In this eye-opening episode, we delve into the dynamic world of an INTJ Type 1 mother raising her free-spirited ENFP Type 7 daughter. With a focus on the contrasts and complements between the thinking and feeling brains, we explore how these personality types uniquely influence their parenting and child-rearing experiences. Shana, an INTJ mother known for her structured approach and keen sense of order, shares her personal journey towards understanding and embracing her daughter Savannah's exuberant and spontaneous ENFP personality. This episode sheds light on the challenges and triumphs of letting her free-spirited child learn valuable life lessons through experience, while also emphasizing the importance of parental self-awareness in fostering a nurturing environment for vastly different personalities.

 

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Balancing Thinking and Feeling: Strategies for integrating a rational, organized approach with a need for emotional and creative expression, ensuring both mother and daughter thrive.

 

Embracing Free-Spirited Learning: How the mother has learned to loosen the reins and allow her daughter the freedom to explore the world, make mistakes, and grow from them in her own unique way.

 

Parental Self-Awareness: The crucial role of self-reflection in parenting, especially when dealing with personality types that starkly contrast with one's own. Shana discusses how understanding her own biases and limitations has been key to her growth as a parent.

 

Navigating Opposite Characteristics: A deep dive into the day-to-day interactions and long-term planning that come with managing differing needs and desires, highlighting both the struggles and the beautiful moments of connection.

 

Join us for a heartfelt and practical conversation that not only highlights the complexities of such diverse personality combinations but also provides real-world advice for parents facing similar challenges. Whether you’re an INTJ, ENFP, or any other personality type, this episode offers valuable lessons on patience, understanding, and love in the face of differences.

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

 

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

 

Are you raising a future innovator, strategist, or systems architect? The INTJ is one of the rarest and most independent types—especially in girls—and their complex inner world can leave even the most insightful parent scratching their head. In this episode, we dive into the psychology behind the INTJ temperament, from their mysterious inner vision to their intense need for autonomy, structure, and meaning. Learn how to parent an INTJ child with confidence by understanding their four psychological functions (Ni, Te, Fi, Se), how they show up in babies, grade schoolers, teens, and adults, and what kinds of real-world activities will light them up. You’ll also hear practical tips for helping INTJs build emotional awareness, balance their perfectionism, and adjust to life’s inevitable curveballs. ✨ Take the free temperament test and find out if your child is an INTJ.

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

 

NT personality types—ENTP, INTJ, INTP, and ENTJ—are known for their sharp intellect, fierce independence, and big-picture thinking. But when it comes to friendship, their strengths can also be their biggest struggles. In this episode, we break down how NTs approach relationships using the TRUE framework: Trust, Respect, Understanding, and Encouragement.

You’ll learn: ✅ Why NTs need mental stimulation to feel connected ✅ What makes them loyal (and what pushes them away) ✅ Why emotions can feel like a foreign language ✅ How NTs support friends in practical—but often overlooked—ways

Whether you're an NT yourself or have one in your life, this episode offers clarity, humor, and powerful takeaways to strengthen your friendships with the thinkers and strategists of the world.

 

 

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

 

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

Do you have a friend who craves deep, meaningful conversations, champions your dreams, and feels emotions with unmatched intensity? If so, you might have an NF (Intuitive Feeler) friend! Known for their depth, passion, and emotional intelligence, NFs (ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP) are the visionaries, dreamers, and counselors of the friendship world.

But with their high expectations, sensitivity, and desire for novelty, friendships with NFs can be both deeply rewarding and occasionally challenging. In this episode, we break down the NF friend using the TRUE framework (Trust, Respect, Understanding, Encouragement) to explore:

✅ Why NFs form soul-level connections but can struggle with feeling unseen or lonely. ✅ How their idealism and deep emotions impact friendships—for better or worse. ✅ Their love for novelty and growth—and how boredom can create restlessness. ✅ How to be a great friend to an NF—and what they need in return.

If you’re an NF, this episode will help you understand your friendship patterns and challenges. If you have an NF in your life, you’ll gain insight into what makes them such inspiring and devoted friends.

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

 

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

Are you looking for a steady, dependable friend who always remembers birthdays, follows through on commitments, and shows up when it counts? Then you need an SJ friend! In this episode, we explore the Guardian temperament (SJ types: ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)—the friends who hold everything together with their structure, loyalty, and strong sense of responsibility.

But just like every type, SJs have friendship strengths and struggles. While they’re incredibly reliable and thoughtful, they can also be overly rigid, controlling, or struggle with emotional connection and encouragement.

Join me as we break down the SJ friend using the TRUE friendship framework: ✅ True – Their unmatched loyalty and dependability—but also their struggles with control and holding grudges. ✅ Respect – How SJs show up for others but sometimes struggle with boundaries or taking on too much responsibility. ✅ Understanding – The difference between emotionally attuned SFJs and logical, solution-focused STJs (and how that impacts listening and empathy). ✅ Encouragement – Why SJs show support through actions rather than words—and why SFJs may need reassurance but struggle to ask for it.

Whether you’re an SJ, have an SJ friend, or just want to deepen your understanding of different friendship dynamics, this episode is packed with insights, humor, and practical takeaways. Tune in now!

 

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

 

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

 

SP's or Sensory Perceivers in the Myer's Briggs system, are the thrill-seekers, the spontaneous adventurers, and the friends who can turn an ordinary Tuesday into a legendary night. But are they reliable friends, or just here for a good time?

In this episode, we break down:

• Different types of SP friends—from the Party Starter to the Flaky Friend
• Why SPs struggle with commitment and deep listening
• How to appreciate their energy while setting healthy boundaries
• The TRUE framework—where SPs shine and where they struggle

If you’ve ever been frustrated by a last-minute cancellation or loved a friend who pushes you out of your comfort zone, this episode is for you!

🔊 Tune in now!

 

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

 

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

In this episode, we delve into the age-old debate of nature versus nurture and its impact on our temperament.

Discover the findings of an eighty-year Harvard happiness study, revealing that 50% of our happiness capacity is determined by our temperament, which is set at birth. Despite this, we often focus on changing our circumstances rather than accepting our inherent strengths. We explore how temperament influences our reactions to life's challenges and how understanding our children's temperament is crucial for effective parenting.

Drawing from real-life examples and psychological research, we examine how temperament manifests from infancy and shapes our experiences and interactions. From fussy babies to strong-willed toddlers, each child exhibits unique traits that remain consistent throughout their lives.

Join us as we explore the four main personality patterns: Cooperators (Ox), and (Human)  Challengers (Lion), and (Scarecrows). Through anecdotes and character analyses from literature, such as "The Wizard of Oz," we gain insight into the characteristics and motivations of each personality type.

Don't miss out on practical tips for parenting and fostering harmony within your family, tailored to the specific needs of each personality pattern. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of nature versus nurture and its profound impact on our lives.

 

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Making friends as an adult is harder than anyone ever warned us about. Unlike childhood, where friendships formed effortlessly on the playground, or college, where connections were built into dorm life, adulthood throws us new challenges—busy schedules, shifting priorities, and the reality that making (and keeping) friendships takes effort.

This is a topic I love and have spent a lot of time thinking about. Years ago, I led a seminar on friendship and connection, and despite facing plenty of obstacles, I’ve been able to build an incredible, supportive group of friends. But it wasn’t by accident—it was by understanding what makes friendships work and taking intentional steps to cultivate them.

Recently, I came across Mel Robbins’ Three Pillars of Friendship—Proximity, Time/Phase of Life, and Energy—and I found myself nodding along because, yes, these are the things that make or break friendships. I also love her Let Them Philosophy, but what I’ve also embraced is the ‘Let Me’ Approach—the idea that Let me be the one to reach out, Let me be the one to host the party, Let me take responsibility for building the connections I want in my life.

In this episode, I’m diving into all of this—why making friends in adulthood is hard, how to navigate it, and how to take action to build real, meaningful relationships.

And stay tuned, because in upcoming episodes, I’ll be exploring the different types of friends based on personality—what strengths they bring to relationships, where imbalances may show up, and how to cultivate deeper connections by understanding temperament.

If you’ve been struggling to find or deepen friendships, or just want to be more intentional about the relationships in your life, this episode is for you. 

 

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

 

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

 

Every parent dreams of setting their kids up for success—protecting them from pain, offering them opportunities, and giving them the tools to thrive. But what if, in trying to shield our kids from struggles, we’re actually limiting their potential?

