In this episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss their experiences in this midlife period, reflect on adolescence, and discuss personal, professional and parenting challenges in their middlescence.  Listen as they share stories of their teenage years, ways their teenage sons differ from them at those ages, and what would most surprise their adolescent selves about their lives. 

In this new episode, our hosts jump into summer break plans and how it’s different with older kids.  Kaanji and Tara discuss the laziness of teenage summers, what they’re each doing for their own self care, and the best season of all - Gemini Season!  

For many of us, Thanksgiving week begins the holiday corridor, 6 weeks of nonstop activity that ends with the New Year celebration.  This episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss the holiday hustle, how they avoid it, and each host gives her two tips for maintaining a stress-free season.

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From TV moms that defined their childhood to those that completely altered their views of motherhood, Kaanji and Tara look back on their favorite TV moms.  Carol Brady? Marge Simpson? June Cleaver? Did any of these moms make the cut? Listen to this week's episode and find out who made our hosts' Top 5 list.

Kaanji and Tara are both anti-racism advocates and members of the leadership team for Embrace Action, an anti-racism advocacy and educational nonprofit organization. You can learn more about Embrace Action by visiting www.embraceaction.org 

Tara Bio:

Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son.   A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary.  She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up.  She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community.  She is always a work in progress.

Kaanji Bio

Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney.  She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America.  California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son.  A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive family.  

 Can you really be friends with someone you’ve only known online?  Well, meet our guest, La Toya who actually homeschools her children. She and Tara have been friends for over a decade.  Do you think it might be time to meet up in person yet?  La Toya will provide insight and encouragement for all parents dealing with a changed learning environment.    The ladies also discuss Black Girl Magic, as we pay tribute to Kamala 'Momala' Harris and discuss why representation matters.

Every week, Kaanji and Tara will have candid discussions about the realities of motherhood.  Conversations will focus on parenting, partnering, perspectives, and pop culture.  You are invited to join them as they get to know each other and their guests, and as they try to uncover the similarities in each mom’s individual journey.  Sometimes we can feel alone in this wild life, and we hope to remind others that we are all in this together.  Join us as we attempt to navigate motherhood with a little humor, a lot of heart...and a whole lot of  90’s hip-hop.  

Kaanji and Tara are both volunteer leaders for Embrace Action, an anti-racism advocacy and educational nonprofit organization. You can learn more about Embrace Action by visiting www.embraceaction.org 

Tara Bio:

Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son.   A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary.  She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up.  She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community.  She is always a work in progress.

IG:@tatstar

Kaanji Bio

Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney.  She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America.  California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son.  A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive family.  

IG@Kaanji_irby

Get to know Kaanji and Tara a little better this week as they talk personality tests  and share their Enneagram test results.  Listen in as our hosts discuss why they believe that birth order plays a major role in determining your personality type.

Link to Enneagram Institute: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions

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American Psychological Article on Black boys and innocence

Kaanji and Tara are both anti-racism advocates and members of the leadership team for Embrace Action, an anti-racism advocacy and educational nonprofit organization. You can learn more about Embrace Action by visiting www.embraceaction.org 

Tara Bio

Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son.   A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary.  She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up.  She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community.  She is always a work in progress.

Kaanji Bio

Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney.  She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America.  California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son.  A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive 

Yee-haw, Mamas!  On this episode, Kaanji and Tara are joined by fellow mom, Teah Kirk.  Teah shares her motherhood journey, the challenges of being a working mom, and the importance of finding and celebrating community every day.  Teah shares her bedtime routine with her toddler, and gives some pearls of wisdom on the importance of crafting and cultivating her daughter's positive mindset with empowering, daily affirmations. 

Kaanji and Tara are both anti-racism advocates and members of the leadership team for Embrace Action, an anti-racism advocacy and educational nonprofit organization.  You can learn more about Embrace Action by visiting www.embraceaction.org

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Affirmations for My Daughter

By: Teah Kirk

You are powerful
You are successful
You are a child of the most high God
You are healthy and wealthy in every area of your life - mentally, physically, spiritually, financially, and emotionally

You make wise decisions.
You accept only wise counsel.
You know the Lord's voice and another you will not follow. You are obedient.
You have an excellent relationship with me and your father and You always will.

