This episode delves into the importance of self-care amidst the chaos of modern life. Heather emphasizes the need to step back from overwhelming news cycles and political unrest, urging listeners to focus on personal rejuvenation and inner work. A central theme is the power of community and connection, particularly among women who are inspiring each other through shared experiences and resilience. The discussion transitions to a heartfelt introduction of Aransas Savas, a well-being and leadership coach, who shares her unique journey and approach to coaching that marries science with energy work. Aransas explains her podcast, 'The Uplifters,' which celebrates women making positive impacts in their communities, showcasing stories of those who dare to challenge the status quo and lift each other up. Through compelling narratives, the episode captures the essence of collective strength, demonstrating how vulnerability can lead to empowerment and transformation. The stories shared highlight the critical role of supportive relationships in fostering bravery and purpose, making this episode a rich exploration of the intersection between personal growth and community impact.

Takeaways:

• Self-care is a continuous practice that requires daily attention and intention.
• Creating a brave space for children fosters trust and open communication in parenting.
• Women have the power to impact their communities and uplift one another through connection.
• Fear and doubt can coexist with courage; it's about how we respond to them.
• The Uplifters podcast aims to spotlight inspiring women and their powerful stories.
• Recognizing our needs and practicing self-awareness helps us show up better for others.

Connect with Aransas Savas: https://www.aransassavas.com/

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A powerful narrative unfolds as Heather delves into the emotional landscape of recent weeks, describing it as a time of turmoil and uncertainty. The podcast opens with a sincere inquiry into listeners' well-being, setting a tone of empathy and understanding. The heart of the discussion revolves around the stages of grief, emphasizing that acknowledging feelings of denial, anger, and depression is not only normal but necessary. Heather encourages listeners to take time to process these emotions and to seek healing in small, tangible ways. This segment serves as a reminder that vulnerability is a shared experience, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed.

Transitioning from personal reflection to broader societal concerns, the episode highlights the importance of being well-informed in a climate filled with misinformation. Heather advocates for seeking out reliable news sources, suggesting that independent journalism offers a clearer picture of the events shaping our world. By sharing her favorite outlets and podcasts, she empowers listeners to take control of their information consumption and avoid the chaos of sensationalized media. The advice to moderate news intake is particularly relevant, as it addresses the anxiety that excessive exposure to current events can cause.

The episode further explores the theme of connection by introducing 'Learning to Parent with Pride,' a course designed to equip parents with the tools to support their LGBTQ children. Each module of the course builds on the last, providing a comprehensive framework for fostering understanding and communication. This initiative aims to transform the parenting journey into one of empowerment and love, especially during challenging times. Heather's commitment to being a consistent source of support and knowledge for her audience shines through, as she reaffirms that listeners are not alone and encourages them to lean on one another for strength.

Takeaways:

• It's essential to acknowledge the five stages of grief to process tough times effectively.
• Rest and allow yourself the space to heal; it's okay to feel dismayed.
• Educate yourself with reliable sources to stay informed about current events.
• Limit your information intake to avoid feeling overwhelmed by the news cycle.
• Remember, the loudest voices are not necessarily the majority; stay grounded in the facts.
• Participate in supportive communities and courses to strengthen your parenting skills during uncertain times.

Links referenced in this episode:

• chrysalismama.com

Independent new sources mentioned in this episode:

• The Guardian
• ProPublica
• The Atlantic
• Politics Girl
• Pod Save America
• No Lie with Brian Tyler Cohen

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Join us as we welcome Eric Marcus, an acclaimed author and LGBTQ+ historian, who brings his deeply personal coming out story to the forefront. Together, we explore the emotional landscape of acceptance within families and the transformative power of advocacy, exemplified by his mother's pivotal role in co-founding the Queens chapter of PFLAG.

Our conversation takes a heartfelt look at the roots of LGBTQ advocacy, where Eric shares his encounters with the early gay rights movement and pioneering organizations like the Mattachine Society and the Daughters of Bilitis. You'll hear touching stories of Jean Manford and her son Morty, the co-founders of PFLAG, and their relentless dedication. The devastating impact of the AIDS crisis also comes to light, with deeply personal stories of loss and resilience from families like the Ashworths. Through these narratives, we gain a richer understanding of the socio-political climate of the 1980s and the ongoing fight for LGBTQ rights.

Eric also reflects on his accidental journey to becoming a historian, starting with an oral history book that evolved into the Making Gay History podcast. We'll discuss the challenges and emotional rewards of capturing these stories in print and audio, and how they continue to inspire educational initiatives. As we celebrate the resilience of the LGBTQ community, we emphasize the importance of passing the torch to future generations. Tune in for a powerful episode filled with personal reflections, historical insights, and a strong message of advocacy and unity.

Resources Mentioned:

Making Gay History Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-gay-history-lgbtq-oral-histories-from-the-archive/id1162447122

Stonewall 50 Consortium: https://stonewall50consortium.org/

American LGBTQ+ Museum: https://americanlgbtqmuseum.org/

About Eric Marcus:

Eric Marcus is the author of a dozen books, including two editions of Making Gay History (the original 1992 edition is entitled Making History), Why Suicide?, and Breaking the Surface, the #1 New York Times bestselling autobiography of Olympic diving champion Greg Louganis. Eric is also the co-producer of Those Who Were There, a podcast drawn from the Fortunoff Video Archive for Holocaust Testimonies. He is the founder and chair emeritus of the Stonewall 50 Consortium and is a founding board member of the American LGBTQ+ Museum. Learn more about Eric in this NBC News profile.

