Helping men to break free from recurring arguments by changing their emotional habits, thus saving their relationship.
This podcast will talk about how to improve your relationship and achieve holistic success at the same time. It is my firm belief that as men, we can have it all. Success and an incredible relationship. This podcast will help you accomplish this.
As the world evolves, men must change. The old paradigm of what a man is supposed to embody has changed. It’s time to level up, and all the information to do so will be found in this podcast.
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M.I.R. Why Your Environment Affects The Success Of Your Relationship
Épisode 105
mercredi 20 juillet 2022 • Durée 16:32
I share a personal story of how the environment surrounding you can affect your life and your relationship.
Many dynamics go into your personal ecosystem... AKA your environment. The people the places, the work, the energy, the mindsets, the habits, and the perception of the closest people in your life will all create your environment.
We often need to remind ourselves whom we want to become and why it will be worth it. This goes for creating a fantastic relationship because otherwise, we will revert to our familiar patterns that align with our old environment. We will need to continually and intentionally step into new environments that support the version of whom we want to become. This will be necessary if we want a chance of changing our current life/ relational circumstances.
Enjoy the episode!
Feel free to send me any questions, or if you want to connect.
M.I.R The Real Raw Truth From A Relationship Coach
Épisode 104
samedi 9 juillet 2022 • Durée 14:46
This episode is for the high achievers who desire more in life, and who are unwilling to settle for an average relationship.
I discuss the problems that are associated with these desires. I want you to know that these problems are normal. It's also important to know that these problems can prevent your success, or they can unlock a higher version of yourself if you are capable to work through them. It boils down to a choice- take the easy way or the fulfilling way.
I also discuss how we need to become the person we "want" to be, before actually achieving the external success we desire. (Hint- our external desires will always expand and we will always desire more). This is why it's critical to become the best version of ourselves BEFORE we achieve that next big goal. It truly is the only way to have it all.
If you have any questions, want to connect, or are interested in taking action and improving your life/relationship by working with a coach contact me anytime:
M.I.R. How To Navigate Conflict Before It’s Too Late
Épisode 103
samedi 18 juin 2022 • Durée 27:00
This is a tactical episode filled with a step-by-step guide on navigating conflict. If we don't properly resolve conflict we will end up compounding that conflict into something that is unbearable.
These steps are universal for any type of conflict. If you can put these insights into action you will be able to repair, save, or improve your relationship.
If you are having issues repairing conflict, and getting your relationship back on track then working with a coach could be extremely beneficial. If you have any questions or would like to connect with me, send me an email at: coaching@joelmahe.ca
I will personally answer each email and question that you might have.
Enjoy the episode!
Joel
M.I.R. Why you won’t lose yourself if you “change” to make your relationship work.
Épisode 102
mardi 7 juin 2022 • Durée 18:00
We typically get triggered by our partners because we experienced situations in the past that affected our psychology and the way we interpret the world. Many times we experienced situations when we were children (or from past relationships) that left a negative imprint in our memory. When our partner says/acts a certain way that sparks that memory of that undesired past experience we are triggered.
To gain control of this we need to improve our awareness/consciousness:
It’s imperative that we become aware of our triggers and relate them to our past. (Usually from our childhood). Our partner won’t understand our past the way we understand it. It is our responsibility to be aware of what happened in the past and relate it to how it is currently affecting our relationship. Our triggers are almost always ignited from past trauma. We need to help our partner understand this trauma so you can navigate through the triggers together. This takes work! Triggers do not magically dissipate.
How do you change your emotions/reactions once you have a deeper awareness?
We will have more control (self-control and discipline) to not react in ways we might have reacted as a child (or as we did in a past relationship). This control acts like a muscle. The more you practice self-control and hold back a reaction, the more you will be able to do this unconsciously (without thinking about it). Keep in mind, that it will take a lot of effort to change the course of your natural tendency to be triggered.
