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Welcome to Mindset Money Success. Host Loraine Marshall speaks with Tina Woods, a coach dedicated to helping individuals recover from narcissistic abuse and unlock trapped trauma. Tina recounts her entry into this field after leaving a 24-year advertising career and navigating her own journey through complex trauma (CPTSD), addictions, burnout, and a highly abusive relationship with a covert narcissist. She now works in her purpose of empath empowerment, assisting women to transform lessons learned and move from victim mode into their highest frequency. This episode delves into the deep psychological trap of the trauma bond, the strategic nature of narcissistic abuse, and practical self-help steps for recovery.

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Understanding the Trauma Bond: Tina explains that the trauma bond is a "serious, serious addiction" and is fundamentally a "spiritual, a physical, a mental, psychological trap" that is extremely difficult to break.

Abuse Starts with Love Bombing: It is crucial to understand that the manipulation and abuse cycle begins not with the devaluation or discard, but with the love bomb phase. Narcissists are highly strategic; they plot their victims and look for supply by weighing up their wounds, such as isolation or self-love issues, making the love bombing the beginning of the abuse.

Harnessing Anger for Healing: Tina advocates for releasing anger, describing it as her "kill Bill stage," rather than repressing or suppressing it, which can cause sickness. Techniques she used for release included joining kickboxing and self-defence, as well as bouncing on a mini trampoline, shaking, and dancing.

4 Key Takeaways

Embrace Deep Honesty and the 'Ik-List': To begin breaking the trauma bond, the first step is to come into deep, painful honesty about both the abuser's behaviours and your own attachment patterns. Tina suggests creating an 'ik-list' (a tip she borrowed from Dr Ramani) detailing all the awful things the abuser said and did, so you can clearly see the truth when they attempt to 'hoover' you back in.

De-centre the Abuser and Reclaim Self-Love: Recovery requires understanding your codependency and recognising that seeking validation from a toxic person reflects a lack of self-love and self-worth. You must de-centre the narcissist and the relationship story to go on a deep journey of reclamation, which often involves reviewing childhood patterns and behaviours.

Implement the 360 Approach for Complex Trauma: When dealing with complex trauma (CPTSD), a self-help strategy should address the mind, body, and soul. For the soul, focus on raising your frequency through faith, prayer, cord cutting, or walking in nature. For the body, prioritise nervous system safety through somatic exercises, yoga, breathwork, and nourishing food.

Listen to Your Intuition: Your intuition is activated when you start spotting the abuser's patterns of behaviour. When you find yourself having the same conversation multiple times or noticing flare-ups around certain times, this may lead to the realisation: "maybe it's not all me," which is a powerful starting point for moving forward.

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In this week's episode, Loraine Marshall aims to challenge and completely dismantle conventional financial advice that often leaves people feeling stuck. Our guide on this journey is Rob Moore, a self-made millionaire, property investor, and host of the Disruptors podcast, known for building his fortune on contrarian thinking. Loraine extracts some of Rob Moore's valuable insights, offering a blueprint for building wealth by exploring the money lies that keep you poor, and revealing the hidden rules of the financial game.

4 Key Takeaways

1. Lie number one suggests that saving your money in the bank is responsible, but Rob Moore argues this is a dangerous myth. Due to inflation—which he calls the biggest legal money scam—leaving your money in the bank is not saving it; it is eroding and degrading its value, resulting in a guaranteed loss of purchasing power over time.

2. Inflation is a quiet theft of your money and a systematic feature of the modern financial system. The only effective defence is to own assets that rise in value as currency devalues, such as property, stocks, businesses, and precious metals (like gold and silver coins), which store value better than cash.

3. The wealthy understand a critical distinction: bad debt (borrowing for depreciating consumer items like a new car or designer clothes) keeps people on a treadmill, while good debt can make you richer. Good debt involves strategically borrowing money, like using a mortgage on a rental property, to acquire an asset where the financial return is higher than the debt's cost.

4. The supposedly secure job is one of the riskiest financial strategies because your entire income stream depends on one employer, meaning you are not in control. Since even saving money is a risk due to inflation, true financial security comes from taking calculated, educated investment risks to build assets that you control.

4 Best Moments

1. Ex-financial advisor Chris Roll provided a brilliant analogy, explaining that the Monopoly game rules state that if the bank runs out of money, it can simply write some more on a piece of paper and use that. This perfectly illustrates how the modern financial system and central banks create currency out of thin air.

2. In a rant about modern consumer culture, Rob Moore highlighted the absurdity of spending £55 on a trendy water bottle when the same money could purchase a one-ounce silver coin, which is a real, tangible asset that stores value. This powerfully symbolises society's broken financial priorities.

3. This insight captures the power shift when dealing with high-level finance and leverage: "If you borrow a million pounds from the bank, you have a problem. If you borrow 100 million from the bank, they have the problem".

4. Blueprint for Your First £10,000. Rob Moore provides a simple, diversified plan for asset growth: 40% into the stock market (e.g., Vanguard Life Strategy Fund), 30% in physical gold, 20% in physical silver, and 10% in calculated high-risk crypto (e.g., 80% Bitcoin, 20% Ethereum). This strategy hedges against economic uncertainty while investing in long-term growth.

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On this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, host Loraine Marshall tackles the journey of recovering from emotional, psychological, and financial abuse. Drawing on her own story and others, Loraine explores post-separation "litigation abuse," the systemic challenges survivors face, and how to turn trauma into a powerful force for advocacy and change.

5 Best Moments

1. The Vow to Write: The night her relationship ended, Loraine made a vow: "I'm going to write the book". She shares how this pivotal decision was the first step in reclaiming her story, leading to her book's publication.
2. Vindication in Court: Loraine recounts her stunning legal victory in a Spanish court, where she faced serious criminal allegations that carried a potential 17-year prison sentence. She reveals the moment of ultimate triumph when all charges were completely dismissed.
3. The Birth of an Advocate: Learn the inspiring story of Tina Swithin, who started her blog "One Mum's Battle" in 2011 to document a decade-long family court struggle. Discover how her personal battle transformed into a global educational resource, helping thousands of women.
4. The Unmarried Woman's Plight: Loraine exposes a critical legal loophole, explaining how family laws in the UK and much of Europe often fail to protect unmarried women. This legal gap leaves many financially devastated after a long-term, controlling relationship ends.
5. From Survivor to Coach: An empowering call to action reveals how lived experience with trauma is a valuable asset. Lorraine explains how survivors can channel their journey into positive action, becoming certified coaches and advocates to help others who are struggling.

5 Key Takeaways

1. Empowerment Begins with Education: Abusers often work to destroy a partner's self-esteem. Reclaim your independence by educating yourself through books, online courses, or volunteering to gain new skills, increase earning potential, and rebuild your self-worth.
2. Recognise the Multiple Faces of Abuse: Abuse isn't just emotional; it often involves financial entrapment that makes leaving feel impossible. After separation, it can become "litigation abuse," where the legal system itself is weaponised to maintain power and control.
3. Your Story Has Power: Sharing your experience through a blog or book, as both Lorraine and Tina Swithin did, is a profound form of healing. Your story can create a community and become a vital educational resource for others who feel alone.
4. Understand the System's Shortcomings: Be aware that family courts are often ill-equipped to handle cases involving parents with personality disorders who manipulate the process. If you are unmarried, you may lack the financial and legal protections given to married couples in the UK and much of Europe.
5. Transform Your Trauma into a Positive Force: Your lived experience is an asset that can be transformed into something positive. With training and support, you can use your unique insights to become a certified coach or advocate, helping other women overcome the very traumas you have survived.

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In this episode, your host, Loraine Marshall, covers the subject of post-separation abuse, drawing on her own experiences over the last five years. Loraine structures the episode by asking and answering seven questions, exposing what this form of abuse looks like, who is most at risk, and its profound impact on a survivor's life.

5 Best Moments

1. Loraine contrasts a typical breakup with post-separation abuse. Most couples can negotiate terms through discussion or mediation, but post-separation abuse occurs when a dominant, high-conflict personality is determined to use litigation and control from the outset, offering their ex-partner no say in the matter. It's their way or no way at all.

2. Loraine shares how she only realised her own relationship had been abusive at its end. The most shocking point was when her lawyer advised her to file a complaint of gender violence with the police, a moment that was a "massive shock" and highlighted the hidden nature of coercive control.

3. Loraine offers a transformative perspective on the psychological aftermath of abuse. She argues that post-traumatic stress (PTS) from emotional, psychological, and financial abuse should not be seen as a "disorder". Instead, it should be classified as a "personal injury"—a natural response to trauma, just as a broken bone is an injury from physical violence.

4. The manipulative tactic abusers use is known as DARVO: Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender. Loraine explains how abusers deny any wrongdoing and attack the real victim, twisting the narrative so completely that the victim is portrayed as the abuser. She shares that she was personally caught up in this type of situation.

5. How the legal system can re-traumatise survivors. Loraine highlights how some solicitors advise women not to mention the abuse in family court proceedings, leaving them unable to speak about what happened. This, combined with a lack of understanding of high-conflict personalities by judges and legal professionals, can lead to prolonged litigation abuse that traps women for five to ten years.

5 Key Takeaways

1. The period after a breakup can be the most dangerous time for a victim of a controlling relationship. The abuser's need for control can heighten when they feel they are losing their "possession," leading to escalated aggression, threats, and intimidation.

2. The legal disparity between married and unmarried couples. In the UK and across much of Europe, cohabiting partners are not covered by family laws for financial settlements unless they have a prior written agreement. This leaves the economically weaker party, often the woman, with little legal recourse.

3. Post-separation abuse is not a single act but a pattern of behaviour. It can include intimidation through texts and emails, stalking (both in-person and online), threats of litigation, and financial coercion through derisory settlement ultimatums with no room for negotiation.

4. The chronic stress from post-separation abuse has severe consequences for a survivor's well-being. It can lead to psychological impacts like loss of self, PTSD, and anxiety, as well as physical manifestations such as a weakened immune system and heart or stomach issues.

5. Survivors are often stuck in "survival mode" and cannot begin to rebuild their lives until all litigation is over. The constant stress erodes self-confidence and affects memory, making it incredibly difficult to find employment, manage finances, or even perform daily tasks like getting out of bed.

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Host Loraine Marshall returns after a break, revisiting a chapter from her first book. She shares the transcript of a deeply personal meeting held five years ago. What was intended as a discussion about financial proposals after a breakup quickly escalated, leading to civil and criminal litigation for various offences, including defamation, harassment, and theft. Loraine reflects on this harrowing experience, highlighting the one-sided nature of the meeting and the verbal aggression she endured.

Key Moments & Takeaways

The meeting was not a negotiation; it was an imposition of demands. From the start, Loraine's ex-partner shut down her alternative proposals, stating she "hadn't listened" to what he wanted. He then told her to "go away and think about it," despite her already having a detailed proposal prepared. This demonstrated his complete disregard for her input.

Loraine reveals a history of control and verbal abuse that preceded the meeting. She reflects on her inability to communicate effectively with him, a pattern that began after he confessed to an affair. She realised he consistently used verbal aggression—raising his voice, saying "nasty" things, and getting angry—to silence her. This created a dynamic where her voice was suppressed.

