Pride Month Series | More Human. More Kind. with Heather Hester

What if the words you say in a single moment could shape your child’s inner voice for a lifetime?

Whether you're a parent, ally, or someone striving to lead with compassion in a polarized world, understanding how language—spoken and unspoken—impacts our LGBTQ+ loved ones is crucial. This episode explores how your reactions, tone, and body language can either nurture connection or deepen divides.

In this episode you will:

• Discover how to transform missteps into deeper trust and healing with your child.
• Learn the powerful role of tone, body language, and energy in affirming identity and creating safety.
• Get clear, compassionate answers to the complex question: Is it okay to use the word “queer”?

Press play now to learn how you can use language as a bridge—not a barrier—in your journey toward more human, more kind parenting.

This month, you’re invited to join The Kind Space - a private community where compassion meets action, and where allyship becomes practice.

Pride Month Perks for New Members:

✨ 50% off your first month of membership

📘 A signed copy of Parenting with Pride - Heather’s heart-centered guide to unlearning bias, embracing your LGBTQ+ child, and leading with love

Inside The Kind Space, you'll receive:

🌀 Private podcast episodes

🌿 Bonus reflections and guided practices

💬 Monthly live Q&A calls

💛 A community of brave, kind humans walking this path with you

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You don’t have to do this alone.

This show explores connection, courage, and community for every concerned parent, mom, or ally navigating fear, grief, and bigotry with hope, resilience, and empathy. Through open-minded education, inclusive parenting guidance, and advocacy for mental health and safety, we support LGBTQ youth and stand for human rights and social justice. More Human. More Kind. empowers listeners to shift their mindset, embrace activism and allyship, and lead with kindness, healing, and purpose.

Connect with Heather:

Receive a free excerpt and reflection guide from Heather's book, Parenting with Pride.

Find out what kind of ally you are!

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Pride Month Series | More Human. More Kind. with Heather Hester

In this episode of Five Lessons from Parenting with Pride, Heather explores the myth of “getting it right” in parenting and allyship and why perfection isn’t the goal. Instead, she reframes both as daily, intentional practices rooted in humility, presence, and love. If you’ve ever felt stuck in silence for fear of saying the wrong thing, this episode will leave you feeling seen, empowered, and ready to move forward, messy and human.

Plus: a listener “Queer-y” on the evolution of LGBTQ+ terminology, and why the order of the letters actually matters.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why fear of imperfection keeps us from showing up
• How allyship and parenting are ongoing practices, not destinations
• What authentic progress actually looks like (hint: it’s not about getting it “right”)
• How to model repair, reflection, and growth in real time
• The inclusive history behind the shift from GLBT to LGBTQIA+

Listener Queer-y:

"Does the order of LGBTQ matter and how has it changed over time?"

Three Key Takeaways:

1. Let go of the need to be perfect. You’ll never know everything, and that’s okay.
2. Allyship is a practice. Keep showing up, especially when it’s uncomfortable.
3. Model repair and growth. Your child learns how to be human by watching you be human.

This Pride Month, you’re invited to join a community rooted in compassion, connection, and meaningful allyship:

💛 The Kind Space 💛

It’s where the More Human. More Kind. podcast comes to life and where we breathe deeper into what it means to show up for one another, especially our LGBTQ+ loved ones.

In honor of Pride, all new members receive:

✨ 50% off your first month of membership

📘 A signed copy of Parenting with Pride: a heart-centered guide to unlearning bias, embracing your LGBTQ+ child, and leading with love

Inside The Kind Space, you'll find:

🌀 Private podcast episodes

🌿 Bonus content, reflections, and guided practices

💬 LIVE monthly calls to answer your questions

💛 A safe, welcoming community of thoughtful, brave humans - just like you

This is the month to lean in. To stand up. To love out loud.

And to remember: You don’t have to do it alone.

👉 Join The Kind Space (use code B8318)

✨ Bonus:

Take the free quiz to discover your Ally Superpower!

👉 What Kind of Ally Are You?

Reflection Questions:

• What’s one way perfectionism has held you back from fully showing up?
• Where could you allow yourself to be “good enough” instead of flawless?
• What’s one small action you could take this week to move forward, even imperfectly?

This show explores connection, courage, and community for every concerned parent, mom, or ally navigating fear, grief, and bigotry with hope, resilience, and empathy. Through open-minded education, inclusive parenting guidance, and advocacy for mental health and safety, we support LGBTQ youth and stand for human rights and social justice. More Human. More Kind. empowers listeners to shift their mindset, embrace activism and allyship, and lead with kindness, healing, and purpose.

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This episode intricately examines the nuanced dimensions of mothering, positioning it as a fundamental aspect of the human experience. Through a contemplative lens, I reflect on the lessons and emotions tied to the act of mothering, particularly as I celebrate my daughter Isabelle's graduation from college. The narrative traverses the landscape of memory, encapsulating moments of joy, challenge, and inevitable change. As I talk about the significance of mothering, I challenge the audience to acknowledge the diverse expressions of this practice, which encompass not only biological connections but also the myriad ways in which individuals contribute to the nurturing of others. I emphasize the strength found in vulnerability and the importance of recognizing the often unseen acts of care that permeate our lives, encouraging listeners to reflect on their own experiences with mothering, both as recipients and as givers of care. Ultimately, the episode serves as a heartfelt tribute to the enduring power of love and the sacredness of nurturing relationships.

Takeaways:

• The concept of mothering transcends traditional definitions, embodying a universal and profound essence.
• Mothering encompasses nurturing, witnessing, and guiding without exerting control over others.
• Engaging in mothering is a human capacity that can manifest in various forms and relationships.
• The act of mothering often occurs in the quiet moments, unnoticed yet deeply impactful.
• Letting go is one of the most challenging aspects of mothering, requiring trust and faith.
• Reflecting on who has mothered us can reveal the often unseen connections in our lives.

Connect with Heather:

Receive a free excerpt and reflection guide from Heather's book, Parenting with Pride.

Find out what kind of ally you are!

Share More Human. More Kind. Please subscribe, rate, and review!

Connect heather@heatherhester.net

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The principal theme of this episode revolves around the profound concept of embracing curiosity rather than judgment, particularly in the realm of interpersonal communication. I express my gratitude for your presence in this safe space, where we explore the intricacies of parenting LGBTQ teens. Throughout our dialogue, I reflect on my recent engagement with the television series "Ted Lasso," which illuminates the significance of kindness and understanding. I delve deeper into the pivotal Walt Whitman quote, "Be curious, not judgmental," and its applicability in overcoming fear and fostering meaningful conversations. Ultimately, I invite you to contemplate how this approach can transform not only familial relationships but also our broader interactions within society.

I have been thinking about curiosity and in today’s solo episode, I share with you some of the provoking thoughts I have been having. Curiosity is a wonderful tool to use in conversations with others that helps remove judgment of self and others. By bringing curiosity to the conversation, we can quiet the judgmental voice and really listen to and hear others.

Do not miss these highlights:

01:25 - Things I have been thinking about

03:37 – Ted Lasso quote

04:45 – Thinking about overcoming fear

05:11 – Being curious

05:28 – New offering

07:16 – Bringing curiosity to the conversation

08:11 – Hearing and listening

10:17 – Thought-provoking episode

11:05 – Reach out to me

Connect with Heather:

Receive a free excerpt and reflection guide from Heather's book, Parenting with Pride.

Find out what kind of ally you are!

Share More Human. More Kind. Please subscribe, rate, and review!

Connect heather@heatherhester.net

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Takeaways:

• The podcast emphasizes the significance of creating a supportive environment for LGBTQ teens.
• Listeners are encouraged to engage in conversations with curiosity rather than judgment.
• The concept of fear is explored in conjunction with strategies to approach it with curiosity.
• The dialogue highlights the transformative power of kindness and understanding in relationships.
• The episode invites feedback from listeners to foster a sense of community and shared experiences.
• The hosts express their gratitude for the audience's presence and support throughout their journey.

