Own Your Pleasure – Détails, épisodes et analyse

In this enlightening conversation, Dr. Kelly Casperson and host Whitni Miller delve into the often misunderstood topics of perimenopause and menopause. They explore the definitions, symptoms, and societal stigmas surrounding these life stages, emphasizing the importance of hormone health and the potential benefits of hormone replacement therapy. The discussion highlights the need for better education and awareness regarding women's health, intimacy, and the impact of aging on overall well-being.

Dr. Kelly Casperson is a board-certified urologic surgeon,CEO and founder of The Casperson Clinic, a modern practice dedicated to hormones and sex medicine, renowned public speaker, sex educator, and host of the top-ranking podcast You Are Not Broken. Dedicated to empowering women, Dr. Kelly blends humor, candor, and science to demystify sexual health, intimacy, and midlife wellness. Through her podcast and online courses, she tackles myths about desire and normalizes conversations around healthy, fulfilling sex. Her work also provides essential education on hormones and midlife health.

Learn More From Dr. Kelly:
https://kellycaspersonmd.com 

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IG - @kellycaspersonmd
FB - @youarentbroken
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Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com 

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Show Notes:
In this episode of Own Your Pleasure, Dr. Emily Jamea and Whitni explore the complexities of sexual relationships, emphasizing the importance of communication, vulnerability, and playfulness. They discuss how to navigate awkwardness in conversations about sex, the significance of transition rituals, and the difference between attunement and enmeshment. The discussion also touches on the paradox of control and surrender, the role of mirror neurons in connection, and the need for courage in overcoming self-consciousness. Ultimately, they highlight that sex can be a nourishing part of life at any stage and encourage listeners to embrace their desires and trust themselves.

Dr. Emily Jamea is an award-winning sex and relationship therapist and the USA Today best-selling author of Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion. Emily speaks nationally and internationally to a diverse range of audiences including educators, health and mental health professionals, executive and corporate groups, and the general public. Her expertise has been featured in Oprah Magazine, CNN, USA Today, NBC, and more. She offers online workshops as part of her mission to make her knowledge accessible to everyone. Dr. Jamea is an award-winning columnist for Healthy Women. She hosts the Love and Libido podcast and writes for Psychology Today. 

In her free time, Emily enjoys spending time with her husband and children, traveling as much as possible, and salsa dancing and painting when she gets the chance.

Follow Dr. Jamea:
All the social media channels @dremilyjamea.

Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com 

Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitney Miller addresses various questions related to intimacy, sexual desires, and relationship dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the importance of prioritizing quality time in relationships, navigating differences in libido, and the significance of open communication about sexual needs. Additionally, the discussion explores the introduction of kink and BDSM dynamics, as well as strategies for initiating intimacy in a way that respects both partners' comfort levels.

Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com 

Follow Whitni at:
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
 TikTok - @bdemoves (if it returns)

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages in a deep conversation with Dr. Uchenna Ossai about the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-discovery, particularly within marginalized communities. They explore the concept of freedom in relation to pleasure, the importance of understanding one's own body, and the journey of navigating pain and joy. Dr. Ossai emphasizes the significance of awareness, self-advocacy, and the need to create space for joy in our lives. The discussion also touches on the challenges of receiving pleasure and the impact of societal pressures on personal experiences of joy and intimacy.

Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai is a sex-positive pelvic health physical therapist, sexuality educator and certified sexuality counselor. Dr. UC is an assistant professor at University of Utah at Salt Lake City in the College of Health. Dr. UC has clinical, research, and educational expertise in complex pelvic floor disorders, sexual function and dysfunction that centers intersectionality and biopsychosocial factors, particularly in marginalized communities. She is a national and international speaker and is on the medical advisory boards for femtech start-ups Dame Products, Origin., and O.School. Dr. Ossai is also creator/founder of YouSeeLogic, a sexual health platform for adults rooted in an intersectional framework that focuses on improving sexual joy, erotic intelligence, and autonomy through innovative education and community building.

