Our TFMR Stories – Détails, épisodes et analyse

Christina's story is about the fierce love that guides us through impossible choices. When she received her baby Oliver's Trisomy 13 diagnosis, she didn't just face a medical decision. She faced a profound act of mothering that would challenge everything she thought she knew about love, protection, and what it means to care for your child.

Christina opens her heart about navigating a fatal fetal diagnosis as a first-time mom in Ontario, Canada. Her wisdom about values, language, and the misunderstood reality of TFMR will leave you feeling less alone and more grounded in your own truth.

If you've ever struggled with explaining your TFMR decision to others, or if you're searching for that centered knowing Christina has found so early in her grief, this episode is medicine for your heart. Thank you, Christina <3

MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:

www.thetfmrdoula.com/resources to see guides, meditations, courses and current group offerings

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

www.reddit.com/r/nipt for during the decision period www.reddit.com/r/tfmrsupport For anonymous grief support after TFMR

OTHER CLOSED TFMR GROUPS:

www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup TFMR Support Circle

www.endingawantedpregnancy.com Ending a Wanted Pregnancy

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License
Links: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
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#TFMR #Trisomy13 #Patausyndrome #babyloss #griefsupport

Have you ever shamed yourself for not being "further along" or "done" with the "stages of grief"? If so, this episode is for you.

Learn the TRUE history of the "5 Stages of Grief" and about a gentle, holistic, and humane alternative grief model - especially important for those of us who have lost a baby in such a tragic and heartbreaking way as abortion termination baby loss.

TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:
If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle
💜 Small, intimate groups of 5–6 people
💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support
🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins June 11th 2025
👉 Learn more & apply: www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

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Want early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live? Join our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes.

Application only, free membership:
www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License
Links: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

After Ali Emerald lost her baby Paris to TFMR for maternal reasons, she went on to become a somatic embodiment coach to help herself and others work through trauma and grief. Ali’s pregnancy set in motion conditions that led her to need an organ transplant.

In this episode we talk about the intersection between disability rights and reproductive justice.

You can find her at www.instagram.com/thealiemerald

You can also find her as the resident trauma informed yoga instructor in the pregnancy loss app Loss to Love

FREE INVITATION THE 1st EVER -- SURVIVE TO THRIVE AFTER TFMR PREGNANCY LOSS ONLINE CONFERENCE:

You’re invited to the Survive and Thrive after TFMR virtual conference, a 3-day live event. Bringing together 15 speakers: grief experts, therapists, bereavement doulas, authors and holistic healers, all sharing their wisdom and love and care with us.

November 13th through the 15th.
http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/conference to sign up for free

Each day we will release videos and talks, and replays will be available through Sunday November 17th.

This online conference is for you of you’re looking to learn to cope with grief, honor your baby and your deep love for them and come away with skills to heal the trauma that comes with the heartbreaking loss of ending a beloved pregnancy
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All while finally feeling seen in a compassionate community of grieving parents  just like you.

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And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Erica Rozmid, board certified behavioral psychologist and perinatal mental health certified, also known as TFMR Psychologist on her platforms, shares doable tips for when you are in mental health crisis after TFMR. The skills she generously relays in this episode are just a piece of what she's putting together in a mental health course for those who have had to terminate a wanted pregnancy, follow her and find out more here:

www.tfmrpsychologist.com
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www.instagram.com/tfmrpsychologist
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Co-host of ‌Grief Street podcast on all platforms

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Today's episode is sponsored by:
"A way through After TFMR: your 3-part Survive to Thrive Plan", a live workshop on (RESCHEDULED) October 17th, 2024 at Noon Eastern time.

www.thetfmrdoula.com/yourplan to sign up for free. Replay will be available, so sign up even if you can't make it live.

This workshop is for you if you're feeling afraid you'll never feel "okay" again and don't know where to start/ don't know what it means for you to "grieve". This is the class for you if your grief is feeling super scary and overwhelming and you're looking for tools to help you grow around grief.
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And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Today we have Dr. E Goldblatt Hyatt on the podcast with us. They are an associate professor at Rutgers University in New Jersey. Dr. Goldblatt Hyatt is also a private practice clinician focusing on baby loss and TFMR. We'll be talking about their research on TFMR and queer family making.

