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Season 6, Episode 780: 18+. An age gap erotic fiction story episode, hot sexy storytelling! This story is a part of The Work Threesomes Series, and it's called On the Farm Threesome: The Young Farm Hand, The Pastor, and the Baker. Gastone has turned 18 and he's had a crush on the 20 year old baker Olga for quite some time. He works hard on his family's farm and when Olga was hired as a baker, he was ecstatic. He thought long and hard about asking her out on a date. But before he gets to spill his question, Pastor Jeff stops in to see Olga for a visit. What Jeff finds them doing after he's carried in the freshly picked strawberries shocks him. But he doesn't stay dumbfounded for long because Olga wants him too! Get the full audiobook: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/groupfunatworkspicyunionsofthreeaudiobook

Enjoy this erotica fiction, erotic romance entertainment arts episode to enjoy and expand your self care and relaxation time.

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Season 6, Episode 776: The Art of Spicy Narratives: A Chat with Erotic Storyteller Nemo Omnis, plus excerpt from '"Hello Beautiful", written by Nemo Omnis and narrated by Ruan Willow.

Topics of Discussion:

• Erotic Storytelling, Spicy Romance, Human Condition, Intimacy Exploration, Self-Publishing, Writing Process, Erotic Fiction, Literary Freedom, Creative Collaboration, Author Journey, Character Development, Reader Engagement, Publishing Challenges, Erotic Themes, Genre Definitions, Writing Community, Literary Voice, Emotional Storytelling, Romance Literature, Kink Exploration
• Guest Bio: Nemo Omnis is an erotic storyteller of various persuasions, currently historical and spooky. Nemo believes in the exploration of the human condition through the lens of the erotic. By embracing the playful nature of intimacy, their works focus on freedom, beauty, truth, and above all things, love. Nemo is owned by two cats who grudgingly permit them to eat, work, and sleep. They can be found at www.NemoOmnis.me.
• Links: https://nemoomnis.me and https://eroticneutral.substack.com

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Shameless Summit for Women to explore their sexuality and sensuality, Season 3: Reserve your spot in the FREE Shameless Summit, taking place August 24-28, 2026

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Wicked & Spicy Tales: Four short stories of erotic paranormal magic and erotic horror, eerie Twilight Zone-ish... not your typical Ruan Willow book as these stories are mystical, devious, and explore the darker side. These stories are not HEA, but instead are wicked and spicy.
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Season 6, Episode 771: Spring Break & Stranded with Her BFF's Brothers, Plus 6 Men, On the Court, Multiple Partners Excerpt. A spicy why choose romance multiple partner sex adventure on the basketball court! Layla plays sex games with the male med students. This novella is full of dark kinks, self declared free use, humilation kinks, BDSM, exhibitionism, and voyeurism. It's a Why Choose Dark Romance with polyamory, New Adult Fiction. Listen to this hot excerpt and enjoy! A hot and spicy spring break adventure none of them will ever forget!

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Shameless Summit for Women: Sexuality, Sensuality, Empowerment Online summit for FREE!

Join the Shameless Summit, SHAMELESS is an invitation back to your body, your sensuality, your pleasure, your desire, and your erotic aliveness.

Across five days and 13 experts, we're exploring sex, desire, Tantra, kink, fantasy, embodiment, intimacy, relationships, receiving, confidence, shame, pleasure, and the many ways women experience and own their erotic nature, specifically for women. Claim your free seat here: https://www.tillystorm.com/a/2148307474/WZq4Y2zo

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Season 6, Episode 765: Living the Kink Life and Writing It with Author All These Roadworks, Audio version.

Discussion Topics:

Discovering Kink Later in Life

Fantasy vs Reality in BDSM Dynamics

Consent and Safety in Dark Fantasy Exploration

Understanding Kink Beyond Surface-Level Fantasies

Breaking Shame: Kink, Consent, and Sexual Education

Fiction Isn't Responsible to Reality

Fiction as Safe Space for Processing

Media Responsibility and Consensual Adult Desires

Confidence and Communication in Relationships

Age Brings Acceptance of Different Desires

Understanding Kinks and Writing Submissive Characters

Navigating Kink Clubs and Community Spaces

Benefits and Safety of Kink Clubs

Are Kinks Born or Developed?

Why Rope Isn't For Me

Finding Resources and Where to Find My Work

Learn more about the author All These Roadworks: https://alltheseroadworks.com/

Key Takeaways:

• Fantasy and reality diverge significantly in kink practice. Scenarios that are arousing to read or imagine can be mentally exhausting or unsafe to actually pursue, requiring careful discernment between what excites us conceptually versus what works practically.

• Shame is the primary barrier to understanding human sexuality. Darker fantasies are far more common than people admit, but widespread judgment prevents honest conversations about desires that don't reflect actual values or intentions.

• The kink community's framework of consent and safety transforms mental health. Reframing desires through explicit communication and negotiation rather than moral judgment creates psychological freedom and reduces internalized shame around sexuality.

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Season 6, Episode 760: A Devious Awakening, A Dark Paranormal Demon Romance Excerpt from a spicy fiction novel written by A.A. Powers, book excerpt narrated by podcast host Ruan Willow. Listen to the author interview with A.A. Powers coming Friday, June 26, 26.

A Devious Awakening, get the book (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/4akQnpM

Author bio: 

A.A. Powers is the author of The Devious Bonds series, a dark paranormal romance series that explores love, obsession, power, redemption, and the complexities of human desire through fantasy. By day, she works as a procurement analyst and lives in rural Minnesota with her family. By night, she writes stories filled with demons, fated mates, found family, and morally complicated characters.

As both a reader and author of dark romance, Ashley is fascinated by the intersection of fantasy, shame, self-acceptance, and the ways fiction allows readers to safely explore parts of themselves that are often misunderstood or judged.

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Season 6, Episode 755: audio version. Reclaiming Sexuality as Sacred: Spirituality, Psychedelics, and Breaking Religious Taboos, Featuring Shoshanna Blanca, aka Jesus Christ Pornstar, affiliate book link "Eve's Blessing: Uncovering the Lost Pleasure Behind Female Pain" Paperback on Amazon ebook

When Mary Magdalene Became a Mirror for Sacred Sexuality

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Episode Discission topics:

Shoshanna Blanca, From Feminist Writer to Erotic Artist

Bridging Sexuality and Spirituality Through Psychedelics

Divine Creativity and Sexual Shame Culture

Reframing Sex Work as Spiritual Art

Jesus Would Listen to Sex Workers

Biblical Interpretation and Religious Judgment

Reinterpreting Genesis: Beyond the Eve Curse

God's Gender and Universal Consciousness

Orgasmic Prayers and Reclaiming Pleasure

Modern Dating Culture and the Whores Revolution

Bridging Porn and Social Media Culture

Men's Misconceptions about and the Perpetuating Falsehoods About Biological Clocks

Preparing for Psychedelic Ceremonies and Intentions

Teshuva: Returning to Original Virtue

Women's Suffering and the Need for Reverence

Finding Freedom Through Breath and Spirit

Body Innocence and Pleasure as Birthright

Takeaways:

• Psychedelic experiences can fundamentally reshape views on sexuality and spirituality. Shoshana's ceremony-induced rebirth experiences directly motivated her to reframe sex work and erotic expression as spiritual practices rather than taboo activities.

• Religious symbolism in sexual content triggers deeper cultural anxiety than the sexuality itself. The backlash against her work centered more on the use of Jesus and Mary Magdalene imagery than the explicit content, revealing how religious institutions weaponize shame around sexuality.

• Sex workers and erotic performers position themselves as spiritual healers, not moral transgressors. Let's curb our judgement! By redefining their work through a sacred lens, they challenge the foundational shame narratives that justify social stigma and argue this reframing could revolutionize how society treats sex workers, and sexuality.

Guest Bio: 

Shoshanna Blanca, also known as Jesus Christ Pornstar, is an erotic performance artist and adult star best known for Christian and Jewish-inspired content including The Second Cumming—a series of vlogs and performances telling the story of Jesus and Mary Magdalene through a psychedelic lens—and Uncovering Eve, a collection of images, videos, and verses exploring women and womanhood in the Bible. After a decade as a feminist writer and sex educator, she made OnlyFans her art gallery to provide a visual companion to her award-winning book Eve's Blessing: Uncovering the Lost Pleasure Behind Female Pain. Since then, she's released a variety of female-friendly solo content for Ersties, MakeLoveNotPorn, and Pornhub, including an "ADHD Masturbation" series where she describes her fantasies and tangential thoughts while self-pleasuring and "Hysterical Literature Bible Readings," where she reads from the Bible and other sacred texts while using a Hitachi Magic Wand. She's also a model with photographs published in many magazines and an advocate for body positivity. As one of those people who looks "overweight" and "plus-size" on paper but skinny in person, she aims to dismantle the ridiculous sizing and BMI charts that have become false gods. Through her thought-provoking pornography and social media presence, she's starting a whores revolution, encouraging whores of all sorts to rise up, remember Jesus already saved a spot for them in heaven, and get too loud and proud for people to label them damaged goods—or for whorephobic fuckboys to label them hookup material but not marriage material. She popularized and advocates radical Christianity, a belief system that preaches zero divine laws except: Be who you are.

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Season 6, Episode 748: Female Female Sex Scene Rekindling Their College Hookup Days from Ruan's new Dark Romance Suspense Thriller Novel Beach House Views!

A gripping story of desire loaded with lust, betrayal, and survival where nothing is truly as it seems. Love can turn dark when obsession takes over.  As a nightmare unfolds that violates Juniper and Bridge's freedom, the threat comes as someone they never expected.

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Season 6, Episode 747: The Raw Truth about Sex Work, Shame, and Autonomy with Ex-Webcam Girl and Author Breezie Axelrod.

What happens when a woman loses everything — her financial stability, her family support, even access to her own bank accounts — and the only thing left is her body and her will to survive?

The Webcam Girl Next-Door is Breezie Axelrod's raw, unapologetic memoir detailing how she went from full-time caregiver to webcam performer after her father's sudden abduction and a devastating family betrayal left her financially stranded. No ID. No recent work history. No safety net.

What followed wasn't fantasy — it was survival.

Told through her real, unfiltered journal entries, Breezie documents the emotional, sexual, and psychological realities of entering the webcam world out of desperation. The book pulls back the curtain on digital intimacy, power dynamics, shame, empowerment, and the complicated truth behind subscription-based adult platforms.

This isn't a glamorized "sex work success" story. It's messy. Vulnerable. Sometimes dark. Sometimes funny. And fiercely honest about what it means to monetize desire when the alternative is losing everything.

