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Middle Men

Brendan O'Hara

Société & Culture

Fréquence : 1 épisode/11j. Total Éps: 7

Middle Men is a podcast for men who don't fit neatly into society's straight or gay boxes. Maybe you live a publicly straight life, but privately you're not entirely straight. Maybe you're bi or only into guys, but don't fit neatly into the spaces designed for you. Maybe you don't have a label and don't want one. Middle Men was built for you — the guy in the middle. No labels required. No judgment. Just other guys who get it. I'm the host, Brendan O'Hara — I grew up straight, came out as gay, then landed in the middle. There was no podcast or community for guys like us, so I built it.

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https://www.middlemen-podcast.com/community
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https://www.middlemen-podcast.com/#newsletter
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https://www.middlemenwcfc.substack.com
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https://middlemenwcfc.substack.com/p/the-loop-why-we-keep-searching-even
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"My Wife Knew I Was Bisexual—But I Still Hid in Plain Sight" - Seth Duffy

Saison 1 · Épisode 6

mercredi 9 septembre 2026 • Durée 01:29:39

Seth Duffy’s wife knew he was bisexual before they got married. But for years, Seth still felt like he had to bury part of himself — living publicly straight, privately questioning where he belonged, and never feeling completely at home in either straight or gay spaces.

In this episode of Middle Men, Seth talks openly about growing up with attraction to both men and women, exploring that attraction as a teenager, getting married, being unexpectedly outed to his family on Facebook, dating both women and men, and what it’s like to constantly feel like you have to “edit” yourself depending on the room you’re in.

Today, Seth is a Business Advisor and Wellness Coach living in St. Petersburg, Florida. He’s currently in a relationship with a man — but still identifies as bisexual and says one of the hardest parts of being bi is that people constantly try to put him into one box or the other.

We talk about bisexuality, masculinity, coming out, relationships, monogamy, workplace stigma, gay culture, straight culture, mental health, authenticity, belonging, and what happens when you don’t fit neatly into either world.

One of Seth’s biggest realizations: sometimes the hardest part isn’t figuring out who you are. It’s finding a place where you can be all of who you are at once.

⏱️ CHAPTERS

00:00 Married To A Woman As A Bi Man
06:58 How the Marriage Ended
11:22 Wired To Live Authentically
13:30 Never Asked For An Open Marriage
17:33 Origin Story: Turkey, East Coast, Pittsburgh, West Virginia, Florida
19:54 First Signs of Being Bi25:30 The First Quasi Boyfriend
30:51 Getting Outed On Social Media
36:57 You’ll Never Stop Coming Out As Bi
38:29 The Life Challenges Of Being A Middle Man
52:59 Gays Think You’re Gay, Women Think You’re Kryptonite
56:02 Bi With A Boyfriend
1:01:46 Lack Of Spaces Where I Can Be My True Self
1:08:03 Editing Myself In Straight And Gay Spaces
1:11:39 The Only Space Where I Can Be My True Self
1:16:30 Support From Straight And Gay Communities
1:24:00 Who Middle Men Is For
1:25:11 Seth’s Advice for Middle Men

📖 READ THE ARTICLE
Seth Duffy also wrote an article based on our conversation in this episode. You can read it here:

”Too Straight For Glitter, Too Gay For Fantasy Football: The High Cost of the Daily Self Edit”https://substack.com/home/post/p-213443123

👤 CONNECT WITH SETH
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thestpetedude
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sethduffy/

👥 JOIN THE MIDDLE MEN COMMUNITY
A private space for gay, bi, questioning, closeted, fluid, and unlabeled men to connect without pressure to fit a predetermined identity:
https://www.middlemen-podcast.com/community

🤔 ARE YOU A MIDDLE MAN?
Take the anonymous Middle Men survey, and see

📩 GET THE NEWSLETTER
Articles, resources, survey findings, and content from the middle:
https://www.middlemen-podcast.com/#newsletter

📱 FOLLOW MIDDLE MEN
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/middlemenwcfc
TikTok: tiktok.com/@middlemenwcfc
X: https://www.x.com/MiddleMenWCFC
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/middlemenwcfc

💸 SUPPORT MIDDLE MEN
Donate to support the podcast, online community, and more.
https://www.middlemen-podcast.com/donate

🏃 STRAVA CLUB
Post your fitness activities, give and get kudos, and connect with other active Middle Men
https://www.strava.com/clubs/middlemen

👊 If you saw yourself in this, please subscribe — there's a lot more coming.