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In this episode, Heather interviews Rae McDaniel, founder of the online coaching community, The Gender Fck Club (awesome resources here), as well as Practical Audacity, a gender and sex therapy practice in Chicago.  They have been featured in The New York Times, Refinery29, and Women's Health.

Rae ultimately believes that gender transitions can be an exciting time filled with exploration and self-discovery. They are on a mission to build a world where gender transitions are celebrated just like having a baby, landing a new job, or getting married.

Rae shares:

* Their experience of coming out as queer to unsupportive parents in rural Louisiana, and their journey to finding a supportive community.

* What it means to be transgender and non-binary, including a primer on trans-affirming language and the gender spectrum.

* Their advice to parents who want to be supportive but are afraid of making a mistake.

* How your teen can find joy in their transition amid the reality that they may face rejection.

**HUGE apologies for the poor quality of the initial intro - hang on for the 20 seconds or so, it gets better!**

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

In this episode, Heather interviews Richard Capriola, author of The Addicted Child: A Parent’s Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse. Richard has over two decades of experience working with adults and adolescents diagnosed with substance abuse disorders. The book includes an explanation of how drugs work in the teen brain, warning signs every parent should know about, what assessments and tests are important for a diagnosis and much more. This interview is a great primer for substance use and abuse!

Click HERE to visit Richard's website for more information.

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

Heather responds to a listener's question about how to handle someone who is non-affirming with a tip and an example-filled "101" episode.

She discusses the importance of word choice, gives several general tips, and three detailed examples based on the listener's situation, how to respond to a Christian family member or friend, and how to handle those who are homophobic.

Heather references three powerful resources:

Queer Theology

Nathanial Totten Green blog

letter on PFLAG

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

This short episode packs a punch! Heather candidly shares some recent experiences and her thoughts on hard days, as well as the serendipitous discovery of an article by one of her favorite thought leaders, Brene Brown.

HERE is a link to Ms. Brown's website and HERE is a link to one of her podcasts, Unlocking Us.

Heather also shares a mini-lesson on self-compassion, using an incredible resource from Positive Psychology as a guide. HERE is a helpful daily checklist!

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

In this episode, Heather interviews author and speaker, Britt East. While Britt's book, "A Gay Man's Guide to Life," is written for gay men by a gay man - it is an engaging, informative read that really sheds light on understanding gay men for those of us who are raising one!

Heather and Britt discuss societal homophobia, sustainable gay friendships, hook-up apps, and so much more! Britt offers meaningful advice for those of us who love and/or are raising LGBTQ kids:

"When you ask 'What can I do?' ask instead, 'Who can I be?'"

In one of the most powerful segments, Heather and Britt  discussed the importance of modeling our humanity,

 "...find a path to set down your trauma and heal so they can witness that healing in you, and thereby heal part of themselves..."

To gain a better understanding of the LGBTQ+ experience, Britt recommends brushing up on your LGBTQ history. Here are a few books to get you started:

The Gay Agenda

The Book of Pride

The Right Side of History

Learn more about Britt HERE

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

In this episode, Heather responds to a listener's request for more information on changes during the coming-out process. She approaches her answer from two angles:

1. reviewing the stages of the coming out process

2. sharing specific instances from her family's experience

Connor and Steve weigh in as well with thoughtful responses from two very different perspectives.

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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In this episode, Heather interviews life coach Kevin Nahai. Faced with extraordinary mental health and physical health challenges as a teen and young adult, Kevin tried many paths before digging into and healing the roots of his struggles. Through his journey, he created his own approach and methodology for whole-body wellness.  He is now a coach for young adults working with them on:

* self-esteem and confidence

* body image

* anxiety and depression

* dating and relationships

His quest is bridging the gap between what we know in our heads and feel in our hearts.

Kevin shares so many wonderful nuggets that can help all of us on our journeys!

You can find Kevin through Instagram @KevinNahai

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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In this episode, Heather shares seven tips for being a good ally and why being a good ally to your Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, or Queer loved one is so important.

1. Be a good listener

2. Don't be afraid to ask questions, but do your own research

3. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable

4. Speak up

5. Support equality

6. Learn the language

7. Offer financial support if you are able

Resources mentioned in the episode:

GLSEN - www.glsen.org

The Trevor Project - www.thetrevorproject.org

SAGE - www.sage.org

How to be an LGBTQ Ally - Next Avenue

LGBTQ Ally Tips - UCDavis LGBTQIA Resource Center

Ways to be an LGBTQ Ally and Supporter - Oprah Magazine

Being an Ally - Youth for Change

What a Good LGBTQ Ally Looks Like - Vox

Terminology glossaries - Human Rights Campaign, Lambda Legal, The Trevor Project, PLFAG

The Genderbread Person

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

Heather interviews Rochelle Pattison in this episode and it is packed with emotion, education, "a-ha" moments, and large doses of reality and love in equal measure! Rochelle shares her journey as a transgender woman with refreshing transparency. Her reflection on her life and the decisions that brought her to where she is now will not only increase your understanding but also make you want to cheer!

"Time is limited. Seize the moments to be accepting while we have them and be open...and be seen to be open." 

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

This episode is Just Breathe's one-year anniversary episode! Heather's husband Steve joins her (finally!) to share his perspective of the past four years. He opens up with incredible vulnerability and offers meaningful wisdom and advice.