Learn More From Dr. UC:
https://www.youseelogic.com
info@youseelogic.com
Follow Dr. UC at:
IG - @youseelogic
Threads - @youseelogic

Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
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TikTok - @bdemoves
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks

In this conversation, Whitni Miller and Tuesday Feral discuss the challenges and strategies for non-binary and trans individuals in navigating pleasure and intimacy. They explore the impact of dysphoria on sexual experiences and the importance of finding ways to feel comfortable in one's body. They also discuss the use of accessories and clothing to affirm one's gender identity during sexual encounters. Communication and consent are emphasized as crucial in creating positive experiences, and the importance of individual preferences and authenticity in defining pleasure is highlighted. They also discuss the concept of gender dysphoria and how it can impact sexual experiences. They emphasize the need for trans-affirming and sex-positive support for individuals who may be struggling with their sexuality. They also address the issue of hyper-sexualization of trans people and the negative impact it can have on their self-esteem and relationships.

Mx. Tuesday Feral, of Feral Resiliency, is a neurospicy educator, coach, therapist, and consultant. From creating and facilitating support programs, offering sexual health and gender exploration support as a coach, to working as a licensed counselor and sex therapist, Tuesday has been supporting trans and nonbinary folks and their families in Western North Carolina since 2008. With a unique, trauma informed, kink and CNM aware perspective, Tuesday also finds great fulfillment in teaching workshops and courses as well as providing consultation to individuals and groups who want to better support nonbinary and trans people in their work and their lives.

Tuesday lives with their beloved feline companion in a small cabin surrounded by delightfully overgrown gardens, and in their free time they can be found gazing at the moon lovingly, tending their gardens and plants (and trying to outwit the resident groundhog to no avail), engaging in creative endeavors, dancing with abandon, nerding out about trauma and attachment or other topics of interest, and connecting with loved ones.

Learn More From Tuesday:
https://www.feralresiliency.com
feralresiliency@gmail.com 
Follow Tuesday at:
FB - @mxtuesday
IN - @feralresiliency
Other resources mentioned by Tuesday:
https://tranzmission.org/
https://openpathcollective.org/

Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
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IG - @bde.moves
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YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks

00:00:00 Welcome & Introduction to Adelina Adler
00:04:16 Introduction to Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)
00:05:12 Hard Truths before starting in an ENM relationship
00:09:26 Self-Reflection and Considerations in ENM
00:12:54 Debunking Misconceptions & Defining Poly & ENM Styles
00:23:05 Polyamory: Emotional Attachment and Multiple Loves
00:26:07 Is Polyamory an Orientation? & Navigating Jealousy and Envy in Poly Relationships
00:43:10 Maintaining the Ethical Aspect of Polyamory
00:46:35 Unicorn Hunting: Approaching Ethically and Avoiding Power Dynamics
00:49:16 Challenging Hierarchical Polyamory
00:51:10 Recovering from Heartbreak
00:55:38 Managing Time in Multiple Relationships
00:59:30 Questioning Societal Norms

In this episode, Whitni Miller and Adelina Adler discuss ethical non-monogamy and its various forms. Adelina, a GSRD sex coach and educator, explains that ethical non-monogamy is when individuals choose to open up their relationships outside of just one partner, both sexually and amorously. They emphasize the importance of communication, consent, and respect in ethical non-monogamous relationships. They debunk common misconceptions, such as the idea that ethical non-monogamy is a license to cheat, and highlight the need for emotional maturity and stability in relationships before opening them up. They also discuss the different types of non-monogamy, including polyamory, swinging, and relationship anarchy. In this conversation, Adelina Adler and Whitni discuss various aspects of ethical non-monogamy and polyamory. They explore topics such as relationship anarchy, jealousy vs. envy, the importance of informed consent, and the need to challenge societal norms and expectations. They emphasize the importance of communication, autonomy, and respect in non-monogamous relationships. Adelina also shares insights on recovering from heartbreak, managing time and scheduling, and the need for self-care and self-reflection. They encourage listeners to educate themselves, question societal constructs, and create their own relationship scripts.