🤳 If you know someone who could benefit from this, please share it with them — they probably need it more than you realize.

#BisexualMen #Bisexuality #MensMentalHealth

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Why Dating Apps Don’t Always Fix Loneliness | What We’re Really Searching For

Saison 1 · Épisode 5

mercredi 26 août 2026 • Durée 17:46

Dating apps can give us more access to other people than ever before — so why do so many men still feel lonely

Research on men who use dating and hookup apps suggests that spending more time searching doesn’t necessarily lead to more partners or more fulfillment. And among the men finding Middle Men, the same deeper need keeps showing up: not simply sex, but connection, understanding, and a place where they can be fully known.

In this episode, I explore the dating-app loop — why Grindr, Scruff, Sniffies, Tinder, and other apps can keep us searching long after we’ve gotten what we originally opened them for.

I also look at research on problematic dating-app use, loneliness, anxiety, self-disclosure, and internalized shame — including a Cornell study of Grindr users that found something surprising: the potentially beneficial part wasn’t sexting. It was telling another person something real about yourself.

Then I compare that research with responses from hundreds of men in the anonymous Middle Men Survey.

82% of 395 respondents said they’ve experienced feeling like the “lonely only.” Nearly three-quarters said they’ve felt like they don’t belong in either the straight or gay worlds. And among 93 bisexual and pansexual men surveyed, not one said he felt connected to a bisexual community.

For many men, dating apps may be one of the easiest available doors to other men.

But what happens when what we’re actually searching for is something the app can’t reliably provide?

This episode isn’t about deleting Grindr or condemning hookups. It’s about asking:

Why I never Felt Gay Enough — And What I Did About It

Saison 1 · Épisode 4

mercredi 5 août 2026 • Durée 14:07

You can come out as gay and still feel like you don’t belong in the gay community.

I know because I lived openly as a gay man for about 15 years—and still never felt fully at home in the most visible gay spaces available to me.

According to the anonymous Middle Men Survey, I’m far from alone. Only 1 out of 24 gay and queer respondents said he felt very at home in the mainstream gay community. More than 45% said they didn’t really feel like they fit within the mainstream gay scene.

Coming out of the closet and finding a home are not always the same thing.

In this episode, I explore why coming out didn’t automatically give me a true sense of belonging; what the Middle Men Survey reveals about gay loneliness, isolation, and mental health; and why some men still feel like outsiders in the communities they were told would become their home.

I also share the deeply personal reason I created Middle Men, the research behind “intraminority gay community stress,” and what I did after years of moving between straight and gay worlds without feeling like my whole self belonged in either one.

This is not an attack on gay men, gay culture, or LGBTQ communities. Those communities gave me freedom, friendship, and meaningful experiences during important chapters of my life. They simply don’t feel like home to everyone at all times.

Middle Men is an additional room for gay, bi, questioning, closeted, fluid, and unlabeled men who want community built around more than sexuality—with no pressure to perform an identity, adopt a label, or change unrelated parts of themselves to fit in.

You Don't Have to Pick a Side | Sexuality Is a Spectrum

Saison 1 · Épisode 3

mardi 28 juillet 2026 • Durée 09:24

You've been told your whole life that you have to pick a side. Straight or gay. One or the other.

You don't. Not anymore.

Sexuality runs on a spectrum, and it can evolve and change over time. I know because I've experienced it myself. And there's a place for the millions of guys like us out there who don't fit neatly into "straight" or "gay."

In this episode I get into where that pressure to pick a side actually comes from; my personal experience of living a straight life, then a gay life, then landing somewhere in the middle; the challenges that accompany living life in the middle; and how to find a community of like-minded people to help offset those challenges.

