards. 

If you're ready to BE your best, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: concierge text support and 100% customized to you 1-1 coaching sessions, you'll have me supporting you every step of the way, so it's guaranteed you'll succeed. 

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Do other people push your buttons? Then you spin out in frustration? Learn how most perfectionists serve up their buttons on a silver platter, how to revoke other people's access to pushing yours and the Power Buttons you need to be in complete control. 

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• Why Perfectionists are so prone to having their buttons pushed
• How buttons become exposed
• Practical strategies for resilience to button-pushers
• Where to find your Proud Of Myself button
• What trying to overcome your perfectionism results in

If you're ready to play with your perfectionism and win, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, get leverage over your whole life and relax sans guilt, with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: concierge text support and 100% customized to you 1-1 coaching sessions, you'll have me supporting you every step of the way, so it's guaranteed you'll succeed. 

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Feel like if you're winning in your career you're failing in your relationships? The perfectionist's dilemma: success in one area comes at the cost of another. Don't settle for less when you can have it all. Listen to learn how.

If you enjoy this podcast, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, play with pressure and relax sans guilt, with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: concierge text support and 100% customized to you 1-1 coaching sessions, you'll have me supporting you every step of the way, so it's guaranteed you'll succeed. 

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Feel like you're floundering undercurrent of stress and pressure? That's a sign pressure is choosing you, instead of YOU choosing pressure. Explore the benefits of playing with pressure, turning it into a catalyst for achievement and how you can gauge pressure across 4 key pillars of your life: Person (Body), Peace (Spirituality), Presence (Relationships) & Prosperity (Career + Growth). 

If you want to control your pressure, leverage it for peak performance and achieve with ease, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, play with pressure and relax sans guilt, with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: concierge text support and 100% customized to you 1-1 coaching sessions, you'll have me supporting you every step of the way, so it's guaranteed you'll succeed. 

Apply to The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Feeling drained all the time? You might have hidden energy leaks. There are 4 areas of energy: physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. Each one build on top of each other. Find out where you're leaking energy and how to prosperously invest your energy for the highest returns. 

If you want to be immune to burnout,  get more done in less time and have oodles of sustainable yummy energy, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, create time for what YOU WANT to do and relax sans guilt, with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: 100% customized to you and dedicated to your growth. You have me supporting & guiding you every step of the way, so it's guaranteed you will create the exact results that you want.

Apply to The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.