Get the book "The Webcam Girl Next-Door" (affiliate link): https://amzn.to/4utjCPh

Topics:

– The raw realities of webcam performance
– What people get wrong about online sex work
– Survival sex vs. empowerment narratives
– Digital intimacy and the illusion of control
– Family betrayal and rebuilding from nothing

Emotional connection is often more valuable than explicit content, men who wanted to participate often just wanted a genuine human connection.

From Caregiver to Webcam Performer Memoir

Independence and Platform Evolution

Connecting with Regulars Beyond the Sexual

Respecting Different Sexual Preferences

Setting Boundaries in Sex Work Business

Struggling Without Resources and Support

Pioneering Women's Advertising Network Online

Long Distance Connection and Heartbreak

Cultural Shame Around Sexuality

Why Women Cheat, Men Cheat, and Repression of Desires and the real harm of denying our human sexuality

Fighting for Sexual Empowerment and Independence

Powerful Men Protected by Wealth and Influence want to control women who are making money off themselves as entrepreneurs

Society's Unsustainable System Will Collapse

Women's Rights and Respect in Relationships

Why Women Leave and Men Need to Evolve

Projection? Perceptions? Insights. Shame, and Sexual Repression in Society

Women Are Giving Up on Men

Women do not mutilate yourself and cripple your pleasure! Keep all those genital parts for maximal pleasure. Don't steal your own enjoyment by doing harmful alterations to your genitals.

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Season 6, Episode 745: Fated Mates and Spicy Scenes: A Deep Dive into Paranormal Shifter Romance Writing with Author Adeline Bryant, plus excerpt from Adeline's Book "Fated", narrated by podcast host and narrator Ruan Willow. The excerpt is at the end, but also it is its own episode on the podcast in episode 744.

Author Bio:

Author's website. https://addiewrotethat.com/  Get the book "Fated" (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/4uhcQvP

Adeline Bryant is an award-winning indie author of emotionally raw stories that explore identity, belonging, and the cost of choice. Armed with a doctorate in education and an endless supply of imagination, she's always been fascinated by the transformative power of stories and the bonds they create.

Adeline lives in Minneapolis, MN, with her husband and their two feline overlords. When she's not writing, she can usually be found devouring books, rocking her signature red lipstick, and shamelessly belting out Taylor Swift songs. She firmly believes that every great story deserves a bottle of wine and a healthy dose of magic (and smut)

Discussion Topics:

Romance Author, Indie Author, Honey And Jalapeno Book Fair, Minneapolis, Paranormal Romance, Fated Mates, Male-Male Romance, Book Excerpt, Character Development, World Building, Writing Process, Emotional Storytelling, Indie Publishing, Book Events, Creative Writing, Author Interviews, Writing Community, Smut In Romance, Character Arcs, Storytelling Techniques

Quotes from Adeline Bryant

"I think it's really healing for especially women to read these kinds of things."

"Just do things. Keep reading. Keep reading smutty books."

Summary:

Adeline discusses her debut novel, "Fated", a paranormal romance featuring wolf shifters and a spicy male-male love story between an alpha wolf and a beta. Discover what inspired her to transition from reading thrillers to writing romance, the importance of including sensuality in storytelling, and the challenges of indie publishing. Adeline also reveals her unique approach to world-building and how her characters came to life. She wrote a bible for the world the wolves live in!

As we prepare for the upcoming Honey and Jalapeno Book Fair in Minnesota, Adeline shares exciting details about her character-inspired candle collaboration and the immersive experience she aims to create for her readers. Enjoy the chat about the transformative power of stories, the joy of indie publishing, and the importance of embracing creativity. Just gotta dive in and write that book!

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Season 6, Episode 744: Spicy Paranormal MM Wolf Shifter Sex Scene Excerpt from the book "Fated" by Adeline Bryant, narrated by Ruan Willow. Listen to the interview with the author Adeline Bryant in episode 745.

Adeline's website. https://addiewrotethat.com/  Get the book Fated (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/49EpwED

Author Bio:

Adeline Bryant is an award-winning indie author of emotionally raw stories that explore identity, belonging, and the cost of choice. Armed with a doctorate in education and an endless supply of imagination, she's always been fascinated by the transformative power of stories and the bonds they create.

Adeline lives in Minneapolis, MN, with her husband and their two feline overlords. When she's not writing, she can usually be found devouring books, rocking her signature red lipstick, and shamelessly belting out Taylor Swift songs. She firmly believes that every great story deserves a bottle of wine and a healthy dose of magic (and smut).

Season 6, Episode 743: It's launch day! Beach House Views is live and it's on sale for only $0.99! Get it here: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/beachhouseviewsbook

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Book Blurb:

A gripping story of desire loaded with lust, betrayal, and survival where nothing is truly as it seems. Love can turn dark when obsession takes over.

Juniper and Bridge miraculously find their dream house. It's on the beach! The house is eerily perfect, and the couple can't help but be drawn to its charm and the allure of its famous previous owner, a best-selling author, world-renowned. It seems to be the ideal place for them to start a new chapter in their lives and maybe make a top-notch nursery for that baby they've so desperately been trying for.

During their tour of the beachfront home, Juniper finds a mysterious object in the kitchen, a hidden key in an odd place, hinting that there may be more to this picture-perfect place than meets the eye. Blinded by the gorgeous scenery and happiness with her husband, she doesn't have a clue about the shocking secret the key holds.

Mysteries pop up that make it undeniable that something odd could be lurking in the house. Their world crumbles when they find the beach views they didn't want. The terrifying fixation spirals into a dark twisted fantasy, shattering their illusion of safety. The nightmare violates their freedom as his chilling plan is revealed.

Tropes: Dark romance, spicy intimate open door, suspense thriller, voyeurism, adventurous intimacy, swinging friends with benefits FF, FM, MMF, cats

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Season 6, Episode 742: 

Kaela Luna, From Corporate Editor to Award-Winning Trans Creator, adult performer. Winning an award for your passion project instead of your mainstream work can completely change how you see your career. That's exactly what happened to Kaela Luna, trans adult performer and content creator, when she took home Best Content Creator at the 2026 Trans Erotica Awards. #trans #sexuality #sexualitypower #sexualhealth #mentalhealth #adultindustry

Before building her creative empire, Kaela spent years in a soulless corporate video editing job. Transitioning into sex work gave her the freedom to channel those technical skills into projects that actually matter to her, including niche giantess content that demands clever work with angles, sound design, and visual effects.

As one of very few trans women creating giantess material, she's found it both personally rewarding and nicely profitable.

Kaela connects creative fantasy to psychological healing, arguing that kinks like giantess content offer real therapeutic value by reversing power dynamics in safe, consensual ways. She is in New York rather than chasing industry pressure elsewhere, and the decision paid off.

https://kaelaluna.com/

Discussion topics:

Adult Performer Kaela Luna Wins Content Creator Award

Winning Best Content Creator Award

Exploring Giantess Content and Size Fetish Community

Creating Custom Content That Resonates Personally

From Fantasy to Content Creation

Balancing Mainstream Success with Passion Projects

Platform Struggles and Content Creation Challenges

Repressed Shame and External Judgment

Control Backfires: Why Restrictions Create Resistance

Human Kindness Overcoming Fear and Prejudice

Why Judge Others' Life Choices?

Patriarchy's Pushback Against Female Empowerment

Art, Sexuality, and Human Nature

Balancing Content Creation and Platform Restrictions

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Season 6, Episode 741: Spicy to Non Spicy Romance: Character-Driven Romance and the Freedom of Indie Publishing with Author Starr Z. Davies. We chatted about the Honey and Jalapeno Romance Bookfair that I am hosting in Minnesota May 17th, 2026, and that both of us will be attending as authors at the Big Wood Brewery in Vadnais Heights, MN, learn more: https://pinkinfinitypublishing.com/honey-and-jalapeno-book-fair-a-minnesota-book-fair/

Author Bio: 

STARR Z. DAVIES is an award-winning author of over 20 tales that span dystopian realms, epic fantasies, and echoes of forgotten histories. Dubbed the "Character Assassin," she weaves stories where heroes are tested by fire—both emotional and physical. From her woodland home in northern Wisconsin, she crafts worlds while surrounded by her greatest allies: a supportive husband, two imaginative children, and a curious menagerie of robotic pets. When not conjuring new adventures, she dabbles in home enchantments, swims like a siren, battles through video game quests, and devours books like ancient tomes of power.   Connect with Starr:  Kickstarter for Stormcrown (launches on Tuesday): https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/szdavies/stormcrown?ref=4mzuls Website: https://www.starrzdavies.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/s.z.davies/   Books (affiliate links): Stormvalor https://amzn.to/4tP57Vp Fractured Empire Series: https://amzn.to/4tYevpS   Topics of Discussion:

Writing Across Romance Spectrum

Writing Age-Appropriate Content as Authors

Writing Sex Scenes Into Your Story

Cutting Scenes That Don't Feel Genuine

Navigating Genre Labels and Reader Expectations

Amazon's Censorship of Sexual Content

Amazon's Unfair Author Review Policies

Dealing with AI Accusations and Online Bullying

Creating Characters Over Twenty Years Ago

How Language and Fantasy Changed My Writing Path

Writing Fast and Managing Multiple Projects

Social Media Presence and Book Fair Preparations   Key Takeaways:

• Intimate scenes should emerge organically from character authenticity rather than being added to meet genre expectations. Both authors write what feels true to their stories, not what readers demand.

• Indie publishing offers creative freedom that traditional publishing restricts, allowing authors to explore mature themes without censorship or pressure to fit commercial standards and limitiations.

• Genre classification for romance blended with fantasy is different for Romantasy, romantic fantasy, and fantasy romance. Each of the blends is inherently subjective, making marketing challenging because readers interpret the same work differently regardless of authors' content descriptions.

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Season 6, Episode 740: Reigniting Passion: "The Sure Thing" Practice for an Optimal Sex Life with sensuality guide and educator Elana Auerbach.

Guest Bio: 

Elana is a lover, mother, author, mentor, activator, and priestess. While Elana has a wealth of professional experience guiding people deeper into their bodies and their pleasure, The Sure Thing comes directly from her personal life. After years of frustration and failed gimmicks to try to re-spark the passion in her 20-year marriage, Elana created The Sure Thing. She wrote this book because she wants everyone to have access to this life altering practice.

Website: https://surethingexperiment.com/

FB: facebook.com/ElanaAuerbachAuthor

IG: https://www.instagram.com/elana.auerbach/   

A guided journey to connect with your wild, sensual self, your passion, and desire!

