This episode gives you a taste of what's to come from Lill in the coming year. Yes, year. She's been out of the podcast game for a bit. Gathering more information and building the book which will be published when pigs fly. Hopefully sooner. 

Do you have a list of default questions that you go to when you get into a small talk situation? This podcast will make small talk so much easier.

How do you know if you're truly living? 

Since 1620s, gossip is described as idle talk. Talking about the affairs of others.

That feeling of intimacy and the power of knowledge, is it possible to gain it from small talk or other ways of communicating?

These are the links mentioned in this podcast:

https://positivepsychology.com/positive-gossip/

https://www.etymonline.com/word/gossip

https://www.oxfordlearnersdictionaries.com/definition/english/conversation?q=conversation

How you receive a grand gift or huge amounts of money shows you how you invest in you and your future. I played with the thought of 300 million and had some interesting thoughts. 

Are the words you use most a quilt of other peoples words or are they true to who you –right now?

Have you noticed how your body changes and given up on it? You might be in for a treat if you just remember to say hello.

I was in an awkward situation and it reminded me of one of the many reasons I saw the need for the conversation about small talk. 

After watching a Netflix-show, inspired by a most ingenious woman, I needed to start the conversation on guilty pleasure.

In this episode I discuss the perks beyond a short conversation that you might find beneficial. 

I learned a lot in three weeks of podcasting every day. This is what I learned and what you'll get in the coming weeks. 

After my surgery I needed to reclaim my life. I intentionally tried RBF Resting Bitch Face for three months and it was the best decision in years! Here's the story. 

Do you have to be artsy to be creative? Or, could you be just as creative as anyone else, in your own field of work and hobbies?

These days I'm teaching my teenager to drive and I've become more aware of how I use gratitude in traffic and more importantly why. 

Feelings and emotions could be the best in life, if you let it. Being conscious of what they do to you, how they control you if you let them. Knowing how freeing they can be, if you let them. 

Have you heard about having a creative and productive hangover? That's what I've called them because I never got anything done. Now I've cracked the code for how to keep moving forward and in this episode I share my tricks for for you to test out yourself or be inspired to find what works for you. 

Here's the link to Zita Fontaines story about listening to one song and how it can boost your creativity.

This is the rest of the intentional living podcast I started on Wednesday, so have a listen for tips there as well. 

The website that inspired this two-parter is whitneyhansen.com and here's the link. 

If you listened to your inner drive, you'd be more creative and more things done. So what is this elusive feeling?

Having a breakdown, when you allow it, can create a breakthrough. Here's how I went through mine and what I gained. 

The song I talked about was: Amber Marks Worth it

Hvis du er lei av troll? Er du lei av å bli misforstått i sosiale medier? Det er det vi snakker om i dag.

There's intentional living and there's intentional communication. We're looking at a list of 10 things to think of for your intentional living and how to empower your communication skills with yourself and others. 

https://whitneyhansen.com/10-tips-living-intentional-life/

It's the Norwegian Netflix link but you'll find one for your own language: Marie Kondo

What is complacency really and how is it opposite to self-leadership?

Complacency is the poison that kills us slowly is the story I talk about that you can read on Medium.com by Brian Kurian

I had a hard time sticking to one story whenever I sat down to write. One story would get more legs than an octopus and I finally it would not make any sense. After I started podcasting every day it all made sense.

So there's small talk and then there's this new thing: Modern Small Talk. This is the way to include the extrovert and introvert. A way to do small talk where both feel seen. Is that even possible? Look out for future episodes every Friday. You are in for a treat! 

There's trolls, there's the social media self appointed police and there are the Karens and Richards. Where should we set the bar on social media commenting and dialogues?

The secret is: Modern Small Talk is based on the introvert way of conversing. Here's how! 

11 things introverts want you to know https://www.verywellmind.com/things-you-didnt-know-about-introverts-4065384

A great read about this is to be found on Medium.com by Alexander M. Combstrong called The Highly Confident Introvert: Far from an Oxymoron.https://medium.com/happy-brain-club/the-highly-confident-introvert-far-from-an-oxymoron-b1c7d9ac7979

I dag får du et sammendrag fra tre tidligere episoder fra den engelskspråklige versjonen av programmet Modern Small Talk. 

Linker som jeg nevnte i programmet finner du på programbeskrivelsen på nettsiden lifebylill.com

There have been studies about reading groups but reading a person right in front of you is another matter. However, there are things you can do to feel more comfortable in a small talk situation.

The link to the study mentioned in the podcast: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0956797614544510

Ten years ago I saw a woman in her mid seventies who had started doing yoga and had become a much loved teacher of it too. It got me thinking about all the people, from their thirties and up, who talk and lead their lives as though they're just waiting to die. I made some changes myself whilst researching with the question in mind: what if I knew I'd be a 102 years old, would I still choose what I choose today?