What if you could give your child a superpower—a mindset that turns challenges into opportunities, builds confidence through healthy struggles, and equips them to create value for themselves and others? I had my first paper route in the 3rd grade! Getting up early, rain or shine, instilled a work ethic in me and taught me so much more than an allowance ever did. That was back in the days when you had to collect the money from your customers by going door to door.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into the principles of Value Creation Kid, a proven roadmap to raising financially competent, responsible, and resilient kids. Joining us is Lee Benson, a seasoned entrepreneur with over 25 years of experience as a CEO. Lee grew and sold his company, Able Aerospace, for 9-figures and now helps low income families thrive.

Lee shares practical insights, including:

• How letting kids have healthy struggles builds resilience.

• Lee’s childhood was rough and full of Ace’s Adverse Childhood Expereinces, but despite this he learned how to turn struggles into capabilities and confidence. (See the 10 Ace questions below.)
• 55+ “Home Gigs (jobs)” to help kids earn, save, spend, and learn financial independence.

Lee’s struggles and expertise, combined with actionable steps for parents, will inspire you to equip your kids with the confidence and grit to succeed in the real world. Get ready to join the movement toward raising 50 million financially capable kids! And don’t forget to take a free personality test for your child at wendygossett.com

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The 10 ACE Questions

Here’s a general breakdown of the questions:

Abuse

1. Emotional Abuse: Did a parent or other adult in the household often insult, humiliate, or put you down? Did they make you feel afraid you might be physically hurt?
2. Physical Abuse: Did a parent or other adult in the household often push, grab, slap, or throw something at you? Or ever hit you so hard that you had marks or were injured?
3. Sexual Abuse: Did an adult or older person ever touch you inappropriately, try to make you touch them sexually, or force you into sexual contact?

Neglect

1. Emotional Neglect: Did you often feel that no one in your family loved you or thought you were important or special? Or that your family didn’t look out for or support each other?
2. Physical Neglect: Did you often feel that you didn’t have enough to eat, had to wear dirty clothes, or had no one to protect you? Or that your parents were too drunk or high to care for you or take you to the doctor if needed?

Household Dysfunction

1. Parental Separation or Divorce: Were your parents ever separated or divorced?
2. Domestic Violence: Did your mother or stepmother (or another household adult) often get pushed, grabbed, slapped, or have something thrown at them? Or did they ever get hit, kicked, or threatened with a weapon?
3. Substance Abuse: Did you live with anyone who was a problem drinker or alcoholic, or who used drugs?
4. Mental Illness: Was a household member often depressed, mentally ill, or suicidal?
5. Incarceration: Did a household member go to prison?

 

How the ACE Score Works

Each "yes" response equals 1 point, resulting in a total ACE score ranging from 0 to 10. Higher scores indicate a greater exposure to childhood adversity, which is associated with an increased risk of long-term health, emotional, and behavioral challenges.

 

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

 

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

Set up a FREE Chat: https://wendygossett.as.me/ChatwithWendy

Take my FREE child temperament test:  https://wendygossett.com/child-inner-drive-assessment-product/

Request a FREE Adult Temperament/Enneagram/Instincts Test: https://wendygossett.com/

Website: Wendy Gossett.com Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/ or email me at WendyGossett.com

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Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

What if the key to motivating your child wasn’t punishment or rewards, but when and how you give recognition? In this episode, we explore the science of random praise and variable reinforcement—a proven method that builds self-motivation and resilience. Learn how to adapt traditional reward systems, foster trust, and tailor your praise to your child’s unique temperament. Whether your child is bold, sensitive, curious, or cautious, you’ll gain practical strategies to help them thrive. Tune in for relatable stories, actionable tips, and insights to transform your parenting journey.

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

 

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

Welcome to Not So Normal Parenting, where we dive into the complexities of raising children through the lens of

This mom first connected with me after finding my videos on YouTube and reading my parenting book, not just once, but twice. Through our coaching sessions, we developed practical strategies like a token system that gives her daughter the independence and structure she craves while teaching essential skills like collaboration and flexibility.

One of the biggest challenges we explore is how this mom is learning to model empathy for her daughter. As an ENTJ, empathy isn’t her daughter’s natural strength, and it’s something the mom has had to work on herself to guide and support her little one.

Whether you’re parenting a “mini-me” or navigating the dynamics of a strong-willed child, this episode is full of relatable insights and actionable tips. Let’s dive in!

 personality and temperament. Today, I’m speaking with an ENTJ mom who’s parenting her equally determined 4-year-old daughter—also an ENTJ.

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

 

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

 

Join us this week as we dive into a powerful conversation with Maggie Albrow, a special education teacher who brings a unique perspective to autism. Diagnosed herself and raising two children on the spectrum, she shares practical parenting strategies that anyone can use to better understand their child’s needs, whether or not they have autism. We’ll explore how her ISTJ personality shapes her approach and dive into her son’s ISTP traits, showing how personality and autism intersect to create unique parenting paths. Plus, we’ll break down the differences between high-functioning autism and a naturally withdrawn personality, offering valuable insights for parents looking to support and connect with their kids on a deeper level."

My son Nathan demonstrated some symptoms when he was younger but as an adult he graduated magna cum laude with a pre med degree and  he is about to take the MCAT exam to get into med school. Here are some of those symptoms:

• Highly repetitive behaviors, such as hand-flapping, rocking, or repeating specific phrases.
• Unusual responses to sensory input, such as covering ears in noisy environments or fascination with particular textures.
• Limited eye contact or unusual speech patterns (e.g., very literal or highly scripted language).
• Difficulty with reciprocal social interactions, like sharing enjoyment or showing empathy in conventional ways.

Many people on the autism spectrum tend to score as introverts (I types) on MBTI. Introversion doesn’t cause or correlate with autism directly, but the inclination toward internal processing can align with certain experiences of autistic individuals, who may feel overstimulated by social interactions or need time alone to recharge.

Social and Communication Challenges: People with autism may find it difficult to interpret social cues, understand nonverbal communication, or initiate and maintain conversations. Fe in backseat, especially INTPs.

Repetitive Behaviors and Routines: Many individuals engage in repetitive behaviors, have strong preferences for routines, and may experience distress if these routines are disrupted. Si SJ

Sensory Sensitivities: Many experience sensory sensitivities, reacting strongly to sights, sounds, textures, or smells that others may not notice or be affected by. Si, Se How often do sensory issues show up in autism and how do you handle these sensitivities?

Intense Interests or Focused Hobbies: People with autism often develop deep interests in specific subjects or activities, sometimes with an exceptional level of detail or knowledge. NT Type 5

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

 

Are you struggling to find a therapist who truly understands and connects with your child? You’re not alone. Pediatricians tell me that over half of the concerns they see in their practice are tied to mental health—whether it’s the child the parents, or both.

Tody, I’m thrilled to introduce you to a mom I’ve had the honor of coaching. She’s an incredible parent, a natural caregiver, and a community leader. As a Type 2 on the Enneagram and an ESFJ in the Myers-Briggs system, her personality is known for warmth, compassion, and generosity. Yet, her intuitive and sensitive INFP Type 4 daughter needed a different approach to thrive.

In this episode, you’ll hear how our sessions—working one-on-one with her daughter and then together as a family—helped transform their relationship. This journey gave them tools to embrace their differences, compromise effectively, and connect more deeply.

If you’re ready to take the first step toward transforming your relationship with your child, sign up for a free consultation today. Your family’s breakthrough may be closer than you think!

 

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

 

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

Do you ever feel trapped in a cycle of triggers, reactions, and meltdowns with your child? You’re not alone, and today we’re diving into how to break that exhausting pattern. In this episode, we’ll explore the Trigger Trap Reaction Cycle and why it can make us sound like our own moms or dads—despite our best intentions. You’ll learn how to respond calmly instead of reacting in the heat of the moment, reset your child’s regulation through intentional connection, and build their executive function skills. Plus, we’ll talk about why one-size-fits-all tantrum strategies don’t work and how proactive parenting can help you teach skills when your child is calm. If you’re ready to shift from survival mode to connection and problem-solving, this episode is for you!

In this episode:

Trigger Trap Reaction Cycle

Calm Response vs. Knee Jerk Reaction

Reset Your Child's Regulation Through Intentional Connection

 

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

 

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

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What do you really want? It’s a question we often answer with things we don’t have—a bigger house, a better job, more time. But what if the most powerful wants are the ones you already have? The partner you chose, the kids you prayed for, the home you once dreamed of, or the life you built step by step.