Steve welcomes any questions and can be reached at shester@hesterdecorating.com.

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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Join us in this enlightening episode of Just Breathe as we navigate the intricacies of the human nervous system and its profound impact on our overall well-being. I'm thrilled to introduce Kelly Luback, an expert in nervous system health and a dear friend who has profoundly influenced my own journey of healing and internal work. Kelly's extensive experience in coaching, shamanic healing, yoga, and mindfulness provides a rich backdrop as we explore how our brain, spinal cord, and autonomic functions govern essential bodily processes such as breathing, digestion, and hormone production.

Listen in as we unravel the delicate balance between the activating sympathetic nervous system, which can manifest as anxiety, and the calming parasympathetic nervous system, responsible for rest and digestion. We discuss the common disconnection many of us feel from our nervous system signals due to overwhelming sensations and how the increased awareness post-COVID has highlighted the need for maintaining flexibility within these states. Kelly shares practical insights and evidence-based techniques to support and calm our nervous system, including a simple method of crisscrossing arms and stroking from shoulders to elbows, beneficial for both adults and children.

Finally, we explore the intersection of our physical bodies and mental states, emphasizing the importance of integrating both to achieve a sense of calm and clarity. Through real-life examples, such as the responses of parents of LGBTQ children and the dynamics at a recent family graduation party, we highlight the importance of recognizing and validating various nervous system responses. This episode celebrates personal growth and resilience, encouraging open conversations and normalizing our natural reactions to stress.

Resources Mentioned:

Kelly Lubeck's website - https://www.kellylubeck.com/

Join the Parenting with Pride Book Club - https://chrysalismama.com/bookclub

Don't forget to grab your copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Available Now! https://chrysalismama.com/book

About our Guest:

Kelly Lubeck, MPH, is passionate about changing the world for the better, through individual, group and community-level healing programs that inspire health, embodied leadership, and heightened capacity for change. Kelly helps women leaders stay grounded and centered in their changemaking, so they can deliver and lead impactful work, enjoy meaningful relationships and deep connection with their purpose, without sacrificing body, mind and spirit to their mission. Kelly’s work happens at the intersection of deep and soulful coaching, science of the nervous system, shamanic healing, yoga, mindfulness and 25 years of experience leading service-based programs around the world.

https://www.kellylubeck.com/

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In this episode, Heather chats with Kirsten Beverley-Waters about her new book, Struggle Guru. Kirsten is a fitness instructor, devoted yogi, personal growth champion and coach, and LGBTQ public speaker. The guiding principles she shares come from decades of personal experience as well as experience coaching others.

You will love finding out how to access your struggle guru because if 2020 has taught us nothing else it is that we all struggle! You will also learn how to adjust your internal compass.

Everything Kirsten and Heather discuss can be found on Kirsten's website - www.kbwaters.com.

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

In this episode, Heather highlights Depression Awareness Month in an interview with Maureen Kebo. Maureen is a well-being therapist and is certified in the NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) which is a cutting-edge model for addressing attachment, relational, and developmental trauma. On a personal level, Maureen is extraordinarily special to Heather because she is her therapist of 5+ years. 

Maureen imparts her wisdom, shedding light on and offering a basic education on depression especially as it relates to LGBTQ youth. 

This interview is packed with valuable information and strategies that can be implemented right away.

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

In this episode, Heather interviews LGBTQ+ activist Susan Buss, LCSW. Susan is the president of her private practice, Big Sky Consulting, Inc where she sees adolescents and adults. She has 35 years of experience in social work, working in community agencies as well as teaching at the Master's level. In addition to psychotherapy, Susan facilitates different workshops working with transgender people, focusing on healthy dating, and overcoming hoarding. She is the proud mom of a transgender child.

Susan imparts her wisdom, shedding light on and offering a basic education on gender identity, specifically the transgender experience. She shares valuable resources which are all listed below.

• Trans Lifeline 877-565-8860
• PFLAG - transgender support
• Human Rights Campaign - transgender resources
• WPATH - World Professional Association of Transgender Health
• Lurie Children's Hospital
• The Gender Quest Workbook
• The Survival Guide for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning Teens
• The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals
• TomboyX - Hip and comfy clothes and undergarments for all sizes, gender neutral

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone!

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Heather's husband, Steve, was so blown away by Connor's three episodes that he suggested a recap episode to highlight the emotional journey and lessons learned from their perspective. They both also thought it would be great for all of the resources mentioned to live in one place.

Heather shares:

• An in-depth look at specific moments during their journey
• Which decisions were fantastic and which were underwhelming at best
• Specific takeaways and thoughts to ponder
• A look into her soul the soul of her family

Resources, resources, resources!!!

• Need help finding a therapist for your child or yourself? THIS is a great place to start!
• Support groups for you and your child:
• PFLAG
• Freed Hearts
• The Trevor Project
• National Council on Family Relations
• Colage
• Education - this is a sample - go to my website for MUCH more!
• GLSEN
• GSA Network
• The Family Acceptance Project
• Advocates for LGBTQ Youth
• Understanding Mental Health and Substance Use Specific to your LGBTQ child
• Mental Health - HERE and HERE
• Substance Use and Abuse - HERE and HERE
• How to find an Educational Consultant - HERE 
• Newport Academy
• Want to start a gratitude practice - THIS article and THIS book have valuable guidance
• My favorite meditation teacher and website
• On making mistakes - This article and this Brene Brown YouTube...