This one is about the permission to stop changing aspects of who you are in order to fit in with straight and gay groups, and to just be your true self with all the other Middle Men out there — without disrupting your current life.

Join the community and newsletter at middlemen-podcast.com

⏱️ CHAPTERS

00:00 Intro

00:50 The Pressure to Pick a Side

01:34 Why You Don't Have to Pick a Side

02:00 My Story Pt.1 — Straight Until 25, then Coming Out

04:05 My Story Pt.2 — The Middle

05:38 The Challenges of Not Picking a Side

07:22 A Community For Those in the Middle

08:27 Who This is For

I Think I Might Be Bi. Now What? | What Nobody Tells You

Saison 1 · Épisode 2

mardi 21 juillet 2026 • Durée 07:22

If you've ever typed "am I bi" into a search bar at 1am and then deleted your search history afterward, this one's for you.

You're not the only one. Not even close.

In this episode I get into the actual data on how many men live somewhere between "straight" and "gay" — the numbers that prove you're not rare, broken, or alone — and what the questioning actually feels like from someone who's lived it. Then, where to go from here: no label required, no coming out, no telling anyone anything.

Maybe your life looks straight on the outside but isn’t as straight on the inside. Maybe you're bi or gay but don't fit neatly into the spaces designed for you. Maybe you don't have a word for what you are, and maybe you don't want one.

Either way, you exist somewhere in the middle, and the world doesn't have a lot of space for that.

Middle Men does.

No labels. No judgment. No pressure to be anything other than exactly where you are.

Join the community and newsletter at middlemen-podcast.com

CHAPTERS

00:00 Intro

01:11 What Questioning Feels Like

02:39 The Numbers: You're Not the Only One

03:44 Why Don't They Just Come Out of the Closet?

04:46 Where Do I Go From Here?

I Lived Straight, Then Gay. Then I Landed in the Middle.

Saison 1 · Épisode 1

mardi 14 juillet 2026 • Durée 13:50

I lived a straight life. Then I lived a gay life. Both were real. Then I kept going and landed somewhere in the middle, and that feels right. But it's not without its challenges.

This is my story: growing up closeted in the 80s and 90s in Pennsylvania, coming out in Boston at 24, living fifteen years fully immersed in the gay world, then going back into the closet in my 40s and realizing I'm not straight or gay, but somewhere in the middle.

And upon realizing this, being confused and anxious about it as I was acclimating to moving out West — I found myself hiding non-straight parts of me in some straight groups, and assimilating while leaving true parts of myself behind in some gay groups.

I also learned that ambiguity can sometimes lead to being mis-judged. So, I set out to make a community where guys like us can be ourselves without being mis-judged — while supporting each other.

Middle Men is a podcast and private community for men who don't fit cleanly into society's straight or gay boxes. Maybe your life appears straight on the outside, but isn't so straight on the inside. Maybe you're bi or gay, but don't fit neatly into the spaces designed for you. Maybe you don't have a word for what you are — and maybe you don't want one.

Either way, you exist somewhere in the middle — and the world doesn't have a lot of space for that.

Middle Men does.

No labels. No judgment. No pressure to come out and blow up the life you've built. No set of beliefs you need to adhere to or aspects of yourself you need to hide in order to belong. At Middle Men, you are welcome as your true self.

Middle Men: Season 1 Trailer

Saison 1

dimanche 5 juillet 2026 • Durée 01:34

Middle Men is a podcast and community for men who don't fit neatly into society's straight or gay boxes.

Maybe your life appears straight on the outside but isn't so straight on the inside. Maybe you're bi or gay, but don't fit neatly into the spaces designed for you. Maybe you don't have a word for what you are—and maybe you don't want one.

Either way, you exist somewhere in the middle — and the world doesn't have a lot of space for that.

Middle Men does.

Honest conversation about identity, masculinity, relationships, social connection, and personal growth.

No labels. No judgment. No pressure to be anything other than exactly where you are.

middlemen-podcast.com

middlemen-podcast.com/#newsletter

@middlemenwcfc on YouTube, Instagram, TikTok, X, Facebook

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