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This podcast episode centers on the transformative journey of Jennifer, who imparts wisdom on harnessing the power of intuition and personal purpose. We explore her evolution from a federal government employee to a soul care coach, adept at accessing Akashic Records and employing energy healing techniques. Jennifer's narrative is underscored by her profound experiences that illustrate the intricate connection between emotional healing and physical well-being. Throughout our discussion, we delve into practical strategies that individuals can implement to navigate personal challenges, particularly in the realms of stress, anxiety, and relationship dynamics. Our conversation emphasizes the significance of listening to one's inner voice and recognizing the guidance that resides within, reinforcing the notion that we possess the tools necessary for our own healing and growth.

Jennifer Takagi is here to help women discover the power of their purpose. Through tapping into your truths, listening to your intuition, and trusting yourself, Jennifer can help you unlock your fullest potential. Her big message is to start paying attention to those intuitive hits we get, as they are messages guiding you to your purpose.

Join Heather and Jennifer as they cover how Jennifer got started on this path of helping heal others' energetic blocks, how to pay attention to your intuition, and how to heal your mind, body, and soul to reach your highest potential.

Do not miss these highlights:

03:37 - Snapshot into Jennifer’s life and what got her to where she is now.

06:53 – Paying attention to the signs and intuition hits.

09:23 – Whatever your belief system on receiving messages is, listen to them.

11:47 – Leadership Development Training and Spiritual Intuitive.

13:12 – Learning akashic records.

19:00 – Talking about skeptics.

23:09 – “The future of medicine is in frequencies”-Albert Einstein

30:00 – Asking your subconscious if body or emotion codes could work

33:31 – Listening to your intuition. You have more guidance within you than you give yourself credit for.

Connect with Heather:

Receive a free excerpt and reflection guide from Heather's book, Parenting with Pride.

Find out what kind of ally you are!

Share More Human. More Kind. Please subscribe, rate, and review!

Connect heather@heatherhester.net

Join the Kind Space on Patreon

Book a call!

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New episodes every Tuesday and Friday!

About our Guest:

Jennifer Takagi is the founder of Takagi Consulting. She is a 3X time Amazon.Com Best Selling-Author, Certified Jack Canfield Success Principle Trainer, Certified Professional Behavioral Analyst and Facilitator of the DISC Behavioral Profiles, Certified Change Style Indicator Facilitator and Certified Coaching Specialist -...

Michelle Abraham joins Heather in the virtual studio in this week’s episode.  Michelle is an international speaker, podcast producer, and the category directory for kids and family in Podcast Magazine.  Listen in as they discuss Michelle's foray into the podcasting industry, the lessons she has learned, and still learning,  as a parent, and the importance of getting your message out into the world before it is too late to do so.

Do not miss these highlights:

04:47 - How parenting led her to discover podcasts and her drive to inspire others to get their voice out there. 

07:01 - The organic evolution that started her to assist others in developing their podcasts

11:54 - You don’t need to be an expert in what you are podcasting about, but a curator of content. 

16:00 - Live a life that you are happy with and on your terms

19:51 - Treat your child like a human being. Say things, express things, the way you would want to see things expressed to you. Don’t be afraid to ask your kids for their input on how you can be a better human being.

24:47 - Find comfortable places to have conversations and don’t expect boys to make eye contact when talking to you.

30:05 - Michelle’s inspiration of making sure you get your message out before you are no longer able to. 

Work with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

About our Guest:

Michelle Abraham - Podcast Producer, Host and International Speaker.

Michelle was speaking on stages about podcasting before most people knew what they were, she started a Vancouver based Podcasting Group in 2012 and has learned the ins and outs of the industry. Michelle helped create and launched over 30 Podcasts in 2018 and has gone on to launch over 200 shows in the last few years, She wants to launch YOURS in 2022!

14 years as an Entrepreneur and 8 years as a Mom has led her to a lifestyle shift, spending more time with family while running location independent online digital marketing business for the last 9 years. Michelle and her family have been living completely off the grid lakeside boat access for the last 4 years!

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In this time of uncertainty, when rights are coming under threat, now more than ever it is time to become an ally. But what does it mean to be an ally?  In this episode, Heather discusses the importance of being an advocate and an ally for the LGBTQIA community and people. Uncover the eight ways that anyone can be a good ally. 

Do not miss these highlights:

03:15 - What does it mean to be an ally?

05:27 - Heather defines being an ally for the LGBTQIA community 

08:29 - An ally is not an identity it is a label.

11:10 - Being a good listener is more than being present for the conversation.

15:01 - It is great to be curious and ask questions however be respectful. 

16:27 - Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, it is part of the learning process. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

19:30 - Speak up whether in person or online. Show your solidarity.

24:30 - Beware of Rainbow Capitalism and seek out to support companies that truly support the community.

27:50 - Learn the language, what they mean and how to use them appropriately. 

31:06 - Common questions you may get as an ally and a few suggestions on the ways you can answer them. 

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone!

Support Heather's Work: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama

Crystal Whiteaker intrinsically understands the importance of inclusion. As a leadership development and DEIB consultant, she specializes in inclusive coaching and consulting for brands and leaders that care deeply about Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Belonging (DEIB).  Join Heather and Crystal as they talk about Crystal’s motivation to reaffirm a brand's core values, create a “Brave Space” within yourself, and create a positive, nourishing, nurturing, and healing connection with people. 

Do not miss these highlights:

03:32 - Helping leaders get rooted in their core values so that they can create a clear, streamlined message and experience within their business 

08:33 - Becoming aware of the beliefs you hold and whether they are truly yours or if they are ‘absorbed’ from others

13:08 - Using trauma-informed training in order to create not just a safe space but also a “brave space”

18:07 - Dealing with the sensitive nature of discussing parenting skills with others 

23:19 - Formulating your message by getting very clear on your role and values whether for business, parenting or anything else in life

32:03 - The value of listening to your children and having love and compassion for them can change the world for them when faced with adversity

Resources Mentioned

Free Guides

Core Values Guide

Inclusive Brand Statement Guide

Speaking Guide

Personal Philosophy Statement Guide

Introductory Offers

Core Values Challenge

Empowered Environments Workbook (Guided Workbook for Inclusive Leaders)

Inclusive Masterclasses

Work with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

About our Guest:

Crystal Whiteaker (pronouns: she/her/hers) is a Leadership Development and DEIB* Consultant specializing in inclusive coaching and consulting for brands and leaders that care deeply about diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging.  Crystal brings over 15 years of creative, relational, process driven experience across multiple industries.  She is a self-described "corporate trained, creative hippie” who puts a strong focus on core values to help people elevate their community connections to communicate and lead with clarity and confidence. Crystal is an advocate for leaders and organizations that provide resources and support for healing, particularly in relation to trauma. When...

“I think the real joy in life comes when you just meet the people who mean the most to you exactly where they are, and you embrace them for where they are.” - Lisa Sugarman

Heather is joined by Lisa Sugarman, a mom, a parenting author, a nationally syndicated humor columnist, and a podcast host. Join them as they discuss Lisa’s journey of discovering her authentic self, her work with The Trevor Project, and her upcoming book to help encourage others to connect and share their own stories with others so that healing can begin. 

Do not miss these highlights:

04:37 - The two pivotal moments that lead Lisa to live her best life and to her own sexuality; her father’s suicide and the coming out of her daughter

13:40 - Having raised her kids to celebrate who they were, she took her own advice to celebrate who she was

15:00 - Increasing representation by being both an ally and a member of the LGBTQ+ community

18:21 - Exploring the differences between pansexuality and bisexuality. 

23:13 - How insecurities about asking questions hold back people from satisfying their curiosities about the queer community

26:21 - The importance of being a beacon of authenticity for yourself and for others

30:33 - Lisa dives into her upcoming book about the dynamics of experiencing her father’s death as a child and when she found out the truth about it 30 years later. 

39:27 - Finishing her training as a crisis counselor under the tutelage of the Trevor Project and how dear to her heart this foundation is to her. 

50:55 - The power of traveling through the “muck” and winding up better for it. 