Heather's son Connor has returned to the mic for a three-part series! In this episode, he shares the third part of his story (taking us to the present day) with humor, vulnerability, and the ability to recount what happened then, why, and what he has learned since. 

Connor shares:

• His transition to his freshman year of college - life at NYU and in New York City
• The struggles and triumphs of his freshman year
• The positive AND negative coping strategies he experimented with as he continued his coming out journey
• Lessons learned during COVID and his hopes and plans for the future

**TRIGGER WARNING - Connor shares stories of substance use, so please do not listen if this is a trigger in any way for you**

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone!

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Heather's son Connor has returned to the mic for a three-part series! In this episode, he shares the second part of his story with humor, vulnerability, and the ability to recount what happened then, why, and what he has learned since. 

Connor shares:

• His transition back home after being away for 7 months
• The struggles and triumphs of his senior year of high school
• The positive AND negative coping strategies he experimented with as he continued his coming out journey
• His preparation to leave for college

**TRIGGER WARNING - Connor shares stories of substance use, so please do not listen if this is a trigger in any way for you**

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone!

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Heather's son Connor has returned to the mic for a three-part series! In this episode, he shares the first part of his story with humor, vulnerability, and the ability to recount what happened then, why, and what he has learned since. Heather and Connor experimented with a new format in this episode which allowed Connor to share his thoughts and reflections with Heather responding toward the end of the episode.

Connor shares:

• Who he was and how he felt in the years before he came out
• How he came out to friends and family and what it felt like
• What it felt like the first few months and the different struggles he encountered

**TRIGGER WARNING - Connor shares his suicide attempt, so please do not listen if this is a trigger in any way for you**

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone!

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020 - This episode is part two of Heather Hester's interview with Diane Becker. Diane is a nationally certified juvenile treatment specialist, a licensed clinical social worker, licensed continuing education provider for social workers and professional counselors, and has been connecting with families and professionals for over 30 years. Diane and Heather have been friends for more than 15 years.

The main topic of this two-part interview is the subject of boundaries - what are they? how do you set them? what do they look like in different environments? Diane emphasizes the importance of connectedness, health and safety, and family.

Below is a list of the resources Diane mentions in the interview:

National Crisis Hotlines

International Association for Prevention of Suicide:   https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline  https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Domestic Violence:  https://www.thehotline.org/

Find a health care provider:

GLMA:  health professionals advancing equality:  www.glma.org   

Connections:

Parents:  PFLAG  www.pflag.org

Youth to 25y:   Trevor Project:  www.thetrevorproject.org

Information:

American Academy of Pediatrics:  www.heatlhychildren.org 

Strong Family Alliance: www.strongfamilyalliance.org

It Gets Better Project:  www.itgetsbetter.org

NAMI: National Alliance For Mental Illness:  www.nami.org

If you are looking for a place to connect with other parents, family members, and friends of LGBTQ adolescents, teens, and young adults, I would love for you to be part of my private Just Breathe Community Facebook group! Please subscribe to, rate and review Just Breathe. AND, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone!

In this episode, Heather Hester interviews Diane Becker. She is a nationally certified juvenile treatment specialist, a licensed clinical social worker, licensed continuing education provider for social workers and professional counselors, and has been connecting with families and professionals for over 30 years. Diane and Heather have been friends for more than 15 years.

The main topic of this two-part interview is the subject of boundaries - what are they? how do you set them? what do they look like in different environments? Diane emphasizes the importance of connectedness, health and safety, and family.

Below is a list of the resources Diane mentions in the interview:

National Crisis Hotlines

International Association for Prevention of Suicide:   https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline  https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Domestic Violence:  https://www.thehotline.org/

Find a health care provider:

GLMA:  health professionals advancing equality:  www.glma.org   

Connections:

Parents:  PFLAG  www.pflag.org

Youth to 25y:   Trevor Project:  www.thetrevorproject.org

Information:

American Academy of Pediatrics:  www.heatlhychildren.org 

Strong Family Alliance: www.strongfamilyalliance.org

It Gets Better Project:  www.itgetsbetter.org

NAMI: National Alliance For Mental Illness:  www.nami.org

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone!

Support Heather's Work: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama

018 - In this episode, Heather interviews Julie Ferwerda, researcher and author of Raising Hell - Christianity's most controversial doctrine put under fire. This is an absolute must-hear if you've ever questioned the existence, possibility, or reality of Hell.

As parents, allies, and advocates of LGBTQ kids, teens, and young adults, if we've been raised in any kind of religion, one of the first fearful thoughts that pop into our heads when our kids come out is - are they going to hell?? And for all of the LGBTQ listeners, this fear is likely times a thousand!

Julie spent well over a year researching the Greek and Hebrew texts and interviewing dozens of experts to offer "compelling evidence historically, philosophically, and scripturally as to why the doctrine of hell is the biggest and most damaging deception of the modern church."

Here are the links for this episode:

Book - Raising Hell

Julie's website

Spiritual Terrorism by Boyd Purcell

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone!

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What truly makes someone a good ally to the LGBTQIA+ community? Join me in this heartfelt episode as I unpack the essence of allyship, especially during Pride Month. With insight from my daughter while preparing for this epsiode, we pay tribute to the countless advocates and activists who've fought tirelessly for equality and shine a light on the ongoing societal issues that demand our attention. Being an ally isn't about self-promotion; it’s about standing up for basic human rights and fostering an inclusive world. Explore with me how unity and unwavering support can make a real difference.