In this episode, we’ll explore: ✨ Deciding again: Stop living in default mode. Revisit your goals, your routines, your identity, and ask yourself: “Do I still choose this?” ✨ Wanting what you already have: Go beyond gratitude and affirm the value of what’s in front of you—your relationships, home, family, and even yourself. ✨ Powerful exercises:

• Write 25 things you want, big or small, to reconnect with your desires.
• Make a second list of 25 things you already have that you still want.

When you choose your life again, you shift from scarcity to abundance. You rediscover joy in what you’ve built and set the stage for growth—not out of longing, but from appreciation.

So, take a moment. Look around. Ask yourself: What do I want? What do I already have that I still want?

If change scares you, remember this: Growth doesn’t mean becoming someone new—it means becoming a better version of yourself. Keep moving forward, keep evolving, and keep choosing your life. 🚲

Tune in and discover how deciding again can transform your perspective and your future.

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

 

Does your teen claim they’re the last person on earth with an iPhone 12? Or maybe your younger child is begging for a Barbie dreamhouse with a party room and pool while you’re still saving for a dishwasher that works. Entitlement can sneak into our homes, especially during the holidays, but there’s hope!

In this episode, we’ll explore 5 practical ways to address entitlement in kids. From getting them involved in chores to fostering gratitude, we’ll discuss how to redirect their focus from “I deserve” to “I appreciate.” Plus, we’ll tackle the tricky "But everyone has one!" conversation with humor and grace.

If you’re tired of the “I want it now” attitude, tune in to learn how to cultivate responsibility, generosity, and contentment in your kids this holiday season.

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

 

The holidays are a season of gratitude and connection, and finding the perfect gift for your loved ones can make it even more special. But what if you could tailor your gifts to reflect the unique personality of each person? In this episode, we break down the perfect gift ideas for every Enneagram type—both adults and kids—so you can give with intention and thoughtfulness.

From the practical, high-quality picks that Type 1s love to the adventurous and joyful surprises perfect for Type 7s, we’ll help you match each gift with the qualities that make each type shine. Plus, discover the joy of a fun family activity: the Domino Chain Reaction Challenge—a creative and interactive game to bring everyone together this holiday season.

Join in for ideas that spark joy, build connection, and truly celebrate the people you love.

Listen now for a gift guide that will make your holiday shopping meaningful, memorable, and stress-free!

Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

 

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

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This Thanksgiving season, let’s pause to recognize and celebrate the unique qualities that each Enneagram type brings to our lives. Inspired by expert insights, we’ll explore how appreciating specific traits in your loved ones can deepen connections and strengthen family bonds. From the wisdom of Type 5s to the joy of Type 7s, you’ll discover how these qualities shape the world for the better. Plus, I’ll share a fun and creative family activity—The Turkey in Disguise Game—that’s perfect for bringing everyone together for some laughter and creativity this holiday season. Join me for a thoughtful episode that will help you see the beauty in those around you. Grab a copy of this list by emailing me at wendy@wendygossett.com.

Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

 

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

Take my FREE child temperament test: https://wendygossett.com/child-inner-drive-assessment-product/

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Overcome the holiday hustle with intentional focus tailored to your Enneagram type! In this episode, we kick off a six-part holiday series filled with lighthearted lists and meaningful activities for all the Enneagram types. You'll discover how to avoid holiday traps, embrace your unique gifts, and connect with the deeper meaning of the season. Plus, every type is matched with a famous Christmas song to help you stay grounded, inspired, and intentional throughout the holidays. Whether you're a busy Type 3 Achiever, a generous Type 2 Helper, or a reflective Type 4 Individualist, there's something here for everyone. Tune in for practical tips, family-friendly ideas, and a creative activity to bring holiday cheer to your neighborhood!

 

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

 

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

Website: Wendy Gossett.com

Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/category/resources/ or email me at WendyGossett.com

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In today’s episode, we are exploring the 1-on-1 sexual instinct and how it shapes our relationships, desires, and even our personal growth. Many of us experience an intense need for deep, one-on-one connections, but few realize how much this instinct impacts not just our romantic lives but all areas of connection. Whether you're wondering why you crave intense relationships, struggle when the ‘honeymoon phase’ ends, or want to better understand your own instinctual needs, this episode is for you. Stay tuned to learn about the types that become countertypes due to this powerful instinct, and discover practical steps to find fulfillment beyond just romance.

Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

 

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector.

Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

In this episode, we continue our series on the Enneagram's instinctual subtypes by focusing on the social instinct—the drive that leads us to connect, belong, and find our place in the world. Social types bring a unique energy to relationships, excelling at creating harmonious environments, whether organizing family events or fostering friendships. We'll explore how to identify social tendencies in yourself, your partner, or your children and understand how this instinct can enrich relationships.

Plus, learn why some Enneagram types with this instinct may not fit the typical descriptions and discover the importance of balancing the social drive with other instincts. Listen in to gain a fresh perspective on the social instinct and its powerful influence on your relationships and sense of self.

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Uncover a new layer of the Enneagram as we dive into the incredibly impactful world of the instinctual subtypes. In this episode, we focus on the self-preservation instinct—a survival-driven instinct that influences every part of life, from daily routines to family dynamics. Learn how self-preservation types prioritize safety, comfort, and health, and why they often feel the need to be prepared for any situation. Whether it's turning their home into a cozy sanctuary or meticulously planning for the future, self-preservation types bring a unique sense of stability to their families. We’ll explore how to recognize self-preservation tendencies in yourself, your partner, or your child, and how understanding this instinct can deepen your connections and help manage daily challenges. Plus, find out why some Enneagram types may not resonate with their usual descriptors if they have this subtype. Tune in to unlock insights that could transform your family’s dynamics.

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ISFP children are sensitive, creative, and deeply attuned to the world around them—but they express it quietly. In this episode, we explore their core functions: Introverted Feeling (Fi), Extraverted Sensing (Se), Introverted Intuition (Ni), and Extraverted Thinking (Te) to help you understand their temperament across all life stages. Tune in to discover:

• How ISFPs process feelings internally but express through art, movement, or music
• What ISFPs need to feel safe and supported in a noisy world
• Why discipline must be gentle and flexible
• The difference between shyness and inward sensitivity

If your child is emotionally rich, artistically gifted, and deeply empathetic, this episode will help you guide them without overwhelming their sensitive spirit.

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

 

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

 

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

 

In this episode of Not So Normal Parenting, we take a deep dive into the Competency Triad of the Enneagram, focusing on both parents who identify as Type 1 (The Perfectionist), Type 3 (The Achiever), or Type 5 (The Observer), and how to parent children with these types.

Whether you are a Type 1, 3, or 5 yourself or raising a child with these tendencies, you’ll discover how these types push emotions aside to solve problems logically, especially in relation to systems like work, family, or school. We’ll explore the 3 key ways each type strives for competency and how this impacts their approach to life and relationships.

Learn how to manage perfectionism as a Type 1 parent or help your Type 1 child embrace flexibility. Discover how to balance achievement with authenticity as a Type 3, or guide your Type 3 child to value more than just success. Finally, support your own Type 5 need for independence while fostering emotional connection, or help your Type 5 child stay emotionally engaged.

Tune in for real-life stories, practical strategies, and insights to help you and your child thrive within your unique Enneagram types.

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In this episode, we’re tackling a common struggle for many parents: reactivity—especially for those in the Enneagram reactivity triad: Types 4, 6, and 8. If you often feel frustrated or overwhelmed in those tough parenting moments, this episode is for you.

What you’ll learn today:

1. How to Hold Realistic Expectations for yourself and your child’s behavior.
2. How to Harness Your Triggers so they no longer control your reactions.
3. How to Heal Through Guided Thoughts, personalized for your Enneagram type.

If you’ve ever been told that you just need to be more patient, but it only makes you feel worse, this episode offers a fresh perspective. It’s not about squeezing out more patience—it’s about shifting your mindset and understanding your triggers to foster more peaceful, connected relationships with your kids. Tune in as we break down these tools and share practical mantras tailored for Types 4, 6, and 8!

 

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Welcome back to our 9-part series on the Enneagram triads! In today’s episode, we’re diving into the Reactivity Triad, which includes Types 4, 6, and 8—personalities that tend to respond to stress with emotional intensity and immediate reactions. These types externalize their feelings when they don’t get what they want or when their needs are unmet, often displaying frustration, anxiety, or anger. We’ll explore the three key aspects of how these types cope: how they process emotions outwardly, why they react so strongly, and what they seek from others through their emotional responses.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

1. How Type 4s express deep emotional intensity, often seeking validation and understanding from others when they feel unseen or misunderstood.
2. How Type 6s react with anxiety and doubt, testing loyalty and seeking reassurance in moments of insecurity or uncertainty.
3. How Type 8s respond with assertiveness and anger, seeking strength and control in their environment to avoid feeling vulnerable.