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Today's episode is sponsored by:
"A way through After TFMR: your 3-part Survive to Thrive Plan", a live workshop on October 10th, 2024 at Noon Eastern time.

www.thetfmrdoula.com/yourplan to sign up for free. Replay will be available, so sign up even if you can't make it live.

This workshop is for you if you're feeling afraid you'll never feel "okay" again and don't know where to start/ don't know what it means for you to "grieve". This is the class for you if your grief is feeling super scary and overwhelming and you're looking for tools to help you grow around grief.
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Make sure to follow Dr. E at
instagram.com/dr_tfmr
and get updates on research at tfmr.org

Resources mentioned:
‌Return to Zero - Hope rtzhope.org
Postpartum Support International (PSI) postpartum.net
Pregnancy After Loss Support pregnancyafterlosssupport.org
PUSH to end preventable stillbirth pushpregnancy.org

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

“How will I know when I’m ready to share my TFMR story and where and how should I share it?” We go into when and how and where you could decide to tell or NOT tell your story of ending your precious pregnancy for health reasons in this episode.

SPONSORED BY THE TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM, ASCEND:

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in September 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Riata shares her story of her baby Riana and the diagnosis of Tetralogy of Fallot and Atrioventricular septal defect (AVSD, a heart defect) and T21. Riata was 29 at the time of this first pregnancy. She had to travel for care, due to living in a very rural part of Wyoming.

Riata wishes to share her story to remind those opposed to abortion that abortion bans affect more than their propaganda "poster child" of abortion. It doesn't discriminate by demographics, religious affiliation, political party, or social status - because it is healthcare!

Riata has also shared her story in an advocacy manner in other publications:

https://www.nytimes.com/.../27/us/abortion-women-tfmr.html

https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/roe-v-wade-reversal-brings-uncertainty-in-states-with-trigger-laws/

Resources mentioned:
1.“Releasing a Wanted Pregnancy” TFMR support & resources pamphlet. Free download here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/pamphlet

2.The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents. Apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Carmen Grover is mom to 11 babies, 4 earthside and 7 in her heart. These are their names in order: Amity, Will, Kaia, Baby G, Case, Maelie, Butterfly Baby, Jude, Aida, Zach, and Charlotte. She is the author of A Diary to My Babies and the journal companion to that grief memoir, A Diary to Our Babies. Two of her losses have been to TFMR and she's come on today to talk about her babies and these resources that she's created for the loss community.

Ebook versions available on all the typical platforms and Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Diary-My-Babies-Journeying-Pregnancy/dp/1772584231

Carmen has also graciously gifted our listeners with a free copy of A Diary to My Babies if you’d like just the PDF. You can claim your copy by emailing her here: carmen_dirven@hotmail.com

EPISODE SPONSORED BY OUR UPCOMING TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:

Starting in just a few days!! Apply now to save your spot in our group grief support program (small intimate groups of 5 or 6 max)

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, here’s the link to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in August 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

When TFMR is for YOUR health, also called Termination for Maternal Health or Termination for the Pregnant Person’s Health, it can bring an extra layer of survivor’s guilt. Marie-Laure shares how she lost her baby Juliette to early onset preeclampsia with severe features and IUGR (intrauterine growth restriction). Her symptoms became more pronounced around 22 to 24 weeks pregnant. She shares the roller coaster of her illness and diagnosis and end of the pregnancy with Juliette.

TFMR for maternal health can feel less represented in the ending a wanted pregnancy space - let’s talk about it!

You can also find out more about Marie-Laure and follow along with her story and get support at She Isn’t a Taboo instagram page https://www.instagram.com/she_isnt_a_taboo/

Resources mentioned:
1. The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents. Apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

2.The TFMR Doula instagram page www.instagram.com/thetfmrdoula

Grief circle info:

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in August 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Samantha is a TFMR mom who lost her second daughter to anencephaly at 17 weeks pregnant. She came on today to share how this great loss has shifted her relationships and beliefs.

Resources mentioned:
1. ASCEND TFMR Grief Circle - If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in August 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

2. The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents. Apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/