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I thought I would feel better once things got better with my children. Once the crisis passed, their choices became steadier, and life felt more hopeful, I believed I would finally be able to exhale.

But even when things did grow quieter, the peace I had been waiting for didn’t come. Instead, I found myself still scanning, bracing, and wondering what might happen next.

In this episode, I explore the uncomfortable realization that I wasn’t simply hoping for my children’s stability. I had begun depending on it to create stability inside of me. I reflect on the difference between caring deeply and becoming internally tied to every shift in our children’s lives, and why a nervous system shaped by uncertainty may struggle to rest even when there is no immediate crisis.

I’m beginning to ask a different question: What would it look like for me to be okay, even while their lives are still unfolding?

This is an honest conversation about learning to notice what is happening inside of us, sit with what remains unresolved, and experience peace before everything gets figured out.

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What does it look like to stay deeply connected to your teen or adult child while also learning to let go of the responsibility to manage their life?

In this episode of Parenting Through the Hard, I sit down with author, motherhood coach, and spiritual director Esther Goetz to talk about one of the hardest shifts parents face as their children grow up.

Together, we explore the difference between being responsible to our children and feeling responsible for them, why so many parents slip into overfunctioning, and how stepping back can actually strengthen the relationship we have with our kids.

If you’ve ever found yourself fixing, rescuing, or carrying the weight of your child’s choices, this conversation will help you rethink what healthy love and boundaries can look like in this stage of parenting.

Because sometimes the most mature form of love is learning how to stay connected while letting go.

You can connect with Esther Goetz and learn more about her work with moms of teens and adult children at estherjoygoetz.com/momsofbigs

In this episode, I name something that’s been quietly surfacing beneath my emotions lately. The pressure to disappear in order to be loving, faithful, or helpful.

This conversation isn’t about addiction, recovery, or outcomes. It’s about fatigue, resentment, and what can happen when caring deeply turns into self abandonment, especially in long seasons of responsibility.

I reflect on the fear of getting it right, the exhaustion no one prepares you for, and a midlife reorientation that’s reshaping how I carry love, including learning to speak honestly instead of shutting down.

This episode also marks the close of Season Three of Parenting Through the Hard.

As I take a short break between seasons, I’m offering a six-week guided group experience for parents. It’s a small, supportive space to slow down, reflect, journal, and share with others who understand. It’s not therapy. It’s about not carrying everything alone.

If you’ve ever loved deeply and wondered where you went in the process, this episode is for you.

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Your support keeps this podcast running — and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

What do you do when the relationship with your teen or adult child feels strained, when there is tension, distance, or an ache you cannot quite explain?

In this episode of Parenting Through the Hard, I share a deeply personal reflection on what happens when connection feels stretched thin. I talk about how attachment patterns, generational wiring, anxiety, over involvement, and withdrawal can quietly shape the way we respond to our kids, especially when their choices feel hard or scary.

If you have ever felt disconnected from your child, struggled between control and compassion, or wondered how to stay present without losing your peace, this conversation is for you. This is not about fixing our kids. It is about doing our own inner work so we can rebuild connection with humility, steadiness, and hope.

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Your support keeps this podcast running — and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

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Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

Have you ever found yourself thinking, “I wonder if they’ll ever understand what this was like for me?”

In this episode, I talk about a quiet ache many parents of adult children carry.. the longing to be acknowledged for what it cost to love them through addiction, rebellion, mental health struggles, or long seasons of distance.

Why does it hurt when your child doesn’t say thank you? Why does appreciation feel so important? And is there a way to let go of needing that acknowledgment without hardening our hearts?

I explore identity, boundaries, generational love, and what it means to believe you mattered even if your child never fully articulates it.

If you’re parenting teens or adult children and sometimes feel unseen in your story, this conversation is for you.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running — and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

What happens when your identity has been shaped by being the steady one — and recovery changes your role?

In this episode, I talk about codependency in parenting, identity detox, and the grief and anxiety that surface when your child begins to stabilize. We explore how over-functioning can hide inside love — and how stepping back creates space for healthier connection.

If you’ve ever wondered who you are without crisis to manage, this conversation is for you.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running — and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

If you’re the parent of a teen or adult child who is struggling, this episode is for you.