The severity of his behaviour was underscored when a Spanish solicitor, after hearing a recorded clip of the meeting, advised Loraine to file a gender violence complaint. In the clip, her ex-partner is heard using aggressive and threatening language, while banging his fist down on the glass table, shouting, "I'll make it the 15th of fucking November if I want to. Don't fuck about with me. I've told you 4 months.".

Throughout the meeting, he employed threats and belittling remarks to maintain dominance. He warned her, "You've had one strike already," and told her to "just be careful how you tread," suggesting her future security depended on him. He further escalated his aggression by calling her a "fucking bleeding heart, post-menopausal, sad old bitch."

This single meeting didn't bring about an amicable end to the relationship. Instead, it marked the beginning of legal intimidation for Loraine, who was left in confusion, fear, trauma, and financially vulnerable. She describes being left without work and limited savings, with her ex-partner referring to her as "collateral damage." The situation post-discard ultimately led to her ex-partner taking both civil litigation for eviction and criminal allegations for defamation, slander, harassment, revealing secrets, misappropriation, theft, and damages.

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In this deeply personal episode, Loraine shares her experience of psychological and economic abuse within an intimate relationship in Spain. Drawing on her lived reality and reflecting against the GREVIO report on Spain’s implementation of the Istanbul Convention, she uncovers the systemic failings of legal, judicial, and social support structures meant to protect women. From conflicting legal advice to court-appointed lawyers who failed her, and the trauma of eviction proceedings where her voice was silenced, Loraine exposes how women, especially foreign nationals, can be retraumatised by institutions meant to help them. This episode is a must-listen for survivors, advocates, and anyone seeking to understand the hidden dynamics of financial control and legal manipulation in abusive relationships.

Best Moments

“Stay in the property. Call the police if threatened. Negotiate.”

— The legal advice Loraine received, which contrasts sharply with what she later learned about prohibited mediation in abuse cases.

“You’ll leave with nothing.” A chilling shift from an agreed financial settlement to hostile legal actions by her ex-partner.

“I was denied a voice to speak.” Loraine’s description of the eviction hearing, where, despite securing a translator, no one asked her to testify or present her evidence.

“Imagine you’re struggling in the sea…” A powerful metaphor captures the despair of economic abuse, likening it to an abuser snatching away a lifeline while watching the victim drown.

“He said: ‘Your future security depends on having me on your side." A direct quote that exemplifies coercion, power imbalance, and the emotional manipulation central to economic violence.

Key Takeaways

Legal Systems Often Fail to Protect Survivors - inconsistent legal representation, poor communication, and ignorance of international conventions leave survivors vulnerable.

Economic Abuse Is a Hidden, Ongoing Form of Control - Post-breakup financial manipulation—like withdrawing settlement offers or initiating costly litigation—can trap survivors in prolonged trauma.

Mediation in Abuse Cases Is Prohibited—But Still Happens - Despite Article 48 of the Istanbul Convention, survivors are often pushed into negotiation with abusers under the guise of “amicable” settlements.

Being a Foreigner Adds Layers of Vulnerability - Language barriers, lack of support networks, and discriminatory treatment from legal and social systems increase risks for migrant women.

There Must Be Accountability and Continuity in Legal Support - Survivors need consistent legal help from professionals trained to identify abuse patterns—not just procedural conflict, so they are not silenced or misrepresented.

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Will The Real Victim Please Stand Up?

How can professionals tell who is the real victim after a relationship with the Narcissist ends?

In this powerful episode, Loraine looks at the aftermath of narcissistic abuse—how professionals, courts, and even loved ones often struggle to identify the "real victim" when a toxic relationship ends.

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Narcissists are master manipulators, rewriting history, gaslighting, and playing the victim to evade accountability. Meanwhile, actual survivors are left traumatised, isolated, and struggling to articulate their pain. Drawing from personal experience, expert insights (like Dr. Ramani’s), and harrowing case studies, we expose the stark differences between a "false victim" (the narcissist) and an "actual victim" (the survivor). If you’ve ever wondered why victims aren’t believed—or how abusers weaponise the system—this episode is for you.

Best Moments from the Episode:

1. Dr. Ramani’s Stark Truth: "All domestic abusers are narcissistic. Zero empathy, incredible arrogance—that’s narcissism."

2. The Survivor’s Fog: Why true victims often sound "chaotic" when recounting abuse, while narcissists deliver smooth, calculated lies.

3. DARVO Exposed: How narcissists *Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender* to manipulate professionals.

4. Courtroom Betrayal: The shocking reality of how survivors are re-traumatised by legal systems that dismiss covert abuse.

5. Life After Abuse: Why true victims isolate themselves, while narcissists move on instantly—new relationships, social media bragging, and no remorse.

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Key Takeaways:

1. Spot the Patterns: True victims show PTSD symptoms (anxiety, confusion); false victims appear detached, entitled, and hyper-articulate.

2. Trauma vs. Tactics: Survivors self-blame and grieve; narcissists weaponise victimhood to "win" at all costs.

3. Systemic Failure: Courts often mistake a survivor’s anger for instability while believing the narcissist’s charm.

4. Silence Isn’t Consent: Many victims don’t report abuse due to fear, trauma bonds, or shame—not because it didn’t happen.

5. Healing is Possible: Recovery starts with therapy, community, and the realisation that you were never the problem.

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In this powerful episode, Loraine sits down with bestselling author, podcaster, and speaker Dana Diaz to discuss the harrowing yet transformative journey of surviving narcissistic abuse. From childhood trauma to toxic relationships, Dana shares her story of resilience, healing, and reclaiming self-worth. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone who’s experienced manipulation, gaslighting, or emotional abuse—and seeks the strength to break free.

Narcissistic Abuse Follows a Predictable Cycle

• Love-bombing, devaluation, and discard phases keep victims trapped in hope and confusion.

Childhood Trauma Sets the Stage

• Dysfunctional upbringing (e.g., parentification, emotional neglect) primes individuals to tolerate abuse in adulthood.

The Physical Toll of Abuse

• Prolonged stress can manifest as autoimmune disorders, chronic illness, or extreme weight loss (Dana’s lung syndrome).

Financial Control as a Weapon

• Narcissists exploit financial dependence to maintain power, then blame victims for "using" them.

Healing Requires Rebuilding Self-Trust

• Setting boundaries, therapy, and writing (like Dana’s journal-to-book journey) are critical to recovery.

"He was trying to kill me without getting his hands dirty."

• Dana’s chilling realization about her ex-husband’s psychological warfare.

"I internalized the words: ‘Nobody will ever love you.’"

• How childhood verbal abuse shaped Dana’s vulnerability to toxic relationships.

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• Dana hid a journal under the couch during lockdown, fearing her ex would murder her and stage it as an accident.

"If my daughter told me this, I’d rescue her—yet I stayed."

• Dana's reflection on the disconnect between self-worth and protecting loved ones.

"Abuse is abuse, and an a-hole is an a-hole."

• The blunt truth about narcissists’ universal playbook, regardless of geography or laws.

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In this episode, Loraine shares her four-year battle with a legal system that failed her as a survivor. Through her lived experience, she reveals misguided legal advice and legal barriers faced by women seeking justice. If you’ve ever felt silenced by the system, this episode is for you.

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5 Key Takeaways:

• Legal Systems Often Fail Survivors: How victims are frequently dismissed, given conflicting advice, or pressured into actions they’re uncomfortable with.
• Advocacy: Without a lawyer who truly listened or advocated for her needs, survivors face bureaucratic dead ends—highlights the critical need for trauma-informed legal representation.
• Hidden Abuse Goes Unrecognized: Her case was downgraded from psychological abuse to minor verbal abuse by the courts, exposing how systems minimize non-physical violence.
• Financial Coercion as a Weapon: Manipulation continued through broken financial promises (reneged offers for a monetary settlement), a tactic many survivors face. :
• Staying Strong: Despite setbacks, Loraine persisted—researching laws, writing a book, and fighting for her rights—proving survival is possible even when systems work against you.

5 Best Moments:

Solicitor’s Shocking Advice (0:13–4:12)

• The lawyer insisted she file a gender violence complaint, ignoring her plea for negotiation—a pivotal failure in the system.

Triggering Legal Threats (10:47–11:17)

• The gut-wrenching email from her ex’s lawyer: "The judge will order your eviction—you have no rights in this country."

Courtroom Betrayal (19:02–20:21)

• A lawyer dismissed evidence, reducing years of abuse to "one minor verbal incident"—a stark example of systemic failure.

Appeal Denied (22:44–23:48)

• The free lawyer wouldn't appeal —another institutional failure.

Systemic Failures (26:09–26:26)

• “These are the systemic failures in the system. There should be a set process in place so that when someone presents with the issue, they can go through this or that. There should be a flow chart of how to proceed.”

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Wellness, Writing, and Winning: A Conversation with Katie Gauthier #mindset #money #success

In this episode of Mindset Money Success, host Loraine Marshall sits down with Katie Gauthier, an international bestselling author, wellness coach, and yoga teacher. Katie shares her journey of co-authoring the book Becoming the Manifesting Diva: Making Ripples While You Flow, which became an instant bestseller across multiple countries. Together, they dive into the power of mindset, overcoming trauma, and how to reframe limiting beliefs to create a life of success and fulfilment. Katie also opens up about her unique approach to coaching, blending yoga and mindset work to help clients release emotional blockages and thrive. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about resilience, collaboration, and the importance of moving forward, no matter the setbacks.

5 Key Takeaways:

Mindset is Everything: Katie emphasizes that most challenges stem from negative self-beliefs or mindset blocks. By addressing these, individuals can unlock their potential and create lasting change.

Trauma-Informed Coaching: Katie’s approach combines mindset coaching with yoga to help clients release emotional and physical blockages, especially those rooted in trauma.

The Power of Collaboration: Katie’s journey as a co-author highlights the importance of collaboration and how working with others can lead to incredible opportunities, like becoming an international bestselling author.

Reframing Setbacks: Both Loraine and Katie discuss how setbacks can be reframed as opportunities for growth. By asking, “What is this trying to teach me?” you can turn challenges into stepping stones.

Resilience in the Face of Adversity: Loraine shares her personal story of overcoming trauma and legal battles, emphasizing the importance of persistence and self-belief in the face of life’s toughest challenges.

5 Best Moments:

Katie’s Bestseller Journey: Katie shares how she became a co-author of an international bestselling book, Becoming the Manifesting Diva, and the serendipitous connections that made it possible. (00:02:00)

The Intersection of Yoga and Mindset: Katie explains how she blends yoga with mindset coaching to help clients release emotional blockages and reconnect with their true selves. (00:10:00)

Loraine’s Story of Resilience: Loraine opens up about her traumatic experiences, including a toxic relationship and legal battles, and how she found the strength to keep moving forward. (00:25:00)

Reframing Limiting Beliefs: Katie discusses her process of helping clients reframe limiting beliefs, turning self-doubt into empowerment. (00:15:00)

Celebrating Failure: Both Loraine and Katie talk about the importance of learning from failure and how it can be a powerful tool for growth. (00:40:00)

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In this episode, Loraine emphasizes the key role of mindset in achieving financial freedom, particularly for women over 40 facing life-altering events. Drawing from her personal experiences of financial insecurity after betrayal and loss, Loraine identifies common blocks such as fear, lack of financial literacy, emotional trauma, and financial dependency. Loraine then offers practical steps and mindset shifts to overcome these obstacles, encouraging listeners to adopt an abundance mindset, hold onto courage, take financial ownership, and develop self-worth. An encouraging guide for women seeking to rebuild their lives and achieve financial independence by focusing on internal strength and proactive steps.