We’ll also share four practical strategies to help you support your reactive child and navigate their emotional outbursts:

1. Acknowledge their feelings
2. Provide reassurance or understanding
3. Teach emotional regulation
4. Maintain your own calm presence

Join us as we uncover how these intense emotional reactions can be understood and managed, allowing for deeper connection and growth within the family.

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In this episode, "Understanding the Positive Outlook Types: Exploring Enneagram Types 2, 7, and 9," we kick off a 9-part series by diving into the Harmonic Triads of the Enneagram. We explore the Positive Outlook Triad, focusing on:

1. Type 2 (The Helper): Learn how Type 2s maintain harmony by focusing on others' needs, often neglecting their own, and how they can grow by embracing self-care and acknowledging their own emotions.

2. Type 7 (The Enthusiast): Discover how Type 7s avoid discomfort by seeking constant excitement and reframing negative experiences, and the importance of slowing down to engage with deeper emotions for personal growth.

3. Type 9 (The Peacemaker): Understand how Type 9s seek inner peace by avoiding conflict and focusing on positive experiences, and the necessity of stepping into their own needs to foster deeper connections.

Tune in to learn how understanding these patterns can lead to greater self-awareness, resilience, and a more fulfilling life.

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Did you know that a simple marshmallow can predict your child's future success? In this episode, we dive into the Stanford Marshmallow Experiment, a groundbreaking study packed with insights for parents. Here’s what you’ll learn:

1. The Power of Delayed Gratification: Understand how a child's ability to wait for a reward is linked to greater success in academics, health, and social skills.

2. Consistency Builds Trust and Self-Control: Discover how consistent parenting, with clear rewards and consequences, helps children develop the self-discipline needed for long-term achievements.

3. The Role of Clear Expectations: Learn why setting clear rules and guidelines is crucial for enhancing your child’s decision-making skills and ability to delay gratification.

We’ll also explore how personality plays into these dynamics and offer practical tips for parents. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to set their child on the path to a thriving future!

 

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Tune in to Episode 33 of Not So Normal Parenting as Wendy discusses the important topic of childhood anxiety  with Dr. Jaylynne Koch, Developmental Psychologist, counselor and play therapist. 

Topics covered are:

• How personality factors into anxiety.
• Nontypical symptoms that may not look like anxiety.
• How anxiety and ADHD can be interchangeable.
• The four triggers: Physical, The Unknown, Incongruance and Shoulds.
• Coping Strategies such as coregulation, externalizing, exposure therapy and attachment.
• The importance of “special playtime”, consistency in parenting and managing transitions.

Dr. Jaylynne Koch  https://www.facebook.com/BloomBetween

What to Do When You Worry Too Much by Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews

The Worry Wars Paris Goodyear-Brown

Guide to Special Playtime Beth Richey, Tammi Van Hollander https://youtu.be/GBNB2IZhfOA?si=mm0Hz24ZGUU8BAAY

 

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I am so thrilled to have Dr. Brandon, pediatrician and founder of Colorado Kid's Pediatrics, to chat about how traits like social awkwardness, anxiety, defiance, OCD, homework struggles or impulsivity could be symptoms of ADHD.

 

This episode will be beyond helpful if you have a child that is exhibiting any of these traits: Many parents don't realize that all of these behaviors can be symptoms of ADD or ADHD which are on the rise due to all the stimulation children are experiencing in this generation of screens. In this episode we talk about:

 

Common trends Symptoms and how to get a diagnosis

Treatment, including:

parenting strategies,

diet,

acupuncture and acupressure,

medications and

personality factors like being an SP or and P type as well as a child with introverted sensing, introverted feeling or introverted intuition and a tendency to wander off inside their mind.

 

Dr. Brandon is founder of Colorado Kid's Pediatrics and Trekwise which is an integrated approach to behavioral health with quick and efficient telehealth sessions and affordable cost sharing.

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Today’s episode tackles the critical issue of smartphone use and excessive screen time among children, specifically focusing on Generation Z, born between 1997 and 2012. As a parent to two "Zoomers," the host shares personal insights and expert research to confront the rising mental health challenges faced by today's youth. This discussion will cover:

Impact on Brain Development: Highlighting how screen time can negatively affect the frontal cortex of children's brains, impairing impulse control and mirroring the effects seen in substance addiction.

Social and Emotional Consequences: Examining the decline in face-to-face interactions among children, which contributes to increased feelings of loneliness and depression, as personal connections are replaced by digital interactions.

The Addictive Nature of Screens: Discussing the need for genuine real-life connections and addressing the compelling allure of screens that often distract from these vital interactions.

Responsible Screen Use: Offering strategies to help parents develop plans where technology supports developmental goals rather than detracts from them. This includes setting boundaries and being proactive about screen time management.

Practical Measures and Support: Providing actionable tips and resources to help parents create a balanced digital environment in their homes. This support aims to mitigate the adverse effects of screen time while promoting beneficial developmental and social activities.

Drawing insights from Jonathan Haidt’s "The Anxious Generation," this episode serves as a call to action for parents to engage deeply with their children’s digital habits and help foster a healthier, more balanced approach to technology use. Whether dealing with a young child’s first foray into digital devices or managing a teenager’s screen habits, this episode offers valuable guidance and support for navigating the challenges of the digital age.

 

Enable Parental Controls:

Activate parental controls on devices to restrict access to age-inappropriate content and apps.

Use settings to prevent in-app purchases and downloads without parental approval.

Set Up Content Filters:

Configure content filters on home Wi-Fi routers to block inappropriate websites and limit screen time across all connected devices.

Disable Notifications:

Turn off non-essential notifications to minimize distractions and reduce the compulsion to check the device frequently.

Enable Built-In Device Features:

Apple Screen Time: Provides insights into usage, allows for setting app limits, and offers Downtime scheduling.

Google Family Link: Manages screen time, approves app downloads, and sets device bedtime.

Create a Family Media Plan:

Develop a written agreement that outlines when, where, and how screens can be used. The American Academy of Pediatrics offers a customizable family media plan tool.

Enable blue light filters or "Night Mode" to reduce eye strain and improve sleep quality by decreasing exposure to blue light before bedtime.

Use Screen Time Management Apps:

Qustodio: Monitors screen time, blocks inappropriate content, and provides detailed reports.

OurPact: Allows parents to schedule screen time, block apps, and set daily limits.

Screen Time: Tracks usage, sets time limits, and rewards children for completing chores or homework.

Parental Control Apps:

Net Nanny: Filters content, monitors social media, and sets screen time limits.

Bark: Monitors text messages, emails, and social media for signs of cyberbullying and other issues.

Norton Family: Tracks online activity, sets time limits, and provides location tracking.

Educational Apps:

Khan Academy: Offers educational content in various subjects, encouraging productive screen use.

Duolingo: Helps kids learn new languages in a fun, engaging way.

Focus and Productivity Apps:

Forest: Encourages focus by growing a virtual tree while the app is open and in use for productive tasks.

Stay Focused: Blocks distracting apps and websites to help children stay on task.

Device Settings and Safeguards

 

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In this episode, we dive deep into the back-to-school season, a time both exciting and daunting for parents and children alike. As some families have already begun the new academic year, the focus shifts to establishing a productive morning routine—one that sets the tone for a successful day ahead.

Benjamin Franklin famously said, "By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail." This wisdom underscores our discussion as we explore practical strategies to help your family avoid morning chaos and start the day with positivity and purpose. We cover:

1. Conducting a Family Meeting: How to effectively discuss the new school year and morning routines.
2. Embracing Emotions: Acknowledging the sadness of summer ending while fostering excitement for new beginnings.
3. Highlighting the Positives: Sharing the exciting aspects of starting a new school year.
4. Creating a Collaborative Routine: Working together to establish clear, effective morning habits.
5. Inspiring Morning Motivation: Encouraging kids to rise and shine with enthusiasm.

From the emotional impact of summer's end to the nuts and bolts of a streamlined morning routine, we provide you with all the tools you need. This episode is filled with tips, from setting up a visual schedule to positive reinforcement techniques, ensuring your children feel prepared and motivated.

Join us as we help you transform your family's morning routine from dreaded to delightful, ensuring every school day starts on the right foot. Whether you're adjusting to school routines or seeking a mid-semester refresh, this episode is your go-to resource for fostering harmony and efficiency each morning.