Work with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

Resources Mentioned

https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

Lisa’s Books: https://www.amazon.com/Lisa-Sugarman/e/B00JY0DY28?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_2&qid=1655167126&sr=8-2 

About our Guest:

Lisa Sugarman is a mom, a parenting author, a nationally syndicated humor columnist, and a podcast host, creating content that helps empower parents, especially moms, by giving them permission to embrace their perfectly imperfectness. She’s also a survivor of suicide loss, losing her father at age ten and a member and ally of the LGBTQIA+ community. Lisa writes the syndicated opinion column It Is What It Is and is the author of How To Raise Perfectly Imperfect Kids And Be Ok With It, Untying Parent Anxiety, and LIFE: It Is What It Is, available on Amazon, at Barnes & Noble, and everywhere books are sold. Sugarman is also the co-host of the podcast LIFE Unfiltered on iTunes and iHeartRadio, and a regular contributor on Healthline Parenthood, GrownAndFlown, TODAY Parents, Thrive Global, Care.com, LittleThings, and More Content Now. Lisa lives with her husband and two daughters just north of Boston. Visit her online at www.lisasugarman.com. She digs...

Heather is joined by author, therapist, and TEDx speaker, Chris Tompkins to discuss the impact of heteronormativity in today’s culture.  Listen as they unpack the differences between queerphobia and homophobia, how the language and words we use create nuances that stop us from talking to our children about being gay, and the steps that we can use to build a “New Playground” around our subconscious beliefs. 

Do not miss these highlights:

04:01 - Chris’ motivation for writing his book Raising LGBTQ Allies: A Parent’s Guide to Changing the Messages from the Playground

07:47 - Messages from the playground is an analogy to describe the subconscious beliefs that we all have about everything

12:14 - The purpose of breaking the book down into three sections; awareness, willingness and change

17:14 - Unpacking the heteronormative message and beliefs that impact our ability to talk to our children about things outside that scope

24:45 - Working in a juvenile hall where the LGBTQ youth were separated from others for safety however that just continues to perpetuate the root of the problem

35:21 - Shift the language from “it’s complicated” to “it’s complex” to be more inclined to talk

42:59 - The importance of teaching kids to love themselves, as they will make decisions thatare based on the lack of self-love

53:14 - “Don't let what you think is happening on the outside, determine what is going on in the inside.”

54:21 - A look at the steps to build a new playground

About our Guest:

Chris Tompkins is a therapist, spiritual life coach, TEDx speaker, and author of Raising LGBTQ Allies: A Parent’s Guide to Changing the Messages from the Playground. Chris believes connecting with our spirituality, loving ourselves, and taking full responsibility for our lives is where our strength lies at the deepest level. He hosts workshops and presentations for universities, conferences, and organizations across the U.S. on anti-bullying, inner advocacy, how to prevent queerphobia, and the importance of changing the messages from the playground.

https://www.aroadtriptolove.com/ 

Catch Chris’ TEDx Talk at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0P2GGcuJl6w

Get Chris’ book at https://amzn.to/3O16ISY 

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

Connor helps Heather kick off Pride Month with a fun conversation that ranges in topics from an update on how he’s doing to his thoughts on rainbow capitalism. For newer listeners who do not know who Connor is, first of all, welcome, and second of all - Connor is Heather’s oldest son whose bravery and life experience allows for this podcast as well as all of Heather’s other work. This is the fourth episode Connor and Heather have done together, so be sure to check out the others to get very real insight on the coming out process as a teen and young adult.

Do not miss these highlights:

01:52 - Catch up on what has been happening in Connor’s life since his last appearance in August 2020

13:08 - After leaving home, learn the changes in dynamics that occurred between Connor and his parents

21:17 - Utilizing therapy as a tool for self-awareness and uncovering how to address issues in a therapeutic context.

33:59 - The complexities of reconnecting socially as the pandemic restrictions ease up 

41:53 - Navigating the social media as a queer youth and the fears of parents having their kids faced with the hate that is out there

49:08 - Transitioning from queerness being a central component of your existence to being really just a part of who you are and how living in New York has allowed him to live openly

55:03 - A look at Rainbow Capitalism and it’s detrimental effects on queer artists and the pseudo support of businesses during Pride

About our Guest:

Want to know more about Connor and his story? Check out his earlier episodes on Just Breathe. 

Connor Shares His Story - Part 1: https://chrysalismama.com/connor-shares-his-story-part-one/

Part 2: https://chrysalismama.com/connor-shares-his-story-part-two/

Part 3: https://chrysalismama.com/connor-shares-his-story-part-three/ 

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

Creating a safe place for people to speak the truth, Katie Miller, the co-founder & assistant director of the Teen Suicide Prevention Society and host of Adulting Sucks podcast, is here to share her story of coming to live her life unapologetically herself and encouraging others to do the same. 

Do not miss these highlights:

04:07 - Keeping her bisexuality under the radar, Katie is now speaking up about it and holding space for people who have just have things they need to share

07:03 - We don’t need to meet the judgments, opinions, and expectations of others,  We just have to meet our own.

10:48 - Take your time to process what it is that others are saying because you might not know what's going on when you're not in the same room with them all the time.

15:66 - When others are under stress or distraught we need to show them the options they have as it is not always seeable and this is the concept used for the Team Suicide Prevention Society. 

20:39 - Embrace and reinforce the positive belief that you are capable, creative, and resourceful enough to figure out anything

26:49 - Listen without judgment and have a response based on love.

About our Guest:

Katie Miller

Katie is the co-founder & assistant director of the Teen Suicide Prevention Society.

She knows that every message matters.  Katie knows what it was like to be afraid to speak up. After launching her podcast “Adulting Sucks, but it does not have to”, Katie became more aware of the need for people to feel safe when speaking.  So, Katie has created that safe place with her podcast. Katie’s calming presence will let you focus on what you do best, sharing your message with the world.

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Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

Overcoming adversity that led him to his life’s passion of being a life coach, Sam Castle is here to share his story about removing stigma, bias, and fear.  Sam shares about his gender transformation, how life coaching changed his world when traditional therapy could not, and his overall love and passion for helping others to live life courageously. 

Do not miss these highlights:

04:42 - How hiring a life coach changed his life in a way that 10 years of therapy could not

08:28 - “You are valuable, you are loved. And it all it all starts in your mind, in the thoughts because you are the creator of your reality.”

13:48 - Fear is keeping people from being more vocal in their support and those that are vocal in their misinformation are giving their opinion on experiences that they themselves have never had. 

18:06 - Don’t stay in that place, whether mental, emotional or phsyical, seek help.  There are resources.

21:34 - When you invest in yourself, be it financial, time or other resources, tohse are the ones that you get the most value from

23:26 - Our ups and downs are meant to grow us, not break us.

28:20 - Be authentic. It is okay to be messy, people want to know how you got through it.

35:49 - Trust in yourself and don’t be afraid to seek out the support you need.

About our Guest:

Sam Castle - “I am Sam of BE YOU; DO YOU podcast and life coach. Be you; do you podcast was inspired by my gender transition from female to male and learning to love and accept who I am....a show that amplifies REAL and RAW stories of authenticity and courageous living! Be you; do you will create a transformation for listeners and participants as you begin to see that even in our differences, we are so much alike. Be you; do you is a safe space for the queer community to be seen, felt, and heard...be uplifted and encouraged. It's time to BE YOU; DO YOU and live courageously!”

You can find Sam’s podcast on Spotify at https://open.spotify.com/show/235Kp7SogjS42Q26ZKPYN2

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

Grief, in its many forms, serves as a central theme in this episode, where I engage in a candid exploration of my personal loss following the death of my sister, Corinne. Her battle with frontotemporal dementia presented a unique challenge, as each progressive loss of her faculties felt like a series of heartbreaks, leading to a profound transformation in my understanding of grief. I share the raw, unfiltered emotions that surfaced during this time—anger, despair, and a sense of isolation—as I grappled with the reality of losing someone who had been my confidant and ally. In recounting these experiences, I seek to validate the feelings of those who may also be navigating their own grief journeys, emphasizing that it is a deeply personal and often nonlinear process.