5 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

* Mindset is the fundamental key to achieving financial freedom, especially for women over 40 navigating significant life changes like divorce, loss, or betrayal. Financial freedom encompasses how we think, believe, and act, not just the amount of money we have.

* Overcoming financial trauma involves recognizing and addressing common blocks such as fear and self-doubt, lack of financial literacy, emotional trauma from events like betrayal and loss, and being financially dependent on others.

* Shifting your mindset is crucial for building financial independence. This involves moving from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset, from fear to courage, from dependency to ownership of your financial decisions, and from self-doubt to self-worth.

* There are practical steps you can take to shift your mindset for financial security, including using journaling prompts and daily affirmations, building a supportive network, and actively improving your financial literacy.

* No matter your current circumstances, you have the power to change your financial story by making a conscious decision to shift your mindset and take control of your future. Even amidst trauma and setbacks, focusing on skill development and future plans can be empowering.

5 BEST MOMENTS:

* Loraine's opening, where she shares her personal experience of her planned secure financial future vanishing, immediately highlights the real-world importance of mindset in the face of unexpected life changes.

* The article's direct acknowledgment that fear in these situations can stem from external sources beyond negative thoughts, adding a layer of complexity to the common advice to "feel the fear and do it anyway".

* The powerful and relatable statement: "Betrayal, abandonment, and loss can shatter our sense of security and self-worth", which underscores the significant emotional impact on financial well-being.

* Maya Angelou's impactful quote: “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them,” offering a message of resilience and empowerment in the face of adversity.

* The inclusion of concrete, actionable steps like specific journaling prompts and practical tips for improving financial literacy, providing listeners with tangible ways to start their journey towards financial freedom.

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In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, host Loraine Marshall dives into the inspiring story behind her Amazon Merch t-shirt collections under the brand Success With Loraine. With two powerful collections—Narcissist Aware and Self Care—Loraine shares her personal journey of overcoming emotional and financial abuse, and how she turned her pain into purpose. These collections, available on Amazon ES, UK, and US, are more than just apparel; they are wearable messages of empowerment, awareness, and self-care. Tune in to learn how Loraine created these collections to support her podcast, YouTube channel, and website while raising awareness about hidden forms of abuse.

1. Raising Awareness Through Wearable Messages: Loraine’s t-shirt collections, Narcissist Aware and Self Care, are designed to spark conversations about hidden forms of abuse, such as emotional, psychological, and financial manipulation.
2. Personal Healing Through Creativity: After experiencing a toxic relationship, Loraine channelled her pain into creating slogans like "Not A Possession, Not A Plaything, I'm A Person" to empower victims and help them recognize their worth.
3. Multiple Streams of Income: Loraine emphasizes the importance of diversifying income streams, especially for those rebuilding their lives after trauma. Her merch collections are one way she supports her podcast and online presence.
4. The Importance of Boundaries: One of the slogans, "Boundaries Begin Here," highlights the need for setting clear boundaries in relationships to protect oneself from emotional harm and manipulation.
5. Self-Care as a Path to Healing: The Self-Care collection encourages victims to prioritize their well-being through activities like journaling, yoga, and painting, reminding them that happiness is the highest form of success.

1. The Story Behind "Not A Possession, Not A Plaything, I'm A Person": Loraine shares how this powerful slogan reflects her experience of being treated as an object in an abusive relationship and how it resonates with many victims of hidden abuse.
2. Creating the Narcissist Aware Collection: Loraine discusses the emotional process of designing t-shirts like "Narcissists Destroy Lives" and "Enough is Enough," which reflect the pain and empowerment of leaving toxic relationships.
3. The Importance of Multiple Income Streams: Loraine opens up about her financial struggles after leaving her business and how creating the merch collections became a way to rebuild her life and support her podcast.
4. The Healing Power of Self-Care: Loraine explains how the Self-Care collection was born out of her own healing journey, with slogans like "Remember You Are Amazing" and "Happiness is the Highest Form of Success."
5. A Message of Empowerment: Loraine closes the episode with a heartfelt reminder that victims of abuse are stronger than they think, and every small step toward self-care and self-love is a step toward reclaiming their power.

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In this episode, Loraine explores opportunities for finding and securing funding for your Dream Business Startup.

Best Moments

1. The discussion highlights the systemic challenges in traditional venture capital, noting that while almost 40% of startup owners in Europe are women, companies founded by women receive only 2.4% of total venture capital funding. However, this statistic is reframed as "permission to stop playing a game that wasn’t designed for you".

2. We examine the internal hurdle of a "scarcity mindset" the deeply ingrained belief that there isn't enough opportunity or support. This paralysing mindset leads to risk aversion and accepting limitations. The powerful counterpoint is introduced: "poverty loves foot dragging," while speed, decision, and action are the habits of abundance.

3. Listeners are encouraged to shift from passive worrying to an active, opportunity-focused state of doing. The principle "money loves speed" is explained as a law where acting on an idea as fast as humanly possible creates an energy that helps attract more money, echoing the concept that "the universe loves speed".

4. Grants are highlighted as the best kind of funding because they are a primary source of debt-free money—meaning founders don't give up equity and do not have to pay the money back. Corporate partners like Poker Power, BOTOX® Cosmetic, Visa, and Caress have created major grant programs through IFundWomen (IFW).

5. The most efficient strategic move a founder can make is to fill out the IFundWomen Universal Funding and Grant Application. This single action places the founder in a central database, which IFW uses to match founders with opportunities when they partner with brands.

Key Takeaways

• Mindset is your most powerful asset: Acknowledge that the funding gap is real, but recognize that shifting your mindset from scarcity to abundance is the critical foundation for success.

• Embrace Immediate Action: Apply the principle that "money loves speed" by taking immediate, decisive action on your ideas instead of waiting for the "perfect" moment.

• Tap into the Diverse Ecosystem: Don't focus solely on VC; instead, tap into the rich ecosystem of grants and supportive organisations like IFundWomen, Female Founders Rise, Ladies Who Launch, and the Tory Burch Foundation.

• Take One Concrete Step Today: The only wrong choice is inaction. Your homework is to take immediate action, such as filling out the IFundWomen Universal Application or exploring the Tory Burch Funding Finder to give your dream the momentum it deserves.

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In this episode, Loraine shares her personal journey of overcoming significant setbacks, including betrayal, legal battles, and emotional trauma. She offers practical advice and key lessons on how to stay motivated even when progress feels slow. Loraine emphasizes the importance of focusing on your "why," celebrating small wins, reframing setbacks, building a support system, and taking things one day at a time.

Key Takeaways:

1. Focus on Your "Why":

Remembering your core reason for pursuing your goals can serve as an anchor during tough times. Loraine shares how her "why" kept her motivated through legal battles and emotional trauma.

2. Celebrate Small Wins:

Acknowledging and celebrating small victories, no matter how insignificant they seem, can boost your confidence and keep you motivated. Loraine celebrated moments like publishing her book and successfully delaying eviction.

3. Reframe Setbacks as Opportunities:

Instead of seeing challenges as obstacles, view them as opportunities for growth. Loraine reframed her legal battles as tests of her strength and determination.

4. Build a Support System:

Surround yourself with supportive people who understand your journey. Loraine found strength in online communities and support groups, which helped her feel less isolated.

5. Take It One Day at a Time:

Focus on the present moment and take small, manageable steps. Loraine emphasizes the importance of breaking down goals into daily tasks to avoid feeling overwhelmed.

Best Moments:

1. Loraine's Personal Story of Betrayal and Resilience:

Loraine opens up about the emotional and financial betrayal she faced from a former partner, setting the stage for her journey of overcoming adversity.

2. Reframing Setbacks as Opportunities:

Loraine discusses how she turned her legal challenges into opportunities to learn Spanish law and take control of her situation, proving her strength and determination.

3. Finding Support in Online Communities:

Loraine highlights the importance of finding support through online groups like "Griefhab," which helped her connect with others and even contributed to a collaborative book.

5. The Power of Affirmations and Visualization:

Loraine shares how she used affirmations and attended motivational seminars to stay positive and focused during her recovery journey.

Practical Tips:

• Create a daily routine with small, achievable goals.

• Use affirmations and visualization to stay positive.

• Keep a journal to track progress and reflect on your journey.

• Seek inspiration from books, podcasts, coaches, or mentors

Motivational Quote:

"It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop"

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In this episode, Loraine focuses on managing stress and improving mental well-being. She explores the negative impacts of stress on physical and mental health, offering practical advice such as exercise, diet, journaling, and meditation to alleviate it. The creator also discusses the importance of positive affirmations and mindful responses to criticism, promoting self-improvement and the Law of Attraction. The piece concludes by suggesting seeking professional help if needed.

Key Takeaways

• Stress Reduction is Essential: Stress can negatively impact both mental and physical health, potentially leading to depression, anxiety, and physical ailments like heart disease. Managing stress is crucial for overall well-being and achieving personal goals.
• Multiple methods for stress relief:  Physical exercise, a healthy diet, journaling, social interaction, setting boundaries, and meditation. A combination of these strategies may be the most effective.
• Mindset Matters: Maintaining a positive mindset and focusing on what is important in life can help to navigate stressful situations. Reframing negative thoughts and practising gratitude can reduce stress and improve emotional well-being.
• Dealing with Criticism Constructively: Learning to accept criticism and using it as an opportunity for growth can be beneficial. When facing criticism, it's important to consider the source, ask for factual evidence, and avoid reacting emotionally.
• Self-Awareness is Key: Recognizing when stress is overwhelming and seeking help from professionals, such as therapists, can be beneficial. Understanding one's emotional state and identifying the need for support is crucial in managing stress effectively.

Best Moments

• The Importance of Movement: Physical activity as a potent stress reliever. Even small amounts of exercise, like chair yoga or dancing, can help to release tension and increase energy levels.
• The Power of Journaling: Focusing on the positive and gratitude, when journaling, can shift your mindset from negative to positive. This practice is noted as a tool for reducing stress and anxiety.
• The "I Am" Affirmations: The "I am" affirmations, combined with meditation or deep breathing exercises, can be a powerful way to circulate positive energy throughout the body.
• The Value of Social Connection: Having strong social ties can provide support during stressful times and reduce anxiety. Socialising can include meeting new people in person, networking online, or engaging in group activities.
• The Need to Say "No": Setting boundaries and avoiding overcommitment is a way to control stress and prioritise one's well-being. Learning to say no when your workload is too much is crucial.

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- Finding love again after loss or abandonment.

- It is absolutely possible to find love again, and not just any love, but the right love.

- identifying the kind of relationship you truly want

- feel hopeful, empowered, and ready to take your next step toward love.

- The Impact of Trauma on Relationships

- Shifting the Mindset: Believing in Love Again

- Your past does not dictate your future.

- The right relationship is about quality, not quantity.

- Healing doesn’t mean waiting for someone to rescue you.

- “What do I need to do to prepare myself for the right relationship?”

- "What Type of Relationship Do You Really Want?"