Alarm Clock List

1. Philips Wake-Up Light Alarm Clock • Features: Simulates a sunrise with gradually increasing light, plays natural sounds or FM radio, and has a sunset fading nightlight for bedtime. • Popular Model: Philips SmartSleep HF3520/60
2. Hatch Restore • Features: Combines a sunrise alarm, sound machine, and mood lighting in one. It allows you to customize your wake-up routine with different sounds, lights, and even guided meditations. • Popular Model: Hatch Restore
3. Lumie Bodyclock • Features: Offers a sunrise and sunset simulation, plays natural sounds, and has a dimmable bedside light. • Popular Model: Lumie Bodyclock Shine 300
4. iHome Bluetooth Alarm Clock • Features: Plays music via Bluetooth from your device, includes a color-changing LED light, dual alarms, and a USB charging port. • Popular Model: iHome iBT29BC Bluetooth Color Changing Dual Alarm Clock
5. LittleHippo Mella Ready to Rise Children’s Trainer • Features: Designed for kids, it has a color-changing nightlight, sleep sound machine, and wake-up music. It teaches children when it’s time to get up using lights and facial expressions. • Popular Model: LittleHippo Mella
6. Emerson SmartSet Alarm Clock • Features: Digital alarm clock with Bluetooth speaker, USB charging, FM radio, and customizable LED lights. • Popular Model: Emerson SmartSet ER100301
7. JBL Horizon Bluetooth Alarm Clock • Features: Features an LED ambient light, Bluetooth streaming, FM radio, dual alarms, and USB charging ports. • Popular Model: JBL Horizon
8. Mirari OK to Wake! Alarm Clock & Night-Light • Features: This clock is popular with young children and changes color to signal when it’s time to wake up. It also plays fun sounds and has a nightlight feature. • Popular Model: Mirari OK to Wake!
9. Lenovo Smart Clock Essential • Features: A smart alarm clock with Google Assistant, it plays music, controls smart home devices, and includes an LED light. • Popular Model: Lenovo Smart Clock Essential
10. Homedics SoundSpa Recharged Alarm Clock • Features: Combines a sound machine with an alarm clock, FM radio, and mood lighting. • Popular Model: Homedics SoundSpa Recharged These alarm clocks offer a variety of features to make waking up easier, whether it’s through gradual light, music, or customizable wake-up routines.

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INFJ’s are one of the rarest types representing less than 1% of the population. Today my interview is with Elizabeth Reed Watkins who just published a memoir of her life growing up in Maine entitled the Maine Thing. We will discuss how she parents her four very different kids and she gives advice for parents with an INFJ child. She is also an Enneagram Type 3, so this episode will resonate with all the over achievers out there as well. Going back through her journey we talk about vivid dreams, imagination, friendships, sports, learning, deep emotional struggles and balancing her high ideals and need to achieve with the need to stay grounded. Stay tuned to the end because we have a mini coaching session to help all the over achievers out there, and I am one of them, learn to be easier on themselves. In true INFJ style, Elizabeth is truly vulnerable and authentic in this interview. Here are five main takeaways:

 

Encourage Imagination and don’t accuse them of lying

Let them daydream and have time to recharge

Realize they are an introvert and highly sensitive person and help them with coping strategies

Choose their activities carefully; Individual sports may be better for them than team sports

Pay attention to their activity level because overachieving can be a red flag

 

I just worked with parents who were looking at their ISTP Enneagram Type 8 lion daughter with a distorted lens. They were seeing her leadership capabilities and determination as demanding, her ability to problem solve as manipulation and they were expecting her to be a rule follower like her brother rather than an independent thinker. Connection and Control are the two most important needs for any child. They just purchased my Thrive program so they can reframe the way they see and work with their kids and have more peace in their home. You can take the first step by going to WendyGossett.com and taking my free child temperament test for one of your kids. I evaluate the results myself which is what sets it apart from other tests. If you want to strengthen your family connections, I know I can help!

 

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Introverted Thinking Lion ISTP (Introverted Sensing Thinking and Perceiving), Type 8 individuals are intellectually sharp but may lack emotional intelligence, making self-awareness essential. Their affinity for systems makes understanding temperament valuable. Female thinkers constitute only 25% of the population, underscoring the importance of teaching appropriate interactions with women. It's crucial to acknowledge and validate their uniqueness. Encourage Introverted thinking (Ti) individuals to explore logical subjects like engineering, philosophy, or theology, aligning with their strategic, independent nature. For ISTPs, action trumps reading, so practical books with real-life scenarios are ideal. As they mature, purpose-driven books become more appealing. Engage ISTP children by acting out stories and ensuring rules make logical sense to them. Embrace the Lion: Encourage freedom and fun, but address ADHD concerns tactfully, considering placebos and life lessons over medication. Observing the lion's transformative journey from childhood to adulthood reveals adaptability and growth in various aspects of life. Ti's self-discipline and intrinsic motivation require patience and negotiation, favoring silly activities and collaborative rule-making. Recognize and harness Ti-Lion's independence and problem-solving skills, incentivizing with sensory rewards and freedom. Understand Ti-Lion's aversion to losing and preference for logical problem-solving, adapting games and communication methods accordingly. Navigate Ti individuals' lower emotional awareness with rational discussions and group activities, fostering emotional intelligence gradually. For type 8 individuals, fairness and justice are paramount, necessitating fair chore distribution and constructive anger expression outlets. Understanding Ti-Lion's extroverted introversion, provide space for solitude and engage in exciting, challenging activities to connect. Bond with Ti-Lion through stimulating activities, avoiding rigid plans, and embracing spontaneity, fostering a dynamic, fulfilling relationship.

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Do you have a child who is facing college in the next few years or a child who has dropped out? Many students drop out of college early because they weren’t ready. Maybe you know that the classroom is not your child’s happy place or your child hasn’t done their best in school. This episode discusses how college is not the only path to consider for your child’s future. Sometimes practical lion types and other perceiving free-spirited, creative or neurodivergent types prefer non-traditional paths. Episode 2 talks about the four people patterns and my last two episodes have been about type 7’s who tend to have multiple interests and may have ADHD or similar tendencies.

A job is just one type of income stream out of 8 that you and your soon to be adult child can consider. Not only that but the job landscape is changing at a rapid speed. There will be jobs available when they graduate from college that don’t exist when they graduate from High School.

Find out the two main ways young adults approach this major life transition and how you can help them. If you are wondering how to find the right educational path for your child, tune into this episode where I interview Emma B. Perez career coach, author of What’s the Point of School and creator of LifeQuest which is a gamified program to take your child from undecided to excited. Before we start this episode I want to remind you that the first step is to take my free child temperament test at WendyGossett.com and schedule a free chat so we can talk about your child’s result. I evaluate the test personally which is what sets it apart from other free tests on the internet.

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April Fallon is host of the Adoption Now podcast. She and her husband Noah, adopted four kids from birth, AJ, Lilly, Vivvy and Malia. In this episode she talks about parenting her kids as a type 7 and how she has had to adjust her parenting based on her kids unique needs. She wondered what behaviors were trauma related and what was personality. She talks about how knowing their type has helped her finally relax and know her kids love her. She talks about spending three years serving in Africa and how her inspiration to adopt started very early in her life. We talk about gender roles, attachment, emotional intelligence and the adoption process.

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In this episode, we dive into the vibrant Type 7 personality, also known as The Enthusiast or "the straw that stirs the drink" Type 7s are characterized by their exuberance and ability to juggle multiple interests, yet they often face challenges with escapism, FOMO (fear of missing out), and feelings of isolation,  inadequeacy, exhaustion and frustration.

This episode is full of practical strategies for Type 7s to reframe their thoughts and navigate these emotions. Whether you're a Type 7 yourself, in a relationship with one, or parenting a spirited child, this episode offers insights on fostering deeper connections, managing overwhelm, and finding balance between spontaneity and introspection.

Discover how Type 7s can cultivate authenticity by embracing their true feelings and learning to savor the present moment. Drawing inspiration from characters like Moana and Tigger, Wendy shares how these personalities embody Type 7 traits and offer lessons in personal growth.

Tune in for personal anecdotes, practical tips, and inspiring stories that empower you on your Enneagram journey. Whether you're new to the Enneagram or seeking deeper insights into Type 7 dynamics, this episode promises to enrich your understanding and encourage growth in embracing your unique personality traits.