I’m talking about what it's like to stay calm when your child’s life feels unstable. How to stop reacting, regulate your emotions, and let go without giving up.

When the setback happens or the hard conversation catches you off guard, it’s easy to match their anxiety. I share what I’m learning about emotional regulation, steady hope, and how to love without trying to control the outcome.

You can’t control the tide. But you can choose how you stand on the shore.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running — and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

In this Hope in the Hard episode, I slow down with a story many of us know, the one often called the prodigal son, and I reflect on it through a different lens. Instead of focusing on the child who wandered, I sit with the parent who stayed.

As a mom navigating the challenges of parenting teens and adult children, including seasons of addiction, distance, and unanswered questions, I explore the long, quiet stretch of waiting that lives between departure and return. I wonder about the unseen work God may be doing in our hearts during that time, the grief, the surrender, and the daily choice to love without controlling.

This episode is for parents walking through hard seasons with their children and for anyone learning how to remain tender without chasing outcomes.

Together, we consider how God may be working on both sides of the road, shaping not only the child who struggles, but the parent who waits. It's a gentle, reflective Hope in the Hard conversation about trust, timing, and how we are learning to love faithfully in the middle.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running — and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

In this episode, I share honestly about the early days when recovery enters the conversation, a season that feels both hopeful and fragile at the same time. I talk about the complicated emotions parents carry when the crisis quiets, the grief that can surface alongside relief, and what it means to stay connected to your child without guarantees.

I reflect on why I think it might be hard for families to speak openly about addiction, the fear many children carry of disappointing the people they love, and the quiet tension parents live with as they try to hold hope without hardening.

This conversation is not about quick fixes or tidy endings. It is about staying present, rooted in love and relationship, when the road ahead still feels long. If you are a parent navigating recovery, change, or uncertainty and trying to hold hope while honoring your own limits, this episode is for you.

In this episode, I reflect on how fear, isolation, and discouragement can quietly shape the way we show up as parents during hard seasons.

I share what I’m learning about staying connected, turning toward the light, and noticing small signs of movement and hope, even when nothing seems to be changing yet.

In this episode, I share honestly about the cycle of hope and disappointment that often comes with loving a child through addiction, and the hard, quiet work of learning how to stay when the story isn’t resolved yet.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running — and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

This Hope in the Hard continues last week’s conversation about loving a child through addiction. I’m sharing honestly from the middle of the uncertainty that comes after trying to let go and the quiet work of loving without controlling the outcome.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running — and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

Lately, I’ve been paying attention to the moments when conversations with my big kids feel tense, guarded, or harder than they need to be, and what might be underneath that.

In this Hope in the Hard reflection, I share a personal story about a small but meaningful shift I’m practicing as a parent, and why it’s changing the way I think about connection, boundaries, and growth.

This episode is a gentle pause. An invitation to notice what happens when we stop managing the outcome and start listening more closely.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running — and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

In this episode, I reflect on starting a new year feeling tired, stuck, and unsure how to move forward as a parent. I share how my practice of choosing a word for the year helped me reframe what it means to begin again—without pressure, perfection, or forcing progress.

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

As this year comes to a close, I sat down to record what I thought would be a simple 7-minute Hope in the Hard reflection… but once I began, I realized this message needed more space. So today’s episode is a little longer — a gentle, unhurried conversation about looking back, letting go, and noticing the new thing God may already be growing beneath the surface.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running — and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

In this special Christmas Hope in the Hard reflection, I’m sharing some tender thoughts about finding peace in the quieter moments of the season — the ones that don’t always feel “merry and bright.”

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running — and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

The holidays have always felt magical. But over time, and through hard seasons, they often felt more like survival. In this episode, I share honestly about what it’s looked like to navigate fractured family dynamics, quiet grief, and the slow work of healing. Even when it’s messy, love still matters. This episode explores how we as parents can hold onto hope and faith during the holidays, even in seasons marked by heartache, separation, or uncertainty.

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running — and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

What do you do when the life you dreamed for your child collides with the choices they’ve made? When the future you pictured seems to slip out of reach, it can leave you aching with a grief no one prepares parents for.

In this episode, I share the raw story of discovering my teen’s hidden struggles, the shock and heartbreak that followed, and the truth I’ve learned walking beside countless moms facing their own detours. Together, we’ll talk about why grief is not failure but love in its rawest form, why we so often resist it, and the surprising strength that begins to grow once we’ve given grief the space it deserves.