- Practical Steps for Dating After Trauma

- Love is possible for you.

- The most important step? Believe in yourself first.

- Takeaway for today: Write down three qualities you truly want in a partner and three ways you can start preparing yourself for that kind of relationship.

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My Journey Through False Allegations and Post-Separation Abuse

Being falsely accused can shatter a person’s sense of self, creating waves of emotional, mental, and even physical trauma that linger for years. I know this all too well. As an author who dared to share my truth through my self-published book, Post Separation Abuse, Betrayal and Abandonment, What Type of Man?, I never imagined the level of retaliation I would face.

5 Key Takeaways:

* The Devastating Impact of False Allegations – Being falsely accused can lead to severe emotional, psychological, and financial distress, often leaving victims trapped in a legal nightmare.

* The Role of the Legal System in Re-Traumatization – Navigating the courts while dealing with trauma is overwhelming, especially when lawyers and professionals dismiss or ignore key evidence.

* Emotional and Social Isolation – Facing accusations can result in PTSD, emotional dysregulation, and being ostracized by the community, leaving victims feeling abandoned and powerless.

* Post-Separation Abuse as a Form of Control – False accusations are often used as a tactic by abusers to maintain control, discredit the victim, and inflict further harm long after the relationship ends.

* The Importance of Advocacy and Support Networks – Finding the right support system, raising awareness, and speaking out about post-separation abuse can help survivors reclaim their power and heal.

5 Best Moments:

* The Moment of Betrayal – Discovering that a former partner had fabricated multiple criminal allegations, weaponizing the legal system as a means of revenge.

* Standing Before the Court – The emotional turmoil of facing a judge while knowing the accusations were baseless, yet feeling powerless in a flawed system.

* The Impact on Mental Health – The sheer exhaustion, anxiety, and trauma of fighting for justice while struggling with PTSD and isolation.

* A Small Victory Amid the Chaos – The relief of having allegations dismissed, yet grappling with the long-term consequences of the ordeal.

* Turning Pain Into Purpose – Using the experience to raise awareness about post-separation abuse, advocate for survivors, and inspire others to fight for justice.

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Are these power imbalances an indication of something more sinister going on?

A high-conflict personality will rather litigate divorce and separation than come to the table to discuss things in a civilised adult manner. They will hide behind the legal process and have the lawyer do all the work, abuse by proxy. The high-conflict personality will have deep pockets they don’t mind spending on legal fees as they want to win at all costs. They lack empathy, have zero morals, and refuse to accept any responsibility for the abuse and psychological damage they are causing. If you do happen to engage them in mediation if the mediator is not knowledgeable about “coercive control” or “narcissistic abuse” then they will manipulate the mediator and will move the goalposts on the offers made before you can even sign an agreement they will have changed their mind again and gone one step backwards. It is so frustrating for everyone.

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In this podcast episode of 'Mindset Money Success', host Loraine Marshall shares her personal experience regarding a protracted legal battle following a relationship breakdown. Loraine details events starting from January 2022, when she received an email from her former partner regarding property matters. She describes how she sought legal advice and faced eviction proceedings in Spain. Loraine explains the complexities of her situation, including the challenges of navigating Spanish legal systems, dealing with allegations from her former partner, and her efforts to negotiate a settlement. She discusses the emotional impact of these events, particularly regarding the timing of eviction notices and their connection to personal anniversaries. Loraine also shares her plans to start a nonprofit organization to help others in similar situations, detailing her business plan and funding needs. Throughout the episode, Lorraine emphasizes the importance of legal protections for non-married couples and the challenges dependent partners face in property disputes.

Initial Contact and Legal Threats

Loraine describes receiving an unexpected email from her former partner on January 6, 2022, regarding property viewing arrangements. After consulting a relationship coach, she emailed the former ex-partner to agree to accommodate the viewing under the condition that he would honour his initial financial proposal of 50% of the property value. Shortly after, she received threatening communications about potential eviction.

Property Negotiations and Challenges

Loraine explains the failed property sale negotiations in mid-2021, including a three-hour meeting with her former partner. She discusses how the prospective buyers backed out due to concerns about potential eviction proceedings.

Ongoing Legal Battle and Future Plans

Loraine discusses the ongoing legal battle, including two attempted eviction dates in 2024 that were suspended due to social services intervention. She shares her plans to start a nonprofit organization and details her business strategy, including funding needs and project goals.

Loraine's Action Items

Plans to raise 2,400 euros to establish a nonprofit organization

Intends to launch a new business venture related to her experiences

Aims to complete her second book and expand her online presence through various platforms.

Continues to document her story and raise awareness about legal protections for non-married couples.

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In this episode, we delve into the inspiring journey of Candice Mason, founder of Mother Cuppa, a herbal tea brand dedicated to women's health. Candice shares how her personal experiences, including early menopause, motivated her to create a business that empowers women through wellness-focused teas. She discusses her challenges, launching a brand in her 40s, and offers insights into her crowdfunding event when she successfully raised over £7,000 towards launching a new blend for Mother Cuppa and building a purpose-driven business.

5 Key Takeaways:

Mother Cuppa is a brand of herbal tea that supports women's health; Candice originally took up a UK business start-up loan to get started.

Candice wanted to launch a new herbal tea blend in her product range. Asking for help from the customer base to find out what they would like.

Crowdfunding was the way forward, as Candice didn't like the idea of angel investing.

Support came from her husband, who assisted with the management of the rewards-based side of the campaign where there were nearly 60 female entrepreneurs who offered products and services to be sold during the campaign.

Success. The target of £7,000 was achieved within two days of the end date. In fact, they exceeded the target.

Candice highlights that she did not have vast numbers of followers on her Social media when she launched her crowdfunding campaign. It was all organic marketing.

5 Best Moments:

Being a female founder is a bit more tricky. There are barriers for women finding funding in a more male-dominated business world.

Candice launched three options to get involved in crowdfunding, straightforward donations, pre-sales and orders, and rewards offered for sale, donated by other female business founders and coaches.

The crowdfunding got off to a really good start; it made £1,500 in the first three hours on launch day.

Candice opens up on how she had to overcome her fears of failure before she launched. The original launch plan was January 2024. The launch opened in October 2024.

The strategy was organic marketing, social media, and a teaser to pique people's interest.

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In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, Loraine explores how to turn dreams into reality, focusing on the mindset and actions needed to build her vision of a transformative Country Park. She shares 8 effective strategies to move from dreaming to doing, along with insights into her plans for a sustainable motorhome campsite and a trauma-to-transformation retreat. This inspiring conversation will help you align your vision, strategy, and action to achieve your goals.

5 Key Takeaways:

1. Clarify Your Vision: Define your dream and solidify your “why” to stay motivated.
2. Set a Deadline: A clear timeline turns dreams into actionable plans.
3. Take Daily Action: Consistent effort builds momentum and keeps you on track.
4. Overcome Doubts: Address fear, procrastination, and negativity with strategies to stay focused.
5. Review and Adjust: Adapt your plans as you progress to ensure alignment with your evolving vision.

5 Best Moments:

1. Loraine explains why knowing your “why” is the key to overcoming criticism and negativity.
2. A powerful discussion on managing fear and self-doubt through visualization techniques.
3. Loraine’s step-by-step breakdown of creating realistic timelines and seeking investments.
4. Sharing her personal vision for the Country Park and its dual purpose for winter travellers and women’s retreats.
5. An invitation to join her free support group for women over 40, offering a safe space to heal and rebuild.

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In this episode, Loraine describes her harrowing experience of post-separation abuse after the end of an 11-year relationship. She details the systemic failures she encountered within the justice system and the lack of support she received from organizations meant to help survivors of gender-based violence. Loraine shares how she was pressured to accept an unfair financial settlement, faced threats and intimidation, and endured a prolonged legal battle marked by false allegations and manipulative tactics from her ex-partner.

Best Moments:

● Loraine's powerful account of her ex-partner's "four-sentence discard speech" after he moved their belongings to Spain.

● The chilling description of the escalating threats and intimidation she faced, including the arbitrary four-month deadline set by her ex-partner.

● The audio clip from the recorded meeting where her ex-partner's controlling and abusive behaviour is audible.

● Loraine's persistent efforts to navigate the legal system, seek help from various organizations and fight for her rights despite numerous setbacks and conflicting advice.

● The ultimate dismissal of all charges against Loraine and her determination to share her story to raise awareness and advocate for change.

Key Takeaways:

● Post-separation abuse is a serious issue that often goes unrecognized and unsupported.

● The legal system can be a challenging and even hostile environment for survivors of abuse, especially when dealing with emotional and psychological abuse.

● It is crucial to document all instances of abuse and seek support from trusted sources.

● Women in cohabiting relationships may face unique legal challenges and receive less protection than married women.

● Speaking out about abuse and advocating for systemic change is essential to improving the experiences of survivors.

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In this episode, Loraine describes her experience of post-separation abuse by her former partner in Spain. She details the legal battles she endured, including accusations of defamation and the "precarious" eviction process she faced. Loraine highlights the emotional toll of the abuse, emphasizing the manipulative tactics used by her former partner, including emotional devaluation and financial control. She shares her personal journey of healing and self-discovery, offering support and resources for others experiencing similar situations.

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Key Takeaways

● Post-separation abuse is a serious issue. The story illustrates the different forms this abuse can take, including legal threats, financial manipulation, and emotional abuse.

● The legal system doesn't always protect victims. Despite clear evidence of abuse, Loraine was forced to fight a lengthy legal battle and was advised to file a gender violence complaint, which she was reluctant to do.

● Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse. Loraine describes the "emotional devaluation" she experienced, highlighting the insidious nature of this type of abuse.

● Forgiveness can be exploited by abusers. Loraine's attempt to forgive her partner was met with continued manipulation and control.

● Recovery and empowerment are possible. This journey demonstrates the importance of speaking out, seeking support, and reclaiming one's identity after experiencing abuse.

Best Moments

● The moment Loraine learns the criminal case against her was dismissed. A powerful moment to emphasize relief and vindication.

● The revelation of the partner's confession and his ongoing affair. This moment highlights the emotional abuse and manipulation experienced.

● The description of the partner's angry outburst during their recorded meeting. Sharing the audio clip in the podcast makes this moment even more impactful, illustrating the intimidation and threats Loraine faced.

● The decision to publish the recording on YouTube and include the transcript in her book. This showcases her courage and determination to expose the abuse and empower other victims.

● The book's success, written under the pen name Loren Keeling, reached Number 1 on Amazon UK in the "Self Help for Abuse" category. This is a triumphant moment, signifying her resilience and the positive impact she's making.

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Welcome to another episode of Mindset Money Success! Host Loraine Marshall introduces guest Carolyn Ann Wood, a mindset mentor and hypnotherapist. Carolyn specialises in an "amazing modality called heart healing," which literally heals the heart. She shares her journey of becoming a certified heart healer and quitting her day job to pursue her successful business, currently travelling and living out of two suitcases. Her personal purpose is focused on freedom, love, and connection.

Loraine and Carolyn discuss the profound power of the mind and how unconscious beliefs, often formed in early childhood, can silently drive reality. Lorraine recalls her own experience growing a property management business based on a simple written goal: "double the income in the first three months, double the income in the next three months". The conversation also touches upon Lorraine's challenging experience navigating years of overlapping litigations, from an ex-partner, and the importance of managing anger and rebuilding self-worth while tackling external pressures.