Don't miss out on this enlightening conversation celebrating the strengths and challenges of Type 7s, offering invaluable wisdom for navigating life with boundless energy and a thirst for new experiences.

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In this episode, we explore Enneagram Type 6, often called the Loyalist or the Loyal Skeptic. Type 6s, part of the head center, are concerned with safety and security, often struggling with fear and anxiety. We discuss five common thought patterns they face: Anxiety, Indecision, Insecurity, Distrust, and Overwhelm.

Key Highlights:

• Anxiety: Overthinking worst-case scenarios is common for Type 6s. Examples include Mike Wazowski from Monsters, Inc. and Marlin from Finding Nemo. Strategies to cope include facing fears directly, using grounding techniques, and practicing reality checking.
• Indecision: Chronic second-guessing affects Type 6s, who often prioritize others' happiness over their own choices. Focus on positive outcomes and learning from decisions can help.
• Insecurity: Seeking constant reassurance and feeling inadequate is typical. Woody from Toy Story illustrates this. Self-compassion and sharing insecurities with trusted friends are vital.
• Distrust: Difficulty trusting themselves and others can lead to paranoia. Phobic and counterphobic subtypes show different behaviors. Encouraging small steps and clear communication helps build trust.
• Overwhelm: Anxiety can lead to paralysis and inaction. Inside Out's Riley and Anna from Frozen 2 show this. Calming strategies and focusing on small, actionable steps are effective.

Practical Tips:

• Reframe anxious thoughts by confronting fears.
• Build decision-making confidence by celebrating small victories.
• Address insecurity with self-compassion and support from friends.
• Cultivate trust gradually with clear boundaries.
• Manage overwhelm with grounding techniques and incremental actions.

Join us for insights on Type 6, whether you are one, love one, or parent one, and learn how to manage and transform these thought patterns effectively.

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In this episode, we dive into Enneagram Type 5, known as "The Investigator," exploring their unique traits and challenges. Whether you're parenting a Type 5 or are one yourself, you'll relate to their deep introspection and desire for knowledge, often likened to feeling like a unicorn in a world of more outgoing personalities. Type 5s are intensely private and introverted, preferring solitary activities to conserve their emotional and intellectual resources.

We discuss their core struggle, termed Avarice, which isn't about greed but rather a fear of depletion—be it emotional, energetic, or informational. This fear manifests as a reluctance to engage fully in social settings or to share their thoughts and feelings openly. Understanding these dynamics is crucial for reframing their top negative thoughts, such as fear of incompetence and distrust of the outside world, into more constructive emotions and actions.

Join us as we explore how neurodivergence, including potential links to the autism spectrum, can influence the Type 5 experience. We also touch on strategies for parenting and supporting Type 5 individuals, emphasizing the importance of respecting their need for privacy while gently encouraging social interaction.

For a deeper dive, check out Episode 18 on Transforming Your Thoughts, which complements this discussion on understanding and fostering growth through the Enneagram's insights into unconscious thought patterns.

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In this episode I interview Erin Lockwood who travels all over the world with her family to create their YouTube channel called Always Be Changing. Erin is an ESFJ Ox, type 2 on the Enneagram. She is parenting three children and two of them are her opposites. Her son Colt is an ENTP Eagle, who tested as gifted, but doesn’t respond well to discipline and a typical school environment. Her daughter Brooklyn is an ISTP, the same type as my daughter, but a type 5 on the Enneagram, which will be the next episode now that we have wrapped up the heart center with types 2,3 and 4. Since Erin is a type 2 parenting a type 5, I thought it would be a great segway. I met Erin because her pediatrician recommended, she come see me before she pursued other psychological testing for her son Colt. I want to be the first and hopefully the last place families can get answers when they are wondering if their child’s behavior is normal. I talk with Erin about

1. Her decision to pull her kids out of school and travel the world

2. The secret cure for her son’s emotional impulsiveness and oppositional defiance

3. Why it isn’t okay for her to hug her type 5 daughter

4. And how she has learned to set boundaries and separate facts from her very strong feelings.

You can follow Erin and Phil Lockwood at FollowABC.com or Live the Philippines.

 

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In this episode, we delve into the intricate world of Enneagram Type 4, also known as the Romantic or Individualist. If you are a Type 4 or raising one, you are likely familiar with their deep emotional landscape, creativity, and struggles with feelings of envy and loneliness. Host [Your Name], a Type 4 herself, shares personal insights and practical strategies learned from years of transforming negative thoughts and emotions. This episode provides valuable tips for understanding and supporting Type 4s in navigating their intense emotions and finding fulfillment.

Key Points:

• Characteristics of Type 4: Emotional, intuitive, often feeling misunderstood, and struggling with envy.
• Common Struggles: Loneliness, longing, emotional intensity, and fear of being ordinary.
• Practical Tips:
  • Validating and empathizing with their deep emotions.
  • Encouraging creativity and authenticity.
  • Helping them reframe thoughts through gratitude.
  • Teaching coping strategies like journaling and breathing exercises.
  • Finding communities that appreciate their unique perspective.

Parenting Type 4s:

• Emotional Support: Creating a safe space for them to express their feelings and ensuring they feel understood.
• Encouragement: Praising their unique contributions and helping them find like-minded peers.
• Managing Comparisons: Fostering gratitude and contentment with what they have.

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Today’s episode is about the Type 3 Achiever, which is a type that almost everyone resonates with. Because America is the land of the three, the land of chasing success. Almost everyone, including myself has fallen into the  comparison trap and found themselves feeling inadequate or like they aren’t enough. Is your to do list a mile long? Do you have a hard time relaxing? Type 2, 3 and 4 are all in the heart center, focused on receiving attention and presenting a certain image. A Type 2 wants to be seen as likable and helpful and a type 3 wants to be seen as charming and successful. Failure for a type 3 brings crushing shame and often denial. In the world of likes and followers, a type 3 can be on quite an emotional rollercoaster by placing their self-worth in the hands of their achievements and abilities. Many parents, without realizing it, are feeding this achievement cycle. Tune in to this episode to discover the 5 major thought patterns of a type 3, the emotions and actions those thoughts produce and how a Type 3 can reframe those thoughts to feel better and discover their true identity. Be sure to listen to episode 18 on how to transform your thoughts because it is the foundation of the entire enneagram system and the absolute best way to change your life for the better!

 

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In this episode, we shift focus from the body center to the heart center, which includes Enneagram types 2, 3, and 4. The heart center deals with issues of attention and self-image, often grappling with feelings of grief, shame, and worthlessness. We dive deep into the characteristics of Type 2s, who derive their self-worth from being helpful and appreciated by others, but may struggle with insecurity and dependence on external validation.

We'll discuss how to identify and reframe negative thought patterns common to Type 2s, providing strategies for fostering self-awareness and healthier relationships. An illustrative listener's story about a Type 2 ESFJ daughter highlights practical advice on using a two-way journal to improve communication and understanding between parents and children.

Key insights include recognizing the importance of self-care, managing feelings of guilt and overwhelm, and addressing deeper psychological patterns rooted in childhood experiences. We'll also explore the unique challenges Type 2s face, such as dealing with pride, resentment, and the tendency toward martyrdom.

Join us as we offer tools and insights to help Type 2s find their own worth and navigate their emotional landscapes more effectively.

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In this transformative episode, Wendy Gossett shares personal insights and practices that can change your life. Kicking off a new Enneagram series, Wendy discusses the struggles of all nine types, starting with Type 9, the Peacemaker. Learn how these struggles affect thoughts and feelings, and discover ways to reframe thoughts to improve your well-being and coach your children effectively.

Explore Wendy's this podcast launched in April 2024, for more insights on Myers-Briggs and the Enneagram. Wendy's book, "Your Child’s Inner Drive: Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens," provides additional guidance for parents managing diverse personality types within their families.

With over 60,000 thoughts buzzing in our heads daily, it's crucial to be aware of how these thoughts shape our feelings and actions. Wendy uses relatable examples and offers specific strategies to help you recognize, reframe, and supervise your thoughts. She highlights the importance of thought awareness and provides practical steps for parents to coach their children using the Enneagram.

Key techniques include keeping a thought journal, questioning your thoughts, and understanding the emotional impact of your thoughts. Wendy emphasizes that changing your thought patterns can lead to a better life and healthier relationships.

 

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Does your child reverse letters and numbers, struggle to read aloud, forget how to spell simple words—or have a hard time memorizing their times tables? Do they seem bright but often frustrated by schoolwork? These could be signs of dyslexia or dysgraphia, which are often present alongside ADHD, making it even harder for kids to focus, retain information, and feel confident in the classroom.