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  Discussion Topics:

From Passion to Purpose: Reclaiming Intimacy

Rekindling Intimacy Through Shabbat Rituals

Reviving Intimacy Through Weekly Commitment

Writing a Book About Reviving Intimacy

Addressing Jealousy in Long-Distance Relationships

Understanding Your Inner Pantheon and Self-Awareness

Building a Weekly Pleasure Practice Habit

Menopause, Body Changes, and Reclaiming Pleasure

Sexuality and Confidence Growing With Age

Scheduling Intimacy: Building Connection Together

Building Your "I Know What I Want" Muscle

Sex as Duty vs. Personal Pleasure

Unlocking Creative Flow Through Sensuality

Exploring Your Body and Sexual Pleasure

Exploring Diverse Gemstone Toys and Designs

Vivacious Viv: Reclaiming My Wild Self

Women Breaking Free from Societal Roles

The Sure Thing Love Experiment

Connect Through Events and Online Community

Key Takeaways:

• Responsive desire, which develops through safe and present connection, is completely valid.

• A scheduled "sure thing" can dissolve years of emotional buildup in weeks, consistency matters more than spontaneity for reconnecting in long-term relationships.

• Intimacy is a learnable skill requiring regular practice, not something that should be left to chance or assumed to naturally flourish after decades together.

• Menopause marks a transition to continued vitality, not decline, reframing aging as an opportunity rather than loss is key to maintaining desire and self-worth.

 

Season 6, Episode 736: Beyond the Nuclear Family: Polyamory, Justice, and Building Connected Communities. 

Quietly, one of the most overlooked facts in American life is this, the traditional nuclear family now makes up only nineteen percent of U.S. households. Yet our laws, workplaces, and culture still treat it as the default, leaving millions of people in non-traditional arrangements facing real discrimination.

Brett Chamberlin, founder of OPEN (an advocacy nonprofit for polyamory and ethical non-monogamy), joins for a conversation that is genuinely hard to stop thinking about. Brett traces his path from environmental nonprofit work, including student-led zero-waste initiatives and plastic pollution advocacy through The Story of Stuff, to building a movement around relationship diversity. His argument is compelling and wide-ranging, taking a hard look at our loneliness crisis, our fragmented communities, our consumption-focused economy are all connected problems. (He even brings in family abolition theory.)

What does it actually look like to fight for legal protections when anti-adultery laws still exist in fifteen U.S. states? Eight cities, including West Hollywood, Berkeley, and Portland, have already passed non-discrimination protections, and OPEN is pushing for more.

When diverse relationship structures become normalized without needing explanation, something real has shifted in the culture. This episode will make you think harder about what family, community, and connection can mean. 

More about Brett Chamberlin:

Brett Chamberlin (he/him) is the Founder & Executive Director of OPEN, a grassroots nonprofit advancing legal rights and cultural acceptance for non-monogamous families and relationships. Under his leadership, OPEN has passed landmark non-discrimination protections in multiple cities and established itself as a leading voice in the rapidly growing movement for relationship freedom.

A repeat nonprofit founder with over a decade of movement-building experience, Brett has led global grassroots campaigns reaching millions, including for the Emmy-winning documentary "The Story of Plastic." His work has been featured in The New York Times, NPR, CNN, and NBC. Find out more: http://www.open-love.org/ 

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Topics:

Introducing Brett Chamberlin, Polyamory Advocate

Building Community Through Non-Monogamy

Nuclear Family as a Tool of Control

Grassroots Advocacy for Non-Discrimination Protections

Local Agency and Cooperative Living Solutions

Privacy vs. Protection from Discrimination

The Prevalence and Diversity of Non-Monogamy

Building Coalitions Against Traditional Family Norms

Progress Through Intersecting Social Movements

Non-Monogamy Representation in Media and Indie Authors

Supporting Independent Bookstores Through Bookshop.org

Building Relationship Skills for Non-Monogamy

Consent, Communication, and Healthy Sexuality

Christo-Fascism and Resistance in America

Survival, Joy, and Resistance Through Community

Three Main Program Arms for Non-Monogamy Support

Supporting Open Love Through Community Donations

Season 6, Episode 735: A Genuine Discussion of Intimacy and Sex. From Marine to Intimacy Guide: Andre Lazarus discusses topics on Pleasure, Vulnerability, Shedding Shame, and Connection with podcast host Ruan Willow.

Rarely does a career pivot feel this surprising and this necessary. Andre Lazarus went from U.S. Marine to somatic intimacy guide, and the journey took a full decade of witnessing profound healing breakthroughs before he truly found his calling.

Andre shares how his work (grounded in the Somatic method) helps everyone from trauma survivors to couples navigating alternative relationships. He's perhaps best known for appearing on the U.K. television series Virgin Island as a professional surrogate partner, bringing these conversations into public view in a way that actually matters.

What does it really mean to feel safe enough for genuine pleasure? How can we be more authentic in our intimacy? Andre argues that safety isn't something a partner provides for you. It's your own responsibility, built through boundaries that are dynamic and require constant, intentional practice.

Andre addresses male vulnerability, which is less commonly discussed. Men, he explains, often struggle deeply with reconnecting to vulnerability, and that disconnection blocks pleasure entirely. He also breaks down his three-pillar framework: open community conversation about sex, attunement to a partner, and aftercare. He also talks about how men have tradtionally talked about sex from their own perspective, leaving women, women's bodies, sensations, and women's pleasure out of the conversation, which has collectively skewed our culture's view of sexuality to the male experience and perspective, and erroneously perpetuated that this also applies to women. This is total lie and a very common, and toxically pervasive, misconception. Humans are finally looking at women's pleasure and experiences with sex, but it will take time to permeate the general populus to break the male centered myths. The more we talk about this the better!

Topics discussed:

• Sexuality as Our Birthright and Vulnerability
• Safety is Your Personal Responsibility
• Setting Boundaries and Saying No
• Listening to Your Body's Signals
• Beyond Penetration: BDSM Exploration and Sensation
• Slowing Down and Redefining Sexual Pleasure
• Understanding How Our Desires Develop
• Breaking Free from Sexual Shame
• Sexual Performance Issues in Male and Female Bodies
• Self-Pleasure and Sexual Shame in Childhood
• Taking Responsibility for Your Own Pleasure
• Why We Shame Sexual Tools
• Helping People Find Intimate Connection on Television
• Finding Your Joy and Sexual Authenticity
• Exploring Different Experiences With One Toy

Connect with Andre:

Today, Andre balances private coaching, workshops, and a men's online course on sexual communication with growing media visibility, including the upcoming second season of Virgin Island.   Website: https://www.coming-closer.com/
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/coming-closer/
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Media profile: https://www.guestsonair.com/profile/andre-lazarus

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Andre's Bio:

Andre Lazarus is a Somatic Intimacy Guide and media-recognised voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. His career has followed an unconventional path: from serving in the U.S. Marines to guiding people through the complexities of intimacy and desire. That breadth of experience gives him a distinctive perspective on courage, vulnerability, and human connection.

He is best known for his role on the UK television series Virgin Island, where he appeared as a professional surrogate partner helping participants confront intimacy challenges alongside licensed therapists. The program drew national attention, and Andre's presence on screen highlighted how intimacy work is not about performance but about safety, consent, and the courage to connect.

Through his practice, Coming Closer, Andre supports individuals and couples across a wide range of needs: men facing midlife performance concerns, survivors of trauma seeking safety, long-term partners wanting to revive passion, and those exploring alternatives such as ethical non-monogamy. Equally, he works with couples committed to monogamy who want to strengthen trust and rediscover each other. His approach, rooted in the Somatica® Method of sex and intimacy coaching, emphasises learning through the body and replacing shame with curiosity.

While Andre has also taught workshops introducing kink and alternative practices, he situates them within a broader conversation: how people of all backgrounds can embrace intimacy as part of their wellbeing. His message consistently comes back to honesty, communication, and self-awareness as the foundations for connection.

Season 6, Episode 734: Erotica fiction excerpts from books written by author Dixon Ahl-Knight, and narrated by podcast host Ruan Willow, plus an Author Interview touching on the following topics, When Taboo Becomes Art: Exploring Erotica, Horror, and Creative Freedom and Algorithmic Censorship forcing Coded Language: Inside Erotica writing and publishing.

A conversation about erotica can lead naturally into a discussion about horror writing, because they are similar in some ways. Dixon Ahl-Knight, a small-town Iowa author who has been happily married for over twenty years...more about the author:

Dixon Ahl-Knight is a small-town, Iowa-born author who loves the idea of passion and
excitement in fiction and reality! Well-versed in the music/audio production industry, D.A-K
decided to enter the book industry and bring the stories and fantasies of his imagination to print.
When not working in the media industries, D.A-K can be found devouring the books of others,
running, listening to underground music, and embarrassing his wife and kids with his silly antics
and juvenile sense of humor!

Find Dixon online at:
@DixonAhlKnight on X
Dixon_ahlknight on Instagram
Dixon Ahl-Knight on Facebook
dixonahlknight on TikTok
Feel free to email Dixon at dixonahlknight@gmail.com

FInd Dixon Ahl-Knight's books at: https://4horsemenpublications.com/product/homecoming-small-town-swingers-club-1/ https://4horsemenpublications.com/our-authors/dixon-ahl-knight/

More about the discussion:

What does it actually mean to write authentically when every platform is working against you?

Frankly, the conversation goes places you might not expect. Dixon explains that erotica and horror share more than you'd think (both build tension toward a climax, and the writer simply chooses where to direct the payoff). He also makes a surprisingly compelling case that writing explicit fiction is not so different from writing about being a ninja. You do not have to live something to write it.

The episode digs into real tensions: AI narration disrupting the audiobook industry, Amazon's tightening content classifications, and why indie authors may be the last line of defense for creative freedom.

The discussion around female empowerment in fiction, coded language on TikTok, and the Golden Pigtails award (that Ruan's book won) adds even more texture to an already layered conversation.

Listen to this episode to hear a genuinely thoughtful conversation about storytelling, stigma, and staying true to your creative vision.

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Key Takeaways:

• **Algorithmic censorship forces coded language**: Social media platforms suppress sexual content through algorithms, pushing creators to use euphemisms like "spicy" instead of explicit terminology—a form of censorship that doesn't apply equally to violent content.

• **Erotica enables value-neutral exploration**: Writing sexually explicit fiction allows authors to explore scenarios divorced from their personal beliefs and values, similar to how horror writers explore violence without endorsing it.

• **Double standard in content judgment**: Literature faces stricter scrutiny and editorial pressure around sexual content than violent content, despite both being fictional explorations separated from authors' real-world positions.

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Season 6, Episode 732: Enjoy this replay from the previous exclusive level of the podcast! A spicy romance story with intimacy focusing on oral, doggy, and female pleasure!

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Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan Willow, Season 6, Episode 731: Romance, Fireballs, and the Stories We Deserve to Read with Indie Author Melissa Lam! 

Official Bio: Melissa Lam loves reading and writing romance books that take the reader on an emotional roller coaster full of mystery, suspense, and heartache.