If you’ve ever whispered, “I don’t know how to do this,” this conversation is for you.

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running — and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

In this Hope in the Hard reflection, I talk about the seasons when love itself feels heavy, when caring deeply for our teens or grown children begins to feel more like carrying than connecting. As I reflect on my own journey, I’ve noticed how easy it is to hold on to things that were never ours to carry, and how setting that weight down can make room for grace, trust, and gentler love. This episode is an invitation to breathe, to surrender the heaviness, and to remember that love was never meant to crush us — it was meant to connect us.

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running — and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

Do you ever feel that automatic pull to fix things for your teen or adult child, especially when their struggle triggers something tender or fearful in you? I feel that tug in my parenting all the time. 

In this episode, I’m sharing some of what I’m learning about the hidden cost of rescuing, why the urge feels so strong, and a small practice that’s helping me (little by little) stay close without taking over.

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running — and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

Join me for seven peaceful minutes to slow down, breathe, and rediscover hope, grace, and meaning in the middle of real life.

If you’ve ever ended the day completely drained and wondered why rest still feels out of reach, this one’s for you. In this short Hope in the Hard segment, I’m sharing some honest thoughts about what real rest looks like, not the kind that comes from scrolling or zoning out, but the kind that fills us back up from the inside out. Consider this your gentle challenge to find a few moments of true rest this week, the kind that lets your soul breathe again.

You’re doing your best — but still not sure if it’s enough?

Friend, same! In this episode, we’ll talk about how to quiet the noise, reconnect with your inner wisdom, and parent from a place of love instead of fear.

You’ll walk away with a simple practice to help you check in with yourself and respond with clarity — even when emotions run high.

🛠️ Includes: The “3-Minute Heart Check” tool + journal prompts

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running — and goes directly toward production costs and continuing this mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

In this Hope in the Hard reflection, I talk about finding beauty in the ordinary moments of everyday life — especially for parents walking through hard seasons with their teens or grown children. It’s a gentle reminder that healing often happens in quiet, simple ways, not dramatic ones. Join me for seven peaceful minutes to slow down, breathe, and rediscover hope, grace, and meaning in the middle of real life.

When our kids make choices that scare or disappoint us, it’s tempting to tighten our grip. But control and love can’t coexist. In this episode, I explore the raw struggle of letting go..why it feels so painful, how fear keeps us stuck, and what it looks like to release control without abandoning our children or losing ourselves.

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard by clicking here.

Your support keeps this podcast running—and all donations go directly toward production costs and helping to continue this mission.

For more resources, encouragement, and ways to walk this journey together, visit parentingthroughthehard.com. You’ll find tools, workshops, and hope-filled conversations to remind you that you’re not alone.

This week, I’m introducing something new—short Hope in the Hard reflections in between our regular podcast episodes. These are simple, honest moments to pause and reconnect. In this first one, I talk about prayer when you have no words, and how silence can still be sacred.

In the middle of parenting teens and young adults, it's so easy to lose myself in the storm—caught between my children’s needs, my expectations, and the constant fear of what might go wrong. In this episode, I invite you into a quiet, honest conversation about what happens when we lose our inner voice—and how we can return to it through love, faith, and connection.

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please remember this podcast is not a replacement for professional counseling or medical guidance.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard by clicking here.

Your support keeps this podcast running—and all donations go directly toward production costs and helping to continue this mission. 

After a year and a half away from the mic, I’m stepping back into this space with a story I never expected to tell. Two days after releasing my last episode, my mom—who loved me with steady, unconditional love..passed away.

Grief and parenting through hard seasons have reshaped me in ways I couldn’t have imagined. They’ve taught me that control was never the answer, faith had to become part of the story, and showing up authentically means naming the mess as much as the beauty.

This relaunch episode is dedicated to my mom, and it marks a new chapter for Parenting Through the Hard, one rooted in honesty, hope, and grace.

Disclaimer: The thoughts shared here come from my own parenting and faith journey. Please note that this podcast is not a substitute for professional counseling or medical advice.

If you’d like to partner with us and support the podcast, consider sponsoring an upcoming episode by making a donation of any size to Parenting Through the Hard [by clicking here].