Being an ally requires more than just good intentions—it demands action. Delve into what it means to genuinely support LGBTQIA+ individuals, focusing on active listening and respectful communication. When someone comes out, knowing how to respond with empathy and dignity is crucial. I also break down eight actionable ways to be an effective ally, from challenging heteronormativity and prejudice to ensuring everyone is treated with respect. This episode is packed with practical advice that can help you make a tangible impact.

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Takeaways:

• Being a good ally involves active listening and being present for LGBTQIA individuals.
• Allyship is not an identity but an ongoing commitment to support marginalized communities.
• Educating yourself about LGBTQIA history and issues is crucial to becoming a better ally.
• It’s important to challenge stereotypes and confront personal biases in discussions about LGBTQIA rights.
• When someone comes out to you, respond with understanding and affirming support, avoiding harmful questions.
• Recognizing that LGBTQIA individuals seek basic human rights and not special privileges is vital for allyship.

Companies mentioned in this episode:

• The Trevor Project
• Gilson
• Tyler Clementi Foundation
• Human Rights Campaign
• PFLAG
• It Gets Better
• SAGE

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017 - In this episode, Heather interviews Debbie Reber, NYTimes bestselling author of Differently Wired, and the creator of the Tilt Parenting Community and Tilt Parenting podcast. She is a speaker, mentor, educator, and book coach.

Debbie has created 18 shifts, or what she calls tilts, to help parents navigate parenting a child who is differently wired. Although her parent audience differs in some ways from Heather's, the tilts work brilliantly whether you are parenting a child who has ADHD, sensory issues, anxiety, or lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or questioning.

"...we want to form, what I call, an uneasy alliance with that fear...so we can say, I see you, I know what you're trying to do, I appreciate you're trying to protect me - I've got this - and we want to come up with evidence for how that fear may not be true. We're trying to loosen up the grip of fear and open up to the possibility of what might be..."

Debbie's website, Tilt Parenting Community, and podcast are FILLED with extraordinary resources, and her Tilt Together Facebook group is an excellent place to connect with parents. Here is the link for Todd Rose's End of Average, which Heather and Debbie discuss in detail.

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

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In this short but powerful episode, Heather talks about two feelings that almost every parent of an LGBTQ child/teen/young adult experiences at some point or another - "when it feels scary" and "caring what others think."

She shares personal experience and wisdom that has helped her family and her over the past three years.

As always, I would be grateful for ratings and reviews so I can reach even more people who need to know that they are not alone!

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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In this episode, Heather Hester interviews Jen Slumac, author of Soul Not Skin. She is a mentor, educator, performer, and producer, and is known as a hope dealer. 

"...care about ourselves, cherish ourselves, and learn how to honor other people's journey..."

Jen is in long-term recovery from alcoholism, a coping mechanism she used to survive as a queer woman in a world that told her she didn't belong. Her captivating storytelling exudes, as well as inspires, courage.

Jen's website is filled with incredible resources, and her new podcast, Just Say It, is raw, vulnerable, and real. Jen is truly engaging and refreshingly no BS!

She will also be doing virtual healing circles with Susan Cottrell (episodes 11 and 12), so be sure to check those out!

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

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In this episode, Heather Hester returns to basics and discusses ways to protect your energy no matter what may be going on around you - a pandemic, a crisis with your child, or just the usual day-to-day ups and downs of raising teenagers!

Heather first looks at identifying the different ways your energy gets sapped, and then details tips and tools for strengthening your reserves and protecting them.

This resource lists five tools to help you "fill your cup" and keep it full.

This article explains the science behind visualization.

Here are five of Heather's current favorite affirmations (adapted from a Gabby Bernstein meditation that she loves):

1. All is well.

2. I am open to creative solutions.

3. I am guided. I am protected. I am loved. I am safe.

4. I move through my day with grace, wisdom, and light.

5. I choose to see joy.

Meditations:

Freedom from fear (Heather)

Positive Energy (Gabby Bernstein)

As always, Heather is grateful for reviews, and please forward to anyone who may benefit!

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

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Heather Hester interviews clinical psychologist Melanie McNally in this episode which is loaded with great tools and unique approaches to helping your teen or young adult manage their anxiety.

In addition to working with adolescents face-to-face, Dr. McNally utilizes a unique online platform of her creation called Destination YOU. Check it out HERE!

She is also the author of a coming of age novel, Counting Dragonflies, that beautifully weaves family and mental health struggles and triumphs throughout.

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

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This episode is the conclusion of Heather Hester's interview with Susan Cottrell, founder of Freedhearts.org. More incredible information is waiting for you! 

Susan's message crosses all faiths, as every one of us regardless of church or cultural tradition has received messaging in our lives about LGBTQ people.

Listen in with an open mind and open heart!

Here are the links mentioned in the show:

www.freedhearts.org

Tedx Talk

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

In this episode, Heather Hester shares an insightful interview with Susan Cottrell, founder of Freedhearts.org, mother of 5 (2 of whom are queer), advocate, and beautiful human being. Susan shares stories with authenticity and depth of knowledge that makes you want to learn more!

Susan's message crosses all faiths, as every one of us regardless of church or cultural tradition has received messaging in our lives about LGBTQ people.

Listen in with an open mind and open heart!