Going through this process you will experience a large “change/shift” You will begin to think feel and act in different ways creating new experiences and different results. This ultimately is the change.
You don’t lose yourself when you change, you simply improve unwanted emotional behaviors. You are shedding the unnecessary trauma and emotions that aren’t serving you.
Don’t fear change, rather, seek the change that will improve your relationship and ultimately your life.
M.I.R. Universal Laws To Get Your Relationship Back On Track
Épisode 101
samedi 28 mai 2022 • Durée 24:46
Do you have a burning desire to achieve more in life? I know I certainly do.
Does that same desire distract you from one of the most essential and important aspects of your life - AKA your relationship?
For me, there was a direct impact on my relationship when my desire to ‘create more’ went unchecked. My natural tendencies are to gravitate to my masculine energy which usually results in less time/energy tapping into my emotions and my relationship. The amount of focus I put towards achieving other endeavors/goals in my life was significantly more than my relationship goals/desires. These other areas included:
*Fitness
*Holistic health
*Financial freedom
*Starting an online business
*Real Estate training/investing
*Crypto investments
-Even when these other aspects were flowing nicely, I would still feel a void in my overall happiness. (One that we try to fill with accomplishing or attaining more).
-Once I found that sweet spot (which takes consistent effort to sustain)...I’m also always working on finding the sweet spot, where my focus and desires began to incorporate my relationship needs as much as my other desires, it improved my overall happiness (and my relationship).
We tend to bypass the importance of continuously prioritizing our relationship (especially after years of being in the same relationship). Life gets busy and for us ‘high achievers’ it’s easy to get carried away with goals/aspirations. I am guilty of this as well but what I know to be true is that balancing my energy between the other endeavors AND deepening the connection within my relationship has accelerated my fundamental and overall happiness.
As men or someone with more masculine energy, we tend to forget about this and our focus may gravitate to fulfillment/purpose or to providing for our family (nothing wrong with that, just something to be aware of).
M.I.R. Why Men Need To Be In Tune With Their Emotions In Order To Avoid Major Issues In A Relationship
Épisode 100
jeudi 19 mai 2022 • Durée 26:32
This podcast episode is packed with information on why it's important to be aware and in tune with our emotions. Below are some topics covered in today's informative episode.
**Practicing the concepts in this episode can drastically minimize major problems in your relationship.**
1)
-Our body is like a storage closet. If we don’t process the events and circumstances of the past, our body will store the emotions we experienced at the time.
Unfortunately, the brain works by repetition/association, therefore it doesn’t take a major trauma to produce the effect of the body becoming the mind.
Our body stores emotion and our mind will release the associated chemicals with the memory.
Mood: Short-term chemical state (few hours or days), expression of prolonged emotional reaction. The chemicals aren’t used up right away, they linger = A refractory period.
Temperament: a tendency toward a habitual expression of emotion through certain behaviors. (weeks-months)
Personality trait: Where the refractory period of emotion lasts months-years.
Personality (how we think/act/feel) is usually anchored in the past.
2)
-The word emotion comes from the Latin phrase “Energy in motion”. Researchers like Mira Kirshenbaum claim that we source more energy from our emotions than we do from the physical parts of our bodies. When you are emotionally drained you will not have energy. Mental peak states aren’t only for external success, but also necessary for relationship success.
If you have no energy all of the time with your partner, that will lead to a destructive relationship. Mood- Temperament- Personality trait.
Mira’s emotional energy framework:
*High energy drain= Grief, shock, Rage, hysteria
M.I.R. Do You Have Fear Around Marriage? Then Listen To This.
Épisode 99
mercredi 11 mai 2022 • Durée 24:33
Are you questioning a relationship or marriage?
*I find one of the most common reasons for cold feet, or fear of the commitment that comes with marriage is because it challenges our unconscious values.
*One of the most significant values for men is Freedom. We might view marriage as a challenge to our freedom. We naturally will frame it as Commitment VS. Freedom.