On Mondays I read from my publication on Medium.com. Todays stories are:

How writing centres my mental health

Why an Inspirational Quote Will Never Be Enough

Check out my page on Medium.com for more stories and have a read yourself. 

https://lilloyunn.medium.com/

We don't learn how to do basic conversations with people. We learn the superficial and we learn how to be wide open. But, how to have meaningful conversations, especially short ones who are a investment in your future and confidence is what's episode is all about

This tool, I've spoken about it before but, now I've decided to build a class for it to be launched in July of 2021. It's been with me for over 15 years and it has been crucial for creating a life I did not know was possible. 

Show notes on lifebylill.com

With the constant communication in social media and the demand to speak correctly so you won't be misunderstand people are getting more and more exhausted. This is why and how we can change it. 

Show notes on website www.lifebylill.com

Introduksjon til en fast spalte hver torsdag om småprat og slikt som mange har et dårlig forhold til. Lill Nermoen-Hanssen er her for å fortelle deg at small talk er det som skal til for å føle deg tryggere i samtaler med kjente og ukjente. Faktisk så vil du få selvtillit av det også! 

Torsdager er det norske sammendraget av den engelske versjonen av Modern Small Talk and Self-Leadership som går hver onsdag, fredag og søndag. 

If you're tired of how rude people are on social media, now is your chance to do something about it. In this episode we talk about setting the bar on how we talk on social media.

Every Wednesday, Friday and Sunday you will be learning about the new ways of small talk, how to master it and what you gain from it! In this episode you'll get a taste of what's to come.

Show notes on www.lifebylill.com

Check out my Pinterest for more inspiration on small talk, confidence, self-leadership, higher quality of living – and cakes and biscuits. 

Have you ever tried someone else's advice, and found a few weeks in that you are out of fuel? Instead of being excited about this new wind of change, the motivation is ebbing out. Where did it go? The momentum lost its footing.

Rewiring your brain can sometimes feel like being a dung beetle rolling a big ball of turd, whilst walking on your hands and keeping the momentum up with your feet. Then four of your friends come along to help you. Here’s how to find the one that actually helps.

Over the last few years, I have been googling one statement again and again. I found all sorts of classes for writing in English when it is your second language until I found what I was looking for, right here, on Medium. My search was: easier to write in English even though it is not your first language.

The art of being part of a discussion is not a lost art, because to be fair, has it ever been close to the drawing board in the first place? 

Apparently, you only have two options. Either you are right or you are wrong. That is like saying there are only solid colours in the colour palettes being ignorant to the beautiful shades of grey, yellow, red and so much more. 

How we live our lives are based on the stories we tell ourselves and the world around us. The repeated truths that we have grown unconscious of. What is your story?

I wrote a story about how to organise an overly creative mind where I showed you how I use spreadsheets to organise my overly creative mind. What I didn’t tell you about the three-month writing marathon of writing every day, is by day 15, — I am exhausted as I sit down to write. Here’s how I keep moving forward!

I am halfway through the first month, of the three months that I have dedicated to write and post every day. I have missed one day. That was the day when I decided to go all in.

What's your story today? 

I speak on storytelling every day. That is, other peoples stories that in the end inspire you to either agree or disagree, being provoked to an action or a new train of thought.

Is writing about the future, an attempt to predict the future, or is it a medium to play with an idea? Growing up with a love for films and series about the future I was often disappointed about how it almost to a fault, portrayed a dystopian society with different levels of advanced technology that is a story of its own. 

I watched Superman when I was a little girl, with Christopher Reeves and when I heard the music start up, I cringed. Come decades years later I realised why.

When you so dearly want to deliver, something, –something to be proud of, that makes you feel heard, this accountability can drain all energy of you. This is how I dealt with mine. And in reuploading it, I'm doing it again. 

This weeks episodes on WI102 and MST are reuploaded due to a book I'm writing and need to priorities right now. 

I've learned over the years, that if I don't listen I get physically ill. This is me, practicing what I preach on this podcasts. 

This is me listening to my own conversation. 

Thank you for listening too. 

I would love to hear your comment on my website: www.lifebylill.com

I watched the first episode in the first season, after the last episode of the 2nd series, realising I had bailed on the episode only after a few minutes. That's how much of a chance I was willing to give the already popular show.

A mere 2 minutes and 50 seconds to judge the episode. Still, the television series kept waving it's index finger to invite me in. "You'll love me, I promise."

Some movies bring up a topic that I would love to hear more about. A second movie is just not going to cut it, I am in the moment right now and I just want it to last. 

When others think they have levelled up in being a movie connoisseur when they find movies celebrated by the Cannes Film festival a stamp of approval, I've found myself levelling up with finding characters be a story in of its own.

Storytelling is not only used for getting a better grasp of the language, connecting us and add meaning to our lives. What's interesting is that we actually calm down when we hear stories and it can be quite magical