Here are the links mentioned in the show:

www.freedhearts.org

Tedx Talk

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

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In this episode of Just Breathe, Heather Hester discusses mental health specific to our LGBTQ kids starting with some tough questions:

1. Why are depression and anxiety increasing in our kids when overall awareness is also increasing?

2. What are the underlying potential causes that ALL youth have in common?

3. What shifts are needed across the board ie. family/school/professionals?

Heather takes a look at the signs and symptoms of depression and anxiety as well as statistics specific to our LGBTQ kids. She talks about the importance of awareness, and being available and then takes apart the "why" as well as the "what we can do."

This episode will not only help you understand LGBTQ-specific adolescent mental health better, but it will also give you tips and information that will help you support your child.

My resources page is a great place to start! I have my favorite websites, articles, and books listed here. I refer to it often, so take a look around. I also add to it monthly, so keep an eye out for new information!

The Trevor Project is a go-to resource for saving young LGBTQ lives.

A personal favorite, Psychology Today allows you to search for all types of therapists using different filters. Love this one!

The Administration for Children and Families will allow you to search for youth and family service agencies in your region. (When in doubt, Google "youth and family services near me.")

An all-around good resource, The National Alliance on Mental Illness provides a plethora of information.

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In this episode, Heather Hester shares a powerful interview with Jay Reid, a successful businessman, author, and devoted husband and father who lost his youngest child to suicide in March of 2018. His authenticity, his story, and his mission will move you to talk to your kids and join his efforts to end teen suicide.

While this episode is a must-hear for all parents; parents of LGBTQ youth please know there is very valuable information here. My next episode will focus specifically on the different mental health issues our LGBTQ kids struggle with and how we can best support them.

Here are the links mentioned in the show:

www.chooselife.org

Tedx Talk

The Trevor Project is an incredible resource for ending LBGTQ suicide. Check them out here: Trevor Project 

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

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In this encore episode from 2021, Heather shares an overview of Pride history, including the Stonewall Riots, why the pink triangle is a global symbol, and how the rainbow flag became the symbol for LGBTQ+ pride. She begins with the following anonymous quote:

"LGBTQ pride was not born of a need to celebrate being LGBTQ, but our right to exist without persecution. So instead of wondering why there isn't a straight pride, be thankful you don't need one."

If this episode piques your curiosity about the history of Pride, check out some of Heather's favorite resources:

Websites

* them.

* The History Channel

* Britannica

Books

Gay & Lesbian History for Kids: The Century-Long Struggle for LGBT Rights

Pride: The Story of the LGBTQ Equality Movement

What was Stonewall? (One of the "What was? Who was? books)

Stonewall: The Definitive Story of the LGBTQ Rights Uprising That Changed America

We Are Everywhere

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In this episode, Heather Hester discusses the importance of self-care. While massages, mani/pedis, time with friends, and exercise are all beautiful self-care strategies, Heather uses this episode to dive deep into the "whys" and "hows" of a well-rounded self-care plan. She talks about aligning the following areas:

* Physical Health

* Fitness

* Relationships

* Career

* Finances

* Mental Health

* Spirituality

Self-care is important for everyone but can be especially valuable during difficult or uncertain times. Heather discusses how self-care became vitally important as she and her husband supported Connor as he struggled with anxiety and depression as well as impulse control and dangerous behavior. She learned that she had to separate herself enough so that every minute wasn't a crisis, and sometimes remove herself altogether to refill her cup so to speak.

Essentially, self-care is putting on your own oxygen mask before you assist those around you - you can only help others when you are the best version of yourself!

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For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!

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In episode 7 Connor Hester joins his mom, Heather, for a lively and informative discussion about the different topics parents should and should discuss with their LGBTQ teen.  Filled with personal stories, tips, humor, and very direct thoughts from Connor, this episode is both delightful and one you don't want to miss!

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In episode 6 Heather Hester discusses the different types of support available and how to find what is right for you, the parent. Loving and raising an LGBTQ teen is hard; allow yourself to be supported.

Filled with personal stories, educational information and tools, and mental shifts, Heather encourages listeners to be vulnerable, explore their options, and allow themselves to be supported. 

She looks specifically at Faith/Spirituality, Family, Friends, and Professional Support options (ie. therapy, counseling, etc.)

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Appropriately timed, in this episode about surviving crises during the holidays Heather Hester shares another snippet of her personal story and gives seven strategies that worked for her. Her ultimate goal is for the listener to feel supported and like they have options and choices for working through tough times that happen to occur during this most wonderful - and most hectic - time of year!

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In this episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen, Heather talks about the six stages that parents go through when their child comes out to them as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, or any other sexual orientation or gender identity.

The stages are shock, denial, guilt, expression of feelings, making decisions, and true acceptance. She explains each clearly and without judgment, weaving her own stories throughout. This episode provides insight and tools to help you through your process and on your journey! 

We hope you enjoy this episode as you work through your own stages! Hit subscribe to get new episodes right away!

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In this episode, Heather Hester shares the story of her family's journey and outlines specific reasons why the coming out process can be messy. She encourages the listener to embrace it and gives tips and tools to help along the way.

We hope you enjoy this episode as you breathe into the messiness! Hit subscribe to get new episodes right away!

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Heather Hester discusses the six stages of the Cass Model of Coming Out (coming out of the closet or coming out as gay) and shares personal experiences along the way. This episode is loaded with great information and links in the show notes to help you understand and support your teen through this process.