The episode further evolves to encompass the broader societal context in which we find ourselves, acknowledging the collective grief that many experience in the face of political and social upheaval. I draw connections between personal loss and the anguish felt by communities as rights and freedoms are threatened or stripped away. By framing grief as both a personal and collective phenomenon, I encourage listeners to recognize the importance of acknowledging these experiences, as they often intertwine and inform one another. This intersectionality of grief highlights the necessity for empathy and understanding in our interactions with others.

As the episode unfolds, I extend an invitation to embrace the complexity of grief, allowing it to serve as a catalyst for personal growth and societal engagement. I posit that through our shared experiences of loss, we can cultivate a greater sense of community and support, ultimately fostering a more compassionate world. My hope is that by articulating these sentiments, I can inspire others to confront their grief openly and to see it as a pathway to deeper connections and transformative action.

Takeaways:

• The podcast episode explores the profound effects of grief and transformation following the loss of a loved one.
• Grief manifests in various forms, encompassing deep sadness, anger, and even moments of unexpected joy.
• Understanding grief as a universal experience allows us to connect with others who are suffering from loss.
• The journey of grief is nonlinear and personal, requiring space for emotions to emerge and be processed.

Links referenced in this episode:

• leagueofwomenvoters.org
• electionprotection.org
• fairvote.org
• protectdemocracy.org

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To fully feel the human experience we have to be able to overcome the fears and feelings that we innately avoid.  In today’s conversation, our guest, Candy Motzek discusses how we are so influenced by our thoughts and the feelings behind them that it does not allow us to connect to others in a way that is mutually beneficial.  Self-awareness is key and Candy shares some strategies on how we can recognize our thoughts and feelings and create the actions that will create our outcomes. 

Do not miss these highlights:

03:27 - Discover how Candy came into coaching and even more specifically, coaching other coaches. 

09:08 - Listening to the words of someone is one thing but when you can watch and listen, you can gain a whole being perspective and learn much more about the person

13:34 - Utilizing the car as a way to create a safer environment for conversations to happen with your teen.

16:43 - Part of the life journey is fear and we all need to accept that it is just an emotion and accept it as part of life, not try to avoid it. 

22:44 - Fear does not differentiate between physical and emotional danger

24:12 - Candy shares a technique to help you clear your thoughts, understand how they make you feel, and maybe feel more centered in your day.

27:38 - “Your thoughts create your feelings, your feelings drive your actions, and the sum of your thoughts, feelings, and actions, create your life and create your outcome.”

32:24 - A process to look at how to understand our feelings behind the thoughts.

38:38 - Helping children at any age to understand their feelings allows them to have a more full human experience.

Resources Mentioned

Candy’s Podcast - She Coaches Coaches

About our Guest:

Candy is a podcast host, author, and life & business coach for coaches. She believes that coaching transforms lives. She helps coaches get unstuck and feel more confident so they can play bigger, sign clients and create more meaningful success. She is a 'recovering' corporate executive and engineer who combines practical strategy and mindset in her calming unique approach.

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Rick Clemons is a men's coming-out coach and a bold move strategist inspiring gay men to live life with no excuses, no fears, and no apologies. In today’s episode, Heather and Rick dive into the journey that is coming out, coming into the power of living your full truth, and the process behind it all.  Rick also has some valuable advice for the parents of LGBTQ+ children on loving their child’s authentic self and what you can do to support them. 

Do not miss these highlights:

05:43 - Own that journey. Own that you're a parent of an LGBTQ individual because when you can own that, the journey becomes much easier

08:27 - How Rick’s speaking in a college in Southern California became a divine intervention and set off the basis of his brand

12:39 - Embrace that coming out is a journey that doesn't end

13:52  - Once you start to own it and figure it out, part of the power is to realize that every day you're going to have the opportunity to come out 

16:11 - The person coming out and anybody who they’re sharing that information needs the time and space to process it

29:32 - It's important to know your child still loves you. It has nothing to do with something you did wrong.

34:26 - Enjoy your life and be who you are because there's nothing worse than pretending to be something you're not

37:27 This is not about you at all… This is about your child, your spouse, your friend stepping into their 100% authentic self

41:15 - The Six Step Process of coming out

42:10 - What is the most important thing parents can do to support their LGBTQ child?

About our Guest:

Rick Clemons is a well-known culture disruptor (in a good way), closet buster (men’s coming out coach), and bold move strategist – inspiring gay men to live life with no excuses, no fears, no apologies. Tapping into his 25+ years’ experience in personal development, Rick leverages his status as a late bloomer - coming out of the closet at 36 and stepping into entrepreneurship at 43 - to lovingly kick other gay men in the ass to thrive in their own lives without apologies – professionally and personally. 

He is a Professionally Certified Coach, has been a frequent contributor to Huffington Post, YourTango, The Good Men Project, author of (Frankly My Dear I’m Gay), podcaster (Life (UN)Closeted and 40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk), and an international speaker who uses his signature 6-Step process to motivate and inspire audiences to break out of the closets of their lives – no excuses, no fears, no apologies. He loves wine, his two grown daughters, and his husband, in that order but don’t tell the hubby where he fits in the pecking order. Visit his website at RickClemons.com.

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People want to label everything.  There is a perceived comfort in having something or someone identified with a label but it is not always healthy. Many today are moving past labels and want to be accepted for who they are not shoved into a box just to make you comfortable. Our guest Julie Anne and her partner, Vicente, are here to discuss this concept of labels, how we can move on from them and experience freedom. They also talk about starting the Misfit Movement, a gathering of people who are seen as being outside the “norm” for one reason or another, and the work they are doing by bringing everyone together. 

Do not miss these highlights:

02:45 - How meeting all kinds of people in Detroit helped Vicente build a connection and  understand the differences of people 

07:53 - The essence of being able to come across a fellow human being  with no judgment, with no expectations, and with no boundaries 

12:06 - Why they started the Misfits Movement

15:01 - If you want to get to the other side of the valley, to experience a different part of the world, you would be at least conform to a certain regimen, practice, or discipline to across like the real world 

15:59 - What is Misfit Movement

21:14 - We all have permission to consider who we are in this world

23:23 - Love is the most important thing that every human needs to survive and thrive

25:44 - Anger is a very important emotion that people are afraid of, but anger can be very productive,  it is telling us something

26:48 -  How expressing yourself could build a bridge to connect with other people

About our Guest:

Julie Ann Salisbury 

Julie Ann is the Founder of Influence Publishing Inc and a TEDx Speaker. In the last ten years, she has published over 200 books and made over 80% of those International Best Sellers. She claims to be the world’s only Dyslexic book publisher and her TEDx Talk on “The Gift of Dyslexia” has had almost 100,000 views.  She has been featured on British and Canadian TV, The Daily Mail, International Radio and Podcasts, and conducted many inspirational speeches.  She has won many awards including The Golden Gravel Speech contest, International Toastmasters, Woman of Worth Success and Soul, Unlimited Woman of Creativity and has been short-listed for The Canadian Excellence Awards 2021.

She is the Best-Selling author of “Around the World in Seven Years – A Life-Changing Journey” which catalogues her journey around the world from 1998-2005 by sailboat, train, bus, and plane.  She is a member of the New York Circumnavigators club as the slowest circumnavigator, traveling from the UK to South Africa, Tanzania, Dar es Salem, Zanzibar, Kenya, Seychelles, Maldives, Chagos (crossing the Indian Ocean by sailboat), Thailand, Malaysia, Laos, Cambodia, Canada, The Baja of Mexico, and the Sea of Cortex, flying the final leg from Mexico City back to the UK.  She presently lives in Puerto Vallarta with her Mexican Fiancé who is a Salsa and Latin dance instructor and loves dancing Salsa, Cumbia, and the Cha Cha every week along with the live Cuban band in Bodeguita Cuban Club in Puerta Vallarta.  She is a dual citizen of the UK and Canada.

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Having a chance to speak with Heather on her show was another step for my journey in growing. My expression of self-love to others is fostered by people who choose to spend their time like Heather, who give a...