Carolyn emphasizes that true transformation is not a "one and done" event but requires a holistic approach involving mind, body, heart, and soul work, along with dedicated nervous system regulation.

Best Moments

On the Nature of Heart Healing: "The crazy thing is, the beliefs aren't about the experiences themselves. They are about the other people who were involved in the experiences". Heart healing targets the root belief formed in childhood, often related to the primary caregiver, to address the feeling of "not enoughness".

Affirmations vs. Deep Beliefs: If you are repeating affirmations like "I'm a millionaire" but not seeing results, it is likely because an underlying, unconscious belief is running silently in the background, saying, "no, you’re not a millionaire". To fast-track success, you must get to the root of these negative beliefs.

Self-Love as the Key: Unconditional self-love and self-acceptance are the key to joy, happiness, success, and wealth. When you love yourself, you have the confidence to make decisions that suit you, and if things don't go as planned, it doesn't "knock you back"

Key Takeaways

Mindset Requires Clearing Blocks: While repetition of education and motivational content (like Jim Rohn's tapes) is helpful, true, rapid transformation requires clearing the deep, unconscious beliefs that prevent affirmations from becoming reality.

Holistic Work for Lifestyle Change: Mindset work is a lifestyle choice; it is not achieved through a single session. It involves working with your mind, body, and heart (and soul) simultaneously, much like losing weight requires diet, exercise, and mental pre-planning.

Nervous System Regulation is Core: Nervous system regulation is "absolutely core for everyone". Carolyn recommends breathwork and EFT tapping to intentionally regulate the nervous system, especially since dysregulation sends internal signals of instability and unsafety.

Achieving success by shifting your mindset is like being a skilled gardener: affirmations are the seeds you plant every day, but unless you consistently clear the deep, unconscious weeds (the negative beliefs and unregulated nervous system), those seeds struggle to fully blossom.

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In this episode, Loraine delves into the manipulation and gaslighting she experienced from the person who was part of her life for eleven years. Apart from not being able to negotiate, he controlled the process by dangling the offers while at the same time threatening to leave me with nothing while reducing the offer from €115,000 to €13,000 or nothing at all.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

You can not negotiate with me ´what Loraine's former partner had told her.

Legal advice that told me to file a gender violence complaint.

The former couple's joint solicitor was not very helpful, as he told Loraine she had no rights in Spain.

Six failed attempts at trying to negotiate or mediate. Gaslighting and psychological abuse. As the former partner kept changing his mind.

Introducing the new wife in July 2021, on the day we met to try and sort out a financial settlement. A red flag in the cycle of abuse is triangulation.

BEST MOMENTS

Loraine's former partner turned hostile after he ended the relationship.

Loraine thought that her former partner would end things amicably. She was shocked by how he changed his behaviour very quickly.

A meeting they had to discuss things turned into intimidation and threats of being thrown out of the door.

Regarding the proposal Loraine made to her former partner, he said, "That's a terribly terribly terribly bad idea, and it's not going to happen."

The eviction process was started by a Barcelona Solicitor in June 2021, yet Loraine obtained a signed agreement in July 2021.

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Podcast Interview: Meet Jez Wood from Kove Properties this week!
Failure is Part Of Success. 
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In this episode, Loraine Marshall interviews guest Jez Wood. Jez shares his story of starting Kove Properties just before 2020 when he and his business partner were furloughed from their main employment. He explains how this gave him the impetus to create the business and move faster. Jez recognised that through fear and chaos, there was opportunity. They set up a remote business in different locations. They use their knowledge of the Northeast locations to offer property investments to individuals who are time-poor and seeking a stable investment and passive income type. Jez has a podcast called Beyond The Fail; he interviews other business entrepreneurs who speak about failures and acknowledge how failure is often seen as a taboo; there is a shame around debt and business failure, and Jez recognises that failure can be part of success. Jez covers the taboo of mental health and talks about how therapy has helped him since 2020.

KEY TAKEAWAYS
Seize Opportunity in Crisis: Moments of chaos can reveal new possibilities. Remote Work Can Be Effective: Location doesn’t limit business if you have the right expertise. Failure as a Learning Tool: Embrace and learn from failure as part of the entrepreneurial journey.
Mental Health Matters: Seeking help is crucial for personal and business success. Stay Resourceful: Perseverance is essential in the face of setbacks and challenges.

BEST MOMENTS
Starting Kove Properties: Jez describes the decision to launch Kove while furloughed, turning a challenge into an opportunity.
Remote Business Success: Insights on building a business remotely and leveraging local expertise for clients.
Taboo of Failure: Jez’s views on why failure shouldn’t be stigmatized, sharing examples from his experiences.
Mental Health Discussion: Jez opens up about therapy's role in his life since 2020.
The Importance of Resilience: Jez reflects on resilience, growth, and pushing through fear.

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In this episode, Loraine delves into her personal experiences surrounding domestic violence and financial manipulation during her tumultuous relationship with her former partner. As October marks Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Loraine shares insights from her July 2021 email communications, revealing the emotional and financial tactics. Loraine discusses the conflicting legal advice she received, the emotional manipulation involving her deceased father, and the power dynamics that persisted even after their separation.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• The episode highlights the tactics used by a former partner to maintain control over the host, including emotional manipulation and financial coercion.

• The dynamics between the host and her former partner illustrate a significant power imbalance. The partner leverages financial resources and emotional tactics to exert control.

• Loraine discusses the criticism received for sharing personal experiences on social media, emphasizing the importance of having a support network and the challenges faced when communicating one's truth publicly.

• The episode outlines the difficulties encountered in the legal process, including conflicting advice from legal professionals and the manipulation of financial offers during mediation.

• Loraine is dedicated to creating a supportive community for women over 40 who are dealing with trauma or grief from relationship endings, providing a safe space for connection, resources, and transformation.
  
  

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BEST MOMENTS

"The conflicting advice then was, do not make any more gender violence complaints. You will make him angry."

"P's behaviour... aligns with the pattern of a perpetrator seeking to maintain control and silence their victim."

"He uses a tactic that I wrote about in my first book. DARVO, an acronym... based on the work of psychologist Jennifer Freed."

"This constant shifting of terms keeps Loraine in a state of uncertainty and insecurity."

"Money and legal actions are the weapons that manipulators use to emotionally and financially devastate their victims."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former property management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016. She had dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner, and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In this episode Loraine delves into the world of User Generated Content (UGC) creators, addressing common questions and misconceptions surrounding this emerging field. Loraine explains what a UGC creator is, the benefits of becoming one, and how individuals can start creating content even without a large following or the need to show their face. She shares her journey into UGC creation, highlighting the potential for earning income through platforms like TikTok, YouTube, and Instagram.

Key Takeaways:

• Understanding UGC: UGC stands for user-generated content, which includes original videos, images, reviews, and other media created by individuals rather than brands.

• Opportunities for Income: Becoming a UGC creator can be a viable way to earn extra income or transition into a full-time job.

• Access to Free Products: UGC creators often receive free products from brands to showcase in their content.

• Faceless Content Creation: Being a UGC creator without showing your face is possible. Creators can use graphics, animations, and voiceovers to engage their audience while maintaining anonymity.

• Earnings Potential: The income of UGC creators can vary widely based on experience, niche, and client types. Some creators have reported significant earnings, with diversification of income streams through coaching and affiliate marketing being common among successful creators.

Best Moments:

"The term UGC stands for user generated content. So, a UGC creator is a creator that is in charge of producing original videos, images, reviews, comments, and other forms of media."

"Becoming a content creator can be a great way to earn extra money or even make it your full-time job."

"User-generated content creators often get free products from brands to showcase in their posts and videos."

"You can be a UGC creator with no followers. The important thing for creators is to have excellent content creation skills, not a large following."

"Most successful UGC creators diversify their income streams with things like coaching, affiliate marketing, social media management."

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HOST BIO Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author. A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020.  Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship.  Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In this episode, Loraine delves into the concept of monetizing social media platforms to create passive income streams. She breaks down the monetization options available on YouTube, TikTok, and Facebook, and shares key insights into how even beginners can start earning with small audiences. By exploring affiliate marketing, brand partnerships, and other methods, Loraine highlights practical ways to grow your digital presence and income. Tune in to learn how you can turn your passion or content creation into a sustainable online business.

Key Takeaways:

Entry Levels for Monetization: Learn about the different requirements to start earning on YouTube, TikTok, and Facebook, including YouTube’s Partner Program and TikTok’s Creator Fund.

Early Monetization Methods: Understand how beginners can use affiliate marketing, sponsorships, and shoppable posts to earn even with a smaller following.

Diversifying Income Streams: Discover how creators can combine affiliate marketing, ads, merchandise, and brand deals for multiple income sources.

Importance of Niche Audiences: Loraine explains how cultivating a targeted, engaged audience can lead to quicker brand deals, even before reaching platform-specific milestones.

AdSense and Blogging: Explore how Google AdSense helps blog writers earn revenue through targeted ads, especially for content-heavy platforms like WordPress.

Best Moments:

Loraine explains the basic entry levels for YouTube Partner Program and how to achieve 1,000 subscribers and 4,000 watch hours to start earning ad revenue.

A detailed breakdown of how affiliate marketing can be a great income stream for both YouTube and TikTok creators, even at the start of their journey.

Loraine discusses her own experience with using Google AdSense on her blog in the early 2000s and shares tips on getting started.

Insight into how cultivating a niche audience can be more valuable than large numbers, as niche creators can attract better sponsorship deals.

A motivating call to action, emphasizing how consistency, learning, and small improvements can grow your channel or blog into a life-changing income stream.

Remember: Monetization is just one aspect of building a successful online presence. Focus on creating valuable content, building relationships with your audience, and exploring different avenues for revenue generation. With consistency and work ethic, you can turn your passion into a profitable venture.

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HOST BIO Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author. A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020.  Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship.  Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In this episode, Loraine delves into the concept of the emotional energy spiral, exploring how trauma and grief can lead individuals to a state of despair and low self-esteem. Lorraine shares her personal experiences with trauma, including the aftermath of a difficult relationship, and discusses the importance of recognizing where we are emotionally and how to take actionable steps towards healing. She outlines the ascending and descending spirals of emotional energy, emphasizing the power of creativity, forgiveness, and learning as tools for recovery. Lorraine also introduces her upcoming Facebook group focused on transforming trauma into empowerment, inviting listeners to join her on this journey of personal growth and success.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

1. The emotional energy spiral consists of a descending spiral filled with negative emotions such as grief, despair, and low self-esteem, and an ascending spiral that includes positive emotions like hopefulness, joy, and empowerment.

2. Forgiveness is crucial in moving forward from trauma. It is not about absolving others of their actions but about freeing yourself from the burden of negative emotions and allowing yourself to heal.

3. Engaging in creative activities like writing or starting a YouTube channel can help lift you out of negative emotions. Learning new skills is positioned as a way to boost your energy and move up the emotional spiral.

4. Life will always present challenges, whether staying in a negative situation or taking steps toward improvement. It's essential to recognize that both paths will be difficult, but choosing to pursue growth and change can lead to a more fulfilling life.

5. Joining supportive groups, such as a Facebook community focused on trauma to transformation, can provide a safe space for sharing experiences and learning from others.