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In this inaugural episode, Heather Hester lays the framework for this exciting podcast. Who is the podcast for? What is she going to talk about? WHY is she talking about this? Filled with raw personal stories, educational information and tools, and mental shifts, Heather uses this episode as a springboard to transforming the LGBTQ conversation.

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With the compassionate insights of Celeste Lecesne from the Future Perfect Project and the vibrant duo, Lily and Eric, from the "I'm Feeling Queer Today" podcast, in today's episodes we are going to discuss the resonating impact of giving voice to the marginalized, weaving a narrative that highlights the significance of safe spaces, creative expression, and the indomitable spirit of queer youth.

Join us as we navigate the inspirational paths of our guests, whose aspirations and educational pursuits demonstrate the transformative power of passion. Their stories are a testament to the importance of a supportive network, reminding us all that our involvement, whether as listeners, parents, or allies, is crucial in fostering a nurturing environment for self-acceptance and growth. Encouraging trust and curiosity, we explore avenues of support that emphasize presence and understanding over perfection. Celebrating the courage of queer individuals, we underscore the Future Project's role in shining a light on their creative talent.

Our exchange is a profound acknowledgement of the difference that even one supportive figure can make in a young person's life, inspiring gratitude for the connections that shape a brighter, more inclusive future.

To Learn More about the Future Perfect Project visit https://www.thefutureperfectproject.org/

Listen to the I'm Feeling Queer Today podcast on your favorite app or on Apple Podcasts at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/im-feeling-queer-today/id1726198109

Don't forget to grab your copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Available Now! https://chrysalismama.com/book

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Takeaways:

• The Future Perfect Project amplifies the voices of queer youth through creative workshops and performances.
• It's essential for caregivers to support and guide LGBTQ youth as they discover their identities.
• Curiosity, rather than confusion, drives young people's exploration of their identities and experiences.
• Having just one accepting person in a young LGBTQ person's life can significantly reduce their risk of self-harm.
• Both Lily and Eric emphasize the importance of connection and community among queer youth.
• The podcast serves as a platform for authentic queer joy, showcasing the positive aspects of...

Join me as I welcome back Connor and Gray to share an intimate look at the emotions and gratitude surrounding my book's journey, a heartfelt narrative that's been a labor of love and vulnerability. We discuss the mix of panic and excitement that comes with releasing a story so close to our hearts, and the significance of our unique friendship that has provided a foundation of support through it all. Connor and Gray weigh in with pride and curiosity, revealing their thoughts on their portrayal in the book and the impact it may have on its readers.

Listen in as we reflect on the intricate dance of personal storytelling and the nuances of representation, especially within the LGBTQ+ community. I open up about the anticipation of sharing our stories through the book and this podcast, the vulnerability it entails, and the surprising responses we've received. The conversation underscores the transformative power of authentic narratives and the importance of visibility for marginalized groups, illustrated by touching feedback from a gay volleyball league member.

This is a heartfelt exploration of family dynamics, personal growth, and the journey of self-discovery. We delve into the profound changes in family communication, the shift from rigid beliefs to open spirituality, and the courage it takes to embrace one's true identity. Our discussion celebrates the progress we've made as a family, the essential role of support during moments of independence, and the empowering process of coming to terms with LGBTQ+ identity.

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Takeaways:

• The podcast emphasizes the importance of communication within families, especially regarding LGBTQ topics.
• Heather shares her personal journey of writing a book and the emotions involved.
• The discussion highlights the growth and evolution of family dynamics throughout difficult times.
• Connor and Gray express gratitude for the supportive environment they grew up in.
• The episode addresses the challenges of being visible and the anxieties that come with it.
• Heather encourages listeners to embrace change and curiosity in their personal beliefs.

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Ready to transform the way you parent your LGBTQ child with pride and understanding? "Parenting with Pride" isn't just a book; it's a journey of evolution, a guide filled with heartfelt stories, robust research, and strategic tools that I have poured my heart into. This episode peels back the curtain on the creation of my upcoming literary labor of love and answers the burning questions so many of you have shared. As we sit back in our cozy coffee shop chat, I'll reveal the four pillars that are the cornerstone of both the book and our ongoing discussions: Embrace, Educate and Unlearn Bias, Empower, and Love. Trust me, this is a conversation that goes beyond the pages, designed to illuminate and guide every step you take with your LGBTQ teen.

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Takeaways:

• This book aims to create a safe space for parents raising LGBTQ children.
• Heather emphasizes the importance of not feeling alone on the parenting journey.
• The upcoming book focuses on practical tools and strategies for empowering LGBTQ teens.
• Writing the book involved a challenging yet transformative process over several years.
• Key themes of the book include embracing, educating, empowering, and loving LGBTQ teens unconditionally.
• Listeners are encouraged to support independent bookstores by pre-ordering the book for themselves.

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Embark on an enlightening exploration with Dean Nelson, LGBTQ pioneer and Whistler Pride and Ski Festival founder, as we dissect the critical need for compassionate leadership. In our heartfelt conversation, we delve into the chilling rise of violence against transgender individuals and the stark polarization gripping America. We share stories close to the heart, underscoring the dire need for leaders who champion facts and embrace diversity, steering clear of the treacherous path of fear and discrimination.