As a parent, and especially if you're a mom, you know the importance of creating a safe and nurturing environment for your children. But do you do it for yourself as well?  Mia Moran of Plan Simple is joining Heather today to talk about not just making sure we are providing what we need for our children’s mental health but also what we need to do for ourselves to support them.

Do not miss these highlights:

02:21 - Mia shares the revelation that led her to start her health journey and create Plan Simple

03:44 - Pulling her kids out of school to go on tour teaching people how to plan simple healthy meals and how it did not impact them educationally but instead benefited their global development

09:22 - The Correlation between a parents mental health care in order to be able to teach our children to have their own healthy sense of mental health

10:58 - Taking herself to the next level in order to support her daughter who was struggling emotionally

16:26 - Being in the present really helped determine what was needed to support her

18:04 - How Mia’s work has shifted because of this experience

23:22 - The pitfall of filling your “planner” in order to be busy and not taking time for yourself and also being present for your family

About our Guest:

Mia Moran is a mom of three and coach who also makes time for wellness—and shows overwhelmed women how they can too. She is the host of the PlanSimple podcast, bestselling author of PlanSimple Meals, and creator of the FLOW Planning Method and Planner.

Mia’s wellness adventure became a full-blown ride about 12 years ago during a health crisis when she understood the power food could have on her health, her family connection, and her productivity. That experience led her to become a student of food, wellness, spirituality, motherhood, and productivity. 

She experienced two unforeseen gifts from this journey. First, the practice of finding ease, despite balancing what looks like a full plate of work, home, motherhood and food. Second, the gift of a good plan.

Website: https://plansimple.com

Instagram: instagram.com/plansimple.co/

Podcast: Plan Simple Podcast

Book: Plan Simple Meals

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Not many have the privilege of knowing who they are from the start.  For most of us, life is a journey of reflection and self-discovery.  Jessie Kanzer, actress and reporter turned author, joins us today to share her journey as a Russian Immigrant feeling lost in an alien world to her discovery of the Tao Te Ching that set her on the path to becoming the person she is meant to be. Listen to her grounding message that will not only benefit each of us personally but our loved ones as well. 

Do not miss these highlights:

02:10 - A look into Jessie’s book, Don't Just Sit There, DO NOTHING: Healing, Chilling, and Living with the Tao Te Ching, and an explanation of what Tao Te Ching is about.

6:21 - How these teaching influenced her coming from an “achievement-based” culture

9:05 - Connecting and trusting your inner voice and begin listening to our intuition, especially when it comes to parenting our children

14:55 - Realizing that stepping into our awareness requires vulnerability and that authenticity does not come in a form of perfection

17:22 - Jessie summarizes the Tao Te Ching to three concepts; simplicity, patience, compassion

23:15 - A look at how losing your identity can be a gift to find yourself again.

28:07 - A discussion about labels and the hindrance they bring to self-discovery

32:12 - The importance of helping our children to fully understand what they are feeling and put a name to it. 

36:05 - “When somebody else questions their identity, it almost becomes a mirror. And if you have never faced the nuances within yourself, including nuanced emotions, that is very uncomfortable.”

39:33 - How The Tao can cure you of perfectionism

41:11 - The importance of embracing stillness

About the Guest:

Jessie Kanzer was born in the Soviet Union. At the age of eight, she emigrated with her family to Brooklyn. She is a writer, former reporter and actress.

For years, Jessie felt like a failure, unable to hustle hard enough to "make it" either as an actress or in the rat race. Her childhood as a Russian immigrant in post-Cold War America heightened her insecurity and threatened her identity, desperate as she was to fit into a culture that was alien at best and hostile at worst. This loss and eventual reclamation of her sense of self sent her on a spiritual journey during which she discovered the Tao Te Ching, which changes everything for her. The Tao taught her that there was power in stillness and that all struggles come bearing gifts if you know how to recognize them. Her message will connect with listeners desperate to find grounding as we move into a new year filled with trepidation and no guarantees of a return to normalcy.

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Jackie Simmons, the Director of the Teen Suicide Prevention Society, joins Heather in this week’s episode.  Jackie shares her story that drives her passion to make teen suicide a thing of the past.  She also discusses the impact we can have just by having simple conversations with our "Power 20" that can help teens and adults alike to start thinking differently about their lives. 

Do not miss these highlights:

02:47 - Jackie discusses the awakening she had with her daughter at age 37 opened up about her own story during a speech.

09:30 - With over 3000 teen suicide attempts a day, could these be stopped just by opening up to have conversations?

12:23 - Jackie and Heather roleplay the script of 4 questions to ask your teen when beginning the conversation.

15:33 - These straightforward questions begin to build a new neural network that causes one to start looking at reasons for staying.

17:37 - Suicidal thoughts are normal and part of the brain’s worst-case scenario

19:35 - How the script builds a buffer to help people not go from helpless to hopeless

21:38 - Jackie talks about the Power of 20 and being powerfully proactive.

23:28 - A look at the impact the Society has had in Nairobi, Kenya

25:32 - The reasons why teens do not want to talk to others about suicidal thoughts

28:20 - The Double Down effect that happens to the brain when you try not to think about something and Jackie explains the law of attraction in action.

35:11 - The pre-covid rate of suicide thoughts in teens and when you need to get an intervention specialist in place

39:32 - A look at the Positivity Quotient - the number of positive thoughts to negative

44:18 - Open up the conversation because we should assume that everybody is at risk

About Our Guest:

"TEDx speaker, Radio Show Host, International Best-selling Author, Resilience Master, and co-founder of the Teen Suicide Prevention Society, Jackie Simmons is best known for her mission to “Wake Up The World.” 

In 1995, blindsided by her 14-year-old daughter’s suicide attempt, Jackie entered a world of depression, addictions, medical mysteries, and deadly silences. 

The journey into the world of mental health services and cultural taboos left Jackie feeling lost and alone.  

“OK” on the outside, with “really, I’m fine,” her most frequent response to inquiries about how she was doing. Jackie hid her deep, psychic wounds from the world behind a façade of frantic entrepreneurial activity.

Then on August 3, 2019, Jackie’s now 37-year-old daughter, broke the silence. Jackie wasn’t ready. She calls August 3, 2019 the day her “purpose tapped her on the shoulder.” 

Please join Jackie on her mission to make teen suicide a thing of the past. You may never know whose life you’ll save. www.TeenSuicidePreventionSociety.com 

The Teen Suicide Prevention Society is a registered 501c3 – to make a donation visit: www.TeenSuicidePrevnetionSociety.org"

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Heather is joined by Greg Howard, an author that writes novels aimed at middle-grade students.  What is fantastic about Greg’s books is that he taps into stories about marginalized youth, specifically LGBTQ+.  Listen as they talk about Greg’s books, his motivation, the effects his books have had on readers, and the importance of having representation for the often forgotten middle-grade readers. 

Do not miss these highlights:

02:07 - A look into his latest book, The Visitors, which is about a middle-grade ghost story about the spirit of a boy who is stuck on a deserted rice plantation. 

05:31 - How Greg taps into where the kids are and evolves it through his new books

10:21 -  The 2 big reasons why Greg wrote his book, The Whispers

14:56 - Reading their kid’s book helps parents gain so much insight and will be able to see things through their kids' eyes

19:37 - When you read stories about marginalized people, it should change your perspective and develop more empathy for them. 

20:52 - Why the topic of suicide is not inappropriate for middle-grade readers, especially given the youth suicide statistics 

31:47 - Greg shares some of his experiences of being a queer kid

39:53 - There is a need to recognize that are dealing with different issues and that their stories are valid, have value, and they need to be represented and seen.

43:15 - What is the fear inherent ins parents that their queer child will read about another queer child committing suicide. 

50:17 - There is usually more than one reason that kids commit suicide.  It is rare that there is a single cause. 