As an extroverted introvert who doesn't like to leave the house (because it requires wearing pants), Melissa enjoys playing strategic board games and taking long showers. When she does find the will to put pants on, she can be found traveling, enjoying bubble tea, or experiencing the world through food.

TL;DR I like to eat and write about heartbreaking shit.

Summary:

Rarely does a guest arrive with both a fireball-throwing biker and a passionate defense of honest storytelling, but Melissa Lam brings exactly that energy to this conversation. Melissa's contemporary fantasy romance series, set in modern-day Los Angeles, centers on a powerful biker who can throw fireballs trying to understand a woman immune to all powers Her trilogy, including "Ordinary Secrets", "Captured Immune", and "Scrubbed Mind", grew out of a first draft that ballooned to 225,000 words before becoming three separate books. 

On writing: What does it actually mean to write romance that feels real and complete? Melissa argues that including explicit scenes reflects genuine relationships rather than being gratuitous, and she pushes back hard against the "clean versus dirty" labels that unfairly judge authors who write open-door content. Relationships in the real world often have sex, so should fiction. It's authentic! She also opens up about publishing four books within ten months, managing every aspect of indie publishing while navigating postpartum exhaustion, and why she rejects AI shortcuts in favor of real human editors, cover artists, and beta readers.

Find Melissa at http://authormelissalam.com/ and on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/authormelissalam/ where she is most active.

Topic timeline:

From Reader to Romance Author

The Versatility and Power of Profanity

Understanding Romance Book Spice Levels

Cutting Scenes and Managing Word Count

Writing Dual POV with Male Perspective Focus

Male Perspective Storytelling in Romance Books

Reading Habits and Book Preferences Debate

Books That Tear Your Heart Apart

Motherhood and Writing: The Postpartum Challenge

Balancing Social Media Pressure and Creative Writing

Building a Loyal Fanbase Through Consistent Writing

Why Human Editors Beat AI Tools

Why Human Feedback Beats AI for Creative Work

The Value of Human-Made Creative Work Authenticity in Writing vs AI-Generated Books 

Key Takeaways:

• "Open door" spice levels aren't about purity—Melissa's first drafts contained five intimate scenes per book, but were edited down to one to meet publishing standards.

• Melissa chooses a male perspective during action sequences as a deliberate narrative choice, rather than defaulting to female POV as many contemporary romance series do, creating a distinct storytelling approach in her supernatural biker romance. 

• A 225,000-word manuscript becoming a trilogy required cutting plot, not just romance scenes, revealing that contemporary fantasy romance often demands aggressive editing beyond just adjusting spice levels to meet market expectations.

Melissa's Book Ordinary Secrets: (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/41a0LvB

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Season 6, Episode 728: This is a replay story. A delectable heterosexual spicy short romance story with teasing oral fun! Perfect for his and for her pleasure! It's another erotica fiction episode for your saucy entertainment pleasure! Listen for indulging in your well-deserved, and much needed self care time! It's your sexuality and it matters! Sexual health is a part of your mental health!
The story: Around Her World: Marlayna and Jason are headed to their favorite hidden away resort for a long weekend of hotel intimacy and reconnection in their relationship. The teasing fun begins when Jason drops hints about a new oral technique he plans to pleasure Marlayna with once they are in the hotel room. Her anticipation runs wild as their flirting reaches inferno levels on the road trip up north. The culmination of their saucy conversation leaves both members of the couple panting heavy with satiated smiles. The resort holds repeat magic for them! It's sexual magic!

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Season 6, Episode 727:  The episode starts off with Ruan narrating excerpts from Alexandria Swanson's Dark Romance books, Defiance (affiliate link book link ) and Balance (affiliate link book link, then we chat about writing, crazy sex related stories Alexandria has dealt with in her job, and the lovely parts of publishing as an indie author, but dealing with the crap in a world full of censorship.

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Dark Romance Fantasy Author Alexandria Swanson bio:  https://linktr.ee/alexandriaswansonauthor

Alexandria has been writing short stories and poems her entire life in journals and had a great idea for a novel. Defiance was the first book she finished, with more to come! Alexandria has her B.A.s in criminology, sociology, and criminal justice with a minor in forensic science. She works as a 911 dispatcher and lives in the Minnesota metro area with her dog and cat, who keep her busy. In her free time, she enjoys rock climbing, hiking, travel and of course, writing. Alexandria is passionate about herbalism and is really bad at surfing, but she considers herself a masochist. 

Episode Summary:

Author Alexandria Swanson shared she draws inspiration from real experiences when writing (though her writing is fantasy, not memoir), including working as a 911 dispatcher, plus with her background in her studies impacting her characters, her supernatural tales feature werewolves, witches, and vampires who have real psychological disorders, and this plays out as fully fleshed out and named in the storyline.

We also discussed the crazy stuff...like the bizarre emergency calls Alexandria has handled: sex toys left in ovens, swallowed handcuff keys, and patients making dangerous decisions with household appliances. These real-life incidents are both interesting and intriguing, and a bit comical and shocking!

Alexandria's books *Defiance* and *Balance* explore something rarely addressed in fantasy: how centuries-old supernatural beings experience PTSD and mental health challenges. Her pack therapist character Naya treats werewolves dealing with multi-lifetime trauma, while her protagonist Chloe struggles with night terrors based on Alexandria's own experiences.

Listen to hear about the cover designer who hand-draws everything, why Alexandria loves editing (yes, really), and the book fair she will attend that podcast host Ruan Willow is hosting in Minnesota, The Honey and Jalapeno Book Fair, My 17, 2026.

Topic timeline:

Ruan narrates excerpts from Alexandria Swanson's books

Meeting an Author at a Book Fair
From Journals to Published Author
Fiction vs. Reality: Blurring Personal Stories
Emergency Room Stories: Handcuffs and Bad Decisions
Mental Health in Fantasy and Paranormal Romance
The Value of In-Person Book Fairs
Censorship, Leaving TikTok Over Algorithm and Ownership
Social Media Double Standards and MORE Censorship
Finding a Sustainable Writing Routine 

Pet-Friendly Work Schedule and Writing Rituals
Finding Creative Space Away From Home
Loving Editing vs. Hating First Drafts
Authors Must Review Every Editorial Change
Designing Dual Book Covers with Human Artistry
AI in Book Covers: Avoiding Hidden Technology
Amazon Lost My Book and Pre-Orders!
Book Printing Struggles and Independent Solutions
Wrapping Up with Alexandria: Books and Social Media Instagram alexandria_swanson_author

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Season 6, Episode 726: 

Surprisingly, Genevieve LeJeune founded Skirt Club to address a need she felt in her own life, only to discover 25,000 other women felt the same way. The private members club creates women-only spaces where nervous systems can relax, and genuine connection happens without performance or fear of judgment.

After spending 15 years in finance enduring workplace harassment that was simply normalized, Gen witnessed how women of her generation were conditioned to survive in male-dominated environments. She started hosting champagne parties that grew from 15 to 150 attendees within a year, revealing just how many women needed a supportive environment to explore their sexuality without shame. (The demand was staggering.)

Through building communities across 36 cities worldwide with 27,200 members, Gen discovered that women's fundamental needs are surprisingly universal across cultures. Her events have evolved beyond sexuality into something broader to include embodiment, connection, and authentic self-expression. When women abandon people-pleasing patterns and reconnect with their bodies, they experience profound personal liberation.

Lejeune emphasizes that sisterhood and reduced judgment among women could genuinely transform society. By helping each other ask for support and building confidence through collaboration rather than competition, women create the foundation for lasting peace.

Find out more:

 Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn and the Skirt Club website

Founding Skirt Club for Women's Sexual Empowerment

Women's Only Spaces Create Safety and Intimacy

Creating Safe Spaces for Women to Thrive

Women Supporting Women Across the World

Women's Sexual Pleasure and Empowerment

Learning to Say No Without Guilt

Generational Views on Internet and Sexual Exploration

Women Fear Risk, Men Just Try It

Ethical Non-Monogamy and Relationship Transparency

Breaking Sexual Taboos for Women's Pleasure

Women Owning Their Sexuality and Independence

Women's Activism and Social Movements

Community Care and Sexual Exploration Events

Women's Empowerment Through Connection and Embodiment

Where to Find Skirt Club Online

Ruan's novella: The Arousal Package

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Key Takeaways:

• **Women's behavior and openness fundamentally changes in all-female spaces** — nervous systems relax and genuine vulnerability emerges without male presence, creating conditions for authentic connection that mixed-gender environments cannot replicate.

• **Bisexual and bi-curious women represent an underserved market hungry for community** — the jump from 15 to 150 members in one year demonstrates massive unmet demand for judgment-free spaces where women can explore sexuality openly.

• **Overcoming shame requires both safe spaces and exposure to diverse perspectives** — cultural conditioning around female desire is universal across cultures, but can be collectively unlearned through supportive communities and exposure to how other women authentically live.

GENEVIEVE LEJEUNE is the founder of Skirt Club, a private members club for bi-curious & bisexual women. With more than 25,000 members globally, women are more interested in each other than ever. She was the first to curate luxurious global events where women can put their own desires first, and gain confidence from the bedroom to the boardroom. A leading figure in the movement for women's sexual empowerment, Genevieve has been interviewed for high-profile publications such as Marie Claire, Elle Magazine, Cosmo, Bloomberg, Rolling Stone and the Sunday Times.

Season 6, Episode 725: He Spanked Me In Front of the Window, spicy erotic short story excerpt. Get the full story: On Ruan's Patreon

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Story Blurb: Alexa, whom Henry often called Kitten, was horny. Henry was asleep. He'd been up working during the night so was sleeping in while a morning snowstorm raged outside. Alexa sipped her coffee as her horniness blossomed and her inner brat blinked, smiled, and then she stripped. She had a perfectly evil idea. She was going to poke the bear and trigger Henry's aggressive Dom mode. She stalked up the stairs naked and with a running leap pounced on top of Henry. He woke and indeed his inner Dom bear roared. What she received shocked her, but it was most definitely one of the top wants on her sexual bucket list.

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Season 6, Episode 724 with podcaster Leigh Ann Steele from the Hustlers 2 Housewives Podcast, an Adult Industry Podcast.

Two Sexuality Podcasters on How Podcasting Changed Our Perspectives on Sexuality and Connection, plus we talk about sex, life, being powerful women in midlife, and dogs!

NOTE: video version coming soon to Ruan Willow Podcaster on YouTube, and also on Substack, Spotify, and PodNation Media on Roku TV/Fire TV devices, and Full Swap Radio (app and internet radio station).