You are loving and you are loved.
You are the head and not the tail. Above only and not beneath. You know when you live your life's purpose.
You are creative.
You are a winner.
You are a genius.
You are happy.

And You have peace of mind.

Does it seem like motherhood is a life sentence?  In this powerful and raw episode, Kaanji and Tara talk through their experiences of 'mom guilt' and how they overcome this overwhelming feeling.

Tara Bio:

Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son.   A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary.  She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up.  She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community.  She is always a work in progress.

Kaanji Bio

Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney.  She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America.  California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son.  A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive family.  

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Kaanji and Tara are both anti-racism advocates and members of the leadership team for Embrace Action, an anti-racism advocacy and educational nonprofit organization.  You can learn more about Embrace Action by visiting www.embraceaction.org

 In this premiere episode, meet Kaanji and Tara as they discuss the dilemma about face-to-face learning vs. virtual learning for the upcoming school year and their general approach to modern-day motherhood.

Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son.   A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary.  She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up.  She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community.  She is always a work in progress.

 Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney.  She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America.  California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son.  A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive family.  

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Kaanji and Tara are both anti-racism advocates and members of the leadership team for Embrace Action, an anti-racism advocacy and educational nonprofit organization.  You can learn more about Embrace Action by visiting www.embraceaction.org

'FAMILY isn't always blood.  It's the people in your life who want you in theirs; the ones who accept you for who you are.  The ones who would do anything to see you smile & love you no matter what.'  Welcome to our family.

The Motherhood and Black and White Podcast is a weekly conversation with Kaanji and Tara about motherhood- the challenges and celebrations.  This momcast is a place where motherhood and cultural learning intersect.  This week's episode is an Introduction to the momcast and the hosts- as we begin to dive into how we learn to love ourselves, flaws and all.  Welcome to the conversation.

Kaanji and Tara are both anti-racism advocates and members of the leadership team for Embrace Action, an anti-racism advocacy and educational nonprofit organization.  You can learn more about Embrace Action by visiting www.embraceaction.org 

 Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son.   A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary.  She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up.  She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community.  She is always a work in progress.

 Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney.  She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America.  California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son.  A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive family.  

Please subscribe, rate, and share!  It all begins  August 2, 2020.

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Kaanji and Tara share their first ladies' night out at a Lizzo concert and reflect upon why ladies' nights are so important for moms.  Listen as the ladies discuss their favorite Lizzo songs and lyrics and their personal struggles with body image.

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This week our hosts discuss Kaanji's experience raising multiracial kids.  Kaanji and Tara discuss what it means to be biracial or multiracial and the increasing number of people that identify themselves this way in the US.  They dig deep into some of the hard questions around inclusivity, recognizing others' diversity, and helping our kids celebrate all parts of their background. 

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In this spook-tacular episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss their kids' favorite Halloween costumes, scary movies, and their trick-or-treating traditions. 

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 Kaanji and Tara are joined by Sarah Durham, educator, coach and creative, for this important conversation about neurodiversity, adolescence and academics.  Listen as Sarah, a former middle school teacher, shares her insights and advice for all parents and discusses her mission to normalize the variety of ways to empower young people to cultivate lives that work for them.

Connect with Sarah:

Instagram @kattywhompous

Website: www.kattywhompous.com

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This week our hosts talk about when it's ok to let our kids quit.  Kaanji and Tara both talk about the "quitters never win" philosophy they were both raised with and how they've had to unlearn it with their own kids.  Kaanji shares a scary experience that ended Roman's short lived football career and Tara reveals mistakes she made when Gage was younger that caused her to reevaluate "quitting", even in her own life. 

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Kaanji starts this episode out by getting straight to the point - how do we maximize our time so we can accomplish ALL THE THINGS?  Our hosts both discuss some of the practical tools they've used to manage their time, and also where they struggle.  Kaanji shares how she's learned to delegate, and Tara realizes she has more work to do in therapy - you don't want to miss this one. 