52:59 - The most important thing for marginalized youth is to know and feel like they're being seen and heard

Howard’s Books

The Visitors - https://amzn.to/3tTzxtz

The Whispers - https://amzn.to/3nSqiG4

Middle School’s A Drag - https://amzn.to/3nTRS5Z

About our Guest:

Greg Howard was born and raised in the South Carolina Lowcountry where his love of stories blossomed at a young age. Originally set on becoming a songwriter, Greg followed that dream to Nashville, Tennessee, where he spent years producing the music of others before eventually returning to his childhood passion of writing stories. Greg writes about LGBTQ characters and issues as his focus is writing the kind of books he wishes he’d had access to as a gay kid growing up in the South. He currently resides in Nashville with his three rescued fur babies--Molly, Toby, and Riley. Greg’s latest middle-grade offering, The Visitors, will be published by Putnam/Penguin on February 1, 2022.

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During a recent event, Podapalooza, I was fortunate to connect with two people that right away I knew I had to get them on the show.

The first guest is Amy Zwaigenbaum, and she is a transformational stress coach. And we all know we can do with less stress in our lives. She discusses some of the stresses we as parents, especially moms are facing and a few coping strategies we can all use.

My second guest is Joanne light and she really talks a lot about emotional intelligence and the importance of developing that as a skill. We are raising the future and Joanne works with parents to help their children develop resilience and empathy to become the leaders of tomorrow.

About our Guests:

Amy Zwaigenbaum

Niche: Professional Supermoms over 30 suffering from stress-related illnesses

I am a Reiki Master, Teacher, and Transformational Stress Coach who realized that society has taught women for longer than anyone can remember that they need to be a Supermom taking care of their homes, husbands, and children in addition to being professional career women to help support their families. This creates an impossible workload to accomplish that results in stress-related illnesses and a reduced enjoyment of life. I help people break free from stress, anxiety, overwhelm, and burnout. This is accomplished through individual and group coaching sessions, meditation classes, Cleaver Fever Cure classes, and workshops.

Stress Relief tool: https://helpmestresscoach.com

Joanne Light

Niche: Parents of Tweens and Teens

Joanne Light is a Parent Empowerment Coach, mother and grandmother, and retired College administrator and counselor. She earned her doctorate in education and counseling from Boston University and chose to further her expertise through a life coaching certification and a certification in training in Emotional Intelligence. Her coaching practice currently focuses on the challenges and strategies parents need to navigate their parenting journey. Through research and personal experience, Joanne continues to pursue her passion for heart-centered coaching and for contributing to raise the next generation. Her appearances on radio shows, podcasts, and summits have enabled her to share with a diverse audience.

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December 2021 - I thought it might be helpful to repost this episode (originally posted 12/2019). This time of year can bring out the best...and the worst...in all of us. What do you need to stay connected to yourself or have the energy and wisdom to create a peaceful, joyful home for the holidays? As we continue to shift and grow in this ever-changing world, I find that it can be comforting to hear a familiar voice or hear tried and true advice just so you can give yourself a tiny gold star. Lean it, listen up, and know that you are not alone!

Appropriately timed, in this episode about surviving crises during the holidays Heather Hester shares another snippet of her personal story and gives seven strategies that worked for her. Her ultimate goal is for the listener to feel supported and like they have options and choices for working through tough times that happen to occur during this most wonderful - and most hectic - time of year!

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To celebrate two years of podcasting, Heather shares a few brief thoughts on gratitude and the importance of a gratitude practice as well as a few of her personal examples.

Heather also teases what is coming in the next few months for her listeners - workshops, more personal ways to connect, and so much more! If you are not connected, click HERE to get on her email list!

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The exploration of the right to peacefully assemble delves into a fundamental aspect of democracy that is often overlooked yet remains vital for societal progression. This episode articulates the historical lineage of this right, tracing its roots back to English common law, where assemblies were frequently viewed with suspicion by those in power. The discussion underscores significant moments in American history, such as the Boston Tea Party, which exemplified the power of collective action against oppressive governance. Moreover, the episode examines how this right has been a crucial tool for marginalized communities seeking equality and justice throughout history, while also addressing contemporary challenges that threaten its exercise, including recent legislative actions aimed at constraining protest activities. Through this examination, we are reminded that the act of gathering is not merely a means of protest but a profound expression of community and shared values, essential for the vitality of democracy itself.

Takeaways:

• The right to peacefully assemble is fundamental to a healthy democracy and is enshrined in the First Amendment of the Constitution.
• Historically, assemblies have been essential for marginalized communities to advocate for equality and challenge oppressive systems.
• The power of gathering transcends mere protest; it encompasses collective expression, community building, and social movements.
• Legal protections for assembly, as demonstrated in various court cases, affirm that even unpopular views deserve safeguarding.
• Recent challenges to the right of assembly include legislation that criminalizes certain protest tactics and increased surveillance of demonstrators.
• The ability to gather is not just about dissent; it is a profound human act that fosters connection and collective resilience.

Links referenced in this episode:

• aclu
• national lawyers guild
• protect the protest

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To celebrate her 50th episode, Heather talks about the biggest "aha" moments she has had personally and that she and Steve have had as a couple over the past five years.

This personal and lively recollection touches on family, faith, being "good," the idea of perfection, and more!

Heather also teases what is coming in the next few months for her listeners - workshops, more personal ways to connect, and so much more! If you are not connected, click HERE to get on her email list!

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049 - October is LGBTQ History Month. This interview not only honors history, but also teaches little-known facts and pieces of the time before Stonewall. In this episode, Heather interviews author, broadcaster, and gay rights activist Robert C. Steele about his book - Banned From California: Jim Foshee - Persecution, Redemption, Liberation...and the Gay Civil Rights Movement.

Jim Foshee's story is as colorful as is it heartbreaking, and a powerful reminder of the importance of never forgetting the past. We see 70 years of LGBTQ history through the eyes of this gay activist. Instead of a dry, academic approach, Robert's reporting and telling of this story are captivating and allows us to experience LGBTQ history from a first-person perspective.

Learn:

* What the early gay liberation movement was like and how it paved the way for today's LGBTQ+ movement.

* Interesting facts about the first gay publication in 1954 and the use of code words.

* The levels of bigotry and homophobia gay Americans faced in the 1950s and 1960s and the typical consequences of coming out at that time.

Read a recent Publisher's Weekly review of Banned from California on Heather's website.

**We had some technical difficulties during this interview, so please be aware that the sound quality is not the usual.**

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In this episode, Heather interviews creator, producer, and director, Anthony Hand, who gives a sneak peek into his feature-length animated film (anticipated release Spring 2024) Maxxie LaWow: Drag Super-Shero. Anthony's background in product design in Silicon Valley along with his love and appreciation for drag and childhood affinity for comic books melded together to create this never-told-before story!

Backed by both private investors and a fandom that meets at the intersection of LGBTQ+ culture, anime, and a comic book universe that other creators have yet to venture into, Maxxie LaWow first crowdsourced funding initiative just launched on September 15!

See the amazing 2-minute adventure reel and learn more about Maxxie HERE

Want to help fund this project? Learn more HERE!

As queer creators, Anthony and his team are creating a unique film that will appeal to:

*the queer community

*fans of animation

*fans of the superhero story

*fans of drag

Anthony is relatable and this unique and fun storyline is bound to leave you wanting to know more!

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In this episode, Heather interviews Cara McNulty, DPA, President, Aetna Behavioral Health, a CVS Health Company. As a population health scientist, Cara is particularly passionate about our adolescents, teens, and young adults, supporting and advocating for them, and educating people of all ages on the importance of mental health well-being. Mental well-being is at the core of our health; separating physical from mental health only increases stigma.

Heather and Cara discuss:

* Suicide prevention and dispelling the myth that talking about suicide with your kids increases the risk. The reality is talking about suicide REDUCES the risk - having open conversations helps our adolescents/teens/young adults feel heard.

* Asking hard questions takes practice, but it doesn't need to be perfect. Remember to embrace the messiness!

* The importance of educating ourselves on mental health wellbeing.

"Without mental health well-being, physical health is impaired."