Discussion Topics:

• Introducing Hustler's 2 Housewives Podcast
• Connecting With Hundreds of Guests Worldwide
• Shopping for the Right Sex Toy
• Being Open About Sex and Sexuality
• Elderly People Deserve Sexual Freedom
• Pets Give Life Energy and Purpose
• Unexpected Dog Rescue Changed Everything
• Favorite Podcast Guests and Surprising Conversations
• Why Podcasting Feels Like the Perfect Job
• Everyone's a Whole Person
• Humanizing People Beyond Their Industry
• Podcast Guest Selection and Interview Approach
• Women's Sexual Pleasure and Menopause Ignored
• Women's Sexual Health and Cannabis Strains
• The Power of Not Giving a Fuck
• Genuine Conversations and Not Taking Things Personal

Summary:

In a conversation with my podcast guest, Leigh Ann Steele from "Hustlers 2 Housewives", (where she interviews adult industry performers), she articulated something I've felt deeply: hosting a podcast fundamentally rewires how you see people. You stop seeing people as one-dimensional characters. Instead of categorizing someone by their profession or background, you discover they're complex humans with unexpected perspectives, humor, and intelligence. And what a beautiful thing it is to see humans as human beings rather than labels! We talked about how podcasting has transformed our views on sexuality and connection and made us less judgmental, and more open, people who are more supportive of others rather than resorting to tearing them down. Talking genuinely with hundreds of diverse people fosters deep growth in empathy and grace. Undoubtedly interviewing people from a wide variety of lived experiences reduces the tendency to judge others.

We also chatted about previous guests, some of them mutual, and how they shattered our expectations and bloomed with the beauty of their individual truths. People are amazing, if you let them show you!

We also chatted about how sex is ageless (another area to curb your judgements in) and how frustrating and insulting it is that the world has so horrendously neglected women's sexual health and pleasure research, including lying for decades that hormone replacement therapy was harmful to women (spoiler: it's NOT harmful, it's very, very helpful for women to be on HRT, especially around and after menopause. Research it!)

Maybe we'll share if we liked the lemon!!!!! 

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Season 6, Episode 723: Next Door Temptations, Excerpts from Book 1, Finally Got My Neighbor's Cock. 

Melissa had lusted for Cal for years, both of them had interacted as neighbors exchanging social pleasantries at neighborhood parties, bumping into each other while out walking dogs, at school events, and at the local grocery stores. Melissa had always surmised there was something more beneath the cordial surface of their interactions, and it was not just merely as neighborly friends. She had seen the spark in his eyes and returned it on multiple occasions.

One day Melissa spied Cal working hard in his yard on a hot summer day and pulled her car to the curb to chat with him during his mundane task. She was delighted to find out Cal was now separated from his wife and clearly was now free because she had left him for another man. This was her chance. Their conversation was brought in the house for iced tea to get out of the hot sun. Things heated up way more than either of them expected when they both realized they had each harbored the serious hots for each other for literally years.

Hooking up after their lust had boiled and baked for years was just the beginning stepstone to something that would blow both their minds, and their sex lives, to the moon!

Book 1.

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Season 6, Episode 721: From Shame to Liberation: Writing Sex-Positive Fiction with Author Misty O'Hara

**Breaking Free from Sexual Shame Through Fiction**

After her mother died, author Misty O'Hara made a radical decision. She would channel her conservative upbringing and nineteen-year monogamous marriage into something transformative for herself by sleeping with 100 men, but then switched gears to a novel exploring female sexual agency instead. The result? *The Hundred Man Plan*—over one hundred chapters written across seven years while juggling motherhood, work, and school, all while exploring her sexuality in midlife through writing and polyamory.

What makes Misty's approach so refreshing is her unapologetic stance on double standards. Men with multiple partners get celebrated as "studs," while women face judgment and shame. She reclaims provocative language in her writing, arguing that authors don't need personal experience with everything they write about (just like science fiction writers don't need real life adventures in spaceships!). Her characters find glorious self-empowerment and conscious choice.

The book features witty, sassy, flawed heroines—never passive or perfect. Misty carefully crafts intimate scenes using conversational adult language while avoiding clinical terminology. She emphasizes that sexual health connects directly to mental health, rejecting shame-based messaging entirely.

Now touring with Barnes & Noble across Utah and planning book signings nationwide, Misty discovered an untapped market of women seeking escapism through romance. Her short chapters work perfectly for couples to read together as well.

Ready to explore fiction as a healing tool? Find "The Hundred Man Plan" at https://www.mistyohara.com/ or major retailers like Amazon (affiliate link) The Hundred Man Plan Book and Barnes & Noble.

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The Arousal Package: The Arousal Package novella by Ruan Willow

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Season 6, Episode 720: Servicing the College Fence Builders Excerpt, An Age Gap Hotwife Novella, written and narrated by podcast host Ruan Willow.

Blurb: In this MMMMMF, John continues to lead his wife through sharing events with work men who come to the house, and the big surprise of the day is she's helping the work men work this time! She gets a special 'uniform', which is skimpier than one would expect anyone to do work in, but that's not the biggest shocker of the day. When the workers arrive, Laney's jaw drops as she had expected one man, but it's a crew! Not just any crew, this is a band of five sexy strong male college students who build, repair, and paint fences.

As John dictates the rules for the day, and for the spicy event that will be the hot delicious finale, all the men and Laney are ready to tear into the day with lusty excited hopes. They are all ecstatic about all the potential dreamy flirty pitstops along the way as they do their duty to get the fence job done, but with much more salacious edging than any of them had expected. Being the female in the group, Laney is looking forward to so many high riding peaks, her highest count ever will surely be achieved with a full beefy crew like this.

John's certainly not left out of the fun though! He has outdone himself this time in delivering a scheme for one of Laney's topmost unmet fantasies, and his beaming smile tells all. He's not only overindulgent with his wife, but he's going to reap all the steamy benefits once the guys head home, and for years and years to come thereafter. He's no dummy!

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Season 6, Episode 719: From Stage to screen: Brandi Swan's Path into Professional Adult Entertainment.

Brandi Swan's journey from theater stages to adult film sets is anything but ordinary. After years as a dancer, she discovered pole dancing, which eventually led her into adult entertainment—though not before she learned what "making it wink" meant during her very first audition (talk about a learning curve, yikes!). Now working with major studios, she's finding her preferences through experience, crediting co-star Jay Romero for making her comfortable during a successful first anal scene. Brandi has a Master's Degree in Theater and she loves dancing exotically and doing adult entertainment because 'she loves the thrill, the art of seduction, and the people she meets along the way."

Is genuine arousal on camera even possible for someone new to the industry? Brandi surprised herself and her director during her first girl-girl scene, experiencing authentic attraction despite never having been intimate with women before. She lost her virginity at 24 and views her current work as an exciting exploration of sexuality rather than just a job.

Beyond the bedroom, Brandi's navigating the demanding business side of adult entertainment. She recently graced the red carpet at both AVN and XBIZ events. At XBIZ in Los Angeles, she spent a week networking through panels and speed-dating events with agencies and directors—exhausting work that contrasts sharply with her previous theater career. She's setting boundaries (no hard hits to the face), embracing her submissive side, and planning to eventually transition from performing into directing and producing, bringing her film background to create more sophisticated adult content.

Tune in to hear Brandi's unfiltered take on the industry's realities. Watch the video version on YouTube https://youtu.be/vEoeJ1mwIkg , Spotify, Substack, and PodNation Media Channel on Roku TV/Fire TV devices.

Connect with Brandi Swan: https://x.com/ConfettiStarr https://avn.com/press/video/brandi-swan-signs-with-djd-media-for-publicity-representation-147802 

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Season 6, Episode 718: Passionate Love Bite Scene Fiction Excerpt, Making His Mark.

Fiction excerpt from the spicy open door romantasy book Deception's Snare, coming soon in audiobook!

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Season 6, Episode 717: Discovering the Real Cure for Erectile Dysfunction with Jeffrey Nuziard of REGENmax, The 97.2% Solution to Erectile Dysfunction and Sexual Regeneration

Blood flow isn't the problem—it's just a symptom. Jeffrey Nuziard, founder of Sexual Wellness Centers of America, reveals how his personal struggle with ED led him to develop REGENmax, the only patented cure for erectile dysfunction. His innovative approach actually regenerates tissue back to its prime (unlike pills that just mask symptoms temporarily).

Want the video version? Coming today to YouTube, Spotify, and Substack in video.

Learn more:

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The results speak volumes: a 97.2% success rate across over 3,200 patients. This comprehensive one-year protocol combines hormone optimization, regenerative injections, shockwave therapy, and laser treatments. What's remarkable is how the treatment addresses both men and women, since both genders have erectile tissue. Women experiencing clitoral atrophy or vaginal relaxation can benefit from similar therapies, essentially the same regenerative process.

Jeffrey explains how modern sedentary lifestyles have created unprecedented hormone deficiencies, with thirty-year-olds now showing testosterone levels of seventy-year-olds. Yet he emphasizes that aging doesn't have to mean giving up on sexual health—some patients maintain benefits over a decade later. At 60, Jeffrey himself is healthier than he was in his forties through hormone optimization.

Could restoring sexual function actually improve your overall health, energy, and mental clarity?

Ready to reclaim what you thought was lost forever? Listen now to discover the science behind regenerating your body's natural function. Sex is for you and you can have it your whole life long!

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Season 6, Episode 716: This excerpt is from the novella Anderson, The Pool Service Man Turned Bull https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/andersonthepoolservicemanturnedbullaudiobook and is a part of the longer book Servicing the Work Men, Her Filthy Hotwife Adventures Full audiobook

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Season 6, Episode 715: 

**A Marine's Unconventional Path to Charity Work**

When Conzo left the U.S. Marines, he never imagined his next chapter would involve OnlyFans, a UK dating show appearance, and becoming an accidental meme. (Ladbible apparently loves using his image as clickbait for completely unrelated stories.) This former Marine now uses adult content creation to fund animal rescue, LGBTQ youth support, and domestic abuse survivor assistance—all while challenging society's discomfort with sexuality and nudity.

Links:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/conzo0311

LADbible: https://www.ladbible.com/entertainment/tv/naked-attraction-contestants-where-are-they-now-connor-conzo-tiktok-777527-20230920

Daily Star: https://www.dailystar.co.uk/tv/marine-who-starred-naked-attraction-32726872

After discovering financial mismanagement at a horse rehabilitation charity in Scotland where he served as vice chairperson, Conzo faced a moral crossroads. The animals needed immediate help. His solution? **OnlyFans became his fundraising platform**, despite initial hesitation about the unconventional approach.

Beyond the fundraising aspect, he found the work personally transformative and healing, helping him process past trauma and discover his sexuality. Why does sex work carry such stigma when it's simply labor performed by people—often parents with special needs children, disabled individuals, or neurodivergent people—who struggle in traditional employment without adequate state support?