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This week, Kaanji and Tara chat about ways they have chosen to discipline their children.  Our hosts discuss different parenting philosophies around punishment. Listen to find out whether they have chosen to discipline their children the way they were raised.

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Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @Tatstar

 In keeping with tradition, it's that time of year when Kaanji and Tara talk about what they are looking forward to this fall in TV, movies, and music. We get a recap of Tara's consolation vacation, find out what Kaanji's son is getting into these days, and we walk away with plenty of fun picks to put on our must see and listen lists this fall.  This is the season transition conversation that you need!

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In a special Labor Day episode, Kaanji and Tara are joined by two very special guests, fellow moms Dominique and Dianthe.   All four mothers share their wildly different labor and delivery stories that involve orange juice, epidurals, a presidential inauguration and Dominos pizza!  The one takeaway from each story is that when it comes to labor and motherhood, no amount of planning can prepare you for real life.  

Kaanji and Tara are both anti-racism advocates and members of the leadership team for Embrace Action, an anti-racism advocacy and educational nonprofit organization. You can learn more about Embrace Action by visiting www.embraceaction.org 

Tara Bio: Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son.   A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary.  She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up.  She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community.  She is always a work in progress.

Kaanji Bio.  Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney.  She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America.  California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son.  A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive family.  

There’s a phrase that’s crept up in parenting circles and social media sites during the past few months; it’s not a new term, but it’s having a resurgence. 

This episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss kinkeeping and ways that women can ease the emotional labor burden.  

Our hosts also take time to catch up on their lives, updates on their children, and Kaanji’s milestone birthday. 

 This week, Kaanji and Tara talk about their views on allowing their kids more privacy and how it's changed as their sons have gotten older.  This topic has polarizing opinions, so they look to the internet experts for guidance.  They discussed closed doors (and why that is helpful for everyone), social media, and what scares them about allowing more space for their sons to explore on their own.  This conversation had differing opinions, and our hosts each picked up new tips from each other - you don't want to miss it.      

Catch a brand new season of The Ms. Pat Show streaming August 11 th , only on BET+. To learn more, visit BET dot plus. BET+. Stream Black culture. 

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Tara: @Tatstar

 If you have student loan debt or are considering taking out loans to help your kids pay for college, then this is the episode for you! This week, Kaanji and Tara chat about the pitfalls of student loans, their debt repayment journey, and strategies for college savings for their kids. 

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Tara: @Tatstar

As our hosts caught up on their summer activities, the conversation of vacations and how to be fully present with our families came up.  Tara admits that she's never really 100% unplugged from work, and Kaanji admits to frustration feeling responsible for the whole family's itinerary.  They both share ideas with each other on how they've found ways to set boundaries in order to enjoy those moments with their families more fully.   

Catch a brand new season of The Ms. Pat Show streaming August 11 th , only on BET+. To learn more, visit BET dot plus. BET+. Stream Black culture. 

www.bet.plus 

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Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @Tatstar

After an unexpected hiatus, our hosts are back!  The timing is perfect, too, because Tara is about to start navigating the challenges of her son starting middle school, and Kaanji has plenty of advice, since her son is about to start his last year.  Our hosts catch up on what we've missed during their time off, and are very excited to share new sponsored content!  

Catch a brand new season of The Ms. Pat Show streaming August 11th, only on BET+. To learn more, visit BET dot plus. BET+. Stream Black culture. 

https://www.bet.plus

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Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @tatstar

 In honor of Mother's Day, our hosts are sharing this encore episode from Season One, which is one of Kaanji and Tara's all time favorites! Can you guess who are their Top 5 TV moms of all-time? Listen to this hilarious episode and smile along with our hosts.

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Kaanji: @Kaanji_irby

Tara: @Tatstar

This week, Kaanji and Tara take time to share their favorite (and least favorite) moments during the phases of motherhood. Find out what our hosts thought of the experience of parenting infants, toddlers, young kids and now, pre-teens and teenagers.  