The essence of democracy and pride takes center stage in our narrative, emphasizing the potency of being politically savvy, starting at the grassroots level. Discover the profound influence you wield by understanding the human rights stance of your local representatives—a tribute to the power vested in your vote. Our personal tales of empowerment and the symbolic triumph of salvaging a community event further illustrate the monumental impact of civic engagement on both personal and communal plains.

Finally, we celebrate the triumphs of inclusivity within the workplace, sharing inspiring accounts from notable figures like a trans engineer at Electronic Arts and Olympian Mark Tewksbury. These narratives not only emphasize the importance of self-expression but also underscore the life-changing support of allyship. As we close, we're left with a message of hope—a vision of leadership that forms a more inclusive and secure world for everyone.

About Our Guest:

Dean Nelson, a vibrant force in his community, has catalyzed change and championed inclusivity throughout his remarkable journey.

In 2006, Nelson played a pivotal role in rescuing Whistler’s Gay Ski Week, igniting a passion for advocacy that led him to helm the annual festival, now known as the Whistler Ski & Pride Festival.

In 2009, he co-founded the transformative Mr. Gay World (MGW) organization, merging sports, culture, and human rights to combat homophobia and nurture future leaders.

A trailblazer, Nelson established the pioneering Olympic Pride House at the Vancouver/Whistler 2010 Olympic and Paralympic Winter Games, setting a precedent for diversity in sports.

Continuing his legacy, Nelson advises the Pride House Advisory Group, shaping inclusive environments for global events such as the Olympic and Commonwealth Games.

Educated in resort management and Japanese language and culture, Nelson's career spans esteemed roles in hospitality and tourism before founding Alpenglow Productions Corp, the driving force behind Whistler Pride and Ski Festival.

His notable positions and contributions include directing Vancouver Pride, co-founding Mr. Gay Canada, and spearheading initiatives like the Vancouver North America Outgames Planning Committee.

Nelson's dedication hasn't gone unnoticed, earning him accolades such as Pride Toronto’s Award of Excellence in Sports and the Thompson Rivers University Distinguished Alumni: Human Rights Leadership Award and an Honorary Doctorate of Laws.

With unwavering commitment, Dean Nelson continues to inspire, leaving an indelible mark on the landscape of equality and inclusion.

Social Media @GayWhistler @departuresXdean

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Prepare to be inspired as we sit down with the extraordinary Michael Tyler, the man behind the message of acceptance and self-love in the acclaimed "Girls of the World Doing More Than Ever Before." Michael, alongside his co-author Lindsay Davis, has crafted a book that not only soared to the New York Times bestseller list but also ignites a spark of empowerment within young readers, particularly girls. We unpack the essence of their collaboration, the creative process that led to their book's success, and how their work is sculpting the character of our future generation. Join us for a conversation brimming with heartfelt dedication to the power of purposeful children's literature and the promise it holds for a more inclusive world.

Amidst a culture rife with labels and expectations, we open up about the journey to understanding and embracing LGBT identities. The discussion transcended into a broader reflection on the role of parents in breaking societal molds, nurturing their children's individuality, and fostering an environment where love is the bedrock of acceptance. This episode is a heartfelt testament to the unwavering bond between parent and child, and a reminder that our most profound duty is to nurture a world where every child can flourish, free from the constraints of labels and stereotypes.

About our Guest:

Michael Tyler is a writer, speaker, and author of The Skin You Live In and Mirror Face, children's books about acceptance and self-love. He advises educators on DEI and SEL curriculum, and has addressed forums for The Kin Centre, the Clinton Foundation, and Beyond Differences. He resides in Chicago.

Learn more about Michael and his books at https://michaeltylerwrites.com/

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Takeaways:

• Michael Tyler emphasizes the importance of acceptance and self-love in personal development.
• Parents should actively support their LGBTQ children, becoming engineers of their identity construction.
• The book 'Girls of the World' aims to empower girls and highlight their potential.
• The conversation highlights the shared struggles of marginalized groups in society.
• Understanding the humanity of all individuals is essential for fostering acceptance and love.
• Tyler...

Have you ever felt adrift in the murky waters of the internet, trying to fish out the facts you truly need? Today's episode is a beacon for LGBTQ+ parents seeking guidance in distinguishing the credible from the questionable online. Today we plunge into the methods of verifying author expertise and publisher reputation, emphasizing the difference it makes to lean on peer-reviewed resources. Our conversation goes further than just picking out the good from the bad; it's about strengthening the very foundations of your knowledge with tools that ensure what you're learning is rooted in verified truth.

As we navigate this digital landscape together, we lay out a map of strategies to keep you on the path of objective and accurate information. We discuss the nuances of sifting through content, from performing reverse image searches to discerning the intent behind the words you read. It's a masterclass in critical thinking and self-awareness, aimed at debunking biases and promoting a balanced understanding of the issues close to your heart and your LGBTQ teen's experience. Embrace a balanced, informed approach to content consumption, and join us on this journey toward becoming a savvier, more critical thinker in the digital age.

Takeaways:

• The podcast emphasizes the importance of feeling safe and supported while parenting LGBTQ teens.
• Listeners are encouraged to evaluate the credibility of online sources to avoid misinformation.
• Critical thinking is crucial when assessing the objectivity and bias of information found online.
• Utilizing advanced search strategies can significantly enhance the efficiency of your online research.
• Engaging with peer-reviewed articles yields more reliable information and supports informed decision-making.
• Parents should be proactive in seeking diverse perspectives to foster a comprehensive understanding of LGBTQ issues.

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