Conzo argues that opposition stems from control rather than genuine welfare concerns, noting how society suddenly found moral outrage when women started controlling their own earnings on platforms like OnlyFans.

Ready to hear more about redefining masculinity, navigating stigma, and finding purpose through unconventional means? This conversation goes deep.

Key Takeaways: 

• **Sex work as trauma healing**: Conzo describes his OnlyFans work as genuinely transformative for processing military trauma, challenging the assumption that sex work is inherently exploitative or damaging to the performer.

• **Diverse sex worker demographics**: A significant portion of sex workers are parents, disabled individuals, and neurodivergent people using it out of economic necessity due to inadequate state support—not a fringe phenomenon.

• **Decriminalization as harm reduction**: Conzo argues that criminalizing sex work increases danger and exploitation, suggesting legalization protects workers better than moral crusades framed around "rescue" narratives.

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The Fantasy Box, where you can try out a similar fantasy in a box, or find a theme you like! (affiliate link) ⁠https://thefantasybox.sjv.io/c/6250602/2141126/26423⁠

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Season 6, Episode 714: Building a Sex-Positive Community Through Multiple Ventures with guest Ms. Amanda   Websites  ⁠www.msamanda.net⁠   

Studio ⁠www.kasbhstudios.com⁠ 

Main swinger page ⁠www.krazykasbh.com⁠ 

When Ms. Amanda describes her journey from camming to running Full Swap Radio and Kasbh Studio, she reveals something unexpected: excitement, not fear, fuels her work. This multifaceted creator has built an empire around authenticity in an industry often criticized for being artificial.

Throughout the conversation, Ms. Amanda explains her approach to filming adult content with remarkable honesty. She manages her hormones strategically, rarely fakes scenes, and believes genuine reactions matter to audiences. (Her husband films most of her work, creating what she calls the ideal partnership.) She shares what makes someone truly successful in this unconventional career path.

With a swinger event planned for Kansas City in January and legal brothel tours at the Love Ranch scheduled for summer, Amanda's calendar stays packed. Her podcast "Crazy Truth About Swinging" focuses on educational content about navigating the lifestyle community, emphasizing that practices from a decade ago no longer apply today. She's received an ASN award nomination, viewing recognition itself as meaningful regardless of winning.

Despite elaborate consent forms varying across platforms like XHamster, Faphouse, and OnlyFans, Amanda operates her studio to guide aspiring performers through entering the industry. She stresses that chemistry and personality compatibility matter more than follower count or reputation, everyone starts somewhere.

**Listen to discover how Amanda balances multiple business ventures while maintaining authenticity in every performance.**

Topics:

From Camming to Building a Swinger Empire

Discussing Favorite Music and Film Acting

Body Image and Self-Consciousness

Editing Your Own Content and Self-Perception

Communication and Preferences in Adult Content

Career Longevity and Collaboration in Adult Content

Husband Films and Performs in Collaborations

Navigating Consent Forms and Platform Requirements

Giving People a Chance to Grow

Choosing Practical Outfits for Filming

Breathing, Sounds, and Multiple Orgasms

Sexuality Changes Throughout Our Lives

Key takeaways:

• **Authenticity and genuine connection outperform polished production** – Success in adult content creation depends on real human interaction and honest communication rather than technical perfection or unrealistic portrayals.

• **The swinging community is growing in awareness but faces persistent social stigma** – Despite increased visibility, participants still encounter significant judgment, making privacy and discretion critical considerations for those involved.

• **Excitement and live audience engagement drive motivation more than fear or taboo** – Content creators in this space are primarily motivated by the thrill of real-time interaction and genuine connection with audiences, not by transgressive appeal alone.

 

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Season 6, Episode 713, A Replay: The Coming Home Reclamation, Delicious Sex After Being Gone. An erotic story written and narrated by Ruan Willow. Kevin had been on a work trip, and Jenna was lusting heartily for his return. He'd shown his desire and excitement to return home to her, and his strong passion, by texting her steamy sexts during his travel. He had her on the verge of climaxing just by using his phone, but once he arrived, their foreplay skyrocketed into an intense fiery blaze, and they had the most delicious sex ever.  Kevin had made plans to re-establish his leadership in the bedroom, much to Jenna's shock, surprise, and delight. The result was maximal gratification for them both, and a reaffirmation of their love. This is a later in life second marriage spicy romantic story.
**Erotica / erotic romance fiction about relationships and sexuality that contains light Dom/sub elements of leadership and dominance/submission as well as playful, and flirty, fully consensual impact play.

It's time to think about gifts for your lover for Valentine's Day!
Ruan's Top Picks for Sex Toys for women: The Zumo (affiliate link, podcast may receive a commission on purchases, which support the podcast, thank you!) https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1558338&u=3101443&m=98393&urllink=&afftrack=
Rose Clit Sucker: https://amzn.to/49iHsBH

Pearl vibrators are my fave for internal! Use my code RUANWILLOW10 for 10% off. It makes a fabulous Valentine's Day gift! They have toys for men too, check them all out on the site. https://www.kiiroo.com/products/pearl3-for-performers

Ruan's latest books:  Power Plays, Releasing February 1, 2026, Book 2 in the Mallory and Derek Attend Secret Parties Series Power Plays, Book 2

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Season 5, Episode 712: 

What happens when creativity becomes both escape and healing?

Dean Robert Holmes, a transmasculine author from St. Paul, Minnesota, uses writing to manage schizoaffective disorder and explore identity through fiction. Since 2020, he's written over 350 fanfics and 2.5 million words (that's equivalent to five copies of Stephen King's "It") before publishing his collection "Unlocked: Seven Titillating Tales of Gay Trans Love and Lust." Dean identifies as aegosexual, experiencing attraction only through third-person perspectives, and thrives in a relationship with his fiancée May through roleplay where he never portrays himself.

In this conversation, Dean dives into his writing processes as a pantser who daydreams his way through stories. They discuss maladaptive daydreaming as a coping mechanism, the challenges of balancing creativity with social media, and how indie publishing has shattered traditional word count constraints (finally!). Both Dean and Ruan share experiences of losing mothers to suicide, which fuels an urgency in their writing careers.

Dean's upcoming May release, "Treading Water," features a gender-fluid bi man and a plus-size woman with chronic pain navigating romance amid poverty and trauma. The book tackles serious themes while celebrating connection and joy, representation that's desperately needed in romance literature.

Tune in to hear Dean read an excerpt from "Treading Water", his upcoming novel, and learn how writing serves as healing for both author and reader. Excerpt triggers: poverty, homelessness, explicit scene and language, chronic pain, body image issues, panic attacks, and mention of religion.

Author Bio: Dean Robert Holmes (he/him) is an aegosexual, transmasculine author and artist who uses creativity to manage schizoaffective disorder. Like many alphabet porn purveyors, he got his start in the wonderful world of fan fiction. Through his saucy stories, he often explores psychological themes and the power of queer love. As someone who is autistic, fat, and disabled, he makes a point to represent those communities and possesses a strong belief in the healing potential of kink. After writing over 350 fan fics, including almost 200 requests and a feature on the celebrated podcast Conan O'Brien Needs A Friend, he recently self-published his first collection of short stories, "Unlocked: Seven Titillating Tales of Gay Trans Love and Lust," which is available at four bookstores throughout the Midwest. His debut novel, "Treading Water" will be released soon. Currently, he lives on stolen Dakota/Anishinaabe land, also known as St. Paul, MN, and enjoys spending time with his lovely partner, Mae.   https://deanrobertholmes.com/ https://www.instagram.com/fandomtransmandom/   Dean Robert Holmes's Book: Unlocked: Seven Titillating Tales of Gay Trans Love and Lust (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/3LKtFxZ  

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Season 5, Episode 711: Treading Water Spicy and Caring Sex Scene Excerpt written and narrated by Dean Robert Holmes.

The characters are Susie and Westie. This is an excerpt from Dean Robert Holmes's upcoming book "Treading Water". Triggers with this excerpt include poverty, homelessness, explicit sex scene and language, chronic pain, body image issues, panic attacks, and mention of religion.

Author Bio: Dean Robert Holmes (he/him) is an aegosexual, transmasculine author and artist who uses creativity to manage schizoaffective disorder. Like many alphabet porn purveyors, he got his start in the wonderful world of fan fiction. Through his saucy stories, he often explores psychological themes and the power of queer love. As someone who is autistic, fat, and disabled, he makes a point to represent those communities and possesses a strong belief in the healing potential of kink. After writing over 350 fan fics, including almost 200 requests and a feature on the celebrated podcast Conan O'Brien Needs A Friend, he recently self-published his first collection of short stories, "Unlocked: Seven Titillating Tales of Gay Trans Love and Lust," which is available at four bookstores throughout the Midwest. His debut novel, "Treading Water" will be released soon. Currently, he lives on stolen Dakota/Anishinaabe land, also known as St. Paul, MN, and enjoys spending time with his lovely partner, Mae.   https://deanrobertholmes.com/ https://www.instagram.com/fandomtransmandom/   Dean Robert Holmes's Book: Unlocked (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/3LKtFxZ  

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When was the last time you truly prioritized your own pleasure?

For over two decades, Dr. Stacy Friedman has been helping women understand what many were never taught: basic knowledge about their own bodies. With 26 years in medical practice and 20 years specializing in sexuality, she's witnessed how inadequate sex education and cultural shame leave women disconnected from their anatomy (even something as fundamental as the body organ called the clitoris). The conversation reveals a surprising statistic, only a small percentage of women achieve orgasm through penetration alone, yet this misconception persists.

Dr. Friedman shares her personal transformation from ignorance about her own anatomy to owning an extensive collection of high-quality sex toys, emphasizing that modern toys have become empowering tools rather than sources of shame. Fact: The clitoris contains over 10,400 nerve endings, double that of the penis, underscoring women's significant sexual potential when they explore without limitation.

After experiencing painful sex for six years following childbirth, Dr. Friedman found her purpose: helping others redefine intimacy beyond traditional intercourse. She recently launched The Purple Passion Project podcast and previously authored "Confessions and Lessons of a Sexpert." Affiliate link to the book Paperback

 https://drstacyfriedman.com/

Listen to discover how prioritizing pleasure can transform your relationship and break generational cycles of shame and lack of female pleasure with sex.

Bio: Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, certified sex & intimacy coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project. With 26+ years in the medical field and 20+ years working in the sexuality field, Dr. Stacy helps people break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy—without shame. She works with all aspects of sexuality but specializes in mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, low libido, and the LGBTQ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel safe, real, and seriously empowering. Her motto: "My passion is to help you create yours." Because at the end of the day, you deserve connection that's honest, exciting, and hot as hell.

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Key Takeaways:

• **The clitoris contains over 10,000 nerve endings** – far more sensory receptors than commonly understood. Direct clitoral stimulation is essential for most women's pleasure rather than penetration alone.