As men, we naturally associate commitment with the meaning of sacrifice.
Sacrificing the freedom of time, values, beliefs, to move around, etc.. whatever freedom means to you.
Commitment doesn’t need to be a negative thing!
You can commit to working through differences in values, beliefs, and time.
You can re-frame what commitment means to you. Rather than viewing it as a SACRIFICE, it can mean being committed to figuring it out. Meaning you get what you want, and your partner gets what they want.
*Is your core essence masculine or feminine?
Masculine= Freedom/ a mission/purpose
Feminine= Connection /love / relationships
Understanding this can help you work together with your partner in order to ensure both core desires are met.
*An important note to digest: You will need to figure out who you are BEFORE getting into a relationship for the rest of your life. Although this can be very frightening it is necessary.
Don’t operate from a place of masking your true essence. It's important to express your true masculine/feminine qualities. Authenticity will save your relationship and it is NECESSARY before getting married.
*You can’t authentically commit without knowing who and what you are committing to.
M.I.R. Avoid These Roadblocks In Order To Reconnect After Conflict
Épisode 98
mercredi 4 mai 2022 • Durée 32:56
Today I talk about the blockages that commonly get in the way of reconnection after a conflict, disagreement, or misunderstanding.
*I’m talking about this subject because recently, I’ve failed to do a good job at reconnecting.
I’ll be honest, I’ve been insanely busy lately, and I’ve put other aspects as a higher priority than reconnecting with Jess… And I’ve seen the impact.
*The importance of reconnecting:
If it doesn't happen occasionally there won't be a drastic impact. However, if you consistently fail to reconnect it will have a compounded effect and you will start to feel more and more disconnected from your partner each day.
For me, I feel:
Distant/removed from my partner,
I get more frustrated with her (as I’m sure they are frustrated with me)
Have a lack of emotional and physical intimacy
Lack of joy, or fun
Feelings of guilt
Feel cold and closed off
Self-righteous
All of my old patterns start to creep in…
Not to mention how my partner is feeling on the other end of it.
That’s why it’s so important to reconnect, otherwise, it can spiral quickly.
*I’d like to highlight some roadblocks (meaning things we often do to try to reconnect that don’t work well)
After or during conflict when trying to reconnect try to avoid the following (I got most of these concepts from a relationship expert named Jason Gaddis). These are the ones that ring true for me:
1)-Avoid blaming. ( A trick to know when you are blaming is when you use the words (you always). Get specific and work through the current conflict first.
M.I.R. The Seasons Of A Relationship- How To Prepare For Change In Your Relationship
Épisode 97
mercredi 27 avril 2022 • Durée 32:17
We can grow together or grow apart.
If we aren’t prepared for each different season in our life we are setting ourselves up for disruption and potential failure.
“Failing to prepare is preparing to fail” John Wooden
A successful relationship deserves a lot of intention to function properly. I think it’s important to foresee what kind of season of life is coming. Obviously, there will be surprises and aspects we can’t prepare for. On the other side, we can usually predict if our life has a busy period, a relaxing period, or will be stressful in the coming days.
Just like the weather changes when the seasons change, our relationship and personal dynamics will go through a change during each new season.
In this episode, I will also share the 4 seasons a relationship goes through at the begging of each partnership. The awareness of these seasons can help you set intentions for how you can show up, enabling you to take aligned actions to those intentions.
Without the awareness, a new season can cripple your relationship. Or, if you prepare, it can be a beautiful place to grow, learn, and connect on a deeper level through adversity and change.
If you have any questions, want to connect, or want to work with me, I'd love to hear from you. Send me an email to,
Contact me via email if you would like to discuss improving your relationship and emotional habits. Relationships weren’t created to inflict suffering. They are meant to amplify our life.