In this episode, I talk with Maggie Pike, a literacy and dyslexia specialist with over 20 years of experience supporting kids with learning differences. We’ll explore:

• What dyslexia really is—and how to spot it in preschool and elementary-aged kids
• The root causes of literacy struggles
• Why kids with dyslexia may also struggle with math, memorization and fine motor skills
• Practical ways to build strong pre-reading skills at home
• The surprising gifts and strengths of neurodivergent learners

If your child is struggling in school and you’re not sure why, this episode will help you connect the dots—and move forward with clarity and confidence.

In this episode, we shift focus from the body center to the heart center, which includes Enneagram types 2, 3, and 4. The heart center deals with issues of attention and self-image, often grappling with feelings of grief, shame, and worthlessness. We dive deep into the characteristics of Type 2s, who derive their self-worth from being helpful and appreciated by others, but may struggle with insecurity and dependence on external validation.

We'll discuss how to identify and reframe negative thought patterns common to Type 2s, providing strategies for fostering self-awareness and healthier relationships. An illustrative listener's story about a Type 2 ESFJ daughter highlights practical advice on using a two-way journal to improve communication and understanding between parents and children.

Key insights include recognizing the importance of self-care, managing feelings of guilt and overwhelm, and addressing deeper psychological patterns rooted in childhood experiences. We'll also explore the unique challenges Type 2s face, such as dealing with pride, resentment, and the tendency toward martyrdom.

Join us as we offer tools and insights to help Type 2s find their own worth and navigate their emotional landscapes more effectively.

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In this episode, we delve into the Enneagram Type 1, known as The Perfectionist. The Enneagram serves as a powerful tool to help parents recognize their unconscious thought patterns, enabling them to guide their children toward self-awareness and positive transformation. Type 1 children often fixate on imperfections in their environment and themselves, striving for perfection and control.

We start with an introduction to Enneagram Type 1, explaining how these individuals tend to focus on what needs to be fixed. Their unconscious thought patterns can lead to feelings of frustration, anger, and rigidity. The host shares a personal anecdote about the challenges faced while recording episode 16, illustrating the struggle with perfectionism and the importance of being flexible and forgiving of oneself.

The episode includes a listener question from an INFJ Type 1 father who struggles with his ISTP Type 8 son, who resists rules and chores. The host advises focusing on connection before correction, recognizing the son's need for independence, and engaging in activities the son enjoys to build a better relationship.

We also explore the different variants of Type 1:

• Self-preservation Ones: Worriers who focus on controlling their environment.
• Social Ones: Intellectuals who strive to set an example for others.
• One-on-one (Sexual) Ones: Express anger and are highly critical, resembling Type 8 in their intensity.

For growth, Type 1s need to become aware of their unconscious patterns and reframe negative thoughts. Strategies for personal development include practicing forgiveness, empathy, flexibility, and self-care.

Common challenges for Type 1s are discussed along with ways to reframe their thoughts:

• Perfectionism: Embrace progress over perfection and view mistakes as opportunities for growth.
• Anger: Channel anger constructively and focus on positive change.
• Resentment: Practice forgiveness and let go of grudges.
• Anxiety: Stay present and practice mindfulness techniques.
• Guilt: Understand that everyone makes mistakes and move forward after making amends.
• Rigidity: Embrace flexibility and spontaneity.
• Criticism: Shift from criticism to constructive feedback and recognize everyone's strengths.
• Judgment: Practice empathy and understanding.
• Tension: Use relaxation techniques to alleviate stress and prioritize self-care.

The host offers encouraging words and affirmations to help Type 1s reframe their thoughts and focus on positive growth. The episode also includes spiritual insights, referencing biblical encouragement not to worry and highlighting the importance of faith and trust in a higher power.

Listeners are encouraged to email questions to WendyGossett.com and explore further resources such as the "Understanding Your Family 101" session or the "Not So Normal Parenting" Facebook community for support and guidance.

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In this transformative episode, we delve deep into the struggles of Enneagram Type 8, exploring how their quest for control and fear of vulnerability shape their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Whether you’re a Type 8 or a parent of one, this episode offers vital insights into managing these powerful dynamics.

We'll revisit some foundational concepts from Episode 15, emphasizing their importance in understanding all Enneagram types. For those familiar, feel free to jump ahead to the 12-minute mark to dive straight into Type 8 specifics.

Type 8s, located in the body or gut center of the Enneagram, focus intensely on control and often express their underlying emotion—anger—openly. We'll explore how their intense energy, need for control, and fixation on justice manifest in their daily lives and relationships.

Additionally, we’ll discuss the instinctual variants of Type 8s—self-preservation, social, and sexual—and how these influence their behavior. From the intensity of their play to their resistance to authority, understanding these facets can help parents and educators support Type 8 children more effectively.

Join us as we unpack practical strategies to help Type 8s reframe their thoughts and embrace vulnerability, fostering healthier relationships and emotional well-being. Plus, hear personal anecdotes, including a touching story about a Type 8 child navigating a family move, to illustrate these principles in action.

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Tune in for a powerful discussion that promises to enhance your understanding of Type 8s and enrich your approach to their unique challenges.

 

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I am not exaggerating when I tell you that this episode could transform your life! I speak from personal experience because the practice I am going to tell you about changed mine. This will be the first of an Enneagram series where I talk about the struggles of all nine types, how those struggles effect our thoughts and feelings and then how you can reframe the thoughts and coach your children to do the same.

I started a podcast in mid April 2024 called Not So Normal Parenting. There are some episodes there that are not on this channel so check it out if you are a fan of Myers Briggs and the Enneagram. You can also grab a copy of my best selling book ebtitled Your Child’s Inner Drive: Parenting by Personality from Toddlers toTeens. I was a facilitator for team building and realized I could use these amazing tools with my own family team since I was parenting a son and daughter who were as different as Bob Ross and the Black Widow, you can check out my interview with them on the channel. My daughter is an ISTP type 8, my son is an ISFJ Type 9 and I am an ENFJ Type 4. Since parents are like the Ceo’s of their fmily, I work with them to help them see the connections and disconnections in their brain wiring.Parenting isn’t intuitive if you have kids who are your opposites! You can check out my work, blog and get a free child temperament test at WendyGossett.com

 

Did you know you have over 60,000 thoughts every single day buzzing around your head? That's a lot to keep track of! Some of us are completely unaware of what is going on inside of our head. This is unwise, considering the fact that our thoughts create our feelings and our feelings determine our actions. In fact, all your emotions, good, bad, happy and sad are 100% generated by your thoughts. Your unconscious thoughts are sort of like an unsupervised West Highland White terrior in a closet full of shoes and flip flops. Oh that example sounds sort of specific? That’s because my Westie, Milo, loved to chew and sever the toe piece of all our flip flops. All I needed to do was to be aware of where the flip flops were at all times, even in the middle of summer; and where Milo was, even though he was a crazy puppy with Zoomies, so that the destruction did not occur. Not an easy task! Just like being aware of all 60,000 thoughts every day is not easy either. In episode 12 and 3 I give an introduction to an amazing tool for growing human potential called the Enneagram. This tool is dependent upon thought awareness. Why? Because being aware and then reframing your thought patterns is the single most powerful way to change your life for the better! Later in this episode I am going to give very specific examples of what a type 9 Peacemaker parent’s mind struggles with, how these thoughts negatively effect their feelings and how the thoughts can be reframed to turn the feeling around. I will then teach any parent how to coach their type 9 child using powerful questions generated by the Enneagram.

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William James a philosopher and psychologist, regarded as one of the most influential figures in the development of modern psychology said that. "The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind." - William James

My thought patterns were extremely damaging and involved comparison and shame. I will do an entire episode on the Type 4 and Type 3 which are my main types, but in a nutshell, These thoughts caused me to feel depressed and since a Type 4 fixates on their feelings, I could go into a funk that was hard to shake. But I began the practice of being conscious of my thoughts, taking every thought captive and reframing those thoughts to God’s truth about how He sees me.

So, here's is how you can begin to supervise those thoughts that are zooming around in your head. Begin by simply asking yourself, "What am I thinking?" on a regular basis.  It's like a little mental check-in that can make a really big difference. You can also let your feelings tell you when to check in on your thoughts. If all of a sudden you begin to feel a tightening in your chest or a twisting in your gut, it is time to press rewind on your thoughts and ask yourself what negative thought created the negative feeling. The Enneagram gives all of us clues into what these negative thoughts might be so they are easier to recognize and bring into consciousness. I am going to do 8 more episodes for every type, to uncover the biggest struggle of each and all the thoughts that revolve around it.