BEST MOMENTS

"When we have fallen down this emotional energy spiral because of circumstances outside of our control, we have to think, how can I improve?"

"Forgiveness isn't about the other person. It's about how you can improve your energy level and move forward from a situation."

"You can move yourself forward by taking positive steps."

"If you decide to say to yourself, this is what I want to achieve and take the steps, you can overcome the challenges."

"This group that I'm opening, it's all about trauma to transformation."

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Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In this episode, Loraine delves into the universal laws of prosperity, exploring seven key principles that can transform your life and enhance your personal growth. Drawing from her experiences with influential figures like Jim Rohn and Randy Gage, as well as the teachings of Catherine Ponder, Loraine discusses concepts such as the imaging law, vacuum law, law of tithing, circulation law, creativity law, law of giving and receiving, and the law of forgiveness. She emphasizes the importance of visualization, letting go of limiting beliefs, and the power of generosity in attracting abundance. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Visualization is crucial for manifesting desires. By consistently imagining and holding a positive mental image of what you want, you can set the process of manifestation in motion.

• To welcome new abundance, it's essential to clear out old physical clutter, outdated beliefs, and emotional baggage. Creating a "vacuum" allows for new opportunities to enter your life.

• Giving back a portion of what you receive (typically 10%) aligns you with the flow of prosperity. This practice fosters a sense of community and supports the cycle of giving and receiving.

• Prosperity, like energy, must circulate to grow. Allowing wealth, love, and positive energy to flow freely in your life creates a continuous cycle of giving and receiving, attracting more abundance.

• Holding onto resentment and grudges creates energetic blocks that hinder prosperity. By practicing forgiveness—both of others and oneself—you can release these blocks and open the door to new opportunities and positive energies.

BEST MOMENTS

"What you can consistently imagine and hold in your mind's eye, then you can actually create this in your life."

"In order to use this vacuum law, it's like you've got to make room for the prosperity in your life."

"The more you give of yourself without expecting a return, the more that will come back to you."

"Forgiveness of others and forgiveness of yourself will release these blocks so that you can be on the path to success."

"Life becomes worthwhile when you have worthwhile goals."

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HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In this episode, Loraine delivers a powerful discussion on how our beliefs, formed in childhood, can become the hidden barriers that prevent us from achieving success. She unpacks the concept of limiting beliefs, scarcity mindset, and how fear can often outweigh passion, causing us to shelf our dreams. Loraine also shares actionable steps to reprogram the mind using visualization, affirmations, and repetition to build a new, empowering mindset that will unlock your full potential.

Key Takeaways:

Childhood Beliefs Shape Our Mindset: The beliefs we internalize in childhood, often from our caregivers or environment, can either support or sabotage our success later in life.

Limiting Beliefs Block Success: These ingrained beliefs, like “I’m not good enough” or “I’ll never have enough money,” create mental barriers that keep us from taking the steps needed to succeed.

Scarcity Mindset Keeps You Stuck: Living in fear of lack — whether it's financial, emotional, or personal security — prevents individuals from taking risks and seeking new opportunities.

The Power of Visualization: Visualizing your success and future self can help rewire the brain, creating a new reality where your goals feel achievable and real.

Repetition is Key: Using affirmations and repeating positive beliefs helps to override the old, negative programming and form new, empowering habits of thought.

Best Moments:

“We internalize beliefs from a young age, sometimes without even realizing how deeply they affect our future choices.”

“Scarcity and lack mindset—these are the invisible chains holding us back from abundance and success. Recognizing it is the first step to breaking free.”

“Often, we shelf our dreams when fear speaks louder than passion. The trick is in learning to quiet the fear and listen to the possibilities.”

“The mind is incredibly powerful. Through visualization and repetition, we can literally rewire our thinking and create new pathways for success.”

“Affirmations work because they are the seeds we plant in our mind’s garden. With time, they grow into the reality we live in.”

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Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author. A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020.  Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship.  She is currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation, including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner. 

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In this episode, Loraine delivers a step-by-step guide to dealing with debt, offering practical advice and strategies for managing debt and budgeting effectively. Drawing from her experience working in money advice at the Citizens Advice Bureau, Loraine introduces the PIES acronym (Prioritise, Income, Expenditure, Share) as a method to help individuals navigate their financial challenges. She discusses prioritizing expenses, increasing income through various means, identifying non-priority expenses, and sharing available income with creditors. Loraine also touches on coerced debts and the importance of seeking support from organizations like Surviving Economic Abuse and Citizens Advice Bureau. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Start by identifying and prioritizing your essential expenses such as rent, mortgage, utilities, and food allowance.

• Explore various ways to boost your income, including claiming entitled benefits, checking tax codes, selling unused items, or renting out a spare room.

• Create a budget and allocate available income to non-priority debts using a pro rata calculation to negotiate reduced payments with creditors.

• If you've been coerced into financial agreements, seek assistance from organizations like Surviving Economic Abuse or Citizens Advice Bureau.

• Consider joining a private support community like "Success with Lorraine" on Facebook for women aged 40+ to connect, heal, and grow from trauma to transformation.

BEST MOMENTS

"If you've got mortgage arrears or rent arrears and things, then you do really need to speak to a professional and seek help."

"Now, letters are the easiest form. Obviously, it keeps a record of everything that's going on."

"It's domestic abuse and more banks and credit card companies are becoming informed about this."

"So if you phone in or you're writing and you're in that situation of coerced debts, I would ask them if they have a vulnerable customer support."

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HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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Today, Loraine delves into the theme of healing the mind. Drawing inspiration from motivational speaker Bob Proctor and the book Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz, Loraine discusses the powerful practice of letter writing as a tool for releasing negative emotions and traumas. She explores the cathartic process of writing letters to express anger, resentment, shame, or guilt, and then burning them as a symbolic release. Loraine also introduces the concept of the burning bowl ceremony, shared by Randy Gage, as a ritual to transform negative memories into ashes. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• The practice of letter writing and journaling, as well as the burning bowl ceremony, can be effective tools for healing past hurt, negative memories, and traumas.

• Writing letters as a physical exercise to release anger and aggression, and then burning them, can help in processing and healing from negative emotions.

• It is important to allow emotions to come to the surface during the writing process, even if it may be distressing, as it is part of the healing journey.

• Repeating the exercise of writing letters on the same topic or situation at least four times can aid in processing and releasing the negative memory.

• The burning bowl ceremony, introduced as a ritual by Randy Gage, can be a symbolic way to release negative emotions and turn them into ashes, promoting healing and transformation.

BEST MOMENTS

"Vent your spleen in writing. Write a letter to the person who has frustrated or angered you. Pull out all the stops. Leave nothing to the imagination. Then burn the letter."

"I've used this practice on a number of occasions throughout my life journey, and I actually wrote about this in my first self-published book."

"You might actually experience tears or there might be a feeling of anxiety or fear arise or even anger. But this is all part of the healing process."

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Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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Host Loraine speaks with Marie, owner of Vesta Hypnotherapy, based in the UK. Marie’s business is centred on creating alignment throughout oneself rather than focusing solely on working harder, stressing the need for balance between strategy, mindset, spirituality, and belief in yourself. Loraine and Marie explore how different elements govern different areas of life —from managing emotions (Water) to cultivating passion and purpose (Fire) —and how understanding these energies is key to personal success and money alignment.

4 Best Moments

1. Marie explains that the order of the four elements (starting with Fire, moving to Earth, Air, then Water, and cycling again) represents a clear development cycle. Living in tune with these elements means living in tune with the cycles of life, birth, rebirth, and death. The elements are the basis of everything.

2. The conversation highlights that two elements are masculine (Fire and Earth) and two are feminine (Air and Water). Entrepreneurial women, particularly those with strong business backgrounds, may find themselves operating heavily in the male energy, making it crucial to focus on balancing the feminine aspects for overall alignment

3. Loraine and Marie agree that for deep-seated wounds, simple affirmations often act as a "band-aid" or cover, not completely removing the root of the issue. Hypnotherapy, however, is a well-proven modality that claims to go directly to the point and change the subconscious mind.

4. Emotion is the Language of the Subconscious: Marie notes that the main way to change the subconscious is through emotion. Strong, overwhelming emotions (like fear) lodge patterns and beliefs into the subconscious. Reprogramming requires creating a more powerful, positive emotion connected to that same belief. Coaches like Tony Robbins successfully use massive energy shifts (moving, music) to immediately raise emotional energy from a low vibration (like fear and uncertainty) to a higher one.

4 Key Takeaways

1. Success does not come from focusing on a single modality (like pure business strategy or just spiritual manifesting). Money, success, and personal development are closely linked and require a balanced approach across all elements.

2. Not everyone is out of balance in the same place. People tend to over-give in one element and ignore another they dislike; focusing on that neglected element can make a massive difference to overall alignment.

3. If you lack belief in what you are doing, you won't succeed. Belief in yourself, self-worth, and passion provide the energy and motivation needed to create something meaningful, which is represented by the Fire element.

4. Marie is releasing four micro-journeys (10-minute hypnotherapy sessions) targeted at specific element imbalances.

Fire: Deals with imposter syndrome and self-confidence.

Earth: Addresses overwhelm and procrastination.

Air: Focuses on opening to clarity and putting oneself out there.

Water: Helps with managing fear.

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In this episode Loraine reflects on the tumultuous events that unfolded in her life over the past four years, particularly focusing on the abrupt termination of a toxic relationship in August 2020. She candidly shares her experiences of emotional and psychological abuse, coercive control, and narcissistic behaviour that she was unaware of during the relationship. Loraine recounts the intense emotions she felt during the breakup, the challenges she faced post-relationship, and the legal battles that ensued, including a criminal case for defamation and damages.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Loraine experienced a toxic and abusive relationship that lasted for 11 years before abruptly ending in August 2020.

• She struggled with emotional and psychological abuse, coercive control, and narcissistic abuse during the relationship.

• After the relationship ended, Loraine wrote a book under a pen name to protect the identities of those involved and is now considering relaunching it.

• Loraine has faced legal challenges, including a civil court case for precarious eviction and a criminal case for defamation and damages.

• Despite the challenges, Loraine remains resilient, continuing to create content for their channels, rewrite their first book, and work on a sequel.

BEST MOMENTS

"I had no idea how that relationship had been toxic and one where there were many ups and downs." 

"I couldn't see any transformation from where I was. And I wanted to find out what had happened."

I found myself in Spain precarious in September of 2020 when he left with all of these future faking false promises."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

She is currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation, including the threats of precarious eviction and prison by a former partner.

Hoping for an acquittal when the criminal case goes to the next hearing. 

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In this episode, Loraine Marshall delves into the topic of building an online business from scratch with limited resources. She addresses the issue of whether money is necessary to make money, highlighting the importance of vision, passion, and strategic thinking. Loraine explores various low-cost business models such as content creation, freelance services, online courses, and drop shipping. She also provides valuable insights on earning a stable income online, strategies for success, and funding options for women entrepreneurs facing financial challenges. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Building an online business from scratch is possible with limited resources by leveraging free platforms, offering freelance services, and creating content.

• Providing value to the audience, building a strong brand, engaging with the audience, utilizing SEO and content marketing, and analyzing performance are crucial strategies for online business success.