Learn More from Adelina:
https://www.askaddyadler.com
Follow Adelina at: IG - @askaddyadler
Tikok - @askaddyadler
YouTube & Spotify - Sexplorations! With Adelina Adler
Ko-fi - @askaddyadler

Reach out to Whitni at:
www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
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IG - @bde.moves
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YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages with Ash and Dawn Noble, founders of Queer Couples Academy, to explore the intricacies of queer intimacy and relationship dynamics. They discuss the PACT model of therapy, the importance of understanding attachment styles, and how vulnerability plays a crucial role in building secure connections. The conversation delves into the impact of technology on relationships, the difference between interdependence and codependency, and the significance of aftercare and open communication in maintaining healthy partnerships. Through their insights, Ash and Dawna emphasize the importance of co-regulation and navigating power dynamics to foster a safe and nurturing environment for love and connection. In this conversation, Whitni and the Nobles explore the complexities of queer and straight relationships, focusing on the dynamics of roles, expectations, and communication. They discuss the high stakes involved in queer relationships, the importance of emotional space, and the need for effective conflict resolution. The conversation also delves into attachment styles, trauma healing, and the significance of creating safety and trust within relationships. They emphasize the hope for change and the potential for growth in all couples, regardless of their backgrounds.

Ash and Dawn Noble collided in 2020 when brought together by a shared trauma that completely rearranged their lives. As a result, they co-created a vision to build the safest relationship either of them have ever been in as they set out to become the cycle-breakers within their own family systems through the relationship they're building as a couple.

With that shared vision, they've launched Queer Couples Academy, where they share the skills that are needed to build a safe & secure relationship through the PACT model, which is a Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy developed by Dr. Stan Tatkin.

Learn More From Dawna & Ash Noble:
https://linktr.ee/Queercouplescoaching 
Follow Dawn & Ash at:
TIKTOK - @queercouplesacademy
IG - @ashanddawnnoble

Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
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IG - @bde.moves
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YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks

00:00:00 Introduction: Celebrating Queer Pleasure
00:01:28 Breaking Stereotypes: Queer Women and Pleasure
00:05:36 Challenging Internalized Misogyny in the Queer Community
00:19:50 Embracing Pleasure-Centered Sex
00:27:53 The Need for Authentic Representation in Porn
00:33:46 Debunking the Myth of 'Lesbian Bed Death'
00:37:27 The Lack of Open Conversations Among Women
00:41:53 Consent and Abuse
00:43:51 Pleasure as Medicine
00:47:51 Being Your Own Lover
00:50:35 The Harmful Effects of People-Pleasing
00:52:11 Embracing Self-Love for Personal and Collective Growth
00:54:03 Join Us for the Empowerment Retreat in Costa Rica

In this episode, Whitni and Coach Khanyi challenge the stereotypes and assumptions about queer women's sexuality. They discuss how queer women can be both soft and loving, as well as fierce and passionate in their sexual experiences. They explore the importance of owning and embracing all aspects of their pleasure, including the more dominant and submissive roles. They also address the internalized misogyny and homophobia that can limit queer women's sexual expression and attraction to other masculine-presenting individuals. Overall, they advocate for authenticity and self-acceptance in queer intimacy. The conversation explores the importance of self-acceptance and self-enjoyment in one's body and sexuality. It emphasizes the freedom that comes from not seeking acceptance or understanding from others, but rather finding comfort and pleasure within oneself. The discussion also touches on the significance of creating safe spaces in relationships and the need for mutual consent and understanding. The conversation challenges societal norms and stereotypes surrounding lesbian sex and highlights the importance of authentic representation in porn. It also addresses the concept of 'lesbian bed death' and critiques the limited and flawed studies that have perpetuated this myth. The conversation explores the societal expectations and stereotypes around sex and pleasure for women, particularly masculine women. It highlights the importance of women creating spaces to talk about sex and pleasure, as well as the need to challenge patriarchal norms. The conversation also emphasizes the healing power of pleasure and the importance of self-love and self-pleasure. The upcoming retreat in Costa Rica is mentioned as an opportunity to let go of people-pleasing and embrace radical self-acceptance.