If you have never done this before, I challenge you to keep a thought journal for a week. When you ask yourself the question, “What am I thinking?” grab a pen and paper and let your thoughts flow. Write whatever comes to mind without stopping, no filtering, just get it all out. It will be sort of like cleaning out your closet. What are the thoughts you want to wear and what are the thoughts that need to get bagged up and sent to Goodwill or sold on Ebay if you have clothes that someone else would actually want. My Lululemon wearers know! I still don’t wear Lulu even though I get a 30% discount for being a fitness instructor. So purge your mind of the negative thoughts so you can make room for the new positive ones you are going to create. So the first question to ask is “What am I thinking?”

Next up, ask yourself, "Why am I choosing to think this?" This helps you realize that it's not your circumstances that are forcing you feel a certain way, it's your thoughts about those circumstances. Sometimes, our reasons for thinking certain thoughts are a bit off-base, so this question can help straighten things out. The Enneagram tells us what are well worn unconscious thought patterns are. In episode 3 and 12, we talk about the fixations of each type which can also help you identify these unconscious habitual thought patterns. SO again, the second question is, “Why am I choosing to think this?”

Next,, check in with yourself and ask, "How does this thought feel?" Pay attention to your emotions because they're little warning lights, sort of like “the low fuel light in your car” telling you if a thought is helpful or not. If it doesn't feel good, maybe it's time to let go or reframe that thought.

And again, if you're feeling a bit off but not sure why, ask yourself, "What's the thought behind this feeling?" It's a sneaky way to peek into your mind and understand what's really going on in there.

Oh, and here's a powerful one: "How do I want to feel?" Reminding yourself that you're in control of your feelings by choosing your thoughts can be a game-changer. Knowing how you want to feel can kickstart some serious action, even if it's just changing your mindset.

So let’s dive into what this looks like for a Type 9 parent or a Type 9 child or spouse. Type Nines are Peacemakers so their false identity is that they are never in conflict. They fixate on the external world around them, seeing every little detail, so they don’t have to focus on their internal, less than peaceful thoughts. A Type 9’s struggle is sloth. You know sloth, like the adorable cousin of the anteater that moves really slooooow. Sloth is not laziness but more a hesitation to take action, driven by their desire for harmony. They may procrastinate or avoid decisions that could disrupt peace. Think of them as easygoing and chill, but sometimes slow to start on big tasks. They're not lazy; they just prefer to avoid conflict and maintain balance. Here are some negative thoughts the Type 9 Peacemaker in your life might have:

Type Nine Negative Thoughts:

• "My opinions and desires don't matter as much as others'."
• "I must avoid conflict at all costs to maintain peace."
• "I fear being seen as assertive or confrontational."
• "I'm responsible for keeping everyone happy and harmonious."
• "I'm not important enough to speak up or assert myself."
• "If I express my needs, I'll burden others and disrupt the harmony."
• "I'm afraid of expressing disagreement because it might lead to rejection or abandonment."
• "I often feel overlooked or invisible in social situations."
• "I'm afraid of making decisions because I don't want to upset anyone."
• "I feel guilty when prioritizing my own needs over others'."
• "I constantly second-guess myself and doubt my own worth."
• "I often feel overwhelmed by the needs and expectations of others."

Negative Emotions for Type 9:

Avoidance, frustration or stagnation since their main focus is avoiding conflict.

They may struggle with making decisions or asserting their own preferences, leading to feelings of indecisiveness or being overlooked.

Type 9s may suppress their own needs and desires to maintain harmony, leading to feelings of resentment towards others who seem more assertive or self-centered.

They may feel passive or powerless in their own lives, allowing others to make decisions for them or feeling overshadowed by more dominant personalities.

Type 9s may neglect their own needs and desires in favor of maintaining peace and harmony in their relationships, leading to feelings of self-forgetfulness or self-neglect.

Type 9s may struggle with inertia or a lack of motivation to pursue their goals or dreams, feeling stuck or complacent in their current circumstances.

Type 9s may struggle with emotional numbness or disconnect from their inner desires and passions, leading to feelings of apathy or disconnection from life. My husband is a type 9 and he barely batted an eye when both my kids left for college at the same time due to Covid. He buried his emotions whereas myself, a type 4 who fixates on emotions, was in a desperate place, trying to navigate the massive change in my identity. I was in his face begging him to join me on the journey to finding our new normal. We had never had conflict in our marriage, but the empty nest nearly broke us apart. I wanted to call ourselves New Chapter Adapters instead of empty nesters, but I was the only one outwardly and actively fighting to adapt. I couldn’t see it, but he was adapting by numbing out and avoiding me! Nines avoid conflict and I was conflict personified! I will do a whole episode on how we  a Type 9 and a Type 4 crawled out of the pit with the help of the Enneagram, but if you are in a similar situation and would like to read the blog post about it right now, email me at wendy@wendygossett.com. Or ask about scheduling a virtual appointment. I help couples see their blind spots all the time through Myers Briggs and the Enneagram. You can also get more insight into the type 9 by checking out Episode 11 which is an interview with my Type 9 Peacemaker son, Nathan.

Reframing for Type 9:

Recognize that conflict and discomfort are natural parts of life and can lead to growth and positive change. Embrace opportunities to express your needs and assert yourself in a healthy and respectful manner. Coach your child by asking, "What do you think are some healthy ways to express your needs when you're feeling uncomfortable?" Then have them practice in a safe situation.

Trust in your ability to make decisions and assert your preferences. Remember that your opinions and desires are valid and worthy of consideration. Celebrate the conflicts your child has overcome."What are some decisions you've made recently that you feel proud of?"

"How can you remind yourself that your opinions and desires are important and worthy of consideration?" Say something to yourself like, “ It’s ok to Voice Your Choice

Honor your own needs and desires without feeling guilty or resentful. Practice assertiveness and boundary-setting in your relationships to ensure that your voice is heard and respected. "Can you think of a time when you felt guilty or resentful for expressing your needs? How can you honor your needs without feeling guilty?"

"What are some ways you can assert yourself respectfully in your friendships or at school?"

Take an active role in shaping your own life and pursuing your goals. Trust in your ability to make decisions and assert yourself in a respectful and assertive manner. "What are some goals you have for yourself right now? How can you take steps to pursue them?"

"When was a time you felt proud of standing up for yourself or expressing your opinion?"

Prioritize self-care and self-expression in your life. Take time to connect with your inner desires and passions and honor your own needs and priorities. "What activities or hobbies make you feel happiest and most fulfilled?"

"How can you make sure you're taking care of yourself emotionally and physically?"

Break tasks and decisions into smaller, more manageable steps, and take proactive measures to address challenges or conflicts as they arise. "What's one task you've been avoiding lately? How can you break it down into smaller steps to make it more manageable?"

"What's one small action you can take today to address a challenge you're facing?"

Practice mindfulness and self-reflection to connect with your emotions and innermost desires. Allow yourself to feel and express your emotions in healthy and constructive ways. "What are some emotions you've been feeling lately? How can you express them in a healthy way?"

"What are some activities that help you feel more connected to your emotions and inner self?"

Motivation: Identify your values and passions and take steps to align your actions with your deepest desires and aspirations. Seek out opportunities for growth and personal development and embrace new experiences with enthusiasm and curiosity. "What's one change you'd like to see in your life right now? How can you take control and make it happen?"

"How can you remind yourself that you have the power to shape your own future?"

"What's one new experience you've been curious about trying? How can you take steps to make it happen?"

“What are some things that are really important to you? How can you make sure your actions reflect those values?"

You can meditate on scriptures or inspirational quotes that will address the type 9 struggle of sloth. Look for my online scripture journal for Type 9’s at WendyGossett.com which will be coming soon! You can also look at Bible or book characters that had type 9 tendencies and overcame them. An example that comes to mind is Moses. He was a very reluctant, but fearless leader and the only character in the Bible that God called friend. Another perfect example of a Type 9 is Samwise Gamgee from "The Lord of the Rings" - Sam is loyal, supportive, and values harmony within the fellowship. He often puts others' needs before his own and seeks to maintain peace among the group.

"I can do all things through him who strengthens me." - Philippians 4:13 (ESV)

"Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go." - Joshua 1:9 (NIV)

"You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great." - Zig Ziglar

"The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step." - Lao Tzu

Or from Finding Nemo… "Just keep swimming." - Dory, Finding Nemo