Your support keeps this podcast running and goes directly toward production costs, allowing us to continue our mission.

For more resources and hope-filled tools, visit parentingthroughthehard.com

As I navigate through a deeply personal and challenging time, today's episode signifies a monumental shift in my life, one that I know will leave a lasting impact. In the midst of this, I've made the decision to take a break from recording to focus on being present with my family. Thank you for your patience and understanding.

Have you ever found yourself trying to do all the right things with your child, pouring all your love and so, so much energy into parenting, only to start to question if you are even on the right path? Sometimes, even our best intentions can steer us off course.

In this episode, we cover:

• An audiobook revelation that challenged my perspective on parenting.
• The comparison trap we often fall into as parents.
• Reevaluation of societal norms
• Parental pressure and guilt
• Three things to think about if you are struggling with your teen

Click here if you are interested in receiving information about the opportunity to join an online support group with other moms who "get it".

👉If the link doesn't work (technology 🙄), you can also find my email listed below.

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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard," originally titled Unyielding, is presented by Pathways to Hope Network—a parent-led non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

Explore Additional Support:

• SCHEDULE a time to meet with me by clicking here
• EXPLORE our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for once-a-week encouragement💙)
• ACCESS local and national resources: Pathways Resources
• READ more on our blog: Pathways Blog
• FIND answers to common questions: Pathways FAQ

Connect with Us:

• JOIN our community on Facebook: Through the Hard Facebook
• For questions, reach out via email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Are you exhausted, barely keeping your head above water, wondering if the next wave of fear will be the wave that finally takes you out? Well, friend, reframing is one powerful way you can start to protect your peace. 

In this episode, we cover:

• How discomfort is a part of every decision we make as parents.
• How trying a new parenting approach involves confronting pain and discomfort, questioning ourselves, and pushing through doubt.
• How each fear we experience presents an opportunity to overcome challenges, build resilience, and deepen self-understanding.
• Our tendency to join the "crazy train" of fear-driven thoughts and actions.
• All the different roles we play as a parent and the ONE we don't.
• A fear mapping process I use to help me reframe my perspective and navigate challenges when I'm stuck in fear.

Click here to have my Fear Mapping PDF sent to your email inbox.
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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard," originally titled Unyielding, is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—a parent-led non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

Explore Additional Support:

• SCHEDULE a time to meet with me by clicking here
• DELVE into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
• ACCESS local and national resources: Pathways Resources
• READ more on our blog: Pathways Blog
• FIND answers to common questions: Pathways FAQ

Connect with Us:

• JOIN our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
• STAY connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram
• For questions, reach out via email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

In today's episode, we are going to take a look at some common fear triggers. How many of them resonate with you? We'll discuss the vicious cycle of fear, and what I've learned about the role of mirror neurons in my relationship with my teen. I'll also share some ways that I've been trying to break the cycle of fear in my own life & improve communication with my teens and adult children.
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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard," originally titled Unyielding, is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—a parent-led non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

Explore Additional Support:

• SCHEDULE a time to meet with me by clicking here
• DELVE into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
• ACCESS local and national resources: Pathways Resources
• READ insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
• FIND answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ

Connect with Us:

• JOIN our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
• STAY connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram
• For personalized support, reach out via email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

As we step into a new year, there's NO BETTER TIME to kickstart healthy habits and cultivate self-compassion. 

In this special rerun of Episode 32, we revisit an insightful discussion with Megan Dahlman, a Certified Trainer, Nutrition Coach, and mom of boys. Megan shares invaluable insights for moms navigating challenging seasons of chaos and uncertainty, emphasizing the crucial first steps on their self-compassion journey.

Key Takeaways:

1. Initiating Self-Care: Megan guides us through the initial steps moms can take to prioritize self-care amid chaotic circumstances.
2. Unexpected Benefits: Discover the unforeseen positive outcomes that emerge when you invest energy in your healing journey.
3. The Mind-Body Connection: Explore the significant role your body plays in influencing your mental health and overall well-being.

Links from the Original Episode:

• YouTube channel: VigeoFit YouTube
• Instagram: Megan Dahlman's Instagram
• FREE Jumpstart Tips: VigeoFit Jumpstart Tips
• Jumpstart 30 Course: VigeoFit Jumpstart Course

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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

Explore Additional Support:

• Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
• Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources
• Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
• Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ

Connect with Us:

• Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
• Stay connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram
• For personalized support, reach out via email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Welcome to the final episode of 2023, where we take a reflective journey through some of my favorite clips of Through the Hard and Unyielding.