Join Whitni & Khanyi in Costa Rica:
Book your trip here - https://trovatrip.com/trip/central-america/costa-rica/costa-rica-with-whitni-miller-nov-2024

Grab Coach Khanyi’s Books & more:
https://coachkhanyi.kartra.com/page/Nwk17

Follow Coach Khanyi at:
IG: @lifecoachkhanyi
TikTok: @lifecoachkhanyi

Reach out to Whitni at www.bde-moves.com
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00:00:00:00 Welcome & Introductions 
00:01:23:01 Heather's Journey into Pelvic Floor Therapy & Sex Counseling
00:05:19:15 The Intersection of Pelvic Floor Therapy and Sex Counseling
00:08:24:12 Addressing the Bio Psychosocial Aspects of Sexual Health 
00:10:23:07 What is Pelvic Floor Therapy and Who is it for?
00:16:30:20 Passive Tightness vs Having Control of the Pelvic Floor Muscles
00:19:27:21 Pelvic Floor to Sex Counseling
00:28:09:27 Creating Realistic & Emotionally Honest Representations of Sexuality in Fiction
00:36:07:26 The Importance of Vulnerability and Communication
00:41:02:22 Expanding the Definition of Sex & The Power of Consent
00:49:22:27 Writing and Reading Authentically Realistic Erotica
00:54:18:20 Affirming Masculinity & Gender Identity
00:58:19:22 Queering Sex and Breaking Away from Heteronormative Scripts
01:03:51:06 Vino and Vulvas: Creating Open and Inclusive Conversations about Sexuality

In this episode, Whitni Miller interviews Heather Edwards, a sex educator, sex counselor, and pelvic floor therapist. They discuss Heather's background and how she got into pelvic floor therapy. Heather explains that pelvic floor therapy can help with urinary issues, pain, dysfunction, and other issues related to the pelvic floor. They also talk about the intersection between sex counseling and pelvic floor therapy, and how fiction and erotica can be powerful tools for exploring healthy intimacy and addressing sexual issues. Heather shares her own experiences with writing erotica and the importance of creating realistic and relatable stories. In this part of the conversation, Whitni and Heather discuss the importance of communication and consent in sexual relationships. They emphasize that sex doesn't have to follow a heteronormative script and that it's essential to create a safe space for each partner to express their desires and boundaries. They also explore the power dynamics and role-playing in sexual experiences, highlighting the importance of feeling seen and affirmed. Heather shares her experiences as an erotica writer and the need for more diverse and inclusive representations of sex in literature. They also discuss Vino and Vulvas, a platform where professionals discuss various topics related to sexuality, and Heather's online courses on pelvic health and anal sex. Find out more from Heather at: HeatherEdwardsCreations.com Read Heather's work at: YourEroticSelf.com Follow Heather at: IG @heatheredwardscreations IG @vinoandvulvas Reach out to Whitni at www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: TikTok - @bdemoves IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks

00:00:00 Welcome & Introductions 
02:06:21 What is Kink? 
03:49:17 Conscious Kink 
06:39:04 Communication 
07:59:11 Exploring Power Dynamics in Kink Relationships 
12:18:25 Creating a Safe and Expansive Kink Experience 
26:20:23 Attunement & the Importance of Slowing Down & Being Present 
37:24:26 The Healing Power of Kink 
45:06:01 The Psychedelic Experience of Kink 
53:46:19 Creating a Soft Landing: Aftercare & Debriefing 
01:31:02 Mastery: Being a Master of Yourself

In this conversation, Whitni Miller interviews Kimi Inch, a renowned expert in intimacy and conscious kink. They discuss the meaning of kink and conscious kink, the importance of intention and negotiation in kink play, and the power dynamics between doms and subs. They emphasize the significance of attunement, communication, and curiosity in creating a safe and pleasurable experience. Kimi also shares tips for introducing kink to a partner and the transformative potential of exploring desires and fantasies. In this conversation, Kimi and Whitni discuss the power of kink and BDSM in personal growth and healing. They explore the importance of communication, consent, and aftercare in creating safe and transformative experiences. They also highlight the role of curiosity, self-awareness, and self-compassion in exploring desires and emotions. Kimi shares examples from her client work, emphasizing the potential for kink to challenge societal norms and empower individuals to embrace their authentic selves. They discuss the fluidity of roles and the importance of breaking free from limiting beliefs and stereotypes. Overall, they emphasize that kink is not just about pleasure, but also about personal growth, communication skills, and rewiring belief systems.

Reach out to Kimi Inch at https://andmorepresents.com/ 

Follow Kimi at:
Tiktok - @kimiinch
Instagram - @kimiinch
Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/domidollz

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