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Tara: @Tatstar

This week our hosts talk about the importance of looking for joy in the motherhood journey.  They both discuss where they struggle with fear and expectations as moms and how both can steal the joy from their experiences.  This one is full of real talk and laughter as Tara and Kaanji catch up and connect over shared feelings.  Oh...and Tara has a new fangirl story. 

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Tara: @Tatstar

 How would you handle the situation if your child was called a racial or ethnic slur? In this powerful episode, Kaanji discusses a recent incident where her son is called the N* word and our hosts have a heartfelt conversation about why it is important to teach our children the hateful history behind this term and how to have conversations with kids of all ages about appropriate language.  

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This week, Kaanji and Tara discuss some really bad parenting advice that they have received during their motherhood journeys. Listen as they share some insights into how their childhoods have informed some of their parenting decisions, and share their insights on some parenting tips that have been passed down through generations.

Check out this Buzzfeed article, 13 Times Parenting Advice From the Past Was Hilariously Wrong: https://www.buzzfeed.com/mikespohr/hilariously-bad-parenting-advice-from-the-past-thatll-make

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This week, Kaanji and Tara dive into the discussion about critical race theory (CRT) and share their thoughts on the controversy brewing in some school districts about school curriculum and book bans.  

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http://www.embraceaction.org/

Our hosts are back again this week and feeling nostalgic. Join Kaanji and Tara as they reflect on the past four seasons and each share five lessons learned from three years of podcasting. As usual, their comments range from honest and heartfelt to hilarious and off-the-wall. Tune in to find out the one lesson they both agree on. 

Kaanji and Tara take time this week to reflect on why resilience and perseverance are important skills to cultivate and model for their families. Our hosts share their thoughts about the confirmation hearings for Judge Ketanji Brown Jackson  and how this moment should be remembered in history. 

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In this Season 3 premiere, Kaanji and Tara are joined by parenting writer and journalist, Ericka Souter, to discuss how to have age-appropriate conversations with our kids about the war in Ukraine.  Ms. Souter shares strategies for engaging kids in challenging discussions and advice for all families on how to cope with uncertainty and anxiety, and discusses her new book, How to Have a Kid and a Life.

To learn more about Ericka and her work, visit http://erickasouter.com.

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 In this final episode of 2021, Kaanji and Tara reflect on the highlights - and low points - of this year.  Our hosts share some candid thoughts about pivoting during the pandemic and discuss what they are most looking forward to in 2022.  

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Christmas came early for our hosts as they are joined by the Emmy award-winning journalist and documentarian, Soledad O'Brien. They discuss her new series on HBO, Black and Missing, and the ongoing media bias that keeps certain stories from being told.  Join us for an incredible conversion about inclusion, empathy, and how we can make a difference in what stories are told. 

To learn more about Soledad's work, visit https://soledadproductions.com/soledad

To support the work of the Black and Missing Foundation: https://www.blackandmissinginc.com

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This episode, we review two new media releases- movie King Richard and the docu-series Black and Missing. Kaanji and Tara discuss explaining marginalization and racism fo their kids and offer insight about how parents can approach these conversations with our children.  

To learn more about the Black and Missing Foundation, visit http://www.blackandmissinginc.com/

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This week, Kaanji and Tara talk about grades and how they each approach motivating their sons to feel successful in school.  They navigate a complex conversation about how they define success, how their kids are both having a different relationship with school than they each did, and where our school systems are flawed.  Can you guess which of our hosts graduated salutatorian of her high school?

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 In this episode that originally aired in November 2020, Kaanji and Tara chat with journalist, author, nonprofit founder, and mother, Gretchen Carlson. You may know Gretchen as a former Miss America and the courageous woman who has been a leading voice in speaking out about workplace harassment. But you may not know what her kids thought about her stance or what she has been up to recently. Listen to this week’s powerful episode to find out more and be inspired by Gretchen’s journey, her resilience, and her courage.

Want to get involved in Gretchen’s work?

Donate to Lift Our Voices: https://www.liftourvoices.org/ 

If you or someone you know is experiencing workplace harassment and wants free legal counsel visit: betterbrave.org or https://nwlc.org/legal-assistance/ 

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This week, Kaanji and Tara untangle issues of beauty standards and Black hair discrimination in America.  Listen as Kaanji talks about her and her son's Black hair care journey. Tune is as our hosts talk about cultural appropriation and how it differs from cultural appreciation. 