Join us as we revisit the memorable moments and lessons learned.....
Segment 1: Episode 10 Moving Through the Unknown with Purpose
Segment 2: Episode 27 Embracing Imperfection: Why You Need to Let Go of the Need to Fix Your Teen
Segment 3: Episode 12 What No One Tells You About Youth Probation
Segment 4: Episode 37 React Less, Respond More: Parenting Tips for Mindful Communication
Segment 5: Episode 35 The Role of Self-Reflection in the Healing Process
Segment 6: Episode 13 When the Challenge Changes You - Blake's Story
Segment 7: Episode 41 The Learning Curve: Stage 2 of Learning to Parent a Teen in Crisis
Segment 8: Episode 38 Connection vs. Control: Finding the Right Balance in Your Parenting Approach

As we close this chapter, I'd like to extend my sincerest thanks for allowing me to be a small part of your parenting journey. May the coming year bring joy, discovery, and shared wisdom.

Thank you for being a part of our podcast community. Wishing you hope and healing in the year ahead!

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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard" ,originally titled Unyielding, is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

Explore Additional Support:

• Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
• Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources
• Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
• Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ

Connect with Us:

• Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
• Stay connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram
• For personalized support, reach out via email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

In this episode of Through the Hard, we dive into the topic of control and over-functioning in parenting. It's something many of us struggle with, and it can have negative effects on our teens. I often find myself in that same place, trying to control every aspect of my teen's life, thinking it is the best way to protect them. But I'm learning that it's so important to find a balance. Our teens need some freedom to make their own choices and learn from their mistakes.

That's where the concept of balanced oversight comes in. Finding that sweet spot between being too controlling and not being involved enough. Providing guidance and support without taking over their lives. Listen as we discuss seven practical tips to help you practice finding a balance between control and your own freedom. It won't happen overnight, but patience and practice can create a healthier dynamic with your teen.

Resources mentioned in the podcast:

Register for the 4 Principles for Fighting Fear workshop HERE

Article by Dr. Amy Johnson: Don't Make it Happen, Allow it to Happen

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In this episode of Through the Hard, we dive into the topic of control and over-functioning in parenting. It's something many of us struggle with, and it can have negative effects on our teens. I often find myself in that same place, trying to control every aspect of my teen's life, thinking it is the best way to protect them. But I'm learning that it's so important to find a balance. Our teens need some freedom to make their own choices and learn from their mistakes.

That's where the concept of balanced oversight comes in. Finding that sweet spot between being too controlling and not being involved enough. Providing guidance and support without taking over their lives. Listen as we discuss seven practical tips to help you practice finding a balance between control and your own freedom. It won't happen overnight, but patience and practice can create a healthier dynamic with your teen.

Resources mentioned in the podcast:

Register for the 4 Principles for Fighting Fear workshop HERE

Article by Dr. Amy Johnson: Don't Make it Happen, Allow it to Happen

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"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

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Today's Parenting Teens Through the Hard episode is a heartfelt throwback from last year.

We're diving into the challenges we all face during the holiday season while caring for a teen in crisis. Your experiences and emotions are valid, and we're here to explore them with compassion and understanding. Join us as we discuss the many conflicting emotions we experience and offer a few suggestions on how to approach setting boundaries, avoiding problematic gifts, planning how to handle difficult conversations, and creating new traditions to bring joy. Despite the hardships we are experiencing, this holiday season is still an opportunity to find moments of peace, reflect on what's important, and remember that your efforts in being there for your child are remarkable and truly make a difference.

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Friend, today, we're going to delve into a topic that might tug at the heartstrings a bit – the profound importance of vulnerability in parenting, particularly during these challenging teenage years.

Together, we'll dive a little deeper into this concept I like to call "heart talk." A gentle, intimate dialogue rooted in trust and authenticity, a space where we can really connect with our teens. Because, you see, parenting during these years can be quite a tender journey.

You and I are going to explore those areas where our teens find it tough to open up to us. It's a reminder for us, as parents, to acknowledge our own imperfections, set expectations that are filled with compassion, and, most importantly, honor the boundaries our teens set.