Resources from this episode:

* The Youth Risk Behavior Survey

* Mental Health Awareness Guide for Parents and Caregivers (Aetna/CVS Health)

* Suicide Prevention (CVS Health)

* Mental Health Awareness Guide for Young Adults (Aetna/CVS Health)

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In this episode, Heather interviews Robbin McManne.  Robbin is the author of The Yelling Cure, How to Stress Less and Get Your Kids to Cooperate without Threats and Punishments as well as the host of the award-winning podcast, Parenting our Future. In 2020 Robbin was named one of the top 50 moms in podcasting by Podcast Magazine!

Robbin understands the struggle of parenting. Like so many of us, she’s experienced the life of the overstressed and overwhelmed mom – until she found the world of Peaceful Parenting that she now lives and teaches. She loves to share how to get more cooperation and better listening all while building strong relationships and connection with our kids. 

Heather and Robbin talk about listening to understand vs. listening to respond, affirmation vs. acceptance, and so much more!

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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In this solo episode, Heather starts a new tradition - a quarterly Q & A episode! She starts with two questions and some profound thoughts shared by a listener.

What parenting skills will help us 1. navigate challenges and 2. Empower our children in their process?

"...I would like more on integrating true Christian beliefs. I was taught that it is an abomination & my theological world has been rocked."

Heather details six skills to answer the first question. She shares her thoughts and personal experiences to answer the second, as well as wisdom from Susan Cottrell, Colby Martin, and Matthew Vines.

Do you have questions?? Email me and I will answer in a future show!

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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In this solo episode, Heather discusses depression and anxiety in great detail. She answers questions like:

* What do we look for?

* How do we know the difference between typical teenage development and more serious issues?

* What coping tools will help my child manage depression or anxiety?

* What kind of professional support is available?

Here are a few of her favorite educational mental health websites:

National Alliance on Mental Illness

National Institute of Mental Health

The Trevor Project

Healthline - Mental Health Resources

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In this episode, Heather and her 15-year-old daughter Grace have a thoughtful and enlightening discussion about pronouns. Grace has wisdom far beyond her 15 years, and yet is acutely in touch with the teenage experience. If you are curious about how to use pronouns properly and what they mean, this is the episode for you! 

Here are four tips from linguistics specialist, Dr. Kirby Conrad:

 1.     Slow down! Plan your speech. Meeting another’s need sometimes means talking carefully and thoughtfully.

2.     If you’re correct, LISTEN! Do not talk over someone if they are correcting you. Be humble and cultivate awareness.

3.     Don’t make excuses. Period.

4.     If you mess up, correct yourself briefly and don’t make a big deal out of it. You are human, it’s going to happen.

You can listen to his podcast episode HERE

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In this episode, Heather interviews Trystan Reese, author of the brand-new memoir, How We Do Family. Trystan is redefining the idea of family. His memoir covers so many important issues, from trans pregnancy to adoption to LGBTQ parenting. More, it does so in such an inspiring—yet relatable—tone. Trystan’s voice shines through in the best way as he shares his story and lessons applicable to every family.

Trystan and Heather discuss the value of "doing the work." Using Brene Brown's wisdom, "If my healing is dependent on your response to my story, I'm not ready to tell my story," Trystan shares the difference between doing work from a scar or from a wound. Simple yet profound.

He has beautiful thoughts on allyship: "What allyship encourages us to do is to broaden the lens, is to use the power of empathy to see the world through other peoples' eyes and to be open and to be curious and to be humble; to hopefully move into seeing that we are all so deeply and profoundly interconnected to each other.

Trystan's book, How We Do Family, is truly a must-read! Written in such a relatable way, you will finish it with a deeper understanding of the trans experience specifically as well as a greater empathy for all who are in the LGBTQ community in general.

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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In this episode, Heather shares an overview of Pride history, including the Stonewall Riots, why the pink triangle is a global symbol, and how the rainbow flag became the symbol for LGBTQ+ pride. She begins with the following anonymous quote:

"LGBTQ pride was not born of a need to celebrate being LGBTQ, but our right to exist without persecution. So instead of wondering why there isn't a straight pride, be thankful you don't need one."

If this episode piques your curiosity about the history of Pride, check out some of Heather's favorite resources:

Websites

* them.

* The History Channel

* Britannica

Books

Gay & Lesbian History for Kids: The Century-Long Struggle for LGBT Rights

Pride: The Story of the LGBTQ Equality Movement

What was Stonewall? (One of the "What was? Who was? books)

Stonewall: The Definitive Story of the LGBTQ Rights Uprising That Changed America

We Are Everywhere

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Today's episode revolves around the profound significance of boundaries, which we assert are not merely barriers, but rather essential frameworks for fostering love and respect towards oneself and others. We recontextualize the concept of boundaries, traditionally perceived as harsh confines, into bridges that facilitate clearer communication and deeper connections. Boundaries serve as vital expressions of care and self-respect, allowing individuals to safeguard their emotional and energetic well-being. We examine the many forms that boundaries may take—be they emotional, physical, or temporal—and underscore their role in establishing clarity, safety, and trust within interpersonal relationships. As we navigate through the complexities of life, we invite our listeners to reflect on where boundaries may be necessary, thereby enhancing both personal and collective well-being.

Takeaways:

• In this episode, we explore the concept of boundaries as essential expressions of love and care towards oneself and others.
• We must understand that boundaries are not punitive or rejections, but rather avenues for deeper connections and mutual respect.
• Identifying the signs of needing boundaries is crucial, such as feeling overwhelmed or saying yes when we wish to decline.
• The act of communicating our boundaries should be approached with compassion and clarity for effective relationships.

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This episode is a fascinating, eye-opening, and much-needed educational interview with Dr. David Huebner. Dr. Huebner is a clinical psychologist by training, and currently an Associate Professor in the Department of Prevention and Community Health at George Washington University (GWU), as well as the Co-Director of the Social and Behavioral Sciences Core at the Washington, DC Center for AIDS Research.  His research examines how discrimination from families, schools, and communities impacts HIV risk and other health outcomes among sexual minority adolescents and young adults. Recently he has been working to design and evaluate interventions to support parents of LGBT youth, with the goal of helping parents improve their children’s health and well-being. Dr. Huebner is also committed to supporting community organizations’ efforts to engage in evidence-based practices – he has served on several local and regional HIV prevention community planning groups and was the Chair of the National Board of Directors for the Gay, Lesbian, Straight Education Network (GLSEN.)

"They are learning about sex every day. Do you want to be one of the voices in that conversation?" This is just one of the powerful questions Heather and Dr. Huebner discuss. He also shares:

* An in-depth education about HIV and how to prevent it.

* The four "buckets" of sexual information parents should discuss with all of their kids regardless of sexual orientation.

* What we need to share with our gay and bisexual boys specifically.

* Why we need to strike "THE TALK" from our parenting repertoire.

This interview is a very open discussion with LOTS of details! In fact, a portion was so detailed that Heather and Dr. Huebner decided to save it for bonus education. Stay tuned for how you can access it!

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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In this episode, Heather discusses biphobia and the five most common LGBTQ+ myths. Like transphobia, biphobia is common in both the heterosexual community and the LGBTQ+ community, making it exponentially more isolating and difficult to combat. Heather shares facts and ways that we all can be good allies and advocates.

She also shares the five most common LGBTQ+ myths and easy responses when you are faced with these myths.

1. Being LGBTQ+ is a choice.

2. Being LGBTQ+ can be "cured."

3. The parents did something wrong.

4. The Bible condemns being LGBTQ+.

5. Being LGBTQ+ is contagious.

Here are the links she talks about in this episode:

Trevor Project

Detailed definition of Biphobia

Robin Ochs website

Bisexual Index - Biphobia

Bisexual Index - Bisexuality

Strong Family Alliance

Bisexuality 101

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Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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In this episode, Heather interviews Andrew Jordan Nance, founder of Mindful Arts San Francisco whose mission is to provide literary and arts-based mindfulness instruction to youth at underserved San Francisco schools. He has been an educator for over 25 years and is the author of four mindfulness books.

Mindfulness is such a valuable practice for all human beings, and Heather has found it particularly helpful over the past four years.

Andrew shares practical advice on cultivating a mindfulness practice, as well as engaging stories and examples throughout the interview. A few of the topics include:

* Understanding mindfulness as connection with the mind, heart, and the body.