• **Most women don't orgasm through penetration alone** – challenging the widespread myth that vaginal intercourse is the primary or sufficient path to female orgasm, revealing a fundamental gap in sexual education and cultural bias.

• **Sex toys are normalized tools for exploration, not replacements** – reframing vibrators and similar devices as legitimate aids for self-discovery and pleasure, equivalent to using any other tool, rather than signs of relationship inadequacy or dysfunction.

Season 5, Episode 709: Excerpt from Rejecting Queendom, a spicy Romantasy now in ebook, paperback, and audiobook. Rejecting Queendom

Book Blurb: 

A love too good. Power and intrigue can't fill a void in any heart but set it searching for something more.

Gabriella and Nocter fell in love as most do, but the difference was theirs bloomed in the sea. Their world was surrounded by the magical realm of the ocean, so their hearts were easily lulled into pristine moments that promised to be shining collections of the most amazing golden memories. They couldn't get enough of each other, nor could they steal enough moments to be satiated.

Nothing could separate them, nothing but what did. When things seemed too good to be true, the truth shattered their hunger for love and splintered it into a billion cells of heartache that not even the vastness of the sea could hold.
Tropes & Triggers:

- explicit language and spicy scenes
- daring to love
- their kingdom at risk
- sudden royalty
-kinky king
- an impossible choice
-shrinking woman
-kidnapping
-betrayal

Rejecting Queendom is an HEA Open Door Romantasy, where the romance is first and foremost.

Plus, bonus story replay Presenting Myself.

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Season 5, Episode 708: "Why are men so sexy in gray sweatpants?" she asked. (from the excerpt at the end of the episode from the book "Me + You" by Mallory Glass, coming soon! Narrated by Ruan Wilow.)

What happens when an old friend's challenge sparks a secret writing career that garners thousands of views overnight? Mallory Glass found out!

Twin Cities romance author Mallory Glass didn't expect her foray into sensual fiction to take off so quickly. After initially writing in secret, she published a 75,000-word story on Literotica that consistently earned ratings around 4.7 to 4.8 stars. Her debut novella "Stone Heart" and award-winning flash rom-com showcase her commitment to portraying positive communication and consent in romance, deliberately avoiding the tired miscommunication trope common in the genre, plus adding in humor.

Beyond the page, Mallory shares her home with a surprisingly hostile New Zealand rabbit that roams freely while she works. (The rabbit's personality definitely keeps things interesting.) After medically retiring in 2015, she returned to writing as therapeutic practice, discovering an unexpected passion for revision and editing. 

Through her work and upcoming micro press Sloth and Envy, Mallory champions sex positivity and bodily autonomy, transforming once-taboo vocabulary into celebrations of consensual human experience. She believes authenticity and fun should coexist in storytelling, and her writing reflects exactly that philosophy.

Listen to hear more about writing sensual fiction without shame.

Mallory Glass enjoys creating worlds within worlds for her characters to explore. She writes for those who love to embrace a temporary escape from reality.

When she's not engaged in vicarious angst over the antics of fictional characters, she digests too much media and suffers the antics of her hostile pet rabbit.

Her debut novella, Stone Heart, was released March 2025 from Sloth & Envy Press. Mallory's flash rom-com recently won first place in Writing Battle's professionally judged Heart contest. In October 2025, her short story "Wade vs. Roe" was published in Dread Mondays, a workplace horror anthology from Whisper House Press.

Mallory's college romance, Me + You, will be released in spring 2026.

She live in the Twin Cities, MN.

Find her on Bluesky as @mglaz.bsky.social or email mglass@slothandenvy.com

Get Mallory's book Stone Heart (affiliate link) Stone Heart

Coming soon to preorder Me + You (book this episode's excerpt is from)

Stone and Flame in preorder Preorder Stone & Flame

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Season 5, Episode 707: Romance Book, Fiction Excerpt with an Older Woman and Virgin Younger Man, First Time Scene from the Book Me and You by Mallory Glass, narrated by podcast host and narrator Ruan Willow.

 In this scene, the two MCs run into each other in the library on a Saturday night and adjourn to a basement office where they've been fooling around together for the past few weeks. They had
planned to have sex for the first time earlier that week but were interrupted. That was followed by tension between the MMC crossed the boundary they had set on the limits of their relationship by inviting her to his apartment. This scene ends up being more spontaneous and unexpected for both of them. Because it's intended to be the MMC's first time, we are in his POV.

About the author Mallory Glass: Come back for the author interview episode!

Mallory Glass enjoys creating worlds within worlds for her characters to explore. She writes for those who love to embrace a temporary escape from reality.

When she's not engaged in vicarious angst over the antics of fictional characters, she digests too much media and suffers the antics of her hostile pet rabbit.

Her debut novella, Stone Heart, was released March 2025 from Sloth & Envy Press. Mallory's flash rom-com recently won first place in Writing Battle's professionally judged Heart contest. In October 2025, her short story "Wade vs. Roe" was published in Dread Mondays, a workplace horror anthology from Whisper House Press.

Mallory's college romance, Me + You, will be released in spring 2026.

She live in the Twin Cities, MN.

Find her on Bluesky as @mglaz.bsky.social or email mglass@slothandenvy.com

Get Mallory's book Stone Heart (affiliate link) Stone Heart

Coming soon to preorder Me + You (book this episode's excerpt is from)

Stone and Flame in preorder Preorder Stone & Flame

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Season 5, Episode 705: Enjoy an excerpt from the book "Tempting Tara", written by Cozy DuBois, narrated by podcast host Ruan Willow, then come back and watch the full interview episode featuring Cozy DuBois!

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Book Blurb published online: 

With a former fling now a cherished friendship, Tara secretly longs for more. But is desire enough to bridge two damaged souls?

Tara Sanderson is determined to be a good friend when Lee and Antonio's upcoming wedding means countless hours in close company with Gabe Cooper, the best man and her secret ex-flame. Armed with her many rules and meager emotional resilience, she hides her feelings to protect herself. Friendship is more than enough; the man who unknowingly broke her heart has become a beloved friend.

After years of therapy and seclusion to recover from a string of abusive relationships, Gabe feels whole enough to love again. His obsessive infatuation with the stranger who stole his shattered heart has healed into manageable yearning for the Tara he's come to know. Instead of pining after yet another person who will never love him back—or worse, pursuing her and losing their friendship—he reluctantly agrees to the blind dates his mom sets up for him.

Tara's self-control slips after learning he's looking for love with anyone but her, revealing she's not as content to be "just friends" as she pretends. Ever the hopeless romantic, Gabe tries to show Tara how good they could be together. Tara must break all her rules to accept the happiness she longs for, but her habit of running from her feelings may be more than Gabe's still-fragile heart can bear.

Connect with author Cozy DuBois

Cozy Dubois (they/them) thought writing fiction was a long-lost hobby. A longtime lover of romance novels, Cozy has renewed their love for writing by telling stories for and about LGBTQ+ people. They hope to bring more books into the world that represent the complex and entangled relationships between friends, lovers, and chosen family found in the queer community they love. 

Based in Minneapolis, they enjoy life with their partner, two hound dogs, a regal queen of a cat, dozens of houseplants, and a garden that has seen better days. Find them with a beverage in hand on a patio anytime the temp is above freezing or planning their next vacation when it's not.

 

Season 5, Episode 703: Dive into an exhilarating conversation with the multi-talented Reagan Foxx, an award-nominated actress and passionate advocate for mental health in the adult industry. In this episode, we explore Reagan's journey from a shy individual to a celebrated performer, discussing her impressive nominations for Best Actress and her role as an ambassador for Pineapple Support, an organization dedicated to providing mental health resources for adult performers.

Reagan shares her experiences navigating the complexities of the adult film industry, including the challenges of being shadow banned and the importance of authenticity in her performances. We delve into her thoughts on ageism in the industry, her personal growth, and how she balances her career with her role as a mother. With candid discussions about the stigma surrounding sexuality and the role of sex toys in personal empowerment, this episode is packed with insight and inspiration.

Join us as we celebrate Reagan's achievements, her passion for acting, and her commitment to supporting fellow performers. This is a conversation you won't want to miss!

Highlights:

•  You're the fourth performer to ever get two best actress nominations
• The award season for both XMA and AVN starts in January
• How did you get into camming? Was it a surprise to you
• Started at such a later age
• You want that genuine feel when you're acting, right
• What are your favorite scenes to film? You know, it's kind of interesting
• Do you feel like you putting your content out there is a challenge
• You are an ambassador for Pineapple Support, an anti-suicide and mental health organization
• X Biz Business Executive Award
• Is there anything you've done that you kind of regret?
• Do you enjoy doing the scenes or does it feel more like work?
• So are you a sex toy fan and do you have a favorite?
• People who are disabled can use sex toys, right? Yes. People, no people, should not feel ashamed of buying them, they are simply tools
• Do you have anything coming up beyond the awards season?
• Do you find where you have to work a ton or you can be selective?
• Do you feel like you've got a good base of content?
• Do you do a workout plan to keep yourself the way you want to be?
• What are some hobbies that you have that people may not know?
• We've just had a cold snap here. Yeah, it's cold. So we like, we're below zero...
• Do you have anything fun you do for Christmas that you'd like to share?
• Do you get recognized a lot when you're out and about?
• Where can people find you if they want to find your content? Instagram Reaganfoxx, on X The Reagan Foxx?
• Are you going to completely be done doing this and retire?

Key takeaways:

• Reagan entered adult entertainment through camming after her family's appraisal business collapsed during the 2008 housing crisis—a career pivot driven by economic necessity rather than long-term ambition.

• She intentionally avoids rewatching her own performances to preserve authenticity in acting and maintain psychological distance from her work.

• Social media platforms selectively censor sexual education content from adult performers and other educators while permitting other provocative material in ads for businesses, creating inconsistent standards that Reagan and Ruan both view as highly hypocritical, biased, and unfair, and violating the First Amendment right to free speech in the US.

Other Holiday Erotic Fiction Stories:

Holiday Smut: Santa Gives 12 Orgasms of Christmas

The Smutty Little Holiday Audiobook Smutty Spicy Holiday Stories

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Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays! Thanks for listening!

Season 5, Episode 702: Two Hot Santa Stories, An Excerpt from Santa Gives An Erotic Gift (get the full story on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/posts/naughty-santa-75274414  and Unwrap Me (The Full Story is in the episode).

Santa Gives An Erotic Gift: 

Join a woman, let's call her Mrs. Claus, on a sensual erotic journey in this sexy story where her lover dresses up as Santa. He intends to give her what she's always wanted because she's been a good girl. She's waiting for her lover to return home for their annual Santa-spanking intimate holiday date. He instructs her to dress up in Mrs.Claus lingerie and put on a blindfold. She is to sit on the couch to wait for her sexy surprise. She's so horny and excited that she can hardly contain herself. Her holiday joy explodes when she realizes the erotic gift her lover has gifted her; she gets just what she wants for Christmas.