• Funding options for women entrepreneurs include bootstrapping, crowdfunding, angel investors, government grants, and microloans.

• Consistency, persistence, and strategic thinking are key factors in starting and growing a successful online business.

• Collaboration with other entrepreneurs, influencers, and networking can open doors for new opportunities and expand reach in the online business world.

BEST MOMENTS

"While having capital can accelerate your growth, many successful entrepreneurs started with very little."

"Start now and get perfect later."

"Focus on providing value. When you provide value, then people will start to listen."

"Engagement is crucial. Respond to comments, build a community around your brand, be approachable and interactive."

"By combining determination, creativity, a strategic approach, passion, and purpose, women entrepreneurs can overcome financial challenges and build successful businesses."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In this episode, Loraine shares her experience of attending a five-day virtual event by the Brave Thinking Institute. She reflects on how the event helped her navigate through a challenging period in her life following a difficult breakup and identity crisis. Loraine discusses the valuable insights she gained from the event, focusing on mastering her message, crafting a signature story, leveraging social media, and overcoming fears to take a leap of faith towards achieving her goals. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Loraine joined a five-day virtual event by the Brave Thinking Institute to cover the "Master Your Message" course.

• She shared her experience of attending a Dream Builder event in 2020, which helped her navigate through a challenging period in her life.

• Loraine emphasized the importance of creating digital assets like blogs, articles, and videos to leave a footprint online and share one's message.

• The event introduced the 5Ds of creating a signature story, focusing on elements like discontent, defining events, decision moments, discovery, and dreams.

• It also highlighted the significance of identifying and overcoming limiting beliefs and fears to achieve desired outcomes, encouraging individuals to take a leap of faith towards their goals.

BEST MOMENTS

"You can't sow your seeds and reap your harvest at the same time. But if you have a huge goal or a big dream, you can start moving toward it."

"In marketing and sales, you've probably heard the term, 'know, like, and trust'. The audience was introduced to the 5Ds of creating a signature story that would pique interest and resonate with individuals who have or are experiencing similar problems in their lives."

"Platforms like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, and LinkedIn are great places to consider sharing your signature story, and sharing your story on public social platforms can help you to get your message out to the world."

"Anyone who has quit a good-paying job to start a business or do something new will know what it is like to take that leap of faith."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In this episode, Loraine reads a chapter of her self-published book, where she describes the emotional and psychological abuse she experienced during her time living in Spain. Loraine recounts the challenges faced post-separation and highlights the gaps in legal protection for victims of abuse. Through her retelling, she aims to raise awareness about hidden abuse in relationships, the impact of post-separation abuse, and the need for better legal provisions to safeguard individuals in such situations. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• This episode discusses the author's experience of emotional and psychological abuse during a relationship in Spain.

• Loraine highlights the challenges faced in seeking legal help and protection in cases of emotional and psychological abuse.

• This chapter sheds light on the impact of COVID lockdown in Spain in March 2020 on the relationship dynamics.

• Loraine emphasizes the importance of raising awareness about hidden emotional and psychological abuse in relationships.

BEST MOMENTS

"All I wanted was what was promised and he went back on all the promises that he made."

"A lot of solicitors, a lot of lawyers out there don't understand what it is to be in a situation of emotional and psychological abuse."

"I finally felt that I was leaving behind the terrible memory of the past infidelity and I started to recover lost self-confidence again."

"Victims of abuse often know that what has been happening to them isn't right, but they didn't understand or don't understand that it is domestic abuse and that it is now illegal."

"He expected to be able to put another £100,000 into his retirement fund, telling me it was so that we could be secure in our retirement here in Spain."

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Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In this episode, Loraine delves into the transformative power of embracing the principles of success as outlined by Napoleon Hill, Catherine Ponder, and Randy Gage. Through the stories of individuals like Edwin C. Barnes, Catherine Ponder, and Randy Gage, Loraine emphasizes the cyclical nature of success and the profound impact of adopting a giving mindset. She also reflects on their own journey of personal growth and resilience in the face of challenges, underscoring the significance of incorporating timeless principles of giving, gratitude, and abundance into one's life. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Embrace the law of giving and receiving to shift mindset from scarcity to limitless possibility.

• Success is a journey, not a destination, intertwined with the growth of those around you.

• Plant seeds of giving, cultivate gratitude, and believe in abundance for profound transformations.

• True success is a win-win proposition where personal growth aligns with the growth of others.

• Incorporating timeless principles of success can lead to rising from poverty to prosperity.

BEST MOMENTS

"One of the famous stories in his work was Edwin C. Barnes, a man who had dreamed of becoming a business partner with Thomas Edison. Barnes had no money, no influential connections, but had a desire and unwavering faith to be successful."

"Catherine Ponder introduces the divine law that brings about greater returns and encourages individuals to cultivate a mindset of abundance through affirmations, retraining the brain away from fear mentality towards giving and service."

"Randy Gage advocates for giving setting the stage for receiving, emphasizing that abundance flows to those who create value for others. His powerful story of transformation from lack to abundance showcases the impact of giving and creating value."

"Many personal development speakers speak about the universal laws or spiritual laws to success. The keys to life-changing transformation lie in rewiring our brains or reprogramming our mindsets, shifting away from the hustle culture towards giving, growing, and gratitude."

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Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In today's episode, Loraine delves into the transformative topic of "10 Rules for Success," specifically tailored for female survivors of domestic abuse. Through practical steps and insightful guidance, Loraine explores how survivors can harness their inner strength and resilience to rebuild their lives and achieve their dreams. From believing in oneself to managing finances wisely and giving back to the community, each rule is designed to empower survivors on their entrepreneurial journey. With a focus on self-care, adaptability, and celebrating achievements, this episode serves as an inspiration for survivors looking to create a new successful chapter in their lives. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Empowerment for female survivors of domestic abuse: The podcast episode focuses on empowering women who have survived domestic abuse to rebuild their lives and achieve their dreams.

• 10 Rules for Success: The episode provides a guide with 10 rules for success tailored specifically for female survivors of domestic abuse, offering practical steps to help them on their journey to success.

• Importance of self-belief and resilience: Believing in oneself and embracing resilience are highlighted as crucial steps towards achieving success after experiencing abuse.

• Practical tips for success: The episode offers practical advice such as setting clear goals, educating oneself, building a support network, prioritizing self-care, managing finances wisely, and staying adaptable in the business world.

• Encouragement and inspiration: The episode encourages female survivors to celebrate their achievements, give back to their communities, and remember that their past does not define their future, inspiring them to create a new successful chapter in their lives.

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BEST MOMENTS

"The scars of domestic abuse can run deep. It can steal your confidence, isolate you, and leave you feeling like your dreams and success are out of reach."

"Knowledge is power. Invest time in learning about your chosen field, business management, personal development."

"Financial stability is a key component of success. Create a budget, track your expenses, save for the future."

"Digital products can generate passive income and the key steps are develop a high quality product, Create a sales funnel and promote through social media and email marketing."

"You are a survivor, a fighter, and an entrepreneur in the making. Embrace the journey. Use your scars as a source of strength and rise to the success you deserve."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In this episode, Loraine delves into the topic of unlocking one's full potential through mindset transformation. She breaks down the process into three main parts: awareness, beliefs, and action. Loraine emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, identifying limiting beliefs, and engaging in mindfulness practices to increase awareness. She discusses the power of positive affirmations, visualization, and surrounding oneself with positivity to reshape beliefs. Loraine also highlights the significance of setting clear goals, developing a plan, and taking consistent action to bring about change. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Self-reflection, journaling, identifying limiting beliefs, and mindfulness practices are essential for becoming aware of your current mindset and making necessary changes.

• Positive affirmations, visualization, surrounding yourself with positivity, challenging negative beliefs, and replacing them with empowering ones are key to shaping your reality and achieving your goals.

• Setting clear goals, developing a plan, taking consistent action, celebrating successes, seeking support, learning from failure, and keeping motivated through affirmational videos and motivational speakers are crucial for turning your dreams into reality.

• Consistency is emphasized throughout the podcast as a key factor in achieving success. Taking small steps regularly can lead to significant progress over time.

• Joining communities of like-minded individuals, seeking support from mentors or coaches, and having someone to guide and encourage you can make a huge difference in your journey towards unlocking your full potential.

BEST MOMENTS

"Awareness is the foundation of any transformation. You need to be aware of your current mindset and how that affects your life."

"Our beliefs shape our reality. If you believe you can achieve your goals, you're already halfway there."

"Changing your beliefs takes time and consistency, but it's a powerful way to transform your mindset."

"Even small steps taken regularly can lead to significant progress over time."

"I had an idea. I wanted to publish my story. I didn't even know where to start on even writing a book. So I had to take action."

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Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In this episode Loraine delves into the healing power of writing after experiencing emotionally abusive relationships, divorce, and the loss of a spouse. Through personal experiences and expert insights, listeners are guided on a journey towards rebuilding confidence, finding their voice, and reclaiming power through writing. She explores how journaling, reflective writing, and letter-writing can help individuals process complex emotions, navigate grief, and ultimately move towards healing and empowerment. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Writing can be a powerful tool for healing from trauma, such as emotionally abusive relationships, divorce, and loss of a spouse.

• Different types of writing, such as journaling, free writing, and letter writing, can help in processing emotions and gaining clarity.

• Writing about experiences can help in identifying patterns of abuse, understanding emotions, and rebuilding self-worth.

• Connecting with others through writing can foster a sense of community and mutual support for those facing similar challenges.

• Writing can aid in releasing pent-up emotions, letting go of the past, and envisioning a positive future.

BEST MOMENTS

"Writing is a way to heal, finding your voice and reclaiming your power."

"By putting your feelings into words, you can start to dismantle the internalised negative messages and rebuild your self-worth."

"Many people expect to experience denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance in that order."

"Writing about your journey can connect you with others who understand, creating a supportive community of shared experiences."

"Writing is more than just putting words on paper. It's a journey towards healing, self-discovery and empowerment."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In today's episode, Loraine delves into her personal experience with a precarious eviction situation in the civil court. Loraine recounts the challenges she faced, including emotional trauma, legal complexities, and post-separation abuse. She highlights the gaps in laws concerning cohabiting couples and the need for legal protections in such relationships. Loraine also touches on statistics related to domestic abuse and gender violence, emphasizing the importance of awareness and support for victims.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Couples living together without marriage or civil partnership may face legal challenges in property ownership and inheritance rights.

• Highlighting the emotional and psychological abuse that can continue after a relationship ends, and the gaps in legal protection for victims.

• Controlling behavior, mental health issues, substance abuse, and relationship separation are identified as risk factors for domestic violence.

• The eight-stage homicide timeline provides insights into how coercive relationships can escalate to violence and murder.

• Encouraging individuals concerned about domestic violence or suicide to reach out to crisis hotlines or support organizations for help.

BEST MOMENTS

"I just want to read a chapter or go over a chapter from my first self-published book because for me it's important to get this message out."

"The judge banged down the hammer and that was it. There was no questions. I didn't get to speak. There was nothing."

"The law does not have specific remedies in cases like these, a dispute between two people who were previously in a relationship."