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Tags: parenting, antiracism, diversity, inclusion, motherhood, boymoms, workingmoms, Black hair, Crown Act

Can working moms have it all? This episode, Kaanji and Tara are joined by Whitnee Hawthorne of The Savvy Working Mom to talk about the challenges working moms face and how to find balance in it all.  Whitnee shares her experiences and advice for working moms as they navigate their changing priorities and work to define a life that brings joy.  Join us for the conversation. 

You can find Whitnee's work at: thesavvyworkingmom.com

IG: @thesavvyworkingmom

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Many mothers instinctively feel a need to put their children first - before other relationships and themselves.  This episode, Kaanji and Tara share the challenges that they have had with prioritizing their marriages during motherhood, and some ways that they have learned to make time and space for their partners. Join us for the conversation. 

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In another new episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss recent research around the two-parent privilege. Listen as our hosts debate whether a two-parent privilege exists and share their upbringing stories.  Join the discussion around why it’s important to be inclusive of all family structures and learn what our hosts think about definitions of success for children.

We are wrapping up another month and our hosts discuss how fast the holiday season is approaching.  As they discuss Thanksgiving and gathering with friends and family, they each share which celebrity moms they would invite to their holiday dinner table - and why.  Kaanji begins the episode with a mea culpa, and both hosts agree on one celebrity they would invite to their table anytime.  

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Netflix's most-watched series has many parents asking: should I let my kids watch? This week, Kaanji and Tara discuss this pop culture phenomenon, why it's so popular with kids, and how parents can assess and discuss age-appropriate viewing for our kids.

Send us a voice mail via our producer ( joeysalvia@yahoo.com) to ask us a question, suggest a future topic, and comment about this or any other recent topic. You might just hear yourself on our next episode!

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This week, our hosts talk about a less controversial F word - forgiveness.  They each share how important learning to forgive has been in each of their lives and how they are working to foster the practice with their kids.  It's also a special celebratory episode as Kaanji and Tara share some big podcast milestones and welcome their new listeners!  

October is Breast Cancer Awareness month, an annual campaign to raise awareness about the impact of breast cancer.  One in 8 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in her lifetime. This week we reshare an episode from October 2020, a powerful conversation with mom, runner, and coach, Shaluinn Fullove.  Her story of being a previvor reminds us how important it is for us to put our health first.  We are still in awe of her strength and resilience, and couldn't think of a better story to reshare in honor of this month. 

About Coach Shal.  Shaluinn Fullove is a mom first.  She is a coach, professional runner, Director of People of autonomous technology at Lyft, and a cancer survivor.  She currently runs for Oiselle, a women's team based in Seattle. 

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This week, our hosts each review their top 5 pop culture picks of the season.  Their lists almost completely diverge and cover a wide spectrum of options - TV, movies, books and even social media picks.  Tara has a pick that Kaanji is completely confused by, but there is one pop culture phenomenon they both completely agree on. 

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This week, we are joined by Brenna Vivier, a mother of 3 who shares her story of navigating "invisible" illness and how she has found peace in the chaos through a regular mindfulness and meditation practice.  Brenna talks to us about being an empty nester, her new book, Water Stops, and we all reminisce about spending our early mornings in a dark room cycling together.   

Be sure to add Water Stops to your upcoming reading list. 

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This week, we are joined by Jessica Jackley, Founder of Alltruists, a company that provides a monthly subscription box that provides resources for families to engage in issues and volunteer in small, but impactful ways.  Jessica tells us how this idea was formed from both her aspiration to share her love of giving with her kids and all of those pandemic deliveries.    

Learn more about Alltruists: https://alltruists.com/    

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How much time is too much screen time? How old should kids be when they get cell phones? This week, we dive into a discussion on how we can manage our kids' non-educational screen time and the ways that we have been challenged to monitor their usage of devices and computers. Listen for some tips on realistic screen time solutions, and listen as our hosts debate whether Tara's son is old enough to get a cell phone.

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