* Responding wisely vs. reacting blindly

* Incorporating mantras such as: Today may I be kind. Today may I be focused. Today may I be curious.

Here are links to Greater Good Science Center and Mindful Schools.

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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In this episode, Heather interviews Rae McDaniel, founder of the online coaching community, The Gender Fck Club (awesome resources here), as well as Practical Audacity, a gender and sex therapy practice in Chicago.  They have been featured in The New York Times, Refinery29, and Women's Health.

Rae ultimately believes that gender transitions can be an exciting time filled with exploration and self-discovery. They are on a mission to build a world where gender transitions are celebrated just like having a baby, landing a new job, or getting married.

Rae shares:

* Their experience of coming out as queer to unsupportive parents in rural Louisiana, and their journey to finding a supportive community.

* What it means to be transgender and non-binary, including a primer on trans-affirming language and the gender spectrum.

* Their advice to parents who want to be supportive but are afraid of making a mistake.

* How your teen can find joy in their transition amid the reality that they may face rejection.

**HUGE apologies for the poor quality of the initial intro - hang on for the 20 seconds or so, it gets better!**

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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In this episode, Heather interviews Richard Capriola, author of The Addicted Child: A Parent’s Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse. Richard has over two decades of experience working with adults and adolescents diagnosed with substance abuse disorders. The book includes an explanation of how drugs work in the teen brain, warning signs every parent should know about, what assessments and tests are important for a diagnosis and much more. This interview is a great primer for substance use and abuse!

Click HERE to visit Richard's website for more information.

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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Heather responds to a listener's question about how to handle someone who is non-affirming with a tip and an example-filled "101" episode.

She discusses the importance of word choice, gives several general tips, and three detailed examples based on the listener's situation, how to respond to a Christian family member or friend, and how to handle those who are homophobic.

Heather references three powerful resources:

Queer Theology

Nathanial Totten Green blog

letter on PFLAG

Connect with Heather:

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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This short episode packs a punch! Heather candidly shares some recent experiences and her thoughts on hard days, as well as the serendipitous discovery of an article by one of her favorite thought leaders, Brene Brown.

HERE is a link to Ms. Brown's website and HERE is a link to one of her podcasts, Unlocking Us.

Heather also shares a mini-lesson on self-compassion, using an incredible resource from Positive Psychology as a guide. HERE is a helpful daily checklist!

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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In this episode, Heather interviews author and speaker, Britt East. While Britt's book, "A Gay Man's Guide to Life," is written for gay men by a gay man - it is an engaging, informative read that really sheds light on understanding gay men for those of us who are raising one!

Heather and Britt discuss societal homophobia, sustainable gay friendships, hook-up apps, and so much more! Britt offers meaningful advice for those of us who love and/or are raising LGBTQ kids:

"When you ask 'What can I do?' ask instead, 'Who can I be?'"

In one of the most powerful segments, Heather and Britt  discussed the importance of modeling our humanity,

 "...find a path to set down your trauma and heal so they can witness that healing in you, and thereby heal part of themselves..."

To gain a better understanding of the LGBTQ+ experience, Britt recommends brushing up on your LGBTQ history. Here are a few books to get you started:

The Gay Agenda

The Book of Pride

The Right Side of History

Learn more about Britt HERE

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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In this episode, Heather responds to a listener's request for more information on changes during the coming-out process. She approaches her answer from two angles:

1. reviewing the stages of the coming out process

2. sharing specific instances from her family's experience

Connor and Steve weigh in as well with thoughtful responses from two very different perspectives.

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In this episode, Heather interviews life coach Kevin Nahai. Faced with extraordinary mental health and physical health challenges as a teen and young adult, Kevin tried many paths before digging into and healing the roots of his struggles. Through his journey, he created his own approach and methodology for whole-body wellness.  He is now a coach for young adults working with them on:

* self-esteem and confidence

* body image

* anxiety and depression

* dating and relationships

His quest is bridging the gap between what we know in our heads and feel in our hearts.

Kevin shares so many wonderful nuggets that can help all of us on our journeys!

You can find Kevin through Instagram @KevinNahai

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The inaugural episode of More Human, More Kind serves as a poignant introduction to a transformative journey that seeks to cultivate deeper connections among individuals grappling with the complexities of their identities and relationships. The host, Heather Hester, eloquently reflects on the evolution of her podcast, originally conceived as Just Breathe, which provided a sanctuary for parents navigating the challenges faced by LGBTQ teens. This initial premise has blossomed into a broader exploration of human experience, emphasizing the necessity of compassion, courage, and authenticity in our daily lives. Hester articulates a profound understanding of the emotional trials faced by many, offering solace to those who feel isolated in their struggles. Through her narrative, she invites listeners to embrace their vulnerabilities, fostering a sense of community and shared humanity that transcends mere parenting advice.

As the episode unfolds, Hester articulates her vision for the future of the podcast, delineating its expanded focus on essential themes such as identity, mental health, and the dynamics of kindness versus niceness. She emphasizes the importance of showing up authentically and maintaining boundaries, all while navigating the turbulent landscape of contemporary society filled with divisiveness and hostility. The podcast promises to provide thoughtful interviews, insightful solo episodes, and practical tools for personal growth, encouraging listeners to engage with their emotions and foster more meaningful connections with themselves and others. Hester's commitment to advocating for marginalized communities remains unwavering, as she seeks to broaden the podcast's reach while maintaining its core values of empathy and understanding.

The episode culminates in Hester sharing three actionable practices designed to enhance personal connection and self-reflection. These practices, which include the pause, the mirror, and the reach out, serve as foundational tools for listeners aspiring to live with intention and kindness. By urging her audience to embrace these strategies, Hester reinforces the podcast's mission to not only inspire individual transformation but also to foster a collective movement toward greater human kindness. The emotional resonance of this episode lies in its ability to connect deeply with listeners, offering both comfort and guidance as they embark on their own journeys toward authenticity and compassion.

Takeaways:

• This podcast, More Human, More Kind, emphasizes the importance of connection and compassion in our daily lives.
• It serves as an invitation to embrace our shared humanity and to support one another amidst life's challenges.
• The journey of this podcast reflects a commitment to authenticity, kindness, and personal evolution over time.
• Listeners are encouraged to engage in three simple practices to foster deeper connections with themselves and others.
• The podcast aims to provide tools for healing, identity, and mental health while advocating for marginalized communities.
• Ultimately, this podcast seeks to create a movement that empowers individuals to feel less alone and more like themselves.

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In this episode, Heather shares seven tips for being a good ally and why being a good ally to your Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, or Queer loved one is so important.

1. Be a good listener

2. Don't be afraid to ask questions, but do your own research

3. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable

4. Speak up

5. Support equality

6. Learn the language

7. Offer financial support if you are able

Resources mentioned in the episode:

GLSEN - www.glsen.org

The Trevor Project - www.thetrevorproject.org

SAGE - www.sage.org

How to be an LGBTQ Ally - Next Avenue

LGBTQ Ally Tips - UCDavis LGBTQIA Resource Center

Ways to be an LGBTQ Ally and Supporter - Oprah Magazine

Being an Ally - Youth for Change

What a Good LGBTQ Ally Looks Like - Vox

Terminology glossaries - Human Rights Campaign, Lambda Legal, The Trevor Project, PLFAG

The Genderbread Person

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Heather interviews Rochelle Pattison in this episode and it is packed with emotion, education, "a-ha" moments, and large doses of reality and love in equal measure! Rochelle shares her journey as a transgender woman with refreshing transparency. Her reflection on her life and the decisions that brought her to where she is now will not only increase your understanding but also make you want to cheer!

"Time is limited. Seize the moments to be accepting while we have them and be open...and be seen to be open." 

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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This episode is Just Breathe's one-year anniversary episode! Heather's husband Steve joins her (finally!) to share his perspective of the past four years. He opens up with incredible vulnerability and offers meaningful wisdom and advice.

Steve welcomes any questions and can be reached at shester@hesterdecorating.com.

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