"In the UK, a total of 242 domestic abuse-related deaths were recorded between April 2022 to March 2023, including 93 suspected victim suicides following domestic abuse."
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"Professor Jane Monckton-Smith, a former police officer and internationally renowned professor of public protection, has developed a groundbreaking research into an eight-stage homicide timeline."

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Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In today's episode, Loraine focuses on the topic of keeping a money mindset and how to release money blocks. She discusses the importance of understanding and overcoming subconscious beliefs that hinder financial security and abundance. Loraine explores various types of money blocks and provides practical tools to help listeners break free from these mental barriers. Through exercises like the money story exercise and actionable steps such as setting clear goals and using affirmations, she guides listeners on a journey towards transforming their financial mindset.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Understanding money blocks: Money blocks are subconscious beliefs and attitudes that shape how individuals perceive, earn, save, and spend money. These mental barriers can stem from various sources such as childhood experiences, societal conditioning, or past financial struggles and traumas.

• Importance of releasing money blocks: Money blocks can limit earning potential, sabotage financial goals, and create stress and anxiety. By identifying and releasing these blocks, individuals can boost confidence, make smarter financial decisions, and reduce stress related to money.

• Actionable steps to overcome money blocks: Educate yourself on personal finance, set clear financial goals, seek professional help if needed, and use affirmations focused on abundance and financial success to reprogram your mindset from scarcity to abundance.

• Case study on overcoming financial struggles: The journey of Sarah Blakely, founder of Spanx, from a struggling salesperson to a billionaire entrepreneur, demonstrates how positive mindset and resilience can help overcome financial obstacles and achieve significant success.

• Recommended books for mindset shifts: "Money, Master the Game" by Tony Robbins and "The Secrets of the Millionaire Mind" by T. Harv Eker provide valuable insights into financial freedom, wealth creation, and changing subconscious beliefs about money to achieve financial success.

BEST MOMENTS

"Money blocks are subconscious beliefs and attitudes that shape how you perceive, earn, save and spend money."

"By understanding the root causes and taking proactive steps you can break free from these mental barriers and build a healthier relationship with money."

"Money comes to me easily and effortlessly. I receive lots of money from the universe."

"Sarah Blakely practiced visualization and maintaining unwavering belief in her product and herself, which helped her navigate financial obstacles and ultimately achieve significant financial success."

"Create a budget. Knowing where your money goes is empowering. Track your income and expenses."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success podcast, host Loraine speaks with virtual business manager (VBM), Nadia, based in Melbourne. Nadia, who started her business seven years ago, just three months after her baby was born, shares her journey from feeling "terrified" to achieving sustainable growth. She explains how she provides administrative, marketing, and operational support to growth-ready women in business, helping them transition from the kitchen table to success. Nadia sought to create a venture that allowed her the freedom and flexibility to progress her career while remaining a present mother.

Best Moments

Overcoming the Fear: Nadia reveals that she was "literally terrified" when she first launched her business. She started, creating her website on a laptop while sitting on her couch, unsure if she would secure her first client. Attending her first networking event was scary, as she had to tell the world about the business she had created.

Wearing All the Hats to CEO: Nadia emphasises the struggle entrepreneurs face juggling life, family, and business while wearing multiple hats (marketing manager, bookkeeper, customer service officer). Her service is designed to handle "all the chaos behind the scenes", enabling clients—service providers, creatives, and coaches—to move from wearing all the hats to focusing solely on the CEO role.

Global Confidence: After beginning her business journey, Nadia gained confidence as she started working with clients internationally, including those in the U.S. and Germany. This exposure and continuous learning helped her develop her business over seven years, supporting clients with streamlining their admin, marketing, and operations.

AI as a Tool for Busy Mothers: Nadia shares how Artificial Intelligence (AI) is a valuable tool for efficiency, helping her get things done quicker. Specifically, she uses tools like (ChatGPT) to help plan her week and create a schedule that allows her to work around school drop-offs and pick-ups for her two boys. AI acts as a starting point, particularly when feeling stuck or lacking creativity.

Key Takeaways

Mindset and Belief are Key: Having a strong, positive mindset and believing in yourself and your vision are essential to overcoming fears and achieving goals. Nadia noted that her passion and strong urge for freedom needed to be stronger than her fear.

Positive Network: It is crucial to surround yourself with positive people who encourage you and share similar goals. If you aim for a six-figure business, you need to surround yourself with six-figure business owners. Negative people can drag you down and make the task seem impossible. Networking is a huge step when starting out.

Sustainable Growth: Entrepreneurial women often get stuck at a certain level because they are too involved in the day-to-day running of the business and have not learned to delegate. Outsourcing processes, such as hiring a VBM, simplifies operations, reduces overwhelm, and provides the necessary time to focus on marketing and growth.

Monetisation Block: The transition from employee (who expects money at the end of the week) to entrepreneur (who must work long periods before income is generated) is challenging. Many women face a block regarding sales and monetising their services, sometimes opting for free coaching sessions instead. Reading books on mindset can help address these blocks.

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In today's episode, Loraine speaks to Carrie Bower on the topics of trauma, domestic abuse, and gender violence, particularly in regard to women in mid and later life stages. Carrie, who works in the aging sector and as a freelance trainer for Victim Focus, shares her passion for raising awareness about the pathologization of trauma in women affected by domestic abuse. 

Their discussion delves into the complexities of recognizing and addressing emotional and psychological abuse, the challenges faced by victims in seeking legal support, and the societal beliefs that perpetuate victim blaming. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• The importance of raising visibility for women in mid and later life affected by trauma and domestic abuse was highlighted.

• Training and education are crucial in understanding and addressing trauma, particularly in cases of domestic abuse.

• Economic abuse, financial abuse, emotional abuse, and psychological abuse are often hidden forms of abuse that need more awareness and support.

• The challenges faced by women in midlife and later life in escaping abusive relationships, especially when financial dependence is a barrier, were discussed.

• The need for societal awareness, professional training, and support systems to effectively address and prevent domestic abuse was emphasized.

BEST MOMENTS

"So many women in mid and later life who've been affected by any form of trauma, but domestic abuse specifically, will often receive a diagnosis of some sort of mental health condition."

"People learn to exert power and control in a variety of ways and it can be really insidious and drip by drip before you know it."

"Red flags are very easy to spot in hindsight or when you're in it, you know? It's mixed with love, isn't it?, and all that and an erosion of your confidence because they've done a great job at completely breaking you down."

"It's really insidious, I think. So there's the money, the humiliation, and there's a lot of different things that they can do." - Carrie Bower

"It's the training and the raising awareness and people and professionals as well to actually understand what the crime is and what the laws and what it's meant to be because otherwise you can't really help a person can you really."

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Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In this episode, Loraine considers the financial challenges which are faced by women after significant relationship endings; she refers to these ending as the three D's: Divorce, Death of a spouse or partner, and Discard after a narcissistic devaluation. Drawing from her personal experiences, Loraine discusses the emotional and financial hurdles that come with each of these situations, emphasizing the importance of understanding one's rights, seeking professional advice, and rebuilding credit. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Financial challenges after significant relationship endings can be emotionally and financially devastating, requiring time to rebuild and start over.

• Divorce is not just the end of a marriage but also a financial upheaval, involving legal fees, asset division, and lifestyle adjustments.

• The sudden death of a spouse can lead to immediate financial struggles, especially if the deceased was the primary breadwinner.

• Dealing with a narcissistic discard can involve financial control, hidden assets, and emotional trauma, necessitating legal protection and support.

• Seek professional advice, create a realistic budget, surround yourself with emotional support, protect your assets, rebuild credit, and utilize community resources to navigate financial challenges effectively.

BEST MOMENTS

"Financial challenges after significant relationship ending can be fraught with emotional fears, anxiety, grief, and in some cases, significant trauma."

"The worst possible scenario is to lose the main income earner leaving you in grief while you are also struggling to make ends meet financially."

"In cases of financial abuse, ensure that you take legal steps to protect your assets and credit."

"I have experienced three D's in relationship endings. Divorce. We separated. My choice to leave."

"For 30 years, Jane Monckton-Smith has been fighting to change this. A former police officer and internationally renowned professor of public protection."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In today’s episode, Loraine explores the question of how many ways there are to earn money. She delves into the concept of the cash flow quadrant, discussing the four quadrants - employed, self-employed, business owners, and investors. In this episode, she covers various income streams, including active, passive, and portfolio income, highlighting the importance of creating multiple sources of income for financial stability. Loraine also emphasizes the significance of diversification and empowering women through financial independence.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• There are four main ways to earn money according to the cash flow quadrant: E for employed, S for self-employed, B for business owners, and I for investors.
• Income streams fall into three categories: active, passive, and portfolio. Active income involves trading time for money, passive income comes from assets, and portfolio income is from investments.
• Having multiple income streams can provide financial stability and peace of mind, with the average millionaire having seven streams of income.
• Diversifying income sources is crucial for mitigating risk and ensuring financial resilience, especially in the face of unexpected disruptions.
• Financial independence is essential for everyone, particularly women, to combat systemic barriers and achieve empowerment, security, and the ability to pursue personal aspirations.
  
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BEST MOMENTS

"Income streams fall into three categories, active, passive and portfolio. Active income is time for money, working for yourself or an employer, starting a side hustle, providing a service, earning commissions and creating content around your passion."

"Having multiple income streams can give you peace of mind with your finances. When you aren't relying on one single job or investment for your money, most millionaires have several streams of income."

"Diversification not only mitigates risk but also unlocks opportunities for greater financial stability and flexibility. Relying solely on one income stream leaves individuals vulnerable to unexpected disruptions."

"Achieving financial independence is a vital pursuit of everyone regardless of gender. However, women should think seriously about their financial independence, even within the circumstances of marriage or relationships."

"By championing economic empowerment, women can challenge traditional gender norms, advocate for equality and pave the way for a more inclusive and equitable future."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.

A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In today's episode, Loraine is delving into the intriguing topic of vision boards and visualization. She explores the science, anecdotes, and practicalities behind these tools for achieving success. By discussing the power of visualization and sharing success stories of individuals like Muhammad Ali, Oprah Winfrey, Jim Carrey, and Ellen DeGeneres, Loraine considers the effectiveness of vision boards in manifesting dreams. She explains how to create a vision board and emphasizes the importance of consistency and action in utilizing this tool. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Creating a vision board and practicing visualization can have a significant impact on achieving goals.

• Visualization activates the same neural pathways in the brain as actually performing the task, acting as a mental rehearsal for success.

• Vision boards are collages of images, words, and affirmations representing goals and aspirations, serving as constant reminders to the subconscious mind.

• Vision boards have been utilized by successful individuals like Muhammad Ali, Oprah Winfrey, Jim Carrey, and Ellen DeGeneres to manifest their dreams.

• The effectiveness of vision boards ultimately depends on consistent use, taking action towards goals, and programming the subconscious mind for success.

BEST MOMENTS

"Visualization activates the same neural pathways in the brain as actually performing the task. It's like a mental rehearsal that primes you for success."

"Simply creating a vision board won't magically manifest your dreams overnight. You still have to put in work and take inspired action towards your goals."

"When it comes to the success stories, Oprah Winfrey is one of the gold standard. But did you know that she actually creates her own vision boards?"

"Before he became one of the highest paid actors in Hollywood, Jim Carrey wrote out a check for 10 million dollars to himself for acting services rendered. He carried the check around until it became a reality."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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