Our teens are navigating a maze of changes and challenges, and we have the opportunity to be a comforting presence – a lighthouse guiding them through the waves. It's a call for us to understand that vulnerability isn't a weakness; it's a strength that fosters profound connections.

Let's embrace the reality that parenting teenagers is no easy feat. Through the mist of discomfort, we are learning to be there for our teens with open hearts and arms.

So, mama, let's gently step into the realm of vulnerability. Let's open up those channels of communication, even if it feels heavy. Because in those quiet, somber conversations lies the potential for healing and understanding.
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In episode 48, we're diving into a topic that's pretty important on this parenting journey through the hard: talking openly and genuinely with our teenagers.

You know, as parents, it's crucial to get a handle on our own emotions and fears before we embark on those deep heart-to-heart chats. Think of it like learning a new dance – it takes time, understanding, and a solid connection.

In this episode, I've got some down-to-earth strategies to share to help you get closer to having deeper conversations with your teens. We're also gonna chat about the whole influence-versus-control deal – trust me, it's a game-changer.

And because some of us may need a little more help, I've got a cool resource for you. Listen to find out how you can snag a free PDF loaded with journal prompts designed to get you ready for those heart-to-heart talks. Plus, stay tuned for an upcoming workshop where we'll tackle those fears head-on while learning from each other's stories and experiences.

⚡Sign up for our FREE Workshop 4 Principles for Fighting Fear on November 9th here!

💙 For your free Heart Talk Prompts, email me at afrey.pathways@gmail.com

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In Episode 47, I give you an inside glimpse of the content for Day 1 of our recent workshop on The Four Principles for Fighting Fear, specifically in the context of parenting teenagers. As a parent, I understand how fear can sometimes hinder our ability to parent our teens effectively. That's why I want to share a personal "cheat code" for managing fear and becoming a more confident parent.

You see, parental fear is often rooted in love. We want the best for our teenagers, and we worry about their well-being. But sometimes, this fear can hold us back from making the right decisions or giving our teens the freedom they need to grow.

Learn to identify and understand your own fear triggers - the situations or thoughts that make you feel the most fearful as a parent. By recognizing these triggers, we can start to address them head-on.

Join me as we explore ways to fight fear and become more effective parents to our teenagers. Together, we can create a nurturing and supportive environment while giving us the peace of mind we deserve.

⚡Sign up for Day 2 of our FREE Workshop 4 Principles for Fighting Fear on November 9th here!
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In this episode of our podcast "Parenting Teens Through the Hard," we are talking about the importance of understanding the changing dynamics of communication with our teens and how crucial it is for us to adapt.

We all know that our teens are heavily influenced by their peers, technology, and social media. However, it's essential for us to remember that our voices still hold immense value in their lives. We need to find ways to connect and communicate effectively with them.

A key aspect we focus on is modeling healthy communication and empathy. Empathy acts as the anchor line that connects us in our communication with our teens. By understanding their perspective and showing empathy, we can build a stronger bond with them.

Today's teens face numerous challenges and pressures, and it's our responsibility as parents to provide understanding and empathy. We need to create an environment where they feel safe to open up and share their thoughts and feelings.

Building trust and open communication is vital.  So, let's embark on this journey together, exploring the world of communication with our teens. By adapting to the changing dynamics, understanding the generation gap, and practicing empathy, we can strengthen our relationships and guide our teens through the hard times.

Register for the 4 Principles for Fighting Fear workshop HERE

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"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

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"What will you pursue in the middle of this mess that might somehow justify all your suffering?"

In this episode, we are opening our eyes to one of the biggest struggles we experience as parents of teenagers or young adults in crisis. Whether we are dealing with teen behavior issues, addiction, failing grades in high school, manipulation, or isolation, there is a heaviness that creeps in around us with no intention of leaving anytime soon. 

Join us as we discuss how we go from hurt parents to healed parents and learn about a unique opportunity coming to you in October 2023!

Timestamps:
The challenges of parenting teens in crisis [00:00:02]
Discussion on the difficulties parents face when their teens are in crisis and the importance of a supportive community.

The role of fear in parenting [00:01:26]
Exploration of how fear can dictate our actions as parents and lead to constant stress and anxiety.