The story is told in first person from the woman's perspective in mostly internal monologue style.

Unwrap me by the tree:

A fun loving spicy Christmas tale of an at home HOT date where she gets unwrapped by the tree, and she's wearing the paper! Told in 2nd person.

Other Holiday Erotic Fiction Stories:

Holiday Smut: Santa Gives 12 Orgasms of Christmas

The Smutty Little Holiday Audiobook Smutty Spicy Holiday Stories

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Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays! Thanks for listening!

Season 5, Episode 701: Topics include Relationships, Confessions, Personal story, sexuality and intimacy.

Guest: Gallo Chingon 

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/gallo.s.chingon/ Reddit https://www.reddit.com/user/gallo-s-chingon/

Have you ever wondered where the line falls between enjoying sex and using it as an escape?

Gallo Chingon sat through Celebrate Recovery meetings out of boredom, supporting a friend, when someone else's addiction story struck him with unexpected force. By mentally replacing "drugs" with "sex" in the speaker's words, he suddenly recognized his own patterns—nineteen out of twenty behaviors driven purely by pursuit. For nearly twenty years, he'd measured his masculinity by numbers, treating women disposably and manipulating without remorse (behavior that eventually contributed to homelessness). When his ex-wife revealed his betrayals to their daughter at age twelve, it severed their relationship for over twenty years.

Through therapy and programs like Celebrate Recovery, Gallo learned the crucial distinction between sex and intimacy. "They're fundamentally different experiences," he explains. While he now maintains a polyamorous relationship and works actively with therapists to build emotional connection, he still struggles to link physical intimacy with genuine feelings. His damaged dopamine and oxytocin systems leave him emotionally numb during sex, even as he pursues healthier long-term partnerships.

By understanding the difference between using sex as stress relief and creating meaningful connection, it transformed everything.

Listen how recognizing addiction patterns can open pathways to genuine intimacy and personal growth.

Key Takeaways:

• **Sex addiction operates identically to substance addiction, though are not the same because no substance is involved** — Gallo's compulsive sexual behavior triggered the same dopamine-seeking cycle as drugs, revealing that behavioral addictions can be neurologically equivalent to chemical dependencies rather than mere moral failings.

• **Chronic sexual compulsion creates emotional numbness** — Rather than seeking pleasure, his addictive patterns actually dulled his capacity to feel, making genuine intimacy impossible and trapping him in a paradoxical cycle where more sexual activity meant less actual sensation.

• **Recovery doesn't eliminate the struggle** — Even within a polyamorous relationship with therapeutic support, Gallo continues wrestling with integrating physical and emotional connection, demonstrating that healing is ongoing rather than a destination, and structured recovery alone cannot solve the deeper relational work required.

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Season 5, Episode 700: By the Bonfire Sex Game Excerpt. We are by the bonfire one steamy night and things get extra hot. Enjoy this sexy bonfire sex game told in the second person, so "you" participate in this sexy scene where pretending to be horny fireflies turns into kinky intense hide and seek.

This story is a yummy display of consensual desires and a rendering of delicious exciting masculine dominance and alluring lush feminine submission.

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Season 5, Episode 699: Eleven Years of Anonymity and Sex Confessions: How Radical Non-Judgment Built a Top-Charting Confessions Podcast...meet the podcaster Kathy Kay! She has interviewed people about their secret sex lives for 11 years and turned her favorite stories into a book!

*THE BOOK IS NOW OUT!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/47ApifU

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*Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed.

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Key Takeaways:

• **Anonymity enables radical honesty** — Removing the host's identity, combined with genuine non-judgment, unlocked unprecedented vulnerability from callers that wouldn't occur in traditional media formats.

• **Hosting changed the host more than the audience** — Years of listening to others' intimate confessions made Kathy significantly less judgmental of herself and others, fundamentally shifting her personal worldview. Hosting the podcast helped her in personal growth and self discovery.

• **Success requires protecting loved ones from it** — Despite building a top-charting show, Kathy deliberately hides her professional identity from family to shield them from potential social judgment, suggesting visibility and intimacy can't always coexist.

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Season 5, Episode 698: Kevin is Candy's Dom. She revels in being his sub and triggering him into his dominant, intense, sexy Dom mode. He's working. But she's horny. She's got plans and it involves pulling out her sexual charms from her tool belt.

As he comes down the stairs, she ambushes him with her talents and what she gets is exactly what she wants. The results are delicious to them both.

**Enjoy this short smutty story which was originally spun as erotic improv by podcaster Ruan Willow as she narrated this story live as a recording for her podcast Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan Willow.

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**Shame doesn't just make you feel bad, it fundamentally shapes how you experience your own body and desires.**

Returning guest Dr. Alison Ash breaks down exactly why shame is so destructive to sexual wellness. Unlike guilt (which says you did something wrong), shame tells you that *you yourself* are wrong, creating a deep fear of rejection that literally dysregulates your nervous system. This isn't something we're born with. It develops through early experiences where we internalize negative reactions, eventually becoming that harsh inner critic voice.

The contradictory messages are especially confusing: women should look desirable but not actually desire, while men should always be sexually available yet their desire is somehow dangerous. These cultural and religious influences create confusion that conscious rejection alone can't fix.

Here's where it gets interesting: empathy is shame's antidote. When someone truly accepts you without judgment, healing becomes possible. (This is why finding sex-positive communities matters so much.) Dr. Aly explains how even BDSM can be healing for trauma survivors through consensual power exchange—reclaiming control over experiences where they previously had none.

What if the fantasies or interests that make you feel broken are actually completely normal?

Ready to understand the difference between your own feelings and society's expectations? This conversation offers practical strategies for recognizing shame's sources and reclaiming your agency.

Estimated Timeline:

00:00:00 - Moving Through Shame and Sexual Wellness
00:02:09 - Guilt vs Shame: Understanding the Inner Critic
00:04:47 - Inner Shame and Sexuality's Cultural Conditioning
00:08:56 - Shame's Impact on Sexual Pleasure and Embodiment
00:10:48 - Shame, Empathy, and Healing Through Connection
00:14:33 - Power Exchange as Healing and Shame Reframing
00:17:43 - Reading Fiction as Healing and Normalization
00:19:14 - Shame Prevents Us From Enjoying Pleasure
00:21:33 - Building Trust Through Gradual Vulnerability
00:26:02 - Understanding Sexual Non-Concordance and Shame
00:28:45 - Unpacking Body Shame Through Conversation
00:32:56 - Lubrication Myths and Sexual Shame
00:35:17 - Being Selective About Who You Share With
00:37:09 - Sex Toys as Tools, Not Shame
00:41:12 - Internet's Role in Community and Identity
00:44:00 - Building Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills

Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering intimate experiences. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to be able to cultivate and sustain nourishing emotional and sexual intimacy. Dr. Aly invites you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love 

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We all receive messages about who we are supposed to be, how we ought to feel, and how we should express ourselves, often enforced through shame and disconnection. Featuring 8 classes with a woven balance of science-based data, embodied exploration, and skills development designed to support you in creating, deepening, and sustaining sexual and emotional intimacy in your relationship(s). Recordings available for those who can't attend live or want extra review. Super early bird tickets available now for $200-$400 off!

Coaching:   Last but not least, reach out to Dr. Aly for individual, couples, and ENM coaching support!    All links: www.TurnON.love  Sustainable Intimacy Retreat: https://www.turnon.love/sustainable-intimacy-retreat Sustainable Intimacy On Demand Rental: https://www.turnon.love/sustainable-intimacy SEIS course: https://www.turnon.love/sexual-and-emotional-intimacy-skills Coaching: https://www.turnon.love/sex-and-intimacy-coaching

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Age Gap Excerpt from John Gives His Wife Hot Adventures. This is a short excerpt from the book because the podcast host platform is now censoring me, after five years of being fine with my content. I will be looking for a new host platform that doesn't censor love and romance. We should all be fighting for our rights to free speech. Censorship comes in many forms, like this where they are de-platforming me. Never stop fighting for the right to free speech from the First Amendment of the United States. Protect the First Amendment!

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Episode 695: From Threesomes to Non-Monogamy: One Man's Journey Beyond Jealousy and Shame with author Adam Darrow about his edgy, honest, and raw memoir "Seek the Risk" (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/3KrboVR

When Adam Darrow met Jane at forty, he thought he was the adventurous one. After all, he'd spent his twenties competing in extreme sports and had explored threesomes—that made him pretty edgy, right? Then Jane, a PhD psychologist who spoke five languages, told him she didn't do boyfriends (and she meant it). Drawing from his background in extreme sports, Darrow spent two and a half years transitioning into non-monogamy, followed by three challenging years of emotional work before finding equilibrium.

The journey wasn't easy. When Jane publicly announced their arrangement on Facebook in 2009, Darrow watched his life wildly transform. His best friend called him derogatory names. But over time, he discovered something unexpected: jealousy could be channeled into motivation to become a better partner. What initially felt emasculating became an opportunity to overcome deep-seated insecurities like imposter syndrome and validation-seeking.

His memoir chronicles this transformative experience through vulnerable storytelling that includes explicit extreme sexual details and uncomfortable emotional truths, as well as healing and growth. How did keeping emotions bottled up nearly break him? The book explores that question while advocating for moving beyond societal shame around sexuality, relationship conformity, and focusing on personal authenticity rather than rigid beliefs about relationships.

Estimated Timeline:  Adam Darrow's Journey Into Non-Monogamy
00:03:40 - PhD Psychologist with Unconventional Past
00:06:43 - Extreme Sports Skills Applied to Non-Monogamy
00:09:13 - Separating Sex from Emotion in Relationships
00:19:57 - Managing Jealousy Through Don't Ask, Don't Tell
00:22:26 - From Jealousy to Compersion in Open Relationships
00:25:11 - Breaking Through Shame and Choosing Each Other
00:28:42 - Walking the Beach: Questioning My Limits, book excerpt
00:33:17 - Understanding Nesting Couples and Non-Monogamy
00:39:43 - Letting Go of Control in Relationships
00:46:22 - Vulnerability and Authenticity in Memoir Writing
00:51:51 - Writing the Book and Her Reaction
00:58:17 - Identity Beyond Sexual Acts, sexuality
01:06:44 - Overcoming Jealousy Through Personal Growth
01:11:27 - Healthy vs Unhealthy Jealousy in Relationships

Connect with Adam Darrow: 

• Link to the books website  www.seektherisk.net
• Substack seektherisk.substack.com
• Email for folks to contact Adam at adam@seektherisk.net
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