Here are three universal laws to help us get back on track with our relationship:
Law of desire: You only fully get what you want if you deeply desire it… Previously, I only desired the other areas in my life (because I didn’t have them or have enough of them). I desired it more than I desired the work I’d have to put in (getting in touch with my emotions) to create a successful relationship. Simple as that. If you don’t want something enough your actions will be inconsistent or non-existent. What do you TRULY desire?
Law of attraction: If we focus on something enough, we will eventually attract it into our life. This isn’t thinking about something once and you attract it. This is a consistent, progressive focus, while simultaneously matching the vibration of having already achieved what you desire. Your focus, energy, and emotions will be essential to this equation.
Law of action: You must take aligned, inspired, and CONSISTENT action. Every action will create a result. Thinking/hoping will not get you the results you desire. You can set intentions all you want, but without action, there will be no results.
These three laws will help you attain what you want in life AND it’s also important to remember to apply these concepts to your relationship(s).
*** If you are ready to upgrade your relationship, and want to change your current habits that are not benefiting you or your relationship then it might be time to look into coaching. Coaching is a process that will facilitate the change and growth you are desiring but are unable to achieve on your own.**
Reach out to me anytime to discuss the next steps in improving your life and your relationship:
*Medium energy boost= Inspiration, trust, recognition, hope, joy, interest, appreciation
*High Energy boost= Love, passion, happiness, enthusiasm, amazement
How do you move your emotions to avoid them being stored in your body?
Notice it. Expose it and understand where it is coming from
Allow yourself to feel it and be fully aware of it
Identify the lesson taught by the emotion
Develop and follow a new course of action
**This will need space, and for you to be removed from a familiar environment that often creates this type of emotion** I either go to the gym, to move my physical body, WHILE unpacking all of this... Or go to my meditation room/chair. There are many ways to remove yourself from a familiar environment, find the best way that works for you! **
If you are looking to improve your inner-being, in order to equip yourself for the life and relationship you desire and you could use some help/guidance along the way then I would love to work with you.
Going through any transformation can be extremely difficult. Don't go through this process alone. Instead, use a proven process to help you achieve the results you desire. Stop going through pain and wasting time.
A ring won’t change this, a house won’t change this, a dog won’t change this, and kids certainly won’t change this. They will only exacerbate unresolved issues.
These items can act as a very fun band-aid solution, but eventually, the truth will surface.
*One thing you SHOULD know how to do is to understand the process of resolving conflict and understand the process to initiate change.
This can be a challenging process if you are not experienced in it. Many times it’s necessary to seek help and advice to navigate these territories.
Eventually, your life circumstances will change, and you should know how to navigate these changes together.
*I will share my personal story on what changed for Jess and I to be prepared for marriage… We had a lot to resolve and unpack before we were prepared to commit to marriage.
If you have any questions, want to connect, or want to work with me, I'd love to hear from you. Send me an email to,
3)- Rely on time. (Don’t rely on time, although time can allow someone to forget about something, that doesn’t mean it will be resolved). Try to reconnect within 24 hrs of conflict.
4)-Compartmentalize:
Don’t put it off to the side and pretend everything is okay. You shouldn’t just suck it up forever.
5)-Avoid trying to fix or give advice… LISTEN. Seek to understand before being understood.
8)-Gaslighting- lying, denying reality, turning conflict onto the other person.
Creating a false narrative and making them question their judgments and reality. (If you do this enough, you might believe a false narrative because your emotions can override the truth. It’s so important to reflect and seek the truth. Rather than satisfy your selfish desires.
I’m positive we can all do a better job at reconnecting. This might need to be a skill that is practiced over and over again. We aren’t taught this stuff in school, but it is your responsibility to master it if you are wanting to shorten your conflicts and move towards the relationship you desire.
Put your ego down, and seek the truth after conflict, and you will begin to drastically improve your relationship.
Enjoy the episode!
If you have any questions, want to connect, or want to work with me, I'd love to hear from you. Send me an email to,