The pressure to fix everything and fear of failure [00:02:53]
Discussion on the pressure parents feel to find solutions to their child's problems and the fear of failure that comes with it.

The need for a supportive community [00:15:20]
Emphasizes the importance of having a supportive community to help navigate challenges and overcome fear in parenting.

The upcoming four-week online workshop [00:17:02]
Introducing an upcoming workshop focused on four foundation principles to help parents operate from a place of calm and healing.

Shifting away from control and finding purpose in suffering [00:19:33]
Encouraging listeners to shift their mindset away from control and view their experiences as opportunities for growth and purpose in their lives and the lives of their children.

Register for the 4 Principles for Fighting Fear workshop HERE

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"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

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Hey Sis! Ever think about parenting teens like you're tending a garden? Well, that's what we're getting into in this episode – 'cause, let's face it, our kids are a bit like flowers. They bloom when they're ready, in their own sweet time.

We're just here to play the gardener, you know? Nurturing, observing, and maybe doing a bit of waiting.

This summer, as I strolled around my yard, checking out how each plant was doing, it hit me how much parenting teens can feel like tending a garden. And guess what? I had to spill the beans (or should I say seeds?) with you.

Come hang out with us as we chat about:

• Your child’s zone: Respecting their own growth timeline.
• Starting at ground level: Embracing those foundational moments.
• How to soften the seed: Creating the right conditions for growth.
• The DANGERS of overwatering: Yep, finding that sweet balance.
• Getting to the roots: Digging into what really matters for your teens.

I'm keeping it laid-back and sharing insights to help you navigate the ups and downs of parenting teens. So, grab your favorite beverage, kick back, and let's chat about growing up together, one seed at a time.

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"As we heal the parts of us that, even in the midst of chaos, need to grieve over the loss of the family we dreamed would be ours, we get better at parenting. We learn to be ok with holding the reins a little looser because holding them tight never seems to bring our child closer.  And through this beautiful process of losing and finding, we stumble upon our sweet spot."

In today’s episode, we discuss the 4th and final stage of learning.  At this stage, our skills are developing and becoming ingrained in us through repetition. They begin to line up with what feels right to us. Our actions and reactions, even if they don’t always yield the results we hope for, are more incongruent with what’s important to us, and it starts to feel more natural and effortless.

Join us to learn more about….

• Stage 4: Unconscious Competence.
• Parenting and Shepherding - what they have in common.
• The growth required of us.

Links from today's show:

Dr. Russell Barkley: 30 Essential Ideas Every Parent Needs to Know (Parents of ADHD Children)

Skills of a Shepherd by Kim Gooding

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“Parenting is not your purpose. It’s preparing you for your purpose.”

We often make the learning process more complicated than necessary because of the negative feelings we experience when as parents, we make mistakes.  Ironically, not doing it right and making mistakes are actually vital steps in the learning process.

In today’s episode, we are moving on to explore conscious competence parenting, which is stage 3 of any learning process.

Join us to learn more about….

• Stage 3: Conscious Competence.
• How to tell when you’ve reached stage 3.
• Two benefits you’ll experience.
• A few tips on what to practice at this level.

Links from today's show:

Gary Thomas’ book Sacred Parenting: How Raising Children Shapes Our Souls

Dr. Becky Bailey

Dr. Becky Bailey YouTube

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Show-notes Episode 41

Title: The Learning Curve: Stage 2 of Learning to Parent a Teen in Crisis

Today’s episode is another bite sized episode, perfect for a quick walk around the neighborhood. The second of our mini series on the four stages we go through as we learn to parent a teen in crisis. These stages take us through the learning curve we face as we develop the skills needed in order to feel more confident in our parenting abilities.

In this episode, we explore conscious incompetence parenting, which is stage 2 of the learning process and I’ll give you a few tips on how to become more effective during this stage of parenting.

Join us to learn more about….

• Stage 2: Conscious Incompetence
• How to tell when you’ve reached stage 2
• The beautiful element added to our journey once we reach this stage
• Tips to help you move through this stage effectively and more

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“Do the best you can until you know better. Then, when you know better, do better.”

Hey….You made it! I wondered if you would find the time this week, friend. I know that right now, you are juggling all the things, and finding a little time to shut off the chatter in your brain is challenging.

Today’s episode is bite-sized. Just about 20 mins from beginning to end to kick off a little mini-series we are doing on the four stages we go through as we learn to parent a teen in crisis. These stages take us through the learning curve we face as we develop the skills needed in order to feel more confident in our parenting abilities.

Join us to learn more about….

• Stage 1: Unconscious Incompetence
• The common feelings we experience
• The challenges we face.
• Helpful tips to get through stage 1 and more...

Below are links from todays show:

• Into the Unknown: What to Expect-Juvenile Court System Part 1
• Into the Unknown: What to Expect-Juvenile Court System Part 2
• Into the Unknown: What to Expect-From Yourself
• Into the Unknown: What to Expect-From Your Marriage/Relationship
• Into the Unknown: What to Expect-Siblings
• Into the Unknown: What to Expect-Your Child

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“Everyone we meet is both our student and our teacher.”

Today’s episode is a countdown of the four factors that guide our parenting decisions.  Together we talk about the benefits & challenges that we experience with each one of these factors.

Join us to learn more about….

• Family dynamics in parenting.
• Peer Influence
• The Benefits of Book and Media
• On-the-job training and more.

In this podcast episode, we discuss the anxieties and insecurities we face in our parenting journey and introduce the primary factors that should guide parenting decisions and three other influential factors. We emphasize the importance of learning from our own parents, observing others, and seeking support during challenging times & also highlight the significance of on-the-job training in parenting as a continuous learning process. 

Parenting Books and Resources:

• The Whole Hearted Parenting Manifesto by Brene Brown
• Loving Detachment by Dr Wayland Meyers

• Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood

• The Teenage Brain: A Neuroscientist's Survival Guide to Raising Adolescents and Young Adults

• Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

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“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
Carl Jung

“And every day, the world will drag you by the hand, yelling, “This is important! And this is important! And this is important! You need to worry about this! And this! And this!” And each day, it’s up to you to yank your hand back, put it on your heart, and say, “No. This is what’s important.”
Iain Thomas

In today's episode, we talk about the important roles that connection and control play in our relationship with our teens. With control seeming to be our default as parents, it’s important that we stop and ask ourselves what it might be costing us. Listen along as we dive into the SUPERPOWER most of us aren’t utilizing in our parenting game and how to begin activating it.

Learn more about….

• A recent poll I took asking parents with adult children what they would do differently.
• The three layers of behavior change. 
• Who you'd like to become in this season.
• The difference between control and connection.
• How to shift the things you are focusing on.

Remember, you’re child is no longer the project; you are. 

Practice this for the next two weeks, and let me know how it’s going:

• Spend a few days challenging yourself to focus on the positive (however small it may be) vs. the negative. The negative things shout and demand our attention, so they are easy to spot. Be a studier of the positive. Look for them and take the time to be grateful for them. Trust me; they are there.
• Spend a few days focusing on working together to solve a problem with your teen vs. confrontation and control, which only leads to defiance.
• Spend a few days documenting the 1% improvements you made during the day.

Links from the show:

• Episode 37: React Less, Respond More: Parenting Tips for Mindful Communication
• Atomic Habits by James Clear
•  "I want to handle this well" Phone Wallpaper

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Sometimes it can feel like we are full-time firefighters. We rush from one crisis to the next, never really fixing problems, just trying to slow down the spread. 

Today we talk about the difference between reacting and responding and give you some practical advice on how you can begin the process of being more mindful of the things that are important to you in your relationship with your teen.

Learn more about …

• How urgency has a tendency to overthrow the things that are really important to us.
• How to identify when you are reacting and when you are responding. 
• How control is costing you connection.
• How to respond when you feel yourself in reactivity mode.
• The barriers that will present themselves as you work towards responding to your teen more than reacting. 

Practice getting out of reactivity mode and into response mode for the next two weeks by following the steps below: 

1. Hit pause and focus on breathing.
2. “I want to learn to handle this well; I will do nothing until I have calmed down.”   "I want to handle this well" Phone Wallpaper
3. Once calm, grab a sheet of paper and write down the following:
   • What happened? 
   • What’s the impact/fear? 
   • What might happen next? 
   • What is the desired outcome? 
   • What actions should be taken? 

Let me know how it's going by sending a DM on social media or an email using the email listed below.
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